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If u keep going that way…ur going to fry ur nervous system. I don’t think any of y saying this have actually been in survival mode with a dis regulated nervous system and autoimmune disorders
“Aren’t your curious about your upper limit” Wow, that has struck hard You’re amazing I hope the best for your channel and hope for many more people to hear this
Your upper limit is when you make sacrifices. Sacrifices such as quitting short term content activities like gaming, tiktok, youtube, social media, drugs and alcohol. Many people fail at this first step as they can't imagine going through out the day without a mobile phone with them
But most people don't think that way as due to technological advancements and social media. People get brainwashed and envious quick. They see a stranger living a better life and they glorify it hoping to live a similar life. This intrinsically will make people feel less happy with their lives
This video really woke me up and gave me the reality check. There is so much value and importance in hard work. We're so laid back and comfortable that we forgot how hard our parents worked in order for us to be where we are today. Thank you so much Amy for making this video. I truly needed this wake up call.
You all don't wanna hear this, but this video is the definition of toxic motivation. I am sorry that your family suffered as much as they did, but suffering of this nature owes more to structural issues that CANNOT be solved simply through hard work. I say this as someone whose parents also got out of terrible conditions through studying, so believe me, i know the value of education. But this kind of thinking, that I need to keep pushing myself to my absolute limits just because, is a glorification of suffering that will lead most people only to burnout. Also many people are stuck in self-sabotaging behaviour like spending 6hrs on instagram, not because they are lazy or stupid, but maybe because they have undiagnosed mental illnesses, neurodivergence, toxic family systems, etc etc. So let's be compassionate to others whose lives we haven't lived. You seem like a wonderful and accomplished person, but this video reminded me of all the reasons why I stoppped engaging with studytube after it pushed me towards burnout, so no thanks.
Hi! Thanks for your time and consideration. I want to note that while there is a lot of toxic productivity out there, as shown from my experience and habits that I promote on both of my channels, using this mindset doesn't lead to burnout. I'm targeting people who spend way too much time on social media and want to find their WHY to reach the potential they know they can. This includes living their best, happiest lives. People will feel bad and regretful if they forget their values.
she just said true words. bad times create good men, good men create good time and good times create bad men. my parents also rose from poor background. that's why my father can work tirelessly for more than 12 hours and i can't focus on my work more than an hour despite having so much opportunities that my parents didn't have. life is not all fun and roses and you do need to sacrifice a lot to achieve something greater. hard work and pushing yourself to your limits doesn't happen overnight. you have to slowly mold yourself to it. that way you won't be burned out.
@@hooncloud_6If it works for you, that's great, I am happy for you. But from what you said above, it seems like whatever you are preaching is not working for you either. Regarding your father working 12 hours straight, that's a product of necessity that you cannot replicate in your life. And frankly, let's stop glorifying overwork. I am proud of your father but he is doing it because he has no choice. That doesn't mean that that is the standard you should aspire to. I don't want to argue too much on this because I used to think exactly as you do and no random person on youtube would have changed my mind. But I will say this, when I started practicing self-compassion and took therapy to help with my specific needs, and created a gentle schedule that doesn't tie my worth to work, it is then that I achieved things that I never had before. I still fall into the loop of toxic self-motivation sometimes, but I would never want to go back to obsessing about productivity and the self-hate that it brings.
@@YourALifeIf you think that mindset prevents burnout, then I would encourage you to look up some of the scientific literature available on burnout. As I said, your tips work for you, that's amazing, but before addressing a huge audience of mostly people younger than you, it is necessary to educate yourself on the consequences of what you are saying online.
@@jane1995-c3t I think you're missing the point of my video. It's for people who are mindless scrolling on social media and forgetting what matters in life.
This vid really made me feel touched. I’m a university student in Taiwan, and from a quite wealthy family. “Our generation is insanely privileged and spoiled.”This is so true. Also I feel really empathetic when you talk about your family. My parents work extremely hard to give me abundant education resources, many precious travel experiences, and also a very good environment. I started to gradually quit social media and focused a lot more on improving myself a couple months ago, like I started to learn French, and not only focus on school projects but also keep in touch with English everyday, because I really feel that I’m extremely lucky to have such a family like this. My parents didn’t have this kind of privilege when they were young but I have it now. I really have the motivation that I want to work hard to succeed in my dream, and to make my parents proud. BTW, quitting social media is the best choice I’ve ever made. It doesn't mean delete all those apps, It means that only use them when you have to. My mental health, my time management, all got improved because of quitting social media. Big thanks to you for making this priceless video!
Wow thank you so much for your support and kind words!! I am amazed how you were self-aware and took great steps :) Yes, limiting social media has been wonderful for me too! Let's keep going!!
It shocked me how my father's story was the exact same. He also lived in a hut where everyone was watching TV while he was trying to study. I'm inspired now.
I think there are a few things that frustrate me about this video. 1. The idea that struggle builds character. Really, no, struggle doesn't build character, resilience does. Struggle just tests character. Many break under struggle. 2. The idea that you shouldn't try to enjoy education/studying. Sure, I agree with the basic premise that avoiding pain at all costs is going to hurt you more in the long run, but it's not hurtful to motivate yourself, to find the ways to make yourself want to study, even if the moment to moment experience isn't the most dopamine rich, amazing fun. Life is about enjoying it, living it, why not learn to enjoy the monotonous parts, too? 3. The idea of personal liberation. I get it's important to work hard and improve your own life, but it's not questioned the status of farmers and laborers? These are the most essential workers on the planet, especially farmers. We would starve without them. We wouldn't have phones and homes and furniture and etc. And yet, these workers are some of the poorest. Sure, I don't expect the individual to magically reverse systemic oppression, but I think all those poor workers deserve more than just our "hard work". They deserve liberation. If I'm going to bust my ass, get a good education and work hard, use the gift of my privilege, I'm also going to work my damned hardest to undermine the system that allows anyone to go without education or food. Admittedly, I'm already a highly motivated person, just in my own way. I think the conclusion of this video is right on the money, and a lot of the underlying ideas are great, I just don't personally vibe with all of it, and I think my perspective might add something interesting to the discussion. Ultimately, people should get off social media for sure (that shit is toxic), but the exact way they should deal with their mindset after the fact will differ depending on their own experiences.
When i say i hate school i dont mean i hate learning, i love learning and wish the system was better at teaching us. I hate school because they just test our memory and is a one size fits all while also expecting non human standards. But i love this perspective and agree that we should make purposes of all the ressources we have to educate ourselves!! Great video and thanks for the doze of reality that gave me motivation to continue studying no matter how hard i might think it is.
yea i have worked super hard in almost every area of my life so far expect in this education system bcs my brain doesn't care about holding bunch of random facts for the whole year, it's not even how human mind learn things, it learns stuff practically through 100s of experiments, than what else can you expect from people.
this. i LOVE learning, and i LOVE studying. i just don’t love school. i thrive when im learning in my own time. school is just stressful and honestly ableist as hell. you have great memory? you’re an achiever! your memory is whack? well ur whack too! :)) i dont get how this system still holds..
This is the wake up call that ive been needing for the past 4 years of my life, I've been so layed back on studying it resulted me in struggling with highschool, I never realized the value behind hardworking people, I've always thought they were lifeless but they know what they're doing. my finals are in 2 days and I managed to take care of not even half of the subjects because I've been sleeping it off the entire year. I've had it easy and never realized how hardworking my parents had to be to make my life easy like this. thank you for putting me back in my consciousness.
I’m 25 in South Africa, I don’t have a rich background, no family wealth but we just have enough to afford basic needs. I want to be the first to break generational curse n start the wealth background, I’m on my second degree now coz my first one had no paths for growth. This video just encouraged me that it’s doable we can’t keep on crying about being born poor, instead we can push to be the change ❤️❤️ I just had to subscribe, thank you 🙏 ❤
I absolutely love your mindset . I am from South Africa also and I went to university and made a lot of mistakes because I didn’t know myself 😢💔. It wasn’t until I was in a position where I could loss it all ,go back to Limpopo a failure that my mindset shifted and I was confronted with the reality of where I come from ,You seem like you always knew that. But I am redeeming myself and working harder than I ever have to the wealth background too .
wow this made me cry like a baby. im from a similar situation yet i have gotten so lazy and addicted to social media. its so easy to forget the struggle once youre out of it. thank you for reminding me of my responsibility to my family, to use the situation they created for me to the best of its potential. thank you
I just deleted all social media .You are absolutely right .I really admire your culture and ability to persevere I pray to instill the same things in my children through hard work.
Thank you for sharing your parents story, this it what internet should be made for. Helping us be better, connecting with people around the world, sharing experiences and growth ❤
1000% agree! Most folks do not think about the fact that the majority of folks throughout time could not choose their path at all or rise above their station. Thankful for my teacher Mom and family who believe in life long learning...it's continuous 💯
I failed senior year a while ago because I was in a privileged time, I was given a chance to repeat the year in 2024, I never saw this as an opportunity and planned to pass with a B or even a C, but now listening to your background, it awoke something in my brain and I know I will now try my best to take this chance as a path to actually take responsibilities. I have no idea how to thank you, the only speech that gave me back my old mindset and how I always used to be an A+ student.. thank you Amy. I looked up to you and you didn’t disappoint.
10:34 this is exactly how I feel about those reels documenting the "indian street" experience. It always rubs me the wrong way to see people be treated that way, especially with the knowledge that many of my ancestors grew up that way. The comments just hurt too, because I think about how ignorant they are, what they don't see, what they're goinjg through, and it just makes me want to cry, scream, and wish that short form content didn't exist (bc let's face it, summing up anything into 1min or less is NOT going to get the point across)
I love listening to your podcasts when i'm cleaning, setting up my study space, walking to the library etc. It really motivates me! The line in this video about being curious ab your upper limit hit so hard.
