The Quickest Way To Destroy This ILLUSION

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  • @potatopoweredhamster9897
    @potatopoweredhamster9897 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1157

    Treat her like a queen
    and she will treat you like a peasant
    Never put women on a pedestal guys.

    • @venet5024
      @venet5024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Mind you that it applies for both sides. Gender doesn't play any role in this case. Nonetheless, 100% true statement.

    • @potatopoweredhamster9897
      @potatopoweredhamster9897 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@venet5024 Sure, but I can't speak from that perspective because I'm a guy.

    • @venet5024
      @venet5024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@potatopoweredhamster9897 You don't have to be a woman to be able to see women doing the same thing, but reversed. If you have eyes you can just observe people. I dare say 3/4 of "golden rules" in terms of do's and don'ts when interacting with women are in fact universal and apply for both genders, yet people forget about it. That's my point.

    • @potatopoweredhamster9897
      @potatopoweredhamster9897 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@venet5024 Fair enough, I added that stipulation simply because everything can't be compared apples to apples due to the different dynamics at play between the sex's. But I agree there can be a fair amount of crossover in general. Let's just leave it at that.

    • @venet5024
      @venet5024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@potatopoweredhamster9897 Yeah, you're right, dynamics are important. I'm just pointing out the general rule that usually works but does not receive due attention.

  • @nmestre2
    @nmestre2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +573

    Give a woman a crown and you'll become her jester.

  • @mrblondeheart9562
    @mrblondeheart9562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +716

    When you make a “good girl” feel comfortable enough to drop the act, it’ll blow your mind

    • @daysgoneby3527
      @daysgoneby3527 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Thats when you abuse the hell out of them for it and cut contact. Disgusting people they are

    • @KingPieceKamba
      @KingPieceKamba 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      How you ‘make em feel comfortable?’ Like how do you let em know she can go crazy

    • @mrblondeheart9562
      @mrblondeheart9562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      @@KingPieceKamba I just call em on their bs and kinda deconstruct their act or I playfully tease them into revealing it. Really depends on the chick and her personality. Listen to the song “Mz. Hyde” every chick has a “darker side / wild side”, you just have to learn how to unlock it

    • @ndnrb_
      @ndnrb_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@daysgoneby3527 That’s literally every girl is. And if every girl is terrible, then none of them are

    • @jasonmonge9969
      @jasonmonge9969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      That is absolutely correct!! They(girls) pretend to be nice and pure girls but once you have them in your bed you will know that she is full of expeience and sometimes even more than you 😂😂😂😂.. You are trying to be careful with their tiny pxxxy but at the end it is just like another big and wet cave that many have visited hahahaha

  • @stevesultan624
    @stevesultan624 3 ปีที่แล้ว +655

    This man shows the real side, he is true hero

    • @Skywalker96214
      @Skywalker96214 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      A while back, my crush went for an older guy with kids, I didn’t understand why but my instinct was to delete and block all her contact info. Having watched so many videos on this channel and SSM helped me understand why women do the things they do

    • @illmatic1026
      @illmatic1026 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He is

    • @javieraguirre9135
      @javieraguirre9135 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is probably the most helpful channel in the whole TH-cam, is a shame it hasn't explode yet and has everybody subscribed

    • @jorgevieira4489
      @jorgevieira4489 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Unfortunately women don’t admire this

    • @jorgevieira4489
      @jorgevieira4489 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Betas and alphas

  • @twinturbo3461
    @twinturbo3461 3 ปีที่แล้ว +399

    Women are unicorns, creatures of purity and good hearts. I learned this while watching all the Disney movies.

    • @thatxdamnxgirl7416
      @thatxdamnxgirl7416 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I had an ex-boyfriend once who was shocked to learn that women both have periods that bleed for a week at a time, as well as shocked to learn that we poop. WTF, you can see why that idiot is an ex lol

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@thatxdamnxgirl7416 How old was he? A pre-teen?

    • @thatxdamnxgirl7416
      @thatxdamnxgirl7416 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Ace.0.0.0. he was.......26. *heavy sigh*

    • @iamsofia3782
      @iamsofia3782 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      So you're upset because women aren't disney princesses...That's on you.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@iamsofia3782 I disagree. That's on Disney, and their interpretation of fairy tales.

  • @theodopoulos
    @theodopoulos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +804

    I need a time machine and a bucket of ice water to throw over my past self

    • @sterlingsilver5937
      @sterlingsilver5937 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Same here.

    • @XristosArgyropoulos
      @XristosArgyropoulos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Λέγε ρε πατρίδα

    • @Electronite1978
      @Electronite1978 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Won't help I am sure of that. Your younger version would not believe a word you would say. ;)

    • @MsSomeonenew
      @MsSomeonenew 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Gotta put the hand in the fire if you really want to know how it burns.

    • @JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon
      @JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Replace the bucket of ice water with a fist and I’d be in the time machine with you

  • @PrinceRevolver
    @PrinceRevolver 3 ปีที่แล้ว +778

    I would also advise men not to become resentful. You're not missing out on anything with women who engage in this behavior. The sooner a man accepts female nature and can recognize a woman or woman for who they are, the happier men will be.

    • @sterlingsilver5937
      @sterlingsilver5937 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      True!

    • @namewithheld7835
      @namewithheld7835 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      Bro.. it's been proven time and time again.. and women will admit to it. WOMEN have NOTHING to offer other than piece leave. If you even spend a while talking to them most are very boring and simple

    • @alexanderl9721
      @alexanderl9721 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@namewithheld7835 True. Most of the women who were not boring and simple I met when I was taking philosophy classes at the uni. Otherwise they're mostly all the same.

    •  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@alexanderl9721 That's the iq deviation biting us. Women fall strongly within the first deviation set, men however make up most of the outlying despite similar average.

    • @bravo0105
      @bravo0105 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      They are missing out on something: a future tragedy and they should be thankful for that.

  • @MatthewSmith-cp3hu
    @MatthewSmith-cp3hu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +416

    When the truth hurts, let it all wash over you, let the pain come, because that pain is going to free you.
    It is going to hurt of course, but that pain is temporary, it is just you grieving your delusions, but your going to grow back stronger.
    -Alexander Grace

  • @reptar1098
    @reptar1098 3 ปีที่แล้ว +507

    For any women that see this comment, and this video. This isn't to hate women. It's to educate men to get this type of ideal out of their head. For their own health, as well as whoever he pursues.

    • @ChiDraconis
      @ChiDraconis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I concur;

    • @SPORTSNUTIM
      @SPORTSNUTIM 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Boils down to: don’t let the little head do the thinking for you.

    • @sungod1384
      @sungod1384 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Nah iit aint to hate on women. But this helps women. When men put women on a pedestal it is essentially objectifying them. That women are a pure thing to obtain and not complex people that can be garbage and have baggage.

    • @hermanbinngavionohermanbin8371
      @hermanbinngavionohermanbin8371 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Indeed... illusion brings nothing except pain and more pain.

    • @salamandiusbraveheart4183
      @salamandiusbraveheart4183 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hate to break it to you but wamen don't need your help

  • @AlessandroGenTLe
    @AlessandroGenTLe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +486

    Me at 15 with my 1st GF: "I don't want to make love with you yet, it would be our 1st time and I want it to be like donating each of us to the other, only that is true love".
    Me at 15 and 3 months: my 1st GF went on vacation in south Italy (we both lived in the very north of Italy) and made it with some random 21yo guy, broking me in pieces for months
    Me at 17 in a disco club: Meeting this 24yo girl, petting with her on the club sofà, her hand in my trousers, and go to have my 1st time in the forest just outside the club. Forget love and all that crap, women don't deserve the way I treated them before.
    Never looked back, even tho now I'm 45 and I'm more balanced: there are women that deserve respect (some even admiration), but always ALWAYS remember they are just humans.

