Went to high school with Liz. Hung out with her little brother a little bit. Had a slight inkling from him that things weren’t great at home, but had no idea it was that bad. I’m glad to hear you’re doing well now Liz
I went to TG schoo,l until maybe 2nd grade,and her Dad's church until I was maybe 11? I would have never thought this about him,so you just never know?!! I also had a crush on Liz when I was young!
I had a similar start minus sex abuse & religion. Me and my siblings were all punching bags. My disgusting dad was shocked when I didn’t go to his deathbed. Instead of going to his funeral, I enjoyed a peaceful day being grateful he was gone. Mom is an idiot who enjoys a comfortable retirement that she earned by looking the other way or shopped as our childhood was robbed. Today I am a nurse and happy after overcoming alcoholism. I have claimed my adulthood and my rough beginnings have become compassion and understanding for the hurt people I encounter. Unfortunately, my siblings have absorbed my dad’s narcissism and turned on me when I called our childhoods & dad what they were. Today, truth is my friend & I like my life.
This 'reading energy' aspect of trauma survival is called hyper vigilance. You almost become psychic in an attempt to stay safe..to stay out of trouble...so stressful and exhausting
@@thematriarchy2075 I understand + respect xx we can learn to embrace the wisdoms gained through trauma...(we may also want to be aware of this ability to 'cold read' others...it IS a skill but can become manipulative if we haven't also addressed the anger/pain/narcissism)
“If you give up being a martyr and victim you have to take responsibility.” This hit HARD. I will be thinking of this statement for awhile . I just realized how honest this statement is in my life
Not only but responsibility that word means: YOU gotta dO something. That changes everything cause the thing is on yOu then. It's all on you. Cant lean in2 or cringe in2 that daily nightly victim thing. You paralyze in2 that role. Until it almost kills you. Either way it's not easy
Her understanding that her brokenness was no place to be married and have kids is actually so genuine and I wish more people could understand that for themselves instead of breading their trauma.
@@betruriddle I can relate with what this lady was saying. I often had the same kinds of emotions as a child and felt isolated and alone in my emotions. But as an adult I've been doing the most to manage for myself and decode my trauma so to speak. I waited a long time to become a mom and did so this year, it's made me so happy and I'm reliving the happiest parts of my childhood and I find solice in being a mother to a daughter so I can try again and do better. I just believe every generation has an opportunity to do just that, be better than where you came from no matter where your family started. She has her own experiences and is valid to her opinions and desires for her personal life and what fulfills her. I just don't appreciate the comment, it felt a bit judgmental for people who do their best to recover mentally and move on. I work on it every day, fearing depression or panic attacks. But I am still so motivated to live a long and happy life so I am determined to do what it takes and challenge myself constantly to maintain that! Please don't speak for everyone, people are more resilient and hearty than we make them out to be all the time.
@@lunarballoonistxo I am happy for you that you are working on yourself and challenging yourself. You understand your struggles and work with them, you became a mom, that is wonderful. I didn't mean any disrespect with my comment, it was geared to the people who don't do the work, the people who end up having children when they didn't want them and then they keep them and push their trauma onto the children, toward the people who continue their childhood abuse onto their children, the people who have children and then hand them to the grandparents to raise because they aren't mentally, finanically or emotionally capable of raising that child which leads to a lot of issues for those children. It isn't always that this is the case, but there are too many people in this world that do these kinds of things and they never better their lives so in turn it hurts their children. Again this wasn't geared toward you personally, my words were not meant to effect you specifically. I hope you continue to grow stronger and always fight for yourself. Keep it up.
I am 72 y.o. Hearing Elizabeth speak *almost* gave me courage to tell my story. Once again fear has me parakyzed. It's a vicious cycle.My abuser died this past summer having never apologized. Typical shit in my family ~ take no responsability, and carry on as if nothing ever happened. I think I watch these videos for the comfort they give me knowing other people have been through what I have. I can't change what happened, but, I can and do LOVE these *sucess* stories . . . they give me hope, and help me identify what I am feeling. Thank you Elizabeth for articulating what I can't ~ you touched my protected heart. I wish you well.
This may be a message sent in the wind yet felt led to say that Jesus loves you so much. No religion, simple truth. I would like to recommend a person whom it is not about the person but the message he puts out which if you give a chance, I believe will help greatly....the messages given and in simple truth. Yankee Arnold, please look him up and give the message a chance and you will be blessed spiritually. 💙
When she said she had to learn to sense her abusive fathers energy it knocked the breath out of me, because I had to do the same at a young age with my abusive mother and over my lifetime I’ve used it to sense people’s intentions, energy, attitude as a safety mechanism… I’ve always been an extremely sensitive empath since childhood which is a curse and a blessing
You really do learn to do that. I shoved down all my feelings and anger because everything you say and do is held against you. You just learn to survive. I still have difficulty expressing my feelings and anger. Anger also scares me so much. I had to learn how to set boundaries as an adult because I was never allowed to have my own as a child.
@@AH-ov1pe I feel you that how I am now I don't think I've ever expressed my feelings to someone which is actually very bad but I've learned to deal with it, I noticed it makes my anxiety 2 times worse but I just always have to tell myself there's always someone who's dealing with worse situations
“I was fully aware of my brokenness, and I didn’t want to put another human being through that.” THIS!!! 💯 If more people thought like this before having kids, the world would be a better place!
I married a girl that shared a similar background. It only lasted 6 years. It was hard to let her go. But she had so much trauma from her past she couldn’t feel or love. I think about her all the time. I miss her dearly. All I can do is pray for her.
I'm sure she thinks of you as well. Those of us that are that broken that we can't love or feel, actually do feel & love deep down behind the walls we've built. We never allow anyone to see this part as to NEVER be truly vulnerable. Thank you for loving her.
Thank you for understanding her. I had a mentally abusive child hood relationship are hard and the stress of it can trigger you. I have the similar feelings as this lady and a lot of people who go through this have to do it alone
She is brilliant, and her story reminds me how important it is not to judge people who fail at school or jobs, do drugs, are promiscuous, get in toxic relationships, etc. These behaviours are often unconscious response to trauma.
@@matimus100 Damn sorry to hear that's your experience. Im anything but religious but if you ever try meditating you may learn some important new things
Not at all. People look at you funny as though something is wrong with you. Like, sorry I got abused. What you want me to do? Shut up and sweep it under a rug so you don’t get all melancholy?🤔
@@katinlove there's a soul, there is a God Jesus is real and He is coming again. Soon you won't believe what you're seeing. Yet it will be real and so too is the biblical account of His return. You have a soul. You are known by God.
I totally relate to this, I was raisied in a very religious house full of sexual abuse, when I went to the police as a teenager I was kicked out of my family, Best thing that ever happened and Ive gone on to make a really good life for myself xo
Wow - that's incredibly impressive. I grew up in a fantastic loving household and still have a brilliant relationship with my folks to this day and yet even with all their support I've really struggled in life in terms of my metal health. I've done well I guess career wise and financially but have always struggled with depression. So you being able to do what you've managed to in spite of having such an abusive childhoods is truly incredible to me. You should be very proud of yourself.
"He loved me back to life" -- this is the kind of love I want to spread. SO OFTEN that is all people need. Someone who is PRESENT, talking, caring about them and their lives and their stories. Showing the unconditional love that we ALL DESERVE and need.
Elizabeth - I’m waiting for your tedtalk, your novel, your books, whatever work you put out there... the insight you have on your life’s story is captivating. I’m beyond inspired by your continuing to choose yourself again and again
As a psychologist, this story shows the power of the therapeutic relationship - we all need someone to listen, have empathy, and someone who does not judge. Then the rest is up to the person. So proud of Elizabeth’s journey. Her spiritual story is so beautiful.
The psychology of normality is only for the rich or upper class. The reality is that empathy is for the weak, judging someone correctly could save your life, and spiritualism is a waste of time. Shove your $120 an hour after insurance up your over-educated self-righteous ass.
“I was fully aware of my brokenness and I didn’t want to put another human being thorough that.” What a beautifully aware statement. What an amazingly self aware soul. There are very few people who take their ability to rear a healthy child into consideration. Most people have kids so that they have someone to love them and take care of them… they rarely consider the fact that children are about individuation not about their parents.
I probably shouldn’t have had a kid either. I was responsible, but not mature enough to do a really good job. I did ok with the ones I mentored, better, actually.
Damn. I just got a Psychology lesson from this interview. Her ability to express the trauma of her childhood through a subjective and objective lense is honorable.
yeah humans are weird and a lot of things they can do are hard to explain if you look at animals and their mothers like i see a lot of raccoons and deer near me lol the mothers always look out for their young but humans can go against nature basically
Excuse me. Her fathers rage was raw. His resentment and anger was THE driving force for his abusive and horrific actions. No comment for the parents and the poor role models they were. Yet there is a need to 'applaud' Elizabeth for her eloquently delivered testimonial so that she can be 'liked' by others. Who gives a damn if you like her OR her story. She deserves to be as RAW and as ANGRY as she sees fit. Truly disappointed and repulsed by your statement!
@@jasonblack6059 You mean "off the wagon". Don't judge her success on that. She has been through a lot and been able to heal, after some very bad experiences.
@@jasonblack6059 Soooo self-righteous and not very well-informed. May you be blessed with compassion and greater wisdom. More importantly, may Elizabeth be blessed with boundless healing.
I am the sheriff's daughter and I just relate to this woman so incredibly much. Bawling my eyes out. Thank you Elizabeth. Just thank you for sharing your story and for doing some much beautiful healing. You're a huge inspiration.
I'm also a sheriff's daughter and was horribly abused by him; all three of us kids. It was horrible because he put on this kind, caring face to the public and was respected but was a monster behind closed doors. I'm sorry you had to suffer as well. I pray you receive healing.