This was so humbling, thank you. This wisdom can be applied to everything including studying such as relationships, gym, spiritual practices etc. To have the freedom to have a CHOICE is a gift that is taken for granted daily. Thank you. ❤
Girl you NAILED it Social media RUINED my life I’m was in my 20s had an iPhone with an Instagram and Facebook. RUINED my career b/c I am constantly comparing my life to others. People need friends like you and people need your support so please you need to be there for others. Delete social media now. After I get off of TH-cam. I’m going to go off. My family is from farmer family to from India and I’m living in America and it’s been really touch dealing with bullying, racism, and toxicity even from your own community and from the white and other minority communities. My dad was a farmer he worked really hard and became a priest and he wanted to become a doctor but in India only wealthy people become doctors. My parents struggled a lot throughout their life and when they got the opportunity to come to America they took it. But for me surviving here is hard because it’s just living in culture shock all the time. I know it’s about working hard but it’s also about taking care of yourself. When I went to therapy and I was asked by the therapist why so many Indian people become doctors and engineers and not garbagemen. She hurled several racist comments. Not only that but I get bashed by other Indian people all the time and they are so jealous of your success. If you do well in school they are jealous they are just so mean and do anything to pull your leg down. Constantly it’s a hustle and it never ends and not you can never enjoy life. When my mom wanted to work she wore a sari and started volunteering at work and all the people looked at her really wierd. We will not belong here but we are living here so yes it’s the reality.
how do u overcome comparing yourself to others? I sometimes feel like a loser for life when seeing others accomplishing things that i could hardly achieve like when i wasn't able to solve a math problem that my friends could've solved easily. I dont know how to overcome that and sometimes i feel that im truly stupid
@@tanhnguyen2025Never compare yourself with others , no matter in which condition we are, we are never happy. As far accomplishment is concerned , it is all achievable with hard work. To achieve something(good grades, dream job, etc) , all that matters is your efforts, hard work in the right DIRECTION. Do not worry dude. You have the potential, but you might not be using it bcoz of not putting in the work. 1. TRY and FAIL, but DON`T FAIL TO TRY. 2.HARD WORK BEATS TALENT. 3. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
I wasn't afraid of hard work and pain as an immigrant, but after working so much therapist told me I was experiencing a burn-out with clear symptoms. I'm still trying to figure out the fine line between working hard and not falling into this trap again.
It does hit you, with what your grandparents and parents went through to get you great education. While i was listening, it hit me it was more or less the same with my parents. My mother went through a lot to get all of us to a decent point where we are doing good. Right now, im in my second study week before my oral graduation exams and was unhappy with how well ive studied so far. Thank you.
I also think of it this way, when I watch and scroll on social media I ask myself this question, “if I were to ever struggle will these people help?” The answer is no so why am I wasting my time on something/people who wouldn't ever benefit me or give me a light of day?
I've cut out social media like 3 weeks ago. I'm glad I broke today and got on TH-cam, cause I would have never heard those things I needed to hear otherwise.
20 minutes into the video, and I am convicted. I grew up in America, lived the dream, and I squandered and wasted my high school homeschooling education. Never even bothered about getting good grades, or even recording my grades. Now that I have a desire to go to college, I have to get my GED in order to go. This video is EXACTLY what I needed, what we all needed to hear. Thank you for sharing your Grandpa's story, it broke my heart and really convinced me to view education not as a chore that needs to be done, but as a privilege and a gift to share with others. Looking forward to the last 12 minutes of the video.
I also want to get my GED so that I can attend college. I came to America when I was 19 years old, so I did not attend high school because I was out of age. I want to pursue get my GED to make it easier for me to attend college. However, I am unable to study on my own to pass the exams.
Did you know that in some states you can attend community college without a GED? Contact a school near you and see what they say! I myself got a GED 30 years ago and went on to a 4 year school. You can do anything you set your mind to if you think ahead about what challenges you might face and make a plan in advance to eliminate or reduce those challenges. There are inexpensive books that can help you prepare for the ged. Don't put it off. Whatever youth you have is your advantage, so don't squander that!
Unfortunately, not all kids will learn to work hard by listening to stories. It needs to be combined with kids learning to be disciplined at school and home. It’s sad to see how society has reduced its expectations for teenagers. The people who watched this video are people that probably already value personal growth to a certain degree.
I love this video. Social media isn’t always terrible but I love seeing social media being used for videos LIKE this! I’m getting my ass back on track. May God bless you hun, and everything you’ve worked for you deserve the blessings you got. Thankyou for being willing to share your family background. ❤
if you're not careful, these values are so hard to come by these days. while I was with my family, I was incredibly motivated and wanted to do better for my family. when I was in college, it was the same. I struggled a lot. to keep up with my grades, etc. I really really tried but I eventually got influenced by someone who did not have these values at all. I didn't realize at the time because these were so ingrained in me (south asian myself) and eventually, this person questioned my family, my own identity, etc. Long story short, got very involved with someone I didn't realize would influence me to a degree where I lost absolutely everything I built at age 24. Seeing this video on this journey of rebuilding just reminded me of the mindset I lost- I never want to go back to that miserable life I ended up living filled with false hope, false promises, etc. like she said, mindset and actions- be very careful. things can make you better or worse. personally, I ended up in a state where I forgot what was up and down etc. God. what a nightmare. every word in this video is incredibly impactful, and appreciate you for actually putting this online. I never seen anyone online speaking truth like this. right before clicking this video I was not kidding scrolling through my recommended trying to find something real just one thing and this popped up. growing up as gen z, unfortunately most free content out there is like dessert- provides you pleasure but not what you need in life. I'm going to add one thing- she talked to her grandpa. keep the old people in your life close. wisdom is priceless. you cannot buy it- it comes from people who have lived life, and also have that relationship with you to know you and share. Also- remember the basic things you were taught in kindergarten. never ever loose those values. adults make life complicated by greed, lust, pleasure, etc. pleasurable things are gifts. do not disgrace them- and protect yourself. stay focused:)
I pushed myself to my upper limit. I put in the hours and despite the hard work there remained a natural curiousity in me and an ability to see the beauty in anything. The subject didn't matter, I was fascinated. So as you can imagine it wasn't hard to spend my whole life studying. And it got results quickly, people told me that I'd be valedictorian, it felt good. So I pushed myself further. Even when studying became more of a chore, up until I woke up in the morning and felt overwhelmed with my life. I got sick more, or at least I stayed home more. My grades began to slip, and it felt like my whole life was turning to dust in my hands, seeping trough my fingers. I was so angry with myself that I had ruined a whole year of studying, of missing dates with friends, of missing life. I had sacrificed everything, for nothing. In other words, don't do this. Grades aren't important, not beyond passing. Learn and be happy, spend time with your friends, watch that show, pick up that hobby. Let's just all enjoy our lifes. (Because even if you were to do all the hard work, and enter a 'good' career, the hard work will just keep coming. And you'll tell yourself that you only have to get that next promotion, then you'll be happy, then you'll rest. But that next promotion comes, and with it the work. And you can't keep up anymore. And then you realize, that all of your suffering could have been avoided if you'd simply allowed yourself to be happy.)
Thanks for sharing and I totally agree. To me, when I say upper limit, I mean your healthy ability to reach your potential. If you’re sacrificing a good life and fun, I wouldn’t consider that reaching your upper limit because part of maximizing your life is making it a good one. I’m really emphasizing cutting out the things that drag you down and away from your best life :)
And if you see my main channel, I share how I studied and became valedictorian while having fun, playing sports, and sleeping average 8 hours a night! Mostly possible because of focus and prioritizing what matters!
"Aren't you curious about what your upper limit is" this is going to stay with me throughout my life. Thank you for this video. May God bless you with great success , health and happiness ❤
Thank you for this video. I'm currently in medical school and really struggling to persist in studying for my boards (yes, even a grown 29 year old in grad school can struggle with motivation and needs encouragement sometimes 😂). Social media has been a real hindrance for me lately. Especially with this new narrative of being "too cool for school" and how people who take out loans to get a higher degree are "wasting their time and can instead find ways to make quick money online and travel the world", etc. It really made me start questioning my life decision to invest in my education and got me in a rut. It's time to consider reducing my consumption or getting rid of social media to escape this vicious comparison trap. This video really helped shift my perspective.
girl. thank you so much for making this, i also come from a struggling place but my mom did her hardest to move my family into a better country, it seems like i forgot where i come from
Amy thank you so much. Your story, this video, the way you spoke... It made me realise that we need to value life so much more rather than take everything gor granted. I will be so much grateful each time I GET to study. God bless you Amy 🙏🏻❤️
I like the mindset you have. Perspective rather. Assign more than one value to studying. Test your limits. Maybe studying is a value in expanding your limit, honouring your life path, or just having an abundance of knowledge or ease with a technique. Then the “grind” can be enjoyable, and still enjoying the sensation of strain. I also have a family of very humble beginnings, but I’m not a straight A student. My priority is being the most technically competent artist I can be, bringing anything I can to reality. It’s what means the most to me. Find what feeds your heart.
I think there’s a huge hurdle for people to get over when their whole family did not prioritize hard work or gratefulness. There’s a lot of people where those things don’t come naturally because their parents didn’t care much about their education or having a decent life. This is my experience, my mom dropped out of middle school had kids and was dysfunctional, it took a long time for me to become even aware of how much work I really need to do to achieve what I really want. It’s sad and painful for me because I have to undo so many habits I’ve had for so long and I’ve failed and restarted so many times. I think it’s a privilege to have parents who actually care, because before you’re even consciously aware of yourself, you’re modeling their behavior and energy. That’s a blessing. Overall though this video is highly beneficial and it’s a nice story/reminder for all people that hard work, and doing right thing is healthy and necessary for a good life.
I held resentment that others had better starting conditions for so long. Because its unfair. And it really is unfair, there is no questioning, no denying. I dont think you have this problem as much as i did and it took me waaaay too long to learn this (i am 25 and really just today realised this). But I think the right way to think about it is that yes, life is unfair, but to not hold this belief with bitterness but look at the few blessings you still have (even as simple as a healthy body) and be grateful for that, and repeat that daily. Your cards are more difficult to play with than someone born into a rich educated family. But that is ok, it is about reaching your own upper (healthy) limit and giving your children a better start. That is your unique mission then and we have to embrace that, it is the right way. Acceptance, I thnk. And I think that we meet here under this video already says that we are probably already on a good path!
@@mellowyellow532 I appreciate your response :) I agree gratefulness and acceptance for this unique path is part of my/our life purpose. I am already on my way to a better future and i know you are too. much love
This video felt like an epiphany for me. I was getting shivers at how similar our backstories are. My grandparents also lived hard lives and experienced horrible things. They worked hard labor, low-income jobs to enable my dad to pursue an academic career and lift us into the middle class. You made me realize how spoiled our society is today and how privileged we are. Your inspiring backstory and your eye-opening mindset-action analogy have really changed how I view my life. I want to see what my upper limit is. Thank you, Amy, for this video and all the best to you! ☺
You're so real for this. My parents suffered during their childhood, reason why me and my sister are privilege enough to have a chill life. This video is my wake up call T_T
This video is just what I needed, tysm for posting it!! I have been struggling so much with trying to get over my phone addiction and overall social media addiction. I've been actively trying to use my time wisely to develop my other skills and academics, yet I can never do so. This video was truly an eye opener for how privileged I truly am. The part where how much can I reach my full potential and see how much I can achieve when compared to my parents is a refreshing midnset to have!! I'll save this video and keep watching it whenever I get back into my old habits again.
