Last year I got into law of attraction teaching and started manifesting things that I wanted in my life , few weeks ago I was affirming/ visualizing when a negative visual came I tried to stop it by force ....thus it became intrusive......now I rarely get them and if they come I do exactly what you talked about in video I acknowledge it I welcome it by saying" thoughts are just thoughts it's a sign that my brain is working fine" 😂 And it goes away without doing any harm or ruining my mood .....
I used to have this horrible intrusive thought about me hurting my brother, and I used to be terrified of it. I was afraid that it was going to come true, and it bothered me for months on end. I’d feel guilty for this thought even crossing my mind, but over time I realized that it didn’t mean anything! I told myself that if I wanted it to happen, then it would have happened by now. I used to be scared to even admit that I was thinking about it, but now i’m ok with talking about it. Because they really don’t matter. If you’re having similar thoughts, know that they are not you. I’ve recovered from that intrusive thought now, and even if it pops in my head now it doesn’t affect me anymore. You shouldn’t dwell on a thought if It doesn’t mean anything. I hope that anyone reading this who is struggling with these particular kinds of intrusive thoughts knows that you are not alone, you are not a bad person, and things will get better with time. One day you’ll be writing these kinds of comments and helping other people❤
This is happening with me but my intrusive harm ocd is targeting my parents. I would never hurt them but saying No or reassuring myself just made the intrusive thoughts worse. Just have to accept them as thoughts as in your core you know nothing will happen. Thanks for the post, nice to hear there are other people with similar subtypes of intrusive thoughts
Keep fighting with OCD....Bruh Just Delay compulsions and say ITS OK I'LL MAKE EVERYTHING OK LATER BUT NOT NOW.... TRY GETTING MORE FUN AFTER AVOIDING THE COMPULSIONS....TRUST ME ANXIETY OF OCD GOES AWAY AUTOMATICALLY AND NOT THROUGH COMPULSIONS :) WE WILL WIN THE BATTLE AGAINST OCD... YOU HAVE BILLIONS OF CELLS THAT BELIVE YOU... DON'T DOUBT YOURSELF
Idk if you’re talking about religious stuff, like fear of a religion being true bc that’s what I’m going through Anyways here’s something that could be helpful Do you think like a physician? Let’s say a physician received a theory claiming the earth is flat, so what the physician does it gather his criticism and previous knowledge against the earth being flat, note that even one contradiction is enough to disregard this theory. The physician has concluded that this theory is false, he doesn’t keep thinking ‘what if the earth is actually flat?’ , ‘what if I’m wrong?’. He doesn’t revisit this theory unless new information has been added. But with religions (again idk if what you’re dealing with is about religions) there is no new information most of the time.
This analogy of intrusive thoughts being like click bait/ads is brilliant and an easy way to remember how to deal with those thoughts when they come craving your attention! Appreciate so much what you are doing/sharing to help mental health sufferers 🙏
When the thought or fear comes, it urges me to do compulsions. And of course, I gain some temporary relief. And of course, it comes back. But there is a moment I realize the fear or thought is so unrealistic, so silly. And at that moment I am a very normal person. Why is that possible, Nate-wise?
Sometimes logic kicks in and actually works, but not for every long. It seems most have that part that knows something isn't logical, but they do it anyway.
My compulsions are mental,i try to just keep thinking of the thoughts instead of automatically trying to delete them mentally its hard though but trying
I think you are new then. Dont apply any logic for temporary relief dont argue or disprove the thought even if its feel unrealistic dont engage with the thought and do mental compusions.just let the thought go itself from your mind. logic will only make it worse.
@@LightblueStar27same here. I got into a loop of telling someone all my intrusive thoughts for that short moment of relief but now know that if you do that it only gets worse/more with time :(
@@Yuri_The_Catsame here you really feel like it’s a loop and you ask yourself how you used to live before this all started so when you compare that you see that you just got into a loop and vicious cycle of intrusive thoughts 🥲
May God bless you and help you to heal from this. I am in the same boat, but through the power of Jesus Christ, I know I am strong and can overcome this.
i’ve started NOCD therapy and i’ve conquered the bottom tier of my hierarchy!! i can read articles about coming out or figuring out your sexuality while in a relationship and yes i get anxiety, but it’s not as scary! you’re so right, the new intrusive thought feels like a pop up ad that feels like “THIS IS IT, FIGURE IT OUT NOW!!!”. but the response prevention gets easier by just answering with maybe, maybe not!
Literally the only reason I go back to an intrusive thought is because I don’t wanna leave off on a bad thought. It’s like I have this sense of security knowing I didn’t leave off badly or let that thought win. Example: if I have an image in my mind of me stabbing someone’s hand with a knife I have to counteract that thought with me thinking of a clean unharmed hand and me rubbing it gently or pouring clear water over it ( It symbolizes purity for me) so that I can move on knowing I left off good. Or with the hand unharmed. Because it’s not who I am and I don’t ever wish to do that ever. Its such a strange thing honestly.
Hey mate I am going through a horrific situation in my life I have thoughts coming in my head like I am harming myself Example : I am punching my nose to broken it or I am or I pricked needle in my eye and these thoughts are keep repeating in my mind all day I don't know what to do i am fully depressed and tired of my life because of this
I tried this, did not help, it's more of a compulsion and develops a hard to get rid off habbit, what helped me though is what the dude in the video said + good sleep + phisical activities / sport. Not sure if this would work for everyone but I hope it helps.
I've lived with OCD all my life it was the normal for me until I got anxiety disorder and it got worst thanks to you Ik it's actually treatable thank you keep up with the videos I'm learning Nd taking tips
I needed this, today I found myself clicking every ad and trying to correct and the more I did that the more anxiety I felt. Thank you I’ll try to not do compulsions
I try to justify myself everytime. I worship my thoughts. It feels so real to me. I can't control myself of answering my thoughts. I find myself so helpless... It gets so exhausting and fearful this way that my body starts shivering out of fear of these thoughts.
