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I’m 32 and single and haven’t been on a date in years. I find myself saying in prayer that if it’s not in God’s plan for me to find someone that he remove the desire from my heart. It’s tough sometimes especially when everyone in your church is married and there’s no one in sight. My focus is on God and doing what I can to glorify him. That being said that feeling of loneliness loves to comes around often and it does sting.
@@cherishdeb basically he’s someone I knew from a distance for years. During the lockdowns we got talking about everything going on and just connected over politics, God etc and the rest is history
Everyone hates the loneliness but it's better to be alone than to just have some body with you and you really don't care or like that person. I rather be with someone I'm in love with.
@@feferosette why are you ok with WhatsApp but not with Facebook? Both can be readily hacked and both are full of scammers and liars. My advice: get off ALL social media!!!
@@hamilton9651 I know that too. Usually I will tell the guy to send a video waving at me saying "Hello Felicia". I want to make sure I'm talking to the guy who is on his profile.
Working my butt off is all I do. It makes me more depressed. I've come to the conclusion that it's not just being alone but feeling like it's rubbed in your face even when you try not to obsess over it and you don't have a place at church. Never heard one sermon about being single.
This comment resonated with me so much because this is exactly what I’m going through. I’m trying not to obsess about being single or in a relationship but it’s everywhere I turn. And work is all I do as well. I haven’t had genuine fun in along time. I try to tell myself being single this long is okay and very normal but when you have people ask you when will get in a relationship or have you met anyone yet is discouraging and embarrassing. I’m only 27 but I just feel like what do I do and where do I turn at this point.
@@MegM77 I can kind of relate or last related a couple weeks ago to the discouragement and heartache of still being single at 23. It's cool you say "only 27" cuz for some reason I carry on like I'm so old at 23 to be single. But the thing is for me I've never had anyone really ever so it makes it a bit harder imo. Seems God has us in a similar place. I do know my time is upon me for this and I hope and pray for you too
Bottom line is if you're waiting in singleness, you should keep busy. It helps! I'm only 4 years in abstinence and yes it was tough in the beginning because I was just sitting at home and waiting. But I started volunteering and going out more movies, dinner with friends etc. I know gods best for me is near. Also reading the word daily is my dose of TLC daily ❤. Thanks Rob for another great video. Right on time. God bless you
Volunteering is great, but it only covers a few hours per week. Going out to movies or dinner alone sucks after a few times. The bottom line is no woman no sex! Course as a Christian no sex period if you are single. So you will still spend most of your free time lonely and frustrated! Oh and going out with friends goes away once they get married!
I heard a voice in my soul saying come to God and he will give me the desires of my heart⚘now, i read my Bible everyday and pray the Rosary...my lonliness has become joy within myself. I help others to see the compassion of Jesus and i have more hobbies. Yes i get extremely frustrated sexually but i ask God to help me to control my flesh. I believe my Boaz & i will come together soon
My therapist made me realize that there are many simple techniques that anyone can use to be successful at anything in life, whether it's financially or trying to get into a relationship.
are you putting forth an effort ? when I was young when I went out I made it a point to ask 3 girls to dance if I didnt I didnt feel I was doing my part find a singles group that does activities you enjoy and go that way even if you dont meet anyone you still had fun example I went to the gun range with a single group
Thank you for your sharing. I’m a Catholic. You made me feel ashamed of my sins. I’ve prayed to God and tonight I’m going to church. I want to change, become a godly woman. Thank you so much. Keep going. You’re a godly man. God bless you.
I’m single 31 years old woman, never been married, had 3 relationships, all taught me how to live better. I’m alone and I’m not depressed although it gets sad sometimes as it gets happy. Focused on my career cause career is what I have and grateful for.
Rob B Kowalski: I completely understand your point o view on loneliness. But there are others besides this. This is what my point of view is. I was married for 36 years. I lost her due to heart disease. So, now I am alone. The family is all gone. Dead or moved away and me, forgotten. I am 61 years old. I have no one to love and no one who loves me. Loneliness has no definition over me. And yet, I still live. You have no idea what loneliness is. I'm glad for you that you have no idea what loneliness is. I wish no man this torture.
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I am 61 I am dying alone but until there I am going to make the best of what time I have left surfing skating jujitsu maybe get 1 of those gas powered bicycle to ease into motorcycling
I've tried talking to at least 3 girls last year. And for each one, it didn't seem to work out. One kept bailing on me for dates, one was still in high school (which I was unaware of, she was going to my college for credits while still in high school, didn't know until she told me), and one just never responded period. Just recently had to stop myself from liking this one girl I'm friends with because she's dating another one of my friends, after it seemed like she was perfect, we had the same sense of humor, we were the same weird and awkward person, I felt comfortable being my weird self around her. I respect their relationship and don't want to mess that up. After that happened, I began to figure that God is just mocking me, giving me a false sense of hope for a chance at love, then just whisking it away like it's nothing. If God does in fact have a plan for this portion of my life, why does it have to involve giving me false hope, making the rejections feel even worse? (Keep in mind, I am a believer in Christ, I know he has his plans for each and every one of us. I'm just confused and not sure what to think.)
@@namelessfornow1885 Its a bit hard to explain. And I have gained some more (but not much lol) understanding as I've continued my journey through this season. It is not necessarily that I "blame" God per se, at least not in the sense that I feel like he's wronged me, but that I know that He the one with the plan and the layout for how my love life will turn out and the events that go along with it during my journey. I guess I just have a hard time understanding why He does what He does and sets in place what He does. I recently got out of a very meaningful relationship due to life circumstances, and I came to wonder "why would He give me what I've been praying for, then shortly after, just have it slip away?" It's upsetting that it had to happen, and it would be easy to blame Him in the sense that he wronged me, but seeing that He is truly good, it just makes me wonder why He would have something like that happen. It could be a lesson, it could be that something bad further down the line with the relationship would happen, or some other thing. It's just hard to understand what it is He is trying to do or say, if all that makes sense lol.
@@TylerTheSwimDude4387 ahh i see thanks for explaining. Sometimes in moments of passion of deep emotion we can say things in a way that we normally wouldn't. In my moments of frustration I also find myself having to fight the temptation to be angry at God. Asbyou said He's good and so logically I know He wouldn't just cause us suffering just for the sake of it. I mean I thought of 2 stories when you told yours, I thought Hannah's baby (promise) dying but then being bought back to life then the almost killing of Isaac. I can't say this woman is the one but i definitely see something hopeful there. Its like she is or the very next woman is.
@@TylerTheSwimDude4387 it's def hard though to see what's becoming of what appears to be a mushy situation. I've been longing and longing myself I just really believe now is our time now as in within next couple months things will blossom.
I contact girls on single platforms. Some are interested at first glance, write me a single comment but never write back. I feel betrayed of a good chance to meet somebody genuine. Everything is so Interchangeable and superficial today. Somebody please pray for me. Its God awful.
Fantastic video!! Super encouraging dude!!!!!! "Thank you for the eye opening truth about waiting" I totally feel like I been waiting for nothing. Basically been single for 29 years and suicidal thoughts continue to cross my mind.
Though the army of Satan assail against me, my heart will not give up; though war break out against me even then I will be confident in God. Psalm 27:3
Unfortunately, singleness is also a struggle and should we be forced to be in it. I grew up controlled and don’t wish to be constrained and there are also unpleasant people who love to bring up your past and keep you in your place. How do we also deal with the gaslighting?
I'm 44 and never had a girlfriend and feel like why even try when it seems the only type of women that is left is the type that if you can't make them rich and powerful or your not a bad boy then they don't want nothing to do with you and it gets old and you get fed up it's hard not to have hatred and resentment set in and I am active in my church and all that is mentioned and don't understand why the cruelty comes from women I know that not everyone that I'm interested in will be interested in me but I am so tired of the disgust and not feeling good enough vibe from women it stings alot
Hi Rob! I always enjoy your content and appreciate your honesty. This is a season in life and you’re spot on-either we maximize it or don’t and that ultimately is a decision. Thanks for the encouragement. I just reached out to Daphne (DE) and we shall reconnect. Perhaps we’ll make a Sunday service in Baltimore this quarter. Safe travels and enjoy tour time.
