GENDER IMBALANCE MAKES MARRIAGE HARDER FOR KOREAN MEN
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Welcome to yet another edition of Issues and Insiders.
I'm Min Sunhee.
Marriage is looking to be tougher for Korea's men than its women.
For more I have Doctor Heo Nayoung at Shanghai University live on the line.
Doctor Heo it's a pleasure.
I also have Kwon Soa with us.
Soa welcome.
1) Doctor Heo, let's begin with details of your research including its results.
2) Doctor Heo, what do you believe are the main reasons behind this gender imbalance?
3) Now Soa, do tell us more about Korea's past preference for baby boys, and I believe this was not simply a national trend though?
4) But Soa, over the past years, there has been a shift in this preference from boys to girls, right?
5) Doctor Heo, speaking as a scholar of sociology, how do you explain the shift in preference from boys to girls?
6) Beyond Korea, Doctor Heo, I understand that bleak marriage prospects are also the reality in a few other countries.
What more can you tell us?
7) Doctor Heo, what do you propose to raise the prospects of marriage for men in countries where they outnumber women?
8) And Soa, statistics do prove that international marriages in Korea have been on the rise, right?
9) Doctor Heo, generally speaking, quite a number of young adults here in Korea are shunning marriage.
Again, what are your suggestions to tackle this social concern?
10) Soa, for the sake of some perspective, do tell us why a growing number of young Koreans are choosing to stay single.
All right.
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2024-02-07, 14:30 (KST)
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gotta say this "it was a mens job to care for the parents", let's be real here, the job as in actual work was done by the daughter-in-law not by the son
Also in many cases the daughters actually take care of the parents..for free and this is common in many cultures
Don,t you know that , it,s sons duty to take care their parents .not daughter in law duty . Did sons take care of their wives ,s parent .
If men earning money in low effort job, i.e. Boeing salesmen (party all day long), I wouldn't say that ALL actual work done by daughter-in-law.
I'm female computer scientist with stressfull work and we shouldn't underestimate how hard is it to earn money, so its not like they do nothing
Let's be real here. Son goes out breaking their backs trying to make money for the family.
Traditionally speaking, the wife controls the finance. She puts the husband on payroll.
The parents are forced to be good to the daughter in law in fear she would just leave.
Wives don't cook no more. They just watch korean drama and girl power.
It's the same issue in China. Women are very well treated due to their scarcity.
It's a market issue.
Totally agree with you. So many generations of daughters in law were used as domestic helpers and nursing home caregivers. They worked in the background, providing care for the in laws and their own husbands and children. Unappreciated and unacknowledged. Taken for granted. No wonder young women don't want to marry so early now.
Old generations: *abandons female babies in forests*
Sons: Sorry mom and dad, but your bloodline ends with me cause I can’t find a woman to marry.
Old generations: *surprised pikachu face*
🎉🎉🎉
EXACTLY. I am one of the lucky girls whose parents nor grandparents were not desperate for a boy and treated me no different than my male cousin.
It’s so disappointing that they didn’t mention the severe violence and oppression Korean Women are facing. The leading cause of their choices not to procreate with Korean Men.
Spot on! The strong patriarchal values and inherent machismo, total disrespect for women and viewing agression against women as a sign of a strong man is so deeply ingrained in most societies. Domestic abuse in Japan and Korea is an epidemic (I am sure in all the rest too, but I mention the ones I have first contact with and have @personally witnessed) Women are getting sick of this nonsense. Women are choosing to stay single and fulfill their nurturing needs by having a pet. You’ll be an outcast, but a happy outcast. Marriage is a VERY BAD IDEA.
@@KizetteandTotoromarriage to the *wrong man* is a bad idea. Agree with the other points though. Even in most parts of Africa women are expected to the husband like a King and cater to him even if he is the worst and no one will condemn him. Infidelity a huge problem too. Having been raised in the West but going back to my home country in Africa opened my eyes to how crappy a lot of women get treated.
Exactly. Nobody wants to have this conversation anywhere. Nobody wants to mention abuse.
Another reason for this is the forced male conscription into the military.
This result in more "aggressive men".
As men are in the military women can advance their career as men are still training .
as a result the preference shift is stronger right now . The conscription need to be made full gender and noncompulsory.
Also there are women only universities so most men meet women at work and not even in university..
The reason for women only universities is also because the men aren't fresh out of highschool so they probably need a different type of schooling programme after conscription into the military
Exactly - domestic violence towards women is accepted by Korean society now and it’s hard for women to escape as they’re expected to “take it”
I don’t remember who said it, but I remember the saying: Nobody wanted daughters, but everyone wants _daughter-in-laws._ And since they got rid of their daughters, looks they’ll have a tough time getting some daughter-in-laws.
Basically. But it’s interesting how this is still being framed as a problem for men because they won’t be able to have a wife. The baby girls weren’t even able to have life. 😭
@MsMorganVEVO It's crazy how getting rid of one gender is normalized. India also did the same.
@@misslola007 Yep. The Asian feminists are supposedly sooooo radical, but their countries disposed of 30 million baby girls simply because their culture valued boys. Nothing sounds more radical than that. But when something is normalized to you, it won’t seem that bad until it blows up in your face (like it is now).
@@misslola007This is why it’s so hard to travel out there as a woman on your own. Being SA’d is normal, and that’s so sad.
@BonazaiGirl serves them right! Their lack of foresight was/is their own undoing!
Talking about men "carrying the bloodline" when you actual need women to "CARRY" the bloodline.
A quick Google search will tell you this
"There are three types of unilateral descent: patrilineal, which follows the father's line only; matrilineal, which follows the mother's side only; and ambilineal, which follows either the father's only or the mother's side only, depending on the situation."
