Everyone in here, I want to remind you, you can heal from this. It will get better and I am living proof that you can get better. I was there, thinking I will never find myself ever again but I want to reassure you that you do heal if you put the work in. Five months and still healing!
One of my therapist said to me as long as you think you’re going crazy you’re not if you were you wouldn’t be aware of it and that helps me when the dp gets worse
I can assure you that you will get through this, guys!! I had it for some time but really accepting it helped me to feel completely normal again! :) Don‘t be afraid. It will pass.
I’ve suffered from DP/DR chronically for about 11 years. This video is GOLD!! What these people say is truth and the only way out , after years of struggling I NATURALLY implemented all of these tools and got better.
Thank you so much Lindsay! I’ve been searching for some evidence that someone who suffers from this chronically can get better. Been 8 years now. Thank you for giving me some motivation and hope! :)
Glad you have overcome your issues, it does help knowing that other people go through this so your not alone. I've come through it myself but struggling a bit again to be honest. Need to keep strong I suppose, done it b4 can do it again....
Wish I never knew what anxiety was. I was happier as a child running in the rain, jumping in the puddles, gazing up at the stars on a silent night. Now life ain't what it used to be. Those beautiful days are gone. Everyday is a battle.
i havent even watched this yet and i go to the comments. just want to add to the comments here that you are loved, everything is actually okay, and everything WILL be okay. I recovered for a long time, and now its coming back just a tad bit, so i came to this video. "Real life" is achievable and I felt it for a long time. Its just a couple steps away. Never give up gang! My heart seriously goes out to all of you.
It’s pretty amazing how powerful our bodies are. I keep trying to tell myself: “if my body can create this many powerful *negative* symptoms, I know it is capable of producing powerful *positive* symptoms.” I think of it like the Hulk. The Hulk, when caught up in negative emotions (fear, anger), uses his insane strength to destroy everything. But when in the right frame of mind, he is capable of incredible strength. It’s the same with us suffering from DPDR. Our brains are acting like the Hulk just going around smashing things. The problem is not that our brains are too powerful-it’s that we’re using our power in the wrong manner. If you are capable of creating DPDR, you are just as capable of creating so many powerful positive things. It’s all coming from the same source (your brain). By removing fear, you’ll slowly learn to use this powerful brain in amazingly positive manner. Definitely a lot easier said than done. I’m still in the thick of things myself. But I thought I’d at least share something I thought of the other day.
depersonalization and derealization are just FEAR! FIGHT MY PEOPLE! you will overcome it. have faith and return to your body as much as you can you are safe.
What Aida said about losing your sense of self is exactly how I feel two years after having a mental breakdown that gave me the worst panic attacks I'd ever experienced. I felt like I was on the edge of sanity for three months, and although I have improved, I'm still struggling with it. It's awful.
29:10 Feeling relaxed after hearing Aida saying Dpdr comes from the emotional realm and not mental realm and she realizes us that how we question our reality is the biggest sign of our sanity. Lots and lots of love to the dare team members❤
As somebody who has suffered with derealization for over 10 years, I am so grateful for you three to have come together to provide this discussion to all of us. I’ve been having a flare up of derealization these days due to excessive screen time, and you all reassured me and reminded me that I can make peace with these safe sensations. Thank you all so much.
There isn’t enough information on DP/DR/Unreality but it’s getting better. I suffered chronically back in 2017 after a breakdown , transiently in 2018/2019/2020 and now in 2021 I rarely experience it at all. It’s been a long process of acceptance and not caring when in that state but through memory and habit, my mind still goes there because of how traumatic it was when I was really disconnected. When I do feel it now it’s extremely mild to the point where I soon forget about it and just go about my day. Knowledge is everything when it comes to this offshoot sensation from anxiety. Michelle sums it up rather nicely when you experience it.. ‘ok I feel weird right now, oh well... back to what I was doing’ that’s telling you’re brain you aren’t scared, bring it on which of course then lessens and eliminates the feeling. Thanks for highlighting it guys. Keep up the good work and stay safe.
Feeling weird while still carrying on is key and true acceptance but I feel like I’m being stripped away from quality of life. I can’t enjoy my life or experiences fully because I am still thinking about how “weird” I feel in the back of my mind. Just afraid that I’ll never fully be engaged and intact with the world, family and friends again. That’s mentally my biggest obstacle and trying my best to get thru that! 🙏🏽 Release fear! 💯
That's exactly how I feel, the thought of how I once felt normal and content but now at the Bk of my mind will I ever get that Bk. Constantly feeling weird and different in every situation. I think the key is to accept what has happened but its easier said than done. Good luck to you, stay strong....
while feeling like this, its hard to say I genuinely feel less alone after this video, because this has been the most loneliest, most tiring chapter of my life, and im at a point where i feel like nothing and no one is real. but i can genuinely say i do feel a sort of relief, to finally be able to put a label on what I’ve been going through for months, and to now know im not going insane or crazy. i know soon enough one day I’ll feel like myself again, and I’ll continue learning how to cope and accept this part of me. thank you so so much for this video you don’t understand how grateful i am for it.
I can’t believe I’m just seeing this years later! I’m going through depersonalization pretty bad right now due to panic and anxiety attacks but I know it’s all in my head and once I stop thinking about it so much and get the anxiety under control this will fade away on its own. I’ve had it before.
In my experience when I feel that way, it’s important that I remind myself, and you yourself that there are aspects of people and yourself that you are unaware of. You can focus on what separates us, or you can focus on our similarities. Think of all of the genuine proof you have that you are related. That they are your parents. Try not to snowball down Doubt Mounrain when your whole life is proof that you know them and they know you. There will always be parts of others you don’t know. But there’s a part of everyone human you’ll always be connected to: life itself. ❤️
Yes same like I'll just be yalking to them then I'll feel unfamiliar with everything then i freak out but don't know how to tell them with out freaking out even more
Here is something crazy feeling for not havin emotion is also a feeling like u are worryin for not having one. Hope this help u and remember its temporaly they will fade away
I have had this about 5 years ago when I first had my panic attack and everything went downhill from there.... I overcame it and have recently encountered another anxiety driven episode which has triggered another state of Dep and Der...... this is not permanent you will overcome it and be back to normal. this is just another symptom of extreme anxiety.
