Wanted to stop by and say that watching your videos has been a blessing. I'm 61 and newly divorced. My confidence has increased because of your advise. I really enjoy these videos.
whats weird was that i already knew and practiced these things before when i was in my teenage years. i got this confidence from friends who were somewhat rebellious to some degree but good people overall. and very chill. lets just say we were young skater boys but not the destructive kind where a lot of people would assume of. us being chill, relax and laid back with our healthy minded friend group made us all feel belong. story here is that surround yourself with people you love being yourself around with. YOUR CONFIDENCE WILL GO THRU THE ROOF. we had that i dont give a fawk mentality with each other, and we had that with everybody else
Thanks for sharing that bro, however you're not the expert Bobby is, that's the reason he's talking up there, and you're typing in the comments, nobody's here to listen to you bro!!!
@@kytaylor5080 i'm just SHARING my personal experience bro. appreciate the feedback bro. no need to put yourself up to bring someone down bro. i dont care if people like you dont care about the experiences i share bro. you're typing to reply to my comment thinking you did something bro. i dont give a flying fuck about you brooo!!!!! ♥♥
@@kytaylor5080 happy that you gave in to my comment to send your negative energy bro. glad you took the bait bro. i understand your existence of what you call your life is shitty as fuck bro and so that u have to project your insecurity on me bro. tells how much you are bro!!!!!!
I know this video is kinda old now but I watched it for the first time last night before going out and keeping it in mind, I had a great night that may become a date now. Thank you
👌 thanks, good points Assume rapport : this comes to me accidently with a job in sales. I was always a little shy and nervous about me. To fix this i start thinking about what person do i like start talking to me. And i came to the conclusion that friendly, open and not needy is key. And act like you know them a bit like a neighbor or so. That works so well simply by imagining what i would like. With girls is no other way..
Confidence comes from earned competence in skills and in life, and it's also tied to a solid, reality based life perspective that works and that rewards responsibility and accountability. There's no short cut to the real thing.
Great bullet points - the one block that I can't, can't ,can't do is hand a phone to a girl and ask her for her number. Everything else isn't a real issue. The psychology in this part of my brain wants to convince me that I am coming over as being pushy and bothersome. The voice says . " ... why do you want to kill a great vibe and banter just now by getting serious and asking for a number . Chill out bro ' " .So then I agree with that voice and never do it.
I'm 62 years old went through a terrible divorce got emasculated millions of dollars and assets stripped for me with a trophy wife of 30 years and what he's saying is very accurate even within a relationship or marriage don't think it changes However I had to Fantastic kids very successful and I don't regret my marriage life and I want to encourage young men to have a family and give it their all when they do go into a relationship authenticity is the word and expect the same don't be an actor if we have to tell someone how to act they're just actors....keep it real. We are all very special creatures but Bobby is fantastic
I went through so much of my life - from, say, 14 to about 55 - being more or less ashamed about having sexual desire for women - much of which was a result of overprotective parenting and a conservative religious upbringing. Things are improving, but too bad it couldn't have happened forty years ago! But this is not no reason not to improve my life now, at 60.
There's this quote by bruce lee which goes something like this: express yourself honestly. I was always baffled by the quote. Now I understand. It's approving yourself and not care about people's opinion of you.
Hey Bobby, a girl i like just gave me a complement. How do i respond to it. Most girls around me like complimenting my dressing, hair, eyes...does blushing make me look weak?
Bobby, you are a five-star high-output performer! Whether you spell correctly or incorrectly, these instructional videos are always superb - and the spelling mistakes, well - they just make in more real, more humanly vulnerable. That's what we want, right, because that's the way life is. Bravo for you!
I've taken that quiz multipla times where I I have answered diffrently every time. I got the same bad result every time. So... I'm in desperate need of your courses... or what??🤔
@@BobbyRio yes I have learned it... its better not talk about oursefl, and remain misterious. The more we are trying to impress the less result will be. Easy to get into the friend zone from where coming back is hard....
