After my divorce nine years ago, I've learned to love myself and I'm most important in my life. If I am not well, I will be no good to anyone. So, I gave away way too much of myself to a life that did not love me back. My two children are the greatest gifts!
1. Doing It All 2. Worrying About Things I Cannot Control 3. Buying Problems 4. Volunteering Out Of Guilt 5. Stop Talking Negatively Towards Myself 6. 'Don't Should On Yourself' Said My Friend Once 7. People Pleasing 8. Overthinking 9. Neglecting Parts Of My Soul Care 10. Negative Energy (Toxic People) 11. External Noise 12. Stop Grabbing My Phone (First Thing In The Morning) 13. Overworking
Great but I would highly recommend everyone watch the video! Everything she said I’ve also stopped doing over the past 1-2 years and my well-being and relationship with God has never been better 😊
I LOVE this video !!!! Thank you ❤ It is ok to do less and take the pressure off ourselves! As a Christian wife it's so refreshing to hear you say it's ok to not have to constantly pour from an empty cup and to put energy towards myself. Its not selfish it's very important and God doesn't want us to feel burned out. ❤
I am a 50 year old male, and have just come to the same realisations as you, especially when it comes to serving in the church. I was trying to do an internship and my blood pressure was through the roof. since taking a step back from ministry and slowing down my health is returning to normal.
Hi I was doing the same I am 54 and was new to a church, made a year this month. but in the very beginning I was volunteering constantly to all the different ministries and became sick a few times and very tired from dong too much , and giving up my gym workouts as well..so I had to pray on it and I stepped back a bit and put back the things I was doing for my health and also rest and now I have a better balanced life. God Bless
I've found at church when ask to be in charge they don't mean it. They want me to do what they want. After several attempts I don't do anything. Like certain peoples ideas are exceptional and others idea's although good can't be used. No thank you.
Jesus give me strength. As a single mom and it is hard to have everything on my shoulders. Especially because both of my sons are special needs but despite the challenges I face it’s only because of GOD I MADE IT THIS FAR. I keep faith even as I struggle to pay rent and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. Faith over fear. I love you Lord.💕❤️
There are so many things that resonated with me… this one really stands out… “ when we are compassionate towards ourselves, we are agreeing with Jesus that we deserve compassion”
“I am not divine”-this is a great point to help me put my limits back in perspective. I am actually ok with not having to hold the weight of the world-thank you Lord for being the one in control.
I had a nun teacher once that said, make sure your life is in order before you volunteer for anything else. I have a friend whose home, is a shambles, she is always volunteering. I always remember what that nun told us.
@@jomandy5688 Exactly. I like a neat and clean home, but that is not more important than using my time to help others. I will choose to spend my time volunteering over worrying about a clean house. In the end, I think my volunteer time will be something that glorifies God more than a perfectly clean house.
I literally felt like you have spoken of my journey in the past 3 months. All these things are what the Lord has woken me up too. I am more" ALERT to WHO I AM AND WHAT I FEEL" So crazy to think we dont do that daily when we are flooded by emotions. But to sit back and use discernment with every thought is so powerful ❤
So much goodness in this!! I had to watch it twice in a row. And saved it to hear again. There is so much...its like layers and layers of wisdom here. The one thing that hit me square between the eyes was "I am not divine." Im not sure at what point in life i adopted that notion...but i needed to hear that. A big wake up call in that statement. Thank you for making this video. God bless you and your family.
I didn’t realize how much God has changed my habits until I saw this list. Everyday we get to decide how our day will go and for that I am grateful. I’m still working through number 7 and trying not to get sucked into scrolling (at any time in the day) but when I struggle I know I can lean on God and He never fails ❤
I really appreciate this video! I am currently struggling with overthinking/worrying, people pleasing, and dealing with a negative person (a parent). I really appreciated your perspective on limits and people pleasing. So insightful.
Sister MDM: you just EARNED yourself another subscriber. 🎉 This was the most thoughtful, valuable TH-cam video I’ve seen in quite some time! 🙏 I’m so grateful that you’re listening to what God is telling you to do in your life. Keep going! And please - let me know what I can do to help spread the good news about your work.
