I have no friends (in my 50's)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ธ.ค. 2022
- My no friends video ~ Am I lonely? Sometimes, yes. This is my no friends in my 50's story, why I have no friends and what I do about it, all intertwoven into my current life and happenings. James has been away so much these past few months and being alone as really initiated a ponder on life, love, loss and loneliness. I really hope you enjoy it and perhaps can relate a bit too.
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I’m 58 and have finally realized that the only reason that I felt lonely was because society drills it into our heads that being alone is bad … Everything I enjoy are solitary pursuits. I do my own thing and feel more peace than I ever have in my life by leaning into my hermit like tendencies.
❤❤❤ I truly understand your feelings
Me, too! Is that "weird"?
@@roseyc.5846 According to society, it’s “weird.” I think these social norms were created by extroverts who can’t relate to introverts. 🤔
I completely agree with you! It’s funny how people are like, “We’re all different.” But in real life, they think we should all be the same. It makes no sense at all. 🤷🏽♀️
There's a difference between being lonely and alone.
Those who feel despair, despondent, alone, lonely, do you Never think of God and JESUS?! God does not abandon us. We abandon God ✝️ ☯️
I've gradually distanced myself from "friends" who are toxic. I'd rather be alone than with fake people😊
Now. This is the truth!
Indeed, so truthful 👋❤️❤️❤️
Agree!!!!!❤
Being quirky and feeling like a misfit, or being sensitive to people or other things, can be a sign of autism. Being talkative can be a sign of ADHD. Being quirky and talkative can be a sign of having both.
@@user-gl6dg8ho3jMy eyesight maybe failing as I age but my ability to see through people has improved!
You say you have no friends but you have a partner, that is a friend. Some of us have no one.
Totally agree. Looks like her partner is his best friend.
I love being alone but I never feel lonely. I feel interrupted by other people’s company
Same!
I know this feeling❤
Being alone is a luxury. It's the only way to be introspective, know yourself, study, read, learn and reflect . Other people drain one's energy, attention and time.
I never heard it put that way...but I like it. Being alone is a luxury.👍
You must be an introvert 😊 me too!
I agree I had time to read and learn, fish, learn new crafts learn to play guitar
As long as being alone do not become feeling lonely, i totally agree. I love being alone too, but i know i could not stand to be without any human contact for days or weeks ^^'
Exactly...
You're not alone, you have a person.
I'm 35 in a week, i have no friends or family..it's very lonely at times, especially the holidays.
It’s not easy is it.xx
Sending you love
Not just you queen it's our societies now many feel lonely.
Oh, wow! Even with people around, l feel lonely. Last night, l listened to someone gripe and whine...and l felt lonely. No connection. Because of my relationship, though, with my heavenly Father, l feel soothed.
The more I'm around other people the more I want to be alone.
Best to be alone than in bad company!I'm my best friend finally ...
I'm 70 with no friends, and the friends I've had in the past were nothing but backstabbing troublemakers. I get along better with strangers
I’m 60 and have been totally alone & celibate 98% of entire adult life. Yes it was painful for a host of horrific reasons, but in later years (esp the last 20-some), my solitude as a woman alone is quite blessed.
I think women come into their own in their mid forties plus
@@celticwarrior777 Totally agree
Though I'm married but never felt my husband as my nearest one. I'm 60 and feel neglected for so many years.
I was partnered a few times between 20 and 40, but to be quite honest, life was less complicated being single. Everything I have is mine and I am fulfilled mostly. Do miss a companion, but one can’t settle for 2nd best. If it doesn’t make be happy it is a no goer! I’m in my late 50’s.
@@Carte-Blanche-NZ just find things you like to do & you will find others to visit with while doing them. Life is so much simpler alone for so many people, and yes even financial independence from others is a huge plus. Also it’s virtually impossible after a lifetime alone, to even think of “being” with someone-- other than maybe sharing a space with a best friend of 20-30-plus years-- who’s also lived alone entire life--and even then, you need separate wings of building/ living rooms/ etc etc…. Maybe share a dining room. 😅people who live alone like their own company and privacy very much.
*I love my solitude. I crave it. I am alone by choice. I was invited to a party the other*
*night and I went. Small talk with strangers that I will never see again. I came home*
*after a couple of hours and thought...."I'm NOT missing out on anything!*
*I am 75 and have 3 dogs and 2 cats. I am good to go! And I don't fear death. I've*
*had a wonderful life. I couldn't have designed it any better. Thanks God!* 💖💫
Hi Trudy. Make sure your pets have a home should you pass away and that someone knows to help them.
@@earnold1896 *Oh absolutely! I have it all*
*covered E. They are all older pets.*
*So hopefully I will outlive them.* 💖
*But if something does happen to me*
*I do have someone for them. Thank You.*
@@lucyrane1318 That's awful, because you are the smart one. I lost my beautiful sister to her 2nd Pfizer jab - she had a heart attack and was ill for 4 days after the vax and passed on the 5th. People can be so judgmental and I find that it is better to be alone than constantly judged because they perceive me to be different.
@@lucyrane1318 I'm so sorry to hear that, Lucy. I totally agree with everything you have said. It felt like we were all living in an alternative universe during covid. They powers that be took total control over us and it was beginning to get very creepy. My sister lived in Dubai and my other sister and I watched a recording of our other sisters funeral. It has taken me two years to get slightly back on track with my life. But I'm glad that you did not take the vax because it was evil how they lied to control us all. I saw a video of Austrians being interviewed regarding denying those without the vax entry to various places and it chilled me to the bone. However, staying positive and not allowing people to steal our joy is definitely the way to go. Have a lovely week.🌻
@@lucyrane1318 Lucy I agree with what you are saying and it is frightening. We don't have any freedom and once someone is running a country they seem to be able to get away with whatever suits their agenda. I was sleep walking through life until lockdown. I began to read online news daily and it painted a very depressing picture. Sadly, I don't believe it will improve and I am glad that I am not a young woman any more, because it is not the world I grew up in. I will watch the videos you mention and thank you for chatting with me today, it's been very interesting and informative. I only hope that those with evil at the top of the ladder will be stopped before things get even worse. Take care of yourself. Love from chilly Scotland.
