She beat HOCD and then POCD came up. It seems, that OCD sufferers always need to be alert and watch out for OCD to latch on to something new. That illness is beyond horrible, but most non-sufferers don't understand.
she is incredibly brave for talking about these taboo topics that those of us with ocd feel shame about. i hope to talk publicly about ocd to bring more awareness to it, reduce the stigma and help others know about it so they can get treatment earlier. average time for people to get treatment is 17 years
@@WitchKing-Of-AngmarIt's still pretty much taboo. Her OCD was so intense. I don't see how going to toilet or discussing about period is taboo anymore.
Very interesting talk. I too have been struggling with OCD for about 4 years now and it has made my life, well lets just say, very difficult to live. I miss the way i was before everything, before OCD. Its an every day struggle for me, but i am RESELIANT. i will persevere and continue fighting, i will not give up. when things get really tough, i tell myself, "i will heal, i will heal." and i keep on repeating that. for everyone who is struggling with this horrible illness: lets keep fighting, one day at a time, lets not give up. FIGHTING!!
I always told myself when my ocd was at its worst that “one day I’ll look back on this moment and laugh” and I can tell you that I didn’t laugh, but my did I look back. You will look back too and soon realize that it is beatable. You just need to run it before it runs you.
When she mentioned her family and started crying, I cried with her because I know how far ocd can tear you from the people you love. It makes it hard to trust others, but it makes it harder to believe that you are deserving of other people‘s love and trust.
This girl is so damn courageous. I’ve had similar experiences with ocd & I’m so grateful for her bravery & vulnerability cause this video honestly helped me a lot.
So brave - so honest - so real. She is a warrior. And I know this because I have OCD. Jayde, if you read this, please know how important this video is to people who have OCD.
As someone with OCD as a 15 year old in high school, I still found solace in this video and admire the speaker very much! Though it’s an incredibly difficult way to go through life, the small elements when it comes to perfectionism have been fairly productive in my life; yes, before I turn in a half page paragraph I need to re-read it for mistakes over 30 times. I keep thinking “well what if I missed something” and though it’s horrible on so many levels, I will admit it may be what gets me into an Ivy some day.
i am so thankful for this womans bravery. i have been struggling with OCD all my life, even though i would read up on it and watch videos nothing has hit as well as validated my experience as much as listening to someone talk about the experience so candidly. thank you Jayde.
Thanks for being so transparent with what your OCD actually is. It helps break down the stigma, and also combats the stereotypes on how OCD is represented in media. Very well done presentation.
I want to thank the speaker for being so transparent. I struggle with the same forms of OCD she does and it was a relief to hear it from someone else. Remember OCD plays on your biggest morals and your thoughts are just that, thoughts.
I really didn't think this video would make me so emotional. Thank you so much for being brave and opening up about something taboo as POCD. You're doing great things!
As someone who struggled with OCD as a child, and still struggles with OCD personality disorder today (the two are distinct), I admire this woman so much. What an inspiration. Thanks, Jade.
"I think people really need to go through those really gut-wrenching, hard times in life and they need to be hurt, because no pain no gain. Had I never known how miserable it felt to be lonely and mentally ill, how would I know how great it feels not to be. And I can tell for a fact I wouldn't be standing where I am right now in the place I am in my life wanting to reach the sky had I not gone through those really tough experiences. So all the people like me out there, that are going through really a tough times that they won't talk about or can't talk about, just know that it doesn't end there. I am living evidence that it doesn't live there. I would it thought many times. I've wanted it to a dozen, but something in me told me that it wasn't over until I said it was over." Tears in my eyes. 100% relate. Keep it up Jayde.
Thank you for this. Watching it with my 10 year old son helped him understand that he isn’t alone in dealing with OCD (because anything I could possibly say would never have been enough).
Wow that last sentence is almost exactly what my dad told me when I was younger too. From my experience, the best thing to do is “play into facade” of the person struggling aka your son. His main trigger will be you denying his mentally ill perception of what is going on so play into the facade until he is able to get the grip himself and admit to you the ludicrousness of his own thoughts. But in the heat of the moment his ocd will do everything in its power to make it look like reality. The best thing you can say is I understand, I agree, and I get it. I guarantee saying those things will put him at ease. He will be triggered if you cannot understand what he is trying to say because his thoughts are moving too fast, and if he forgets to explain a thought all he’ll breaks loose. So if he is spiraling just say “I understand and I get it. It will take your relationship far, and one day I promise when he is older he will find a way to cope on his own. All the best to you guys. Ocd is a battle but like I said no pain no gain he will get through this and find peace just like me.
I would also like to say that majority of people with ocd excel in life due to a mentally I’ll level of perfectionism and fear of failure. So if wondering if he’ll ever be self sufficient ever consumes you don’t even worry about it. I was exactly like him and now look at me! Not to toot my own horn but I did a Ted talk at a top three school in Canada, am starting my own company, will be attending the number 1 business school in my country and I’m only 19. Why am I achieving so much so young? There are three components. 1. My intelligence/genetics, 2, the resources I had growing up, and 3. Having ocd which makes becoming successful like crack to me. However I’ve met many people who only had the third one and are very far in life. So remind your son that the universe is on his side and that to always remember that being mentally I’ll is never an excuse to say or do horrible things to the people you love.
@jaydeedgren: It would be great, if everyone would get through it, but unfortunately that's not the case. I'm suffering from OCD for over 30 years and there's no end in sight.
