Gabrielle, I’m sorry mark didn’t ask about your mom. Your mom should have been more involved and protective of you and for that I am so sorry. I dated a schizophrenic man when I was 19 and the gaslighting and genuine confusion of what was happening nearly killed me (prior to his dx). You can do this and time does help heal.
Yea, nothing about what she said on this subject was "normal" she clearly didn't want to talk about it, and this isn't an interrogation so I get Mark not pressing her on this issue. She's clearly suffering from trauma as a result of many things and calling her childhood normal is likely a defense mechanism. Also if you're familiar with this part of Cali you understand her story even better.
I’ve gotten a tattoo from this beautiful soul. She’s very down to earth and a humble woman. She’s very kind and caring. Very sad to hear this story! That’s what makes her a warrior.
My boyfriend is paranoid schizophrenic and his meds help him. He is the most loving caring man. I just want to put it out there that not all schizophrenics are bad people.
I was a caregiver for an older man with schizophrenia. He was a wonderful person, kind to everyone he met. The only person he was cruel to was himself. Truly a tragic disease
@@jupitorious7925 you can’t give yourself schizophrenia. It’s always an underlying thing. You can induce it quicker with drugs and alcohol but it’s not the cause :( sorry to hear about your brother
Parents . This is why it’s so important to KNOW who your kids friends are and know when to step in . And no child even needs a live in boyfriend, ever . Also it’s touching how she cares so much about her Moms safety while it seems her Mom didn’t care as much about hers .
I know this is gonna not be the popular opinion, but sadly letting your son/daughter have a live-in boyfriend/girlfriend is way more prevalent in the white community. Not many black parents are gonna have that. People need to let kids be kids.
She could of gotten her mom killed while she was staying over at her new BF’s house. She said she was scared to break up with him in person because he might attack her so she did it on the phone. But yet Jessie is living with her mother. WTF. The mother has a lot to answer for anyway for letting him move in with her 17yr old daughter. The father also has a lot to answer for even though he wasn’t mentioned for some reason.
I know that we are supposed to focus on the schizophrenia, but I think this ex also had malignant narcissistic personality disorder. The isolation, the accusations, constantly needing you to prove your love to them, lack of basic respect. That has nothing to do with schizophrenia.
Exactly. People with NPD are beyond help as they never can admit they have a problem. They think they are perfect but are actually toxic parasites. Run for the hills.
@@geerace9861 yes there can be comorbidities and there can also be more than one disorder going on at a time. But lack of respect and isolation isn't in the DSM under paranoid schizophrenia.
As you get older you know to RUN after the sight of one red flag. A relationship shouldn't be hard, took me 61 years to figure that out. She is blessed to find that out as young as she is. May the Almighty keep her happy and safe.
One red flag? Listen lady. You maybe 100 but theirs one thing I understand in my 20 years. If you love them you will work with them. No matter what. Work thru anything.
To be fair, it sounds like she was in a relationship with a really bad guy who ALSO happened to have schizophrenia. Not all are like this your basic personality plays a lot into how you will then deal with the illness. Schizophrenia doesn't give you an interest in sleeping with underage people, it doesn't give you the urge to cheat and psychologically abuse....etc...it's a tough condition that makes you think and do irrational things and the paranoia is a big problem but I have had a close friend with the same disorder at the same level of gravity for 5 years, and he is a commitment to be around sometimes yes, but he is delightful and nice and trustworthy and tries his best to not be a burden, he works,cares about others, does all he can for himself, he is very little like the person here described. I think she wants to make this point come across, and she seems like a top girl, I just personally don't think the video is completely successful in making the distinction clear which I think is very important.Schizophrenia is the last mental illness that does still get stigmatised, and it would be beneficial for everyone in society if it wasn't. All people want is to be accepted and loved so psychologically and physically the tremendous impact this would have on the sufferers would be half the cure. :)
Agree with this 100 percent. My older brother suffers from paranoid schizophrenia and he is the sweetest guy you'd ever meet. Heart of gold, works, looks out for his family, helps care for our mom, and is so selfless and kind. When he's off his meds he is incredibly paranoid and spaces out for hours in his own world. The worst he's done is break drinking glasses on his sidewalk, and sometimes he'll get frustrated and raise his voice or whatnot. Never has he ever been abusive or mean to anyone in his life. It is utterly heartbreaking because the illness is like this heavy fog that hangs over him. It conceals who he truly is and all he has to offer the world. Thankfully he's back on his meds the last couple years and doing very well. I'd never judge him, it isn't his fault. He didn't choose this. Sometimes I wish I knew what he was seeing or hearing, but then maybe I don't.
Thank you so much for this... last month I left my schizophrenic fiance after 3 years in hell. We have a daughter and I am 4 months pregnant with our second. He wrecked our home, put his hands on me, always accused me of cheating. On May 30th I found out he was cheating. Packed our things and he caught me. Took my car key so I couldnt leave. I walked out of the door and called the police. He ended up burning half of me and my kids belongings and threatening to kill us. I am alive. My children no longer have to witness abuse. And I am free. Finally. This video made me tear up because I know your pain, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you for making me feel less alone.
I don't know man , the dude was Satan , he kinda outranked her mom. In all seriousness the mom probably has a martyr disorder that falls under the narcissistic spectrum.
Weak Mother. Maybe the Mom was scared of being blamed for the daughter having a broken heart and being single. Some women tend to get too wrapped up in emotional possibility. Imagine if she had declined to let him stay, he ended the relationship with her daughter and then there's the possibility that the daughter would hold it all against her Mother years later saying "You ruined the one thing that made me happy". My Mother divorced my Father for the boy who took my 17yr old sister's virginity. So basically now I know that some women are just stupid, weak and can't be trusted with sound decision making. Don't get me wrong, I love my Mom but I can't respect stupidity.
I also agree. And why did she let her go over to someone's house if it was in "shambles" with broken windows etc? It's definitely hard being a single mom, but high school kids still need guidance and supervision.
The mom has a big say in her daughter going through this. Why would she let a insane man to love in their own home and abuse her own daughter? Disgusting parenting.
To those who wonder how mark gets people to sit down and share their stories so candidly, yes, it is partly is hands off, non judgemental and compassionate interviewing style, but, more importantly, I think it’s the fact that most people want to be heard, to share their story, and most of us can’t afford years of therapy so when someone gives us that space to speak out (sometimes fir the first time) we want it so badly.
My friend was eventually murdered by her schizophrenic ex, his name was also Jesse. Afterwards, he spread pictures of her dead body online and shot himself. There were a lot of red flags before. Having a disease isn't an excuse to hurt people. I wish we knew why she went back that morning to the apartment they shared before they broke up, but we never will. I'm glad you made it out.
"Having a disease isn't an excuse to hurt people" That is NOT how schizophrenia works. My uncle has had it for the majority of his life and I've researched it A LOT because of that. It warps reality SO MUCH that it might as well be a demon from the pits of hell in front of him instead of another person as far as he can tell in that moment, depending on how severe the schizophrenia is. So yes, having A DISEASE isn't an excuse to hurt people. But SOME DISEASES, the ones that warp your understanding of reality in particular, can cause good people to do really, REALLY bad things.
@Ioan Bardan You aren't allowed to do whatever you want to people because you're mentally ill. It's not an excuse, period. Even therapists will tell you this.
A disease is no excuse to hurt someone but schizophrenia is way different. You lose touch with reality so they perceive the world complete different then we do if they have a schizophrenic episode
@@ioanbardan5150 Well then if you're schizophrenic you either need to be on meds and if you don't want to be on meds then you need to be incarcerated. You don't get out of jail free card for being mentally ill.
@@UnseenOct dude, why do you think when people plead insanity they get sent to wards instead of being let go? mental illness can make good people do bad things, not talking about depression, talking about shit like schizophrenia and mind/reality warping illnesses that (at their most severe) ruin lives when untreated. Clearly you dont understand the science if youre playing on the "its not an excuse". Yeah, depression and anxiety arent excuses for murder but three dimensional demons haunting you 24/7 might be the reason why you drive into oncoming traffic and hurt yourself and others.
Feel ya Holmes, dated a schizophrenic for 4 years and she devastated me emotionally , was my first relationship, went on from when I was 18-22. It’s a terrible feeling when you feel like you’re damaging someone by walking away but it’s the best thing you can ever do for yourself. Watching someone’s mental health collapse hurts so much and when they treat you poorly you can rationalize their behavior all day. Proud of you for doing what is best for you.
I was 19 when I dated a 33 year old man and that was the worst thing I ever did. I lacked experience and wisdom. He was a master manipulator and abusive to say the least. I never fully healed and spent my adult years tormented and lost. To you young people out there, please watch out for the red flags! Learn from others mistakes and love yourself first!!! Be strong to enough to walk away from anything or anyone that ain’t helping you to grow!!! Do not date a man twice your age!
@@oldmanhair0 you do realise people put on a nice persona for the early stage of a relationship and then switch into an abuser slowly over time? very few people would date a straight up abuser who makes no effort to conceal their true nature. your logic is also flawed, if you end up getting assaulted and murdered by a partner you didn’t put enough effort into that decision and were impulsive so it’s your fault right?
Girls buy into the myth that somehow they mentally mature faster than boys so that makes them suited to date older. It's the biggest hook used by predators. No man 33 with good intentions will find anything in common with a 19-year-old (girl). They do that to create a power differential.
I feel bad for this girl and that her parents didn't step in to help and protect her. Most of this could have been avoided if her parents did their job! I'm so happy she got out of it and learned from her experience.
@@bforbes1 lol there are always two sides to a story… if my girlfriend is going on dates with a male coworker and I find out, it’s over! Lol and if im living with them, im probably not moving out until I find a nice place of my own… perfectly legal… sounds like that’s probably what he did and she is mad… or something along those lines… she is lucky she didn’t get hit with a 1, 2, combo and a biscuit when he found out lol..
My father was schizophrenic and he died on the streets homeless as an alcoholic and serious chain smoker when I was 16! I am now 32. ♡ I had to search for siblings he had all over the US. I have found two out of 5 siblings so far. He was in the Navy and discharged because of mental illness long before he came across my Mother who also dealt with addiction my entire life and died 5 years ago from liver failure. Hepatitis C. A cure came out after she already had the damage. ♡ Life was interesting growing up to say the least. I have had to pick up every piece and put them all together. Its been quite the adventure. Every tragedy has the ability to become a triumph. ♡
So she’s perfect, right?? I bet she had no red flags at all ..lmao ..his worse fear came true (her finding another guy at work) yet he’s the crazy schizophrenic??? Idk if it’s the schizophrenia in me but I think she was cheating on him with Mason …😂😂😂😂
My brother had paranoid schizophrenia and he eventually committed suicide in a really graphic way. My Mom told me *he* felt like he was a danger to others. Throughout our adult years, I always knew something was wrong but I never personally saw the dangerous side of him-however, I know anything is possible. It's better he's gone than locked up in a jail cell for life-that would break my heart even more. I wish he had proper support and could have opened up to me about what was going on. My heart goes out to this young woman and I'm so glad she got out of that relationship. Saying this as someone who also had an abusive ex...It is hard to love someone with mental illness, because you can't save them or allow them into your life at your own expense. I wish this world had better supports for people who can't see thru the fog, but we definitely can't do it for them.
I can empathize with her. If you're a child and no one has taught you about healthy vs. unhealthy relationship boundaries and behaviors it's hard to know what is normal and what's not in your first relationship. Though our experiences are different, I was in a very abusive relationship from 15-20. Gabrielle I hope you use this experience to empower you and let you know what you will never put up with again. Don't feel shame or guilt for staying as long as you did, you did the best you could with what you had. You're a very strong woman!
It's such a sad illness because you can't trust yourself to see or hear what's real and what's not. That's so scary. Thanks again Mark for giving people a voice 💜
It really is hard to know reality from delusion because the transition is swift and unnoticeable. I try to stick to facts data and patterns as a means of staying grounded
She's a beautiful soul. My mom has severe paranoid schizophrenia. I relate to her a lot. You can tell she tries her hardest to show up for life even though it's a lot sometimes. There's pain behind all the laughter, but it takes a good heart to just *take it and be honest and deal with it* instead of putting it on other people.
@@shoretyus it's so hard because you know you can't change their mind. When you love someone it's not always easy to just look away. Or look away in general. You can't always fix everything for everyone. That's the lesson I'm trying to learn
My mum had schizoaffective disorder that came on when I was 8, watching someone change was so difficult. I ended up dating a 24 year old when I was 15 briefly, then a 22 year old when I was 16. I didnt learn what gaslighting and all the parts of emotional abuse and red flags till I was 19. I was 18 when I entered the most abusive relationship I was in, he was a year older. The same thing, cheating, show him the texts and make me feel crazy. Same thing again. When I was 16, my first time, I was asleep, I woke up. My country 16 is legal. He tried to say I was going stuff in my sleep. I made justifications too. It's horrifying how common these things are, it has always made me so sad to know my experiences are not unique. Each man I experienced who was that much of a sadistic soulless horror is not unique.. This was so relatable. I am so glad she got away and her life is so different now.
A sweet girl like her attracted that crazy narcissist like a moth to a flame. I wish I learned about toxicity at 18-19 yrs old. Seems like she has her head on straight with a good outlook on things. Thanks for sharing your story Gabriella
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She's also very vulnerable. She may not realize it, but the whole time she got involved with dangerous people, such as her best friend's meth addict mom and her older, abusive boyfriend, her mom doesn't seem to try to protect her or tell her that these people are up to no good.
