I’m an intp and basically I’d assume we’re like detective/stalkers to try to find the true identity of that person to make sure if they’re worth dating... probably just me?
Y'all crack me up. My husband (INTP) and I met online in an Astronomy forum. I had over 10,000 posts on this forum, and he read every single one of them to figure out who I am. Hilarious. But in all seriousness, he fell in love with my mind, and then it turned out we are physically attracted to each other as well, so win win. Those sites that say you should pair up with such and such a personality type are just wrong. I'm an INTJ and we'll be celebrating our 13th anniversary later this month.
why do you assume somebody won't be "worth" dating? maybe by saying this you mean that you'll see if you fit together. but idk it sounds a little bit unkind to me..
Yep... sounds familiar... How go you know if an intp likes you... 1. We will talk with you. 2. We will share a pov but want a conversation. 3. We will share our sense of humor. Not just the sarcastic remarks. 4. We will take in everything you say... heck many of us can repeat it back verbatim. 5. We will want you to share space with us, our space. Not coffee not a movie. But our space... and we won't speak... we just want you in our space. 6. We will mess with you, playfully 7. We will give you the best advice we possibly can and help you achieve in what ever way we can. Do not expect anything that remotely resembles normal help.
I love the sharing space thing. I can't tell you how many times my husband and I are in the same room and don't speak, and it's so comfortable. Sometimes, we message each other on the computer rather than talking, so as not to interrupt whatever the other one is doing. Also, number 7 is spot on. My husband is incredibly helpful but it is soooo very not normal help. LOL.
My bf has a slight OCD problem, for a month before we went out I flipped the items around at his work, and a month into the relationship before I finally told him
I've never even attempted to be like everyone else. It made me cringe at just the thought of it. I've been called weird my entire life. Why change it. I love me... when I'm in my head. When I step out everything becomes chaotic. That is the only thing I would like to change.
Yeah. I often find that I like the idea of a person more than the person himself. And once I get to really know him, the feelings lose their intensity because I discover that he isn't quite what I imagined him to be.
oh my actually same. it's crazy. people call me out for this sometimes. either that or i feel that i can sense that they notice it hahah. ergg it's annoying tho ahhaha
@@gvrizz Here I am, a year later, with like eight projects to do.... AND I'm still sidetracked. Guess some things you never grow out of. Additionally, I didn't even notice how similar his physicality is to mine, oof!
As a female, it's usually simple for me; I can't make eye contact with the guy that I like. I just can't. Especially if I don't know him well enough. Yes, I will look at him when he's not looking my way. But eye contact, oh no. It somewhat distabilises me and makes me hyper self-conscious. Don't know if it's just an intp thing, though.
INTP here, just let the logical side of you take hold. You need eye contact to not look weird You need eye contact to come accross as listening and considerate You need eye contact to appear assertive You need eye contact to be more seductive. You can come up with your own reasons. Maybe dip into apathy just a tinge to suppress you emotions, but stay alert and focused on the person.
Truth! As an INTP male, there's nothing worse than having to let a woman down after evaluating her while she's just warming up to you. Everything is happening so fast in my mind. It seems so unfair to be wired like that.
I feel like many INTPs will relate to this video, and be like, "Yeah, that's right." But most other types will come away more confused than they started haha.
When you speak about your fear of making another person feel "rejected"; it's really interesting to see the manner in which your inferior Fe manifests. And yet there are a plethora of "INTP robot" stereotypes.
Because that's what they are: just stereotypes. I've known young ISTP's and ISTJ's in my past who could not even talk to a woman. I had problems at first, but once I've developed some Fe...It's more about which types you meet (xNFPs and xNFJs women seem to like me the most) and I'been dating an INFJ for over 5 years now. For me there are types I attract and repel: compatibility of personalities is important and the type of relationship: friend, family, lover, colleague...enemy xD
Imagine observing someone carefully for a month or so, every little detail .. and then after approaching them and having a 1 minute chat you're like " nah .. not my cup of tea " , and getting distracted with another thing already, while the romantic future You've previously imagined is fading away as you laugh at it . Why are we like that ?! 💔🤦😂😂
OMG you are so freaking adorable. I LOVE INTPs!! INFJs (that’s me) are rare and so are you. I have finally landed the INTP boyfriend of my dreams!!! His idea of pursuit? He knows I love Star Wars and he offered to BUILD ME A LIGHTSABER... in terms of pursuit, in INTP terms, that’s a damn declaration of marriage! ❤️👍 Edit: he’s the principle engineer of a company that works with lasers- so yeah he put serious thought into it for me!
@n Oh, I adore INTPs and have thought so much about them with INFJs conceptually and realistically (referencing my plethora of experience - starting from my first boyfriend when I was 16 who was an INTP to my last boyfriend last year to my good guy friend who is an INTP. Oh and a really interesting, assertive one that knows so much about INFJs - I met him via internet. Advice FOR them - relationship issues n INFJs open up like a flower, organically. I will share some of my story with you to hopefully offer food for thought and insight. Keep in mind, I do seem to be a rather odd infj in some respects. So. I was a lot like this INFJ you speak of with one INTP who pursued me last year. BUT. I was so reserved because I cared so much about what he thought of me & couldn't fathom how he was into me (which, sadly, I overcompensated in trying to appear so put together and worth his time, that I never had this mentality of "here's who I am. If you like what you see, then come into my world too. it's not going to just be me always trying to understand or coming to your world. We both have something real and unique to offer the other by being true to ourselves." So my interpretation of my past behavior is that my mindset at the time bit me in the butt because he never saw my wonderfully, disarming, zany, outlandish, against the status quo humor which speaks so much about who I am). The humor often comes with a sense of safety with the other person. This can come with understanding another person. We tend to fear what we don't know. So what is needed to nurture this connection in order for the INFJ to open up? The most success I've ever had with an INTP is my guyfriend I know currently. We message each other almost everyday now - it usually starts with memes! It's at a point of an ice give & take. And this can lead to sharing dreams and schemes 😂😉 What lacked in my last relationship and what thrives in my friendship now is just that - friendship and foundation. Don't force things. Don't wake up love before its time. With my INTP friend, we begin & continue to be in the ideal context - a part of a large friend group. It's actually a small college ministry and it just happened to attract a bunch of weird kids like us. There are so many more opportunities thru this shared, free space. We have group goals & projects we work on together. He admires how I talk with people and not at people (like he does, admittedly). So he wants to be the person to reach out to others and then I am the follow-up person. He sees me as an incubator. Through friendship, you can begin to decide if she is worth the patience which most likely will be totally, and unavoidably, necessary. INFJs can be the hardest to truly know, and require the most patience perhaps, but much like our approach to life, we believe in the quality choice and having a futuristic vision which automatically comes with patience. Now, one thing that is weird about INFJs is that we do tend to see most people through a very platonic lens. I'm a sapiosexual and it takes a long time for me to not only feel safe, but to experience depth enough to want to take action. There is the risk that even though you invest in the friendship, she may not end up feeling a romantic way toward you. But there is also the opportunity to maybe end up with a passionate and dedicated partner, both intelligent and deeply kind. Especially if you treat her with consideration, effort, and vulnerability. But I guarantee either way, you will gain a genuine, trustworthy, loyal, wise and fun and maybe lifetime friend who truly cares for you as one of her favorite human beings. So, practically, if you can, find some other people you both enjoy and a space that feels like you can be yourselves, and get to know each other in that way. Find a subject that she may be interested in and share why you love it. For example, he knows I totally love psychology, so one time when he was talking about his favorite subject, comic book characters like Batman & The Joker, he explained the psychology behind them both. They actually were quite similar, and hid behind masks. It really drew me in and I hung on his every word. Also, INFJs tend to see relationships as very dynamic. So, for example, at least with me, let's say I'm given hugs each time I've hung out with the INTP the last five times. In my mind, i may still be wondering if he actually will want to give a hug the next time. I think we, as also with ENFJs, can come up with the silliest "but what if THIS time." Keep pursuing her and showing her patterns. Eventually she will conceptualize internally that you are trustworthy enough for even her to initiate. I have some of the most deep conversations with my INTP friend and yet we also have some of the most fun. We are always pranking one another. One time we stayed up till 7 a.m. because I was chasing him with my weapon of choice. ... My chapstick. 🤣
@@CATCATDovahkiin don't base your relationships, hopes for one, or other people's relationships, on these tests. Sure, they have a lot of interesting data and you can learn a lot about yourself and others, but 80% of love is a lucky dip, dude. So just go with the flow of things and don't get hung up things.
Observations from an INFP: - My INTP can struggle to stay in touch with his emotions, so he is often grateful of my Fi to help him with that. It is unusual to me that you guys can be so unaware of your emotions. -He likes to DO stuff to keep his active mind occupied. It is important to him that we like the same activities. Sure, he can be lazy as shit, but I think he'd find it very difficult to sit around with me all day - Intellectual stimulation is very important. He liked that fact I beat him at chess so easily and I'm so eager to have in depth discussions about things. When we first met we skipped straight past the small talk. - Actions speak louder than words for him. He might not always tell me how much he cares, but he will show it in other ways. -Usually, I have to tell him how I feel and if I am upset. From my experience, if an INTP doesn't pick up on how you're feeling, it's not because they don't care. You must communicate it to them, and you'll know if they do care if they actually take the time to listen to you. - It's very important to him that we share the same bizarre sense of humour. He says things that would really confuse other people, but with me he can be totally himself without fear of alienating me
Omg an INFP female with a INTP male. Legit me and the guy I'm talking to. I think he's in the getting to know if im worth it stage😂. He's slowly revealing private things from his life to me so I think it's going well lmao.