It's not only women, men can also carry the bloodline seems like people are not very good in science
@@-Blue-_ all that trying to sound smart and you still didn't get the point.
lol seems like you failed at science class@@scotchsour
@@-Blue-_ She's talking about women carrying the babies in their wombs, not men. Women do the "legacy" bloodline labour by carrying & birthing the children which could put their own life at risk.
what i am trying to say that men can also pass a bloodline @@kenasssss
it is exactly the same issue in China and India where the older generation prefers sons over daughters, the females were either aborted, adopted or sold away. It was unnatural and distorted the gender demographics, and it is also a reason for low birth rate. The next generation is paying the price.
They still don't value women. So, maybe it is a price they should pay.
Bro.. those 3 womens looks like guys/males.. maybe koreans males have a lot of fantasies from TV with unrealized plastic surgery faces that doesn't match the reality..
@@Vivalavida529well these Korean males don't look like the actors in the drama hence why women aren't looking their way. It's mutual feelings
Stupid societal practices and parents that subscribe to them has finally paid off.
Waited till the end and she never gave any real solutions. Importing immigrants don't fix anything. Where's she gonna find women who looks like Koreans? Which country don't have the same gender imbalance?
Just off the top of my head, there are several trivial and obvious solutions. But she never mentioned any, much less discuss their merits and problems.
Create an environment where women can go back to work after having children, affordable daycare, parental leave for women would be a nice thing.
Agree, would just add parental leave for women *and men
Or have areas for children and babies at work.
I know some people owning their own business who have a nursery area for children. I've seen some local restaurants with cribs in a small room and their kids are wiping down tables and chairs.
What!??? I'd say off the excess males. TF.
@@mariannalily4888men taking care of small children especially small daughters is unnatural. I am a daughter of a single father and growing up whith only a man in the house was weird . Those looks disturbed me
@@bzzzz...8383 If that is your personal experience it would make sense to prefer using parental leave only for the mother. However your experience is not everyone's and others may prefer allocating it in a more balanced way between the parents.
There are many fathers which are and would like to be emotionally close to their children, I would not want to discriminate against them
So its the daughter's free labour the old parents want 😒😒
Women have been nurses forever. Thus, the older generations would obviously want that.
@@KangTheDigitalNomadGlobeTrekerthen they should go to an actual nurse who is license and specializes in that round the clock care.
You must be a lot of fun at parties. Women have for millennia been home makers, mothers, and care takers for the elderly. There is nothing free about their labor. The elderly have helped raise their children, provided a home, and invested in their son and his family. The role of the traditional wife is an important one to the family. However, modern women look down on women who embrace their traditional roles. Yet the most miserable women of all are those who are 30+ years old with no husband and no kids. A career is a poor substitute for a family
@@busterboyd4125 actually no, science has already proven single women are significantly more healthier and happier than both single men and married women.
@@busterboyd4125 "Yet the most miserable women of all are those who are 30+ years old with no husband and no kids. A career is a poor substitute for a family" - statistics actually indicate otherwise.
“Sons are better because they carry on the family name.”
Many years later, the sons can’t get a wife to give birth to carry on the family name 😂😂😂
Women can now give their children her own family name. Not in all countries but in plenty countries already. Which is what should’ve been practiced centuries ago because she is the one carrying the baby for 9 months and not the man.
What a horrible take. Probably the product of a single mom.
@@augustgirl2905 not all culture
1. As the professor says, it's consequences of gender-selective abortions in the 1980s-90s that aborted more girls than boys.
2. Every young person seems to want to move to Seoul, and every young country girl especially want to escape rural life. The only reason Seoul is spared the gender imbalance is because all the rural country girls are moving there for jobs and to avoid life as a farmer's wife.
3. For the girls who remain in small towns, most women don't want to marry men with less education than them, so many male farmers are bringing and marrying foreign women from Vietnam or the Philippines who are trying to escape poverty in those countries.
What of the 200,000 plus adoptions that happened overseas in the late 70’s and 80’s? Most of those adoptions were female adoptions. Thoughts?
@@craigdonovan902 Absolutely, I agree with you there too. If parents didn't outright abort the daughters, they would be born and sent to an orphanage. Adoption of Koreans, by Koreans, as a cultural practice wasn't popular in Korea so some of these kids would eventually be adopted by westerners.
But these abortions of females didn’t happen in conservative South Korea. Babies were put in the country’s Baby boxes because single parent families are socially unacceptable.
Yup male farmers here have to settle for less
This is why abortion is bad. It robbed 2 generation of women. Imagine how strong feminism would be if abortion was illegal.
They’re going to blame this on their women though. Patriarchy always does
They have in China where women are ostracised and called ‘left over’ women if they are unmarried at 27. Shaming women for not settling down and starting a family.
U can already see that in the comment section
@@jessicascoullar3737they have to shame women --- because China is in a bad crisis for their sins. Men used to be called "bare branches"... But with 30 million extra... You can't demoralize like in the good ol days... Unless you want stabbing sprees
@@jessicascoullar3737it's so funny to me because they know the leftovers are men but they're never going to admit it
@@jessicascoullar3737In Japan women who don’t want to marry and have a family are openly berated by politians, so you can imagine what this is doing for the already appalling behabiour of men in such a chauvinistic country. Apparently, the reason birthrates are in the negative is women’s fault! They just don’t get it (these stupid dinosaurs-the politicians). They would have to admit they’ve got it all wrong and that’s never going to happen...
The culture is paying for their choices.
Paying for their choices? Korean men have plenty options since so many women in surrounding poor countries dying to get w them for better life. Unfortunately even to this day, Korea and Japan remain only two fully developed high-income countries in Asia.
@@kimckawayeah, its kidnapping and human trafficking that's is happening but nice try
@@OO9O9 Kidnapping to make wives? Why would Koreans need to resort to such tactic when kpop/kdrama loving women of Vietnam/Phillippines/Thai etc can simply make 4-5X income in Korea vs their own homeland? If you're hater and jealous at least make some plausible sense.
@@OO9O9There is no kidnapping or human trafficking. The women come to Korea out of choice.