@@belksagaoglu4677 I feel you most of my life has been rabbit holes… trying keto now bc new studies has it healing a lot of bipolar and schizophrenics and the mechanisms in theory should work for other disorders, take a look if you’re interested, im 6 days in, OCD mildly improved but the transition is tough , should resolve in a few weeks is what I head
SUCH a good analogy! Shows the difference between thought-blocking (adblocker) and practicing ERP (seeing the ad, and choosing not to engage). Thanks so much 😄
lately my ocd convinced me that the thought i had wasn't intrusive and that i purposefully thought that because it started with "i want.." not with a "what if".. this has been scaring me to death tbh
@@ocdandanxiety oh yeah, the thought definitely goes against every thing i've ever known about myself, but since it has a sexual/identity theme to it, my brain just keeps telling me that i really wanted that and that it was some sort of epiphany moment or something
@@abilenealvarez1113 hey! so, it's been almost a year since that comment and i've gone a long way since. i've been in therapy for years now and that's, honestly, what got me through. i never really found an answer to that thought, because it doesn't matter, ocd will never be satisfied. so, my therapist encouraged me to slowly stop doing compulsions. and, well, this saved my life. the compulsive googling, and mental checking and ruminating was ruining my life. i slowly cut out on those and finally got my life back. so, to sum it up, it was never about finding an answer to that, just learning to deal with uncertainty
God bless you for this video, you don't know how just how badly I needed to hear this I was in the middle of sorting of a mental breakdown caused by something that triggered my OCD to unleash in it's full force and I'm going through a phase where I'm having these episodes of OCD induced emergencies that deplete me of all motivation and a lot of energy to continue with life. I'm not suicidal though just going through a lot, still though this helped me so very much. Not fully unfortunately still kind of feeling on the edge but it's considerably better ❤
My life has been strange when it comes to therapy. I was once diagnosed with OCD, but then I got a new therapist who told me “no you don’t have it, you don’t obsessively clean things” and from then on, I thought it was just anxiety. But it’s gotten worse and I’ve tried dealing with it like it’s anxiety, but it’s not only that. So yeah… there’s a good chance I actually do have OCD because of the types of thoughts I get. Thoughts I get: “What if I jump off this bridge?” “What if I push someone into a truck?” “What if I’m a delusional psychopath who just erases memories from my head?” “What if I sleepwalk and do horrible things?” “What if I’m like those unsubs in criminal minds?” But here’s the thing… I’m not like this at all. I’m super empathetic, possibly too empathetic sometimes… (I feel empathy for bullies and bad people and I try to help them. But it never works) and I love my life and I would never hurt myself. I’m not capable of things like this. But these thoughts make me think I’m a horrible person. And I thought I was just insane and that no one could relate to me. But now I feel like I have people I can relate to!
I love the way you worded this, I too consider myself to be super empathic and I think this is exactly what I will tell my therapist to explain how I feel. We can beat this we got this!
We got this homie! In the same boat. So many good resources out there and so many people that have the same thoughts. Never think you’re alone cause you’re not no matter what thoughts come and go.
Everything you said is 100% spot on. My symptoms come and go though. Usually during times of great boredom, like where I have long periods of being between jobs, not seeing friends. When it does come tho it’s like a truck out of your blind spot that you never expected. It terrifies me but I’m slowly started to learn to co-exist with these thoughts.
Im 33 years old now with mild autism =) please keep evil and intrusive thoughts out of my mind and head jesus and god because im not my intrusive thoughts and i don't want to do my intrusive thoughts - AMEN.
I’ve been struggling a lot lately with intrusive thoughts, and watching your videos when it can be a lot always helps me a lot. Love your content. Thank you so so much❤️
Intrusive thoughts, along with the anxiety, distress, and my caving into it all, have more or less brought my life to a screeching halt. I've been stuck. I try to shoo them away, argue with them, but I just end up mentally tiring myself out (before inevitably giving in to them!) I've also tried simply ignoring them but these feelings, this distress and anxiety, it's too much. They hit in places that I care and worry about the most and the distress I feel makes me cave and give in to whatever these intrusive thoughts are demanding. How can I ignore these things if I am so weak-willed? For what it's worth, I'm grateful that you put out these videos to help folks like me. Going off of the comments, it looks like a lot of people benefit from your content. I'm happy for them.
OCD affects almost every part of my life :). It gots me even when i don't notice. I "have to" click on a link that I don't really care or in games I must turn or around 360° without no reason. This is the funny part of it, intrusive thought though makes or could make my life a living hell, but I fight with the demon with choose to no fight with it.
Thank you, Nathan. I’ve been having an episode of horrible anxiety the past few weeks and had the worst intrusive thought about my child and it killed me emotionally. Here I am still dealing with it almost 2 weeks later. I’m trying not to over analyze it anymore but it’s so hard because it’s opposite of who I am as a parent and person. It’s truly horrible but this video helps.
Intrusive thoughts always portray the complete opposite of who you really are. They may feel horrible, but always try to remember that they NEVER define you.
@@kadezoid I try to remember this. I did ok with medication for a couple of months but came off 2 months ago. My OCD, anxiety and panic have been horrendous and have taken on a new theme. I feel mentally broken because all of them are about my child. I’m to the point where I fear and become anxious and potential thoughts
@@S1234-b6l I understand the extreme emotion and uncertainty that comes with OCD, and anxiety. You aren't alone on this, I can assure you of that. I had an episode of it only a few days ago. I've found that the more you care about something, the more OCD targets it.