Whoever sees this, you are not alone. There’s people who feel the exact same way, no matter what it’s caused from. I have had it for a couple months from pointless thoughts, Im scared it won’t go away, but I know if I stay strong and accept it and be patient, it will go away. And it will be worth it. I promise. You might wanna give up, but you will be so happy you didn’t when it’s over. Please keep going and try to accept it and surround yourself with people who love you 💗
I loved this video. Everyone here was just a light of inspiration. If you are going through DRDP just know you are not alone. It will make you stronger as time goes. It is not forever
I can’t thank you guys enough for this video. Yesterday my anxiety convinced me that I was becoming crazy because I couldn’t feel like myself anymore I wanted to scape from my mind. After watching the video everything made sense and today after 2 weeks I can finally feel like myself♥️ I don’t fear it anymore because I know what my brain is going thru and I most importantly I don’t want to scape from my mind 😁
You guys literally described everything to a t. Just hearing this makes it instantly better. That's proof right there that nobody is going crazy lol. The thing is I learned this years ago and kinda forgot when the dr "went away". The intrusive thoughts are what really start scaring you. Then you keep it going knowing exactly what you're doing. I remember thinking oh my God I thought this or that I must be really finally going crazy. All the while knowing I would never act on them. Im currently laughing about all the times I said "well here it finally is. I'm finally losing it" haha.. Thank you guys SO SO SO much!
I just want to say thank you, I’ve been struggling with this for the past 2 months and this is the first thing I’ve read that has actually CALMED ME DOWN. Everything else heightens my anxiety and I was going on tangents about when I’m going to get better? Am I going crazy? Everything you guys addressed has helped me so much. Thank you.
If you say, I’m accepting it, but it’s not going away, you’re not only not accepting it, you’re thinking about it, seeing it as a problem to be solved. Your concern is precisely what causes it to begin with.
I've suffered from this since my early childhood. Had a very disturbing episode today when having to bring my wife to the hospital in the middle of the night. Even though I have been living these experiences all of my life, it is so important to remind yourself of these very realities as to what is actually happening in your mind. This posting today could not have come at a more opportune time. One day, my hope is to share and help others with this devastating condition that has not only afflicted me, but my daughter as well. Thank you all for sharing and your encouragement.
When Aida was talking about her therapist that told her that “she’s not going crazy yet but is on her way”… that pissed me off so bad. This happened to me too. Most therapists are such a joke and actually do more harm than good. I don’t care if you have a phd in psychology from the most prestigious school on earth. If you haven’t experienced what your patients are talking about, and overcome it personally, you’re useless to them.
Dare is helping me so much. I have a much better understanding about anxiety and have so much hope that I will overcome it this time instead of just getting over it, i always pushed the feelings away until they eventually subsided but they always came back because I wasn’t dealing with the issue I was just putting a band aid over it. Anxiety it’s self has never really been my problem it’s always been derealization. I’m so glad Barry understands this because a lot of therapists and doctors don’t acknowledge this symptom of anxiety. A big tip while researching about this ( which we all do!) Focus on the video and ignore the comments. If you read that someone is still suffering you’ll begin to believe that you’ll never overcome this. By implementing the dare response it allowed me to overcome that fear almost immediately and post this comment. You will be okay. WE will be okay. I believe in all of you and I pray for the courage and strength to heal. ❤️
Feels like I'm already dead. Just going through the motions of life without life. Without that passion, that energy, that interest. I also doubt my experiences as being my own. My memories don't feel real. I doubt my parents being mine. Nothing makes sense. Feels like I'm an alien who landed in the middle of this thing called life, I look at trivial and normal things with wonder and get amazed. It's scary.
please please please get therapy, even it doesn’t work it will help you get on the right path the way to overcome any of these symptoms is within your mind, but you might not be able to access it alone
I'm having so many multiple thoughts that shouldn't be scary but I'm reacting to them with anxiety and now I associate these situations with this feeling which is constantly. I get myself upset as I have this constant anxious feeling. I'm going to have to get used to start feeling excited about my feelings.
Same with me. I sometimes think that the concusions I have had and a shock to my brain from an explosion in Viet Nam, long ago, combined to damage my brain. The only medical help i can get is from the Veterans Administration hospitals where they want to tell me it is nothing - just normal symptoms of getting old. Or they want to get me to admit to having suicidal thoughts so they can lock me in the nut ward.
@@danielcunningham5940 I am very sorry, it's sound terrible. Believe me, it doesn't matter what is the reason, you still can get better. There are no answers to all questions, and that's a fact. So please take care of yourself, and accept this part of yourself, you are not alone
Have been using DARE for 3 years now. Gradually got over the fear of DP/DR - which turned into fear of fear - that I suffered from for 50+ years. Hoping that people with my problem will find this now and get their lives back in a much shorter time!
Yes I have this too!!! I have fear of DR itself... I rarely actually feel depersonalized but I get so anxious about it to where I start convincing myself I am.
I thought I was the only long hauler of DP/DR! I’ve had it for 33 years but I finally no longer care and it doesn’t scare me anymore. I still have a mild case of it. You’re right it’s just the fear of fear. Once I stopped following my first fearful thoughts I started slowly getting better. Fearing the fear just exhaust our minds and keep DP/DR going. I haven’t watched this entire video so I don’t know what DARE is? I’ll watch it later
Thankyou Barry for covering the topic of DP and DR which are in my opinion the most disturbing aspect of the anxiety disorder and not really covered much by other therapists. Before reading about it in the DARE materials I did not even know how to describe it so would just say it was a 'numb' spell or the 'invisible' feeling which can just pop out of the blue and for me would trigger panic. Well done guys for your help.
I really want to thank you all for this talk/video. I’ve been dealing with anxiety around existentialism and intrusive thoughts for months, and this really laid out everything in a practical way. I already feel better about these thoughts, and am picking up the book as soon as I’m able. Seriously, thanks again.
Hi Lindsay, I had DP from a traumatic drug event when I was 19. It lasted for years but I did overcome it. I'm now 39 but feel again like I'm going a bit crazy again, but I ain't if that makes sense?? Any advice on Psychosis?
