I didn’t have any bridesmaids in my wedding. My one close friend was a bit upset but I just let her know that I didn’t have enough friends to have a group of bridesmaids. Guess what? 4 years later, me and that person aren’t friends anymore! And this got me thinking. Imagine all of those brides who had these large bridal groups, only to not talk to these people years later! They’re in all of your photos, they’re a big part of your wedding video etc. That must be so uncomfortable to look back on that! I’m grateful I didn’t have any bridesmaids. But I still have to look at my wedding video with my ex-friend in it. Oh well, guess you can’t plan for the future.
Thank you for this series! This was such a hit home topic. I don’t know why friends have to be toxic. There is already enough toxicity and drama in a family and friends are supposed to be your escape and happy place and the people you choose to love and support you, not create more drama and problems 😅
I do think it’s weird when friends completely fall off the face of the earth cause they got married. It’s okay to come out sometimes and have a life outside of your husband and in laws. But this did open my eyes up to be a little more “mindful” (loll) about what kind of responsibilities marriage can bring!
Lowkey now i'm scared that I came off toxic when asking abt dresses, I genuinely like seeing them... but most of the brides I've ever asked happily show me them, if they tell me they want it as a surprise, I understand and usually say "I'm sure you'll look beautiful on your day iA!"
Honestly, I hate fazool Karchi (wasting money) and honestly I had a very small wedding I had 80 people from my side and hubby had 20 people max (he’s from Pakistan his family were all there) small weddings are the best ❤
A guy and a girl can absolutely be totally platonic friends but I think it depends on a lot of things. I'll just give my case as an example. (this is gonna be long cause I think its funny) There are a lot of situations where one person isn't being honest about their intentions or emotions. This seems to be the big reason why people are like oh they're just waiting they like you and are too scared to admit it and see if its mutual, and I'm totally sure this is a thing, I've definitely seen it, I've experienced it, I get it. I did not make friends with guys in school, long story short, I just didn't. With exactly ONE(1) exception. We met in a class where he sat in front of me, and next to me was a lonnnnnng time childhood friend who I would spend the entire class talking her ears off about whatever weird interest I had at the time. One day he turned around and asked "what are vocaloids" (the topic of the day). I answered him and he turned back around. For the rest of that class we never really spoke, but sometimes he'd turn around and show me memes on his iphone. We never saw each other outside of class. The next year I had an english class with no friends. Thoe of us loners decided to sit at the back. He wound up sitting in front of me again, and was friendly with my desk neighbor. He continued to occasionally show me memes. We never met outside of class unless it was for an assignment. The next year we had physics together. The first day the teacher asked us to introduce ourselves to someone we didn't know. Being a loner I didn't want to do that. Lo and behold, he sat in front of me with his friend (a girl), thus saving me from groupwork for the rest of the semester. This was our senior year and we had still never spoken outside of class. UNTIL one day he found me in the library during our free period and asked me what I thought about prom. My best friend who was with me immediately left cause she thought he was going to ask me out. I did not think he was going to ask me out because We Were Not Friends Why Would He Do That? He DID NOT ask me to prom, he wanted to ask me whether or not he should ask his friend from our physics class to prom. (He didn't tell me the who at that point but again, I sat behind them, I saw things, I knew). This marked the first point where we went from classmates to friends in my mind. We talked, we discussed, it was awkward, but we bonded. We emailed after graduation, he ghosted me for two years, we reconnected I ignored him for two years (long story not his fault), I explained myself and he was like its cool I get it and now we talk again! Whenever I bring him up to people they think I like him in a crush way, I don't. I never have, I never will. He's one of my best and most reliable friends, he offered to drive one of my friends to get an abortion because I couldnt take her and he knew it mattered to me so much, he helped me reconnect with other high school friends cause it was giving me a panic attack to try by myself. I love him in the most platonic sense possible. Likewise he doesn't see me that way! He got a gf, I was thrilled (she has the cutest cat), I got married and he was super happy for me! Girls and guys can be friends IF they're honest and straightforward from the start and set and respect boundaries. Dude wanted to show me memes, we memed, but if at any point i was uncomfortable with a topic or joke, it stopped. I didnt want to hang out outside of class so he never tried. Even now I don't call or video chat, and I can't meet up with him, and he respects that its different for me.
On the flip side my other friend tries to make friends and every single time im like this guys tryna date you and shes like NO!!! and then spoiler alert! He was tryna date her!!!! And now he won't back off even though she's in a relationship cause she has trouble setting boundaries and they think they can walk all over her!! BLOCK THEM SIS BLOCKKKKK THEMMMMMMM!!!!!