I knew id be alone when i was just a kid i never had a reason to date until family started accusing me of being gay so i tried dating a few times at the age of 25 and it was just a waste of time. Im 31 now and havent tried dating in years and wont settle for someone not Christian or decent. I realise the chances i may find someone is fleeting... and honestly doubt ill ever like someone enough to want to pursue a relationship. I hope those who are meant to find someone finds their person idk if mine exists in this lifetime. Lol
I’m now single after being in a relationship for 14 years I’m now 37 years old going onto 2 months. Does get lonely, but I enjoy my time on my own. If the time is right, I will meet the man for me
I don’t like the term “waiting”. I feel like waiting implies doing nothing. I’m abstaining from physical intimacy but I’m still “dating”. I feel like there’s a huge misconception there. Waiting tends to equate to doing nothing and feel like a lot of non Christians think that’s what “waiting” is. I also feel like it’s not about staying busy or in ministry in order to stay out of trouble or distracted from physical desires. I encounter a lot of guys who are so focused on themselves, on working and accomplishing so many goals but wonder why they’re single. I’ve come across Christian guys who say their priority is school or their goals or ministry but still get on a dating apps. They don’t have time to dedicate to a relationship yet they are still wanting a relationship. It’s doesn’t make sense to be busy all the time and have all these goals at the same time. There’s a disconnect. Can’t have your cake and eat it too. Busy culture is in the body of Christ and it’s not good either.
I get you. Met guys on the app saying they want marriage and kids, but are not interested in pursuing a relationship and work 60-70 hours a week. Acts speak louder.
Well bro. I've been active in church for the last 13 yrs of my life, and I am STILL single. Plus I run a full time biz mess online. I simply have NO LUCK
I had a dream, I meet a girl. A face I had never seen before we talked and talked(I don't remember about what) and we started to date. She told me she liked me and rested her head on my shoulder, her body layed on my left side as she got comfortable and we sat like that with my head on her head....I woke up, I remembered I don't have a gf never had. Now my chest hurts and everytime I think about it, it hurts even more. The feeling of loneliness is worst that I thought.
I've been single ALL OF MY LIFE. There is no "God". Why do people say to wait for God, then at the same time tell you that, "YOU have to put in the work"? If I have to do everything myself, then why do I need God? If I need a job, do I wait for God, or do I have to go job hunting myself?
I am a human and seeking for companionship is not unnatural,job will bring you money and satisfy your material needs but its not ok to shun relationship entirely.
The place where I live do not encourage me to be self-dependant as I have a very sheltered upbringing,even when I go to university I need my father's accompaniment. Wished I had a life away from prying eyes and being stuck indoors,my life is one big hell at this point.If my parents die then how will I survive on my own,for my situation getting into job is tricky coz in Bangladesh I can't go anywhere alone :/
I'm 30 years old - I have a great career making 6-figures, I'm 6'1", I have my own place, I hit the gym 6x a week, I'm physically very fit, I'm well groomed, I attend every social function I can, I make women laugh a lot, I flirt with them, I dress very sharp with a well tailored suit but still, I get nothing. Even if I get their number that night, they don't respond when I eventually call or text them. I just get ghosted. I've only ever had booty calls my whole life but it's honestly the loneliest thing in the world. I'm craving to have a good woman by my side. I'd treat her with so much respect and take care of her in every way possible but these women just won't give me a chance. I'm painfully lonely and it affects my day to day life like you can't imagine. I wake up 2-3 times every single night worried that I'll never find someone, especially in this generation where women have 100s upon 100s of options. Failure after failure after failure after failure sometimes has me in tears but I still continue to try until I win even though my morale is totally shot. Sorry for the rant. I just had to let this out.
My heart goes out to you brother, but we gotta keep believing that God has one preserved for us. Where are you located? Join our communities (100% free): facebook.com/groups/waitingworks and facebook.com/groups/cityfam
Making 6 figures, well groomed, Tall and without a woman. That is strange, I think you should get in touch with a dating coach. See, the more you chase a woman the more she will run away from you. Have you ever tried to capture a bird. You get close to that bird, pretend like u want nothing while working with your trap. If u have a nice car and a business then women should be flocking to you. Maybe you are too nice and women absolutely HATE nice guys. A good dating coach will transform u into that badass you should be. If women in your area are not going for you then I guess you should travel to other cities or abroad, like Eastern Europe or South East Asia. There u may find many and faithful ones too.
I said yes to all of your questions, I even go out and go line dancing festivals and concerts by myself and I date myself. But coming home to an empty house has been heart-wrenching and I don't understand what God's plan is for me. I live in Crete Illinois and I'm desperate to find even just single friends just to hang out with. All of my friends are married and have children and that was me once. I was married for 13 years and have two children out of it, he cheated throughout her entire marriage and I didn't know it until the day he left. I did everything I could in my power to save my marriage and grew a lot in the last few years of my marriage through the chaos and continued to grow after he left. Trying to fill this void of loneliness has been extremely difficult. Please help me find a group? I've tried meet up groups, small groups, Church outings, reached out to other churches in the area if they had any similar groups I'm coming up very very short. Help!
Im gonna be 22 this year and haven’t been in a real serious relationship yet. A lot of the girls I talk to end up turning fake for some reason when they show interest at first. Sometimes I just hope im not the only one that’s experiencing this at this age, especially when people constantly compliment me saying how attractive I am but they get surprised everytime I say I don’t have a girlfriend. I hope it gets easier soon 😔
Same. I'm 23 but female and I felt this pain. It's definitely worse when a man asks about my boyfriend just for me to say i don't have one and then they make the "what?! You're too pretty to not have a boyfriend" comment. Then they interrogate me as to why speaking to me as if I'm some weird alien. I figured out our time is soon if it's actually starting to pain us. Like birthing pains.
@@namelessfornow1885 Glad to hear i’m not alone. But I hope thats true. I been dealing with this for a few years now. and when it’s been that long I feel hopeless at times. 😔. It’s like easy for a lot of other people to find someone immediately but then for me it’s taking centuries.
@@scorgi0 I feel that last bit so much. I see others get in and out of relationships constantly like it's so simple but tbh I feel the more "basic" someone is the easier it is. I also have to understand having true love is very rare. A lot of ppl marry for personal advantage. But the deep true love that you and I crave I feel is reserved for ppl like us. And we're likely too unique to be able to just fit with any person. We have to be with the one we're designed to be with only. But these comments probably selfishly helped me feel a bit better to know I'm not alone also lol
@@namelessfornow1885 I agree, if it’s taking this long, the person we’re meant to be with must be elite lol, I’m not worried at all. Just gotta be patient & focus on God.
I’m about to be 24 and I still never had my first kiss like everyone els in this world. Back in HighSchool boys got mad I like them I was ugly to them, I never even got a Valentine’s Day gift from a guy. Then after HighSchool at 18 my cousin tried setting me up with her friends none of them liked me then my other cousins tried setting me up with their friend he didn’t like me then in 2019 my friend introduced me to her friend he was older. He said he didn’t wanna be in a relationship yet he gets with someone els. God has never blessed me with a perfect relationship just gave me nothing but heartbreak and rejection 😭 like I ask why couldn’t nothings just go perfect for me? Ppl I know from HighSchool have kids of their own,are married I have a cousin who’s the same age as me and she just got married to a guy she grew up with. like everyone in this world is in a relationship and kissed yet I’m the only one who still hasn’t kissed.