The same can be said of any culture in the world. Your statement is very judgmental and shallow.
The parents should also teach their son's how to do house chores. And teach them a good behavior to be a good man. Also for daughters.
Yeah parents must teach their daughters not to be hoez and fk around
Yea. Men are way better doing horse chores than hard labor. Send your daughter's out to operate heavy machinery and to steam fitting
Parents can’t teach you what they don’t know. Societies have changed, what men and women accepted yesterday we refuse to accept it today. So it’s tricky
Wrong. That's what's leading to the current low birthrate. Parents need to teach their boys to be men and their girls to be women. So there is no gender confusion and roles are clearly defined.
@@busterboyd4125 if we need to be trained in our gender, doesn't that imply we are all born "gender confused"?
If so, isn't "gender confusion" natural and whatever the training produces a human created confusion?
On another note, if any protector and provider cannot protect themselves from filth and provide hygiene, they better return to training, they fail the basics.
I have also heard a lot of Korean say that they do not want to raise their children in the Korean society, mainly because of the difficulty of the education system
That is a major problem. Korea needs to reinvent itself. Where non-college trades aren't looked down upon. There are so many Koreans with useless college degrees that think themselves superior to people who didn't go to college to learn a trade.
Education and employment
I know Koreans in America who wish they could move back or are moving back. The US has no social cohesion.
@@michaelashby9654 and that’s because whites don’t want and won’t allow social cohesion!
@@michaelashby9654 im not sure why youre speaking about something entirely unrelated to the discussion
I was raised by Korean parents who immigrated to the U.S. My perception is that in Korean culture, children, especially daughters are seen as property and servants. I see this assumption in this video. "Who is going to take care of elderly bachelors?" Why can't they take care of themselves and form close friendships and support networks? Why isn't the question asked, "who is going to take care of elderly single women?".
Interesting perspective. However, It seems like a modern day western feminist assessment on things. How much time have you spent in Korea? You seem highly westernized. Korean culture is extremely complex with a long history and reducing it down to a simple western perspective is silly.
@@sfguy2024are you Korean yourself?
I’ve spent enough time time in Korea to know there are a lot subtleties to just about all social norms. The post is likely from a highly Americanized gyopo.
Nah whatever nationality you are, the whole "who will care for the daughters when they are elderly?" is such a valid qn. Noone cried or cared for those innocent lives, not even the conservative or pro-lifers equivalent in SK. Scientifically, you need more women than men to sustain the human race but an equal number would be best for the genetic variety health if the human race. Whuch is why cheaters should be punished accordingly.
@@sfguy2024 So an elderly woman does not need help and can sustain herself better than males do to the point where we shouldn’t inquire into who will care for them as well in old age? To be discarded and seen as invisible to society since they can no longer service men? So…men are useless is what you’re implying and that women magically are capable even in sickness and in old age. Okay. Good to know that men can’t function and are a clear lower life form. lol.
I’m here for the spicy comment section
Looks like they should stop viewing the foreign women they date as “playthings” and start seeing them as serious partners.
😂😂😂 VERY true
Don't hold your breath
Well some do , some don’t
No, stop being mad your Korean boy toy dumped you🫵🤡
@@sithqueengigi588I’m live in pyeongteak-si…lets hook up
Horrible to think innocent baby girls were deliberately aborted.
😢
And this is how dumb they are and the reason why they are reaping what they sow. What dummy decided to get rid of baby girls? Didn't they factor in that they would need these same baby girls to grow up as women and give birth to more baby boys? Just dumb!
Wouldn't all babies, regardless of gender be innocent?
A lot of people who do abort also cite lack of finances (ie money) and infant disability for abortion, so it seems they're all effectively innocent.
@@Byorin That's a good way to ignore the point. Could it be that Korean society favors sons to the extent that "daughter-in-law" is not an appealing role for most of the unmarried women?
@@natashadickson4819 is it though?
The other poster implied that being a girl makes the abortion more horrific, as opposed to any other characteristic of a child. This would effectively mean that some children are more valuable than other children. If that wasn’t their intention, then why even mention that characteristic at all?
Patriarchy (favoring male babies) hurts men (now they can’t find a spouse).
Patriarchy existed since the dawn of time...yet somehow earth population today 8billions.
There has never been a successful civilization without patriarchy. Like it or not its the only thing that works. Gender imbalances have happened many times before but have rectified themselves within a generation or two and at times through war. The only difference now is societies need for instant gratification and keeping the ponzi scheme of state pensions and welfare going. I hear now Korean couples are starting to prefer daughters. If that trend continues and they start having more childern than in a couple of generations Korea will have the problem of too many women. Unfortunately I will be to old by then :)
@@kimckawapopulated through oppression. Look how you korea was pulled from mediocrity because of Japanese ruling over them. It's all thank to Japan. 😂
@@jw841there is no patriachy civilization that didn't destroy itself. Patriachy civilization keep destroying it self then the patriachy create another one because it's unsustainable
@@jw841 "There has never been a successful civilization without patriarchy" you are so uneducated it's honestly embarrassing but go off I guess...
Karma for deleting all those poor baby girls
What baby girls?
What happened with female babies?
@@n.m8287 There was selective abortions of females in the 1980s and 1990s in South Korea. Now they're worried about a gender imbalance they themselves caused.
@@cheshirecat5155 ohh i get it now, thanks for explaining i appreciate the help. Have a nice day
Oh so NOW they are not just a clump of cells.
Isn't there also a social movement of women actually boycotting dating and marriage currently?
Yes, but I wouldn't call it a boycott as much as it's just a practical/safety thing to do or a way of life / movement. Domestic violence is really high and sadly there have been an increase in cases in the public (example stalking, violence, etc) that have resulted in trauma. It's no different than in America where there are plenty of people who would rather stay single than date, but there's a name for it in SK. It's called 4B, aka No Dating, Sex, Marriage, Children (which all kinda already happens if you just choose not to date in general). Also to note, there are different types of people in this movement, not everyone is opposed to dating/sex/marriage, most just don't want children (for reference almost 50% of men in the younger generation don't want kids), but they are all clumped together in this movement.