As an INTP I'm far more aware of my emotions than my physical sensations sometimes. I usually don't realize I feel sick until I feel terribly bad. Though I sometimes don't realize I'm nervious until I realize I'm trembling or I'm having a stomackpain. I get confused very often with my physical sensations and my feelings. I'm really bad at telling them apart. My emotional state also changes how I percieve physical sensations. In some ocasions I've felt stronger and more pleasing physical sensations with very minimal physical contact with someone I like than when having sexual interactions whith someone I don't like that much.
When you talked about how we INTPs like to look at people, my mind was blown. I never even considered that other people might not be like that. I fell over from shock.
Old post, but find an INFJ. My girlfriend is an INFJ and it is the easiest relationship I've ever had. All I have to do is be there and show her attention and everything runs smoothly, without me having to juggle all these thoughts on how to keep the relationship going.
@The Lucifer Are you sure? An extroverted woman is more likely to cheat. I'm not saying she will, or an introverted woman won't, but why take the chance if you don't have to?
@@ramdom_assortment as an Extrovert (ENFJ) I've never thought about cheating on my partners especially my Intp. I don't think/ believe all Extroverts cheat. There's a lot more to cheating than a person's personality. My biological father and step father are both Introverts and have both cheated. It can happen to anyone. My mom's an ESTP and is very very excruciatingly loyal too, and has never cheated. So the Extrovert cheater thing isn't valid, as much, as you've said, both I & E are capable of being cheaters. Just depends.
I'm an INTP. The first time I read about myself I thought it sounded robot like and emotionless, since focused on the more "emotionless" seeming traits. But this. I didn't realize people didn't crush like I do, finding as much info as possible, OBSESSING over the crush. This video makes me realize we aren't just robots or something. Great video.
You know, I'm an intp and the way I converse usually is by asking questions. Some people really find it absurd, they ask " why are you asking so many questions" then my mind goes " well you got any better ideas, son?" But it really makes me think. Maybe asking questions to get to know one another is only an INTP thing.
I'm INTP and this really hit home. I have to know a girl first before deciding to go that next level. Id hate to get a girls hopes up by initiating something only to have to turn her down because ive discovered son deal breaking qualities. It's not fair on her and I'm waisting both our time. Also, like you said, I find I can know a girl if I work with her. Working together to achieve a goal or finish a job provides the most comfortable environment to communicate with a girl. I can't start conversations anyother way. Probably because it takes the focus off us both and makes it less obvious. But yeah, I too just pick that one special girl to focus on and commit to them.
Our system is sorta like the scientific method. We want to observe you in your natural environment first. A Control. Know your interests, how you behave, etc. Gather as much information as possible. Then we can introduce ourselves like an independent variable. See how you behave around us, what you show and hide, how you change, what more information we can get. For example, with her friends she is very high energy and loud. When talking to me, she is very quiet and reserved. An interesting reaction. Reconnaissance. If we can save ourselves (and you!) from an embarrassing and awkward situation by learning about you BEFORE we make a move, we will do it. Like a military that scouts an area before moving, so they dont walk into an ambush. But I leave information breadcrumbs behind me, hoping that someone interested in me will study them and learn about me. Give the information I wish the ones I observe would give. But nobody cares about me, and only an INTP would care about such breadcrumbs, so, RIP. And truly, we are undyingly loyal, even to our detriment.
Yeah it is really frustrating when you know that after spending so much time researching them and give the precious space they just casually hang with you.and they are not trying enough to know who you really are. Typical intp problems.
I'm an INFP & I think just like INFJ we're a good match for INTP. We actually try and we look forward to also learning and understanding people on a deeper level.
I never thought about it before but after going through all the comments I see that intp's and infp's are really drawn to each other. Like literally, my boyfriend is an infp
Yeah the guy I'm talking to is an INTP. Hoping that he'll ask me out soon. Rn we're getting to know eachother even more (since we were already friends). I think he's gathering information about me lmao😂. I am too tho cuz he's slowly revealing more of himself to me.
Spot on dude. I felt this on a spiritual level. It's almost impossible to connect with anyone over anything other then deep philosophy and intellectualism. I've never kissed a girl on the first date and only seek long term relationships in polar contrast to the rest of my friends. I wish our personality wasn't so rare. It's hard to find others like me. I feel like I'm swimming in an ocean of stupidity like 90% of the time.
That process sounds all too familiar, but for a female intp i feel like it’s a lil more complicated. I feel like I’m always trying to avoid or that I have to avoid the opposite sex because, like you say, I don’t want to invest myself in just anyone. And I feel like that could happen with anyone who might approach me, and I don’t want to be the cause of the rejection they might feel. It’s like if I show any interest whatsoever that gives them a foot into my door when I wasn’t sure I wanted to invite them in at all.
We are so easily confused by others cause we tend to have deep and meaningful conversations right away and people think that's because we're interested in them. But it's because we're bored with the plane and ordinary of this world. And because we avoid conflict we tend to avoid any type of miscomunication that could lead to misinterpretation by the opposite sex, it's exhausting. At some point I realised I couldn't protect other people feelings at my own expense and just be myself. Sociable, deep, and analytical. An INTP
As a female INTP I can be super extroverted with everyone and initiate conversation easily... as long as I'm not romantically interested in them! The very moment I realise someone managed to break through my very well disguised inner shell of a heart I panic and I shut down completely, becoming the most annoying idiotic version of myself. I can't talk to them, make eye contact to them, let alone flirt with them. Just avoid them, they're too much work for my emotions. So if you want to know when an extraverted INTP likes you, see when it stops trying to be a smartass around you and avoid you at all costs.
im an INTP girl and ive had guys immediately try to “pursue me” without even getting to know me and it is the biggest turn off in the world for me. because 1) you probably do this often and to other girls and 2) youre probably the kind of person who gets into relationships because “hey! why not?” thats not me and not what i want
Maybe I'm the only one, but I would love if you had a podcast where you just discussed being an INTP, what that means, how you behave, etc. As an INFP myself, I find that INTP is my favourite personality type to explore, observe, and learn about. I've also noticed a pattern in your videos where you say you admire INFPs or wish you could be more like one (which I find ironic because I find myself wishing to be more like an INTP). Anyways, even if you won't be making any podcasts, I'd just like to say that I love your content and I think you're doing a fantastic job at being informative, fun, cute, AND funny! Keep up the good work! :)
It's been 10 years since I've met this INTP guy and I like him, he likes me, but he won't make a move! He drops little tiny hints that sometimes give me hope and other times I just slap myself and say it's nothing I'm just reading too much into it and right now everything is a mess. And every single time I tell myself okay I am over him I moved on he pops up and I'm back to crushing over him! Gah! Get outta my head INTP! And no thanks to him everyone else is not as interesting. I'm an INFJ btw so I am also afraid of making the first move so yeah I'm just gonna continue to live this agony for 10 more years! Wish me luck
Oh my word, do iiiitttt :D You are gifted with an amazing toolbox full of wonderful skills and talents which are perfect for this kind of situation. Why not use it? Don't let it go to waste, come on :D do something! Fingers crossed :D I'm rooting for you ~fellow infj
This is accurate especially on the part that INTP think of long term the first second haha. My boyfriend, an INTP behaved that sort of way in the getting-to-know phase. I'm so lucky to have met that kind of guy, it's so refreshing. Fyi, I'm an INFP
Is that a guy that I could marry is the first question I ask myself during/after a first date😂. I'm an INFP close to an INTP type. I can relate a lot to the things you've said.
This is the first think I ask myself when I see a handsome or an interesting guy. Sometimes I say: I wouldn't mind him being my boyfriend and marrying him. Lol INTP here.
I have similar problems. When I was 21 through 26, I had a job at a blood bank which required me to talk to a lot of strangers on a daily basis, make idle chit chat with them and co workers. It was horribly difficult for a year or so,until I figured out a sort of conversational flow chart in my mind. I learned that if I see someone in a bar or etc and want to strike up a conversation; I observe her passively for a few minutes and wait for someone else to say something awkward, then I chime in with what I consider to be a funny way of diffusing the situation and respond to what she is likely feeling at that moment. This works well for me. Example, I was sitting in a greyhound station waiting for a bus at 8pm or so. This was a very high crime area with homeless people, scary looking strangers and etc. A very attractive 20 yr old lady say down next to me. I just observed and kept reading my book. A very young very awkward, but thuggish looking guy walked up to her and kina stammered "Excuse me, would you be offended if I told you you are beautiful?" Poor guy knew he was totally screwing it up. So I immediately chime in and say to him "No, infact I'm flattered, but your not my type." She laughed hysterically, awkwardness was diffused, she stayed next to me and chatted the rest of the nite. She bored me, so I didn't pursue it further after we got off the bus. To ease the sting for him, and to teach him how to do better, because we've ALL been there, I followed that comment by saying "Always lead off with a joke, beautiful women almost always know they are beautiful. "
im not an INTP but i totally relate to you thinking long-term when interacting with a potential partner. people tell me to date around just for experience and not to take relationships too seriously, but i can’t seem to do that... darn dominant Ni lol. and oh my goodness your blind spot to age is hilarious! xD some people think im a high schooler but im actually 23. that gets awkward real quick 😶
I mean if you're not dating for marriage you're dating for breakup, so unless both parties are ok with being friends with benefits or some other dynamic like that, i'd say it makes sense to be at least mindful of the feasibility of the couple.
Who else avoid exchanging phone numbers/ email in the first instance? No matter how important you’re to me there are times that I’ll completely be detached from you. Everyone thinks I’m awkward but smart, and people trust me and my judgements.
Funny, I too have a "no phone number on first meeting" rule, in part because I figure I'll see them again at a similar gathering anyway. The one time I considered breaking this rule was at a friend's birthday party, a friend of b-day friend and I had a couple humorous exchanges, followed by a 20 to 30 minute uninterrupted meaningful conversation.