Meditation and chakra healing. This brought me out of having it for over 11 years. These two things will bring down your anxieties/fears and help you find the answers that are within you.
@@maryjezierski5392 lighting definitely effects my derealization. Especially if I come from being out during the nighttime and go into a bright room. My derealization is through the roof then
This video is SO HELPFUL!!! Being someone that has experienced this & being a Counselor, I’m so grateful I came across this & wanted to say THANK YOU!!!!
One of the most important understandings I have had with regards to my anxiety is the feeling of being hypersensitive to my surroundings when very anxious. Things that normally are just passing by, I become much more sensitive to. A room I sit in every day may suddenly feel more enclosed and dreamlike. Suddenly things that were just there take on a much more enchanted meaning. Dream like? Perhaps so......
Dp and Dr are definitely the most disturbing stuff i ever felt. at first i thought that that's it im going crazy, im losing it. Im super glad i found DARE app, really feels like it saved my life. THANK YOU BARRY ❤️
Thanks so much now I can really help my daughter get back on track and understand that all is well with her mental health and she can overcome this now that we both know what this condition is God Blessings to all of you for sharing this information.🙏
I have never ever related so much to somthing all I can say is thank you all 3 of you for describing exactly how it is letting us know we are not evil or crazy
I have been struggling with CPTSD for many years now and have never heard it put like this before, I’m seeing things soooo differently about so many things. I have to go process things now but I feel like I’ve found my home. Thank you all ❤❤
Thank you for this video. I’ve watched so many different videos on TH-cam & I couldn’t connect & absorb what I watched. I saw this video & it brought so much comfort to me on how open & accepting you guys talking about this battle. Thank you
Praying every morning and evening helped me a lot. And visualise yourself in perfect health and happiness 2 times a day, it doesnt have to be long 2 x 5 min is enough. Our mind doesnt know whats real or not, so if you project the visualisaties in your subconcious, your mind believes it and works towards it
Yes its like my body is formless airy or water like very strange but my body became this way after a very strange experience some people call it kundalini awakening.. do you experience your body also like that ?
Have had DR/DP in 14 years, all the time, it never goes away - i had a traumatic childhood and anxiety and DR since then. IT SUCKS but thank you for spreading this information, in sweden where i live no psychologist know about this shit so i havent been in therapy for this
THANK YOU!!! I bought the dare book that was recommended to me by a friend and it's been so incredibly helpful. This video made me feel so seen and gave me incredible hope for my recovery.
I went to therapy when my mom passed away. The high anxiety and grief made me miserable. I felt worse in therapy than I did before going. My therapist encouraged me to get rid of anxiety sensations, thoughts, and sadness. She told me to fight or change my thoughts and fight sensations with distraction when experiencing anxiety. For sadness, she advised positive thinking and affirmations. I spent a lot of money, but all these techniques made me feel worse. I can't describe how bad I felt. One day, I was so fed up that I quit therapy. I started to accept that feeling sad and anxious was normal because I lost my mom. It was normal to feel that way. I didn't do anything special or use any techniques, I just stopped fighting not wanted to be that way. The more you do, the worse you feel. I relate a lot to DARE because I know first-hand that they speak the truth. Accepting and letting it be made me feel better and better. Now im here because I'm applying for jobs and the anxiety is back so i need to remember to not do anything about it. I'm so sick of incompetent therapists!!
This video helped me break down and understand dpdr and intrusive thoughts more than any other video I’ve seen on the subject. It was super helpful so thanks y’all!
I have this 24/7 and it’s awful. While driving while at home while doing nothing , feel it constantly. Also get alot of anger to go with it all - not to mention severe anxiety and panic disorder for 20 years
Finding this video, the first time I have heard of this. Finally, finally I have a way to relate and understand and explain the hell I have had all my life. To know, this is real and now I know why I am WEIRD. And try to explain it better to those I love and have had to tolerate me being around as drama, or disappear for long periods of time the past 30 some odd years. I am crying. ty all!! 💓💗💓💗 I am diagnosed with bipolar/depression/anxiety/ptsd and now have complex motor and vocal tics which are tremendously affected by those disorders. I am very often in DP/DR. Boy does it hurt when I shut down and get discredited by those I love.
watching this feels so awesome, finally someone who understands me!! I have been struggling with the DR for almost 10 yrs now and this is the ONLY WAY to cure, nothing else helps as much as this
Thank you for the video! To be honest what I feel keeps me scared is that the existential thoughts are absolutely valid. We do not know the beginning of the beginning and the meaning of life. But indeed, I can feel that my relationship with the thoughts vary to ok to terrible depending on the day.. so depending how powerful I feel DP/DR. I believe that once I feel connected again to my self and my surroundings (currently outside is a strange world but I go and continue my life anyway) those thoughts will decrease and be definitely less scary. I was never scared of death and now I have irrational fear of life and death and myself. But I am hopeful and convince I will get better by dealing with my emotions and stress properly. I will recover and so will you
Yes, and then I feel guilty thinking that I ruined the great day I just had even though I didn’t mean to cause it, but then I just have to remind myself it’s okay and continue to be more loving and patient with myself everyday
I dont remember why i ever loved the people in my life. Feels like im a copy of me that received instructions how to be me, but doesnt really understand how to actually
I was free for about 6months or so and I was so happy, but I had a really bad panic attack at the start of summer and now my dpdr is back, it really sucks but I know that I have gotten better and I will again
Get the hands dirty, use them as much as you can, paint a picture, build something, sketch something, clean your room, don’t drink tea coffee or anything with caffein, stay drug free. Don’t be a sitting duck waiting for the anxiety to fill up your mind, don’t give it that chance so don’t sit and think and day dream like I always do (starting to cut it out now due to this). The hands 🙌 are a tool for healing get them going. I bought a colouring book yesterday and spent a lot of my time colouring in the pictures when I felt the weird feelings come on and the derealization. Idle hands are a dangerous thing for the mind. Use them as much as you can. This keeps me fairly intact. I honestly think what causes panic is letting the mind go weak and then sit daydreaming and thinking about things. Hope this helps.
