how to stop caring what others think
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 พ.ค. 2024
- how to stop taking things personally
in this video i talk about how i've stopped caring so much about what people think about me & some specific practices that will help you stop taking things personally & recognize that most of the time no one is judging your but yourself.
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- the four agreements
- the artist's way
- a new earth
- anything by alan watts
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timestamps
0:00-2:09 no ones judging you but you
2:09 don't take things personally
7:13 use triggers to practice mindfulness
11:45 rejection therapy
16:21 other tips + expressing yourself
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i think a big issue is people never take a long period to simply be by themselves and meditate on themselves. Every day, we're bombarded with social media, so if you've never known what it's like to live without other people's approval, you'll be conditioned to always seek that approval because you've never known anything else.
After isolating during my saturn return, I finally broke out of overthinking about what people think about me, because i got to experience simply being out by myself, going to the store by myself, not being on social media, and just enjoying the silence of independence. I loved it. Now that I'm social again, I'm at an equilibrium where I don't **need** people's approval, but I also don't **need** to be away from people either.
goals! happy for u :) trying to get there, but it's hard...
I agree because as soon as I started depending on others opinions I realized I haven’t meditated/ spend time by myself in a long time
@@iamuuareme i appreciate that. As for you, what do you think is making it hard?
@@natesamadhi33 ✨ unresolved trauma ✨
@@iamuuareme you dont have to go into specifics here if you dont want to, but I asked because I've noticed the first step for a lot of people is being more specific (and honest) about what it is that's the cause of their attachment-issues. Without realizing all the raw specifics of it, you cant reverse-engineer it. Maybe you already know what it is, maybe you dont, but facing it and naming it is the crucial first step for many people. To this day, I'm still questioning & discovering things about myself.
i recently started being super authentic online and i noticed that when you don’t let the fear consume you, it goes away so quickly! just let the emotion pass and it will. you don’t have to hold on to it
yesss this!!
@@Curlyhairgirl4Life we don’t need another carbon copy. we need INDIVIDUALS! and that’s on pluto in aquarius
I’ve had the hardest time accepting myself as an introverted, quieter type of person and realizing that it’s totally okay to be this way. Being bullied and told whether it’s at work or in my regular everyday life that I’m not normal, I should change myself, or that there’s something wrong with me being the way I am has always made me worry about people’s opinions and feel incredibly insecure. I’ll work on changing this as I get older because I can’t constantly keep living for other people and their perceptions of me and my life. I’m tired
I think people ARE judging us but the longer you spend giving a shit is the longer it will be detrimental. And when it is it will only be to yourself. I’ve had best friends throw tantrums about how I’ve changed but if I continued to cater to their comfortability I would have never leveled up in life. And now years later they say how great I turned out while they are still doing the same shit. I don’t care what they do and have the humility to still come around and want to hang out with my childhood friends but it’s a slippery slope because a lot of jealousy can evolve if you’re not living the same type of lifestyle. In retrospect be calm, be respectful but don’t let anyone deter you from your path. You will only live with regret
That tip about code switching or not code switching is golden. As a black dude who works around a lot of black people, I feel pressured to speak slang or ebonics when I would rather just speak proper but when I speak proper , people make fun of me. I'm tired of it
You are not alone! I feel the same pressure but in reverse and I just talk however I want. Let people draw their own weird "doesn't really make sense" conclusions. And if anybody checks you, check them. Stay strong!
i feel this heavy lol
Fr anytime I talk,I get made fun of and got told that I didn’t sound like my race 🥲
Not me going on my ipad to distract myself from how shit I feel because I’m doing this exact thing and then I get this notification…
Right on time 🥰
😂❤ i'm glad this came at the right time
I’m only 20 but I feel as though I’ve hit my Saturn return 10 years early. I was constantly bullied and isolated from peers for the past 13 years of my life and I also suffer from severe social anxiety which led me to develop body image issues and disordered eating/depression at 16 and 17. Once I started seeking help and got to the root cause, my brain was completely rewired to the point that I’m not that same person I was 4 years ago. Even then, I can’t even be around most people my own age because they emulate that toxic energy that I once held. Which is why most of my friends are older coworkers relatives in there mid/late 20s and even 30s
Lynette, this make-up is so light and airy, brings out the green in your eyes, you look stunning!
Thank you for sharing, love you
Completely agree, I am starting to learn how to let my experiences move pass me rather then clinging on to it.
Life is short to care about people opinions.
When i learned “i am not my thoughts” this was game changer. Glad you mentioned this.