It's okay not to have friends. Most people are despicable and you aren't missing a thing.
Better to have no friends than the wrong ones.
Hard to find the right ones
@@kripaharris237 Increasingly so in these modern times.
For 50 you retain a childlike aura that I love and wish to preserve within myself.
One time I had an ex tell me to "act my age" at the grocery store, needless to say I broke up with him.
Solitude is my safe place
I've heard that all of my life! I'm glad you didn't let him kill off that part if you...better to be alone, with your heart/ spirit still in tact!❤✌❤
I thought the same thing too.
I am my best company and after walking a terminal cancer journey alone, I realized I am never alone. Cured in July 2021, I am still my best company❤
you rock!
😘
My husband of 35 yrs passed away Nov 2021. He and I were only 54 yrs old. I miss him so much so now I am alone. He was my best friend. But I don't enjoy being around a lot of people. Now that he is gone I prefer the solitude. I am not lonely for people just lonesome for the love of my life.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
So many expect me to have a social network but it has never worked out for me. I am hoping I will not mind solitude as well if I lose my partner who is my sould partner. I am sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you.💔
It’s getting to the point where I read “I have no friends” and my brain automatically does the math and it translates to: “I’m mentally stable and emotionally intelligent and independent and free of social drama.” 👍🏽 there’s millions of us out here.
☺️👍🏻💛
Some of us on the Blick team who are "of a certain age" really connected with this. This channel helps so many artists feel less lonely, and gives artists permission to love what they do, and do what they love. We have so much respect for artists at any stage in the journey, but there's something special about those who stubbornly persevere and sacrifice long enough to make their best work. We're excited for the possibilities ahead, and can't wait to see what The Unexpected Gypsy has in store for 2023!
yes, indeed Blick us creative and sensitives souls do need each other for sure. Happy holidays to you! xxx
Speaking of appreciation, the day I found your channel felt like finding a treasure! The SITUATION hit at some of my lowest wellness levels combined with reluctance to go to health care providers offices! At times confusion and frustration sucked joy out of my creative process’s! There you were dealing with similar issues, other TH-camrs ignored or dismissed what was happening! You struggled and found possibilities that dealt with the bumpy ride! Many days the only bright light was having cup of something warm and visiting you and James! Here is my heartfelt thankfulness and blessings for holiday joy!
Wendy, your vlogs always make me feel like I’m catching up with an old friend❤like a nice hug, a giggle, a heart to heart chat over cozy warm cuppa tea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for being so relatable and singing “been around the world 😂” That took me back😅 I’ve been thinking a lot about how I love my alone time and yet sometimes feel like I might be missing out on a bigger more exciting social life. However, I’m always busy with family and business stuff and creating art for my business that I feel like I haven’t the space in my schedule to run off to meet a friend for coffee. I definitely feel it’s important, but also feel that pacing myself and giving myself space to breathe and think and rest is of great importance as well❤ I wish you and your family and warm and cozy Christmas 🎄 take care!
Amen
❤
True best friends are as rare as diamonds. 💎 💍
Hello, My parents have passed away. My best frient passed away this past Friday. I never married nor had kids. I'm a complete introvert. I have no idea what lies ahead but the loneliness, depression, bad relationships, etc. have sucked the life from my spirit. I turn 50 years old this year and it feels as if life had no meaning. You're absolutely lucky to have a partner! Best to all us survivors!
Try n keep the light in your sights. Things do change n change again. You are on a difficult path but obviously you have been chosen fircit because you are strong. People or 'spirit ' cannot intervene on your chosen path but, as I have found they can lift you a bit when things get too much for us. Listen to the 'whispers' that chance meeting in a shop, the stranger that makes you laugh. It's all your unseen 'helpers' that are cheering you on. Nobody here is entirely happy because it is not our home. It is a journey. Happy travels love from an old English great grandmother x
@@marciahill7016 That sounds quite nice, thank you Marcia.
Better No Friends than false negative Friends ! Many people who are alone are not Antisocial its often the oppsite.
My mom always said if you find one true friend in this life youve done well. It seems that you have a good friend.
It took me 38 years to find mineas of 20 mins tonight we have been together 14 years ago.
Lovely video to find. I'm 59 and also mostly without friends. There are excoworkers but that's about it. This past Thanksgiving, instead of spending a stressful day with bitter angry relatives, I went rock hunting by myself on my favorite beach. It may have been my best Thanksgiving ever!
I know what you mean, this past thanksgiving instead of seeing toxic family members I stayed home reading one of my favorite series of books. Best decision I ever made. My shoulders were light with no stress!
I realize that I'm always been a loner. But you know what, since turning 55 , I had finally learned to love who I truly am.
Im 49 and im still discovering myself.
@@peterpiper5300 I think we are meant to discover and learn about ourselves. I will always be a life long learner.
I was happy alone for a long time, but I need to actively seek out interactions with people now (going towards 50). I have no partner and no parents anymore, no job right now, and live in a foreign country, I think all those contribute a lot to how I feel. I don't know anymore what/who I am and where I should go.
that sounds hell/ purgatory, sorry to read this
I love being alone. I'll go to the cabin for weeks on end just to be alone. The older I get the less I want to take part in society. America has really changed and it's heartbreaking to watch it decline.
Being alone is different when it's a choice, I always need some of that, but sometimes the choice to NOT be alone isn't available, it can get lonely if your inner spirit is weak from the normal challenges of life.