Hello Bobby. I'm Doug, a longtime subscriber, first time commenting. My comment and inquiry as to your advice/opinion is this; three nights ago, and after just over 3 years seeing each other, had a complete falling out with a woman I'd been in love with. The friendship was a bizarre relationship, in my humble opinion. Not once inside that period of time would she go out to dinner with me; we never went to a concert, an amusement park, or the beach (which I live only 4 miles from Pacific shoreline). She and I never even watched one movie during the probably thousands of hours we'd spend in my bedroom. We DID drive to Laughlin, first 2 months of the friendship, and then down to San Diego for a weekend within the following month. From the get go, I made it abundantly clear I was interested in a LTR, and she made it abundantly clear that she didn't like being in a traditional relationship. I chose to simply enjoy her company, the time she'd spend with me, and not put pressure on her to choose me and only me; but it was only one routine. She'd travel 22 miles from her place to mine, and remaining in my room for a full day or two. After three years of this routine, my perception was that she wasn't taking how I felt about her as serious as I was. I understand the concept of just enjoy time together, without being preoccupied with the outcome, but after 3 years, I kept forcing the issue until she didn't want anything to do with me. A metric shit-ton of fine details have been left out, but inside 3 years, she dumped me without letting me know it (while she returned to the ex bf she had prior to me); contracted Chlamydia and had to call me to advise me to see a doctor, which I did; and only briefly professed to be ok with sleeping with me, and only me. So.... several months go by and I think I'm never gonna see her again. Out of the blue she then starts calling and wants to pick up where we left off. This woman was and is easily the sexiest woman I've ever dated, and had the greatest looking naked body MY eyes have ever seen, first hand. Great body, and a face that well suited all that were below it. I'm not an arrogant fella, but I am a tad bit better than average looking, and there's plenty men better looking than myself. I say all this because I was ready to push for a split, if one was on the horizon, and I don't regret a thing that way. In your opinion, Bobby, do you believe I should have kept on just enjoying time with her on her terms, and do my best to not care about the outcome, or is that advice for only when a boy and a girl first meet? After i realized I was in love with this woman, I allowed her to dictate how our time was spent, mostly because she was extremely enjoyable that way, but I was done with continuing to invest time with her if she wanted to also continue retaining the option to just bail on me without notice like she did once before. I wanted her to choose me, or the highway, and she chose the highway, but I had to exert pressure to get her to spill that information. She'd dig her heels in any time I pressed her to make a decision about anything. What I lost was a woman who I thought was quality, but in the end, was never going to be able to commit. That is why I'm ok with the outcome, tho I readily admit I will miss who I thought she was, not who she is in reality.
@kingdomhouse3318 Is that an Archie Bunker quote? You're a little late with your "advice". Note that was posted 5 months ago. Maybe now it's time for you to get a life?
i think our energy natural aligns with some people more than others. Also, i think there is a sweet spot, where the girl is slighly more attractive than us, but not so attractitve that we are intimidated.
11:00 - Holy crap. I'm 54, divorced for almost a year. I've got the detach from outcome DOWN and just enjoy every date I've gone on. I don't try to own it. One first date I went on a few weeks ago was somewhat ambivalent about me. At the end I complimented her car (A Q5), as I have a Macan (the Porsche equivalent). "You should check out the differences in the interiors, and I have a little something extra in the stereo I upgraded in this Macan." So I played her a few songs to show off the system - wide variety of music and songs I really like. During the segments of music, I'd tap to the beat or play the keyboard (I'm a drummer and a keyboardist so I can't really help it).We are now dating and she said that "I was kinda on the fence about you until I saw you light up when the music was playing and I couldn't believe how much you enjoyed it and how much detail of the songs you knew. It was endearing." We are now exclusive. ;-)
Ok my man. Got anything in your bag of tricks for guys with disabilities. Specifically, I'm legally blind. Suck with body language. And just feel like I miss all the signs that a woman is going to use ne. I just dont know what to do.
#2 Easily attainable by hiring escorts. Pity it's illegal in so many places (not where i live fortunately enough). As soon as i lost my V card to an escort at 28, i'm finding myself applying all 5 points automatically whenever talking to a new girl. The only thing, it gets really boring overtime because they all always already have a boyfriend in my area and they settled down with him, so i'm finding myself reverting to escorts everytime.
Not necessarily. I'm 41 I'm 5'8 and just newly separated. And at work there is 3, 20 something ur old women that like me. Or maybe I'm just that good looking.
Your point is valid. However not necessarily inviting you to his apartment means lack of respect for you. A man is to define through the interaction what is the woman character. You individually. are not a person who accept that kind of sudden invitation, but many women do w,/o feeling disrespected.
@Tere being a guy, hypothetically, if any female anywhere close to an authentic drop dead gorgeous woman, even one half my age, assuming a fresh acquaintance, invites me into her boudoir, all I can say is: she had better be standing behind me while I'm heading for that door knob, sure, also, it is very highly likely that most probably in fact I would expect that I would feel, inter alia, extremely disrespected, this will be quite acceptable; in the event I'm not too terribly abused - or, for too long .*.*.*.
