I want to encourage anyone in a toxic relationship that when you leave it, your life will definitely improve. You WILL be happier. You will have joy, peace, contentment. I pray for all of you out there to be strong, be courageous, be kind to yourself. God bless. Thank you, Andrew, for an awesome video. You're a blessing and healer for so many people!! Keep on teaching!
Yes. All the blessings come. I had to move states away and start over with nothing. I now have a brand new car, paid in full. New furniture. And new cloths,shoes, jackets, brick brack. I'm alone by choice. After I found out it was all a fake phoney "play" . I put up w all that crap for someone who hates me. I'd rather be lonely. And I can't believe what I did without while giving him everything. I look around now and say, how did I not notice that I only owned a tiny bag of makeup. Now I have a suitcase of makeup!!! I went with so little. Makes me sad that I neglected MYSELF.
I was abused by the hologram of a human being who tried to steal my spirit for 27 years. It has taken me 10 years of intense therapy to heal from his evil sociopathic narcissistic abuse. Keep spreading your message, Andrew! Thank you!
8 years here. I am so sorry for those of you that have a much higher number than 8. I was devastated that my narc had wasted so much of my life. I can't even imagine 25+ years. That is intense
Yes, Andrew. Sitting on the couch, movie on, dinner over, relaxing, snacks, lights dim, and never felt so alone. This scenario included 2 people who are supposed to be in a relationship, one on the couch watching the movie, the other in a recliner ~~ you guessed it ~~ cell phone in hand. Always that phone. Always. Keep spreading your message, Andrew, people need to hear you & watch you. Thank you so very much. 💜💙💯🙏❣️🙏💯💙💜
My experience exactly, him on phone in the recliner, me on the couch feeling like the loneliest person in the world. And I still find it infuriating that he carries on to the public he's happy, yet I know the truth. Since the divorce 1 1/2 yrs, he has had several new supplies, but he is in financial ruin, I know this for fact , he is $36,000 in credit card debt, got refused a debt consolidation loan, and is now drinking on a regular basis and has gotten himself in over his head future faking to a new younger supply that he has it all together. Family believes he is after this new one for her money and I believe it, hope she knows if they marry she will inherit all that debt. Hope she does her homework before it's too late and she will be trapped with a broke ass alcoholic man who treats her like garbage, and guess what, will still be on that phone cheating!!!
I had a perfect partner for them. Exact same habits. They could "connect" ! Sry.. but I always heard that wanting to "connect" crap. Its like you were a bus stop or business deal that always was bad time spent. After a while you realize they need you to absorb their mental trash. Its interesting how they all seem to conspire with the same mentality. Something maybe with an undeveloped empathic center. Something is definitely not normal at all.
Great video. Well my ex narcissist definitely acted different with me at first, he was so sweet and caring, then he turned into a evil man. All he ever did was take everything from me and would get angry when I asked him why he treated me like that. He would like ignore me treat me like I was garbage never hugged me or anything. In front of people he would be so polite and sweet. As soon as we get home he would ignore me or leave and not say anything. It was so horrible I never actually saw the real him. I don't even think he knew who or what he was . But now I'm done with him. Thanks everyone and blessings to all.
Andrew I want to admit, you taught me so much after my narc ex husband discarded me. I learned so much from you. But I found myself back in another narc relationship. My gut instincts told me something was off with this new guy and I didn’t listen. I thought it cannot be I am back with another narc… but its true. He gave me the mask and then I caught him in a lie. All trust gone. He discarded me then and there. Stupid me, I pined for him just as I did my ex husband. He is giving me radio silence now and is punishing ME for catching him in a lie. This man would also say “i dont know” to the simplest things about himself - even his favorite color he could not tell me. Every question was answered with “i dont know,” is this a narc trait? Im assuming it has to do with the mask. But Andrew, I will now trust my super power. I will no longer ignore my gut feeling anymore. If someone seems off it’s because they are!! Just hurts this narc shown me the “love” I craved from my ex. And the discard hurts so much because of it. I have only eaten three “meals” if you want to call it that in a week. I feel better when I watch your videos, my appetite returns even if briefly. So thank you for what you do… you really save lives.
I have such a peaceful life now living alone and not having to fight for boundaries or deal with that psycho or any other narcs anymore. I never miss your videos. Thank you so much, they are so educational.
You're so on point Andrew in all your videos. I have got fibromylgia from the narcissistic abuse. I haven't worked for decades. I have no friends. I don't no how I can heal from this its so deeply ingrained I feel almost institutionalised. You are my saving grace. My neuroemotional therapist who is also an advanced kinesiology specialist has never understood what I've been through. Only people who have encountered this type of abuse can. We are not alone. Thankyou. Namaste.
I developed fibromyalgia too. I have severe scoliosis and my chronic pain became uncontrollable. He always made me feel like I was the only person who would take care of me, and when I got tired of waiting on him to for instance mow the yard, I'd do it myself. Then he'd tell and say I know better than to do that ,that's the things that stress HOM OUT . When he discarded me , he told me he was suffering too much watching my health decline. I wanted to retire but he kept saying one more year just hold on a little longer. He never had a steady paycheck and wanted to milk all the money he could from me. I'm now divorcing him and what's mine is his and what's his is his because he just got a big inheritance which is not marital property. He's never had a pot to piss in. NPF abuse can't be explained it must be experienced. We are starting a local support group where people can go talk to others who knows. Because even though people say they had narcissistic abuse you can tell if they really did or not just by what they say and how they react. It's definitely a mind trip I would not wish on my worst enemy.
He brainwashed me HE was the only one who'd care for me. He even screamed at me one time during a narcissistic break, where are your other kids at? Where are your other kids at to take care of you. What do you mean my other kids? You're not one of my kids. That tells you right there it was a parent-child relationship.
He blamed me for everything and I believed him. My immune system is shot !!! Thank you Andrew, my son and I watch your videos together, growing, learning, healing. 🙏 God bless.
Yes he certainly had on a mask. I saw the mask removed but I was so confused I didn't know what I was seeing. It's so unbelievable I still after 3 years free still shake my head in disbelief!! I always wondered about the phone thing. It was him and the relationship he had with that phone! I'm alone now but with him not around I don't feel lonely at all!
My immune system is shot too!! My 'friend" of 15 years keeps monitoring everything I do and ends up screaming at me because I don't do what SHE wants......NO MORE OF THIS!!!!
Good morning Andrew. I was blamed for everything! He even blamed me for his weight gain! Can you believe that? Down deep inside, I KNEW it wasn't my fault for whatever it was. If it rained when we had plans for the Beach, it was my fault. He was literally angry at me for the rain! Things like that are only an example of all the crazy reasons to blame me. I used to get upset and apologize for stupid things. Well, that all came to an end when I realized i was beginning to lose weight. My gut feeling was screaming at me to RUN! Finally, I discarded him after 5 years of lies and manipulation. I can't stress enough about red flag🚩and your GUT feeling. They NEVER lie. Great video Andrew..(I missed sharing. I was sick for over a week. Much better now. Missed you)
My heart goes out to you Melanie, don’t give up. You’re here on this channel just like me and all the others. We will make it through this, sending warm thoughts to you
Your LIGHT is showin more, the last laugh is YOURS. oh they are comin out , a smile and No is the bomb, we dont have to be pickin out caskets for ourselves, behind them, tellem kiss my GRITS, sendin love and light from San Jose,Ca
Andrew, You nailed my ex-wife's abusive and simply "taking" behaviors. She used me for all the money she could extract over the last 5 years. The sex was great and I was just blind. Then as the economy has slowed this year and available funds were less than I could spare for her "start up business" she just morphed into another version a meaner bitchy version of herself berating and putting me down always. She also withheld sex for a nice little jab to finish me off. Your video's have helped me get some of my confidence back and I filed for divorce. I am breaking the chain for good from this narcissistic villain. I lost 10 pounds and can actually breathe again without the stress of being with her. Thank you brother!
Andrew is spiritually tuned in. I said this to a friend yesterday about my boss. The mask slipped last week and I stood up to her and handed in my resignation. She apologised, offered more money but I'm done. I saw the real her.
This was spot on. I was Financially exploited for years. I fell for all his pity ploys. Eventually I stopped the gravy train… he ended up committing elder abuse against his mother… embezzling hundred of thousands of dollars… he then divorced me… blew up our little family… to pay his family back by making me sell our home. Found out later he had 2nd phone… amongst other suspicious behavior. Of course nobody believes me bc he is such a “ good guy”.
Andrew, Thanks Once Again. Here's a major breakthrough I had some time back. Just about everyone who was abused by a Narc wants to see them get "Karma." But what is much more important, far beyond that, is the desire that God, The Universe, The Source Energy will Restore Us. And more, make us stronger and wiser and more resilient. Renewal, Restoration of the True Self, makes me feel gratitude rather than a desire for revenge. You are doing exactly what I wanted God to do for me with Every Video. Thanks, My Friend.
Spot one as usual Andrew. The abuse after you leave them goes to an level you could never imagine. The abuse they only showed behind closed doors when you were together is now out in the open for all to see and even then some people still believe they were the ones being abused. The thing that is driving him crazier than anything else is my silence. I blocked him 13 months ago and he is trying anything he can to break me but that is NEVER going to happen. The character assassination is evil. All I have to say to all the people who believe the endless lies coming out of his mouth is, "Did you hear me say those things yourself or see anything he is saying with your own eyes? You were not there and can not say 100% that anything you hear is true." The fact of the matter is, everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. They get so caught up in revenge that they forget their own lies and are stupid enough to put them in black and white with NO evidence to back up their BS. Love your work Andrew. Namaste everyone x
Dr. Jacket and Mr. Hyde...kept me on edge constantly. Kept me jumping through HIS hoops. I felt like his audience, his slave, his punching bag. I was so exhausted and my chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia went through the roof. I even became suicidal and instead of trying to help me, and be supportive, he would go into a rage. On and on and on he would blame me for everything. I held down 2 jobs and couldn't even afford medical care when I was with him. I am glad that is over. I am improving each day, even though I am not totally healed yet, I am working on it. Thank you Andrew for ALL your help 🙏
Exactly! I used the jekyll and Hyde analogy only moments ago to this chanel. I too have fibromyalgia. I too am healing everyday. We really are not alone anymore, Andrew is an Angel
I seen it after we had coffee with some of his friends he totally acted so different all coy and innocent in front of them. Then we were alone totally different attitude.