I’m 55 and truly alone, no man, no kids, estranged from my parents and brother. I think people in couples get insular in their couple and it’s a big reason a lot of people don’t have any friends and that friendship has broken down in society in general. At least you have a partner, it’s a whole other level when you’re truly alone, not the same situation. I have literally no one to call on if there’s an emergency or other problem.
Exactly what i was thinking... At least she has her husband... That means you always have someone to talk to. Big difference.
I'm in your age group and in a somewhat similar situation. I'm curious if you're enjoying your solitude, or if you long for a friend but just can't find one that works. I've come to think that friendship is more about convenience and methods of communication--it's all about if you like texting or phoning or meeting in person for tea or meeting in a gym or on a certain walking trail or at a group meeting. It's more about that than "clicking". Maybe I'm wrong. I'm curious what you think...
but i hear you about couples--most halves of a couple are pretty satisfied..
True, I agree that couples can do that and know I am v blessed to have James. Life before we were together was v different so I know how you feel. I am estranged from half my siblings too so can empathise greatly.
Yes, this is a good point, and I think it’s important to click and just feel good in someone’s energy. You know, so we don’t feel drained afterwards…. It’s hard to find that kind of compatible company in my experience and I have always longed for it. Hope that helps. 🌷🌷🌺
I love not having friends. Too much drama.
Me too
I somehow? stumbled on your video. I am a lady 58 living in the USA and I have no friends and don't socialize at all. I am also a artist, it gives me so much joy and so much fun, my home is a place of refuge and a place to enjoy the things I love. Many people don't understand introverts and think we are weird, even my ex husband, he's my ex for another reason. Anyway, I understand everything you are saying, I already knew there was people like me, I am not weird, I'm just different...and that's ok. Also, no social media at all. I'll watch it but I don't do anything on it. No facebook, none of it.
You're a wise lady
@@judycrisenbery2982 Thank you!!!
@@citygirlingraham you're welcome
I have no friends too, i' m 53 and i' m very very happyyyyy!!!👍
People are disappointing
I recommend a dog
dogs are the greatest friend you will ever have
Your never ever lonely with a dog
They love you with all your flaws
They feel your emotions
They heal you
Xxxxxxxxx ❤❤😊
I honestly thought I had friends.... until I went through a heartbreaking crisis several years ago and friends couldn't be found. So I picked myself up, dusted myself off, and took care of ME. Recently, I faced months of chemo and surgery and radiation... and naturally those so-called friends beat down my door offering help... NOT. So, again I took care of ME. And those loser friends? They're in my rearview mirror.
A few of the comments have brought this point up: you might want to change the title of this video. You have a partner therefore you are not alone. Alone is not having anyone to be there in the flesh on a consistent basis. Whether it’s a friend, partner, children, sibling etc.
So that being said as sweet as your video is remember that a lot of the people that will check out your video are here because THEY are completely alone.
❤
I’m in my 60’s with no friends and 1 adult child (estranged)
It taught me to love my own company
I really enjoyed this video, thank you!
❤
Thank you! 💛. I am 54 year old Andrea from Buenos Aires, Argentina. From Scottish ancestry.
I think the end of the year is an internal feeling.
I am a loner myself. Married for 26 years. 2 beautiful grown-up daughters. School secondary teacher. Retired now.
I have felt unfit many times.
I've got extended family and a couple of friends. Yet, I feel distant in terms of interests, view of life, and the lot. Of course we can share "mates" together and have a good time, all the same. I dont follow the norm, just because.
Einstein's quite, great!
Greetings and ❤️ to you all! From 🇦🇷😉💖
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I'm 61 and I don't have friends either. My sister was my best friend and she passed away a few months ago. I do love my alone time, I always have, even as a child. But I sure do miss my sister!
Aw i am sorry about your sister. My heart goes out to you
I had the same best friend from age 12. A decade ago, I booted her, my boyfriend, and all other friends, except for two. I speak only to those two friends and not often. I'm now 50.
I rarely leave the house, and I've never been happier. I went from being very outgoing, lots of friends, never home or sitting still "type", and always depressed, to the exact opposite. Today, I'd rather work in my garden, than do anything that involves people. And not a single day of depression in at least eight years.
Too many people aren't worth a ****, so we're not missing out on anything. Being alone will not ever mean being lonely.
PS. I'm also left handed.
Oh my, you sound like me. My husband is my best friend and my daughters. My mom was too but she is now not on this earth. I feel blessed. And I am just a few years older than you xo
I feel insulted by how I’m treated anymore. A young woman-26 year old, mentioned that people over 50 should be put down (die) bc they have lived their life and need to make room for the rest of us. I was really shocked 😮. I’m 52 this year. And yes, I live alone, and have lived this way for sometime. It’s hard to make any friends at my age; everyone seems to have their lives well put together and no room for anyone else
Don’t listen to haters. Being in your 50s is a very good thing, the life knowledge u accumulate is invaluable
There is something wrong with this younger generation
Wow I am 26 and I am really shocked an feel ashamed for someone my age saying that.. how arrogant..Life shouldn't be over yet. Please enjoy your life, make memories - live hard.
Same selfish young people that say 'old people shouldn't vote'
Scrub a layer off in a sea salt bath. That toxic girl, did she watch 'Solyvent Green', an old sci-fi movie? Aged-out people are put to sleep, then turned into food. So, in response to herrr, '' Eat Me", is very generous.
I love to paint and I often questioned why I was never surrounded by a lot of women. But find it a blessing as I got into my late 50's. The longer you spend alone, you become your own best friend, not in need of validation or people to feel sorry for you. It's peaceful and there is no gossip or back stabbing, Better off I say!
They say don’t be concerned if you have no friends only be concerned if you have bad friends .
Got no friends either except my dog. I don't feel lonely, don't miss people.
