Surprising Lessons From 100 Days of Rejection: Jia Jiang at TEDxAustin
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- Chasing your dream requires you put everything out there and deal with the consequences. When aspiring entrepreneur Jia Jiang left corporate life to build his dream company, he had no idea it also meant facing crushing rejection.
The best way to recover? 100 Days of Rejection Therapy. Halfway through now, it's been an astonishing journey, and proof positive that we have no idea what is waiting on the other side of an audacious request.
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Rejection therapy = door-to-door sales
lol
Most certainly! I’m in the business
Door-to-door is one of those things that's hard even when you're good at it.
This made me happy. I have gotten so many job rejections and I'm a bit depressed today. This talk certainly made me feel better :)
Try getting hired then getting fired. for the past 16 years
I am going through this now, Billie. It has me so crushed right now. I hope it worked out for you.
billiebillie I had a teacher till me, to not be afraid to Ask, because all they can say is Yes or No. but if you don't ask, You will never know if they answer would have been a Yes to what you wanted or needed, so go for it. ASK, ASK ASK.
The point of the game is to being rejected, really gave me the courage for the first time in 10 years to finally post a comment in public. Thank you for such an inspiring talk.
jlau66 well done!
not a good comment
And 6 years later you have one of your first responses! ☺️ I’m going to do 100 days of rejection.
Wasnt hard...was it?
@@mirzahusetic9620 oh it’s bloody hard
Jackie is the bomb! She could've just easily said no seeing that it wasn't in the Krispy Kremes menu, but not only did she go out of her way to make those, she even gave it to him for free. What a legend!
Love that girl who made donuts for him....
Yeah, we fuckin banged. It was aight I guess.
"If I open up myself to the world, the world will open up itself to me."
Truly inspiring. Great TED talk, Jia Jiang.
After 6 years of waiting and 5 rejections, I finally got the job of my dream. I will be starting it in two weeks. I'm nervous about it because I am afraid it might not turn out to be what I want but I know I will never be happy until I get it. Persistence and believing in myself did pay off at the end. Don't stop believing in yourself. Thank you for the great advice.
I'm eagerly waiting for an update. :)
So far, I have enjoyed it. Thanks.
Mai Lee Yang What kind of job was it if I may ask?
Niclas Holmsten It's a county position.
That's awesome Mai
Itis not rejection that defines me, it is my REACTION to rejection that defines me.wow this is a great message and great video Thank YOU!
Jia Jiang i ddid it twice this morning it was great. when i got into a taxi, i asked him if i could drive it till we get to the destination. if u just saw the surprising look on his face! then he rejected very politely. i admit it, i pushed my self into doing it and i was really nervous, but it was not as dangerous as i thouhgt. and im very happy to do it again and again.
ted talks is one of the best things to ever happen...
+Cierra Johnson. You said it, girl!!
I should maybe do this to rediscover people's kindness, I am so cynical and bitter, I'm sick of it.
Same!
Yeah, sometimes human kindness seems to come out nowhere and it's almost a surprise to witness it
Wow! By far one of the best TED presentations by far!
I agree. Dude is coming very far
I'm a pro at being rejected.
I want to try this but with an online setting. I'm get so much anxiety from criticism online from just giving my opinion to posting my art. I want to try some kind of exposure therapy but online but without actually offending/hurting anyone. If anyone's got any ideas I'm all ears.
He was rejected 34 times on TH-cam, Awesome stuff.
Love this concept, law of averages shows us we are capable of succeeding in different areas as long as we keep trying.
+Loui V's Journal +1
I wish I could talk with that guy
I'm all ears, Adria.
Jia Jiang Congratulations, it was a memorable talk
Jia Jiang This talk is amazing, and this reply is amazing.
I love his attitude and how unassuming he is about something that is actually incredibly courageous. The fact that he makes this seem like a fun challenge that anyone could take up is one of the most inspiring things about his talk! Yay!
Jia Jiang: Thank you for sharing your courage, efforts and strengths. Your presentation at TEDxAustin really made my day. Upon relating to your experience with the surprising kindness of strangers (Jackie), the gratitude and beauty of such moments in life conjured appreciative tears for the beauty in life. Thank you for sharing such a well structured and uplifting presentation upon your experiences living a life where you've lived life at its best: A life where you've minimized fear by cleverly utilizing a mechanism to deal/accept/cope with rejection.
Initially I liked this talk. However, after taking some time and thinking more deeply about it I have concerns. First, why do irrelevant acts to purposefully illicit rejection? Why not attempt relevant tasks with the goal of succeeding and then using the rejections to motivate you forward.
Rejection is suppose to hurt, it is suppose to be difficult, it is suppose to be a motivator to change who you are now to succeed the next time.
