Good Manners: Why they are Important
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- In this new episode of Sartorial Talks, Sonya and Hugo address the subject of good manners and why mastering them could be important in your life and in your relationships with others. This episode is an introduction to a series of 5 episodes dedicated to this often overlooked subject. In a world which is becoming more and more brutal and in which politeness is becoming rare, we believe we all have something to win in showing respect and consideration in our everyday behaviour.
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What I love about your channel Hugo and Sonya is that there are peaple these days that are glad to follow the channel. Verry well done, everything til now. Maybe there is still hope for a descent humanity 😀 great!
I thoroughly enjoy listening to the differences and similarities between the people raised in different countries. Please continue to speak about different countries and give us a worldly understanding.
I loved this video!
Good manners are more important and tells more about one person than good clothing.
A well tailored suit can make you outstand, but good manners make you unforgettable.
Blessings to both of you Hugo and Sonya.
Many thanks Kevin for your beautiful message. Let's try, all of us, to become unforgettable with our good manners! All the best, Sonya & Hugo
You are absolutely right. A poorer person can have good manners even if they can't afford expensive clothing. Manners maketh Man.
the loss of general politeness should have a spotlight, we are far too reluctant to give our fellow man any degree of decent basic behavior. it is good to know that some people still care about it.
Yes Daniel, We strongly believe in the revival of good manners as a way to (re)build a more civilised world. Many think it's a lost cause, but we don't. Best wishes, Sonya & Hugo
Welcome back. I feel uplifted already. The world needs more of this spirit and content.
My late Grandfather taught me to be a gentlemen. Even if manners aren’t appreciated, I still hold the door for anyone and say thank you.
Great video. Both of my grand mothers came from England. They were hard core on manners. Table manners are all but extinct anymore. And much much more.
Thanks LP! Have a wonderful evening. Sonya & Hugo
@Limon Cello My shirtless compatriots are an embarrassment in Valletta. Some even go through the airport in swimwear.
@Limon Cello What you describe is certainly very sad. The 21st century is not the century of manners for sure. And hooligans are a one of the cancers of our modern society. Unfortunately I believe this kind of attitudes happen now everywhere in the world. Strange times. Yours, Hugo
@Limon Cello No worries. The truth is the truth!
From Austin, Texas we salute you Sonya and Hugo! And yes, good manners matter, now and always!
"Emapthy / Cultural sensitivity / Situational awareness". Well done Hugo and Sonya.
That's a perfect summary my friend. Happy weekend! Hugo
One word: service. There is beauty in conducting any encounter which invites your fellow human being to elevate her/himself. Thank you for this splendid episode, Sonya & Hugo.
Thank you very much William for your encouraging message. Warm regards, Sonya & Hugo
People remember how you make them feel. Good manners does this. Thank you both for this revisit to something that may not be natural to everyone but can be learned and improved on
Your reply is a reminder to stay in tune with others instead of thinking only of oneself.
Appreciate your comment, Hugo and Sonya
👍🤩💝Awesome discussion. I adore you both. There is no substitute for good manners. Good manners and a little bit of class will open opportunities and take you places money can’t (or can) snd the respect you receive for having good manners is something that can’t be bought. Wishing you both continued success and wellness. 💝
Sonya & Hugo, I feel the most deep sense of admiration towards your cruzade for a better world through the perfectment of ourselves as a whole, not only image but essence.
Using this modern platform to encourage something that humanity deeply needs more than ever, to civilize ourselves, is a demostration of commitment and pasion that is rare to find in this machiavelic world of today. Thank You so much!!
You're welcome and thank you for the well-phrased words. Like you we want to believe there is hope for humanity through reversing the reward system for bad manners in favor of good manners. Hugo
Manners are extremely important. Dressing well is good manners. It is important to be courteous and to treat people with kindness.
Always very nice to watch this show! Merci beaucoup Mr. Jacomet
You are very welcome Antonio! Best wishes, Sonya & Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS best regards from Brazil
This is without a doubt top 3 channels to follow in my opinion.
A large amount of important knowlage that is very hard to come by today.
I am happy to say that my daughter find you both interesting,
and choose to listen to the podcasts with me over doing the usual "teenstuff".
Wow, this may be one of the most uplifting comments we've received so far! Thanks you so much my friend. Big hugs to your daughter! Sonya & Hugo
As an American in the Midwest, I have been learning more about refining my style thru sites such as yours. Kindness to others, as well as being well dressed is showing care. Rebellious teens, such as I used to be, used phrases such as "me first", "second place is for losers", etc. Competition was so prevelant. In modern times, with women speaking out, society is learning more about how others are often harmed by our behavior. Not my intention to ever harm anyone but the voice that is impatient and loud does disturb the atmosphere. We learn as we grow up. Thank you for the video discussions.
Your thorough description of gaining wisdom during a lifetime is apt. Thanks for taking the time to write. If only everyone became wiser through listening, observing & experience, there would be more hope in the world. Thanks for your comment !