@@stacielara9856 thank you. I wish the same for you. My sheriff father was absent because he was always “traveling for work”. Which was only partially true. He had so many affairs, no one knows the extent. I met many of them and they’d tell me they were going to be “my new mommy”. After abusing, constantly cheating on and divorcing my mom, he eventually married my moms so called best friend and left my 2 older brothers and I in her care 3,000 miles away from my mom while he travelled all over the world working for the fed after he lost his last election. So my stepmother was my abuser. And she did it in every way imaginable. I’m almost 40 and I’ve done a great deal of work. I can say that I’m happy and have been for the last few years. Healing comes in stages. At least for me, it did. Once I learned to start working through and facing my feelings and stop self medicating, I found a healing journey. I can say that I feel healed but I can’t say I am healed because I think it is something that happens over time and in ways maybe we aren’t even aware of until we’re there. In other words, we may not even know we need healing in some areas. I would not change a single thing that happened to me. Even though aspects of it still have the ability to make me sad, it made me exactly who I am. And I’m actually kinda awesome. I work hard and I dream big and I don’t undervalue myself much anymore. Stories like this one help to solidify that I am worthy.
@@stacielara9856 Most shot callers are secret wackos. Cops usually are power trippers. The job drives them crazy, because they are control freaks...and crime never stops, especially with zero tolerance, chickenshit charges.
She is such a force of nature, incredibly strong. And she IS a mom, a great mom to her juvenile self who only grew out of childhood late in life with the patient and powerful motherly love that she afforded herself.
She is a healer, a starseed, she ist Higher consciousness in human Form and Went through all this, to heal Others, Lots of other Humans ... Thanks for her ❤️ Well done Liz 😀🥰
I’m 37. I’ve never read a comment on TH-cam, anywhere, like this. It’s so beautiful and I felt it so deep. It made me just stop and cry, it was a beautifully worded comment. Thank you 🙏 you too, are surely without a doubt a beautiful person. 💜
This is the BEST interview I have seen on your channel. What a difficult life Elizabeth has lived. Everytime she fell down, she got back up and moved forward. She is an inspiration!
Elizabeth is delightful, self aware, humble and insanely articulate. When she talked about feeling unloveable, unworthy, she showed a deep understanding. I can see Elizabeth as a professional psychologist. Fascinating interview!
I enjoyed every moment she shared. She’s incredibly well-spoken, self-aware, open, and I feel she’s got a bright future. I encourage her to consider writing a memoir or whatever her heart leads her to write.
Most of the SWU interviews are really depressing, hopeless and terribly sad. This one is truly inspiring. Elizabeth is proof there is always hope if you persevere. Bless her soul.
@@Martin-kl7xk Oh i give 100% credit to Jesus Christ. I was in a similar situation as Elizabeth as a child. Broken, hurt, abused, ashamed and no self-esteem. NONE. Turned to drugs and alcohol to cope. OD'd, died with a tracheotomy in my throat twice, shouldn't have lived. Ever had the surgeon in the ER tell you to "thank whatever God you worship cause it's medically impossible for you to be alive?" Trust me that got my attention. I heard of Jesus, so being a natural doubter I just asked Him if He was real, and if He was to show me. I said it out loud. My life was turned upside down 100%, for the better. He fixed me, cleansed me and made me new. It's truly a miracle, so yes i believe her, and concur from my own personal experience. I heard him audibly and He's never left. Only reason im still here. Have you ever asked Jesus to show you if He's real? He will. Most people are too prideful to even ask.
@@melissap9416 read the book of Thomas...Jesus told his disciples that they were already divine...to seek our own godliness as it exists IN us ..not as an outside authority.
Oh my god this is the definition of my father, minus the sexual abuse. wow this is so weird to hear someone else say all that out loud. My mom was worse though. The whole “learned not to have needs cause there wasn’t room for that.” I just grew up locked in my room to hide from them. I’m glad we both turned out okay, Elizabeth is so good at articulating how she feels. She’s extremely smart. If you see this Elizabeth, im so glad you turned out okay, babe. You deserve the world.
Elizabeth’s wisdom is gobsmacking. I can’t get over her perspective and evolution. What a woman. I’m always so struck by the courage and power of the people interviewed on here.
I'm glad you found someone who you identify with. Please be careful who you tell about your trauma. Some people online will take those little bits of information, and make a victim profile from your online bits. Be safe.
Yes a forgiving person, abused people are forgivers, I wont do it again daddy. Why are you touching me daddy? I am sorry daughter! It's okay daddy I know you didn't mean to abuse me in my child hood and screw up my entire life..So yeah she is a forgiving person....not.. If you kick a dog it will always come back to you, is it forgiving you? no it wants to try to Not get kicked again...
The first 5 minutes of the interview I was seriously thinking of turning it off. I’ve had some pretty serious trauma in my life. This story is off the charts when it comes to abuse. I had to keep watching in the hopes she powered through it all. What a strong person. I’m a 54 year old male and her story really gave me hope for a full recovery. I put on my best smile every day for all in my circle while never sharing with a soul my story. Never wanted to burden anyone and never wanted anyone to know the pain I’ve experienced. It’s so incredibly difficult to understand why things happen to people the way they do and why people do the things they do to others. God bless.
@@johnbagewll2321 Talking to 'someone' might help. Talking to the 'right person' might be great. Hope you found the 'Right person', and if you didn't, maybe keep looking x
The first step in healing is to speak about what you experienced. Find someone you trust and tell your story. It can be extremely liberating. All the best to you and God bless you as well.
This was probably the best video Mark has put out. It’s sad that people might not watch this due to it not having an initial shock value or the usual stripper/prostitute headline.
@@MindlessSwagz thank you, but no need for yourself to apologize. The Indigenous people of North America are actively working so that history is not repeated. The church will pay their dues!
I’m a preachers daughter. My mental health sucks. Lots of addictions. I’m now a comedian bc it’s the only thing that kept me alive. I purposefully didn’t have kids. I married a 50 yr old man at 21. Daddy issues to the max. I understand this woman so much. Much love to u both 🖤
I’m so sorry you were hurt by religious deception. Jesus is real you do not have to know him by attending the American systematic church. Read his word it’s alive. God bless you Priscilla!! “And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.” John 1:14 KJV
Preacher's daughter here, too. My dad was a Spiritualist Medium. He found over 330 missing people for the police, but all dead. I didn't have the abuse so many others did, but the stress of living in a home half in one world and half in another had a major impact on my youth. Friends would maybe visit twice then never come back into the house. Spirits appearing, speaking out, moving furniture, was just a regular occurrence. I finally had no friends, their families didn't want them to associate with any of us, unless they had. a need for my dad's service.
@@eckankar7756 wow that is so heartbreaking ❤️🩹 I’m so sorry u had that hellish life. We should start a club for children of religious/spiritual leaders just to feel validated and comforted. And to also talk shit lol.
there are so many eye-opening and thought-provoking interviews on this channel but this one resonated really deeply with me. thanks for doing these amazing interviews!
It is sad to wonder just how many children had their "spirits broken" by their parents....as a parent you are suppose to lift your child up in any way you can and help them through life. Not break them down at every turn.
Exactly so when we grow up to have children we have to teach ourselves how to be a normal parent ..according to “positive” things we saw on tv or read on Google etc..
@@seldom_seen8713 So from one comment you can tell i don't have children...interesting. First off I do have a child whom I love very much. I try to follow the rule of not beating my child until they have no ability to function as an adult from the trauma. I teach her to respect others and know right from wrong. I don't screw her up so much that later in life she has no ability to love or be loved. So please don't comment on things you know nothing about. You DON'T know me so I suggest you think twice before commenting something like this on someone's post.
When she said she watched her father break her brother's spirit, I felt this. 😔 Edit: Coming from generational curse of abuse, this whole video resonates with me.
when she said her adrenals were exhausted when she was a kid, i could relate. I told my mom many times that one of us kid's problems were that they gave us such a hard time growing up that we were tired and exhausted before we even had to deal with the adult world.
I can relate too. So much drama and adrenaline growing up, affects our body. Making us feel exhausted and hopeless as adults...😢 I'm 39 and I still feel like a child some days or a really old tired worn out lady.
@@maebandy I know, I just had to separate from the world to a degree just to last. It seems like everyone wants to humble and humiliate you and don't realize that you've already been through that.
@@meljc2823 I feel this. I’m 39 years old. Today, my psychologist told me: “You don’t look well. You look very tired and worn down.” I also told her about 5 times in our session that I felt like a little girl who is still trying to be loved and protected and approved of. Terrible feeling in middle age.
Amazing story, may Liz continue and grow. I can feel your pain as I suffered trauma as a child, not my parents fault, but in the 1950s and 60s, therapy was not available. But starting my journey at 25.5 yrs of age, and at 72, I can say that dealing with past pain is an ongoing journey, but its worth the fight. May you continue in your walk in life !!!
wow I am a recovering preacher's kid with two physically abusive and angry parents. Hugs to her. I relate to the constant gaslighting and the reading energy.
yes preachers etc many are narcissistic disgusting sexual murderers !!! look at the native indigenous history !! and really that religion is what people want after all the demonic murders !!!
Pcamp, Moving forward, YOU can define your life ANY away you want. You can build a life completely opposite of the way you were raised and do things differently than your parents. That’s what I did and it worked - I broke the cycle of abuse and raised my kids in the most loving environment I could muster. And I made sure I listened to them and they felt heard. I wasn’t a perfect parent, but my kids didn’t suffer any of the abuse / neglect that my siblings and I have. You can create a whole, new life apart from your parents! You can have a beautiful legacy in SPITE of what they did to you. 💕 💕
This was a great interview Marc sat and listen to her while she literally spoke her life is such a beautiful way I like her and I would love for a update someday .
I love how she takes the time to take deep breaths. It shows the person who is truly trying to heal from their trauma and tell the story without resentment. God Bless you Elizabeth.
@@anthonypetercoleman3575 coke is irritable its pure hell u haven't been doing it to long it will take u down in a heart beat stop now while u have achance
I love how you just allow the people you interview to talk. I imagine that this is so therapeutic for these individuals to just speak & share their stories and be listened to.
I connect with her on so many levels despite us having different upbringings, fears and happiness. This interview really impacted me. Thank you SWU for bringing this type of content to the world. Really has opened my mind to so much. These videos just bring my inspiration in my own life and hope and also inspires me to find my creativity and reality to my writing!
