"she's on a destructive path" and if you get involved with a women like this, she will take you down too and after she's taken you down, she will tell you that it's your fault. I had this happen to me. Don't fall for this.
Oh boy, this video resonates so much with me. My now ex girlfriend matches all the points of the "Party Girl". Guys, let me tell you this: YOU CAN'T FIX THEM, they don't want anything to do with committment, responsibility and team work. They just want you to accept their completely self-destroying behaviour. Plus, if you fall in love with them , as i did, you're in for a world of pain. You will try to fix them, you will try to make them happy, but they're sooo self absorbed. They can't love you as you love them. Get Out as soon as you realize this, please.
You can't fix anyone else. You should never get into a relationship in order to fix someone. They have to want to fix themselves first. Sometimes if we're lucky and work hard, we can fix ourselves, but that's it. But not in a relationship like that. It's like in a plane crash, help yourself first. Maybe then you meet someone who is worthy of you, and vice versa.
@@Baalaaxa I agree with everything you said, but it is easy to state the life lesson on the Internet. It is much harder to accept it when it is actually happening to you. Most of these types of situations are very nuanced. Guys don't just try to pick up women they already know have destructive lifestyles. Much more common is when someone you already knew within proximity to you and potentially had feelings for leans into a lifestyle like this. Accepting reality in those situations can be very tough.
I never understood, why you would brag about drinking and loosing control of yourself like that. Men and women alike. This is forever on the internet...
@@Makevil That’s the beautiful part about a man, men will always look after women during their delusions. even when we should go our own way entirely. I hate myself sometimes for my sympathy towards women
@KDS Sympathy is a product of compassion, and I don’t see anything weak about compassion. In fact this worlds needs more of it. I agree that compassion is disadvantageous, most especially in Western society. Or more simply put, good guys do finish last. It is women that also love power games, because modern society empowers them to be winners by default. But the question is, do I really desire to be a champion of a society that I find to be fundamentally corrupt? Ask yourself that.
@@CyberChrist This is why you should always hook up with women that have a high level of sexual attraction towards you. If u have to work too hard to get the P in this day and age of loose wahmen, then it's not worth it.
I dated a party girl for two months in my twenties. It was a complete horror show that ended the night she got so black out drunk she s@$t the bed with me lying next to her...Totally out of control and a total danger to herself. It was gross.
@J King hey! Same here! I've only been to one so far. It was fine and it was kinda fun to dance to one song lol but that's it. The rest of the time I spent there felt like a waste of time
@J King yeah, I guess the ethanol helps a bit. Although it didn't help me at all. I have never been drunk tho. I guess we are just different? Everyone is different to some extent
@J King guys, I used to be socially anxious, really unwilling to do any sort of parties anything like that, but as time gradually passed by I drank alcohol with friends, it made me so much more social, I've done drugs too. I'm not proud that I let myself open to so many substances, but right now when sober, I can have fun at a club, feeling only slightly weird but still dancing like an animal. It's just only about experience, about getting out of your comfort zone. Even if things seem forced to you, to be having fun at a club is to enjoy the music, yourself, and then others company. Going up to a chick can be fun too if you can learn how to handle rejection, because from some of those approaches you can meet some nice girls, no matter how much this video puts them in the negative view. There might be many thots, really undisciplined, bad, evil party girls out there, but you can still find some quality women who only drink ocasionally. It's hard, but in order to be there, you need to be a high quality man too. Cold truth is it's hard becoming this and hard finding that "kind" too, but one who works hard plays it easy.
@@kanisbdg it's foolish to look for a high quality girl at a party. You're much more likely to find a good girl through building out a good social circle or through common activities (hobbies (gym, yoga etc))
I've never heard such a more shameful brag in my life. Even as I've gotten older and become an adult I never understood the appeal of getting drunk to the point of blacking out. Not having control of myself in public is something I've always feared and I've never felt that need that most do to get drunk so they won't be anxious to socialize at a party.
I grew up moving a lot. Often the new kid . Got in a lot of fights. If I looked weak I was attacked. So I don't get drunk. I don't trust people enough to be weak around them.
"I destroyed my body this weekend with drugs to the point where I couldn't function." I was with a girl just like this before and now realize how short lived it was doomed to be.
The ex-wife towards the end of our marriage said off-hand once that she has no regrets in her life and believes in the expression never say never. BIG red flags I should have seen a long time ago, but yeah too late. What a waste of life that was. I regret believing there was a future with her.
Don’t let the regret get to you, you just needed that one lesson (very hard and painful I’m sure) so you don’t fall for that trap again. Stay safe man 👍
I agree. I don't let it get me down. I let regret act as a lesson to learn from my mistake so that I can do better next time. I just think it's a huge red flag of a woman that says she's never regreted anything she's done.
I think it is complete dishonesty to say “I have no regrets,” as this cannot possibly be true. In my experience this is something women say much more often than men. I think women stay, emotionally, at a juvenile level throughout the majority of their lives.
How did you get this from the video? Oh right you did not get that from the video. You literally just have that opinion. Just say you have sexist ideas and go lmao.
I have two teenage sons - 13 and 15. Thank God they are aware of the BS that a lot of girls get into and they're savvy enough not to get sucked into their drama. I'm not a big fan of rudeness etc but blocking is a great modern social media phenomenon.
This reminds me of the first date with a very popular cosplay girl, who just couldn't stop telling me how she's a chain-smoking alcoholic and into all sorts of drugs like coke & ex.
Breakfast at Tiffany's really signaled the Boomer era of feminism that rejected responsibility for selfish hedonism. If I meet up with th a girl that has a "glowing review" for that film I know that she isn't for long term relationships at all.
When I was a teenager I was attracted to party girls but not because they were party girls but because they were attractive. It was one of those things I realized quite early wasn't a thing. It is more of a red flag than a green flag for certain, if she likes partying more than spending time with me I know she isn't worth my time. I can gauge that in a few minutes of real face to face time.
Yep. True. I've been in a some sort of LTR with a party girl. There was all sorts of problems. Mainly with daddy issues, egotism, impusiveness, looking for male attention... OK. She were a rebound for me after a divorce, I do not regret though. The story ended before serious damage could take place. This expirience gave me way more distance and proved I do not have to have a relationship - even with a 17 years younger girl to boost my ego. I am way more choosy nowadays and I prefer to be alone than with somebody potentially destructive.