Hemingway, as portrayed in this clip from Midnight in Paris is the epitome of masculinity. This 2 minute clip hits all your points. I appreciate you Bobby. You have reignited a fire in me that has been missing for a long time. th-cam.com/video/3wM06z5lA74/w-d-xo.htmlsi=rP7tTbW9mO0y-nc7
Wanted to stop by and say that watching your videos has been a blessing. I'm 61 and newly divorced. My confidence has increased because of your advise. I really enjoy these videos.
glad you're finding them helpful! enjoy the fresh start.
@@JosephDunegan sorry to hear about the divorce brother I Hope you are doing well!
*These strategies make confidence feel achievable and fun, without the pressure to be perfect.*
You actually give non generic advice I love your content
thanks for watching.
whats weird was that i already knew and practiced these things before when i was in my teenage years. i got this confidence from friends who were somewhat rebellious to some degree but good people overall. and very chill. lets just say we were young skater boys but not the destructive kind where a lot of people would assume of. us being chill, relax and laid back with our healthy minded friend group made us all feel belong. story here is that surround yourself with people you love being yourself around with. YOUR CONFIDENCE WILL GO THRU THE ROOF. we had that i dont give a fawk mentality with each other, and we had that with everybody else
Thanks for sharing that bro, however you're not the expert Bobby is, that's the reason he's talking up there, and you're typing in the comments, nobody's here to listen to you bro!!!
@@kytaylor5080 i'm just SHARING my personal experience bro. appreciate the feedback bro. no need to put yourself up to bring someone down bro. i dont care if people like you dont care about the experiences i share bro. you're typing to reply to my comment thinking you did something bro. i dont give a flying fuck about you brooo!!!!! ♥♥
@@kytaylor5080 happy that you gave in to my comment to send your negative energy bro. glad you took the bait bro. i understand your existence of what you call your life is shitty as fuck bro and so that u have to project your insecurity on me bro. tells how much you are bro!!!!!!
@@kytaylor5080 wahala 😂
But the real confidence is when you're not in your comfort zone
Mr. Bobby dropping gems! 💠
glad you found helpful
Great life advice in general man. Cheers.
Another great job Bobby! Being outcome independent makes staying in the now, flow easier. Cuz we don’t care and it all comes down to having a life.
Fantastic confident secrets Mr.Bobby. Thanks for sharing
You are my teacher i had learned so much from you ❤️
I know this video is kinda old now but I watched it for the first time last night before going out and keeping it in mind, I had a great night that may become a date now. Thank you
👌 thanks, good points
Assume rapport : this comes to me accidently with a job in sales. I was always a little shy and nervous about me. To fix this i start thinking about what person do i like start talking to me. And i came to the conclusion that friendly, open and not needy is key. And act like you know them a bit like a neighbor or so. That works so well simply by imagining what i would like. With girls is no other way..
Thanks for sharing! Sales stuff def translates to dating too...
Rio is very thorough. This is the go to guy to fix you up for sure
thanks, I appreciate the comment, and glad you find them helpful.
@@BobbyRio Thanks for all the help
Thank you for boosting my confidentiality Bobby. I'm improving myself as I watch your videos
Confidence comes from earned competence in skills and in life, and it's also tied to a solid, reality based life perspective that works and that rewards responsibility and accountability. There's no short cut to the real thing.
Great bullet points - the one block that I can't, can't ,can't do is hand a phone to a girl and ask her for her number. Everything else isn't a real issue. The psychology in this part of my brain wants to convince me that I am coming over as being pushy and bothersome. The voice says . " ... why do you want to kill a great vibe and banter just now by getting serious and asking for a number . Chill out bro ' " .So then I agree with that voice and never do it.
Really good video man. Lot's of good confidence tips.
Glad it helped
Your content are uplifting ❤
your content is gold, keep it up!
Please make the scrambler available to purchase by Google pay or UPI ID's too because some of us don't have credit card or PayPal account
I'm 62 years old went through a terrible divorce got emasculated millions of dollars and assets stripped for me with a trophy wife of 30 years and what he's saying is very accurate even within a relationship or marriage don't think it changes
However I had to Fantastic kids very successful and I don't regret my marriage life and I want to encourage young men to have a family and give it their all when they do go into a relationship authenticity is the word and expect the same don't be an actor if we have to tell someone how to act they're just actors....keep it real.