    • @leejee88
      @leejee88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      yep i learned at my age that you have to look at them as humans first n foremost

    • @pab1972
      @pab1972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      "Forget love and all that crap"
      Yeah... so you're single 45yo or miserable 45yo?

    • @AlessandroGenTLe
      @AlessandroGenTLe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@pab1972 Good try, but none of that, I'm with a wonderful woman, 13 years younger, smart and pretty, who currently lives in Gdansk (probably a city you know from your name...) and we're thinking to move together.
      Next time try to read the post until the very end.

    • @pab1972
      @pab1972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@AlessandroGenTLe I could be a douche, as usual, but let me be more human. Could you, please, tell me what do you mean by the phrase "Forget love and all that crap"? I think moving together and establishing a long-term relationship requires love... right?

    • @AlessandroGenTLe
      @AlessandroGenTLe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@pab1972 Yes, you're right. In my post I wrote that I was 16 back then. And that "now I'm 45 and I'm more balanced: there are women that deserve respect (some even admiration)". Love comes from that: respect and admiration. For me at least. But always remember they are humans, with their load of problems (like all of us).

  • @user-nz8vf1wl3z
    @user-nz8vf1wl3z 3 ปีที่แล้ว +390

    And this is exactly why you can never really trust a woman. If their urge is strong enough, no matter what you have done or who you have been In her life, she will betray you.

    • @chrisnamaste3572
      @chrisnamaste3572 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Facts. Divorce after 24 year marriage she demonstrated appalling behavior; who is this person.

    • @JeffCaplan313
      @JeffCaplan313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Facts.
      In the past, we could also observe who they were communicating with... now, any old Chad can just slide into her DMs. 🤭🤫

    • @DamianSzajnowski
      @DamianSzajnowski 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Applies to humans

    • @neltins5308
      @neltins5308 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I remember reading something years ago about how men fundamentally think about things transactional or like... idk if logically & rationally was the word. But basically men by default invent this sort of debt system in their mind, they do all these things sacrifice so much & give so much to the women so later on she will in return be faithful or loyal or help the man due to that right? NO. That's not how women's minds work at all according to science. It made me uncomfortable hearing this truth but made me feel a lot better afterwards

    • @pab1972
      @pab1972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thank God men are saint and you can trust them... wtf is wrong with you? :D

  • @bigbossburke5910
    @bigbossburke5910 3 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    For me It wasnt women. I just thought people were better in general, but now I know that they're not.

    • @sterlingsilver5937
      @sterlingsilver5937 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here.

    • @sammaloney1746
      @sammaloney1746 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes agreed. But don't allow others lack of morality to lessen your own!

    • @sterlingsilver5937
      @sterlingsilver5937 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sammaloney1746 In principle I believe you are correct but life is not quite that simple. I believe there are cases when doing what it's wise is contrary to doing what is moral. For example, I believe it is moral to be kind and respectful to all people however there are people who need to see your bad side and understand that you're willing to hurt them if they attempt to take advantage of you or others. Based on my experiences in life it is difficult to try to be moral when there are a lot of people who care very little about doing what is right. The question that I think needs to be asked is, how can a person be try to be moral while at the same time making sure that they're not taken advantage of by others?

    • @sammaloney1746
      @sammaloney1746 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@sterlingsilver5937 It's a communication breakdown! A confusion in terms if you will.
      When I define morals I define it as having teeth. Not doing what's right out of fear of repercussions. That is not bravery nor courage it's weakness!
      So in your hypothetical situation which you have posited to me my response is this!
      Showing someone you are dangerous and not to be messed with IS the moral thing to do!

    • @sterlingsilver5937
      @sterlingsilver5937 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sammaloney1746 I understand. So what you're saying is that speaking up for oneself is moral even if it may involve aggression. I want go into a lot of detail but this is something I have struggled with in life. The years I was under the impression that being passive with the same as being humble but I've recently comes to understanding that that is not the case. A person can be very passive but think they are the most important person in the room while someone who is outspoken can have a modest team of who they are and treat others with respect. I've been silent in situations that require digression and it's difficult to find that balance between aggression, assertiveness and submission. None of these three qualities are good or bad but some situations require more or less of one of them. I need to get to a place where I am fluid enough to shift from one or the other depending on what the situation requires. Not to be so aggressive that I think I need to shut everyone down around me but not to be so passive that I think that being everyone's doormat is the same as being humble.

  • @shamimbakhshi7217
    @shamimbakhshi7217 3 ปีที่แล้ว +263

    This illusion ends now, we must be better than this.

  • @le_decard
    @le_decard 3 ปีที่แล้ว +439

    Men who have sister have no desire or illusion for women... 🤣

    • @cringegod5415
      @cringegod5415 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I don't get it, what do you mean by that

    • @le_decard
      @le_decard 3 ปีที่แล้ว +260

      @@cringegod5415 Mem who have sister (older or younger, whatever), we can see how they act in real life while we live with them. Once i was arguing with my sister and then she got a call from her bf, she answer the call and her voice just turned to innocent angel hahaha my point is we can witness women nature.

    • @TakuCityPop
      @TakuCityPop 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      @@le_decard pretty much how it goes, no illusions for guys with sisters fr

    • @siphephelophungula4618
      @siphephelophungula4618 3 ปีที่แล้ว +91

      @@le_decard Finally someone who have lived my experience. I am the only guy between 3 sisters (one older than me and two [twins] younger than me) and I have observed them doing the exact same thing.
      Damn those people are so "innocent and pure" to their boyfriends but I live with them, I know them 😂 😂😂

    • @mckXsun
      @mckXsun 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It ain't like that unless their family taught them to respect other daughters, wives, sisters.

  • @RosaryFGC
    @RosaryFGC 3 ปีที่แล้ว +139

    once I realized being " the nice overly respectable" guy didn't get me anywhere and women would turn me down or hurt me for some other disrespectable guy. I knew to never go above and beyond again for some lady. I don't even care about dating anymore

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Paul Elam said much the same in his "My PUA Lifestyle" YT vid.

    • @compresswealthdivideeconom3757
      @compresswealthdivideeconom3757 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh, but you don't want to play the ridiculous games this and other youtubers implicitly or explicitly state? To me, my mind is not low enough to do it.

    • @inconnu4961
      @inconnu4961 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Being a nice guy is the problem. Being a good guy is the key. Sometimes a good guy isnt very nice. Read more up on it( if you havent yet) to learn the differences. Read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' Thats an excellent one!

    • @RosaryFGC
      @RosaryFGC 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@inconnu4961 this is very true. I was program while growing up to think women deserved respect just because of their gender. I've grow a lot from my teenage years

    • @MrTchupam
      @MrTchupam 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yup me too…

  • @kendokindura2506
    @kendokindura2506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I love how Alexander explains all these things so clearly down to the exact feelings that are so hard for some people to see or understand easily. Props to you Alex for being able explain exactly how our minds and emotions work.

  • @dovlacro6382
    @dovlacro6382 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I had 3 cases like that. For first girl I thought this is exception, then for second girl I thought how is this girl masochist, then for third girl I thought hey, this is lookalike rule. When I start to behave like that, result was I met 18-year old virgin (today my wife). Note: she was from village, not from city.

  • @chemicallemonade4668
    @chemicallemonade4668 3 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    I think this effect is amplified when online dating or when doing a LDR. As a guy you can’t observe the girl at all, so you rely on this “illusion” completely.

