I’m sure she said it to his face and has done over and over The abused man he’s going to become internally as an adult knowing he’s hated for existing is so sad And she has no idea she’s going to turn him into potentially a self hating being who may choose to “switch genders” just to make his mum finally love him Or he’ll walk from her completely as he’s learned to finally hate her and cut her out of his life
Can you imagine filming that and deciding to post it?? He threw up 3 times and she’s so callous about it. I feel for the little guy, he’s going to end up hating women
There's this saying that a housewife often has to act as a lawyer, a police agent, a fashionista, etc. Being a caretaker is a lot harder than people realize, and any good husband knows how much effort their wives bring. Strength comes in many forms, after all.
theres nothing weak about being a housewife and taking care of your family house and kids. its harder than people think. i hope im able to work from home in the future because i'd love to stay home with my kids and take care of my house while still making an income
Exactly, being a homemaker, if you actually do everything usually associated with it, is itself a full time job in terms of work. And because of the responsibilities involved, I can't imagine wanting to take on even more by adding to it some or all of a man's responsibilities in that setup. It's like, so you want to take care of the kids and do the breadwinning? Why?! Are you a glutton for pain and stress? 😅
@@dece870717 Money is freedom and power over your own life. Taking on responsibility is the role of the adult. Have your own money and a PLAN, not just wishful thinking " nothing will happen to him, he'll never leave me".
It's a full time job in terms of work, but not in terms of money and respect. If you ever have to go back into the work force, it will be at a much lower salary because you caved to societal pressure and "chose" to stay home.
The funny thing about this is that only one side is doing it. The others are simply mothers showing off their cooking, not saying "everyone should do this or you're _"... since when was women having the skill to cook a bad thing that made all of the woke women so insecure in themselves?
Traditional wives had side gigs long before feminism came to be. Not all of them, but lots did so out of necessity or just because they were bored and Tupperware parties sounded fun. They also recognized that these weren't their primary responsibility and put her family first, just like men typically do chores that are gross or physically strenuous for their wives but prioritize breadwinning and protection; none of this was anywhere near as restrictive as feminazis would have you believe. My grandma was a school superintendent in the 50s, and spent a lot of the 60s in Peru helping their government set up their school system, while my other, even older grandma was a college professor just like both Grandpas
One of my grandmothers was a homemaker and did ironing on the side in the 50s and 60s. My other grandmother was a nurse in the pediatric wing in a hospital after her kids were school age. They both loved their lives.
@@TheBaumcmWarning you not to be a FOOL isn't " coming for you"! Stay out of the trad wife to poverty pipeline! Keep and learn to manage your own money! You WILL age and can be replaced with a newer model. Or Mr. Sole breadwinner can die or become disabled. Imagine having to enter the workforce in your 40s with no job experience whatsoever and 2 or 3 kids to support! And if that happens, you'll be judged as the silly, used up woman who " should have chosen better"!
@@TheBaumcm You're trying to go back to an era that NEVER existed. Women were always judged for being a 304 vs not being able to get a man, being lazy vs working too hard and "not prioritizing family", etc.
There is always someone who looks into other people's lives and say *No, you can't do that* *No, you doing it wrong* *No you are having fun, NO FUN ALLOWED* 😞😔
The point is, this "fun" content is ridiculously FAKE! Do you think people are actually out there baking every little cereal nugget after rolling it into a ball every morning? After doing their hair and makeup? And nothing gets on their gown even though they have no apron?😂 This is highly produced and edited content, making these hypocrites ( who probably have "help" with the actual child care and cleaning) actually WORK FROM HOME moms!
Growing up during the ERA time, we were constantly bombarded by, "you can be whatever you want to be." Yet, when asked what I wanted to be, I would reply, "A mom!" only to be met with laughter. "No, really... what do you want to be when you grow up?" Thirty six years of homemaking later, I wouldn't change a thing!
@@bonniewills2814 I never wanted to be a mom growing up (racecar driver, Torero, Artist, Scientist were all high up on the list^^), I was raised to be as untraditional as possible, but as soon as I turned 20ish a switch just flipped and I looked for a godly man to commit to and raise as many children to become good people as we possibly could.
@@bonniewills2814You came up when boys still learned they had to provide for that life choice. Today, they want a trad wife but treat them like they're gold diggers, insisting she go Dutch in the household while still doing all the homemaking. Make it make sense.
If a husband in the house is a provider for the family and he has some special work which starts at 5AM, then his wife could do it, she could arrange her timetable in such a way so that a husband would go to work well-fed because she would wake up at 4AM and prepare a good meal for him and then would go back to sleep.
I think the problem is they're portraying an unrealistic traditional wife. I was a stay at home mom for some years after our kids were born and it was much more than just waking up all dolled up to make sourdough bread and, living in a culture were they want to push this traditional narrative on to women, I have to concur is very damaging. Can't count the amount of women who were left by their husbands for younger women after they sacrificed their life to take care of the family. I am married to a man who didn't lift a finger while I was a stay at home mom, and now that I have two jobs he gets upset that I come home from work to rest because he still thinks housework is _my_ job and not *our* job
One of my better sourdough bread recipes is a three day process, and I can only presume Misha's experience was with recipes using the wrong grains or the ratios were off.
@@leegaul2161 I agree. It could also depend on the starter used too. Some of them do get pretty sour. Also, one sourdough baker to the other, if possible, I would love that recipe!
As a "trad wife" of 28 years (though I prefer the term "homemaker" and, when I'm feeling cheeky, "domestic goddess"), I can tell you that these videos of women are unrealistic for the majority of us. While we do work hard providing a haven for our families, most of us don't get up at 4am to make cereal from scratch for toddlers. They don't appreciate it - trust me.
I really like "domestic goddess." Good one. With regard to the closing comment "They don't appreciate it - trust me." I bet they do. They almost certainly do NOT understand the effort that went into it (how could they as toddlers). But I would bet they will remember seeing you, hearing you, smelling the foods you make, experiencing you doing TONS of things to make them happy. You will always be a domestic goddess to them, even if they don't realize how much effort it took to hand-make cereal (which I agree is a bit much, but if she enjoys doing that, fine).
@@dbf1dwarethey will not appreciate it as toddlers, as they lack the maturity to recognize how it impacts you to understand the work involved. If they get to help, they might appreciate the time together.
This is the problem with any trope or stereotype. Reality often does not meet expectations if people aren’t realistic or authentic about who they are. I am not an early riser, not a neat freak and not a “conventional” trad wife. However, I am a stay at home, I am happy to stay up later to take care of issues that arise so my husband can get a decent night’s sleep before going to work, and I can handle most tools from the correct end. I can also cook a mean pot roast, love to bake, and really enjoy providing a yummy, nourishing meal. My husband is happy to get up earlier, clean as needed, and recognizes when I am getting stir crazy. He’s also happy to clean up the dishes and make the things I hate doing that fall to me (laundry, 😩) easier.
Being a tradwife does often mean doing practically all of the cooking and cleaning, but it does not mean getting up at 4 am to make food from scratch everyday. Just like the satire video you showed, these people seem to have a very warped idea of what it really entails, and so they either assume or even live by a ridiculous stereotype. Their loss. Most of us who live a traditional life know that it can be extremely fulfilling for both men and women alike.
They're making fun of the trad wife influencers, who until a couple years ago were on only fans, and now spend their time telling women to submit on the internet. They're not talking about all stay at home moms. It's making fun of a very specific grift
@@uhhhhh4748 "They're making fun of the trad wife influencers, who until a couple years ago were on only fans," I can only think of one of them that applies to. No, they're trying to make fun of tradwives who go public with their lifestyle in general. "They're not talking about all stay at home moms." That part is true. They're only mocking those stay-at-home moms and wives who put in more effort to make sure they're *good* ones.
@@Vic2point0no they aren't!! They're against those trad wife who's teaching their daughter to be like them nd how fucked up is that !? Instead of letting her enjoy her life you started teaching about gender norms wtf
@@uhhhhh4748 I’m sorry, which SAHM’s are you talking about that used to do OF? Because that’s definitely not the majority of them and likely not even half.
@@C.Churchthe kind of men that hate women having choices and opportunities, are in the minority (at least in America) and shouldn’t be paid any attention to.
I'm a stay at home mom. I cook, I clean and take care of our son and animals. I wish I could make stuff from scratch but I have a big fear of failing and being embarrassed so I don't even try lol. My husband also helps like right now I'm sick so he went to go and do laundry with our son. See I grew up with a single mom and she always said that we didn't need a man and that all men are pos not to mention that she wasn't happy when I got married but I love my life with my family
If you want to learn to cook from scratch start easy. It is easy to buy frozen peas and learn how to boil them. It is easy to scramble eggs and fry them. It is easy to learn to bake chocolate chip cookies. Always think simple foods.
If you want to go for it, I give you absolute permission to try it and fail and try again. Try it in small amounts when you are home alone. Remember it is only chalked up as a failure if someone else knows about it and you give up😉. The Internet is a veritable cornucopia of tutorials that give you step by step instructions with video. Once you learn some basics, you’ll get a feel for what your family prefers (my husband hates cilantro but love ceviche so I make it without for example). The Instant Pot was a godsend for me because it allowed me to cook without having as much chance of failure (timer and auto off for my wandering mind). Shredded or pulled meats come out amazingly tender, and so does pot roast, ready in about 2 hours, but I second the stew. I hear an air fryer is also awesome. Grilling is also an option.
What is so bad about being traditional? that is not degrading at all and even my grandma and her Mom said they both was happy being a traditional Women too
It's probably because to many it spits in the face of advancement and seems as though it's a step backwards. Which isn't the case. Like people who believe in devolution. You can't devolve. you only evolve. Might seem negative but it's still forward progress.
The problem is not this traditional lifestyle, the problem comes when this lifestyle ends, which is possible, and the woman has no career, no experience or her own money. Many of these trad wives are actually against having a backup plan, and they tell other women about relying on a man economically, meanwhile, they are influencers making their own money. Recently many women are talking about their experience being trad wives, and how now they lost the custody of their children for not being financially stable or are struggling to give their children a good life after the divorce.
@@cecilia4390This is the problem. I notice men are already spreading their cancer around putting women against eachother using words like jealous and feminists. This is how they hope women stay distracted with fighting eachother to not notice them stealing women's ideas, her money, her value, her years, then dumping her in a ditch and themselves allowed to keep prospering bc everyone is still occupied with catfights.
As a guy where the mother is a stay-at-home mum, I have sort of mixed feelings about this. Being a stay-at-home requires a lot of sacrifice and it takes a whole new level of altruism to be one. It also takes an incredible amount of trust between the husband and the wife for the wife to become financially dependent on her husband so that the children can come home to a tidy house and a healthy home-cooked meal. I do understand feminists who like to caveat this sort of lifestyle and give good-faith risks of being financially dependent as not all couples are the same. That being said, I feel very lucky to have a mother that sacrificed her master's degree so that she could raise us 6 children with good food, ironed clothes, clean bed and good education. There are certain times when my mum got extremely frustrated that we weren't properly appreciating her work that she does. It is very commenable and extraordinary that mum has been a housemaker for almost 30+ years. It would make anyone sort of made in the head sometimes to make such large sacrifices while the naïve children taking it for granted but the mother having to hold in those thoughts as they are not old enough to know the context. I do think feminists have a point also that fathers need to appreciate the work that wives do if they do choose to become a housemaker and not abuse her working at home as "free childcare and free restaurant service" to take advantage off. When the wife is struggling, empathy and help from the husband is necessary and they should help them out on house chores in times of difficulty and not abuse their financial power or religious scriptures to abuse her
This is an important point. Neither side is in the right of it because it really comes down to what two people agree to do, and there must be be a healthy amount of respect on both sides for it to work, no matter which direction a couple goes. If both are working, and want to have a family, there has to be a clear point of no return and how they will handle competing responsibilities. If one stays at home, the working partner needs to be aware that their job is not their only responsibility. My dad was very happy to have us with him in the weekends and evenings, and we often got to go along with him on side gigs or for his hobbies. Mom never had to ask. He also never put his work above the family, even if sometimes he had to work a little more some days. He never said she wasn’t allowed to work a side gig or enjoy her friendships. For them, it was complementary, each picking up where the other left off.