Thank you for posting these videos. I struggled with OCD my whole life and was just recently diagnosed because I stumbled on a video randomly. Keep speaking out thank you
I know thay God is working in my life when these things appear right when I need them. I am going through an OCD relapse, and my specific OCDs are H-OCD, P-OCD, and T-OCD. P-OCD in particular nearly caused me to end my life and T-OCD to not get my master's degree. I'm still here, in a healthier place than I was a year ago, but I will not give in. I will not surrender. Every day is a war and I have lost a few but I am still fighting. I am the Queen of my own mind, and one day, I will be healed. Thank you for sharing your story. Life comes at you from many angles, and we don't truly know joy until we've known pain. I could see how much it took from you emotionally to share this, but you have impacted many. May you be blessed in your own battle against OCD.
I started crying too when she talked about the pocd, I almost killed myself for that bc I didn't have the tools to deal with that in that moment. I felt her pain, almost like she was brought back to that place of sorrow.
Omg, the event where you describe how your OCD was first awakened in childhood almost exactly parallels mine. I was basically misunderstood and framed by unlucky circumstances, and was grounded for a week (it's a whole story). Ever since then, I've had these intrusive thoughts, I remember the day so vividly 20+ years later. I just find the similarities so, I retesting. Ngl I have to reasurre myself that I do have OCD quite often now, my current obsessive thoughts are "what if you're just normal and can't get any help" and it sucks.
Thank you for sharing this. I cried when you cried too. I understand the pain of OCD. There are so many facets, and they are so painful. I pray so hard that Jesus Christ❤ can heal all people who suffer from OCD. May God❤ have mercy❤
Great talk. I have the same type of OCD. Dealt with HOCD for years, and POCD very briefly (thank god). Now it's moved on to ROCD. Who knows what's next.
She knows it well, ocd is absolutely debilitating. I nearly lost my life to it as I couldnt sleep for many days at a time. It has affected every aspect of my life
I cried with her the whole time. When she mentioned "reassurance" i just lost it. Being in a family that tells you "you don't have ocd, get over it, you just imagine those things, just don't do those rituals etc" is so damn hard...it's hard to go against this monster alone.
This describes my struggles with ocd perfectly. It is truly exhausting to have to argue with yourself like this all the time. It makes you feel crazy, truly. 😩
I can t explain how much I love your speech. I recently found out that I might have OCD and it s been really hard for me to accept that, but in my heart I know it s true. Thank you for reminding me to never give up!
Thank you so much. I can't tell you how often I feel alone. Like I'm a pariah of society. I'm going through a tough time where I trusted someone with my OCD and now they are going to use it against me to try to show other people the terrible person that they think i am. And it's the scariest thing I've ever had to face. This helps. Thank you.
That's why I'm afraid to say the specifics of my OCD even to my most understanding friends. I'm certain they don't know enough about OCD to be able to distinguish intrusive thoughts from actual wishes and behaviour.
@@SchlichteTovenI can relate, the people I’ve been friends for 2-3 years must be so confuse when I get so quiet because my current intrusive thoughts has to do with my physical appearance and it really makes me feel so insecure
I get it... I get how you feel.... I'm really glad you have made it till here.... I just wanna give a tight hug and say.... "It's not your fault, nothing was".... One thing I wanna say is.... " The more we care and afraid about something, the more we think about that and eventually human brain which couldn't comprehend the negative phrases will make it opposite.... So all the horrible things, thoughts which you had is because.... You didn't want them so badly.... Very hardly.... So yeah, simple brain science made life so hard.... I could understand.... I know it's very hard to change it back.... I just wanna let you know that it happened not because you are a bad person but because you are a way too good person.... Knowing that... Would be relieving.... In all that chaos and struggles"....
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't have words to describe how I felt when you shared your story. I have had OCD from a child, and kept all of it inside until I was filled up to the point I burst. Thank you is all I can say at this moment thank you.
This means so much to me, as somebody who has been thinking strongly that they have had OCD for awhile, everything she said truly resonated with me, and it felt nice to know that i could relate to someone. i had always been worried of saying it, because i don’t want people to think that i am seeking attention (was questioning whether or not to even post this), especially since that’s what my best friend thought when i had told them. i just want to get diagnosed, so that i can be reassured that the terribly intrusive thoughts aren’t who i am, but rather just that it is an intrusive thought- praying they could give medication- because it has been ruling my life from a really young age
You should be proud of yourself for posting this! OCD is one of the most debilitating mental health conditions and people often don’t take it seriously. The intrusive thoughts that come with OCD can be so heinous that we feel as though we could never dare to say them out loud, so seeking help can be especially difficult. OCD has been stealing my life from me for years and I’m only just about to start exposure therapy. This Ted Talk was incredibly moving. I’m just a random person on the internet, but know that you’re not alone, there are so many others that are experiencing the same struggles, and the sooner you can get professional treatment, the better. I wish that I had started this process sooner. Best of luck!