Sonya and Hugo
Dear Hugo, this is very refreshing... regarding the world of Twitter, made by people, you cannot give what you don't have... greetings from NY. Sonya, as always, looking beautiful and graceful 😊
Agreed Mauro and content that you found the episode relevant. Greetings from Bourgogne, and I'm sure Sonya will be happy to see you comment ! Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS cheers to you both!
Hugo and Sonya, thank you so much for providing this timely and much needed podcast. I agree wholeheartedly with the comments made, and feel that no matter the circumstances, we can exhibit compassion and respect to those we come in contact with. If humankind would simply practice the "Golden Rule", civility and good manners would come naturally. Blessings to you and yours.
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words. Blessings to you and your family. Happy holidays! Hugo & Sonya
I've always said that if comes down to this: If you want respect, act respectable.
Wise words. All the best! Hugo
Sonya, Hugo - beautiful start to a series I am very much looking forward to! Thank you. Love from Sofia❤
Thank you Clovis. I've been to Sofia once in the past (when I was a music producer for Sony Music and when I directed a recording session with the National Radio Orchestra). I would love to come back in Bulgaria with Sonya one day or another. Cheers! hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS Well, who knows, let's hope the world will settle down a little and maybe we can invite you here ☀ Sofia is a great city, I love it, but if you ever visit Bulgaria again, make sure to plan some time to go to Bulgaria's cultural capital - Plovdiv. You will appreciate its energy, I am sure. In any event, keep up the great work, humanity is in dire need of beauty and elegance 🌹
@@clovismerovech6537 Thanks Clovis. I didn't know about Plovdiv.
As someone who's a bit on the younger side, I believe manners are so important and that we need to place more emphasis in society on how we treat others. Manners are such an important tool for us to ensure we leave people feeling respected and my grandmother always taught me that people will rarely remember the things you said or did, but they will always remember how you made them FEEL. This was such a great and poignant discussion and I'm looking forward to hearing more of these upcoming discussions!
Many thanks young man for your kind words. Your grandmother was a wise lady. All our best, Sonya & Hugo
My Nanny (Grandmother) used to say manners are the grease that keeps the world turning. She was a wise woman.
Thank you for this great episode!
What you are talking about is so important in this time. You did not actually use the word ”love” but I think we’re not that far from it when manners, consideration and behavior are in question. Us humans have a built in need to be respected (loved) and it is actually very simple to make other feel this as you describe it, yet, it is so simple to forget it, too.
Let us remember to love and respect one another and the world will be a better place!
Wise and true words dear Miika. Thank you so much for your message. Much love, Sonya & Hugo
‘Good manners are long remembered than a great outfit...’ I feel this is because good manners from you to others makes others feel good. It’s a type/shadow of ‘it is better to give than to receive’. - Great video and topic.
Wise words my friend. Cheers, Hugo
Even the title is a brilliant "Λογο-παίγνιον" (Jeu de mots):
MANNERs
MATTER: only by changing double N to double T.
Bravo! Génial.
Merci de l'avoir remarqué Y P ! Bien amicalement, Hugo et Sonya
Good manners are extremely important. Simple gestures; holding a door open, please and thank you, a smile, giving up your seat for an elder or those with children etc...
Dressing well is good manners. It shows pride in ones self and it is lovely to see..
Another wonderful video. Thank you.❤🪷
Dear Hugo and Sonya,
First of all, thanks very much for a new episode of the ‘podcast-style.’ A very pertinent topic indeed. The way I would sum up the discussion: “Treat others the same way you would like to be treated.”
The clothing you wear can supplement these good manners. I work in a school and I am the only person who wears a tie and dress shirt but I do it because I believe it is about dressing for the occasion and respecting my position as a professional.
When Hugo was discussing the word “thou”, I was laughing out loud. If only we still used such elegant words haha.
When Hugo said: “they remember your manners and not your outfit!” that is so true! Both of you are the embodiment of this very thing!
On a slightly different note, I have spent a lot of time recently catching up the old podcasts and content. I recently discovered the documentary about your religious journey from a few years back. I found it profoundly moving.
Also, I have taken the next step on my sartorial journey recently - moving from chinos to flannel and cotton pants. Many thanks for the inspiration.
Your friend in England.
Thank you so much my friend for your kind and uplifting message. God bless you, Hugo
Good manners make the men raise up and the women shine! They are a must!
Many thanks Dan. All the best, Hugo
I was introduced to your channel by my father who has been following you both for many years. As an Englishman, may I add that English people are also perceived as having manners but are not warm or friendly. I agree with this assessment. However, this is for Englishmen only. The Welsh, Scots and the Irish are extremely friendly whilst also maintaining the manners and politeness of the English. I only discovered this when I went to live in St Andrews Scotland for my university degree. So, I always stress, we cannot attribute English behaviour to the whole of Britain. Of course these are sweeping generalisations but in my experience as a Brit this has largely held true.
Please thank your father for the time he has invested in discovering our work. I have had the same experience as you with the English and the Scottish (not as much experience with the Irish?)---very civilized & courteous; point well made and much appreciated.