I was using DARE incorrectly and this video has cleared it up, I was using it as a tool to push it away, not understanding the 'allow ' part....I do understand better now....helpful discussion
Had constant derealisation for 27 years solid. It has effected my cognitive function. It took drs 21 years to tell me what it was. So the amount of plastic buckets on my head is so intense
I’ve been suffering for over a year and only found out there was a name for it yesterday! I feel like there no point to anything (like getting ready for work) because nothings real.
This was possibly the best informative discussion that truly targeted every aspect of dp and dr i went through!! Thank you so much. Michelle was also wonderful and hilarious
Thank you so much for this video. You just made my month. I've been losing my mind, worse then ever. This hit everything. Thqnk you thank you thank you
this is what i have been suffering... now i will show this video to my doctor nd family that this is what i have been facing for yearx .. amazing video ❤❤
Have had this for many years. What worries me now is that I've actually gotten to a point where I am afraid of these symptoms going away. I've become so used to this being a part of my life that I experience intense anxiety and restlessness when the DP/DR is lifted (which is extremely infrequently and typically only for a day or two before I slip back into the symptoms). Every time it's gone away, it's because I've actively "fought back" against the symptoms, but it's hard to keep that up all the time. Wish I was more motivated to beat this.
I remember my first panic attack, it was 4 hours and the depersonalization/derealization was all that. That was in 2016, in 2020 now I'm basically anxiety/panic attack free...thanks to the DARE technique.
Great video nice to see you guys explaining this horrible topic. Its good to see that your on TH-cam aswell it really helps to watch and understand that we aren't alone i will subscribe and hopefully see more videos.
I’d love to see a video or have someone help me understand the vision issues that comes with this , I started with these symptoms after a few panic attacks and my vision is a big part that keep fuel on the fire in my case , light sensitivity , everything looks glassy and weird , I know my surroundings but feel detached for sure .. hang in there everybody and good luck !
Thank you for helping me understand it. It’s gotten my foot in the door for me and for others. I’m still trying to deal with my anxiety but now I understand my body and mind.
I have this too for 11 months now it started after my second panic attack and I have tension in and around my head a weird movement in my head like my brain is twiching or pulsating in my head my throat is thight constantly.. My sight is blurry and weird
I found my dis-embodiment feeling was a lac of MAGNETISM & FLOW into my body & brain. Causing REAL DETACHMENT between our true self and our reality engine. We are are light. How to re-attache & bring us back, Light inside ? Just Re Magnetize, re do the flow. Breathe intensely, continuously & deeper (as Wim Hof breathing). While you make your reality engine breathing that way, you will re magnetize and re flow deeply. Then Lighty you, can re-enter, re attach, re magnetize & re-circulate then re embodies. Just breathe deep ! : ) RE do electricity thanx to the power of air flow.
Michelle has never experienced dpdr. Its not some cool feeling like your stoned. Its not living. Its just existing and losing who you are. Like barry said its to yiur absolute core. Physical symptoms are easy compared to it. I got over physical symptoms but dpdr has never gone away. Its like its a part of me now. I carry on regardless but it never subsides
to anyone feeling like this, we are real. we are okay. time will heal us all 🤍
Thank you. I’m experiencing this feeling.
Thank u I have this all the time and I’m really scared it won’t go away
how do you know that all of us will heal though.. dont some people never get better..
Everyone in here, I want to remind you, you can heal from this. It will get better and I am living proof that you can get better. I was there, thinking I will never find myself ever again but I want to reassure you that you do heal if you put the work in. Five months and still healing!
Anyway to contact you
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Thank you man
Hi what work are you doing to heal it? I was wondering do you think the Covid Vaccine could be the cause of any of this?
What did you do to get better?
One of my therapist said to me as long as you think you’re going crazy you’re not if you were you wouldn’t be aware of it and that helps me when the dp gets worse
The hard part about this is the lack of information that’s out there,
Honestly TH-cam is a god send.
Thank you guys!
I can assure you that you will get through this, guys!! I had it for some time but really accepting it helped me to feel completely normal again! :)
Don‘t be afraid. It will pass.
I’ve suffered from DP/DR chronically for about 11 years. This video is GOLD!! What these people say is truth and the only way out , after years of struggling I NATURALLY implemented all of these tools and got better.
That is wonderful to hear Lindsay!
Thank you so much Lindsay! I’ve been searching for some evidence that someone who suffers from this chronically can get better. Been 8 years now. Thank you for giving me some motivation and hope! :)
You were able to recover?
Glad you have overcome your issues, it does help knowing that other people go through this so your not alone. I've come through it myself but struggling a bit again to be honest. Need to keep strong I suppose, done it b4 can do it again....
How are you doing now?
Wish I never knew what anxiety was. I was happier as a child running in the rain, jumping in the puddles, gazing up at the stars on a silent night. Now life ain't what it used to be. Those beautiful days are gone. Everyday is a battle.
i havent even watched this yet and i go to the comments. just want to add to the comments here that you are loved, everything is actually okay, and everything WILL be okay.
I recovered for a long time, and now its coming back just a tad bit, so i came to this video. "Real life" is achievable and I felt it for a long time. Its just a couple steps away. Never give up gang! My heart seriously goes out to all of you.
I am so so so scared. I just wish someone could hold me together so I wouldn’t keep falling apart in front of my daughter.
Needed to hear this 🥺
How long did you have it 24:7? You felt back to normal?
It’s pretty amazing how powerful our bodies are. I keep trying to tell myself: “if my body can create this many powerful *negative* symptoms, I know it is capable of producing powerful *positive* symptoms.” I think of it like the Hulk. The Hulk, when caught up in negative emotions (fear, anger), uses his insane strength to destroy everything. But when in the right frame of mind, he is capable of incredible strength. It’s the same with us suffering from DPDR. Our brains are acting like the Hulk just going around smashing things. The problem is not that our brains are too powerful-it’s that we’re using our power in the wrong manner.
If you are capable of creating DPDR, you are just as capable of creating so many powerful positive things. It’s all coming from the same source (your brain). By removing fear, you’ll slowly learn to use this powerful brain in amazingly positive manner. Definitely a lot easier said than done. I’m still in the thick of things myself. But I thought I’d at least share something I thought of the other day.
depersonalization and derealization are just FEAR! FIGHT MY PEOPLE! you will overcome it.
have faith and return to your body as much as you can
you are safe.