Try and do some things to build your attraction, maybe going to the gym, skincare routine, new hairstyle/clothes while also serving God & your church! 🤍
34 and still virgin,what's worse is that I get bombarded with questions of when i am tying the knot whenever I am at any family gathering,I do get occasional marriage proposals but unfortunately they do not live up to my expectations. Living in a conservative society is a lot challenging coz single people are viewed negatively,not that its my fault that I am unable to attract the opposite sex but its more of like a collective effort to get the right person for me.I don't have any issue staying single or getting into marriage but the main problem is I will end up being alone if my parents fail to get me married,coz the more I delay,there are slim chances of getting any good man 😩
Its kinda uncommon tho for a woman your age to be still a virg. BTW I am a 23 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before. I did go on my first ever date 5 months ago at the age of 22 and she was 19(20 now) and had my first hug too but sadly she turned out to be toxic to me 2 weeks after the date and blocked me everywhere and I also went out with a female friend 4 months ago who is also 23 and ate in a big restaurant but idk whether to count it as a date. But almost 3 weeks ago, I got a new crush on this girl in a class where we go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 7 months ago but we are in different classrooms. She is also within the 21-23 age range and I had been too shy to talk to her but 2 weeks ago eventually with the help of my friends and one of her classmate I was able to talk to her and again said her Hi last week. That classmate of her did say she is single but last week another of her classmate said that she probably has a boyfriend so that makes me feel confused whether to pursue her or not but I won't believe it unless she herself says she has a bf. 6 days ago, I again talked with her a bit and even we did handshake and she smiled too but I was definitely still sounding a bit nervous while talking with her. Sadly she still didn't follow me back or reply to my first dm to her on Instagram and its been 10 days already so idk whats up as she was still friendly with me 6 days ago. She is very very pretty almost model like and I just look average. Without my glasses, I look better but I have high power so should wear them all the time and look really nerdy and dorky in it so idk whether I even have a chance with her. I had crush on another girl in the same classes for the past 6-7 months and she also turned 23 last month. I liked her a lot and she even called me cute several times and I also gave her chocolate 2 weeks ago but was too shy to say her that I liked her but she probably knew I had a crush on her tho. Sadly she is ignoring me these days as she came to know about my new crush on this another girl. I also have been chatting with this girl on Instagram for the past 7 months and we used to be in the same school too but didn't know each other that time and now she is in a different college. She is 19(turning 20 in April) and she is super sweet and we are both foodies and send each other virtual hugs and chat daily talking about almost everything. We will meet soon too and go to eat somewhere but I am still single in the end.
@@manosijroy8282 That’s interesting story but bro don’t lose hope,you definitely have something good in store for you but it’ll take time. Yep you’re right at 30+ still virg but it gets hard these days to find the right person,i did have some proposals coming but rejected them coz they weren’t good enough.
@@raisa_cherry35btw if suppose we lived in the same city, would you have a dated a 23 year old guy like me who never had a gf before and really shy near women in person?
@@manosijroy8282 Truth be told i am never into dating as our religion doesn’t allow mingling of man and woman before marriage,however if a man and woman meet with the intention to get into marriage then that’s acceptable. You sound like a nice person,just live life to the fullest,surround yourself with your loved ones.
Hi 😁 Rob Thank you for the great advice ‼️ Yes I belong to a Church family. Yes I am in leadership and volunteer in the ministry. Yes I'm in a life group. I'm the life group leader..
Going to church on Sunday is not biblical christianity. It is ancient sun worship that is throughout the scriptures. I've been single for years, trusting God would bring the right women into my life but I've learned I'm single for a purpose but I still haven't figured out why yet.
I love many aspects of my singleness but I hate that I’ve always been single. Women in my church are never interested. I’ve always been a gentleman and never a “nice guy.” Saving myself til marriage or being equally yoked doesn’t feel worth it anymore.
I’m 29 and still saving myself till marriage as well. Started dating just last year, all never worked out, never find ther right guy. It’s really tough to meet someone genuine in dating sites, who will be interested consistently to date you even they know you want to keep your purity.. especially for ladies like me.. it’s really tough, its good at first and all but once they know you will keep and save yourself till marriage. They are gone after the first date. Only encountered 1 guy who I dated for about 6months who’s fine and respected my choice, just that I feel he became tired too afterall and find someone else.. It’s really tough right now honestly.
Trust me. I waited and then gave up my virginity to a despicable predator who used me. I can never undo that fact and I wish I could erase that more than anything I’ve ever done. Wait. You won’t regret it.
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I am sure you at least had girlfriend before. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and never even hugged or kissed a girl in real life. I got unmatched by 2 girls recently on dating apps after I asked them out for a coffee even though we had a good chat. I also got blocked by 2 girls on Instagram after asking them out and they were in the same school as me but now we are in different colleges. One of the girl who is 19 turning 20 in August even agreed to meet up but she blocked me after few days and we had been chatting on insta for a month. I also asked out my childhood friend who is 21 turning 22 after 3-4 months and I genuinely like her but she isn't that active on Instagram so she still didn't see or reply to my message yet but I am still waiting for her reply and hoping that she will agree. I also started newly chatting with another girl who too was in the same school as me but was my junior so she is within the 19-21 age range and she looks so pretty in her profile pic on insta with a smile and I would love to ask her out after knowing each other well but I am afraid that she might be having a boyfriend as she is really pretty and we aren't in the same college either.
Your young. Focus on getting closer to God to continue grow and mature. You have time, I know it isn't easy but get involved in church and figure out what your passionate about
Thank you! It was a very interesting video. I feel alone but in peace because I realized that the person I have been dating, is not the right for me and I need to move on with my life and plan the rest of my years in this planet before I am taken in “the rapture with Jesus” …😁🤗 Wish u blessings for ur life 🍀
Italian living in Paris, been hère 2 years. Incredibile How I am living in a capital and I am completely alone. Since my ex left me it has been impossibile to connect with other people. And dating is impossibile. I am stuck
I've been alone for years. My child mother keeps saying we will eventually get back together but first I have to do this that and the other. I feel like I'm just being put in limbo. She isn't looking or dating. We both are miserable.
I LOVE being single, hard for me to understand all these people that jump from one relationship to the next, even if it sucks they're so afraid of being alone they just latch on & don't let go. With all the compromise that goes with being in a relationship, why the sacrifice all that juicy time doing whatever YOU want, just to date some limp fish, "meh but good enough until I find something better" stand-in? The ONLY time, and I mean ONLY ... I miss being in a relationship, is when RSVP'ing for "plus 1" events. But I can deal with the .075% of my life spent RSVP'ing and attending events without a date. So many people just wandering around, from person to person, like heat-seeking missles on missions to find next warm body. So many with unhealed attachment issues. I am not knocking being in a relationship, and am open to being in one myself. But I'm holding out for the butterflies. Bc relationships are a lot of work & I think it's important to know in your heart going in, that it's all going to be worth it.
Finish that question...I'm not religious either but I do have a relationship with my higher power. Without that, life has no meaning so don't bother looking for your "purpose" because there isn't one.
I'm a believer, but I'm pretty certain God has nothing to do with my crappy circumstances... Can we stop saying that misery is a part of "God's plan", its not. Its a part of life. Life isn't fair, neither is it perfect
Anyone ever tell you that you look like Ryan Reynolds? lol Anyway followed a rabbit trail (or rabbit hole however the term is) and stumbled on some of your videos. Some good stuff.
God is proud and pleased with you. Unfortunately the false monogamy-only doctrine has caused situations like yours for far too many of our sisters in Christ.
I'm going through this kind of thing right now, although I'm still a kid I'm 16, but I haven't had a proper girlfriend/relationship like I once had and everyday it just keeps getting more stress full and more annoying since my friends do get girlfriends a lot of times even tho they are not always you know good girls I still feel messed up about it and every time I see a girl or talk with a girl its always no sorry your not my type or oh sorry your to short and stresses me even more, and now I don't know what to do, and it sucks because if I keep doing nothing I feel like I could've done something, but I didn't, and I just need some fucking guidance or some shit because I am losing my mind
Do u have any advice for a woman in her 20s liking this one guy for all these 9 years of her waiting, and it turns out he was a homosexual guy all along?
I'm a 28 year old male, never had a girlfriend or sex. My metal health is collapsing. I get drunk nearly every night. I don't believe in your god sorry, but a good creator would not create this kind of world.
Uhhhhhh…..I believe a season is 4 months….am I wrong? What’s with the years and years alone. That’s a bit much to ask a passionate human….just my opinion.
Ugh! It's been 11 years that God has had me waiting for a wife :/ Join our communities (100% free): facebook.com/groups/waitingworks and facebook.com/groups/cityfam
Whatever I don’t have and everything I’m not is totally my fault. I don’t blame God at all. The world is crumbling around us and there’s really nothing to live for anyway. The situation is completely hopeless.
What do you do if you’re in your late Sixties, but still want to be in a relationship? I got divorced in my middle forties, but because I don’t believe in pre- marital sex this had hindered me. When I tell someone this they will say something like” that admiral, and you’re someone that a man would won’t to marry, but I don’t want to marry”. In other words they just won’t sex. I was a virgin when I married my husband my beliefs hasnt change! I’m not going to sleep with someone in hopes that it leads to marriage. I can’t disappoint God like that. I’m told that I’m attractive and look younger than my age. It’s embarrassing to admit at my age that Inwant what you younger people wants someone to love , and to be loved by someone. You mentioned “ waiting “ Imay not have the time to wait much longer! I’m not young and have a full life ahead of me, my life is mostly behind me!