This ability of a covert narcissist to change personality in 1/10th of a second if a friend or relative shows up is sign of acting skills worthy of an academy award.
Yes and when you see their personality change like that it can make you feel sick to the stomach. Narcissist's are a fake through and through, good con-artists.😎
The worst one for me was at a festival. I had bruises on my legs from playing pool drunk with my friend. The narcissist accused me of being unfaithful...how...he was a womaniser. Anyway I wanted to leave, but it was my car that brought us here, He didn't want to loose face in front of his friends, really nice in front of everyone until we left. He turned like jekyll and Hyde and abusive horrendously untilbI dropped him home.
Thank you. I finally got it. I figured out what you meant by , "you are looking at your own reflection and feeling when you are with the narcissist". Those good sweet qualities are me, not the nasty sublingual. I was projecting myself onto a black mirror. And the light shone back. Aaaaaw. Wow❣️ I feel good. I just took back my rnergy by looking at the past play out .
It's been only 3 months since my ex discarded me, he treated other ppl better then he ever treated me. I can't be happier now, it feels so good to do everything I want to do. Remember don't allow others to be mean and cruel to you, you deserve so much better then that. A narcissist will always try to rip your heart up, you life and everything else to keep you locked in a box. You have the power with you to do better then the narcissist, for they are just not well. God bless everyone out there that's ever had the unpleasantness to be with a non true person. Thank ya Andrew for all your videos. 👃😁
WOW! Thank You Andrew. So many secrets. Lord have Mercy. No more regrets. I got out just in time. One of my Sons didn’t make it. He died in 2012 at the age of 29. Terrible story of abuse, manipulation & control over my Sons. My oldest is finally free. The after affects are awful But he is also healing. He told my Sons that if they left him that he would ‘kill himself’. They were grown men! That is Not even a scratch of the abuse. Please keep on telling us how strong we are because we Never got even a crumb from the abuser. I’m getting it.
Of all the content that I have seen on narcissism this channel is the most relatable for me. The Most High bless you this type of wisdom you share, I can only imagine what you had to go through to get here. ✊🏽❤️ Strength and power over yourself, and not to other, people to you.
You are amazing. I am astonished at how accurate you were describing my last marriage. 10 years of a mask and one year unmasked. Everything that you mention was 100% right on.
You said something else in your video that I wanted to comment on: the narcissist means the opposite of what they say. I remember you saying "If the narcissist says up, they mean down. If they say left, they mean right." I learned about a concept called reverse psychology in a college general education class. Towards the end of the relationship, I used reverse psychology on the narcissist to get him to do things I needed to get done if things were very important to me. I'm not a manipulative person. It was a very difficult situation to be in. I just found that this tactic helped at times. For example, I noticed a pattern of him not listening to my advice and doing the exact opposite. So I asked him to do the opposite of what I wanted at times, getting a feeling that he would do the opposite of what I said and do what I really wanted or needed. It worked for a little while until I accidentally told him about reverse psychology. 💕 😊
He came to our house in an absolute rage, accusing me of something I had not done, would not leave, I was afraid and called the police. He toothed I caused it, he went and did the worst smear campaign on us, now we don't see friends or family. Thankyou Andrew for educating me on NPD, at least I now know the cause
Hi Andrew they give you a false sense of security, then once they get what they want the control starts, l believe they have a demon in them, and they never ever believe they did anything wrong, it’s all your fault, love and blessings from Australia
It actually took years for me to see the full mask come off with my ex. It was years of me knowing something was off..but it was mostly him being fully self absorbed at times and not showing empathy when I really needed to feel that from him. I only saw the full mask slip a few months before I ended the relationship. I broke up with him and 5 months later, I decided to go on a Date with someone else. I made the terrible mistake of telling my narc ex that I did go on a date with someone knew. I urge anyone here that's recently broken up with a narcissist, or considering leaving a relationship with a narcissist..do NOT tell them you are moving on. It can become a very bad situation. Quietly leave, quietly heal, and quietly move on with your life and don't show the narcissist any of it.
I cannot thank you enough for the help , the strength and the peace you have brought into my life. The wisdom you have enlightened me with is the most wonderful gift. I see straight through the narcissist now. Stay strong everyone. Know your worth
He was always on his phone. Everywhere he went, so did his phone, even the bathroom. When he walked away for 2 minutes without his phone. He returned to get it. I have been no contact for 1 year. I don't have to worry about him. I caused a serious narcissist injury. I kicked him out. They never apologize and they will spend your money while saving theirs. One day they will lose more than what they gain.
I have to commend you for all these videos Andrew. They help so much to everyone watching, including myself. Today, I feel healed & ready to continue to move forward. I couldn't have done that without your videos. Thank you, now & forever.
When I was in the narcissistic relationship, Andrew, I made the mistake of overly apologizing and explaining myself to her. Don’t ever do that. I did pay for most things too. Her flying monkey told me she had her son and her son’s friend go fill out an application at this fast food place where her neighbor was store manager. Her instructions were to only fill out half of the application. Good thing the store manager call corporate and corporate told her throw the applications away because the narcissist called corporate and tried to get her neighbor fired. Yes the narcissist is very immature and evil. I think my lucky stars I got away from her and got my car back from her.
Grateful to have found you again. Realized that "out of sight, out of mind" truly works. For me it has in part due to focusing on my own inner self. Wish I could help others as you are able, even after you have endured so many years of your own teachings, your voice sends out soulful energy. I wish for you what I wish for myself. We've both moved forward and sharing common goals helps. Good night, sleep well.
Watching your videos answer to my prayers!!! Didn't know what is going on with my husband since 2014 till 2022 dealt with all abuse,emotionaly, physically, verbally pattern after pattern. As a result my health suffer greatly mentally ,emotionally draining, Good to have knowledge about it to understand all the abuse we want through .Determine to teach my kids about it .I left now so happy September 2022.Working on my self and kids. Taking it one day at the time the abuse no one understand how traumatic it is only who went through it understand it.Thanks so much for all the insights !
Sometimes I wonder, how can one hate another so much that they do everything they can to take their love, only to discard them one day. Doesn't make any sense, no matter how I look at it - but maybe some humans are simply inhumane. For me, that's the worst part of it - the feeling of total helplessness in the face of evil. And I was addicted to that evil - the evil that almost consumed me. I'm starting my second month of no-contact. I hope the pain goes away one day.
You're all our therapist. My mom suggested a psychologist, but I get at least temporary emotional help about my ex narcissist gf from viewing your video's. Namaste.
The awful truth is, Andrew, that in this crowded world there are people who are lovers of themselves, lovers of money, treacherous people. In other words crowded with narcissism everywhere. That’s why we need leaders like you to keep on top of them with educating as much as you can......but Andrew we don’t ever want to see you burn yourself out in the quest. Love You and God Bless You 🙏😊🙌
I am definitely in the rise up category thanks to you, Andrew. I'm so over and past the narc and it is the best feeling ever. I feel for those who are just going through the discard and grieving stage. We had to go through it to get to where we are now to build the strength to be the best version of ourselves that the narc can never get back. Stay strong everyone!
Oh, my Andrew this so true word for word. The end really put the cherry on top relating to the financial part. It's 💯 true. I remember going on our first family vacation and I wanted to go to a hotel instead. I asked him and he went bonkers. He wanted to stay at his sons who has a big family, and because he didn't want to spend money, so I wind up paying for the whole thing in cash, for an entire week. I spent my hard earned money, while he had 3 credit cards, and vacation money 🙄. Mind you I was a part-timer, while he was a full-time employee, a Social Worker. The man has 2 Master degree. When I was attending college and working, and also, being a mom he didn't help one bit. Andrew, when I think of it he put me through the wringer. I pray that he pays for every unjustly pain and suffering he put me through. Andrew, by the grace of God, I FINALLY graduated this year with my bachelor's degree. I was supposed to have graduated a long time ago, but I kept taking leave of absence behind his emotional and psychological abuse which I today understand through your videos. Andrew, you have my permission to share some samples of my testimony. He always acted up when I went back to school or when I wanted to get my driver's license. Twice I failed it because he would do things to trigger me, so by the time I took the road test I was unedged. So many stories. As I shared before, I have been married to this man for 32 years. We have two children and they want NOTHING to do with him. February of this year I asked him to leave. I am NOW going to file for divorce, and what I'm so happy about it because they (lawyers) said they don't need his signature. I am READY and it can't happen fast enough. Thank you, Andrew. I'm grateful to you⚘️.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Andrew, have you ever thought about opening up support social site/blog? I mean this is good here, but opening something like that would be great. Where people can give testimonies, share experience, make suggestions and where people can talk to on real time. Think about it. I mean it's much better than I'm describing, but that will be great. TH-cam is good, but that would be greater. You are going to do fantastic. You are AWESOME, Andrew😊. Think about how you can expand and get yourself a good group of people that can give you or show you how. Think about that.
I like the word relationshit because it perfectly describes a relationship with a narcissist. It never was a true reciprocal relationship. Kimberly, thanks for giving me a laugh as we continue to learn about the very serious subject of narcissism. 😊 💯
Yes, you are spot on again down to the alienation and degredation one feels when that breathing host is in the room, yet absent and sooo far removed. Hair loss, insomnia, multiple surgeries, chronic pain are all stress related. It doesn't matter what gender or relationship staus such as friends, family or coworkers because they are found in all areas of our lives and it's so important to keep speaking out and educating others. 👏💯🤟🕊
Andrew please keep these posts up. I thank you for being so brave and giving your experience and wisdom. You are so correct in all that your stating. god bless you ! Thank you fir sharing and caring. 🎉
There’s always someone in our lives to share this education with. It’s helping SO MUCH Andrew. It’s really amazing the damage that was done to so many lives; however, we are now helping to do so much good moving forward. May the darkness continue to be flooded with Light and Truth 🙏
EVERYTHING you describe is spot on accurate. Of course Andrew you know that. A living hell is accurate description. EVERYTHING you say here describes what my life WAS. Abuse of every form, isolation, loneliness sitting inches from him AND the cell phone NEVER left his hand EVER. I rose from the ashes listening to you sometimes several times a day. HEALED, maybe maybe not it is all filed in my archives. I rarely get triggered anymore. YOU helped me save my life. I survived and rose from the ashes a much stronger educated individual. Thank you.