Often times the sooner you learn these lessons the better. It's a challenge sometimes, but you certainly have put a lot of this into perspective. Glad to see you're doing well.
Right now I am in this process of change and this video came as a prompt or a message from God to know what I have to do. I have to let go of all that you have exposed in this vlog. God help me and everyone who has decided to make this major change in their lives. God bless you richly 🙏
All so good… but started to feel overwhelmed with all the great “ to do’s).. then I realized “ only take on one or two of these suggestions at a time! Being a “ doer” personality can pour over into the “ undoing”! Ty for these videos🤩
Wow, it feels like you’ve read my story 🥹 Thank you for the content and sharing your journey. I will be more intentional to slow down and do the things that matter most 🙏🏻 Looking forward to similar topics
Loved your perspective! Thank you for making such a helpful video! As the wife of a pastor I can relate to all of these! ❤ So helpful to know I'm not alone ☺️ God is definitely not done refining me. I've learned that sometimes God brings situations or people into our lives to pray over and they may never change but it sharpens us. Thank God He doesn't want to leave us as we are, but the best version of ourselves 😊
Oh, I’m so glad it was a helpful video! I totally agree. God brings his divine appointments all the time and we can move with his spirit to Will and work for his purposes! Bless you being a pastor’s wife I imagine has a ton of growth, opportunities! Pray you feel presence and peace :)
This is so good. I actually saved this and intend to watch it many times. I'm going to create my own list of things I need to subtract from my life to get closer to the lord. Thank you so much for this great podcast
Wow I have to say thank you again!! Everything I’ve been struggling with this week was addressed in the video :) I now understand why I may have been feeling the way I’ve been feeling :) thank you
Hi Maryl, Thank you so much for making this video. As I am working towards adjusting my life to grow closer to God, this video has given me the confirmation I needed to cut back guilt free, keeping in mind what I gain by cutting back. MAY God bless you !
God has shown me to subtract a lot in every area of my life. He has taught me it’s more than decluttering for mental freedom, he also showed me to apply that in all areas of my life so relationships business, literally everything less is more, life is more free
Most resonated with me. Now I have a slow and quiet life. My prayer life revolves on The Practice of the Presence of God (it's also a book), pray from the heart wherever and whenever and recently kept track of my prayers by using A Prayer and Devotional Journal, and some of them have already been granted, one of them in one day's time as if a miracle. Thank you for your efforts and devotion to your You Tube channel. You deserve a million subscribers!
Everything that you said 👏🏾. When we make room in our lives, the more we will know God. Too much of everything isn’t good. We must let go and let God. Contentment is also found in Christ. We must find balance in being and doing. God wants us to stay connected to Him. Thank you for sharing 😊
Thank you! I appreciate the platform God has placed you. I’m 58 and there were a few of the 13 topics that made me say “ouch” and that’s a good thing! God bless and keep you in his care! BTW I just subscribed!
Those last few points reminded me of that most insightful quote from Edward O. Wilson - "We have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology. And it is terrifically dangerous, and it is now approaching a point of crisis overall."
Growing up in a very controlled home and trying to be a peacemaker I carried those habits into adulthood I’m so glad that God and my husband have helped me learn that some things are beyond my control and it has been so freeing ❤
I’ve been on a journey of subtraction since God brought me to a point where I had to eliminate due to my health. He made me aware of my choices and poured so much love into to my life.
I just discovered your channel! I am so glad I did 🎉Know that this really affirmed and encouraged me in some things God has been guiding me in. Your many many hours of work on this beautiful video have been so worth it - thank you for your obedience and hard work! 😊
I've been feeling such a detachment and a letting go of everything that you mentioned here. I haven't really been able to put it into words. But you said it perfectly. And I feel that shift and I don't feel they need to apologize for it to anyone. I feel this is what God wants.
Wonderful video full of great information and advice, and I also sent it to my daughter who goes full speed all the time and is very anxious all the time. Feedback for you from me would be to slow down a little on the video so I can follow you….you talk really fast!