@@thisisarianna aw you are amazing, thank you so much, you made my week😭🥰 (maybe even life, who knows; it makes one feel safe if they gain support from others- especially if they can relate to them, so thank you, i wish you the best too❤️)
I’m so glad to know that you found what I had to say meaningful!! I resonated with both this video and your comment, so I had hoped that I could also add some words of value. I absolutely feel your pain. I was fortunate enough to very recently find a therapist that has also personally struggled with OCD, and having someone that truly understands it has made such a difference. You may already know this, but don’t be discouraged if the first therapist or psychiatrist you work with isn’t the right fit. It may take a few trys, but don’t give up! It’s easy to feel like you’re going crazy, and those around you may treat you as though that’s the case, but know that it is a very real condition, and it can get better with proper treatment. Someone online that I found to be very helpful in working up the courage to seek out a therapist, that you may also benefit from, (if you don’t already know about her) is a TH-camr by the name of Nicole Rafiee. She’s opened up about her experience with OCD and how she’s gone about seeking professional help. It’s been an ongoing issue for her, and it’s been really inspiring to see her improve. She goes about discussing her OCD symptoms by being both very sincere and inserting comedic comments where she can. (If you do decide to look her up, be aware that she makes a bunch of different types of videos, but if you specifically look for her OCD related content, you’ll find what you’re looking for). Anyways, I hope this isn’t too long of a reply, and thank you in return for the well wishes!! ❤️
please yes i really just want to be diagnosed but my family doesnt think ocd is not a serious problem and when i told them about it they just ignored it
You're so brave and relatable (to me) for sharing this. I guess you've gone to therapy and that it helped you. The connection between the different fears and obsessions and the experience you have identified that impacted you have a clear connection to me. I bet you know, but I still want to tell you the following; I don't think you are bad or wicked in any way, I can see you are a sensible but very strong human being who had to deal with this monster due to conditions that are not your responsability, and you dealt with it like a champion. Only the people who live through this can understand what's it like, I feel you, and I'm proud of you. Thank you for talking about this, Jade.
Thank you for your honesty. I too have OCD… It seems NO ONE truly understands how time wasting it can be. How many things you miss out on do to the hours of repetive actions. Thank you for sharing your story. Bless you dear one.
I kid you not i was crying, it has gotten so bad i can't even put a shirt on me before thinking if i wear it my fathers will die. To a point i had to rely on my cat to see of she meowed at me (if she meowed meant i was right), or if the lights were on or if someone said something specific it was meaning i was allowed to do specific thing. I had struggle with eating, with typing, with talking, with my personal hygiene because of these thoughts to a point i no longer recognized myself anymore or neither who i was. Spending endless nights of desperate cries, 4 years, since maybe 8 or 9. It was and IT IS horrible, everyday is a bunch of these thoughts nonstop that i gotta cry it out before it gets dark, so this video right here has helped just now to get some out and to realoze many things, and if this reaches to anybody out there with similar or the same struggles, hey, you got your back, and there's a way out, no matter where, when, hpw, why or with who, there is and your worth, existence and your persona is not defined by these and those thoughts or compulsions, okay? Believe in you, in us. We've got it! Fighting!
I’m 13 and my mom tells me that she’s thought I have ocd for years and also because my dad has it. I just wanted to say I can’t be sure I have it or not because I haven’t been diagnosed but your video made me cry because I felt seen and didn’t feel like a creep when you mentioned the pocd and hocd ❤️
superb, just the people unluckily like me and her, living with that monster could understand how difficult its to lead your life cope de daily activities, and how that one impact your family too.
Jayde thank you so much for this. You talk about things I lived and I have always been so afraid to talk about it. You did great and your talk could help so many
This is such a hard thing to speak about. I had intrusive thoughts (which I won’t go into detail on) that wouldn’t allow me to go near my family, especially my mom. 11:08 makes this so clear and clarifies it so much.
Any disease is just as bad,so I pray everybody be healthiest! But to all those living with OCD and having no one close around them thoroughly understanding what they going through,or getting judged unfairly all the time ☹️ I'm so sorry for everything,me you we all know you deserve better than that,we deserve better than that,nobody ever asked for it,I hope oneday there will be no OCD remained,that's the evilest thing ever!
Broo, I've been literally suffering for the past 2 years because of this. I lost everyone. I have no friends. My family is finding it really hard to deal with me. It doesn't end!
Jayde thank you. Thank you for so honestly sharing your experience. You give me hope that this can be managed and life although hard, can always be good again.
As an OCD sufferer, the bravery this took is immense. Only 4 people know I have OCD for the 8 years I’ve had it, and I’ve only recently told 1. Years of therapy later I am finally in a good place, and I’m still afraid of telling others about my diagnosis. Maybe one day I can tell share what I’ve been through and help normalize it like she has.
You are amazing, keep going. I have a fear of talking and it is a different types of ocd called perfectionism ocd. I'm proud of you and i gotta say this again you are amazing and a great warrior. I hope you the best ❤
The way I find most effective to me is let it be, if I die I die. If life is a disaster, be it. And sometimes ask myself, how does my thoughts serve me? There must be some good otherwise the thoughts wouldn’t exist, or is it a belief that drives the thoughts? I still have it, i have to skip the video so I don’t pick up those examples and make it mine.(because it’s too relatable) What also helped me is when I first had those thoughts when I was in elementary school, I told my mom about it, and my mom said “oh you are fine, I had it too, I had it worse, everyone has it”, and it made it a lot better. (She doesn’t have ocd, she just made it up to make me feel better lol) I think she took that layer of anxiety of OCD away, so I no longer resisted it in that case
Very brave and transparent. I think this is the side to OCD that we need to know. Some persons with OCD are like BPD and NPD and hurt the ppl around them because they never normally satisfied with anything. You are never good enough and neither are they themselves.
I'm suffering from ocd almost about 5 years. I have the habit of washing my hands ,face and brushing repeatedly, but my family members scold me to stop this coz they don't know abt ocd but my obsessions on washing and cleaning myself is increasing day by day, one day I'll get the ocd cured.this video gave me lots of hope and assurance that I'm not different
My teacher asked a student to move their desk because it was lopsided, and he said “sorry my OCD, I don’t have OCD. This was really annoying to me as someone with OCD, and I still get intrusive thoughts about this to this day.