I’ve always been a loner, I prefer no friends…..less complicated, no drama…..I like it.
I talk to others at work etc…..but I’ll never become more than acquaintances.
I’m VERY HAPPY
Same here. Extraverts don't understand this, but that's not our problem, right? ;)
Same. Love it
No friends = no drama 😌
I'm in my twenties. I don't have friends, and I've never been happier. I'm a total introvert, and when I used to have friends, I was so stressed, overwhelmed, and uncomfortable. I have my partner, the love of my life, but he is a truck driver, so he isn't home often. I don't mind that, though. Our time together is precious to me, but time spent in my own company is also remarkable.
I also don't have friends and am even choosy what family I allow into my life. I prefer my own company and have my hobbies and pets or just lose myself in a book or music. For the first time (im 68) I am contented and have peace, maybe alone but never lonely. Most of my life have been unwell from stress but then I realised it was never my stress it's what others were dumping on me Peace at last and good health as well💕
I would like to be your friend hi Linda 👍🙏
Exactly.. for most of my life I've been trying to 'fit in" with what society deems normal... I ended up drinking most of the time to endure being around ppl.and having the anxiety, due to it.. now at 48.. I literally stopped doing that .. I go to work ( a job where I work alone,, thank goodness) and on my days off spend my time alone with my cats or see my mother or my daughter.. I don't socialize on any level other than that, and I no longer drink . Once I stopped trying to be so called "normal "and stopped fighting who I really was, I noticed I finally felt content.. no more pressure.. I'm a hermit and happy about it
@@user-cd6xp5lk4c I know where you are coming from it's like I had to put on a mask to go into a work place and a big sigh of relief when I could just be me at home. I loved lockdown was fantastic could go about my business with much less people around 🤣🤣
So, so true!!
@@lindakirk3739 absolutely!
I'm disabled and bedbound and in the last 4 years I've realized that it is an able-bodied world full of ableism. I have no friends and I spend all my time being creative with writing and art making and I really love being alone. I also have my own TH-cam channel which keeps me busy. I think society teaches us its wrong to be alone and bad to be lonely, but we wouldn't appreciate the together time if we didn't have the alone time. Thanks for this video!
My mother is recently bed-bound and I know she’s severely depressed from it. but she’s recently started doing crafty journal pages, and for two hours a day she doesn’t think about the pain. Anyway, subscribed, and I wish you all the happiness
@@GraceCreatesLivingSpace all the best to your mom
I'm 67. People think I'm out going, etc. I have no close friends and am fine with that. I'm alone but not lonely.
Ditto🙂
As an autistic adult, I have very few friends. I see people having these big dinners and parties and while I find it interesting to live like that, I can't imagine the effort required to do it myself.
I am the same but my family never had me diagnosed, probably out of shame... but whatever. x
Can we just clarify - there’s people who are okay being alone but there’s people who are tortured because they CANNOT connect to others. Very different.
I'm 61, and I have always kept my inner circle pretty small. My husband passed in 2019. I have two kids (adults now) and a wonderful dog. I am focused on my art, and I do better art work in the quiet. I have fewer people around me due to illness and death. Ultimately, I try to bloom where I'm planted, I don't have the energy to develop new relationships. Good blessings to everyone everywhere now and always!
How great that you have a loving dog, mine puts her chin on my knee if I cry, they are the sweetest.
Thank you so much for this video Wendy. I'm also in my 50's with no human friends. My only friends are trees, they never judge you for being a bit weird. Apprecicate your videos, they have meant a lot, they are therapy. Wish you and James all the best ❤
blessings to you and your trees xxxxxxxxxxx
And you never think of God?
@@lizziesangi1602 The trees and all of Nature is God ☺️God isn’t separate from Nature and that is why there’s true healing and peace when walking amongst the trees, along the rivers and through the meadows of Nature. God is never separate from us as well…we are God…we are the children of God…lil sparkles of light ✨💖 Many blessings to you 🙏
My only friends are my online Telegram channel tribe.i dont miss humans. Most are despicable.I prefer the company of pets and nature ❤️🇦🇺🙏
Same here and I find such comfort being with the trees. They are my true earth family 💗
I always embrace the trees as my friends. In childhood I had a very special relationship with the trees in the woods. They provided a safe place for me and often they sheltered me from the elements. I would listen to the voices of the trees in the wind and when it was silent I felt the trees give me peace and comfort away from a very harsh environment of physical, mental and emotional brutality that I endured for most of my childhood and adolescence. I didn't realize that I was a loner. I just knew how much love and peace the forest gave me and still today at 62 I long to be alone and with the trees where I find myself at peace. I am a tree hugger and nature lover. Plant a tree...plant it for the earth to provide the healing elements and purify the air we breathe.
Being alone has freed me. People drain me. So much talking. I'm, however, on a spiritual journey, so maybe that plays a role in my being alone. I've been a giver all my life. I have to be alone now so I learn how to give to myself.
@Kim1316 I 100% understand your comment!! That's exactly how I feel as well!
@@JustDiane71 I am a giver too. It would be so lovely for someone else to give back to me too, but I only have myself and my dog, so I suppose I must be like your jkim1316 and learn how to give to myself, and I am trying now at 66 years young - better late than never I suppose?! xxx
I, too, am a giver, but after becoming a widow last year, I have slowly learned how to move on in life and enjoy the new freedom I have. I have begun to embrace art ( a passion that I have always felt) without ridicule or condensending comments. Most of my family members do not understand my desire to create & the excitement it brings to my heart!!
I'm glad I found this video. I'm turning 44 next month, no kids, never been married and have no friends either. I've learned to be content being alone and to focus on self improvement both physically and mentally. I've stopped using social media sites and dating sites and started focusing on dieting and exercise for a year now. Due to losing weight and getting back in shape, it has really helped me feel a lot better and happier. Fitness has brought me to that special place where I feel even more independent and don't have the need to have anyone in my life like friends or a spouse. Anyways, just wanted to share and hope it might help someone else.