@@zeddicuszulzorander1431 Lol, I didn't, though I regretted it for a couple weeks. Thankfully time gives a better perspective. P.S. Somehow I didn't notice before, but nice name.
Lol. Makes perfect sense to me. INFP girl here with a crush on an INTP. I naturally like to reveal things about myself and hold deep discussions about life, philosophy and abstract ideas. I thought in dating that was generally a disadvantage...🤔 Because you're supposed to be all "mysterious" and "difficult to get to know"... etc. [rolls eyes at the "dating rule book"] I find I love an INTP's insatiable curiosity, love of knowledge and analysis, rebelliousness and quirky sense of humour. I even like their "social awkwardness"... (I find it adorable!) I suppose, being a sapiosexual, I'm just naturally attracted to INTPs...Lol.🤣 And I get the whole thing about not wanting the other person to feel rejected - I have often agreed to go on a date with a guy just because I didn't want him to feel rejected and then when he wants to start dating long-term (but I know he's not what I'm looking for), I don't know how to remove myself from the situation.
Female INTP here. I can affirm it's DEFINITELY similar for us gals as well. I shut down potential romantic partners fast when I evaluate our compatibility won't last long-term. I see no point in investing and wasting precious time and energy like that. That's why the whole convention of dating rankles me. Oh, and dude, you're fucking hilarious.
I love how you tell stories inside the story inside the story you are telling, lmao it makes me relate because my friends always tell me I do that. I thought it was just me that could tell the "energy" of a person (that's how I called that perception of "rejection"). I don't like people feeling uncomfortable around me for some reason. Am I the only INTP that does this?
INTP here , pretty much everything laid bare there. The best way to get people's true nature is just by spending a road trip or hanging out in social events . Although by seeing someone's true self hanging out with her friends it turned me icy cold toward her, like betrayal of the mind so I rolled back on detached state. I know rude, but..nevertheless, done with this. "Do not want"
for me, an INTP women, romance doesn't even exist right now. because I'm under 20, and in no position to think about a long-term relationship. as you said, it's very important to us INTPs. and also, it doesn't help that i'm so hyperaware of everything, and how it could all go wrong. so in general I'm a little afraid of this whole dating thing ^^; and everytime i begin to think about my future with someone, my heart just starts hurting and i get anxious. sounds like a problem, don't you think? 😶
we have weak Fe; we cant pretty much deal with someone coming right into us, making us like them and then just leave us. so we pretty much assume we should be as careful with others as we would like them to be with us. the girl you mentioned with the tattoos probably didnt mind the situation as much as you thought she did -- because people with greater emotional intelligence than us INTPs deal better with these sort of scenarios than we do. after all i think this is all about our unawareness of that fact that even tho we might be smarter and more intuitive than most people for some things (Ti plus Ne), we are worst than most people dealing with emotional situations. the friend you spoke with, saying things like 'gosh, you dont understand', probably would deal with the situation better than you as an INTP. exactly because he would know that some things are just emotional and not really meant to be rationalized and that's fine and that tattoo might know that as well and might be just doing ok. we must all see that for these sort of things, other people are more mature than us. and also that some situations are not meant to be solved as chess problems.
3:06 ... yea, long term analysis right off the bat. Yes, always. (Planned a wedding? No... but tried to ensure it's not completely useless waste of energy) 7:15 being worries about how to unspool a relationship once a no-go decision is made... and prevent hurt feelings.... #mylife right now.
As an INTP I always felt this "Alienation". We are the minority and we do stuff sometimes maybe a bit too efficient or just weird according to the normal person in the society since we tend to hold the weight of everyone all the time, but at least now I know I wasn't that much of an alien and alone I guess
The way you sweep the floor is WAY too cartoonesque to be effective. You would get fired if that was your real job. ;p The long term perspective is pretty accurate for INTx in general. As for being interested in someone, then forgetting, then remembering, then reconnecting, then disengaging again, I find it's a general characteristic of NTs. For example, a breakdown of my mind on a typical me-day: Ideations/concepts: 70%, Actions/objects: 20%, Emotions/people: 10%. If I happen to toggle the figures for actions and emotions by spending time with friends, then I will need a full day of Ideation to recover. If I swap ideations and actions because of an immediate disaster sort of situation (i.e bush fires, loss of close ones, civil unrest/riots, etc), then I shut down emotionally for months, until the world makes sense again. This is an algorithm that took me 28 years to figure out, but I'm glad I did grow from these life experiences. As you said, being in the same "natural" environment seems to be THE biggest factor in getting to know people for who they are and connecting with them. Hence the whole "LDR" sounds totally counter-intuitive and conducive to unsatisfying relationships to me, even when I knew the person beforehand.
This is pretty spot on! Knowing whether someone’s character is a match is a huuuge thing. It’s also usually picked up from from tiny tiny hints like the way they look at others when they talk, whether they roll their eyes, or their pattern of speech and how individual it is. If I mentioned these to non-N types they’d probably think I’m being too judgemental. But it usually plays out as expected so it’s worth heeding.
Oh gosh, you explained my live. I get called judgmental all the time! People don't recognize how these subtleties come from somewhere. Thank you for commenting!
dude oh my god. it made perfect sense! i feel like explaining ourselves to other people is one of the hardest things and it feels like they'll never understand you - kinda thing. like even you explaining everything, i noticed you caught yourself at times where you could've gone into a whole new topic, but instead you stopped yourself and man that's a hard thing to do. we have so many thoughts going through our minds at one time. its like our minds our so complex in the logical sense and it's like we analyze everything to the smallest details. it's honestly so interesting the way we work. such a great video, thank you for sharing it 🙌🏼
My friends always criticize me by the way I avoid approaching strangers to get their numbers or such, without previously knowing anything about them at all (as for example if we could be happily married with 2 adopted children studying in a very good school nearby). Now I know that I’m not alone. Tks! =D I’m sharing this video with my friends.
I think a lot of women don’t necessarily want to “know if you like them” but would prefer it were just demonstrated. And often times don’t necessarily have a rigid idea in their head of whether they like someone or not , since the ability to demonstrate the attraction is part of their attraction itself
I had an intp who came to my job a lot bc he was friends with someone at work but THEN HE STARTED COMING EVERYDAY aaaannd like yeah would kinda stare /watch and I could tell he liked me and was going to approach me and he did! Anddd uuuhm yeah he would come and flirt with me everyday and anyway I liked the persistence and did go on a date with him So I suppose that was the observation phase 😅 let's hope this goes well
I'm glad to know that intps are pretty fun, excited to know that side of him hopefully , and yeah I've been researching intps things so this has helped a lot lol. (thhhannkks) ~infj
An intp gentleman at church asked for my number from a friend at church and never texted. Ever since I've been agonizing about what he observed in my character that made him decide against reaching out. What makes it worse is I catch him looking at me (through reflections in monitors etc...) I know how terrible it can be to feel responsible for the feelings of others so I try to simply not exist when we serve together Puzzling to be sure
I'm a female INTP, and just watching this guy trail off in a totally different topic, mention crazy side thoughts, or explain the social situation... oh my gosh, I have never related to anything more
Textbook INTP here. Absolutely relatable on all points. But since I don't like going outside or minding people, I don't even try. But I /have/ 'investigated' some people who like me and try it see if they're worth a shot. Sadly found things I didn't like instead.
Lol. I only recently found out about different types. Things I do are starting to make sense. Like starting a conversation and a minute in saying, sorry that's all I have. I'll just leave now. That annoys me. Why end it before it starts? I probably know the answer to that. I go in like 007 and leave like MrBean
I feel an intense amount of adoration and yet strange assertive affection for INTPs and their certain mannerisms, enthusiasm, and creative ideas. Like my inferior Se boils out and I just wanna tackle 'em with appreciation? 😂
INFJ here. This whole thing about getting to know eachother in a group conversation is just TOO REAL. I had no idea that I was even doing that until you were talking about it.
the indirect information gathering in a group setting is sooo true, am doing it rn and no one has any clue that soo much info is being processed in my brain and calculations being made. We steer the conversation in a subtle manner such that the questions we have is answered without asking
I am very fond of INTPs. You are as eccentric and deep and as akward as us (INFPs) :) Love the interesting ways your minds work. Always loved David Byrne!
Being an intp I can say... same 100% I didn't doubt that you were an intp but as the video went through I was like, "this guy is most definitely intp 100% no doubt about it because ME TOO!!! not only what you were saying but the fact that you went off topic so much was just so intp. If someone comes here to find out about intp's you came to the right place.
Bro i get your point on Christianity. Being an INTP Christian like you, a woman with Christian beliefs and morals is a great package and makes my analysis mich easier. All i need to do i see how seriously/loosly she takes her beliefs. Other than that we have good views on what a relationship should be like and the virtues and duties required.
INTP sends funny good morning gifs every morning. Asks me out. Agrees to go here and there with me. Gentlemanly, wants to pay for our dates. Texts me promptly. He likes me right? 😬🥺
I "pass people off" Like I'll go up to someone to talk in a group setting and find out I dont want to be in this conversation anymore. What I'll do is pull somone else into the conversation and when the two get to talking I talk to someone else to leave or just wait til my silence causes them to ignore me and I can walk away. Or I make them dislike me by being myself. It gives me practice.
Oh my gosh, these are flipping hilarious. And totally on point. This is why I've always had what my mom refers to as a 5 year plan, lol. You become friends, and keep it in mind that nothing could happen for 5 years till you know the person fully to stop yourself from potential disappointment. Also works great if your waiting on God. I too can imagine maybe not a wedding but like 10 years into marriage, what kind of life, how many kids all from just observing, watching work ethic, personality etc. But I need to see if for a long time before I believe it. Crushes aren't real, its just temporal infatuation with the idea of someone. I ain't about that life lol, its a waste of time. I need to know there's a future with potential before I put you on a pedestal. Btw the age thing. Holy crap, yes, same. Its so annoying.
