We previously made a video on "The Rise of Female Loneliness." There were a lot of heartfelt responses that we are shedding light on a topic that's less talked about and sometimes stereotyped. There were requests for us to cover "The Rise of Male Loneliness." As promise, here it is. Today also marks International Men's Day. International Men's Day, celebrated on November 19, is a global event that focuses on promoting positive male role models, celebrating men's contributions to society, and addressing issues faced by men. It's about encouraging conversations around mental health, gender equality, and breaking down stereotypes about masculinity. The day aims to highlight six key pillars, including improving gender relations, promoting well-being, and recognizing the value men bring to families, workplaces, and communities. It’s not about competing with International Women’s Day but complementing it by encouraging mutual respect and understanding.
A man can have nobody around him accept his old lady and he's fine if a man chooses properly his old lady is all he needs why? Because we don't rely on other males it's ok to have male friends but not necessary a woman is necessary she provides ultimate companionship you can spend time with your best friend and have sex with that best friend you bond with a woman more deeply than another man because sex and a romantic love is far different than having a brother meaning friend and a woman sees a side of us that others don't see the bond with the right woman is superior to any other relationship in this context
@@eugenekrabs3837 What you’re describing highlights the deep emotional and physical connection that can come with the right romantic partner. A healthy bond with someone who sees and accepts every side of you-flaws and all-can feel unmatched. That level of intimacy, trust, and companionship does hit differently compared to friendships. Still, it’s worth remembering that no single person, even the right partner, can meet *all* of our needs. A balanced life often thrives on different types of connections-romantic, platonic, or even personal independence. ❤
Surprised you guys actually acknowledged that it was today as 99% of people don't acknowledge or care about men or their issues, so thanks for posting this Also I wanted to say I'm surprised that it was stated that male lonliness is being talked about alot as from my perspective, male lonliness is normally put down or treated as a joke and not talked about seriously unless in a toxic incel community.
The correct answer is YOU DO, ok, YOU DO. I know this is corny, but I was watching an SNL skit where kilo Ren was an undercover boss and he said something about Rey becoming a jedi, one of the stormtroopers says, "who cares?" to which Kilo Ren walks up to the guys face and says, "I do, I do". Which metaphorically the stormtrooper is society and we, ourselves, should be Kilo Ren, Rey becoming a jedi is us bettering ourselves and if society says, who cares about your health, look them in the face and say I DO
@Wichnam I'm just afraid, afraid of what's to come in my life with trials such as this. I'm afraid nobody will care at some point and that once I'm not useful anymore I'll just be thrown away being no more than a thought. Afraid that if I show my true side, others will see me as weak and pathetic (when it's obviously not true)
@@javanhernandez5690 And what if they see you as weak and pathethic? Why should that stop you from showcasing who you are or can be at times?... It takes strength, to showcase weakness that one else is trained to hide. And should those who deny you because you dare to have the strength to break out and showcase you have that, then can you call those people friends? Now we all struggle with our heritage. And we cannot all be a Musk, or a Trump, or any type of person of large status that has this legacy... But even they. In X amount of time, will be forgotten. Sounds harsh no? Because it is, but also. It isn't. What matters is the NOW... the HERE... the what YOU do with the time you have left still. And if that time you have left, you could make a person smile, or even have just a simple nice conversation. Isn't that worth more than some legacy?... Because if you think on it, everything one does, leaves a legacy. Every item you bought, every gift you gave. It leaves a bit of yourself somewhere. (And yes, I am not a trained professional, nor am I super at english. All I ask and would say is: You are worthy. For how little time it may have been or is. Every creature on this planet is.)
This, and the fact that the top posts that I found about international men's day (which was yesterday btw) being about hating men _really_ puts into perspective why guys don't speak up about their issues. It's like you can't unconditionally uplift men in a positive way. Some people are already being hateful on here.... that's just sad
The fact that this video HAS TO HAVE a disclaimer to not trigger *those* people about a problem with men (and it’s not bashing us) is… honest to god just incredible, this video is proof that we’re never getting anywhere with this issue
It’s like rot on a log, by the time you notice it, that means the problem is already too late to solve. Lonely Millennial and gen z men can’t be helped, but we can hope Gen alpha will have it better, but that’s also unlikely
Time to move on, leave your toxic place, I promise it's not the whole world like that. I wish someone had told me this fifty years ago. Maybe I wouldn't have had such a shit life, 😢
The only ppl I call friends are those who message me as much as I message them, even if it's just sending memes and reels. At least they think about me 😂, by they I mean like two ppl
the fact that you have to put such an elaborate disclaimer at the start of the video is alarming. Not doing that would instantly get you tons of hate from people claiming you are a woman-hating incel.
@@ziggye3096 What kinda answer is that. If majority of women dont care to even have friendships with these men, dont be suprised they turn out as shit men. If every guy in school had a good woman friend, you would see much more good men and much less shit men. You created a problem and now you whine about being sick of it. Of course men blame women. If all the men who dont have any friends would stop working, you would not have your civilization anymore. Of course you will never understand, you are still a child
@@ziggye3096ah right, you wanted them to be alone AND happy about it. Just there when you want them, and only the rich ones, or attractive ones, the rest don’t matter right?
@@ziggye3096blame you..? Blame you for what? My failures? My shortcomings? My faults? No hun. You missed the point by a long shot. We blame ourselves for not being good enough, and those who cant rise above just come crashing down....and no one cares about those who crashed and burned.
The reason men are lonely is because people lie to them all the time. Men are convinced they should open up about their feelings and emotions, but when they do, are told to be quiet, abandoned and discarded, or worse. Everything that is happening now is a response to that. If we want to fix the male loneliness problem, we can't keep treating men like garbage the moment they can't keep holding the world up like Atlas.
I’m a veteran. I’ve felt like I’ve always been alone. Especially since some of my best friends are gone. I feel like the world left me behind and stuck where I am long ago.
I'm a veteran too. There's a lot of resources out there to help us both public and private. I used some of it myself and was able to move forward. I am not sure what types of help you need but you don't need to go through it alone. Stay strong brother
I’m truly sorry you’re feeling this way. Being a veteran comes with unique challenges, especially when it comes to loss and adjusting to a world that doesn’t always understand what you’ve been through. It’s hard to carry those memories and feel like life has moved on without you, but you’re not alone in this. There are people and communities who care and want to support you-you’ve already shown incredible strength by sharing how you feel. Please consider reaching out to a veterans' support group or someone who can listen and help. You deserve connection and understanding.
I am 42 years old. No friends. No social life. No partner. No home. No children. No legacy. But at least I have a job. I live with my parents as they’re the only family I have left. I dread to think of the day when they’re both pass away. I don’t think at that point I’d want to live anymore. The loneliness will kill me.
You're fortunate to have your parents. I am estranged from mine. So when I've been alone, I've been *really* alone. As in, knowing if I had a heart attack or health problem one day, either I'd make it to the telephone in time to call an ambulance, or I would just drop dead on the spot and nobody would notice anything maybe for weeks or months when they came to investigate the smell. I've struggled to try to build connections, but it is very scary... it takes time to build trust with people, and feel confident they won't leave or betray you, and without a healthy family as a base to build from it often feels like stabs in the dark, opening up just to be crushed over and over again, pushing the same rock up the same hill forever like Sisyphus. But I think it's important to do all the same. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
For what it's worth, I hope you won't actually kill yourself. I'm sure you deserve better than to end like that. I'm not judging you, I'm just saying you deserve better.
As a male I tell people how I feel, but they just turn around and tell me I'm being dramatic. I tend to slip in as jokes and it may be heard, but nobody truly listens.
Instead of closing yourself off emotionally, cut these people off of your life and distance yourself from them and from people who are like them. Only allow people in your life which allow you to open up safely and are mature enough to understand your worries. And keep working on your own happiness as well, this will automatically make you satisfied, less desperate for connections (you'll naturally enjoy your solitude more) and ambitious again. This will also attract healthy people who are similar
The female loneliness video came first and also had a disclaimer. Guess what, women didn't complain like crybabies. I thought women were the emotional ones...
@@yhiontop it's probably because less women actually suffer from loneliness. 51% of the U.S is women with 49% are men. Which mens there are millions more women than men in the U.S. But at the same time millions more women are in relationships. With a very large percentage of men being single despite there being far less men. That means only some men are in relationships with women and a lot of women are with other women, or multiple women are sharing a single man. While the majority of average men may not even get any attention let alone a relationship with a woman.
@@yhiontopNo the men actually have bigger hearts. Women just act more emotional towards situations like death or violence. Men have always secretly had softer hearts. Think about all the break up songs. Women loneliness is way less severe than men's due to the societal and psychological distractions of today. Wake up buddy.
"Disclaimer: This is not to say that only men experience loneliness and that women do not, nor to say one’s experience is worse than the other. The truth is, both men and women can struggle with loneliness, but the reasons and ways they experience it can vary. This video focuses on male loneliness, and we will cover female loneliness in another video. Also, the views expressed here are based on personal opinions and experiences and may not reflect everyone’s perspective. Please consider them as one viewpoint among many." This. This is the problem: our society doesn't allow to talk about issues men face and what men needs without involving the needs and issues of women.
nah. I prefer it this way. The anger is building amongst the blokes; loneliness turn to fear, fear turn to denial, denial turn to anger, and what happens when anger succeeds? pfft, tomorrow is a good day, bruv. Every history written, is written by people who let their anger flourished upon the world. I'm excited to see that world.
Yep, this is an issue society does not want to fix either. And as such, I anticipate to see whether the consequences become lethal to warrant notice or if this is really how our species goes out.
Literally the same disclaimer was on the female loneliness video as well? Gtfo with that "of course we're the only *true* victims here, because nobody focuses just on men!" This is not a competition and the only thing guys like you do, is creating even less empathy for men, because of your ignorance and selfishness.
@@rikitikitavatiki It's not pretend things are fine, things get better. If it's hopeless it'll still get better. Shit won't be perfect but it will get better. I've had great troubles and things still got better and they will continue to get better. Just need to take one of the million steps you can take to make yourself feel better, make the world better, and to be happier.
Growing up in the "All Men Are Dogs" era, and being told that I'm worthless and replaceable, for a good 20 years, not to mention being a 5'7" nerd, of course I'm alone. General consensus is that I deserve it, because I'm simply not good enough. A lonely man isn't a problem. If he doesn't simply do "better", it's all on him. Nobody really cares.
I feel for you because I'm right there with you. The gym helps. Walks in the park and just saying hello to people helps. It's difficult to imagine a different life, but it's possible to get. You can get back out there. Hell, for me it was turning on my mic in public matches in overwatch and just trying to be positive toward my team.
Women get special rewards while men special punishments women built this toxicity now they are reaping what they sow and blaming everyone else for what they have done brother don't listen to the empty hateful words of dumpsters see how you can better yourself see how you can fight they hate you because they put you in the same category as the thugs and hoodlums they have been run through by and left in the dirt because they never loved her
Yeah, be careful about that. I’m 5’2, and some “blackpill” guys were basically trying to get me to give up on life Having already been down a similar rabbit hole, I didn’t wanna go down there again
When you are older no one wants to hear about your problems. Men, women it really doesn't matter. It's almost impossible making deep connections in a society where everything is replaceable and disposable. This includes people. The world changed . I am 52 and I watched it happen. Life before cell phones and internet was simple. No perfect but real.
I am sorry to hear that you feel like that. I am not as experienced as your life path has been and I can't speak to even imagining what life may have been like before the digital age. Indeed, I can't even speak to what sort of challenges you must be facing now to be in the situation that you are in right now. But I can relate to that feeling that no one can or wants to connect with you and I am sorry that you have been experiencing that. It's not fair how much the world has become obsessed with self image and feeling that they need to impress others or that others must come to them on their terms and I hope they you will find ways around that as you continue through life. I personally believe that technology has been a blessing as much as it has been a curse and I am certain that with the right methods, you will find that connection that you refer to again. I am confident that with time you will get someone's ear again. You've made it this far so clearly you're doing something right. 🙂
@bicyclecult I'm 46. Remember when a woman giving you her phone number meant she wanted you to call her? Now women just throw your number on the stack of the other 50 guys' phone numbers she's never going to respond to.
You've reminded me of the new model no 15 song. "Lifeless and posable, hopeless and disposable" That song really reminds me of what you're saying and it's probably true. Weird that the world sometimes ages to fit our art
Pointing out that women also experience loneliness is misleading because men don't have the same support system that women have. Any argument that is equivalent to "well, the other side has problems too" is both completely missing the point and showing a lack of empathy.
iirc Nora Vincent, a radical female feminist, tried to go undercover as a man to study the "male privilege," and all she got was a newfound hate for her fellow women and enough mental scars to make a book about it. Her getting first hand experience of the average Joe caused her to develop depression and chose to self delete several years later.
Nora Vincent tried to go undercover as a man to study the "male privilege." Her first hand experience as the average Joe gave her severe depression and she chose to self delete several years later.
Isn't it ironic that a channel dedicated to psychology didn't even notice this happening, and even had to be told to cover it after literally doing the women's video first? You can't make this s**t up.
Their male bio robots are breaking down and civilization is malfunctioning. They're affected, so they've FINALLY started giving a crap. Without men to build, administer and manage everything, without men to produce goods and gather resources, without men to explore the furthest reaches and protect everyone, THERE IS *NO* CIVILIZATION. *Now* they care. 😂
What friends? I have none. What brother? He attacked me with a knife. What father? I have never had a good relationship with him my entire life. What partner? Never been able to develop a romantic life. My life is in shambles. I am more than lonely, I am unwanted. Some people worry about a fear of missing out, I already missed out on a life I was present for.
What men want: 1) To be treated like we matter. 2) To not be treated like a criminal or dangerous animal. I feel like we can deal with everything else, but if we don't have those things, what's the point?
@@Durdch11540 Yes they do. Every day. If you don't know how it feels to be treated as potential threat or a bad smell as a man you're very lucky or maybe too introverted to notice it
@@Durdch11540 I'm glad no one harassed you for being a man, I hope no one ever does. Many of us don't have that priviledge, specially if you happen to look "rough". People cross the street to avoid us, girls assume we mean to hurt them. In almost any social setting a girl walking into the room is seen as good thing, a man though is always someone to watch out for until he earns your trust. It's just how things work
And to be honest if you want to,hit the phone chat line..It's mostly lonely women looking for something serious.Its not like these dating apps or social media
@@youtubetest2233I as a girl, I’m sure you will find one. I’m not so old I’m only 16 but I know that you will eventually find the one 😊 I hope it goes well for you !!✨🥹
Went through a break up recently. Realised some of my "friends" and work colleagues reached out to her and some talked crap about me. This has led to prolonged feelings of distrust and cynicism, which has led to loneliness, depression, and intense feelings of hatred. As a result, I've been isolating myself even more than normal. I think some people have noticed a shift in my behaviour, but I don't care. Nobody deserves to know how I feel because I believe they'll use it against me. I hope 2025 is a better year than this. Stay strong, fellas.
You can't even go online anymore without seeing one comment saying how much they hate/blame men. It really hurts to see. I get we're not perfect, but there's a disturbing vitriol and generalization towards males.
Well, why do you listen to these comments? Im sorry, but if you take the opinions of random losers online that close to heart, then the problem might be yourself. A few bad individuals you saw online doesnt mean the west has fallen.
The thing about those people is they have been ran though by the most toxic bad boys and left in the dirt now they blame everyone but themselves for what happened they are just bitter old fools
The important thing is to take heart. Women, especially now in the US, are upset that the world continues to disappoint them, disgrard their autonomy for all the progress thats been made theres, unfortunately, a very, VERY, vocal population that wants to and has the influence to take things back. It will not be easy at first, but so long as you remember and stay true to yourself, know in your own mind that you arent the vile kind of man they rightfully rebuke, then know theu arent speaking to you. Realistically, these folks who have hatred in men are hurting. By understanding they are, it helps make sense of things. Rise above these people, treat others with dignity and respect. And you will nurture your own.
@@elgordo2162 excuse me if this question sounds dumb, but if women in the US are so disappointed with the election results, why was the voter turnout so abysmal for the democrats compared to last time? Trump got the same amount of votes as in the last one, so thats what im a little confused about.