We are all very special creatures but Bobby is fantastic
Sorry to hear about this John.
Most valuable video of yours I've seen so far.
I went through so much of my life - from, say, 14 to about 55 - being more or less ashamed about having sexual desire for women - much of which was a result of overprotective parenting and a conservative religious upbringing. Things are improving, but too bad it couldn't have happened forty years ago! But this is not no reason not to improve my life now, at 60.
There's this quote by bruce lee which goes something like this: express yourself honestly. I was always baffled by the quote. Now I understand. It's approving yourself and not care about people's opinion of you.
Hey Bobby, a girl i like just gave me a complement. How do i respond to it.
Most girls around me like complimenting my dressing, hair, eyes...does blushing make me look weak?
Bloody hell. Thanks man!
Great video
Bobby, you are a five-star high-output performer! Whether you spell correctly or incorrectly, these instructional videos are always superb - and the spelling mistakes, well - they just make in more real, more humanly vulnerable. That's what we want, right, because that's the way life is. Bravo for you!
I realised I'm so much attracted to a certain group of girls so I gave up on trying to be confident I prefer to be alone now.
Great job 👍
I've taken that quiz multipla times where I I have answered diffrently every time. I got the same bad result every time. So... I'm in desperate need of your courses... or what??🤔
Great video! Great content!
Thanks Bobby!
Hey Bobby, I accidentally showed her I'm too interested. How can I bounce back and give her a challenge?
Second one is super important
Gold!
Almost 90% of dating lessons in a small video, if it were a book it would sell milloins. Thanks alot!
Making a move will never make her like you less. It often makes her like you more. Even better, it scares away the "just friends" girls.
Thank you very much
#3 is the most difficult.
I think the most important is to speek less than her. Listen her and feed conversation with few words. dont speek about yourself, let her speek
very true, listening and responding (instead of reacting or feeling pressure to impress) is a skill
@@BobbyRio yes I have learned it... its better not talk about oursefl, and remain misterious. The more we are trying to impress the less result will be. Easy to get into the friend zone from where coming back is hard....
More important to be interested, than interesting.
Sup Bob'o ✌🏻 ❤️
D&d is awesome
Woo 0:59
Hello Bobby. I'm Doug, a longtime subscriber, first time commenting. My comment and inquiry as to your advice/opinion is this; three nights ago, and after just over 3 years seeing each other, had a complete falling out with a woman I'd been in love with. The friendship was a bizarre relationship, in my humble opinion. Not once inside that period of time would she go out to dinner with me; we never went to a concert, an amusement park, or the beach (which I live only 4 miles from Pacific shoreline). She and I never even watched one movie during the probably thousands of hours we'd spend in my bedroom. We DID drive to Laughlin, first 2 months of the friendship, and then down to San Diego for a weekend within the following month. From the get go, I made it abundantly clear I was interested in a LTR, and she made it abundantly clear that she didn't like being in a traditional relationship. I chose to simply enjoy her company, the time she'd spend with me, and not put pressure on her to choose me and only me; but it was only one routine. She'd travel 22 miles from her place to mine, and remaining in my room for a full day or two. After three years of this routine, my perception was that she wasn't taking how I felt about her as serious as I was. I understand the concept of just enjoy time together, without being preoccupied with the outcome, but after 3 years, I kept forcing the issue until she didn't want anything to do with me. A metric shit-ton of fine details have been left out, but inside 3 years, she dumped me without letting me know it (while she returned to the ex bf she had prior to me); contracted Chlamydia and had to call me to advise me to see a doctor, which I did; and only briefly professed to be ok with sleeping with me, and only me.
So.... several months go by and I think I'm never gonna see her again. Out of the blue she then starts calling and wants to pick up where we left off. This woman was and is easily the sexiest woman I've ever dated, and had the greatest looking naked body MY eyes have ever seen, first hand. Great body, and a face that well suited all that were below it. I'm not an arrogant fella, but I am a tad bit better than average looking, and there's plenty men better looking than myself. I say all this because I was ready to push for a split, if one was on the horizon, and I don't regret a thing that way.