What Aida said about losing your sense of self is exactly how I feel two years after having a mental breakdown that gave me the worst panic attacks I'd ever experienced. I felt like I was on the edge of sanity for three months, and although I have improved, I'm still struggling with it. It's awful.
29:10 Feeling relaxed after hearing Aida saying Dpdr comes from the emotional realm and not mental realm and she realizes us that how we question our reality is the biggest sign of our sanity. Lots and lots of love to the dare team members❤
As somebody who has suffered with derealization for over 10 years, I am so grateful for you three to have come together to provide this discussion to all of us. I’ve been having a flare up of derealization these days due to excessive screen time, and you all reassured me and reminded me that I can make peace with these safe sensations. Thank you all so much.
There isn’t enough information on DP/DR/Unreality but it’s getting better. I suffered chronically back in 2017 after a breakdown , transiently in 2018/2019/2020 and now in 2021 I rarely experience it at all. It’s been a long process of acceptance and not caring when in that state but through memory and habit, my mind still goes there because of how traumatic it was when I was really disconnected. When I do feel it now it’s extremely mild to the point where I soon forget about it and just go about my day. Knowledge is everything when it comes to this offshoot sensation from anxiety. Michelle sums it up rather nicely when you experience it.. ‘ok I feel weird right now, oh well... back to what I was doing’ that’s telling you’re brain you aren’t scared, bring it on which of course then lessens and eliminates the feeling. Thanks for highlighting it guys. Keep up the good work and stay safe.
Feeling weird while still carrying on is key and true acceptance but I feel like I’m being stripped away from quality of life. I can’t enjoy my life or experiences fully because I am still thinking about how “weird” I feel in the back of my mind. Just afraid that I’ll never fully be engaged and intact with the world, family and friends again. That’s mentally my biggest obstacle and trying my best to get thru that! 🙏🏽 Release fear! 💯
exactly my life my friend. i hope we get through this.
are you doing better?
That's exactly how I feel, the thought of how I once felt normal and content but now at the Bk of my mind will I ever get that Bk. Constantly feeling weird and different in every situation. I think the key is to accept what has happened but its easier said than done. Good luck to you, stay strong....
while feeling like this, its hard to say I genuinely feel less alone after this video, because this has been the most loneliest, most tiring chapter of my life, and im at a point where i feel like nothing and no one is real. but i can genuinely say i do feel a sort of relief, to finally be able to put a label on what I’ve been going through for months, and to now know im not going insane or crazy. i know soon enough one day I’ll feel like myself again, and I’ll continue learning how to cope and accept this part of me. thank you so so much for this video you don’t understand how grateful i am for it.
I can’t believe I’m just seeing this years later! I’m going through depersonalization pretty bad right now due to panic and anxiety attacks but I know it’s all in my head and once I stop thinking about it so much and get the anxiety under control this will fade away on its own. I’ve had it before.
it’s so scary because sometimes i feel like i don’t know my parents and i feel like i have no emotions anymore
Ohhh yes same here mostly... the not feeling like your family looks or feels familiar and close!
In my experience when I feel that way, it’s important that I remind myself, and you yourself that there are aspects of people and yourself that you are unaware of. You can focus on what separates us, or you can focus on our similarities. Think of all of the genuine proof you have that you are related. That they are your parents. Try not to snowball down Doubt Mounrain when your whole life is proof that you know them and they know you. There will always be parts of others you don’t know. But there’s a part of everyone human you’ll always be connected to: life itself. ❤️
Yes same like I'll just be yalking to them then I'll feel unfamiliar with everything then i freak out but don't know how to tell them with out freaking out even more
Here is something crazy feeling for not havin emotion is also a feeling like u are worryin for not having one.
Hope this help u and remember its temporaly they will fade away
How are you now? I'm getting false emotions while trying to remember my happy times :'( I'm scared of not having my genuine feelings
I have had this about 5 years ago when I first had my panic attack and everything went downhill from there.... I overcame it and have recently encountered another anxiety driven episode which has triggered another state of Dep and Der...... this is not permanent you will overcome it and be back to normal. this is just another symptom of extreme anxiety.
Anyway to contact you? Did you have it 24/7 the first time and recover?
Thank you ❤️
Whoever sees this, you are not alone. There’s people who feel the exact same way, no matter what it’s caused from. I have had it for a couple months from pointless thoughts, Im scared it won’t go away, but I know if I stay strong and accept it and be patient, it will go away. And it will be worth it. I promise. You might wanna give up, but you will be so happy you didn’t when it’s over. Please keep going and try to accept it and surround yourself with people who love you 💗
I loved this video. Everyone here was just a light of inspiration. If you are going through DRDP just know you are not alone. It will make you stronger as time goes. It is not forever
This video should be the gold standard for educating others about dpdr. Thank you guys!
I can’t thank you guys enough for this video. Yesterday my anxiety convinced me that I was becoming crazy because I couldn’t feel like myself anymore I wanted to scape from my mind. After watching the video everything made sense and today after 2 weeks I can finally feel like myself♥️ I don’t fear it anymore because I know what my brain is going thru and I most importantly I don’t want to scape from my mind 😁
You guys literally described everything to a t. Just hearing this makes it instantly better. That's proof right there that nobody is going crazy lol. The thing is I learned this years ago and kinda forgot when the dr "went away". The intrusive thoughts are what really start scaring you. Then you keep it going knowing exactly what you're doing. I remember thinking oh my God I thought this or that I must be really finally going crazy. All the while knowing I would never act on them. Im currently laughing about all the times I said "well here it finally is. I'm finally losing it" haha..
Thank you guys SO SO SO much!
I just want to say thank you, I’ve been struggling with this for the past 2 months and this is the first thing I’ve read that has actually CALMED ME DOWN. Everything else heightens my anxiety and I was going on tangents about when I’m going to get better? Am I going crazy? Everything you guys addressed has helped me so much. Thank you.
If you say, I’m accepting it, but it’s not going away, you’re not only not accepting it, you’re thinking about it, seeing it as a problem to be solved. Your concern is precisely what causes it to begin with.