S O …… WOW I like your analogy “ like a moth to a flame “ I’ve never looked at it from that perspective….. pretty basic. Yet extremely accurate. I guess old dogs ( meaning myself ) can learn . Thank you 😊 Gabriella, you are a beautiful young lady with a amazing loving heart and soul . I wish you all the best you most definitely deserve it . 💜
My grandfather was schizophrenic - him and my grandma were married for 50 years, he just passed, but they had beautiful children, a beautiful family and a good life. Hard times, but they were soulmates.
Thank you for sharing. Schizophrenia is a broad spectrum, not everyone affected is going to be like Jessie. There are wonderful people with this diagnosis. Although it is true that life is not always going to be easy for them and those around them.
This was a hard one to listen to , as I also went through a toxic relationship a few years ago. Sooo many similarities, it was just haunting to hear your story. The gaslighting, the cheating, lying, the attempts at isolation, being one way so everyone around him thought he was charming and completely different with just us. He also had mental health issues coupled with addiction issues (alcohol and sex.) It's all about control. The biggest thing I learned from that was do not ignore red flags and if I feel my spidey senses going off that something is wrong, it is. So glad you got out Gabrielle and wishing you all the best for the future, there IS better out there and you deserve better. As do I. Peace and calm your direction
Its not toxic relationship if ur mentaly ill thats u sticking around unless they go out of there way to hurt not just illousins ur the one putting urself in danger by dating domeone with mental issuses
@@yeseniah7373 As I understand It, It is different being in a toxic relationship than having a relationship with a mentally ill person. One acts conciously while the other is not in control of his thoughts and behaviour.
Wow. Im literally going through this right now. There's been cheating, lots of lying. Admittance on his half quite fast when we started dating that hat he's charming and can get people to do what he wants. He said it word for word and that raised a big red flag. He will lie straight through his teeth to me. Everyday I think about it and it hurts. It's hard. There's good parts, but I'm hurting so much and so anxious. Extra depressed. He told me he had schizophrenia the first time I caught him cheating. I can't believe I stayed. When he told me I decided to give him a second chance still, foolishly, because it was early on and I sdeal with depression and anxiety so I didn't want to reject him for his mental health health issues struggle with the same. He's lied to me several times since and I've caught him flirting with other girls and his coworkers via messages that he deletes. It's so hard. He spoils me and let's me live a comfortable life in his house but the manipulation is horrific. I was wary of him and questioned the red flags and was scared of him being manipulative from the start. I know better now and to be way less trusting of people and to trust my gut. I don't think this will last or was meant to.
@@killianson85 From the person at the receiving end, there is no difference. Are you going to tell the Gabrielle her feelings and opinions are invalid because, as you understand it, the person is mentally ill? If he is, he be taking meds or be put in an institution, not be out and about hurting people mentally or physically.
I dated a schizophrenic. He ruined my mind and my heart. Our son is 11 in August, I got pregnant at 18, I still don't think I'm over the things he did to me. I related vividly and cried. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. She is a beautiful soul. ❣️
I was thinking, "oh to be 22 again!" In reality I definitely would not want to be 22 again in 2022! Sadly, crazy times & only getting crazier! Wishing this lady (& her generation) the best♡ They're going to need it
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Her first real traumatic experience as a young adult… I’m just curious how her mother let all this happen under her watch. Very interesting. Even the mother allowing her to be watched by a “meth user” ..
Facts and that's an important thing you pointed out. She beared the responsibility and burden of something that wasn't hers to carry in the first place.
Sometimes you don't realize you have trauma until you hear about someone else's. Wishing the best for this girl, she deserves the world. Thank you mark
I don’t understand how her mom seemed to have been fairly oblivious to this toxic relationship of hers. She lived with them both, what gives? I’m not trying to judge her (the mom), or her. Trying to understand. But family dynamics are very complicated. She is well spoken and intelligent. I’m glad she was able to get out of the relationship ship and I hope Jesus / Jesse got help.
@Tammy mathis and then what? Tell a 17 yo girl to stop seeing the guy she is infatuated with? Then the girl leaves the house?!gets pregnant? Obviously you don't have kids? Or you do and they do all sorts of things behind your back?
@@Qwackdawack and you know very well the girl in this video to opine that she is the one to listen? Out of a 20 min video? A lot of people here judging the mom without knowing the whole story. Or failing to realize that people are different and not all moms have controlling power over their children.
"I have learned to dip after one red flag." That's so smart, Gabrielle.. wish I'd learned that one in my early 20's. Your life will rock because you learned that lesson so young. 💯 *hugs*
@@Redrash12 red flags are very different to someone just making a mistake. When you've been in an abusive relationship where your life is threatened, being able to recognise & react to red flags is a very valuable skill.
I went though something so so similar when I was 22-25 and I have never heard a story that made me feel like I wasn’t alone in my experiences. Down to the details, this story sounds so similar to mine. Thank you for sharing
Hearing this brought me back to a horrible time in my life with a person who had an addiction and was abusive in so many ways, you are so strong Gabrielle, we made it through! Moving away and going to college set me free! I wish I could tell my story but I wouldn’t want my family to know honestly 😕
As a recovering schizophrenic I find this very embarrassing. I was diagnosed at 15 from having auditory hallucinations and snapped out of my delusions at 19. I can’t blame schizophrenics like myself for this behavior, but for myself it’s almost very hurtful to have this stereotype always put on me that I’m always not "right". I feel like since I was diagnosed at such a young age that it gave me an advantage with recovery with my hallucinations, and I can see myself being lost in hallucinations if i started hallucinating at a later age and if I wasn’t such a social butterfly. I haven’t been to a hospital in 4 years, and I’m almost 24 now.
She did say his parents never paid any attention to his mental decline. He never got help. It's super that you got help early in your disease & your mind is better for it. Wishing you continued wellness & success in your life. Maybe someone who's suffering or a parent with a kid with mental illness will see your story & get help for their loved one & know there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
Hey this might be a personal question but what treatments did you use for your schizophrenia. I get auditory hallucinations from time to time. I would greatly appreciate it thank you.
@@mightjaazuz4348 I personally couldn’t rely on myself in such a hopeless mindset to take a pill everyday so after about 2 years of my psychiatrist recommending a extended release shot I decided to try it. The injection was my last option, and it worked wonders. I currently don’t even take medication anymore after being on the Aristada injection for about 3 years.
She's such a sweet young lady! I love the way she punctuates some of her experiences with a smile and exasperation. The world can be cruel, but she has hope.
I’ve been in a very similar situation with a long term relationship with my ex Girlfriend. And so much of your story exactly happened to me. But instead of schizophrenia it was Bipolar. The part that brought a lot out was the doing things for sympathy and I remember going through that same moment of “I don’t even care anymore” with so many feigned suicide, swallowing pills. Crying to make you feel bad. It gets old eventually. I was in my relationship for 3 years with both physical and emotional abuse. And it made me a different person. And I’m sure you went through a lot of self discovery after the relationship ended. Finding out what went wrong. How hurt you truly are. Accepting the relationship you have had for however long. You truly doubt yourself at first until you come to the realization that the other person was so truly toxic that your responses are justified. What’s crazy with all of this is how similar your experience was to mine. I also had someone come into my life who gave the outside perspective and she showed me truly how bad and toxic my relationship was. Something I can’t appreciate enough from her. And she truly gave me the strength and confidence to end it because like you I was scared of what she would do it made me dread leaving her even though I know I needed to. I tried to leave so many times and she would get on her knees and beg me uncontrollably sobbing to me telling me she will kill herself if I do. It took my current girlfriend to show me what normal is, something I couldn’t be more happy about. My advice to anyone who is or wants to date someone with disorders like bi polar and schizophrenia, if they aren’t stable and they don’t have complete control. Stay away, trust me the pain and suffering that comes with being in a toxic relationship like that is so much more than you know and a lot of times you feel crazy like there is something wrong with you, you justify there actions because that’s the only way to cope, because you cannot accept the situation you are in. Anyways great story, it truly touched my heart and best of luck you seem like a great person and deserve so much better than to be in an abusive relationship.
Healthy and balanced parents dont allow their daughter to spend significant amounts of time with a friend and their family that are addicts and have a home that is a 'shambles'. Her parents played an active role in her being trafficked for sure...I had/have relationship very similar to Gabrielle's and Jesse's with a man I ended up having a daughter (Helena) with. The past 12 years been a living hell to say the least, but Helena has literally saved my life and been a ray of shining hope for both of us in more ways than one.
@@juliettezea9507 it doesn't just happen. It is hard work. Something people don't really wanna do this day and age. This doesn't include the downward moral spiral this country/world has been in for quite some time now. Yet people are still surprised at how things go bad when parent's let the "world" raise their kids.
I hope you're out of that relationship. I know how difficult it is to get away safely. Especially when you have a child. My daughter was a preschooler and I was in an abusive relationship.
She sounded like she was about to crack in every word she said through the entire interview... I hope she has a much better life today and is super happy with her new friend Mason. I wish her all the best!
It’s crazy hearing you Gabrielle because I relate to almost everything you went through besides the trafficking. I got into a relationship with a 26 year old when I was 19. I was a legal adult at the time but definitely can see the difference now that I’m 25. And it was a horribly abusive relationship. I was sexually assaulted by him too. But it was only once. And any time I brought it up he just made me think I was crazy. I also realized no one really cared and it was something I needed to work through on my own. Which I did. And I had a child with him. Which the aftermath was one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with because he took every chance he could to use my child against me and make me feel Like I was a terrible mother for not letting him see her, when he would only agree to see her if I was there so he could beg me to be with him again, and when I said no, he’d threaten to practically force me. Threatened rape, to come to my house, to call cps and lie about me, which he actually did once. and he was on meth which only made him more abusive. And I wouldn’t subject my daughter to that chaos. but it was so worth it in the end because I love my child more than life itself. And now that he’s gotten bored and realized I’m no longer in his grasp, he barely even calls to check in on her. I got through it. And I’m so glad you did as well. It makes you stronger but it sure does give you a different perspective on the world and how relationships work. I hope you’re doing well. I applaud you for digging yourself out and coming out the other side. It’s not easy. Some people feed off of your soul and your pain. I’ll never let anyone else do it to me again.
I’m in a similar situation like yours now. I have 2 kids with him and he called police, cps on me. He tries very hard to make me feel I’m the worst mom. I live in fear since I don’t know what he can do or capable of doing. My worst fear is he won’t ever leave us alone because he loves the kids so much. I don’t know what to do😢
She's so beautiful and polite. Fascinating story. I hope its cautionary to others in relationships with mental health issues. Hopefully we can learn from her experience. Its a lot for someone her age at the time to go through.
She's lucky, close call. A friend of mine also schizophrenic always accused us friends, of stealing stupid things from his house. But he would get this dangerous look in his face.
I too have developed a look post episode. The things you see and hear during psychosis will change you. At this point I'm not sure my life will ever be the same
all these videos they say they had a fairly normal upbringing and then proceed to say the most fucked things that happened to them when they were young. so crazy.
@Benjamin David Lurie I'm sure if she is that she's definitely on the lookout for someone in the youtube comments, you might be in luck @Benjamin David Lurie
@Benjamin David Luriehey bruv yea she's single but she told me she hates racism and since you made a racist comment with the goya beans because the man maybe Latino. she said you can stay single benji aye mate stay on that side of the pound ok bruv
It's interesting to me that when a teenager makes a bad decision that the other party is instantly guaranteed to receive the brunt of the blame every time. Takes 2 to tango. Even if you're young and stupid I'm going to hold You accountable for what You chose to participate in at least to Some extent! Being 17 is not a ☆Get out of Bad Moral Decisions By Blaming Naivety☆ card.
@@aIysssa I haven't defended the actions of Jesus or "Jesse". All I'm saying is that she's not blameless for the role she consensually played just because she was one year away from legal adulthood.
@@aIysssa Age of consent varies by state. In the state of Texas you can be tried for a crime AS AN ADULT at the tender age of 17. 17 is not a child- that's all I'm sayin!
@@aIysssa That's a broad statement that does not fit my circumstance. I date 18 and 19 year olds. Did you just throw up a little in your mouth? I DON'T CARE🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Being gaslit it's incredibly destructive to one's mental stability. I'm so glad you were able to acknowledge the red flags and peel yourself away from this man. As we can only truly change ourselves.
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Schizophrenia is creepy as it on sets. People seem to know at first they are crazy then it turns to " I thought I was crazy but now I know what's really going on" My best friend lost it and we all lost him. It was so sad.
I saw that in more typical, temporary psychosis. Luckily, another revelation is very possible 'wait, I'm not crazy anymore'. My bf was petrified he had schizophrenia when he was lucid when he had an episode of psychotic depression. He is better than ever now, he has had depression almost his whole life, is on a new, better medication. You could hardly convince him of anything during that time. Now he can hardly remember it, and I've asked him questions about what was going on with him he couldn't tell me then and he can't tell me now, he doesn't think that way anymore. I am the one who remembers most of it. God, the apologies I have gotten! Poor man. It was very, very hard but I felt I had to help because nobody else was truly supporting him, and I had this hard moment where I was almost forced to tell his mother the true extent and send him to the hospital, hope he didn't decide to hate me or get worse, other ramifications, when he started to get better. I had literally said to myself 'you have to watch him closely the next two, three days and if he doesn't improve you can't wait any longer' and the next day he had started his new med I think and it was jarring how quickly everything had changed again. He saw clearly he had not been thinking right. It had been a long time since he laughed or smiled genuinely, I would say the entire episode, it was a crazy moment when he smiled. In a way I have no issue with him pursuing his mental health without telling me because that was such a relief in one moment, I had been planning on hardly sleeping (had done so plenty) and he straight up told me he had no intention any longer of harming himself, etc. He got his new perscription in secret and had finally decided to take it. He broke up with me because one of his delusions was that I was all his problems and his ex was not abusive (f that b)
@@sanandreasX You got it twisted. It's "What's schizophrenia gotta do with conspiracies?" and it is the fact that people with schizophrenia may be more likely to believe in conspiracies because of their symptoms, which can include paranoia and delusions. Additionally, people with schizophrenia may be more likely to isolate themselves and to be distrustful of others, which could also contribute to their belief in conspiracies.