Remember: being lonely and being alone are different. a person can be by themselves and feel amazing, or be surrounded by friends and feel terrible. Edit: The kid in the replies saying that everyone else is rage baiting is a vampire, they've never seen themself in a mirror.
@-Burningzilla_YT- no,being alone is having no one close to you,it's something physical, while being lonely is FEELING alone,it's not physical,thats basic grammar,being lonely is not feeling understood,while being alone is being alone in a room,one can be lonely and alone or have people around them but one who is alone can't not have people around them
I can honestly say I've been in a group of people and felt totally alone and uncomfortable, just to come home later, hop on the couch and hold my dog for 45 mins and feel better than I did the entire time... and then consciously choosing to not go to group gatherings just to feel like I belong, because that's never the answer.
As a man, I would say I'm quite lonely. I have a friend but we don't like the same things anymore really. It's kinda sad. Guys, I am just editing to say, stop being sexist in the replies. It's horrible.
I hear you-it’s tough when friendships drift, especially when you’ve shared a lot in the past. It’s like watching something that once felt really solid start to fade. But the fact that you’re reflecting on it shows you care, and that’s a sign of growth. Sometimes these changes in connections open space for new ones, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. It’s okay to feel sad about it-it’s part of navigating relationships, especially when they shift.
@@Psych2gothank you for telling me this. You're the only I can really be ok with w a tching without having to deal with a bad fandom or something these days.
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm female. I desire a connection with a man. But every time I try I get so much disrespect towards my gender that I feel like the connection is superficial and I am just getting played for intimacy.
@ I'm sorry to hear that. That must be very tough, I hope people that are like that will learn not to do stuff like that, it can and will a lot of the time Hirst someone a lot.
A good tip I gave a friend of mine who was passing through the same or similar to you was to meet new friends. He was placing all of his expectations on a group of friends to satisfy, when he gave himself the chance to open up and share his likings with others he felt more complete and had more connections than before. Good luck on your journey man
As a 25 year old man, the feelings of loneliness i experienced mainly came from the fact I've been single my entire life, but then one day i realized there's more to life then looking for a girlfriend and now being single is all i know and im happier this way then i was when i was looking for a girlfriend.
Dude, I can 100% RELATE to you. I have never had a girlfriend either, and I am almost an adult. I too have realized that searching for girls isn't worth all the hype.
Dude, I'm also 25, and I happen to be on the exact same boat as you. Never had a GF, or any kind of relationship. But, at this point, I don't even care. I got other things I need to get in order before I even try to get one.
Just to cheer you up guys, I even had relationships (and also chances for one) and this sh- scarred me for life. Being psycho, being racist. All that covered in "ms nice girl" facade. I should've known better, that it isn't a solution. Believe me when I say, you guys do the right thing.
Honestly you guys aren't missing much, I'm 39 and have been in several relationships, Honestly I felt the loneliness when I was in a relationship, modern woman don't know how to be ladies anymore. 5 years ago I took a break from dating brought an awesome gaming PC and never looked back. For all of you thinking a GF will solve your loneliness problem, think again. I suggest making male friends you can game with, watch sports with just hang out. Also don't forget your parents they won't be around forever. Guys just learn to love yourself, that's all that really matters.
Just look at google in mens day. they didnt even made a custom icon for mens day, but they made for womens day. Women have no idea of how lonely would be a men's life.
Who else saw the video title and just felt reluctance to watch it. Like you had no hope that this problem could be addressed but despite that you decided to click and here we are.
The first 75% of the video just reminded me of all the reasons my life sucks and made me feel bad. When they finally gave advice, it felt like throwaway lip service. Blip blap bloop, here's a Band-Aid for the holes in your heart and the world that is still conspiring against you. Feel better, chap! I feel like a clown asked why I was frowning and then squirted me in the face with water from a lapel flower.
OHHH HELL YEAHH IT WAS WHO? WHOO? ME MF ME AKSHSBDTHTHHRRRRHDHFJDJAAAA (i really need to calm down and touch grass...and at least watch it instead of reading the comments 😐)
As an introvert, I don’t mind being alone, but I am very lonely. The few people I do have in my life encourage me to go out and meet new people. The problem I face is that everyone I meet seems toxic and in the past, I have been repeatedly hurt by those people. So why would I engage with a society that is toxic and determined to hurt me?
I feel you chief, that’s the hard part. It’s like a loop, something i suffer from with many things, you finally decide to come out of your shell to try to meet someone new, despite being scared of them being toxic or hurtful, said person ends being toxic or hurtful, further reaffirming your fear and making it harder to meet someone new the next time, repeating over and over again until the doubt paralyzes you. I wish you the best buddy.
You are keeping yourself self safe which is good. If you want i suggest trying to find some support groups centered around mental health. Or you can really express how you feel to your friends. Since so many people are lonely nowadays I'm sure someone would be happy that you shared this with them.
I feel your pain, I have never been good at making friends. I’m quiet and keep myself to myself who struggles to trust people. I also have a disability which restricts how much I can get out. I have never felt like I fit in, like I’m somehow broken. I need friends but, lack the know how to do it. It really hurts.
Women: “Why are men so closed off emotionally?” Also Women: “That thing you’re emotional about isn’t valid and I’m going to lose respect and/or attraction to you as a result.”
@@michajastrzebski4383 A recent one I saw was a guy talking about a wire spool he bought decades ago and realizing it’s almost gone, and resized how much time has passed in his life. And all his wife focused on was the hat he was wearing.
28 years! I always felt alone, no matter where I go. Sometimes, even I'm lonely around my family. I'm different, always have been. Never been part of a crowd, always single and been friendless for the longest time. To others, I always feel invisible, unheard, worthless, unimportant and... just overall disliked. I feel one of the real reasons why I struggle mentally was because of my endless loneliness. It just really hurts not having anybody by my side.
I get how you feel. Loneliness sucks, especially when it feels like you’re always on your own, even when you’re around people. It’s tough when you feel invisible and like no one gets you. But, honestly, that doesn’t mean you're worthless or unimportant. Sometimes life just kinda feels like that, and it hits harder when you're already struggling. You're not alone in feeling this way, even if it seems like it. Things can change, and you can find people who truly get you. Just takes time.
As a Korean American male, I faced a lot of pressure growing up to be perfect and never showing weakness or making mistakes. This type of pressure often came from within my own community, where I was bullied by other Koreans and Korean Americans for not conforming to certain expectations. The constant criticism and judgment led me to feel incredibly lonely and isolated, as if I didn’t belong anywhere. It’s a painful reality that many of us face, and to this day I often question my self-worth, like I am a failed Korean and that I don’t belong on this earth. Lately I have been speaking with crisis counselors about this, oftentimes as I contemplate whether I should take my own life at this point.
Please dont im sorry youve been alienated by your own people perhaps you can move and meet people less judgemental and more accepting of who you are wish you the best friend :)
Hello, i am a Spanish speaker so my English is bad, actually I am here to read words and phrases, but I want to tell you that you can do many things to be better, you can make friends and talk with them about your problems or try to change the way that you see yourself, you don't have to reach the standard's of other people to be happy. You should be happy and proud with what you are achieving.
I do not have the exact same experiences as you but I have always had to be the perfect son, student, musician, friend, etc. People all over the world can feel like failures. I hope that the counseling can help you
Hey. Please don’t take your own life. Not only will it make your pain worse, but it will also hurt everyone around you, including the people that love you
For the lonely guys out there, I'll just second what's being said here at the end especially. I'm 42, male, and I just came out of 2 decades of deep, dark depression and Passive SI (occasionally dipping into Active). First, get outside. Seriously. Get sunlight, in your eyes and on your skin. Doesn't have to be for super long, and take care not to overexpose yourself, but that stuff matters. Tend to your hygiene. Eat good/healthy food at least once a day, or as much as you can manage/afford. Junk food and high carb stuff makes it worse. EXERCISE. For real. Even if it's just a little bit at first. I had a hard time because of injuries, but I went for short walks, then longer ones. I'm doing 3-5 miles a day, 5 days a week, working out 3 day a week. It has made a WORLD of difference in my mood and mentality. Learn about your childhood wounds and the damage they do. I've discovered I was suffering from symptoms of Complex PTSD, Anxious Attachment and some other things that come from the development period between birth and toddler. They can be improved, if not outright fixed, but it takes effort, knowledge and often, someone to talk to. Maybe see a therapist or counselor. Or a religious leader, trusted friend, parent, whoever you feel safe doing that with. Don't hold everything in. Emotions don't go away when you suppress them, they just come out in other ways that hurt you, make things worse, or hurt others you care about. I've also found breathing techniques like Box Breathing, 4-2-6-2 breathing really help me get grounded when I feel overwhelmed. Mindfulness and breath meditation pretty regularly, along with some emotion and gratitude journaling have also helped tremendously. Hopefully someone finds at least one of these to be helpful. I still haven't fixed everything, or found the woman I want to be with, but that's the beauty of it. As long as I'm still here, it's not too late. I'll end with a slightly out-of-context quote from one of my favorite book series (Wheel of Time) that I've adapted for my own meaning against my struggles with SI and depression: "Almost dead yesterday, maybe dead tomorrow. But alive, gloriously alive today!" Don't give up, guys.
The only thing that has been saving me from male loneliness is making music, skateboarding, family, and last but not least… this TH-cam channel. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Well sir continue to fight the good fight. One thing to think positive about in that is that you still have some family to talk to. Some of us don't even have parents or family members we can trust. Mine tried telling me I was a failure. That was not exactly the most useful and uplifting thing to hear. I rarely talk to them now.
@@biblesforbreakfast I don’t mean to come off as dramatic… but staying creative making music and being active skateboarding is pretty much the only reason I’m still alive and have any desire to live. If you dig through my TH-cam channel and listen to what I’m saying in my music… you’ll understand lol I’m confident. Specifically my song/music video “Anymore” will give you a good insight into my mind and circumstance. Also, getting along with my family is more of a recent thing, and I’m still learning how to utilize and be grateful for them in my life now. I did something absolutely wild a few months ago that nearly killed me… but strangely enough, brought me closer to my family and sobered me up for good. To live life to the fullest AND be grateful for every positive/negative experience is something that I’ve learned to do through deep loneliness. It isn’t easy… but I believe everybody is capable of this. Man or woman, any other belief in that has to be limiting in some way. Much love to you and everyone else who might stumble upon and read all this mess. We got this.
It’s hard for men to even make friends with other men. It’s all about: “How can you be useful to me.” “My time is valuable, you should consider yourself lucky I’m spending time with you”
@@Noobtuber251 Women aren't like that with each other, despite capitalism. This is a problem with masculinity, not capitalism. Y'all see all relationships as transactional.
@@faethe000 Beacuse women don't do the same thing................ 85% of divorces are iniated by women, but its masculinity again. If men don't provide either protection or finances, they aren't relationship material right? Man those blinders are tight.
It's not a men's problem but human in general. Humans are egoistical creatures from nature, that's why we have to adapt and accept each other so both can profit from eachother. It sounds harsh but this is one way to get to meet people and actually keep them as friends.
Psychology is made to make you stay longer and pay more not really cure you in the long run some actually try their best while others just want to take more money from you it's the way of the world
And when we finally admit our loneliness and issues we get laughed at and told to suck it up. And when we suck it up and stay quiet, people wonder why we dont open up. We can only really confide in our closest friends, and we have precious few of those.
I have just turned 32 and feel so lonely that the frustration, confusion, and anger that I feel towards the world is indescribable. It feels like I have been betrayed by life.
"Men competing with other men in a competition that women dont even realize they're judging." Thats the realest snapshot of socio-gender dynamics that I've heard in a long time! Great work Psych2Go team!!!
@@rw5622 Reread the comment. It's women that supposedly "don't realize that they are judging". The person you responded to is stating that women do, in fact, realize they are judging the competition.
I cryed watching this, especially after going online and reading about all the hatred revolving around International Men's Day. Also, from my personal experience; self improvement only goes so far, it doesn't necessarily ease the pain or solve the problem. Been doing that half my life.
Same, I self improved to where I now have a job, wife, kids, I built a house for all of us...I am doing fine on paper but nothing actually helps the loneliness. Can't think of a single time I have ever felt actually "happy" or like I have a community or at least am not completely isolated from the rest of the world that seems to just do things effortlessly. Self improvement isn't a scam, it really can fix many issues, but it is not the one big solution to loneliness, and in my experience it didn't help at all. Arguably made it worse. Also, Gaara as your icon makes so much sense in that comment I love it lol
@@BlumpkinSpiceLatte Sorry to read that! It's a bit hard to believe how far someone can get without ever becoming really happy or stop feeling lonely. The 5th Kazekage wishes you all the best, bro!
@@niarudle if anyone knows loneliness it's you, Mr Kazekage. I hope you get freed from the iron sand thing you're sealed in without Ryu eating you 😬 God, I love the internet
Yall might be interested in the purpose for the prodigal podcast. It focuses on men’s current struggles and has male guests come on to discuss this topic. It’s on TH-cam: m.youtube.com/@PurposeForTheProdigal/videos
The disclaimer killed any delivery or impact this video would have had, can't even discuss men's issues without it being belittled or triggering others, pretty disappointed in Psych2Go for that
probably more, why ever this is required these days, people are mentally ill is that why? But isn't that handholding and extra carefulness making it worse? It's so stupid
@@rail7646 it is. People got too comfortable with promoting softness. Then they go out into the real world and endlessly suffer and make the internet even less free.
It's that fear of Twitter users high on the Dunning Krueger effect with 4 followers who always wake up and decide they would spread hate for no reason.
@Hobinyoo9594 nobody knows it is a thing. I only found out myself yesterday that was a thing. Does it really matter though? It did not feel different than every other day.
If a man feels lonely it's not because he is lonely. It's because he has no purpose in life. Male Loneliness is really a symptom of male purposelessness. That's what i think. Actually i think a lot of people can't just live they need something to live for. That's why the manosphere got so much traction, because it gave those men a direction and a goal.
Hey,as a girl,just wanna say that there is a purpose,a reason why God created you,just do what you are good at,or something that makes you happy,like a hobby,or maybe if you can,turn your hobby into a life career,there are reasons to live,man or woman,regardless of gender,supposed human life is challenging,so stay optimistic,and spend time with the people you love!
@@DexLuceira to be honest your advice is wishy washy and not very helpful. unfortunately life is just unfair like that, most people don't get their dream jobs, most people have to be content with what they have or suffer knowing they could've gotten more but honestly there's nothing wrong with looking at your lot in life and saying "yeah, this is good enough" as long as your content with it
@@connorbutters8479 i feel bad for you,just tryna do the best i can,hope things get better,my life is also unfair too to be honest,thats what people usually tell me
I recommend hiking or something solitary for a bit. It dragged me out of a depression I didn't even know I had. Gotta ease your way back to the environment, so to speak. Then do it with a group, small confidence cause you've done it yourself. It's not just me saying that, but shrinks and tons of med research about exposure to get back to baseline with interacting with others.
@jeffreychandler8418 yes exactly before few days my mother smashed a groom into my back and to distribute the force as possible I put my hand back and as a result of which the groom backed into my forearm and I got dark red Bruise. In my 18 years of life my parents has the most contribution in damaging my mental sanity.
I turned 30 last month and both my siblings are getting married next year while I haven’t gotten to experience a connection with anyone You hit the nail on the head my school days completely screwed me up I’ve never recovered
Similar story here. Everyone I know is married or in a relationship already. In school we were all shoved into rooms with each other for eight hours a day. Now we have freedom of association!... and the absence of human contact that comes with it.
I share the same story u do, but I develop enough skill to start a conversation with people anywhere I go. None of us get lucky with meeting someone in highschool or college, or even if we do meet someone, they end up being toxic for us. But society hasn't put in enough effort to help those outside of those environments to help find love easily. We have apps where ppl choose for shallow reasons, dating events that want you to consistently pay to get at least 1 connection while incentivizing a lack of companionship, a shit ton of dating advice that borders on encouraging toxic dynamics that are akin to transactional relationships, and social circles and communities that are very politically polarized to the point of alienation. It's a fucked up world out there that needs careful thought and deliberate action to navigate it well and find a place you can call your home. Until a better solution comes along, that's where we've come to.