    • @glennlgg6871
      @glennlgg6871 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What's the point of online dating? It's not real. No intercourse.

    • @nordichellas3155
      @nordichellas3155 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@glennlgg6871 Online dating is for FINDING someone to have sex with in person dude.

    • @glennlgg6871
      @glennlgg6871 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nordichellas3155 no that's swiping someone on an app, having a short chat, and then meeting to start a hookup. In the post online dating is mentioned together with LDR... No fast meeting in these times.

    • @Crosland_Hill
      @Crosland_Hill 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Internet dating may have some value for people who have very specific requirements in terms of interests, hobbies, lifestyle or values. For instance, I once knew a couple who met on Plenty Of Fish and, I learned, were brought together through a shared interest in pet reptiles. But for the rest of us, I wouldn't recommend it. It's a horribly contrived and artificial way of communicating with people, and there are many timewasters and attentions-seekers. Whilst there are many success stories, I find myself wondering how many people who get married or get into committed relationships this way end up being with someone they actually *want* to be with, and it's not just a case of "he'll do - I'm tired of searching" or "I'm not going to find anyone better at my age."

    • @DeltaCressida
      @DeltaCressida 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      In my experience I feel like it is, but I still don't feel confident about that fact, she's a thousand kilometers away from me so what if she really is an angel, makes me overthink and I want to rid of it

  • @PistonAvatarGuy
    @PistonAvatarGuy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    One thing that you left out: That guy was obviously a very good looking guy. Women will absolutely destroy men who try to tease them like that when they're not attracted to them.

    • @IamMortui
      @IamMortui 3 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      Yep. Looks always excuse any negative things you say or do to them.

    • @PistonAvatarGuy
      @PistonAvatarGuy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@IamMortui That, or a big D.

    • @IamMortui
      @IamMortui 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      @@PistonAvatarGuy No way for them to see the big D if she's turned off by your looks in the first place :)

    • @colinesquire2480
      @colinesquire2480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I agree looks are everything usually

    • @chamcham123
      @chamcham123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@IamMortui Unless her friends tell her beforehand. Word gets around very quickly.

  • @Redrum_Samm
    @Redrum_Samm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    Im a 6, married an 8.5 out a ten. Secret is I'm an asshole. Not abusive. I'm not one of those Nice Guys. Just nice enough. Take the piss out of them. They respond to it. Mr Grace is right. Your doing yourself no favours by being a nice guy. They find it creepy.

    • @FatSultan
      @FatSultan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Because they know they don't deserve it. They have done basically nothing to be treated like that.

    • @pab1972
      @pab1972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What's the point of getting married when, according to doctor Grace, your woman could have sex in a bush/taxi with some random dude any day now?

    • @thatxdamnxgirl7416
      @thatxdamnxgirl7416 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Women don't want soft doey boys as husbands. It's extremely off-putting, we like a little bit of a challenge just like men do, that's sexy.

    • @HenryDube72
      @HenryDube72 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@thatxdamnxgirl7416 men generally don't want a "challenging" wife.

    • @pwabd2784
      @pwabd2784 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Just because she hasn't left doesn't mean she hasn't cheated. If your only a 6 and she's and 8.5, surprise, she's cheated on you.

  • @peripheralparadox4218
    @peripheralparadox4218 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1412

    The sun is many moons away.

    • @XtremeMaran
      @XtremeMaran 3 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      I have similar experiences.

    • @trenaceandblackmetal5621
      @trenaceandblackmetal5621 3 ปีที่แล้ว +232

      They seem to take pride in being unlikable and unlovable

    • @colinesquire2480
      @colinesquire2480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      For a relationship understandable

    • @BarachielGaming
      @BarachielGaming 3 ปีที่แล้ว +132

      At this point I'd rather fantasize about a fictional character than someone who's fake

    • @JeffCaplan313
      @JeffCaplan313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      👌

  • @younesyounes5264
    @younesyounes5264 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    That's exactly what happen between my father and my mom , my father is abusive , he hit my mom she was complaining to me how abusive and jerk to her , two days later I saw hugging him really tight and all over him with a smile on her face while closing her eyes , I was so confused I was just like Ron Simmons all that I said was DAMN ...

    • @yourlandladysson6395
      @yourlandladysson6395 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      They love it. The inconsistencies, capriciousness, impetuousness...

  • @series298
    @series298 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    What you have described in this video is why I have so many regrets about my youth and why I get so angry about the past. So many missed opportunities. I too had a friend like the one you described. I couldn't figure out how he was so successful with girls, yet treated them all like crap. If I had access to your TH-cam channel when I was 20.....man.....life would have been different.

  • @pingo6874
    @pingo6874 3 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    In our village there is this one playboy guy. Once we were just a group of guys and some guy asked why he never has a girlfriend eventho he is good with the ladies. His response was "I dont wanna look the fool when she cheats on me". It took some time but than we realised that he said WHEN and not if. We were like wait a minute...?!

    • @nickjohnson410
      @nickjohnson410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Every single gf I have ever had has cheated on me... I only blame myself for being nieive. They all cheat. ALL OF THEM (Except the ugly boring ones, they would if they could but...)

    • @nickjohnson410
      @nickjohnson410 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Vergil The Son Of Sparda it was a tough lesson but I've never been happier

    • @pingo6874
      @pingo6874 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@nickjohnson410 if the girl is not a 1/10 she has the possibility. An under average girl can easily rack up the same numbers like a 10/10 playboy male if she wants to. And they often do. 4's and 5's probably have the highest body count cuz they need that validation and guys are thirsty enough to provide.

    • @ZombieSS77
      @ZombieSS77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@nickjohnson410 Keep watching this channel. I wish I had this kind of info when I was in my 20's, I had to learn it the hard way and it took a long time.

    • @pab1972
      @pab1972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Have another look at this situation. What if this playboy had very low self-esteem and was super insecure? It's common for some good-looking guys. He was not able to keep one girl by his side, right? Because they all would cheat on him sooner or later? Sounds pretty insecure way of thinking to me. And the only way for him to temporarily fix his lack of self-esteem was to use the game for the short term to have sex and then he would head out so the girls would never know how insecure he truly is.

  • @Pedrommelos
    @Pedrommelos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    The thing is some dudes tend to have a lot of expectations on how a girl should be like, but they are just people.
    There are not that many differences between women and men. Most of them are awful. There's only a few who are worthy caring and loving.

    • @gschaaf713
      @gschaaf713 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      we have expectations because women lied to us about their true selves. its not that hard to see why men expect women to be a certain way.

    • @vklnew9824
      @vklnew9824 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      And yet they have a laundry list of expectations of how us men should be.

    • @Pedrommelos
      @Pedrommelos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@vklnew9824 sooner or later these kind of women are gonna face reality. I've got this female friend who's 25 and only wants a man who is 30+ financial stable. She's not going to guys her own age because she doesn't want to make "an investment" on a guy and watch/help him to grow. She wants someone who's already ready and steady... but those guys are already taken, mostly by girls who supported them during their lowest points in life and stayed with them for the long run.
      And just like this friend of mine, there are many others that just want a free ride in life while bringing their nothing to the table.

    • @Pedrommelos
      @Pedrommelos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@gschaaf713 people lie all the time. They are not the only ones

    • @wtcvidman
      @wtcvidman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Pedrommelos There's a difference between someone lying and someone projecting a complete facade because they know they'd be judged (which they fear) & thought of poorly if they show their true selves. Sure there are men who do that too, but with women it's pretty much commonplace due to the duality they try to live by. What I mean by duality is that the ones these days for the most part buy into feminism & live a life of hedonism, yet they still wish to make people around them (especially potential suitors) think they adhere to the values that women decades ago were held to before the family unit was decimated. They are humans who thrive on and require social networks, so depicting their true selves would destroy any such network, especially that which gets them male validation.
      Alexander did a video about judging women and how when they lie the most when they know they're dealing with someone who will judge them or in circumstances where they'll be judged.