That was great of your mom. I couldn't imagine "sacrificing" my masters degree, the only possibility for me is to finish university, get a stable job position and then we can talk children. But I know that you don't always get to choose and I am thankful if the future turns out accordingly to my plans.
I think people forget they dont have to let social media brainwash/tell them what to do. Even if somebody on tiktok said you have to be a trad wife or else youre not a real woman or a failure, you could just not listen to it and keep doing what you’re doing. Its called thinking for yourself, and the beauty of the USA and many other countries is that we are allowed to do that.
Women arent a monolith. The women who dont need a man dont care. The sweet ones, frumpy, struggle, shy, insecure, confused, they never said they dont need a man. They need one but not for what you think. They need one for his warmth, strength, love. They're the ones crying in videos. And you all make fun of them equating them to feminists, which hurts them even more when those are the women who liked you for some reason.
There is a misconception in this. There are in fact men who aren't looking for a trad wife, but rather a replacement for their mother. These are the kind of men that will not really support their family and just want the family to support them. These deadbeats are being conflated with the men that actually put their proper respect and effort into the family and are not just there to receive. I grew up with a father that was the prior kind. The one that believes the family is just his property. He mistreated us, hospitalized us, and spent three times more money than he ever earned in his life, and if you do that math, was only possible because he was dipping into OUR earnings. He openly called us liberal thieves when we didn't do what he wanted, and threatened us with violence if we didn't keep all of it behind closed doors. Out in public, he wore a mask of the "good Christian republican conservative man" because he believed that would earn him some kind of, to say, "stolen valor." Even going as far as to fake patriotism and service to people who didn't know he dodged the draft. THESE are the kind of men that feminist should be talking about, and not blaming the entire gender.
I had a similar upbringing. I'm sorry that you also had a father like that. The men who want replacement mommies who they can procreate with (I know that's really gross, but it needs to be called out for what it is) don't get talked about nearly enough. They are 100% hateful, violent, do everything they can to control the money, spend more than the household makes, and don't care about their children at all. The wives and children are property and tools of manipulation. Men that like need to be called out. All of this mass generalizing is letting genuinely dangerous people slip under the radar.
What you say is absolutely true, and I am sorry you had to experience that. But most men are not like that (as you allude to in your closing comment). And most women are not heartless gold-diggers. Hard-lefties and hard-core feminists want to divide us. They want to destroy "family." Try not to let them do it.
In truth, what you are speaking of is someone evil, someone who can mistreat his own family for selfish purposes. A traditional family can be tied to this because often women felt stuck, not being able to earn a living outside of the home on which they could support themselves and their children. This doesn’t mean traditional roles always lead to this, just that both men and women have to be very careful in who they select as a partner.
Those that complain about 'waking at 4' are being disingenuous. It's super easy to cook big batches and then serve or repurpose the leftovers along the week.
With an Instant Pot, I can cook an entire pot roast meal, in one pot, in about two hours start to finish, most of which is waiting. I hate doing laundry because of all the side stuff, hunting down socks and clothes, folding, so my husband tosses his clothes in the baskets pre sorted and treated and I make sure his clothing is separated and ready to fold when done, which he takes care of. Being traditional just means taking on those traditional roles of caring for your family, whatever that looks like, but does not tell you how you have to go about them. Anyone blaming the “lifestyle” for something they resent sounds like someone who didn’t have clear boundaries.
We have to remember why this is "traditional" in the first place. To begin with, things weren't always this way. Before the industrial revolution, both husband and wife had to work for their bread. There was just no way around it. Now, labour was divided even then. Typically Men worked in the field were the work was backbreaking, where Women would do less physically demanding tasks, but no less tedious or important, like spinning and weaving. With the beginning of the industrial revolution, both men and women still had to work in many cases. Both had to work unhuman hours in unsafe conditions. But suppose you were a woman that had it better than average. Suppose your husband could work and earn enough to support his family and spare you from the drudgery and hazard of factory work, particularly seeing as women and children were paid less for their time. This, of course, gave you the opportunity to focus on your children, making your house a comfortable home. Some women took it further, realizing that they had reason to be thankful for their husbands, but also realizing the practical side as well. In essence, part of the tradition was to give back to the husband. Part also stemmed from the realization that the work the husband was doing was very demoralizing, and if you could cheer him up, show appreciation, and also make sure that everything at home was taken care of, and that he could trust you to take care of it, so that he did not also have to take care of the household as well as work long hours, he would work with a greater will, more efficiently and more effectively and this in turn would set him up to be more valuable to his employer. This could lead to advancement, or could mean the difference of being laid off or retaining work. The "traditional" roles were the best way for survival. And not everyone could afford to live that way, but it was seen by all as the optimal way, it was the quality of life that was aspired to. It was the desired quality of life.
Lol , No they weren't!! They were mostly maybe all of em were in favor on men nd women were denied of basic human rights! Maybe that "work" for you but not majority cause men women , nd ppl from sexuality are equal no one entitle to make other life decisions
Why? Why pit women against one another? Surely there are trad wives who are happy for nontrads who are happy and nontrad who are happy for trad. Omg this is all so stupid. I mean to say surely different women can be happy for eachother and not get "jealous".
I love being a stay at home mom/wife. Grew up never wanting to be married or have kids. Then i met my husband and within two months we got married. Two years later we had our first child and i quit my job as a bookseller that i had for nearly a decade because i didn't want anyone else raising my children. Learned a lot about processed food and how unhealthy it is, so i started cooking from scratch. Realized i need a clean home for my mental health (dirty/cluttered house makes my brain feel cluttered) and have higher standards in that area than my husband, so he plays with the kids while i clean when i want to do more than a basic sweep. Point being that this lifestyle just came organically because it aligned with our priorities best 🤷 turns out it makes me happier than i ever was before.
I think that’s the biggest takeaway. Your relationship parameters should be exactly that, yours, and trying to fit into a mold that is inauthentic to you is the greatest indicator of a failure ahead. My parents were traditional but they would flip flop as needed. My dad loved kids and he would gladly take us with him whenever possible so mom had time to do whatever she wanted. I spent whole weekends with him and my brother where we were only home for meals. My mom would do all the yard work, except mowing since equipment wasn’t her thing, and never did we hear wait until your father gets home. My husband and I lived aboard for over a decade. Many of the guys (most boat owners are men)were surprised that I did our fiberglass repairs and hull paint, as well as any mechanical repairs that needed doing while my husband was at work. Sometimes we would have to help neighbors in a storm or just weather Mother Nature, and they were always surprised. Once, I climbed our mast to repair the anemometer, with him on belay. I always replied that I wasn’t going to wait for him to get home to fix our air conditioning or power situation, and if I expected neighbors to be willing to help out, then I’d better do the same.
I think there is a problem, but not with all traditional wives. There are some women who tell their audience that they are raising their daughters with the idea that they MUST be a traditional wife in the future. They raise their daughters and tell them that they must rely on their future husband for everything and give him the upper hand in their lives. I see this as a problem, and a very serious one at that. I don't see a problem with this kind of life, we are all different, but to impose your worldview on your children - I am against it.
There are some people (both men and women) who insist on telling others how to live. Don't just accept what they say (or join them in trying to impose your will on others). Look around you. Look at history. Look at morality. Decide FOR YOURSELF what will best make you happy, then pursue that. Not easy, but most likely to be rewarding.
Same as a feminist who insists her daughter doesn’t need anyone. I was very thankful for both my dad and mom. My mom was traditional but unconventional and had held many jobs, some professional before she met and married my dad. My dad was the breadwinner but wanted to make sure that I had the skills I needed to be independent and take care of myself in case, like his mother, my husband had issues (grandad had serious PTSD, WWII, Battle of the Bulge). Neither told me how to choose for myself and both demonstrated everyday how a real relationship, even one with mostly traditional roles is about being partners and clearly communicating your expectations.
While I'm not a feminist nor a trad wife I can certainly say balance is very important in all relationships. I've been lucky enough to have a husband that does a lot of things, besides working his 9 to 5. He does the majority of the cooking (yes, I am that lucky), he is handy, he does his own laundry. I do most of the housework (cleaning, organizing, decluttering, etc) I also have my own small business for about two years now so I make my own money. So it is possible to live happy and not be in the extremes of anything. Men and women complement each other, we bring different things to the table and that's a good thing. If someone wants to be a trad wife fine, a girl boss fine, a mix of both great. Do what works for you but stop hating on people living their lives differently
Preach! A relationship is a partnership and it is up to each of us to figure out what the expectations will be. We need to stop obsessing over the labels and just figure out how to move forward with our lives. My dad never limited be, even though old school and actively taught me to be independent because his dad had his own issues (WWII PTSD) and he wanted me to be free if needed. I chose a guy who appreciates my strengths where they lie, not where some TikTok thinks they need to be. My husband is a terrible cook but the primary breadwinner and is happy to clean the bathrooms and do dishes and keep track of maintenance. I do the laundry, just because we can separate loads out more often (we used to live aboard and do not have a whole lot of clothes on rotation), but he presorts and treats his clothes and folds his after. I do most of the housework, grocery, etc. and keep up with our senior animals, meds, vet, etc. He is an early riser and I am a night owl so I will take care of any issue pre 3 am and he takes care of it after that but before he goes to work. It is an agreement that has shifted over time as our circumstances have changed.
The problem is that these women are not tradwives. They are TikTokers who are getting paid for their videos. Plus, they always show the 'good' side of being a tradwife. Notice how they never show the stress of cleaning a house and handling young children? And from what I've seen, hardly any of these women actually have children. There is nothing wrong with being a housewife. My Mother was one, and I am grateful to her to this day. However, as a child, I got to see the struggles and sacrifices that she and every housewife had to go through in order to care for the family. Being a housewife is a role that should be respected. And if a woman chooses not to do it, so be it. They deserve respect too. But honestly, these clout loving frauds could never be as wonderful or as genuine as a real housewife.
I feel bad for the traditional wives. Not bc of what they do but bc I was in the same situation in the 80s, reversed. I knew I wasn't going to get married or have kids for a variety of reasons. It was next to impossible to get an excellent job in the '70s and 80s.ecery. Women had to follow the same path, regardless if it made them miserable. Get married, have kids, and stick it out for 40 years. Society demands a certain number of women be unhappy. It is like fashion; if it's style, it's all they make, regardless of body shape or independent style. Leave these traditional women alone; why do you care? It is about choice, and they're happy.
I love sourdough bread, I make it every weekend. I make all my own bread, love the all natural, no additives, no preservatives and sourdough's the only way to go. It's not natural for bread to not stale after a week...might wanna look at those ingredients... but to each their own
I never got the hang of making bread, let alone try making sourdough. I do sometimes buy sourdough ryebread, tastes awesome with my favourite cheddar cheese
I used to be a stay at home mom and I actually enjoyed it. I didn’t make everything from scratch but I cooked, cleaned and enjoyed spending time with my baby girl. Now I work part time so I still do all that but I still get to get out of the house. Plus I am single now so I have to work. Either way I was happy then. I didn’t mind it at all.
Being a tradwife is desirable but not all women have a happy ending. There are many that after finishing high school or not finishing college immediately got married and have kids and got trapped in an unhappy or abussive relationship that hardly can't escape, because their whole life depends solely on how that man values her (which usually is only for looks). Then after they get their divorce, their often left with no house, no income, and many kids needs to be fed. However, I know some women who's a tradwife and living happily with a generous husband and a big family so I think being a tradwife is a privilege.