Keep moving through life. They slowly fade away. Sometimes people write down all their thoughts and determine which ones are important and which ones are spam.
I have an anxiety. I had a panic attack and after a difficult event I couldn't sleep. Then the next night I couldn't sleep again and again. I started to be afraid of insomnia and nights and I still don't sleep very well. I can stay awake for three days or sleep for an hour at a time. I try to accept it, but the thoughts are much worse. From the beginning of the panic attack, I felt like I was disconnected from myself, I didn't know who I was and how I thought and whether my voice was mine. It's gone, but I still have a fear of intrusive thoughts, I'm afraid that, for example, some fragment of the conversation will remain in my head and of course it will come back as an intrusive thought, and that's what happens. How to deal with it. At night, when I have a panic attack and I don't sleep, these thoughts are so difficult to overcome. I still feel weird in my own house in my own life. I am tired of rationalizing and calming down all the time..
Hey! thanks for this and i feel blessed seeing the video this early. Either ads or regular content can do this just like when u open youtube home and you get unnecessary interest in some video and excessively open video and boom OCD comes in for me again. Your content content been so help on my OCD, getting better so fast.
Hi, question: what about my compulsion to constantly be DOING something? Like I cannot just sit and do nothing. It’s an unbearable itch, there all day long. I want to relax or at least have downtime. I’d love some guidance on this, would be very grateful!
The problem is that the clicker is apart of the ad for most people. Their identity is the thinker and therefore to not think is like denying yourself. First you gotta know that you are not who you Think you are. Stop thinking and you will see this for yourself.
ngl i kno im ok but ive noticed tha i feel stuff like LITERALLY weighin in the back of my mind, like i feel this pressure in my head and it gets me kinda anxious. And i tend 2 overthink and focus on negatives, but i always manage 2 snap back and feel better. I reassure myself, but theres always this self doubt and like, paranoia......and its not even that bad ig, but its still sucky Stuff tha helps me ig is like, -reminding myself that theyre just thoughts and my brains just bein mean -Theres so much more around me and stuff to think abt -im not a bad person, ik im not like that, theyre just thoughts -im gettin better, i hav so much 2 look forward 2 -i easily get distracted, and can jump in2 other kinder thoughts -this just adds 2 my character development (not funny ik but it helps me) -im not alone, im never alone -also weirdly enough, daydreaming abt my comfort person encouraging me and talkin 2 me abt my thoughts -REMEMBERING im human, im a person and tha this stuff is normal
I have been having intrusive thoughts for the past 4 months, it started with a normal what if and then it kept switching and shifting and started to give me worst fears, it is still there, it keeps changing its form and has been troubling a lot sometime they are not exactly negative but they cause a lot of stress, your videos have helped me a lot but if you could provide some more tips it would be great.
Can you help with my ocd I have it since 12 years old . I am 59 now loss my husband a year ago .I am terrified, to deal with not doing my PLEASE HELP ME I AM ALL ALONE AND NEED HELP
This video has helped me so much! Thanks man! From the bottom of heart. I’ve never had any sort of treatment and in the last couple years using your methods has changed my life.
How does journaling fit into this? Iv always been told journaling helps with anxiety and intrusive thoughts but I feel like this only gives these thoughts more power. The method in this video seem to works a lot better!
my thoughts are severe. My therapists said i have to take abilify or zeldox. But i try to aVOId any meds, bnecauyyse i am scared theyh mess up the brain
Thank you so much, your videos are very helpful. I've been completely drained lately from trying to control & push out highly repetitive intrusive thoughts. Definitely need to change the way I react/respond to these intrusive thoughts - 're train' my brain.
The paradox of watching and valuing this video and then being presented with two pop up on screen after being told NOT to click on the ads was more than I was ready for.
Hey Nathan, does this also work for Intrusive feelings? In general the 'intrusions' i experience withing my OCD are more instant feelings than thoughts (the feeling like your stomach has been tied in a knot). It just...happens, with a thought i can choose not to engage but when an intrusive feeling hits you...you just endure it right, until it goes away?
Finally, as a non english native speaker, and i seek a lot of this kind of contents, tearing up how someone know exactly what ive been facing for many years. Remember that we're not facing alone in dealing with intrusive thoughts, and there are resources and support available to help us as this channel or our therapist. Thanks a lot
Well, I want to share something. There is some people who are constantly listening to my thoughts. I'm not kidding, it is just happening with me, like every single thing that is going on my mind. I know it's not valid to do so. Help me out there.
But what if your partner is the problem? You certainly aren't advocating ignoring red flags are you? There is something not quite right in your explanation.
My insecurities feed on this, especially where race is concerned. I’m brown and when I see brown girls following white guys I get so insecure. I go through her following all day yesterday but there is a few white guys there but their profiles are private so idk. I think it’s insecurity mixed with intrusive behavior. I do this with many brown girls. I looked through respective likes etc if the guys aren’t in the likes or comments then I get some type of peace of mind, which it isn’t a peace as well, I then move onto the next girl.
Something weird happened to me last night i had a really bad thought that was telling me to run away from home i didn't know what to do and didn't know if i should or not the thought was telling me that if i did run away i would get hit by a train and i prayed i would forget the thought and it went away this has never happened to me before do you have any advice
Amazing video if I get intrusive thought is it ok to just see the thought as a ☁️ cloud that just drifts off then just move on .is that the same as not clicking please massage me back cause I can take anymore .thank you
I was on-board until you brought up the "How do I even know there is a god?", if people can use this tactic to ignore reasonable thoughts, then I don't think the tactic has merit
I admit I gave in to my thought yesterday, and today, I thought my beliefs had solidified enough so I don’t get affected but nope, I have now loosened the rubber band. When I noticed it starts getting emotional and not rational I knew it was time to stop. Don’t click on the ad!