"INTPs like to look at people" hahah soo true. My bf told me I used to "scan" people when we first met. I try not to do it anymore but sometimes I cant help myself!
Yes! When i'm in a bar or restaurant i would scan people. I'm not sure what I'm looking for though. Maybe a cute guy, or someone I know that makes that place a more comfortable one or someone I don't like that I should avoid. Who knows. Most of the time i'm looking for cute guys i think XD
As an INFP I relate to pretty much everything you said in this video, very interesting! Only just found your channel a few minutes ago. Really awesome content!
Oh my!!! You just described one of my INTP'S friend, he struggles to find the right girl, and backing up without hurting them it's hard on him. I am an INFP 🌞 Totally all feelings. I do empathize with my INTP friend. ( Spock) Best luck to you!
The more ya know. The more there is to know...YOU KNOW? Haha your adorable adaptable. I think you are very qualified to interpret for us. This message is approved!!
I have to comment despite this video being 5 years old: your aside on pudding, 5:33, cracked me up. Perfectly and spontaneously illustrated the tangent-upon-tangent nature of an INTP brain, as well as how anything can be fascinating (at least to an INTP) if you think about it deeply enough. As an INTJ who's getting to know and is really attracted to a particular INTP, I have been trying to "calibrate" to his weird questions. He may not be fully aware about how much data I'm gathering on him as he gathers data on me...
When I care about someone, it's almost like I study them. It's hard to keep it from coming across as creepy, but really it's because I'm driven by the desire to make them happy (demon Fe), and my way of doing that is to understand them from every perspective and angle, inside and out, at every level of analysis (savior Ti).
Three things: 1) you made this video on my birthday, thank you (even if I watched it right now), 2) I'm INTP and I think that we have really similar sense of humor! That's funny! Also 3) this video is really good, I think that's true even if I was never in romantic relationship.
I get what you're saying and here's what I do in that kind of situation. (I'm INTJ by the way and maybe it's not the perfect solution but here it is). After I've started a conversation and feel the need to walk away, I let the conversation run its natural course first and after the conversation has slowed momentum, I say something like "Alright, well, it was nice meeting you" and if they insist on continuing, "Sorry, I really am, but I gotta use the restroom" where I would decide what I should do about the situation if she is still there. Like, you could decide to leave if you are okay with that and say that you gotta go for this reason or that reason but maybe we will talk again sometime (emphasis on being friendly but not leading them on). Basically what I'm saying is treat them like a very temporary new friend/encounter that you don't want to lead on much. I have many encounters with people every day usually in customer service in my cashiering job so I've learned a few ways to deal with people who want to talk when I don't want to. Edit: I'm probably inexperienced with handling people in a personable manner. This might leave some people with a bad feeling but from what I have seen it works for what I want it to. I try to acquaint people's feelings and insecurities and I try hard because it really isn't natural for me but the trying makes all the difference for me. I think I could leave the conversation/ relationship if I gave their feelings good consideration and took precautions to leave on the best terms possible. If I tried to do it, I feel better even if they don't like where it ended. Because I did what I could. I'm not going to fake desire for a relationship that I know won't work out. I just move on after that. Lol, I know that sounds cold, systematic, etc. but I don't want to hurt their feelings going too deep or by going too little into a conversation/relationship. By the way, I don't expect this to be the best solution because other people would probably have better advice than me but I just wanted to share my thoughts
Intj found me an intp. We didn't bother with the small talk when we met. We went straight to the values & we knew. He has lots of hobbies to keep his mind busy. But he doesnt expect me to share all his same interest. But we get each other. Its weird but cool at the same time. He's also very affectionate which is something i appreciate but not used to.
As an INFP i feel a little bit of these things in me aswell, having an INTP friend is nice cause we can relate to each other but yep... He really does seem like a robot when it comes to emotions 😂
Does he look at you? What drives you as an individual? He is looking for info about you.They want to see you engaged in your environment to see if you're worthy of pursuing.INTP look at the long term goal & they can fully invested into you.
Here I thought the 'planning marriage' thing was just something I did with romantic prospects. It's not impulsive, ever, but when I set my sights on someone in a romantic context, I always find myself reasoning out, based on whatever information is available about them, how life may unfold were we together long-term... often with uncanny accuracy based on past entanglements. It's that Ti thing, I guess, but when you internalize so much thought, one develops a way to outline life like it were the plot to a really boring, pedantic movie that nobody would watch. When I still like the plot to that movie despite all the boring bits, that's when I realize someone may be a real prospect for a long-term relationship. Unfortunately, I don't know how it looks from the outside when I come to that conclusion, though I imagine there would be facial ticks or body language cues to indicate my satisfaction with the result. Or you could ask, if you were feeling bold enough...
Infp in love with an Intp and he is the kindest sweetest human. And his humor is perfection. He is protective and looks out for me in the sweetest ways or like if I talk too loud when I’m excited he gently shushes me and I could never be offended even though I’m embarrassed. I was with 2 infjs before and I love them but their bipolar type of personality is so annoying how they desire to be the superhero then complain that they are saving everyone it’s a bit much…. But the INTP is forthright which I love and I think if you have a tough enough skin as an infp and the INTP truly loves you they’ll be forthright but not cut you. I’d hate to be on the receiving end of a bad arguement. Anyway with the long winded infp rant… I give INTP men 2 thumbs up ❤
I agree, i hate to try to know people with whom I don't share any social context. And by context I mean a place we share, like work, or the choir, or whatever, or a grup of friends that we share...
The first impression thing really resonates with me. Many people find it unsettling how I'm so stiff on my opinion of others, but it's something intuitive about it, I guess.
Literally dealing with this right now at work. "She's cute, but I don't know anything about her. Well, most of the younger girls that work here are college age, so that could work. Yeah, but I don't want to ask her on a date without knowing anything, that would be weird. How do I find out about her without being creepy? What if she has a boyfriend? Well maybe I could play it off. Ok, I'm not that smooth. Do I need to be smooth, though, if she's turning me down? I'm not even in a position to get married. Well, but I wouldn't propose on the first date. Yeah, but if it's a nice relationship I don't want to drag her along until I have my life together, either. I don't want to hold her back. She'd probably break up with me. I can't deal with that kind of rejection anymore. Maybe I should just stay single. But I want a companion and a family! AAAAAGH!"
I’m an intp and basically I’d assume we’re like detective/stalkers to try to find the true identity of that person to make sure if they’re worth dating... probably just me?
Y'all crack me up. My husband (INTP) and I met online in an Astronomy forum. I had over 10,000 posts on this forum, and he read every single one of them to figure out who I am. Hilarious. But in all seriousness, he fell in love with my mind, and then it turned out we are physically attracted to each other as well, so win win. Those sites that say you should pair up with such and such a personality type are just wrong. I'm an INTJ and we'll be celebrating our 13th anniversary later this month.
My boyfriend is an INTP & I found out later he was "stalking" me aka learning everything he could before investing.
@@helpmetosleep - Indeed, it's only stalking if the attention is unwelcome. LOL.
@@SaravanjaSteele right???
why do you assume somebody won't be "worth" dating? maybe by saying this you mean that you'll see if you fit together. but idk it sounds a little bit unkind to me..
Yep... sounds familiar...
How go you know if an intp likes you...
1. We will talk with you.
2. We will share a pov but want a conversation.
3. We will share our sense of humor. Not just the sarcastic remarks.
4. We will take in everything you say... heck many of us can repeat it back verbatim.
5. We will want you to share space with us, our space. Not coffee not a movie. But our space... and we won't speak... we just want you in our space.
6. We will mess with you, playfully
7. We will give you the best advice we possibly can and help you achieve in what ever way we can. Do not expect anything that remotely resembles normal help.
Yep
True
#7 haha when your girl is just trying to vent but you lay out a plan to fix her entire life...
I love the sharing space thing. I can't tell you how many times my husband and I are in the same room and don't speak, and it's so comfortable. Sometimes, we message each other on the computer rather than talking, so as not to interrupt whatever the other one is doing. Also, number 7 is spot on. My husband is incredibly helpful but it is soooo very not normal help. LOL.
My bf has a slight OCD problem, for a month before we went out I flipped the items around at his work, and a month into the relationship before I finally told him
Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. I really don't understand why we're so weird to the rest of the world.
INF Poet Yaassss!!
They see us as weird easily because we are not "common". I wouldn't like to be called "a common person" though
I've never even attempted to be like everyone else. It made me cringe at just the thought of it. I've been called weird my entire life. Why change it. I love me... when I'm in my head. When I step out everything becomes chaotic. That is the only thing I would like to change.
I’m an INFP and I totally understand this. It’s not how I work exactly but I understand
Venus Hinds intp here, i feel you brother
"I talked to somebody!" Sounds like a thing I would tell a friend and would be followed with applause.
😂😂😂 this literally happens with all me mates after I do any inkling of socializing
I told my friend that and he looked outside in case the Rapture started.
"How to know if an INTP likes you" - You are either a Giant Robot, or live in his/her imagination.
I prefer being a giant robot.
Yeah. I often find that I like the idea of a person more than the person himself. And once I get to really know him, the feelings lose their intensity because I discover that he isn't quite what I imagined him to be.
Hey hey hey! You might be a dinosaur person possibly as well.
or INTJ chick .. but still the robot tops 😑😁
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As an INTP I’m hyper aware of the fact that I switch subjects and get sidetracked ALL the time, clearly I’m not alone in that aha
...this is me getting side tracked on a project that I started after getting side tracked.
oh my actually same. it's crazy. people call me out for this sometimes. either that or i feel that i can sense that they notice it hahah. ergg it's annoying tho ahhaha
@@gvrizz Here I am, a year later, with like eight projects to do.... AND I'm still sidetracked. Guess some things you never grow out of. Additionally, I didn't even notice how similar his physicality is to mine, oof!