  • @EarthBoundBean
    @EarthBoundBean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was raised by women and have had this illusion instilled at birth. Having that illusion broken 29 years later threw me down a roller coaster of anger, depression, denial, self hatred and resentment for falling for it. One concept that i had to see in person to believe was the fact that a woman telling you no doesnt mean she doesnt do something at all. It means she wont do it with you. You WILL fall into the same roller coaster i did but you have to not become comfortable and stay in that head space. Growth is always hand in hand with growing pain. Good luck on your path bro's

  • @leopardsbasketball
    @leopardsbasketball 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I learned that guys who are first nerds or geeks and eventually pivot to being more stoic/proud have one thing in common. They believe fundamentally in the good of people first and foremost. They're dreamers, they embrace the fantasy. Not only do they see their desire for flesh as wrong, they believe she could never or rarely share a base desire like this. These are men who aspire to quality but don't have the tools to be a man of quality who has his mind set in reality. The asshole has no delusions that people are fundamentally not virtuous and is fine with being condemned or "hell-bound". He actually takes a great deal of pleasure in smashing the delusion. The nemesis and the unattainable to the asshole though is the marriage material girl. So whichever one you are, you both win and lose, but at different stages of life. You will both be at war with the other, just don't take it too personally.

  • @batira
    @batira 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    This sure hits home, painfully.
    It's such a regret there was no one to tell me these when I was young.

  • @maks886
    @maks886 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Well, I'm just gonna stay away from all this. Appreciate the peace and quiet. I don't care at all

  • @GUITARTIME2024
    @GUITARTIME2024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Another piece of this puzzle: if that girl at the party had been interested in Alex over all that time, she would have been obvious. He was just a curiosity for her. Guys, open your eyes. When they like you, they can't HELP but show it by their body language, getting close to you, being open with their energy, etc. We've all seen women "light up" for the Alphas. It's a force of nature. If she ain't lighting up for YOU fairly soon, move on. No friend bullshit.

  • @WheatWaffles
    @WheatWaffles 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    This story at the beginning only works for Chad.

    • @terragaia7092
      @terragaia7092 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @VNB Slash It's all jokes and games to sarcastically lowkey roast girls until you meet the real Chad. Or you can be one. 😉

  • @GetAngryy
    @GetAngryy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Had my own epiphany moment like you described.... Except I was about 40 years older... Totally changed how I thought about and interacted with women from that point on.

  • @ralphhancock7449
    @ralphhancock7449 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    And this occurs with old people too! I know a couple of 80 year olds who got together after a week of provocative vulger comments by the old guy coming on to a widow. She thought he was funny and honest about his feelings, something lacking in her deceased husband. Amazing!

    • @cool08player
      @cool08player 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wmn absolutely disgust me!

  • @steves1015
    @steves1015 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I wish I had had this kind of advice when I was a teenager. I went to an all boy’s school in secondary school, and I only had very few interactions with women. My mum was quite prudish and my parents would never talk about relationships. I held women on a huge pedestal (for an idea of how extreme this was I was shocked when I found out a girl from another school I had a crush on, smoked). Added to this, when I did eventually stump up the confidence to ask any girls out, they would not usually be too kind about turning me down (“ugh, no”, “why would i go out with you?” Etc.) so it dented my confidence for years. Even when I grew into my body (I was a lanky teen) and became more physically attractive, I still didn’t do so well because back then the man had to make all the moves and I was not good at it. I was already convinced I was not “worthy” of having a gf.
    Trouble is, those feelings of inadequacy lasted, and when i did get into relationships, I stayed longer than I should have, despite clear problems in the relationship. It wasn’t until years later that i finally started to open my eyes.
    I opened my eyes far too late, and for me it is effectively over now. But I implore anyone young enough who is reading this, don’t make the same mistake I did. As the guy in the video said, women are still human, not all of them are the same, and there is a huge range of different personalities. I have no idea where I got my ideas from that women are special (maybe not being around them, and listening to too many Hollywood films), but they aren’t, by thinking this implicitly puts you down, makes you inferior, and also makes you blind to reality. It can put you in bad situations in later life too when you do get in relationships.
    Parents, never send your kid to single sex schools, it may do good for their academic achievements but it can severely stunt their emotional and social skills. Let’s face it, academic achievement means nothing if you don’t have the tools to use it, or have a contented life. My biggest single regret is “choosing” to go to a single sex school at age 11.

  • @Divine1Right
    @Divine1Right 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    "You gotta shake these hos and break these hos" - Tupac

  • @Michael_black777
    @Michael_black777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +209

    if the truth hurts, that's because you've been living in your head for so long.

    • @slowdancer5563
      @slowdancer5563 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Living in you head is right. You nailed it bruh.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said.

  • @tomwaters5651
    @tomwaters5651 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    The quickest way to destroy this illusion is by being around women

  • @chassou2613
    @chassou2613 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    "women cannot be attracted to men who cannot see them as they truly are"
    But can you still be attracted to women when you see them as they truly are ? 🤔
    "prendre les femmes pour ce qu'elles ne sont pas et les laisser pour ce qu'elles sont. " Serge Gainsbourg

    • @goldofox5111
      @goldofox5111 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Chuut ! Tu en dis trop là ... Quel dilemme de merde ... Vivre la joie de l'illusion ou la frustration de la réalité, tu restes perdant dans les deux cas :(
      Ou peut être que la réponse est justement de ne pas être attiré, mais de tout simplement profiter et d'assouvir un désir dont tu ne peux pas te détacher.
      Voir l'amour pour ce qu'il est loin de tout romantisme fantaisiste, une simple métaphore pour embellir un acte de procréation qui n'a rien de magique en lui.

  • @johncorson6599
    @johncorson6599 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I had male friends of mine that made fun of me while I was going around with all kinds of women constantly ... I wonder what they think now of how they thought of me then after learning some things .. I’ve been stalked 3 times by ‘girlfriends’ ., I just laughed at it, I knew WHY they
    were stalking .. they had played a Jedi mind trick on me to elicit negative emotions from me ( jealousy or tried to create an illusion of who they are in me while using their entitlement attitude) and I dumped them for it instantly and they couldn’t believe that THEY got dumped as they were very attractive or really good at you-know-what and apparently hadn’t been dumped before lol ., I was glad to give em a lesson and get away from them .. but it’s easy to get fooled later on too .. your inner spirit of whether you feel peace with them and they are ADDING to your life is a good and sometimes only guide

  • @graciousSenor
    @graciousSenor 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As you told the story in the beginning I couldn't help but have flashbacks to last summer when I went to a bar alone to talk to girls. I talked to one of the female bartenders or barbacks immediately upon arrival before sitting outside on the back patio. We chatted for a bit, it was definitely a little awkward. Then I sat down out in the bar's outdoor patio. A few moments later, she walks out, stands near the door (about 20 feet away from me), and stares for minutes. Just gleaned at me. She stared at me like I was a creep, like I had done something wrong, like I was a criminal. I felt extremely judged, like my presence there was wrong. That is the kind of look she was giving me. So when I hear the story you told about the guy cursing at the woman and her responding by making out with him, I realize how messed up women's nature really is. 20% of men, women will treat well. If you act in a way that doesn't fit to a woman's expectations for how something in the environment should be, they essentially try to take stop that thing from happening, whether that be through reporting you to someone else, social judgement, social isolation, making you feel terrible about yourself. Women cannot control their own state. They are entirely responsive. A man who pines to them, they approve of. But a man being himself, a man who's awkward, nervous, a little weird, because he doesn't bring out good emotions in you, you treat him like s**t. Women are entirely selfish. If you don't meet them where they are, they will not come to you or even meet you half way. The way they treat an awkward, nice, weird, nervous, or otherwise socially off guy is shocking.