...your dating a child and she was the one with the issues? Mate... that should of been a no Brainer... Sometimes I wonder if we create this hell others have to fix, cause one of you not knowing what going on harms the people her age who now have to put up with thus crap now that you validated her need for older male attention... You luck out, get to have fun and regrets, but some other smuck is stuck, not getting on you, just pointing out the fact so you can stop others from repeating the same, no man should be a father to the girl that they are banging...
@@ThatOneAlbinoMofo actually... That LTR was beneficial to both of US. When I met her she was in her Party Stage... I definitely was not her first much older guy. During that LTR she grew to want something more that just fun lut of life. She did not solve some of her most potentially dangerous issues, but definitely went on a right truck. While with me - If thanks to me I'm not surę, but I think so. Now she Has a 3 year older boyfriend (beta) and everything is going on right direction.
It's funny how when Melvin said this, it was dialogue to set up what a cranky misanthropic bastard he was. As time has passed, Melvin has increasingly come to be seen as a wise philosopher.
When women are in love they'll give you everything. When they aren't, run! And when they are the moms of your kids, you have no choice but to arrange agreements.
@@Chiburi well, if she was that wasted she probably had no idea in hindsight how the glass actually filled up, and most of the story is told from a drunken perspective which maybe actually different from what actually happened. I Dated a girl like this in the past and its funny how her version of events never matched up to the real version of events, that alone caused many disagreements.
She looks like she's 15. 18 max. A lot of young people go through a "party" phase and/or a drinking phase. Male and female. Later on in life they usually wise up.
We live in an unprecedented time. We can now watch once-hidden aspects of human nature on social media that we otherwise would never witness. ...and the material keeps coming.
I don't drink (except for half a bottle of beer some days), and I've never been drunk, neither have I experienced a "hungover". This is not for "moral reasons": I just don't enjoy alcohol that much. I have always been very perplexed at how most people seem to be proud of getting drunk, doing dumb things while drunk, and vomiting. I feel like an alien about this. 👽
What gets me is that she refers to multiple 'besties'. Sounds like Histrionic Personality Disorder diagnosis within the first 30 seconds and pretty much the same behaviours from many of the drunks, fakes and wasters out there who for some reason think they have value just by their mere existance - not what they contirbute to the world. Time to drop these out of our lifes and focus on developing our own qualities. Thanks Alex, always excellent content.
Maybe you and the others who liked your comment are too old to realize this, but "besties" is basically slang for viewers. Many many people use it now.
@@redorange6838 maybe, and then maybe not. Bestie is best friend or someone you care deeply about. I would suggest this individual cares for no-one except herself or perhaps the next fool who buys her a drink (for perhaps the few minutes it takes to do so). The sooner this world is empty of such shallow, egotistical users, the better. I think all the other comments are fairly consistant in that view.
@@michaelspencer6171 I wouldn't treat that so literally. This term gets thrown around everywhere so often by so many girls that it doesn't really translate into "best friend" anymore but rather into "a female acquaintance with whom I share my self-destructive and self-absorbed behaviours, who also likes to get blacked-out drunk in the club with me and who gets to hear about many of my past and current adventures with chads and bad boys".
I'd pay you to walk into a Walmart and find me an of age Woman who isn't obese, doesn't have tattoos or have neon hair. I'll never have to pay you though.
Imagine being her father, if he was even present. All that time and energy helping to provide and nurture her and this is the fruitful return. Abysmal.
Hahaha, imagine if the prodigal son returned home with this attitude. Shit's insane... But you're their bestie as long as you're comfortably complicit.
Ive been a drunk stoner for years. I always found it weird the most intimate relationships I had, the girl was always sober and growth oriented. When I'm on a bender in life I am unable to find intimacy. Now I am focusing on sobriety to find intimacy.
I have never been into party girls, all I see is loose morals and lack of willpower. There's nothing attractive about a woman crawling into your clean bed reeking of alcohol, I broke up with a girl who suddenly became like this.
You're dancing with the devil when you let them take you to bed. As they said in the movie 300 what is your profession? Of course she's going to be great in the sack. As was Delilah to Samson in the biblical story of how she betrayed him. She gave him so many warnings but he was so mesmerized by her magic box that he ignored all of them. It's better to never even walk down that road even a little bit
Women using social media as their therapist expressing confidential testimonials showing their craziness is ridiculous. The next day they still have zero accountability about exposing themselves.😳
Due to me steering clear of the overly-extroverty types (the sort that scream promiscuity from a mile away) and always having the perception that drinking 'till you vomit is disgusting, I was lucky enough to never waste my time on these sorts of "women"
@@costinpatru5450 I personally can't claim I know, but it's a broad spectrum and if you have the patience and know how to talk to them then it's a matter of it taking longer to get there than it not being possible.
what in her life is she running from that she gets drunk at 10 am on a saturday morning? 😐 thats middle aged housewife and oldman gambling addict type drinking.
I think it is quite important to know how old the girl is. In germany it is quite normal to socialise with alcohol between the ages 15-20. I had this party drinker phase too, just like all my friends. Youre a teen and want to test your boundaries. Its something different if you behave like that with 28 though
Yeah, in some countries getting black out drunk few times as a teen is pretty normal, I can confirm, but bragging about it or doing it with adults, especially your partner's parents is quite a "level up" for me and I couldn't imagine doing it even in that phase of life at all. Also, the age of 28 you mentioned is a bit high, I believe if you can't control how much you can drink to not to throw up after your 20-22 birthday then you have a bit of a problem.
Same, I had the party phase too during my high school/college years, like 16-18. Then I just realised it wasn't worth going, why waste my evenings and nights on something I wouldn't even remember? Except for the hangover the next day of course. Such a waste. This pretty much cut most of my friendships but oh well, I don't regret it. Those idiots eventually got cigarette burns on their hands WILLINGLY as some kind of bonding ritual before we finished school. Glad I pulled away from that friend group.