Hugo
We are currently in Edinburgh and we’ve found nothing but super friendly and kind people!
I grew up the youngest of 5 in a family with intelligent, hard working parents who never had the financial means to further their education. They never complained and raised us with love, joy, faith and a sense of abundance. It was only later, as an adult, that I found out from my older siblings how poor we had actually been at times. Our parents hid that well from us. They created opportunities for us that they did not have. I now live on the side of town that my mother used to clean houses in and how i wish i still had her to spoil her with love and provide for her. We were able to attend university and pursue the careers that we wanted. Our parents raised us on the principle that we can be or do whatever we want to. They would never hound us over school grades but insisted that we had manners at all times and this was a great founding principle. My family were never distinguished by any wealth or renown, but we are still known and spoken of for being polite. We are in turn raising our own children to have good manners as well. Sadly we lost our parents over the last two years. I miss them terribly and strive to uphold their values and manners. At any event, I can recognise that you are polite and well-raised. No doubt this is a credit to your own parents and their upbringing. I have just discovered your videos, but had a sense in a previous video that you seem to also be a Christian! Thank you for all of this content, I am really enjoying it and will seek out your books.
Dear David, what a wonderful tribute to your beloved parents. I'm also coming from a humble family. My dad, who passed away two years ago, was also a hard worker and managed to elevate himself to the middle class (although he came from a blue workers family) and mum (who is still with us) has been raised in a farm with her grandparents. Thus I can relate to what you write. And yes we are Christians (Sonya is the granddaughter of a Baptist preacher). You can look at this video (my testimony as a Christian) if you have time: th-cam.com/video/4RqG31G6phI/w-d-xo.html
God bless you my friend, and again many thanks for your message, Hugo
I loved rewatching it.
What a joy to hear that kind of opinion, go on !
Excellent video. Good manners make the world a much more decent & more elegant place. There’s always time for good manners & kind gestures. Far too much ugliness in the world.
HEAR! HEAR! & Cheers! Hugo
When I watch your vedios, I am in a different, parallel world that exists independently,. I like the landscape of this world, and even its sounds. I wish you were to make more programms on practical manners. Just seeing you makes one want to fly higher. With regards
Sergei
Russia.
This is a high commendation and has been one of the most notable to read. Merci ! Hugo and Sonya
Manners and decorum are what separate us from animals! I absolutely love these types of videos and I cannot wait for more on the subject of manners. I am genuinely inspired by all of your videos simply by the passion in which you seem to have on every subject. Thank you!
Your enthusiasm is contagious. Thank you ! Sonya and Hugo
You assume that animals have no rules or codes for interacting with each other. That assumption must be false. Just look at dogs, or birds or any other creature that is or can be social in nature. I get your point, but we now know that animals have society too.
@@scrambaba And with growing media, we are learning more and more about God's creation of the animal kingdom and the impressive capabilities they possess. Appreciate the reminder, Hugo and Sonya
Sonya is glowing today! Nice to see the two of you together. Manners is normally actually, very sad it isn't. You have manners by always responding back to what I write thank you. If I hadn't gotten a response back I probably wouldn't have watched your videos.
Many thanks for your message dear Davide. And I agree about Sonya! All my very best, Hugo
Dear Sonya and Hugo, it is so good to relax, listen and enjoy your video. Meanwhile I am 58 years (born 1964) and saying to myself how good the old times were - gosh, did my parents say the same thing when I was a kid? Yes, good manners will never die - from time to time we have to remind ourselves. You both help to refresh what we once had learnt (or not). And Hugo I love your glasses - very masuline - A bientot - Greetings from Germany
Many thanks Christian for your kind words. I often ask myself the same question about my parents... But manners will never die for sure! As for my glasses, these are bespoke spectacles by Maison Bonnet in Paris. Best, Hugo
Hello Sonya and Hugo. I love watching all of your videos. Common sense is one of the best attributes you can have as a person and watching the both of you discuss it is fantastic. I hope more and more people watch your videos and become better people by doing so. It’s just so nice to know that people still strive to have great manners and behave appropriately in situations. God bless the both of you.
Dino, Brisbane Australia.
Many thanks Dino for your kind words. God bless you and your beloved ones. Sonya & Hugo
What a lovely start to the weekend !!! finally the Sartorial Avengers back again with full strength ,in super outfits)))),,, just lovely ,,,,Love & respect to you from Cairo.
Nice to hear from you dear Nader! We hope all is going well for you and your family. Much love from Bourgogne, Hugo
Always a pleasure to listening to you.
Thank you for the moment.
You are very welcome! All the best, Sonya & Hugo
I click "like" even before watching your clip. You're always wonderful! Thank you!
We hope you'll enjoy the episode! Cheers, Sonya & Hugo
Excellent discussion about a very important subject - “manners”.
You work in an industry fuelled by ego and self, so it is refreshing to have discovered your modest style and personality.
I was interested to hear you talk unashamedly of your Christian Faith, and it’s clear to see, your Christian values are the bedrock of your wonderful character!