Example, most recently, there was a random guy (20s) who went into a convenience store and attacked a female store clerk (20s) bc she "looked" like a feminist due to her short haircut (the store clerk didn't know the man nor did she interact with him in the store prior to the assault, also she was not a feminist, she had a shoulder length bob cut), the guy part of a men's rights activist group and his belief was "I think feminists deserve to be assaulted". He even continued to attack another customer (50s) with a chair when they tried to intervene. These attacks are becoming more frequent, it's difficult to tell who is an extremist anymore so many people believe it's easier / safer to just not date at all.
It's boycotting marriage who don't make any sense where you lose your personality, you're not being treated with respect, you lose money since you can't work as much, you lose your professional experience since you have to stop working at some point to have babies, you lose your body because you have a baby.... and the only purpose seems to procreate while you end up in depression...with a man that can leave you anytime and create a new family while you have lost so much. Most women would be glad to be in a happy/respectful marriage or committed relationship that is a true partnership. That makes things easier for everyone, men and women. Meaning both men and women agreed prior the marriage of what their role would be but it seems that for some men it's too much to ask. Men complain women don't want them anymore when women just say they don't want be with a men just because. Since more women can take care of themselves they don't need a man for financial protection. They need respect and partnership and loyalty and the men who understand that instead of complaining do not struggle. To many women have seen the impact of such "forced" marriage on their mothers and grandmother's. It never ended well for them. People often say it was better before.... But for whom really...
Don't believe everything you read and see on internet. Most people are too busy trying to live their lives to engage in such fringe group activity
@@MissyxAkunaithere is no different type of ppl in this movement. The movement is called 4b, no dating males, no marriage with males, no childbirth, and no sex with males. Anyone who isn't a 4b then she's not a 4b.
@@heredianna2496it's called 4b korea
Because the strong patriarchy there it is not alluring to get married.Women have to work,raise children and do housework WHILE taking care for the parents and in-laws.Just no way 😂
All while expected to look young forever and thin in anorexic proportions or else she is disposable material. Everything in their society is against women having children and they are surprised about it.
South Korea is not alone in gender imbalance. I am a white American female. I was adopted in 1953 from a family of nine; three boys and six girls. My birth parents kept the boys and the first two girls. Four of us girls were given up for adoption. This preference was the norm all over the world. Then in the 1980s there was international adoption of Korean male children; I know four men of Korean ethnicity between the ages of 30-38 years old who were adopted by white American couples. This has always confused me, but since viewing this video I understand the reasons.
Wow didnt know this. Hope your upbringing by your adopted parents was pleasant. Thank you for sharing
What are the reasons? I think I missed something..wasn't the 80s the time when males started being LESS preferred? So why would there be widespread adoption of them?
That isn't really the same thing, given you're still alive. Gender imbalances at the scale that effects family formation down the line require sex-selective abortion (or infanticide). Also, at least these days, it's actually the reverse - girls are adopted more readily than boys, with the commonly cited reason being women driving the adoption process and generally somewhat preferring to parent girls.
@@user-je7db7bi7i I think male children were less preferred by Koreans not westerners. In South Korea the husband has to buy the home and “feather the nest” so to speak. The male’s family must kick in the most. SK had financial issues (as we were struggling in Reagan’s “Trickle-down economy failure.) Whatever is happening in the US unfortunately influences the global economy.
@@1953lili you are WRONG!! Male children preference was GLOBAL!!!! 😬😬😬 It's so crazy the amount of lies women fell for.
Do you know Why women live longer? It has to do with the lies in talking about. The lies that appear as truth today, the same truth YOU believe as truth.
We ALL value life right???? Right??? Universally. So why do WOMEN 1. Give life 2. Live LONGER.
Do you think those two things are significant at all? So you think they are a coincidence?
Why do men say THEY are superior but women hold on to the MOST valuable thing LONGER????
Why do men say THEY have more value but CANT STOP CHASING WOMEN and LOOK WOMEN are wanting NOTHING to do with men.
I ask these they are ALL following the same pattern. The pattern being they don't match social NORM. These are NATURE not matching social norms which are MAN-MADE and therefore INFERIOR.
That means the inferior thing is the LIE. that means what you believe IS the LIE. and you believe it bc it was told and multiplied by men and used to infect women's minds so women no longer know what's truth.
So here's the truth as I have researched it. Women are SUPERIOR. By leaps and BOUNDS. In fact with women's true superiority, men CANNOT even exist. But that's another discussion.
Piintim trying to make is females are STURDIER. Which means in ANY environment, culture, more girls would be born because boys die way more before birth. So if you're seeing ANY "equal" birth ratio, or more boys, it's because girls have been ABORTED or KILLED, as kids or even adults.
PERIOD.
so the 1:1 sex ratio in America, yeah dead females, to the tune of MILLIONS. Just so the math. Let's say I'm wrong and I'm some crazy lady on the Internet. You HAVE heard men die younger right? Ok. If there was no female infanticide AND boys and girls are born at the same rate, then of men die younger, something verifable, then the sex ratio would NOT be equal would it! EVER based on just that alone.
That again proves an imbalance favoring WOMEN is NATURAL.
But we have gender balance bc men are killing women at ALL ages. So no there was not any absence of male preference or female infanticide in US. it IS GLOBAL.
I agree with most of the points stated. However, I think one thing that was not mentioned much is that these cultures at present is not child raising friendly or family friendly for that matter. There is constant work, just trying to survive and a lot pressure (image, to be perfect, allow time for family etc.) which adversely affects everyone. This has led to the high suicide rate esp in Korea.