Hey, I've GOT to tell you this: about your faith.... It's awesome!!! Please PLEASE recall the temptations of the young is the same as we get older. BUT we get older and see sickness and death .. Pain and reaping of mistakes because of the domino's effect. 2000 years ago is like 2 days to our Father. The path you get into is the beginning. The lure is obvious... Grave sin... Fornication. One of the tools is it's just right now.... Keeping TRACK of our age and FEELING like it's gotta happen.... Like what? Before we die? You see? We live by faith, not by sight. You may be put before your Adam if not already at 80... Next year... Or once the 1000 year reign of Christ is in action. He KNOWS us humans. The battle is real about this "tree" of no no. See? The tree of no no is listening to the "serpent's" reasoning instead of just "stay in your spiritual paradise" with our Father and his believers. Or just with him and be involved in talking with him as a VERY CLOSE friend you confide in.... Telling him all... Stuff you wouldn't tell even a man perhaps or woman.... THEN do your daily Bible reading....a couple chapters a day.... Do in order hopefully. Where it all began helps to see how far we have come and all the pain, guilt, shame and tricks in this life that's happened in history of mankind and in our lives UNLESS you have really not hurt yourself too bad and thus aren't clearing out old ways of thinking. You said divorce.... So that. I've heard other women not even say squat about their shortcomings but only the ex or they just don't sit still and look in the "rear view mirror" metaphorically speaking. Your AGE doesn't matter. After awhile our faith is strong enough to see beyond our "finite" counting we do.... When there is really a forever. And later on the eternal life. Aging is temporary. Death... Also! Resurrections.... Healings.... Corruption gone.... We get younger if we are past the age of Adam at age he was at time of putting us all under inherited sin/penalty OR Jesus at death (students and I saw well think about 33 1/2 YET with youthful vigor like Adam and Eve had) we are restored!! The gift OF LIFE was ours from the beginning of the first couple. "God breathed into Adam and he BECAME a living soul" It's a trick to listen to the "temp time anxious thing" but it is real if you really really really desire to be a WIFE to a husband WHO is good friend of God. To be ready and especially IF you've been with anyone whether called married or "dating" and had relations.... There is need to repair and tweak perhaps. If women tell me oh he was a jerk.... If able to say back at them...."aren't you curious about YOURSELF how that happened you trusted that "jerk"? We gotta do our best to be ready to MARRY. You aren't really saying that. I personally don't think of that word as much as close intimate loving FOREVER together soul mate. Because it's the ONLY physical God who is good desires for a man or woman who's looking to him .....AS THEY LIVE.... So many other things to DO. Recall role you had as wife? I'm Not discussing the guy. Just you. Is there anything you had a problem with? Respect him? Listen to his good instruction? His counsel? But of course self respect yourself enough to know ahead of time if he would respect you physically and be honoring you. A "holy matrimony" of love making is the opposite of dog type sex that is taught to men and women. See? We've been lied to. We've been sold so many lies that were just little offshoots of the main lie...."you surely won't die" .... Eve was told this.... First lie.... She did die. We die. But that lie is perpetuated still .... Just dressed up different "of you won't die, you go somewhere after you die heaven or hell".... Same lie. We know truth. We die (I love Jesus word "sleep") unconscious as ecclesiastes says.... We know nothing. And so this liar....lying spirit gets ruining stuff. ESPECIALLY true love within us to be cultivated and grown that we are close to God... And to be mated/married/bonded to another true love heart (soul/living puzzle piece/opposite sex) anyone going about other ways, it's like their business for sure. It's us as we get to see and know the tricks, lies, fake look of love, sensual lures, and pain and hurt of people who do stuff outside of his "user manual" because we see his LOVE is HIM. the character. The personality. Embedded image in his son. As a guy who has a son and someone says "man! He's your spitting image of you! He walks like you, talks like you...." Jesus was revealing THAT or even a glimpse of Adam and Eve we can only imagine the wholesome UNASHAMED love shared among them. Life first with God is BEAUTIFUL. Though outwardly we age.... It's no big thing. We learned mirrors and cool by the time we were at a certain age.... Before that we KNEW who we had good vibes about.... Who our heart wanted to play with. So adding that to (the innocent heart, but of course maturing wise mind) age is GOLD. Cheer up, my neighbor!!! There are many SINGLE men and women!!! You are not alone! And a friend of mine who had never had relations with a man, married at 63 to a man who became a widower. It is possible. I don't know if she is really happy. You see, because they are older and in this temp world timeline there is tribulation as the apostle Paul said would be in a marriage.... Add aging at the get go.... NEITHER do engage in physical fitness or weights but I think walk. Maybe. It's just she NEVER married until then. She now takes care of him because he is ill. Well, that was last time I saw her without him at a meeting (a nurse was looking in on him) see? I am religious. I used to be an undercover believer but when a SISTER is going through a real thing as you.... I've gotta reach out and say YOU ARE NORMAL!!!! and it's very human of us. Really!! Taking that feeling and in time it WILL turn into dynamic energy. Maybe today when you are free to you gotta read or write out stuff, or just tell our Father.... He knows. You are only 60+ ish ...I'm younger but I know I'll be there. But no matter....I just saw a dancing 86 year old on video. See? This life is SQUAT compared to what we were originally given and it was surrendered in the original garden. May you practice in relationships with people while you are patiently knowing prayers are answered. Meaning this: not in a physical way.... But I'm listening and talking and communicating. I've seen my shortcomings and I don't even know if I'm good to go before my Adam. I'm exasperated less of myself and I can be kinder with me but I'm our minds we gotta get that GOOD so we can be that way to others and spot if someone says something in a critical unkind way. Keeping free from toxic self or others that shouldn't be having too much closeness in friends way. Unequal yoke friendships can't go anywhere worthwhile and usually the glory to God isn't a priority in motive.
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I’m 32 and single and haven’t been on a date in years. I find myself saying in prayer that if it’s not in God’s plan for me to find someone that he remove the desire from my heart. It’s tough sometimes especially when everyone in your church is married and there’s no one in sight. My focus is on God and doing what I can to glorify him. That being said that feeling of loneliness loves to comes around often and it does sting.
You're so pretty how are you single?
@@damedroop7034 aww thanks. I’m not anymore 😊
Was just about to ask. Glad you found someone
Congratulations but how did things change? May I ask where and how you met him?
@@cherishdeb basically he’s someone I knew from a distance for years. During the lockdowns we got talking about everything going on and just connected over politics, God etc and the rest is history
Everyone hates the loneliness but it's better to be alone than to just have some body with you and you really don't care or like that person. I rather be with someone I'm in love with.
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@@RobBKowalski Sorry but I do not have a Facebook account and don't want one.
@@RobBKowalski I usually chat with a single guy on WhatsApp only.
@@feferosette why are you ok with WhatsApp but not with Facebook? Both can be readily hacked and both are full of scammers and liars. My advice: get off ALL social media!!!
@@hamilton9651 I know that too. Usually I will tell the guy to send a video waving at me saying "Hello Felicia". I want to make sure I'm talking to the guy who is on his profile.
I've been alone for 6 years to meet someone good, no sex, no dates, no casual talks, just staring at the walls in my home...
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I'm sorry I dont use Facebook do you have any other way?
I’ve been single for 24 years, all my life “ No one never loved me, prolly that’s why I don’t know how to love you” Phora
staring at the walls why ? go surfing skating mountain biking motorcycling
@@RobBKowalski #metoo
Ive been in the season of singleness for too long now.
I feel your pain. Me too
I'm picking my feet up off the floor because Rob just stepped on my toes!
I need to go to work on what God has put in my heart.
Working my butt off is all I do. It makes me more depressed. I've come to the conclusion that it's not just being alone but feeling like it's rubbed in your face even when you try not to obsess over it and you don't have a place at church. Never heard one sermon about being single.
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This comment resonated with me so much because this is exactly what I’m going through. I’m trying not to obsess about being single or in a relationship but it’s everywhere I turn. And work is all I do as well. I haven’t had genuine fun in along time. I try to tell myself being single this long is okay and very normal but when you have people ask you when will get in a relationship or have you met anyone yet is discouraging and embarrassing. I’m only 27 but I just feel like what do I do and where do I turn at this point.