Steven Spielberg didn't accept rejection, he overcame it. He altered his script over and over until he found what worked. He did not accept rejection and he was not okay with the rejection happening. He improved himself and the script until it worked.
My fear with purposefully trying to illicit failure, especially on non-relevant pursuits, is that you are conditioning yourself to simply accept the rejections when they come. Rejection is a negative reinforcement, as such it is meant to be painful, so as to motivate you to change your behavior so you succeed the next time. If you condition yourself to accept the rejection and it no longer becomes painful, slowly but surely failure will no longer be a motivation for you to change yourself and improve.
I would be interested in your thoughts on the matter.
+The Fletch I think the idea is that if rejection is crippling to you, it's easier to start off getting rejected by things you don't care about.
It's always easy to say no when you don't fully understand a problem or are not prepared to accept a challenge that involves stepping outside the circle and doing something different. The important thing is to try and keep trying.
Love this guy! He talks about rejection in a way that actually wants you to face it.
If your looking for rejection, join a MLM co. You can overcome it though.
@Lynn Choi. Why do you think a human being wouldn't do anything nice for another person just because of their ethnic background. Sounds to me like you don't really believe there aren't truly genuine and humble people in this world. Also being an entrepreneur doesn't mean you have to lose your values to become a success. For many people of Generation Y want to connect with people and make a change to the current structure of what society believes success
I laughed so hard and at the same time, really appreciated his great advice. Best speech from tedx .
I got rejected from the University I want to get in so so so badly today. I feel as if my life is over but this video did make me laugh. I don't even know how to tell my family who were just as hopeful as me. It is a very sad day for me
@@anniinthewoods8287 I know I am not @Sanya but I am sure their life is going great! How is yours!?
@@MysteriousMartin I know im not @Anni but I am sure their life is going great! How is yours!?
Enjoyed this immensely, although I do feel one component that wasn't covered as much as it could have been is that he survived! In other words, fear of rejection can be terrifying but the actuality is that we live on! But a great piece, and has given me optimism for the future...
The winner of all mah people:
Door to door reaching out, Jehovah's Witnesses.
What kind of people would reject a guy with his own bag of chips? Sikies
This video really hits me, I get rejected so many times whether it be college, jobs, girls, basically everything really that all those specific events just kinda turn into one big rejection. It happens so many times it doesnt even bother me anymore but hopefully one day Ill get accepted by something or someone... I really hope some time in the future when that happens it will look like a big middle finger to everyone who rejected me in the past
stupid2574 so sorry for your pain.
Genny Brezina I appreciate it. its good to know at least someone feels that way
A good start is to stop calling yourself "stupid". Yeah yeah, you are learning, just like all of us. Well, if you are going to put yourself down, then others will do that too even if they don't want to. You are part of the whole, and you are awesome. I hope one day soon you will get this. Love ya.
Dean Smith I made this name probably in the 5th grade because I thought it would be funny but thanks alot for the advice
stupid2574 just remember all the things you have to be grateful for, I know things can seem hard sometimes, but there is always hope, possibilities are endless if we open ourselves to life :-)
This speech just changed my view to see the world. I will go out there and get rejected more! Haha
Entrepreneurs aren't afraid of Rejection, we actually don't even hear the word "No" We hear "Maybe" or "Keep trying... Almost.."
A movie came out this year, and I was waiting a long time to see it. I found out I had to have surgery the day the movie premiered! So naturally, after the simple minor surgery, while the nurse was pushing me around in the wheelchair, I asked if I could borrow the wheelchair to get good movie seats. She said no, but hey, it was fun. I did end up seeing it that weekend, in a normal seat.
Well done....per usual......
I have just finished his book. It's fantastic. READ IT
I have not listened about rejection, but it is very interesting method. Jia Jiang has a very amazing charm ( I have been more surprised knowing someone rejected him) and sense of humor as well as a good skills in speech. Also, his lessons are very useful in our life. Pain is against Pain.
Thank a lot for the good advice!
I'm reading his book in the end of 2020 and he talks about how nervous he was for this TED Talk...
But seriously, I loved so much!!(this TED and his book)
Amazing talk...thank you for being so courageous Jia, you've truly inspired me!
You, Sir, are awesome !
What a great wife!
Thank you for a well-presented, articulate presentation! I know you've inspired many persons, most of whom you will never meet personally, so you'll never know the great, positive impact you've had on their lives, but you did it anyway...your poised and smooth delivery are also most probably due to your experience of many rejections before your victories. you deserve all the successes you've already had, and the many more you will surely achieve!
I salute your courage and dedication! All the best to you, your beautiful and supportive wife, and your son, for whom you will surely be the best inspiration!