Yes, they act like shift in women's role is the driver for not having families. Economic strain/struggle is the biggest and real driver. Too much western imposed perceptions here. Not saying that Korean culture couldn't undergo many transformations in terms of the roles of men and women, but too many people viewing all this from a western feminism perspective. Do you all want to turn ALL women in the world into western feminists?
Well this is the consequences of their actions. Both genders are important and both need to be respected. Girls shouldn't be favored over boys either. We see what those actions have led to. Infidelity is also a major problem in Korea as well as cost of living. So a lot needs to change before anyone will get married and have children. If it costs too much to raise a child, and the spouse keeps getting cheated on or abused, who would want to get married?I wouldn't want to either. But there is a serious problem with population collapse in our future. All over the world we have the same concerns.
their culture tries to rank people by age and gender for having more autority over others with causes all their unfair social imbalances. with a pilot of aircraft choosing to nosedive his plane them to check defect equipment if detected from a lower ranking crew.
100% infidelity is a problem. As an Engaged foreign soon to be married woman. Having to tell a korean born and bred former kpop a lister to sod off. Whilst he attempts to be the third party in my relationship. Could tell the lack of values and viewpoints he has on adultery had to be widely spread
Exactly, these are consequences. You can't blame women for not wanting anything to do with the men when they treat them like their personal unpaid maids
Less people is nothing but good for this planet. What needs to happen is new, progressive and enlightened social systems that don’t depend solely on the production of Women’s wombs.
We've seen in countries like China (and now Korea) what happens when the population is slanted towards a preference for males when it comes to gender-based abortions. I'd be interested to see how it would play out if reversed. For better or for worse.
It was probably the son's wife, the daughter in law) that cared for them. So, if the son does not marry, then that task would fall on him. Then, the son does not do a great job of looking after his parents. However, if your daughter does not marry, she is better looking after her parents as it was a role she was taught to fulfil for her husbands family.
It's not that young adults don't want to get married, the cost of living is expensive and young people are weighing between taking care of a family versus taking care of themselves.
No it's just that young people are spoiled and don't want to make sacrifices for their children like their parents did. The previous generation didn't eat out several times a week, didn't spend half their income on clothes and cosmetics. Selfishness and self-gratification is at the root of this problem.
@@busterboyd4125you sound uninformed
@@bdott1538 You sound like one of these spoiled children
@@busterboyd4125 you tried valiantly and flailed.
@@busterboyd4125 you tried but flailed.
Wow that was insightful. Moral of the story actions have consequences. How dare they do that to unborn girls 😡😡.
South Korea had a huge spike in adoptions overseas in the late 1970’s and most of the 1980’s. Over a projected 200,000 children were adopted out during this time with a majority being female. This fact was excluded from the stats and the “professor”. Was this done to control the content that is being sent to the Korean public to somehow repaint history and mistakes? Why does this seem like the government is censoring what happened. Thoughts?
depends on how you wanna look at it. Are koreans more likely to value men over women that they'd keep boys and send girls to be adopted or are westerners more willing to adopt asian women because they are seen as more valuable.
@@sunen7129There wasen't choosing beggars. What happend was korean adoptions was the least complicated and cheapest. Why would westerners choose girls over boys according to you? Back in the day an adoption from Korea cost 40 000 kr in Sweden during the 80's excluding travelingcosts.
@@elisabeth73 Racial stereotypes. Asians tend to be infantilized(looks young, submissive, innocent, short, quiet, small genitals). Stereotypes that are more favorable for women and not so much for men by western standards.
@@elisabeth73 Racial stereotypes. Asians tend to be infantilized by westerners. Being quiet, submissive, short, needs guidance. For women these can be seen as desirable traits. For men not so much.
200,000 does not sound statistically significant.
The 4B movement
@@user-le8zj8hd5r here comes an actual incel……
Cry about it incel
@@Lilou_log aww poor feminist, you don’t even know what “incel” means do you. If you can’t find a partner and don’t want to have kids, you’re the incel 😁
@@user-le8zj8hd5r lmaoo bdjjdkkshshsk girl calling me a feminist isn’t an insult also there is no “poor me” cuz I’m cool with avoiding men that would not honor me as a partner and not suffering and being miserable in a marriage with disgusting people like yourself , also having a choice whether I want a child or not is pretty cool and I like it. Also you ARE an incel. All I said was the 4B movement and your incel self got triggered. Why do emotional? What’s the problem you know this is not in your favor cuz you are the type of men that these women would rather die than marry, go cry about it to someone else ✨💅🏽🥰.
@@user-le8zj8hd5r☠️☠️☠️☠️ incel …
Interesting to see if the growing female preference becomes a shift and similar trends globally.
Well yes it will be. It's interesting howany people are not able to read signs and make conclusions from themselves. Really sad.
If beirheade is cratering all around the world, and men are the same all around the world and there's a gender imbalance all around the world, and women are becoming more progressive all around the world, why won't a preference for females rise all around the world??
The traditional misogyny is glaringly obvious. Sadly, women’s roles have left women empty and choosing the alternative because independence is the goal. Ageism has become more relevant and home life would definitely be favorable when a woman is present. I hope a more balanced outlook can be achieved.
Independence is the goal, sounds like the west and that ain’t great either.
Very misogynistic country. Lots of growth needed.
Not our problem to fix 😅
@@joycejoy4119who said it was your problem?
@@OO9O9 I said ours 🙈
@@joycejoy4119 your is for plural you foool
Misandristic country*
There’s literally 4 times more men leaving the country than women 😂
My ideal was always 'The Gentleman's Family' - one girl, one boy.
I had two wee boys. And yes , I'd have loved a daughter, but I am more than lucky to have healthy children at all.
.......this is phenomena not only in Korea but in all countries in the world...
What are you talking about there's more women than men in most countries so it's not exactly all over the world
@@enhancedutility266as per statistics of 2023, there’s 50.25% of male population worldwide VS 49.75% female.
They’re might be more female in some countries but overall the male population is higher.