Wow! Great awareness! I stoped caring. In a good way of course. Practicing detachment and quitting all the adjustments I would make allows focus, clarity, strength, patience and perseverance. Far from being perfect ( don’t want it either). Unless it’s perfect LOVE. Great video. I bet your husband loves you. Be blessed
Lots of good suggestions about simplifying and adding value- I liked especially asking God how does He wants us to respond- and the one about rumination could be due to avoiding emotions.
Stop volunteering is the one I decided to let go because, like you said, I want to keep my energy and volunteering was not providing that to me anymore.
I really needed this. Coming from a works based mentality its was really eye opening to watch this. We cant do more or add more to the finished work of the cross
Thanks for sharing this video. One small suggestion please, leave the bullet points on the screen throughout the discussion of said bullet point. I had to go back a few times to remember what the bullet points were exactly as you were talking so I could retain it better. Thanks
Thank you for this. I feel like I want to do it all and I attempt to and then burn out. Then the cycle starts over again. Now I’m going to try doing less.
Be grateful that you could do a lot of things. The quote is actually right, but you just need to read into it a little bit more. Jack of all trades a master of none is more often times better than the master of one. It’s a blessing to be able to do multiple things.
I have a keep your eye on the prize way to think of God. I noticed getting rid of things we idolize is a fantastic way to be closer to God. From the model cars I used to keep on shelves from family photos. Everything. No idols at all! I love my family and do everything I can to love them and help them and honor them. Everything!! But I don’t require idolizing them with pictures around my house. I am closer to them without those pictures around if you can imagine that.
Really good. I did a double take when she said "don't should on yourself" and quickly walked back over to the laptop to see if she said the other word. 👀😄
Thoughtful lists like this inadvertently cause our soul to double down on operating towards Jesus, rather than from the resurrected Life of Christ Jesus within us. Yes, such practices are a reflection of choosing to abide in His ways, and to aid our soul in dying to its insufferable devotion to preserve self, but the transformative Life nonetheless can only come from Christ within the Christian. If we can train our soul to look only at Jesus, then, God willing, the Holy Spirit is allowed to graft His Resurrected Life unto our soul life. The wise habits of lists like this then become Fruit of the Vine, so to speak, and not of the branch. Thank you for the room to share. - Shalom
Thank you for sharing! I imagine they can! It’s also a organize information so that you’re mine can take in retraining. Every soul is different. Be blessed.
@@maryldemilo I'd be remiss in not replying :) I agree with you that every soul is different, and that lists as such are typically beneficial. I was speaking to the notion of the soul's "salvation" (liberation) as a matter of exchanging our soulish life, for His Resurrected Life within us; something that the exclusively unique soul of every human being is called to come into the bridal-ing submission to (union with). Anyways, you are the teacher on this channel, and I do respect that :) Shalom
@@MJ-kd7dp I hear what you’re saying! But having the heart open before they can even recognize, Christ is the first step. You can be religious all day long and try to do everything right until you clear things out of your way you are not going to take on reality. I come about this through the process of spiritual formation. Some people start with creeds. Theology. The right dogmas.. however I believe God can meet people where they’re at, so I am so grateful that you wanted to share. I also don’t find anything wrong with the way, I presented this information in terms of it structure. If there are content, that is unhelpful, please let me know so that I can continue to share from the truth of my own experience and pray it blesses someone else! The Holy Spirit is responsible for revealing Christ! And I hope we continue to look for him in everything we do, whether it’s simplifying our lives to orienting ourselves to the holy mystery that is revealing himself through the spirit moment by moment.
I am so glad. I enjoy using my energy the way is comes out. So I will pass on this advice. Feel free to use the gear icon to make it .75 speed! Bless you!