It’s been a joy and an inspiration to discover both you and Sonia. 🤗
Thank you very much John. You may be interested in watching our Christian testimony here: th-cam.com/video/4RqG31G6phI/w-d-xo.html
Warm regards and peace, Sonya & Hugo
I love your explanation of the different reality. An example that I give to my students, and think it is also in our book, "Haute 'luxury' Branding' is that when shoppers enter into a store in France, instead of being greeted with bows as in Japan or a 'Hi, Are you here to see the new collection? etc they will walk into the store and start looking around and will be totally shocked when the store attendant says "Bonjour" often in a seemingly aggressive manner. They don't understand that in France the visitor must greet the host and others first. Why is that? Well I believe that the concept of 'Maison' is the reason why. In France, the boutique traditionally was a home. You cannot walk into someone's home without greeting them and ideally, you request a visit in advance. Imagine simply walking into someone's home and going straight to the fridge or open their wardrobe without even greeting them. So visitors must assume that they are entering into a home and act accordingly. Hope you agree :)
Dear Philippe, what an interesting perspective. I must admit, I never thought of it. Nevertheless I believe there's a middle way between what Americans "overdo" and what we, French, "underdo". And it's a matter of mutual respect. Because after all, these "maisons", unlike a real home, would not exist or survive without their visitors/customers. I think some "maisons" (which is becoming a overused word in luxury marketing) really developed some sort of superiority complex, as if the brand was looking down on people, especially those who can't afford their products (most of the time overpriced with a tacky logo). A little humility would not hurt them. Go to a real tailoring house like Camps de Luca or Cifonelli (the Everest of tailoring, even in terms of prices, but still family owned) and you'll be greeted respectfully whether you're a billionaire or a student looking for an internship. And that's, for me, the heart of the matter. We, French, should be kinder with visitors in general because after all, Paris would not Paris without tourism. Anyway thank you for your interesting contribution to the discussion. Yours, Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS Totally agree and thank you for the feedback :)
ps thank you for telling me about Camps de Luca and Cifonelli
Here in Brazil, we have a hybrid version between the American and European manner rules, according to what you guys described. People will start quite formally and, immediately after the first encounter, treat someone they have just met as if they were speaking to a lifetime friend. Of course, one may find, with ease, a more stereotypical character; but, contrary to popular beliefs, people tend to be more on the introvert side of the etiquette. Something that almost always happens here is a person apologizing for a faux pas that didn't really exist: "Desculpa por qualquer coisa (I'm sorry if anything happened) ", "Desculpa pela bagunça (I'm sorry for the mess)" etc.
A fascinating glimpse into the culture of Brazil. Thanks for that, Cerulean. Over-apologizing is a subject we haven't thought about but is quite apt. Much appreciated and cheers ! Sonya & Hugo
Without a doubt, good manners are and will continue to be something that will set you apart in this world and help you succeed in many ways. Thanks for the video
You are very welcome. Have a wonderful day! Sonya & Hugo
Although I agree with everything you said, I would add that good manners, good behaviour and even gentleness or apparent kindness can also be very deceptive... so I would take them as a good start in someone I meet, bit I'd wait and see who the person really is, and if the promises meet the expectation😊
Oh, I like the new title line, "Hugo Jacomet presents Sartorial Talks." Nice! Cheers, dear friends! 🇺🇲❤🇫🇷
Thanks Ralph, cheers and God's blessings to you both. Hugo and Sonya
Hugo and Sonya: you lead by example in the way you demonstrate how to have 'manners'. That is, you never seek to put people down rather put people at ease. It's respectful.
Best wishes
Tony
Thank you so much Tony ! Hugo and Sonya
Sonya and Hugo, I love you both. Simply a totally class couple, and very entertaining. Thank you for so, so, many hours of entertaining and fascinating information.
I just finished watching this video, and WOW! The discussion from the point of mentioning your studying the Bible and continuing to the end was Amazing!
When you reached the end, I literally was crying.
Thank you so much for your kind and touching words dear Tom. God bless you and your family. Sonya & Hugo
Always a pleasure to follow Hugo in as much as my instability amongst other things in this season are on my neck but gotta always find time to check. God bless you Hugo and Sonya.
Peter
God bless you too Peter, stay strong and calm. And trust the Lord. Hugo & Sonya
@@SARTORIALTALKS Amen.
Great talk,as always 👏🏻
Only disagreement I have 🤔: Manners also apply if you are alone. There’s pleasure keeping an standard even if there’s no one else seeing.
What a great episode. Manners are so important. I like the sound of your Australian friend. I say hello and greet with eye contact, everyone I meet including the delivery guys who deliver groceries to my house, the security guards at my studio and the car park attendants at my home. It's simply because I know they are people working hard to do their job to feed their family. They are not nobodies just because their job is not high ranking in society. And fortunes change, who knows what I might be doing for a living years form now.