The issue is that most people don’t want or are afraid to date or marry out of their race or country. Or they might just not have the opportunity 🤷🏼♀️
I would like it to also happen in Latin America 😅
It's difficult
@@Ela-jz3zg why?
@@enhancedutility266 There are many minors who have children without being prepared to be parents, the worst thing is that they have many who do not even know how to educate them and those of today teach them bad examples.
Hey they are the value right??? They built society right??? Please... CONTINUE!!! Continue building your society. Youre doing so great
😂 spot on! They are the smartest, chosen by god himself, the head of the household! Women are delegating the burden and responsibilities to the superior and "strongest" links and it has been interesting to watch🍿
In the U.S. maternity leave is 8weeks and a lot of the company don’t offer with pay while other countries offer 6months to a year maternity leave with pay. And in addition, U.S. doesn’t offer free childcare unless you live under poverty so many or should I say there is a “swift” to either not get married, get married later in life and making a choice of not having children in marriage because of financial burdens. I myself married late in life and have only one child d/t medical reasons, age, financial burden, and demanding job.
But none of that addresses the problem of low birth rate. Western European white women aren't having children either even with some of the best maternity benefits in the world. It's not the lack of maternity leave or income or anything like that. Koreans are making more money than ever in their history and yet people aren't having kids. The same is true across the 1st world nations with high GDP.
@@busterboyd4125 People are just loving money and pleasant life more than having children. No other reason.
@@an.hs.n I don't disagree with this assessment. It's rooted in selfishness and many will regret their meaningless lives but by the time they realize this it will be too late for most.
@@busterboyd4125or maybe they realize that having one or two kids later in life is perfectly fine instead of popping out three or five before you hit thirty like older generations did. Albeit, we have better accessibility to birth control than they did
Doesn't US provide foodstamp to jobless? And childcare? I heard elderly also get benefits if the caretakeris a damily he she gets funds? I thought US was still better at least one wouldn't go hungry when jobless most of Asian countries give nothing at all if you're jobless you are on your own so people can't even think of anything but earning just to survive marriage becomes lesser priority
1 in 4 Korean women I know are married to Korean men, there is something seriously wrong when your own women would rather go elsewhere for marriage.
Maybe selection bias? I think it goes both ways, the international marriage rate for Korean men are even higher than Korean women.
@@apark8787 could be, it’s just the people I know and I’m not in Korea, funny thing is all the Korean guys I know are married to their Korean wives. There just a ton of cultural family hang ups, women don’t want that. They want to keep the husbands family at arms length, but also still have their parents be a big part of their lives (like men do). The culture has to adapt to that, less bossy in-laws who treat you like a maid.
@@edo5407 I think that's it, overseas Koreans are not a representative sample of local Koreans. It could also be that the type of Korean woman who doesnt like their local customs ("family hangs up") are more likely to immigrate overseas and end up in your circle of friends lol
That's not the case in Korea. Women just don't marry at all.
Studies have shown that for many lower middle class families it's actually better financially for the mom to stay home with the children. The costs for a low income earner to pay for child care, transportation to and from work, work clothes, etc. were often more than the women earned.
But an even bigger cost in Korea is the hakwons or specialized tutoring for piano, math, english, etc. That's truly what's behind the huge cost of raising children. It's funny how Koreans take so much pride in being college grads but they lack the skills to teach their own children for free at home? You learn at a young age that a square does not fit in a round hole and yet Koreans have determined that all of their children will be academics? It's beyond belief that people think this way. Not every person has to go to college and people with trade skills, farmers, people who work with their hands should not be looked down upon.
They are in the find out season 😂😂😂
its not s shift in preference if you just want her to work. they've given up on relying on men for an ideal those men dont want to meet so that women can now bear the burden and be hospice care kids. no thanks.
so open the oportunity if a woman want to marry more than one man
That's make sense.
😂
Or just open up to other cultures and Mary out 😅
@@mamamalet no , they need to have pure korean kids + men in the world are more than women
Yes. 😂
Those women were maintaining the family and doing the work of sustaining and maintaining their husband.
The title needs change, GENDER IMBALANCE MAKES MARRIAGE HARDER FOR KOREAN WOMEN . That’s why the 4B movement began, because it’s easier being single than married.
this is just one issue. South Korea is probably the most developed nation with the least development in making its culture less discriminating against women. Police and government are more concerned about drug busting cases than helping abused and prostituted women and children.
Korean society is extremely misandristic despite what your feminist media might have indoctrinated you with. Literally 4x more men renounce Korean citizenship than women. 😂 Also as women's rights increase, the birth rates decrease. Just compare the birth rates of the poorest African countries with western feminist ones. Korea's birth rate is n indicator of excessively high women's rights and misandry
The daycare and schooling should be payed by the taxes that they pay so the school would be free from 3 years old up to the grade 9 and the kid is around 14-15 years old after that it can start to cost with books and that kind of stuff that the child needs to studdy but the term cost should always be payed by the taxes that people pays. My mother didn't pay a dime for my schooling, I had when I was 17 take a bank loan to be able to get all books and stuff that I needed but my 5 years in that school didn't cost anything it was payed by all the taxes that they take
I get the ancient Confucian traditions but in the 80s and. 90s you all didn’t see this coming? The science and technology were there at the time. Now watch as civil unrest becomes a problem. Unmarried lonely men often turn to a life of crime and violence.
I thought Gender seletive abortion was done only in India. Didnt know even East Asia had the same problem
Well, China is a well known case of selective abortion policy
Enother problem is , some asian countrys womens when they find out babys gender abortion next stop for them.. lots of countrys look down on having baby girl and coused problem on unbalanced population..
They did this because having a girl back then was shameful, women who produced sons (ironic since the DNA for male comes from men) were considered unsuccessful or undesirable. Men created this mindset, in short.
*another
teach your “boys” a good moral, rational and such behaviors in an early age even more in their adults or in teens ahhahahaha their sucks at that.
Great news
Please do a documentary about Korean interracial marriage.