I am so thankful I found this. About five years ago i was invaded by intrusive thoughts. It nearly led me to want to kill myself just to make it stop . My wife got me help and saved my life. I’m so afraid to talk to anyone except my wife or psychiatrist about it. I have had some of the exact same thoughts as Jayde. It took me forever for me to tell myself that I am not that person. They are just thoughts and that’s it. Even disturbing, I don’t fight them anymore. I accept them for what they are and they simply “float away”
Yes! You are doing it right! Accept the thoughts! But never think they're true. Say to yourself “I understand what you're trying to tell me, ocd, but it's not true and even if it is, I won't do anything about it or hurt anyone so it doesn't matter anyway.
There was the reason right there … the way your parents speak to you causes it it’s not you you’re a kid. It’s normal to be curious about genitals your father needs to be curious and understanding that it’s natural curiosity not tell you there is something wrong with you this is what causes the trauma that leads to OCD. Cheers all the best I hope we get the healing we deserve cheers
Accepting the thoughts, accepting that they might be true is actually efficient. It helped me, at least. I have a whole bundle - OCD, Autism, ADHD, two Anxiety disorders, plus I had almost every type of OCD throughout my life, except a religious one. What helped me wasn't a very healthy acceptance, but an acceptance nonetheless - after being told my whole life that I'm arrogant, selfish, egoistical (because of my undiagnosed Autism) one day I just accepted it. When everyone tells you that you're awful, that nobody will every accept someone like you, when your own brain gives you intrusive thoughts on how you smash your friends head on the desk, you actually begin to believe that you're just a terrible human being. Wouldn't recommend tho, it's better for you to accept them in a "well yeah that's a possibility, now what?" way
I developed a major depression 3 years ago so I sought out a psichiatrist and a psichologist. They told me that not only I had a major depression but he started by asking my if I obssessed with little details to wich I said yes. So thus I discovered that my whole life, those intrusive thoughts that kept plaguing me were in fact the simptoms of ocd. Off course 3 years ago it went very bad and my obssessions (the reassurances that the speaker talks about) where constant and caused me and those around me much pain. In time (and with medication) I got better. Unfortunatly I recently had a relapse and those dam thoughts are coming back again. I can only hope that eventualy things will get better
It wasn't easy and I could feel her intense pain and also relief. Indeed she is aware that this might be lifelong battle yet she did not give up because she found her family has been very supportive.
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She beat HOCD and then POCD came up. It seems, that OCD sufferers always need to be alert and watch out for OCD to latch on to something new. That illness is beyond horrible, but most non-sufferers don't understand.
POCD is probably the worst of the lot. I have it too. I understand the pain.
What is HOCD and POCD?
@@NB-lx6gzshe talks about it at 3:30
Every time I get over one thing something else pops up it’s exhausting.
It's horror when my seizures occurres
she is incredibly brave for talking about these taboo topics that those of us with ocd feel shame about. i hope to talk publicly about ocd to bring more awareness to it, reduce the stigma and help others know about it so they can get treatment earlier. average time for people to get treatment is 17 years
How is this taboo? Talking about going to the bathroom would be taboo here, or discussing a period, this is not remotely taboo.
@@WitchKing-Of-AngmarIt's still pretty much taboo. Her OCD was so intense. I don't see how going to toilet or discussing about period is taboo anymore.
Very interesting talk. I too have been struggling with OCD for about 4 years now and it has made my life, well lets just say, very difficult to live. I miss the way i was before everything, before OCD. Its an every day struggle for me, but i am RESELIANT. i will persevere and continue fighting, i will not give up. when things get really tough, i tell myself, "i will heal, i will heal." and i keep on repeating that. for everyone who is struggling with this horrible illness: lets keep fighting, one day at a time, lets not give up. FIGHTING!!
I always told myself when my ocd was at its worst that “one day I’ll look back on this moment and laugh” and I can tell you that I didn’t laugh, but my did I look back. You will look back too and soon realize that it is beatable. You just need to run it before it runs you.
I recovered from ocd...hope you do too
@@jaydeedgrenyou have snapchat ?
Hey! Hope you’re doing good i have been struggling with ocd too i know what it feels like
@@pratibhasrivastava1506how did you recover? X
When she mentioned her family and started crying, I cried with her because I know how far ocd can tear you from the people you love. It makes it hard to trust others, but it makes it harder to believe that you are deserving of other people‘s love and trust.
Trust me some of them were playing with you…
This girl is so strong who else is crying
I'm laughing lol
Why? @@RoyHoy
@@gchudasamadarshit9111cause they’re being edgy.
lol what. get a grip and spare those around you the nonsense.
This girl is so damn courageous. I’ve had similar experiences with ocd & I’m so grateful for her bravery & vulnerability cause this video honestly helped me a lot.
So brave - so honest - so real. She is a warrior. And I know this because I have OCD. Jayde, if you read this, please know how important this video is to people who have OCD.
This Ted Talk explained OCD so well. People usually laugh about what it, but it is very debilitating.
As someone with OCD as a 15 year old in high school, I still found solace in this video and admire the speaker very much! Though it’s an incredibly difficult way to go through life, the small elements when it comes to perfectionism have been fairly productive in my life; yes, before I turn in a half page paragraph I need to re-read it for mistakes over 30 times. I keep thinking “well what if I missed something” and though it’s horrible on so many levels, I will admit it may be what gets me into an Ivy some day.