What i feel is if some thought get stucked then i try to fight it and find why it came and i want to get eid of it as it is against my values. For example i am obessed with an actress and i have binge watched her show so now all time she roams in my mind. So what i do i whether her image comes i become frustrated because i am trying tk find out the root cause why i am getting obessed and comparing myself to her but at the same time i feel frustrated and i fear frim her inage coming to my mind becuase i am not even able to clearly journal what exactly is the thought and if i do then i feel like i need external validation. I do not believe me. I fear if her image comes then again i feel all tjose emptions which makes me desire her more and if i do not think aboutbher then i think i will not be able to figure out root cause. Help me please
Nate could you pls make another video on depression as I feel it makes ocd worse and its kinda one fuels the other problem, I know you have one but another one would be really helpful:)
You're not alone. There are many who undergo the same affliction such as you and I. I don't think it is us generating those twisted ways of thinking. It feels as though they are gnawing down on us; burrowing into our sanity, and reeking up our sense of space. I find the most difficult part of this whole quarrel is having faith in who I am as an individual. Anyhow, I'll keep you in my prayer. God bless.
In my experience, I knew about all these instructions to deal with intrusive thoughts but I couldn’t progress without the Paroxetine10 the doctor prescribed for me
That's pretty natural. The more we say no, the more we want to do it. The response all depends on if it's an OCD urge or normal life urge, like "I want to go eat candy".
Dont use any thought to face the urge to not to do mental compulsion.frequency of that thought is not strong as another negative one which you have engaged with to much it just won't work.just show you mind that the thought is not important by not engaging with the thought and focusing on present keep yourself busy and increase you tolerance power so even when your mind tricks you and you have urge to do the mental compulsion you just not take the thought personally and not do it.APPLYING LOGIC NEVER WORKS! Just let the thought go itself the only way to deal with it.
What kind of thoughts do you have?
Some of my thoughts are pushing me to get certain information again because I’m afraid I lost the physical and digital info.
Magical thinking OCD.
Last year I got into law of attraction teaching and started manifesting things that I wanted in my life , few weeks ago I was affirming/ visualizing when a negative visual came I tried to stop it by force ....thus it became intrusive......now I rarely get them and if they come I do exactly what you talked about in video
I acknowledge it
I welcome it by saying" thoughts are just thoughts it's a sign that my brain is working fine"
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And it goes away without doing any harm or ruining my mood .....
...intrusive, lol
HOCD
I used to have this horrible intrusive thought about me hurting my brother, and I used to be terrified of it. I was afraid that it was going to come true, and it bothered me for months on end. I’d feel guilty for this thought even crossing my mind, but over time I realized that it didn’t mean anything! I told myself that if I wanted it to happen, then it would have happened by now. I used to be scared to even admit that I was thinking about it, but now i’m ok with talking about it. Because they really don’t matter. If you’re having similar thoughts, know that they are not you. I’ve recovered from that intrusive thought now, and even if it pops in my head now it doesn’t affect me anymore. You shouldn’t dwell on a thought if It doesn’t mean anything. I hope that anyone reading this who is struggling with these particular kinds of intrusive thoughts knows that you are not alone, you are not a bad person, and things will get better with time. One day you’ll be writing these kinds of comments and helping other people❤
Thank you for this
How are you now ?
@@vanessanguyen4008 much better!!
This helps more than you know!
This is happening with me but my intrusive harm ocd is targeting my parents. I would never hurt them but saying No or reassuring myself just made the intrusive thoughts worse.
Just have to accept them as thoughts as in your core you know nothing will happen.
Thanks for the post, nice to hear there are other people with similar subtypes of intrusive thoughts
Love it, thank you so much, finally I get it with the ad example, this is brilliant ❤
Keep fighting with OCD....Bruh Just Delay compulsions and say ITS OK I'LL MAKE EVERYTHING OK LATER BUT NOT NOW....
TRY GETTING MORE FUN AFTER AVOIDING THE COMPULSIONS....TRUST ME ANXIETY OF OCD GOES AWAY AUTOMATICALLY AND NOT THROUGH COMPULSIONS :)
WE WILL WIN THE BATTLE AGAINST OCD...
YOU HAVE BILLIONS OF CELLS THAT BELIVE YOU... DON'T DOUBT YOURSELF
This video was so helpful! And funny! The part about the anxiety made me laugh out loud for the first time in a long while 😂
i love you
you are helping me to recover from my ocd
This is incredibly helpful thank you
As i try to ignore this thoughts , another thought comes saying like "Don't ignore this; it could be real" . How to solve this. Please help
Idk if you’re talking about religious stuff, like fear of a religion being true bc that’s what I’m going through
Anyways here’s something that could be helpful
Do you think like a physician?
Let’s say a physician received a theory claiming the earth is flat, so what the physician does it gather his criticism and previous knowledge against the earth being flat, note that even one contradiction is enough to disregard this theory. The physician has concluded that this theory is false, he doesn’t keep thinking ‘what if the earth is actually flat?’ , ‘what if I’m wrong?’. He doesn’t revisit this theory unless new information has been added. But with religions (again idk if what you’re dealing with is about religions) there is no new information most of the time.
Can these pertain to thoughts if self image and how I perceive myself
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THIS MAN SAVED MY LIFE FROM SUICIDAL INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS 2 YEARS FROM.NOW!!!!God bless this brother I listen to him,and followed his advice❤❤❤
This is simply one of the best things I've ever heard regarding this topic. Thank you so much for helping the silent OCD sufferers of the world.
This analogy of intrusive thoughts being like click bait/ads is brilliant and an easy way to remember how to deal with those thoughts when they come craving your attention! Appreciate so much what you are doing/sharing to help mental health sufferers 🙏
When the thought or fear comes, it urges me to do compulsions. And of course, I gain some temporary relief. And of course, it comes back. But there is a moment I realize the fear or thought is so unrealistic, so silly. And at that moment I am a very normal person. Why is that possible, Nate-wise?