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Have you ever considered there might be a pattern to the subject switching and side-tracking? :P
INTPs try to know every character of person they likes.
As a female, it's usually simple for me; I can't make eye contact with the guy that I like. I just can't. Especially if I don't know him well enough. Yes, I will look at him when he's not looking my way. But eye contact, oh no. It somewhat distabilises me and makes me hyper self-conscious. Don't know if it's just an intp thing, though.
I'm an Infp and I'm like you, I just can't.
INTP guy here, this is accurate
So accurate!! I can make eye contact except with people I like/ who might like me
INTP here, just let the logical side of you take hold.
You need eye contact to not look weird
You need eye contact to come accross as listening and considerate
You need eye contact to appear assertive
You need eye contact to be more seductive.
You can come up with your own reasons. Maybe dip into apathy just a tinge to suppress you emotions, but stay alert and focused on the person.
@@lordepichax3755 this right here is what I always tell myself
Truth! As an INTP male, there's nothing worse than having to let a woman down after evaluating her while she's just warming up to you. Everything is happening so fast in my mind. It seems so unfair to be wired like that.
I feel like many INTPs will relate to this video, and be like, "Yeah, that's right." But most other types will come away more confused than they started haha.
This was totally written by an INTP for INTPs.
Featuring an INTP.
Definitely more confused ~INFP
True.. He should draw conclusions not just keep mumblings 🤔
ENFP 😏
When you speak about your fear of making another person feel "rejected"; it's really interesting to see the manner in which your inferior Fe manifests. And yet there are a plethora of "INTP robot" stereotypes.
We are the *warmest* machines, after all.
@@jamersbazuka8055 💀💀💀💀💀
I mean we value other people but don't always know how to interact with them
Because that's what they are: just stereotypes. I've known young ISTP's and ISTJ's in my past who could not even talk to a woman. I had problems at first, but once I've developed some Fe...It's more about which types you meet (xNFPs and xNFJs women seem to like me the most) and I'been dating an INFJ for over 5 years now.
For me there are types I attract and repel: compatibility of personalities is important and the type of relationship: friend, family, lover, colleague...enemy xD
I agree it's always so endearing to me to see inferior fe manifesting in such a way
"How do you know when an INTP likes you? You don't!" Best reply ever!
Imagine observing someone carefully for a month or so, every little detail .. and then after approaching them and having a 1 minute chat you're like " nah .. not my cup of tea " , and getting distracted with another thing already, while the romantic future You've previously imagined is fading away as you laugh at it .
Why are we like that ?! 💔🤦😂😂
OMG you are so freaking adorable. I LOVE INTPs!! INFJs (that’s me) are rare and so are you. I have finally landed the INTP boyfriend of my dreams!!!
His idea of pursuit? He knows I love Star Wars and he offered to BUILD ME A LIGHTSABER... in terms of pursuit, in INTP terms, that’s a damn declaration of marriage! ❤️👍
Edit: he’s the principle engineer of a company that works with lasers- so yeah he put serious thought into it for me!
that is the coolest thing ive read in a while.. im happy for you!
@n Oh, I adore INTPs and have thought so much about them with INFJs conceptually and realistically (referencing my plethora of experience - starting from my first boyfriend when I was 16 who was an INTP to my last boyfriend last year to my good guy friend who is an INTP. Oh and a really interesting, assertive one that knows so much about INFJs - I met him via internet.
Advice FOR them - relationship issues
n INFJs open up like a flower, organically.
I will share some of my story with you to hopefully offer food for thought and insight. Keep in mind, I do seem to be a rather odd infj in some respects.
So. I was a lot like this INFJ you speak of with one INTP who pursued me last year. BUT. I was so reserved because I cared so much about what he thought of me & couldn't fathom how he was into me (which, sadly, I overcompensated in trying to appear so put together and worth his time, that I never had this mentality of "here's who I am. If you like what you see, then come into my world too. it's not going to just be me always trying to understand or coming to your world. We both have something real and unique to offer the other by being true to ourselves." So my interpretation of my past behavior is that my mindset at the time bit me in the butt because he never saw my wonderfully, disarming, zany, outlandish, against the status quo humor which speaks so much about who I am). The humor often comes with a sense of safety with the other person. This can come with understanding another person. We tend to fear what we don't know.
So what is needed to nurture this connection in order for the INFJ to open up?
The most success I've ever had with an INTP is my guyfriend I know currently. We message each other almost everyday now - it usually starts with memes! It's at a point of an ice give & take. And this can lead to sharing dreams and schemes 😂😉
What lacked in my last relationship and what thrives in my friendship now is just that - friendship and foundation. Don't force things. Don't wake up love before its time. With my INTP friend, we begin & continue to be in the ideal context - a part of a large friend group. It's actually a small college ministry and it just happened to attract a bunch of weird kids like us. There are so many more opportunities thru this shared, free space. We have group goals & projects we work on together. He admires how I talk with people and not at people (like he does, admittedly). So he wants to be the person to reach out to others and then I am the follow-up person. He sees me as an incubator. Through friendship, you can begin to decide if she is worth the patience which most likely will be totally, and unavoidably, necessary. INFJs can be the hardest to truly know, and require the most patience perhaps, but much like our approach to life, we believe in the quality choice and having a futuristic vision which automatically comes with patience. Now, one thing that is weird about INFJs is that we do tend to see most people through a very platonic lens. I'm a sapiosexual and it takes a long time for me to not only feel safe, but to experience depth enough to want to take action. There is the risk that even though you invest in the friendship, she may not end up feeling a romantic way toward you. But there is also the opportunity to maybe end up with a passionate and dedicated partner, both intelligent and deeply kind. Especially if you treat her with consideration, effort, and vulnerability. But I guarantee either way, you will gain a genuine, trustworthy, loyal, wise and fun and maybe lifetime friend who truly cares for you as one of her favorite human beings.
So, practically, if you can, find some other people you both enjoy and a space that feels like you can be yourselves, and get to know each other in that way. Find a subject that she may be interested in and share why you love it. For example, he knows I totally love psychology, so one time when he was talking about his favorite subject, comic book characters like Batman & The Joker, he explained the psychology behind them both. They actually were quite similar, and hid behind masks. It really drew me in and I hung on his every word. Also, INFJs tend to see relationships as very dynamic. So, for example, at least with me, let's say I'm given hugs each time I've hung out with the INTP the last five times. In my mind, i may still be wondering if he actually will want to give a hug the next time. I think we, as also with ENFJs, can come up with the silliest "but what if THIS time." Keep pursuing her and showing her patterns. Eventually she will conceptualize internally that you are trustworthy enough for even her to initiate.
I have some of the most deep conversations with my INTP friend and yet we also have some of the most fun. We are always pranking one another. One time we stayed up till 7 a.m. because I was chasing him with my weapon of choice. ... My chapstick. 🤣
INTP's and INFJ's are sometimes known as the Golden Couple because of how well we get along.
@@CATCATDovahkiin don't base your relationships, hopes for one, or other people's relationships, on these tests. Sure, they have a lot of interesting data and you can learn a lot about yourself and others, but 80% of love is a lucky dip, dude. So just go with the flow of things and don't get hung up things.
@@oidaz8402 I liked her before I had her take the test btw
Observations from an INFP:
- My INTP can struggle to stay in touch with his emotions, so he is often grateful of my Fi to help him with that. It is unusual to me that you guys can be so unaware of your emotions.
-He likes to DO stuff to keep his active mind occupied. It is important to him that we like the same activities. Sure, he can be lazy as shit, but I think he'd find it very difficult to sit around with me all day
- Intellectual stimulation is very important. He liked that fact I beat him at chess so easily and I'm so eager to have in depth discussions about things. When we first met we skipped straight past the small talk.
- Actions speak louder than words for him. He might not always tell me how much he cares, but he will show it in other ways.
-Usually, I have to tell him how I feel and if I am upset. From my experience, if an INTP doesn't pick up on how you're feeling, it's not because they don't care. You must communicate it to them, and you'll know if they do care if they actually take the time to listen to you.
- It's very important to him that we share the same bizarre sense of humour. He says things that would really confuse other people, but with me he can be totally himself without fear of alienating me
lol. I have to ask myself all the time, "Am I feeling something? What is this? Does this feeling have a name? What does it do?"
Omg an INFP female with a INTP male. Legit me and the guy I'm talking to. I think he's in the getting to know if im worth it stage😂. He's slowly revealing private things from his life to me so I think it's going well lmao.
Agreed as another INFP f dating an INTP m (late 20s)
Please make sure that your INTP is well fed, they sometimes forget about that stuff. Also, a scratch under the chin might be enjoyed by your INTPs
As an INTP I'm far more aware of my emotions than my physical sensations sometimes. I usually don't realize I feel sick until I feel terribly bad. Though I sometimes don't realize I'm nervious until I realize I'm trembling or I'm having a stomackpain.
I get confused very often with my physical sensations and my feelings. I'm really bad at telling them apart.
My emotional state also changes how I percieve physical sensations. In some ocasions I've felt stronger and more pleasing physical sensations with very minimal physical contact with someone I like than when having sexual interactions whith someone I don't like that much.
When you talked about how we INTPs like to look at people, my mind was blown. I never even considered that other people might not be like that. I fell over from shock.
Did you get up yet?
@@TheBigHomie209 this is the best thing I've seen all day lmfaoo Excluding the fact its 2AM.