@@proosee yea 28 would be too high for that behavior, i meant it like that too. i set the testing age somewhere from 15-20. i see your point with the "bragging infront of adults". that is really weird.
@@ashuranero5721 There is no need. It is a phase for a some still. Even if they are "successful" a lot of young people realize they do not have control of their lives. And have this "letting loose" phase. "Kids" sometimes realize, the expectations they have been living up to, are based on their parents egoitical insecurities, more than anything else. Alcohol happens to be legal. Other times is the extreme opposite, lack of boundaries. Kid sees everybody get drunk all the time, so they think it is normal. Finally, some people are just addicted to being addicted.🤷♂️
In the UK it's expected for young people to have their drinking phase. When watching the video, I was watching her thinking; "This kid has had fun being silly, she was around people she trusted and didn't put herself in any danger. She'll start to be more responsible once she's older." Because we only have one sample/story and only her side of it, it's hard to know what is happening. The points you bring up about women that act like this are so spot on though. I use to exclusivly go out with party girls, I learnt my lesson the hard way but unfortunatly, some people need to learn the hard way.
She, they, shall treat it as near miss and learn a thing or two from it since next time it could easily ended up as tragedy with lifetime consequences. But you know, we know, they won't. Even after having the tragedy themselves they will still not holding any responsibility whatsoevee for their choices of action.
My unfortunate experience was that my ex-wife became a party girl only after many years of marriage. Her mid-life personality change made her almost unrecognizable, and the drama went off the charts. (Relationships with women are never safe, never think otherwise.)
I did the same at her age. Perfect examples of youth being wasted on the young. If I could live my young adult years over I'd do it totally different, but what's done is done. I hope she'll see my comment and change the road she's on.
_"...and then my bestie, and my other bestie, and my_ other _other bestie..."_ You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
One think that's going around my head is that you mentioned that for 'normal guys', all hq women are taken, so in the 'dating market' we have to look for the 'lq' ones who can be somewhat transformed into the 'hq' women ... So are we doomed when this task is so difficult to be done especially after watching this kind of footage which present one of the examples of 'lq' ones ? It's so depressing...
As a guy who for the most part befriended hq girls. I can say that all of can't be taken at once, now of course you may not like all hq girls and that complicates things. You've got 2 routes: be a girl's first (usually does happen at younger ages but sometimes older too if you both wait it out (she can be too nervous (just make sure you're more confident than her)), or date a girl who decided to leave an asshole (must be genuine) or after a long one/ones. Obviously if there are too many assholes there is another problem. My point is they tend to clump up, and the criteria for clumping up isn't looks (I was surrounded by nerds after all), it was weird stuff like participation or being good at something or being a weeb sometimes. That's how good looking people and average people sometimes date, that's not always the first criteria. Also you don't have to be the top 10% in terms of looks, you need to be the top 5% in her eyes. And the criteria could be anything, it will stay consistent if she's in your friend group and is typically something gender neutral if high quality. Another point: the higher quality you go, the less your genes matter. It doesn't take genes to be good at piano, or have a routine/be healthy/groom. Yes I realise I'm deviating and venting now. The only real thing I can think will lower your chances is height, maybe intelligence, and maybe an attitude that prevents potential growth of self esteem (or a non proactive one) If you check these 3 and work on yourself I think you can greatly increase your chances within a year Of course all of this is coming froma teen kissless virgin who got the hq part checked but not the not single part. I'm satisfied nonetheless because I'm not too different from the guys dating the type of girls I'd like to date. Ok I'm sorry for venting, hope some of this helped
Well, even if being drunk is a sin in your eyes, is it reasonable to expect people who may even be believers in God to follow the same standard you do?
I completely concur. I was unfortunately married to one for four years. I fell in love with her when I was younger & naive about love. LOTS of drama and heartache. I found out she cheated on me with 3+? men I know of, after I caught her in bed with a 'friend'. Turns out she did not love me, but my wallet and my love for travel to exotic destinations. When my life situation changed, she still wanted to party on, so she found other distractions. Divorce was also a roller-coaster and was lucky saved by the prenuptial agreement. You can't be a knight in shining armor for a damsel in distress. That is BS from fairytales.
I was best friends with one for a couple of years, end of highschool and beginning of college. People thought she had "daddy issues". Having met her dad, I'd say she was - just like daddy. Genetics is a powerful thing.
Imagine being a middle aged male judging a woman in her early twenties. Who's self aware at that age? She's in school to better herself while your biggest accomplishment is financially exploiting & trauma bonding with other underachieving males.
Dear Alex, I totally fell for the "positivity" you are talking about. I mean seriously, when you started talking and pointed it out, my mind : blown. and she is not alone, almost all of them do this tactic where they already set the "branding" lense to look a scenario through (my family and relatives included). i mean Alex, dayumn bro, that is some sinister sorcery.
Oh man, this video is so spot on. Same thing with those Tinder girls that always travel. They’re just trying to run away from their problems and distract themselves with nice beaches and lavish vacations. Guys, you don’t want to date them either.
I had a thing for popular party girls because I thought they would not judge me heavily for wanting s3x . But once I found out normal girls also didn't judge me and did all of my fetishes so after that I lost that preference . But that time I didn't knew party means getting drunk and blacking out. I thought it was going to a concert and dance to music and having s3x .
I'm sorry on this one but it almost makes me miss being 17... Yes it is out of hand and yes it can lead to bad things but who has not had a drunken weekend at the young ages that you just might not want to tell mom about? Learning how to drink properly is a skill too and she does not have that yet. Is she a drunk, hope not but you just cant tell from the video. Posting this crap for everyone to see is stupid too.
in Europe is not so uncommon especially we don't find this strange or bad it is happening once in a while. We treat events like it in a way it was too much a little bit embarrassing but also we had much fun. I usually agree with you but not on this one case
I know we are not from the same culture but when I was a teenager, young girls and women getting publicly drunk was practically unheard of. Now schoolgirls get drunk in school.
The part that got me was going to a party for a few hours and then she calls her boyfriend for a ride home. She doesn’t want him at the party, just for a ride home. Then she goes to boyfriends house and has a fun drunk with his mother and sister.