@@dianneaustin7769 of course! I totally understand! It’s something I’ve been doing my whole life and while I’ve definitely slowed down I’m also just embracing that that’s how I show up. It would take me out of being authentic maybe 10 years from now version of me can do that lol On the bottom right there is a gear and you can adjust playback speed! :)
I’ve been having problems with letting go 2 things: like clothing and fashion but finally I just realized that I just need seasonal proper clothing like wool and linen and 2 my playlist , I Iam a believer but I want to get more closer to GOD, I definitely like rock music and it’s been a journey for me to let go it I still like secular clean songs but I’m trying to find worship Christian rock songs that may I will feel comfortable with it ! Thanks !
I too criticize and judge myself horribly, and it doesn’t allow me to even except God’s love or the love of others because I’m constantly finding fault it’s brutal and I don’t know how to stop it
What have you quit in order to invest more energy into your life with God and others?
After my divorce nine years ago, I've learned to love myself and I'm most important in my life. If I am not well, I will be no good to anyone. So, I gave away way too much of myself to a life that did not love me back. My two children are the greatest gifts!
worly stuff made me miserable but being close to Jesus brings peace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@That1grI Great!
Social media 😊
1. Doing It All
2. Worrying About Things I Cannot Control
3. Buying Problems
4. Volunteering Out Of Guilt
5. Stop Talking Negatively Towards Myself
6. 'Don't Should On Yourself' Said My Friend Once
7. People Pleasing
8. Overthinking
9. Neglecting Parts Of My Soul Care
10. Negative Energy (Toxic People)
11. External Noise
12. Stop Grabbing My Phone (First Thing In The Morning)
13. Overworking
Thank you so much!!!!!
@@mushroombird9400 no problem! Was bugging me.
Thanks! 😊
Great but I would highly recommend everyone watch the video! Everything she said I’ve also stopped doing over the past 1-2 years and my well-being and relationship with God has never been better 😊
@@GGGirl55 yes of course. Great information in there that isn't captured in just the topics
I pray more and worry less. My dog says, “Wag more and bark less!”
I’m a new subscriber 🌟
lol welcome
@@maryldemilo Thank you, honey💜
I LOVE this video !!!! Thank you ❤ It is ok to do less and take the pressure off ourselves! As a Christian wife it's so refreshing to hear you say it's ok to not have to constantly pour from an empty cup and to put energy towards myself. Its not selfish it's very important and God doesn't want us to feel burned out. ❤
Yes! so true. My cup runs over! Thats my motto..! I wholeheartedly agree that burnout is not God's desire for us.
I am a 50 year old male, and have just come to the same realisations as you, especially when it comes to serving in the church. I was trying to do an internship and my blood pressure was through the roof. since taking a step back from ministry and slowing down my health is returning to normal.
Hi I was doing the same I am 54 and was new to a church, made a year this month. but in the very beginning I was volunteering constantly to all the different ministries and became sick a few times and very tired from dong too much , and giving up my gym workouts as well..so I had to pray on it and I stepped back a bit and put back the things I was doing for my health and also rest and now I have a better balanced life. God Bless
That’s good to hear
I've found at church when ask to be in charge they don't mean it. They want me to do what they want. After several attempts I don't do anything. Like certain peoples ideas are exceptional and others idea's although good can't be used. No thank you.
When things don't add up, subtract them. Less is more. Elevation requires separation.
Yes
That takes the cake!
Jesus give me strength. As a single mom and it is hard to have everything on my shoulders. Especially because both of my sons are special needs but despite the challenges I face it’s only because of GOD I MADE IT THIS FAR. I keep faith even as I struggle to pay rent and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. Faith over fear. I love you Lord.💕❤️
Oh that’s so hard! Praying for you!
There are so many things that resonated with me… this one really stands out…
“ when we are compassionate towards ourselves, we are agreeing with Jesus that we deserve compassion”
Aw that’s a good one
“I am not divine”-this is a great point to help me put my limits back in perspective. I am actually ok with not having to hold the weight of the world-thank you Lord for being the one in control.
That’s beautiful
I had a nun teacher once that said, make sure your life is in order before you volunteer for anything else. I have a friend whose home, is a shambles, she is always volunteering. I always remember what that nun told us.
Ha thats great!