I have been behind on life for years. Both my siblings have a girl/boyfriend, while i cant even look women in the eyes. If im doomed to rot up in loneliness, so be it. Thats what i apparantely deserve.
Homelessness and joblessness is especially a major factor. I’ve lost friends as a result of their living situation worsening to the point where they became too dependent and time consuming for others to deal with. Desperation due to economic pressures blows…
Went on Twitter and searched "Male Loneliness". I scrolled for just a few seconds and I was legit almost in tears. People saying that it's your own fault, making you feel like you're a bad person for being lonely or just saying the women got it harder. We can't even be sad without being hated and it's just frustrating.
Thanks for talking about men too! As a girl im proud of that,most of the people talks about women only,and this is sad and makes me angry. For me men and women are at the same level,men aren't only strong and don't need help,men are like women,strong but sometimes needs help.
This video was hard to watch for me. I’m 35 sitting at home alone wishing to have a romantic relationship, but due to low self esteem, I was and continue to be unable to find a partner, even outright rejecting the very few chances I had, fearing I would not be good enough or simply not having feelings towards the other person. I tried online dating but no matter what I did I was only greeted with silence. I do not blame the other person for that, since I understand that online dating for females is just a constant bombardment of messages, but I do wish I would at least get a “no” or a “sorry”. It’s just so heartbreaking to be ignored outright. The sad thing is, I recently found a community I like and care for. I found lots of dear friends and the accomplishments I made greatly boosted my self confidence, but I fear that it is too little, too late and I’m way past the age where finding love would be possible for me.
Lol, I love the cold apathy of this world. It's time to adapt and be always ready for the worst. Did you really expect some good and genuine relationship on this planet? Funny, I thought that I was only one. This world is freaky isn't it?
@@lukascisar6740 I mean, if you believe that, I believe that, this guy believes it too, maybe its not that hopeless anymore? There are people who can and want to care. I'm certain there are woman who feel like that too. Finding them is pure luck tho, it seems.
@@lukascisar6740 I just dont want to give up and join the cynics anyway. I mean, I kinda already did long time ago, but then I though... What do I even gain from that? I just put on a mask, pretended everything was just as it should be, and laughed on those fools who still struggled for no reason, instead of just accepting this cold reality. They just cant "adapt and be ready" And why? Whats worst that can even happen, that I must be ready for? Will I die? I'll die anyway, ready or not. Cold apathy awaits us all in the end - there is no escape. Might as well keep some warmth while it lasts, for myself and for others.
As a male, I try to chat with friends new and old, but my conversations get dropped rather quickly. It doesn't feel good to feel like a lesser priority.
What breaks my heart is the rise in hatred or bitterness towards us because of this, and even there are a rare few who laugh or wish us to die or encourage the unalive rate of men. All My life I wanted to believe in humanity, but I feel social media and the dependency on internet has corrupted or twisted society, it's not everyone of course, there are genuine gems who know better both men and women. but for an alarming bunch theres a real problem.
I’m 24 years old. I’m single and I have no friends. I want to have friends but the people I work with and the people I have familiarised myself with presently terrify me. I don’t know whether it’s because I’m vastly different from other people or if people are just mean but all I want is to be seen, loved and happy
It’s always hard to put yourself out there man. The way I was able to do it was go to somewhere mural like a fast food place or small restaurant casually. Then eventually one of you will talk and from there it can keep going or not. Choice is yours man this worked with me but everyone is different.
eh, not worth it to reach out. You reach out and they ignore you, neglect you, lie to you. Just find peace in yourself and never get your hopes up tbh. Wait for someone to give a shit about you. That's the only reliable option
@jeffreychandler8418 Imo you cant really expect people to care if you dont reach out. Some of wat you said I so agree with but Id say reach while still being cautious and careful
As it as a neurodiverse person with weak social skills in my youth, I can attest that while high school in college were great places to SEE girls, they were far from the best places to meet them, much less to start relationships. The entire atmosphere of our schools is completely poisonous. Sadly, that puts us late bloomers at a disadvantage, because by the time we finally gotten our feet under us, and gotten our heads together, there either seems to be no one around, or they’re too young..
Celibacy is legit a solution to this. Sometimes it's easier AND more practical to accept that you have missed the train, and to move on. YES, it's painful. YES, it svcks. YES, it's unfair. "Why me !?!", you cry. And I hear you. And I've often said the very same thing. But the fact of the matter is, it happened, it svcks, it hurts, but that's reality. Sometimes, some people miss the train, and the train is not coming back to pick you up. I'm not some Chad preaching from his ivory tower of plentiful s-ex - having. Just a mousey short introvert nerd trying to best cope with his situation. Accept that you have lost what you have lost, and don't bother howling at the moon anymore over something that you may have permanently lost. Accept your fate. But know that there is wiggle room in this fate of yours. And if you're mentally strong and smart, you can still have a decent life, a life worth a damn, even without having your s-exu-al / most of your social needs met. Get into Stoicism. I promise that it will help. Godspeed.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes Steve_porss1, I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
This is a great topic, but the constant qualifiers of “Oh btw the way, women feel loneliness too!” We know this already. You already did a video on it. It feels like whenever issues about men are talked about, there’s always that asterisk afterwards that slightly downplays those issues. And when it’s done in reverse about women’s issues and you say “men go through things too” you’re seen as belittling the experience of women by going what about this? Let’s have something that’s ours for once please. 😅
Female loneliness is mostly self-inflicted, free of external interference. Whereas male loneliness is mostly a biproduct of the society men reside in. So yes, male loneliness is a far greater issue than female loneliness, actually. And to pretend that it's not reeks of virtue-signaling.
We had male spaces, golf, gentlemans clubs, bars. Some better ones boy scouts, military. Now every place must include women. If there are women only spaces there should be some men only spaces? Plus the culture is insanely anti men and any grievances we have are disregarded and labeled as sexist or wimpy. So we leave, we depart and do our own things.
And who is part of the culture? It's men. Men are doing this to each other, women perpetuates it because men do. Start from yourself, try being more open and encourage your male friends to be open. Don't blame the society or the culture if you still have the same mindset.
@@Stella-yt6dp this is something a government glazer would say, blame men but not the specific people youre not allowed to piss off, such an old trick in the book. alot of males are catching up to this idea and we are sick of it any other male denying this is a simp and a glazer for conformity because theyve been conditioned to rely on the state for validation despite its abuse of power
@@Stella-yt6dpway to miss the entire point of the post. Those places listed WERE places where men opened up to each other. And they got taken over by women.
I could write a lecture on male loneliness and the deplorable state of dating in current society. They perpetuate each other and there are very few systems or reliable programs in place to amend these issues. We’ve come a long way in recent years to acknowledge mental issues but haven’t yet crossed the emotional issue barrier. Mental health is important to improve the self and understanding helps bridge gaps socially but until we start acknowledging the detrimental things in society that are causing issues with our individual emotional health, we will eventually destroy our social structure.
And why would any influential person fix it? More friends, dates, status for them if it's hard for others to even find opportunities to join / rejoin society
I have social anxiety and fears of being ignored, rejected, or taken advantage by women, because it has happened in my past several times. Life kind of feels bland, games don't seem as much fun anymore even with friends, and family is just there and not extremely helpful. I am in my mid 30's and I just feel in limbo. I have hobbies outside of work, but they don't really bring me much joy either. I am also usually too tired to exercise after work.
One thing I did is get rocks as a hobby. I use a dremmel and some bits to carve rocks. I'm not very good at it, but I think I'm getting better. It could be fun just to do something like that. It's something physical and tangible, it's something mostly low and mid skilled people can pick up on, and it's mostly cheap-ish.
I have that, too. I believe it's called learned helplessness. I have asked for love and help for what seems to be all the wrong places. Eventually, I got burnt out and shifted my focus on improving myself and not needing anyone.
I did the same, but then when I finally found someone that seemed to all be in the right places, all of my trauma came roaring back with a vengeance. Never enough for these people. I can only feel contempt for them.
Ill admit im pretty lonely most of the time, but i also have to admit a lot of it is my own doing. And so im stuck on this loop where i treasure my alone time but desperately want to share my moments with someone. But life is long and very strange. You just walk your path and who knows? maybe someone will eventually tag along.
This is my duality as well. I find it hard to relate to ppl and visa versa, so I ended up just getting used to being a loner. Yet still I find myself craving a partner and ppl who understand me. Worst thing is is that people do try to get to know me, but as mentioned before, the lack of common interests prevents me truly making any connections and I feel worse
Could be unresolved trauma. If you find yourself repeating this cycle that you don't want to be stuck in, think about what you could do differently? And try to pinpoint the triggers and the causes, which keep you in this cycle and work on them. Humans act more subconsciously, rather than conscious, so your dissatisfaction could be resolved by doing inner work
It's funny how women are telling men to 'open up', but once you open up to them for real they start avoiding you and acting weirdly towards you. I feel like that's what years of being brainwashed into thinking lonely men are unstable or predators does, and it's sad because it's hurting everyone
I often hear lots of other guys around me complain about drama and things that are happening with their relationships and it makes me feel even more alone because I've never had a romantic partner in my life. If they ever want to talk to me about their relationship issues, I would be like. At least you have a relationship, I'd kill to have the issues you have, I would fix it instantly.
You are actually much better off than they are. You just don't know it. Forget about finding a girlfriend, focus on your hobbies, and go enjoy your life in peace and quiet.
@ I think that mostly because of years of jealousy of the other guys. They would always flex that they have a hot girlfriend and they even flex that they have backup girlfriends just in case and even these kids flexing that they already lost their v-card. Or just the way they talk about girls and their relationships makes me very jealous. But you're probably right.
@@artawhirler yeah, I probably should just focus on my own stuff because that will make me happier. I just don't want to hear another story from those guys on how they went to a party and did the deed for a 7th time while we are still in high school. It's awkward when they ask about my experiences and all I can say is that I haven't lost my v-card yet
"I would fix it instantly." Oh you sweet summer child. Relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. Being in a relationship just to be in a relationship is a bad deal.
@SpeedCap_draws The best thing about losing your V-card is realizing how stupid it was to worry about it. Losing it does nearly nothing for you. Also, hookups are lame and are for degenerate STD collectors.
The rise of male loneliness is a growing concern that many people overlook. Men often face societal pressure to be strong and independent, which can make it harder for them to open up about their emotions. This leads to isolation and a lack of meaningful connections. It's important to challenge these stereotypes and create spaces where men can express themselves and build stronger support networks.
Their inability to communicate how they feel can also end up hurting innocent people,permanently (mentally and/or physically) and that’s just not ok. At what point do you take responsibility for how you treat others without having to point out “BUT YOU ALSO DID” or “THIS APPLIES TO WOMEN AS WELL”. Not even trying to be mean. I understand that men have it rough but at some point,you’re responsible for how you choose to navigate the world. That goes for both genders.
Very good observation. Men deserve kindness and support. Whatever hardships you are dealing with, you have to believe that you are worthy enough to receive that. I'm glad there are so many people out there that recognize and empathize with that struggle.
@@peabody23"their inability to communicate how they feel" I don't know about that. A big issue we have is often we have nobody that listens. It's not an "inability" per say, but rather... that nobody cares, so they don't really talk about it. I agree about the whole communication thing though. Glad we promote mental awareness and start encouraging people to go to therapy more, so we all can heal and stop hurting others. And, traumas or not, we are indeed 100% responsible for how we show up and treat each others.
When People Offer Advice to Women: *Applause* When People Offer Advice to Men: "WhAt AbOuT WoMeN?!!" "We DoN't NeEd No MaN!" "wHaT aRe tHeY gOoD fOr?!" "Men just need to embrace their feminine side!" "(Censored) Men's feelings!" "🎵 Cry me a river 🎵" (amongst other memorable quotes across the years. 👍 The disclaimer for this vid is the cherry on top, DESPITE you doing a vid for females with no such disclaimer. We are that dismissed, if not despised.)
Additional thoughts. Looking at cultural messaging, there's one message I get sent my way no matter where I go; I'm expendable, because I'm a man. Also, I get hit with how I'm definitely evil based on my gender pretty often. It's often disguised behind a complaint allegedly targeted at specific men, but the disguise is very loose and easily recognized once you've seen it a few times. I spend a lot of my time immersing myself in environments that have a different narrative, and tend to be a bit stubborn. If I was the sort to internalize everything I repeatedly hear, I would believe that I was worthless, at fault for everything ever, and ought to spend the rest of my life atoning for my sins by solving other people's problems and expect nothing in return. That to say, if you say nothing when those around you are parroting "men are trash," don't be surprised when men toss themselves away.
You have some really concerning beliefs right here to unpack. It would be helpful to think about where these beliefs came from. The good news is that the stuff you are saying is absolutely 100% untrue. Which might give you some hope, but will probably mostly offend you. If you take the time to listen to the messages you might be surprised at what society actually says about men.
@@rw5622 LMFAO "100% untrue" meanwhile I have dealt with it myself where a woman allegedly "only targeting a specific kind of man" threw me in that bin despite behaviors that did not match with those specific men. If anything it's worse than this guy presents. You mention you have any mental health issue at all? nearly every woman will believe you want them to be their mommy, or that you're using it to manipulate them. You mention you get remotely any incling of any anger based emotion? she will view you as violent. You mention you're a virgin in your 20's 30's? she'll believe you're a sex fiend. It's anti reality all because of the decades of propaganda against men.
I've been trying to reach out to people I see regularly for the last year. No one wants anything to do with me, much less to hear about my problems. Even the people who claim to care aren't there to even listen. Self improvement only made me feel even more jaded that no one wants to be around me. Been trying this start small plan for about a year. No bites yet. People are polite but the message is clear. No one has time for a new friend. No one's interested.
Sometimes it feels like society blames men for being men. Which doesn't help. I completely gave up on the outside world because it seems like it wanted something out of me more than it wanted to help me.
Yesterday my coworker who's a thirty-something years old woman stopped me and told me that i was saying "I'm sorry, I'm ashamed", or that i was only interrupting the work and was not good enough. She told me that i was doing ok and that it didn't matter if i committed mistakes from time to time and that she would love to have 3 people like me helping around. I didn't noticed that i was saying those things or that my self-hatred was showing out that much for others to notice it. I felt a knot in my throat and just wanted to cry... I feel a cold in my chest, maybe I'm lonely.
I feel so defeated and depleted after writing it all out and having my comment disappeare. I see idiots downplaying the loneliness it in the comments and I can't even explain why they're wrong because it took an hour to type something that TH-cam erased in less time than an eye-blink. :(
Leave about the female not caring about male loneliness.. I have seen countless of men putting down men just because they show emotions or open up about themselves It's like you have only yourself in the end and you should just stick with that until the end
You’ve hit on something really deep-sometimes the biggest barriers to men opening up aren’t external but come from other men. That “toughen up” mentality can feel suffocating, as if vulnerability equals weakness. It’s a harsh reality, but the fact that you see this cycle means you’re already breaking it. Maybe it feels like you’re on your own sometimes, but even a small step toward finding people who value that openness can shift things. You deserve that space.
@@JACQUEZ23some women don’t care about men are lonely and some men don’t care that women are getting @bused and being treated wrongly in every country. It’s a shame really that it’s like this 😞
The whole "Men are the enemy" movement on social media has not only made men lonely, but turned men off of dating completely, making women who don't hate men lonely. Dating just isn't worth the agro for men anymore. The fact that this video has to 'skirt' around the issue so as not to trigger the female hit squad....speaks volume. The fact that women can ditch men, even divorce them without consequences, while the men have to pick up the pieces... our society is failing. Men are now disposable to women, so we just don't want the agro or the hurt anymore.