"the more you live life for yourself, the more you're going to be forced to heal."
we could all use a lesson in practicing non judgment just as we would not like to be judged upon first glance❤
People judge anything. We care cuz we’re also judging us
The universe called me with this video. Thank you for uploading this. I know you JUST uploaded this but I was just thinking about how even tho I usually don’t care, something inside me is still screaming for validation.
Thank you Lynette, a subscriber for 4 years! ❤
I resonate with this too, my thoughts have been similar!
i'm so glad this resonated! & thank you so much for the support!!❤
Ppl can’t smile at one another in nyc because when you smile at someone it’s equivalent to smiling at yourself in the mirror, because everyone is your reflection. Most ppl in NYC can’t even find a reason to smile at themselves in the mirror which is why they don’t smile and so mean to ppl. Its a internal hindge they’re projecting.
bingo
I’ve been battling how people will perceive me if I allow myself to be fully immersed in my receiving energy. I’ve been hyper independent for a long time and recently started consciously stepping in relaxation and receptiveness.
I’ve perceived dependency on other people as a weakness so allowing myself to let other people who can, take care of me makes me feel perceived as needy.
I relate to this so much & am currently at a similar place in my journey. Opening yourself up to others after finding comfort in solitude can be challenging & somewhat triggering, but I also think is worth it in the end. We got this ❤️ sending love
The best time of the week is when the queen Lynette post a new video💓 positive vibes to everybody here ✨😎
Nyc is so expensive, but there are alot of fun hidden gems throughout all the boroughs that you can have a whole lot of fun and adventure for free. Thats why I love bike riding all throughout nyc, I found so many cool places that most nyers don’t be knowing about.
But upstate ny is a whole lot of fun too, not just nyc ✨🙌🏾. Welcome to our city Lynette, I apologize for the rudeness of our nyc culture, but beings like you and I will raise the frequency and soon everyone will be smiling at one another in nyc.
This came at a great time. I had a previous partner who said he never had any traumatic experience in his life. He was very privilleged & a wealthy family. It was hard for me not to get resentful about this & he found i wrote it in a journal 😂 so you can tell how that relationship ended
The synchronicity is INSANE. The way I just randomly felt called to buy the artist's way on Google Play and get cracking in unblocking my expression,, and they you start talking about it right after... that's WILD
Once I started learning to trust my own intuition and discernment, the less I cared about what other people thought. It’s so freeing ✨
I am a victim of overthinking to the point where my anxiety kicks in full gear. I recently had to catch myself because I was laying around, thinking the ultimate worse scenarios about money, family, work and I was sleeping a lot I decided to get my butt up and get out, exercise and not let it overcome me. Like you have to take back control. I always think everybody is at me and if they are who cares. I’m taking one year to handle business, slow down and practice more self love and pour into my mental health.
I really needed this, thank you!
thank you for always sharing your truth and positivity!
Hair is still fire 🔥
i truly needed to hear this 💕 thank you so much for another video x
truly enjoyed watching this
You are giving the best vibes in this ep!
omg YES! I'm from NY and I've had to teach myself that not only is it okay to smile at people, but its also safe to. I grew up (like most NYers) learning to look mean and not make eye contact to 'protect' myself. But as I got older I realize that even though it was a form of protection, it didn't make me feel good. Now, I like to walk around with a smile and eye contact. I still feel protected, but now it's with love instead of fear! And I spread the energy to others. Love this sm Lyn
So timely and relevant. Thank you for sharing 🙌🏻
Love the consistency Lynette!! I always look forward to your content so this feels like a treat!
Love you ❤
This was so good!!
Thank you Lynette. This was very well explained. I really needed this.
Thank you for this ❤ you look beautiful.. glowing 💫🤍
Thank you, I hope you are taking care of yourself (:
Lynette your glowing! Your vibe is extra magical recently that self love is vibrating off you
Was thinking about this a lot while working in a leadership role. I have other leaders with me who can be so funny and weird without thinking about it. And i envy that and wish i could care less. But when they see me kinda tryna be professional and not react so much they get shy and tone it down but i feel so bad cuz i know how that feels to just switch cuz others are watching or not giving the energy they expected. And the most i can do is smile and say i dont mind. But im so shy to say too much and really wanted to encourage them some more. It was a difficult day for me and i tried so hard to match the energy but as im trying to be more in tune with myself and feel out what im feeling that it's hard to be sad and in deep thought while at work. I think others felt that, and i was wishing so bad that i can just be a regular worker drowned in work and not be a leader with eyes on you.
just started the video rn but you are absolutely gorgeous. makeup looks so good and your top and hair are so cute!!💘💘
Always on point!