2:58 I understand that abusive relationships exist (my parents used to be abusive, for example) but why oh why doesn’t anybody just talk in a relationship if they feel unfulfilled? I don’t understand it…
She did try. This particular relationship was very toxic. He would tell her she was lazy. She was burnt out, depressed but all her husband seemed to care about was their sex life. She went to a doctor bc she thought her hormones were off bc she wasn't in the mood but after listening to her, the doctor gave her a prescription for an antidepressant & suggested therapy. Husband was irritated that she didn't get a pill for her sex drive. Eventually, she left the relationship & then later wrote an article on how this trad wife trend can be taken to the extreme & become abusive. The backlash she received should answer the question as to why she took it for so long. She was called selfish. That she was the reason why people devalue marriage. People insinuated that she was crazy because she was "on pills that make women kill their children" Candace Owens did a piece on this trad wife trend & absolutely eviscerated her. She didn't say anything for the same reason other abuse victims do not. Shame, lack of a feeling of self-worth, societal stigma, judgement etc. This woman wasn't a trad wife. She was an abuse victim. W
You can still work and be traditional. I think there’s a misconception on what “traditional” means. Traditional means you accept the difference in gender, you accept that women need men, and men need women, and you don’t hate the idea of serving your husband while he serves you. The dirty secret is even before feminism, women worked. We’ve always worked. It’s not something new that the feminists discovered women could do in the 1960s…we’ve always done it, and it was never really a problem… traditional doesn’t mean stay at home…and it never has.
@@nicoleterry5105Exactly. The problem is the tradwives do not know that nor try to understand. Why? Because they aren’t traditional. They are right winged conservatives, but they don’t want to come out and say that because it will be “too politcal” The structures they try to implement are simple hallows of what was the American dream. White picket fence, wifey who cooks and cleans, adorable kids and a provider husband. But this structure only existed for the ones who had the privilege to achieve it.
I (personally, and the irony is not lost on me) don’t like “trad wives” because there is a lot of shame from that community toward women who are tomboys past the age of 8. Small, Southern, USA town has its community who are trad wives, and I’ve run smack into “you’ll never find a man if you’re not a proper lady” which is where the irony is: I have a guy; and we go back 30 years in our home life (minus me wishing to work/write) to “1920’s man respecting his bearcat of a woman.” (Flappers wore men’s clothes, did “men things” and weren’t just playing out _The Great Gatsby_ but pop culture being what it is… no one seems to know that.) What I don’t like about trad wives is two fold: A) there is a judgment from them about other women that they assume a lot, and if you have an opinion that contradicts your bf/husband’s you’re “bad at being a woman” (remember these aren’t online interactions, this is irl), and B) to be a trad wife is to find a man making 6-7 figures-single income household in the modern day, and the number of men who fit that bill is small, and it’s _men_ I dislike over the women because the men feel like because they have the money, the degrees, and the job, they get to demand whatever they want from their gf/wife and she must submit. I am not a submissive person by nature, nor am I someone who enjoys being told I know nothing about something I actually know a lot in. If they were just couples that were SAHM I would 100% respect that, it’s what I plan to do. But it’s not. It’s a lifestyle that both parties have used to say they’re better than others because of their lifestyle. Plus it helps 0% that my grandmother who basically abused my grandpa views herself as a traditional woman who lived/had kids in 50s and my grandpa, who loved her to death, deserved to be under her heel-which honestly is a more “this one particular woman is evil” problem. I’ve seen couples on YT on ranches and such who embody traditional gender roles, and the key to them not being annoying as all get out is A) the man respects his wife and recognizes that “women’s work” is work, and B) they aren’t shaming other couples. But that’s just my opinion.
I think you’ve hit the nail when you consider what really rubs people the wrong way on either side, and it is people who tell you to behave in a way which is unlike or inauthentic to yourself. I am not an early riser. Never will be one unless forced like when I was teaching. My husband has learned to appreciate this because it also means I can stay up later and deal with issues that arise that might require him to get out of bed. I am also not a shrinking violet. I speak my mind plainly and directly and rarely say anything I don’t mean (can be a problem around the in law😂). I am strong, capable and independent (not in the girlboss sense but in the I can change my own oil way). I’ve found that most men appreciate a woman who can enjoy a silly fart joke as much as get cleaned up and socialize appropriately with their colleagues, meaning a human being, not some icon on a pedestal.
I have 3 college degrees and ditched a promising carrer and now I´m a tradwife, in my twenties married with children. I get up at 7, do my makeup and care for the baby, then make my husband a coffee and wake him at about 9. Then I do some cleaning (whatever needs to be done) while baby "helps" or is strapped to my chest. Then we go outside, walk the dog and return home for naps and snuggles. After the nap it´s cooking time, we start preparing dinner for my husband and I - then a second walk with dog and baby. After baby is put to bed, I clean the kitchen and put away the clutter for the day. It´s a lot of work, but I have never been happier. However I have been called a "pick me", a "N4zi", a "dumb b-word" (online and in person) and many more slurs just for existing like this.
You've made the right choice, ignore the women who are calling you a pick me and referring to you as the b slur. Just a bunch of jealous bitter single moms and women who aren't any better than self-projecting racist African americans. They had their chance to change their life around for the better and find a good man and they blew it.
You've made the right choice, ignore the women who are calling you a pick me and referring to you as the b slur. Just a bunch of jealous bitter single moms and women that's all self-projecting hatred at the end of the day. They had their chance to change their life around for the better aswell as finding a good man and they blew it.
I don't even Know you and I Love you. I'll never understand Today's feminism. In my and my moms day it was just for the right to be Treated like a person and probably my grandma's day too. True Feminism is only about equal rights period not about Not needing men. UGH
I will say one thing... It's not smart financially to be solely reliant on your husband. Be sure you have a pre nup in most cases is you choose to be financially reliant on your husband.
I refuse to feel badly for someone who made a choice and now rather than accepting that she failed to be authentic to herself to fit a trend, is denigrating it. You can be a tradwife and not get up at 4am or just go back to bed. I am NOT a morning person at all. In the early states of our relationship, I would go with my husband to drop him off at his phlebotomy clinical at like 3 am and then go pick him up. I would come back, sleep, and then do whatever until he came home. He can’t stay up past 10 and I can’t go to bed until midnight. Anything that goes crazy pre about 2am, I am primary, anything after, he is primary. Our niece was visiting and stayed with us for 3 days. He got up early with her and I took care of the night shift. We communicated of something needed to be addressed and worked together to meet everything that needed to be done. We have moved a lot for my husband to be promoted and as a result, I’m basically a stay at home for the moment but we try to play to our individual strengths.
My mom was able to balance her career and her own business with raising children and she also cooks everything from scratch (why the sourdough hate? its so good especially when homemade 😭) My dad did stay home (he was at one point the breadwinner, but then my mom's business took off and she earned a lot more than him so he didn't need to work) to homeschool us, and he was a very good example of how to step in an take care of the family in whatever way you need to. Different families have different dynamics that work for them, for these women they enjoy the more traditional way of housemaking (they've made it an art honestly) and I applaud these mothers for working hard to raise their kids. That being said, men, I suggest you do learn some basic cooking skills and basic cleaning skills, as the ladies really like it when you can make their tasks easier, especially at the end of a long day. We have woman like that onlyfans girl raising our children, and we wonder why depression and suicide rates are through the roof. These modern feminists are the reason we have toxic redpill alpha bros like Andrew Tate. Because we took away balance and took away traditional values that said that men and women are needed equally for a society to run properly, now we have this mess.
The problem with social media trad wives is that they indirectly tell women to be more traditional but aren’t really dependent on their husbands themselves, since they have an income as influencers. So in case their husband drops them, they will be financially secure unlike for all the non influencer trad wives.
Go trad wives, live your best life- only thing I would suggest for them is that they have secret savings or some back up plan in case you tradwife for a man from 20-40 yrs old, and then he decides to leave you for his 24 year old secretary. In case something like that happens, you don't want to be screwed so just have a plan B.
Back-Up Plan already sorted LOL. She gets the house, the Kids, half the familial assets & Alimony if she divorces. i think that takes care of Insurance LOL.
@@KevinWarburton-tv2iy bahahahaha oh my sweet summer child..... Do you have ANYYYYY idea how many of these men refuse to pay alimony or child support? And in most situations alimony and child support is only set up to cover half so the mother still has to come up with the other half. The man already promised to stay for life and broke that promise, why would he hold up the promise to give them money? Literally the whole point of divorce is you can't trust them they broke the promises and don't like you. Why would you want to be dependent for life on someone who actively hates you and doesn't want to support you and probably won't? Much easier to plan ahead and not get screwed. Just googled, in 2019 in the USA there was 10 BA-BA-BILLION in uncollected child support, NOT COUNTING ALIMONY.
@@KevinWarburton-tv2iy U.S. Census report estimates that just 43.5 percent of custodial parents get the full amount of support they're entitled to. And more than 30 percent don't receive anything at all.
So what? Why should we cry for Females who chose to be Baby Mamas to Deadbeats. They still have insurance in that that can suck on Gov teat for Housing & Benefits LOL. Most of those deadbeat non-custodial non child-support fathers were not married to the woman 7 not paying coz unemployed or in Prison LOL. Formerly married men have much higher rate of Compliance with Alimony/Child Support.
"The man already promised to stay for life"? Over 70% of Divorces are originated by women, some Stats say as high as 80% of Divorce initiated by the woman. "Refuse to pay Alimony or Child Support"? Many men who do not pay do not do so coz they refuse but because they can't. Many who do not pay are unemployed, low wage or in Prison. Some men are happy to pay Child Support but refuse to pay Alimony. Plenty of Divorces are amicable LOL. Most of that uncollected Child support comes from being levied too high or on men with no wherewithal to pay ...unemployed, low wage or in Prison. Much of the Child Support levied but unpaid was not levied against Ex-Husbands but against women's Baby Daddies ...boyfriends, one-night stands, flings etc Instead of unbridled hostility to Men, maybe you should encourage women to keep their legs closed or use more than one form of contraceptive if having sex outside marriage & to be more discerning in the partners they choose. You sweet summer child, how many of those men were baby-jacked by women? How many of those men did not want the Child but of course were powerless to have any say either way to have or not to have. Quite a few. Woman gets a choice to have or not but the male has no such choice if contraception fails or he gets babyjacked. If a male did not want the female to have the baby then why should he have any obligation to support it? Equality right? If she has no Societal Obligation to have the child ...then why should he have Societal Obligation to pay for it? Women need to take responsibility for their actions too :)
I just discovered you today and I love you...! I realized we have almost similar aspects in how we view things. Literally binge watching your videos. Keep it up. It's crazy to say we don't need men, how are we going to procreate?
My biggest issue with "trad wives" isn't the actual lifestyle but the fact that they feel the need to post their lives day in day out online. They shill products and their own Only fans. That's their choice, but that's not traditional. A real traditional wife wouldn't have the time or inclination to film everything of their private lives and post it online.
Trad wife here... I love my life. If I didn't, I wouldn't do it anymore. The articles now divorced single mom obviously didn't speak up about her wants and needs. But that's the difference between me and her.... when I'm overwhelmed I ask my husband for help. The fact that she divorced her husband says something about the marriage. Whether she began to resent him or she/ he fell out of love, they did something wrong. Also I wouldn't put it passed someone to blame the trad wife lifestyle for other issues to save face.
I honestly don't know why they call it sourdough. The sourdough my Mammaw makes is sweet. Especially with butter! Maybe Mammaw just uses a sweeter recipe. 🤷♀️
I like cleaning. Sometimes I'm upset or stressed and I start cleaning. It helps me. You get into a flow state and being busy doing something useful helps you feel better. Plus seeing it clean in the end is so satisfying.
Personally I am not about that life. I love cooking, and I clean because its a necessity. But its something I do to survive and I believe everyone (man or woman) should know basic life skills. I have seen the women of my family slaving away in the kitchen, even when sick because the men were too lazy to cook for themselves; extremism is what I fear. Not everything is black and white.