I suffer from the same things. God damn she has balls talking about these topics in front of people 😮
I thought she was a girl
Yeah aint easy to express them all out of comfortably.
I suffer from the exact same thing to....for 2 years now
I have other neuro disorders to
she's so strong for talking about POCD. I have been so afraid to talk about it to anyone.
Been wishing for healing all through these years, it's truly very crippling many people won't understand.
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i am so thankful for this womans bravery. i have been struggling with OCD all my life, even though i would read up on it and watch videos nothing has hit as well as validated my experience as much as listening to someone talk about the experience so candidly. thank you Jayde.
You are never alone and you are not your thoughts!
Thanks for being so transparent with what your OCD actually is. It helps break down the stigma, and also combats the stereotypes on how OCD is represented in media. Very well done presentation.
She’s sooooo brave to be so open about this
This needs to be talked about. This was a great way to explain it. Ocd is so misunderstood
I’m trying to do research and watch a lot of vids on OCD bc my gf has it and I want to become more aware of the condition
@@bucket_hat_gt21 Well done!
Brave young woman! I commend her for sharing her story and educating us on several types of OCD. The world needs more of her brave types to speak up!
This girl is so real.
I want to thank the speaker for being so transparent. I struggle with the same forms of OCD she does and it was a relief to hear it from someone else. Remember OCD plays on your biggest morals and your thoughts are just that, thoughts.
I really didn't think this video would make me so emotional.
Thank you so much for being brave and opening up about something taboo as POCD. You're doing great things!
OCD diagnosed here. Your video make me cry.
It’s hard but it makes it easier when you know what it is
Hope that helps !!
The serious deficiency in views of this video should be a crime. Needs at least a million
Views mean nothing.
As someone who struggled with OCD as a child, and still struggles with OCD personality disorder today (the two are distinct), I admire this woman so much. What an inspiration. Thanks, Jade.
"I think people really need to go through those really gut-wrenching, hard times in life and they need to be hurt, because no pain no gain. Had I never known how miserable it felt to be lonely and mentally ill, how would I know how great it feels not to be. And I can tell for a fact I wouldn't be standing where I am right now in the place I am in my life wanting to reach the sky had I not gone through those really tough experiences. So all the people like me out there, that are going through really a tough times that they won't talk about or can't talk about, just know that it doesn't end there. I am living evidence that it doesn't live there. I would it thought many times. I've wanted it to a dozen, but something in me told me that it wasn't over until I said it was over."
Tears in my eyes. 100% relate. Keep it up Jayde.
Thank you for this. Watching it with my 10 year old son helped him understand that he isn’t alone in dealing with OCD (because anything I could possibly say would never have been enough).
Wow that last sentence is almost exactly what my dad told me when I was younger too. From my experience, the best thing to do is “play into facade” of the person struggling aka your son. His main trigger will be you denying his mentally ill perception of what is going on so play into the facade until he is able to get the grip himself and admit to you the ludicrousness of his own thoughts. But in the heat of the moment his ocd will do everything in its power to make it look like reality. The best thing you can say is I understand, I agree, and I get it. I guarantee saying those things will put him at ease. He will be triggered if you cannot understand what he is trying to say because his thoughts are moving too fast, and if he forgets to explain a thought all he’ll breaks loose. So if he is spiraling just say “I understand and I get it. It will take your relationship far, and one day I promise when he is older he will find a way to cope on his own. All the best to you guys. Ocd is a battle but like I said no pain no gain he will get through this and find peace just like me.
I would also like to say that majority of people with ocd excel in life due to a mentally I’ll level of perfectionism and fear of failure. So if wondering if he’ll ever be self sufficient ever consumes you don’t even worry about it. I was exactly like him and now look at me! Not to toot my own horn but I did a Ted talk at a top three school in Canada, am starting my own company, will be attending the number 1 business school in my country and I’m only 19. Why am I achieving so much so young? There are three components. 1. My intelligence/genetics, 2, the resources I had growing up, and 3. Having ocd which makes becoming successful like crack to me. However I’ve met many people who only had the third one and are very far in life. So remind your son that the universe is on his side and that to always remember that being mentally I’ll is never an excuse to say or do horrible things to the people you love.
That is really awesome and admirable, seriously.
@jaydeedgren:
It would be great, if everyone would get through it, but unfortunately that's not the case.
I'm suffering from OCD for over 30 years and there's no end in sight.
Thank you for posting these videos. I struggled with OCD my whole life and was just recently diagnosed because I stumbled on a video randomly. Keep speaking out thank you
I understand so much of this. Deep pain in OCD. Takes so much courage to reveal this side of oneself. Brava to you, Jayde
I know thay God is working in my life when these things appear right when I need them. I am going through an OCD relapse, and my specific OCDs are H-OCD, P-OCD, and T-OCD. P-OCD in particular nearly caused me to end my life and T-OCD to not get my master's degree. I'm still here, in a healthier place than I was a year ago, but I will not give in. I will not surrender. Every day is a war and I have lost a few but I am still fighting. I am the Queen of my own mind, and one day, I will be healed.
Thank you for sharing your story. Life comes at you from many angles, and we don't truly know joy until we've known pain. I could see how much it took from you emotionally to share this, but you have impacted many. May you be blessed in your own battle against OCD.
I started crying too when she talked about the pocd, I almost killed myself for that bc I didn't have the tools to deal with that in that moment. I felt her pain, almost like she was brought back to that place of sorrow.