My father had schizophrenia he took his life about 2 months ago. He developed schizophrenia from his drug addiction. He had been addicted to drugs since childhood and later on it ended up fcking up his brain. He didn't beileve he was crazy he thought he was the only one who could see the truth. The early signs I saw from him was probably when he was in his 20s or 30s he developed a strange accent it almost sounded brittish. He also believed In a lot of conspiracies early on He thought he saw aliens and that he could speak to ghosts my mom and I didn't really think anything of that. But then he started thinking people were following him and stalking him it would get to the point where he'd board up his windows he lived with his parents and they could never see the people he was talking about. He even ran through a river because he claimed there were dogs after him and he didn't want them to catch his scent.
Holy shit!!! I had an ex-fiancé that acted like this AND was narcissistic. This is exactly what happened to me from 17-20. So so awful. Abused. I'm so glad I got away when I did, even if he made me lose everything. I'm a survivor and you are as well. Sending love.
I watch these videos daily and this one really resonated with me. This girl literally is me 5 years ago when I was dating my ex. I justified every shitty thing he did to me and really only ended up hurting myself by not taking a step back and realizing how harmful the relationship really was. She’s so innocent and sweet and still smiles talking about the situation besides all the trauma she faced.
Yes, schizophrenia definitely runs in families. The hereditary aspect is very high (can’t remember if it’s 50% or more chance to inherit if a parent has it). Also, love her laugh. She is a sweet girl. Hopefully this lesson will protect her from the red flags in the future.
this sounds so much like my first relationship..... I was 19, she was 25 and an incredibly abusive narcissist. I think that the real factor that made me ( and likely Gabrielle ) so vunerable was isolation and a total lack of frank discussion in the home or at school about sex and relationships. I was diagnosed autistic last year as well, and unfortunately I've come to realize that played heavily into warping my idea of 'normal'. Best to you going forward, Gabrielle.
Autistic have a oversized amygdala so they're less fearful in the eyes of the sociopath that's why it's easier to ignore alerting stuff. He was a sociopath probably
I think the term Gabrielle was looking for when you asked her if she had previously considered herself to be in love with “Jesse” was, ‘trauma bonding’. Took a little while for me to differentiate between that type of bond, & truly loving someone. I wish nothing, but the very absolute best for her. 💜
cus mark tends to do that, ask weird questions and ignore some of the more concerning things😊 but something like that is really personal and traumatic maybe for the better
I'm still wondering why the incident wasn't reported. Schizophrenia or not, rape is rape. If he'd done something like that to a female relative of mine, schizophrenia would have been the LEAST of his issues.
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What a very cool and down to earth human she is. Her stories were so disheartening to hear. I'm sure this took a lot of undoing and therapy. I hope Gabrielle continues to thrive and finds exactly what she's looking for.
She seems like a down to earth person. Too bad she didn't see the red flags back then. Thank God he didn't do somethg really crazy to her and her mom. After his hospital stay they shldve told him he couldn't come back to their place. People always pay attention to red flags in all situations. It doesn't matter if you are male or female. Thanks Mark!
My brother in law was living with my ex and our kids a few years ago. He had schizophrenia. I was always sympathetic until he stopped talking his meds. Almost all schizophrenic sufferers are non violent, but we drew the short end of the stick. He started threatening my 5 year old daughter about stealing quarters from his nightstand and claiming that my 10 year old son was washing his bed sheets to get back at him. My ex (wife) and her brothers and sisters kept telling me it's ok. And then one she came over with Mikey and Adriana crying and said that when she went to pick them up from her Mom's house it was crazy. Her brother was trying to stab her other brother and ended up actually stabbing him. And then the cops came and he fought them. Now he's doing 8 years in Huntsville. And my kids were in the car and saw it all. The end lol.
I dealt with this for 6 years.. all the accusations, the constant supervision, the aggression, the rape, the downright hatred, the delusions, the lies... I feel for you girl ❤ I made so many mistakes and ran past all the red flags. It wasn't normal, I normalized it. He was never diagnosed, but he had all these symptoms. It's so scary to leave, but it feels so amazing once you can breathe.
My father had schizophrenia he took his life about 2 months ago. He developed schizophrenia from his drug addiction. He had been addicted to drugs since childhood and later on it ended up fcking up his brain. He didn't beileve he was crazy he thought he was the only one who could see the truth. The early signs I saw from him was probably when he was in his 20s or 30s he developed a strange accent it almost sounded brittish. He also believed In a lot of conspiracies early on He thought he saw aliens and that he could speak to ghosts my mom and I didn't really think anything of that. But then he started thinking people were following him and stalking him it would get to the point where he'd board up his windows he lived with his parents and they could never see the people he was talking about. He even ran through a river because he claimed there were dogs after him and he didn't want them to catch his scent. He had been abusing my mom for years before they split up.
I recently left a 15-year relationship with my ex, who's schizophrenic and got mean, nasty, and violent. He fully stopped his injections for his illness yet upped his Adderall usage which is NOT a good combo for someone who already has paranoia and delusions. About a week or 2 before he was arrested for domestic violence he threatened to kill me. Our 14yo caught everything over the phone And then one night he believed 8 was stealing his SSDI check, 🙄 which, I wasn't. But he also believed there were people in our walls. Well, one cold Jan night he ended up punching me incredibly hard and then he put me in a chokehold and nearly killed me. If my eldest wouldn't have scratched, bit, and kicked him till he let go of me and my nieghbors called the cops. I probably would not be here... l am diagnosed with PTSD, severe social anxiety, and depression although that's gotten better, I even managed to stay in recovery for 6yrs I've been sober from pain meds. Before that the verbal abuse was awful he would also do what "Jesse" did to her in her sleep... So many things sound identical to what happened to me. My ex also has never been held accountable. His parents bailed him out, blamed me, and even blamed our kids! Now, he was just put on probation for what he did back in January. I have a civil protection order for myself and my kids, and for the first time in 15 years, I live alone with my kids, of course. But it's so nice to for once not have to walk on eggshells and my kids are safe and thriving.
gabrielle, wow i am in awe of you, i know you will never see this but i cannot express how stunned i am in the way you took this situation, and especially how you changed after, your reactions to this with smiles and laughs shows how strong you are. how you have overcome all this is so inspiring and i hope you end up finding what you deserve!
Had a similar experience when I was 16, I was in an outpatient program for teens with mental health and substance abuse problems, it was a month long program that you attended after being discharged from the pysch hospital, then once the 3 weeks were done, you'd return to your regular school. The program was 2 hours of group counseling, 3 hours of school, lunch, arts and crafts, more group counseling than dinner. It was 8 hours a day. After being in the pysch hospital and this outpatient program with the group of kids i was with for so much time, they felt like long time friends. We all knew each other's traumas and problems so of course we got super close to one another and even dated. I started dating a boy in the program even though dating between patients was not allowed. I never actually knew his official diagnosis but knew manic depressive was one. His mom had addiction issues and didn't really care about him so often he'd come home with me when my mom would pick me up from the program. He'd often stay a few days. One day he mentioned he forgot his medication at home, he lived pretty far but still my mom offered to take him to get it. He refused. Following day he was complaining that he didn't feel well, so my mom drove him to get his meds but his mom was not home and there was no way he could get in his house. The following day he was like a different person. He joked about stomping on my pet turtle and slitting my cats throat. I got angry at these "jokes " and we got into our 1st argument. He was saying the sickest, cruelest things to me and suddenly picked up scissors and pushed me against the wall and had them pointed at my stomach, he looked me dead in the eyes and said "I could kill you right now, then your mom, pets and myself" I managed to push him away and run out of the room, he followed apologizing and laughing saying it was just a joke. We sat in the living room silent with my mom watching TV, i waited till he fell asleep and told my mom and she grabbed me, our pets and locked us in my room with the door barricaded and the cordless phone with us. The following morning we had 2 of my eldest brothers friends drive my boyfriend home. Then my mom called the police and after he was arrested, his mother called saying she was in the mafia and was going to have the whole mob get us. We did not take that serious considering his mom was a meth addict and also had a slew of mental health problems. We also found out my boyfriend had a police record of arson, assault, rape and a few other things I can't recall. Our case went to court and i had to testify . He got a year in juvenile detention. Don't know what became of him after that, this was 23 years ago, I'm still friends with a lot of the kids,( now adults) who I was hospitalized with and in the outpatient program with, and in all of these years, none of them have heard from or seen my ex either. Its like he fell off the earth. After that we were super cautious about who we let stay with us, which wasn't the case prior. My mom was the type of mom who if one of my brothers or I's friends had a bad home life or was a runaway, my mom would let them stay with us. As a result, growing up our house was always full of kids and teens. They could stay as long as they wanted and it was usually a blast. Only thing my mom asked for was respect and to help around the house. After my ex did what he did however, we all were a lot more cautious about who we let stay in our home. Unfortunately, you just never know what a person is capable of.
Your mom let a dude you met in a pych hospital date you and come stay at your house and you do not think your mom had any blame in that situation ? Your mom was moronic for that ( coming from some one whos mom is/was super neglectful and not a good mom)
10:15 Mine onset at age 18. 18-25 is relative onset for men. I was all set for college and getting ready be in my photography class and suddenly the white walls started to show images and and it was getting unbearable and I went to the main office. Her response was..."When you grow up, you can come back". A year later I found literature and now 36, I'm on my way to publishing 14 novels. It is a lifelong illness but I have come very very far since pretty much half my life ago.
Thank you for sharing! I have only ever fell in love with men with Schizophrenia or Bipolar Disorder. My dad has like 3 personality disorders so it set me up for this life. Some of us were raised to love the hard people. I'm a hard person too. I'm Bipolar and have Borderline Personality Disorder.
Watching this was like whiplash. My first serious relationship was with somebody who had schizophrenia. When I was dating him everybody I knew just got mad at me, and “lost respect” for me because I didn’t want to leave. But when you’re in a relationship like that, it’s hard because you end up feeling like that person needs you. It’s scary how similar her experiences are to mine. Down to him not having a drivers license, bringing up delusions, and the cheating. Even having sex with a 14 year old, like im losing my mind over the similarities. Literally the only details that are different are the people involved. The worst part is that, his whole family knew, and none of them told me that he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. He wasn’t even on medication, and they knew how he was and what he was capable of, and they told me nothing. They just let me learn and deal with everything first hand, at 16 lmao.
I had an ex girlfriend who said that voices were telling her that i was a good guy and then voices telling her I was out to get her. Scary relationship to say the least but my heart goes out to these individuals who suffer from this disease.
I grew up with a schizophrenic father and this story was fairly accurate and horrifying at the same time. I seen things, but it makes me wonder of what I didn't see, but my mother did.... As a kid I hated my dad thinking he was choosing to act how he did, but when I became an adult I saw that it was beyond his control.... Being the son of a schizophrenic is one thing, but to be with someone who is a schizophrenic is another...
I wish people would understand that it's beyond our control most of the time. If we were in our right mind and understood what we did we would stop. The man in this video is insane. He believed that he was god and other things that's makes him legally not capable of making sound decisions.
Some people are able to keep mental illness in check and it barely affects them and their significant other. It's not always a nightmare.the guy she dated just seems like a jerk not necessarily bc he was schizophrenic. Cheating isn't a side effect of schizophrenia. Neither is hiding a girl from your family. Or blaming things on your illness. A real man takes responsibility, regardless of his flaws.
My son is a chronically homeless paranoid schizophrenic, he started to get worse around 19-20 years old, he is almost 42 now. Some do deflect and try to blame others for their behavior. A conversation with them means you are engaging with the illness, not the person. Gabrielle is a beautiful soul, she has learned a valuable lesson. Best of luck to her.
That’s so fucked up that you’re saying having a conversation with anyone who has schizophrenia is talking to an illness not a person. Not all of “them” are the same. My partner has schizophrenia and he doesn’t blame anyone for anything or have bad behaviour. I feel sorry for your son, he could’ve had treatment and been better if maybe you had supported him and not engaged in stigmatising his illness
@@girliek8030 Well, if you dont like someones deeply personal experiences, then you rather might want to go f. Yourself and not tell people who know what they talk about that they say f-ed Up things. I very Well understand why this person said this - after years of going out of our way to help these people and support them, we just come to understand that they just use us and dont value anything that we had done for them. And we can just invest the energy into ourselves because no one will - certainly not these people. I know why I say this.