I come from middle class in Thailand, I always achieve good grade which is great but my problem is money. I’ve dreamt about studying abroad since I was young. When I was in grade 10th, there a chance to be an exchange student and I was so excited but when I looked at the scholarship the amount of money I need to pay was still high, so I gave up. After then, I saw my classmate who literally had same English level as me (she’s rich) got to be an exchange student. this made me so mad back then, thought to myself what did I do? why didn’t I get her privilege? why her life is so good when I can’t even afford to travel in my country. I knew I had negative mind set. Even now I’m 20, I still cannot get 100% rid of those comparisons. Watching your video inspired me so much especially your dad story! Well if I don’t have any privilege then I’m gonna create my own way, even it takes longer than others, I’m willing to do so!
I watched all the way through and saw the end. While it may not be what everyone wants to hear, it's still important, and I appreciate you spreading this message.
This video was extremely well made. I’m a high school student with a short attention span (currently working to improve that) and I haven’t been able to watch a video as long as this one in a while. I didn’t continuously check the time, wondering when it would be over so that I could get back to scrolling through TH-cam shorts. I actually sat down and listened with full attention. Thank you for sharing! And I don’t mean the words “thank you” to be some meaningless phrase that doesn’t really have any value to it. I am TRULY grateful to have heard this. This means a lot to me. I hope the knowledge shared in this video will push me further in my education. All the best to you!
It’s insane how my life story is almost the same as yours. My maternal grandparents were factory workers, and the other would sell prawns for a living. My parents studied so so hard to both be offered university scholarships to Singapore (where I was eventually born). I remember my dad telling me how he could’ve been a doctor in China but his family couldn’t afford it (they had 5 kids too) so he took the opportunity to go to Singapore to be an occupational therapist instead. I think deep down he might always be wondering what would’ve happened if he DID have the money to be a doctor. My family did grow up quite frugally as well. Thanks for sharing your story. It hit me really deep and made me realise my privilege. To even have the opportunity for an education that my grandparents would’ve killed to have.
I'm only about halfway through the video, but I just wanted to comment and say that I just love how you've done the video. No edits, no nothing, just a sit-down and a 'person' to 'person' talk. It's honestly refreshing and as many have commented, a really big wake up call. I feel like you are talking to me, even though it is just a pre recorded video. But I can say I feel so much hearing everything you are saying. I'm only 21, but for so long, I have noticed how social media and society is affecting my ability to study. I was aware of my laziness and comfortability for a long time, yet I did nothing about it. I knew I wanted to work harder, but never put in the required effort. But now I'm really trying. Seeing how my dad [73] is still working and making more money than he could've ever imagined for himself, I want to be where he is. I want to be successful, happy, hard-working so I can give back to my parents, and support my future family. I want to be better, I want to make not only myself, but my parents (especially my father) proud. Thank you for your video, for posting this for everyone to see. All the best
Thank you so much for listening and taking the time to share your comment. I really want to emphasize that it’s not your fault because of how social media and our current society have impacted our thinking. You had a fantastic mindset within you all along so I’m glad I could help remind you of it. Wish you and your family all the best ❤
Thank you for posting this. It reminded me a lot of my background and how far I've come in life. My background is similar to yours, but my family is from Taiwan. Despite the geographic difference, I still resonate strongly with this. I've actually stumbled upon your channel a few times but never took it seriously until now. This is a great video.
watching this video makes me feel like listening to a sister who is telling about life, teaching me how to view hard things in life, what’s the truth behind what we consider as valuable, etc. thank you so much for putting such efforts in this video. I’m glad we get to know a part of your grandparents stories and their sacrifices.
thank you so much for this video. my parents & grandparents have had the same story. bit by bit, they built an empire for me and i forgot its value. this is eye opening. love for you ❤
Thank you for sharing your family’s experience ❤️❤️ it’s quite relatable as an Asian living in the UK my parents tell me their stories too, similar to your grandparents’ and parents’
I’m balling my eyes out relating to the stories in a different experience. Some days I forget how privileged I am and I want to thank you for this video. I literally almost skipped it and kept scrolling. I’m extremely grateful to have come across your video. Thank you again.
You just connected disconnected ideas I always had marvellously. I don't think I've slopped off a video before but I loved this and absolutely resonated with the message. Thank you.
This video brought me back to reality. It's no time to be slacking off. I should be working hard, and making myself independent. I should give back what my parents gave to me. Thank you for making this video.
Hi, I’m 13, about to go to high school this fall. I clicked this video because I have some social studies work to finish, but felt like it would be to hard. This really reminded me of how privileged and pompous I sounded. It reminded me of my Iranian, immigrant, strong mother. It reminded me of how kind she is to me, of how much she suffered under her siblings, under sexism, under the pains and struggles of medical school. I am weak, and I hope this video can make me stronger. Maybe. Either way, Thanks.
Hey there - you have it in you to do hard things and succeed. Watching this video may have inspired you, but it won't make you strong. Here is something that will help: when you face a project or task that feels too hard, just stop and ask yourself "what is the very next step?" In this case, maybe your next step was just 'open the textbook' or 'open my notes.' That isn't too hard. Then the next step, if it feels too hard, break it down into a smaller bit. The trick is to keep showing up and asking "what CAN I do?" What makes you strong is to keep showing up, putting the phone down, and being willing to be uncomfortable for a minute or two. Once you get into the work, you will feel better and realize that it feels good to stretch and work hard. Exercise the muscle of taking a small step. This, in time, will make you very strong.
I think as immigrants kids we can all relate to your story, thank you for sharing . “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” - Friedrich Nietzsche
Im really grateful for this video, I have realized that I have become ungrateful for what my parents do for me. And because I put myself in a unhealthy cycle of social media I have the power to remove myself from it. Thank you so much for sharing this.
My mother’s family worked incredibly hard to get to the wealthy and luxurious life I get now. Especially being Vietnamese during the war. When I was younger I did not see that. I’m diagnosed with autism level 1, and dyslexia. a traditional school setting was often hard on me that for all my life I barely passed in school. In my freshman year I had a 50% attendance, not because I wanted to but because I was in such a deep depression. Now I am still in school and struggle, but not to the extent I did before as I’ve realized that I need to take the advantages I have infront of me. Being autistic, I realized through psychologists that I am incredibly gifted in the psychology field and other sciences. I’m thankful for my mother for working hard and giving me the opportunity to work hard and become a psychologist one day. Even though I struggle, this motivates me.
Hey, of all the things I have watched on youtube and other things, this is the most raw thing I might have needed. While I could do good if I tired, I never did. I'm in university and I'm doing a degree I don't like ( I used it as an excuse all the time now), but I realize I have it easy, that I am taking my privilege for granted. This coupled with now taking care of social media might just keep me on track. Thanks again.
This video really found me at the right time as someone who is struggling to study. Grandpa was a farmer as well that died when my dad was four. My dad studied super hard in order for us to live a middle class life. Now I'm aiming to become a doctor in the states as a first generation immigrant. A lot of habits about food, accommodation and clothing in my dad's generation are exactly as you mentioned!! I wish I could have the same resilience as you. First video but love your channel~
When I watched your video, I realized that I had spent a lot of time not doing something when I had spare time, especially scrolling videos on Instagram, forgetting about my goals that I set before then It always happens every day. I feel guilty when I do that. I hope it's not just about a temporary feeling I created to manipulate my brain.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. What you said didn't sound harsh or offensive at all, your words were straightforward and humbling. I really do hope more people see this.