The part where she said her mother left when the beatings were going on. That hit home for me. My mom left while dad abused me and while a boyfriend abused me I believe my mom was just scared - but as a mother myself I would have knocked their head off with a skillet if I saw that happening to my child.
Those women are fundamentally weak and don’t deserve to be mothers. I don’t even have kids but I cannot even begin to imagine being that kind of parent. A mother should be ready to die for her child. To suffer to endure anything for their child. It’s just unacceptable to abandon them like so many do. I cannot respect those people. I wish you all the luck with healing
So wise.. Here's a thought, if you don't know how to take responsibility, challenge your victim mentality. Maybe thats the path to responsibility is understanding you're not a victim. I'm going to try to use that in my own life because I haven't really understood what responsibility means. Maybe I have a victim mentality I have to reevaluate
Politicians weaponize people's jealousy and laziness by calling them "victims" and using it against the productive members of society through more and more wealth re-distribution.
Those exact words have really resonated with me. My husband was abused by his father and places alot of blame with this mother who "never did anything to stop it". I will be sharing this with him.
She has a wholesome beauty encompassing her lucid grasp on the tragedies that befell her and her siblings, as well as a solid surety in her physical presence. This is an exceptional person. I hope the balance of her life is less turbulent.
@@patriciacole8773 you misread me. I am an absolute atheist and glorify no god or gods. My comments are devoid of any misguided belief system, but rather my belief in people. No god I know let’s over a million people contract, and die, from a virus! Such an act on any entities behalf would truly be evil!
I am a 70 year old listening to this story and admire so much, the courage it takes to share her story. I agree with Eliazabeth that we all just want to be seen and heard: and loved, with no strings attached. For starters:)🧡
My Grandpa was the child of a preacher & got beaten nearly to death by his father. The abuse was so bad, my Grandpa tried hanging himself at age 10. His brother saved him. My Grandpa wound up being schizophrenic in his early 20s, until he died at 57, of a heart attack, 21 years ago. I hate people who hide behind God to get away with being monsters.
My abuser was very “religious” and it definitely skewed my personal views on religion till this day. I’m very spiritual but cannot stand behind religion, it was always a crutch to pacify some of the worst people I knew.
@@baileemiller9862 I never blamed the religion, I just don’t like how people use it to absolve their guilt. My perspective on religion is tainted but I never said it was religions fault ^
A lot of very sick, awful people use religion as a mask to hide behind. Look up the BTK killer. Almost all serial killers use religion or know of its utility to do the awful things they do.
@@baileemiller9862 "We?" How dare you dictate what she can or cannot blame for HER personal religious trauma! You have not a clue what she suffered! How arrogant and presumptive on your part! Leave the suggestions to a trained therapist.
I appreciate her honesty. Her story is powerful. The fact that she recognized her own brokenness and decided not have kids takes courage. I wish so many people understood this. Peace and blessings Elizabeth!
...as a former teacher I'm a little bit appalled that this persons teacher saw a totally blank exam paper and didn't question what on earth was going on in that students mind.
That’s what I was thinking! Actually, This happened to me in school many times. Teachers stopped acknowledging me after a while as well. It’s really sad. I feel bad for other kids
I’m so grateful for this interview and her willingness to share. There are a lot of parallels in our lives and she’s so introspective, strong, astute and mentally healthy now. I needed to see that that’s possible. Wow💗
@@mr.r1622 Well you sound pretty damn rude and tone deaf. Liz’s life story overall!! She went through so much but still managed to survive and find meaning in it all
This ,for some reason, is the story that hurt me the most. She made me realize some things thanks to you reviewing her. Thank you Mark for sharing her story and thank you Liz for sharing it to the whole world.
I totally agree, so many of us have similar stories and I find it beautiful as humans that we have that connection/ being able to express our own emotions / traumas their own words and we can relate.
That bit when she said about her drug and alcohol counsellor who was the first guy in her life who wanted to love her without wanting to touch her or anything...that's when my eyes filled up because that's such a rare thing to people who've suffered and it's something I've felt while watching a number of these interviews with different people and with friends I've made in the past who have told me of their traumas, like I just wanna support their healing. People don't deserve to suffer at the hands of others and it just sucks that we live in a world with so much suffering. 😔
As a Female she shouldn't have a male counselor !! I am a retired Counselor, and damn near ever make counselor I've worked with don't follow the First Ethic of the Helping Professions !! Do No Harm !l! Yet they have a hard time with barriers ! They think it's okay to get into relationships with their client's !! That is a Big No !l
I had sex with my beautiful therapist and it was one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. She helped me get over an abusive cheating girlfriend. Best sex I ever had. It was of course consensual and mutual attraction. We both orgasmed a lot, so… The key is it has to be non coerced and consensual….
I would love to be friends with this lady. My childhood wasn’t exactly the same as hers, but there are lots of parallels and I definitely relate to most of her experiences including the mistakes. I’m glad she’s in a healthy state of mind and seems to be at peace. Thanks for sharing your story with us Liz. And as always, thank you Mark for your amazing work. I look forward to your video notifications almost every morning while I’m getting ready for work here on the East coast. ❤️
These interviews are diverse and so moving. So many different stories. So many different horrors. So many different ways to cope. So many strong survivors. It's all so heavy. And it all gives me some relief, and hope, knowing I'm not alone in my life's pain. Much love, yall. Peace
@@janellejulianajoy Wow! This is so terrifying. My husband was a pastor. He was the real deal and I and my children loved him so much. He lived what he preached. He died of an illness in his seventies. I'm so sorry that this woman went through all this.. The hypocrisy of some people is unbelievable. And they affect so many people in a negative way. That is not a true gospel message.
I resonate so much with Liz's story except my dad was a well known doctor in a small town. I haven't talked to him in 7 years and before that it was 9 years and then before that for about 4 years when I was in college. The last time I saw him 7 years ago, we cried, but he did something really creepy right afterwards and I realized that he could never be in my life. Trust was broken too many times and in too many ways. I warn people who think that adult children can/should reconcile with parents who were sexually abusive. I have been gaslighted many, many times by ignorant, but well meaning, people who can't understand why I don't talk to my father. People need to stop judging and thinking they are so wise and instead, do what Liz said 'just accept'. It makes me happy to hear that Liz is healing and has healed alot of her trauma. It gives me hope and inspiration to keep going, to keep loving and to keep seeing myself and others with deeper and deeper compassion.
Thanks so much for your reply. Some people can't understand that the abuser is NOT healed themselves and that makes it impossible to reconcile. I'm so thankful that you have such a strong sense of what is RIGHT for you. Never doubt your instincts. May God bless you and keep you!
Thankyou for your story. So true the Only reason people hurt children is because they can, that's it. I can forgive, but never let them forgot. I promise, your honesty and courage, will help you move forward. Take care Love Australia
@@MrMuaythai84 your sense of humor is lost in your mind. A self reflective mirror is not an audience but whatever strokes the ego... Mature a bit and you can shed those insecurities
I was so into it I kept gasping for air and taking deep breaths at the same time as her..incredible what she's been through and how she's come out of it, healing doesnt just happen by acknowledging the pain, its years of work.
My story is similar to hers. I came up in an abuse environment a preacher's son. It's a long story, but I relate with Elizabeth in so many levels. I'm 59 today, with a young family and a new career in a new environment. I can say, as Elizabeth and as so many others, the road to freedom can be long but well worth it when you have an inner resolve to make it -- with faith in God. With each new breakthrough you become stronger. You are never perfect, but you are better, and you come to experience life on your own terms -- which is so liberating! I celebrate Elizabeth and her path. It's always good to find others who have walked in your same steps.
Same. It would be interesting to get my story off on here. Not many people can handle the details. But, I’m at peace and comfortable explaining my side. I noticed whenever I did explain myself in private, either something is wrong with me, according to the listener, or I gotta put up with a bunch of sobbing. And, I’m all like, look I got through it. I’m past the crying and feeling crappy about myself. I actually feel triumphant that I moved outta hell😎
I've NEVER met another woman that spoke so many words that have come out of my own mouth. God bless her for being well adjusted after every thing.This is an incredible story,behind the family portrait.If l haven't said it enough,your work is awesome.Thank you💙
Thank you for sharing your story Elizabeth. My heart goes out to you. I am a Registered Nurse that experienced trauma growing up. Becoming a nurse helped me heal and it has allowed me to help other people that have experienced what I went through. I've learned that the power of forgiveness sets you free and allows you to heal. Nothing is ever hopeless, you can find happiness and unconditional love.
She is extremely insightful. Her experiences as terrible as they are have brought her a lot of awareness. She's very intelligent and expresses herself very well. I just want the best things to happen for this woman from here on out. She deserves all the best things
Elizabeth, sometimes telling one’s story is therapeutic. You’re an excellent orator. Perhaps writing a book about you’re experiences would help others and in turn, heal your deep trauma .
It can be but sometimes drugs just help you in ways people or nature can't and stereotypes negative stigmas won't change that. Some people have self control and can resist abusing like micro dropping acid or Ayahuasca
She deserves a gold medal. So few people have the self-awareness to say 'i am not capable of being a parent.' The ironic thing is at the end of the day she certainly is (as with most people who evaluate themselves enough to say that). She is wise has a lot of love. She would make a great foster parent. Just putting that out there, as there are so many kids who need love and a home and it sounds like she is set financially.
@@nancytucker7503 I don't believe her because I see a lot of empathy in her, the way she speaks about her little brother. She is simply scared. She'd be better than most people. It's her confidence that is the only issue.
So very moving to listen to what people have endured. Very powerful. Bowing to this woman's courage and resiliance. I can relate strongly to what she shared. Wishing her so much love and thank you for sharing some of your story.
Wow! She has put some many things into perspective for me. I had a pretty good childhood compared to hers, yet I’m still dealing with the trauma of an abusive mother and an emotionally absent father. I guess I have to rethink my life and where I want to go with this pain. Elizabeth is a true inspiration. God bless her.
I think arriving to that conclusion of “I could’ve had it much worse” on your own is kind of helpful because it makes you grateful for what you have. But it’s good to realize this and also know that your experience is valid. Otherwise you end up burying feelings/issues that actually needs to heal.