You explained my relationship with my ex in every detail. The emotional, psychological and financial abuse I endured for 8 years was pure torture. His rage fits, lack of accountability, not wanting to have any mature conversations, using me for all my resources including living with me for free while hiding his money saying he had no money etc etc. He told me all the time not to have feelings or thoughts and that's what gets me in trouble. If I brought up anything that hurt me he did he would tell me I was negative and just be happy. The way he treated me was utterly evil and disgusting. I can't believe I tolerated him for as long as I did and all his abuse. He would make sure to always change the goal posts and that no matter what I did it was never enough. Devalue to the fullest extent.Nobody should encounter a person like thi in this world..
Hello, I've stumbled upon your channel and I've just gotten out of a 4 year (on and off too many times to count) relationship that was very hot and cold with my twin flame that was narcissistic. It was my longest relationship and it went pretty much exactly how you're describing it down to a 'T'. I blatantly ignored all the red flags for the sake of the relationship. I'm not a perfect person either obviously and I will admit we both have wronged each other. But despite all of the toxicity, manipulation, gaslighting, etc. I still miss her from time to time... before I remind myself why it'll never work.
I ve always had in the back of my head, that she was lieing to me and cheating. You sense this, its pretty sutil but all the narc behavior sums UP in this sensation, always the sense of the mask
When you become numb inside & you can't remember when was the last time you where happy or even what made you happy. It's time to rethink things...time to leave..... Make yourself happy, love yourself, put your energy back into you, you will grow & become an even more beautiful person ✨️ ❤️ 💗 💖
Well I saw him down to his core, he told me of the empty void he felt he couldn't fill with anything. I thought it was a depression I tried to help and love but, it ended meh, in the end they said they'll never feel deserving of me, that they'll just mistreat me, that they'll grow but they feel they'll never change. His actions show he wants me but is trying to move on, he is seeing someone but told them they don't want commitment... but they want to make the best of it, and they took what I said and that they're trying to be better and they have slip ups, but it is hurtful they would want to be better for someone else in a way, but I feel like... I've seen this man down to his core, in his entirety I have seen absolutely everything. So even if they did some introspection, I don't think they can sustain the change without professional help, they'll implode and fuck their life up even if it's good right now because I've seen it implode before. And if they choose to be entertained and fill something with the person, they'll just be hurt, then they come back to me regardless if they said it's best for me that they're out of my life forever and they never loved me, they've returned after saying something similar before but, maybe this time with a new person, it'll just take longer, and in that time I'll move on for good.
@NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone I do have to ask- why would they feel they'll never be deserving of me and now they try to be better, but they'll just hurt the next person? They said do u want me to treat the next person like shit like I did you? Can change be sustainable on their own or do they absolutely need that professional help?
@NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone I suppose its best to keep the conclusion I have and work on myself so if or when they do come back I'll be strong enough to say no.
Andrew, you are a diamond in the rough no matter if you smile or not ☺️. This is a very serious topic, and you are real, so I know you take it seriously. Do what you do, don't let anyone nit-pick at you. However, you do have an awesome smile. Blessings to you 🙂🌺
Thought I got a response from someone last night that read "🖋️🖋️🖋️🖋️✏️✏️✏️" ....but now that message is gone. Wanted to know what all the pens and pencils meant....I'm guessing write more?
My ex narcissist (June 2022) just moved in with a new lady. She makes/sells candles. Ironically, he would never _allow_ me to wear perfume or burn candles of any kind due to his "allergies". He's pretending again...chameleon. He will love and adore everything she does until the floor drops out from her feet.
I've grown up in the ugly family of origin. My parents have been married over 70 years. My poor mother, still having to endure such phycological abuse, perhaps physical abuse. She turns to the dark side often to appear supportive in the relationship. They don't do technology but the stage performance to the outside world is sickening. In high school, I enjoyed being at school more than having to go home. Thanks, Andrew, for teaching others valuable information.
You mom was my Dad and that's called a passive participant. I remember thinking, "Cecile B. DeMill where's that curtain call" when she laid it on thick, then I married someone who came out of the same mold. The acting skills are pathetic and so over the top. All that fake excess flattering makes you uncomfortable and they are just mean and evil to those closest to them, yet sweet as pie to strangers. 😳👹
Each day is a blessing, especially when you survive situations as this, that’s power! It’s pretty tough having to explain situations of your relationship with ones when you keep this abuse within!! It’s so unbelievable! I’ve personally learned to speak out! Especially now, watching one of my kids go through it, it hurts on another level, it’s certainly been an awakening, not an awakening I never want to feel or see again!! Thank you for all you share, all here, you’re all rockstars! 💫🦋💫
My hair is now falling out. "The body keeps the score" right? I'm in this cycle of euphoria, then withdrawal/silent treatment. I realise how much this is affecting my health in so many ways yet I can't find the courage to let go. Following you for almost 18 months now Andrew. Eternally grateful to you and your videos for keeping me sane. Sending positive vibes to the community 🙏
Andrew you’re always a hundred per cent correct. You verbalise what we all couldn’t figure out because it was nothing of this earth that we knew. You once ran to them then you end up running from them. Freaks
Thank you Andrew for your excellent video about the deep insecurity of a narcissist and how they use tactics to throw you off the scent of this insecurity (a light bulb moment for me)! I can see this insecurity several years post narc relationship because of his constant need for supply which I became aware of with education about narcissism on your channel. On the other hand, the ex was very outgoing, a partygoer, a great host, had great social skills, had a high level job, loved living life and new adventures and I would not suspect deep insecurity in a person like this. I certainly didn't at the time of the relationship. Wishing everyone a relaxing, peaceful evening, night, or day depending on what time zone you're in! Namaste. 💕 🙏 🦋 💯
Yup, the narc, my narc seemed sweet and quiet to the world. But she would isolate me in our bedroom, close the door and let all hell break loose. The kids could hear it and knew what was going on and I thought over time I could help her. On 30 years she discarded us for a new supply, likely because I was calling her out on her inconsistencies. 7 months into the healing journey, it sucked, but feel better than ever to find and be me again. My kids are also happy to see me being me again 💪🏾 Thank u brother, if you ever come to Kaua’i, lmk, you have a friend here✊🏽
Received another envelope with no return address today. Always starts right before the holidays. MISS WANT and NEED you. Never sorry! Absolutely disgusting cowards!
I seen my mothers mask slip for my first time viewing a few months ago. I didn't know she was a "covert Narcissist ". I knew my life has always been bullied by my father & older sibling (golden child). Mother has groomed me since childhood to be her main narcissist supply. She will create a blessing for the purpose to sabotage it & the ways she can achieve my misery changes to suit her image & her own needs. I had her re-explaining why I'm not my brother's equal or any man's equal at this point in my (58) life. The joy expressed by her evil smirk was still in my view, even though she snapped her head around to look out her car door when I looked into her face even though I had been watching her bond with Satan as to why I could never be my siblings equal, 44 years running.
Bingo! I was his Pastor's daughter and he couldn't even treat me right. What is under the mask is pure evil. 👹 He is now with a woman, a recent widow, she has no clue that he sought her out because the mother of his kids got married (she wouldn't marry him) and his daughter's didn't want to come to his house anymore because it's so nasty. He let me read the texts from her! Doesn't bother cleaning or fixing up his house, just move in on someone else, after dating 2 months. Disgusting! That poor woman has no clue she has invited the devil into her home. Thank you so much for another great video, Andrew! Spot on! Have a great day! God bless🙏✨
Your right, the outside people don’t know what goes on behind closed doors when one lives with a narcissist. A narcissist is never satisfied. They will mess with your mind at all times. The narcissist that I once lived with was never happy and he was a nuisance; making my life miserable all the time. A narcissist literally desires their significant other to live in misery, and they desire others to die, so they can get rid of their partner or significant other. And the truth is that if they don’t repent, hell fire🔥 awaits them. I don’t desire it, but it’s in the Bible. Sinners who don’t repent and seek God will not abide with righteous people of God. (Psalm 1). This is a strong statement, but it’s true!
These videos are keeping me somewhat sane/coping. Middle of pregnancy with a narcissist who abused and disrespected me to the maximum level. Complete discard , no contact with me after breaking and stealing property, physical, emotional mental abuse. I let him push the boundaries and it never stopped, he was never satisfied with destroying me.
Oh, my goodness. So many years later & I finally see what was going on. My empathy, loyalty, longing to belong & my trusting nature was used against me. I had no desire to cheat on him. I'm a very simple person in that respect. It has been very difficult to realize that the secret keeping & cheating was a game to him. For the longest time I thought I had failed somehow. Oh, gosh, some of the hateful things that were said to me. To keep me miserable. This nailed so many issues. The squirreling away of money while extracting as much as possible from me. Great video! I hope you are doing ok! All of you!
30 years here. 10 years out now & still improving myself! There's so much peace in this aloneness! I attempted to get out so many times, but the narc consistently took every dime I had and literally no way out! Finally, a blessing came my way and I never looked back! Best day of my life ❤
The feelings that must accompany being who they are... ever thought about that? The emptiness of being some masked caricature of a person without a true identity. What a horrid nightmare... no? I remember once at a dinner this narcissist character who thankfully I was perfectly aware of who and what he was.. confessed (after a few drinks, smiling.. as if he was telling a joke) to "living in hell" everyday.. in a constant state of "terror"/anxiety. He was actually mocking and invalidating his wife who had brought up the subject of dealing with fears, insecurity and anxiety and as a consequence having become obsessed with this radio therapist.. So he, the husband, probably afraid of being unmasked for his complicity in his wife's abuse trauma, found nothing better than to gaslight her in front of everybody.. There was a tense and revealing moment of silence that exposed the obvious, which was that he had made his wife sick.. Anyway, this is the opposite of love folks.. if the narc is not identified and unmasked it can be so damaging for those vulnerable to their poison. As I read the comments I realize how many of us at some level or another have been the subjects of abuse within our own families, spouses, maybe co-workers or our own circle of friends... What an amazing job from Andrew! Wow.. just wow.. Thanks for your time and effort brother.. All The Best.