Wise words my friend, especially your last sentence. Warm regards, Hugo
Comme c’est rafraîchissant de vous entendre tous les deux. Ce sujet des manières est tout simplement captivant. J’adore ce concept et j’ai hâte d’écouter vos prochaines capsules. Bravo!!!
Un grand merci Richard pour vos encouragements et votre enthousiasme. Amicalement, Sonya & Hugo
I think good manners is also being considerate of others. Thinking of the other person, being respectful always and making them feel confortable around you. Being a good listener and responding when you’ve thought about what you will respond. Never fill your plate leave enough so someone else can eat too behind you. Being considerate and co duct yourself properly. I love this discussion.
Excellent video!
I remember people (from work, social events...) by their (good and bad) manners. On a different note, when I was backpacking in Canada, I was lucky enough to meet a Canadien who had advised me that I will get more respect and better interactions when I am using my poor French than none at all. When I was travelling through Quebec, it was great to see that he was right; I could see that their body language and attitude changed when I was using my very basic/poor French. Much is the same when I had interactions with people from other cultures and languages. Manners do matter.
They do matter Eddy. Thank you for sharing your experience. Anybody will react positively if they feel you make an effort towards them. That's the heart of the matter. Warm regards, Sonya & Hugo
I remember working in factories, and saying "tu" to fellow workers.
I was immedialty put back in my place "It's vous, we are professionals, we show respect to each other"
I then worked with Veteran in the tech industry, and we took it as a joke to be very formal and call each other "Sir" in a very very casual workplace.
It sticked.
I call everybody sir regardless of rank or occupation. People love it. ( careful not to feel stuck up tho - Genuine friendliness helps )
Thank you both for such a thoughtful, civilized presentation. You are the epitome of natural manners and elegance because you have decided to make these characteristics part of the core of who you are. Please continue with your excellent TH-cam and Podcast episodes.
Many thanks John for your (very) kind and (extremely) encouraging word. They mean a lot to us. Sonya & Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS Thank you, Sonya and Hugo for taking your time to reply. A quick follow-up for you on the advice you give in this presentation. This evening, I had to run some errands. I added a green blazer with a simple white pocket square to my white polo shirt and khakis. (Sorry, Sonya, my slacks lack braces buttons so I had to wear a belt). I felt extremely comfortable dressed this way. Complete strangers complemented me on my attire. All were dressed far more casually than was I. A beautiful woman clerk at one of the stores personally walked me up three floors to show me some clothing in a different department. What a wonderful experience. I am climbing the sartorial ladder! John
@@johnwalker4221 Wow! I've saved your response to show Hugo and your words really lift our spirits. I hope you tune in for the next Sartorial Talk released today or tomorrow which address the emotions you describe so well. Very happy to read your reply ! Sonya
@@johnwalker4221 Excellent! Bravo, Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS Thank you, Sonya! yes, I definitely will do so.
Splendid conversation. Very interesting. The travel elegantly would be fascinating
Great video. Like you said, the manners are the bridge between what you think and what you do. Congratulations to you both.
Many thanks Alejandro. Yours, Sonya & Hugo
This was a wonderful discussion. I have always held that manners are simply a way to show respect for others. Unfortunately there are those who believe that acting mannerly is to be superficial and, as Hugo said, “put on.” I think we are all elevated when we can respect one another in our daily interactions. Well done Hugo and Sonya. I’m new to your channel and am looking forward to devouring your content. Cheers!
Thank for this wonderful message Michael. Wishing you a joyful Christmas, Hugo & Sonya
Sonya makes an excellent point about abrupt “to the point” language of American business is very different than the UK and the continent as well as Latin America. Having worked for a London based firm for 7 years, although based in the US, it is a striking difference. Even today I maintain the habit of including a salutation and closing in my everyday correspondences.
Love this!! Fantastic materials
Many thanks Nick! Cheers, Sonya & Hugo
Thank you so much for this video. I have come to a similar understanding of the value of "good manners." As you say, true respect for one's fellow humans, regardless of your economic or social differences, is the heart of it. I will disagree on one point, though, Hugo - I believe even when we are alone, how we treat our environment, and how we treat/take care ourselves, is an essential part of the Practice of Good Manners. For we must practice them to realize how good it makes one feel to make someone else feel genuinely acknowledged and respected. Again, thank you for this discussion.
I've not considered your point about how we treat ourselves, but indeed I will. Thank you for your involvement here. Hugo
Character is, when no one is looking.
One might say the same for manners. Otherwise, manners are not a bridge to who we are but a curtain to conceal who we actually are.
It's like putting books at the front of your house that you've not actually read. It says much about you - but not the same as if you had actually read them.
@@jlaurson You're actually right Rune. Thanks, Hugo
Good evening Hugo and Sonya, it’s a true pleasure to see you both back on TH-cam, I hope that this finds you both well, and may I say great content and a fantastic subject matter, I was always taught as a child it doesn’t matter what stour social status maybe, manners cost you nothing, be polite, be kind, and i truly believe that you can’t go wrong, good to see you both again, kind regards Ryan.