Aside from both the short term and long term affects us can have an individual’s health not to mention the fact that you really shouldn’t immortalize moments like this on the Internet. Whatever happened to just special occasions to do this like I’m 23 and I rarely ever drink the only times I will actually consume alcohol is during a holiday like Christmas or New Year’s.
Yes, I'm Irish. I am very familiar with this attitude. I am very numb to it. What really gets me mentally is how aggressive and how completely not reasonable they are, which leads to extremely dangerous domestic abuse lasting a lifetime. They age a lot more.
This man speaks the truth. Been there, these kinds of women do not like you, even though they invite you to stuff, even though they randomely message you or buy you drinks. She's not your friend, stay away.
Her idea of "successful weekend" and mine are so different that I can't even imagine. And now why would I want to date this girl? To be honest, listening to this it almost sounded like this guy's family is grooming her for something that isn't going to be so successful, really creepy.
She looks pretty young...don't we all have stories like that from when we were young? I'm not sure I'd consider 1 or 2 events like this in a young persons life to be particularly severe.
Yeah looks like it's her first, or among her first times drinking and Alex is talking about dark roads and slippery slopes. As far as I'm concerned she could have had a nice weekend horseback riding or sky diving and recounted the story with as much excitement as she did here. Sure, she could drink excessively but in this story about ONE weekend of this girl's life, I see no proof of that. At the end of the day isn't that what life is about? Experiences. Then again maybe Alex knows something I don't.
Most people at my work tell each other stories like this. They act like it is such an intriguing and hilarious banter. They're all in their 30s. I leave feeling disgusted. So many people think rambling on about how drunk they were and how much they vomited is such a cool story to tell. This does not surprise me at all.
The crazy thing is that I've only seen men have this empathetic compassionate response to a girl or woman who is broken like this. Women don't seem to have that empathetic response to men with substance abuse issues, it's more like disgust. Except in cases where the girl herself has similar issues, then she will hang out with men who mirror and therefore validate her lifestyle. The "white knight" syndrome you spoke of has launched a couple of my worst relationships. I had to learn a hard lesson about confusing deep compassion with the first blush of love. The damsel in distress can really tug at your heartstrings, then crush you later when you are no longer useful to them.
"she's on a destructive path" and if you get involved with a women like this, she will take you down too and after she's taken you down, she will tell you that it's your fault. I had this happen to me. Don't fall for this.
same here
grandoise narcissism.
Early stages of alcoholism? Everything revolves around booze.
Party girls can be fun, but they belong to the party, not to you king
saying king is incredibly cringe. please stop
@@judge831 sure thing king. As if saying cringe isn't cringe. Lol
@@TheStonerKoala lol at calling him king 😂
@@judge831 Okay king.
Lol OK KANG!
Oh boy, this video resonates so much with me. My now ex girlfriend matches all the points of the "Party Girl". Guys, let me tell you this: YOU CAN'T FIX THEM, they don't want anything to do with committment, responsibility and team work. They just want you to accept their completely self-destroying behaviour. Plus, if you fall in love with them , as i did, you're in for a world of pain. You will try to fix them, you will try to make them happy, but they're sooo self absorbed. They can't love you as you love them. Get Out as soon as you realize this, please.
Oh we know you cannot fix them. They don't wanna be fixed. lol
I'm sorry by your experience, though. We can all experience it at least once.
@@NeoZeta yeah, you gotta experience it yourself to really understand the concept. I learned my lesson.
You can't fix anyone else. You should never get into a relationship in order to fix someone. They have to want to fix themselves first. Sometimes if we're lucky and work hard, we can fix ourselves, but that's it. But not in a relationship like that. It's like in a plane crash, help yourself first. Maybe then you meet someone who is worthy of you, and vice versa.
Wise words.
@@Baalaaxa I agree with everything you said, but it is easy to state the life lesson on the Internet. It is much harder to accept it when it is actually happening to you.
Most of these types of situations are very nuanced. Guys don't just try to pick up women they already know have destructive lifestyles. Much more common is when someone you already knew within proximity to you and potentially had feelings for leans into a lifestyle like this. Accepting reality in those situations can be very tough.
I never understood, why you would brag about drinking and loosing control of yourself like that. Men and women alike. This is forever on the internet...
Because drinking is 'fun'...
When you are in your teens and early twenties you want to push boundarirs to define them.
@@alisaforster28691 well said
think its part of being young
People who have nothing going on in their life.
Feminism has taught women that they are right no matter what. Unfortunately later in life they will pay the price for this delusion.
One can choose to flee reality, but no one can flee from the consequences of fleeing reality, indeed.
I think you meant ‘fortunately’..
@@Makevil That’s the beautiful part about a man, men will always look after women during their delusions. even when we should go our own way entirely. I hate myself sometimes for my sympathy towards women
@KDS Sympathy is a product of compassion, and I don’t see anything weak about compassion. In fact this worlds needs more of it. I agree that compassion is disadvantageous, most especially in Western society. Or more simply put, good guys do finish last. It is women that also love power games, because modern society empowers them to be winners by default. But the question is, do I really desire to be a champion of a society that I find to be fundamentally corrupt? Ask yourself that.
Little do they know, they're wrong no matter what.
Never hook up with a drunk girl period. You could get into some serious legal trouble if she regrets it.
To be fair, you can also get in trouble if she's sober.
@@CyberChrist Well of course, but not NEARLY as likely. There's no excuse for the chick to use if both people were sober at the time.
@@handsomeX I think what changes are her chances of letting herself get picked by a guy she'll regret immediately after sobering ;)
@@CyberChrist yup...
@@CyberChrist This is why you should always hook up with women that have a high level of sexual attraction towards you. If u have to work too hard to get the P in this day and age of loose wahmen, then it's not worth it.
I dated a party girl for two months in my twenties. It was a complete horror show that ended the night she got so black out drunk she s@$t the bed with me lying next to her...Totally out of control and a total danger to herself. It was gross.
Holy F*****!!!
@@alejandromolina2435 That's what I said!
@@Rogue_Trooper970 thats just another level! glad you dont stayed there!
That's funny as sh#t!