I can't thank you enough for the insightful explanation and the revelation, Andrew. It's been a mystery for a long time for me as in why they have no concerns for the essential issues of life. Especially when they have the capability, capacity, and the resources. It's such a tragedy of humanity to be in. I am truly grateful for the knowledge and the revelation. Have a wonderful day and God bless you 🙏🏻🎉
Andrew - as always thank you for sharing your knowledge and helping educate us! It is great to see you smile at the end of the video! It gives me hope that my smile will come back also! Sending my gratitude and love! ❣️
instead of you being used in a financial way as in you paying for everything. What do people on here think about the narcissist doing the opposite. Them(the narc) paying for everything, not allowing you to pay for a single thing even when you try . And then them getting annoyed/almost angry when you have a problem with them buying you everything all though it was always appreciated it just came off as abit strong after a while. Like Them having finical control over you. Kind of like a love bomb and power play. I guess its even more intense when the narc knows beforehand you do not have loads of money so easy way to take control and dictate. Probably to get you hooked on them .
I've seen the mask fall with my covert sister in law a few Thanksgivings ago at a family gathering. She walked in and immediately I saw that black narcissisic stare at me. It felt like I had just seen the devil. Thank you Andrew. 💜
There's definitely many secrets. And when you identify them the war is on, there's no need to continue to try to fool you. Once they know you figure them out it's only a intense war from that point forth.🙏🙏
The timing of your videos is amazing. You know for years that there's a mask but you manage and they govern the narc behavior till you slowly become less and less reactive as you begin to separate emotionally. It's then that the mask comes off. Then they try to go back as if nothing happened. Text book stuff. Thank you for your videos.
I want to thank you all! I'm good. The anxiety and the constant stress had me for a loop. I have three grandchildren and would NOT DO anything to myself but it was feeling very real for a bit.
Oh boy are you spot on!! Some day I can share more. My whole life has been full of narcissists!! Keep you confused and doubting yourself. TRY to make you think you're losing your memory. Ah she didn't get me on that one! I was on to her by then!! Waited too long to end it. Fake friendships can be realized pretty early if you're paying attention.
I've been realizing slowly that I have a mother that is a narcicist (sp) . I'm 62, survived abuse from my oldest brother, with her knowing (I believe) , and now discovering that a lot of my life's experiences have been from her manipulation. I'm just now, at my age, evolving into someone who can create a boundary and live my life without her "stuff". (this story is way more complicated, but I had to post something about my relationship with my own mother)
And suddenly when you hear what Andrew is saying, it all begins to click. Before that, I was beside myself. I wanted to love that person through it. It was just impossible, try as I did. It’s soo true….. once you “see” it, you cannot “un-see”it. It took some practice and I was very disoriented, but I managed to escape. I found I did not need to ride that roller coaster anymore. I will now only live from afar. On my terms. Through prayers. I will not be sucked back in. I’ve come too far now, to turn back.
I have a question… I went through all of it with my ex gf. We were together 5 years and boom she did it all to me every single nasty thing one could do! The cheating lies manipulation! Every term that we use. Well I finally cut the cord and have been no contact with her for over 7 months. I’m doing well and I’m getting better recovering. I love all these videos and comment connecting. It makes me so much better about myself when I watch the videos. I saw the other day someone saying be careful not to get too attached or obsessed with these videos ? I’m wondering how some of you feel about that? Right now idc because it’s helping me sooooo much! So I’m going to keep watching and learning and sharing! Let me know what you think? ❤
My 70 yr old narcissistic husband of 38 yrs is a Jeckyl Hyde and a wolf in sheeps clothing! They are evil people I believe! And he fools so many people unfortunately especially ones in our church where he is a deacon of all things. 😢
Dennis Rader was a church deacon while he doubled as a serial killer. Some people noticed he was off track, but when they spoke about it, they got shut down for mentioning it + they were ignored. I completely avoid churches & so called religious people. Churches (in my opinion) or congregating places for some people who have diabolical actions outside of the church. I have been wronged by several people I trusted because they talked about how religious they were. Then I decided to not trust anyone who acted out how religious they were in their presentation. Then I trusted another one who convinced me she was a true Christian. Later she displayed signs of being a controlling diabolical narc. She was hateful & hissing & sneering & contradicting me & acting like I was a trouble maker & a crazy person. Now I am in the TRUST NOBODY category.
My narcissistic wife’s devaluation of me worked so well because she’s a doctor and went to eight years of college so obviously she can’t be the problem in the relationship. She even fooled our doctor who believes her lies about me. She’s a substance abusing alcoholic and yet she is believed over her dedicated Christian husband because she has a post graduate degree. She blows my world up and when I vociferously complain she stands aside and while playing victim points to me and my reaction as the problem!!! Demonic!!!
Thanks for sharing that insight so well Andrew. It's like having a veil lifted from my eyes listening to your revelations. I am able to see what I, and so many others, have been living thru. Thanks for your guiding light out of the dark world of narcissistic abuse.
I've often wondered how many 'layers' a narcissist has. Before i knew she was a narc, trying to understand who she was and why she behaved that way, i saw that she was basically trapped by her mind, .. a prisoner of a delusional sense of self and believing herself to be that self. And i saw the history and the hurt and broken, terrified and deeply insecure child behind this mask and the source of this crazy defensive behaviour, but i saw this, figuratively, as her light ... her longing and desire and wish for love, acceptance, happiness, freedom, peace, ... but trapped by the mind or rather the egoic mess of conditioning and reaction that created this terrified child-monster. - For me this was the first time i really saw the mind or saw what an egoic sense of self, or 'mind made self' is, and it was helpful and healing to me with respect to my own egoic sense of self and my own wounded inner child, and my own mind-made sense of self. -So in seeing i suppose, how deluded a mind and sense of identity can be, .. i became less identified with the mind and ego and cleary felt that this narcissistic self of hers, this 'mask', this pretence, ... that it 'had no being' that is wasn't true, that there was no true authentic being there, ... and that it, consequently, had no power. - So things got into more spiritual territory from there but for me, to see how the mind is not a self was extremely enlightening and freeing for me and also ultimately helped me forgive my narcissistic ex, and my own delusional concepts of self also and yet also how the overall human condition is marred and falls victim to such distressing and delusional, egotistical, self-righteous, defensive and generally crazy mental states and positioning and sense of identity. - I'm not suggesting everything is all roses and spiritual liberation with me ... far from it, but just looking at the personality and the mind .. that's what psychologists do after all, .. and seeing how prone and vulnerable everyone is and really seeing narcissism as a mental disorder .. just seeing it for what it is and putting it more into it's proper context as a mental health issue really helps to forgive and regain some self worth in knowing it wasn't strictly personal or anything you did.
You talked about how the narcissist would be on their phone while sitting next to you watching TV. Well my ex not only did that but was gone EVERY WEEKEND and a lot of evenings doing his hobbies. He would brag about how he was one of the best in the United States at one of his hobbies. And he had a bunch of female groupies that would text him, call him, email him, come to our house and visit him. Plus several of them would send him gifts! When I left him and we were separated but still married I told him how much all of that hurt and upset me, especially all the other women he had contact with, spent time with and got gifts from. He got grouchy with me and told me that I was wrong to feel that way. When I asked him if it was reversed and I had other men texting me, calling me, hanging out with me, and sending me gifts, how would he feel? He told me that he would kick their asses and probably leave me.
🙋👍LOVE YOUR SPIRIT & YOUR GORGEOUS ! 💗YOUR SMILE. IS ENLIGHTENING MY HEART & UPLIFTING MY SPIRIT ,THANK YOU ANDREW ,FROM BEAUTIFUL COSTA RICA 🤗😘🙃😇 💫THANK YOU FOR BEING MY LIGHT !👼
I want to encourage anyone in a toxic relationship that when you leave it, your life will definitely improve. You WILL be happier. You will have joy, peace, contentment. I pray for all of you out there to be strong, be courageous, be kind to yourself. God bless. Thank you, Andrew, for an awesome video. You're a blessing and healer for so many people!! Keep on teaching!
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Yes. All the blessings come. I had to move states away and start over with nothing. I now have a brand new car, paid in full. New furniture. And new cloths,shoes, jackets, brick brack. I'm alone by choice. After I found out it was all a fake phoney "play" . I put up w all that crap for someone who hates me. I'd rather be lonely. And I can't believe what I did without while giving him everything. I look around now and say, how did I not notice that I only owned a tiny bag of makeup. Now I have a suitcase of makeup!!! I went with so little. Makes me sad that I neglected MYSELF.
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@@kimberlywhite7852 Wow, I get it. I say the same thing about myself, how I wasted my youth and almost lost my identity behind this monster.
Thank you😊. I already feel so good inside. I feel at peace.
"The narcissist blows up every relationship they've ever been a part of" -- Andrew. True. Idealize, devalue, discard.
Yes, I got you used to be exciting, now you're boring
I was abused by the hologram of a human being who tried to steal my spirit for 27 years. It has taken me 10 years of intense therapy to heal from his evil sociopathic narcissistic abuse. Keep spreading your message, Andrew! Thank you!
16 years here! Finally out!
Drained and confused -- hard to unspin out of.
I know this is a serious matter but "hologram of a human being" really made me laugh, but it describes a narc brilliantly.
26 years here- almost divorced
8 years here. I am so sorry for those of you that have a much higher number than 8. I was devastated that my narc had wasted so much of my life. I can't even imagine 25+ years. That is intense
Yes, Andrew. Sitting on the couch, movie on, dinner over, relaxing, snacks, lights dim, and never felt so alone. This scenario included 2 people who are supposed to be in a relationship, one on the couch watching the movie, the other in a recliner ~~ you guessed it ~~ cell phone in hand. Always that phone. Always. Keep spreading your message, Andrew, people need to hear you & watch you. Thank you so very much.