@@Be_An_Esther anyone who has a family member with such mental illness can borrow the person to you - after a few months I guarantee you will be totally exhausted, or some ilness will be triggered in your body from stress, or you would have a broken arm or something, you will be afraid for your safety and the person would be lying to you constantly. I did things for my brother no one else did, I risked my own life when battling filthy drug dealers who looked at me sleazily and wanted to do wrong to me. Then I realised how my brother lied to me for years and what level of intense hatred and loathing he feels towards me just because I tried and succeded to have a normal life after worse experiences he ever had. You will be just done. I am very surprised someone does not understand it. My brother does not have to pay for the roof over his head, for food, for car insurances etc, he enjoys vacations with family, and he blows Up his welfare money in a week and then he asks the family for money or services. Everyone I know with mental illness acts this way, they abuse the diagnosis to just leech at whoever they Can, and are ungrateful and occasionally attack their family. Even people with no mental illness but on welfare constantly try to con anyone nearby for money, I dont know any exceptions. You Can think what you want. Edit: there are also responsible people among mentally ill people who heed the advise of their psychiatrists and dont do the opposite of what they should. There are even famous people among them, actors with the bipolar disorder and you dont see them doing anything erratic or downright scary. But if someone wants to get drunk in such a way that f.e. they attack their family members, or, sorry that I must say it, they are in such a state they shit while they walk, would you keep the person around your children? And there are many videos of homeless people who want to be homeless and have health problems they do not want to manage - how would you force the people to be different? I guarantee such people would make you and all the family members just husks of their former selves.
I think these interviews are really important for the person being interviewed. To be able to go back to in ten years and see the way you used to think and perceive the world. Something with great sustenance. Well done.
We're the same age and have extremely similar stories so i'm empathizing so much with her right now. I'd love to travel and get a tattoo from her, i'd cherish it forever.
Agreed. Her body language, nervous smiling/laughing tell me she wants the world to think she has it more together than she really does. I’m not shaming her for that, she is human & I’m sure doing the best she can - just like the rest of us. Hopefully with time & therapy she will embrace her worth and thrive. I’m rooting for her!! Thanks Mark, for helping to shed light on our darkness. Love your passion for both photography & humanity.
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What kind of mom just let this man move in with her very young daughter and allowed her to be treated like this? I know 18 is “legally” an adult but this poor girl was still a child and should have been protected. I was in a toxic relationship and my parents were one of the only things that got me out of it and always had my best interest at heart. This girl deserved better and someone should have done something to help her
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She is beautiful and articulate. So glad that she got away from that. I hope that my children don't run into people who are abusive. I hope that the guy finds some help.
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I’m happy she got away from him without anything tragic happening. She seems smart and sweet. We’ve all been with toxic men, but what matters is that we were smart enough to not make the same mistake. God bless her. ❤️
Gabrielle - You're a great storyteller, and seem like you've got mad wisdom from your hell there, which is all you can really hope for coming through what you did. I hope you have continued peace.
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When you're young and in love you don't see the red flags especially when it's your first relationship while you're still in High School... You now have to move on and use your past as a learning experience..she seems like a very caring girl and I hope she can use her past experience to look for red flags in her next relationship.. Such a good post, thanks again Mark!
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Wow, really hit home as a 50 year old male schizophrenic. I behaved in similar ways into my early 40's and am so embarrassed of my actions. I think age and excepting mental health help save me from hurting myself and others around me. I should of been kept behind bars till I was proven to be stable for a long term.
Bless your journey!!! Thank you for sharing 💕 I have a relative who was diagnosed. She gets violent tendencies. Outside of her illness-she is amazing!!! Loving, kind, compassionate. I always feel deeply for the come back she has to make and bridges she has to mend after episodes. Again... Bless your journey! I pray people with hearts ful of compassion aid you throughout your journey.
I hope she finds true healthy love. She's still so young and has a long life ahead. She is wiser now and can learn from her experienceses . Be happy. 🌞🌻
To have an ex that haunts your thoughts for days, weeks, months or even years on end sounds terrible. You want it to be easy to forget and not to deal with one who's crazy, jealous and stalking. And of course natural males are seen as more dangerous to deal with than females because of physicality but still I wouldn't take a female lightly. The fact that she's in your thoughts, pops up on your social media or keep spotting her from a distance is damaging enough. Knew a girl once years back when I was working security guard at an electric store. She moved to (my) a new city to start all over and live save away from her crazy ex. It was her first day of the job where she worked at the coffee machine department. She showed and made clear that she has a police licensed pepper spray and permit papers to use so in her bag. That's how I checked her in on the personals list. At the end of her work day my colleague checked her out and noticed she was emotional when leaving. She never returned to work and we were notified that she had to move again to another city because her crazy ex was spotted in my city. Restraining orders don't do anything. It's just a piece of paper with some inkt on it. I can only hope she's now living years free of him.
I've been there girl in exactly the same position, exactly! You have a good heart and you have to realize you can't FIX HIM, now or ever. It's the hardest thing in the world to walk away. Thank goodness, you have your life and your mind, whole and intact.
My brother has dealt with Schizophrenia since he was 13 years old, now 30. It's been so hard on my parents. Thankfully he has a beautiful soul and non violent.
Red flags are just flags through rose tinted glasses girl 🚩it’s easy to miss them 😞 THANK YOU for sharing your story! I am so sorry you had to go through this. You’re so strong and resilient and I am so glad you’ve experienced real love since Jessy ❤️
I dated a girl that was schizophrenic a few years back. She made me feel crazy myself, so many times. It’s almost unbelievable the things that their mind creates. Unfortunately, it does a lot of damage to the people they’re around. I finally had to call it quits after she had me feeling like I was the problem. Thank you for your story.🙏🏻
Its not just the schizophrenics who can do it. It's the whole double bind communication, gaslighting, trauma bond, etc etc manipulation and brainwashing which is a hallmark trait of most of the severe mental illnesses. It has to do with childhood cptsd and how they coped with the pathological behavior of their parents and became adjusted to them and thus inheriting an unique flavour to their own pathology. That's how trauma propagates. It's very complicated but very very simple if you dig deep enough and map trauma onto the dominant functioning mechanism of the dream.. ie limbic system dominance.. you want to the neo cortex dominant. Stay away from mentally ill people .. especially if they seem so very nice.
This is all too familiar. I was with a schizophrenic for almost two years and it was horrible. There were good moments when he wasn't having psychotic episodes but when he did, it was terrible. I have blocked him on everything, but even a couple years later, I still get his voicemails of him verbally abusing me. It's good to get out of these relationships and take care and love yourself.
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Thank you for sharing your story and not being ashamed. ❤ I was in a toxic relationship with a narcissist for 2.5 years before my family got wise and pulled me out. If you notice toxic behavior in someone else's relationship, SAY SOMETHING! Thank god for people like Mason. ❤
I had a psychosis as well. Thinking people were following me to kill me, paranoia etc. It's Hell really. Thank God that I'm doing well now. trying to learn to code and starting a small business. If you see people going through psychosis handle it seriously. Get them treatment asap. The sooner the better. :)
Agree! Communities need to learn how to be aware and not shrug off or enable instead of getting real help for someone when they are not aware. My ex had psychosis twice. It’s heartbreaking, scary and confusing. For everyone.
My twin brother developed Schizophrenia in 2018 and it completely destroyed his life. no job, gained 200 pounds, and lives at home with my parents. Its a terrible terrible mental illness
@@Life1233_ You're welcome. This is extremely sad. My college buddy had schizophrenia onset at the same age. He was an extremely muscular smart athletic friendly dude whose entirely life is now a shell of what it could have been. I pray that one day mental illness will be a thing of the past. And I know that day is coming sooner rather than later. All the best to you and your family and to your brother.
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Thank you for having me Mark ❤
You had a very interesting story
you’re so interesting
you should write a book about your life so far, it would be incredible and a good read.
Gabrielle, I’m sorry mark didn’t ask about your mom. Your mom should have been more involved and protective of you and for that I am so sorry.
I dated a schizophrenic man when I was 19 and the gaslighting and genuine confusion of what was happening nearly killed me (prior to his dx).
You can do this and time does help heal.
You're attractive
I like how she describes having a normal childhood yet casually mentions she was “trafficked” and glosses over that detail.
Dumb beezy
Yesss I wish Mark would’ve asked questions about it!
Right
Yea, nothing about what she said on this subject was "normal" she clearly didn't want to talk about it, and this isn't an interrogation so I get Mark not pressing her on this issue. She's clearly suffering from trauma as a result of many things and calling her childhood normal is likely a defense mechanism. Also if you're familiar with this part of Cali you understand her story even better.
why is trafficked in quotes
I’ve gotten a tattoo from this beautiful soul. She’s very down to earth and a humble woman. She’s very kind and caring. Very sad to hear this story! That’s what makes her a warrior.
Whats the info i wanna get a tatt by her!
@@xjsonx3851 her name & comment is the pinned comment👍🏻
@Mr. Caster lame
@@xjsonx3851 me too
@@idontknowmuch3441 lol
My boyfriend is paranoid schizophrenic and his meds help him. He is the most loving caring man. I just want to put it out there that not all schizophrenics are bad people.
Most aren't, so sad to see how the illness can take someone to a really bad place. Especially when they are extremely resistant against taking meds.
May I ask how you maintain a relationship with him?
@@lydiapetra1211 patients is probably a good characteristic to have
I was a caregiver for an older man with schizophrenia. He was a wonderful person, kind to everyone he met. The only person he was cruel to was himself. Truly a tragic disease
@@shortfusedynamite5166 hey man I know you don’t want to hear this but you’re kinda a dick. “Most”
Schizophrenia is probably one of the most tragic mental illnesses out there.
Bipolar, as well😧
Yeah what a curse
@@jupitorious7925 he already had it that's not how it works
@@jupitorious7925 you can’t give yourself schizophrenia. It’s always an underlying thing. You can induce it quicker with drugs and alcohol but it’s not the cause :( sorry to hear about your brother
@@EllicottCity1 honestly my type 2 bipolar doesn't affect me as much as my Ocd.
Ocd was by far the most debilitating.
Parents . This is why it’s so important to KNOW who your kids friends are and know when to step in . And no child even needs a live in boyfriend, ever .
Also it’s touching how she cares so much about her Moms safety while it seems her Mom didn’t care as much about hers .
SOUNDS LIKE HER MOTHER WASNT AROUND TO HELP HER MUCH .
I know this is gonna not be the popular opinion, but sadly letting your son/daughter have a live-in boyfriend/girlfriend is way more prevalent in the white community. Not many black parents are gonna have that. People need to let kids be kids.
@@rediculossc7277 you damn right
@@rediculossc7277 since youre generalizing, do you think black teens date the same way white teenagers do?
@@rediculossc7277 I actually agree with you , in my almost 40 years of life , this rings true from what I’ve seen .
I firmly believe she escaped a death sentence with her ex. Wishing her nothing but happiness going forward!
She could of gotten her mom killed while she was staying over at her new BF’s house. She said she was scared to break up with him in person because he might attack her so she did it on the phone. But yet Jessie is living with her mother. WTF.
The mother has a lot to answer for anyway for letting him move in with her 17yr old daughter.
The father also has a lot to answer for even though he wasn’t mentioned for some reason.
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It sounds to me like the mother brought all of this on herself. Let's not forget, she DID create and raise this girl...
Yes Gabrielle definitely dodged a bullet as well as her mother! Thank goodness!!!🙏🏻❤️
Her mom failed her. I’m so sorry you went through this. So glad you’re healing
This needs to be said more ❤️
Big time
Both her parents failed her. Why do they bother calling themselves Christians?
Exactly !!! What were they thinking ?!!!😰
But she claims she is from a “normal” average background and upbringing “……NOT lol. She seems delusional herself.
I know that we are supposed to focus on the schizophrenia, but I think this ex also had malignant narcissistic personality disorder. The isolation, the accusations, constantly needing you to prove your love to them, lack of basic respect. That has nothing to do with schizophrenia.
Exactly. People with NPD are beyond help as they never can admit they have a problem. They think they are perfect but are actually toxic parasites. Run for the hills.
These are also symptoms of paranoid schizophrenia
@@geerace9861 yes there can be comorbidities and there can also be more than one disorder going on at a time. But lack of respect and isolation isn't in the DSM under paranoid schizophrenia.
Ohh & raping her when she was sleeping is beyond crazy.
@@zoe9632 yes. Absolutely disgusting.
As you get older you know to RUN after the sight of one red flag. A relationship shouldn't be hard, took me 61 years to figure that out. She is blessed to find that out as young as she is. May the Almighty keep her happy and safe.
Yeah but then again who’s perfect. U got high standards
Unless the sex is really good
One red flag? Listen lady. You maybe 100 but theirs one thing I understand in my 20 years. If you love them you will work with them. No matter what. Work thru anything.
@@marksotelo6472 sounds like you have several red banners of your own. work on yourself, maybe.
@@marksotelo6472 Bless your heart, you are very young. A little life experience will teach you differently.
To be fair, it sounds like she was in a relationship with a really bad guy who ALSO happened to have schizophrenia. Not all are like this your basic personality plays a lot into how you will then deal with the illness. Schizophrenia doesn't give you an interest in sleeping with underage people, it doesn't give you the urge to cheat and psychologically abuse....etc...it's a tough condition that makes you think and do irrational things and the paranoia is a big problem but I have had a close friend with the same disorder at the same level of gravity for 5 years, and he is a commitment to be around sometimes yes, but he is delightful and nice and trustworthy and tries his best to not be a burden, he works,cares about others, does all he can for himself, he is very little like the person here described.