I can't describe how much I needed to hear this today. I think the trajectory of my life is about to change for the better, and I'm so grateful
Omg, the event where you describe how your OCD was first awakened in childhood almost exactly parallels mine. I was basically misunderstood and framed by unlucky circumstances, and was grounded for a week (it's a whole story). Ever since then, I've had these intrusive thoughts, I remember the day so vividly 20+ years later. I just find the similarities so, I retesting. Ngl I have to reasurre myself that I do have OCD quite often now, my current obsessive thoughts are "what if you're just normal and can't get any help" and it sucks.
Thank you for sharing this. I cried when you cried too. I understand the pain of OCD. There are so many facets, and they are so painful.
I pray so hard that Jesus Christ❤ can heal all people who suffer from OCD. May God❤ have mercy❤
Thank you so much for this. It's so hard sometimes bc you just feel like you're a horrible person and these thoughts chase you all the time
10:32 they cant make it better, so true...loved your talk, very much appreciated. Thank you
Great talk. I have the same type of OCD. Dealt with HOCD for years, and POCD very briefly (thank god). Now it's moved on to ROCD. Who knows what's next.
She knows it well, ocd is absolutely debilitating. I nearly lost my life to it as I couldnt sleep for many days at a time. It has affected every aspect of my life
What a wonderfully brave talk and you really nailed the awful nature of this condition .
When she cried my heart broke a little :(
I started tearing up too. I’m going through ERP/CBT for this. So glad she’s rebuilt that relationship with her family :( 🤍
Very brave talk! Thank you for sharing. especially for the emotions. Too many people with OCD live through these feelings alone.
this woman is really brave for raising awareness
I cried with her the whole time. When she mentioned "reassurance" i just lost it. Being in a family that tells you "you don't have ocd, get over it, you just imagine those things, just don't do those rituals etc" is so damn hard...it's hard to go against this monster alone.
You are not alone.
Thank you for this and for the reminder that "if it's meant to be, it's upto you". Wishing for you good health and happiness!
Thanks for sharing this experience, I was move by your statement that Ocd is smart so you have to be smarter than it to outsmart it
This describes my struggles with ocd perfectly. It is truly exhausting to have to argue with yourself like this all the time. It makes you feel crazy, truly. 😩
This is insanely beautiful and profound. What an honest talk & a brave young woman. Thank you.
I can t explain how much I love your speech. I recently found out that I might have OCD and it s been really hard for me to accept that, but in my heart I know it s true. Thank you for reminding me to never give up!
you are so inspiring. I have OCD, too. my story is similar to yours. Thank you for being vulnerable, you're saving lives.
Thank you so much. I can't tell you how often I feel alone. Like I'm a pariah of society. I'm going through a tough time where I trusted someone with my OCD and now they are going to use it against me to try to show other people the terrible person that they think i am. And it's the scariest thing I've ever had to face. This helps. Thank you.
That's why I'm afraid to say the specifics of my OCD even to my most understanding friends. I'm certain they don't know enough about OCD to be able to distinguish intrusive thoughts from actual wishes and behaviour.
@@SchlichteTovenI can relate, the people I’ve been friends for 2-3 years must be so confuse when I get so quiet because my current intrusive thoughts has to do with my physical appearance and it really makes me feel so insecure
I didn't know other people went through this. I love her for talking about it. Thank you so much!!!
This was the most incredible Ted talk I've ever seen. Thank you so much, Jayde 🙏🏼😇✨
I get it... I get how you feel.... I'm really glad you have made it till here.... I just wanna give a tight hug and say.... "It's not your fault, nothing was".... One thing I wanna say is.... " The more we care and afraid about something, the more we think about that and eventually human brain which couldn't comprehend the negative phrases will make it opposite.... So all the horrible things, thoughts which you had is because.... You didn't want them so badly.... Very hardly.... So yeah, simple brain science made life so hard.... I could understand.... I know it's very hard to change it back.... I just wanna let you know that it happened not because you are a bad person but because you are a way too good person.... Knowing that... Would be relieving.... In all that chaos and struggles"....
I think that is enough to change it back. Is that what changed it back for you?
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't have words to describe how I felt when you shared your story. I have had OCD from a child, and kept all of it inside until I was filled up to the point I burst. Thank you is all I can say at this moment thank you.
This means so much to me, as somebody who has been thinking strongly that they have had OCD for awhile, everything she said truly resonated with me, and it felt nice to know that i could relate to someone. i had always been worried of saying it, because i don’t want people to think that i am seeking attention (was questioning whether or not to even post this), especially since that’s what my best friend thought when i had told them. i just want to get diagnosed, so that i can be reassured that the terribly intrusive thoughts aren’t who i am, but rather just that it is an intrusive thought- praying they could give medication- because it has been ruling my life from a really young age
You should be proud of yourself for posting this! OCD is one of the most debilitating mental health conditions and people often don’t take it seriously. The intrusive thoughts that come with OCD can be so heinous that we feel as though we could never dare to say them out loud, so seeking help can be especially difficult. OCD has been stealing my life from me for years and I’m only just about to start exposure therapy.
This Ted Talk was incredibly moving.
I’m just a random person on the internet, but know that you’re not alone, there are so many others that are experiencing the same struggles, and the sooner you can get professional treatment, the better. I wish that I had started this process sooner. Best of luck!
@@thisisarianna aw you are amazing, thank you so much, you made my week😭🥰 (maybe even life, who knows; it makes one feel safe if they gain support from others- especially if they can relate to them, so thank you, i wish you the best too❤️)
I’m so glad to know that you found what I had to say meaningful!! I resonated with both this video and your comment, so I had hoped that I could also add some words of value.