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My experience exactly, him on phone in the recliner, me on the couch feeling like the loneliest person in the world. And I still find it infuriating that he carries on to the public he's happy, yet I know the truth. Since the divorce 1 1/2 yrs, he has had several new supplies, but he is in financial ruin, I know this for fact , he is $36,000 in credit card debt, got refused a debt consolidation loan, and is now drinking on a regular basis and has gotten himself in over his head future faking to a new younger supply that he has it all together. Family believes he is after this new one for her money and I believe it, hope she knows if they marry she will inherit all that debt. Hope she does her homework before it's too late and she will be trapped with a broke ass alcoholic man who treats her like garbage, and guess what, will still be on that phone cheating!!!
I had a perfect partner for them. Exact same habits. They could "connect" ! Sry.. but I always heard that wanting to "connect" crap. Its like you were a bus stop or business deal that always was bad time spent. After a while you realize they need you to absorb their mental trash. Its interesting how they all seem to conspire with the same mentality. Something maybe with an undeveloped empathic center. Something is definitely not normal at all.
@@joann5465 so so grateful you are out and able to share your story 🙏
@@bradmcewen absorbing that mental trash is exhausting all by itself.
@@terrirobson9043 Amen!!!
Great video. Well my ex narcissist definitely acted different with me at first, he was so sweet and caring, then he turned into a evil man. All he ever did was take everything from me and would get angry when I asked him why he treated me like that. He would like ignore me treat me like I was garbage never hugged me or anything. In front of people he would be so polite and sweet. As soon as we get home he would ignore me or leave and not say anything. It was so horrible I never actually saw the real him. I don't even think he knew who or what he was . But now I'm done with him. Thanks everyone and blessings to all.
Andrew I want to admit, you taught me so much after my narc ex husband discarded me. I learned so much from you. But I found myself back in another narc relationship. My gut instincts told me something was off with this new guy and I didn’t listen. I thought it cannot be I am back with another narc… but its true. He gave me the mask and then I caught him in a lie. All trust gone. He discarded me then and there. Stupid me, I pined for him just as I did my ex husband. He is giving me radio silence now and is punishing ME for catching him in a lie. This man would also say “i dont know” to the simplest things about himself - even his favorite color he could not tell me. Every question was answered with “i dont know,” is this a narc trait? Im assuming it has to do with the mask. But Andrew, I will now trust my super power. I will no longer ignore my gut feeling anymore. If someone seems off it’s because they are!! Just hurts this narc shown me the “love” I craved from my ex. And the discard hurts so much because of it. I have only eaten three “meals” if you want to call it that in a week. I feel better when I watch your videos, my appetite returns even if briefly. So thank you for what you do… you really save lives.
I have such a peaceful life now living alone and not having to fight for boundaries or deal with that psycho or any other narcs anymore. I never miss your videos. Thank you so much, they are so educational.
You're so on point Andrew in all your videos. I have got fibromylgia from the narcissistic abuse. I haven't worked for decades. I have no friends. I don't no how I can heal from this its so deeply ingrained I feel almost institutionalised. You are my saving grace. My neuroemotional therapist who is also an advanced kinesiology specialist has never understood what I've been through. Only people who have encountered this type of abuse can. We are not alone. Thankyou. Namaste.
Mindfulness, CBT, lots of magnesium, meditation, anti inflammatory diet can really help fibromyalgia. ❤
I developed fibromyalgia too. I have severe scoliosis and my chronic pain became uncontrollable. He always made me feel like I was the only person who would take care of me, and when I got tired of waiting on him to for instance mow the yard, I'd do it myself. Then he'd tell and say I know better than to do that ,that's the things that stress HOM OUT . When he discarded me , he told me he was suffering too much watching my health decline. I wanted to retire but he kept saying one more year just hold on a little longer. He never had a steady paycheck and wanted to milk all the money he could from me. I'm now divorcing him and what's mine is his and what's his is his because he just got a big inheritance which is not marital property. He's never had a pot to piss in. NPF abuse can't be explained it must be experienced. We are starting a local support group where people can go talk to others who knows. Because even though people say they had narcissistic abuse you can tell if they really did or not just by what they say and how they react. It's definitely a mind trip I would not wish on my worst enemy.
He brainwashed me HE was the only one who'd care for me. He even screamed at me one time during a narcissistic break, where are your other kids at? Where are your other kids at to take care of you. What do you mean my other kids? You're not one of my kids. That tells you right there it was a parent-child relationship.
He blamed me for everything and I believed him. My immune system is shot !!! Thank you Andrew, my son and I watch your videos together, growing, learning, healing. 🙏 God bless.
Yes he certainly had on a mask. I saw the mask removed but I was so confused I didn't know what I was seeing. It's so unbelievable I still after 3 years free still shake my head in disbelief!! I always wondered about the phone thing. It was him and the relationship he had with that phone! I'm alone now but with him not around I don't feel lonely at all!
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My immune system is shot too!! My 'friend" of 15 years keeps monitoring everything I do and ends up screaming at me because I don't do what SHE wants......NO MORE OF THIS!!!!
Good morning Andrew. I was blamed for everything! He even blamed me for his weight gain! Can you believe that? Down deep inside, I KNEW it wasn't my fault for whatever it was. If it rained when we had plans for the Beach, it was my fault. He was literally angry at me for the rain! Things like that are only an example of all the crazy reasons to blame me. I used to get upset and apologize for stupid things. Well, that all came to an end when I realized i was beginning to lose weight. My gut feeling was screaming at me to RUN! Finally, I discarded him after 5 years of lies and manipulation. I can't stress enough about red flag🚩and your GUT feeling. They NEVER lie.
Great video Andrew..(I missed sharing. I was sick for over a week. Much better now. Missed you)
I almost felt suicidal last week and you are right Andrew, the consistent abuse is maddening .. ugh
My heart goes out to you Melanie, don’t give up. You’re here on this channel just like me and all the others. We will make it through this, sending warm thoughts to you
Hang in there I know how much it hurts but remember you are a beautiful person who has so much to give to the world, you are in my prayers.
Hang in there, I know how you feel.just remember, they don't care. I care focus on you. Prayers for you.
Your LIGHT is showin more, the last laugh is YOURS. oh they are comin out , a smile and No is the bomb, we dont have to be pickin out caskets for ourselves, behind them, tellem kiss my GRITS, sendin love and light from San Jose,Ca
It's just crazy how they think so differently
Andrew, You nailed my ex-wife's abusive and simply "taking" behaviors. She used me for all the money she could extract over the last 5 years. The sex was great and I was just blind. Then as the economy has slowed this year and available funds were less than I could spare for her "start up business" she just morphed into another version a meaner bitchy version of herself berating and putting me down always. She also withheld sex for a nice little jab to finish me off. Your video's have helped me get some of my confidence back and I filed for divorce. I am breaking the chain for good from this narcissistic villain. I lost 10 pounds and can actually breathe again without the stress of being with her. Thank you brother!
The education you provide is like a life hack. It literally levels up the listener
Andrew is spiritually tuned in. I said this to a friend yesterday about my boss. The mask slipped last week and I stood up to her and handed in my resignation. She apologised, offered more money but I'm done. I saw the real her.
Hi Andrew so true they get nasty and behave like a child.
This was spot on. I was Financially exploited for years. I fell for all his pity ploys. Eventually I stopped the gravy train… he ended up committing elder abuse against his mother… embezzling hundred of thousands of dollars… he then divorced me… blew up our little family… to pay his family back by making me sell our home. Found out later he had 2nd phone… amongst other suspicious behavior. Of course nobody believes me bc he is such a “ good guy”.
Andrew, Thanks Once Again. Here's a major breakthrough I had some time back. Just about everyone who was abused by a Narc wants to see them get "Karma." But what is much more important, far beyond that, is the desire that God, The Universe, The Source Energy will Restore Us. And more, make us stronger and wiser and more resilient. Renewal, Restoration of the True Self, makes me feel gratitude rather than a desire for revenge. You are doing exactly what I wanted God to do for me with Every Video. Thanks, My Friend.
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You couldn’t have said it any better. Everything you have said I have experienced. You are EXACTLY on point. God bless you Andrew. Rosie UK
Spot one as usual Andrew. The abuse after you leave them goes to an level you could never imagine. The abuse they only showed behind closed doors when you were together is now out in the open for all to see and even then some people still believe they were the ones being abused. The thing that is driving him crazier than anything else is my silence. I blocked him 13 months ago and he is trying anything he can to break me but that is NEVER going to happen. The character assassination is evil. All I have to say to all the people who believe the endless lies coming out of his mouth is, "Did you hear me say those things yourself or see anything he is saying with your own eyes? You were not there and can not say 100% that anything you hear is true." The fact of the matter is, everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. They get so caught up in revenge that they forget their own lies and are stupid enough to put them in black and white with NO evidence to back up their BS. Love your work Andrew. Namaste everyone x
Dr. Jacket and Mr. Hyde...kept me on edge constantly. Kept me jumping through HIS hoops. I felt like his audience, his slave, his punching bag. I was so exhausted and my chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia went through the roof. I even became suicidal and instead of trying to help me, and be supportive, he would go into a rage. On and on and on he would blame me for everything. I held down 2 jobs and couldn't even afford medical care when I was with him. I am glad that is over. I am improving each day, even though I am not totally healed yet, I am working on it. Thank you Andrew for ALL your help 🙏
Exactly! I used the jekyll and Hyde analogy only moments ago to this chanel. I too have fibromyalgia. I too am healing everyday. We really are not alone anymore, Andrew is an Angel
I seen it after we had coffee with some of his friends he totally acted so different all coy and innocent in front of them. Then we were alone totally different attitude.
This ability of a covert narcissist to change personality in 1/10th of a second if a friend or relative shows up is sign of acting skills worthy of an academy award.
Yes and when you see their personality change like that it can make you feel sick to the stomach. Narcissist's are a fake through and through, good con-artists.😎
Witnessed the same creepy mirroring behavior,, demonic !