Movies about male loneliness.(in my opinion) 1. Joker 2. Taxi driver 3. Bladerunner 2049 4. Buffalo 66 5. Her 6. Marty 8. One hour photo 9. Beau is afraid 10. Lost in translation 11. The machinist 12. The 40 year old virgin 13. Lars and the real girl 14. The lobster 15. The graduate 16. He who got slapped 17. The man who laughs 18. The last American virgin 19. Chronicle 20. Donnie darko 21. Drive 22. The road 23. Castaway 24. The pianist 25. Manchester by the sea 26. Fight club 27. Fade to black 28. Maniac 29. Peeping Tom 30. The elephant man 31. Possum 32. The house that Jack built 33. Christine 34. The shining 35. Lost in translation 36. The king of comedy 37. Leaving Las Vegas 38. American beauty 39. Edward scissorhands 40. The lighthouse 41. Better off dead 42. Falling down 43. The cable guy 44. The fan 45. Jacob's ladder 46. Pi (1998) 47. The straight story 48. 1408 49. Control (2007) 50. Otis (2008) 51. 500 days of Summer 52. We need to talk about kevin 53. A long way down 54. Birdman 55. Nightcrawler 56. Whiplash 57. Zero day 58. Tfw no gf 59. Brain damage 60. Brothers (2009) 61. The gift 62. One flew over the cuckoos nest 63. A single man 64. It's a wonderful life 65. The perks of being a wallflower
"It's not women's responsibility to fix male loneliness " Ah, yes half the population shouldn't be expected to at least try to uplift the men in their communities. Awesome message "Men should find..." And that's the crux of it, people dehumanize men as a whole because of a handful of wastes of air, so they hand wave away men's issues to spite men who haven't done anything wrong yet so they don't have to help. That's how all this looks to me at least
It’s not women’s responsibility to make you feel fulfilled. No one owe you anything. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness. Pick yourself together.
@@Gmhfseyhb I just want humanity to come together and co-operative to help those in need. Imagine if I said something like; "Oh women are scared of being SA'd well it's not my problem, pull yourselves up by the bootstraps and do something about it ladies" But clearly you and what seems to be the majority of people are just selfish, apathetic shit stains. Disgusting
I’m a man, and let me tell you that making friends over the past 10-15 has been a massive uphill battle. It is SO FREAKING HARD. The problem is, most men in our culture just don’t prioritize friendships. They only prioritize sex or romantic ones which I think is highly destructive. I get so many people who flake or ghost me saying they’re “too busy” which I know isn’t true.
Exactly, even this video & the comments seems to be about men wanting romantic relationships. I honestly thought the issue on male loneliness was about the struggle of men finding friendships with OTHER men. So confused honestly. I just want to find guy friends personally
@ Yeah I was disappointed too when the video rehashed just the old boring talking point about modern online dating. Frankly I think it feeds into the same damaging stereotypes it prophets to be against.
I wish people would stop placing so much importance on dating and just live life. You come into this world alone and you leave this world alone. Being single and celibate is a gift and you have so much time to pour into yourself, your family, and your friends. Im talking about men and women. I am a single woman but I don't feel alone because I get love from family and friends. Pets are good too, they are so loyal. This sounds cliche but you really don't need a relationship to feel whole.
@@ghettogreenbeann Totally agree with you! Buy for me personally I’ve been good without friends and romantic relationships. I do have some family( to be honest my mom, dad, and siblings are the only ones it can trust). I also prioritize my goals over having friend or a girlfriend in my life. I know, selfish, but love drawing and making music over spending time with people or going to a club or whatever.
@Kenshiro_Miyazawa03 that is a good mindset. And pouring into yourself is never selfish, at the end of the day you know yourself better than everybody. I dont know what's making everybody today so worried about having a bf/gf. It doesn't mean you are undesirable or a loser. I wish people would realize that.
The internet has definitely made loneliness so much worse, especially when discussions about it on social media tend to devolve into discriminating against the lonely person
"you're never alone" Could you like not lie at least on a video describing extremely painful topic of male loneliness which is also a topic connected to suicides? Like seriously, have some humanity and respect, you're a human after all
@@mrwolf3939it’s literally because of men like you that don’t take accountability for your own gender. A male dominated world. other men seek validation from other men. Same men then teach their children from a young age that”boys don’t cry” so yall can’t express your feelings like normal people. Which leads to men coping in horrible ways or just becoming a terrible man. And before you try not all men but obviously a big part of yall for there to be an epidemic.
@@mrwolf3939the only one blaming is you. You don't even understand the conversation and somehow concluded that you are being blamed somehow. People here are being supportive of men and their struggles and somehow you misunderstood such a statement as blame. Sit down and listen before you jump to erroneous conclusions
@@toyotawitha20mm35sex is an objective characteristic. You can't identify as it. It's like a blonde person identifying as a brunette or a tall person as short. It's just not how it works.
@@melitajay They ain’t ready to hear that after how confusing the very topic of sex/gender has become over the years. Specially from a biological perspective.
“We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in.” Chaplin was right. We’ve made so many technologies to connect ourselves and yet we couldn’t be more divided. He said that in 1940 and yet his words still ring true to this day.
Just today finally broke down and cried like 3 hours in bed as I can't deal with the idea that I'll be alone for the rest of my life... Single 11 years now, 41 years old in 3 days and been struggling with anxiety/social anxiety the whole time trying to get better and... it's just not happening, at least fast enough. Now taking care of my 80 year old mother and once she passes, I kinda feel like I'll just grow old alone, no family or anything, as have even lost my friends due to this anxiety - while I know it doesn't make sense - making me afraid and too stressed to meet people and travel since all my friends moved to other cities. Some people think I have such a great life living off social security funds and staying home, but I swear this is just hell year by year my life just slipping by and not managing to build anything! I hate myself for not being able to live to all of the potential that I'd have if I was healthy... :(
Hi, its going to be hard but you will be there too. We always have ourselves, for what its worth. And the feelings are not anything too feel shame over... compassion fatigue can take many forms, it may be making things harder. But you can muster and in time and ways recover too, we all still have so much in life to discover. Surround yourself with uplifting moments, people,media if possible, wherever they are. No shame in cultivating beauty in our lives. Be well Friend
The main problem I see is that there aren’t a lot of places for people of similar interests to meet. Groups have become digitized, and there seems to be no where to go to find people face to face.
As a man on the autism spectrum in my early twenties, I have been pretty lonely my whole life. I did have friends, but only a very few, and I only ever spent time with them at school. But I don't find it all that bad. I'm very independent. I've never had a girlfriend, I don't plan on getting one anytime soon. I'm not ready for that yet. All in all, loneliness can affect anyone regardless of gender. My heart goes out to all who are having it hard because of it right now.
I'm right with you there bro, I'm also on the spectrum. 35 and have been single for most of them. I've seen my brother, cousins, and peers in relationships and wonder why I can't have the same. But having just got my license this year, I still can't drive very far. Add to the fact I'm unemployed, my last job drove me to burnout and today I feel like I'm at the end of my emotional rope.
I just found this video today, and then saw the female loneliness one as well. I feel bad for everyone dealing with this. Whoever is dealing with loneliness, please don't give up on yourselves or others. I don't have much more to say than that. I wish you all the best!
@@MGame0042 As a 15 year old girl ,i only felt relatable in one topic of the female loneliness,cuz mine is 80% male loneliness like no friends(only male friends,not females),rejected once(not that of big deal)and less ppl understand me
me at 30 years old, and if the world has shown me anything it's "no one cares, work harder, produce more, give more." your value as man is measured by how much you earn, how much you have, and how much you can give.
Being in a healthy relationship I am very happy with, I very much agree I used to feel lonely and unlovable. My heart goes out to anyone struggling with any sort of mental setback and I hope it gets better for all of you.
That's why they all go the merry-go-round everytime they feel a tingle. Most women are useless to real men. Not a single real man would want a woman whose been sleeping around. Let the simps have them. The simps are garbage eaters.
My standards: -not be a wh0re -not be fat -religious (optional) Female standards: -above 6 foot -100K monthly income -good-looking face -well-built -will buy her everything she wants -will go to work to earn a paycheck but will also be a father figure for the kids -6+ inches (you kno where) -assertive, yet letting her do whatever she wants -will take her on a fancy vacation whenever she wants
Ever since she cheated I’ve felt alone. She was really my everything and the only thing that was keeping me going. My friends don’t really care about me. I’ve been SA’d twice and no one close to me knows. When I tried telling them they either brushed it off or laughed. I’m lonely because I have no one around me who truly cares.
I'm sorry that you feel alone, man. It must be terrible to not only feel the pain of being taken advantage of, but also get abandoned when you need help. The people that don't care about your pain or abuse are not your friends. They are just peers. You deserve better, and you should do whatever it takes to find the right group of people.
We previously made a video on "The Rise of Female Loneliness." There were a lot of heartfelt responses that we are shedding light on a topic that's less talked about and sometimes stereotyped. There were requests for us to cover "The Rise of Male Loneliness." As promise, here it is. Today also marks International Men's Day.
International Men's Day, celebrated on November 19, is a global event that focuses on promoting positive male role models, celebrating men's contributions to society, and addressing issues faced by men. It's about encouraging conversations around mental health, gender equality, and breaking down stereotypes about masculinity.
The day aims to highlight six key pillars, including improving gender relations, promoting well-being, and recognizing the value men bring to families, workplaces, and communities. It’s not about competing with International Women’s Day but complementing it by encouraging mutual respect and understanding.
A man can have nobody around him accept his old lady and he's fine if a man chooses properly his old lady is all he needs why? Because we don't rely on other males it's ok to have male friends but not necessary a woman is necessary she provides ultimate companionship you can spend time with your best friend and have sex with that best friend you bond with a woman more deeply than another man because sex and a romantic love is far different than having a brother meaning friend and a woman sees a side of us that others don't see the bond with the right woman is superior to any other relationship in this context
I honestly had no idea the holiday existed until this comment. 😐
@@eugenekrabs3837 What you’re describing highlights the deep emotional and physical connection that can come with the right romantic partner. A healthy bond with someone who sees and accepts every side of you-flaws and all-can feel unmatched. That level of intimacy, trust, and companionship does hit differently compared to friendships. Still, it’s worth remembering that no single person, even the right partner, can meet *all* of our needs. A balanced life often thrives on different types of connections-romantic, platonic, or even personal independence. ❤
Surprised you guys actually acknowledged that it was today as 99% of people don't acknowledge or care about men or their issues, so thanks for posting this
Also I wanted to say I'm surprised that it was stated that male lonliness is being talked about alot as from my perspective, male lonliness is normally put down or treated as a joke and not talked about seriously unless in a toxic incel community.
@@Psych2go Male and female is balance the merging of both creates balance other relationships are secondary in the grand scheme of things
As a man, the world taught me "who cares?"
The correct answer is YOU DO, ok, YOU DO. I know this is corny, but I was watching an SNL skit where kilo Ren was an undercover boss and he said something about Rey becoming a jedi, one of the stormtroopers says, "who cares?" to which Kilo Ren walks up to the guys face and says, "I do, I do". Which metaphorically the stormtrooper is society and we, ourselves, should be Kilo Ren, Rey becoming a jedi is us bettering ourselves and if society says, who cares about your health, look them in the face and say I DO
That made me reflect that...who cares about the man too?
@@crissoliz16 dam, that's deep
I'm alright too brother!!
It never did.
Loneliness is that feeling when no one cares enough to ask how you’re really doing.
So, how are you doing?
@Wichnam I'm just afraid, afraid of what's to come in my life with trials such as this. I'm afraid nobody will care at some point and that once I'm not useful anymore I'll just be thrown away being no more than a thought. Afraid that if I show my true side, others will see me as weak and pathetic (when it's obviously not true)
@@Wichnam Almost ready to check out at this point.
@@OmniTarget13 Could you elaborate?
@@javanhernandez5690 And what if they see you as weak and pathethic? Why should that stop you from showcasing who you are or can be at times?... It takes strength, to showcase weakness that one else is trained to hide.
And should those who deny you because you dare to have the strength to break out and showcase you have that, then can you call those people friends?
Now we all struggle with our heritage. And we cannot all be a Musk, or a Trump, or any type of person of large status that has this legacy... But even they. In X amount of time, will be forgotten. Sounds harsh no? Because it is, but also. It isn't.
What matters is the NOW... the HERE... the what YOU do with the time you have left still.
And if that time you have left, you could make a person smile, or even have just a simple nice conversation. Isn't that worth more than some legacy?...
Because if you think on it, everything one does, leaves a legacy. Every item you bought, every gift you gave. It leaves a bit of yourself somewhere. (And yes, I am not a trained professional, nor am I super at english. All I ask and would say is: You are worthy. For how little time it may have been or is. Every creature on this planet is.)
Notice that even discussing a male problem requires a disclaimer.
this is the problem with society lol
The amount of disclaimers they had to put here really makes me mad
I get tired of the "men created this system" Im lonley and sad. The people who say that need to stop crying about there own problems.
This, and the fact that the top posts that I found about international men's day (which was yesterday btw) being about hating men _really_ puts into perspective why guys don't speak up about their issues. It's like you can't unconditionally uplift men in a positive way. Some people are already being hateful on here.... that's just sad
@@jayatlas9577then they expect me to support some activist cause lol. Nope.
The fact that this video HAS TO HAVE a disclaimer to not trigger *those* people about a problem with men (and it’s not bashing us) is… honest to god just incredible, this video is proof that we’re never getting anywhere with this issue
The fact that the issue is being brought up AT ALL has to mean something. It probably won't be fixed in the next decade, but progress is always slow.
It’s like rot on a log, by the time you notice it, that means the problem is already too late to solve. Lonely Millennial and gen z men can’t be helped, but we can hope Gen alpha will have it better, but that’s also unlikely
The need for a disclaimer IS the problem.
Seriously, apologising for being human. Women can GFYs
@@jackdeniston6150 they're all narcissists anyways.
Stfu, put down the phone, and go outside.
I've never had a friend talk to me first and ask how I'm doing. If I stopped engaging first, that would literally be the end of it.
Josh, I totally get you. Literally me in all of my friendships. Hey, wanna be friends? Maybe TH-cam might be a good place to meet people haha😂
Time to move on, leave your toxic place, I promise it's not the whole world like that. I wish someone had told me this fifty years ago. Maybe I wouldn't have had such a shit life, 😢
@alankuruvilla8939 The only thing I met on TH-cam is the Spanish Inquisition. Canceled every time I post anything 😢
yup. there has been one friend that actually engages with me like a human.
Everyone else is scum
The only ppl I call friends are those who message me as much as I message them, even if it's just sending memes and reels. At least they think about me 😂, by they I mean like two ppl
the fact that you have to put such an elaborate disclaimer at the start of the video is alarming. Not doing that would instantly get you tons of hate from people claiming you are a woman-hating incel.
@@ziggye3096 ah the legendary 'nice guys'. Fat neckbeard losers with no friends. Ye these creatures are too whiny.
@@ziggye3096 What kinda answer is that. If majority of women dont care to even have friendships with these men, dont be suprised they turn out as shit men. If every guy in school had a good woman friend, you would see much more good men and much less shit men. You created a problem and now you whine about being sick of it.
Of course men blame women. If all the men who dont have any friends would stop working, you would not have your civilization anymore.
Of course you will never understand, you are still a child
@@ziggye3096ah right, you wanted them to be alone AND happy about it. Just there when you want them, and only the rich ones, or attractive ones, the rest don’t matter right?
@@ziggye3096 your comment does not make any sense. He is talking about disclaimer women.
@@ziggye3096blame you..? Blame you for what? My failures? My shortcomings? My faults? No hun. You missed the point by a long shot.
We blame ourselves for not being good enough, and those who cant rise above just come crashing down....and no one cares about those who crashed and burned.
The reason men are lonely is because people lie to them all the time. Men are convinced they should open up about their feelings and emotions, but when they do, are told to be quiet, abandoned and discarded, or worse. Everything that is happening now is a response to that. If we want to fix the male loneliness problem, we can't keep treating men like garbage the moment they can't keep holding the world up like Atlas.
Lol who is lying to you? Women told you to stop being trash by you like to be trash
You can't even hold your own balls
@@aleksandrac9335 Mature response.