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I didn’t have any bridesmaids in my wedding. My one close friend was a bit upset but I just let her know that I didn’t have enough friends to have a group of bridesmaids. Guess what? 4 years later, me and that person aren’t friends anymore! And this got me thinking. Imagine all of those brides who had these large bridal groups, only to not talk to these people years later! They’re in all of your photos, they’re a big part of your wedding video etc. That must be so uncomfortable to look back on that! I’m grateful I didn’t have any bridesmaids. But I still have to look at my wedding video with my ex-friend in it. Oh well, guess you can’t plan for the future.
So true! It’s very toxic at times
Thank you for this series! This was such a hit home topic. I don’t know why friends have to be toxic. There is already enough toxicity and drama in a family and friends are supposed to be your escape and happy place and the people you choose to love and support you, not create more drama and problems 😅
Thank you for watching and friendship drama is so unnecessary
A great saying is Moms identify fake friends and kids identify fake relatives. Love this conversation!
Oo love that
I do think it’s weird when friends completely fall off the face of the earth cause they got married. It’s okay to come out sometimes and have a life outside of your husband and in laws. But this did open my eyes up to be a little more “mindful” (loll) about what kind of responsibilities marriage can bring!
Major life changes such as marriage can definitely impact friendships, but a good balance is key
Lowkey now i'm scared that I came off toxic when asking abt dresses, I genuinely like seeing them... but most of the brides I've ever asked happily show me them, if they tell me they want it as a surprise, I understand and usually say "I'm sure you'll look beautiful on your day iA!"
Uool jalool 😂 made me laugh so hard
😂
Honestly, I hate fazool Karchi (wasting money) and honestly I had a very small wedding I had 80 people from my side and hubby had 20 people max (he’s from Pakistan his family were all there) small weddings are the best ❤
Hina’s dream wedding😂 small and intimate
I love Hina's opinions .
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Wuhuuu new episode 🩵🩵🩵
A guy and a girl can absolutely be totally platonic friends but I think it depends on a lot of things. I'll just give my case as an example. (this is gonna be long cause I think its funny)
There are a lot of situations where one person isn't being honest about their intentions or emotions. This seems to be the big reason why people are like oh they're just waiting they like you and are too scared to admit it and see if its mutual, and I'm totally sure this is a thing, I've definitely seen it, I've experienced it, I get it.
I did not make friends with guys in school, long story short, I just didn't. With exactly ONE(1) exception.
We met in a class where he sat in front of me, and next to me was a lonnnnnng time childhood friend who I would spend the entire class talking her ears off about whatever weird interest I had at the time. One day he turned around and asked "what are vocaloids" (the topic of the day). I answered him and he turned back around. For the rest of that class we never really spoke, but sometimes he'd turn around and show me memes on his iphone. We never saw each other outside of class.
The next year I had an english class with no friends. Thoe of us loners decided to sit at the back. He wound up sitting in front of me again, and was friendly with my desk neighbor. He continued to occasionally show me memes. We never met outside of class unless it was for an assignment.
The next year we had physics together. The first day the teacher asked us to introduce ourselves to someone we didn't know. Being a loner I didn't want to do that. Lo and behold, he sat in front of me with his friend (a girl), thus saving me from groupwork for the rest of the semester. This was our senior year and we had still never spoken outside of class. UNTIL one day he found me in the library during our free period and asked me what I thought about prom. My best friend who was with me immediately left cause she thought he was going to ask me out. I did not think he was going to ask me out because We Were Not Friends Why Would He Do That? He DID NOT ask me to prom, he wanted to ask me whether or not he should ask his friend from our physics class to prom. (He didn't tell me the who at that point but again, I sat behind them, I saw things, I knew). This marked the first point where we went from classmates to friends in my mind. We talked, we discussed, it was awkward, but we bonded. We emailed after graduation, he ghosted me for two years, we reconnected I ignored him for two years (long story not his fault), I explained myself and he was like its cool I get it and now we talk again!
Whenever I bring him up to people they think I like him in a crush way, I don't. I never have, I never will. He's one of my best and most reliable friends, he offered to drive one of my friends to get an abortion because I couldnt take her and he knew it mattered to me so much, he helped me reconnect with other high school friends cause it was giving me a panic attack to try by myself. I love him in the most platonic sense possible. Likewise he doesn't see me that way! He got a gf, I was thrilled (she has the cutest cat), I got married and he was super happy for me!
Girls and guys can be friends IF they're honest and straightforward from the start and set and respect boundaries. Dude wanted to show me memes, we memed, but if at any point i was uncomfortable with a topic or joke, it stopped. I didnt want to hang out outside of class so he never tried. Even now I don't call or video chat, and I can't meet up with him, and he respects that its different for me.
On the flip side my other friend tries to make friends and every single time im like this guys tryna date you and shes like NO!!! and then spoiler alert! He was tryna date her!!!! And now he won't back off even though she's in a relationship cause she has trouble setting boundaries and they think they can walk all over her!! BLOCK THEM SIS BLOCKKKKK THEMMMMMMM!!!!!
😂 thanks for sharing your story! Open communication is alwaysss key! Love that