The worst one for me was at a festival. I had bruises on my legs from playing pool drunk with my friend. The narcissist accused me of being unfaithful...how...he was a womaniser. Anyway I wanted to leave, but it was my car that brought us here, He didn't want to loose face in front of his friends, really nice in front of everyone until we left. He turned like jekyll and Hyde and abusive horrendously untilbI dropped him home.
Thank you. I finally got it. I figured out what you meant by , "you are looking at your own reflection and feeling when you are with the narcissist". Those good sweet qualities are me, not the nasty sublingual. I was projecting myself onto a black mirror. And the light shone back. Aaaaaw. Wow❣️ I feel good. I just took back my rnergy by looking at the past play out .
It's been only 3 months since my ex discarded me, he treated other ppl better then he ever treated me. I can't be happier now, it feels so good to do everything I want to do. Remember don't allow others to be mean and cruel to you, you deserve so much better then that. A narcissist will always try to rip your heart up, you life and everything else to keep you locked in a box. You have the power with you to do better then the narcissist, for they are just not well.
God bless everyone out there that's ever had the unpleasantness to be with a non true person. Thank ya Andrew for all your videos. 👃😁
WOW! Thank You Andrew. So many secrets. Lord have Mercy. No more regrets. I got out just in time. One of my Sons didn’t make it. He died in 2012 at the age of 29. Terrible story of abuse, manipulation & control over my Sons. My oldest is finally free. The after affects are awful But he is also healing. He told my Sons that if they left him that he would ‘kill himself’. They were grown men! That is Not even a scratch of the abuse.
Please keep on telling us how strong we are because we Never got even a crumb from the abuser. I’m getting it.
There is a peaceful life waitingfor you, Sweet Cindy! We understand exactly what you have endured. Ask God to intervene. He did for me.💝
Of all the content that I have seen on narcissism this channel is the most relatable for me. The Most High bless you this type of wisdom you share, I can only imagine what you had to go through to get here. ✊🏽❤️ Strength and power over yourself, and not to other, people to you.
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It's the most real because it comes from life experience, not from text books♡
You are amazing. I am astonished at how accurate you were describing my last marriage. 10 years of a mask and one year unmasked. Everything that you mention was 100% right on.
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You said something else in your video that I wanted to comment on: the narcissist means the opposite of what they say. I remember you saying "If the narcissist says up, they mean down. If they say left, they mean right." I learned about a concept called reverse psychology in a college general education class. Towards the end of the relationship, I used reverse psychology on the narcissist to get him to do things I needed to get done if things were very important to me. I'm not a manipulative person. It was a very difficult situation to be in. I just found that this tactic helped at times. For example, I noticed a pattern of him not listening to my advice and doing the exact opposite. So I asked him to do the opposite of what I wanted at times, getting a feeling that he would do the opposite of what I said and do what I really wanted or needed. It worked for a little while until I accidentally told him about reverse psychology. 💕 😊
He came to our house in an absolute rage, accusing me of something I had not done, would not leave, I was afraid and called the police. He toothed I caused it, he went and did the worst smear campaign on us, now we don't see friends or family. Thankyou Andrew for educating me on NPD, at least I now know the cause
Hi Andrew they give you a false sense of security, then once they get what they want the control starts, l believe they have a demon in them, and they never ever believe they did anything wrong, it’s all your fault, love and blessings from Australia
It is a demon controlling them that’s with all narcissistic people like my mother. I get tormented everyday by her ! 🥺
I do believe they have a demon in them, how else can they not be accountable for their demonising behaviour
It actually took years for me to see the full mask come off with my ex. It was years of me knowing something was off..but it was mostly him being fully self absorbed at times and not showing empathy when I really needed to feel that from him.
I only saw the full mask slip a few months before I ended the relationship. I broke up with him and 5 months later, I decided to go on a Date with someone else. I made the terrible mistake of telling my narc ex that I did go on a date with someone knew. I urge anyone here that's recently broken up with a narcissist, or considering leaving a relationship with a narcissist..do NOT tell them you are moving on. It can become a very bad situation. Quietly leave, quietly heal, and quietly move on with your life and don't show the narcissist any of it.
It's really heartbreaking to know other people like you has experience the abuse some even been in it for decade's with no freedom.💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
I like when you say , "rise through the ashes like a Phoenix'. 💗love it!
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I cannot thank you enough for the help , the strength and the peace you have brought into my life. The wisdom you have enlightened me with is the most wonderful gift. I see straight through the narcissist now. Stay strong everyone. Know your worth
He was always on his phone. Everywhere he went, so did his phone, even the bathroom. When he walked away for 2 minutes without his phone. He returned to get it. I have been no contact for 1 year. I don't have to worry about him. I caused a serious narcissist injury. I kicked him out. They never apologize and they will spend your money while saving theirs. One day they will lose more than what they gain.
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I have to commend you for all these videos Andrew. They help so much to everyone watching, including myself. Today, I feel healed & ready to continue to move forward. I couldn't have done that without your videos. Thank you, now & forever.
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When I was in the narcissistic relationship, Andrew, I made the mistake of overly apologizing and explaining myself to her. Don’t ever do that. I did pay for most things too. Her flying monkey told me she had her son and her son’s friend go fill out an application at this fast food place where her neighbor was store manager. Her instructions were to only fill out half of the application. Good thing the store manager call corporate and corporate told her throw the applications away because the narcissist called corporate and tried to get her neighbor fired. Yes the narcissist is very immature and evil. I think my lucky stars I got away from her and got my car back from her.
Grateful to have found you again. Realized that "out of sight, out of mind" truly works. For me it has in part due to focusing on my own inner self. Wish I could help others as you are able, even after you have endured so many years of your own teachings, your voice sends out soulful energy. I wish for you what I wish for myself. We've both moved forward and sharing common goals helps. Good night, sleep well.
Here here!
Watching your videos answer to my prayers!!! Didn't know what is going on with my husband since 2014 till 2022 dealt with all abuse,emotionaly, physically, verbally pattern after pattern. As a result my health suffer greatly mentally ,emotionally draining,
Good to have knowledge about it to understand all the abuse we want through .Determine to teach my kids about it .I left now so happy September 2022.Working on my self and kids. Taking it one day at the time the abuse no one understand how traumatic it is only who went through it understand it.Thanks so much for all the insights !
You got this! I left in September too! We can do this.
Sometimes I wonder, how can one hate another so much that they do everything they can to take their love, only to discard them one day. Doesn't make any sense, no matter how I look at it - but maybe some humans are simply inhumane. For me, that's the worst part of it - the feeling of total helplessness in the face of evil. And I was addicted to that evil - the evil that almost consumed me. I'm starting my second month of no-contact. I hope the pain goes away one day.
It will! One day you will notice you feel much better and more peaceful.
You're all our therapist. My mom suggested a psychologist, but I get at least temporary emotional help about my ex narcissist gf from viewing your video's. Namaste.
The awful truth is, Andrew, that in this crowded world there are people who are lovers of themselves, lovers of money, treacherous people. In other words crowded with narcissism everywhere. That’s why we need leaders like you to keep on top of them with educating as much as you can......but Andrew we don’t ever want to see you burn yourself out in the quest. Love You and God Bless You 🙏😊🙌
Andrew, The Narc Buster! 👺💥💪💪😁
@@jennifernewton4637 🤩Who ya gonna call? The Narc Buster! 👼💥🌈
God bless our friend Andrew!
I am definitely in the rise up category thanks to you, Andrew. I'm so over and past the narc and it is the best feeling ever. I feel for those who are just going through the discard and grieving stage. We had to go through it to get to where we are now to build the strength to be the best version of ourselves that the narc can never get back. Stay strong everyone!
Being TOTALLY over and past the narc is a GREAT feeling!!! 🎉🎉🎉
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Oh, my Andrew this so true word for word. The end really put the cherry on top relating to the financial part. It's 💯 true. I remember going on our first family vacation and I wanted to go to a hotel instead. I asked him and he went bonkers. He wanted to stay at his sons who has a big family, and because he didn't want to spend money, so I wind up paying for the whole thing in cash, for an entire week. I spent my hard earned money, while he had 3 credit cards, and vacation money 🙄. Mind you I was a part-timer, while he was a full-time employee, a Social Worker. The man has 2 Master degree. When I was attending college and working, and also, being a mom he didn't help one bit. Andrew, when I think of it he put me through the wringer. I pray that he pays for every unjustly pain and suffering he put me through. Andrew, by the grace of God, I FINALLY graduated this year with my bachelor's degree. I was supposed to have graduated a long time ago, but I kept taking leave of absence behind his emotional and psychological abuse which I today understand through your videos. Andrew, you have my permission to share some samples of my testimony. He always acted up when I went back to school or when I wanted to get my driver's license. Twice I failed it because he would do things to trigger me, so by the time I took the road test I was unedged. So many stories. As I shared before, I have been married to this man for 32 years. We have two children and they want NOTHING to do with him. February of this year I asked him to leave. I am NOW going to file for divorce, and what I'm so happy about it because they (lawyers) said they don't need his signature. I am READY and it can't happen fast enough. Thank you, Andrew. I'm grateful to you⚘️.
Beautiful message thank you for sharing 🙏💯🙌😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Andrew, have you ever thought about opening up support social site/blog? I mean this is good here, but opening something like that would be great. Where people can give testimonies, share experience, make suggestions and where people can talk to on real time. Think about it. I mean it's much better than I'm describing, but that will be great. TH-cam is good, but that would be greater. You are going to do fantastic. You are AWESOME, Andrew😊. Think about how you can expand and get yourself a good group of people that can give you or show you how. Think about that.
I pray anyone who feel stuck in this dynamic gain the strength to get out and NEVERA look back! Family, friends, relathonshits, whatever!
Fantastic new word!