What a shitty ass situation
As a 16 yo, this information is golden
U xi jinping. U at least 90 y.o tf u meant?
@@danielrgoldman341 😂😂
@@danielrgoldman341 He must be talking about his next vessel
As the great philosopher J Cole once said, "She don't want to be saved, don't save her."
7:23 , brother
That was project pat my man. Got a song title from like 2001
@@Zero_2500 yup
"Party girls are way more trouble than they're worth." Yup been there got the t-shirt, happy for her to be someone else's problem.
I did not even get a t-shirt wtf?
This type of "party girl" has never been attractive to me. I was alwaxs disgusted by this type of behavior. And I'm only 20
@J King hey! Same here!
I've only been to one so far. It was fine and it was kinda fun to dance to one song lol but that's it. The rest of the time I spent there felt like a waste of time
@J King yeah, I guess the ethanol helps a bit. Although it didn't help me at all. I have never been drunk tho.
I guess we are just different? Everyone is different to some extent
@J King you seem like a nice person to talk to. Do want to chat somewhere else, like Discord?
@J King guys, I used to be socially anxious, really unwilling to do any sort of parties anything like that, but as time gradually passed by I drank alcohol with friends, it made me so much more social, I've done drugs too. I'm not proud that I let myself open to so many substances, but right now when sober, I can have fun at a club, feeling only slightly weird but still dancing like an animal. It's just only about experience, about getting out of your comfort zone. Even if things seem forced to you, to be having fun at a club is to enjoy the music, yourself, and then others company. Going up to a chick can be fun too if you can learn how to handle rejection, because from some of those approaches you can meet some nice girls, no matter how much this video puts them in the negative view. There might be many thots, really undisciplined, bad, evil party girls out there, but you can still find some quality women who only drink ocasionally. It's hard, but in order to be there, you need to be a high quality man too. Cold truth is it's hard becoming this and hard finding that "kind" too, but one who works hard plays it easy.
@@kanisbdg it's foolish to look for a high quality girl at a party. You're much more likely to find a good girl through building out a good social circle or through common activities (hobbies (gym, yoga etc))
Why does she think anyone is interested in her boring (I was drunk all the time) weekend?!
she's young
She has followers... #Validation #Simps
I've never heard such a more shameful brag in my life. Even as I've gotten older and become an adult I never understood the appeal of getting drunk to the point of blacking out. Not having control of myself in public is something I've always feared and I've never felt that need that most do to get drunk so they won't be anxious to socialize at a party.
i dunno but it seems like the majority honestly
What's weird is that she looks so innocent, nice and normal. Not the typical lost and vulgar loose cannon.
@@GaylordBonnafous Duh,it's a disguise.
Then they feign responsibility for their actions
I grew up moving a lot. Often the new kid . Got in a lot of fights. If I looked weak I was attacked. So I don't get drunk. I don't trust people enough to be weak around them.
"I destroyed my body this weekend with drugs to the point where I couldn't function." I was with a girl just like this before and now realize how short lived it was doomed to be.
This chick is a wrecking ball waiting to happen. Good grief.
The ex-wife towards the end of our marriage said off-hand once that she has no regrets in her life and believes in the expression never say never. BIG red flags I should have seen a long time ago, but yeah too late. What a waste of life that was. I regret believing there was a future with her.
Don’t let the regret get to you, you just needed that one lesson (very hard and painful I’m sure) so you don’t fall for that trap again. Stay safe man 👍
I agree. I don't let it get me down. I let regret act as a lesson to learn from my mistake so that I can do better next time.
I just think it's a huge red flag of a woman that says she's never regreted anything she's done.
I think it is complete dishonesty to say “I have no regrets,” as this cannot possibly be true. In my experience this is something women say much more often than men. I think women stay, emotionally, at a juvenile level throughout the majority of their lives.
@@andrewjankowski9650 yeah I agree. It's part of their 'keeping their options open' deal
Basically you've described majority of women. Lead a quick and easy life then expect a man to drag them out of the emptiness.
"Liberated" women
Shut up lmao
How did you get this from the video? Oh right you did not get that from the video. You literally just have that opinion. Just say you have sexist ideas and go lmao.
I have two teenage sons - 13 and 15. Thank God they are aware of the BS that a lot of girls get into and they're savvy enough not to get sucked into their drama. I'm not a big fan of rudeness etc but blocking is a great modern social media phenomenon.
Glad they are aware ' so they can find great high quality women in the future 👍
This reminds me of the first date with a very popular cosplay girl, who just couldn't stop telling me how she's a chain-smoking alcoholic and into all sorts of drugs like coke & ex.
A successful weekend? A social event? Because you've got to feel validated. She needs time to grow but better yet help ASAP like many others.
Breakfast at Tiffany's is considered one of the best films of all time. This has been going of for quite some time.
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Every time I tried to watch it, I fell asleep...
@@aumenarys nothing wrong with a little nap time.
Breakfast at Tiffany's really signaled the Boomer era of feminism that rejected responsibility for selfish hedonism. If I meet up with th a girl that has a "glowing review" for that film I know that she isn't for long term relationships at all.
@@dc1397 hahaha
"She doesn't wanna be saved don't save her" J. Cole
When I was a teenager I was attracted to party girls but not because they were party girls but because they were attractive. It was one of those things I realized quite early wasn't a thing. It is more of a red flag than a green flag for certain, if she likes partying more than spending time with me I know she isn't worth my time. I can gauge that in a few minutes of real face to face time.
Yep. True. I've been in a some sort of LTR with a party girl. There was all sorts of problems. Mainly with daddy issues, egotism, impusiveness, looking for male attention... OK. She were a rebound for me after a divorce, I do not regret though. The story ended before serious damage could take place. This expirience gave me way more distance and proved I do not have to have a relationship - even with a 17 years younger girl to boost my ego. I am way more choosy nowadays and I prefer to be alone than with somebody potentially destructive.
...your dating a child and she was the one with the issues?
Mate... that should of been a no Brainer...
Sometimes I wonder if we create this hell others have to fix, cause one of you not knowing what going on harms the people her age who now have to put up with thus crap now that you validated her need for older male attention...