  • @mefik
    @mefik 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It took me years to deprogram my braim re-learn and accept reality. It was tough but in the same process i focused on myself to a point where i realised women are an accessory to your life. They're normal like everybody else.
    It's good company but that's it. Once you understand how they operate they'll be at your feet

  • @damnson4003
    @damnson4003 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is exactly my father said to me back when i was in high school. "The more you pursue women and treat them like a goddess the more they reject you.Focus on yourself. Enjoy your time with your friends and family." So my father was right.I treat girls like an angels back when i was in highschool.I had countless of rejection and girls describe me as a creepy guy. One day i realize that pursuing a women is a waste of time. So i hit the gym, focus on my studies and be at a zone everyday.Landed a decent job, travel and i spend a lot of my time with my friends and family. I made a tinder last year.Approach several women. trying to get a date. They seem attracted on be but mostly girls i approach are entitled, selfish and they think they are queen.Im from SE asia and a lot of people think that dating an asian women is easy. Hypergamy is also happening here especially in there 20s. Most men here are below average, and didnt have a decent job.

    • @ziyamalik1666
      @ziyamalik1666 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      But still we Asian women have morals and values. I am a 21 year old virgin, and my all friends are virgin too waiting for marriage. Yes we are hypergamous because we don't want to killed for dowry and not want to get r@ped while being in dirty and poor surroundings. We want safe future for us and our kids. And if a man will give it to us, we will respect him like God because he is the protector.

  • @Mark-zy5uj
    @Mark-zy5uj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    How does some guy who talks about ant farms have 1M subscribers but this bloke who is dropping life’s golden nuggets have less than 200K. Keep it up mate. Cheers!

    • @simosavustaja9420
      @simosavustaja9420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Because most people are not interested in getting better, it's hard and it hurts. I mean some are but most of the people are more interested in ants. Thats why you should be carefull who you spend your life with. Nothing wrong with the ant videos though.

    • @lordofthehnngs2577
      @lordofthehnngs2577 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The water supply is tainted

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Buddy not everyone has the same problems you have not every one has to watch these videos

    • @HenryDube72
      @HenryDube72 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      TH-cam algorithm suffocates these sort of accounts...

    • @pab1972
      @pab1972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because this guy talks sh*t about women to make unsuccessful men feel better about themselves and the unsuccessful men are the minority of the society.

  • @igolark
    @igolark 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I love how you re not angry with the girl, and you used it as a lesson to understand. It’s not her fault, it was my fault that i didn’t understand her. Beautiful!
    You solve my past anger. I had a really similar episode in the past

    • @thesazbak5342
      @thesazbak5342 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I don't hate women like that but I do hate when they try to lie about it and pretend that they're different.

    • @jbond5834
      @jbond5834 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      TRUE

  • @epixen3339
    @epixen3339 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    The best thing about your videos is the reactions they provoke in Simps, White Knights and Women!
    All of them so married to, idolizing and simultaneously in denial of the Matrix (reality).

  • @shinmatsunami
    @shinmatsunami 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Any dude that's been married knows how untrue them being anything but (badly) behaved humans is.

    • @housecarl1114
      @housecarl1114 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      After having had children, I did a thought experiment and began to think of women as sophisticated children, and suddenly all of their "mysterious ways" made perfect sense. So I treated my wife as a child to see what would happen. I thought she would get offended, but she responded very well to it, almost as if she had been received of some great burden. She seemed much happier.

  • @johnfoster4244
    @johnfoster4244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Men freely admit those base desires. Women attempt to masquerade it.

  • @OchiiDinUmbraa
    @OchiiDinUmbraa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    You said that i should talk to a guy who has lots of sex with different women. The thing is, i dont respect that type of man at all and dont want to have any friendship with him. I view that as highly immoral and my parents didnt taught me this. I came to this view by myself.

    • @mysticc6232
      @mysticc6232 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here

    • @alexanderl9721
      @alexanderl9721 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same.

    • @sammaloney1746
      @sammaloney1746 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yeah. Just because it's very easy to manipulate women into sex. Doesn't mean you should. That is someone's daughter or sister.
      You've basically been raised right. To do what is right by your community above yourself! You have been taught the behaviour of order over chaos!
      Respect to your parents they did a good job!

    • @daysgoneby3527
      @daysgoneby3527 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@sammaloney1746 pfft "easy" only if you're tall and physically Attractive

    • @screechfowl4337
      @screechfowl4337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's nature

  • @davidshillito
    @davidshillito 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    "You've got to show them what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of girl to be" ~ quote from T.V. series MadMen

    • @mefik
      @mefik 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The men-women interaction in MadMen is fantastic you can actually learn a lot

  • @AMAR-ym7sz
    @AMAR-ym7sz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    This is one of the most misused terms about a female. Whether Michael, Gabriel, Lucifer or The Angel Of The Lord, angles are Only Ever males, never female.

    • @alenjoe8964
      @alenjoe8964 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Was thinking the same thing.

    • @zachleonard258
      @zachleonard258 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      True

    • @andreamagyar5541
      @andreamagyar5541 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Actually angels are sexless ☺

    • @eatanotherzio6811
      @eatanotherzio6811 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@andreamagyar5541 And Terrifying

    • @noctisluciscaelum2960
      @noctisluciscaelum2960 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@andreamagyar5541 it’s the energy. Male. It’s like a projection they can change to be seen.

  • @stokesa3122
    @stokesa3122 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I feel like I literally have to pretend to be the opposite of myself in order to be attractive to women and that's not a facade I'm entirely sure is worth keeping up.

    • @anonygent
      @anonygent 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly! I can fake being Chad, but as soon as I relax into my real self, she takes a powder! I don't want to put on an act just to get pussy!

    • @anonygent
      @anonygent 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@roger_isaksson Do you ever get a yes response? Because most women will deny being interested even when they are, out of their own fear of being rejected.

  • @destinationskyline07
    @destinationskyline07 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Women always submit to Chad until they're 30+ and want a stable beta to support them.

    • @greyhaizeradio3229
      @greyhaizeradio3229 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Then they get bored with the support and ride the carousel until they can't anymore.

  • @lordofthehnngs2577
    @lordofthehnngs2577 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Try saying they're only human beings to the guys getting their butts handed to them in family court lmao

  • @sadboycali
    @sadboycali 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I was 25 when I met my first girlfriend. 3 years later she cheats on me. I am now traumatized and don't want to be in another relationship. :(

    • @alb12345672
      @alb12345672 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Don't invest in stocks if you worry they will drop.

    • @SirMontov
      @SirMontov 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Don't be in a relationship in your 20's. Work on yourself during that decade.