I love your story and the honesty, it is very true and touching. It opened my eyes to the privilege I do have, I should be glad for the life I have and it reminded me of how my parents raised me… it also changed the way I see about studying. Thank you… your family is amazing 💞
A lil summary for all those with the attention span of a goldfish. Or if you're back in the future trying to revisit the points in the vid. [Still try to watch the vid first, I skip a lot of explanations in this] What I personally concluded- 1. Acknowledge the fact that you're very privileged if the main thing you're unhappy about is that studying isn't fun and you don't like to study. 2. Don't try to chase "make learning fun". It's just a temporary bandage to the root problem. Sure you may like some classes, but don't expect the same from every class. Don't study with the mindset that should be "fun" to study. 3. As humans, we don't wanna wanna be outsiders, or "different". There are a lot of things we do because of this, that cause us more harm than benefit, like social media. A way to tackle this is if you are really curious about what you could achieve if you cut down things that are bringing you down. 4. You're already at a great starting point. Acknowledge the effort it took your family to get to that level (I assume for most people here their parents' situations were worse when they were the same age as us). Not giving your best is a disgrace to that effort. 5. Also, most people always feel like they could have done better after they get bad results. That isn't gonna help much. Learning where you spend your time is what's gonna help you. Decide what to keep and what to cut out. 6. Stop living your life on autopilot. --- Stuff in [ ] is stuff I wanted to add to the content. The longer "summary" - 1. You are really fucking privileged if studying is the main thing you have problems in. 2. Amy also isn't someone who didn't enjoys studying, and still managed to become a valedictorian. 3. Don't try to look for ways to start "enjoying" studying. Don't try looking for vids to get you motivated to study. These will just treat the symptoms temporarily without solving the main problem. 4. "make studying fun" videos are what you WANT, not what you NEED. 5. These aren't gonna help you, atleast not to your full potential. - [BTW don't try chasing after "Dream Jobs" either, they're are gonna suck atleast 30%-60% of the time. So stop chasing things that you feel are "PERFECT" for you.] 6. We're in the good times right now, and the men are created weak. (This is in reference to the popular phrase) 7. You need to understand that you're pretty fucking lucky to be able to be in a condition where you CAN study without worrying too much about other things (like money, food etc). 8. Amy isn't a stereotypical nerd and still got into one the world's best universities. 9. It's not your fault though, don't start blaming yourself for everything. You weren't really taught about how to think about these things. As humans, we don't wanna be outsiders. So we also start using social media and scrolling. Amy doesn't want to blame you, she's just telling the hard truth. (Tough love ftw) 10. Amy then talks about her grandfather's story. 1. After her grandfather was orphaned, his (grandfather) uncle took him in. 2. He was a farmer before that (the lowest social class). 3. His uncle helped him upgrade to "gonrin" (The second lowest level). 4. Gorin is manual labour work. 5. Amy's father, his 2 siblings and Amy's granparents, all 5 lived in a single dome-hut. Amy's father worked incredibly hard in school. 6. After they moved to an apartment, Amy's father got a room (about the size of a closet). 7. Amy's father did really well, and he was so liked by the proffs that he was offered to go to the US. (to work as a post-doc) 8. Amy's parents moved to the US, and their family racked up their entire life savings for it. 9. They saved brutally while working. Ppl in china work really hard not because it's easy for them, but it's because thay have seen what happens to those who don't. 10. Hard work is a value, like being kind is. You don't need to think about being kind. Amy didn't have to think that "School is important I gotta study". She (and her siblings, I assume, she said "we") just knew. Like, what else would you do with your effort. - [ I am really sorry if there are any misspelled words in the above para, or if I got something wrong ] 11. First of all, you're already at a great starting point. If you're watching this, you're probably already at the stage of Amy's starting point, or better. Atleast work hard enough to not fall below your starting point. 12. Post college you can literally see the difference between the people who worked hard enough, and those who didn't. 13. Grinding in a closet sized room, while your parents watch tv, while your siblings are playing, is not "fun". But it earned Amy's dad the living in the US. 14. Being able to afford chemo treatment, being able to eat more, and what they like, was all due to Amy's dad's effort he put in. 15. This was the default of where to put effort in, in that situation. 16. The default was to give her best, it was never like "oh this class is gamified and fun" and all. 17. Aren't you curious what your upper limit is? Don't you wanna know what would happen if you cut out all the things pulling you down? [This one hit hard for me personaly] 18. Aren't you curious about what would happen if you just.. cut out stuff like social media? [ Btw this is a nice reminder that you should try to cut your filler activities before trying to increase studying and all. Also, time spent in actually having high density fun is not time wasted.] 19. This is what drives Amy. Like how "Unlimited" can she be? We have to .. want that too, like that's a kind of Fun too. 20. Our generation is insanely privileged and spoiled. 21. Maybe the way to drive students is to show them what a hard life really is. 22. Not trying is like, you got a gift from a loved one, and you're like ... "nah I'm gonna toss it away". It's a disgrace. [Personally I believe that getting straight As might not really be your desired path, you may want to invest in other skills. Amy clarifies in the video before this that education doesn't mean just books and all, so just do remember that Amy probably isn't telling you to just aim for straight As, but to knowingly work for what you want.] 23. The big takeaway is that to stop living your life on autopilot. 24. Ask yourself, are you really happy when you're... not doing the "right" thing. 25. If you step back and do some critical thinking yourself, you probably would be able to come up with solutions yourself. 26. Amy coined a concept of Ying Yang in a different video. Ying and Yang are Mindset and actions. Having the right mindset helps with your actions. Actions help improve your mindset too. This can go the opposite way too, Bad actions -> Bad mindset and so on. 27. Before you consume any piece of content, ask yourself if it is making you better or worse. 28. It's kinda hard to conclude these kinds of videos, as Amy films these spontaneously. These videos generally don't do well according to the algorithm, so try to share these types of vids with other ppl too. - [Personally I like these kinds of long videos without any flashy animations or cuts much more]
I am so glad i stumbled upon this video. I expected it to be another video with tips about fun apps you could use or productivity things and stuff like that but this seriousness was what I feel like I needed to hear. I am so grateful to have stumbled upon this because I know I have the potential to do better. My teachers, my parents, relatives, tell me about my potential they see in me. And so when I procastinate or don't work hard, I feel disappointed and I now realise its my fault itself that I didn't prioritize the things that are actually important and instead gave importance to social media, and other things that I have the privilege to do. Thank you really for this video cuz this is what MANY people need to hear. I hope you have a great day💞
Thank you so much. I was binging watching YT vids and this popped up. I was on my bed at the start and now I'm folding my clothes. I'll share this to my students 🙏
You're definitely not spoiled; you're quite reasonable. Your recognition of the sacrifices made by your parents and grandparents, and your efforts to improve based on that recognition, show your grounded nature and appreciation for what's important. It's this kind of understanding and action that truly defines someone as reasonable and thoughtful.
Girl, I just want to say thank you. You literally slapped me back to reality. I LOVE the part when you asked if I wanted to see my upper limits. You literally reminded me of the ME before I moved to a different country and “felt that I lost my identity”.
i feel like this kind of video(which ive been seeing a lot recently for some reason, youtube is trying to tell me sth istg) doesnt mention things like different disabilities a lot. "you just have to push through" kind of fucks you up more when your body is actively fighting everyday and you've been burnt out for weeks. i think this is good advice, advice that i need, but i still feel like these things should be acknowledged. i think Thewizardliz(she makes very similar content) puts it well in some videos, with the message of "feel it, deal with it, heal from it." surrounding trauma, and i'd add a message of being willing to forgive yourself and accommodating things you cant control(like, you cant physically force a dyslexic person to "just read"). thanks for listening to my ted talk💀 (oh god i never comment on things)
Hi!! I’m sorry to hear you experience struggles. Although I cannot understand your pain, I also had a disability that made school very difficult (I discussed this in other videos). What I refer to here is what likely still applies to you in some way and most people. It’s really emphasizing the things that we can value and cut out so that distractions aren’t further dragging us down. Wish you all the best and thanks for listening!
While this video is full of well intended advice, I also want to stress that doing well in school isn't all what life is about and hard work alone is not the only key to greater happiness. Believeing this can backfire seriously. I destroyed the love I had for my profession that way. I worked my ass off during college and placed a lot of my personal value in my grades thinking it would solve all my life and immediately get a good job when I graduated. I got the highest grades among my generation. I was so hyper fixated in work as hard as I could that I ended up burnout and by the time I finished college I felt... Nothing. Not the slightest feeling of achievement or reward. I landed my first job pretty quickly and I hated it. I was so mentally and emotionally exhausted that even though I wanted I couldn't force myself to enjoy getting up every morning and doing my 9-5. I couldn't function, I felt absolutely miserable even though the job was decent. All because I destroyed my mental health during school. Now that I didn't have the reward of grades I felt like I was worthless and ended up quitting after 4 months. I worked other 3 different jobs with similar results. I couldn't work more than a few months without feeling I wanted to bang my head against the wall until it fell apart. I've been unemployed for more than a year now, unable to find the courage to look for another job that I will hate. I've been trying to work on my mental health but I feel like due to stressing myself out so much during college I have lost all my self esteem and any love or enjoyment I had for my work. All because I wasn't gentler with myself and take it easier when I was still a student.
wow thanks for this. i feel you’re one of the most genuine youtube creators here, and i dont really know how to explain for which area i’m talking abt. you’re a good human being.
Amy you don't know how many different emotions this video made me feel in the best way. This is something i really want to go viral too cause i know there're so many people out there who needs this,who will be very helped regardless their situations. And hats off to your grandparents and parents,they really did so well. Also Amy you're incredibly hardworking too,love you always. Again thank you for this,this is something i really felt 💗
I can relate with this too being South Asian. Whenever my dad would order food on a Sunday my mother used to say that she didn't want anything because she didn't think she needed to get anything for herself, and she would manage with whatever was left-over and I never understood why. For her the most important thing was that we (me, my brother and father) ate well. This applied even for gifts, treats or even going to the salon. She wanted to save stuff like extra teapots, cutlery, and things for our (my brother and I) future and managed with old stuff even when our family lives comfortably and can afford more. People call me "that" student because of how I study and how I'm good at a lot of things but even I'm starting to slack because of a month of vacation. This is just the wake-up call I needed, and I am so grateful. Thank you, Amy. I really appreciate this.
Whenever i complaint to my mom about my studies being hard or it's too exhausting to study... She just tells me to do the work she does one day. And then i realise that ohh studying is actually easiest way to upgrade yourself and be better in life which I'm very grateful to and thankyou for saying that "curious to know your upper limit" sentence. I'm gonna see now how up or how far i can reach 🌟
As requested, I brought my dad on as a guest! ❤😮 hear his wisdom here: th-cam.com/video/JGpVDB9GL08/w-d-xo.htmlsi=wNTJAaFO_vS7BqdW
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“laziness is a privilege. if you are on survival mode, you LITERALLY can’t afford to be lazy”. This video is spot on
Liz said this on one of her videos right? I watched it earlier❤
If u keep going that way…ur going to fry ur nervous system. I don’t think any of y saying this have actually been in survival mode with a dis regulated nervous system and autoimmune disorders
@@besunshineforsomeone297in what video? The tittle
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I resonate with this so much. People always say “study smarter not harder”, but the key is studying smarter AND harder
My professor just said exactly this today after we got back our first exam grade
Facebook, social media, Instagram, tik tok ruined people’s lives.
True omg
tbh all ppl will agree thiss!!!!!!
So ture
I can honestly live without all of those, but I have a massive dependency on TH-cam.
@@Beepbeep_its_treasureme too i got new knowledge in tiktok everyday
“Aren’t your curious about your upper limit”
Wow, that has struck hard
You’re amazing
I hope the best for your channel and hope for many more people to hear this
This quote is applicable even outside of school and work! It just inspires you to be better in general
Your upper limit is when you make sacrifices. Sacrifices such as quitting short term content activities like gaming, tiktok, youtube, social media, drugs and alcohol. Many people fail at this first step as they can't imagine going through out the day without a mobile phone with them
SAME😭😭😭
Any time realize I'm being ungrateful I remind myself that I am currently living a life which is dream life to thousands of unprivileged kids.
i like this mindset!
But most people don't think that way as due to technological advancements and social media. People get brainwashed and envious quick. They see a stranger living a better life and they glorify it hoping to live a similar life. This intrinsically will make people feel less happy with their lives
This video really woke me up and gave me the reality check. There is so much value and importance in hard work. We're so laid back and comfortable that we forgot how hard our parents worked in order for us to be where we are today. Thank you so much Amy for making this video. I truly needed this wake up call.
So glad! Thank you for listening to my words and for sharing.
@@YourALife Thank you for responding!!!
You all don't wanna hear this, but this video is the definition of toxic motivation. I am sorry that your family suffered as much as they did, but suffering of this nature owes more to structural issues that CANNOT be solved simply through hard work. I say this as someone whose parents also got out of terrible conditions through studying, so believe me, i know the value of education. But this kind of thinking, that I need to keep pushing myself to my absolute limits just because, is a glorification of suffering that will lead most people only to burnout.
Also many people are stuck in self-sabotaging behaviour like spending 6hrs on instagram, not because they are lazy or stupid, but maybe because they have undiagnosed mental illnesses, neurodivergence, toxic family systems, etc etc. So let's be compassionate to others whose lives we haven't lived.
You seem like a wonderful and accomplished person, but this video reminded me of all the reasons why I stoppped engaging with studytube after it pushed me towards burnout, so no thanks.