In your opinion, Bobby, do you believe I should have kept on just enjoying time with her on her terms, and do my best to not care about the outcome, or is that advice for only when a boy and a girl first meet? After i realized I was in love with this woman, I allowed her to dictate how our time was spent, mostly because she was extremely enjoyable that way, but I was done with continuing to invest time with her if she wanted to also continue retaining the option to just bail on me without notice like she did once before. I wanted her to choose me, or the highway, and she chose the highway, but I had to exert pressure to get her to spill that information. She'd dig her heels in any time I pressed her to make a decision about anything. What I lost was a woman who I thought was quality, but in the end, was never going to be able to commit. That is why I'm ok with the outcome, tho I readily admit I will miss who I thought she was, not who she is in reality.
@kingdomhouse3318 Is that an Archie Bunker quote? You're a little late with your "advice". Note that was posted 5 months ago. Maybe now it's time for you to get a life?
What do you think of the song "Walk Like A Man" by Grand Funk?
Idk but sometyms I find its easy to flirt with some gals and others I find it difficult I wonder wat causes that
i think our energy natural aligns with some people more than others. Also, i think there is a sweet spot, where the girl is slighly more attractive than us, but not so attractitve that we are intimidated.
That quiz is really weird, I put in 2 "wrong" answers and got 27/37 or so, makes no sense
11:00 - Holy crap. I'm 54, divorced for almost a year. I've got the detach from outcome DOWN and just enjoy every date I've gone on. I don't try to own it. One first date I went on a few weeks ago was somewhat ambivalent about me. At the end I complimented her car (A Q5), as I have a Macan (the Porsche equivalent). "You should check out the differences in the interiors, and I have a little something extra in the stereo I upgraded in this Macan." So I played her a few songs to show off the system - wide variety of music and songs I really like. During the segments of music, I'd tap to the beat or play the keyboard (I'm a drummer and a keyboardist so I can't really help it).We are now dating and she said that "I was kinda on the fence about you until I saw you light up when the music was playing and I couldn't believe how much you enjoyed it and how much detail of the songs you knew. It was endearing." We are now exclusive. ;-)
Everything is ENERGY. Women understand this much better than men.
2 "S's" in ShameleSS..LOL
Hi shade bobby
Ok my man. Got anything in your bag of tricks for guys with disabilities. Specifically, I'm legally blind. Suck with body language. And just feel like I miss all the signs that a woman is going to use ne. I just dont know what to do.
I’m not wired to do this, it’s over
I cant do 1)2)3)4 and thats why I. don't have confidence
trading your status to be like
#2 Easily attainable by hiring escorts. Pity it's illegal in so many places (not where i live fortunately enough).
As soon as i lost my V card to an escort at 28, i'm finding myself applying all 5 points automatically whenever talking to a new girl.
The only thing, it gets really boring overtime because they all always already have a boyfriend in my area and they settled down with him, so i'm finding myself reverting to escorts everytime.
These days don't touch any chick until you two feel it eont result in a sexual assault claim or worse.
Confidence equals be tall and rich. Done and done. All this other shit don’t matter it’s just click bait
Not necessarily. I'm 41 I'm 5'8 and just newly separated. And at work there is 3, 20 something ur old women that like me. Or maybe I'm just that good looking.
If a guy asked me back to his apartment I’d be turned off. That may show confidence but it would also show me that they lacked respect for women.
so when you and a guy like each other, you prefer to keep things completely platonic forever?
Expecting a guy to read your mind seems unrealistic/disrespectful.
So he should play as your friend an never show pshysical interest in you?
Your point is valid. However not necessarily inviting you to his apartment means lack of respect for you. A man is to define through the interaction what is the woman character. You individually. are not a person who accept that kind of sudden invitation, but many women do w,/o feeling disrespected.
@Tere
being a guy, hypothetically, if any female anywhere close to an authentic drop dead gorgeous woman, even one half my age, assuming a fresh acquaintance, invites me into her boudoir, all I can say is: she had better be standing behind me while I'm heading for that door knob,
sure, also, it is very highly likely that most probably in fact I would expect that I would feel, inter alia, extremely disrespected, this will be quite acceptable; in the event I'm not too terribly abused - or, for too long .*.*.*.
Hemingway, as portrayed in this clip from Midnight in Paris is the epitome of masculinity. This 2 minute clip hits all your points.
I appreciate you Bobby. You have reignited a fire in me that has been missing for a long time.
th-cam.com/video/3wM06z5lA74/w-d-xo.htmlsi=rP7tTbW9mO0y-nc7
funny, 20 years ago in college, i wrote a paper on Hemingway's code of masculinity. Very happy to hear you're motivated!
@@BobbyRio do you still have the paper? That would be fun to read.