Good to read you again dear Ryan. And many thanks for your constant kindness and support. Yours, Sonya & Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS your very kind, my pleasure.
Thank you for this video.
In old french books about savoir-vivre, you can also find very codified manners, such as where you should position yourself during a promenade according to your rank in society (front, middle, back, left, right, etc.) , or which piece of meat you should choose, again according to how important you are. That's the type of verticality that the french revolution hated so much.
Yes Alexandre. These "ancien régime" rules are for most of them, inapplicable in our modern world (for obvious reasons with which I agree). Only in Japan they still practice these kinds of rules (trying to decipher who is the most important person in order to let him/her go first in the lift). Best regards, Hugo
great video but at the same time its sad that we need reminders like this. i love you guys for what you do ,,,.
True words, Afsana. Hugo and Sonya
Merci pour cette vidéo. La comparaison entre les Etats-Unis et la France concernant la façon de se faire des amis est très interessante.
Merci Yann, et elle est basée sur une expérience de première main (la nôtre). Amicalement, Hugo
As always an excellent video...most importantly it is needed more than ever....we have lost that ability or desire to be civil towards others....it is not rocket science....we can get it back....BRAVO AND CHEERS!!!!!! enjoy your day..keep up the fabulous work ..peace
Amazing talk. ¡Bravo!
Thank you Leticia! Sonya & Hugo
Thank you for this wonderful conversation
You are very welcome Anna. Warm regards, Sonya & Hugo
I was also so happy to hear you both talk about your Christian faith. It made me very happy to hear how the two of you actually try to apply scriptural principles in your manners. As a Christian myself, I am always concerned with making sure in my manners, the way I speak and how I interact with other people is for the glory of God and to try and emulate Christlikeness in my manners and interactions with others. There is a sermon by John MacArthur titled ‘The Starting Point of Sanctification that I both recommend you listen to, thinking about these scriptures he teaches on in relation to how we present ourselves was very interesting to me. Would love to hear what the two of you think.
Thanks, Chase. We haven't heard about MacArther but will definitely tune in. I think I've listened to hundreds of podcasts by Timothy Keller, in case you are familiar? Cheers ! Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS Yes! I have read some of Keller’s books! If you like Keller you’ll like MacArthur, check out some of his books as well.
Thank you, Chase for pointing this out. For the glory of God.
@@miikanieminen6514 Amen and amen. Sonya & Hugo
Thanks Hugo for discussing about the topic of good manners on your channel. One rarely discusses about this in such forums(related to fashion). Clothes don't only make a gentleman but it's the overall demeanor of the person that matters.
I couldn't have said it any better. Thank you, Hugo
....wonderful... I look forward to enjoying this new series...👍
Thank you, Cas. Cheers ! Hugo and Sonya
Always a pleasure watching a new video.
Thank you very much! Sonya & Hugo
Thanks again Mr. & Mrs. Jacomet, for another thought provoking and insightful Video 🎥 on Sartorial Talks.
I've been fascinated by the Italian Renaissance for a while now and even before that the Islamic Renaissance in Spain, which btw, were Masters in Textiles👔👞 and Architecture🏛 and was an influence later on for the rest of Europe and patricularly Florence Italy🇮🇹.
A lot of the way we view ourselves today comes from the Renaissance period in the 15th Century under the Patronage,support and Court of Lorenzo di Medici.
Giovanni Delacazza and other Humanist leaning Citizens wrote down Books📚 of Etiquette 🍽🍛🍷🍴and also Codes of Business🏦💰 relations
During the Italian Renaissance that still resonates with us today.
The ideas and sentiments of Self Control and Social cohesiveness became a social must at that time so many Century's ago.
Even today these Societal pleasantries and respect for others is still a social must in our own times.
Thanks again Hugo & Sonya.
Best regards,
-Angelo
Good morning Angelo and many thanks for your insightful (and documented) contribution. All the best, Sonya & Hugo
I must say that I hesitated to watch this video because, A, I think you both have such good manners in general and that I think I share those same intentions. So I thought there wouldn't be much to gain. I am glad I did because of the careful way you approached the subject.
I do appreciate that you express yourselves so gracefully, and take great care to show others in their best light.
I did appreciate Sonya's mention of the American travelers at the airport lounge talking about their wealth with seeming strangers. I hope you can share more examples of this, and explain why other people think this overly familiar engagement with strangers is so disagreeable. I think it might be of some value to us Americans (broadly speaking) who have not learned the customs of other countries, to see how that is perceived.
On that note I don't often hear such talk from two groups of Americans: The very rich and the very poor. That is to say, the old money and the never had money have the best manners in America.
Thank you again for your enjoyable and informative videos.
Hi Jan and thanks for watching. The Americans we observed usually speak among themselves. You're right the poor are wise enough to know better than to be self-important and the rich don't need to be. I think Americans could just speak more quietly in Europe, which would be deemed culture-appropriate, but my impression is that they are just excited to be traveling abroad and out of the exhilaration, speak loudly---still as we said, of course not all people from the US behave this way. Hopefully, this addresses your question.