Hi! Thanks for your time and consideration. I want to note that while there is a lot of toxic productivity out there, as shown from my experience and habits that I promote on both of my channels, using this mindset doesn't lead to burnout. I'm targeting people who spend way too much time on social media and want to find their WHY to reach the potential they know they can. This includes living their best, happiest lives. People will feel bad and regretful if they forget their values.
she just said true words. bad times create good men, good men create good time and good times create bad men. my parents also rose from poor background. that's why my father can work tirelessly for more than 12 hours and i can't focus on my work more than an hour despite having so much opportunities that my parents didn't have. life is not all fun and roses and you do need to sacrifice a lot to achieve something greater. hard work and pushing yourself to your limits doesn't happen overnight. you have to slowly mold yourself to it. that way you won't be burned out.
@@hooncloud_6If it works for you, that's great, I am happy for you. But from what you said above, it seems like whatever you are preaching is not working for you either. Regarding your father working 12 hours straight, that's a product of necessity that you cannot replicate in your life. And frankly, let's stop glorifying overwork. I am proud of your father but he is doing it because he has no choice. That doesn't mean that that is the standard you should aspire to.
I don't want to argue too much on this because I used to think exactly as you do and no random person on youtube would have changed my mind. But I will say this, when I started practicing self-compassion and took therapy to help with my specific needs, and created a gentle schedule that doesn't tie my worth to work, it is then that I achieved things that I never had before. I still fall into the loop of toxic self-motivation sometimes, but I would never want to go back to obsessing about productivity and the self-hate that it brings.
@@YourALifeIf you think that mindset prevents burnout, then I would encourage you to look up some of the scientific literature available on burnout. As I said, your tips work for you, that's amazing, but before addressing a huge audience of mostly people younger than you, it is necessary to educate yourself on the consequences of what you are saying online.
@@jane1995-c3t I think you're missing the point of my video. It's for people who are mindless scrolling on social media and forgetting what matters in life.
"tough love is the truest form of love" -- the most asian thing to say (i am asian too)
you’re a Caucasian…. my Bengali friend.
Bengali's are Indian my friend
So they're Asian not Caucasian
Indian here❤
Bengalis are not Caucasian. They are Indian. & INDIAN are ASIAN too.@@indiasupportsthereturnofth1475
This vid really made me feel touched. I’m a university student in Taiwan, and from a quite wealthy family. “Our generation is insanely privileged and spoiled.”This is so true.
Also I feel really empathetic when you talk about your family. My parents work extremely hard to give me abundant education resources, many precious travel experiences, and also a very good environment. I started to gradually quit social media and focused a lot more on improving myself a couple months ago, like I started to learn French, and not only focus on school projects but also keep in touch with English everyday, because I really feel that I’m extremely lucky to have such a family like this. My parents didn’t have this kind of privilege when they were young but I have it now. I really have the motivation that I want to work hard to succeed in my dream, and to make my parents proud.
BTW, quitting social media is the best choice I’ve ever made. It doesn't mean delete all those apps, It means that only use them when you have to. My mental health, my time management, all got improved because of quitting social media.
Big thanks to you for making this priceless video!
Send me money too
Wow thank you so much for your support and kind words!! I am amazed how you were self-aware and took great steps :) Yes, limiting social media has been wonderful for me too! Let's keep going!!
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This story is like my Indian family’s story and how they gave us the life we have now. So we are also frugal and we know the pain.
facts
Soo true,middle class Indian families can totally relate
Yes.
Me rn 😮 coz this literally my situation
It shocked me how my father's story was the exact same. He also lived in a hut where everyone was watching TV while he was trying to study. I'm inspired now.
I think there are a few things that frustrate me about this video. 1. The idea that struggle builds character. Really, no, struggle doesn't build character, resilience does. Struggle just tests character. Many break under struggle. 2. The idea that you shouldn't try to enjoy education/studying. Sure, I agree with the basic premise that avoiding pain at all costs is going to hurt you more in the long run, but it's not hurtful to motivate yourself, to find the ways to make yourself want to study, even if the moment to moment experience isn't the most dopamine rich, amazing fun. Life is about enjoying it, living it, why not learn to enjoy the monotonous parts, too? 3. The idea of personal liberation. I get it's important to work hard and improve your own life, but it's not questioned the status of farmers and laborers? These are the most essential workers on the planet, especially farmers. We would starve without them. We wouldn't have phones and homes and furniture and etc. And yet, these workers are some of the poorest. Sure, I don't expect the individual to magically reverse systemic oppression, but I think all those poor workers deserve more than just our "hard work". They deserve liberation. If I'm going to bust my ass, get a good education and work hard, use the gift of my privilege, I'm also going to work my damned hardest to undermine the system that allows anyone to go without education or food.
Admittedly, I'm already a highly motivated person, just in my own way. I think the conclusion of this video is right on the money, and a lot of the underlying ideas are great, I just don't personally vibe with all of it, and I think my perspective might add something interesting to the discussion. Ultimately, people should get off social media for sure (that shit is toxic), but the exact way they should deal with their mindset after the fact will differ depending on their own experiences.
When i say i hate school i dont mean i hate learning, i love learning and wish the system was better at teaching us. I hate school because they just test our memory and is a one size fits all while also expecting non human standards. But i love this perspective and agree that we should make purposes of all the ressources we have to educate ourselves!! Great video and thanks for the doze of reality that gave me motivation to continue studying no matter how hard i might think it is.
yea i have worked super hard in almost every area of my life so far expect in this education system bcs my brain doesn't care about holding bunch of random facts for the whole year, it's not even how human mind learn things, it learns stuff practically through 100s of experiments, than what else can you expect from people.
I call this the learning vs studying dilemma. I always performed well in the subjects i learnt and scored mediocre at the subjects i studied for
this. i LOVE learning, and i LOVE studying. i just don’t love school. i thrive when im learning in my own time. school is just stressful and honestly ableist as hell. you have great memory? you’re an achiever! your memory is whack? well ur whack too! :)) i dont get how this system still holds..
Absolutely agreed!
Come to Asia to feel the system
This is the wake up call that ive been needing for the past 4 years of my life, I've been so layed back on studying it resulted me in struggling with highschool, I never realized the value behind hardworking people, I've always thought they were lifeless but they know what they're doing. my finals are in 2 days and I managed to take care of not even half of the subjects because I've been sleeping it off the entire year. I've had it easy and never realized how hardworking my parents had to be to make my life easy like this. thank you for putting me back in my consciousness.
same.
You got this! (LET'S GO RANPO PFP)
@@iheartkaito THANKS ! I PASSED MY FINALS :3
Laziness won’t get anything done. Thanks for motivating people to work hard.
Wow are u Cambodian?
I’m 25 in South Africa, I don’t have a rich background, no family wealth but we just have enough to afford basic needs. I want to be the first to break generational curse n start the wealth background, I’m on my second degree now coz my first one had no paths for growth. This video just encouraged me that it’s doable we can’t keep on crying about being born poor, instead we can push to be the change ❤️❤️ I just had to subscribe, thank you 🙏 ❤
All the best mntase ❤
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I absolutely love your mindset .
I am from South Africa also and I went to university and made a lot of mistakes because I didn’t know myself 😢💔. It wasn’t until I was in a position where I could loss it all ,go back to Limpopo a failure that my mindset shifted and I was confronted with the reality of where I come from ,You seem like you always knew that.
But I am redeeming myself and working harder than I ever have to the wealth background too .
I’m also from South Africa and a student . May I ask what your first degree was ?
wow this made me cry like a baby. im from a similar situation yet i have gotten so lazy and addicted to social media. its so easy to forget the struggle once youre out of it. thank you for reminding me of my responsibility to my family, to use the situation they created for me to the best of its potential. thank you
Stories touch us on a deeper level that random tips.
Love this
You are the first person to talk about - good times create weak men. You earned a sub just for that.
What? That’s been said so many times how have you not heard that worn out phrase
It’s easier than ever to get ahead in life since social media fks up your whole competition.
Just fix yourself and get ahead
THISSSSSS
I just deleted all social media .You are absolutely right .I really admire your culture and ability to persevere I pray to instill the same things in my children through hard work.
Thank you for sharing your parents story, this it what internet should be made for.
Helping us be better, connecting with people around the world, sharing experiences and growth ❤
Absolutely! Thank you for engaging and helping more people see this ❤️
1000% agree! Most folks do not think about the fact that the majority of folks throughout time could not choose their path at all or rise above their station. Thankful for my teacher Mom and family who believe in life long learning...it's continuous 💯
I failed senior year a while ago because I was in a privileged time, I was given a chance to repeat the year in 2024, I never saw this as an opportunity and planned to pass with a B or even a C, but now listening to your background, it awoke something in my brain and I know I will now try my best to take this chance as a path to actually take responsibilities. I have no idea how to thank you, the only speech that gave me back my old mindset and how I always used to be an A+ student.. thank you Amy. I looked up to you and you didn’t disappoint.
Thank you so much for taking the time to listen and to comment. Sounds like you're going to do great :)
Your story is similar to mine I also failed senior year and I’m also repeating it this year so you’re not alone.
You’re gonna do amazing good luck!
@@Yasmeeenn We in this together bro🙏 wishing u best of lucks
The "Aren't you curious~" part reached me and hit me so hard😭
10:34 this is exactly how I feel about those reels documenting the "indian street" experience. It always rubs me the wrong way to see people be treated that way, especially with the knowledge that many of my ancestors grew up that way. The comments just hurt too, because I think about how ignorant they are, what they don't see, what they're goinjg through, and it just makes me want to cry, scream, and wish that short form content didn't exist (bc let's face it, summing up anything into 1min or less is NOT going to get the point across)
I love listening to your podcasts when i'm cleaning, setting up my study space, walking to the library etc. It really motivates me! The line in this video about being curious ab your upper limit hit so hard.
This was so humbling, thank you. This wisdom can be applied to everything including studying such as relationships, gym, spiritual practices etc. To have the freedom to have a CHOICE is a gift that is taken for granted daily.
Thank you. ❤
"we dont have to think about being kind = we dont have to think about being hardworking" that opens my eyes so much oh my gosh
Girl you NAILED it
Social media RUINED my life
I’m was in my 20s had an iPhone with an Instagram and Facebook. RUINED my career b/c I am constantly comparing my life to others.
People need friends like you and people need your support so please you need to be there for others. Delete social media now.