You luck out, get to have fun and regrets, but some other smuck is stuck, not getting on you, just pointing out the fact so you can stop others from repeating the same, no man should be a father to the girl that they are banging...
@@ThatOneAlbinoMofo actually... That LTR was beneficial to both of US. When I met her she was in her Party Stage... I definitely was not her first much older guy. During that LTR she grew to want something more that just fun lut of life. She did not solve some of her most potentially dangerous issues, but definitely went on a right truck. While with me - If thanks to me I'm not surę, but I think so.
Now she Has a 3 year older boyfriend (beta) and everything is going on right direction.
Maybe she feels strong, independent, and empowered. This is similar to a rookie gangster feeling proud of himself after assaulting a helpless oldman.
To an extent, but I'd argue that get yourself drunk is a lot more moral than physically assaulting someone.
“I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”
~Melvin Udall, *As Good As It Gets*
people who talk in metaphors ought to shampoo my crotch
@@Usernamenottaken2k 🤔
@@meanderingmarley3910 Also a Melvin Udall quote I should have clarified
It's funny how when Melvin said this, it was dialogue to set up what a cranky misanthropic bastard he was. As time has passed, Melvin has increasingly come to be seen as a wise philosopher.
When women are in love they'll give you everything. When they aren't, run! And when they are the moms of your kids, you have no choice but to arrange agreements.
Hahaha she said that the family were being accepting, after she left I bet they were all discussing how much of a nightmare and a headache she was.
Sounds like they filled up her glass and got her drunk, maybe she found an alcoholic family to bond with. Why would they feed her so much wine? Weird
@@Chiburi well, if she was that wasted she probably had no idea in hindsight how the glass actually filled up, and most of the story is told from a drunken perspective which maybe actually different from what actually happened. I Dated a girl like this in the past and its funny how her version of events never matched up to the real version of events, that alone caused many disagreements.
She looks like she's 15. 18 max. A lot of young people go through a "party" phase and/or a drinking phase. Male and female. Later on in life they usually wise up.
Yep...usually after their forced to due to health reasons as per their bad decisions when young
Who even asked her about her weekend?
I remember when I was young and dumb enough to think being drunk was an achievement.
some 30-40y o colleagues of mine still think this is an achievement
We live in an unprecedented time.
We can now watch once-hidden aspects of human nature on social media that we otherwise would never witness.
...and the material keeps coming.
I don't drink (except for half a bottle of beer some days), and I've never been drunk, neither have I experienced a "hungover". This is not for "moral reasons": I just don't enjoy alcohol that much.
I have always been very perplexed at how most people seem to be proud of getting drunk, doing dumb things while drunk, and vomiting. I feel like an alien about this. 👽
Two besties????
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The alcohol addiction is understandable in this day and age. However 2 besties? Yeah, pure madness
What gets me is that she refers to multiple 'besties'. Sounds like Histrionic Personality Disorder diagnosis within the first 30 seconds and pretty much the same behaviours from many of the drunks, fakes and wasters out there who for some reason think they have value just by their mere existance - not what they contirbute to the world. Time to drop these out of our lifes and focus on developing our own qualities. Thanks Alex, always excellent content.
You know I just learned what "Histrionic" meant, just a few days ago...lol I've already forgotten😂
Maybe you and the others who liked your comment are too old to realize this, but "besties" is basically slang for viewers. Many many people use it now.
@@redorange6838 maybe, and then maybe not. Bestie is best friend or someone you care deeply about. I would suggest this individual cares for no-one except herself or perhaps the next fool who buys her a drink (for perhaps the few minutes it takes to do so). The sooner this world is empty of such shallow, egotistical users, the better. I think all the other comments are fairly consistant in that view.
@@michaelspencer6171 I wouldn't treat that so literally. This term gets thrown around everywhere so often by so many girls that it doesn't really translate into "best friend" anymore but rather into "a female acquaintance with whom I share my self-destructive and self-absorbed behaviours, who also likes to get blacked-out drunk in the club with me and who gets to hear about many of my past and current adventures with chads and bad boys".
@@patrolmostwanted As I said, it actually translates more to something like viewers, you're reading into it way too much, as well As Michael
Girls without tatoos and wifey doesnt exist anymore
I'd pay you to walk into a Walmart and find me an of age Woman who isn't obese, doesn't have tattoos or have neon hair. I'll never have to pay you though.
Imagine being her father, if he was even present. All that time and energy helping to provide and nurture her and this is the fruitful return. Abysmal.
Hahaha, imagine if the prodigal son returned home with this attitude. Shit's insane... But you're their bestie as long as you're comfortably complicit.
Ive been a drunk stoner for years. I always found it weird the most intimate relationships I had, the girl was always sober and growth oriented. When I'm on a bender in life I am unable to find intimacy. Now I am focusing on sobriety to find intimacy.
I have never been into party girls, all I see is loose morals and lack of willpower. There's nothing attractive about a woman crawling into your clean bed reeking of alcohol, I broke up with a girl who suddenly became like this.
You're dancing with the devil when you let them take you to bed. As they said in the movie 300 what is your profession? Of course she's going to be great in the sack. As was Delilah to Samson in the biblical story of how she betrayed him. She gave him so many warnings but he was so mesmerized by her magic box that he ignored all of them. It's better to never even walk down that road even a little bit
Women using social media as their therapist expressing confidential testimonials showing their craziness is ridiculous. The next day they still have zero accountability about exposing themselves.😳
Due to me steering clear of the overly-extroverty types (the sort that scream promiscuity from a mile away) and always having the perception that drinking 'till you vomit is disgusting, I was lucky enough to never waste my time on these sorts of "women"
Smart choice, I was always kinda introverted so the loud and overwhelmingly extroverted party girls never struck my interest.
@Valentine, how does one have sex with an introvert girl?
@@costinpatru5450 I personally can't claim I know, but it's a broad spectrum and if you have the patience and know how to talk to them then it's a matter of it taking longer to get there than it not being possible.
what in her life is she running from that she gets drunk at 10 am on a saturday morning? 😐 thats middle aged housewife and oldman gambling addict type drinking.