Dont. They end badly.
Why?
And the big cult called something like the 7 moons or whatever that marry “opposite” strangers to each other. They’re also known as “moonie”
They are rare statistically speaking
@@sfguy2024 i see well I’m one of them
One option is also 2 husbands for a few willing Korean women 😅
Please njoy outside your race...we are here for you ❤😂
No it would only worsen it
Are you japanese? Because alot of korean men are in love with japanese women lol
Bardzo ciekawe
Koreans household debt to GDP is pretty high it always has to do with economics in advance economies.
Where did they collect data from lol! I'm a South Korean woman in my early thirties, have a good job, have good looks, have a pretty good temper, and almost all good men around are married or have girlfriends. Others have issues such bad habits, weight, unstable mental health or issues with women and etc. And I'm not even a picky person who is looking for only handsome or rich man. These days, I see how many young Korean men just don't want to settle down and have kids. It's so fu*ked up.
Some of those unmarried men would probably be happy to marry another man, so legalizing same sex marriage would also help the problem. Even if these men don't reproduce, they can still take care of each other as they age and potentially be healthier and happier.
Why do you speak for them ? As if you know them personally? Why try to introduce your rainbow politics to a country with decent morals?
A country that value women as cattle does not have decent morals
100% ‼️Especially when they have respect for men but do not respect women as their are seen as objects and not a person with feelings and needs . It would definitely be a healthier alternative because the way women are being treated and disrespected on a daily over there is actually nauseating.
Being a mother won’t even save women from being disrespected, used and abused. If anything it’s aggravating because children act as anchors to entrap them.
😂
And that will be sharpen the problem related with low fertility rate
Your rainbow policy made it worse
@@KG-ii2yxAnd just look at what their “decent morals” are doing to their society :D
All the queer guys: Hmph. Hmph. Hmph.
Explain this comment
@@KangTheDigitalNomadGlobeTreker Gay marriage is not legal in Korea. Therefore when they say gender imbalance is making it harder for Korean men, they could let the queer Korean men get married and marriage then wouldn't be harder for Korean men.
Lmao im just here for the comments
The 4 b movement is powerful
Doubt that is the real reason.
@@skillbopstermain reason
Please stop this narrative.
This is an incredibly misogynistic narrative the men including the anti-feminist president of Korea use to blame feminists rather than take accountability for the complex issues created by the corporate controlled government and the misogynistic culture.
The reason behind boys being preferred was that boys not only carry bloodline and surname further but also live with there parents and being a man in society was much more safer as you can do any job and earn a living but only very educated and high class women can do the same also women can't take responsibilities of 4 parents two in laws and two her own.
How will he have a bloodline without a wife to produce his bloodline?
@@natashadickson4819 most cultures were and are patrilineal that's why women leave their parents after marriage and carry husband's name so imagine you had 3 daughters and no son there will be a time that you will live alone when you are old and no one will take care of you also all your property will be shared between you son in laws because women had no power in past.
Daughters have the same bloodline as their brothers and can carry the family name as well. The real reason is patriarchy and favouring men because society views women as cattle and not full human beings. We all carry our father's name but we know very well where we came from
Basically, it's a worldwide problem that men expect too much from women. Women don't want to be held prisoner as only living a life of care giver for others.
Here in the Philippines we value both genders whether boy or girl once conceived. Life is sacred in the sight of the Lord.
So they rather outsource prospects who may or may not be interested in the women than provide incentives for marrying the rural bachelors?
In the end overall, 'the people' and the future is lost.
EMPOWER WOMEN! Women is better than men.
How are they better? Men invented far more and created societies women never could.
@@skillbopsterBy oppressing women dingus
Their choice.
How can people live with themselves abandoning a child, regardless of gender? I wouldn’t be able to sleep peacefully.
I agree that international marriages will help, as well as increase the birth rate. Also foreign women are more willing to live in rural areas, oppose to Korean women.
Talking about korean men without having a single men in their panel says a lot about how serious they are.
Southeast Asia perfected the appearance of grace, but only a handful out of the entire nation truly are of grace. It truly is a soulless generation.
Care to elaborate. Btw anything make centered CANNOT be of grace
Korea is an Asian country, but it isn't South East Asia.
@@LordPrinceIV just like India is considered to be in Asia? You know what I’m talking about. Why bother with the technicalities
Huh?
Asia in general. A whole continent full of sociopaths
Honestly, getting children into daycare when they are young can likely help a lot with socialization. Of course, this assumes they are adequately staffed and with capable people. That's probably the hardest part.
Same thing in the Black Community. Especially with the amount of our men in prison. The numbers don't lie and its effecting us greatly.
Not to the same degree. Because children out of wedlock in Korea is 2% while black Americans surpass 60%. Cultural differences.
@@busterboyd4125 *racial differences
@@busterboyd4125Yeah but those numbers are 30 years old they don’t represent the current numbers of children being born in the Black community. Young Black women ages 15-35 years old are not having kids including myself. Black millennials and generation Z are not having any children.
🙄 They're not our men & this is nowhere near the same situation in the BC. Black males do not aspire to marriage, fatherhood, education, self sufficiency as a collective, not even by half. Black women have the HIGHEST femicides in the US but here you are concerned about their choices to commit violent crimes against the "community". Black women like you are so pathetic & dangerous
You're concerned about their choices to commit violent/petty crimes but Black women have the highest FEMICIDES in the US. 🙄🤡
no no no
it's totally wrong lol
the statistic says that men aged 19-30 are becoming more traditional (right) and women aged 19-30 are becoming more liberal (left)
its also more common for people to become more traditional ( right) as they get older and have more life experience.
Reverse harem mode, turn on 😂
The topic gender equality is itself so scary .! We need to understand how to respect other gender and not to criticise other gender.I hope women as well as men would know the importance of their gender.!