Sometimes logic kicks in and actually works, but not for every long. It seems most have that part that knows something isn't logical, but they do it anyway.
My compulsions are mental,i try to just keep thinking of the thoughts instead of automatically trying to delete them mentally its hard though but trying
I think you are new then. Dont apply any logic for temporary relief dont argue or disprove the thought even if its feel unrealistic dont engage with the thought and do mental compusions.just let the thought go itself from your mind. logic will only make it worse.
Are you feeling better or do you still have them?
@i don't use this account but do they still bother you or have you stopped getting bothered by them?
ive been having the worst intrusive thoughts just ruining me entirely the past 2 months and this is very good thank you
I'm on the exact same situation :( It makes me feel so hopeless how it's so easy for one of those thoughts to come and ruin everything
@@LightblueStar27same here. I got into a loop of telling someone all my intrusive thoughts for that short moment of relief but now know that if you do that it only gets worse/more with time :(
@@Yuri_The_Catsame here you really feel like it’s a loop and you ask yourself how you used to live before this all started so when you compare that you see that you just got into a loop and vicious cycle of intrusive thoughts 🥲
May God bless you and help you to heal from this. I am in the same boat, but through the power of Jesus Christ, I know I am strong and can overcome this.
@@Yuri_The_Catis it because you’re looking for their reassurance
This is a really helpful analogy isn't it! Seems to fully fit the ocd experience!
I'm glad you liked it! Thanks os much!
It’s hard not to click on the ad
This man is saving my life and understands me more than my therapist does
honestly same i always go back to his videos when it comes up lol
Jesus Christ loves you so much 😍❤️
Remember that we will have eternal life forever if we believe in Jesus Christ with faith 💕❤️
i’ve started NOCD therapy and i’ve conquered the bottom tier of my hierarchy!! i can read articles about coming out or figuring out your sexuality while in a relationship and yes i get anxiety, but it’s not as scary! you’re so right, the new intrusive thought feels like a pop up ad that feels like “THIS IS IT, FIGURE IT OUT NOW!!!”. but the response prevention gets easier by just answering with maybe, maybe not!
Yeah same I can do more things. Yes it may be scary and it’s not as bad as one thinks. Nothing may or may not happened. Keep moving forward
What is NOCD therapy? I was recently diagnosed and I struggle with intrusive thoughts so often
Literally the only reason I go back to an intrusive thought is because I don’t wanna leave off on a bad thought. It’s like I have this sense of security knowing I didn’t leave off badly or let that thought win. Example: if I have an image in my mind of me stabbing someone’s hand with a knife I have to counteract that thought with me thinking of a clean unharmed hand and me rubbing it gently or pouring clear water over it ( It symbolizes purity for me) so that I can move on knowing I left off good. Or with the hand unharmed. Because it’s not who I am and I don’t ever wish to do that ever. Its such a strange thing honestly.
But It's Hard Because Everytime Intrusive Thoughts Come We Have To Counterattack .
Hey mate I am going through a horrific situation in my life I have thoughts coming in my head like I am harming myself Example : I am punching my nose to broken it or I am or I pricked needle in my eye and these thoughts are keep repeating in my mind all day I don't know what to do i am fully depressed and tired of my life because of this
@@Sadik-uc85kI hope you’re doing better bro. Therapy can help. It’s normal though, we’re just humans. But we’re strong . And give it to God🙏
I tried this, did not help, it's more of a compulsion and develops a hard to get rid off habbit, what helped me though is what the dude in the video said + good sleep + phisical activities / sport. Not sure if this would work for everyone but I hope it helps.
I can feel you. Some times i get this feeling and it is really weird.
I've lived with OCD all my life it was the normal for me until I got anxiety disorder and it got worst thanks to you Ik it's actually treatable thank you keep up with the videos I'm learning Nd taking tips
It's totally treatable! keep up the good work!
I needed this, today I found myself clicking every ad and trying to correct and the more I did that the more anxiety I felt. Thank you I’ll try to not do compulsions
The "trying to correct" is what really makes it horrible for me. So exhausting and confusing.
@@jamlaw you’re not alone, stay strong 💪🏼 everything will be well
Did it get better for you?
I try to justify myself everytime. I worship my thoughts. It feels so real to me. I can't control myself of answering my thoughts. I find myself so helpless... It gets so exhausting and fearful this way that my body starts shivering out of fear of these thoughts.
Thank you! Every time my OCD kicks in, I go to your channel and yeah I always find one that helps.
Anyone else compulsively go down the rabbit hole?
I've been going down the rabbit hole for about 3 years now cuz i had no idea how to stop it. It has ruined my early teenage years
@@belksagaoglu4677 I feel you most of my life has been rabbit holes… trying keto now bc new studies has it healing a lot of bipolar and schizophrenics and the mechanisms in theory should work for other disorders, take a look if you’re interested, im 6 days in, OCD mildly improved but the transition is tough , should resolve in a few weeks is what I head
@@belksagaoglu4677 no bro me too i have been going the same hole since 4 years now and its so draining
@@belksagaoglu4677 honestly you cant just stop it..saying bcuz trying to stop them makes the thoughts stronger just let them be
Yes working on getting out of the rabbit hole
SUCH a good analogy! Shows the difference between thought-blocking (adblocker) and practicing ERP (seeing the ad, and choosing not to engage). Thanks so much 😄
This is one of the best and most relatable analogies :)
I appreciate it! It made a lot of sense to me!
You always come up with the best analogies. Well done.