“I am a child if God, and no one can take it away from me”. Amazing. My mom is the same way, she went through incest, abuse, rape, drug abuse and so much more living in the projects with her mother. Instead of being a victim she broke the cycle and locked down on us having the most protected and successful lives. Sister is going into the navy with a bachelors as an officer, I’m in nursing school, and brother is going into the marines! No matter how small, you think your impact is, we young people see it and can get so much inspiration you won’t even be able to comprehend. You are a role model and an example for me. I have demons to fight that I only brought on myself, thank you for helping me keep self accountability.
Many girls that are abused and neglected by a narcissistic parent have borderline personality disordered traits. Liz describes those throughout this testimony. That's really tough. Suicidal tendencies, alcohol and drug addiction and people addiction, feeling unlovable, and on and on. Same stuff. So happy to hear this woman is doing well.
thanks for being so empathetic michael. as a girl with ex-drug addicted parents, i feel seen. my childhood was rough and traumatic. people like you help us to realize that not everyone is going to hurt us. peace to you
@@juliettezea9507 i don't think BPD is curable because it's a personality disorder. it can guide your outlook on life and yourself, but if you understand its root cause and learn how to cope with those thoughts/impulses, you can thrive.
I really liked her honesty when she chose not to have kids as she was aware of her brokenness and did not want to put another being into that. How wise!! If most people in similar brokenness had this same awareness, so many, many, millions of kids would not have to suffer in dysfunctional situations. Children deserve stability, love, safety, and a fair start in life. They are born in need of being seen, heard, love, and protected. They are the most vulnerable to dysfunction. I am so glad that she understood that! My deepest respect for you, Elizabeth. Thank you so very much for sharing your poignant story. So touching!! It is wonderful to see that you overcame your suffering and, finally, found healing to your wounds.
Elizabeth, I just want to say thank you, as someone who endured physical violence through the entirety of my childhood its very difficult to feel understand. Your story made me feel seen. Sending blessings.
The same thing happened to me as a prepubescent girl I was being molested in the dark. My father’s secrets (and many men in church) are still protected by my entire family and I have been disowned for speaking about it now as an adult. Still it’s the best thing to happen for me to get away from it all and focus on my mental
My heart absolutely breaks for you. This is so prevalent in our communities, it's ridiculous. "We're only as sick as our secrets" I'm sure you've heard this said but the first time I heard it, it rocked me. May God hold you in the hollow of his hand 💕
That is AWFUL! I CAN’T UNDERSTAND HOW THEY GET AWAY WITH IT? HOW MANY CHILDREN HAVE TO BE RIPPED APART BY THESE PERVERTED MONSTERS? GOD BLESS YOU TRULY!
This was such a beautiful and sad share....I live in Clayton and this made me feel even more traumatized bcuz I often picture these stories in skid row or NY not my home....I absolutely love the part where she said David loved her back to life. I was bawling at work listening on my Bluetooth. You are a beautiful soul Elizabeth. You are so strong thank you for sharing your story!!!!!!
That’s the thing- none of us have the right to let hate and destruction to rule us- that’s how abuse happens and gets passed down over and over and over and she clearly knows that- to her Immense credit
I was a big fan of her brother. He seemed like a really great guy, and was shocked to hear of his untimely passing when it happened. I'm sure he held a lot of space in his sister's life. And still. Her story of perseverance is incredible.
She definitely needs to write a book, Her story is beautiful, I admire how she is very aware of herself, and she has done healing work. Excellent interview. Good luck to her life journey.
I wept throughout this. There was a release when she spoke to her father. She found forgiveness through spirit. And she listened. So many profound things and events that changed her life. So powerful. This is wisdom. She has so much awareness. Of energy and what truly makes a parent. That made me so happy to hear her say that. Having a baby should be something that requires a Masters degree.
What a pretty smart woman, you'd never know what she had gone thru looking at her. Seems so well balanced now, it was a terrible journey but look who she is today.
Everyone has a story with different levels. It's about overcoming them and not justifying becoming what many have in succumbing to those childhood traumas.
@@seedofabraham0149 you're right. Everyone has a story. And it really is the easier way to just give up and not fight for your sanity, your health, your emotional wellbeing. Even though "giving up" looks like such a hard life for those who chose it, it's so much harder to pull yourself up.
@@seedofabraham0149 I suppose that’s what you’d tell Combat Vets and I bet that *really* helps them deal with their PTSD./s Many of these people have grown up in domestic combat zones and as a result are “coping” the best they can with C-PTSD.
I cried as I heard her say that. No one ever did that for me or helped me. I'm so glad I am in a loving relationship with the kindest man I have ever met.
This woman is so intelligent and so self aware, I was elated as she displayed a higher and higher level of understanding of not only her own pain but the human condition in general as the video went on, Fantastic interview
Every child deserves a parent. Not every parent deserves a child
That's awesome!
Well said!
Religious beliefs and rage. Man what a recipe!
Well said indeed. Tragic.
Very, very true 🥰
Went to high school with Liz. Hung out with her little brother a little bit. Had a slight inkling from him that things weren’t great at home, but had no idea it was that bad. I’m glad to hear you’re doing well now Liz
I went to TG schoo,l until maybe 2nd grade,and her Dad's church until I was maybe 11? I would have never thought this about him,so you just never know?!! I also had a crush on Liz when I was young!
@@ryanbruner8928 I am also from Texas, what was the pastors name and what church was it?
@@matthewson1000 it was in California,her Dad was from Texas originally, but I don't know where?
@@ryanbruner8928 her dad's name was Tom I never met her, but wish I could lol
I had a similar start minus sex abuse & religion. Me and my siblings were all punching bags. My disgusting dad was shocked when I didn’t go to his deathbed. Instead of going to his funeral, I enjoyed a peaceful day being grateful he was gone. Mom is an idiot who enjoys a comfortable retirement that she earned by looking the other way or shopped as our childhood was robbed. Today I am a nurse and happy after overcoming alcoholism. I have claimed my adulthood and my rough beginnings have become compassion and understanding for the hurt people I encounter. Unfortunately, my siblings have absorbed my dad’s narcissism and turned on me when I called our childhoods & dad what they were. Today, truth is my friend & I like my life.
This 'reading energy' aspect of trauma survival is called hyper vigilance. You almost become psychic in an attempt to stay safe..to stay out of trouble...so stressful and exhausting
Yes, but i do treasure it too in a way. My intuition is very well developed from certain trauma.
Hyper vigilance is ptsd, i think.
@@thematriarchy2075 I understand + respect xx we can learn to embrace the wisdoms gained through trauma...(we may also want to be aware of this ability to 'cold read' others...it IS a skill but can become manipulative if we haven't also addressed the anger/pain/narcissism)
@@aliwright1016 That goes for everything in life. If we do not feel centered, we might abuse others, even if we do not want to.
EXACTLY you have to be extremely sensitive to everyone's energy. Humans can be monsters; the mass majority of them.
Walkin point baby!
"When people are really good to you and you never had much of that, you never forget those people." I absolutely understand that statement!
“If you give up being a martyr and victim you have to take responsibility.” This hit HARD. I will be thinking of this statement for awhile . I just realized how honest this statement is in my life
YES, what a statement! Very potent.
Great relatable story.
i dunno, the mother should protect the kids at all costs, I know my mother would.
Not only but responsibility that word means: YOU gotta dO something. That changes everything cause the thing is on yOu then. It's all on you. Cant lean in2 or cringe in2 that daily nightly victim thing. You paralyze in2 that role. Until it almost kills you. Either way it's not easy
Still trying to do this🙏🏼 powerful story
I am a 71 year old man and Elizabeth told my story. She is a very healing presence and I wish her blessings always.
Wow I'm so sorry. Also so happy to see old wise ones on the internet.
I've listened to this twice now. I thought to myself, she is telling me my life right now.
🍀♥️🍀
Same here. Being a preacher's kid isn't all it's cracked up to be. Dark days and deep emotional scarring that I'm still in therapy over.
Metoo jon,I'm 65,well we made it,stopped the bleeding.
Her understanding that her brokenness was no place to be married and have kids is actually so genuine and I wish more people could understand that for themselves instead of breading their trauma.
Agreed. I wish very much that I was proper mother material, but the trauma has led me to choose otherwise.
Wow that's an incredibly insulting comment.
@@lunarballoonistxo why is that?
@@betruriddle I can relate with what this lady was saying. I often had the same kinds of emotions as a child and felt isolated and alone in my emotions. But as an adult I've been doing the most to manage for myself and decode my trauma so to speak. I waited a long time to become a mom and did so this year, it's made me so happy and I'm reliving the happiest parts of my childhood and I find solice in being a mother to a daughter so I can try again and do better. I just believe every generation has an opportunity to do just that, be better than where you came from no matter where your family started.
She has her own experiences and is valid to her opinions and desires for her personal life and what fulfills her. I just don't appreciate the comment, it felt a bit judgmental for people who do their best to recover mentally and move on. I work on it every day, fearing depression or panic attacks. But I am still so motivated to live a long and happy life so I am determined to do what it takes and challenge myself constantly to maintain that! Please don't speak for everyone, people are more resilient and hearty than we make them out to be all the time.
@@lunarballoonistxo I am happy for you that you are working on yourself and challenging yourself. You understand your struggles and work with them, you became a mom, that is wonderful.
I didn't mean any disrespect with my comment, it was geared to the people who don't do the work, the people who end up having children when they didn't want them and then they keep them and push their trauma onto the children, toward the people who continue their childhood abuse onto their children, the people who have children and then hand them to the grandparents to raise because they aren't mentally, finanically or emotionally capable of raising that child which leads to a lot of issues for those children. It isn't always that this is the case, but there are too many people in this world that do these kinds of things and they never better their lives so in turn it hurts their children. Again this wasn't geared toward you personally, my words were not meant to effect you specifically. I hope you continue to grow stronger and always fight for yourself. Keep it up.
I am 72 y.o. Hearing Elizabeth speak *almost* gave me courage to tell my story. Once again fear has me parakyzed. It's a vicious cycle.My abuser died this past summer having never apologized. Typical shit in my family ~ take no responsability, and carry on as if nothing ever happened. I think I watch these videos for the comfort they give me knowing other people have been through what I have. I can't change what happened, but, I can and do LOVE these *sucess* stories . . . they give me hope, and help me identify what I am feeling. Thank you Elizabeth for articulating what I can't ~ you touched my protected heart. I wish you well.