I absolutely feel your pain. I was fortunate enough to very recently find a therapist that has also personally struggled with OCD, and having someone that truly understands it has made such a difference. You may already know this, but don’t be discouraged if the first therapist or psychiatrist you work with isn’t the right fit. It may take a few trys, but don’t give up!
It’s easy to feel like you’re going crazy, and those around you may treat you as though that’s the case, but know that it is a very real condition, and it can get better with proper treatment.
Someone online that I found to be very helpful in working up the courage to seek out a therapist, that you may also benefit from, (if you don’t already know about her) is a TH-camr by the name of Nicole Rafiee. She’s opened up about her experience with OCD and how she’s gone about seeking professional help. It’s been an ongoing issue for her, and it’s been really inspiring to see her improve. She goes about discussing her OCD symptoms by being both very sincere and inserting comedic comments where she can. (If you do decide to look her up, be aware that she makes a bunch of different types of videos, but if you specifically look for her OCD related content, you’ll find what you’re looking for).
Anyways, I hope this isn’t too long of a reply, and thank you in return for the well wishes!! ❤️
@@thisisarianna no no, thank you🤩🙏❤️
please yes i really just want to be diagnosed but my family doesnt think ocd is not a serious problem and when i told them about it they just ignored it
You're so brave and relatable (to me) for sharing this. I guess you've gone to therapy and that it helped you. The connection between the different fears and obsessions and the experience you have identified that impacted you have a clear connection to me. I bet you know, but I still want to tell you the following; I don't think you are bad or wicked in any way, I can see you are a sensible but very strong human being who had to deal with this monster due to conditions that are not your responsability, and you dealt with it like a champion. Only the people who live through this can understand what's it like, I feel you, and I'm proud of you. Thank you for talking about this, Jade.
Thank you for your honesty. I too have OCD… It seems NO ONE truly understands how time wasting it can be. How many things you miss out on do to the hours of repetive actions. Thank you for sharing your story. Bless you dear one.
I just want to give her a hug🩷She’s so strong!!!! you go girl!!!!⭐️
6:38 I tell myself that I'm ok, I look for self reassurance now..... I've been learning to trust my intuition more.
I kid you not i was crying, it has gotten so bad i can't even put a shirt on me before thinking if i wear it my fathers will die. To a point i had to rely on my cat to see of she meowed at me (if she meowed meant i was right), or if the lights were on or if someone said something specific it was meaning i was allowed to do specific thing. I had struggle with eating, with typing, with talking, with my personal hygiene because of these thoughts to a point i no longer recognized myself anymore or neither who i was. Spending endless nights of desperate cries, 4 years, since maybe 8 or 9. It was and IT IS horrible, everyday is a bunch of these thoughts nonstop that i gotta cry it out before it gets dark, so this video right here has helped just now to get some out and to realoze many things, and if this reaches to anybody out there with similar or the same struggles, hey, you got your back, and there's a way out, no matter where, when, hpw, why or with who, there is and your worth, existence and your persona is not defined by these and those thoughts or compulsions, okay? Believe in you, in us. We've got it! Fighting!
I’m 13 and my mom tells me that she’s thought I have ocd for years and also because my dad has it. I just wanted to say I can’t be sure I have it or not because I haven’t been diagnosed but your video made me cry because I felt seen and didn’t feel like a creep when you mentioned the pocd and hocd ❤️
superb, just the people unluckily like me and her, living with that monster could understand how difficult its to lead your life cope de daily activities, and how that one impact your family too.
I just received my diagnosis on this past Monday… She just put… my entire childhood into words… and it all makes so much sense now.
Best speech I've ever seen in my life.
Just accept it’s not you. You will win over ocd. Put in the work and like she said you can outsmart it
Thank you, you made my day. This is how i felt everyday.
You are brave. We see you and are rooting for you
Thank you for being brave and sharing your story.
Jayde thank you so much for this. You talk about things I lived and I have always been so afraid to talk about it. You did great and your talk could help so many
This is such a hard thing to speak about. I had intrusive thoughts (which I won’t go into detail on) that wouldn’t allow me to go near my family, especially my mom. 11:08 makes this so clear and clarifies it so much.
Any disease is just as bad,so I pray everybody be healthiest!
But to all those living with OCD and having no one close around them thoroughly understanding what they going through,or getting judged unfairly all the time ☹️
I'm so sorry for everything,me you we all know you deserve better than that,we deserve better than that,nobody ever asked for it,I hope oneday there will be no OCD remained,that's the evilest thing ever!
Broo, I've been literally suffering for the past 2 years because of this. I lost everyone. I have no friends. My family is finding it really hard to deal with me. It doesn't end!
it going to be okay.
Jayde thank you. Thank you for so honestly sharing your experience. You give me hope that this can be managed and life although hard, can always be good again.
I have OCPD and this is really well-explained. I struggle a lot with OCD variants and she hit the nail right on the head.
Proud of you girl. I have ocd too ❤️
Courage, honesty and insight. Thank you so much.
I pity this girl. I just hope she is doing better now. Even I am having OCD and trust me it takes away the happiness from your life.
she is very brave. I respect her intellect and stength
Omg the taking quizzes is so real😭😭😭 I had it for university quizzes to continuously check that I didn’t make the wrong choice
As an OCD sufferer, the bravery this took is immense. Only 4 people know I have OCD for the 8 years I’ve had it, and I’ve only recently told 1. Years of therapy later I am finally in a good place, and I’m still afraid of telling others about my diagnosis. Maybe one day I can tell share what I’ve been through and help normalize it like she has.