@@MegM77 I can kind of relate or last related a couple weeks ago to the discouragement and heartache of still being single at 23. It's cool you say "only 27" cuz for some reason I carry on like I'm so old at 23 to be single. But the thing is for me I've never had anyone really ever so it makes it a bit harder imo.
Seems God has us in a similar place. I do know my time is upon me for this and I hope and pray for you too
@@MegM77 are you still in that same situation?
@@namelessfornow1885 are you still in that same situation
Bottom line is if you're waiting in singleness, you should keep busy. It helps! I'm only 4 years in abstinence and yes it was tough in the beginning because I was just sitting at home and waiting. But I started volunteering and going out more movies, dinner with friends etc. I know gods best for me is near. Also reading the word daily is my dose of TLC daily ❤. Thanks Rob for another great video. Right on time. God bless you
Volunteering is great, but it only covers a few hours per week. Going out to movies or dinner alone sucks after a few times. The bottom line is no woman no sex! Course as a Christian no sex period if you are single. So you will still spend most of your free time lonely and frustrated! Oh and going out with friends goes away once they get married!
I heard a voice in my soul saying come to God and he will give me the desires of my heart⚘now, i read my Bible everyday and pray the Rosary...my lonliness has become joy within myself. I help others to see the compassion of Jesus and i have more hobbies. Yes i get extremely frustrated sexually but i ask God to help me to control my flesh. I believe my Boaz & i will come together soon
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I feel very lonely... I want to socialize with friends, at least. I'm mad with God for not giving me friends or husband...
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My therapist made me realize that there are many simple techniques that anyone can use to be successful at anything in life, whether it's financially or trying to get into a relationship.
@@olinflores6134 What would those be?
@@Snatraps51 Have you heard of attraction spells ?
@@olinflores6134 lmfao
No friends family sees me as a scapegoat giving up just stopped caring numb and radically excepted I’m going to be alone the rest of my life
are you putting forth an effort ? when I was young when I went out I made it a point to ask 3 girls to dance if I didnt I didnt feel I was doing my part find a singles group that does activities you enjoy and go that way even if you dont meet anyone you still had fun example I went to the gun range with a single group
Even YT knows that I'm lonely.
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Thank you for your sharing. I’m a Catholic. You made me feel ashamed of my sins. I’ve prayed to God and tonight I’m going to church. I want to change, become a godly woman. Thank you so much. Keep going. You’re a godly man. God bless you.
Praise God 👏 🙌 God loves you!
Hold on, you guys are waiting for what?
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I’m single 31 years old woman, never been married, had 3 relationships, all taught me how to live better. I’m alone and I’m not depressed although it gets sad sometimes as it gets happy. Focused on my career cause career is what I have and grateful for.
I can marry u , I am 32 single from india
Rob B Kowalski: I completely understand your point o view on loneliness. But there are others besides this. This is what my point of view is. I was married for 36 years. I lost her due to heart disease. So, now I am alone. The family is all gone. Dead or moved away and me, forgotten. I am 61 years old. I have no one to love and no one who loves me. Loneliness has no definition over me. And yet, I still live. You have no idea what loneliness is. I'm glad for you that you have no idea what loneliness is. I wish no man this torture.
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This kind of codependency is not healthy….. you have yourself to love. You don’t need anyone to complete you.
I am 61 I am dying alone but until there I am going to make the best of what time I have left surfing skating jujitsu maybe get 1 of those gas powered bicycle to ease into motorcycling
I've tried talking to at least 3 girls last year. And for each one, it didn't seem to work out. One kept bailing on me for dates, one was still in high school (which I was unaware of, she was going to my college for credits while still in high school, didn't know until she told me), and one just never responded period. Just recently had to stop myself from liking this one girl I'm friends with because she's dating another one of my friends, after it seemed like she was perfect, we had the same sense of humor, we were the same weird and awkward person, I felt comfortable being my weird self around her. I respect their relationship and don't want to mess that up. After that happened, I began to figure that God is just mocking me, giving me a false sense of hope for a chance at love, then just whisking it away like it's nothing. If God does in fact have a plan for this portion of my life, why does it have to involve giving me false hope, making the rejections feel even worse? (Keep in mind, I am a believer in Christ, I know he has his plans for each and every one of us. I'm just confused and not sure what to think.)
That hurts bro. I had a huge crush on a girl in college who was actually in highschool - I didn't know it at the time.
Hmm interesting you put it on God. Why do you think He's the one making this happen? Just asking don't mean to be rude.
@@namelessfornow1885 Its a bit hard to explain. And I have gained some more (but not much lol) understanding as I've continued my journey through this season. It is not necessarily that I "blame" God per se, at least not in the sense that I feel like he's wronged me, but that I know that He the one with the plan and the layout for how my love life will turn out and the events that go along with it during my journey. I guess I just have a hard time understanding why He does what He does and sets in place what He does. I recently got out of a very meaningful relationship due to life circumstances, and I came to wonder "why would He give me what I've been praying for, then shortly after, just have it slip away?" It's upsetting that it had to happen, and it would be easy to blame Him in the sense that he wronged me, but seeing that He is truly good, it just makes me wonder why He would have something like that happen. It could be a lesson, it could be that something bad further down the line with the relationship would happen, or some other thing. It's just hard to understand what it is He is trying to do or say, if all that makes sense lol.
@@TylerTheSwimDude4387 ahh i see thanks for explaining. Sometimes in moments of passion of deep emotion we can say things in a way that we normally wouldn't. In my moments of frustration I also find myself having to fight the temptation to be angry at God. Asbyou said He's good and so logically I know He wouldn't just cause us suffering just for the sake of it.
I mean I thought of 2 stories when you told yours, I thought Hannah's baby (promise) dying but then being bought back to life then the almost killing of Isaac. I can't say this woman is the one but i definitely see something hopeful there. Its like she is or the very next woman is.
@@TylerTheSwimDude4387 it's def hard though to see what's becoming of what appears to be a mushy situation. I've been longing and longing myself I just really believe now is our time now as in within next couple months things will blossom.
Thank you Rob, I needed to hear that today. You've motivated me to finish something I started a few years ago.
Yes sir! Better is the wound of a friend then the kisses of an enemy. Spot on.
A real blessing... nearly 33 years of pain and suffering - I'm so lucky...
I contact girls on single platforms. Some are interested at first glance, write me a single comment but never write back. I feel betrayed of a good chance to meet somebody genuine. Everything is so Interchangeable and superficial today. Somebody please pray for me. Its God awful.
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@@RobBKowalski I dont have facebook.
@@RobBKowalski Dont have facebook dude.
The way our societies are now doesn't help either
Relate. Serve God and He will give you the best for you.
Fantastic video!! Super encouraging dude!!!!!! "Thank you for the eye opening truth about waiting" I totally feel like I been waiting for nothing. Basically been single for 29 years and suicidal thoughts continue to cross my mind.
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Though the army of Satan assail against me, my heart will not give up; though war break out against me even then I will be confident in God. Psalm 27:3
I was married but now I'm single. Both are Biblical and both are good! I raised a family and now I want to draw closer to God.
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Great words. Although I am at home and feel lonely but need to remind myself it is short time to do a task ... will not be forever
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Thank you! Listening to you really helps with putting things into perspective...
Just started writing a Book, going to focus my energy on that..
It sucks and sometimes it just never happens for some people. :(
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"God has blessed you with this season of singleness" ‼️
Love this 💚 never thought of it as a blessing 💛
I've gone through a season of 12 years of singleness...
Unfortunately, singleness is also a struggle and should we be forced to be in it. I grew up controlled and don’t wish to be constrained and there are also unpleasant people who love to bring up your past and keep you in your place. How do we also deal with the gaslighting?
Wow what a blood sucking gift
I'm 44 and never had a girlfriend and feel like why even try when it seems the only type of women that is left is the type that if you can't make them rich and powerful or your not a bad boy then they don't want nothing to do with you and it gets old and you get fed up it's hard not to have hatred and resentment set in and I am active in my church and all that is mentioned and don't understand why the cruelty comes from women I know that not everyone that I'm interested in will be interested in me but I am so tired of the disgust and not feeling good enough vibe from women it stings alot
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Hi Rob! I always enjoy your content and appreciate your honesty. This is a season in life and you’re spot on-either we maximize it or don’t and that ultimately is a decision. Thanks for the encouragement. I just reached out to Daphne (DE) and we shall reconnect. Perhaps we’ll make a Sunday service in Baltimore this quarter. Safe travels and enjoy tour time.