And you just told your story!! Bravo!
@@RageAgainstIcecream-r9n HaH, *that* was easy! :-) Thank you for that insight !!!!!
@@GretchenlKlein you're a brave soul 💕
This may be a message sent in the wind yet felt led to say that Jesus loves you so much. No religion, simple truth. I would like to recommend a person whom it is not about the person but the message he puts out which if you give a chance, I believe will help greatly....the messages given and in simple truth. Yankee Arnold, please look him up and give the message a chance and you will be blessed spiritually. 💙
God bless you, these vids certainly provide a larger perspective to even when it looks good it isn't
When she said she had to learn to sense her abusive fathers energy it knocked the breath out of me, because I had to do the same at a young age with my abusive mother and over my lifetime I’ve used it to sense people’s intentions, energy, attitude as a safety mechanism… I’ve always been an extremely sensitive empath since childhood which is a curse and a blessing
This! I had an abusive dad. Omg this statement
@@glamv2291 I understand that pain all too well 😩 many blessings and healing to you dear 🙏🏼💜
Same here! I read rooms or people I love and care for and it is honestly draining at times
Same. Alcoholic father
Same. Alcoholic mother.
When she said she learned to have no needs, my heart literally broke for her.
I've been there. You learn to do everything yourself to protect yourself.
I could totally related to that "... no needs... " thing, too
Relatable until I had children. I need my children , they saved my life.
You really do learn to do that. I shoved down all my feelings and anger because everything you say and do is held against you. You just learn to survive. I still have difficulty expressing my feelings and anger. Anger also scares me so much. I had to learn how to set boundaries as an adult because I was never allowed to have my own as a child.
@@AH-ov1pe I feel you that how I am now I don't think I've ever expressed my feelings to someone which is actually very bad but I've learned to deal with it, I noticed it makes my anxiety 2 times worse but I just always have to tell myself there's always someone who's dealing with worse situations
“I was fully aware of my brokenness, and I didn’t want to put another human being through that.” THIS!!! 💯
If more people thought like this before having kids, the world would be a better place!
I have watched a lot of these but not all. Has any other woman that Mark has interviewed ever said this?
@@jamiecrawford8133 yes! Several have 😊
Beautifully written . . . . peace on earth starts at home !!!
Yep! Many people in the channel say it
You are so right. Only in a much more sane world. Who knows where its all going.
I married a girl that shared a similar background. It only lasted 6 years. It was hard to let her go. But she had so much trauma from her past she couldn’t feel or love. I think about her all the time. I miss her dearly. All I can do is pray for her.
Wow,,,,,,that statement really hit home..
I hope you’re alright ❤
I'm sure she thinks of you as well. Those of us that are that broken that we can't love or feel, actually do feel & love deep down behind the walls we've built. We never allow anyone to see this part as to NEVER be truly vulnerable. Thank you for loving her.
Thank you for understanding her. I had a mentally abusive child hood relationship are hard and the stress of it can trigger you. I have the similar feelings as this lady and a lot of people who go through this have to do it alone
Prayers are always subservient to actions.
She is brilliant, and her story reminds me how important it is not to judge people who fail at school or jobs, do drugs, are promiscuous, get in toxic relationships, etc. These behaviours are often unconscious response to trauma.
no it isnt
I agree 🙏🏿
You are 💯% right
@@MrMuaythai84 phon be gone.
@@mstanton2916 i can do that i have the shape shifting power
She's a beautiful soul. Honest, articulate, perceptive. Living is no picnic.
What nonsense there's no evidence of a soul.
@@matimus100 XD
@@matimus100 Damn sorry to hear that's your experience. Im anything but religious but if you ever try meditating you may learn some important new things
Not at all. People look at you funny as though something is wrong with you. Like, sorry I got abused. What you want me to do? Shut up and sweep it under a rug so you don’t get all melancholy?🤔
@@katinlove there's a soul, there is a God Jesus is real and He is coming again. Soon you won't believe what you're seeing. Yet it will be real and so too is the biblical account of His return. You have a soul. You are known by God.
I totally relate to this, I was raisied in a very religious house full of sexual abuse, when I went to the police as a teenager I was kicked out of my family, Best thing that ever happened and Ive gone on to make a really good life for myself xo
Wow - that's incredibly impressive. I grew up in a fantastic loving household and still have a brilliant relationship with my folks to this day and yet even with all their support I've really struggled in life in terms of my metal health. I've done well I guess career wise and financially but have always struggled with depression. So you being able to do what you've managed to in spite of having such an abusive childhoods is truly incredible to me. You should be very proud of yourself.
I'm so glad you had the strength to report them and get away and save yourself.
Sorry u had to go through that. U are a warrior.
Oh that is so sad about your brother. Makes me cry.
extreme religious behavior in the home is linked to sexual abuse
“Loved me back to life”
Thank goodness for people that show true love of other people.
AMEN!
I was so afraid she was going to say she got in to a relationship with her counselor. Thank God he was a good man.
"He loved me back to life" -- this is the kind of love I want to spread. SO OFTEN that is all people need. Someone who is PRESENT, talking, caring about them and their lives and their stories. Showing the unconditional love that we ALL DESERVE and need.
Elizabeth - I’m waiting for your tedtalk, your novel, your books, whatever work you put out there... the insight you have on your life’s story is captivating. I’m beyond inspired by your continuing to choose yourself again and again
100%!
Agree
Agree too! You are a survivor, strong and inspirational!
Agree too! You are a survivor, strong and inspirational!
People need to let the world know what preachers and Sunday school teachers are really like!! You should do a Ted talk and warn everyone!!!!
As a psychologist, this story shows the power of the therapeutic relationship - we all need someone to listen, have empathy, and someone who does not judge. Then the rest is up to the person. So proud of Elizabeth’s journey. Her spiritual story is so beautiful.
Very,very beautifully and succinctly put Theoni!
The psychology of normality is only for the rich or upper class.
The reality is that empathy is for the weak, judging someone correctly could save your life, and spiritualism is a waste of time.
Shove your $120 an hour after insurance up your over-educated self-righteous ass.
@@Wayzor_ this is a comment from someone who could probably benefit from having someone to talk to :(
@@Wayzor_ lol, u went all the way bro 🌝
@@idamay4590 talking is for morons...
“I was fully aware of my brokenness and I didn’t want to put another human being thorough that.” What a beautifully aware statement. What an amazingly self aware soul. There are very few people who take their ability to rear a healthy child into consideration. Most people have kids so that they have someone to love them and take care of them… they rarely consider the fact that children are about individuation not about their parents.
Eloquently put.
And agree completely. There were 5 kids in our family and only 2 decided to have kids for the same reason. Mom is bipolar, dad was MIA.
Kids today are selfish and all about themselves.
Children reflect the environment that they are raised in
I probably shouldn’t have had a kid either. I was responsible, but not mature enough to do a really good job. I did ok with the ones I mentored, better, actually.
Damn. I just got a Psychology lesson from this interview. Her ability to express the trauma of her childhood through a subjective and objective lense is honorable.
Absolutely agree!!! She articulates very well
Lens
@@SHOW_ME Thank you, I didn't realize that was the wrong spelling.
yeah humans are weird and a lot of things they can do are hard to explain if you look at animals and their mothers like i see a lot of raccoons and deer near me lol the mothers always look out for their young but humans can go against nature basically
@@leahflower9924 I’ve seen mother animals leave their young in danger. We are animals and I think it’s dangerous to think otherwise
She is not raw rage, anger or resentment, nor flat, defeated. - She resonates. Thank you for sharing her story.
Resilient!
Exemplary comment. Thanks.
She shines!
This
Excuse me. Her fathers rage was raw. His resentment and anger was THE driving force for his abusive and horrific actions. No comment for the parents and the poor role models they were.
Yet there is a need to 'applaud' Elizabeth for her eloquently delivered testimonial so that she can be 'liked' by others. Who gives a damn if you like her OR her story.
She deserves to be as RAW and as
ANGRY as she sees fit. Truly disappointed and repulsed by your statement!
What an incredibly captivating story. You can feel how true she is to herself and how much inner healing work she has done.
Maybe but she admitted she's back on the wagon so there's little 'success' in that.
@@jasonblack6059 You mean "off the wagon". Don't judge her success on that. She has been through a lot
and been able to heal, after some very bad experiences.
she lying only to be on youtube
@@MrMuaythai84 Just like you!
@@jasonblack6059 Soooo self-righteous and not very well-informed. May you be blessed with compassion and greater wisdom. More importantly, may Elizabeth be blessed with boundless healing.
I am the sheriff's daughter and I just relate to this woman so incredibly much. Bawling my eyes out. Thank you Elizabeth. Just thank you for sharing your story and for doing some much beautiful healing. You're a huge inspiration.
I'm also a sheriff's daughter and was horribly abused by him; all three of us kids. It was horrible because he put on this kind, caring face to the public and was respected but was a monster behind closed doors. I'm sorry you had to suffer as well. I pray you receive healing.
@@stacielara9856 thank you. I wish the same for you. My sheriff father was absent because he was always “traveling for work”. Which was only partially true. He had so many affairs, no one knows the extent. I met many of them and they’d tell me they were going to be “my new mommy”. After abusing, constantly cheating on and divorcing my mom, he eventually married my moms so called best friend and left my 2 older brothers and I in her care 3,000 miles away from my mom while he travelled all over the world working for the fed after he lost his last election. So my stepmother was my abuser. And she did it in every way imaginable. I’m almost 40 and I’ve done a great deal of work. I can say that I’m happy and have been for the last few years. Healing comes in stages. At least for me, it did. Once I learned to start working through and facing my feelings and stop self medicating, I found a healing journey. I can say that I feel healed but I can’t say I am healed because I think it is something that happens over time and in ways maybe we aren’t even aware of until we’re there. In other words, we may not even know we need healing in some areas. I would not change a single thing that happened to me. Even though aspects of it still have the ability to make me sad, it made me exactly who I am. And I’m actually kinda awesome. I work hard and I dream big and I don’t undervalue myself much anymore. Stories like this one help to solidify that I am worthy.