I’m so confused 😕 if you look at other sources the gender ratio is vice versa.. I see it’s 99.9 men to 100 women. Not much of a difference. Even though there are more boys born, compared to the girls. I think we should look at the age which is acceptable for marriage not the overall statistics😅
I don’t know whom to believe, because depending on the source there are different results
In the small hospital my first son was born in there were 13 babies born that night. He was the only boy! 😳
There are at least other 364 days, where OTHER kids are born lmao
Finally another reason. I was tired of hearing finance finance finance....
Scarcity isn't a real reason. We should have seen all the women married if that was the reason. But since women complain that men aren't improving enough in order to be worth the risk of marriage and childbearing....
@@Mizwanderer1989complain 😂 no one is complaining dude, these women are opting out.
@@OO9O9 a lot of women are complaining. Do you live under a rock or what?
Sounds like the lgbgtq market will be expanding in South Korea soon
They are not talking about the high cost involved in child raising. They say more immigrants have to come. This will only cause issues to locals!!!
in philippines there are more women than men.. and women are more valued than men.. Philippines is matriarchal family and number 1 in equality in asia..
and yet most of the presidents/prime minsters were male,
Matriarchy is the opposite of equality.
Lol maybe learm some respect for women
Korean society is extremely misandristic despite what your feminist media might have indoctrinated you with. Literally 4x more men renounce Korean citizenship than women. 😂 Also as women's rights increase, the birth rates decrease. Just compare the birth rates of the poorest African countries with western feminist ones. Korea's birth rate is n indicator of excessively high women's rights and misandry
Forget about gender ratio, the financial bunder is enough for couples to not want to have kids even if they are married
@burbnbougie again the concept of "going back to normal"
Don't forget that some of the men and women are part of the lgbt community or are closeted. 😳
I think so beauty standards in Korea are also creating a lot of fudge !.
Making post secondary education more affordable is key to encouraging young people to think about marriage and work place supports ensure parents can provide for their babies/children-if not countries will have to rely on international marriage to ensure a healthy economy to look after the elderly and provide taxes to protect the quality of life in Korea
You mean brainwashing young ppl into slavery
American and this is fascinating. Un-marriage is actually everywhere.
The unintended unhappy consequences of international marriages in Korea will be the topic in 10 years. Its so obvious.
Move to Pyongyang my South Korean friends ❤️
Recently, I started watching true crimes that take place in Korea.
Really interesting but not in a good way at all 😢
This week I saw about these two criminals called “god god” and “Nth”.
Horrifying...simply put.
Knowing that women are abused like this still!, I don’t blame them for not wanting to marry 🤷🏻♀️
In France we have more boysbirth than girlsbirth and we still have more boys …until these young adults reach 23 yo… and then, there are more women than men and the gap is increasing as we age… it is probably due to accidental causes more frequent in male population. .. it is not just a question of sex ratio at birth…in my opinion
Males are self-destructive and engage in risky behaviors.
Usually, there are slightly more male baby being born with the ratio being like 51% boys and 49% girls. The reason for this can be found in the womb: more female embryos die before being born. This leads to more weak baby-boys being more. That’s the reason why more male than female babies die. There are also much more younger guys dying in their 20‘s due to car crashes and suicide.
@@elnabenoitthe rational gender 😂
@@ClaireEmiliayou are 🤡
No there are NO more boy births than girls births UNLESS the girls are being killed off. A female child is the DEFAULT baby, despite what men say. And bc it is the default children, it is far more STURDY genetically. male sperm are faster and conceived at 110 to 100 females, but they miscarry far more often bc they are genetically unsturdy. You don't know that, it's not common knowledge because....MEN LIE. so in society where they don't tamper with the babies, women will ALWAYS be born MORE. ALWAYS.
Humans deserve nothing else anymore
How can you find a high paying man if got less opportunities for the high paying job
Seems Confusious was very confused 😂
😂 I wanna see the passport bro go over there and try to take the little women that is left!
It actually does happen😂
Some white guys sure but it's actually in the reverse there's a video on France 24 showing South Korean men going to Vietnam for a wife
Old and ugly koreans going to Vietnam and victimized women there. Documentary on France 24, just search for it.
This is not a passport bro country at all. It’s a very homogeneous population and foreigners are looked down upon, a little less so from ultra wealthy countries. This isn’t some country where foreign men swoop girls off their feet, Seoul is more modern than probably all western cities and Korean education is among top in the world.
@@enhancedutility266foreigners are looked down upon? The same foreigners koreans love to act like ?! Stop using korea being homogenous as an excuse for their ignorance and hatred
Family blood line and culture passed by women
Who wants to marry in 2024 anyway? Moreover living cost and real estate prices in Korea are sky high… many Korean guys have told me they think marriage, wife and kids are like shackles to a man.
you say living costs are going up.. so then wouldnt staying single makes it harder to afford things?
forget about kids, if people got married with then had two sources of income, that would help with the increased living cost problem
@@JustinK0 hahaha most women will tell you: my husband’s money is for both of us, but the money I make is my money only.
Women usually don’t contribute and if they do is 20% at best.
Prices for suitable homes to raise a family in Korea are sky-high like everywhere else. After having 2 kids most couples are “dry” and living from paycheck to paycheck. Then if an emergency or accident takes place and you don’t have insurance it means: good bye savings…
Whats wrong with international women market?
Why having children? Might as well remain single and keep Ur savings for your old age needs. Children nowadays don't take care of old parents..unless they are bourned with silver spoons.Old and frail parents are expensive.
money are needed to buy diapers, underpads and medicine for them. Your spouses ( husbands or wives) most likely will refuse for you to contribute because a couple's savings will be needed to spend on their own kids and keep some savings for themselves. Most old parents having had to work to feed themselves later in life😂 Children nowadays are also more selfish and self- centred....the so- called e- generations😅
Asking because I really don't know, is there is no retirement pension in Korea?
If yes, why would elders need to work to feed themselves? The retirement pension is so low that basic needs are not fulfilled?