I think she wants to make this point come across, and she seems like a top girl, I just personally don't think the video is completely successful in making the distinction clear which I think is very important.Schizophrenia is the last mental illness that does still get stigmatised, and it would be beneficial for everyone in society if it wasn't. All people want is to be accepted and loved so psychologically and physically the tremendous impact this would have on the sufferers would be half the cure. :)
Sounds like he was a raging sociopath is what I was thinking...
Agree with this 100 percent. My older brother suffers from paranoid schizophrenia and he is the sweetest guy you'd ever meet. Heart of gold, works, looks out for his family, helps care for our mom, and is so selfless and kind. When he's off his meds he is incredibly paranoid and spaces out for hours in his own world. The worst he's done is break drinking glasses on his sidewalk, and sometimes he'll get frustrated and raise his voice or whatnot. Never has he ever been abusive or mean to anyone in his life. It is utterly heartbreaking because the illness is like this heavy fog that hangs over him. It conceals who he truly is and all he has to offer the world. Thankfully he's back on his meds the last couple years and doing very well. I'd never judge him, it isn't his fault. He didn't choose this. Sometimes I wish I knew what he was seeing or hearing, but then maybe I don't.
well said. i thought the exact same and came to look for this comment.
Yeah i think it's dumb
This is very true
She was groomed... not loved. I appreciate her for just being so open and honest and putting it out there.
Nothing wrong with acclimating a person to a situation.
What does groomed mean?
she was a child and he has done this before @@Matwahish
facts. bro was 21 trying to come to a highschool to rizz up minorw
Thank you so much for this... last month I left my schizophrenic fiance after 3 years in hell. We have a daughter and I am 4 months pregnant with our second. He wrecked our home, put his hands on me, always accused me of cheating. On May 30th I found out he was cheating. Packed our things and he caught me. Took my car key so I couldnt leave. I walked out of the door and called the police. He ended up burning half of me and my kids belongings and threatening to kill us. I am alive. My children no longer have to witness abuse. And I am free. Finally. This video made me tear up because I know your pain, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you for making me feel less alone.
Healing prayers your way.
I can’t help but wonder why her mom didn’t tell her no, he can’t live with us.
Agree
I don't know man , the dude was Satan , he kinda outranked her mom.
In all seriousness the mom probably has a martyr disorder that falls under the narcissistic spectrum.
Agree. What’s up with her Mother?
Weak Mother.
Maybe the Mom was scared of being blamed for the daughter having a broken heart and being single.
Some women tend to get too wrapped up in emotional possibility.
Imagine if she had declined to let him stay,
he ended the relationship with her daughter
and then there's the possibility that the daughter would hold it all against her Mother years later saying
"You ruined the one thing that made me happy".
My Mother divorced my Father
for the boy who took my 17yr old sister's virginity. So basically now I know that some women are just stupid, weak and can't be trusted with sound decision making.
Don't get me wrong, I love my Mom
but I can't respect stupidity.
I also agree. And why did she let her go over to someone's house if it was in "shambles" with broken windows etc? It's definitely hard being a single mom, but high school kids still need guidance and supervision.
The mom has a big say in her daughter going through this. Why would she let a insane man to love in their own home and abuse her own daughter? Disgusting parenting.
Exactly, so many red flags in her parenting.
Yes we should lock insane people in hospitals forever they have no place in society I think the same way as you
Maybe we should euthanize the mentally ill too I'm sure that's what you think
@@bringoujelqings4078 ur so overdramatic shut up
@@bringoujelqings4078 its not about the schizophrenia, lots of people are like this without severe mental illness
To those who wonder how mark gets people to sit down and share their stories so candidly, yes, it is partly is hands off, non judgemental and compassionate interviewing style, but, more importantly, I think it’s the fact that most people want to be heard, to share their story, and most of us can’t afford years of therapy so when someone gives us that space to speak out (sometimes fir the first time) we want it so badly.
Exactly! That's how I see it too...
Shhhh, listening to the video..
Folks get paid to participate in those interviews
Well articulated I appreciate your input. Thank you.
It's money weirdo
She’s very cool. Very grounded and strong woman and very likable as a human.
simp lol
Wtf? As a human? Wow
She looks like Dua lipa🥰💝
@@paoloanacleowong2067 better cuz she’s not been poisoned by all the press and adulation
Until she click
She has the prettiest smile and she seems so sweet and humble. I cannot believe she went through that abusive relationship at such a young age.
My friend was eventually murdered by her schizophrenic ex, his name was also Jesse. Afterwards, he spread pictures of her dead body online and shot himself. There were a lot of red flags before. Having a disease isn't an excuse to hurt people. I wish we knew why she went back that morning to the apartment they shared before they broke up, but we never will. I'm glad you made it out.
"Having a disease isn't an excuse to hurt people"
That is NOT how schizophrenia works. My uncle has had it for the majority of his life and I've researched it A LOT because of that. It warps reality SO MUCH that it might as well be a demon from the pits of hell in front of him instead of another person as far as he can tell in that moment, depending on how severe the schizophrenia is.
So yes, having A DISEASE isn't an excuse to hurt people. But SOME DISEASES, the ones that warp your understanding of reality in particular, can cause good people to do really, REALLY bad things.
@Ioan Bardan You aren't allowed to do whatever you want to people because you're mentally ill. It's not an excuse, period. Even therapists will tell you this.
A disease is no excuse to hurt someone but schizophrenia is way different. You lose touch with reality so they perceive the world complete different then we do if they have a schizophrenic episode
@@ioanbardan5150 Well then if you're schizophrenic you either need to be on meds and if you don't want to be on meds then you need to be incarcerated. You don't get out of jail free card for being mentally ill.
@@UnseenOct dude, why do you think when people plead insanity they get sent to wards instead of being let go? mental illness can make good people do bad things, not talking about depression, talking about shit like schizophrenia and mind/reality warping illnesses that (at their most severe) ruin lives when untreated. Clearly you dont understand the science if youre playing on the "its not an excuse". Yeah, depression and anxiety arent excuses for murder but three dimensional demons haunting you 24/7 might be the reason why you drive into oncoming traffic and hurt yourself and others.
Feel ya Holmes, dated a schizophrenic for 4 years and she devastated me emotionally , was my first relationship, went on from when I was 18-22. It’s a terrible feeling when you feel like you’re damaging someone by walking away but it’s the best thing you can ever do for yourself. Watching someone’s mental health collapse hurts so much and when they treat you poorly you can rationalize their behavior all day. Proud of you for doing what is best for you.
They make you feel so bad for walking away. I’m proud of YOU for doing what was best for you! It takes a lot of strength to walk away.🙏🙏
I was 19 when I dated a 33 year old man and that was the worst thing I ever did. I lacked experience and wisdom. He was a master manipulator and abusive to say the least. I never fully healed and spent my adult years tormented and lost. To you young people out there, please watch out for the red flags! Learn from others mistakes and love yourself first!!! Be strong to enough to walk away from anything or anyone that ain’t helping you to grow!!! Do not date a man twice your age!
So sorry you went through that :( thank you for helping others ❤️
Bro shut up
33 was not twice your age. To avoid your mistake, don't date impulsively. Put effort into important decisions. You are accountable.
@@oldmanhair0 you do realise people put on a nice persona for the early stage of a relationship and then switch into an abuser slowly over time? very few people would date a straight up abuser who makes no effort to conceal their true nature. your logic is also flawed, if you end up getting assaulted and murdered by a partner you didn’t put enough effort into that decision and were impulsive so it’s your fault right?
Girls buy into the myth that somehow they mentally mature faster than boys so that makes them suited to date older. It's the biggest hook used by predators. No man 33 with good intentions will find anything in common with a 19-year-old (girl). They do that to create a power differential.
This had to be very hard for her to talk about what she went through.
I feel bad for this girl and that her parents didn't step in to help and protect her. Most of this could have been avoided if her parents did their job! I'm so happy she got out of it and learned from her experience.
The norm is parents not really giving half a shit about their offspring.
What is this mental illness I am hearing this for the first time?
It sounds like to me she was cheating on her boyfriend and he found out and she kicked him out. That’s all I got from this story
@@dnice3473 lol.
@@bforbes1 lol there are always two sides to a story… if my girlfriend is going on dates with a male coworker and I find out, it’s over! Lol and if im living with them, im probably not moving out until I find a nice place of my own… perfectly legal… sounds like that’s probably what he did and she is mad… or something along those lines… she is lucky she didn’t get hit with a 1, 2, combo and a biscuit when he found out lol..
For such a young person who has been through this abuse, she has evolved into an amazingly well adjusted adult. I'm impressed and wish her the best.
My father was schizophrenic and he died on the streets homeless as an alcoholic and serious chain smoker when I was 16! I am now 32. ♡ I had to search for siblings he had all over the US. I have found two out of 5 siblings so far. He was in the Navy and discharged because of mental illness long before he came across my Mother who also dealt with addiction my entire life and died 5 years ago from liver failure. Hepatitis C. A cure came out after she already had the damage. ♡ Life was interesting growing up to say the least. I have had to pick up every piece and put them all together. Its been quite the adventure. Every tragedy has the ability to become a triumph. ♡
❤
Your dad was a Targeted individual look at a Barrie Trower interview and Brian Kofron.
@@cambibambi3746 Korfsnagel, that's ducked like ayg
She seems so sweet she looks like interesting laid back person her ex lost a sweetheart
So she’s perfect, right?? I bet she had no red flags at all ..lmao ..his worse fear came true (her finding another guy at work) yet he’s the crazy schizophrenic??? Idk if it’s the schizophrenia in me but I think she was cheating on him with Mason …😂😂😂😂
@@skumbum3711 no one is perfect he probably treated her like crap she's better off without him
@@skumbum3711 bro shut up pls
U don’t even kno her lmfaoo simp
He's still yelling at his shadow about how much he misses her.
My brother had paranoid schizophrenia and he eventually committed suicide in a really graphic way. My Mom told me *he* felt like he was a danger to others. Throughout our adult years, I always knew something was wrong but I never personally saw the dangerous side of him-however, I know anything is possible. It's better he's gone than locked up in a jail cell for life-that would break my heart even more. I wish he had proper support and could have opened up to me about what was going on.
My heart goes out to this young woman and I'm so glad she got out of that relationship. Saying this as someone who also had an abusive ex...It is hard to love someone with mental illness, because you can't save them or allow them into your life at your own expense. I wish this world had better supports for people who can't see thru the fog, but we definitely can't do it for them.
And also to add. Mental health services are inaccessible to the ones that need it most
I can empathize with her. If you're a child and no one has taught you about healthy vs. unhealthy relationship boundaries and behaviors it's hard to know what is normal and what's not in your first relationship. Though our experiences are different, I was in a very abusive relationship from 15-20. Gabrielle I hope you use this experience to empower you and let you know what you will never put up with again. Don't feel shame or guilt for staying as long as you did, you did the best you could with what you had. You're a very strong woman!
It's such a sad illness because you can't trust yourself to see or hear what's real and what's not. That's so scary. Thanks again Mark for giving people a voice 💜
And they say nothing positive
EVERYTHING "today" kind of falls into the " is it real or not" category !
@@plutoplatters I feel you.
It really is hard to know reality from delusion because the transition is swift and unnoticeable. I try to stick to facts data and patterns as a means of staying grounded
@@michaelstewart3986 u smk weed ?
She's a beautiful soul. My mom has severe paranoid schizophrenia. I relate to her a lot. You can tell she tries her hardest to show up for life even though it's a lot sometimes. There's pain behind all the laughter, but it takes a good heart to just *take it and be honest and deal with it* instead of putting it on other people.
Her laughing is not pain it is nervous laughing.
@@nataliesmith8336 can you kind of try to see...thats a form of pain. You can maybe like different words for it, sure.
My ex as well..... hard to watch an educated person spin tales that are impossible
@@shoretyus it's so hard because you know you can't change their mind. When you love someone it's not always easy to just look away. Or look away in general. You can't always fix everything for everyone. That's the lesson I'm trying to learn
@@PocketSand89 two kids with her .... nothing in them .. so far
I’d love to hear more about HER in another interview if possible! Great interview.
She is talking about herself, a huge moment in time, from her own experience…I also hear what you’re saying…I’d like to hear more. 👍🏼
Are u jessie??
Yes me too. She is so intelligent and articulate. Interesting girl! I wish her well.
@@evolvegoten9832 who are you asking?
@@evolvegoten9832 Not funny. It takes Years to heal after living through this kind of trauma.
My mum had schizoaffective disorder that came on when I was 8, watching someone change was so difficult.
I ended up dating a 24 year old when I was 15 briefly, then a 22 year old when I was 16. I didnt learn what gaslighting and all the parts of emotional abuse and red flags till I was 19. I was 18 when I entered the most abusive relationship I was in, he was a year older. The same thing, cheating, show him the texts and make me feel crazy.
Same thing again. When I was 16, my first time, I was asleep, I woke up. My country 16 is legal. He tried to say I was going stuff in my sleep.
I made justifications too.
It's horrifying how common these things are, it has always made me so sad to know my experiences are not unique. Each man I experienced who was that much of a sadistic soulless horror is not unique..
This was so relatable. I am so glad she got away and her life is so different now.
A sweet girl like her attracted that crazy narcissist like a moth to a flame. I wish I learned about toxicity at 18-19 yrs old. Seems like she has her head on straight with a good outlook on things. Thanks for sharing your story Gabriella
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She's also very vulnerable. She may not realize it, but the whole time she got involved with dangerous people, such as her best friend's meth addict mom and her older, abusive boyfriend, her mom doesn't seem to try to protect her or tell her that these people are up to no good.