I knew id be alone when i was just a kid i never had a reason to date until family started accusing me of being gay so i tried dating a few times at the age of 25 and it was just a waste of time. Im 31 now and havent tried dating in years and wont settle for someone not Christian or decent. I realise the chances i may find someone is fleeting... and honestly doubt ill ever like someone enough to want to pursue a relationship. I hope those who are meant to find someone finds their person idk if mine exists in this lifetime. Lol
I’m now single after being in a relationship for 14 years I’m now 37 years old going onto 2 months.
Does get lonely, but I enjoy my time on my own. If the time is right, I will meet the man for me
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Being single sucks 😩😭
What if you’ve never had a single friend in your life also had no girl from age 1 to 21 I’m scared I’ll be alone for the rest of my life
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I don’t like the term “waiting”. I feel like waiting implies doing nothing. I’m abstaining from physical intimacy but I’m still “dating”. I feel like there’s a huge misconception there. Waiting tends to equate to doing nothing and feel like a lot of non Christians think that’s what “waiting” is.
I also feel like it’s not about staying busy or in ministry in order to stay out of trouble or distracted from physical desires. I encounter a lot of guys who are so focused on themselves, on working and accomplishing so many goals but wonder why they’re single. I’ve come across Christian guys who say their priority is school or their goals or ministry but still get on a dating apps. They don’t have time to dedicate to a relationship yet they are still wanting a relationship. It’s doesn’t make sense to be busy all the time and have all these goals at the same time. There’s a disconnect. Can’t have your cake and eat it too. Busy culture is in the body of Christ and it’s not good either.
Busy sounds like a boring. At the end of the day, it is your free will and if you end finding someone you love then great.
I get you. Met guys on the app saying they want marriage and kids, but are not interested in pursuing a relationship and work 60-70 hours a week. Acts speak louder.
Well bro. I've been active in church for the last 13 yrs of my life, and I am STILL single. Plus I run a full time biz mess online. I simply have NO LUCK
I had a dream, I meet a girl. A face I had never seen before we talked and talked(I don't remember about what) and we started to date. She told me she liked me and rested her head on my shoulder, her body layed on my left side as she got comfortable and we sat like that with my head on her head....I woke up, I remembered I don't have a gf never had. Now my chest hurts and everytime I think about it, it hurts even more. The feeling of loneliness is worst that I thought.
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I've been single ALL OF MY LIFE. There is no "God". Why do people say to wait for God, then at the same time tell you that, "YOU have to put in the work"? If I have to do everything myself, then why do I need God? If I need a job, do I wait for God, or do I have to go job hunting myself?
I am a human and seeking for companionship is not unnatural,job will bring you money and satisfy your material needs but its not ok to shun relationship entirely.
No help. And being in a big city, one wouldn’t expect that.
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No way,all life I am figuring out ,just words of consolation
The place where I live do not encourage me to be self-dependant as I have a very sheltered upbringing,even when I go to university I need my father's accompaniment.
Wished I had a life away from prying eyes and being stuck indoors,my life is one big hell at this point.If my parents die then how will I survive on my own,for my situation getting into job is tricky coz in Bangladesh I can't go anywhere alone :/
I'm 30 years old - I have a great career making 6-figures, I'm 6'1", I have my own place, I hit the gym 6x a week, I'm physically very fit, I'm well groomed, I attend every social function I can, I make women laugh a lot, I flirt with them, I dress very sharp with a well tailored suit but still, I get nothing. Even if I get their number that night, they don't respond when I eventually call or text them. I just get ghosted.
I've only ever had booty calls my whole life but it's honestly the loneliest thing in the world. I'm craving to have a good woman by my side. I'd treat her with so much respect and take care of her in every way possible but these women just won't give me a chance. I'm painfully lonely and it affects my day to day life like you can't imagine. I wake up 2-3 times every single night worried that I'll never find someone, especially in this generation where women have 100s upon 100s of options. Failure after failure after failure after failure sometimes has me in tears but I still continue to try until I win even though my morale is totally shot.
Sorry for the rant. I just had to let this out.
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Making 6 figures, well groomed, Tall and without a woman. That is strange, I think you should get in touch with a dating coach. See, the more you chase a woman the more she will run away from you. Have you ever tried to capture a bird. You get close to that bird, pretend like u want nothing while working with your trap.
If u have a nice car and a business then women should be flocking to you. Maybe you are too nice and women absolutely HATE nice guys. A good dating coach will transform u into that badass you should be.
If women in your area are not going for you then I guess you should travel to other cities or abroad, like Eastern Europe or South East Asia. There u may find many and faithful ones too.
wish the best luck in your path❤
This is great! Having a hard time at my age of 57 being single for 13 years
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I said yes to all of your questions, I even go out and go line dancing festivals and concerts by myself and I date myself. But coming home to an empty house has been heart-wrenching and I don't understand what God's plan is for me. I live in Crete Illinois and I'm desperate to find even just single friends just to hang out with. All of my friends are married and have children and that was me once. I was married for 13 years and have two children out of it, he cheated throughout her entire marriage and I didn't know it until the day he left. I did everything I could in my power to save my marriage and grew a lot in the last few years of my marriage through the chaos and continued to grow after he left. Trying to fill this void of loneliness has been extremely difficult. Please help me find a group? I've tried meet up groups, small groups, Church outings, reached out to other churches in the area if they had any similar groups I'm coming up very very short. Help!
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Im gonna be 22 this year and haven’t been in a real serious relationship yet. A lot of the girls I talk to end up turning fake for some reason when they show interest at first. Sometimes I just hope im not the only one that’s experiencing this at this age, especially when people constantly compliment me saying how attractive I am but they get surprised everytime I say I don’t have a girlfriend. I hope it gets easier soon 😔
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Same. I'm 23 but female and I felt this pain. It's definitely worse when a man asks about my boyfriend just for me to say i don't have one and then they make the "what?! You're too pretty to not have a boyfriend" comment. Then they interrogate me as to why speaking to me as if I'm some weird alien.
I figured out our time is soon if it's actually starting to pain us. Like birthing pains.
@@namelessfornow1885 Glad to hear i’m not alone. But I hope thats true. I been dealing with this for a few years now. and when it’s been that long I feel hopeless at times. 😔. It’s like easy for a lot of other people to find someone immediately but then for me it’s taking centuries.
@@scorgi0 I feel that last bit so much. I see others get in and out of relationships constantly like it's so simple but tbh I feel the more "basic" someone is the easier it is. I also have to understand having true love is very rare. A lot of ppl marry for personal advantage. But the deep true love that you and I crave I feel is reserved for ppl like us. And we're likely too unique to be able to just fit with any person. We have to be with the one we're designed to be with only.
But these comments probably selfishly helped me feel a bit better to know I'm not alone also lol
@@namelessfornow1885 I agree, if it’s taking this long, the person we’re meant to be with must be elite lol, I’m not worried at all. Just gotta be patient & focus on God.
It's a tough road to travel when God doesn't send you a wife.
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I already gave up and no longer pursue anyone.
I needed this !
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Thanks .the best video for loneliness i have ever heard
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I’m about to be 24 and I still never had my first kiss like everyone els in this world. Back in HighSchool boys got mad I like them I was ugly to them, I never even got a Valentine’s Day gift from a guy. Then after HighSchool at 18 my cousin tried setting me up with her friends none of them liked me then my other cousins tried setting me up with their friend he didn’t like me then in 2019 my friend introduced me to her friend he was older. He said he didn’t wanna be in a relationship yet he gets with someone els. God has never blessed me with a perfect relationship just gave me nothing but heartbreak and rejection 😭 like I ask why couldn’t nothings just go perfect for me? Ppl I know from HighSchool have kids of their own,are married I have a cousin who’s the same age as me and she just got married to a guy she grew up with. like everyone in this world is in a relationship and kissed yet I’m the only one who still hasn’t kissed.
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34 and still virgin,what's worse is that I get bombarded with questions of when i am tying the knot whenever I am at any family gathering,I do get occasional marriage proposals but unfortunately they do not live up to my expectations.