After I get off of TH-cam. I’m going to go off. My family is from farmer family to from India and I’m living in America and it’s been really touch dealing with bullying, racism, and toxicity even from your own community and from the white and other minority communities. My dad was a farmer he worked really hard and became a priest and he wanted to become a doctor but in India only wealthy people become doctors. My parents struggled a lot throughout their life and when they got the opportunity to come to America they took it. But for me surviving here is hard because it’s just living in culture shock all the time. I know it’s about working hard but it’s also about taking care of yourself. When I went to therapy and I was asked by the therapist why so many Indian people become doctors and engineers and not garbagemen. She hurled several racist comments. Not only that but I get bashed by other Indian people all the time and they are so jealous of your success. If you do well in school they are jealous they are just so mean and do anything to pull your leg down. Constantly it’s a hustle and it never ends and not you can never enjoy life. When my mom wanted to work she wore a sari and started volunteering at work and all the people looked at her really wierd. We will not belong here but we are living here so yes it’s the reality.
I also wasted 9 years of my life but I am 18 now any advice you can give me
How did you waste your years at 9 years old? That is super young dude. You were a CHILD @@flashf778
@@flashf778"Try and Fail, but don't Fail to Try."
Hope it helps.
how do u overcome comparing yourself to others? I sometimes feel like a loser for life when seeing others accomplishing things that i could hardly achieve like when i wasn't able to solve a math problem that my friends could've solved easily. I dont know how to overcome that and sometimes i feel that im truly stupid
@@tanhnguyen2025Never compare yourself with others , no matter in which condition we are, we are never happy. As far accomplishment is concerned , it is all achievable with hard work. To achieve something(good grades, dream job, etc) , all that matters is your efforts, hard work in the right DIRECTION. Do not worry dude. You have the potential, but you might not be using it bcoz of not putting in the work.
1. TRY and FAIL, but DON`T FAIL TO TRY.
2.HARD WORK BEATS TALENT.
3. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
I wasn't afraid of hard work and pain as an immigrant, but after working so much therapist told me I was experiencing a burn-out with clear symptoms. I'm still trying to figure out the fine line between working hard and not falling into this trap again.
It does hit you, with what your grandparents and parents went through to get you great education.
While i was listening, it hit me it was more or less the same with my parents. My mother went through a lot to get all of us to a decent point where we are doing good.
Right now, im in my second study week before my oral graduation exams and was unhappy with how well ive studied so far.
Thank you.
It's never too late. Thank you for taking the time to listen and comment :)
I never comment on anything but want to say thank you for sharing your take, I agree with you and it’s so nice to see someone advocate for this
Thank you so much! I hope with more thoughtfulness toward this message, we can reach more people who need it. Wishing you the best.
I also think of it this way, when I watch and scroll on social media I ask myself this question, “if I were to ever struggle will these people help?” The answer is no so why am I wasting my time on something/people who wouldn't ever benefit me or give me a light of day?
this!😀
I needed this. Sometimes I don't know where to start but i know by just doing something is enough
I've cut out social media like 3 weeks ago. I'm glad I broke today and got on TH-cam, cause I would have never heard those things I needed to hear otherwise.
20 minutes into the video, and I am convicted. I grew up in America, lived the dream, and I squandered and wasted my high school homeschooling education. Never even bothered about getting good grades, or even recording my grades. Now that I have a desire to go to college, I have to get my GED in order to go. This video is EXACTLY what I needed, what we all needed to hear. Thank you for sharing your Grandpa's story, it broke my heart and really convinced me to view education not as a chore that needs to be done, but as a privilege and a gift to share with others. Looking forward to the last 12 minutes of the video.
I also want to get my GED so that I can attend college. I came to America when I was 19 years old, so I did not attend high school because I was out of age. I want to pursue get my GED to make it easier for me to attend college. However, I am unable to study on my own to pass the exams.
Did you know that in some states you can attend community college without a GED? Contact a school near you and see what they say! I myself got a GED 30 years ago and went on to a 4 year school. You can do anything you set your mind to if you think ahead about what challenges you might face and make a plan in advance to eliminate or reduce those challenges. There are inexpensive books that can help you prepare for the ged. Don't put it off. Whatever youth you have is your advantage, so don't squander that!
@@chaninnawaki3278Did you have any schooling in your country? Why do you say you cannot study?
I’m rooting for you to get your GED!!!
thx amy this is the kind of stuff that rlly gets through me i love it when u share personal stories because idk it just gets through me
I'm so glad to hear :)
Unfortunately, not all kids will learn to work hard by listening to stories. It needs to be combined with kids learning to be disciplined at school and home. It’s sad to see how society has reduced its expectations for teenagers. The people who watched this video are people that probably already value personal growth to a certain degree.
I love this video. Social media isn’t always terrible but I love seeing social media being used for videos LIKE this! I’m getting my ass back on track. May God bless you hun, and everything you’ve worked for you deserve the blessings you got. Thankyou for being willing to share your family background. ❤
if you're not careful, these values are so hard to come by these days. while I was with my family, I was incredibly motivated and wanted to do better for my family. when I was in college, it was the same. I struggled a lot. to keep up with my grades, etc. I really really tried but I eventually got influenced by someone who did not have these values at all. I didn't realize at the time because these were so ingrained in me (south asian myself) and eventually, this person questioned my family, my own identity, etc. Long story short, got very involved with someone I didn't realize would influence me to a degree where I lost absolutely everything I built at age 24. Seeing this video on this journey of rebuilding just reminded me of the mindset I lost- I never want to go back to that miserable life I ended up living filled with false hope, false promises, etc. like she said, mindset and actions- be very careful. things can make you better or worse. personally, I ended up in a state where I forgot what was up and down etc. God. what a nightmare. every word in this video is incredibly impactful, and appreciate you for actually putting this online. I never seen anyone online speaking truth like this. right before clicking this video I was not kidding scrolling through my recommended trying to find something real just one thing and this popped up. growing up as gen z, unfortunately most free content out there is like dessert- provides you pleasure but not what you need in life. I'm going to add one thing- she talked to her grandpa. keep the old people in your life close. wisdom is priceless. you cannot buy it- it comes from people who have lived life, and also have that relationship with you to know you and share. Also- remember the basic things you were taught in kindergarten. never ever loose those values. adults make life complicated by greed, lust, pleasure, etc. pleasurable things are gifts. do not disgrace them- and protect yourself. stay focused:)
I pushed myself to my upper limit. I put in the hours and despite the hard work there remained a natural curiousity in me and an ability to see the beauty in anything. The subject didn't matter, I was fascinated. So as you can imagine it wasn't hard to spend my whole life studying. And it got results quickly, people told me that I'd be valedictorian, it felt good. So I pushed myself further. Even when studying became more of a chore, up until I woke up in the morning and felt overwhelmed with my life. I got sick more, or at least I stayed home more. My grades began to slip, and it felt like my whole life was turning to dust in my hands, seeping trough my fingers. I was so angry with myself that I had ruined a whole year of studying, of missing dates with friends, of missing life. I had sacrificed everything, for nothing. In other words, don't do this. Grades aren't important, not beyond passing. Learn and be happy, spend time with your friends, watch that show, pick up that hobby. Let's just all enjoy our lifes.
(Because even if you were to do all the hard work, and enter a 'good' career, the hard work will just keep coming. And you'll tell yourself that you only have to get that next promotion, then you'll be happy, then you'll rest. But that next promotion comes, and with it the work. And you can't keep up anymore. And then you realize, that all of your suffering could have been avoided if you'd simply allowed yourself to be happy.)
Thanks for sharing and I totally agree. To me, when I say upper limit, I mean your healthy ability to reach your potential. If you’re sacrificing a good life and fun, I wouldn’t consider that reaching your upper limit because part of maximizing your life is making it a good one. I’m really emphasizing cutting out the things that drag you down and away from your best life :)
And if you see my main channel, I share how I studied and became valedictorian while having fun, playing sports, and sleeping average 8 hours a night! Mostly possible because of focus and prioritizing what matters!
I agree, working smarter not harder is always the better advice. Working harder is bypassing the issue.
@@YourALife
"Aren't you curious about what your upper limit is" this is going to stay with me throughout my life.
Thank you for this video. May God bless you with great success , health and happiness ❤
dude this video made me so emotional, idk how you did that but im abt to study rn
What an incredible journey! You’re so blessed to have a family that made those sacrifices for a better future! True love and devotion! ❤
Indeed, I'm sure you're lucky in many ways too - remember that ❤️
Thank you for this video. I'm currently in medical school and really struggling to persist in studying for my boards (yes, even a grown 29 year old in grad school can struggle with motivation and needs encouragement sometimes 😂). Social media has been a real hindrance for me lately. Especially with this new narrative of being "too cool for school" and how people who take out loans to get a higher degree are "wasting their time and can instead find ways to make quick money online and travel the world", etc. It really made me start questioning my life decision to invest in my education and got me in a rut. It's time to consider reducing my consumption or getting rid of social media to escape this vicious comparison trap. This video really helped shift my perspective.
girl. thank you so much for making this, i also come from a struggling place but my mom did her hardest to move my family into a better country, it seems like i forgot where i come from
I get what you mean but being a farmer isn’t as horrible as you make it out. Not having education is the enemy not farming itself.
You may not understand the living conditions of Chinese farmers. The reality is indeed as the blogger said.
Amy thank you so much.
Your story, this video, the way you spoke...
It made me realise that we need to value life so much more rather than take everything gor granted.
I will be so much grateful each time I GET to study.
God bless you Amy 🙏🏻❤️
I like the mindset you have. Perspective rather. Assign more than one value to studying. Test your limits. Maybe studying is a value in expanding your limit, honouring your life path, or just having an abundance of knowledge or ease with a technique. Then the “grind” can be enjoyable, and still enjoying the sensation of strain. I also have a family of very humble beginnings, but I’m not a straight A student. My priority is being the most technically competent artist I can be, bringing anything I can to reality. It’s what means the most to me. Find what feeds your heart.
Your family story is amazing.
I think there’s a huge hurdle for people to get over when their whole family did not prioritize hard work or gratefulness. There’s a lot of people where those things don’t come naturally because their parents didn’t care much about their education or having a decent life. This is my experience, my mom dropped out of middle school had kids and was dysfunctional, it took a long time for me to become even aware of how much work I really need to do to achieve what I really want. It’s sad and painful for me because I have to undo so many habits I’ve had for so long and I’ve failed and restarted so many times. I think it’s a privilege to have parents who actually care, because before you’re even consciously aware of yourself, you’re modeling their behavior and energy. That’s a blessing.
Overall though this video is highly beneficial and it’s a nice story/reminder for all people that hard work, and doing right thing is healthy and necessary for a good life.