Depends what you mean by a shambles. Could be that it really isn’t important to her and volunteering fills her soul
@@jomandy5688 Exactly. I like a neat and clean home, but that is not more important than using my time to help others. I will choose to spend my time volunteering over worrying about a clean house. In the end, I think my volunteer time will be something that glorifies God more than a perfectly clean house.
Yes, God is a God of “ order”. He wants our own heart posture to be right with Him- not for us to run around like we are “ God’s little helper”.
@@BookmarkthisLPR he’s the god of a lot of things! Order is one of them. He’s also mystery so there’s some chaos for us in that regard lol
Just because “I can do it” doesn’t mean I am the one who has to do it!! A good word for me today!
Thank you. Looking at the words helps to better retain it. God bless. 🌞
Yes!
I literally felt like you have spoken of my journey in the past 3 months. All these things are what the Lord has woken me up too. I am more" ALERT to WHO I AM AND WHAT I FEEL" So crazy to think we dont do that daily when we are flooded by emotions. But to sit back and use discernment with every thought is so powerful ❤
I am so glad that it resonated that encourages me too! I get that!
Thank you. God bless you all
So much goodness in this!! I had to watch it twice in a row. And saved it to hear again. There is so much...its like layers and layers of wisdom here. The one thing that hit me square between the eyes was "I am not divine." Im not sure at what point in life i adopted that notion...but i needed to hear that. A big wake up call in that statement. Thank you for making this video. God bless you and your family.
OH i am glad to hear it resonated. Bless you!
I didn’t realize how much God has changed my habits until I saw this list. Everyday we get to decide how our day will go and for that I am grateful. I’m still working through number 7 and trying not to get sucked into scrolling (at any time in the day) but when I struggle I know I can lean on God and He never fails ❤
Oh wow I’m glad it was eye opening
I really liked what you said about not checking emails and your phone first thing in the morning. I will try this. Thank you!
Its a game changer. Let me know how it goes
I really appreciate this video! I am currently struggling with overthinking/worrying, people pleasing, and dealing with a negative person (a parent). I really appreciated your perspective on limits and people pleasing. So insightful.
Praying for you❤
I hear you! What’s your support system like as your grow?
hi
I’m glad this video showed up this morning! Thank you very much for sharing this:)
Oh I’m glad
Sister MDM: you just EARNED yourself another subscriber. 🎉
This was the most thoughtful, valuable TH-cam video I’ve seen in quite some time! 🙏
I’m so grateful that you’re listening to what God is telling you to do in your life. Keep going! And please - let me know what I can do to help spread the good news about your work.
I am so glad to hear!! Its been a gift to pray and process through what to share.
Thank you for this video! I really needed it.
I’m so glad!
Just because it’s good, doesn’t mean it’s beneficial & just because we’re busy doesn’t mean we’re being productive. 🙂
:)
This!!👍
Often times the sooner you learn these lessons the better. It's a challenge sometimes, but you certainly have put a lot of this into perspective. Glad to see you're doing well.
Yeah for sure
Right now I am in this process of change and this video came as a prompt or a message from God to know what I have to do. I have to let go of all that you have exposed in this vlog. God help me and everyone who has decided to make this major change in their lives. God bless you richly 🙏
Excellent video! Thank you!
Glad you liked it!
Thank you❤❤❤❤
:)
I needed to hear this message. Thanks for sharing.
So glad!
All so good… but started to feel overwhelmed with all the great “ to do’s).. then I realized “ only take on one or two of these suggestions at a time! Being a “ doer” personality can pour over into the “ undoing”! Ty for these videos🤩
Seriously! Well said it’s a lot
Wow, it feels like you’ve read my story 🥹
Thank you for the content and sharing your journey.
I will be more intentional to slow down and do the things that matter most 🙏🏻
Looking forward to similar topics
Wonderful! It’s hard to slow down
This really resonates with me. Thank you! Kath
So glad!
Oh my goodness this gave me goosebumps. BEAUTIFUL testimony. Thank you dear sister
You’re so welcome
“Don’t buy problems” That has been huge for our family when it comes to home projects! 💛 great video 😊
So true!