You look so good here ! Love the makeup
hey girly, so I resonate with this message a lot. funny enough the notification for this video popped up for me when I was thinking to myself on how I need to stop caring what others think with how I dress. the divine timing of this video is so real, I have plan to start slowly reinventing myself and going towards the fear!
thank you so much for the insights, definitely will take them with me on the journey :,)
I agree we have to ingore plp negative thought 💭. You make it far from being strong 💪.
it’s like u knew what i’ve been struggling with this past week😓 thank you for sharing ur wise words 🫶🏼💗
I love you so much! Like my comfort big sis !
Thank you Lynette. I literally just went thru a scenario where I was faced w ppl judging my posts online - it was like my worst fear bc it was ppl close to me & all of a sudden I had all this negative self talk around my worth & not being worthy of others’ attention. This vid is so fortuitous, I’m on a path to loving and accepting myself instead of seeking validation from others now- that is all we need at the end of the day!! ❤
This is exactly what i needed to hear , just right on time when am over obsessing over what other people think since i started this music thing and doing it full time.. it has been a lot, damn.. but your videos kept me going for years.. and girl you're so beautiful am catching strays every time i see your face❤🔥
Needed to hear this 💕💕💕💕💕
Thankyou Lynette! You truly never miss. Btw you always look beautiful in your vlogs I struggle with thinking I look a mess sometimes too but I choose to post anyways cuz this is what I love 🥰
This was great. Definitely working on this. And not internalizing every opinion. Have some work to do but gratefull to have the awareness and content like this to support us through. Thank you for sharing and speaking out about topics such as these ❤
Thank you for this video ! You said points I liked- some I have thought some & I remind myself. Some I haven’t thought specifically & like the way you put it into words. Good practice steps ! (~& I like the whole video~) saving to come back the video ❤ Thank you 💗💖💞
Man this is great! Who cares what people think! Really! Just have fun and forgeddabout it!
i’ve literally BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS TOPIC so much recently, we’re all connected👁️
I feel like we become too deep into others and it drives us to care more about what people think. If you can spend enough time alone and start to love yourself more, things will fall into place in your life.
I just finished the artist’s way and cannot recommend it enough!
unrelated but you are stunning!!
I’m a young beautiful mama and wife and went to a lounge to get away for a night by myself. I had a family friend who heard about the situation and started telling my husband that I went to go see other men I was offended because Im not the type who play about disloyalty.
But I allowed someone else opinion of me to ruin my whole day that day and never again. Thanks for the video
Rejection/exposure therapy yes!
I’m currently listening to this as I pick at my station at Amazon lol. After work I’m going to go home and post my video. I’m done overthinking and stopping myself from posting due to me thinking what others may think or say. ❤️🙏🏾
Thanks for the message. Also, you are very pretty.
Thank you!
omg moving from california where you make small chat with people who pass by you or bag your groceries, to going to NJ/NY where they will scowl at you if you interact with them like that, it was such a rude awakening as a 9 year old loll
If you live in nyc and wanna have a day a relaxation without being interrupted by so many ppl, I would go to Randalls/Wards Island. I been living in nyc 32 years born & raised but I just found out about Randalls Island like few years ago, best discovery! Its a good place to meditate, bike ride, bbq, a place of peace away from the busy city
girrrrll pink and you 🤌🤌🤌🤌 perfect combination
God fr brought me this vid,whew needed this so much❤
If you live in Brooklyn try Brooklyn Bridge Park and Dumbo Park. The NYC ferry is good too just for a fun ride for $2.95
One of the most important messages the universe has given in 2024. Will be watching again.
Preach
Yes baeee
god you are gorgeous!!!
Hi teacher I have query about cloud accounting topic how can I corrdinate with you?
I love Alan Watts, you might enjoy Edgar Cayce too if you haven’t explored him already
Thank you’ll I’ll check him out!
what about telepathy and heating people judging you?
what about telepathy and hearing people judge you?
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wait I say really truly so much in my videos lmao 😂❤
Spot on video. My ex read the book the four agreements but it went completely over his head. He would project all his insecurities and negative thoughts onto me and the relationship and it was draining to be around.
We our own own worst critics and until people come to that realization they’ll continue to be trapped in this negative thought cycle about themselves and others. Gotta give self love in order to put love out into the world and others 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
i really needed this reminder. your videos never miss! 😭❤️
I must saying the divine timing of your videos is crazy. Everything you’ve been talking about is in direct alignment with what I’ve been currently dealing with. Thank you 🫶🏽
you have no idea how badly I needed this video 🩷 thank you 🫶🏽🫶🏽