@@tsrocks2029 its not just cooking. It is cleaning, organising everyone's clothing, minor gardening, grocery shopping, laundry , dishes, toilet cleaning (for each bathroom in the house), tutoring the children. Also try making 4 elaborate Indian meals everyday and you'll see the extremes. Edit: Try doing all of this in 40°C heat(bet you gon' convert it to F°)
I agree. Everyone should know the basic skills. My brother once brought home his dirty laundry from his college home to my mom's home. I asked him if he didn't have a washing machine there. He said yes. And I said well? Turns out he doesn't know how to wash clothes using a washing machine... And I was like. Laundry detergent, this much, this kind. Goes in here. Select standard program, and done. It's one minute and maybe pressing two buttons, and even my younger sister knew this. So it really baffles me that my brother didn't know how to use a washing machine by the age of almost 20. Everyone should know basic household skills like this. So glad that my current partner does.
All these people are cringe. All these “influencers” are putting on a performance for other people, for likes on the internet. If they truly believed in their choice of lifestyle, they would do it quietly for the people that really matter, their families. Also, TikTok is cancer.
I do agree. I think its nice theyre showing what they do but they dont /HAVE/ to film it lol, im sure not every day is like this anyways, many days are probablt difficult and she has a simple breakast or dinner etc.
The part that is missing here is the actual JOY of cooking. The instinct to pathologize everything as some sort of oppressive chore is really sad. Simple tasks like cooking and gardening are the peace and joy of life.....most people spend a lifetime looking for things that are that necessary and beautiful.
Me and my wife just started implementing more traditional roles and it just works. She cooks and cleans and takes care of our son and when I get home from work I take over for a few hours to give her a break and for her to get into her hobbies and then we usually end the night as a family watching a movie or playing a game.
Traditional roles are amazing. Everyone observes them differently. My husband puts my kids to bed every night. I’ve taken it upon myself to ensure all other duties are done, cooking and cleaning so he can do the daddy things. So while I’m the main caretaker it’s important that I make sure I’m giving my husband opportunities to be daddy. He works all day, missing our kids, and I spent all day with them. So I can’t 100% say I’m the caretaker of our children at all times, but I see me allowing my husband and our children to have time together as a part of my job. So while he does the night time routine with them I’m cooking dinner, cleaning the kitchen, and he’s making memories with our kids, reading books taking baths, and being tucked in. ❤
I am a straight women whose been in a long term relationship with a man for over 10 years. I have always worked and so has he. We have always shared most of our domestic duties. With some give and take on days when I'm worn out or days when he's worn out we share the responsibilities of everyday life because we BOTH LIVE HERE. We are also both construction workers, and in no way am I any less feminine because I work a "man's job". Nor is he any less masculine because he does chores. Such a concept of shared responsibilities is nothing new, but it sure does work well for us.
Exactly. I don't get why people always assume stuff like that doesn't work or is harmful to either partner. If it is what fits your lifestyle and your needs and you talk about what you want out of it, go for it. Works for me and my partner, too.
I mean one thing that is an accurate critique of the trad wife is that it comes off as a costume, a persona that’s being put on. The ‘female conservative’. The people that are genuinely a ‘trad wife’ and have a TH-cam channel just have a regular baking or fashion channel. However, it’s not like leftist women don’t do this. They promote life styles and personas to people with no regard to the possible repercussions of that but it’s somehow only a problem when someone takes on the persona of a traditional woman and promotes that as something good.
So refreshing to see a down to earth and intelligent point of view. Nice one. You were right on the money when you said that both sides need to know at least a little about how their partner does their thing in case something happens. I mean this in absolutely no way condescendingly...but smart girl.
I respect you for watching all these tik tok videos and keeping your sanity. It's good to have a balanced and well adjusted person like yourself to offer sensible commentary.
I agree with 99% of what you said, but there are absolutely ZERO men out here saying "we don't need no heymn". We're saying we don't want 304s, we don't want masculine hwymn, we don't want cheaters and abusers, we know we need them and we love them. We aren't going overseas for hookups, we're going for WIVES. If we didn't want or need hwymn, we wouldn't be continuing our search for a life mate. Love the channel, love the work you're doing. Keep it up 🤘🏻🤘🏻
@@C.Church Of course I'm mail, never claimed anything else lmao. I said I don't know you or what you are, so to assert my comments are based on your race or gender is laughably ridiculous. All I'm seeing is 🤡 behavior from the standard leftist 🐨🧠. Edit: absolutely not agreeing the farm girl is manly. I love tomboys. The modern idea of masculine hwymn is the loud and aggressive 🤡 who use man language when addressing us. Being a farm girl is in no way masculine, puffing up like you can fight me is lmao 🐨🧠
Why do they care? I'll never forget the looks and comments I got when our eight children were young. Women were so rude and men were impressed and kind.
7:05 , this is where the church would normally step in. It has historically been 100% the church’s responsibility to come together and provide for widows and single mother’s.
Exactly. As a community we take care of each other. I may need to depend on my community if the worst would happen but that’s ok because I am contributing to that community. This is something I wish the “trad wives” would talk about. They may not have a job but they often have a community to fall back on if needed.
This is semi-incorrect. Social safety nets like welfare exsist because traditionally widowed or unwed single mothers traditionally suffered socially and economically. Yes the church helped but not to a degree that was “human rights” acceptable.
We're not upset by Tiktok tradwives, we're upset with those tradwives belittling us for not wanting to be like them and calling them out for their romanticization of a very risky, and dangerous game: being fully dependent on a man. So no, we're not "triggered", we're sympathetic to those who were negatively affected by this lifestyle.
Sounds like you’re triggered, it’s not very risky or dangerous to have a man help you. Being single and relying on yourself comes with a similar set of risks. It’s also silly to push the assumption that these women can’t provide for themselves if necessary. Kinda anti woman of you
@@tsrocks2029Who says not wanting to be a tradwife automatically means you won't let your man help you? Making women look anti men is also kind anti women, ngl
I feel like being a trad wife is just as empowering as being a girl boss- I mean for a trad wife the house is the woman's domain. that's her area. she runs that house. And I also get not wanting to be a trad wife I get both sides
if you're traditional, get a traditional partner. If you're modern, get a modern partner. If you look for someone perfect, be perfect as well. Be what you expect to get.
The issue is not "a single 30-sec video" but a trend that is indeed demanding women to submit to their spouse AND spreading misinformation about this life. Just read some men's comments about this trend, yes it is about reaffirming their control over "a good wife". On the other hand, everyone is free to choose her/his path in life. Did anyone notice that this trend is actually promoting a religion I don't want to name here?
I've been debating this with feminists for a month or so now. To me, it's very telling that the single most common criticism I get from them isn't "Being a tradwife is worse for x, y, and z reason"; it's actually "it's unrealistic/impossible". Not only is this false but it's kind of sad that so many have just given up on that dream entirely.
As long as the wife and her partner are respected and happy in their marriage, that is all that should matter, regardless whether they're "trad" or not. Real feminists would respect the woman's choice to have a traditional lifestyle instead of putting her down
I don't have a problem with women staying home and being good moms. I deeply admire my own mother, my mother in law, and other women in my life who have chosen to stay home. What I do have an issue with is this fake-looking cosplay version of being a SAHM where women in literal ball gowns take three hours making weird homemade cocoa puffs....or Christian women who failed at being actresses or models wear enticing breasty dresses and make love to the camera with their eyes.....or women who have no kids spend most of their content talking about personal appearance and how to be a divine feminine goddess and ask why other women aren't making more of an effort......basically I have a problem with this modern era of showing your idealized life online as an influencer and then being like "what? Women have been traditional like me for ages, I guess you're just jealous." No, hon. I take umbrage with the fact that women have not been like **that** for ages at all. Women have historically worked hard in practical garments without doing it all on camera and without worrying what other homemakers were doing. It's kind of a "for show" thing now.
it’s obviously for clout, no one wears dresses showing cleavage everyday whilst basically being the textbook definition of a slave for her husband. imo it’s a religious fetish
I made my boyfriend cookies for his birthday and my mom was pissed with me for "acting like a housewife" 💀
Thays wild
Sorry for you having a feminism mother.
How dare you make cookies for a special occasion!
@@Re69. 😂
Is it because you're a gay man? :P
I sure hope that poor child never sees that clip of his mother and hears what she says and thinks about her child.
I’m sure she said it to his face and has done over and over
The abused man he’s going to become internally as an adult knowing he’s hated for existing is so sad
And she has no idea she’s going to turn him into potentially a self hating being who may choose to “switch genders” just to make his mum finally love him
Or he’ll walk from her completely as he’s learned to finally hate her and cut her out of his life
he needs to move in with his dad. also 'working' while he's in the house.......
Can you imagine filming that and deciding to post it?? He threw up 3 times and she’s so callous about it. I feel for the little guy, he’s going to end up hating women
@@mishasuki i HAD to hold him and you know male. wow. just wow
Children always know
There's this saying that a housewife often has to act as a lawyer, a police agent, a fashionista, etc. Being a caretaker is a lot harder than people realize, and any good husband knows how much effort their wives bring. Strength comes in many forms, after all.
theres nothing weak about being a housewife and taking care of your family house and kids. its harder than people think. i hope im able to work from home in the future because i'd love to stay home with my kids and take care of my house while still making an income
Exactly, being a homemaker, if you actually do everything usually associated with it, is itself a full time job in terms of work. And because of the responsibilities involved, I can't imagine wanting to take on even more by adding to it some or all of a man's responsibilities in that setup. It's like, so you want to take care of the kids and do the breadwinning? Why?! Are you a glutton for pain and stress? 😅
Isn't it tragically ironic that it was feminists that said that feminity was a weakness?
@@dece870717 Money is freedom and power over your own life. Taking on responsibility is the role of the adult. Have your own money and a PLAN, not just wishful thinking " nothing will happen to him, he'll never leave me".
It's a full time job in terms of work, but not in terms of money and respect. If you ever have to go back into the work force, it will be at a much lower salary because you caved to societal pressure and "chose" to stay home.
Dear women, stop having your entire life's trajectory influenced by social media
Exactly 💯
The funny thing about this is that only one side is doing it. The others are simply mothers showing off their cooking, not saying "everyone should do this or you're _"... since when was women having the skill to cook a bad thing that made all of the woke women so insecure in themselves?
Exactly focus on country and family
Social media is a plague on society, it has no benefits and a lot of downfalls
I hope you're saying that to the tradwives
Traditional wives had side gigs long before feminism came to be.
Not all of them, but lots did so out of necessity or just because they were bored and Tupperware parties sounded fun.
They also recognized that these weren't their primary responsibility and put her family first, just like men typically do chores that are gross or physically strenuous for their wives but prioritize breadwinning and protection; none of this was anywhere near as restrictive as feminazis would have you believe. My grandma was a school superintendent in the 50s, and spent a lot of the 60s in Peru helping their government set up their school system, while my other, even older grandma was a college professor just like both Grandpas
One of my grandmothers was a homemaker and did ironing on the side in the 50s and 60s. My other grandmother was a nurse in the pediatric wing in a hospital after her kids were school age. They both loved their lives.
I wish we could go back just a couple of decades when women were allowed to make choices without other women coming for them.
Many were underpaid for their positions, it's important to note that
@@TheBaumcmWarning you not to be a FOOL isn't " coming for you"! Stay out of the trad wife to poverty pipeline! Keep and learn to manage your own money! You WILL age and can be replaced with a newer model. Or Mr. Sole breadwinner can die or become disabled. Imagine having to enter the workforce in your 40s with no job experience whatsoever and 2 or 3 kids to support!
And if that happens, you'll be judged as the silly, used up woman who " should have chosen better"!
@@TheBaumcm You're trying to go back to an era that NEVER existed. Women were always judged for being a 304 vs not being able to get a man, being lazy vs working too hard and "not prioritizing family", etc.
There is always someone who looks into other people's lives and say
*No, you can't do that*
*No, you doing it wrong*
*No you are having fun, NO FUN ALLOWED* 😞😔
real
The point is, this "fun" content is ridiculously FAKE! Do you think people are actually out there baking every little cereal nugget after rolling it into a ball every morning? After doing their hair and makeup? And nothing gets on their gown even though they have no apron?😂
This is highly produced and edited content, making these hypocrites ( who probably have "help" with the actual child care and cleaning) actually WORK FROM HOME moms!