    • @Virtualvinyilradio
      @Virtualvinyilradio 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Come back in 10 years, enjoy your time

    • @oldscratch3535
      @oldscratch3535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Get over it dude. I've been there myself and it was extremely painful, but 12 years later I've realized that my behavior really gave her no choice but to jump ship. Yes, cheating is a shitty behavior and I'm not excusing her, but have some self awareness and look at your behavior and what you may have done or not done.
      Like it or not, women don't just cheat for no reason. When a man cheats its usually b/c he's not sexually satisfied or he's just horny and satisfying an urge. I truly believe a man can cheat and have no ill will towards his partner and even still love her. When a woman cheats, its b/c she has sensed something wrong in the relationship. By the time she cheats, she is done with you. The problem started long before the infidelity. Its always a very personal and emotional response with them.
      So take some time to reflect upon yourself. Don't be so quick to cast all the blame upon her, as I did. She definitely has responsibility for some of it, but you do as well.

    • @sadboycali
      @sadboycali 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@oldscratch3535 I don't think you've been traumatized if you're telling me to get over it. Also, you have no idea the person she was for you to think it was me. Trust me, I satisfied her needs in bed.

  • @GTRNights
    @GTRNights 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love this guy and he speaks nothing but truth. I once met up with a female on the streets during one trip to Europe, right away asked for her number and said I wanted to take her out that night. She came to my hotel and sat on the bed, asked if she could make a phone call. She called up her boyfriend and intentionally got into an argument with him (I could tell she knew how to push his buttons) and then in a huff she said to him "Fine, I'll just go out by myself alone tonight" and hung up. Well, you can guess what happened from there. Trust me, they aren't worth your high praise. They are bigger freaks than men are, they are just much better at hiding it and making you think YOU'RE the freak. It's basic projection.

  • @MatthewSmith-cp3hu
    @MatthewSmith-cp3hu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is one of your best IMO and you have made sooooo many fantastic videos.

  • @CapAnson12345
    @CapAnson12345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I learned this lesson the hard way, after the 6th or 7th girl I tried yet again to play the long game and "nice guy" into a relationship only to be friend zoned and then smacked in the face with her hooking up with some random douche for casual sex. I wasted so many years.

  • @SinisterAnimationS
    @SinisterAnimationS 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    this happened when they girl i was chasing for 3 months trying to impress with humour and intellect got passed by these 3 stoners in my course and i found out when they jokingly brought up the easy girls on our course, it hurt then it was immediately followed by,it doesnt matter what you do if she already doesnt even like you.

  • @SinglemSolis
    @SinglemSolis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    I actually have a very complex view of "morality" and I, as an atheist, don't believe in universal moral values, so I don't like using the term "moral" in any way shape or form but:
    I've noticed that Alexander always says that we can't judge women for hypergamous behaviour since it is an evolved behaviour, also others say this Molyneux for one. Why not? If men were to shun that type of behaviour it would create an environment for women were adaption to not express rampant hypergamy would lead to more personal success for them.
    Just like how women and their feminism have castrated masculinity in the entire western world, they still judge us as being shallow horn dogs only thinking about sex and their female bodyparts. But mens evolved behaviour is the explanation to that, we look for fertility markers in the female phenotype. And they shun men for it, or atleast every man who with sub-optimal looks or not high enough status/career, since female behaviour towards men is strongly based on the perception of the mans status/looks. And I'm not saying they should "come on" to every man equally, I'm talking about basic human respect for people around you. Some of them walk around with nose in the air around someone like me in the public space, yet behave completely different to the F-boys.
    In the current state of humanity, hypergamy isn't needed, since we have wellfare state, and an educational system that favours women which leads to more women with higher status careers that can't seem to find men because men with equal or higher status careers look for younger more fertile women.
    And for people who don't have awesome careers there is the wellfare state, the wellfare state (however bad it is for humanity) should be the natural end to hypergamy.
    Yet we still hear Alexander, and other people (I'm not clumping them together in any way, just pointing out that in this particular thing a lot of different people say the same thing), say that female hypergamy is an evolved behaviour and we shouldn't morally judge women for it.
    In my worldview every human behaviour is a product of evolution. A person with psycopathic personality traits, is born with a brain that is wired in a different way than someone who doesn't suffer from psycopathy, so should we then not "morally" condemn manipulative behaviour and lies, or a complete lack of empathy for that matter?

    • @IvanBohorquez
      @IvanBohorquez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      As you said, we are the result of evolution and, the way I see it, It is kind of hard changing 300,000 yr of Homo sapiens history. Modern medicine (higher life expectancy) and birth control have changed sexual evolution as we know, but they're too recent yet (like 300 yr or so) and our basic instincts are still so engrained. Women are natural survivors and they'll continue acting like that for a long time because they're hardwired as such in order to protect their offspring.

    • @enderwarlord3226
      @enderwarlord3226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Every human has control of himself/herself. You can blame biology for your desires, but you are the only one to blame if you are a slave to them

    • @SinglemSolis
      @SinglemSolis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Katana_soul_91 I also firmly believe that feminism is about power, in my view feminism is a tool, a weapon created by marxist to destroy the western civilization and, from its inception to this day, no matter what feminists say, their entire philosophical root is in being a tool for marxists.
      About psycopathy, yeah supposedly we have in western and northern Europe executed about 1% of the male population/generation as criminals during some 600-800 years and this has led to a drastic reduction in violent behaviour and probably psycopathy too. It just goes to show how quick things can change when the environmental pressures change. In Russia they had some experiment to make tame foxes, it took about 6 generations to achieve, which is a big difference in a short time.
      I'm vehemently against eugenics, and any kind of future genetic augmentation of the human form also, but we must understand the wellfare state creates dysgenic pressures in that it promotes less adapted people to suceed where they wouldn't without help.
      The decline of the west that we are witnessing could very well be due to this dysgenic scenario where thanks to modern medicine and nutrition and social wellfare, everyone grows up, and many people that wouldn't have surived infancy a couple of hundred years ago now grow up and breed themselves.
      My point still only being that as long as we men lie on the ground like door mats in front of female hypergamy, things will never change, and one small non-violent thing we could do, is call hypergamy out for what it is. Also, women isn't exactly not critizing men for every aspect of male nature all the time.
      Also when the modern state finally fails, and it will fail, and there is no more wellfare policies, I'm certain that female behaviour will change quite drastically.

    • @SinglemSolis
      @SinglemSolis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@dances_with_incels I think you are partly correct, but this, like most issues, is very complex and has a multitude of different causes behind it, which together has led us to this point we are at now.
      And about abortion, genetically speaking, the type of females that so rampantly champion free abortion policies, you'd probably wouldn't want those having children anyways. Since a lot of the time political views are hereditary, whether is has genetical cause or just being imprinted on the offspring in the family environment. So I see abortions as a self-correcting issue. I have no problem with other people taking their own genetical stakes away from the future, I think it is completely retarded and quite amusing to watch actually. Especially those who commit to not breed for the planets sake. Crypto-religious environmental doomsday(leftist cults can lead to some pretty weird conclusions.
      The future is for people who don't abort their kids.

    • @nicolasrivero3027
      @nicolasrivero3027 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@SinglemSolis The problem is that the lower classes don't abort their kids and have 5, 6 or even more children and the middle and higher classes have maximum 2 children. And in a socialist country (or welfare state as some want to call it) like my country you end up paying taxes to feed other peoples' children. So you can imagine how things will end..

  • @visaman
    @visaman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    It's very difficult to date a woman who has put herself on the pedestal, and thinks she is pure.