@@aleksandrac9335maybe you should take your own advice
😂😂😂😂
"Men struggle to express loneliness" more so that men have had there feelings ignored so many times that it's easier for them to just not try
More like males ignore everyone and they crie that noone care about them
@@aleksandrac9335wrong, try again
@@cooler_carpington you know that i'm not wrong. Males are selfish needy cry babies
@@aleksandrac9335actual hypocrite you are. Look in a mirror
@@aleksandrac9335we built this society for you, dipsh1t
I’m a veteran. I’ve felt like I’ve always been alone. Especially since some of my best friends are gone. I feel like the world left me behind and stuck where I am long ago.
❤
❤️🎀
I'm a veteran too. There's a lot of resources out there to help us both public and private. I used some of it myself and was able to move forward. I am not sure what types of help you need but you don't need to go through it alone. Stay strong brother
I’m truly sorry you’re feeling this way. Being a veteran comes with unique challenges, especially when it comes to loss and adjusting to a world that doesn’t always understand what you’ve been through. It’s hard to carry those memories and feel like life has moved on without you, but you’re not alone in this. There are people and communities who care and want to support you-you’ve already shown incredible strength by sharing how you feel. Please consider reaching out to a veterans' support group or someone who can listen and help. You deserve connection and understanding.
❤ Love to you hun, great recommendations in the comments! You don’t have to be alone! ❤
I am 42 years old. No friends. No social life. No partner. No home. No children. No legacy. But at least I have a job.
I live with my parents as they’re the only family I have left. I dread to think of the day when they’re both pass away. I don’t think at that point I’d want to live anymore. The loneliness will kill me.
You're fortunate to have your parents. I am estranged from mine. So when I've been alone, I've been *really* alone. As in, knowing if I had a heart attack or health problem one day, either I'd make it to the telephone in time to call an ambulance, or I would just drop dead on the spot and nobody would notice anything maybe for weeks or months when they came to investigate the smell. I've struggled to try to build connections, but it is very scary... it takes time to build trust with people, and feel confident they won't leave or betray you, and without a healthy family as a base to build from it often feels like stabs in the dark, opening up just to be crushed over and over again, pushing the same rock up the same hill forever like Sisyphus. But I think it's important to do all the same. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Same like you but I'm 30
@@Nihilanth1982 huh. Well,your life is shit and only you can change it
I also think the same
For what it's worth, I hope you won't actually kill yourself. I'm sure you deserve better than to end like that. I'm not judging you, I'm just saying you deserve better.
As a male I tell people how I feel, but they just turn around and tell me I'm being dramatic. I tend to slip in as jokes and it may be heard, but nobody truly listens.
Instead of closing yourself off emotionally, cut these people off of your life and distance yourself from them and from people who are like them.
Only allow people in your life which allow you to open up safely and are mature enough to understand your worries.
And keep working on your own happiness as well, this will automatically make you satisfied, less desperate for connections (you'll naturally enjoy your solitude more) and ambitious again. This will also attract healthy people who are similar
Facts
@levonne7469 I've spent a lot of time alone in life.
@@Nohhbody me too, but these things have helped me to keep healthy people in life and cut off the broken ones
Wow schit really?
Are they stupid?
(I'm serious... DAMNIT, I MEAN IT NO ASLUME JOKES!)
The fact theres a disclaimer speaks volumes of our society. God my own loneliness is morphing into hate over this planet.
I hope you feel better fren
The female loneliness video came first and also had a disclaimer. Guess what, women didn't complain like crybabies. I thought women were the emotional ones...
yep...
@@yhiontop it's probably because less women actually suffer from loneliness. 51% of the U.S is women with 49% are men. Which mens there are millions more women than men in the U.S. But at the same time millions more women are in relationships.
With a very large percentage of men being single despite there being far less men. That means only some men are in relationships with women and a lot of women are with other women, or multiple women are sharing a single man. While the majority of average men may not even get any attention let alone a relationship with a woman.
@@yhiontopNo the men actually have bigger hearts. Women just act more emotional towards situations like death or violence. Men have always secretly had softer hearts. Think about all the break up songs. Women loneliness is way less severe than men's due to the societal and psychological distractions of today. Wake up buddy.
"Disclaimer: This is not to say that only men experience loneliness and that women do not, nor to say one’s experience is worse than the other. The truth is, both men and women can struggle with loneliness, but the reasons and ways they experience it can vary. This video focuses on male loneliness, and we will cover female loneliness in another video. Also, the views expressed here are based on personal opinions and experiences and may not reflect everyone’s perspective. Please consider them as one viewpoint among many."
This. This is the problem: our society doesn't allow to talk about issues men face and what men needs without involving the needs and issues of women.
Notice that there was no such disclaimer on the female loneliness video a while back.
nah. I prefer it this way. The anger is building amongst the blokes; loneliness turn to fear, fear turn to denial, denial turn to anger, and what happens when anger succeeds? pfft, tomorrow is a good day, bruv. Every history written, is written by people who let their anger flourished upon the world. I'm excited to see that world.
Yep, this is an issue society does not want to fix either. And as such, I anticipate to see whether the consequences become lethal to warrant notice or if this is really how our species goes out.
Facts. The fact how we have to even put out disclaimers to address certain issues is sad
Literally the same disclaimer was on the female loneliness video as well? Gtfo with that "of course we're the only *true* victims here, because nobody focuses just on men!"
This is not a competition and the only thing guys like you do, is creating even less empathy for men, because of your ignorance and selfishness.
To all brothers that are facing this . Stay strong. Walk with your head high.
I've already given up friend but I appreciate the kind words.
Pretend everything's fine, got it.
I think you intended to be supportive, but you kind of missed the mark. 😁
Stacy
@@rikitikitavatiki It's not pretend things are fine, things get better. If it's hopeless it'll still get better. Shit won't be perfect but it will get better. I've had great troubles and things still got better and they will continue to get better. Just need to take one of the million steps you can take to make yourself feel better, make the world better, and to be happier.
Endure, even if there is no light on the horizon.
Growing up in the "All Men Are Dogs" era, and being told that I'm worthless and replaceable, for a good 20 years, not to mention being a 5'7" nerd, of course I'm alone. General consensus is that I deserve it, because I'm simply not good enough. A lonely man isn't a problem. If he doesn't simply do "better", it's all on him. Nobody really cares.
I feel for you because I'm right there with you. The gym helps. Walks in the park and just saying hello to people helps. It's difficult to imagine a different life, but it's possible to get.
You can get back out there. Hell, for me it was turning on my mic in public matches in overwatch and just trying to be positive toward my team.
yeah... even by women that are damn near the same as you, they are perfect little angels while you're invisible.
@@jeffreychandler8418womp womp
Women get special rewards while men special punishments women built this toxicity now they are reaping what they sow and blaming everyone else for what they have done brother don't listen to the empty hateful words of dumpsters see how you can better yourself see how you can fight they hate you because they put you in the same category as the thugs and hoodlums they have been run through by and left in the dirt because they never loved her
Yeah, be careful about that. I’m 5’2, and some “blackpill” guys were basically trying to get me to give up on life
Having already been down a similar rabbit hole, I didn’t wanna go down there again
the fact that male lonliness is such a taboo is insane.
Everytime I've seen it talked about theres tons of backlash, thank you for talking about this
When you are older no one wants to hear about your problems. Men, women it really doesn't matter. It's almost impossible making deep connections in a society where everything is replaceable and disposable. This includes people. The world changed . I am 52 and I watched it happen. Life before cell phones and internet was simple. No perfect but real.
I am sorry to hear that you feel like that. I am not as experienced as your life path has been and I can't speak to even imagining what life may have been like before the digital age. Indeed, I can't even speak to what sort of challenges you must be facing now to be in the situation that you are in right now.
But I can relate to that feeling that no one can or wants to connect with you and I am sorry that you have been experiencing that. It's not fair how much the world has become obsessed with self image and feeling that they need to impress others or that others must come to them on their terms and I hope they you will find ways around that as you continue through life.
I personally believe that technology has been a blessing as much as it has been a curse and I am certain that with the right methods, you will find that connection that you refer to again. I am confident that with time you will get someone's ear again. You've made it this far so clearly you're doing something right. 🙂
@bicyclecult I'm 46. Remember when a woman giving you her phone number meant she wanted you to call her? Now women just throw your number on the stack of the other 50 guys' phone numbers she's never going to respond to.
Was it really simple or You just didn't had any idea about others suffering?
Women are incentivesed to share their problems all the time? It's men who have this issue.
You've reminded me of the new model no 15 song.
"Lifeless and posable, hopeless and disposable"
That song really reminds me of what you're saying and it's probably true. Weird that the world sometimes ages to fit our art
Pointing out that women also experience loneliness is misleading because men don't have the same support system that women have. Any argument that is equivalent to "well, the other side has problems too" is both completely missing the point and showing a lack of empathy.
Real
Facts. Men’s problems ≠ Women’s problems
Men face emotional repression, conditioning and aren't allowed their full range of humanity since childhood.
Women most (or too) affected.
iirc Nora Vincent, a radical female feminist, tried to go undercover as a man to study the "male privilege," and all she got was a newfound hate for her fellow women and enough mental scars to make a book about it.
Her getting first hand experience of the average Joe caused her to develop depression and chose to self delete several years later.
Nora Vincent tried to go undercover as a man to study the "male privilege."
Her first hand experience as the average Joe gave her severe depression and she chose to self delete several years later.
This video is 3 years late, we all broke
Sadly true. Maybe in another life things were better. Or maybe this is always how things were gonna be.
Isn't it ironic that a channel dedicated to psychology didn't even notice this happening, and even had to be told to cover it after literally doing the women's video first? You can't make this s**t up.
Isn't it hilarious?
I think it is
Especially thee part when everyone learns that consequences don't care if u r innocent or not!
I was just going to say now they’re starting to give a shit after this has been going on?
Their male bio robots are breaking down and civilization is malfunctioning. They're affected, so they've FINALLY started giving a crap.
Without men to build, administer and manage everything, without men to produce goods and gather resources, without men to explore the furthest reaches and protect everyone, THERE IS *NO* CIVILIZATION.
*Now* they care. 😂
0:47 It's wild a disclaimer like that needs to be made so people won't start causing drama.
True. At least is took anyone who would out of the discussion.
Yeah…that disclaimer really annoyed me. Especially since they didn’t do it for the video on female loneliness.
We live in a gynocentric society after all.
@@Mr.WhatzitTooyaNot true, especially since we live under a patriarchy.
@@zypher9690because the females aren’t actually lonely at all
What friends? I have none. What brother? He attacked me with a knife. What father? I have never had a good relationship with him my entire life. What partner? Never been able to develop a romantic life. My life is in shambles. I am more than lonely, I am unwanted. Some people worry about a fear of missing out, I already missed out on a life I was present for.
and u deserved it dumb ass. LMAO
@@nkem3524 sorry?
@@nkem3524least obvious bait
@@lukascisar6740Revenge is bad don’t seek it.
It will be okay I promise, I relate with you too. It will be alright, keep going your gonna do incredible things
What men want: 1) To be treated like we matter. 2) To not be treated like a criminal or dangerous animal.
I feel like we can deal with everything else, but if we don't have those things, what's the point?
@@gamera5160 No one treats male like this :/
@@Durdch11540 Yes they do. Every day. If you don't know how it feels to be treated as potential threat or a bad smell as a man you're very lucky or maybe too introverted to notice it
@@gabrielhoelzle8476 no one ever harassed me because I am a man. And I never saw someone doing it. You watched too many dystopian films or whatever
@ so what?
@@Durdch11540 I'm glad no one harassed you for being a man, I hope no one ever does. Many of us don't have that priviledge, specially if you happen to look "rough". People cross the street to avoid us, girls assume we mean to hurt them. In almost any social setting a girl walking into the room is seen as good thing, a man though is always someone to watch out for until he earns your trust. It's just how things work
As a single father i have doubts that i will find someone who will accept me and my boy but that apart im extremely blessed and happy with my boy .
Bro. If you can find a chick that will take you two on, then shes legit
And to be honest if you want to,hit the phone chat line..It's mostly lonely women looking for something serious.Its not like these dating apps or social media
Much love to you all
@@youtubetest2233I as a girl, I’m sure you will find one. I’m not so old I’m only 16 but I know that you will eventually find the one 😊 I hope it goes well for you !!✨🥹
Don’t worry! You will find someone eventually ❤
Went through a break up recently. Realised some of my "friends" and work colleagues reached out to her and some talked crap about me. This has led to prolonged feelings of distrust and cynicism, which has led to loneliness, depression, and intense feelings of hatred.
As a result, I've been isolating myself even more than normal. I think some people have noticed a shift in my behaviour, but I don't care. Nobody deserves to know how I feel because I believe they'll use it against me.
I hope 2025 is a better year than this.
Stay strong, fellas.
Damn. That's rough. Get better soon, im rooting for you!
You can't even go online anymore without seeing one comment saying how much they hate/blame men. It really hurts to see. I get we're not perfect, but there's a disturbing vitriol and generalization towards males.
Well, why do you listen to these comments? Im sorry, but if you take the opinions of random losers online that close to heart, then the problem might be yourself. A few bad individuals you saw online doesnt mean the west has fallen.
The thing about those people is they have been ran though by the most toxic bad boys and left in the dirt now they blame everyone but themselves for what happened they are just bitter old fools
The important thing is to take heart. Women, especially now in the US, are upset that the world continues to disappoint them, disgrard their autonomy for all the progress thats been made theres, unfortunately, a very, VERY, vocal population that wants to and has the influence to take things back.
It will not be easy at first, but so long as you remember and stay true to yourself, know in your own mind that you arent the vile kind of man they rightfully rebuke, then know theu arent speaking to you. Realistically, these folks who have hatred in men are hurting. By understanding they are, it helps make sense of things.
Rise above these people, treat others with dignity and respect. And you will nurture your own.
Funnily enough, the people who were doing that are the reason why their side lost the election
@@elgordo2162 excuse me if this question sounds dumb, but if women in the US are so disappointed with the election results, why was the voter turnout so abysmal for the democrats compared to last time? Trump got the same amount of votes as in the last one, so thats what im a little confused about.
Remember: being lonely and being alone are different. a person can be by themselves and feel amazing, or be surrounded by friends and feel terrible.
Edit: The kid in the replies saying that everyone else is rage baiting is a vampire, they've never seen themself in a mirror.
lonely and alone is same,first example is both of these and the second example fits none of these
@-Burningzilla_YT- no,being alone is having no one close to you,it's something physical, while being lonely is FEELING alone,it's not physical,thats basic grammar,being lonely is not feeling understood,while being alone is being alone in a room,one can be lonely and alone or have people around them but one who is alone can't not have people around them
I can honestly say I've been in a group of people and felt totally alone and uncomfortable, just to come home later, hop on the couch and hold my dog for 45 mins and feel better than I did the entire time... and then consciously choosing to not go to group gatherings just to feel like I belong, because that's never the answer.
@@EleonorFerret-oc7zx crazy cope,they are the same
@@-Burningzilla_YT-wtf are you talking about
As a man, I would say I'm quite lonely. I have a friend but we don't like the same things anymore really. It's kinda sad.
Guys, I am just editing to say, stop being sexist in the replies. It's horrible.
I hear you-it’s tough when friendships drift, especially when you’ve shared a lot in the past. It’s like watching something that once felt really solid start to fade. But the fact that you’re reflecting on it shows you care, and that’s a sign of growth. Sometimes these changes in connections open space for new ones, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. It’s okay to feel sad about it-it’s part of navigating relationships, especially when they shift.
@@Psych2gothank you for telling me this. You're the only I can really be ok with w a tching without having to deal with a bad fandom or something these days.
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm female. I desire a connection with a man. But every time I try I get so much disrespect towards my gender that I feel like the connection is superficial and I am just getting played for intimacy.
@ I'm sorry to hear that. That must be very tough, I hope people that are like that will learn not to do stuff like that, it can and will a lot of the time Hirst someone a lot.
A good tip I gave a friend of mine who was passing through the same or similar to you was to meet new friends. He was placing all of his expectations on a group of friends to satisfy, when he gave himself the chance to open up and share his likings with others he felt more complete and had more connections than before. Good luck on your journey man
As a 25 year old man, the feelings of loneliness i experienced mainly came from the fact I've been single my entire life, but then one day i realized there's more to life then looking for a girlfriend and now being single is all i know and im happier this way then i was when i was looking for a girlfriend.