Feminists: "Women should be able to choose and do what they want!"
Women: Chooses to be traditional
Feminists: "hol up that's illegal"
“oh, no, a woman homemaker! how scarryyy😖😿”
Growing up during the ERA time, we were constantly bombarded by, "you can be whatever you want to be." Yet, when asked what I wanted to be, I would reply, "A mom!" only to be met with laughter. "No, really... what do you want to be when you grow up?" Thirty six years of homemaking later, I wouldn't change a thing!
@@bonniewills2814 I never wanted to be a mom growing up (racecar driver, Torero, Artist, Scientist were all high up on the list^^), I was raised to be as untraditional as possible, but as soon as I turned 20ish a switch just flipped and I looked for a godly man to commit to and raise as many children to become good people as we possibly could.
There are many types of feminists.
@@bonniewills2814You came up when boys still learned they had to provide for that life choice. Today, they want a trad wife but treat them like they're gold diggers, insisting she go Dutch in the household while still doing all the homemaking. Make it make sense.
"I hate sourdough bread" -they really get you, you lost your slavic license
I’m a read wife. I do not get up at 4am and make bread 😂 Of course I cook for my family. It doesn’t require that level of extreme…
I’m not trying to troll but straight up all bakers wake up at this hour. 😂❤
That level of extreme is just for show.
@@thegangsterhippie That's why we can buy their bread instead of making it at home. ;-)
If a husband in the house is a provider for the family and he has some special work which starts at 5AM, then his wife could do it, she could arrange her timetable in such a way so that a husband would go to work well-fed because she would wake up at 4AM and prepare a good meal for him and then would go back to sleep.
Thank you 🙏
I think the problem is they're portraying an unrealistic traditional wife. I was a stay at home mom for some years after our kids were born and it was much more than just waking up all dolled up to make sourdough bread and, living in a culture were they want to push this traditional narrative on to women, I have to concur is very damaging. Can't count the amount of women who were left by their husbands for younger women after they sacrificed their life to take care of the family.
I am married to a man who didn't lift a finger while I was a stay at home mom, and now that I have two jobs he gets upset that I come home from work to rest because he still thinks housework is _my_ job and not *our* job
0:40 - sourdough bread is not sour, it's delicious
And it’s so healthy for you, as far as breads go
One of my better sourdough bread recipes is a three day process, and I can only presume Misha's experience was with recipes using the wrong grains or the ratios were off.
@@leegaul2161 I agree. It could also depend on the starter used too. Some of them do get pretty sour. Also, one sourdough baker to the other, if possible, I would love that recipe!
Sourdough bread is S-Tier, and the best for grilled cheese
dairy gives you manboobs@@arilizart9375
As a "trad wife" of 28 years (though I prefer the term "homemaker" and, when I'm feeling cheeky, "domestic goddess"), I can tell you that these videos of women are unrealistic for the majority of us. While we do work hard providing a haven for our families, most of us don't get up at 4am to make cereal from scratch for toddlers. They don't appreciate it - trust me.
I really like "domestic goddess." Good one. With regard to the closing comment "They don't appreciate it - trust me." I bet they do. They almost certainly do NOT understand the effort that went into it (how could they as toddlers). But I would bet they will remember seeing you, hearing you, smelling the foods you make, experiencing you doing TONS of things to make them happy. You will always be a domestic goddess to them, even if they don't realize how much effort it took to hand-make cereal (which I agree is a bit much, but if she enjoys doing that, fine).
@@dbf1dwarethey will not appreciate it as toddlers, as they lack the maturity to recognize how it impacts you to understand the work involved. If they get to help, they might appreciate the time together.
This is the problem with any trope or stereotype. Reality often does not meet expectations if people aren’t realistic or authentic about who they are. I am not an early riser, not a neat freak and not a “conventional” trad wife. However, I am a stay at home, I am happy to stay up later to take care of issues that arise so my husband can get a decent night’s sleep before going to work, and I can handle most tools from the correct end. I can also cook a mean pot roast, love to bake, and really enjoy providing a yummy, nourishing meal. My husband is happy to get up earlier, clean as needed, and recognizes when I am getting stir crazy. He’s also happy to clean up the dishes and make the things I hate doing that fall to me (laundry, 😩) easier.
@@TheBaumcm You should never have too high expectations but it ain't unrealistic either.
You can just say house wife…
Poor kid that has that crappy mom. If I saw that I would almost be suicidal. My mom was my rock.
What?
Being a tradwife does often mean doing practically all of the cooking and cleaning, but it does not mean getting up at 4 am to make food from scratch everyday. Just like the satire video you showed, these people seem to have a very warped idea of what it really entails, and so they either assume or even live by a ridiculous stereotype. Their loss. Most of us who live a traditional life know that it can be extremely fulfilling for both men and women alike.
They're making fun of the trad wife influencers, who until a couple years ago were on only fans, and now spend their time telling women to submit on the internet. They're not talking about all stay at home moms. It's making fun of a very specific grift
@@uhhhhh4748 "They're making fun of the trad wife influencers, who until a couple years ago were on only fans,"
I can only think of one of them that applies to. No, they're trying to make fun of tradwives who go public with their lifestyle in general.
"They're not talking about all stay at home moms."
That part is true. They're only mocking those stay-at-home moms and wives who put in more effort to make sure they're *good* ones.
@@Vic2point0no they aren't!! They're against those trad wife who's teaching their daughter to be like them nd how fucked up is that !? Instead of letting her enjoy her life you started teaching about gender norms wtf
@@uhhhhh4748 I’m sorry, which SAHM’s are you talking about that used to do OF? Because that’s definitely not the majority of them and likely not even half.
@@uhhhhh4748EXACTLY. LARPER 304s.
Modern day feminists forgot what feminism is about. Giving women choice and opportunities.
Thank you!
Would that make a difference for men who hate even that definition? And make no distinction when deriding all feminism the same also?
@@C.Churchthe kind of men that hate women having choices and opportunities, are in the minority (at least in America) and shouldn’t be paid any attention to.
The cat in the background 😆❤
I'm a stay at home mom. I cook, I clean and take care of our son and animals. I wish I could make stuff from scratch but I have a big fear of failing and being embarrassed so I don't even try lol. My husband also helps like right now I'm sick so he went to go and do laundry with our son. See I grew up with a single mom and she always said that we didn't need a man and that all men are pos not to mention that she wasn't happy when I got married but I love my life with my family
If you want to learn to cook from scratch start easy. It is easy to buy frozen peas and learn how to boil them. It is easy to scramble eggs and fry them. It is easy to learn to bake chocolate chip cookies. Always think simple foods.
Stews are good starter when learning from scratch.
Do you dress like a pinup sex goddes for cleaning tho? :D
Thank you both
If you want to go for it, I give you absolute permission to try it and fail and try again. Try it in small amounts when you are home alone. Remember it is only chalked up as a failure if someone else knows about it and you give up😉. The Internet is a veritable cornucopia of tutorials that give you step by step instructions with video. Once you learn some basics, you’ll get a feel for what your family prefers (my husband hates cilantro but love ceviche so I make it without for example). The Instant Pot was a godsend for me because it allowed me to cook without having as much chance of failure (timer and auto off for my wandering mind). Shredded or pulled meats come out amazingly tender, and so does pot roast, ready in about 2 hours, but I second the stew. I hear an air fryer is also awesome. Grilling is also an option.
Women who cook on tiktok aren’t even tradwives, for example Nara Smith, she isn’t a tradwife. She’s a rich model who just likes to cook.
Some are tradwives.
What is so bad about being traditional? that is not degrading at all and even my grandma and her Mom said they both was happy being a traditional Women too
they like to demonize the femininity because they have inferior crisis and think the masculinity only is good when is a women using it.
It's probably because to many it spits in the face of advancement and seems as though it's a step backwards. Which isn't the case. Like people who believe in devolution. You can't devolve. you only evolve. Might seem negative but it's still forward progress.
The problem is not this traditional lifestyle, the problem comes when this lifestyle ends, which is possible, and the woman has no career, no experience or her own money. Many of these trad wives are actually against having a backup plan, and they tell other women about relying on a man economically, meanwhile, they are influencers making their own money.
Recently many women are talking about their experience being trad wives, and how now they lost the custody of their children for not being financially stable or are struggling to give their children a good life after the divorce.
@@cecilia4390This is the problem. I notice men are already spreading their cancer around putting women against eachother using words like jealous and feminists. This is how they hope women stay distracted with fighting eachother to not notice them stealing women's ideas, her money, her value, her years, then dumping her in a ditch and themselves allowed to keep prospering bc everyone is still occupied with catfights.
@@cecilia4390 Traditional women do have a back-up plans, but I know that from my Grandma and other family members
As a guy where the mother is a stay-at-home mum, I have sort of mixed feelings about this.
Being a stay-at-home requires a lot of sacrifice and it takes a whole new level of altruism to be one. It also takes an incredible amount of trust between the husband and the wife for the wife to become financially dependent on her husband so that the children can come home to a tidy house and a healthy home-cooked meal. I do understand feminists who like to caveat this sort of lifestyle and give good-faith risks of being financially dependent as not all couples are the same.
That being said, I feel very lucky to have a mother that sacrificed her master's degree so that she could raise us 6 children with good food, ironed clothes, clean bed and good education. There are certain times when my mum got extremely frustrated that we weren't properly appreciating her work that she does. It is very commenable and extraordinary that mum has been a housemaker for almost 30+ years. It would make anyone sort of made in the head sometimes to make such large sacrifices while the naïve children taking it for granted but the mother having to hold in those thoughts as they are not old enough to know the context.
I do think feminists have a point also that fathers need to appreciate the work that wives do if they do choose to become a housemaker and not abuse her working at home as "free childcare and free restaurant service" to take advantage off. When the wife is struggling, empathy and help from the husband is necessary and they should help them out on house chores in times of difficulty and not abuse their financial power or religious scriptures to abuse her
This is an important point. Neither side is in the right of it because it really comes down to what two people agree to do, and there must be be a healthy amount of respect on both sides for it to work, no matter which direction a couple goes. If both are working, and want to have a family, there has to be a clear point of no return and how they will handle competing responsibilities. If one stays at home, the working partner needs to be aware that their job is not their only responsibility. My dad was very happy to have us with him in the weekends and evenings, and we often got to go along with him on side gigs or for his hobbies. Mom never had to ask. He also never put his work above the family, even if sometimes he had to work a little more some days. He never said she wasn’t allowed to work a side gig or enjoy her friendships. For them, it was complementary, each picking up where the other left off.
Yeah, 'Freaky Friday' (1976) described the sort of unappreciative husband.
That was great of your mom. I couldn't imagine "sacrificing" my masters degree, the only possibility for me is to finish university, get a stable job position and then we can talk children. But I know that you don't always get to choose and I am thankful if the future turns out accordingly to my plans.
I think people forget they dont have to let social media brainwash/tell them what to do. Even if somebody on tiktok said you have to be a trad wife or else youre not a real woman or a failure, you could just not listen to it and keep doing what you’re doing. Its called thinking for yourself, and the beauty of the USA and many other countries is that we are allowed to do that.
Many will get suckered in, though. Just like with online romance scams!
The women saying they don’t need men are the same women getting upset when no man wants them.
Women arent a monolith. The women who dont need a man dont care. The sweet ones, frumpy, struggle, shy, insecure, confused, they never said they dont need a man. They need one but not for what you think. They need one for his warmth, strength, love. They're the ones crying in videos. And you all make fun of them equating them to feminists, which hurts them even more when those are the women who liked you for some reason.
Same ones that will run to get a man to boost their dead car battery when it happens.
I think they secretly want to be trad wives but are just afraid of potential backlash.
Not really. A Ken doll is enough. :-) But, more seriously, I don't need a man, so I don't care.
@@horatiohuffnagel7978A woman may need a mechanic to fix her car, but this doesn't mean that she needs to marry the mechanic.
Enjoying all the new content. Thanks, Misha!