"Relationshits!" All of us here were in relationshits!😅
I like the word relationshit because it perfectly describes a relationship with a narcissist. It never was a true reciprocal relationship. Kimberly, thanks for giving me a laugh as we continue to learn about the very serious subject of narcissism. 😊 💯
Yes, you are spot on again down to the alienation and degredation one feels when that breathing host is in the room, yet absent and sooo far removed. Hair loss, insomnia, multiple surgeries, chronic pain are all stress related. It doesn't matter what gender or relationship staus such as friends, family or coworkers because they are found in all areas of our lives and it's so important to keep speaking out and educating others. 👏💯🤟🕊
Andrew please keep these posts up. I thank you for being so brave and giving your experience and wisdom. You are so correct in all that your stating. god bless you ! Thank you fir sharing and caring. 🎉
Thank you Andrew for all your fine works."Peace be with you" ☮️✌️🙏
This is a really good video. So very true. You can't unsee what you've seen.
Oh, I love that. The three versions. Awesome, Andrew. THANK YOU for tonight's refresh.
There’s always someone in our lives to share this education with. It’s helping SO MUCH Andrew. It’s really amazing the damage that was done to so many lives; however, we are now helping to do so much good moving forward. May the darkness continue to be flooded with Light and Truth 🙏
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I agree with you 💯 percent! 💕 🙏 🦋
Preach on, Sister Chelsea! 🙌🙌🙌🙏😁
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EVERYTHING you describe is spot on accurate. Of course Andrew you know that. A living hell is accurate description. EVERYTHING you say here describes what my life WAS. Abuse of every form, isolation, loneliness sitting inches from him AND the cell phone NEVER left his hand EVER. I rose from the ashes listening to you sometimes several times a day. HEALED, maybe maybe not it is all filed in my archives. I rarely get triggered anymore. YOU helped me save my life. I survived and rose from the ashes a much stronger educated individual. Thank you.
You explained my relationship with my ex in every detail. The emotional, psychological and financial abuse I endured for 8 years was pure torture. His rage fits, lack of accountability, not wanting to have any mature conversations, using me for all my resources including living with me for free while hiding his money saying he had no money etc etc. He told me all the time not to have feelings or thoughts and that's what gets me in trouble. If I brought up anything that hurt me he did he would tell me I was negative and just be happy. The way he treated me was utterly evil and disgusting. I can't believe I tolerated him for as long as I did and all his abuse. He would make sure to always change the goal posts and that no matter what I did it was never enough. Devalue to the fullest extent.Nobody should encounter a person like thi in this world..
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Hello, I've stumbled upon your channel and I've just gotten out of a 4 year (on and off too many times to count) relationship that was very hot and cold with my twin flame that was narcissistic. It was my longest relationship and it went pretty much exactly how you're describing it down to a 'T'. I blatantly ignored all the red flags for the sake of the relationship. I'm not a perfect person either obviously and I will admit we both have wronged each other. But despite all of the toxicity, manipulation, gaslighting, etc. I still miss her from time to time... before I remind myself why it'll never work.
"they are a bully, by gaslighting you etc.". This is potent. Thank you.
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I ve always had in the back of my head, that she was lieing to me and cheating. You sense this, its pretty sutil but all the narc behavior sums UP in this sensation, always the sense of the mask
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When you become numb inside & you can't remember when was the last time you where happy or even what made you happy. It's time to rethink things...time to leave.....
Make yourself happy, love yourself, put your energy back into you, you will grow & become an even more beautiful person ✨️ ❤️ 💗 💖
Beautiful comment! 💕
Well I saw him down to his core, he told me of the empty void he felt he couldn't fill with anything. I thought it was a depression I tried to help and love but, it ended meh, in the end they said they'll never feel deserving of me, that they'll just mistreat me, that they'll grow but they feel they'll never change. His actions show he wants me but is trying to move on, he is seeing someone but told them they don't want commitment... but they want to make the best of it, and they took what I said and that they're trying to be better and they have slip ups, but it is hurtful they would want to be better for someone else in a way, but I feel like... I've seen this man down to his core, in his entirety I have seen absolutely everything. So even if they did some introspection, I don't think they can sustain the change without professional help, they'll implode and fuck their life up even if it's good right now because I've seen it implode before. And if they choose to be entertained and fill something with the person, they'll just be hurt, then they come back to me regardless if they said it's best for me that they're out of my life forever and they never loved me, they've returned after saying something similar before but, maybe this time with a new person, it'll just take longer, and in that time I'll move on for good.
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@NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone I do have to ask- why would they feel they'll never be deserving of me and now they try to be better, but they'll just hurt the next person? They said do u want me to treat the next person like shit like I did you? Can change be sustainable on their own or do they absolutely need that professional help?
@NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone I suppose its best to keep the conclusion I have and work on myself so if or when they do come back I'll be strong enough to say no.
Thankyou for being so brave Andrew. Much love to you
Andrew, you are a diamond in the rough no matter if you smile or not ☺️. This is a very serious topic, and you are real, so I know you take it seriously. Do what you do, don't let anyone nit-pick at you. However, you do have an awesome smile. Blessings to you 🙂🌺
What does that mean? Lol
A diamond in the rough? What do you mean.
Thought I got a response from someone last night that read "🖋️🖋️🖋️🖋️✏️✏️✏️" ....but now that message is gone. Wanted to know what all the pens and pencils meant....I'm guessing write more?
My ex narcissist (June 2022) just moved in with a new lady. She makes/sells candles. Ironically, he would never _allow_ me to wear perfume or burn candles of any kind due to his "allergies". He's pretending again...chameleon. He will love and adore everything she does until the floor drops out from her feet.
I've grown up in the ugly family of origin. My parents have been married over 70 years. My poor mother, still having to endure such phycological abuse, perhaps physical abuse. She turns to the dark side often to appear supportive in the relationship. They don't do technology but the stage performance to the outside world is sickening. In high school, I enjoyed being at school more than having to go home.
Thanks, Andrew, for teaching others valuable information.
You mom was my Dad and that's called a passive participant. I remember thinking, "Cecile B. DeMill where's that curtain call" when she laid it on thick, then I married someone who came out of the same mold. The acting skills are pathetic and so over the top. All that fake excess flattering makes you uncomfortable and they are just mean and evil to those closest to them, yet sweet as pie to strangers. 😳👹
@@retrogirl2443 It's good to know there are those who can relate. Thanks for the reply.
Each day is a blessing, especially when you survive situations as this, that’s power! It’s pretty tough having to explain situations of your relationship with ones when you keep this abuse within!! It’s so unbelievable! I’ve personally learned to speak out! Especially now, watching one of my kids go through it, it hurts on another level, it’s certainly been an awakening, not an awakening I never want to feel or see again!! Thank you for all you share, all here, you’re all rockstars! 💫🦋💫
I couldn't agree more. Every day is a blessing.💜💜💜💜
My hair is now falling out. "The body keeps the score" right? I'm in this cycle of euphoria, then withdrawal/silent treatment. I realise how much this is affecting my health in so many ways yet I can't find the courage to let go.
Following you for almost 18 months now Andrew. Eternally grateful to you and your videos for keeping me sane. Sending positive vibes to the community 🙏
Thank you for all the beautiful words Andrew and for the skills you are passing to us .
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Andrew you’re always a hundred per cent correct. You verbalise what we all couldn’t figure out because it was nothing of this earth that we knew. You once ran to them then you end up running from them. Freaks
Thank you Andrew for your excellent video about the deep insecurity of a narcissist and how they use tactics to throw you off the scent of this insecurity (a light bulb moment for me)! I can see this insecurity several years post narc relationship because of his constant need for supply which I became aware of with education about narcissism on your channel. On the other hand, the ex was very outgoing, a partygoer, a great host, had great social skills, had a high level job, loved living life and new adventures and I would not suspect deep insecurity in a person like this. I certainly didn't at the time of the relationship. Wishing everyone a relaxing, peaceful evening, night, or day depending on what time zone you're in! Namaste. 💕 🙏 🦋 💯
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It is hard to believe!
Yup, the narc, my narc seemed sweet and quiet to the world. But she would isolate me in our bedroom, close the door and let all hell break loose.
The kids could hear it and knew what was going on and I thought over time I could help her.
On 30 years she discarded us for a new supply, likely because I was calling her out on her inconsistencies.
7 months into the healing journey, it sucked, but feel better than ever to find and be me again. My kids are also happy to see me being me again 💪🏾
Thank u brother, if you ever come to Kaua’i, lmk, you have a friend here✊🏽
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Received another envelope with no return address today. Always starts right before the holidays. MISS WANT and NEED you. Never sorry! Absolutely disgusting cowards!
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I seen my mothers mask slip for my first time viewing a few months ago. I didn't know she was a "covert Narcissist ". I knew my life has always been bullied by my father & older sibling (golden child). Mother has groomed me since childhood to be her main narcissist supply. She will create a blessing for the purpose to sabotage it & the ways she can achieve my misery changes to suit her image & her own needs. I had her re-explaining why I'm not my brother's equal or any man's equal at this point in my (58) life. The joy expressed by her evil smirk was still in my view, even though she snapped her head around to look out her car door when I looked into her face even though I had been watching her bond with Satan as to why I could never be my siblings equal, 44 years running.
Bingo! I was his Pastor's daughter and he couldn't even treat me right. What is under the mask is pure evil. 👹 He is now with a woman, a recent widow, she has no clue that he sought her out because the mother of his kids got married (she wouldn't marry him) and his daughter's didn't want to come to his house anymore because it's so nasty. He let me read the texts from her! Doesn't bother cleaning or fixing up his house, just move in on someone else, after dating 2 months. Disgusting! That poor woman has no clue she has invited the devil into her home. Thank you so much for another great video, Andrew! Spot on! Have a great day! God bless🙏✨
Your right, the outside people don’t know what goes on behind closed doors when one lives with a narcissist. A narcissist is never satisfied. They will mess with your mind at all times. The narcissist that I once lived with was never happy and he was a nuisance; making my life miserable all the time. A narcissist literally desires their significant other to live in misery, and they desire others to die, so they can get rid of their partner or significant other. And the truth is that if they don’t repent, hell fire🔥 awaits them. I don’t desire it, but it’s in the Bible. Sinners who don’t repent and seek God will not abide with righteous people of God. (Psalm 1). This is a strong statement, but it’s true!