¡¡¡The donut thing was AWESOME!!!! I understand her being thankful for someone breaking the routine
Loved this video! gr8 speech... :)
说得挺好的，翻墙出来看，值了。作为从小父母责骂中长大的孩子，我跟人打交道的时候，特别没有自信。看了你的视频之后，发现被人拒绝，没有想象那么严重。真是换了一种思维方式之后，真是海阔天空！
Should someone with Social Anxiety try this therapy or not?
+Chris Martyn Yes.
+Jia Jiang I don't know but I am really nervous. I am afraid that I might screw things up..
+Chris Martyn if you aim to screw it up on purpose, maybe you'll lose the fear. :-)
+Jia Jiang As someone who's been suffering from severe social anxiety for half my life (I'm 20), I second that. In fact, the truth is there is no other way out.
+Amber well damn wish me luck
That was great! I have no fear of rejection, but your talk will get me moving. Thanks.
Best Tedx talk ever
Thanks, Matus.
This was great!!!!!
Man youre awesome. Im summoning all my courage to give a try and see how far i can go. Hope i can start by tomorrow :)
This is amazing, I want to try this thank you for this Jia! Much love
this is like handling job rejections!
Awesome Jia Jiang. Thanks for sharing and being very inspirational
I am doing this and I find that if you mention their name they are more likely to cooperate with you
Maria Normann Great observation, Maria. Thank you for reminding me of this.
Yo this boi is thicccccccccccccc
come do sells if guys want rejection therapy, the more nos the more yesses youll get in life
1. I hate to break it to you but, if you weren't an Asian man filming the Crispy Creme lady while asking for the special donuts, you would almost certainly not have gotten that response.
2. Being an entrepreneur is not about finding a problem and finding a solution. That's a lovely idea but the fact is that being an entrepreneur is, in almost all cases, about getting rich however possible within the limits of the law, with little-to-no consideration for the well-being of others.
Actually, it was 65,915,796 for Obama and 60,933,500 against not 150,000,000.
oops see what assumptions gets you LOL
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behind every good man, is a great woman
Biri türkçeye çevirse keşke.
Fabulous video - not what I expected at all. How to desensitise yourself to rejection so that you you can enjoy the yesses much more & get some very unexpected ones too :-)
Thank you Jia, this was an excellent and inspiring talk.
Thank you so much ted talks,I overcome my fears and bring back my self confidence.Thank you..
this is great! being a professional networker the game is how many NOs can I get.
I really like this Chinese accented English :-)
Agree. Rejections with feedback are worth gold!
On day 101 find higg bridge overlooking shark filled Amazon river
Thank You Jia Jiang
+Sanjaya Wickramasinghe You are welcome, Sanjaya!
I like this
Amazing
You're so strong and I really like you!
aaaaaaaaaaaannnnnd Jackie got fired because you can't be giving away donuts, It's a business not an independent film, Jackie get it together.
He probably assumed he'd be rejected more due to his accent in English.
You made my night... I was feeling rejected, but after watching your video I am feeling so much better.. You are inspiring.
Amrik .Gill Thank you, Amrik!
rejection = olympic donuts, leaves a hole in you for others to fill up :) #idea
We are all very fortunate to have exposure to such meaningful talks ....thanks to TEDX
I have been in sales for over 30 years. Every no gets you closer to a yes.
WOW! He is so uplifting and motivating. I needed this right now, thank you!!
After watching so many videos this is the one who hit the bulls eye ;)
I would like to do a 30 day rejection. is there anymore with me ?
"Haters gonna hate" anyway. It's nothing personal.
Been watching him for a while now glad to see him going places
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Nah. this guy has no idea about dealing with rejection!
very inspiring, and a reminder of what kind of support we can be for others
i have rejected whole time by girls so what should i do??
Rejection is really my curse. I need to practice this
Thank you. This is something I definitely needed. :)
6:00 bruhh im dead, " is he a terroist, should i tackle him now"
change the name from TED to sweeeeeeet talks inspired
This guy is awesome check his channel out... /DukieAjah
I wonder if it's only happening in the states.
Hi Jia, I have been following you almost from the beginning. I think you have grown in your confidence so much it is unbelievably. This was the best speech ever. Hope you will write a book or publish other inspirational speeches. Maybe you should put being an entrepreneur on hold for a while and become an inspirational speaker. Just a thought! I'm sure your other followers will agree with me on this one.
That Krispy Kreme lady should get a hug
Working as a street fundraiser meant getting rejected all day long, 5 days a week. It built a very thick skin, and much sharper social skills. It was so good for me that I am considering asking strangers for a random high-five or handshake once a day.
Thank you Jia this was very inspiring
Didn't you basically steal that other guy's idea?
swag me the fuck out bro. this shit raw
Jia is fucking awesome! Such an inspiring guy
Thank you, inspiring!