What kind of freak doesn't like sourdough bread??
I've never had it
It's gross
Last loaf I had tasted like a nerf footbal
Never had,and because of it's name I never want to.
it always looks like it's gonna be really good, but then it's sour. Who asked for it to be sour?
There is a misconception in this. There are in fact men who aren't looking for a trad wife, but rather a replacement for their mother. These are the kind of men that will not really support their family and just want the family to support them. These deadbeats are being conflated with the men that actually put their proper respect and effort into the family and are not just there to receive. I grew up with a father that was the prior kind. The one that believes the family is just his property. He mistreated us, hospitalized us, and spent three times more money than he ever earned in his life, and if you do that math, was only possible because he was dipping into OUR earnings. He openly called us liberal thieves when we didn't do what he wanted, and threatened us with violence if we didn't keep all of it behind closed doors. Out in public, he wore a mask of the "good Christian republican conservative man" because he believed that would earn him some kind of, to say, "stolen valor." Even going as far as to fake patriotism and service to people who didn't know he dodged the draft. THESE are the kind of men that feminist should be talking about, and not blaming the entire gender.
Source
@@scrungo7610 They need a source for their own life?😅
I had a similar upbringing. I'm sorry that you also had a father like that. The men who want replacement mommies who they can procreate with (I know that's really gross, but it needs to be called out for what it is) don't get talked about nearly enough. They are 100% hateful, violent, do everything they can to control the money, spend more than the household makes, and don't care about their children at all. The wives and children are property and tools of manipulation. Men that like need to be called out. All of this mass generalizing is letting genuinely dangerous people slip under the radar.
What you say is absolutely true, and I am sorry you had to experience that. But most men are not like that (as you allude to in your closing comment). And most women are not heartless gold-diggers. Hard-lefties and hard-core feminists want to divide us. They want to destroy "family." Try not to let them do it.
In truth, what you are speaking of is someone evil, someone who can mistreat his own family for selfish purposes. A traditional family can be tied to this because often women felt stuck, not being able to earn a living outside of the home on which they could support themselves and their children. This doesn’t mean traditional roles always lead to this, just that both men and women have to be very careful in who they select as a partner.
Those that complain about 'waking at 4' are being disingenuous. It's super easy to cook big batches and then serve or repurpose the leftovers along the week.
Yes. I cook all my family meals from scratch plus I have a part time job and I DO NOT wake up at 4.
With an Instant Pot, I can cook an entire pot roast meal, in one pot, in about two hours start to finish, most of which is waiting. I hate doing laundry because of all the side stuff, hunting down socks and clothes, folding, so my husband tosses his clothes in the baskets pre sorted and treated and I make sure his clothing is separated and ready to fold when done, which he takes care of. Being traditional just means taking on those traditional roles of caring for your family, whatever that looks like, but does not tell you how you have to go about them. Anyone blaming the “lifestyle” for something they resent sounds like someone who didn’t have clear boundaries.
We have to remember why this is "traditional" in the first place.
To begin with, things weren't always this way. Before the industrial revolution, both husband and wife had to work for their bread. There was just no way around it. Now, labour was divided even then. Typically Men worked in the field were the work was backbreaking, where Women would do less physically demanding tasks, but no less tedious or important, like spinning and weaving. With the beginning of the industrial revolution, both men and women still had to work in many cases. Both had to work unhuman hours in unsafe conditions. But suppose you were a woman that had it better than average. Suppose your husband could work and earn enough to support his family and spare you from the drudgery and hazard of factory work, particularly seeing as women and children were paid less for their time. This, of course, gave you the opportunity to focus on your children, making your house a comfortable home. Some women took it further, realizing that they had reason to be thankful for their husbands, but also realizing the practical side as well. In essence, part of the tradition was to give back to the husband. Part also stemmed from the realization that the work the husband was doing was very demoralizing, and if you could cheer him up, show appreciation, and also make sure that everything at home was taken care of, and that he could trust you to take care of it, so that he did not also have to take care of the household as well as work long hours, he would work with a greater will, more efficiently and more effectively and this in turn would set him up to be more valuable to his employer. This could lead to advancement, or could mean the difference of being laid off or retaining work. The "traditional" roles were the best way for survival. And not everyone could afford to live that way, but it was seen by all as the optimal way, it was the quality of life that was aspired to. It was the desired quality of life.
Lol , No they weren't!! They were mostly maybe all of em were in favor on men nd women were denied of basic human rights! Maybe that "work" for you but not majority cause men women , nd ppl from sexuality are equal no one entitle to make other life decisions
Women also worked in the fields. Female slaves picked cotton. You can see women working in the fields in medieval and ancient Egyptian art.
I don't see domesticity and feminism as being mutually exclusive. People should just do what works for them.
She's a good wife. I'm sure every single mom is jealous
Amen. What a kind thing to say. God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven❤
Why? Why pit women against one another? Surely there are trad wives who are happy for nontrads who are happy and nontrad who are happy for trad. Omg this is all so stupid. I mean to say surely different women can be happy for eachother and not get "jealous".
Single moms don't exist to me. The only seed I ever raise will be MINE.
What’s wrong with u?
Nobody hates women more than women.
I love being a stay at home mom/wife. Grew up never wanting to be married or have kids. Then i met my husband and within two months we got married. Two years later we had our first child and i quit my job as a bookseller that i had for nearly a decade because i didn't want anyone else raising my children. Learned a lot about processed food and how unhealthy it is, so i started cooking from scratch. Realized i need a clean home for my mental health (dirty/cluttered house makes my brain feel cluttered) and have higher standards in that area than my husband, so he plays with the kids while i clean when i want to do more than a basic sweep. Point being that this lifestyle just came organically because it aligned with our priorities best 🤷 turns out it makes me happier than i ever was before.
I think that’s the biggest takeaway. Your relationship parameters should be exactly that, yours, and trying to fit into a mold that is inauthentic to you is the greatest indicator of a failure ahead. My parents were traditional but they would flip flop as needed. My dad loved kids and he would gladly take us with him whenever possible so mom had time to do whatever she wanted. I spent whole weekends with him and my brother where we were only home for meals. My mom would do all the yard work, except mowing since equipment wasn’t her thing, and never did we hear wait until your father gets home.
My husband and I lived aboard for over a decade. Many of the guys (most boat owners are men)were surprised that I did our fiberglass repairs and hull paint, as well as any mechanical repairs that needed doing while my husband was at work. Sometimes we would have to help neighbors in a storm or just weather Mother Nature, and they were always surprised. Once, I climbed our mast to repair the anemometer, with him on belay. I always replied that I wasn’t going to wait for him to get home to fix our air conditioning or power situation, and if I expected neighbors to be willing to help out, then I’d better do the same.
👏 Congrats to you!
I think there is a problem, but not with all traditional wives. There are some women who tell their audience that they are raising their daughters with the idea that they MUST be a traditional wife in the future. They raise their daughters and tell them that they must rely on their future husband for everything and give him the upper hand in their lives. I see this as a problem, and a very serious one at that. I don't see a problem with this kind of life, we are all different, but to impose your worldview on your children - I am against it.
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There are some people (both men and women) who insist on telling others how to live. Don't just accept what they say (or join them in trying to impose your will on others). Look around you. Look at history. Look at morality. Decide FOR YOURSELF what will best make you happy, then pursue that. Not easy, but most likely to be rewarding.
Same as a feminist who insists her daughter doesn’t need anyone. I was very thankful for both my dad and mom. My mom was traditional but unconventional and had held many jobs, some professional before she met and married my dad. My dad was the breadwinner but wanted to make sure that I had the skills I needed to be independent and take care of myself in case, like his mother, my husband had issues (grandad had serious PTSD, WWII, Battle of the Bulge). Neither told me how to choose for myself and both demonstrated everyday how a real relationship, even one with mostly traditional roles is about being partners and clearly communicating your expectations.
While I'm not a feminist nor a trad wife I can certainly say balance is very important in all relationships. I've been lucky enough to have a husband that does a lot of things, besides working his 9 to 5. He does the majority of the cooking (yes, I am that lucky), he is handy, he does his own laundry. I do most of the housework (cleaning, organizing, decluttering, etc) I also have my own small business for about two years now so I make my own money. So it is possible to live happy and not be in the extremes of anything. Men and women complement each other, we bring different things to the table and that's a good thing. If someone wants to be a trad wife fine, a girl boss fine, a mix of both great. Do what works for you but stop hating on people living their lives differently
Preach! A relationship is a partnership and it is up to each of us to figure out what the expectations will be. We need to stop obsessing over the labels and just figure out how to move forward with our lives. My dad never limited be, even though old school and actively taught me to be independent because his dad had his own issues (WWII PTSD) and he wanted me to be free if needed. I chose a guy who appreciates my strengths where they lie, not where some TikTok thinks they need to be. My husband is a terrible cook but the primary breadwinner and is happy to clean the bathrooms and do dishes and keep track of maintenance. I do the laundry, just because we can separate loads out more often (we used to live aboard and do not have a whole lot of clothes on rotation), but he presorts and treats his clothes and folds his after. I do most of the housework, grocery, etc. and keep up with our senior animals, meds, vet, etc. He is an early riser and I am a night owl so I will take care of any issue pre 3 am and he takes care of it after that but before he goes to work. It is an agreement that has shifted over time as our circumstances have changed.
Nice
💯 Well said
The end clip is just pure gold. Thank you for showing this distinguished gentleman for us!
How dare a child get sick./s🙄
The problem is that these women are not tradwives. They are TikTokers who are getting paid for their videos.
Plus, they always show the 'good' side of being a tradwife. Notice how they never show the stress of cleaning a house and handling young children? And from what I've seen, hardly any of these women actually have children.
There is nothing wrong with being a housewife. My Mother was one, and I am grateful to her to this day. However, as a child, I got to see the struggles and sacrifices that she and every housewife had to go through in order to care for the family. Being a housewife is a role that should be respected. And if a woman chooses not to do it, so be it. They deserve respect too.
But honestly, these clout loving frauds could never be as wonderful or as genuine as a real housewife.
But nobody wants to see the ugly side….
Same could be said for the whole "bass babe career woman" which statistically has more down sides and negative out comes
Wow, another video from Misha! She's been working overtime lately!
Estie Williams is a character lol. People need to stop taking influencers seriously.
She’s actually the only tradwife i don’t like. Her vibes just rub me the wrong way. Everyone else I’ve seen is delightful though
I’m 52 and a homemaker, I’ve worked most of my life but we are now at a place in life that I get to stay home, I love doing traditional things. ❤❤
I feel bad for the traditional wives. Not bc of what they do but bc I was in the same situation in the 80s, reversed. I knew I wasn't going to get married or have kids for a variety of reasons. It was next to impossible to get an excellent job in the '70s and 80s.ecery. Women had to follow the same path, regardless if it made them miserable. Get married, have kids, and stick it out for 40 years. Society demands a certain number of women be unhappy. It is like fashion; if it's style, it's all they make, regardless of body shape or independent style. Leave these traditional women alone; why do you care? It is about choice, and they're happy.
I love sourdough bread, I make it every weekend. I make all my own bread, love the all natural, no additives, no preservatives and sourdough's the only way to go. It's not natural for bread to not stale after a week...might wanna look at those ingredients...
but to each their own
great with olive oil and good vinegar too
I never got the hang of making bread, let alone try making sourdough. I do sometimes buy sourdough ryebread, tastes awesome with my favourite cheddar cheese
I used to be a stay at home mom and I actually enjoyed it. I didn’t make everything from scratch but I cooked, cleaned and enjoyed spending time with my baby girl. Now I work part time so I still do all that but I still get to get out of the house. Plus I am single now so I have to work. Either way I was happy then. I didn’t mind it at all.
So glad I figured out you are on Rumble since YT deletes my (polite) comments. I'm gradually leaving YT altogether.