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These videos are keeping me somewhat sane/coping. Middle of pregnancy with a narcissist who abused and disrespected me to the maximum level. Complete discard , no contact with me after breaking and stealing property, physical, emotional mental abuse. I let him push the boundaries and it never stopped, he was never satisfied with destroying me.
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Oh, my goodness. So many years later & I finally see what was going on. My empathy, loyalty, longing to belong & my trusting nature was used against me. I had no desire to cheat on him. I'm a very simple person in that respect. It has been very difficult to realize that the secret keeping & cheating was a game to him. For the longest time I thought I had failed somehow. Oh, gosh, some of the hateful things that were said to me. To keep me miserable. This nailed so many issues. The squirreling away of money while extracting as much as possible from me. Great video! I hope you are doing ok!
All of you!
30 years here. 10 years out now & still improving myself! There's so much peace in this aloneness!
I attempted to get out so many times, but the narc consistently took every dime I had and literally no way out! Finally, a blessing came my way and I never looked back! Best day of my life ❤
I am married to him for 40yrs
Never even realized it was abuse. Finally standing up
The feelings that must accompany being who they are... ever thought about that? The emptiness of being some masked caricature of a person without a true identity. What a horrid nightmare... no? I remember once at a dinner this narcissist character who thankfully I was perfectly aware of who and what he was.. confessed (after a few drinks, smiling.. as if he was telling a joke) to "living in hell" everyday.. in a constant state of "terror"/anxiety. He was actually mocking and invalidating his wife who had brought up the subject of dealing with fears, insecurity and anxiety and as a consequence having become obsessed with this radio therapist.. So he, the husband, probably afraid of being unmasked for his complicity in his wife's abuse trauma, found nothing better than to gaslight her in front of everybody.. There was a tense and revealing moment of silence that exposed the obvious, which was that he had made his wife sick.. Anyway, this is the opposite of love folks.. if the narc is not identified and unmasked it can be so damaging for those vulnerable to their poison. As I read the comments I realize how many of us at some level or another have been the subjects of abuse within our own families, spouses, maybe co-workers or our own circle of friends... What an amazing job from Andrew! Wow.. just wow.. Thanks for your time and effort brother.. All The Best.
Thank you Andrew for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. God Bless. Stay safe🙏🙏🙏💛
Perfect video! So sad to meet someone like this, thank you for all the love and knowledge!
I can't thank you enough for the insightful explanation and the revelation, Andrew. It's been a mystery for a long time for me as in why they have no concerns for the essential issues of life. Especially when they have the capability, capacity, and the resources. It's such a tragedy of humanity to be in. I am truly grateful for the knowledge and the revelation. Have a wonderful day and God bless you 🙏🏻🎉
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Andrew - as always thank you for sharing your knowledge and helping educate us! It is great to see you smile at the end of the video! It gives me hope that my smile will come back also! Sending my gratitude and love! ❣️
instead of you being used in a financial way as in you paying for everything. What do people on here think about the narcissist doing the opposite. Them(the narc) paying for everything, not allowing you to pay for a single thing even when you try . And then them getting annoyed/almost angry when you have a problem with them buying you everything all though it was always appreciated it just came off as abit strong after a while. Like Them having finical control over you. Kind of like a love bomb and power play. I guess its even more intense when the narc knows beforehand you do not have loads of money so easy way to take control and dictate. Probably to get you hooked on them .
TRUTH! I have experienced it........but, I came clear of their snares. Thank you
I've seen the mask fall with my covert sister in law a few Thanksgivings ago at a family gathering. She walked in and immediately I saw that black narcissisic stare at me. It felt like I had just seen the devil. Thank you Andrew. 💜
Andrew, your videos are amazing! They give such clarity and support. Thank you 😊😊
Welcome 🙌💯🙏
There's definitely many secrets. And when you identify them the war is on, there's no need to continue to try to fool you. Once they know you figure them out it's only a intense war from that point forth.🙏🙏
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Andrew thank you for your goodness in humanity. 🤔❤🇺🇸
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The timing of your videos is amazing. You know for years that there's a mask but you manage and they govern the narc behavior till you slowly become less and less reactive as you begin to separate emotionally. It's then that the mask comes off. Then they try to go back as if nothing happened. Text book stuff. Thank you for your videos.
I want to thank you all! I'm good. The anxiety and the constant stress had me for a loop. I have three grandchildren and would NOT DO anything to myself but it was feeling very real for a bit.
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Oh boy are you spot on!! Some day I can share more. My whole life has been full of narcissists!! Keep you confused and doubting yourself. TRY to make you think you're losing your memory. Ah she didn't get me on that one! I was on to her by then!! Waited too long to end it. Fake friendships can be realized pretty early if you're paying attention.
I've been realizing slowly that I have a mother that is a narcicist (sp) . I'm 62, survived abuse from my oldest brother, with her knowing (I believe) , and now discovering that a lot of my life's experiences have been from her manipulation. I'm just now, at my age, evolving into someone who can create a boundary and live my life without her "stuff". (this story is way more complicated, but I had to post something about my relationship with my own mother)
Yes. They don't want you to figure out who they are.
And suddenly when you hear what Andrew is saying, it all begins to click. Before that, I was beside myself. I wanted to love that person through it. It was just impossible, try as I did.
It’s soo true….. once you “see” it, you cannot “un-see”it. It took some practice and I was very disoriented, but I managed to escape. I found I did not need to ride that roller coaster anymore.
I will now only live from afar. On my terms. Through prayers. I will not be sucked back in.
I’ve come too far now, to turn back.
A good song after you’ve walked through the fire and the ashes have settled, “tell your heart to beat again” by Danny Gokey……❤️🩹
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I have a question… I went through all of it with my ex gf. We were together 5 years and boom she did it all to me every single nasty thing one could do! The cheating lies manipulation! Every term that we use. Well I finally cut the cord and have been no contact with her for over 7 months. I’m doing well and I’m getting better recovering. I love all these videos and comment connecting. It makes me so much better about myself when I watch the videos. I saw the other day someone saying be careful not to get too attached or obsessed with these videos ? I’m wondering how some of you feel about that? Right now idc because it’s helping me sooooo much! So I’m going to keep watching and learning and sharing! Let me know what you think? ❤
Continue on the path 🙏💯🙌
My 70 yr old narcissistic husband of 38 yrs is a Jeckyl Hyde and a wolf in sheeps clothing! They are evil people I believe! And he fools so many people unfortunately especially ones in our church where he is a deacon of all things. 😢
Dennis Rader was a church deacon while he doubled as a serial killer. Some people noticed he was off track, but when they spoke about it, they got shut down for mentioning it + they were ignored.
I completely avoid churches & so called religious people. Churches (in my opinion) or congregating places for some people who have diabolical actions outside of the church. I have been wronged by several people I trusted because they talked about how religious they were. Then I decided to not trust anyone who acted out how religious they were in their presentation.
Then I trusted another one who convinced me she was a true Christian. Later she displayed signs of being a controlling diabolical narc. She was hateful & hissing & sneering & contradicting me & acting like I was a trouble maker & a crazy person. Now I am in the TRUST NOBODY category.
My narcissistic wife’s devaluation of me worked so well because she’s a doctor and went to eight years of college so obviously she can’t be the problem in the relationship. She even fooled our doctor who believes her lies about me. She’s a substance abusing alcoholic and yet she is believed over her dedicated Christian husband because she has a post graduate degree. She blows my world up and when I vociferously complain she stands aside and while playing victim points to me and my reaction as the problem!!! Demonic!!!
Thanks for sharing that insight so well Andrew. It's like having a veil lifted from my eyes listening to your revelations. I am able to see what I, and so many others, have been living thru. Thanks for your guiding light out of the dark world of narcissistic abuse.
I've often wondered how many 'layers' a narcissist has. Before i knew she was a narc, trying to understand who she was and why she behaved that way, i saw that she was basically trapped by her mind, .. a prisoner of a delusional sense of self and believing herself to be that self. And i saw the history and the hurt and broken, terrified and deeply insecure child behind this mask and the source of this crazy defensive behaviour, but i saw this, figuratively, as her light ... her longing and desire and wish for love, acceptance, happiness, freedom, peace, ... but trapped by the mind or rather the egoic mess of conditioning and reaction that created this terrified child-monster.
- For me this was the first time i really saw the mind or saw what an egoic sense of self, or 'mind made self' is, and it was helpful and healing to me with respect to my own egoic sense of self and my own wounded inner child, and my own mind-made sense of self.
-So in seeing i suppose, how deluded a mind and sense of identity can be, .. i became less identified with the mind and ego and cleary felt that this narcissistic self of hers, this 'mask', this pretence, ... that it 'had no being' that is wasn't true, that there was no true authentic being there, ... and that it, consequently, had no power.
- So things got into more spiritual territory from there but for me, to see how the mind is not a self was extremely enlightening and freeing for me and also ultimately helped me forgive my narcissistic ex, and my own delusional concepts of self also and yet also how the overall human condition is marred and falls victim to such distressing and delusional, egotistical, self-righteous, defensive and generally crazy mental states and positioning and sense of identity.
- I'm not suggesting everything is all roses and spiritual liberation with me ... far from it, but just looking at the personality and the mind .. that's what psychologists do after all, .. and seeing how prone and vulnerable everyone is and really seeing narcissism as a mental disorder .. just seeing it for what it is and putting it more into it's proper context as a mental health issue really helps to forgive and regain some self worth in knowing it wasn't strictly personal or anything you did.
And in the niche of time...thank you everybody. Many awesome blessings.
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You talked about how the narcissist would be on their phone while sitting next to you watching TV. Well my ex not only did that but was gone EVERY WEEKEND and a lot of evenings doing his hobbies. He would brag about how he was one of the best in the United States at one of his hobbies. And he had a bunch of female groupies that would text him, call him, email him, come to our house and visit him. Plus several of them would send him gifts! When I left him and we were separated but still married I told him how much all of that hurt and upset me, especially all the other women he had contact with, spent time with and got gifts from. He got grouchy with me and told me that I was wrong to feel that way. When I asked him if it was reversed and I had other men texting me, calling me, hanging out with me, and sending me gifts, how would he feel? He told me that he would kick their asses and probably leave me.
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