Trejo's World LOLLLLLLL HAHHAHAHA
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Yes, I do like to look to people. Specially handsome guys. Lol
I wish there was more advice *for* INTPs, especially regarding relationships and stuff. It's all just about how to deal *with* INTPs on TH-cam...
Good point!
Old post, but find an INFJ. My girlfriend is an INFJ and it is the easiest relationship I've ever had. All I have to do is be there and show her attention and everything runs smoothly, without me having to juggle all these thoughts on how to keep the relationship going.
Cos u are a lot to handle.. 😅😅😅
@The Lucifer Are you sure? An extroverted woman is more likely to cheat. I'm not saying she will, or an introverted woman won't, but why take the chance if you don't have to?
@@ramdom_assortment as an Extrovert (ENFJ) I've never thought about cheating on my partners especially my Intp. I don't think/ believe all Extroverts cheat. There's a lot more to cheating than a person's personality. My biological father and step father are both Introverts and have both cheated. It can happen to anyone. My mom's an ESTP and is very very excruciatingly loyal too, and has never cheated. So the Extrovert cheater thing isn't valid, as much, as you've said, both I & E are capable of being cheaters. Just depends.
I'm an INTP. The first time I read about myself I thought it sounded robot like and emotionless, since focused on the more "emotionless" seeming traits. But this. I didn't realize people didn't crush like I do, finding as much info as possible, OBSESSING over the crush. This video makes me realize we aren't just robots or something. Great video.
If you think you Intps obsess over crushes... wait till you meet an ENFP 😂😂
You know, I'm an intp and the way I converse usually is by asking questions. Some people really find it absurd, they ask " why are you asking so many questions" then my mind goes " well you got any better ideas, son?" But it really makes me think. Maybe asking questions to get to know one another is only an INTP thing.
Infp too
I'm an isfj and I do that too
I'm INTP and this really hit home. I have to know a girl first before deciding to go that next level. Id hate to get a girls hopes up by initiating something only to have to turn her down because ive discovered son deal breaking qualities. It's not fair on her and I'm waisting both our time.
Also, like you said, I find I can know a girl if I work with her. Working together to achieve a goal or finish a job provides the most comfortable environment to communicate with a girl. I can't start conversations anyother way. Probably because it takes the focus off us both and makes it less obvious.
But yeah, I too just pick that one special girl to focus on and commit to them.
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"how do you know when an infp likes you?"
*full spin*
"ya don't!"
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA
Intp not Infp.
It's still true though. I've crushed on INFPs before and haven't been able to tell if they like me back.
I am INTP with an INFP twin sister. This is true for both. 😂
Yeah it's true for infp too. I'm an Infp and I always make sure nobody would notice when I have a crush.
B-but but as an INFP if I reaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaally like you I just spill the beanz & cross my fingerz HAHA
Our system is sorta like the scientific method.
We want to observe you in your natural environment first. A Control. Know your interests, how you behave, etc. Gather as much information as possible.
Then we can introduce ourselves like an independent variable. See how you behave around us, what you show and hide, how you change, what more information we can get.
For example, with her friends she is very high energy and loud. When talking to me, she is very quiet and reserved. An interesting reaction.
Reconnaissance. If we can save ourselves (and you!) from an embarrassing and awkward situation by learning about you BEFORE we make a move, we will do it. Like a military that scouts an area before moving, so they dont walk into an ambush.
But I leave information breadcrumbs behind me, hoping that someone interested in me will study them and learn about me. Give the information I wish the ones I observe would give. But nobody cares about me, and only an INTP would care about such breadcrumbs, so, RIP.
And truly, we are undyingly loyal, even to our detriment.
Yeah it is really frustrating when you know that after spending so much time researching them and give the precious space they just casually hang with you.and they are not trying enough to know who you really are. Typical intp problems.
Im trying to search more and more about my intp crush, and he really like to make a deep converstation about it, how cute is that😊
I'm an INFP & I think just like INFJ we're a good match for INTP. We actually try and we look forward to also learning and understanding people on a deeper level.
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@@malak9502 Im an INTP and my GF is an INFJ, i'm pretty sure we face book stalked each other for a month before we even said anything to each other.
I never thought about it before but after going through all the comments I see that intp's and infp's are really drawn to each other. Like literally, my boyfriend is an infp
Allison Hawkins as an INFP really liking INTP, I hope so much that it will work out
Yeah the guy I'm talking to is an INTP. Hoping that he'll ask me out soon. Rn we're getting to know eachother even more (since we were already friends). I think he's gathering information about me lmao😂. I am too tho cuz he's slowly revealing more of himself to me.
I’ve figured I can be very into INTPs, too. Almost obsessively.
Spot on dude. I felt this on a spiritual level. It's almost impossible to connect with anyone over anything other then deep philosophy and intellectualism. I've never kissed a girl on the first date and only seek long term relationships in polar contrast to the rest of my friends. I wish our personality wasn't so rare. It's hard to find others like me. I feel like I'm swimming in an ocean of stupidity like 90% of the time.
That process sounds all too familiar, but for a female intp i feel like it’s a lil more complicated. I feel like I’m always trying to avoid or that I have to avoid the opposite sex because, like you say, I don’t want to invest myself in just anyone. And I feel like that could happen with anyone who might approach me, and I don’t want to be the cause of the rejection they might feel. It’s like if I show any interest whatsoever that gives them a foot into my door when I wasn’t sure I wanted to invite them in at all.
AzaleaznAsteroidz ikr!!! Whenever I see a guy I like I put on my blank face and stare into the space and walk away😭
We are so easily confused by others cause we tend to have deep and meaningful conversations right away and people think that's because we're interested in them. But it's because we're bored with the plane and ordinary of this world. And because we avoid conflict we tend to avoid any type of miscomunication that could lead to misinterpretation by the opposite sex, it's exhausting. At some point I realised I couldn't protect other people feelings at my own expense and just be myself. Sociable, deep, and analytical. An INTP
As a female INTP I can be super extroverted with everyone and initiate conversation easily... as long as I'm not romantically interested in them!
The very moment I realise someone managed to break through my very well disguised inner shell of a heart I panic and I shut down completely, becoming the most annoying idiotic version of myself. I can't talk to them, make eye contact to them, let alone flirt with them. Just avoid them, they're too much work for my emotions. So if you want to know when an extraverted INTP likes you, see when it stops trying to be a smartass around you and avoid you at all costs.
im an INTP girl and ive had guys immediately try to “pursue me” without even getting to know me and it is the biggest turn off in the world for me.
because 1) you probably do this often and to other girls and 2) youre probably the kind of person who gets into relationships because “hey! why not?”
thats not me and not what i want
Accurate 💯 And i'm ENTP girl!
I as an INTP become really happy and engaged - very childlike if I come across a guy that I can talk intuitively with without being to self conscious.
Maybe I'm the only one, but I would love if you had a podcast where you just discussed being an INTP, what that means, how you behave, etc. As an INFP myself, I find that INTP is my favourite personality type to explore, observe, and learn about. I've also noticed a pattern in your videos where you say you admire INFPs or wish you could be more like one (which I find ironic because I find myself wishing to be more like an INTP). Anyways, even if you won't be making any podcasts, I'd just like to say that I love your content and I think you're doing a fantastic job at being informative, fun, cute, AND funny! Keep up the good work! :)
It's been 10 years since I've met this INTP guy and I like him, he likes me, but he won't make a move! He drops little tiny hints that sometimes give me hope and other times I just slap myself and say it's nothing I'm just reading too much into it and right now everything is a mess. And every single time I tell myself okay I am over him I moved on he pops up and I'm back to crushing over him! Gah! Get outta my head INTP! And no thanks to him everyone else is not as interesting. I'm an INFJ btw so I am also afraid of making the first move so yeah I'm just gonna continue to live this agony for 10 more years! Wish me luck
Nada Pw tame impala - the less I know the better
Oh my word, do iiiitttt :D
You are gifted with an amazing toolbox full of wonderful skills and talents which are perfect for this kind of situation. Why not use it?
Don't let it go to waste, come on :D do something!
Fingers crossed :D I'm rooting for you
~fellow infj
Lol same case like me
Same curse here (infj crushing on intp)
This is accurate especially on the part that INTP think of long term the first second haha. My boyfriend, an INTP behaved that sort of way in the getting-to-know phase. I'm so lucky to have met that kind of guy, it's so refreshing. Fyi, I'm an INFP
How is it going with him?
Is that a guy that I could marry is the first question I ask myself during/after a first date😂. I'm an INFP close to an INTP type. I can relate a lot to the things you've said.
This is the first think I ask myself when I see a handsome or an interesting guy. Sometimes I say: I wouldn't mind him being my boyfriend and marrying him. Lol
INTP here.
I have similar problems. When I was 21 through 26, I had a job at a blood bank which required me to talk to a lot of strangers on a daily basis, make idle chit chat with them and co workers. It was horribly difficult for a year or so,until I figured out a sort of conversational flow chart in my mind. I learned that if I see someone in a bar or etc and want to strike up a conversation; I observe her passively for a few minutes and wait for someone else to say something awkward, then I chime in with what I consider to be a funny way of diffusing the situation and respond to what she is likely feeling at that moment. This works well for me.