I've suffered from this since my early childhood. Had a very disturbing episode today when having to bring my wife to the hospital in the middle of the night. Even though I have been living these experiences all of my life, it is so important to remind yourself of these very realities as to what is actually happening in your mind. This posting today could not have come at a more opportune time. One day, my hope is to share and help others with this devastating condition that has not only afflicted me, but my daughter as well. Thank you all for sharing and your encouragement.
When Aida was talking about her therapist that told her that “she’s not going crazy yet but is on her way”… that pissed me off so bad.
This happened to me too. Most therapists are such a joke and actually do more harm than good.
I don’t care if you have a phd in psychology from the most prestigious school on earth. If you haven’t experienced what your patients are talking about, and overcome it personally, you’re useless to them.
Seeing all these amazing comments is heartwarming ❤
I wish that more therapists start using DARE as part of their practice.
Dare is helping me so much. I have a much better understanding about anxiety and have so much hope that I will overcome it this time instead of just getting over it, i always pushed the feelings away until they eventually subsided but they always came back because I wasn’t dealing with the issue I was just putting a band aid over it. Anxiety it’s self has never really been my problem it’s always been derealization. I’m so glad Barry understands this because a lot of therapists and doctors don’t acknowledge this symptom of anxiety. A big tip while researching about this ( which we all do!) Focus on the video and ignore the comments. If you read that someone is still suffering you’ll begin to believe that you’ll never overcome this. By implementing the dare response it allowed me to overcome that fear almost immediately and post this comment. You will be okay. WE will be okay. I believe in all of you and I pray for the courage and strength to heal. ❤️
Thank so much you give much hope ! Did you overcome it yet ?
You have no idea how much this video has helped me! DE/DR and intrusive thoughts I literally told myself I was going crazy
Being in a movie about yourself without a script
Feels like I'm already dead. Just going through the motions of life without life. Without that passion, that energy, that interest. I also doubt my experiences as being my own. My memories don't feel real. I doubt my parents being mine. Nothing makes sense. Feels like I'm an alien who landed in the middle of this thing called life, I look at trivial and normal things with wonder and get amazed. It's scary.
please please please get therapy, even it doesn’t work it will help you get on the right path
the way to overcome any of these symptoms is within your mind, but you might not be able to access it alone
I'm having so many multiple thoughts that shouldn't be scary but I'm reacting to them with anxiety and now I associate these situations with this feeling which is constantly. I get myself upset as I have this constant anxious feeling. I'm going to have to get used to start feeling excited about my feelings.
Same wallah It’s hard.. inshallah it gets better for you.
I can relate. It is terrible experience
I'm not scared of going crazy. I'm scared there's something physically wrong with my brain making me feel this way.
Yesss me tooo r u ok now??
@@sarinapdl2821 Same lol
Samee
Same with me. I sometimes think that the concusions I have had and a shock to my brain from an explosion in Viet Nam, long ago, combined to damage my brain.
The only medical help i can get is from the Veterans Administration hospitals where they want to tell me it is nothing - just normal symptoms of getting old. Or they want to get me to admit to having suicidal thoughts so they can lock me in the nut ward.
@@danielcunningham5940 I am very sorry, it's sound terrible. Believe me, it doesn't matter what is the reason, you still can get better. There are no answers to all questions, and that's a fact. So please take care of yourself, and accept this part of yourself, you are not alone
Have been using DARE for 3 years now. Gradually got over the fear of DP/DR - which turned into fear of fear - that I suffered from for 50+ years. Hoping that people with my problem will find this now and get their lives back in a much shorter time!
How’d you get over that fear?
how did you recover?
Yes I have this too!!! I have fear of DR itself... I rarely actually feel depersonalized but I get so anxious about it to where I start convincing myself I am.
I thought I was the only long hauler of DP/DR! I’ve had it for 33 years but I finally no longer care and it doesn’t scare me anymore. I still have a mild case of it. You’re right it’s just the fear of fear. Once I stopped following my first fearful thoughts I started slowly getting better. Fearing the fear just exhaust our minds and keep DP/DR going. I haven’t watched this entire video so I don’t know what DARE is? I’ll watch it later
@@defender7624 what do you mean you had it for that long omg and 24/7 this scares me so much
Thankyou Barry for covering the topic of DP and DR which are in my opinion the most disturbing aspect of the anxiety disorder and not really covered much by other therapists. Before reading about it in the DARE materials I did not even know how to describe it so would just say it was a 'numb' spell or the 'invisible' feeling which can just pop out of the blue and for me would trigger panic. Well done guys for your help.
I really want to thank you all for this talk/video. I’ve been dealing with anxiety around existentialism and intrusive thoughts for months, and this really laid out everything in a practical way. I already feel better about these thoughts, and am picking up the book as soon as I’m able. Seriously, thanks again.
People who are truly crazy are blissfully unaware of how crazy they are. At times I wished for true psychosis. I wanted the break.
Hi Lindsay, I had DP from a traumatic drug event when I was 19. It lasted for years but I did overcome it. I'm now 39 but feel again like I'm going a bit crazy again, but I ain't if that makes sense?? Any advice on Psychosis?
Meditation and chakra healing. This brought me out of having it for over 11 years. These two things will bring down your anxieties/fears and help you find the answers that are within you.
Does anyone get these weird feelings when walking around stores?
Yes! I used to attribute the these feelings to the lighting. Have you experienced headaches afterwards?
@@maryjezierski5392 lighting definitely effects my derealization. Especially if I come from being out during the nighttime and go into a bright room. My derealization is through the roof then
@@maryjezierski5392 fluorescent lighting has definitely been linked to anxiety! That was one of the first triggers I noticed!
@@moonmama95 same here, I had fluorescent lights at my work place and physically couldn’t stay in the building.
all the time
This video is SO HELPFUL!!! Being someone that has experienced this & being a Counselor, I’m so grateful I came across this & wanted to say THANK YOU!!!!
One of the most important understandings I have had with regards to my anxiety is the feeling of being hypersensitive to my surroundings when very anxious. Things that normally are just passing by, I become much more sensitive to. A room I sit in every day may suddenly feel more enclosed and dreamlike. Suddenly things that were just there take on a much more enchanted meaning. Dream like? Perhaps so......