Wow! You are so beautiful and really made me see the way I’ve been neglecting my life. 🙏🙏🙏
I’m glad it’s been insightful
Loved your perspective! Thank you for making such a helpful video! As the wife of a pastor I can relate to all of these! ❤ So helpful to know I'm not alone ☺️ God is definitely not done refining me. I've learned that sometimes God brings situations or people into our lives to pray over and they may never change but it sharpens us. Thank God He doesn't want to leave us as we are, but the best version of ourselves 😊
Oh, I’m so glad it was a helpful video! I totally agree. God brings his divine appointments all the time and we can move with his spirit to Will and work for his purposes! Bless you being a pastor’s wife I imagine has a ton of growth, opportunities! Pray you feel presence and peace :)
Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this today. 😊
Oh you’re so welcome 😉
This is so good. I actually saved this and intend to watch it many times. I'm going to create my own list of things I need to subtract from my life to get closer to the lord. Thank you so much for this great podcast
Oh that’s great! Share with me the list when you complete it! Would love to support you!
Just working with my coach today, I agree to become a "Master of One" when it comes to my business.
💯
Wow I have to say thank you again!! Everything I’ve been struggling with this week was addressed in the video :) I now understand why I may have been feeling the way I’ve been feeling :) thank you
Oh awesome
Hi Maryl, Thank you so much for making this video. As I am working towards adjusting my life to grow closer to God, this video has given me the confirmation I needed to cut back guilt free, keeping in mind what I gain by cutting back.
MAY God bless you !
You are so welcome!
God has shown me to subtract a lot in every area of my life. He has taught me it’s more than decluttering for mental freedom, he also showed me to apply that in all areas of my life so relationships business, literally everything less is more, life is more free
Most resonated with me. Now I have a slow and quiet life. My prayer life revolves on The Practice of the Presence of God (it's also a book), pray from the heart wherever and whenever and recently kept track of my prayers by using A Prayer and Devotional Journal, and some of them have already been granted, one of them in one day's time as if a miracle. Thank you for your efforts and devotion to your You Tube channel. You deserve a million subscribers!
I’m so glad to hear that!
Yeah journaling is such a great tool.
You’re so welcome thanks for appreciating it!
Thank you for sharing this. I liked each one of the points. Trying not to say YES to everything is hard.
Absolutely!! Yes. and saying no to myself is even harder! Sometimes ha
Everything that you said 👏🏾. When we make room in our lives, the more we will know God. Too much of everything isn’t good. We must let go and let God. Contentment is also found in Christ. We must find balance in being and doing. God wants us to stay connected to Him. Thank you for sharing 😊
You’re so welcome
This is extremely helpful and insightful. Thank you.
Oh I’m so glad! 🙂
Good content. I am glad I found you you are good sent. Thank you. I am learning what I should be doing ❤❤❤❤
Welcome! 🙏🏼
Wow!!! This entire video resonated with me. Thank you for saying all the points you did. I'm so glad I found you ❤
Oh I am glad!
What a priceless video! I know I will be watching it several times! ❤
Oh I’m so glad!
The LORD knew I really needed to hear all these. Thank you for sharing! 🥺🤍✨
You are so welcome!
Thank you! I appreciate the platform God has placed you. I’m 58 and there were a few of the 13 topics that made me say “ouch” and that’s a good thing! God bless and keep you in his care! BTW I just subscribed!
Yes, ouch can be a good thing!
I’m grateful for your comment! And welcome any other video suggestions I welcome them. Talk soon!
This was very helpful, thank you for sharing.
You are so welcome!
I feel the same way about doing all the things. I just found your channel and totally resonate with your content. Thank you.
Oh I am so glad!
Those last few points reminded me of that most insightful quote from Edward O. Wilson - "We have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology. And it is terrifically dangerous, and it is now approaching a point of crisis overall."
Interesting quote!
Growing up in a very controlled home and trying to be a peacemaker I carried those habits into adulthood I’m so glad that God and my husband have helped me learn that some things are beyond my control and it has been so freeing ❤
Oh, this all resonates with me so much. 😩 Thank you for these reminders, Sister. 🙏🏼
You are so welcome
Alot of these resonated & have done personally ✔️
Oh that’s great
God bless you, Maryl!