Example, I was sitting in a greyhound station waiting for a bus at 8pm or so. This was a very high crime area with homeless people, scary looking strangers and etc. A very attractive 20 yr old lady say down next to me. I just observed and kept reading my book. A very young very awkward, but thuggish looking guy walked up to her and kina stammered "Excuse me, would you be offended if I told you you are beautiful?" Poor guy knew he was totally screwing it up. So I immediately chime in and say to him "No, infact I'm flattered, but your not my type." She laughed hysterically, awkwardness was diffused, she stayed next to me and chatted the rest of the nite. She bored me, so I didn't pursue it further after we got off the bus. To ease the sting for him, and to teach him how to do better, because we've ALL been there, I followed that comment by saying "Always lead off with a joke, beautiful women almost always know they are beautiful. "
im not an INTP but i totally relate to you thinking long-term when interacting with a potential partner.
people tell me to date around just for experience and not to take relationships too seriously, but i can’t seem to do that... darn dominant Ni lol.
and oh my goodness your blind spot to age is hilarious! xD some people think im a high schooler but im actually 23. that gets awkward real quick 😶
Grace Kim maybe because you are baby faced and so am I -.-'.2nd year of college and I get mistaken for a 9th grader.
Sounds like INTJ or INFP
I mean if you're not dating for marriage you're dating for breakup, so unless both parties are ok with being friends with benefits or some other dynamic like that, i'd say it makes sense to be at least mindful of the feasibility of the couple.
Who else avoid exchanging phone numbers/ email in the first instance? No matter how important you’re to me there are times that I’ll completely be detached from you.
Everyone thinks I’m awkward but smart, and people trust me and my judgements.
I barely trust my own judgments...
Well you see,.the few people I gave my number to, gave it to other people, who gave it to others and it just kept going on like that...welp.
Funny, I too have a "no phone number on first meeting" rule, in part because I figure I'll see them again at a similar gathering anyway.
The one time I considered breaking this rule was at a friend's birthday party, a friend of b-day friend and I had a couple humorous exchanges, followed by a 20 to 30 minute uninterrupted meaningful conversation.
Jamers Bazuka I hope you didn’t break that rule 😂🌚
@@zeddicuszulzorander1431 Lol, I didn't, though I regretted it for a couple weeks. Thankfully time gives a better perspective.
P.S. Somehow I didn't notice before, but nice name.
Lol. Makes perfect sense to me. INFP girl here with a crush on an INTP. I naturally like to reveal things about myself and hold deep discussions about life, philosophy and abstract ideas. I thought in dating that was generally a disadvantage...🤔 Because you're supposed to be all "mysterious" and "difficult to get to know"... etc. [rolls eyes at the "dating rule book"]
I find I love an INTP's insatiable curiosity, love of knowledge and analysis, rebelliousness and quirky sense of humour. I even like their "social awkwardness"... (I find it adorable!)
I suppose, being a sapiosexual, I'm just naturally attracted to INTPs...Lol.🤣
And I get the whole thing about not wanting the other person to feel rejected - I have often agreed to go on a date with a guy just because I didn't want him to feel rejected and then when he wants to start dating long-term (but I know he's not what I'm looking for), I don't know how to remove myself from the situation.
You're funny i like you
When I like someone I start plotting how to make them live forever
This sums me up better than I myself could've explained had someone asked my method.
😅🤣😅
Female INTP here. I can affirm it's DEFINITELY similar for us gals as well. I shut down potential romantic partners fast when I evaluate our compatibility won't last long-term. I see no point in investing and wasting precious time and energy like that. That's why the whole convention of dating rankles me.
Oh, and dude, you're fucking hilarious.
I love how you tell stories inside the story inside the story you are telling, lmao it makes me relate because my friends always tell me I do that. I thought it was just me that could tell the "energy" of a person (that's how I called that perception of "rejection"). I don't like people feeling uncomfortable around me for some reason. Am I the only INTP that does this?
INTP here , pretty much everything laid bare there. The best way to get people's true nature is just by spending a road trip or hanging out in social events . Although by seeing someone's true self hanging out with her friends it turned me icy cold toward her, like betrayal of the mind so I rolled back on detached state. I know rude, but..nevertheless, done with this. "Do not want"
I understand what you mean.
Yep
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for me, an INTP women, romance doesn't even exist right now.
because I'm under 20, and in no position to think about a long-term relationship. as you said, it's very important to us INTPs. and also, it doesn't help that i'm so hyperaware of everything, and how it could all go wrong.
so in general I'm a little afraid of this whole dating thing ^^;
and everytime i begin to think about my future with someone, my heart just starts hurting and i get anxious.
sounds like a problem, don't you think? 😶
we have weak Fe; we cant pretty much deal with someone coming right into us, making us like them and then just leave us. so we pretty much assume we should be as careful with others as we would like them to be with us. the girl you mentioned with the tattoos probably didnt mind the situation as much as you thought she did -- because people with greater emotional intelligence than us INTPs deal better with these sort of scenarios than we do. after all i think this is all about our unawareness of that fact that even tho we might be smarter and more intuitive than most people for some things (Ti plus Ne), we are worst than most people dealing with emotional situations. the friend you spoke with, saying things like 'gosh, you dont understand', probably would deal with the situation better than you as an INTP. exactly because he would know that some things are just emotional and not really meant to be rationalized and that's fine and that tattoo might know that as well and might be just doing ok. we must all see that for these sort of things, other people are more mature than us. and also that some situations are not meant to be solved as chess problems.
Very relatable! It’s good to feel validated, to know others see things the way I do!
3:06 ... yea, long term analysis right off the bat. Yes, always. (Planned a wedding? No... but tried to ensure it's not completely useless waste of energy)
7:15 being worries about how to unspool a relationship once a no-go decision is made... and prevent hurt feelings.... #mylife right now.
Hmm..!
Ive hit the no go zone so many times
As an INTP I always felt this "Alienation". We are the minority and we do stuff sometimes maybe a bit too efficient or just weird according to the normal person in the society since we tend to hold the weight of everyone all the time, but at least now I know I wasn't that much of an alien and alone I guess
The way you sweep the floor is WAY too cartoonesque to be effective. You would get fired if that was your real job. ;p
The long term perspective is pretty accurate for INTx in general.
As for being interested in someone, then forgetting, then remembering, then reconnecting, then disengaging again, I find it's a general characteristic of NTs.
For example, a breakdown of my mind on a typical me-day: Ideations/concepts: 70%, Actions/objects: 20%, Emotions/people: 10%. If I happen to toggle the figures for actions and emotions by spending time with friends, then I will need a full day of Ideation to recover. If I swap ideations and actions because of an immediate disaster sort of situation (i.e bush fires, loss of close ones, civil unrest/riots, etc), then I shut down emotionally for months, until the world makes sense again.
This is an algorithm that took me 28 years to figure out, but I'm glad I did grow from these life experiences.
As you said, being in the same "natural" environment seems to be THE biggest factor in getting to know people for who they are and connecting with them. Hence the whole "LDR" sounds totally counter-intuitive and conducive to unsatisfying relationships to me, even when I knew the person beforehand.
i dont think intp's ever "really" mop...its more of a keep your boss away device
💀🤣💀🤣💀 @ the first paragraph..
intp vibe: you dont understand certain dynamics sir
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This is pretty spot on! Knowing whether someone’s character is a match is a huuuge thing. It’s also usually picked up from from tiny tiny hints like the way they look at others when they talk, whether they roll their eyes, or their pattern of speech and how individual it is. If I mentioned these to non-N types they’d probably think I’m being too judgemental. But it usually plays out as expected so it’s worth heeding.
Oh gosh, you explained my live. I get called judgmental all the time! People don't recognize how these subtleties come from somewhere. Thank you for commenting!
“INTPs look at the long term the moment we meet you” 😂truthhhh
dude oh my god. it made perfect sense! i feel like explaining ourselves to other people is one of the hardest things and it feels like they'll never understand you - kinda thing. like even you explaining everything, i noticed you caught yourself at times where you could've gone into a whole new topic, but instead you stopped yourself and man that's a hard thing to do. we have so many thoughts going through our minds at one time. its like our minds our so complex in the logical sense and it's like we analyze everything to the smallest details. it's honestly so interesting the way we work. such a great video, thank you for sharing it 🙌🏼
This is the first video I watch of you and I already like you. 😂
This applies to female INTP'S too though. Or I feel like it.
wanna become my INTP-t wife and together we can make "super INTP-T" babiez/?.
Yes!
My friends always criticize me by the way I avoid approaching strangers to get their numbers or such, without previously knowing anything about them at all (as for example if we could be happily married with 2 adopted children studying in a very good school nearby). Now I know that I’m not alone. Tks! =D I’m sharing this video with my friends.
I think a lot of women don’t necessarily want to “know if you like them” but would prefer it were just demonstrated. And often times don’t necessarily have a rigid idea in their head of whether they like someone or not , since the ability to demonstrate the attraction is part of their attraction itself
I had an intp who came to my job a lot bc he was friends with someone at work but THEN HE STARTED COMING EVERYDAY aaaannd like yeah would kinda stare /watch and I could tell he liked me and was going to approach me and he did! Anddd uuuhm yeah he would come and flirt with me everyday and anyway I liked the persistence and did go on a date with him
So I suppose that was the observation phase 😅 let's hope this goes well
I am watching knowing damn well I will die alone.
I'm glad to know that intps are pretty fun, excited to know that side of him hopefully , and yeah I've been researching intps things so this has helped a lot lol. (thhhannkks)
~infj
I'm glad I can help!
An intp gentleman at church asked for my number from a friend at church and never texted.
Ever since I've been agonizing about what he observed in my character that made him decide against reaching out.
What makes it worse is I catch him looking at me (through reflections in monitors etc...)
I know how terrible it can be to feel responsible for the feelings of others so I try to simply not exist when we serve together
Puzzling to be sure
I'm a female INTP, and just watching this guy trail off in a totally different topic, mention crazy side thoughts, or explain the social situation... oh my gosh, I have never related to anything more
Textbook INTP here. Absolutely relatable on all points. But since I don't like going outside or minding people, I don't even try. But I /have/ 'investigated' some people who like me and try it see if they're worth a shot. Sadly found things I didn't like instead.