S O …… WOW I like your analogy “ like a moth to a flame “ I’ve never looked at it from that perspective….. pretty basic. Yet extremely accurate. I guess old dogs ( meaning myself ) can learn . Thank you 😊 Gabriella, you are a beautiful young lady with a amazing loving heart and soul . I wish you all the best you most definitely deserve it . 💜
My grandfather was schizophrenic - him and my grandma were married for 50 years, he just passed, but they had beautiful children, a beautiful family and a good life. Hard times, but they were soulmates.
Thank you for sharing. Schizophrenia is a broad spectrum, not everyone affected is going to be like Jessie. There are wonderful people with this diagnosis. Although it is true that life is not always going to be easy for them and those around them.
This was a hard one to listen to , as I also went through a toxic relationship a few years ago. Sooo many similarities, it was just haunting to hear your story. The gaslighting, the cheating, lying, the attempts at isolation, being one way so everyone around him thought he was charming and completely different with just us. He also had mental health issues coupled with addiction issues (alcohol and sex.) It's all about control. The biggest thing I learned from that was do not ignore red flags and if I feel my spidey senses going off that something is wrong, it is. So glad you got out Gabrielle and wishing you all the best for the future, there IS better out there and you deserve better. As do I. Peace and calm your direction
Its not toxic relationship if ur mentaly ill thats u sticking around unless they go out of there way to hurt not just illousins ur the one putting urself in danger by dating domeone with mental issuses
@@imnotatryhard3105 For the people affected, it is toxic! Stop telling people how they should feel or label their relation!
@@yeseniah7373 As I understand It, It is different being in a toxic relationship than having a relationship with a mentally ill person. One acts conciously while the other is not in control of his thoughts and behaviour.
Wow. Im literally going through this right now. There's been cheating, lots of lying. Admittance on his half quite fast when we started dating that hat he's charming and can get people to do what he wants. He said it word for word and that raised a big red flag. He will lie straight through his teeth to me. Everyday I think about it and it hurts. It's hard. There's good parts, but I'm hurting so much and so anxious. Extra depressed. He told me he had schizophrenia the first time I caught him cheating. I can't believe I stayed. When he told me I decided to give him a second chance still, foolishly, because it was early on and I sdeal with depression and anxiety so I didn't want to reject him for his mental health health issues struggle with the same. He's lied to me several times since and I've caught him flirting with other girls and his coworkers via messages that he deletes. It's so hard. He spoils me and let's me live a comfortable life in his house but the manipulation is horrific. I was wary of him and questioned the red flags and was scared of him being manipulative from the start. I know better now and to be way less trusting of people and to trust my gut. I don't think this will last or was meant to.
@@killianson85 From the person at the receiving end, there is no difference. Are you going to tell the Gabrielle her feelings and opinions are invalid because, as you understand it, the person is mentally ill? If he is, he be taking meds or be put in an institution, not be out and about hurting people mentally or physically.
I dated a schizophrenic. He ruined my mind and my heart. Our son is 11 in August, I got pregnant at 18, I still don't think I'm over the things he did to me. I related vividly and cried. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. She is a beautiful soul. ❣️
I was thinking, "oh to be 22 again!" In reality I definitely would not want to be 22 again in 2022! Sadly, crazy times & only getting crazier! Wishing this lady (& her generation) the best♡ They're going to need it
it's not the times.. yes and no.
Agreed, I'd like to go back and be a teen in 1996 again though. 🙌
💗💗
Exactly
Thanks? I’m 21 😳
I love this. Interviewing the partners of people with mental illness. My husband has bipolar 1 and this made me feel not so alone. Thanks mark
His disorder is not an excuse to abuse you. You are NOT obligated to stay
@@MelisJoy She never said she was being abused…
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Im bipolar and fighting hard to be a good parent and housband...it is good for now there is hope
I’m bipolar 2 and moods fluctuate high and low, happy and angry. It’s shitty and can be scary at times but medication helps.
Her first real traumatic experience as a young adult… I’m just curious how her mother let all this happen under her watch. Very interesting. Even the mother allowing her to be watched by a “meth user” ..
I was thinking the same
The mother was probably a nice person, but also a spineless pushover.
Nah you don't know their story don't assume shit just listen
@@martinmummert5614 Why do people get online and assume they know something like this about a completely stranger? Obviously a flawed parent, but ????
Christian families are very spineless. And don't stand up for themselves.
I love her positive attitude! One nitpick: "I brought crazy into [mom's] home" is not fair to herself. Mom was responsible.
💯 her own daughter was being raped and beaten under her own roof… sad her friend was the one to tell her something wasn’t normal
Facts and that's an important thing you pointed out. She beared the responsibility and burden of something that wasn't hers to carry in the first place.
yes it sounds like she was majorlx failed by all adults, including the guy's uncle and aunt.
Right, mom let a 17 year olds 22 year old boyfriend live with them. Something ain’t right here
Sometimes you don't realize you have trauma until you hear about someone else's. Wishing the best for this girl, she deserves the world. Thank you mark
I don’t understand how her mom seemed to have been fairly oblivious to this toxic relationship of hers. She lived with them both, what gives? I’m not trying to judge her (the mom), or her. Trying to understand. But family dynamics are very complicated. She is well spoken and intelligent. I’m glad she was able to get out of the relationship ship and I hope Jesus / Jesse got help.
You don't know if the mom was oblivious. Better to have them nearby than trying to break them up to no success
@Tammy mathis and then what? Tell a 17 yo girl to stop seeing the guy she is infatuated with? Then the girl leaves the house?!gets pregnant? Obviously you don't have kids? Or you do and they do all sorts of things behind your back?
Some moms are stoopid
Or dont care
Or maybe she was banging him too
@@CarlosSDCA not all kids just leave some listen
@@Qwackdawack and you know very well the girl in this video to opine that she is the one to listen? Out of a 20 min video? A lot of people here judging the mom without knowing the whole story. Or failing to realize that people are different and not all moms have controlling power over their children.
"I have learned to dip after one red flag." That's so smart, Gabrielle.. wish I'd learned that one in my early 20's. Your life will rock because you learned that lesson so young. 💯 *hugs*
That’s not a healthy relationship habit
@@deadeye9059 agreed.
I’ve learned to dip after a few big red flags. Like drinking too much and anger.
How do you even have any friends if you “dip after one red flag?” Not everyone does everything perfectly
@@Redrash12 red flags are very different to someone just making a mistake. When you've been in an abusive relationship where your life is threatened, being able to recognise & react to red flags is a very valuable skill.
I went though something so so similar when I was 22-25 and I have never heard a story that made me feel like I wasn’t alone in my experiences. Down to the details, this story sounds so similar to mine. Thank you for sharing
Hearing this brought me back to a horrible time in my life with a person who had an addiction and was abusive in so many ways, you are so strong Gabrielle, we made it through! Moving away and going to college set me free! I wish I could tell my story but I wouldn’t want my family to know honestly 😕
As a recovering schizophrenic I find this very embarrassing. I was diagnosed at 15 from having auditory hallucinations and snapped out of my delusions at 19. I can’t blame schizophrenics like myself for this behavior, but for myself it’s almost very hurtful to have this stereotype always put on me that I’m always not "right". I feel like since I was diagnosed at such a young age that it gave me an advantage with recovery with my hallucinations, and I can see myself being lost in hallucinations if i started hallucinating at a later age and if I wasn’t such a social butterfly. I haven’t been to a hospital in 4 years, and I’m almost 24 now.
She did say his parents never paid any attention to his mental decline. He never got help. It's super that you got help early in your disease & your mind is better for it. Wishing you continued wellness & success in your life. Maybe someone who's suffering or a parent with a kid with mental illness will see your story & get help for their loved one & know there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
Yeah, I feel the same way. I have schizoaffective and I’ve never treated anyone that way, but I have been in an abusive relationship.
This guy has some undiagnosed personality disorder (NPD or PPD) which also come with psychotic breaks.
Hey this might be a personal question but what treatments did you use for your schizophrenia. I get auditory hallucinations from time to time. I would greatly appreciate it thank you.
@@mightjaazuz4348 I personally couldn’t rely on myself in such a hopeless mindset to take a pill everyday so after about 2 years of my psychiatrist recommending a extended release shot I decided to try it. The injection was my last option, and it worked wonders. I currently don’t even take medication anymore after being on the Aristada injection for about 3 years.
She's such a sweet young lady! I love the way she punctuates some of her experiences with a smile and exasperation. The world can be cruel, but she has hope.
I’ve been in a very similar situation with a long term relationship with my ex Girlfriend. And so much of your story exactly happened to me. But instead of schizophrenia it was Bipolar. The part that brought a lot out was the doing things for sympathy and I remember going through that same moment of “I don’t even care anymore” with so many feigned suicide, swallowing pills. Crying to make you feel bad. It gets old eventually. I was in my relationship for 3 years with both physical and emotional abuse. And it made me a different person. And I’m sure you went through a lot of self discovery after the relationship ended. Finding out what went wrong. How hurt you truly are. Accepting the relationship you have had for however long. You truly doubt yourself at first until you come to the realization that the other person was so truly toxic that your responses are justified. What’s crazy with all of this is how similar your experience was to mine. I also had someone come into my life who gave the outside perspective and she showed me truly how bad and toxic my relationship was. Something I can’t appreciate enough from her. And she truly gave me the strength and confidence to end it because like you I was scared of what she would do it made me dread leaving her even though I know I needed to. I tried to leave so many times and she would get on her knees and beg me uncontrollably sobbing to me telling me she will kill herself if I do. It took my current girlfriend to show me what normal is, something I couldn’t be more happy about. My advice to anyone who is or wants to date someone with disorders like bi polar and schizophrenia, if they aren’t stable and they don’t have complete control. Stay away, trust me the pain and suffering that comes with being in a toxic relationship like that is so much more than you know and a lot of times you feel crazy like there is something wrong with you, you justify there actions because that’s the only way to cope, because you cannot accept the situation you are in. Anyways great story, it truly touched my heart and best of luck you seem like a great person and deserve so much better than to be in an abusive relationship.
Healthy and balanced parents dont allow their daughter to spend significant amounts of time with a friend and their family that are addicts and have a home that is a 'shambles'. Her parents played an active role in her being trafficked for sure...I had/have relationship very similar to Gabrielle's and Jesse's with a man I ended up having a daughter (Helena) with. The past 12 years been a living hell to say the least, but Helena has literally saved my life and been a ray of shining hope for both of us in more ways than one.
Must be nice to have healthy and balanced parents
@@juliettezea9507 it doesn't just happen. It is hard work. Something people don't really wanna do this day and age.
This doesn't include the downward moral spiral this country/world has been in for quite some time now. Yet people are still surprised at how things go bad when parent's let the "world" raise their kids.
I hope you're out of that relationship. I know how difficult it is to get away safely. Especially when you have a child.
My daughter was a preschooler and I was in an abusive relationship.
@@Helter195 Take time to think! You really think she meant that negatively?
@@juliettezea9507 Oh, stop! You're overreacting.
She sounded like she was about to crack in every word she said through the entire interview... I hope she has a much better life today and is super happy with her new friend Mason. I wish her all the best!
how did she not cry through all of this?! Just wow! Damn. She's a tough one.
It’s crazy hearing you Gabrielle because I relate to almost everything you went through besides the trafficking.
I got into a relationship with a 26 year old when I was 19. I was a legal adult at the time but definitely can see the difference now that I’m 25. And it was a horribly abusive relationship. I was sexually assaulted by him too. But it was only once. And any time I brought it up he just made me think I was crazy. I also realized no one really cared and it was something I needed to work through on my own. Which I did. And I had a child with him. Which the aftermath was one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with because he took every chance he could to use my child against me and make me feel Like I was a terrible mother for not letting him see her, when he would only agree to see her if I was there so he could beg me to be with him again, and when I said no, he’d threaten to practically force me. Threatened rape, to come to my house, to call cps and lie about me, which he actually did once. and he was on meth which only made him more abusive. And I wouldn’t subject my daughter to that chaos. but it was so worth it in the end because I love my child more than life itself. And now that he’s gotten bored and realized I’m no longer in his grasp, he barely even calls to check in on her. I got through it. And I’m so glad you did as well. It makes you stronger but it sure does give you a different perspective on the world and how relationships work. I hope you’re doing well. I applaud you for digging yourself out and coming out the other side. It’s not easy. Some people feed off of your soul and your pain. I’ll never let anyone else do it to me again.
I’m in a similar situation like yours now. I have 2 kids with him and he called police, cps on me. He tries very hard to make me feel I’m the worst mom. I live in fear since I don’t know what he can do or capable of doing. My worst fear is he won’t ever leave us alone because he loves the kids so much. I don’t know what to do😢
She's so beautiful and polite.
Fascinating story. I hope its cautionary to others in relationships with mental health issues. Hopefully we can learn from her experience.
Its a lot for someone her age at the time to go through.
@Benjamin David Lurie another racist comment from bengay
Why do you people always have to talk about appearance or looking beautiful? What does that have to do with anything?
@@apolloniusbeitsman5444 because there degenerates
3 yrs in a relationship with a person with mental health issues,is her fault..she was young aged,naive and made bad decisions.
@@frankroyce9946 no she went for a handsome chad and now she wants a betabuxx
She's lucky, close call. A friend of mine also schizophrenic always accused us friends, of stealing stupid things from his house. But he would get this dangerous look in his face.