  • @ClellBiggs
    @ClellBiggs ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was well aware of this. When I was in my mid teens I had a friend that girls were crazy about. There wasn't a girl he couldn't get to do anything he wanted. I remember one time he decided he was going to try and have sex with as many girls as he could in one night. We started off by going to a party at a graveyard. He was literally going off with the girls one by one, and the crazy thing is that the girls knew exactly what he was doing and still did it. One of the girls had came to the party with a guy and when she walked away with my friend he asked what they were doing. I told him to pop his head up and see for himself. Guy sat back down looking completely defeated.
    That wasn't the end of the night. We went to several more parties after that and I'm guessing by the end of the night he was at at least 20 girls (he said around 30). How he was able to keep it up all night I'm not sure but I think he stole one of his dad's Viagra's. Sad thing is that because all the girls always wanted him I never had a chance. I would say that girls didn't like me and he'd always reply that there was nothing wrong with me and I just needed to try more. I realize now that it was actually him that was causing the problem. lol

  • @yahyaoualialami706
    @yahyaoualialami706 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    For everyone having trouble with women or girls
    Here is a lot of books that changed my life :
    - rational mâle
    - the way of the superior man
    - art of seduction
    Good luck to you all

  • @anharalshemie5999
    @anharalshemie5999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Alex!!! 18 years later??? you are 33? come on man, NO WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY, you look much more younger!!

  • @josephstevens9888
    @josephstevens9888 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    A similar thing happened to me... I was "in love" with a beautiful brown-eye girl. I thought she was perfect. I was far too shy ever to ever ask her out. Several years later, after I got out of the military I ran into her. Still beautiful, but I saw for who she really was - and I wasn't impressed.

    • @nicekix3038
      @nicekix3038 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What she do?

    • @visaman
      @visaman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And whatever happened
      To Tuesday and so slow?
      Going down the old mine with a
      Transistor radio
      Standing in the sunlight laughing
      Hiding 'hind a rainbow's wall
      Slipping and sliding
      All along the waterfall with you
      My brown-eyed girl
      You, my brown-eyed girl

    • @josephstevens9888
      @josephstevens9888 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@nicekix3038 I discovered she was not the kind of person that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. She had had beliefs and acted in a manner that is totally incompatible to my belief system. Beautiful to look at on the outside, not so beautiful in the inside.

  • @viktorp.d.5407
    @viktorp.d.5407 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is the realisation that helped me a lot with talking to and approaching women (I’m in my early 20s btw, if that helps paint a picture of the environment and people in my life currently). I used to put women on a pedestal thinking they were beyond the banal humour that me and my guy friends were into. After you “realise” that they are “human” like the rest of us, and that they go out to have fun and meet people the same way you are, chatting them up becomes effortless.

  • @Solizeus
    @Solizeus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Yeah, had a friend once that i was really into, went to a bar with her and some other friends, she got a bit drunk and started to dance i tried dance with her but she pushed me off, i got a bit sulk and went to the bar to get another drink and when i get back she was kissing one of our other friends and his lesbian sister at the same time, i was like.. wtf? After that any remaining illusion that i had was shattered, i said goodbye to the people there and went home walking under the rain at night, couple of days later she calls wondering what happened and asking why i was not showing up anymore, i tell her, she says sorry, i tell her that i don't care anymore and that i won't be calling, she just says ok, and that is it, every time i remember her now i can only feel nauseous, it doesn't anymore, but i remember the feeling

  • @Shaddyraddy92
    @Shaddyraddy92 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    In my experience, women are attracted to DOMINANCE👌🏿

  • @MetaLavish
    @MetaLavish 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Smash and dash. I learned back in school that they were never a prize. Young men, you will become the prize thru your wisdom, success and experience over time. A women will decline in her value to you, but they kid themselves thinking that we value their career, finances or experience. You win in the end. Don't chase them and let them pop out all the kids they want out of that big droopy hole down there that runs their life. You win in the end, TRUST ME!

    • @egokilla1063
      @egokilla1063 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Plankton 69 self improvement, go to the gym and GET MUSCLES! MUSCLES AND CONFIDENCE =, WOMEN AND SEX

  • @prakhargoyanka3891
    @prakhargoyanka3891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Bottom line: Be the JOKER to that Harley Quinn

  • @jeffb.140
    @jeffb.140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I just have to think about my mother .. probably one of the most vile narcissists to ever walk this planet ..

    • @Anonymous-md2qp
      @Anonymous-md2qp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I experienced the same thing. You can’t unsee and forget that behaviour.

    • @juniorninjaman865
      @juniorninjaman865 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Narcissistic women, are the women I want to brutally beat on like crazy right now, tell them to be careful

  • @chettonex
    @chettonex 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When I was young I had a female friend who wanted to introduce me a friend of hers at a party who was a 10/10 gorgeous girl. I really felt that I was out of her league, so in order to save myself an embarassing moment I told my friend that I didnt found her friend pretty enough and I didnt wanted to waste my time. A few weeks later I met this girl at a party and as I was trying to flirt/talk with other girls she approached me and started flirting with me. I ended up ditching her as I felt that she wanted to prove others that she was prettier than the other girls.

  • @Soekke233
    @Soekke233 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes,talk to a guy that has many encounters with girls and women,they know these Angel image girl are just normal girls, women. When guys treat they like Angel, they lose her.

  • @2learneasy
    @2learneasy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Quickest way to destroy this illusion..... 5 minutes of observation 😂

    • @KentoCommenT
      @KentoCommenT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      3 minutes of listening and reading these stories was enough for me.

    • @MrBobDobolina
      @MrBobDobolina 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just observe what they do and listen to what they say when they don't think you're listening and it is obvious. They're really not that good at hiding it.

  • @nocomment00
    @nocomment00 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My favorite youtuber 😄 you are always so wise. My friend and I always spark freaking interesting conversations based on your videos.

  • @colinesquire2480
    @colinesquire2480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I actually think men are more inclined to get emotional quickly 😂

    • @mred884
      @mred884 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bruh the narc I was just with, I could remain calm and then she would just poke with exactly the right buttons.

    • @JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon
      @JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Women only have shallow emotions. Men go far far deeper.

    • @deniszivkovic2586
      @deniszivkovic2586 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon yp!

    • @Walamonga1313
      @Walamonga1313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Not quickly, but deeply. Women have fleeting emotions, at one moment they're all over one guy, the next they cheat. Men on the other hand may or may not fall for a woman instantly, but once they do its harder yo get out of it. Even when you see that it's hopeless.

    • @colinesquire2480
      @colinesquire2480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Walamonga1313 that's an accurate description of how it is I'd say

  • @jorgemaza8142
    @jorgemaza8142 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your channel is a blessing. Thanks bro.

  • @azzazz4549
    @azzazz4549 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    But if you asked me about my experience, I'd say women are only interested in how much money I earn?

  • @benzodronic
    @benzodronic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are very well spoken you know that? 'That pain you feel is the breaking of an illusion.' Very nicely put.

  • @TheArchetype91
    @TheArchetype91 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    About 4 and a half years ago I dated this woman who really had that "sweet & innocent" look. Well looks can and will be deceiving.

  • @discorabbit
    @discorabbit 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    All true

  • @cedricnicholson7446
    @cedricnicholson7446 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    "proper garden tool" shout out to replicant phish

  • @vidalskyociosen3326
    @vidalskyociosen3326 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    This is why David Lee Roth is a genius even still healthy to this date.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't follow. Please explain.

    • @vidalskyociosen3326
      @vidalskyociosen3326 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ace.0.0.0. You see the 9 likes on my comment ? if you're not one of them , then it's not for you.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@vidalskyociosen3326 Thank you for explaining - Not! I was professing my ignorance, requesting an explanation. I will have to find a different person. - Anybody else??

  • @ThePorschefan
    @ThePorschefan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Two and a half men was a documentary, not a tv show

  • @stevenlawrence5733
    @stevenlawrence5733 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing that story. You can't make something like that up. I remember thinking so highly of a woman and always it's disillusionment.