Living in a conservative society is a lot challenging coz single people are viewed negatively,not that its my fault that I am unable to attract the opposite sex but its more of like a collective effort to get the right person for me.I don't have any issue staying single or getting into marriage but the main problem is I will end up being alone if my parents fail to get me married,coz the more I delay,there are slim chances of getting any good man 😩
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Its kinda uncommon tho for a woman your age to be still a virg. BTW I am a 23 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before. I did go on my first ever date 5 months ago at the age of 22 and she was 19(20 now) and had my first hug too but sadly she turned out to be toxic to me 2 weeks after the date and blocked me everywhere and I also went out with a female friend 4 months ago who is also 23 and ate in a big restaurant but idk whether to count it as a date. But almost 3 weeks ago, I got a new crush on this girl in a class where we go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 7 months ago but we are in different classrooms. She is also within the 21-23 age range and I had been too shy to talk to her but 2 weeks ago eventually with the help of my friends and one of her classmate I was able to talk to her and again said her Hi last week. That classmate of her did say she is single but last week another of her classmate said that she probably has a boyfriend so that makes me feel confused whether to pursue her or not but I won't believe it unless she herself says she has a bf. 6 days ago, I again talked with her a bit and even we did handshake and she smiled too but I was definitely still sounding a bit nervous while talking with her. Sadly she still didn't follow me back or reply to my first dm to her on Instagram and its been 10 days already so idk whats up as she was still friendly with me 6 days ago. She is very very pretty almost model like and I just look average. Without my glasses, I look better but I have high power so should wear them all the time and look really nerdy and dorky in it so idk whether I even have a chance with her.
I had crush on another girl in the same classes for the past 6-7 months and she also turned 23 last month. I liked her a lot and she even called me cute several times and I also gave her chocolate 2 weeks ago but was too shy to say her that I liked her but she probably knew I had a crush on her tho. Sadly she is ignoring me these days as she came to know about my new crush on this another girl. I also have been chatting with this girl on Instagram for the past 7 months and we used to be in the same school too but didn't know each other that time and now she is in a different college. She is 19(turning 20 in April) and she is super sweet and we are both foodies and send each other virtual hugs and chat daily talking about almost everything. We will meet soon too and go to eat somewhere but I am still single in the end.
@@manosijroy8282 That’s interesting story but bro don’t lose hope,you definitely have something good in store for you but it’ll take time.
Yep you’re right at 30+ still virg but it gets hard these days to find the right person,i did have some proposals coming but rejected them coz they weren’t good enough.
@@raisa_cherry35btw if suppose we lived in the same city, would you have a dated a 23 year old guy like me who never had a gf before and really shy near women in person?
@@manosijroy8282 Truth be told i am never into dating as our religion doesn’t allow mingling of man and woman before marriage,however if a man and woman meet with the intention to get into marriage then that’s acceptable.
You sound like a nice person,just live life to the fullest,surround yourself with your loved ones.
Hi 😁 Rob
Thank you for the great advice ‼️
Yes I belong to a Church family.
Yes I am in leadership and volunteer in the ministry.
Yes I'm in a life group. I'm the life group leader..
Going to church on Sunday is not biblical christianity. It is ancient sun worship that is throughout the scriptures.
I've been single for years, trusting God would bring the right women into my life but I've learned I'm single for a purpose but I still haven't figured out why yet.
Great message. Thankfully I can say yes to all the questions you posed here.
I'm at a point were I'm not expecting anything from anyone including God. I'm not waiting on anyone again.
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I love many aspects of my singleness but I hate that I’ve always been single. Women in my church are never interested. I’ve always been a gentleman and never a “nice guy.” Saving myself til marriage or being equally yoked doesn’t feel worth it anymore.
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I’m 29 and still saving myself till marriage as well. Started dating just last year, all never worked out, never find ther right guy. It’s really tough to meet someone genuine in dating sites, who will be interested consistently to date you even they know you want to keep your purity.. especially for ladies like me.. it’s really tough, its good at first and all but once they know you will keep and save yourself till marriage. They are gone after the first date. Only encountered 1 guy who I dated for about 6months who’s fine and respected my choice, just that I feel he became tired too afterall and find someone else.. It’s really tough right now honestly.
Trust me. I waited and then gave up my virginity to a despicable predator who used me. I can never undo that fact and I wish I could erase that more than anything I’ve ever done. Wait. You won’t regret it.
@@mattkath2332 I feel the same...im almost giving up
I'm in Dallas TX is there any classes in this area.? Thanks
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@Rob B Kowalski I really thank you for your video. I stumbled on it yesterday in a time of loneliness your words gave my hope for future
Im really struggling with this as well. I'm 41. I've been told I'm attractive but I can't seem to get into a relationship. It's very hard
I am sure you at least had girlfriend before. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and never even hugged or kissed a girl in real life. I got unmatched by 2 girls recently on dating apps after I asked them out for a coffee even though we had a good chat. I also got blocked by 2 girls on Instagram after asking them out and they were in the same school as me but now we are in different colleges. One of the girl who is 19 turning 20 in August even agreed to meet up but she blocked me after few days and we had been chatting on insta for a month.
I also asked out my childhood friend who is 21 turning 22 after 3-4 months and I genuinely like her but she isn't that active on Instagram so she still didn't see or reply to my message yet but I am still waiting for her reply and hoping that she will agree. I also started newly chatting with another girl who too was in the same school as me but was my junior so she is within the 19-21 age range and she looks so pretty in her profile pic on insta with a smile and I would love to ask her out after knowing each other well but I am afraid that she might be having a boyfriend as she is really pretty and we aren't in the same college either.
Your young. Focus on getting closer to God to continue grow and mature. You have time, I know it isn't easy but get involved in church and figure out what your passionate about
It doesn't matter being happy is the main thing I don't care if there is no body it's ok at least I'm blessed ❤
Im living alone and ìm still single wish i can have a woman 😭😭😭
Thank you! It was a very interesting video. I feel alone but in peace because I realized that the person I have been dating, is not the right for me and I need to move on with my life and plan the rest of my years in this planet before I am taken in “the rapture with Jesus” …😁🤗 Wish u blessings for ur life 🍀
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Thank you and God bless
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I don't lie to you my father one time told me and I felt like God was telling me to pray for a wife to ask him now I believe he will do it
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Italian living in Paris, been hère 2 years. Incredibile How I am living in a capital and I am completely alone. Since my ex left me it has been impossibile to connect with other people. And dating is impossibile. I am stuck
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So I been single all my life. I don't know my life purpose I been asking God for years and no answer I feel like a mistake and I feel useless.
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I feel the same way. I’m 31. It sucks. Tired of dating jerks. I want my Superman.
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I've been alone for years. My child mother keeps saying we will eventually get back together but first I have to do this that and the other. I feel like I'm just being put in limbo. She isn't looking or dating. We both are miserable.
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Not helpful at all for me.I already work 15 hour zays at a restaurant, cone hone exhausted. Still lonely.
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I LOVE being single, hard for me to understand all these people that jump from one relationship to the next, even if it sucks they're so afraid of being alone they just latch on & don't let go.
With all the compromise that goes with being in a relationship, why the sacrifice all that juicy time doing whatever YOU want, just to date some limp fish, "meh but good enough until I find something better" stand-in?
The ONLY time, and I mean ONLY ... I miss being in a relationship, is when RSVP'ing for "plus 1" events.
But I can deal with the .075% of my life spent RSVP'ing and attending events without a date.
So many people just wandering around, from person to person, like heat-seeking missles on missions to find next warm body.
So many with unhealed attachment issues.
I am not knocking being in a relationship, and am open to being in one myself.
But I'm holding out for the butterflies.
Bc relationships are a lot of work & I think it's important to know in your heart going in, that it's all going to be worth it.
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What if you’re not religious?
Finish that question...I'm not religious either but I do have a relationship with my higher power. Without that, life has no meaning so don't bother looking for your "purpose" because there isn't one.
I'm a believer, but I'm pretty certain God has nothing to do with my crappy circumstances... Can we stop saying that misery is a part of "God's plan", its not. Its a part of life. Life isn't fair, neither is it perfect
Thank you I think I figured out something
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hows anybody spose to get out and meet people etc with covid about
Anyone ever tell you that you look like Ryan Reynolds? lol Anyway followed a rabbit trail (or rabbit hole however the term is) and stumbled on some of your videos. Some good stuff.
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45 here.. and waiting.