Being a tradwife is desirable but not all women have a happy ending. There are many that after finishing high school or not finishing college immediately got married and have kids and got trapped in an unhappy or abussive relationship that hardly can't escape, because their whole life depends solely on how that man values her (which usually is only for looks). Then after they get their divorce, their often left with no house, no income, and many kids needs to be fed. However, I know some women who's a tradwife and living happily with a generous husband and a big family so I think being a tradwife is a privilege.
My wife raised the children then decided she wanted a career. So now we split the domestic stuff and enjoy the dual income empty nest life.
2:58 I understand that abusive relationships exist (my parents used to be abusive, for example) but why oh why doesn’t anybody just talk in a relationship if they feel unfulfilled? I don’t understand it…
She did try. This particular relationship was very toxic. He would tell her she was lazy. She was burnt out, depressed but all her husband seemed to care about was their sex life. She went to a doctor bc she thought her hormones were off bc she wasn't in the mood but after listening to her, the doctor gave her a prescription for an antidepressant & suggested therapy. Husband was irritated that she didn't get a pill for her sex drive. Eventually, she left the relationship & then later wrote an article on how this trad wife trend can be taken to the extreme & become abusive. The backlash she received should answer the question as to why she took it for so long. She was called selfish. That she was the reason why people devalue marriage. People insinuated that she was crazy because she was "on pills that make women kill their children" Candace Owens did a piece on this trad wife trend & absolutely eviscerated her. She didn't say anything for the same reason other abuse victims do not. Shame, lack of a feeling of self-worth, societal stigma, judgement etc. This woman wasn't a trad wife. She was an abuse victim.
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They are dependent on their abusive husbands.
I have Been a Trad wife and I've been a working wife, Why can't they Get Along. I don't get the Divide. Probably Never will I don't like division
You can still work and be traditional. I think there’s a misconception on what “traditional” means.
Traditional means you accept the difference in gender, you accept that women need men, and men need women, and you don’t hate the idea of serving your husband while he serves you. The dirty secret is even before feminism, women worked. We’ve always worked. It’s not something new that the feminists discovered women could do in the 1960s…we’ve always done it, and it was never really a problem… traditional doesn’t mean stay at home…and it never has.
@@nicoleterry5105Exactly. The problem is the tradwives do not know that nor try to understand. Why? Because they aren’t traditional. They are right winged conservatives, but they don’t want to come out and say that because it will be “too politcal”
The structures they try to implement are simple hallows of what was the American dream. White picket fence, wifey who cooks and cleans, adorable kids and a provider husband. But this structure only existed for the ones who had the privilege to achieve it.
The reason people don't use the moniker of traditional husband is because the traditional expectations have not changed for men.
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Your hair looks gorgeous 😍
I (personally, and the irony is not lost on me) don’t like “trad wives” because there is a lot of shame from that community toward women who are tomboys past the age of 8. Small, Southern, USA town has its community who are trad wives, and I’ve run smack into “you’ll never find a man if you’re not a proper lady” which is where the irony is: I have a guy; and we go back 30 years in our home life (minus me wishing to work/write) to “1920’s man respecting his bearcat of a woman.” (Flappers wore men’s clothes, did “men things” and weren’t just playing out _The Great Gatsby_ but pop culture being what it is… no one seems to know that.)
What I don’t like about trad wives is two fold: A) there is a judgment from them about other women that they assume a lot, and if you have an opinion that contradicts your bf/husband’s you’re “bad at being a woman” (remember these aren’t online interactions, this is irl), and B) to be a trad wife is to find a man making 6-7 figures-single income household in the modern day, and the number of men who fit that bill is small, and it’s _men_ I dislike over the women because the men feel like because they have the money, the degrees, and the job, they get to demand whatever they want from their gf/wife and she must submit.
I am not a submissive person by nature, nor am I someone who enjoys being told I know nothing about something I actually know a lot in. If they were just couples that were SAHM I would 100% respect that, it’s what I plan to do. But it’s not. It’s a lifestyle that both parties have used to say they’re better than others because of their lifestyle. Plus it helps 0% that my grandmother who basically abused my grandpa views herself as a traditional woman who lived/had kids in 50s and my grandpa, who loved her to death, deserved to be under her heel-which honestly is a more “this one particular woman is evil” problem.
I’ve seen couples on YT on ranches and such who embody traditional gender roles, and the key to them not being annoying as all get out is A) the man respects his wife and recognizes that “women’s work” is work, and B) they aren’t shaming other couples. But that’s just my opinion.
I think you’ve hit the nail when you consider what really rubs people the wrong way on either side, and it is people who tell you to behave in a way which is unlike or inauthentic to yourself. I am not an early riser. Never will be one unless forced like when I was teaching. My husband has learned to appreciate this because it also means I can stay up later and deal with issues that arise that might require him to get out of bed. I am also not a shrinking violet. I speak my mind plainly and directly and rarely say anything I don’t mean (can be a problem around the in law😂). I am strong, capable and independent (not in the girlboss sense but in the I can change my own oil way). I’ve found that most men appreciate a woman who can enjoy a silly fart joke as much as get cleaned up and socialize appropriately with their colleagues, meaning a human being, not some icon on a pedestal.
I have 3 college degrees and ditched a promising carrer and now I´m a tradwife, in my twenties married with children.
I get up at 7, do my makeup and care for the baby, then make my husband a coffee and wake him at about 9. Then I do some cleaning (whatever needs to be done) while baby "helps" or is strapped to my chest. Then we go outside, walk the dog and return home for naps and snuggles.
After the nap it´s cooking time, we start preparing dinner for my husband and I - then a second walk with dog and baby. After baby is put to bed, I clean the kitchen and put away the clutter for the day.
It´s a lot of work, but I have never been happier.
However I have been called a "pick me", a "N4zi", a "dumb b-word" (online and in person) and many more slurs just for existing like this.
You've made the right choice, ignore the women who are calling you a pick me and referring to you as the b slur. Just a bunch of jealous bitter single moms and women who aren't any better than self-projecting racist African americans. They had their chance to change their life around for the better and find a good man and they blew it.
You've made the right choice, ignore the women who are calling you a pick me and referring to you as the b slur. Just a bunch of jealous bitter single moms and women that's all self-projecting hatred at the end of the day. They had their chance to change their life around for the better aswell as finding a good man and they blew it.
I hope your husband worships your feet.
If it works for you, then there's no problem. It sounds like your family depends a lot on you, and that shows your strength.
I don't even Know you and I Love you. I'll never understand Today's feminism. In my and my moms day it was just for the right to be Treated like a person and probably my grandma's day too. True Feminism is only about equal rights period not about Not needing men. UGH
I think they're larping as trad just for the clout, or chameleoning after years of riding the carrousel.
I will say one thing...
It's not smart financially to be solely reliant on your husband.
Be sure you have a pre nup in most cases is you choose to be financially reliant on your husband.
That tradwife who became a single mom is going to write articles about how much harder life is as a single mom within just a couple of years
I refuse to feel badly for someone who made a choice and now rather than accepting that she failed to be authentic to herself to fit a trend, is denigrating it. You can be a tradwife and not get up at 4am or just go back to bed. I am NOT a morning person at all. In the early states of our relationship, I would go with my husband to drop him off at his phlebotomy clinical at like 3 am and then go pick him up. I would come back, sleep, and then do whatever until he came home. He can’t stay up past 10 and I can’t go to bed until midnight. Anything that goes crazy pre about 2am, I am primary, anything after, he is primary. Our niece was visiting and stayed with us for 3 days. He got up early with her and I took care of the night shift. We communicated of something needed to be addressed and worked together to meet everything that needed to be done. We have moved a lot for my husband to be promoted and as a result, I’m basically a stay at home for the moment but we try to play to our individual strengths.
Thanks for all the work you put on your videos.
My mom was able to balance her career and her own business with raising children and she also cooks everything from scratch (why the sourdough hate? its so good especially when homemade 😭) My dad did stay home (he was at one point the breadwinner, but then my mom's business took off and she earned a lot more than him so he didn't need to work) to homeschool us, and he was a very good example of how to step in an take care of the family in whatever way you need to.
Different families have different dynamics that work for them, for these women they enjoy the more traditional way of housemaking (they've made it an art honestly) and I applaud these mothers for working hard to raise their kids.
That being said, men, I suggest you do learn some basic cooking skills and basic cleaning skills, as the ladies really like it when you can make their tasks easier, especially at the end of a long day.
We have woman like that onlyfans girl raising our children, and we wonder why depression and suicide rates are through the roof.
These modern feminists are the reason we have toxic redpill alpha bros like Andrew Tate. Because we took away balance and took away traditional values that said that men and women are needed equally for a society to run properly, now we have this mess.
The problem with social media trad wives is that they indirectly tell women to be more traditional but aren’t really dependent on their husbands themselves, since they have an income as influencers. So in case their husband drops them, they will be financially secure unlike for all the non influencer trad wives.
Go trad wives, live your best life- only thing I would suggest for them is that they have secret savings or some back up plan in case you tradwife for a man from 20-40 yrs old, and then he decides to leave you for his 24 year old secretary. In case something like that happens, you don't want to be screwed so just have a plan B.
Back-Up Plan already sorted LOL. She gets the house, the Kids, half the familial assets & Alimony if she divorces. i think that takes care of Insurance LOL.
@@KevinWarburton-tv2iy bahahahaha oh my sweet summer child..... Do you have ANYYYYY idea how many of these men refuse to pay alimony or child support? And in most situations alimony and child support is only set up to cover half so the mother still has to come up with the other half. The man already promised to stay for life and broke that promise, why would he hold up the promise to give them money? Literally the whole point of divorce is you can't trust them they broke the promises and don't like you. Why would you want to be dependent for life on someone who actively hates you and doesn't want to support you and probably won't? Much easier to plan ahead and not get screwed.
Just googled, in 2019 in the USA there was 10 BA-BA-BILLION in uncollected child support, NOT COUNTING ALIMONY.
@@KevinWarburton-tv2iy U.S. Census report estimates that just 43.5 percent of custodial parents get the full amount of support they're entitled to. And more than 30 percent don't receive anything at all.
So what? Why should we cry for Females who chose to be Baby Mamas to Deadbeats.
They still have insurance in that that can suck on Gov teat for Housing & Benefits LOL.
Most of those deadbeat non-custodial non child-support fathers were not married to the woman 7 not paying coz unemployed or in Prison LOL. Formerly married men have much higher rate of Compliance with Alimony/Child Support.
"The man already promised to stay for life"?
Over 70% of Divorces are originated by women, some Stats say as high as 80% of Divorce initiated by the woman.
"Refuse to pay Alimony or Child Support"?
Many men who do not pay do not do so coz they refuse but because they can't.
Many who do not pay are unemployed, low wage or in Prison.
Some men are happy to pay Child Support but refuse to pay Alimony.
Plenty of Divorces are amicable LOL.
Most of that uncollected Child support comes from being levied too high or on men with no wherewithal to pay ...unemployed, low wage or in Prison.
Much of the Child Support levied but unpaid was not levied against Ex-Husbands but against women's Baby Daddies ...boyfriends, one-night stands, flings etc
Instead of unbridled hostility to Men, maybe you should encourage women to keep their legs closed or use more than one form of contraceptive if having sex outside marriage & to be more discerning in the partners they choose.
You sweet summer child, how many of those men were baby-jacked by women?
How many of those men did not want the Child but of course were powerless to have any say either way to have or not to have.
Quite a few.
Woman gets a choice to have or not but the male has no such choice if contraception fails or he gets babyjacked.
If a male did not want the female to have the baby then why should he have any obligation to support it?
Equality right? If she has no Societal Obligation to have the child ...then why should he have Societal Obligation to pay for it?
Women need to take responsibility for their actions too :)
I just discovered you today and I love you...! I realized we have almost similar aspects in how we view things. Literally binge watching your videos. Keep it up.
It's crazy to say we don't need men, how are we going to procreate?
How much do you hate men?...........
My biggest issue with "trad wives" isn't the actual lifestyle but the fact that they feel the need to post their lives day in day out online. They shill products and their own Only fans. That's their choice, but that's not traditional. A real traditional wife wouldn't have the time or inclination to film everything of their private lives and post it online.