  • @mav1877
    @mav1877 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Although I agree it might be in one's biology, I still feel woman can control how they act if they are consciously aware of it over time. I just don't want to give women a free pass if they constantly make the same mistakes then complain about it later.

  • @norm1815
    @norm1815 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    heard this one today "marriage is like a deck of cards, in the beginning all you need is a pair of hearts and a diamond. In the end you wish you had a club and a spade"

  • @JonJon-pj9ly
    @JonJon-pj9ly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is gonna sound ridículous but I can draw parallels between my last two dogs. My old dog was a huge male labrador, he died 5 years Ago at 13. I personally taugh him some commands some spaces which he couldnt Go, to wait for good to not jump me and such. Later that year when he died we got a female dog with no Race (mutt) and she is now 5. No matter How manu times se try to teach her no matter what she is completely unable tô fight her instincts and she always jumps us and she always tears the trashs and eats the rotten foods, always. Shes also more needy and touchy. Its ridículous but I always think that females cannot Go against their instincts. If you think about It we are not that Far from dogs evolutionary wise.
    That dude from the story, we all know ar least one of them. Its exactly like that, you have tô hear their stories Just tô be reminded. Their cockyness towards women usually translates to dominance, zero fear of rejection and preselection and as such, they are irresistible to them. Very Very good vídeo.

  • @Tubeytime
    @Tubeytime 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is some of the most honest advice I have never heard. Thank You. I can relate to the words you used like 'fantasy' and 'delusion'. My only question now is how did those men with vast experience with women learn to be grounded in reality while most other men are not? Are all of these delusions simply coping mechanisms we tell ourselves so we don't have to endure the pain of facing what our lack of sexual success means for us as men? Are those successful men experiencing life this way because their minds did not need these coping mechanisms?

    • @jerrybruckhart9134
      @jerrybruckhart9134 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Save yourself a world of heartache young man, learn self validation.

  • @zanard33
    @zanard33 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Not that I haven't seen hoing from 'pure' women before, but it always needs a reminder.

  • @RandomPerson-zx9vv
    @RandomPerson-zx9vv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The other factor is that women are attracted to good looking guys, and good looking guys tend to be confident and cocky.
    Luckily I figured out the true nature of women before I hit 20. Saved me a lot of pain.

  • @cosmicprison9819
    @cosmicprison9819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    12:11 For the love of quantum randomness, show that in more fictional stories. Because that's where a lot of the idealistic depictions of women (resulting from biology, i.e. male fantasies and female self-inserts) come from, reinforcing that. We usually want inspiring protagonists in stories, but we also want them to have flaws. And this is a great one to give female characters, but it's used way too rarely.

  • @Vmp775
    @Vmp775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for sharing such an insightful piece Alexander !

  • @metatron333ascension
    @metatron333ascension 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    this is what happened. her ego couldnt handle the fact that someone didnt like her or would compliment her.

  • @erkavra3861
    @erkavra3861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Something I've experienced is being hidden on a shield of fake security and selfsteem that drove me to be more outgoing than never before something that caused a possitive effect on women around me, when I was finishing high school. They allowed me to say them tough things and even pull from their hair (now I can't do this anymore). However they wanted me to talk and stay around them and that's how one girl approached to me.
    The girl I talk about liked to have conversations with me and sometimes we joked too. I was never really interested on her, furthermore, at that moment I was interested in other girl (completely out of my league but used to talk with). But on a school trip for 2 days 1and night, something too intense and impossible to forget for me happened the first night we stayed in the hotel. We (people of my grade and me) arrived at the hotel early in the night so we had the dinner and then we had the option of staying on a party in a stance of the hotel that was an improvised disco. Me and the guy I had to share room with decided to join other people in their room and then we had some drinking, and my partner smoked a joint for 1st time and after he felt bad so a while after we decided to go to our room and sleep. However while I was using my phone just before going to sleep, already in the bed, the girl mentioned before started sending me messages asking where I was at. And then (kinda playful) why I wasn't at the hotel's disco if I was "the party's soul", said her, after she begged me to go there but I refused and finally we ended the conversation when I said I was in bed and her said I was lying to her and later said her it was true and said her to come to my room. Shortly after she and 13 other girls knocked my room's door. My partner and me couldn't believe that. They came inside the room and were trying to get me out the bed and going with them to the hotel's disco but I was wearing my pyjama and used that as a excuse so the girls started to insist me to change my clothes in front of them but I didn't want because I felt ashamed. After many attempts I changed my clothes in front of them but they weren't satisfied so they said me to change my clothes again but playing the role of a stipper (thing I didn't).The girl who messaged me wanted my attention but I ignored her and started to joke with another girl with my trouser's belt as if I were to spank her. After that more people joined to the so called party the girls mounted in my room, we drank a lot and that lasted up to 5 or 6 am. Then everyone came back to their rooms to sleep up to 9 or 10 am. That day we were visiting some places and the girl I mentioned and her closest friends were behind me majority of the time. I was nice with them but kinda distant with the girl interested on me so when we took the bus for coming back; she, her friends and other girls which stayed in my room the last night were asking me if I liked her but always responded not, until they got tired.
    Time after that trip I thought that the girl could have felt something for me but I wasn't able to believe that then. Almost 3 years later I started to think about that and discovered that I ignored her because I was too insecure and thought I didn't deserve her. Now I regret this because I lost a very good person, a high quality woman of these ones which aims you to be a better person (something hard to find nowadays)
    Finally, after the end of high school I had some bad experiences that made me to forget the shield of fake selfsteem and security I had on these times, a shield which bringed me the best moments on my life. So now I'm the insecure person I used to be, I'm feeling alone, worthless and single. And no girl will find me ineresting now

  • @metalkreatorx37
    @metalkreatorx37 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Woman to a man OMG you farted!!! how dare you do that?!?!
    also Woman to another woman: Wanna play "you sank my battleshit?"

  • @andielynn7133
    @andielynn7133 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have never understood how some women will treat the nice guy like crap and give anything to the guy that treats her like crap

  • @thedavecorp
    @thedavecorp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Alex, they need the part BETWEEN "you're fat" and "let's make out."

    • @izafanime
      @izafanime 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I'll fill this in for you:
      Her: But you don't really mean that, do you?
      Him: Absolutely. I mean what I say. I'm unashamed.
      Her: Omg, you're like, so honest when everyone else is lying to me!
      Him: Shut up b*tch, you're not worth my time.
      Her: Omg, I'll prove to you that I'm worth your time! *muah muah muah* Punish me like my daddy used to!

    • @ZombieSS77
      @ZombieSS77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@izafanime There is an unspoken power dynamic at play in most social situations.

    • @thedavecorp
      @thedavecorp 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZombieSS77
      Oh go ahead - speak of them.

    • @theinktician
      @theinktician 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@izafanime lmao sounds accurate af

  • @michaelkeeble1480
    @michaelkeeble1480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love your channel and wish I was awake as you are when I was your age.. I grow up thinking all Police were honest and all women were kind etc. Boy was I shocked to find out how wrong and stupid I was. I always thought women were sweet etc but iv seen how cold they can be to many men. Im an old man now and iv been all over the world and in my view women in the West have changed over the decades and not in a good way. I can totally understand why many men from the West now go to the East to find a partner. Being polite is even seen as being weak now which blows my mind.

    • @visaman
      @visaman 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Funny when I was his age, I was listening to The Police.

  • @ryanpoe9791
    @ryanpoe9791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We are the byproducts of our mother's teachings...

  • @griffferguson3039
    @griffferguson3039 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel this pain of releasing delusions. I'm mostly pissed off at myself and my parents for allowing this to go on for so long.