@@stacielara9856 My father. The office Santa. But people saw through him bit by bit. Karma got him.
@@stacielara9856what does it mean “sheriff” daughter. Is that literal sense or like are sheriffs / cops abusive to family
@@stacielara9856 Most shot callers are secret wackos. Cops usually are power trippers. The job drives them crazy, because they are control freaks...and crime never stops, especially with zero tolerance, chickenshit charges.
Wow, such a powerful, truthful testimony of an abusive broken childhood.
She is such a force of nature, incredibly strong. And she IS a mom, a great mom to her juvenile self who only grew out of childhood late in life with the patient and powerful motherly love that she afforded herself.
Beautiful, insightful comment...took my breath away. She is a rare 💎 jewel.
She is a healer, a starseed, she ist Higher consciousness in human Form and Went through all this, to heal Others, Lots of other Humans ... Thanks for her ❤️ Well done Liz 😀🥰
Yes
I’m 37. I’ve never read a comment on TH-cam, anywhere, like this. It’s so beautiful and I felt it so deep. It made me just stop and cry, it was a beautifully worded comment. Thank you 🙏 you too, are surely without a doubt a beautiful person. 💜
@@Hobistrawberryberry ❤️❤️❤️❤️🐞
This is the BEST interview I have seen on your channel. What a difficult life Elizabeth has lived. Everytime she fell down, she got back up and moved forward. She is an inspiration!
Elizabeth is delightful, self aware, humble and insanely articulate. When she talked about feeling unloveable, unworthy, she showed a deep understanding. I can see Elizabeth as a professional psychologist. Fascinating interview!
Her self awareness is inspiring, she's a very strong woman , and blessed.
Yes grate testimony of Deliverance
I enjoyed every moment she shared. She’s incredibly well-spoken, self-aware, open, and I feel she’s got a bright future. I encourage her to consider writing a memoir or whatever her heart leads her to write.
Yas...a book from her would be amazing, I´d would read it in a heartbit!...great idea :)
Hearing her story moved me to tears. Would absolutely love to read anything she wrote. Really hope she does
Fell exactly the same.
You totally said that amazingly..as she did.Ty.And I totally agree.Wishing her all the best in the future 🌟
Most of the SWU interviews are really depressing, hopeless and terribly sad. This one is truly inspiring. Elizabeth is proof there is always hope if you persevere. Bless her soul.
Because she has Jesus. End of story.
@@melissap9416 I have seen it be done without any deity several times. You can love God as much as you want, but give credit where credit is due.
@@Martin-kl7xk Oh i give 100% credit to Jesus Christ. I was in a similar situation as Elizabeth as a child. Broken, hurt, abused, ashamed and no self-esteem. NONE. Turned to drugs and alcohol to cope. OD'd, died with a tracheotomy in my throat twice, shouldn't have lived. Ever had the surgeon in the ER tell you to "thank whatever God you worship cause it's medically impossible for you to be alive?" Trust me that got my attention. I heard of Jesus, so being a natural doubter I just asked Him if He was real, and if He was to show me. I said it out loud. My life was turned upside down 100%, for the better. He fixed me, cleansed me and made me new. It's truly a miracle, so yes i believe her, and concur from my own personal experience. I heard him audibly and He's never left. Only reason im still here. Have you ever asked Jesus to show you if He's real? He will. Most people are too prideful to even ask.
@@melissap9416 read the book of Thomas...Jesus told his disciples that they were already divine...to seek our own godliness as it exists IN us ..not as an outside authority.
@@christineloz1686 you interpreted that wrong my friend.
Oh my god this is the definition of my father, minus the sexual abuse. wow this is so weird to hear someone else say all that out loud. My mom was worse though. The whole “learned not to have needs cause there wasn’t room for that.” I just grew up locked in my room to hide from them. I’m glad we both turned out okay, Elizabeth is so good at articulating how she feels. She’s extremely smart. If you see this Elizabeth, im so glad you turned out okay, babe. You deserve the world.
Elizabeth’s wisdom is gobsmacking. I can’t get over her perspective and evolution. What a woman. I’m always so struck by the courage and power of the people interviewed on here.
Yes!!
Truth!
I could listen to her tell her story all day. I resonate with a lot of her story it’s crazy. Thank you Mark!
This is Steve Bridges sister. He was a very famous American comedian . He is famous for doing President Bush.
I'm glad you found someone who you identify with. Please be careful who you tell about your trauma. Some people online will take those little bits of information, and make a victim profile from your online bits. Be safe.
@@erisgh0sted961 what are you talking about?
another one we got another one people
Her dad is literally sick. Any man that can put his hands on his daughter in a sexual way is disgusting. She is a very forgiving person.
Forgiveness is necessary for growth.
Yes a forgiving person, abused people are forgivers, I wont do it again daddy. Why are you touching me daddy? I am sorry daughter! It's okay daddy I know you didn't mean to abuse me in my child hood and screw up my entire life..So yeah she is a forgiving person....not.. If you kick a dog it will always come back to you, is it forgiving you? no it wants to try to Not get kicked again...
If my dad touched me he would be dead
This is Steve Bridges sister
And don't forget the up there preaching part while she watched 🙄
The first 5 minutes of the interview I was seriously thinking of turning it off. I’ve had some pretty serious trauma in my life. This story is off the charts when it comes to abuse. I had to keep watching in the hopes she powered through it all. What a strong person. I’m a 54 year old male and her story really gave me hope for a full recovery. I put on my best smile every day for all in my circle while never sharing with a soul my story. Never wanted to burden anyone and never wanted anyone to know the pain I’ve experienced. It’s so incredibly difficult to understand why things happen to people the way they do and why people do the things they do to others.
God bless.
I think you will feel better if you talk about that with someone. Keep safe 🤍
@@tatic3106 I did.
@@johnbagewll2321 Some of us feel so shamed they just try to learn how to live with it. 🕊🇦🇺
@@johnbagewll2321 Talking to 'someone' might help. Talking to the 'right person' might be great. Hope you found the 'Right person', and if you didn't, maybe keep looking x
The first step in healing is to speak about what you experienced. Find someone you trust and tell your story. It can be extremely liberating. All the best to you and God bless you as well.
This was probably the best video Mark has put out. It’s sad that people might not watch this due to it not having an initial shock value or the usual stripper/prostitute headline.
55k views in 12 hrs.
I dunno, there's a LOT of people out there with religious trauma. Myself included!
@@prawncreative yes! Soooo many! 🙌
@@prawncreative I apologize for that happening to you.
@@MindlessSwagz thank you, but no need for yourself to apologize. The Indigenous people of North America are actively working so that history is not repeated. The church will pay their dues!
I’m a preachers daughter. My mental health sucks. Lots of addictions. I’m now a comedian bc it’s the only thing that kept me alive. I purposefully didn’t have kids. I married a 50 yr old man at 21. Daddy issues to the max.
I understand this woman so much. Much love to u both 🖤
I’m so sorry you were hurt by religious deception. Jesus is real you do not have to know him by attending the American systematic church. Read his word it’s alive. God bless you Priscilla!!
“And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.”
John 1:14 KJV
Preacher's daughter here, too. My dad was a Spiritualist Medium. He found over 330 missing people for the police, but all dead. I didn't have the abuse so many others did, but the stress of living in a home half in one world and half in another had a major impact on my youth. Friends would maybe visit twice then never come back into the house. Spirits appearing, speaking out, moving furniture, was just a regular occurrence. I finally had no friends, their families didn't want them to associate with any of us, unless they had. a need for my dad's service.
@@eckankar7756 wow that is so heartbreaking ❤️🩹 I’m so sorry u had that hellish life. We should start a club for children of religious/spiritual leaders just to feel validated and comforted. And to also talk shit lol.
@Dieguismama oh wow I can tell ur a natural comedian. It’s unfortunate that you had that upbringing and my heart breaks for u. Hugs!
@@kerifernandez yes. Same here. Preachers daughter. Same issues.
This is such a powerful and impactful interview. This lady is so insightful and eloquent. I got a lot from this.
I am in the middle of it and it is definitely one of the best interviews I have seen on this channel! She is so eloquent.
what did you get beside your 2 min of fame comment?
@@MrMuaythai84 What the fuck are you on about?
there are so many eye-opening and thought-provoking interviews on this channel but this one resonated really deeply with me. thanks for doing these amazing interviews!
I think this is one of the ones he recommended. I can see why.
It is sad to wonder just how many children had their "spirits broken" by their parents....as a parent you are suppose to lift your child up in any way you can and help them through life. Not break them down at every turn.
It really hit me hard when she said that.
@@saraglickman5889 me 2!!!!
@Bran I can tell that you definitely DO NOT have children
Exactly so when we grow up to have children we have to teach ourselves how to be a normal parent ..according to “positive” things we saw on tv or read on Google etc..
@@seldom_seen8713 So from one comment you can tell i don't have children...interesting. First off I do have a child whom I love very much. I try to follow the rule of not beating my child until they have no ability to function as an adult from the trauma. I teach her to respect others and know right from wrong. I don't screw her up so much that later in life she has no ability to love or be loved. So please don't comment on things you know nothing about. You DON'T know me so I suggest you think twice before commenting something like this on someone's post.
When she said she watched her father break her brother's spirit, I felt this. 😔
Edit: Coming from generational curse of abuse, this whole video resonates with me.
That killed me.
I hated hearing this. Poor little guy.
Sad.
Me too it resonates so much 😭
That hit pretty hard as well.
I think that comment pulled many heartstrings.
when she said her adrenals were exhausted when she was a kid, i could relate. I told my mom many times that one of us kid's problems were that they gave us such a hard time growing up that we were tired and exhausted before we even had to deal with the adult world.
I still live life pressed to the redline until I drop. So hard to be still when you grew up in a small tank with two sharks.
I can relate too.
So much drama and adrenaline growing up, affects our body.
Making us feel exhausted and hopeless as adults...😢
I'm 39 and I still feel like a child some days or a really old tired worn out lady.