4:20 Girl, the person in the video is just being sarcastic.
Trad wife here... I love my life. If I didn't, I wouldn't do it anymore. The articles now divorced single mom obviously didn't speak up about her wants and needs. But that's the difference between me and her.... when I'm overwhelmed I ask my husband for help. The fact that she divorced her husband says something about the marriage. Whether she began to resent him or she/ he fell out of love, they did something wrong. Also I wouldn't put it passed someone to blame the trad wife lifestyle for other issues to save face.
I honestly don't know why they call it sourdough. The sourdough my Mammaw makes is sweet. Especially with butter!
Maybe Mammaw just uses a sweeter recipe. 🤷♀️
It’s an oxymoron it makes the bread taste all the sweeter when you expect it to be sour😂
I like cleaning. Sometimes I'm upset or stressed and I start cleaning. It helps me. You get into a flow state and being busy doing something useful helps you feel better. Plus seeing it clean in the end is so satisfying.
Personally I am not about that life. I love cooking, and I clean because its a necessity. But its something I do to survive and I believe everyone (man or woman) should know basic life skills. I have seen the women of my family slaving away in the kitchen, even when sick because the men were too lazy to cook for themselves; extremism is what I fear. Not everything is black and white.
Oh god having to cook, how extreme !!
Womp womp, cry about it
@@tsrocks2029 its not just cooking. It is cleaning, organising everyone's clothing, minor gardening, grocery shopping, laundry , dishes, toilet cleaning (for each bathroom in the house), tutoring the children. Also try making 4 elaborate Indian meals everyday and you'll see the extremes.
Edit: Try doing all of this in 40°C heat(bet you gon' convert it to F°)
@@crypt1d550 you'd cry if you had to do all the chores everyday without house help
I agree. Everyone should know the basic skills. My brother once brought home his dirty laundry from his college home to my mom's home. I asked him if he didn't have a washing machine there. He said yes. And I said well? Turns out he doesn't know how to wash clothes using a washing machine... And I was like. Laundry detergent, this much, this kind. Goes in here. Select standard program, and done. It's one minute and maybe pressing two buttons, and even my younger sister knew this. So it really baffles me that my brother didn't know how to use a washing machine by the age of almost 20. Everyone should know basic household skills like this. So glad that my current partner does.
All these people are cringe. All these “influencers” are putting on a performance for other people, for likes on the internet. If they truly believed in their choice of lifestyle, they would do it quietly for the people that really matter, their families.
Also, TikTok is cancer.
I do agree.
I think its nice theyre showing what they do but they dont /HAVE/ to film it lol, im sure not every day is like this anyways, many days are probablt difficult and she has a simple breakast or dinner etc.
That’s what doesn’t make sense they don’t tell anyone what to do
Sourdough bread is the best.
Misha really working overtime on the videos this week, love it
The part that is missing here is the actual JOY of cooking. The instinct to pathologize everything as some sort of oppressive chore is really sad. Simple tasks like cooking and gardening are the peace and joy of life.....most people spend a lifetime looking for things that are that necessary and beautiful.
Love your consistency Misha
Good work!
Me and my wife just started implementing more traditional roles and it just works. She cooks and cleans and takes care of our son and when I get home from work I take over for a few hours to give her a break and for her to get into her hobbies and then we usually end the night as a family watching a movie or playing a game.
Traditional roles are amazing. Everyone observes them differently. My husband puts my kids to bed every night. I’ve taken it upon myself to ensure all other duties are done, cooking and cleaning so he can do the daddy things. So while I’m the main caretaker it’s important that I make sure I’m giving my husband opportunities to be daddy. He works all day, missing our kids, and I spent all day with them. So I can’t 100% say I’m the caretaker of our children at all times, but I see me allowing my husband and our children to have time together as a part of my job. So while he does the night time routine with them I’m cooking dinner, cleaning the kitchen, and he’s making memories with our kids, reading books taking baths, and being tucked in. ❤
Well, yes. It works in Saudi Arabia, in Afghanistan... Are you a Muslim, by the way?
@@teresamariawlosowicz2566lol!! That' " WORK " maybe for him not wife 😂
I am a straight women whose been in a long term relationship with a man for over 10 years. I have always worked and so has he. We have always shared most of our domestic duties. With some give and take on days when I'm worn out or days when he's worn out we share the responsibilities of everyday life because we BOTH LIVE HERE. We are also both construction workers, and in no way am I any less feminine because I work a "man's job". Nor is he any less masculine because he does chores. Such a concept of shared responsibilities is nothing new, but it sure does work well for us.
Exactly. I don't get why people always assume stuff like that doesn't work or is harmful to either partner. If it is what fits your lifestyle and your needs and you talk about what you want out of it, go for it. Works for me and my partner, too.
I'm all for trad wives, but dressing like it's the 50s is a little much 😂
Este does it because she likes the style. She doesn’t think you have to to be a trad wife.
Ok I don't think they care, though!
the 50s are overrated anyways lol
@@Rio26202 OR it is more than lucrative for her. She might aswell do the same shit on OF
@@narlowemcfarlowe2952Except for the land yacht cars they made back in the day
I mean one thing that is an accurate critique of the trad wife is that it comes off as a costume, a persona that’s being put on. The ‘female conservative’. The people that are genuinely a ‘trad wife’ and have a TH-cam channel just have a regular baking or fashion channel. However, it’s not like leftist women don’t do this. They promote life styles and personas to people with no regard to the possible repercussions of that but it’s somehow only a problem when someone takes on the persona of a traditional woman and promotes that as something good.
Theyre just as annoying as any other influencer girl 🤷♀️ all fake so. Whatever ? 😂
So refreshing to see a down to earth and intelligent point of view. Nice one.
You were right on the money when you said that both sides need to know at least a little about how their partner does their thing in case something happens.
I mean this in absolutely no way condescendingly...but smart girl.
"11 o'clock in the afternoon" 😂
I respect you for watching all these tik tok videos and keeping your sanity. It's good to have a balanced and well adjusted person like yourself to offer sensible commentary.
It was the cat at the end for me 😂
Awwwe your cat at the end made me smile big - how beautiful
Nothing is more annoying than someone who tries to dictate or criticise how other people should live their lives or the things they do in their lives.
Omg you're so right. This is why feminism had to begin in the first place. Yes you stated that so well. 🙌
I agree with 99% of what you said, but there are absolutely ZERO men out here saying "we don't need no heymn". We're saying we don't want 304s, we don't want masculine hwymn, we don't want cheaters and abusers, we know we need them and we love them. We aren't going overseas for hookups, we're going for WIVES. If we didn't want or need hwymn, we wouldn't be continuing our search for a life mate. Love the channel, love the work you're doing. Keep it up 🤘🏻🤘🏻
See? Obvious you are mell. And it seems you agree with the foreigner calling the tough farm girl manly. Shifting goalposts.
@@C.Church Of course I'm mail, never claimed anything else lmao. I said I don't know you or what you are, so to assert my comments are based on your race or gender is laughably ridiculous. All I'm seeing is 🤡 behavior from the standard leftist 🐨🧠.
Edit: absolutely not agreeing the farm girl is manly. I love tomboys. The modern idea of masculine hwymn is the loud and aggressive 🤡 who use man language when addressing us. Being a farm girl is in no way masculine, puffing up like you can fight me is lmao 🐨🧠
Why do they care? I'll never forget the looks and comments I got when our eight children were young. Women were so rude and men were impressed and kind.
Congratulations on 8 children, very nice!
They're just jealous.
Scratch food is the best! That frozen, canned boxes stuff just can't compare.
7:05 , this is where the church would normally step in. It has historically been 100% the church’s responsibility to come together and provide for widows and single mother’s.
Exactly. As a community we take care of each other. I may need to depend on my community if the worst would happen but that’s ok because I am contributing to that community. This is something I wish the “trad wives” would talk about. They may not have a job but they often have a community to fall back on if needed.
This is semi-incorrect. Social safety nets like welfare exsist because traditionally widowed or unwed single mothers traditionally suffered socially and economically. Yes the church helped but not to a degree that was “human rights” acceptable.
No, that is not the case. If you are a single mother, or a widow young enough to remarry, you are called to remarry.
Western society is secular now so that idea is obsolete. "It takes a village" doesn't exist anymore.
@Lootoodle They are talking about support just after a divorce or death
the cute kitty in the end 😍😍😍😍
We're not upset by Tiktok tradwives, we're upset with those tradwives belittling us for not wanting to be like them and calling them out for their romanticization of a very risky, and dangerous game: being fully dependent on a man. So no, we're not "triggered", we're sympathetic to those who were negatively affected by this lifestyle.
Exactly!!
Sounds like you’re triggered, it’s not very risky or dangerous to have a man help you. Being single and relying on yourself comes with a similar set of risks. It’s also silly to push the assumption that these women can’t provide for themselves if necessary. Kinda anti woman of you
Womp womp, nobody is doing that
@@tsrocks2029Who says not wanting to be a tradwife automatically means you won't let your man help you? Making women look anti men is also kind anti women, ngl
Women are so hard on each other.
Support each other, ladies!
Misha, you are a truly beautiful woman. Inside and outside. Greetings from beautiful Bavaria! ✌❤
I feel like being a trad wife is just as empowering as being a girl boss- I mean for a trad wife the house is the woman's domain. that's her area. she runs that house. And I also get not wanting to be a trad wife I get both sides
if you're traditional, get a traditional partner. If you're modern, get a modern partner. If you look for someone perfect, be perfect as well. Be what you expect to get.
Nobody is perfect
@@crypt1d550 wow, Sherlock Holmes
@@crypt1d550 what a enlightening 💭
Tell them to cope 😂.
The issue is not "a single 30-sec video" but a trend that is indeed demanding women to submit to their spouse AND spreading misinformation about this life. Just read some men's comments about this trend, yes it is about reaffirming their control over "a good wife".
On the other hand, everyone is free to choose her/his path in life.
Did anyone notice that this trend is actually promoting a religion I don't want to name here?
I totally agree with you that it is based on choice. I would love a-lot of kids, but even more I would love a happy wife 😊
I've been debating this with feminists for a month or so now. To me, it's very telling that the single most common criticism I get from them isn't "Being a tradwife is worse for x, y, and z reason"; it's actually "it's unrealistic/impossible". Not only is this false but it's kind of sad that so many have just given up on that dream entirely.
Why the hell would you ever argue with feminist??? You must be a masochist.
As long as the wife and her partner are respected and happy in their marriage, that is all that should matter, regardless whether they're "trad" or not. Real feminists would respect the woman's choice to have a traditional lifestyle instead of putting her down
Here's a thought experiment: How would the comments section of a "trad wife" change if instead of there being a husband, there was a lesbian wife?
I’ve never met a housewife that didn’t have an education and a job. Some of them a actually self employed.
Same, one of the examples I have met is my mom who is a stay home wife and a hair stylist
i have, my mom got screwed over horribly.
@@ashy7230 she was just dumb
I don't have a problem with women staying home and being good moms. I deeply admire my own mother, my mother in law, and other women in my life who have chosen to stay home. What I do have an issue with is this fake-looking cosplay version of being a SAHM where women in literal ball gowns take three hours making weird homemade cocoa puffs....or Christian women who failed at being actresses or models wear enticing breasty dresses and make love to the camera with their eyes.....or women who have no kids spend most of their content talking about personal appearance and how to be a divine feminine goddess and ask why other women aren't making more of an effort......basically I have a problem with this modern era of showing your idealized life online as an influencer and then being like "what? Women have been traditional like me for ages, I guess you're just jealous."
No, hon. I take umbrage with the fact that women have not been like **that** for ages at all. Women have historically worked hard in practical garments without doing it all on camera and without worrying what other homemakers were doing. It's kind of a "for show" thing now.
I think many of them doing this for clout and it's cringe
it’s obviously for clout, no one wears dresses showing cleavage everyday whilst basically being the textbook definition of a slave for her husband. imo it’s a religious fetish
The cat outro was so cutee