You too!
You have gained so much wisdom at such a young age. God bless you and thank you for this!❤
Aw thank you
I’ve been on a journey of subtraction since God brought me to a point where I had to eliminate due to my health. He made me aware of my choices and poured so much love into to my life.
Thank you for this!
You’re so welcome
You are amazing Mary
You’re amazing!
I just discovered your channel! I am so glad I did 🎉Know that this really affirmed and encouraged me in some things God has been guiding me in. Your many many hours of work on this beautiful video have been so worth it - thank you for your obedience and hard work! 😊
Welcome!! So glad
Great video, thank you for sharing.
You’re so welcome
I've been feeling such a detachment and a letting go of everything that you mentioned here. I haven't really been able to put it into words. But you said it perfectly. And I feel that shift and I don't feel they need to apologize for it to anyone. I feel this is what God wants.
That’s awesome yay for more inner freedom to say yes to God
This is really good content for young ladies who are new believers
Awesome 👏🏼
Wonderful video full of great information and advice, and I also sent it to my daughter who goes full speed all the time and is very anxious all the time. Feedback for you from me would be to slow down a little on the video so I can follow you….you talk really fast!
Excellent!!! Thank you. So true!! “ things” are a burden! Loved that you said “because I can do t it, doesn’t mean I have to”
Yeah so true right
Wow! Great awareness! I stoped caring. In a good way of course. Practicing detachment and quitting all the adjustments I would make allows focus, clarity, strength, patience and perseverance. Far from being perfect ( don’t want it either). Unless it’s perfect LOVE. Great video. I bet your husband loves you. Be blessed
Heck ya I love it!
Lots of good suggestions about simplifying and adding value- I liked especially asking God how does He wants us to respond- and the one about rumination could be due to avoiding emotions.
Oh nice ! Yes
Stop volunteering is the one I decided to let go because, like you said, I want to keep my energy and volunteering was not providing that to me anymore.
The consuming part! Big help for me
Yes 🙌
Thank God, TH-cam algorithm put this is my feed. New subscriber. ❤
Welcome aboard!
I really needed this. Coming from a works based mentality its was really eye opening to watch this. We cant do more or add more to the finished work of the cross
For sure glad it resonated
“ The need is not the call’
;)
I dont buy problems!!!! Love it
Right! That one struck me so I had to share
Thanks for sharing this video. One small suggestion please, leave the bullet points on the screen throughout the discussion of said bullet point. I had to go back a few times to remember what the bullet points were exactly as you were talking so I could retain it better.
Thanks
Thanks for the tips
Needed this
Yay I’m so glad
Thank you for this. I feel like I want to do it all and I attempt to and then burn out. Then the cycle starts over again. Now I’m going to try doing less.
You got this!
Be grateful that you could do a lot of things. The quote is actually right, but you just need to read into it a little bit more. Jack of all trades a master of none is more often times better than the master of one. It’s a blessing to be able to do multiple things.
Cool
This really resonated with me!
I’m so glad! Did one particularly resonate?
I like your video 😊thanks
Very helpful, just came from lakeshore, Ontario, Canada and made a video thanking God for His creation. 23:15
Oh good
Blessed Be! Happy to see your channel is continuing to grow. keep up the great work :)
Thank you!
this is beautiful :) looking forward to exploring your videos :) happy i discovered your channel
Thank you so much!
I enjoyed it.
I’m glad!
Awesome 👏🏼
I must stop volunteering for everything
I fully support this!
Fantastic video. It spoke to me on son many levels. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
thank you
You are so welcme~
I have a keep your eye on the prize way to think of God.
I noticed getting rid of things we idolize is a fantastic way to be closer to God. From the model cars I used to keep on shelves from family photos. Everything. No idols at all!
I love my family and do everything I can to love them and help them and honor them. Everything!!
But I don’t require idolizing them with pictures around my house.
I am closer to them without those pictures around if you can imagine that.