@@meljc2823 I didn't think I could last til thirty but I'm still here at 53 thank God.
@@maebandy I know, I just had to separate from the world to a degree just to last. It seems like everyone wants to humble and humiliate you and don't realize that you've already been through that.
@@meljc2823 I feel this. I’m 39 years old. Today, my psychologist told me: “You don’t look well. You look very tired and worn down.” I also told her about 5 times in our session that I felt like a little girl who is still trying to be loved and protected and approved of. Terrible feeling in middle age.
Amazing story, may Liz continue and grow. I can feel your pain as I suffered trauma as a child, not my parents fault, but in the 1950s and 60s, therapy was not available. But starting my journey at 25.5 yrs of age, and at 72, I can say that dealing with past pain is an ongoing journey, but its worth the fight. May you continue in your walk in life !!!
wow I am a recovering preacher's kid with two physically abusive and angry parents. Hugs to her. I relate to the constant gaslighting and the reading energy.
F them make your life beautiful.
yes preachers etc many are narcissistic disgusting sexual murderers !!! look at the native indigenous history !! and really that religion is what people want after all the demonic murders !!!
Pcamp,
Moving forward, YOU can define your life ANY away you want.
You can build a life completely opposite of the way you were raised and do things differently than your parents.
That’s what I did and it worked -
I broke the cycle of abuse and raised my kids in the most loving environment I could muster. And I made sure I listened to them and they felt heard.
I wasn’t a perfect parent, but my kids didn’t suffer any of the abuse / neglect that my siblings and I have.
You can create a whole, new life apart from your parents!
You can have a beautiful legacy in SPITE of what they did to you.
💕
💕
"I'm a child of God and nobody can take that away from me. No amount of abuse or drugs. Nobody can take that away from me." Amen.
Amen. And Jesus LOVES me.
Amen 🙏
Yes I felt that. Amen 🙏🏾
Amen 🙏🏾!!
Amen! This interview was so special to me.
This was a great interview Marc sat and listen to her while she literally spoke her life is such a beautiful way I like her and I would love for a update someday .
"There's nothing shameful about going to AA." I'm so grateful for AA, what it's done for so many of my friends.
I love how she takes the time to take deep breaths. It shows the person who is truly trying to heal from their trauma and tell the story without resentment. God Bless you Elizabeth.
Please explain why you think, or feel that she is trying to tell her story without resentment.
I felt the same thing about her breath as she reached deep into her soul 🙏
She’s a great story teller. Very coherent and literate. I feel for her and want to hug her! ❤️
Me too.
The coke is irresistible
@@anthonypetercoleman3575 coke is irritable its pure hell u haven't been doing it to long it will take u down in a heart beat stop now while u have achance
@@bobbythompson5435 dude I’m talking about the soft drink, but whatever, drink your RC Cola
I know!! The story of her brother breaks my heart. I've watched a child's spirit get broken and it lays heavy
I love how you just allow the people you interview to talk. I imagine that this is so therapeutic for these individuals to just speak & share their stories and be listened to.
I agree 💯
Agree as well, he is amazing
I connect with her on so many levels despite us having different upbringings, fears and happiness. This interview really impacted me. Thank you SWU for bringing this type of content to the world. Really has opened my mind to so much. These videos just bring my inspiration in my own life and hope and also inspires me to find my creativity and reality to my writing!
The part where she said her mother left when the beatings were going on. That hit home for me. My mom left while dad abused me and while a boyfriend abused me I believe my mom was just scared - but as a mother myself I would have knocked their head off with a skillet if I saw that happening to my child.
Yup- my parents scoffed at me when I told them about abuse going on,they just didn’t want to upset their preset beliefs about authority figures.
I completely agree. As many of us would I would die protecting my child.
My mother joined in once when her boyfriend was beating me up…
Those women are fundamentally weak and don’t deserve to be mothers. I don’t even have kids but I cannot even begin to imagine being that kind of parent. A mother should be ready to die for her child. To suffer to endure anything for their child. It’s just unacceptable to abandon them like so many do. I cannot respect those people. I wish you all the luck with healing
@@mallyw5585💔😢
"giving up the victim and martyr role is taking up responsibility"
What a lesson to be learn
@hyzerponix What are you referring to?
@@tdb517 probably the support of government welfare that disincentives responsibility and community. Or the Marxist view of oppressors and oppressed
So wise.. Here's a thought, if you don't know how to take responsibility, challenge your victim mentality. Maybe thats the path to responsibility is understanding you're not a victim. I'm going to try to use that in my own life because I haven't really understood what responsibility means. Maybe I have a victim mentality I have to reevaluate
Politicians weaponize people's jealousy and laziness by calling them "victims" and using it against the productive members of society through more and more wealth re-distribution.
Those exact words have really resonated with me. My husband was abused by his father and places alot of blame with this mother who "never did anything to stop it". I will be sharing this with him.
She has a wholesome beauty encompassing her lucid grasp on the tragedies that befell her and her siblings, as well as a solid surety in her physical presence. This is an exceptional person. I hope the balance of her life is less turbulent.
@@patriciacole8773 you misread me. I am an absolute atheist and glorify no god or gods. My comments are devoid of any misguided belief system, but rather my belief in people. No god I know let’s over a million people contract, and die, from a virus! Such an act on any entities behalf would truly be evil!
I am a 70 year old listening to this story and admire so much, the courage it takes to share her story.
I agree with Eliazabeth that we all just want to be seen and heard: and loved, with no strings attached. For starters:)🧡
Wow, She walked us beautifully through the story of her life so far in thirty eight minutes and fifty four seconds.
That’s an incredible talent. A very good storyteller.
So much told, and more than ever could be put into words unsaid
My Grandpa was the child of a preacher & got beaten nearly to death by his father. The abuse was so bad, my Grandpa tried hanging himself at age 10. His brother saved him. My Grandpa wound up being schizophrenic in his early 20s, until he died at 57, of a heart attack, 21 years ago. I hate people who hide behind God to get away with being monsters.
My abuser was very “religious” and it definitely skewed my personal views on religion till this day. I’m very spiritual but cannot stand behind religion, it was always a crutch to pacify some of the worst people I knew.
This is deep but I love this comment a lot 🥺💕
We shouldn't blame someone's evil actions on the religion tho...
@@baileemiller9862 I never blamed the religion, I just don’t like how people use it to absolve their guilt. My perspective on religion is tainted but I never said it was religions fault ^
A lot of very sick, awful people use religion as a mask to hide behind. Look up the BTK killer. Almost all serial killers use religion or know of its utility to do the awful things they do.
@@baileemiller9862 "We?" How dare you dictate what she can or cannot blame for HER personal religious trauma! You have not a clue what she suffered! How arrogant and presumptive on your part! Leave the suggestions to a trained therapist.
I appreciate her honesty. Her story is powerful. The fact that she recognized her own brokenness and decided not have kids takes courage. I wish so many people understood this. Peace and blessings Elizabeth!
I totally respect this woman and her path. Her honesty and her spirituality.
...as a former teacher I'm a little bit appalled that this persons teacher saw a totally blank exam paper and didn't question what on earth was going on in that students mind.
That’s what I was thinking! Actually, This happened to me in school many times. Teachers stopped acknowledging me after a while as well. It’s really sad. I feel bad for other kids
I thought the exact same thing. Teachers should absolutely know the signs of something being off.
Typical for the period
I'm actually not sure she was 100 with that, in my exp it's not how dissociation happens...
@@imagreatguy1250 ...well I'm not sure about the psychology of it. But I do know that's not how good teaching and learning happens.
As a father with two young children this served as a reminder to not lose my cool when a toddler isn’t listening.
Your children will remember your kindness.
For me too🙏🏿
@@1909Ghost they definitely will
It's not easy. A child depends on you for everything. It's up to you to show them life!
Very important!!!!!
I’m so grateful for this interview and her willingness to share. There are a lot of parallels in our lives and she’s so introspective, strong, astute and mentally healthy now. I needed to see that that’s possible. Wow💗
Man, this was one of your best. This interview was so inspirational for me.
Yes!
She just BLESSED me with her story.
Blessed you with her stories being sexually abused by her preacher father...you sound pretty damn pathetic if you ask me
Bless you Tanya for putting into words how I feel too. Stay blessed
@@mr.r1622 Well you sound pretty damn rude and tone deaf. Liz’s life story overall!! She went through so much but still managed to survive and find meaning in it all
@@mr.r1622 no one did. You sound pretty damn awful if you ask me.
But no blessings for the gay or lesbian community right?
This ,for some reason, is the story that hurt me the most. She made me realize some things thanks to you reviewing her. Thank you Mark for sharing her story and thank you Liz for sharing it to the whole world.
I totally agree, so many of us have similar stories and I find it beautiful as humans that we have that connection/ being able to express our own emotions / traumas their own words and we can relate.
That bit when she said about her drug and alcohol counsellor who was the first guy in her life who wanted to love her without wanting to touch her or anything...that's when my eyes filled up because that's such a rare thing to people who've suffered and it's something I've felt while watching a number of these interviews with different people and with friends I've made in the past who have told me of their traumas, like I just wanna support their healing. People don't deserve to suffer at the hands of others and it just sucks that we live in a world with so much suffering. 😔
As a Female she shouldn't have a male counselor !! I am a retired Counselor, and damn near ever make counselor I've worked with don't follow the First Ethic of the Helping Professions !! Do No Harm !l! Yet they have a hard time with barriers ! They think it's okay to get into relationships with their client's !! That is a Big No !l
@@ms.martiegallego8834- That is absolutely correct…except, in this case, the result seems to have provided some actual healing ❤️🩹
@@ms.martiegallego8834 maybe he was gay?
I had sex with my beautiful therapist and it was one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. She helped me get over an abusive cheating girlfriend. Best sex I ever had.
It was of course consensual and mutual attraction.
We both orgasmed a lot, so…
The key is it has to be non coerced and consensual….
Her councilor crossed a serious line.
I see this woman as a psychologist/ psychiatrist. So full of wisdom. You definitely are a survivor.
🤣
Long shot as she has knowledge but college costs money. Masters degree costs more.
me too I was thinking the same
Yes
Um, a big fat 'NO' to that, she's back on the wagon!