Thanks so much my friend!
lately my ocd convinced me that the thought i had wasn't intrusive and that i purposefully thought that because it started with "i want.." not with a "what if".. this has been scaring me to death tbh
Those can be scary for sure. We tend to look if the thoughts are egodystonic and tricking the person in to "wanting" something.
@@ocdandanxiety oh yeah, the thought definitely goes against every thing i've ever known about myself, but since it has a sexual/identity theme to it, my brain just keeps telling me that i really wanted that and that it was some sort of epiphany moment or something
Hey would you mind it if we talked?
I would love to know how you are dealing with this today. I have a simple experience
@@abilenealvarez1113 hey! so, it's been almost a year since that comment and i've gone a long way since. i've been in therapy for years now and that's, honestly, what got me through. i never really found an answer to that thought, because it doesn't matter, ocd will never be satisfied. so, my therapist encouraged me to slowly stop doing compulsions. and, well, this saved my life. the compulsive googling, and mental checking and ruminating was ruining my life. i slowly cut out on those and finally got my life back. so, to sum it up, it was never about finding an answer to that, just learning to deal with uncertainty
God bless you for this video, you don't know how just how badly I needed to hear this I was in the middle of sorting of a mental breakdown caused by something that triggered my OCD to unleash in it's full force and I'm going through a phase where I'm having these episodes of OCD induced emergencies that deplete me of all motivation and a lot of energy to continue with life. I'm not suicidal though just going through a lot, still though this helped me so very much. Not fully unfortunately still kind of feeling on the edge but it's considerably better ❤
My life has been strange when it comes to therapy. I was once diagnosed with OCD, but then I got a new therapist who told me “no you don’t have it, you don’t obsessively clean things” and from then on, I thought it was just anxiety. But it’s gotten worse and I’ve tried dealing with it like it’s anxiety, but it’s not only that. So yeah… there’s a good chance I actually do have OCD because of the types of thoughts I get.
Thoughts I get:
“What if I jump off this bridge?”
“What if I push someone into a truck?”
“What if I’m a delusional psychopath who just erases memories from my head?”
“What if I sleepwalk and do horrible things?”
“What if I’m like those unsubs in criminal minds?”
But here’s the thing… I’m not like this at all. I’m super empathetic, possibly too empathetic sometimes… (I feel empathy for bullies and bad people and I try to help them. But it never works) and I love my life and I would never hurt myself. I’m not capable of things like this. But these thoughts make me think I’m a horrible person. And I thought I was just insane and that no one could relate to me. But now I feel like I have people I can relate to!
I love the way you worded this, I too consider myself to be super empathic and I think this is exactly what I will tell my therapist to explain how I feel. We can beat this we got this!
@@abilenealvarez1113 thank you! and yes! we got this!
We got this homie! In the same boat. So many good resources out there and so many people that have the same thoughts. Never think you’re alone cause you’re not no matter what thoughts come and go.
@@maxanderson7165 yeah! thank you!
Everything you said is 100% spot on. My symptoms come and go though. Usually during times of great boredom, like where I have long periods of being between jobs, not seeing friends. When it does come tho it’s like a truck out of your blind spot that you never expected. It terrifies me but I’m slowly started to learn to co-exist with these thoughts.
Im 33 years old now with mild autism =) please keep evil and intrusive thoughts out of my mind and head jesus and god because im not my intrusive thoughts and i don't want to do my intrusive thoughts - AMEN.
5:05 Anxiety without immediate danger, is false anxiety.
I’ve been struggling a lot lately with intrusive thoughts, and watching your videos when it can be a lot always helps me a lot. Love your content. Thank you so so much❤️
Intrusive thoughts, along with the anxiety, distress, and my caving into it all, have more or less brought my life to a screeching halt. I've been stuck. I try to shoo them away, argue with them, but I just end up mentally tiring myself out (before inevitably giving in to them!)
I've also tried simply ignoring them but these feelings, this distress and anxiety, it's too much. They hit in places that I care and worry about the most and the distress I feel makes me cave and give in to whatever these intrusive thoughts are demanding.
How can I ignore these things if I am so weak-willed?
For what it's worth, I'm grateful that you put out these videos to help folks like me. Going off of the comments, it looks like a lot of people benefit from your content. I'm happy for them.
So you mean you start talking out loud arguing with people in the thoughts right? Like you kinda see things right?
You literally changed me and my way of seeing life! Thanks a lot😭❤️
This metaphor and video gave me my life back. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
OCD affects almost every part of my life :). It gots me even when i don't notice. I "have to" click on a link that I don't really care or in games I must turn or around 360° without no reason. This is the funny part of it, intrusive thought though makes or could make my life a living hell, but I fight with the demon with choose to no fight with it.
Is there a life premium where I don't have to see intrusive thoughts? 😅
Thank you, Nathan. I’ve been having an episode of horrible anxiety the past few weeks and had the worst intrusive thought about my child and it killed me emotionally. Here I am still dealing with it almost 2 weeks later. I’m trying not to over analyze it anymore but it’s so hard because it’s opposite of who I am as a parent and person. It’s truly horrible but this video helps.
You're not alone ❤ try the 7 11 breathing method
Intrusive thoughts always portray the complete opposite of who you really are. They may feel horrible, but always try to remember that they NEVER define you.
@@kadezoid I try to remember this. I did ok with medication for a couple of months but came off 2 months ago. My OCD, anxiety and panic have been horrendous and have taken on a new theme. I feel mentally broken because all of them are about my child. I’m to the point where I fear and become anxious and potential thoughts
@@S1234-b6l I understand the extreme emotion and uncertainty that comes with OCD, and anxiety. You aren't alone on this, I can assure you of that. I had an episode of it only a few days ago. I've found that the more you care about something, the more OCD targets it.
You look like Tom Hiddleston but just not the God of mischief but the opposite of it !