Good for you! Love your attitude.
Honestly, relationships, spouses are very overrated. Remember just over half of marriages end in divorce and if you think you're lonely, it's a million times more painful when you go through divorce. You've got to find yourself all over again.
Or when you get trapped in a bad relationship, which is far easier to do than people think, you feel that sense of alone-but-not feeling and it's the WORST.
At least she has a loving partner. Lots of women have partners who don't share their interests. I see it around me all the time. But they stay because it's comfortable and they'd rather not face being alone.
I've always felt that people who can't be alone are just sad. The way they cling to a person or spouse is just... Yikes.
Most friends will bail if things get tough. Chronic illness will definitely reveal who true friends are. Otherwise they disappear.
Not sure if it's worth it.
Keep going on your personal health. It's everything.
@@edeneverly2573 Thanks for letting me know and be even more aware of how marriage and divorce can be like. I like how you got more into detail about divorce. But yes, people are too co dependent on other people nowadays because they're afraid of being alone. It's not a healthy way to live. Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I will definitely continue with my diet and fitness goals as we enter the new year. I love exercise. May you and everyone else reading this to have a lovely and happy 2023. 🙏🎉🎊🎈🥂
I do not believe however that we are meant to be completely alone
Well done on your fitness regime. So 👍 good.
Me too i cane offsicial media 7 years ago its just fake. Not real there's no real loyalty.
My mantra "Alone in a crowd". I'm 61 and find people very tiring and sometimes exasperating. I prefer solitude and activities that I can do alone. The world and it's inhabitants have become chaotic. I prefer peace and quiet
Love your name, Irene. I can relate. People exhaust me, but I force myself to get out there. I will always be the same person that I am today if I don't read new books or meet new people. Comfort is being the same. Which I push myself not to be too comfortable. Yes, the world can be chaotic.
my mom says theres something wrong with me bc I have no friends. I tell her. I dont need friends. I have peace
Thank you for sharing. I am 48 and until a few weeks ago my company was 2 rescue dogs. My protector pup Pokie was killed by a police officers car. Leaving me and Stormy heartbroken at Christmas. Until this happened I was content and even joyful alone. Now I am faced with a great reality that I don't trust others enough to allow intimacy of any kind. I miss my parents greatly! I wish I could find a piece of my old extrovert self. I am so grateful I have seen this! Maybe I do still have a tribe.
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I'm the same way. I'm a loner by nature, and the older I get, the more I don't mind being alone. My TH-cam channel is one way to connect with the outside world, because I don't feel comfortable in large crowds. It's so comforting to find someone like you who seems to understand me. God bless.
I hide away for months! I wanted to do this most of my,life but the rules of society would not allow it. Now I am alone, no family,or friends. I’m finally free from from the pressure to be “normal”. I might get in my car and go on a road trip. Just travel alone, sleeping in my car and preparing my own food. No eating from a fast food place. Love your video!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,936 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Bravo…that takes time and talent.
@@artsy897 Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my TH-cam channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a TH-camr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this TH-cam thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
I am privileged enough to share my life with a dog, Mook. She is a West Highland terrier and an excellent judge of character, she is also my best friend
I’m in my 60s and while my husband is my friend, I don’t have any others ( just acquaintances, who I barely spend any time with!) and I love it! Our society tells you that you will wither and become depressed without other people, but for me, I have found it reversed…when I had a load of friends, I always felt so anxious and drained…I believe my true nature is more hermit like, and it wasn’t until I embraced this part of myself that I really found inner peace and haven’t looked back! While I don’t recommend this lifestyle for everyone ( of course not😄) I do feel getting to know how I best function has really helped me😊❤ oh and… thank you for another year of wonderful content… you are a special being and I appreciate you sharing your life!❄️❣️👏🏽✨
I like the way you put that and I agree so strongly that many of us are healthier mentally when we limit our social lives - I do lots of art work, work with people in an intense way and really need my peace and quiet time!
I resonate with your comment. I realized this around the time i turned 30. I feel most at peace just walking around in nature alone. It’s so soothing.
Jesus is the answer
Same. I have my hubby but other then that it's just me💙
For someone in her 70s she has a lot of energy.
It’s not spending time alone that’s hard ..I enjoy that…it’s about having literally no one during the hard times…literally no one to come and pick you up from the hospital or visit you while your there…no one to spend a holiday with…no one to talk to when you’re 16 year old dog goes to Heaven 💔
The loneliest I've ever been was in a crowded room. And thank goodness for that, otherwise I would never have met myself. I spent so much of my life worrying about where I fit in and who I was supposed to be that it left me with so little time to just be who I am.
Im discovering that now. Meeting myself
I have 3 dogs.I'M happy.
I became single and decided to go to the cinema alone.. when I entered the theater it was empty and so I sat down at almost the back row right invthe middle and thought wow cool I'm going to have the whole theater to myself.. but eventually a couple came in and sat next to me then another couple came and sat on the otherside of me.. and I thought.. ahhh the universe does not want me to be alone.. and the five of us laughed our way through the movie together.....
I love being alone. Eating alone, moving about alone. I love it. I have very little need for friends.
Moi aussi j v souvent seule manger la PAIX. SA ME FAIT SUPER BIEN D ÊTRE SEULE
I feel this way about romantic relationships. Our culture is extremely centered around that, even more for women. It's so common to hear my girl friends or just acquaintances worrying about not having a partner or just going from one relationship to another (do they wait to leave their horrible relationships until they have another one available?). At 30 I've just come to accept that I not only don't care about being in a romantic relationship, but also that I don't want to at the moment, as I have a lot about myself I need to figure out first. I think adding a relationship to that would only bring more trouble for me but for the other person, too.