I held resentment that others had better starting conditions for so long. Because its unfair. And it really is unfair, there is no questioning, no denying. I dont think you have this problem as much as i did and it took me waaaay too long to learn this (i am 25 and really just today realised this). But I think the right way to think about it is that yes, life is unfair, but to not hold this belief with bitterness but look at the few blessings you still have (even as simple as a healthy body) and be grateful for that, and repeat that daily. Your cards are more difficult to play with than someone born into a rich educated family. But that is ok, it is about reaching your own upper (healthy) limit and giving your children a better start. That is your unique mission then and we have to embrace that, it is the right way. Acceptance, I thnk.
And I think that we meet here under this video already says that we are probably already on a good path!
@@mellowyellow532 I appreciate your response :) I agree gratefulness and acceptance for this unique path is part of my/our life purpose. I am already on my way to a better future and i know you are too. much love
This video felt like an epiphany for me. I was getting shivers at how similar our backstories are. My grandparents also lived hard lives and experienced horrible things. They worked hard labor, low-income jobs to enable my dad to pursue an academic career and lift us into the middle class. You made me realize how spoiled our society is today and how privileged we are. Your inspiring backstory and your eye-opening mindset-action analogy have really changed how I view my life. I want to see what my upper limit is. Thank you, Amy, for this video and all the best to you! ☺
I'm so glad I found this video. You are so honest and humble
You're so real for this. My parents suffered during their childhood, reason why me and my sister are privilege enough to have a chill life. This video is my wake up call T_T
nuh yuh, this is very toxic
what she said is absolutely on point
This video is just what I needed, tysm for posting it!! I have been struggling so much with trying to get over my phone addiction and overall social media addiction. I've been actively trying to use my time wisely to develop my other skills and academics, yet I can never do so. This video was truly an eye opener for how privileged I truly am. The part where how much can I reach my full potential and see how much I can achieve when compared to my parents is a refreshing midnset to have!! I'll save this video and keep watching it whenever I get back into my old habits again.
I come from middle class in Thailand, I always achieve good grade which is great but my problem is money. I’ve dreamt about studying abroad since I was young. When I was in grade 10th, there a chance to be an exchange student and I was so excited but when I looked at the scholarship the amount of money I need to pay was still high, so I gave up. After then, I saw my classmate who literally had same English level as me (she’s rich) got to be an exchange student. this made me so mad back then, thought to myself what did I do? why didn’t I get her privilege? why her life is so good when I can’t even afford to travel in my country. I knew I had negative mind set. Even now I’m 20, I still cannot get 100% rid of those comparisons. Watching your video inspired me so much especially your dad story! Well if I don’t have any privilege then I’m gonna create my own way, even it takes longer than others, I’m willing to do so!
rooting for you ❤
@@blueside10 thank you so much🫡💓
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@@phsrkn ขอบคุณนะคะ หนูจะพยายามค่ะ!
this is one of the best video on productivity young people need to watch!!!
I watched all the way through and saw the end. While it may not be what everyone wants to hear, it's still important, and I appreciate you spreading this message.
Sobering and much-needed. Thank you, Amy. 💕
This video was extremely well made. I’m a high school student with a short attention span (currently working to improve that) and I haven’t been able to watch a video as long as this one in a while. I didn’t continuously check the time, wondering when it would be over so that I could get back to scrolling through TH-cam shorts. I actually sat down and listened with full attention.
Thank you for sharing! And I don’t mean the words “thank you” to be some meaningless phrase that doesn’t really have any value to it. I am TRULY grateful to have heard this. This means a lot to me. I hope the knowledge shared in this video will push me further in my education.
All the best to you!
It’s insane how my life story is almost the same as yours. My maternal grandparents were factory workers, and the other would sell prawns for a living. My parents studied so so hard to both be offered university scholarships to Singapore (where I was eventually born). I remember my dad telling me how he could’ve been a doctor in China but his family couldn’t afford it (they had 5 kids too) so he took the opportunity to go to Singapore to be an occupational therapist instead. I think deep down he might always be wondering what would’ve happened if he DID have the money to be a doctor. My family did grow up quite frugally as well. Thanks for sharing your story. It hit me really deep and made me realise my privilege. To even have the opportunity for an education that my grandparents would’ve killed to have.
I'm only about halfway through the video, but I just wanted to comment and say that I just love how you've done the video. No edits, no nothing, just a sit-down and a 'person' to 'person' talk. It's honestly refreshing and as many have commented, a really big wake up call. I feel like you are talking to me, even though it is just a pre recorded video. But I can say I feel so much hearing everything you are saying. I'm only 21, but for so long, I have noticed how social media and society is affecting my ability to study. I was aware of my laziness and comfortability for a long time, yet I did nothing about it. I knew I wanted to work harder, but never put in the required effort. But now I'm really trying. Seeing how my dad [73] is still working and making more money than he could've ever imagined for himself, I want to be where he is. I want to be successful, happy, hard-working so I can give back to my parents, and support my future family. I want to be better, I want to make not only myself, but my parents (especially my father) proud.
Thank you for your video, for posting this for everyone to see. All the best
Thank you so much for listening and taking the time to share your comment. I really want to emphasize that it’s not your fault because of how social media and our current society have impacted our thinking. You had a fantastic mindset within you all along so I’m glad I could help remind you of it. Wish you and your family all the best ❤
Gurl , talking about ur dad for the first 3 minutes got my eyes balling 🥹❤️
Thank you. Your perspective was invaluable to listen to. Please never stop sharing your stories. You're changing so many lives including mine!
Thank you for posting this. It reminded me a lot of my background and how far I've come in life. My background is similar to yours, but my family is from Taiwan. Despite the geographic difference, I still resonate strongly with this. I've actually stumbled upon your channel a few times but never took it seriously until now. This is a great video.
watching this video makes me feel like listening to a sister who is telling about life, teaching me how to view hard things in life, what’s the truth behind what we consider as valuable, etc. thank you so much for putting such efforts in this video. I’m glad we get to know a part of your grandparents stories and their sacrifices.
thank you so much for this video. my parents & grandparents have had the same story. bit by bit, they built an empire for me and i forgot its value. this is eye opening. love for you ❤
Thank you for sharing your family’s experience ❤️❤️ it’s quite relatable as an Asian living in the UK my parents tell me their stories too, similar to your grandparents’ and parents’
Thank you for listening!
I’m balling my eyes out relating to the stories in a different experience. Some days I forget how privileged I am and I want to thank you for this video. I literally almost skipped it and kept scrolling. I’m extremely grateful to have come across your video. Thank you again.
I love that I can study for free. It's amazing. I hope one day everyone will be able to learn if he wants
You just connected disconnected ideas I always had marvellously. I don't think I've slopped off a video before but I loved this and absolutely resonated with the message. Thank you.
This video brought me back to reality. It's no time to be slacking off. I should be working hard, and making myself independent. I should give back what my parents gave to me. Thank you for making this video.
Hi,
I’m 13, about to go to high school this fall. I clicked this video because I have some social studies work to finish, but felt like it would be to hard.
This really reminded me of how privileged and pompous I sounded. It reminded me of my Iranian, immigrant, strong mother. It reminded me of how kind she is to me, of how much she suffered under her siblings, under sexism, under the pains and struggles of medical school.
I am weak, and I hope this video can make me stronger. Maybe.
Either way,
Thanks.
Hey there - you have it in you to do hard things and succeed. Watching this video may have inspired you, but it won't make you strong. Here is something that will help: when you face a project or task that feels too hard, just stop and ask yourself "what is the very next step?" In this case, maybe your next step was just 'open the textbook' or 'open my notes.' That isn't too hard. Then the next step, if it feels too hard, break it down into a smaller bit. The trick is to keep showing up and asking "what CAN I do?" What makes you strong is to keep showing up, putting the phone down, and being willing to be uncomfortable for a minute or two. Once you get into the work, you will feel better and realize that it feels good to stretch and work hard. Exercise the muscle of taking a small step. This, in time, will make you very strong.
@@Wayfarer889 thanks a lot. I mean it. :)
Thanks for reminding me of what circumstances my parents also came from
I think as immigrants kids we can all relate to your story, thank you for sharing .
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
- Friedrich Nietzsche
I'm really happy that I found this video and your channel.thank you so much that was really helpful for me
Im really grateful for this video, I have realized that I have become ungrateful for what my parents do for me. And because I put myself in a unhealthy cycle of social media I have the power to remove myself from it. Thank you so much for sharing this.
My mother’s family worked incredibly hard to get to the wealthy and luxurious life I get now. Especially being Vietnamese during the war. When I was younger I did not see that. I’m diagnosed with autism level 1, and dyslexia. a traditional school setting was often hard on me that for all my life I barely passed in school. In my freshman year I had a 50% attendance, not because I wanted to but because I was in such a deep depression. Now I am still in school and struggle, but not to the extent I did before as I’ve realized that I need to take the advantages I have infront of me. Being autistic, I realized through psychologists that I am incredibly gifted in the psychology field and other sciences. I’m thankful for my mother for working hard and giving me the opportunity to work hard and become a psychologist one day. Even though I struggle, this motivates me.
Hey, of all the things I have watched on youtube and other things, this is the most raw thing I might have needed. While I could do good if I tired, I never did. I'm in university and I'm doing a degree I don't like ( I used it as an excuse all the time now), but I realize I have it easy, that I am taking my privilege for granted. This coupled with now taking care of social media might just keep me on track. Thanks again.
i love how down to earth you are, it's really refreshing
This video really found me at the right time as someone who is struggling to study.
Grandpa was a farmer as well that died when my dad was four. My dad studied super hard in order for us to live a middle class life.
Now I'm aiming to become a doctor in the states as a first generation immigrant.
A lot of habits about food, accommodation and clothing in my dad's generation are exactly as you mentioned!!
I wish I could have the same resilience as you.
First video but love your channel~
When I watched your video, I realized that I had spent a lot of time not doing something when I had spare time, especially scrolling videos on Instagram, forgetting about my goals that I set before then It always happens every day. I feel guilty when I do that. I hope it's not just about a temporary feeling I created to manipulate my brain.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. What you said didn't sound harsh or offensive at all, your words were straightforward and humbling. I really do hope more people see this.
I love your story and the honesty, it is very true and touching. It opened my eyes to the privilege I do have, I should be glad for the life I have and it reminded me of how my parents raised me… it also changed the way I see about studying. Thank you… your family is amazing 💞
A lil summary for all those with the attention span of a goldfish. Or if you're back in the future trying to revisit the points in the vid. [Still try to watch the vid first, I skip a lot of explanations in this]
What I personally concluded-
1. Acknowledge the fact that you're very privileged if the main thing you're unhappy about is that studying isn't fun and you don't like to study.