Thanks again and greetings from Bourgogne ! ~Sonya
@@SARTORIALTALKS Thank you.
I am originally from Texas. I'm half mexican half British. It's interesting to see because often times here in the states you hear of Finishing School in New England or perhaps some parts of the south, but in Texas there is a kind of "frontier politeness" that still exists and centers a little around the etiquette of the cowboy hat. While the hat itself may be a representation it's not the keystone but rather the entrance to it. It's expected that if you are going to sport a proper cowboy hat the manners and dress need to go along with it.
Interesting, CS. Thanks for the comment. I'm wondering when the cowboy hat should be removed in Texas. In Europe, the hat needs to be removed when eating because of hygiene considerations. Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS it is similar as well for the cowboy hat. The only time it's "acceptable" to keep the hat on when eating is perhaps at a counter or bar, but if you are at a table it should always be taken off especially when eating with others. It's generally a good rule of thumb to be taken off when in doors unless it's an informal situation, then it's based on discretion. It must be removed regardless of formality when in church, and always during funeral processions and indoor weddings.
Cheers! Love this channel.
@@chickensandwich8808 Nice to know, thanks for the response. It will be a pleasure to visit Texas one day, though I'm not sure if I'll be wearing a cowboy hat, ha!
My grandchildren stay with us for a week each summer. This year we did an etiquette class around table manners. We had tea and sandwiches. The children learn setting the table and utensils- we went out to a nice restaurant at the end of the week to put the skills into practice. They loved it and they said they really appreciated it. They didn’t know certain norms and it’ll be good for them in a few years for sure!
How completely delightful ! I hope others are inspired by your recount here--we certainly are. Cheers ! ~Sonya
I love you both so much more now to know you are believers and speak His name! 🕊
Thank you for the video. I share your opinions and pain. Greetings from Tallinn, Estonia.
Thanks Roman. Greetings from France! Sonya & Hugo
Thank you very much for uploading this video because it was very special for me and gave me hope ❤💜💛. I was praying a while ago something like this: "True Lord Jesus, I would really love to improve my manners... You know I want to represent the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth with excellency. Please HELP me and thank you Lord for what will happen"... About 2 minutes later, I searched for "good manners documentary". I started listening/receiving from both of you and after I inferred Mr. Jacomet was from France, I felt MUCH more excited. Why? Because Im currently learning french and as if that wasnt enough? You are both children of God and love Him. Merci beaucoup. ❤💜💛
I appreciate how spiritua base you both are.❤ from Brazil
It's an interesting point that Sonya raises about good manners and leadership. A great Spanish writer, Azorín, used to define elegance as contained strength. I find that very insightful, because competence (or leadership) when not contained can be brash and overbearing. But when it's considerate and attentive it becomes elegance.
Like a elegant mathematical equation, a meaningful lot contained inside a brief selection of icons.
Thank you for this reference to Azorín (whom I don't know). It reminds me of the idea that humility is not weakness but power under control. Cheers, Hugo
Good manners coupled with dressing well, and guess what, in general, people will treat you with respect. It really is that simple.
Agree in full! Best, Hugo
Thank you for your video. Manners are vital to our good relationship with spouse, children, people in general. Good reminder 🙂
Yes, you raise an important point--manners are especially important to express with those closest to us.
Thanks for that. Hugo and Sonya
You chose a great topic,and sonya is a great listener and beautiful.
You are such a beautiful couple❤. I enjoyed your conversation very much and loved watching your interaction with each other.
Respect and consideration are the cornerstone of good manners
Sonya you look so beautiful, Hugo you also,.....real beauty comes from inside not "just from outside". And in your case it is a perfect symbiosis of both.
Greetings from a fan in Luxembourg👌😌🙏
Thank you so much AD for your kind message. Yours, Sonya & Hugo
I think Bourdieu's idea of habitus is helpful in understanding the natural quality of manners. The reason I use the moniker I do is because I am aware of how important a person's inculturation is to determining how they behave, but also how they understand and engage with the world. In wanting to be gentlemanly, I am trying to build myself into a person who not only speaks well or manages to get through a party without offending anyone. I am also trying to learn how to assess others' thoughts charitably, build community, and live according to my higher values. Accordingly, I am interested in leading a life that will continue to build up those qualities and make them comfortable, natural, familiar - eventually, innate.
Hugo you are so creative with your content, I really appreciate this video it was intriguing and I’m glad you spent some time discussing nationalities and manners. Culture has much to do with manners, and you are correct that Western society feels that they should alleviate themselves from such concepts. The sad reality for those that believe manners are no longer important is that they unknowingly reinforce the importance of formal behavior. Manners are just an outward expression of respect, as you mentioned dressing elegantly is about respect for the people you surround yourself with. It’s ironic that the youth of today who seem so obsessed with social justice would abandon the greatest democracy of the diversity of man which is respect and manners. I hope this video touches others as it does me.