Dude, I can 100% RELATE to you. I have never had a girlfriend either, and I am almost an adult. I too have realized that searching for girls isn't worth all the hype.
Searching is counter-productive. The best way to meet women is surreptitiously. Meet girls through your interests, not crappy apps and the like.
Dude, I'm also 25, and I happen to be on the exact same boat as you. Never had a GF, or any kind of relationship. But, at this point, I don't even care. I got other things I need to get in order before I even try to get one.
Just to cheer you up guys, I even had relationships (and also chances for one) and this sh- scarred me for life. Being psycho, being racist. All that covered in "ms nice girl" facade. I should've known better, that it isn't a solution. Believe me when I say, you guys do the right thing.
Honestly you guys aren't missing much, I'm 39 and have been in several relationships, Honestly I felt the loneliness when I was in a relationship, modern woman don't know how to be ladies anymore.
5 years ago I took a break from dating brought an awesome gaming PC and never looked back.
For all of you thinking a GF will solve your loneliness problem, think again.
I suggest making male friends you can game with, watch sports with just hang out. Also don't forget your parents they won't be around forever.
Guys just learn to love yourself, that's all that really matters.
Just look at google in mens day. they didnt even made a custom icon for mens day, but they made for womens day. Women have no idea of how lonely would be a men's life.
we don’t care. stop whining like a little b!tçh
They never do it for international mens day
last year they did it for German Herren-/Vatertag (Fathersday)
also notice how suddenly theres this new "red shawl day" that just so happens to sit on international mens day....
Make one then
@@missandry2669 you sound exactly like Ken from the barbie movie, acting like patriarchy means you can just insert yourself into anything.
Who else saw the video title and just felt reluctance to watch it. Like you had no hope that this problem could be addressed but despite that you decided to click and here we are.
You and I both. This video screams "men are lonely, women most affected."
@@j8s0nz Very true. And lo and behold it's almost exactly that.
@@j8s0nzYes we are because of male violence and male entitlement !
The first 75% of the video just reminded me of all the reasons my life sucks and made me feel bad. When they finally gave advice, it felt like throwaway lip service. Blip blap bloop, here's a Band-Aid for the holes in your heart and the world that is still conspiring against you. Feel better, chap!
I feel like a clown asked why I was frowning and then squirted me in the face with water from a lapel flower.
OHHH HELL YEAHH IT WAS WHO? WHOO?
ME
MF ME
AKSHSBDTHTHHRRRRHDHFJDJAAAA
(i really need to calm down and touch grass...and at least watch it instead of reading the comments 😐)
As an introvert, I don’t mind being alone, but I am very lonely. The few people I do have in my life encourage me to go out and meet new people. The problem I face is that everyone I meet seems toxic and in the past, I have been repeatedly hurt by those people. So why would I engage with a society that is toxic and determined to hurt me?
I don't go out often. Too many sour faces and sour people 😢
I feel you chief, that’s the hard part. It’s like a loop, something i suffer from with many things, you finally decide to come out of your shell to try to meet someone new, despite being scared of them being toxic or hurtful, said person ends being toxic or hurtful, further reaffirming your fear and making it harder to meet someone new the next time, repeating over and over again until the doubt paralyzes you. I wish you the best buddy.
You are keeping yourself self safe which is good. If you want i suggest trying to find some support groups centered around mental health. Or you can really express how you feel to your friends. Since so many people are lonely nowadays I'm sure someone would be happy that you shared this with them.
Because humans are trash, so who really cares about us?
Nobody
I feel your pain, I have never been good at making friends. I’m quiet and keep myself to myself who struggles to trust people. I also have a disability which restricts how much I can get out. I have never felt like I fit in, like I’m somehow broken. I need friends but, lack the know how to do it. It really hurts.
Women: “Why are men so closed off emotionally?”
Also Women: “That thing you’re emotional about isn’t valid and I’m going to lose respect and/or attraction to you as a result.”
And they're usually the type to encourage you to express yourself, too. At the end of the day it's all about finding good and mature *people*
So it's women's fault. Got it.
alternativelly: "you are not valid for being emotional in a way I dont feel I think I like in you at this time".
@@michajastrzebski4383 A recent one I saw was a guy talking about a wire spool he bought decades ago and realizing it’s almost gone, and resized how much time has passed in his life.
And all his wife focused on was the hat he was wearing.
28 years! I always felt alone, no matter where I go. Sometimes, even I'm lonely around my family. I'm different, always have been. Never been part of a crowd, always single and been friendless for the longest time. To others, I always feel invisible, unheard, worthless, unimportant and... just overall disliked. I feel one of the real reasons why I struggle mentally was because of my endless loneliness. It just really hurts not having anybody by my side.
What can we do ?
I get how you feel. Loneliness sucks, especially when it feels like you’re always on your own, even when you’re around people. It’s tough when you feel invisible and like no one gets you. But, honestly, that doesn’t mean you're worthless or unimportant. Sometimes life just kinda feels like that, and it hits harder when you're already struggling. You're not alone in feeling this way, even if it seems like it. Things can change, and you can find people who truly get you. Just takes time.
Social anxiety is a common reason.
@@lil_per_vert I don't know, really. For me, I just like to do things to keep myself distracted.
@@InfINf-d1k that too, and yeah, you're right. Thanks.
As a Korean American male, I faced a lot of pressure growing up to be perfect and never showing weakness or making mistakes. This type of pressure often came from within my own community, where I was bullied by other Koreans and Korean Americans for not conforming to certain expectations. The constant criticism and judgment led me to feel incredibly lonely and isolated, as if I didn’t belong anywhere. It’s a painful reality that many of us face, and to this day I often question my self-worth, like I am a failed Korean and that I don’t belong on this earth. Lately I have been speaking with crisis counselors about this, oftentimes as I contemplate whether I should take my own life at this point.
Please dont im sorry youve been alienated by your own people perhaps you can move and meet people less judgemental and more accepting of who you are wish you the best friend :)
Hello, i am a Spanish speaker so my English is bad, actually I am here to read words and phrases, but I want to tell you that you can do many things to be better, you can make friends and talk with them about your problems or try to change the way that you see yourself, you don't have to reach the standard's of other people to be happy. You should be happy and proud with what you are achieving.
I do not have the exact same experiences as you but I have always had to be the perfect son, student, musician, friend, etc. People all over the world can feel like failures. I hope that the counseling can help you
hang in there i dont have the answer because I suffer from depression but I can relate and I care
Hey. Please don’t take your own life. Not only will it make your pain worse, but it will also hurt everyone around you, including the people that love you
For the lonely guys out there, I'll just second what's being said here at the end especially.
I'm 42, male, and I just came out of 2 decades of deep, dark depression and Passive SI (occasionally dipping into Active).
First, get outside. Seriously. Get sunlight, in your eyes and on your skin. Doesn't have to be for super long, and take care not to overexpose yourself, but that stuff matters.
Tend to your hygiene.
Eat good/healthy food at least once a day, or as much as you can manage/afford. Junk food and high carb stuff makes it worse.
EXERCISE. For real. Even if it's just a little bit at first. I had a hard time because of injuries, but I went for short walks, then longer ones. I'm doing 3-5 miles a day, 5 days a week, working out 3 day a week. It has made a WORLD of difference in my mood and mentality.
Learn about your childhood wounds and the damage they do. I've discovered I was suffering from symptoms of Complex PTSD, Anxious Attachment and some other things that come from the development period between birth and toddler. They can be improved, if not outright fixed, but it takes effort, knowledge and often, someone to talk to.
Maybe see a therapist or counselor. Or a religious leader, trusted friend, parent, whoever you feel safe doing that with. Don't hold everything in. Emotions don't go away when you suppress them, they just come out in other ways that hurt you, make things worse, or hurt others you care about.
I've also found breathing techniques like Box Breathing, 4-2-6-2 breathing really help me get grounded when I feel overwhelmed.
Mindfulness and breath meditation pretty regularly, along with some emotion and gratitude journaling have also helped tremendously.
Hopefully someone finds at least one of these to be helpful. I still haven't fixed everything, or found the woman I want to be with, but that's the beauty of it. As long as I'm still here, it's not too late.
I'll end with a slightly out-of-context quote from one of my favorite book series (Wheel of Time) that I've adapted for my own meaning against my struggles with SI and depression: "Almost dead yesterday, maybe dead tomorrow. But alive, gloriously alive today!"
Don't give up, guys.
Really good post. Thanks for sharing your story.
meanwhile the only things this does is make you content with life. Not satisfied. And women only like this shit when you're 10/10
@@jeffreychandler8418 we'll see
great post. Thanks a lot!
Youre inspirational dude. Always keep going. Your tips will definitely help someone out there, and thank you for posting
"The only reason for existence is happiness." - فرهان
Sounds random
I can't read/understand them squiggly lines
@@Whysoserious648 indeed but something to stick with
The only thing that has been saving me from male loneliness is making music, skateboarding, family, and last but not least… this TH-cam channel. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Well sir continue to fight the good fight. One thing to think positive about in that is that you still have some family to talk to. Some of us don't even have parents or family members we can trust. Mine tried telling me I was a failure. That was not exactly the most useful and uplifting thing to hear. I rarely talk to them now.
That's awesome that you are staying creative
@@biblesforbreakfast I don’t mean to come off as dramatic… but staying creative making music and being active skateboarding is pretty much the only reason I’m still alive and have any desire to live. If you dig through my TH-cam channel and listen to what I’m saying in my music… you’ll understand lol I’m confident. Specifically my song/music video “Anymore” will give you a good insight into my mind and circumstance.
Also, getting along with my family is more of a recent thing, and I’m still learning how to utilize and be grateful for them in my life now. I did something absolutely wild a few months ago that nearly killed me… but strangely enough, brought me closer to my family and sobered me up for good.
To live life to the fullest AND be grateful for every positive/negative experience is something that I’ve learned to do through deep loneliness. It isn’t easy… but I believe everybody is capable of this. Man or woman, any other belief in that has to be limiting in some way.
Much love to you and everyone else who might stumble upon and read all this mess. We got this.
It’s hard for men to even make friends with other men.
It’s all about: “How can you be useful to me.”
“My time is valuable, you should consider yourself lucky I’m spending time with you”
glad you pointed this out
Welcome to capitalism where the consumer thinks about what they gain to benefit from anything and everything
@@Noobtuber251 Women aren't like that with each other, despite capitalism. This is a problem with masculinity, not capitalism. Y'all see all relationships as transactional.
@@faethe000 Beacuse women don't do the same thing................ 85% of divorces are iniated by women, but its masculinity again. If men don't provide either protection or finances, they aren't relationship material right? Man those blinders are tight.
It's not a men's problem but human in general. Humans are egoistical creatures from nature, that's why we have to adapt and accept each other so both can profit from eachother. It sounds harsh but this is one way to get to meet people and actually keep them as friends.
Lonely and alone for over five years now and remission is hard and slow. Nobody saves you, including psychological care.
🤝
Psychology is made to make you stay longer and pay more not really cure you in the long run some actually try their best while others just want to take more money from you it's the way of the world
Jesus loves you. Give him a chance to shape your life. Bless you.
And when we finally admit our loneliness and issues we get laughed at and told to suck it up. And when we suck it up and stay quiet, people wonder why we dont open up.
We can only really confide in our closest friends, and we have precious few of those.
You made your bed
@aleksandrac9335 Yes, yes I did. And my dog is sleeping comfortably on it.
@@aleksandrac9335Exactly they usual suspects in most crime cough cough MEN
@@missandry2669not mentioning women lie about men hurting them all the time because they have a significant advantage in court *cough* *cough*
@@missandry2669omg this gotta be ragebait, on a video about males? 😨
I have just turned 32 and feel so lonely that the frustration, confusion, and anger that I feel towards the world is indescribable. It feels like I have been betrayed by life.
I'm so sorry you feel like that. 😢
"Men competing with other men in a competition that women dont even realize they're judging."
Thats the realest snapshot of socio-gender dynamics that I've heard in a long time!
Great work Psych2Go team!!!
And as they deny, gaslight or add ful to the fire, why should we become feminist wimps?
Except they do realize. That's why it's so easy for them to manipulate and they know it, they always knew.
@@new1runo they don't. This comment section is filled with guys that somehow think they understand the dynamics, and actually do not.
@@rw5622 Reread the comment. It's women that supposedly "don't realize that they are judging". The person you responded to is stating that women do, in fact, realize they are judging the competition.
Men created the patriarchy which is what hold them to that standard. Just saying it’s kinda their own doing
I cryed watching this, especially after going online and reading about all the hatred revolving around International Men's Day.
Also, from my personal experience; self improvement only goes so far, it doesn't necessarily ease the pain or solve the problem. Been doing that half my life.
Same, I self improved to where I now have a job, wife, kids, I built a house for all of us...I am doing fine on paper but nothing actually helps the loneliness. Can't think of a single time I have ever felt actually "happy" or like I have a community or at least am not completely isolated from the rest of the world that seems to just do things effortlessly.
Self improvement isn't a scam, it really can fix many issues, but it is not the one big solution to loneliness, and in my experience it didn't help at all. Arguably made it worse.
Also, Gaara as your icon makes so much sense in that comment I love it lol
@@BlumpkinSpiceLatte Sorry to read that! It's a bit hard to believe how far someone can get without ever becoming really happy or stop feeling lonely.
The 5th Kazekage wishes you all the best, bro!
@@niarudle if anyone knows loneliness it's you, Mr Kazekage.
I hope you get freed from the iron sand thing you're sealed in without Ryu eating you 😬
God, I love the internet
Yall might be interested in the purpose for the prodigal podcast. It focuses on men’s current struggles and has male guests come on to discuss this topic. It’s on TH-cam: m.youtube.com/@PurposeForTheProdigal/videos
Read what men write about women’s day clowns
The disclaimer killed any delivery or impact this video would have had, can't even discuss men's issues without it being belittled or triggering others, pretty disappointed in Psych2Go for that
What disclaimer? (Is it from yt or video itself?)
@@JanKowalski-hd6pz Video itself
@@JanKowalski-hd6pz Have you even watched the Video? 0:50
Here's a disclaimer: the women's loneliness video had the same exact disclaimer
@@RidleyPhantom Only a single one in the beginning. This had multiple across the entire video.
Nearly a third of this video was disclaimers.
Yeah. Its so annoying.
probably more, why ever this is required these days, people are mentally ill is that why? But isn't that handholding and extra carefulness making it worse? It's so stupid
@@rail7646 it is. People got too comfortable with promoting softness. Then they go out into the real world and endlessly suffer and make the internet even less free.
Gotta protect from the rabid man-haters, both in the comment section and the TH-cam employees.
It's that fear of Twitter users high on the Dunning Krueger effect with 4 followers who always wake up and decide they would spread hate for no reason.
No one talks about International Men's Day.
😂😂😂joke of the year
The replies here are examples why no one talks about it
A dude blaming other men...mangina detected!
@@ziggye3096Exactly wtf
@Hobinyoo9594 nobody knows it is a thing. I only found out myself yesterday that was a thing. Does it really matter though? It did not feel different than every other day.
If a man feels lonely it's not because he is lonely.
It's because he has no purpose in life.
Male Loneliness is really a symptom of male purposelessness.
That's what i think.
Actually i think a lot of people can't just live they need something to live for.
That's why the manosphere got so much traction, because it gave those men a direction and a goal.
Hey,as a girl,just wanna say that there is a purpose,a reason why God created you,just do what you are good at,or something that makes you happy,like a hobby,or maybe if you can,turn your hobby into a life career,there are reasons to live,man or woman,regardless of gender,supposed human life is challenging,so stay optimistic,and spend time with the people you love!
@@DexLuceira to be honest your advice is wishy washy and not very helpful. unfortunately life is just unfair like that, most people don't get their dream jobs, most people have to be content with what they have or suffer knowing they could've gotten more
but honestly there's nothing wrong with looking at your lot in life and saying "yeah, this is good enough" as long as your content with it
I'd agree that it certainly is part of the issue, however, a crisis of this scale is going to have more moving parts.