@@minteabee oof I identify so much with everything you said! I also dated very little - had only one boyfriend when I was 19 and dated another guy for some time before the pandemic. That last experience was pretty bad, and made me realize that I want to learn to be better with myself so that I can find someone that is good with me, too.
@sofiipote7 MY experience with men has been that they flirt with other women & they treat/treated them better than they did me. I'm not perfect, but I dont deserve that kind of treatment. There have been times that I've wished that I would have never dated & gotten married. It would have saved myself alot of heartache
I must be a true introvert bc spending most my time alone rejuvenates my spirit. I have a farm and animals and nature make me smile and laugh..
The official introvert slogan is available on a t-shirt: Introverts unite, separately in your own homes. 😂
I have no friends nor family. Six years without acquaintances or family to inquire to your well-being is I must admit rather terrifying when you contemplate on it. So I try not to think on those things.
How are you doing today? Happy New Year.
Volunteer in an area of interest, let people get to know you.
Thank you for the suggestions 🤗I have always found reaching out to socialize difficult as I'm an introvert and makes it physically and mentally draining
I'm alone at 30, no one to visit me on the weekends even. No significant other. I just exist on my own. Other people drain me a ton and I rarely ever find anyone who I can share space with that won't objectify me, try to steal my energy in some way, or has an ulterior motive. Being an INFJ, I look for real genuine connections and I don't find them nearly as often as I wish. It makes me sad, really.
I can honestly say that I have never been lonely or felt lonely, yet I spend a great deal of time alone, I prefer it that way. I do have valued friends; my husband, my daughter, a few childhood freinds that I’ve reconnected with the past few years, and probably 3 friends I consider my besties. I also have always had a dog which is wonderful. It does take nurturing friendships, something I don’t think a lot of people are willing to do these days. I am 63, an INFP-A. I dread the day when I loose anyone close to me, my one friend was seriously I’ll recently and it has me very concerned and I worry about her 😢
I’m 30 with no friends also. I haven’t had one since I was 15. I do enjoy being alone but sometimes long for some connection.
I think if I got it I’d wish I was on my own again 😂
I stopped trying to include others in my interests or engage anyone, against all therapeutic advice , I stopped making bids for connection, im weird, socially incorrect and tired of trying to pretend otherwise, im leaning into it instead, i bought a black sheep t shirt, one that says nerd, and weirdo 😊, and its ok, its walking in truth all the time, no more masking. im more accepting more evolving and transforming than changing or adapting myself to fit anywhere, radical self acceptance has brought me the peace, love, and the infinite space to be creative that i have always needed. So thank you for being here, to support me , my quirky english artsy internet friend that i didnt know i needed🎉
I’m in my late 60s with no friends and contact with only one family member. Peace at last!
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like you said. peace its a way to have peace.
My God I'm 62 and no matter what no friends. I give up. God knows I've tried.
I am 49 and terribly lonely, never had kids, many failed relationships. I wish i did not spend so much of my life trying to be in them and focus on my career and hobbies. I feel lost at this age. To all you younger people stay on your calling to life, do not get side tracked by others or you will end up a shell of a person like me. It is no way to live. I hope I can discover myself this late in life and be happy alone. I wish you all the best.
I hope you can discover yourself too. It's hard to keep putting yourself out there when so many times people have been unworthy of it. I hope things get better for you.
I’m 52 and I have zero friends..I don’t have any family and I work from home so no coworkers either..I do get bored sometimes but I try to stay busy with hobbies and I got a puppy
Awwwe bless you x
🍀 Puppy will not only make you happy but you also get to meet lots of other people/dogs ( what kind of dog?)
I'm 56,disabled and in the same position
Sometimes a puppy is all you need!
I adopted a horrifically abused mini Pit Bull from the shelter. She’s 6 and I’ve had her four years. She’s all I have and I think my heart might break when she goes. It’s impossible where I live to make friends especially after I turned 60. I mostly feel I’m waiting to die. I try and tell myself that you don’t know day to day what will happen. Maybe something wonderful. Sending love to all the lonely people out there.
Thank you Wendy! I am so happy I found you after I lost my husband to Covid. I can’t believe I am beginning my third year without him. This time of year is hard because I lost him December 14th the day before our anniversary. I am learning to embrace my loneliness and be my own best friend. ❤
Wow, it's very surreal how time flies Monica, xxx and I send the softest hugs for your December, being our own best friends is such a gift but I also appreciate that navigating loss requries lots of softness. Big loves xxxx
Hugs ❤❤❤
Thinking of you this Christmas 🎄🙏✨💚💎✨💫🎄
you are in my heart, your partner would want you to be happy this time of year! cheers to you!
Love light and blessings to you 🙏
When I was really young I actually loved being alone. Then society said it was not good so being as it portrayed being alone as painful. So I was really pushed to be social and when I was not social I thought of loneliness. The older I get the more relief I felt as I can I can choose more about the company I keep. I realised I don’t have to be surrounded by people to feel joy.
I craved alone time as a kid . I would stay at my Nanas to get it . I always had enough friends but needed alone time . That hasn’t changed 😊
Same 😊
I think the people who are comfortable being alone are the often the more sensitive and more spiritual of our species. The old souls so to speak.😊
It's fine, most ppl will let you down anyhow
Let that be the constant, and strive to do better
Yes they do
Pick better people
I agree.....my new motto is ..." If you never expect anything from anyone, you will never be disappointed!"
I am an introvert pretty much anyway.☺️
Well friends come and go , some die and some end up despising you , but the real key to life is what you learned from them to see what you have learned about yourself
True that’s the real key 🌟🌟🌟
Isn’t it weird. Billions of people on this earth and we don’t have any friends. Oh well I guess it’s me. Alone for to many years to even remember. Happy New Year!