I think it is quite important to know how old the girl is. In germany it is quite normal to socialise with alcohol between the ages 15-20. I had this party drinker phase too, just like all my friends. Youre a teen and want to test your boundaries. Its something different if you behave like that with 28 though
Yeah, in some countries getting black out drunk few times as a teen is pretty normal, I can confirm, but bragging about it or doing it with adults, especially your partner's parents is quite a "level up" for me and I couldn't imagine doing it even in that phase of life at all. Also, the age of 28 you mentioned is a bit high, I believe if you can't control how much you can drink to not to throw up after your 20-22 birthday then you have a bit of a problem.
I really don't understand for having the need of of an alcohol phase, can you explain it?
Same, I had the party phase too during my high school/college years, like 16-18. Then I just realised it wasn't worth going, why waste my evenings and nights on something I wouldn't even remember? Except for the hangover the next day of course. Such a waste. This pretty much cut most of my friendships but oh well, I don't regret it. Those idiots eventually got cigarette burns on their hands WILLINGLY as some kind of bonding ritual before we finished school. Glad I pulled away from that friend group.
@@proosee yea 28 would be too high for that behavior, i meant it like that too. i set the testing age somewhere from 15-20. i see your point with the "bragging infront of adults". that is really weird.
@@ashuranero5721 There is no need. It is a phase for a some still. Even if they are "successful" a lot of young people realize they do not have control of their lives. And have this "letting loose" phase. "Kids" sometimes realize, the expectations they have been living up to, are based on their parents egoitical insecurities, more than anything else. Alcohol happens to be legal. Other times is the extreme opposite, lack of boundaries. Kid sees everybody get drunk all the time, so they think it is normal. Finally, some people are just addicted to being addicted.🤷♂️
In the UK it's expected for young people to have their drinking phase. When watching the video, I was watching her thinking; "This kid has had fun being silly, she was around people she trusted and didn't put herself in any danger. She'll start to be more responsible once she's older." Because we only have one sample/story and only her side of it, it's hard to know what is happening. The points you bring up about women that act like this are so spot on though. I use to exclusivly go out with party girls, I learnt my lesson the hard way but unfortunatly, some people need to learn the hard way.
I can't judge, I'm Irish
She, they, shall treat it as near miss and learn a thing or two from it since next time it could easily ended up as tragedy with lifetime consequences.
But you know, we know, they won't. Even after having the tragedy themselves they will still not holding any responsibility whatsoevee for their choices of action.
My unfortunate experience was that my ex-wife became a party girl only after many years of marriage. Her mid-life personality change made her almost unrecognizable, and the drama went off the charts. (Relationships with women are never safe, never think otherwise.)
This is something you tell to your close friends not social media!😂
Men lowered their standards so low...
I did the same at her age. Perfect examples of youth being wasted on the young. If I could live my young adult years over I'd do it totally different, but what's done is done. I hope she'll see my comment and change the road she's on.
_"...and then my bestie, and my other bestie, and my_ other _other bestie..."_
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
Pointdexter, that reference made me smile, thank you! :)
@@jennifercoopman I knew someone would appreciate it :D
"A drama filled breakup is a wonderful distraction"
Jeeeez! Alex dropping truth bombs!
One think that's going around my head is that you mentioned that for 'normal guys', all hq women are taken, so in the 'dating market' we have to look for the 'lq' ones who can be somewhat transformed into the 'hq' women ... So are we doomed when this task is so difficult to be done especially after watching this kind of footage which present one of the examples of 'lq' ones ? It's so depressing...
As a guy who for the most part befriended hq girls. I can say that all of can't be taken at once, now of course you may not like all hq girls and that complicates things. You've got 2 routes: be a girl's first (usually does happen at younger ages but sometimes older too if you both wait it out (she can be too nervous (just make sure you're more confident than her)), or date a girl who decided to leave an asshole (must be genuine) or after a long one/ones. Obviously if there are too many assholes there is another problem. My point is they tend to clump up, and the criteria for clumping up isn't looks (I was surrounded by nerds after all), it was weird stuff like participation or being good at something or being a weeb sometimes. That's how good looking people and average people sometimes date, that's not always the first criteria. Also you don't have to be the top 10% in terms of looks, you need to be the top 5% in her eyes. And the criteria could be anything, it will stay consistent if she's in your friend group and is typically something gender neutral if high quality.
Another point: the higher quality you go, the less your genes matter. It doesn't take genes to be good at piano, or have a routine/be healthy/groom. Yes I realise I'm deviating and venting now.
The only real thing I can think will lower your chances is height, maybe intelligence, and maybe an attitude that prevents potential growth of self esteem (or a non proactive one)
If you check these 3 and work on yourself I think you can greatly increase your chances within a year
Of course all of this is coming froma teen kissless virgin who got the hq part checked but not the not single part. I'm satisfied nonetheless because I'm not too different from the guys dating the type of girls I'd like to date.
Ok I'm sorry for venting, hope some of this helped
Congrats! She has been more drunk than I have been in 42 years.
In a couple of years, if things keep going the way they're going, you might be criminally charged for drunk-shaming. 😐
Well, even if being drunk is a sin in your eyes, is it reasonable to expect people who may even be believers in God to follow the same standard you do?
Tell me you’re an alcoholic without telling me you’re an alcoholic.
One of the reasons why I don't like alcohol. people are so proud of themselves for getting drunk
I'm sure any future employers will find this video interesting.
Fascinating vid as always. Love your content Alex
I'm happy I never found party girls appealing, since I've never been a partying guy.
I prefer panty girls to party girls.
Its impossible for someone to love you when they are chemically addicted to loving something else
I completely concur. I was unfortunately married to one for four years. I fell in love with her when I was younger & naive about love. LOTS of drama and heartache. I found out she cheated on me with 3+? men I know of, after I caught her in bed with a 'friend'. Turns out she did not love me, but my wallet and my love for travel to exotic destinations. When my life situation changed, she still wanted to party on, so she found other distractions. Divorce was also a roller-coaster and was lucky saved by the prenuptial agreement. You can't be a knight in shining armor for a damsel in distress. That is BS from fairytales.
What is she talking about? Her story is sick and craze!
I've never been with a party girl but I did know one who got herself intoxicated to the point that she had to be carried away by ambulance.