@@connorbutters8479 just helping ya
@@connorbutters8479 i feel bad for you,just tryna do the best i can,hope things get better,my life is also unfair too to be honest,thats what people usually tell me
Cure for loneliness: go outside
Me: * goes outside *
People: ew go back inside
Me: Okay
"g3t tHeRapY..."
I recommend hiking or something solitary for a bit. It dragged me out of a depression I didn't even know I had. Gotta ease your way back to the environment, so to speak. Then do it with a group, small confidence cause you've done it yourself. It's not just me saying that, but shrinks and tons of med research about exposure to get back to baseline with interacting with others.
Toxic and abusive parents also play a major role in this male loneliness
especially toxic mothers.
@jeffreychandler8418 yes exactly before few days my mother smashed a groom into my back and to distribute the force as possible I put my hand back and as a result of which the groom backed into my forearm and I got dark red Bruise. In my 18 years of life my parents has the most contribution in damaging my mental sanity.
And toxic girlfriends and wives. (Seen it so many times it's disheartening...)
@TheIGITnBLUE yea
Emotional Abuse
I turned 30 last month and both my siblings are getting married next year while I haven’t gotten to experience a connection with anyone
You hit the nail on the head my school days completely screwed me up I’ve never recovered
Similar story here. Everyone I know is married or in a relationship already.
In school we were all shoved into rooms with each other for eight hours a day. Now we have freedom of association!... and the absence of human contact that comes with it.
I share the same story u do, but I develop enough skill to start a conversation with people anywhere I go. None of us get lucky with meeting someone in highschool or college, or even if we do meet someone, they end up being toxic for us. But society hasn't put in enough effort to help those outside of those environments to help find love easily. We have apps where ppl choose for shallow reasons, dating events that want you to consistently pay to get at least 1 connection while incentivizing a lack of companionship, a shit ton of dating advice that borders on encouraging toxic dynamics that are akin to transactional relationships, and social circles and communities that are very politically polarized to the point of alienation. It's a fucked up world out there that needs careful thought and deliberate action to navigate it well and find a place you can call your home. Until a better solution comes along, that's where we've come to.
I have been behind on life for years. Both my siblings have a girl/boyfriend, while i cant even look women in the eyes.
If im doomed to rot up in loneliness, so be it. Thats what i apparantely deserve.
Homelessness and joblessness is especially a major factor. I’ve lost friends as a result of their living situation worsening to the point where they became too dependent and time consuming for others to deal with. Desperation due to economic pressures blows…
Went on Twitter and searched "Male Loneliness". I scrolled for just a few seconds and I was legit almost in tears. People saying that it's your own fault, making you feel like you're a bad person for being lonely or just saying the women got it harder. We can't even be sad without being hated and it's just frustrating.
thats why i just dont even use it anymore i use bluesky now. ive even been debating deleting my account :(
@@fly1ngf0x bluesky is worse at this point. its like 2017-2020 twitter all over again
😂
@@missandry2669sadist
@@missandry2669 you're part of the problem if you laugh at this
Thanks for talking about men too! As a girl im proud of that,most of the people talks about women only,and this is sad and makes me angry. For me men and women are at the same level,men aren't only strong and don't need help,men are like women,strong but sometimes needs help.
Thank you, i feel like one thing that a lot of people forget is that, male or female. Both are human, both are people, there isn’t a better one.
@KebinKaslana10 👍
Lol no.
@@diehardernxgt2161why do you say this stuff?
@@Epic-so3ek a girl who says she cares for mens problems. Lmao that line alone is funnier than most stand-up comedians nowadays.
This video was hard to watch for me. I’m 35 sitting at home alone wishing to have a romantic relationship, but due to low self esteem, I was and continue to be unable to find a partner, even outright rejecting the very few chances I had, fearing I would not be good enough or simply not having feelings towards the other person. I tried online dating but no matter what I did I was only greeted with silence. I do not blame the other person for that, since I understand that online dating for females is just a constant bombardment of messages, but I do wish I would at least get a “no” or a “sorry”. It’s just so heartbreaking to be ignored outright.
The sad thing is, I recently found a community I like and care for. I found lots of dear friends and the accomplishments I made greatly boosted my self confidence, but I fear that it is too little, too late and I’m way past the age where finding love would be possible for me.
Lol, I love the cold apathy of this world. It's time to adapt and be always ready for the worst. Did you really expect some good and genuine relationship on this planet? Funny, I thought that I was only one. This world is freaky isn't it?
@@lukascisar6740r/im14andthisisdeep ahh comment 💀
@@lukascisar6740 If you think you are helping, you are not.
@@lukascisar6740 I mean, if you believe that, I believe that, this guy believes it too, maybe its not that hopeless anymore? There are people who can and want to care. I'm certain there are woman who feel like that too.
Finding them is pure luck tho, it seems.
@@lukascisar6740 I just dont want to give up and join the cynics anyway. I mean, I kinda already did long time ago, but then I though... What do I even gain from that?
I just put on a mask, pretended everything was just as it should be, and laughed on those fools who still struggled for no reason, instead of just accepting this cold reality. They just cant "adapt and be ready"
And why? Whats worst that can even happen, that I must be ready for? Will I die? I'll die anyway, ready or not. Cold apathy awaits us all in the end - there is no escape. Might as well keep some warmth while it lasts, for myself and for others.
As a male, I try to chat with friends new and old, but my conversations get dropped rather quickly. It doesn't feel good to feel like a lesser priority.
What breaks my heart is the rise in hatred or bitterness towards us because of this, and even there are a rare few who laugh or wish us to die or encourage the unalive rate of men.
All My life I wanted to believe in humanity, but I feel social media and the dependency on internet has corrupted or twisted society, it's not everyone of course, there are genuine gems who know better both men and women. but for an alarming bunch theres a real problem.
I’m 24 years old. I’m single and I have no friends. I want to have friends but the people I work with and the people I have familiarised myself with presently terrify me. I don’t know whether it’s because I’m vastly different from other people or if people are just mean but all I want is to be seen, loved and happy
It’s always hard to put yourself out there man. The way I was able to do it was go to somewhere mural like a fast food place or small restaurant casually. Then eventually one of you will talk and from there it can keep going or not. Choice is yours man this worked with me but everyone is different.
People underestimate how hard of an age 24 is.
Here before the flood of "be happy alone" people
eh, not worth it to reach out. You reach out and they ignore you, neglect you, lie to you. Just find peace in yourself and never get your hopes up tbh. Wait for someone to give a shit about you. That's the only reliable option
@jeffreychandler8418 Imo you cant really expect people to care if you dont reach out.
Some of wat you said I so agree with but Id say reach while still being cautious and careful
As it as a neurodiverse person with weak social skills in my youth, I can attest that while high school in college were great places to SEE girls, they were far from the best places to meet them, much less to start relationships. The entire atmosphere of our schools is completely poisonous. Sadly, that puts us late bloomers at a disadvantage, because by the time we finally gotten our feet under us, and gotten our heads together, there either seems to be no one around, or they’re too young..
Celibacy is legit a solution to this. Sometimes it's easier AND more practical to accept that you have missed the train, and to move on.
YES, it's painful.
YES, it svcks.
YES, it's unfair.
"Why me !?!", you cry.
And I hear you. And I've often said the very same thing.
But the fact of the matter is, it happened, it svcks, it hurts, but that's reality.
Sometimes, some people miss the train, and the train is not coming back to pick you up.
I'm not some Chad preaching from his ivory tower of plentiful s-ex - having. Just a mousey short introvert nerd trying to best cope with his situation.
Accept that you have lost what you have lost, and don't bother howling at the moon anymore over something that you may have permanently lost.
Accept your fate.
But know that there is wiggle room in this fate of yours.
And if you're mentally strong and smart, you can still have a decent life, a life worth a damn, even without having your s-exu-al / most of your social needs met.
Get into Stoicism.
I promise that it will help.
Godspeed.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes Steve_porss1, I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live.
Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
Steve_porss1 is the man
*As a man, the world taught me "WHO CARES?"*
This is a great topic, but the constant qualifiers of “Oh btw the way, women feel loneliness too!”
We know this already. You already did a video on it.
It feels like whenever issues about men are talked about, there’s always that asterisk afterwards that slightly downplays those issues.
And when it’s done in reverse about women’s issues and you say “men go through things too” you’re seen as belittling the experience of women by going what about this?
Let’s have something that’s ours for once please. 😅
Female loneliness is mostly self-inflicted, free of external interference.
Whereas male loneliness is mostly a biproduct of the society men reside in.
So yes, male loneliness is a far greater issue than female loneliness, actually. And to pretend that it's not reeks of virtue-signaling.
@@ueIlidk if I agree with that
The disclaimer is crazy annoying
We had male spaces, golf, gentlemans clubs, bars. Some better ones boy scouts, military. Now every place must include women. If there are women only spaces there should be some men only spaces? Plus the culture is insanely anti men and any grievances we have are disregarded and labeled as sexist or wimpy. So we leave, we depart and do our own things.
While rightfully telling the world to go burn itself up.
I can't help but notice Psych2Go doesn't respond to comments like this that point out the REAL problems.
And who is part of the culture? It's men. Men are doing this to each other, women perpetuates it because men do. Start from yourself, try being more open and encourage your male friends to be open. Don't blame the society or the culture if you still have the same mindset.
@@Stella-yt6dp this is something a government glazer would say, blame men but not the specific people youre not allowed to piss off, such an old trick in the book. alot of males are catching up to this idea and we are sick of it
any other male denying this is a simp and a glazer for conformity because theyve been conditioned to rely on the state for validation despite its abuse of power
@@Stella-yt6dpway to miss the entire point of the post.
Those places listed WERE places where men opened up to each other. And they got taken over by women.
I could write a lecture on male loneliness and the deplorable state of dating in current society. They perpetuate each other and there are very few systems or reliable programs in place to amend these issues. We’ve come a long way in recent years to acknowledge mental issues but haven’t yet crossed the emotional issue barrier. Mental health is important to improve the self and understanding helps bridge gaps socially but until we start acknowledging the detrimental things in society that are causing issues with our individual emotional health, we will eventually destroy our social structure.
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@@pietjestront2858 and tinder
And why would any influential person fix it? More friends, dates, status for them if it's hard for others to even find opportunities to join / rejoin society
Scary how male loneliness sometimes escalates into anger, but finding something to keep us busy is the go to key
I have social anxiety and fears of being ignored, rejected, or taken advantage by women, because it has happened in my past several times. Life kind of feels bland, games don't seem as much fun anymore even with friends, and family is just there and not extremely helpful. I am in my mid 30's and I just feel in limbo. I have hobbies outside of work, but they don't really bring me much joy either. I am also usually too tired to exercise after work.
I feel stuck in a liminal space too.
One thing I did is get rocks as a hobby. I use a dremmel and some bits to carve rocks. I'm not very good at it, but I think I'm getting better. It could be fun just to do something like that. It's something physical and tangible, it's something mostly low and mid skilled people can pick up on, and it's mostly cheap-ish.
I have that, too. I believe it's called learned helplessness. I have asked for love and help for what seems to be all the wrong places. Eventually, I got burnt out and shifted my focus on improving myself and not needing anyone.
I did the same, but then when I finally found someone that seemed to all be in the right places, all of my trauma came roaring back with a vengeance. Never enough for these people. I can only feel contempt for them.
Ill admit im pretty lonely most of the time, but i also have to admit a lot of it is my own doing. And so im stuck on this loop where i treasure my alone time but desperately want to share my moments with someone. But life is long and very strange. You just walk your path and who knows? maybe someone will eventually tag along.
This is my duality as well. I find it hard to relate to ppl and visa versa, so I ended up just getting used to being a loner. Yet still I find myself craving a partner and ppl who understand me.
Worst thing is is that people do try to get to know me, but as mentioned before, the lack of common interests prevents me truly making any connections and I feel worse
For real bro. It’s like when I want to socialize and have friends I subconsciously sabotage it. Especially when it comes to dating.
Could be unresolved trauma.
If you find yourself repeating this cycle that you don't want to be stuck in, think about what you could do differently? And try to pinpoint the triggers and the causes, which keep you in this cycle and work on them.
Humans act more subconsciously, rather than conscious, so your dissatisfaction could be resolved by doing inner work
It's funny how women are telling men to 'open up', but once you open up to them for real they start avoiding you and acting weirdly towards you. I feel like that's what years of being brainwashed into thinking lonely men are unstable or predators does, and it's sad because it's hurting everyone
Avoiding men do not hurt anyone
@@aleksandrac9335 you gotta be trolling
@@YehudiNimol some women may listen
I am horrifically exhausted and lonely to the point of debilitating depression and thoughts of terrible things
Pray to God about it He will heal you dude
@trash3042 that's not how God works lol
@@trash3042God isn’t real. Grow up.
Mood.
Why friend?
I often hear lots of other guys around me complain about drama and things that are happening with their relationships and it makes me feel even more alone because I've never had a romantic partner in my life. If they ever want to talk to me about their relationship issues, I would be like. At least you have a relationship, I'd kill to have the issues you have, I would fix it instantly.
You are actually much better off than they are. You just don't know it. Forget about finding a girlfriend, focus on your hobbies, and go enjoy your life in peace and quiet.
@ I think that mostly because of years of jealousy of the other guys. They would always flex that they have a hot girlfriend and they even flex that they have backup girlfriends just in case and even these kids flexing that they already lost their v-card. Or just the way they talk about girls and their relationships makes me very jealous. But you're probably right.
@@artawhirler yeah, I probably should just focus on my own stuff because that will make me happier. I just don't want to hear another story from those guys on how they went to a party and did the deed for a 7th time while we are still in high school. It's awkward when they ask about my experiences and all I can say is that I haven't lost my v-card yet
"I would fix it instantly."
Oh you sweet summer child. Relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. Being in a relationship just to be in a relationship is a bad deal.
@SpeedCap_draws The best thing about losing your V-card is realizing how stupid it was to worry about it. Losing it does nearly nothing for you. Also, hookups are lame and are for degenerate STD collectors.
The rise of male loneliness is a growing concern that many people overlook. Men often face societal pressure to be strong and independent, which can make it harder for them to open up about their emotions. This leads to isolation and a lack of meaningful connections. It's important to challenge these stereotypes and create spaces where men can express themselves and build stronger support networks.
Their inability to communicate how they feel can also end up hurting innocent people,permanently (mentally and/or physically) and that’s just not ok. At what point do you take responsibility for how you treat others without having to point out “BUT YOU ALSO DID” or “THIS APPLIES TO WOMEN AS WELL”. Not even trying to be mean. I understand that men have it rough but at some point,you’re responsible for how you choose to navigate the world. That goes for both genders.
Very good observation. Men deserve kindness and support. Whatever hardships you are dealing with, you have to believe that you are worthy enough to receive that. I'm glad there are so many people out there that recognize and empathize with that struggle.
@@peabody23Go to hell. Stop saying "but men are bad people".
@@peabody23your comment is harmful and irrelevant.
@@peabody23"their inability to communicate how they feel" I don't know about that. A big issue we have is often we have nobody that listens. It's not an "inability" per say, but rather... that nobody cares, so they don't really talk about it.
I agree about the whole communication thing though. Glad we promote mental awareness and start encouraging people to go to therapy more, so we all can heal and stop hurting others.
And, traumas or not, we are indeed 100% responsible for how we show up and treat each others.
When People Offer Advice to Women: *Applause*
When People Offer Advice to Men: "WhAt AbOuT WoMeN?!!" "We DoN't NeEd No MaN!" "wHaT aRe tHeY gOoD fOr?!" "Men just need to embrace their feminine side!" "(Censored) Men's feelings!" "🎵 Cry me a river 🎵" (amongst other memorable quotes across the years. 👍 The disclaimer for this vid is the cherry on top, DESPITE you doing a vid for females with no such disclaimer. We are that dismissed, if not despised.)
Additional thoughts. Looking at cultural messaging, there's one message I get sent my way no matter where I go; I'm expendable, because I'm a man. Also, I get hit with how I'm definitely evil based on my gender pretty often. It's often disguised behind a complaint allegedly targeted at specific men, but the disguise is very loose and easily recognized once you've seen it a few times.