It’s totally bonkers yes! Happy new year to you too! 😚😚🫖🫖🧚🧚
I'm just the same. I never felt the need for friends after high school. Maybe a couple of co-workers that I would go out to lunch with or do play dates with our kids, but no close confidante. My daughter says I'm depressed because I don't want to do friend/group activities, and she worries about me. But I'm perfectly content with my animals, books, and movies. I'm an INFJ personality type with strong empathic skills, and I'm also on the autism spectrum. So normal socialization and being around others exhaust me because I get overloaded with the emotions I soak up. But yeah, now that I'm in my 50s, my cat is my best friend, super smart and intuitive. She's a Maine Coon cat and they love to have conversations with their person. I really feel like I'm not living alone, and I have to remind myself that it's not my daughter or my mom living with me and who I'm talking with about things, it's my cat 'Tildy'. But, yeah. I'm in my 50s and am cherishing my "alone time."" And yes, I do give myself permission to stay home, read or watch films, or just snuggle in bed with Tildy. My favorite place to be at home is also bed.
hello, what does INFJ personality type mean ?
People exhaust me too. I’ve always been in fight or flight from five years old. Now 65, retired and live with three cats in a house in Southern California. Have a few sisters I’m comfy with. Life is great.
@Andymoto It stands for a person's core personality traits. So, I'm introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. There are a whole list of them. If you are interested in knowing what your traits are, take the Meyers-Briggs personality test online. It's really helpful and interesting. I finally have answers now about why I am the way I am. I don't feel like an anomaly or so weird anymore.
@Andymoto, no idea why people need BS like the Myers-Briggs type indicator…it is complete pseudoscientific hogwash.
You can check the info about it on Wikipedia
@spectatrix This person only asked what it was. They didn't say they believed it to be a valid determination of someone's identity. Why do you have to be so negative and dismissive of someone else's beliefs? I found the Meyers-Briggs test helpful in understanding parts of my psyche and emotional makeup that I had never understood before, and because I'm on the autism spectrum, it helped to clarify certain "grey areas" of my personslity which I had never understood before.The Meyer's-Briggs personality test is an accepted psychiatric tool used to determine a person's core personality traits. It sounds like you are dismissive of the psychiatric field in general and believe it all to be "hogwash." Be respectful of other's opinions.
I'm 51, and just making peace with the idea that once my Father passes away, the last person on earth that truly loves me will be gone. I have no true friends either. I've kind of lost interest in participating in the things that will prolong my stay here too much longer after he's gone...i.e. eating and what not. I keep my weight in the double digits now because at least I know if I'm as lonely and empty as I expect I will be, it won't take forever ( WITHOUT putting hands on myself) to tap out naturally. Wow....that's actually the first time I've put that into words!
Sending you love Jody ❤
I’ll say a prayer for you, I do understand loneliness. God bless you!
@@DarthDickhed Sending it to you as well! ❤✌
@@judedeprey6831 Thank you, Jude! ❤🙏❤
@@jodyariewitz7349 It’s kind of interesting that I just saw this, my husband and I were just praying for you! You are so welcome! I can’t leave the house Because of the disability that I’ve had for many years. I am really happy if I get to pray for someone. God bless you again!
I really appreciate this video because this is such a common occurrence, that people look around to identify real friends, but find that they aren’t real friends. They are mostly acquaintances. Being happy with that revelation is also a challenge because the social media has made loneliness seem like some sort of dreadful disease instead of the stark reality of many, many people. I appreciate your brave stance to be able to openly admit this.
I’ve been a loner all my life, mostly because I feel like an alien; I’ve had friends here and there but when I met my so-called ‘soulmate’ and then lost her 7 years later, I hit rock bottom. The feeling of utter loneliness was so so dark, I still have nightmares about it. I’m ok now but I miss my ex very much, she was my best friend, she were truly 2 pieces of a puzzle. I don’t have the energy or courage to seek relationships but thankfully I’ve realized the company of animals is simply the best ❤
It sounds like you might still like to share your life with a like soul and Yr animals. Never say never. There are others out there who hv social anxiety or feeling of being an alien.
This could be me. I've always felt on the outside somehow, one or two friends but I'm somewhat socially awkward, until I met the love of my life, my soulmate and best friend 19 years ago, who really 'got' me and I could be my truest self, if that makes sense. But i sadly lost him to cancer 7 years ago. I still feel totally lost and the confidence he gave me has gone. Thank goodness for my beautiful dog, she keeps me going. Bless you from a kindred spirit 🙏
Im also an alien..never felt like i fit in anywhere...but my love for animals keeps me going..really sorry to hear you lost your soul mate..im 52 and still havent found mine..its so hard to meet someone when you dont like people..i hope the new year brings you a happy new chapter to your life..im here if you ever need to chat 🦋
@@tudorrose3443 what would we do without our fur babies many blessings sent to you
I'm Autistic and no friends, was forced to be social...now at 45 happy to isolate...I'm blessed to have 4 children and two grandchildren around me, all Autistic and so much fun...don't need anyone else.
But you are definitely my TH-cam friend and bring me peace, joy, and creative inspiration...thank you🙏 Much love to you💐
You have friends when you're young - when you're old you have acquaintances.
I have learned to be alone. And I’m tired of being alone. I was raised by a EIP. And right now at 52 I need human companionship or I need to travel, I need to do something because I’ve been lonely all my life. I need community from just about anywhere. I need to be around humans. Not sure where to go though, I have no transportation of my own. So I’m saving for a car. That is my goal at the moment..
Me too. I have a car but it’s breaking down and things aren’t looking good. Sometimes I dream of going to a party or even just for a walk, and meeting someone… but that’s too unlikely. I wish I didn’t have this craving for humans. Not too many, just someone to exchange thoughts with, to make sure I’m still alright.