Exactly
Yes, me too! Sometimes my home feels unfamiliar to me :(
@@vivi-uz7qq this happened to me about two weeks ago....so unpleasant.
Wow you just described exatly what I am going through. I am so sensitive to the sounds and start to focus on it and would trip out
1000% same. It’s like being in a constant state of hypervigilence
Dp and Dr are definitely the most disturbing stuff i ever felt. at first i thought that that's it im going crazy, im losing it. Im super glad i found DARE app, really feels like it saved my life. THANK YOU BARRY ❤️
You all are SPOT ON! You are explaining this exactly right. Our thoughts are not always truth. We believe they are.
Thanks so much now I can really help my daughter get back on track and understand that all is well with her mental health and she can overcome this now that we both know what this condition is God Blessings to all of you for sharing this information.🙏
Amazing content. Fully recovered 🙏
It went away overtime? If so how long it took?
tell us how pls
As someone else who has overcome this disorder, it took me a few years. However everything in this video would have helped solve it so much faster.
What helped you ?
@@thc7865 took me 3 years overtime u just stop caring and just go on with your life
Michelle is absolutely AMAZING. Been dealing with derealization since April.
I've been going since about May. Stay strong!
How you feeling now? for me it comes and goes
Do you guys have ocd too?
did u improve?
Usually comment sections are just full of trolling and joking but this comment section is pure gold 💛
I have never ever related so much to somthing all I can say is thank you all 3 of you for describing exactly how it is letting us know we are not evil or crazy
I have been struggling with CPTSD for many years now and have never heard it put like this before, I’m seeing things soooo differently about so many things. I have to go process things now but I feel like I’ve found my home. Thank you all ❤❤
Thank you for this video. I’ve watched so many different videos on TH-cam & I couldn’t connect & absorb what I watched. I saw this video & it brought so much comfort to me on how open & accepting you guys talking about this battle. Thank you
Michelle's last "what if this last forever?" Is spot on. I feel this all too often.
Praying every morning and evening helped me a lot. And visualise yourself in perfect health and happiness 2 times a day, it doesnt have to be long 2 x 5 min is enough. Our mind doesnt know whats real or not, so if you project the visualisaties in your subconcious, your mind believes it and works towards it
Amazing video! This is my biggest and most bothersome symptom! So helpful 🙌🏼
I am with you!
I am also right with you!
Same
same 😭
Did anyone with depersonalization deal with the airy or empty body sensation
Yes its like my body is formless airy or water like very strange but my body became this way after a very strange experience some people call it kundalini awakening.. do you experience your body also like that ?
Yes sometimes it feels like my body is already dead and shapeless somehow. Very terrifying but you're not alone.
Yes. If anyone has tips on overcoming this please share. This is my only symptom of dp
Have had DR/DP in 14 years, all the time, it never goes away - i had a traumatic childhood and anxiety and DR since then. IT SUCKS but thank you for spreading this information, in sweden where i live no psychologist know about this shit so i havent been in therapy for this
THANK YOU!!! I bought the dare book that was recommended to me by a friend and it's been so incredibly helpful. This video made me feel so seen and gave me incredible hope for my recovery.
Anyone suffering from blurry or dull vision.
yess
try too get a your eyes checked too! mine got better when i got glasses
@@UniquelyMadeDaugter yes me to.. I have dp really bad 24/7..and my vision has gotten worse as the dp does
Yes. And it's not even in the eyes. It feels like my mind's blurry.
Yess here!
I went to therapy when my mom passed away. The high anxiety and grief made me miserable. I felt worse in therapy than I did before going. My therapist encouraged me to get rid of anxiety sensations, thoughts, and sadness. She told me to fight or change my thoughts and fight sensations with distraction when experiencing anxiety. For sadness, she advised positive thinking and affirmations. I spent a lot of money, but all these techniques made me feel worse. I can't describe how bad I felt.
One day, I was so fed up that I quit therapy. I started to accept that feeling sad and anxious was normal because I lost my mom. It was normal to feel that way. I didn't do anything special or use any techniques, I just stopped fighting not wanted to be that way. The more you do, the worse you feel. I relate a lot to DARE because I know first-hand that they speak the truth. Accepting and letting it be made me feel better and better. Now im here because I'm applying for jobs and the anxiety is back so i need to remember to not do anything about it. I'm so sick of incompetent therapists!!
I struggle with the accept and allow. My words say it, but my body finds it hard to go into spaghetti mode.
I’m grateful I found this video, thank you to the Reddit user and thank you for this video.
This video is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much!
What a great video, you guys are the best!
This video helped me break down and understand dpdr and intrusive thoughts more than any other video I’ve seen on the subject. It was super helpful so thanks y’all!
I have this 24/7 and it’s awful. While driving while at home while doing nothing , feel it constantly. Also get alot of anger to go with it all - not to mention severe anxiety and panic disorder for 20 years
Finding this video, the first time I have heard of this. Finally, finally I have a way to relate and understand and explain the hell I have had all my life. To know, this is real and now I know why I am WEIRD. And try to explain it better to those I love and have had to tolerate me being around as drama, or disappear for long periods of time the past 30 some odd years. I am crying. ty all!! 💓💗💓💗
I am diagnosed with bipolar/depression/anxiety/ptsd and now have complex motor and vocal tics which are tremendously affected by those disorders. I am very often in DP/DR. Boy does it hurt when I shut down and get discredited by those I love.
watching this feels so awesome, finally someone who understands me!! I have been struggling with the DR for almost 10 yrs now and this is the ONLY WAY to cure, nothing else helps as much as this
Michelle is hilarious, such a character. Love her.
Thank you for the video! To be honest what I feel keeps me scared is that the existential thoughts are absolutely valid. We do not know the beginning of the beginning and the meaning of life. But indeed, I can feel that my relationship with the thoughts vary to ok to terrible depending on the day.. so depending how powerful I feel DP/DR. I believe that once I feel connected again to my self and my surroundings (currently outside is a strange world but I go and continue my life anyway) those thoughts will decrease and be definitely less scary. I was never scared of death and now I have irrational fear of life and death and myself. But I am hopeful and convince I will get better by dealing with my emotions and stress properly. I will recover and so will you
Life savers. This amazing! Great video!