Thank you very much Shaun for your thoughtful comment and your kind words. I agree with you about the irony of young people being obsessed with social justice but rejecting some basic civilisation codes. That's very concerning, but let's not loose hope and let's continue, all together, to promote a more elegant world. Have a wonderful Sunday! Yours, Hugo
Finished the video and want to add regarding the cultural differences in France and US. Same applies to Switzerland. It is difficult to make new friends, but once you do, it is likely a lifelong friendship. The same is true for business. However, the negative is that there may be some great personal and business relationships that will be missed because there wasn't a desire to open up. As an example, in US you may quickly make new friends with 10 people and 8 of those will dissolve just as fast, but 2 may become lifelong. Whereas, meeting those 2 same people in France/Switzerland will be more difficult. By the way, my situation is similar to yours. I'm US and grew up in the south, and my wife is Swiss French.
Dear, Sonya, Hugo. Thank you for this episode. Very nice, interesting and explaining a lot. You hit the nail. I fully agree with everything what you mentioned. About French people: Rude? In some way. Je parle francais... so, this helps a lot in communication when in France. Worked for Air France and have a lot experience with French people at the airport. Americans? Friends fast and vice versa. Very true. I have been working for US companies for 25 years and visited US many times. There is a lot things we can say about Americans , however, you mentioned communication, no greetings or even no Thank you. I am not happy about it at all. I deal with them almost every day and what? No Hello, no thank you, not writing my name in e-mail comm... just right into to point. Thanks again for this episode.
Excellent discussion as usual ! It reminds me of a video on TH-cam I watched which had a rather poignant title 'Beauty in an age of ugliness' ! Who would not want to aspire to elevate him or herself out of this age and seek beauty in all aspects of life ? Un but noble dans tous ses aspects !
What a great and creative title ! I agree with your astute analysis. Thank you for your reply ! ~Sonya
@@SARTORIALTALKS Toujours un plaisir Mme Sonya, my favorite American in Paris(well France anyway!) .
I agree that the things you discussed are of penultimate importance in our society. I don’t know if I would refer to them specifically as manners but I believe humanity would be better if we valued kindness, courtesy, and being genuine more. Much like dressing up, it requires education and a modicum of effort to make others feel more at ease.
I agree with you dear Reg that kindness, courtesy and genuine behaviour are (and should remain) the eternal pillars of our societies. All the best, Hugo
It isn"t too much to say that since 2020, discussions between mrs S. Glynn & mr H. Jacomet, have been tending towards the aristotelian thought. Initially, eloquent,in the same time, very relaxing & balancing. It makes you feel that, after all, the good and the beautiful are parts of the same package.
Thank you sir for what we take as a great compliment. François Cheng (from the French Academy, philosopher and calligraph, originally from China) explains in his book "Five Meditations on Beauty" that in Chinese, the same ideogram (or ideograph) is used to express "beauty" and "goodness": it's an ideograph representing a mother and a child. Very inspiring. Have a wonderful day, Sonya & Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS I must certainly thank you. A little correction: the right verb is "to tend",naturally with its positive sense. Je souhaite à tous de bonnes vacances.
@@yp3424 Merci cher Monsieur. Bonnes vacances à vous aussi. Sonya & Hugo
Great video. A take on why French people seem rude (specifically to Americans). My girlfriend and I recently traveled to France for the first time, and everyone warned us that the French would be rude, which was not the case, but we came to the conclusion that this perception comes from American social expectation that forces being nice. And this expectation carries over when a lot of Americans who travel, who then find that the French are not forcing it, rather they are just being themselves, and to many that appears rude even though it is not. All and all France was amazing!
I agree with you Manuel. Being a French/American couple, we've noticed this major cultural difference. Americans are immediately "nice" (even though not always sincere) where French are not immediately "nice" but probably more sincere (but of course we can't generalise!). All our best, Hugo & Sonya
I read that the reason that French people are seemingly rude to Americans is that they think that they are English just across the Channel for the afternoon, enjoying the ambience without spending anything :-) Once they realize that someone IS an American (and will be spending their money), the attitude disappears.
@@Egilhelmson I don’t disagree, another big part of it I think is the effort. A lot of Americans almost “demand” that others speak English, but if you go in and attempt to speak in French, or at least are courteous and ask if someone speaks English (if you don’t speak French) then they tend to be a lot nicer and accommodating.
@@SARTORIALTALKS Completely agree, I’m not originally from America, I grew up that one should be respectful but that doesn’t necessarily mean “nice” so it was a big shock when I moved to America.
P.s. if you both are in New York at some point in the future I would love to treat you to dinner.
Best,
Manuel
@@manuelherrera1915 Thanks. We'll be in NYC for sure sometimes during the winter. Cheers, Hugo
God bless you two 🙏🏻
loving your ideas on manners , think its important from Australia.
Greetings from Bourgogne ! Hugo and Sonya
In business, we talk about emotional intelligence and servant leadership. I agree, there are American constructs that make it difficult when you are not focused on the act. It’s important to keep this dialogue at the forefront… just like washing our hands, we should practice and be reminded often.