I have just come across your channel on New Year's Eve, alone.
I find the festive season really challenging and like you, when I'm wobbly I stay in bed. As time moves on though I find I have conflicting feelings - I enjoy my own space too much to share it but I feel very lonely. I stay in bed if I'm feeling down but then feel wretched for wasting time. I want to have adventures but can't find the motivation and too overwhelmed to get a trip organised.
Anyway, I really enjoyed your video which kept me company.
Here's to a happy and healthy 2023 🙏
I just discovered her as well while I spend my New Year’s Eve alone. ((Hugs))
I just discovered her as well, early New years morning. I'm in the U.S, and I am alone. My parents are gone, as well as my cats, and while I can be alone, I also used to have more support, and I got out more (aside from work) and prior to Covid. This channel was a nice surprise! I wish you a Happy New Year! 🎉
You aren't alone if you have someone, try not having no one .
I have one friend that I've known for almost 30 years, but I can't say she's a best friend as lovely / kind as she is. I'm alone most of the time, but have nice interactions with people, but I don't think I'll ever get close to anyone again.
What a friend I have in Jesus, He's my sufficiency.
I understand you because my only true friend is Jesus. He's the only faithful friend I have. God bless you, dear one!
@@esilaalise4392 Are you extremely restless to be with Christ, too? More and more I'm turning my back on the world and just seeing Him. We've got to be about our Father's business.
@@bettewall235Amen ❤
I completely relate to this. I lost my husband 12 1/2 years ago. It was totally unexpected as he'd just turned 54. I was the same age at the time. I stopped creating art completely. I couldn't look at our photographs because I would dissolve into tears. Since then "our" friends peeled away one by one, so now I've had to remake new ones. I'm back to creating, albeit with needle and thread rather than paper arts.
Oh my goodness, this post breaks my heart. It makes me wish I could help, maybe be an email pen pal! I've had a few of those and absolutely adore them. What part of the world are you in?
@@katashley1031 thank you Kat, I'm in Tampa Bay
Thank you for your kind reply. I have found the loneliness too much to bear many times, so I guess I drowned in it. But I'm still here. And I'll make myself get better.
Your video just popped up. How lovely you are. Everything you said l can relate to. I'm 72 and have been on my own for the first time in my life. There are ups and downs about it, just like life. I take each day as it comes. Meeting you has made this a good day😊
@eRachaelle Deamato I just turned 73 and I lost my mate of 52 years 2.5 years ago! I do still have family however I don’t see them
Often--plus my two best friends died also! While the loneliness can be daunting--I’m
Trying not to be undone by it!
I wonder why those of us with no friends don't get together and become friends!
No partner, No friends, No family. Perfect.
@Link Link Don't do drugs please. It will only make your situation worse.
@Link Link You have to start with loving yourself.
I remember when I was a kid, I went trough this train of thoughts: "I don't have friends. People think I'm lonely and I should try making some. But why it feels like the least thing I wanted to do? And why I'm feeling so unhappy?" And I felt really bad about it, since people perceived me as "the poor one". But eventually I realized that I wasn't feeling bad because I was lonely, but because the people's perceptions of me hurt me. Since that realization, I've never regretted my time alone.
Now I'm in my thirties, never been to a relationship, I have my wonderful pets, and I totally agree with Tesla that the best ideas are born when you're alone. I feel like when I'm around people, things get so noisy and hectic that I even lose the connection with myself. Feels like I don't even have time to think. But when I'm back being alone, it feels like such an peace of mind, like anything was possible.
Thank you for this video.
A wonderful realisation indeed thanks so much for sharing. I wonder as well whether you are interested in human design which might help support you further. It certainly has me. And just ignore me if you’re not into it✨✨✨
@@theunexpectedgypsy thank you! I've never heard about that, what's human design? Please tell more ☺️
I have no friends either and this video just touched my soul.
I am always alone and it’s difficult and I cry tremendously so this video made me feel less alone 🖤
I can relate. I only had a small amount of friends when I was younger, as I turned older there were fewer real friends. Now 54, I have none I speak to on a regular basis.
I’m married, but almost always alone even if he was here.
@@Saints4life I’m so sorry that you are still alone even in marriage. Well atleast there’s TH-cam so we can share videos like this and have online communities so loners don’t have to feel so alone 🖤
@@Agothygoth very true and so happy I found this channel. It just popped up. I took it as a sign to watch and I’m glad I did.
@@Saints4life yes this video was recommended and the title caught my attention. Glad I took a chance and watched it.
I'm so sorry, Lexi. Do you work from home as well? I know many of us do now. I personally love it but I have my husband and 4 cats so I feel social despite not having left the house for over a year, lol. But I feel for you. Where are you in the world?
I’m 53 and other than my wife I have no friends but I’m happy in my own little world. I have Asperger’s and have never really been able to interact on a social level with others which led me to being bullied when I was a child. Even though I have gotten better at interacting with people socially I still don’t like interacting with more than a couple of people at once and have become happy and content with my own little world.
For so long I felt bad about myself because I did not have any friends. Then one day I stopped blaming myself and feeling bad about not being the person I think I am supposed to be and came to understand that not only am I the product of my circumstances but I also find most people uninteresting or unenjoyable to be around and prefer what is going on inside my head. I think this is because I am a creative person and because of the isolation I grew up in.
By the way, your art is beautiful and I'm glad to hear about another person out there living in aloneness.
Same. Beautifully spoken
While, I’m only 43.. I have teens… a hubby who works just as much as James, I also have no one but my hubby.. no friends. This vlog really touched my heart. 💜
I hear you.
And mine . It's just lovely to see normal lives and your relationship . Most importantly your honest life in your 50s rather than a curated life . Lol at your 'podcast seat'
Me too!!!!
Same here 43 with a man who works all the time and teens , feel very alone at times
Not even the other moms?