My gf said her OCD therapy is just her checking one her meds’ prescription and getting new ones at this point but it’s probably different for everyone
You are remarkable and deserve peace and happiness
You are amazing, keep going. I have a fear of talking and it is a different types of ocd called perfectionism ocd. I'm proud of you and i gotta say this again you are amazing and a great warrior. I hope you the best ❤
Why do i love her. I relate to this WAY too much, and its unsettling yet comfortable
I hate ocd so much it ruined my life. i just want my mental health back
Thank you for this video, it makes me feel less alone.
Also want to say that no matter how your brain functions, you are beautiful. You are not the mind or the body. You are a spirit and God loves you xx
The way I find most effective to me is let it be, if I die I die. If life is a disaster, be it. And sometimes ask myself, how does my thoughts serve me? There must be some good otherwise the thoughts wouldn’t exist, or is it a belief that drives the thoughts? I still have it, i have to skip the video so I don’t pick up those examples and make it mine.(because it’s too relatable)
What also helped me is when I first had those thoughts when I was in elementary school, I told my mom about it, and my mom said “oh you are fine, I had it too, I had it worse, everyone has it”, and it made it a lot better. (She doesn’t have ocd, she just made it up to make me feel better lol) I think she took that layer of anxiety of OCD away, so I no longer resisted it in that case
She is so brave this has been one of the most honest and accurate descriptions of what OCD is actually like. ❤
Sending love and warm vibes. You’re not alone, thank you for standing up.
There's no epitome of OCD.... And thank God because this girl is her own OCD like we all are!
What does this even mean?
Very brave and transparent. I think this is the side to OCD that we need to know. Some persons with OCD are like BPD and NPD and hurt the ppl around them because they never normally satisfied with anything. You are never good enough and neither are they themselves.
I'm suffering from ocd almost about 5 years. I have the habit of washing my hands ,face and brushing repeatedly, but my family members scold me to stop this coz they don't know abt ocd but my obsessions on washing and cleaning myself is increasing day by day, one day I'll get the ocd cured.this video gave me lots of hope and assurance that I'm not different
You are not alone. I had to rinse a tip of my finger about four or five times to “feel right” just yesterday. This is torture
@@PaulsMom93 yeah absolutely the same. Feeling weird and my anxiety is on top of my head
My teacher asked a student to move their desk because it was lopsided, and he said “sorry my OCD, I don’t have OCD. This was really annoying to me as someone with OCD, and I still get intrusive thoughts about this to this day.
You are incredibly brave . I admire your courage and I understand your struggles dealing with OCD.
I am so thankful I found this. About five years ago i was invaded by intrusive thoughts. It nearly led me to want to kill myself just to make it stop . My wife got me help and saved my life. I’m so afraid to talk to anyone except my wife or psychiatrist about it. I have had some of the exact same thoughts as Jayde. It took me forever for me to tell myself that I am not that person. They are just thoughts and that’s it. Even disturbing, I don’t fight them anymore. I accept them for what they are and they simply “float away”
Yes! You are doing it right! Accept the thoughts! But never think they're true. Say to yourself “I understand what you're trying to tell me, ocd, but it's not true and even if it is, I won't do anything about it or hurt anyone so it doesn't matter anyway.
@@jaydeedgren god bless you. Thank you so much.
There was the reason right there … the way your parents speak to you causes it it’s not you you’re a kid. It’s normal to be curious about genitals your father needs to be curious and understanding that it’s natural curiosity not tell you there is something wrong with you this is what causes the trauma that leads to OCD. Cheers all the best I hope we get the healing we deserve cheers
Your mum too saying stuff like giving up on you etc it all causes issues it really does cheers all the best cheers
I’m crying. I feel so seen.
Accepting the thoughts, accepting that they might be true is actually efficient. It helped me, at least.
I have a whole bundle - OCD, Autism, ADHD, two Anxiety disorders, plus I had almost every type of OCD throughout my life, except a religious one.
What helped me wasn't a very healthy acceptance, but an acceptance nonetheless - after being told my whole life that I'm arrogant, selfish, egoistical (because of my undiagnosed Autism) one day I just accepted it. When everyone tells you that you're awful, that nobody will every accept someone like you, when your own brain gives you intrusive thoughts on how you smash your friends head on the desk, you actually begin to believe that you're just a terrible human being.
Wouldn't recommend tho, it's better for you to accept them in a "well yeah that's a possibility, now what?" way
I developed a major depression 3 years ago so I sought out a psichiatrist and a psichologist. They told me that not only I had a major depression but he started by asking my if I obssessed with little details to wich I said yes. So thus I discovered that my whole life, those intrusive thoughts that kept plaguing me were in fact the simptoms of ocd. Off course 3 years ago it went very bad and my obssessions (the reassurances that the speaker talks about) where constant and caused me and those around me much pain. In time (and with medication) I got better. Unfortunatly I recently had a relapse and those dam thoughts are coming back again. I can only hope that eventualy things will get better
So brave. So vulnerable. So self aware. Thank you for sharing this.
It wasn't easy and I could feel her intense pain and also relief. Indeed she is aware that this might be lifelong battle yet she did not give up because she found her family has been very supportive.
One of the best TED episodes...I learned much and will be able to understand OCD better...thanks to the Brave One...she is a wonderful young women.