2. Don't try to chase "make learning fun". It's just a temporary bandage to the root problem. Sure you may like some classes, but don't expect the same from every class. Don't study with the mindset that should be "fun" to study.
3. As humans, we don't wanna wanna be outsiders, or "different". There are a lot of things we do because of this, that cause us more harm than benefit, like social media. A way to tackle this is if you are really curious about what you could achieve if you cut down things that are bringing you down.
4. You're already at a great starting point. Acknowledge the effort it took your family to get to that level (I assume for most people here their parents' situations were worse when they were the same age as us). Not giving your best is a disgrace to that effort.
5. Also, most people always feel like they could have done better after they get bad results. That isn't gonna help much. Learning where you spend your time is what's gonna help you. Decide what to keep and what to cut out.
6. Stop living your life on autopilot.
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Stuff in [ ] is stuff I wanted to add to the content.
The longer "summary" -
1. You are really fucking privileged if studying is the main thing you have problems in.
2. Amy also isn't someone who didn't enjoys studying, and still managed to become a valedictorian.
3. Don't try to look for ways to start "enjoying" studying. Don't try looking for vids to get you motivated to study. These will just treat the symptoms temporarily without solving the main problem.
4. "make studying fun" videos are what you WANT, not what you NEED.
5. These aren't gonna help you, atleast not to your full potential.
- [BTW don't try chasing after "Dream Jobs" either, they're are gonna suck atleast 30%-60% of the time. So stop chasing things that you feel are "PERFECT" for you.]
6. We're in the good times right now, and the men are created weak. (This is in reference to the popular phrase)
7. You need to understand that you're pretty fucking lucky to be able to be in a condition where you CAN study without worrying too much about other things (like money, food etc).
8. Amy isn't a stereotypical nerd and still got into one the world's best universities.
9. It's not your fault though, don't start blaming yourself for everything. You weren't really taught about how to think about these things. As humans, we don't wanna be outsiders. So we also start using social media and scrolling. Amy doesn't want to blame you, she's just telling the hard truth. (Tough love ftw)
10. Amy then talks about her grandfather's story.
1. After her grandfather was orphaned, his (grandfather) uncle took him in.
2. He was a farmer before that (the lowest social class).
3. His uncle helped him upgrade to "gonrin" (The second lowest level).
4. Gorin is manual labour work.
5. Amy's father, his 2 siblings and Amy's granparents, all 5 lived in a single dome-hut. Amy's father worked incredibly hard in school.
6. After they moved to an apartment, Amy's father got a room (about the size of a closet).
7. Amy's father did really well, and he was so liked by the proffs that he was offered to go to the US. (to work as a post-doc)
8. Amy's parents moved to the US, and their family racked up their entire life savings for it.
9. They saved brutally while working. Ppl in china work really hard not because it's easy for them, but it's because thay have seen what happens to those who don't.
10. Hard work is a value, like being kind is. You don't need to think about being kind. Amy didn't have to think that "School is important I gotta study". She (and her siblings, I assume, she said "we") just knew. Like, what else would you do with your effort.
- [ I am really sorry if there are any misspelled words in the above para, or if I got something wrong ]
11. First of all, you're already at a great starting point. If you're watching this, you're probably already at the stage of Amy's starting point, or better. Atleast work hard enough to not fall below your starting point.
12. Post college you can literally see the difference between the people who worked hard enough, and those who didn't.
13. Grinding in a closet sized room, while your parents watch tv, while your siblings are playing, is not "fun". But it earned Amy's dad the living in the US.
14. Being able to afford chemo treatment, being able to eat more, and what they like, was all due to Amy's dad's effort he put in.
15. This was the default of where to put effort in, in that situation.
16. The default was to give her best, it was never like "oh this class is gamified and fun" and all.
17. Aren't you curious what your upper limit is? Don't you wanna know what would happen if you cut out all the things pulling you down? [This one hit hard for me personaly]
18. Aren't you curious about what would happen if you just.. cut out stuff like social media? [ Btw this is a nice reminder that you should try to cut your filler activities before trying to increase studying and all. Also, time spent in actually having high density fun is not time wasted.]
19. This is what drives Amy. Like how "Unlimited" can she be? We have to .. want that too, like that's a kind of Fun too.
20. Our generation is insanely privileged and spoiled.
21. Maybe the way to drive students is to show them what a hard life really is.
22. Not trying is like, you got a gift from a loved one, and you're like ... "nah I'm gonna toss it away". It's a disgrace. [Personally I believe that getting straight As might not really be your desired path, you may want to invest in other skills. Amy clarifies in the video before this that education doesn't mean just books and all, so just do remember that Amy probably isn't telling you to just aim for straight As, but to knowingly work for what you want.]
23. The big takeaway is that to stop living your life on autopilot.
24. Ask yourself, are you really happy when you're... not doing the "right" thing.
25. If you step back and do some critical thinking yourself, you probably would be able to come up with solutions yourself.
26. Amy coined a concept of Ying Yang in a different video. Ying and Yang are Mindset and actions. Having the right mindset helps with your actions. Actions help improve your mindset too. This can go the opposite way too, Bad actions -> Bad mindset and so on.
27. Before you consume any piece of content, ask yourself if it is making you better or worse.
28. It's kinda hard to conclude these kinds of videos, as Amy films these spontaneously. These videos generally don't do well according to the algorithm, so try to share these types of vids with other ppl too.
- [Personally I like these kinds of long videos without any flashy animations or cuts much more]
thank you a lot!!!! 😔😔🌷🌷
I am so glad i stumbled upon this video. I expected it to be another video with tips about fun apps you could use or productivity things and stuff like that but this seriousness was what I feel like I needed to hear. I am so grateful to have stumbled upon this because I know I have the potential to do better. My teachers, my parents, relatives, tell me about my potential they see in me. And so when I procastinate or don't work hard, I feel disappointed and I now realise its my fault itself that I didn't prioritize the things that are actually important and instead gave importance to social media, and other things that I have the privilege to do. Thank you really for this video cuz this is what MANY people need to hear. I hope you have a great day💞
I’m so grateful that I found this video and yes I hope it’s goes viral.Thank you for making this video.❣️🙌🏼
You're so welcome!
Thank you so much. I was binging watching YT vids and this popped up. I was on my bed at the start and now I'm folding my clothes. I'll share this to my students 🙏
You're definitely not spoiled; you're quite reasonable. Your recognition of the sacrifices made by your parents and grandparents, and your efforts to improve based on that recognition, show your grounded nature and appreciation for what's important. It's this kind of understanding and action that truly defines someone as reasonable and thoughtful.
Your thoughts were seriously soo genuine and real. So thankful that i came across this video today!
Girl, I just want to say thank you. You literally slapped me back to reality. I LOVE the part when you asked if I wanted to see my upper limits. You literally reminded me of the ME before I moved to a different country and “felt that I lost my identity”.
i feel like this kind of video(which ive been seeing a lot recently for some reason, youtube is trying to tell me sth istg) doesnt mention things like different disabilities a lot. "you just have to push through" kind of fucks you up more when your body is actively fighting everyday and you've been burnt out for weeks. i think this is good advice, advice that i need, but i still feel like these things should be acknowledged. i think Thewizardliz(she makes very similar content) puts it well in some videos, with the message of "feel it, deal with it, heal from it." surrounding trauma, and i'd add a message of being willing to forgive yourself and accommodating things you cant control(like, you cant physically force a dyslexic person to "just read"). thanks for listening to my ted talk💀 (oh god i never comment on things)
Hi!! I’m sorry to hear you experience struggles. Although I cannot understand your pain, I also had a disability that made school very difficult (I discussed this in other videos). What I refer to here is what likely still applies to you in some way and most people. It’s really emphasizing the things that we can value and cut out so that distractions aren’t further dragging us down. Wish you all the best and thanks for listening!
The most genuine and practical video I saw after a very long time run
While this video is full of well intended advice, I also want to stress that doing well in school isn't all what life is about and hard work alone is not the only key to greater happiness. Believeing this can backfire seriously. I destroyed the love I had for my profession that way.
I worked my ass off during college and placed a lot of my personal value in my grades thinking it would solve all my life and immediately get a good job when I graduated. I got the highest grades among my generation. I was so hyper fixated in work as hard as I could that I ended up burnout and by the time I finished college I felt... Nothing. Not the slightest feeling of achievement or reward.
I landed my first job pretty quickly and I hated it. I was so mentally and emotionally exhausted that even though I wanted I couldn't force myself to enjoy getting up every morning and doing my 9-5. I couldn't function, I felt absolutely miserable even though the job was decent. All because I destroyed my mental health during school. Now that I didn't have the reward of grades I felt like I was worthless and ended up quitting after 4 months. I worked other 3 different jobs with similar results. I couldn't work more than a few months without feeling I wanted to bang my head against the wall until it fell apart.
I've been unemployed for more than a year now, unable to find the courage to look for another job that I will hate. I've been trying to work on my mental health but I feel like due to stressing myself out so much during college I have lost all my self esteem and any love or enjoyment I had for my work. All because I wasn't gentler with myself and take it easier when I was still a student.
Balancing hard work and fun is common sense. If you need a youtuber telling you that idk what to say to u
wow thanks for this.
i feel you’re one of the most genuine youtube creators here, and i dont really know how to explain for which area i’m talking abt. you’re a good human being.
I really appreciate your kind words. Thanks so much for taking the time to listen to mine!
Amy you don't know how many different emotions this video made me feel in the best way. This is something i really want to go viral too cause i know there're so many people out there who needs this,who will be very helped regardless their situations. And hats off to your grandparents and parents,they really did so well. Also Amy you're incredibly hardworking too,love you always. Again thank you for this,this is something i really felt 💗
I can relate with this too being South Asian. Whenever my dad would order food on a Sunday my mother used to say that she didn't want anything because she didn't think she needed to get anything for herself, and she would manage with whatever was left-over and I never understood why. For her the most important thing was that we (me, my brother and father) ate well. This applied even for gifts, treats or even going to the salon. She wanted to save stuff like extra teapots, cutlery, and things for our (my brother and I) future and managed with old stuff even when our family lives comfortably and can afford more. People call me "that" student because of how I study and how I'm good at a lot of things but even I'm starting to slack because of a month of vacation. This is just the wake-up call I needed, and I am so grateful. Thank you, Amy. I really appreciate this.
Whenever i complaint to my mom about my studies being hard or it's too exhausting to study... She just tells me to do the work she does one day. And then i realise that ohh studying is actually easiest way to upgrade yourself and be better in life which I'm very grateful to and thankyou for saying that "curious to know your upper limit" sentence.
I'm gonna see now how up or how far i can reach 🌟