I was best friends with one for a couple of years, end of highschool and beginning of college. People thought she had "daddy issues". Having met her dad, I'd say she was - just like daddy.
Genetics is a powerful thing.
Imagine being a middle aged male judging a woman in her early twenties. Who's self aware at that age?
She's in school to better herself while your biggest accomplishment is financially exploiting & trauma bonding with other underachieving males.
Shut up
Dear Alex, I totally fell for the "positivity" you are talking about. I mean seriously, when you started talking and pointed it out, my mind : blown. and she is not alone, almost all of them do this tactic where they already set the "branding" lense to look a scenario through (my family and relatives included). i mean Alex, dayumn bro, that is some sinister sorcery.
Oh man, this video is so spot on. Same thing with those Tinder girls that always travel. They’re just trying to run away from their problems and distract themselves with nice beaches and lavish vacations. Guys, you don’t want to date them either.
Sounds like a normal weekend in Berlin
yeah or Amsterdam. Although there it is rather xtc/mdma because it is cheaper than alcohol.
@@diemervdberg7661 I should switch to mdma micro doses and drop alcohol all together. Probably a better choice. Thing is that it's illegal ;(
In progressive culture, people believe that they should not have ANY regrets
A relationship with a drunk is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
Don't save her.
She don't wanna be saved.
Maybe I’m a psychopath, but I’m totally complicit with anything they say in person. It’s kind of funny honestly
Same. I just don't feel sorry for stupid people.
Alex I can’t thank you enough for exposing this. You are the change this world needs.
I had a thing for popular party girls because I thought they would not judge me heavily for wanting s3x . But once I found out normal girls also didn't judge me and did all of my fetishes so after that I lost that preference .
But that time I didn't knew party means getting drunk and blacking out. I thought it was going to a concert and dance to music and having s3x .
I'm sorry on this one but it almost makes me miss being 17... Yes it is out of hand and yes it can lead to bad things but who has not had a drunken weekend at the young ages that you just might not want to tell mom about? Learning how to drink properly is a skill too and she does not have that yet. Is she a drunk, hope not but you just cant tell from the video. Posting this crap for everyone to see is stupid too.
in Europe is not so uncommon especially we don't find this strange or bad it is happening once in a while. We treat events like it in a way it was too much a little bit embarrassing but also we had much fun. I usually agree with you but not on this one case
yea i agree. Until like early twenties it's ok for me. If she still gets wasted often when she has a working life, its a big no lol
If someone gloats about how much they drink or if they drink during the day that is a giant red flag.
I know we are not from the same culture but when I was a teenager, young girls and women getting publicly drunk was practically unheard of. Now schoolgirls get drunk in school.
The part that got me was going to a party for a few hours and then she calls her boyfriend for a ride home. She doesn’t want him at the party, just for a ride home. Then she goes to boyfriends house and has a fun drunk with his mother and sister.
“Don’t save her, she don’t want to be saved”
Aside from both the short term and long term affects us can have an individual’s health not to mention the fact that you really shouldn’t immortalize moments like this on the Internet. Whatever happened to just special occasions to do this like I’m 23 and I rarely ever drink the only times I will actually consume alcohol is during a holiday like Christmas or New Year’s.
Yes, I'm Irish. I am very familiar with this attitude. I am very numb to it.
What really gets me mentally is how aggressive and how completely not reasonable they are, which leads to extremely dangerous domestic abuse lasting a lifetime.
They age a lot more.
Why cant people have fun with out drinking so much alcohol
This girl is representative of at least half of girls who go to college.
Every men needs to listen to this dude. He is 100% on point!
This man speaks the truth. Been there, these kinds of women do not like you, even though they invite you to stuff, even though they randomely message you or buy you drinks. She's not your friend, stay away.
Her idea of "successful weekend" and mine are so different that I can't even imagine. And now why would I want to date this girl? To be honest, listening to this it almost sounded like this guy's family is grooming her for something that isn't going to be so successful, really creepy.
And this girl will be a Mom someday ... what a future for her and her future children.
That genuinely concerned guy sounds like he's about to give unsolicited advice lol
Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved
J Cole's - "No Role Modelz"
Men: buzzed , drunk
Women: tipsy , blackout
I'd like to judge this too, but i wasn't any better at 18 either....
Rescue fantasy: A princess saved is a princess earned.
Newsflash: Some princesses found to be witches in disguise.
She looks pretty young...don't we all have stories like that from when we were young? I'm not sure I'd consider 1 or 2 events like this in a young persons life to be particularly severe.
Reminds me of a lot a few girls I knew, one with undiagnosed add especially
I’ve never posted it online for the world to see
Yeah looks like it's her first, or among her first times drinking and Alex is talking about dark roads and slippery slopes. As far as I'm concerned she could have had a nice weekend horseback riding or sky diving and recounted the story with as much excitement as she did here. Sure, she could drink excessively but in this story about ONE weekend of this girl's life, I see no proof of that. At the end of the day isn't that what life is about? Experiences. Then again maybe Alex knows something I don't.
Brit perspective here - sounds like a big fuss to me :)
@@ndnrb_ I'm inclined to wonder if I would have when I was her age if the internet was as developed then as it is now.
'Dont save her, she don't want to be saved'
A complete lack of accountability and it doesn’t bother her conscience at all.
And here I thought most guys aren't into party girls beyond hook up like me
Most people at my work tell each other stories like this. They act like it is such an intriguing and hilarious banter. They're all in their 30s. I leave feeling disgusted. So many people think rambling on about how drunk they were and how much they vomited is such a cool story to tell. This does not surprise me at all.
The crazy thing is that I've only seen men have this empathetic compassionate response to a girl or woman who is broken like this. Women don't seem to have that empathetic response to men with substance abuse issues, it's more like disgust. Except in cases where the girl herself has similar issues, then she will hang out with men who mirror and therefore validate her lifestyle. The "white knight" syndrome you spoke of has launched a couple of my worst relationships. I had to learn a hard lesson about confusing deep compassion with the first blush of love. The damsel in distress can really tug at your heartstrings, then crush you later when you are no longer useful to them.
Damn. This explains so much. Thank you Alex.