I spend a lot of my time immersing myself in environments that have a different narrative, and tend to be a bit stubborn. If I was the sort to internalize everything I repeatedly hear, I would believe that I was worthless, at fault for everything ever, and ought to spend the rest of my life atoning for my sins by solving other people's problems and expect nothing in return.
That to say, if you say nothing when those around you are parroting "men are trash," don't be surprised when men toss themselves away.
You have some really concerning beliefs right here to unpack. It would be helpful to think about where these beliefs came from. The good news is that the stuff you are saying is absolutely 100% untrue. Which might give you some hope, but will probably mostly offend you. If you take the time to listen to the messages you might be surprised at what society actually says about men.
@@rw5622great stuff to do with success but if you want people to give a shit its harder
@@rw5622 LMFAO "100% untrue" meanwhile I have dealt with it myself where a woman allegedly "only targeting a specific kind of man" threw me in that bin despite behaviors that did not match with those specific men.
If anything it's worse than this guy presents. You mention you have any mental health issue at all? nearly every woman will believe you want them to be their mommy, or that you're using it to manipulate them.
You mention you get remotely any incling of any anger based emotion? she will view you as violent.
You mention you're a virgin in your 20's 30's? she'll believe you're a sex fiend.
It's anti reality all because of the decades of propaganda against men.
@@rw5622 why do you insist on lying to him? Getting him back in line with the mainstream narrative won’t fix these issues.
@@rw5622 no what he's saying is true.
I've been trying to reach out to people I see regularly for the last year. No one wants anything to do with me, much less to hear about my problems. Even the people who claim to care aren't there to even listen. Self improvement only made me feel even more jaded that no one wants to be around me. Been trying this start small plan for about a year. No bites yet. People are polite but the message is clear. No one has time for a new friend. No one's interested.
Sometimes it feels like society blames men for being men. Which doesn't help. I completely gave up on the outside world because it seems like it wanted something out of me more than it wanted to help me.
The amount of victim blaming here cause "men created the system" is crazy.
Its good
@@Epic-so3ekMen created the system. Men tell each other showing feelings is weak.
@@Stella-yt6dpExactly then have the cheek to attack women?
@@missandry2669your toxicity is so obvious
Yesterday my coworker who's a thirty-something years old woman stopped me and told me that i was saying "I'm sorry, I'm ashamed", or that i was only interrupting the work and was not good enough. She told me that i was doing ok and that it didn't matter if i committed mistakes from time to time and that she would love to have 3 people like me helping around. I didn't noticed that i was saying those things or that my self-hatred was showing out that much for others to notice it. I felt a knot in my throat and just wanted to cry... I feel a cold in my chest, maybe I'm lonely.
The compassionate touch of a woman to a man's soul is like an axe to the surface of a frozen pond.
@cooler_carpington that's deep bro, and so accurate and painfully beautiful.
its kinda hard to do anything when you live in the middle of nowhere and the pandemic killed the little social skills i had
So True Dude
I know right, I hope it goes well for you
You can continue to make excuses or you can do something about it.
I feel so defeated and depleted after writing it all out and having my comment disappeare. I see idiots downplaying the loneliness it in the comments and I can't even explain why they're wrong because it took an hour to type something that TH-cam erased in less time than an eye-blink. :(
Apparently Im to blame cause in 1986 some man passed some law.
@@Epic-so3ek I unfortunately don't get the reference 😕
@@ZephyrWhisper-cz4vn
The reference is feminism existed and hated men from the start.
Unfortunately, even men hate men. Nobody in society cares about men. Nobody cares.
Leave about the female not caring about male loneliness.. I have seen countless of men putting down men just because they show emotions or open up about themselves
It's like you have only yourself in the end and you should just stick with that until the end
You’ve hit on something really deep-sometimes the biggest barriers to men opening up aren’t external but come from other men. That “toughen up” mentality can feel suffocating, as if vulnerability equals weakness. It’s a harsh reality, but the fact that you see this cycle means you’re already breaking it. Maybe it feels like you’re on your own sometimes, but even a small step toward finding people who value that openness can shift things. You deserve that space.
The facts still remins that women dint care about male loneliness so
and even then, even if all men stop it, a lot of women also attack men for showing emotion, continuining the cycle
@@JACQUEZ23 and why should they? They're not our babysitters and we're not their babysitters. Your lonliness is your problem, deal with it.
@@JACQUEZ23some women don’t care about men are lonely and some men don’t care that women are getting @bused and being treated wrongly in every country. It’s a shame really that it’s like this 😞
The whole "Men are the enemy" movement on social media has not only made men lonely, but turned men off of dating completely, making women who don't hate men lonely.
Dating just isn't worth the agro for men anymore. The fact that this video has to 'skirt' around the issue so as not to trigger the female hit squad....speaks volume. The fact that women can ditch men, even divorce them without consequences, while the men have to pick up the pieces... our society is failing. Men are now disposable to women, so we just don't want the agro or the hurt anymore.
@@camarocougar2726 women who date hate men lies go read crime stats women are woke about male behaviour.
@@MalesAreDemonswoooooahhh??? Evil people do EVIL things???? I could've never imagined that in a million years!!!
@@camarocougar2726 You are the enemy
Movies about male loneliness.(in my opinion)
1. Joker
2. Taxi driver
3. Bladerunner 2049
4. Buffalo 66
5. Her
6. Marty
8. One hour photo
9. Beau is afraid
10. Lost in translation
11. The machinist
12. The 40 year old virgin
13. Lars and the real girl
14. The lobster
15. The graduate
16. He who got slapped
17. The man who laughs
18. The last American virgin
19. Chronicle
20. Donnie darko
21. Drive
22. The road
23. Castaway
24. The pianist
25. Manchester by the sea
26. Fight club
27. Fade to black
28. Maniac
29. Peeping Tom
30. The elephant man
31. Possum
32. The house that Jack built
33. Christine
34. The shining
35. Lost in translation
36. The king of comedy
37. Leaving Las Vegas
38. American beauty
39. Edward scissorhands
40. The lighthouse
41. Better off dead
42. Falling down
43. The cable guy
44. The fan
45. Jacob's ladder
46. Pi (1998)
47. The straight story
48. 1408
49. Control (2007)
50. Otis (2008)
51. 500 days of Summer
52. We need to talk about kevin
53. A long way down
54. Birdman
55. Nightcrawler
56. Whiplash
57. Zero day
58. Tfw no gf
59. Brain damage
60. Brothers (2009)
61. The gift
62. One flew over the cuckoos nest
63. A single man
64. It's a wonderful life
65. The perks of being a wallflower
lmao bro said Chronicle. "IM AN APEX PREDATOR!!"
One Hour Photo was almost a documentary.
"It's not women's responsibility to fix male loneliness " Ah, yes half the population shouldn't be expected to at least try to uplift the men in their communities. Awesome message
"Men should find..."
And that's the crux of it, people dehumanize men as a whole because of a handful of wastes of air, so they hand wave away men's issues to spite men who haven't done anything wrong yet so they don't have to help. That's how all this looks to me at least
It’s not women’s responsibility to make you feel fulfilled. No one owe you anything. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness. Pick yourself together.
@Gmhfseyhb And this attitude is exactly why there's a loneliness epidemic
@@Gmhfseyhb I just want humanity to come together and co-operative to help those in need. Imagine if I said something like; "Oh women are scared of being SA'd well it's not my problem, pull yourselves up by the bootstraps and do something about it ladies"
But clearly you and what seems to be the majority of people are just selfish, apathetic shit stains.
Disgusting
Our Gynocentric Society just CANNOT help itself not to exempt women for any accountability
@@Gmhfseyhb"pull yourself up by your bootstraps"
I’m a man, and let me tell you that making friends over the past 10-15 has been a massive uphill battle. It is SO FREAKING HARD. The problem is, most men in our culture just don’t prioritize friendships. They only prioritize sex or romantic ones which I think is highly destructive. I get so many people who flake or ghost me saying they’re “too busy” which I know isn’t true.
Exactly, even this video & the comments seems to be about men wanting romantic relationships. I honestly thought the issue on male loneliness was about the struggle of men finding friendships with OTHER men. So confused honestly. I just want to find guy friends personally
@ Yeah I was disappointed too when the video rehashed just the old boring talking point about modern online dating. Frankly I think it feeds into the same damaging stereotypes it prophets to be against.
I wish people would stop placing so much importance on dating and just live life. You come into this world alone and you leave this world alone. Being single and celibate is a gift and you have so much time to pour into yourself, your family, and your friends. Im talking about men and women. I am a single woman but I don't feel alone because I get love from family and friends. Pets are good too, they are so loyal.
This sounds cliche but you really don't need a relationship to feel whole.
@@ghettogreenbeann Totally agree with you! Buy for me personally I’ve been good without friends and romantic relationships. I do have some family( to be honest my mom, dad, and siblings are the only ones it can trust).
I also prioritize my goals over having friend or a girlfriend in my life. I know, selfish, but love drawing and making music over spending time with people or going to a club or whatever.
@Kenshiro_Miyazawa03 that is a good mindset. And pouring into yourself is never selfish, at the end of the day you know yourself better than everybody.
I dont know what's making everybody today so worried about having a bf/gf. It doesn't mean you are undesirable or a loser. I wish people would realize that.
The internet has definitely made loneliness so much worse, especially when discussions about it on social media tend to devolve into discriminating against the lonely person
If you're reading this you're way more than you believe and you're never alone 🤍
"you're never alone" Could you like not lie at least on a video describing extremely painful topic of male loneliness which is also a topic connected to suicides? Like seriously, have some humanity and respect, you're a human after all
@@That1Frederickyou wanna talk for a while?
I'm looking for a job. No job = no value, no value = no relationships.
at least you’re aware
Bingo, we either canon fodder or wallets
@@j.davila4523oh brotherrrrr. yall wanna be victims so bad.
That’s so sad. What happened to love? Everyone is so superficial now.
@@vvvnokk8309I don't think this is a problem of "now".
Sadly, we have created an environment for ourselves, but haven't adapted fast enough to survive.
so what its our own fault or what? this is why men getting more lonely is cos we get blamed all the time
@@mrwolf3939If it is your fault then yes.
@@mrwolf3939it’s literally because of men like you that don’t take accountability for your own gender. A male dominated world.
other men seek validation from other men.
Same men then teach their children from a young age that”boys don’t cry” so yall can’t express your feelings like normal people. Which leads to men coping in horrible ways or just becoming a terrible man. And before you try not all men but obviously a big part of yall for there to be an epidemic.
@@mrwolf3939the only one blaming is you. You don't even understand the conversation and somehow concluded that you are being blamed somehow. People here are being supportive of men and their struggles and somehow you misunderstood such a statement as blame. Sit down and listen before you jump to erroneous conclusions
@@dominiquewindom5820lonliness is my fault?
I gotta love how one of Psych2Go's responses to male lonliness is to attack online male spaces. Psych, your bias is showing.
Just another channel biased towards women
“Identify as male” is WILD….! 😭🙏
What's the issue
@@toyotawitha20mm35sex is an objective characteristic. You can't identify as it. It's like a blonde person identifying as a brunette or a tall person as short. It's just not how it works.
@@toyotawitha20mm35 In objective reality you either are something or you aren't. Identifying is a mental illness.
now that's just
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BRUUUUUUUHHHHHHHhhhhhhh 💀💀💀💀
@@melitajay They ain’t ready to hear that after how confusing the very topic of sex/gender has become over the years. Specially from a biological perspective.
IMO Sadly social media made us more connected but also quite distant, i dont think social media interaction is enough, its different in real life.
This is exactly why i refuse to touch social media. I saw all this coming from day 1.
@@jimbob-ic5kcsir you’re on youtube
“We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in.”
Chaplin was right. We’ve made so many technologies to connect ourselves and yet we couldn’t be more divided. He said that in 1940 and yet his words still ring true to this day.
@@jimbob-ic5kc Same. Never bought in to it. It would obviously be the downfall of man.
Just today finally broke down and cried like 3 hours in bed as I can't deal with the idea that I'll be alone for the rest of my life... Single 11 years now, 41 years old in 3 days and been struggling with anxiety/social anxiety the whole time trying to get better and... it's just not happening, at least fast enough. Now taking care of my 80 year old mother and once she passes, I kinda feel like I'll just grow old alone, no family or anything, as have even lost my friends due to this anxiety - while I know it doesn't make sense - making me afraid and too stressed to meet people and travel since all my friends moved to other cities.
Some people think I have such a great life living off social security funds and staying home, but I swear this is just hell year by year my life just slipping by and not managing to build anything!
I hate myself for not being able to live to all of the potential that I'd have if I was healthy... :(
Hi, its going to be hard but you will be there too. We always have ourselves, for what its worth. And the feelings are not anything too feel shame over... compassion fatigue can take many forms, it may be making things harder. But you can muster and in time and ways recover too, we all still have so much in life to discover. Surround yourself with uplifting moments, people,media if possible, wherever they are. No shame in cultivating beauty in our lives. Be well Friend
The main problem I see is that there aren’t a lot of places for people of similar interests to meet. Groups have become digitized, and there seems to be no where to go to find people face to face.
@@mr.silver1614 Exactly,as a girl,reason why its harder to make friends at school
@@mr.silver1614 but found my people,online
As a man on the autism spectrum in my early twenties, I have been pretty lonely my whole life.
I did have friends, but only a very few, and I only ever spent time with them at school.
But I don't find it all that bad. I'm very independent. I've never had a girlfriend, I don't plan on getting one anytime soon. I'm not ready for that yet.
All in all, loneliness can affect anyone regardless of gender.
My heart goes out to all who are having it hard because of it right now.
I'm right with you there bro, I'm also on the spectrum. 35 and have been single for most of them. I've seen my brother, cousins, and peers in relationships and wonder why I can't have the same. But having just got my license this year, I still can't drive very far. Add to the fact I'm unemployed, my last job drove me to burnout and today I feel like I'm at the end of my emotional rope.
I just found this video today, and then saw the female loneliness one as well. I feel bad for everyone dealing with this.
Whoever is dealing with loneliness, please don't give up on yourselves or others. I don't have much more to say than that.
I wish you all the best!
thank you i appreciate it! and yeah.... it really sucks
@@MGame0042 As a 15 year old girl ,i only felt relatable in one topic of the female loneliness,cuz mine is 80% male loneliness like no friends(only male friends,not females),rejected once(not that of big deal)and less ppl understand me
@@MGame0042 hey,men and women,everyone doesnt deserve loneliness
me at 30 years old, and if the world has shown me anything it's "no one cares, work harder, produce more, give more." your value as man is measured by how much you earn, how much you have, and how much you can give.
I may be a loner but... I HAD FAMILY
Dom Torreto is that you?
family.
Lucky
Good for you 😊
That’s a good way of thinking. As long as you have someone who loves you.
Being in a healthy relationship I am very happy with, I very much agree I used to feel lonely and unlovable. My heart goes out to anyone struggling with any sort of mental setback and I hope it gets better for all of you.
Lonely women just have sky high standards that no man can possibly meet.
That's why they all go the merry-go-round everytime they feel a tingle. Most women are useless to real men. Not a single real man would want a woman whose been sleeping around. Let the simps have them. The simps are garbage eaters.
My standards:
-not be a wh0re
-not be fat
-religious (optional)
Female standards:
-above 6 foot
-100K monthly income
-good-looking face
-well-built
-will buy her everything she wants
-will go to work to earn a paycheck but will also be a father figure for the kids
-6+ inches (you kno where)
-assertive, yet letting her do whatever she wants
-will take her on a fancy vacation whenever she wants
Ever since she cheated I’ve felt alone. She was really my everything and the only thing that was keeping me going. My friends don’t really care about me. I’ve been SA’d twice and no one close to me knows. When I tried telling them they either brushed it off or laughed. I’m lonely because I have no one around me who truly cares.
I'm sorry that you feel alone, man. It must be terrible to not only feel the pain of being taken advantage of, but also get abandoned when you need help. The people that don't care about your pain or abuse are not your friends. They are just peers. You deserve better, and you should do whatever it takes to find the right group of people.
You should have chose better no sympathy what were your wearing to be SA?
@@missandry2669 is your entire account just posing as a misandrist to piss people off?