The problem is it’s very difficult to do things like go to a store or go to someone’s house when your feeling the DP or DR, VERY difficult!
You have no clue how much this video has helped me.
i'm on my journey to combat derealization disorder...aghh it's tough but i will try those techniques you have mentioned in the video
It can make you so upset after having a really good day. Has anyone else experienced this.
Yes, and then I feel guilty thinking that I ruined the great day I just had even though I didn’t mean to cause it, but then I just have to remind myself it’s okay and continue to be more loving and patient with myself everyday
I dont remember why i ever loved the people in my life. Feels like im a copy of me that received instructions how to be me, but doesnt really understand how to actually
Brilliant way to describe it
So true. Rarely you find an accurate description of this thing and this is really close.
That’s was really good
It feels like you're born today and you try to make sense of the world like an adult. Which is far more difficult than when we were kids
Also, why did you get dp? Weed?
at 15:00 as she says ‘that’s weird’ helped me a lot as i’ve been fighting back for 8 hours straight… saving this video as a real tool, thank you
i meant, ‘i can feel weird’
I was free for about 6months or so and I was so happy, but I had a really bad panic attack at the start of summer and now my dpdr is back, it really sucks but I know that I have gotten better and I will again
Get the hands dirty, use them as much as you can, paint a picture, build something, sketch something, clean your room, don’t drink tea coffee or anything with caffein, stay drug free. Don’t be a sitting duck waiting for the anxiety to fill up your mind, don’t give it that chance so don’t sit and think and day dream like I always do (starting to cut it out now due to this). The hands 🙌 are a tool for healing get them going. I bought a colouring book yesterday and spent a lot of my time colouring in the pictures when I felt the weird feelings come on and the derealization. Idle hands are a dangerous thing for the mind. Use them as much as you can. This keeps me fairly intact. I honestly think what causes panic is letting the mind go weak and then sit daydreaming and thinking about things. Hope this helps.
I was using DARE incorrectly and this video has cleared it up, I was using it as a tool to push it away, not understanding the 'allow ' part....I do understand better now....helpful discussion
Had constant derealisation for 27 years solid. It has effected my cognitive function. It took drs 21 years to tell me what it was. So the amount of plastic buckets on my head is so intense
Aida I desperately hope you got a new therapist. What a terrible thing to say! Thank you all for this content
I’ve been suffering for over a year and only found out there was a name for it yesterday! I feel like there no point to anything (like getting ready for work) because nothings real.
This was possibly the best informative discussion that truly targeted every aspect of dp and dr i went through!! Thank you so much. Michelle was also wonderful and hilarious
Thank you so much for this video. You just made my month. I've been losing my mind, worse then ever. This hit everything. Thqnk you thank you thank you
this is what i have been suffering... now i will show this video to my doctor nd family that this is what i have been facing for yearx ..
amazing video ❤❤
Have had this for many years. What worries me now is that I've actually gotten to a point where I am afraid of these symptoms going away. I've become so used to this being a part of my life that I experience intense anxiety and restlessness when the DP/DR is lifted (which is extremely infrequently and typically only for a day or two before I slip back into the symptoms). Every time it's gone away, it's because I've actively "fought back" against the symptoms, but it's hard to keep that up all the time. Wish I was more motivated to beat this.
omg . i finally feel heard and not alone , thank you
u guys have helped me so much. i can’t explain how helpful this video is thank u so much
I remember my first panic attack, it was 4 hours and the depersonalization/derealization was all that.
That was in 2016, in 2020 now I'm basically anxiety/panic attack free...thanks to the DARE technique.
What about dpdr ?
@@thc7865 haven't had any in 2019/2020.
What is dare technique
How do I follow what you did to recover?
@@mickyhouse8753 they explain it in the video but there's also a book and app for it
Great video nice to see you guys explaining this horrible topic. Its good to see that your on TH-cam aswell it really helps to watch and understand that we aren't alone i will subscribe and hopefully see more videos.
did anything change
I’d love to see a video or have someone help me understand the vision issues that comes with this , I started with these symptoms after a few panic attacks and my vision is a big part that keep fuel on the fire in my case , light sensitivity , everything looks glassy and weird , I know my surroundings but feel detached for sure .. hang in there everybody and good luck !
i'm happy i'm not alone in this
Thank you for helping me understand it. It’s gotten my foot in the door for me and for others. I’m still trying to deal with my anxiety but now I understand my body and mind.
I have this too for 11 months now it started after my second panic attack and I have tension in and around my head a weird movement in my head like my brain is twiching or pulsating in my head my throat is thight constantly.. My sight is blurry and weird
I also feel this too, how are you doing now?
Sight is very blurry and foggy and everything is weird.light sensitivity and blurryness is killing me..!
I feel 1000% the same
And me
I found my dis-embodiment feeling was a lac of MAGNETISM & FLOW into my body & brain.
Causing REAL DETACHMENT between our true self and our reality engine. We are are light.
How to re-attache & bring us back, Light inside ? Just Re Magnetize, re do the flow.
Breathe intensely, continuously & deeper (as Wim Hof breathing).
While you make your reality engine breathing that way, you will re magnetize and re flow deeply.
Then Lighty you, can re-enter, re attach, re magnetize & re-circulate then re embodies. Just breathe deep ! : ) RE do electricity thanx to the power of air flow.
Michelle has never experienced dpdr. Its not some cool feeling like your stoned. Its not living. Its just existing and losing who you are. Like barry said its to yiur absolute core. Physical symptoms are easy compared to it. I got over physical symptoms but dpdr has never gone away. Its like its a part of me now. I carry on regardless but it never subsides
how long has it been ?
@@Genevievesedd two years
yeah everyone feels like that dude you just have to accept it and get used to it until it goes away
Theres a guy name Shaan Kassam on youtube and he said that this is a common thing that people experience. I would check him out!
I really enjoyed this video (:
All three of you brought a warmth, sincerity and playfulness to the philosophy of dp/dr
Thanks so much
I cant wait to get my copy of DARE...Currently in a loop and using the helpful videos in the meantime....
YOU NAILED IT GUYS. explained everything I feel.
So wonderfully explained.....can relate so much......thanks to you all for putting this in youtube