I too have developed a look post episode. The things you see and hear during psychosis will change you. At this point I'm not sure my life will ever be the same
@@michaelstewart3986 :(
@@michaelstewart3986 stay strong my friend, are you taking medication?
all these videos they say they had a fairly normal upbringing and then proceed to say the most fucked things that happened to them when they were young. so crazy.
Always a plot twist..
Well, the mom let the boyfriend move in so, another video on Mark’s channel where the parents failed their child.
@Benjamin David Lurie I'm sure if she is that she's definitely on the lookout for someone in the youtube comments, you might be in luck @Benjamin David Lurie
When it normally happens, it's normal unfortunately...
@Benjamin David Luriehey bruv yea she's single but she told me she hates racism and since you made a racist comment with the goya beans because the man maybe Latino. she said you can stay single benji aye mate stay on that side of the pound ok bruv
what kind of mom lets a 21 yr old move in with there 17 yr old daughter in there house? that in itself is bizarre as hell ...
What's up with all the negative comments? It's like people don't realize she was a teenager when they met...
Lack of empathy, or inability to process empathy
It's interesting to me that
when a teenager makes a bad decision
that the other party is instantly guaranteed to receive the brunt of the blame every time.
Takes 2 to tango.
Even if you're young and stupid
I'm going to hold You accountable
for what You chose to participate in
at least to Some extent!
Being 17 is not a
☆Get out of Bad Moral Decisions
By Blaming Naivety☆ card.
@@aIysssa
I haven't defended the actions of
Jesus or "Jesse".
All I'm saying is that she's not blameless
for the role she consensually played
just because she was one year away from legal adulthood.
@@aIysssa
Age of consent varies by state.
In the state of Texas
you can be tried for a crime
AS AN ADULT
at the tender age of 17.
17 is not a child- that's all I'm sayin!
@@aIysssa
That's a broad statement
that does not fit my circumstance.
I date 18 and 19 year olds.
Did you just throw up a little in your mouth?
I DON'T CARE🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Being gaslit it's incredibly destructive to one's mental stability. I'm so glad you were able to acknowledge the red flags and peel yourself away from this man. As we can only truly change ourselves.
@Young Nino her ex also seems to have cluster b personality disorder ( narcissist, borderline, histrionic, psychopath). Why are you so angry?
I know behind her nervous laugh there is a lot of pain. It takes a lot of emotional detachment in order to survive that situation.
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Schizophrenia is creepy as it on sets. People seem to know at first they are crazy then it turns to " I thought I was crazy but now I know what's really going on" My best friend lost it and we all lost him. It was so sad.
Yea and when they buy into their own conspirancy that everybody else is the liar and "in on it" they are gone forever...
@@m00nrac00n Whats conspiracies gotta do with schizophrenia?
I saw that in more typical, temporary psychosis. Luckily, another revelation is very possible 'wait, I'm not crazy anymore'. My bf was petrified he had schizophrenia when he was lucid when he had an episode of psychotic depression. He is better than ever now, he has had depression almost his whole life, is on a new, better medication. You could hardly convince him of anything during that time. Now he can hardly remember it, and I've asked him questions about what was going on with him he couldn't tell me then and he can't tell me now, he doesn't think that way anymore.
I am the one who remembers most of it. God, the apologies I have gotten! Poor man. It was very, very hard but I felt I had to help because nobody else was truly supporting him, and I had this hard moment where I was almost forced to tell his mother the true extent and send him to the hospital, hope he didn't decide to hate me or get worse, other ramifications, when he started to get better. I had literally said to myself 'you have to watch him closely the next two, three days and if he doesn't improve you can't wait any longer' and the next day he had started his new med I think and it was jarring how quickly everything had changed again. He saw clearly he had not been thinking right. It had been a long time since he laughed or smiled genuinely, I would say the entire episode, it was a crazy moment when he smiled. In a way I have no issue with him pursuing his mental health without telling me because that was such a relief in one moment, I had been planning on hardly sleeping (had done so plenty) and he straight up told me he had no intention any longer of harming himself, etc. He got his new perscription in secret and had finally decided to take it.
He broke up with me because one of his delusions was that I was all his problems and his ex was not abusive (f that b)
@@sanandreasX You got it twisted. It's "What's schizophrenia gotta do with conspiracies?" and it is the fact that people with schizophrenia may be more likely to believe in conspiracies because of their symptoms, which can include paranoia and delusions. Additionally, people with schizophrenia may be more likely to isolate themselves and to be distrustful of others, which could also contribute to their belief in conspiracies.
My father had schizophrenia he took his life about 2 months ago. He developed schizophrenia from his drug addiction. He had been addicted to drugs since childhood and later on it ended up fcking up his brain. He didn't beileve he was crazy he thought he was the only one who could see the truth. The early signs I saw from him was probably when he was in his 20s or 30s he developed a strange accent it almost sounded brittish. He also believed In a lot of conspiracies early on He thought he saw aliens and that he could speak to ghosts my mom and I didn't really think anything of that. But then he started thinking people were following him and stalking him it would get to the point where he'd board up his windows he lived with his parents and they could never see the people he was talking about. He even ran through a river because he claimed there were dogs after him and he didn't want them to catch his scent.
Holy shit!!! I had an ex-fiancé that acted like this AND was narcissistic. This is exactly what happened to me from 17-20. So so awful. Abused. I'm so glad I got away when I did, even if he made me lose everything. I'm a survivor and you are as well. Sending love.
I watch these videos daily and this one really resonated with me. This girl literally is me 5 years ago when I was dating my ex. I justified every shitty thing he did to me and really only ended up hurting myself by not taking a step back and realizing how harmful the relationship really was. She’s so innocent and sweet and still smiles talking about the situation besides all the trauma she faced.
Yes, schizophrenia definitely runs in families. The hereditary aspect is very high (can’t remember if it’s 50% or more chance to inherit if a parent has it). Also, love her laugh. She is a sweet girl. Hopefully this lesson will protect her from the red flags in the future.
this sounds so much like my first relationship..... I was 19, she was 25 and an incredibly abusive narcissist. I think that the real factor that made me ( and likely Gabrielle ) so vunerable was isolation and a total lack of frank discussion in the home or at school about sex and relationships. I was diagnosed autistic last year as well, and unfortunately I've come to realize that played heavily into warping my idea of 'normal'.
Best to you going forward, Gabrielle.
I was 14 and this dude was 21 he was short and lied about his age
Autistic have a oversized amygdala so they're less fearful in the eyes of the sociopath that's why it's easier to ignore alerting stuff. He was a sociopath probably
I think the term Gabrielle was looking for when you asked her if she had previously considered herself to be in love with “Jesse” was, ‘trauma bonding’.
Took a little while for me to differentiate between that type of bond, & truly loving someone.
I wish nothing, but the very absolute best for her.
💜
*How* did we graze over the topic of her being 'trafficked' ???
Yeah..
That whole different video
cus mark tends to do that, ask weird questions and ignore some of the more concerning things😊
but something like that is really personal and traumatic maybe for the better
This dude didn’t have to be drunk to take advantage of a young girl that was just his excuse and his family just defends him blaming the alcohol
I'm still wondering why the incident wasn't reported. Schizophrenia or not, rape is rape. If he'd done something like that to a female relative of mine, schizophrenia would have been the LEAST of his issues.
Love what you do, giving people a voice, it’s important. Thanks.
Your clarity in what you've been through, shows strength & healing. Hope your new life experiences bring you joy.
I watch this channel everyday I am greatful for Mark giving a voice to people who normally don't get a massive platform he's incredible when I'm not struggling with money I want to subscribe to his subscription channel
What a very cool and down to earth human she is. Her stories were so disheartening to hear. I'm sure this took a lot of undoing and therapy. I hope Gabrielle continues to thrive and finds exactly what she's looking for.
She seems like a down to earth person. Too bad she didn't see the red flags back then. Thank God he didn't do somethg really crazy to her and her mom. After his hospital stay they shldve told him he couldn't come back to their place. People always pay attention to red flags in all situations. It doesn't matter if you are male or female. Thanks Mark!
My brother in law was living with my ex and our kids a few years ago. He had schizophrenia. I was always sympathetic until he stopped talking his meds. Almost all schizophrenic sufferers are non violent, but we drew the short end of the stick. He started threatening my 5 year old daughter about stealing quarters from his nightstand and claiming that my 10 year old son was washing his bed sheets to get back at him. My ex (wife) and her brothers and sisters kept telling me it's ok. And then one she came over with Mikey and Adriana crying and said that when she went to pick them up from her Mom's house it was crazy. Her brother was trying to stab her other brother and ended up actually stabbing him. And then the cops came and he fought them. Now he's doing 8 years in Huntsville. And my kids were in the car and saw it all. The end lol.
@@michaelmolitor1888 "lol"???????? UM
@@solistardust33 sometimes in hindsight you just kinda laugh at the worst situations ... lol
I dealt with this for 6 years.. all the accusations, the constant supervision, the aggression, the rape, the downright hatred, the delusions, the lies... I feel for you girl ❤ I made so many mistakes and ran past all the red flags. It wasn't normal, I normalized it. He was never diagnosed, but he had all these symptoms. It's so scary to leave, but it feels so amazing once you can breathe.
My father had schizophrenia he took his life about 2 months ago. He developed schizophrenia from his drug addiction. He had been addicted to drugs since childhood and later on it ended up fcking up his brain. He didn't beileve he was crazy he thought he was the only one who could see the truth. The early signs I saw from him was probably when he was in his 20s or 30s he developed a strange accent it almost sounded brittish. He also believed In a lot of conspiracies early on He thought he saw aliens and that he could speak to ghosts my mom and I didn't really think anything of that. But then he started thinking people were following him and stalking him it would get to the point where he'd board up his windows he lived with his parents and they could never see the people he was talking about. He even ran through a river because he claimed there were dogs after him and he didn't want them to catch his scent. He had been abusing my mom for years before they split up.
May I ask why you stayed so long.... love? Thanks
I recently left a 15-year relationship with my ex, who's schizophrenic and got mean, nasty, and violent.
He fully stopped his injections for his illness yet upped his Adderall usage which is NOT a good combo for someone who already has paranoia and delusions.
About a week or 2 before he was arrested for domestic violence he threatened to kill me. Our 14yo caught everything over the phone
And then one night he believed 8 was stealing his SSDI check, 🙄 which, I wasn't. But he also believed there were people in our walls.
Well, one cold Jan night he ended up punching me incredibly hard and then he put me in a chokehold and nearly killed me. If my eldest wouldn't have scratched, bit, and kicked him till he let go of me and my nieghbors called the cops.
I probably would not be here...
l am diagnosed with PTSD, severe social anxiety, and depression although that's gotten better, I even managed to stay in recovery for 6yrs I've been sober from pain meds.
Before that the verbal abuse was awful he would also do what "Jesse" did to her in her sleep...
So many things sound identical to what happened to me.
My ex also has never been held accountable.
His parents bailed him out, blamed me, and even blamed our kids!
Now, he was just put on probation for what he did back in January.
I have a civil protection order for myself and my kids, and for the first time in 15 years, I live alone with my kids, of course. But it's so nice to for once not have to walk on eggshells and my kids are safe and thriving.
gabrielle, wow i am in awe of you, i know you will never see this but i cannot express how stunned i am in the way you took this situation, and especially how you changed after, your reactions to this with smiles and laughs shows how strong you are. how you have overcome all this is so inspiring and i hope you end up finding what you deserve!
Had a similar experience when I was 16, I was in an outpatient program for teens with mental health and substance abuse problems, it was a month long program that you attended after being discharged from the pysch hospital, then once the 3 weeks were done, you'd return to your regular school. The program was 2 hours of group counseling, 3 hours of school, lunch, arts and crafts, more group counseling than dinner. It was 8 hours a day. After being in the pysch hospital and this outpatient program with the group of kids i was with for so much time, they felt like long time friends. We all knew each other's traumas and problems so of course we got super close to one another and even dated. I started dating a boy in the program even though dating between patients was not allowed. I never actually knew his official diagnosis but knew manic depressive was one. His mom had addiction issues and didn't really care about him so often he'd come home with me when my mom would pick me up from the program. He'd often stay a few days. One day he mentioned he forgot his medication at home, he lived pretty far but still my mom offered to take him to get it. He refused. Following day he was complaining that he didn't feel well, so my mom drove him to get his meds but his mom was not home and there was no way he could get in his house. The following day he was like a different person. He joked about stomping on my pet turtle and slitting my cats throat. I got angry at these "jokes " and we got into our 1st argument. He was saying the sickest, cruelest things to me and suddenly picked up scissors and pushed me against the wall and had them pointed at my stomach, he looked me dead in the eyes and said "I could kill you right now, then your mom, pets and myself" I managed to push him away and run out of the room, he followed apologizing and laughing saying it was just a joke. We sat in the living room silent with my mom watching TV, i waited till he fell asleep and told my mom and she grabbed me, our pets and locked us in my room with the door barricaded and the cordless phone with us. The following morning we had 2 of my eldest brothers friends drive my boyfriend home. Then my mom called the police and after he was arrested, his mother called saying she was in the mafia and was going to have the whole mob get us. We did not take that serious considering his mom was a meth addict and also had a slew of mental health problems. We also found out my boyfriend had a police record of arson, assault, rape and a few other things I can't recall. Our case went to court and i had to testify . He got a year in juvenile detention. Don't know what became of him after that, this was 23 years ago, I'm still friends with a lot of the kids,( now adults) who I was hospitalized with and in the outpatient program with, and in all of these years, none of them have heard from or seen my ex either. Its like he fell off the earth. After that we were super cautious about who we let stay with us, which wasn't the case prior. My mom was the type of mom who if one of my brothers or I's friends had a bad home life or was a runaway, my mom would let them stay with us. As a result, growing up our house was always full of kids and teens. They could stay as long as they wanted and it was usually a blast. Only thing my mom asked for was respect and to help around the house. After my ex did what he did however, we all were a lot more cautious about who we let stay in our home. Unfortunately, you just never know what a person is capable of.