I can honestly say that your channel helps me understand what I have.
Thanks so much Cryst! I'm glad it was helpful.
@@ocdandanxiety Can I ask you an OCD question?
in keeping with the analogy, what do you do when there are so many ads, you can’t see the screen?
Keep moving through life. They slowly fade away. Sometimes people write down all their thoughts and determine which ones are important and which ones are spam.
This is such a good analogy, thank you 🙏🏻
Glad it was helpful!
Welcome and accept the intrusive thought and devalue it
Great video and will watch again
I have an anxiety. I had a panic attack and after a difficult event I couldn't sleep. Then the next night I couldn't sleep again and again. I started to be afraid of insomnia and nights and I still don't sleep very well. I can stay awake for three days or sleep for an hour at a time. I try to accept it, but the thoughts are much worse. From the beginning of the panic attack, I felt like I was disconnected from myself, I didn't know who I was and how I thought and whether my voice was mine.
It's gone, but I still have a fear of intrusive thoughts, I'm afraid that, for example, some fragment of the conversation will remain in my head and of course it will come back as an intrusive thought, and that's what happens. How to deal with it. At night, when I have a panic attack and I don't sleep, these thoughts are so difficult to overcome. I still feel weird in my own house in my own life. I am tired of rationalizing and calming down all the time..
Hey, Nathan. What do you think about OCD as a defensive mechanism from stress etc? Does this exist? Or it's not OCD then?
It is !! Your brain thinks it’s trying to protect you but it’s really screwing you up 😮
Good analogy
Thank you so much .You helped me tremendously on my journey with OCD.
Hey! thanks for this and i feel blessed seeing the video this early. Either ads or regular content can do this just like when u open youtube home and you get unnecessary interest in some video and excessively open video and boom OCD comes in for me again.
Your content content been so help on my OCD, getting better so fast.
Thanks so much for the kind words!
This is, hands down, one of the best videos I have ever found on this topic.
This is going to change my life. New subscriber. ❤
Hi, question: what about my compulsion to constantly be DOING something? Like I cannot just sit and do nothing. It’s an unbearable itch, there all day long. I want to relax or at least have downtime. I’d love some guidance on this, would be very grateful!
Did you find a way to overcome it?
The problem is that the clicker is apart of the ad for most people. Their identity is the thinker and therefore to not think is like denying yourself.
First you gotta know that you are not who you Think you are. Stop thinking and you will see this for yourself.
How do you not pay attention to it? That's the hardest thing to do.
Thank you for your videos! You're really helping me through my journey.
These Videos are Kinda Compulsion To Me😂😂
I was in this place for far too long, now I just don't care thank you so much great advice God bless 🙏 ❤
Can you better explain when you should challenge thoughts vs when you should use the “maybe/maybe not” method? Thanks ahead!
But sometimes trying not to engage with it feels like trying to push it down, and that can make it stick. Then what?
ngl i kno im ok but ive noticed tha i feel stuff like LITERALLY weighin in the back of my mind, like i feel this pressure in my head and it gets me kinda anxious. And i tend 2 overthink and focus on negatives, but i always manage 2 snap back and feel better. I reassure myself, but theres always this self doubt and like, paranoia......and its not even that bad ig, but its still sucky
Stuff tha helps me ig is like, -reminding myself that theyre just thoughts and my brains just bein mean
-Theres so much more around me and stuff to think abt
-im not a bad person, ik im not like that, theyre just thoughts
-im gettin better, i hav so much 2 look forward 2
-i easily get distracted, and can jump in2 other kinder thoughts
-this just adds 2 my character development (not funny ik but it helps me)
-im not alone, im never alone
-also weirdly enough, daydreaming abt my comfort person encouraging me and talkin 2 me abt my thoughts
-REMEMBERING im human, im a person and tha this stuff is normal
I have been having intrusive thoughts for the past 4 months, it started with a normal what if and then it kept switching and shifting and started to give me worst fears, it is still there, it keeps changing its form and has been troubling a lot sometime they are not exactly negative but they cause a lot of stress, your videos have helped me a lot but if you could provide some more tips it would be great.
How are you now?
Can you help with my ocd I have it since 12 years old . I am 59 now loss my husband a year ago .I am terrified, to deal with not doing my PLEASE HELP ME I AM ALL ALONE AND NEED HELP
Compulsions I want to start
This video has helped me so much! Thanks man! From the bottom of heart. I’ve never had any sort of treatment and in the last couple years using your methods has changed my life.
How does journaling fit into this? Iv always been told journaling helps with anxiety and intrusive thoughts but I feel like this only gives these thoughts more power. The method in this video seem to works a lot better!
Can this work for sensations that come along with health anxiety ocd and hyper awareness?
No, you have to accept them and not be afraid of them. Eventually they will fade away with time.
Thank you very much, this video helped me a lot
my thoughts are severe. My therapists said i have to take abilify or zeldox. But i try to aVOId any meds, bnecauyyse i am scared theyh mess up the brain
Thank you so much, your videos are very helpful. I've been completely drained lately from trying to control & push out highly repetitive intrusive thoughts.
Definitely need to change the way I react/respond to these intrusive thoughts - 're train' my brain.
Intrusive thoughts are just awful characters. I wonder how to trick them instead of always trying to push them when always comes back with more force.
The paradox of watching and valuing this video and then being presented with two pop up on screen after being told NOT to click on the ads was more than I was ready for.
Hey Nathan, does this also work for Intrusive feelings? In general the 'intrusions' i experience withing my OCD are more instant feelings than thoughts (the feeling like your stomach has been tied in a knot). It just...happens, with a thought i can choose not to engage but when an intrusive feeling hits you...you just endure it right, until it goes away?