Lol. I only recently found out about different types. Things I do are starting to make sense. Like starting a conversation and a minute in saying, sorry that's all I have. I'll just leave now. That annoys me. Why end it before it starts? I probably know the answer to that. I go in like 007 and leave like MrBean
I feel an intense amount of adoration and yet strange assertive affection for INTPs and their certain mannerisms, enthusiasm, and creative ideas. Like my inferior Se boils out and I just wanna tackle 'em with appreciation? 😂
Intp: *meets someone cute for the first time* so, how old are you and what is the fundamental basis of your existence?
You’re gesture with mop falling meant so much to me
INFJ here. This whole thing about getting to know eachother in a group conversation is just TOO REAL. I had no idea that I was even doing that until you were talking about it.
the indirect information gathering in a group setting is sooo true, am doing it rn and no one has any clue that soo much info is being processed in my brain and calculations being made.
We steer the conversation in a subtle manner such that the questions we have is answered without asking
I am very fond of INTPs. You are as eccentric and deep and as akward as us (INFPs) :)
Love the interesting ways your minds work. Always loved David Byrne!
Being an intp I can say... same 100% I didn't doubt that you were an intp but as the video went through I was like, "this guy is most definitely intp 100% no doubt about it because ME TOO!!! not only what you were saying but the fact that you went off topic so much was just so intp. If someone comes here to find out about intp's you came to the right place.
Bro i get your point on Christianity. Being an INTP Christian like you, a woman with Christian beliefs and morals is a great package and makes my analysis mich easier. All i need to do i see how seriously/loosly she takes her beliefs. Other than that we have good views on what a relationship should be like and the virtues and duties required.
INTP sends funny good morning gifs every morning. Asks me out. Agrees to go here and there with me. Gentlemanly, wants to pay for our dates. Texts me promptly. He likes me right? 😬🥺
I "pass people off"
Like I'll go up to someone to talk in a group setting and find out I dont want to be in this conversation anymore. What I'll do is pull somone else into the conversation and when the two get to talking I talk to someone else to leave or just wait til my silence causes them to ignore me and I can walk away.
Or I make them dislike me by being myself. It gives me practice.
Oh my gosh, these are flipping hilarious. And totally on point. This is why I've always had what my mom refers to as a 5 year plan, lol. You become friends, and keep it in mind that nothing could happen for 5 years till you know the person fully to stop yourself from potential disappointment. Also works great if your waiting on God. I too can imagine maybe not a wedding but like 10 years into marriage, what kind of life, how many kids all from just observing, watching work ethic, personality etc. But I need to see if for a long time before I believe it. Crushes aren't real, its just temporal infatuation with the idea of someone. I ain't about that life lol, its a waste of time. I need to know there's a future with potential before I put you on a pedestal. Btw the age thing. Holy crap, yes, same. Its so annoying.
For the first time of my life , someone matching my body language (or I came to see one finally )Cheers fella intp
"INTPs like to look at people" hahah soo true. My bf told me I used to "scan" people when we first met. I try not to do it anymore but sometimes I cant help myself!
Yes! When i'm in a bar or restaurant i would scan people. I'm not sure what I'm looking for though. Maybe a cute guy, or someone I know that makes that place a more comfortable one or someone I don't like that I should avoid. Who knows. Most of the time i'm looking for cute guys i think XD
Eric, I am an INFJ Christian female and I am absolutely smitten by you.
As an INFP I relate to pretty much everything you said in this video, very interesting! Only just found your channel a few minutes ago. Really awesome content!
Oh my!!! You just described one of my INTP'S friend, he struggles to find the right girl, and backing up without hurting them it's hard on him.
I am an INFP 🌞 Totally all feelings. I do empathize with my INTP friend. ( Spock) Best luck to you!
i can definitely talk about pudding :D
The more ya know. The more there is to know...YOU KNOW? Haha your adorable adaptable. I think you are very qualified to interpret for us. This message is approved!!
I have to comment despite this video being 5 years old: your aside on pudding, 5:33, cracked me up. Perfectly and spontaneously illustrated the tangent-upon-tangent nature of an INTP brain, as well as how anything can be fascinating (at least to an INTP) if you think about it deeply enough. As an INTJ who's getting to know and is really attracted to a particular INTP, I have been trying to "calibrate" to his weird questions. He may not be fully aware about how much data I'm gathering on him as he gathers data on me...
When I care about someone, it's almost like I study them. It's hard to keep it from coming across as creepy, but really it's because I'm driven by the desire to make them happy (demon Fe), and my way of doing that is to understand them from every perspective and angle, inside and out, at every level of analysis (savior Ti).
Three things: 1) you made this video on my birthday, thank you (even if I watched it right now), 2) I'm INTP and I think that we have really similar sense of humor! That's funny! Also 3) this video is really good, I think that's true even if I was never in romantic relationship.
Too long for this INTP...
As a fellow INTP I am glad that I found someone else who is more on the quirky side.
I get what you're saying and here's what I do in that kind of situation. (I'm INTJ by the way and maybe it's not the perfect solution but here it is). After I've started a conversation and feel the need to walk away, I let the conversation run its natural course first and after the conversation has slowed momentum, I say something like "Alright, well, it was nice meeting you" and if they insist on continuing, "Sorry, I really am, but I gotta use the restroom" where I would decide what I should do about the situation if she is still there. Like, you could decide to leave if you are okay with that and say that you gotta go for this reason or that reason but maybe we will talk again sometime (emphasis on being friendly but not leading them on). Basically what I'm saying is treat them like a very temporary new friend/encounter that you don't want to lead on much. I have many encounters with people every day usually in customer service in my cashiering job so I've learned a few ways to deal with people who want to talk when I don't want to.
Edit: I'm probably inexperienced with handling people in a personable manner. This might leave some people with a bad feeling but from what I have seen it works for what I want it to. I try to acquaint people's feelings and insecurities and I try hard because it really isn't natural for me but the trying makes all the difference for me. I think I could leave the conversation/ relationship if I gave their feelings good consideration and took precautions to leave on the best terms possible. If I tried to do it, I feel better even if they don't like where it ended. Because I did what I could. I'm not going to fake desire for a relationship that I know won't work out. I just move on after that. Lol, I know that sounds cold, systematic, etc. but I don't want to hurt their feelings going too deep or by going too little into a conversation/relationship. By the way, I don't expect this to be the best solution because other people would probably have better advice than me but I just wanted to share my thoughts
INTPs have a romantic side which we rarely reveal. It takes a lot to reach that side of INTP.
Intj found me an intp. We didn't bother with the small talk when we met. We went straight to the values & we knew.
He has lots of hobbies to keep his mind busy. But he doesnt expect me to share all his same interest. But we get each other. Its weird but cool at the same time. He's also very affectionate which is something i appreciate but not used to.
As an INFP i feel a little bit of these things in me aswell, having an INTP friend is nice cause we can relate to each other but yep... He really does seem like a robot when it comes to emotions 😂
Does he look at you? What drives you as an individual? He is looking for info about you.They want to see you engaged in your environment to see if you're worthy of pursuing.INTP look at the long term goal & they can fully invested into you.
Here I thought the 'planning marriage' thing was just something I did with romantic prospects. It's not impulsive, ever, but when I set my sights on someone in a romantic context, I always find myself reasoning out, based on whatever information is available about them, how life may unfold were we together long-term... often with uncanny accuracy based on past entanglements.
It's that Ti thing, I guess, but when you internalize so much thought, one develops a way to outline life like it were the plot to a really boring, pedantic movie that nobody would watch. When I still like the plot to that movie despite all the boring bits, that's when I realize someone may be a real prospect for a long-term relationship.
Unfortunately, I don't know how it looks from the outside when I come to that conclusion, though I imagine there would be facial ticks or body language cues to indicate my satisfaction with the result. Or you could ask, if you were feeling bold enough...
Infp in love with an Intp and he is the kindest sweetest human. And his humor is perfection. He is protective and looks out for me in the sweetest ways or like if I talk too loud when I’m excited he gently shushes me and I could never be offended even though I’m embarrassed. I was with 2 infjs before and I love them but their bipolar type of personality is so annoying how they desire to be the superhero then complain that they are saving everyone it’s a bit much…. But the INTP is forthright which I love and I think if you have a tough enough skin as an infp and the INTP truly loves you they’ll be forthright but not cut you. I’d hate to be on the receiving end of a bad arguement. Anyway with the long winded infp rant… I give INTP men 2 thumbs up ❤
My sister is an INTP. This is pretty much her, lol.
He's kinda cute, the way he acts and the way he looks so relatable as an intp 😍
I agree, i hate to try to know people with whom I don't share any social context. And by context I mean a place we share, like work, or the choir, or whatever, or a grup of friends that we share...
The most fascinating creatures! Thanks for the insight, helped me a lot to learn about my crush.
The first impression thing really resonates with me. Many people find it unsettling how I'm so stiff on my opinion of others, but it's something intuitive about it, I guess.
Literally dealing with this right now at work. "She's cute, but I don't know anything about her. Well, most of the younger girls that work here are college age, so that could work. Yeah, but I don't want to ask her on a date without knowing anything, that would be weird. How do I find out about her without being creepy? What if she has a boyfriend? Well maybe I could play it off. Ok, I'm not that smooth. Do I need to be smooth, though, if she's turning me down? I'm not even in a position to get married. Well, but I wouldn't propose on the first date. Yeah, but if it's a nice relationship I don't want to drag her along until I have my life together, either. I don't want to hold her back. She'd probably break up with me. I can't deal with that kind of rejection anymore. Maybe I should just stay single. But I want a companion and a family! AAAAAGH!"
I am INFP and I have a crush in intp ❤ they are adorable but I don’t say nothing yet, but I believe he already know what he’s so freaking smart😂
your acting and body movement mimicry is so funny XD