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you Maryl ❤
You are so welcome
Stoicism and Minimalism 🙏
Sure there are some values there!
Very helpful, thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Hello :)
Really good. I did a double take when she said "don't should on yourself" and quickly walked back over to the laptop to see if she said the other word. 👀😄
😂
Less scrolling
Less channel surfing 🏄♂️
Good ones! Yes 🙌
Great Video! Sharing with my wife....😂
lol 😂
Thoughtful lists like this inadvertently cause our soul to double down on operating towards Jesus, rather than from the resurrected Life of Christ Jesus within us.
Yes, such practices are a reflection of choosing to abide in His ways, and to aid our soul in dying to its insufferable devotion to preserve self, but the transformative Life nonetheless can only come from Christ within the Christian.
If we can train our soul to look only at Jesus, then, God willing, the Holy Spirit is allowed to graft His Resurrected Life unto our soul life.
The wise habits of lists like this then become Fruit of the Vine, so to speak, and not of the branch.
Thank you for the room to share.
- Shalom
Thank you for sharing! I imagine they can! It’s also a organize information so that you’re mine can take in retraining. Every soul is different. Be blessed.
@@maryldemilo I'd be remiss in not replying :)
I agree with you that every soul is different, and that lists as such are typically beneficial.
I was speaking to the notion of the soul's "salvation" (liberation) as a matter of exchanging our soulish life, for His Resurrected Life within us; something that the exclusively unique soul of every human being is called to come into the bridal-ing submission to (union with).
Anyways, you are the teacher on this channel, and I do respect that :)
Shalom
@@MJ-kd7dp I hear what you’re saying! But having the heart open before they can even recognize, Christ is the first step. You can be religious all day long and try to do everything right until you clear things out of your way you are not going to take on reality. I come about this through the process of spiritual formation. Some people start with creeds. Theology. The right dogmas.. however I believe God can meet people where they’re at, so I am so grateful that you wanted to share. I also don’t find anything wrong with the way, I presented this information in terms of it structure. If there are content, that is unhelpful, please let me know so that I can continue to share from the truth of my own experience and pray it blesses someone else!
The Holy Spirit is responsible for revealing Christ! And I hope we continue to look for him in everything we do, whether it’s simplifying our lives to orienting ourselves to the holy mystery that is revealing himself through the spirit moment by moment.
@@maryldemilo I understand.
Shalom
Hi Meryl, I enjoy listening to you but can your slow your speech a little so I can absorb what your communicating? Thanks😊
I am so glad. I enjoy using my energy the way is comes out. So I will pass on this advice. Feel free to use the gear icon to make it .75 speed! Bless you!
@@maryldemilo hi Meryl, thanks for replying without offence. How do you use the gear icon? I’m not that technical savvy.
@@dianneaustin7769 of course! I totally understand! It’s something I’ve been doing my whole life and while I’ve definitely slowed down I’m also just embracing that that’s how I show up. It would take me out of being authentic maybe 10 years from now version of me can do that lol
On the bottom right there is a gear and you can adjust playback speed! :)
Wow I needed this thank you Jesus for speaking thru Maryl
Totally haha
I’ve been having problems with letting go 2 things: like clothing and fashion but finally I just realized that I just need seasonal proper clothing like wool and linen and 2 my playlist , I Iam a believer but I want to get more closer to GOD, I definitely like rock music and it’s been a journey for me to let go it I still like secular clean songs but I’m trying to find worship Christian rock songs that may I will feel comfortable with it ! Thanks !
Bless you on your journey to find what leads you more to the holy!
I too criticize and judge myself horribly, and it doesn’t allow me to even except God’s love or the love of others because I’m constantly finding fault it’s brutal and I don’t know how to stop it
It is such a hard process to heal from that internal critic. Have you ever explored internal family systems as a tool to retrain the voice?
How do I stay strong in thd lord dealing with a demanding needy mother?????
Oh wow that’s a complicated one. I have a similar experience.
*I'm glad you made this video,* it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $89k biweekly and a good daughter full of love..
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!