Thanks for your story.
Your mom let a dude you met in a pych hospital date you and come stay at your house and you do not think your mom had any blame in that situation ? Your mom was moronic for that ( coming from some one whos mom is/was super neglectful and not a good mom)
10:15 Mine onset at age 18. 18-25 is relative onset for men.
I was all set for college and getting ready be in my photography class and suddenly the white walls started to show images and and it was getting unbearable and I went to the main office. Her response was..."When you grow up, you can come back". A year later I found literature and now 36, I'm on my way to publishing 14 novels. It is a lifelong illness but I have come very very far since pretty much half my life ago.
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Thank you for sharing! I have only ever fell in love with men with Schizophrenia or Bipolar Disorder. My dad has like 3 personality disorders so it set me up for this life. Some of us were raised to love the hard people. I'm a hard person too. I'm Bipolar and have Borderline Personality Disorder.
14 novels? Can I message you about this I’m an inspiring writer and would love to talk more
currently navigating those age brackets and felt a similarity. congratulations on your hard fought and well deserved success!
Did you stabilize with meds? So many people won’t take them & it really affects others around them.
Watching this was like whiplash. My first serious relationship was with somebody who had schizophrenia. When I was dating him everybody I knew just got mad at me, and “lost respect” for me because I didn’t want to leave. But when you’re in a relationship like that, it’s hard because you end up feeling like that person needs you.
It’s scary how similar her experiences are to mine. Down to him not having a drivers license, bringing up delusions, and the cheating. Even having sex with a 14 year old, like im losing my mind over the similarities.
Literally the only details that are different are the people involved.
The worst part is that, his whole family knew, and none of them told me that he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. He wasn’t even on medication, and they knew how he was and what he was capable of, and they told me nothing. They just let me learn and deal with everything first hand, at 16 lmao.
I had an ex girlfriend who said that voices were telling her that i was a good guy and then voices telling her I was out to get her. Scary relationship to say the least but my heart goes out to these individuals who suffer from this disease.
It's a truly terrible disease....and their mind
actually tells them to get off their meds because they are fine...God heal them all 🙏🙏🙏
I grew up with a schizophrenic father and this story was fairly accurate and horrifying at the same time. I seen things, but it makes me wonder of what I didn't see, but my mother did.... As a kid I hated my dad thinking he was choosing to act how he did, but when I became an adult I saw that it was beyond his control.... Being the son of a schizophrenic is one thing, but to be with someone who is a schizophrenic is another...
I wish people would understand that it's beyond our control most of the time. If we were in our right mind and understood what we did we would stop. The man in this video is insane. He believed that he was god and other things that's makes him legally not capable of making sound decisions.
Some people are able to keep mental illness in check and it barely affects them and their significant other. It's not always a nightmare.the guy she dated just seems like a jerk not necessarily bc he was schizophrenic. Cheating isn't a side effect of schizophrenia. Neither is hiding a girl from your family. Or blaming things on your illness. A real man takes responsibility, regardless of his flaws.
My son is a chronically homeless paranoid schizophrenic, he started to get worse around 19-20 years old, he is almost 42 now. Some do deflect and try to blame others for their behavior. A conversation with them means you are engaging with the illness, not the person. Gabrielle is a beautiful soul, she has learned a valuable lesson. Best of luck to her.
I'm so sorry you're going through this with your son... I can only imagine how much you worry about him...
That’s so fucked up that you’re saying having a conversation with anyone who has schizophrenia is talking to an illness not a person. Not all of “them” are the same. My partner has schizophrenia and he doesn’t blame anyone for anything or have bad behaviour. I feel sorry for your son, he could’ve had treatment and been better if maybe you had supported him and not engaged in stigmatising his illness
@@girliek8030 Well, if you dont like someones deeply personal experiences, then you rather might want to go f. Yourself and not tell people who know what they talk about that they say f-ed Up things. I very Well understand why this person said this - after years of going out of our way to help these people and support them, we just come to understand that they just use us and dont value anything that we had done for them. And we can just invest the energy into ourselves because no one will - certainly not these people. I know why I say this.
You let your son be homeless?
@@Be_An_Esther anyone who has a family member with such mental illness can borrow the person to you - after a few months I guarantee you will be totally exhausted, or some ilness will be triggered in your body from stress, or you would have a broken arm or something, you will be afraid for your safety and the person would be lying to you constantly. I did things for my brother no one else did, I risked my own life when battling filthy drug dealers who looked at me sleazily and wanted to do wrong to me. Then I realised how my brother lied to me for years and what level of intense hatred and loathing he feels towards me just because I tried and succeded to have a normal life after worse experiences he ever had. You will be just done. I am very surprised someone does not understand it. My brother does not have to pay for the roof over his head, for food, for car insurances etc, he enjoys vacations with family, and he blows Up his welfare money in a week and then he asks the family for money or services. Everyone I know with mental illness acts this way, they abuse the diagnosis to just leech at whoever they Can, and are ungrateful and occasionally attack their family. Even people with no mental illness but on welfare constantly try to con anyone nearby for money, I dont know any exceptions. You Can think what you want. Edit: there are also responsible people among mentally ill people who heed the advise of their psychiatrists and dont do the opposite of what they should. There are even famous people among them, actors with the bipolar disorder and you dont see them doing anything erratic or downright scary. But if someone wants to get drunk in such a way that f.e. they attack their family members, or, sorry that I must say it, they are in such a state they shit while they walk, would you keep the person around your children? And there are many videos of homeless people who want to be homeless and have health problems they do not want to manage - how would you force the people to be different? I guarantee such people would make you and all the family members just husks of their former selves.
I think these interviews are really important for the person being interviewed. To be able to go back to in ten years and see the way you used to think and perceive the world. Something with great sustenance. Well done.
We're the same age and have extremely similar stories so i'm empathizing so much with her right now. I'd love to travel and get a tattoo from her, i'd cherish it forever.
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Some people can hide their sadness and pain very well. And some can't. And this girl cannot. I can feel her choking on it in the first couple minutes.
I didn't read pain but I did read nerves and insecurities.
@@nataliesmith8336 Agree
Agreed. Her body language, nervous smiling/laughing tell me she wants the world to think she has it more together than she really does. I’m not shaming her for that, she is human & I’m sure doing the best she can - just like the rest of us. Hopefully with time & therapy she will embrace her worth and thrive. I’m rooting for her!! Thanks Mark, for helping to shed light on our darkness. Love your passion for both photography & humanity.
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What kind of mom just let this man move in with her very young daughter and allowed her to be treated like this? I know 18 is “legally” an adult but this poor girl was still a child and should have been protected. I was in a toxic relationship and my parents were one of the only things that got me out of it and always had my best interest at heart. This girl deserved better and someone should have done something to help her
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I'm sorry but alot of her story didn't add up, I'm sure some is true but a bunch of it didn't make any sense.
18 year olds are not children. Unless you grew up extremely sheltered, by 18 most should be able to live ordinary adult lives.
A bad one.
@@JMOlsen_ your wrong, 18 year olds brains are still developing.
She is beautiful and articulate. So glad that she got away from that. I hope that my children don't run into people who are abusive. I hope that the guy finds some help.
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I’m happy she got away from him without anything tragic happening. She seems smart and sweet. We’ve all been with toxic men, but what matters is that we were smart enough to not make the same mistake. God bless her. ❤️
Gabrielle - You're a great storyteller, and seem like you've got mad wisdom from your hell there, which is all you can really hope for coming through what you did.
I hope you have continued peace.
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When you're young and in love you don't see the red flags especially when it's your first relationship while you're still in High School... You now have to move on and use your past as a learning experience..she seems like a very caring girl and I hope she can use her past experience to look for red flags in her next relationship.. Such a good post, thanks again Mark!
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As a sister to a schizophrenic person, I hear her story. I understand the craziness and I’m glad she got out.
Wow, really hit home as a 50 year old male schizophrenic. I behaved in similar ways into my early 40's and am so embarrassed of my actions. I think age and excepting mental health help save me from hurting myself and others around me. I should of been kept behind bars till I was proven to be stable for a long term.
Bless your journey!!! Thank you for sharing 💕 I have a relative who was diagnosed. She gets violent tendencies. Outside of her illness-she is amazing!!! Loving, kind, compassionate. I always feel deeply for the come back she has to make and bridges she has to mend after episodes. Again... Bless your journey! I pray people with hearts ful of compassion aid you throughout your journey.
I'm in my 30s and I'm finding it difficult how ever I've been dealing with staying positive
I hope she finds true healthy love.
She's still so young and has a long life ahead. She is wiser now and can learn from her experienceses . Be happy. 🌞🌻
To have an ex that haunts your thoughts for days, weeks, months or even years on end sounds terrible. You want it to be easy to forget and not to deal with one who's crazy, jealous and stalking. And of course natural males are seen as more dangerous to deal with than females because of physicality but still I wouldn't take a female lightly. The fact that she's in your thoughts, pops up on your social media or keep spotting her from a distance is damaging enough.
Knew a girl once years back when I was working security guard at an electric store. She moved to (my) a new city to start all over and live save away from her crazy ex. It was her first day of the job where she worked at the coffee machine department. She showed and made clear that she has a police licensed pepper spray and permit papers to use so in her bag. That's how I checked her in on the personals list. At the end of her work day my colleague checked her out and noticed she was emotional when leaving. She never returned to work and we were notified that she had to move again to another city because her crazy ex was spotted in my city. Restraining orders don't do anything. It's just a piece of paper with some inkt on it. I can only hope she's now living years free of him.
I've been there girl in exactly the same position, exactly! You have a good heart and you have to realize you can't FIX HIM, now or ever. It's the hardest thing in the world to walk away. Thank goodness, you have your life and your mind, whole and intact.
My brother has dealt with Schizophrenia since he was 13 years old, now 30. It's been so hard on my parents. Thankfully he has a beautiful soul and non violent.
Red flags are just flags through rose tinted glasses girl 🚩it’s easy to miss them 😞
THANK YOU for sharing your story! I am so sorry you had to go through this.
You’re so strong and resilient and I am so glad you’ve experienced real love since Jessy ❤️
I dated a girl that was schizophrenic a few years back. She made me feel crazy myself, so many times. It’s almost unbelievable the things that their mind creates. Unfortunately, it does a lot of damage to the people they’re around. I finally had to call it quits after she had me feeling like I was the problem. Thank you for your story.🙏🏻
Just so you know schizophrenia is not contagious, and not everyone is like that
*SHE does a lot of damage to the people SHE'S around
Stop being a bigot.
@@CaalamusTubebe still and quiet!
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Its not just the schizophrenics who can do it. It's the whole double bind communication, gaslighting, trauma bond, etc etc manipulation and brainwashing which is a hallmark trait of most of the severe mental illnesses. It has to do with childhood cptsd and how they coped with the pathological behavior of their parents and became adjusted to them and thus inheriting an unique flavour to their own pathology. That's how trauma propagates. It's very complicated but very very simple if you dig deep enough and map trauma onto the dominant functioning mechanism of the dream.. ie limbic system dominance.. you want to the neo cortex dominant. Stay away from mentally ill people .. especially if they seem so very nice.
This is all too familiar. I was with a schizophrenic for almost two years and it was horrible. There were good moments when he wasn't having psychotic episodes but when he did, it was terrible. I have blocked him on everything, but even a couple years later, I still get his voicemails of him verbally abusing me. It's good to get out of these relationships and take care and love yourself.
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My mom had schizophrenia. She was a beautiful soul. She tried her best to be aware of her condition. I love her unconditionally
Schizophrenia is actually probably one of the most scariest mental illnesses a person can have
Thank you for sharing your story and not being ashamed. ❤
I was in a toxic relationship with a narcissist for 2.5 years before my family got wise and pulled me out. If you notice toxic behavior in someone else's relationship, SAY SOMETHING! Thank god for people like Mason. ❤
I had a psychosis as well. Thinking people were following me to kill me, paranoia etc. It's Hell really. Thank God that I'm doing well now. trying to learn to code and starting a small business. If you see people going through psychosis handle it seriously. Get them treatment asap. The sooner the better. :)
Agree! Communities need to learn how to be aware and not shrug off or enable instead of getting real help for someone when they are not aware.
My ex had psychosis twice. It’s heartbreaking, scary and confusing. For everyone.
My twin brother developed Schizophrenia in 2018 and it completely destroyed his life. no job, gained 200 pounds, and lives at home with my parents. Its a terrible terrible mental illness
My love to your family. How old was he when he developed the illness?
@@Blodia1990 thank you. And he was 22
@@Life1233_ You're welcome. This is extremely sad. My college buddy had schizophrenia onset at the same age. He was an extremely muscular smart athletic friendly dude whose entirely life is now a shell of what it could have been. I pray that one day mental illness will be a thing of the past. And I know that day is coming sooner rather than later. All the best to you and your family and to your brother.
My twin brother also had schizophrenia. He self medicated with m*th until od. Horrible disease.
@@Blodia1990 thank you sir. You as well