God is proud and pleased with you. Unfortunately the false monogamy-only doctrine has caused situations like yours for far too many of our sisters in Christ.
am single
I'm going through this kind of thing right now, although I'm still a kid I'm 16, but I haven't had a proper girlfriend/relationship like I once had and everyday it just keeps getting more stress full and more annoying since my friends do get girlfriends a lot of times even tho they are not always you know good girls I still feel messed up about it and every time I see a girl or talk with a girl its always no sorry your not my type or oh sorry your to short and stresses me even more, and now I don't know what to do, and it sucks because if I keep doing nothing I feel like I could've done something, but I didn't, and I just need some fucking guidance or some shit because I am losing my mind
Do u have any advice for a woman in her 20s liking this one guy for all these 9 years of her waiting, and it turns out he was a homosexual guy all along?
I'm a 28 year old male, never had a girlfriend or sex. My metal health is collapsing. I get drunk nearly every night. I don't believe in your god sorry, but a good creator would not create this kind of world.
A good God wouldn't give people free will? He would create robots only with the capacity for doing good only? Is that what you are saying??
Hope you are okay
You’re so awesome! TY ❤️
Thank you for this
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I really want a girlfriend
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He is real, why hasn't he done anything? I've been suffering my whole life, where the fuck is he?
God?
Uhhhhhh…..I believe a season is 4 months….am I wrong? What’s with the years and years alone. That’s a bit much to ask a passionate human….just my opinion.
20 years for me
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Idk why I even watch these videos. Obviously the only thing that will actually help anyone in this situation is getting a relationship.
That’s not true. You need community. Get involved in your church and try to find a group you can be a part of that you enjoy.
No way you wont be single long x
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YES amen!
Whatever I don’t have and everything I’m not is totally my fault. I don’t blame God at all. The world is crumbling around us and there’s really nothing to live for anyway. The situation is completely hopeless.
You have to work on yourself
I'm just so bored of life.
What do you do if you’re in your late
Sixties, but still want to be in a relationship? I got divorced in my middle forties, but because I don’t believe in pre- marital sex this had hindered me. When I tell someone this they will say something like” that admiral, and you’re someone that a man would won’t to marry, but I don’t want to marry”. In other words they just won’t sex. I was a virgin when I married my husband my beliefs hasnt change! I’m not going to sleep with someone in hopes that it leads to marriage. I can’t disappoint God like that. I’m told that I’m attractive and look younger than my age. It’s embarrassing to admit at my age that Inwant what you younger people wants someone to love , and to be loved by someone. You mentioned “ waiting “ Imay not have the time to wait much longer! I’m not young and have a full life ahead of me, my life is mostly behind me!
Hey, I've GOT to tell you this: about your faith.... It's awesome!!! Please PLEASE recall the temptations of the young is the same as we get older. BUT we get older and see sickness and death .. Pain and reaping of mistakes because of the domino's effect. 2000 years ago is like 2 days to our Father. The path you get into is the beginning. The lure is obvious... Grave sin... Fornication. One of the tools is it's just right now.... Keeping TRACK of our age and FEELING like it's gotta happen.... Like what? Before we die? You see? We live by faith, not by sight. You may be put before your Adam if not already at 80... Next year... Or once the 1000 year reign of Christ is in action. He KNOWS us humans. The battle is real about this "tree" of no no. See? The tree of no no is listening to the "serpent's" reasoning instead of just "stay in your spiritual paradise" with our Father and his believers. Or just with him and be involved in talking with him as a VERY CLOSE friend you confide in.... Telling him all... Stuff you wouldn't tell even a man perhaps or woman.... THEN do your daily Bible reading....a couple chapters a day.... Do in order hopefully. Where it all began helps to see how far we have come and all the pain, guilt, shame and tricks in this life that's happened in history of mankind and in our lives UNLESS you have really not hurt yourself too bad and thus aren't clearing out old ways of thinking. You said divorce.... So that. I've heard other women not even say squat about their shortcomings but only the ex or they just don't sit still and look in the "rear view mirror" metaphorically speaking. Your AGE doesn't matter. After awhile our faith is strong enough to see beyond our "finite" counting we do.... When there is really a forever. And later on the eternal life. Aging is temporary. Death... Also! Resurrections.... Healings.... Corruption gone.... We get younger if we are past the age of Adam at age he was at time of putting us all under inherited sin/penalty OR Jesus at death (students and I saw well think about 33 1/2 YET with youthful vigor like Adam and Eve had) we are restored!! The gift OF LIFE was ours from the beginning of the first couple. "God breathed into Adam and he BECAME a living soul" It's a trick to listen to the "temp time anxious thing" but it is real if you really really really desire to be a WIFE to a husband WHO is good friend of God. To be ready and especially IF you've been with anyone whether called married or "dating" and had relations.... There is need to repair and tweak perhaps. If women tell me oh he was a jerk.... If able to say back at them...."aren't you curious about YOURSELF how that happened you trusted that "jerk"? We gotta do our best to be ready to MARRY. You aren't really saying that. I personally don't think of that word as much as close intimate loving FOREVER together soul mate. Because it's the ONLY physical God who is good desires for a man or woman who's looking to him .....AS THEY LIVE.... So many other things to DO. Recall role you had as wife? I'm Not discussing the guy. Just you. Is there anything you had a problem with? Respect him? Listen to his good instruction? His counsel? But of course self respect yourself enough to know ahead of time if he would respect you physically and be honoring you. A "holy matrimony" of love making is the opposite of dog type sex that is taught to men and women. See? We've been lied to. We've been sold so many lies that were just little offshoots of the main lie...."you surely won't die" .... Eve was told this.... First lie.... She did die. We die. But that lie is perpetuated still .... Just dressed up different "of you won't die, you go somewhere after you die heaven or hell".... Same lie. We know truth. We die (I love Jesus word "sleep") unconscious as ecclesiastes says.... We know nothing. And so this liar....lying spirit gets ruining stuff. ESPECIALLY true love within us to be cultivated and grown that we are close to God... And to be mated/married/bonded to another true love heart (soul/living puzzle piece/opposite sex) anyone going about other ways, it's like their business for sure. It's us as we get to see and know the tricks, lies, fake look of love, sensual lures, and pain and hurt of people who do stuff outside of his "user manual" because we see his LOVE is HIM. the character. The personality. Embedded image in his son. As a guy who has a son and someone says "man! He's your spitting image of you! He walks like you, talks like you...." Jesus was revealing THAT or even a glimpse of Adam and Eve we can only imagine the wholesome UNASHAMED love shared among them. Life first with God is BEAUTIFUL. Though outwardly we age.... It's no big thing. We learned mirrors and cool by the time we were at a certain age.... Before that we KNEW who we had good vibes about.... Who our heart wanted to play with. So adding that to (the innocent heart, but of course maturing wise mind) age is GOLD. Cheer up, my neighbor!!! There are many SINGLE men and women!!! You are not alone! And a friend of mine who had never had relations with a man, married at 63 to a man who became a widower. It is possible. I don't know if she is really happy. You see, because they are older and in this temp world timeline there is tribulation as the apostle Paul said would be in a marriage.... Add aging at the get go.... NEITHER do engage in physical fitness or weights but I think walk. Maybe. It's just she NEVER married until then. She now takes care of him because he is ill. Well, that was last time I saw her without him at a meeting (a nurse was looking in on him) see? I am religious. I used to be an undercover believer but when a SISTER is going through a real thing as you.... I've gotta reach out and say YOU ARE NORMAL!!!! and it's very human of us. Really!! Taking that feeling and in time it WILL turn into dynamic energy. Maybe today when you are free to you gotta read or write out stuff, or just tell our Father.... He knows. You are only 60+ ish ...I'm younger but I know I'll be there. But no matter....I just saw a dancing 86 year old on video. See? This life is SQUAT compared to what we were originally given and it was surrendered in the original garden. May you practice in relationships with people while you are patiently knowing prayers are answered. Meaning this: not in a physical way.... But I'm listening and talking and communicating. I've seen my shortcomings and I don't even know if I'm good to go before my Adam. I'm exasperated less of myself and I can be kinder with me but I'm our minds we gotta get that GOOD so we can be that way to others and spot if someone says something in a critical unkind way. Keeping free from toxic self or others that shouldn't be having too much closeness in friends way. Unequal yoke friendships can't go anywhere worthwhile and usually the glory to God isn't a priority in motive.
Great video, but don't cuss.
Damn right 🙌🏾🌝🙌🏾. Plug 🔌 in the gud
I’m gonna go hell bent
No he doesn't care about me, if he did he would let me get a cardiac arrest in my sleep.
Woww
OMG such trauma. May you heal.