I always know something really helps when I just start laughing. Like it’s so relatable and true that you just laugh about how dumb you’ve been.
Finally, as a non english native speaker, and i seek a lot of this kind of contents, tearing up how someone know exactly what ive been facing for many years. Remember that we're not facing alone in dealing with intrusive thoughts, and there are resources and support available to help us as this channel or our therapist. Thanks a lot
Well, I want to share something. There is some people who are constantly listening to my thoughts. I'm not kidding, it is just happening with me, like every single thing that is going on my mind. I know it's not valid to do so. Help me out there.
I've heard this, and think of them as kiosk salesmen in the mall. Thanks for sharing!
But what if your partner is the problem? You certainly aren't advocating ignoring red flags are you? There is something not quite right in your explanation.
My insecurities feed on this, especially where race is concerned. I’m brown and when I see brown girls following white guys I get so insecure. I go through her following all day yesterday but there is a few white guys there but their profiles are private so idk. I think it’s insecurity mixed with intrusive behavior. I do this with many brown girls. I looked through respective likes etc if the guys aren’t in the likes or comments then I get some type of peace of mind, which it isn’t a peace as well, I then move onto the next girl.
Something weird happened to me last night i had a really bad thought that was telling me to run away from home i didn't know what to do and didn't know if i should or not the thought was telling me that if i did run away i would get hit by a train and i prayed i would forget the thought and it went away this has never happened to me before do you have any advice
Amazing video if I get intrusive thought is it ok to just see the thought as a ☁️ cloud that just drifts off then just move on .is that the same as not clicking please massage me back cause I can take anymore .thank you
I was on-board until you brought up the "How do I even know there is a god?", if people can use this tactic to ignore reasonable thoughts, then I don't think the tactic has merit
I admit I gave in to my thought yesterday, and today, I thought my beliefs had solidified enough so I don’t get affected but nope, I have now loosened the rubber band. When I noticed it starts getting emotional and not rational I knew it was time to stop. Don’t click on the ad!
How can I tell if the thoughts are intrusive?
I wish it was as simple as clicking on a 6 minutes video.
(Still very helpful, thank you)
Thank you for your relaxing way of helping us understand this. Your manner of addressing the issue is very effective and inspires confidence.
What i feel is if some thought get stucked then i try to fight it and find why it came and i want to get eid of it as it is against my values.
For example i am obessed with an actress and i have binge watched her show so now all time she roams in my mind. So what i do i whether her image comes i become frustrated because i am trying tk find out the root cause why i am getting obessed and comparing myself to her but at the same time i feel frustrated and i fear frim her inage coming to my mind becuase i am not even able to clearly journal what exactly is the thought and if i do then i feel like i need external validation. I do not believe me. I fear if her image comes then again i feel all tjose emptions which makes me desire her more and if i do not think aboutbher then i think i will not be able to figure out root cause.
Help me please
Ocd is my best friend to play with I really want it more.
😂😊❤❤
I will never be able to thank you enough for this information 🙏🏽
Ur video calms my mind thank you
Nate could you pls make another video on depression as I feel it makes ocd worse and its kinda one fuels the other problem, I know you have one but another one would be really helpful:)
This is so funny out of context
Hi. When you say that one should acknowledge it but not engage it? What do you mean? Is not repeated exposure therapy, a form of engagement?
I subscribe cuz i see his license ❤ thank you ❤
the blasphemous intrusive thoughts hurts too much plz make a video on it😭😭😭😭💔
You're not alone. There are many who undergo the same affliction such as you and I. I don't think it is us generating those twisted ways of thinking. It feels as though they are gnawing down on us; burrowing into our sanity, and reeking up our sense of space. I find the most difficult part of this whole quarrel is having faith in who I am as an individual.
Anyhow, I'll keep you in my prayer. God bless.
I don't even know what I have anymore. If it's ocd or I'm just going crazy. Or what
Feeling better?
In my experience, I knew about all these instructions to deal with intrusive thoughts but I couldn’t progress without the Paroxetine10 the doctor prescribed for me
Busy yourself, occupy yourself with work, daily targets, to overcome these thoughts...
Connect with god, while praying your talking to god, giving your worries to high power, overtimeyou will find a difference in your thought process
You're such a helpful person its a Blessing to have you around thanks.
Seriously, BEST Analogy! Thank You! Very Helpful
Glad it was helpful! Thanks so much!
How long have you suffered with it
@@TheMentalmalist Since I was 10 years old. So 35 years
I have ocd from i was 4 yrs but now i can live with it normaly thank you for you videos it really helps me more then my therapy like fr
3:59 thanks my friend 🫂
Yes intrusive thoughts are like ad
How do you deal with the urge that because you're telling yourself not to do something, it makes you want to do it even more?
That's pretty natural. The more we say no, the more we want to do it. The response all depends on if it's an OCD urge or normal life urge, like "I want to go eat candy".
@@ocdandanxiety I mean the OCD urge, like "don't click on that thought", creates urgency to see what's behind it...!
Dont use any thought to face the urge to not to do mental compulsion.frequency of that thought is not strong as another negative one which you have engaged with to much it just won't work.just show you mind that the thought is not important by not engaging with the thought and focusing on present keep yourself busy and increase you tolerance power so even when your mind tricks you and you have urge to do the mental compulsion you just not take the thought personally and not do it.APPLYING LOGIC NEVER WORKS! Just let the thought go itself the only way to deal with it.
@@pseudo5047 well said.
@@ocdandanxiety hi please help me personally I am in big trouble.
Do we have to respond differently to the thoughts and feelings out loud or just in the mind?
Whichever way works for you!
I do it out loud I think it’s better
Excellent question !!!
I do both ways
I never had a word for the intrusive thoughts that started about 9 years ago. Watching this made me not feel so alone or crazy. Thank you!