I would love to be friends with this lady. My childhood wasn’t exactly the same as hers, but there are lots of parallels and I definitely relate to most of her experiences including the mistakes. I’m glad she’s in a healthy state of mind and seems to be at peace. Thanks for sharing your story with us Liz. And as always, thank you Mark for your amazing work. I look forward to your video notifications almost every morning while I’m getting ready for work here on the East coast. ❤️
“I chose to face myself.” Few of us know the power and courage it takes to perform this act.
These interviews are diverse and so moving. So many different stories. So many different horrors. So many different ways to cope. So many strong survivors. It's all so heavy. And it all gives me some relief, and hope, knowing I'm not alone in my life's pain. Much love, yall. Peace
Growing up a pastor's son, this is some raw truth. Much of this is far more common than most know. Some, if not all of this never really goes away.
I was going to ask about this. I've seen so many stories over the last few years like this one; and yours.
Is it really this common?!
@@janellejulianajoy Wow! This is so terrifying. My husband was a pastor. He was the real deal and I and my children loved him so much. He lived what he preached. He died of an illness in his seventies. I'm so sorry that this woman went through all this.. The hypocrisy of some people is unbelievable. And they affect so many people in a negative way. That is not a true gospel message.
Most of them suffer from grandiose/malignant npd, check out Sam vaknins video Narcissists & their relation with God
Same
@@rebeccagutierrez1960 sure it is, stop kidding yourself. Child sacrifice and crucifixion is good news to the chosen ones of the bloody oath cults.
I resonate so much with Liz's story except my dad was a well known doctor in a small town. I haven't talked to him in 7 years and before that it was 9 years and then before that for about 4 years when I was in college. The last time I saw him 7 years ago, we cried, but he did something really creepy right afterwards and I realized that he could never be in my life. Trust was broken too many times and in too many ways. I warn people who think that adult children can/should reconcile with parents who were sexually abusive. I have been gaslighted many, many times by ignorant, but well meaning, people who can't understand why I don't talk to my father. People need to stop judging and thinking they are so wise and instead, do what Liz said 'just accept'. It makes me happy to hear that Liz is healing and has healed alot of her trauma. It gives me hope and inspiration to keep going, to keep loving and to keep seeing myself and others with deeper and deeper compassion.
Thanks so much for your reply. Some people can't understand that the abuser is NOT healed themselves and that makes it impossible to reconcile. I'm so thankful that you have such a strong sense of what is RIGHT for you. Never doubt your instincts. May God bless you and keep you!
incest destroys families for generations. I hope you are at peace now
Thankyou for your story.
So true the Only reason people hurt children is because they can, that's it.
I can forgive, but never let them forgot.
I promise, your honesty and courage, will help you move forward.
Take care
Love Australia
Pray total healing to you
You don't have to explain anything to anyone...when people violate trust...goodbye. Your a survivor and what ever you do to survive is your strength.
Unbelievable story. So well articulated I couldn’t stop listening. Just wow.
Same here! Very captivating yet heartbreaking at the same time.
story sucked i rather read marvel comics
Watch the one with Star!!
@@MrMuaythai84 your sense of humor is lost in your mind. A self reflective mirror is not an audience but whatever strokes the ego... Mature a bit and you can shed those insecurities
I was so into it I kept gasping for air and taking deep breaths at the same time as her..incredible what she's been through and how she's come out of it, healing doesnt just happen by acknowledging the pain, its years of work.
This is the best I've listened to. The intelligence and strength of this lady is phenomenonal. You can't stop listening all the way through.
My story is similar to hers. I came up in an abuse environment a preacher's son. It's a long story, but I relate with Elizabeth in so many levels. I'm 59 today, with a young family and a new career in a new environment. I can say, as Elizabeth and as so many others, the road to freedom can be long but well worth it when you have an inner resolve to make it -- with faith in God. With each new breakthrough you become stronger. You are never perfect, but you are better, and you come to experience life on your own terms -- which is so liberating! I celebrate Elizabeth and her path. It's always good to find others who have walked in your same steps.
Same. It would be interesting to get my story off on here. Not many people can handle the details. But, I’m at peace and comfortable explaining my side. I noticed whenever I did explain myself in private, either something is wrong with me, according to the listener, or I gotta put up with a bunch of sobbing. And, I’m all like, look I got through it. I’m past the crying and feeling crappy about myself. I actually feel triumphant that I moved outta hell😎
Seems so unfair that we’ve had to suffer
Very similar to my story too
I've NEVER met another woman that spoke so many words that have come out of my own mouth. God bless her for being well adjusted after every thing.This is an incredible story,behind the family portrait.If l haven't said it enough,your work is awesome.Thank you💙
Thank you for sharing your story Elizabeth. My heart goes out to you. I am a Registered Nurse that experienced trauma growing up. Becoming a nurse helped me heal and it has allowed me to help other people that have experienced what I went through. I've learned that the power of forgiveness sets you free and allows you to heal. Nothing is ever hopeless, you can find happiness and unconditional love.
@Nurse Anastasia Liberty...blessings to you and your family and THANK YOU 😊as nurses are AMAZING!
She is extremely insightful. Her experiences as terrible as they are have brought her a lot of awareness. She's very intelligent and expresses herself very well. I just want the best things to happen for this woman from here on out. She deserves all the best things
Elizabeth, sometimes telling one’s story is therapeutic. You’re an excellent orator. Perhaps writing a book about you’re experiences would help others and in turn, heal your deep trauma .
Yes she could write a really interesting book.
Yeah maybe when she permanently quits the f'n drinking.
@@jasonblack6059 you are SO clueless about trauma, to say that.
aww man i really felt for her when she said that guy loved her and she wouldn't accept it that's hard
@@leahflower9924 I agree 💔
36:48 -- "Feeling good naturally with nothing in your body is the best feel-good ever!"
So happy for Liz! You go, girl! 🥳🥳🙏
except for wine...
Yes, it is. But when you have to face your many enemies blind and unprotected...
It can be but sometimes drugs just help you in ways people or nature can't and stereotypes negative stigmas won't change that. Some people have self control and can resist abusing like micro dropping acid or Ayahuasca
She deserves a gold medal. So few people have the self-awareness to say 'i am not capable of being a parent.' The ironic thing is at the end of the day she certainly is (as with most people who evaluate themselves enough to say that). She is wise has a lot of love. She would make a great foster parent. Just putting that out there, as there are so many kids who need love and a home and it sounds like she is set financially.
Have you seen the opening scene of Idiocracy? That's what it always reminds me
You are fucking clueless.
It is hard to be a good parent when you were never given a proper example.
fantastic idea!!!
@@nancytucker7503 I don't believe her because I see a lot of empathy in her, the way she speaks about her little brother. She is simply scared. She'd be better than most people. It's her confidence that is the only issue.
So very moving to listen to what people have endured. Very powerful. Bowing to this woman's courage and resiliance. I can relate strongly to what she shared. Wishing her so much love and thank you for sharing some of your story.
Wow! She has put some many things into perspective for me. I had a pretty good childhood compared to hers, yet I’m still dealing with the trauma of an abusive mother and an emotionally absent father. I guess I have to rethink my life and where I want to go with this pain. Elizabeth is a true inspiration. God bless her.
ML, your trauma is important, too. And you deserve healing.
I think arriving to that conclusion of “I could’ve had it much worse” on your own is kind of helpful because it makes you grateful for what you have. But it’s good to realize this and also know that your experience is valid. Otherwise you end up burying feelings/issues that actually needs to heal.
“I am a child if God, and no one can take it away from me”. Amazing. My mom is the same way, she went through incest, abuse, rape, drug abuse and so much more living in the projects with her mother. Instead of being a victim she broke the cycle and locked down on us having the most protected and successful lives. Sister is going into the navy with a bachelors as an officer, I’m in nursing school, and brother is going into the marines! No matter how small, you think your impact is, we young people see it and can get so much inspiration you won’t even be able to comprehend. You are a role model and an example for me. I have demons to fight that I only brought on myself, thank you for helping me keep self accountability.
Amen. Blessings to you and your family.
Women are powerful, and your mother is an amazing woman who raised terrific children! Believe in yourself Kai!
@@melissaralstonjones1550 mm m 14
a wonderful woman’s fight is the reason you’re here today❤️
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Many girls that are abused and neglected by a narcissistic parent have borderline personality disordered traits. Liz describes those throughout this testimony. That's really tough. Suicidal tendencies, alcohol and drug addiction and people addiction, feeling unlovable, and on and on. Same stuff. So happy to hear this woman is doing well.
thanks for being so empathetic michael. as a girl with ex-drug addicted parents, i feel seen. my childhood was rough and traumatic. people like you help us to realize that not everyone is going to hurt us. peace to you
Nothing to do with borderline personality disorder. All to do with trauma. Trauma can be a catalyst for MANY mental health illnesses
@@9roselove9 BPD has everything to do with trauma tho
Is BPD curable
@@juliettezea9507 i don't think BPD is curable because it's a personality disorder. it can guide your outlook on life and yourself, but if you understand its root cause and learn how to cope with those thoughts/impulses, you can thrive.
I have been binge watching Mark's videos for the entire evening. This has to be my favorite interview thus far.
I really liked her honesty when she chose not to have kids as she was aware of her brokenness and did not want to put another being into that. How wise!! If most people in similar brokenness had this same awareness, so many, many, millions of kids would not have to suffer in dysfunctional situations. Children deserve stability, love, safety, and a fair start in life. They are born in need of being seen, heard, love, and protected. They are the most vulnerable to dysfunction. I am so glad that she understood that! My deepest respect for you, Elizabeth. Thank you so very much for sharing your poignant story. So touching!! It is wonderful to see that you overcame your suffering and, finally, found healing to your wounds.
Elizabeth, I just want to say thank you, as someone who endured physical violence through the entirety of my childhood its very difficult to feel understand. Your story made me feel seen. Sending blessings.
Me too!
The same thing happened to me as a prepubescent girl I was being molested in the dark. My father’s secrets (and many men in church) are still protected by my entire family and I have been disowned for speaking about it now as an adult. Still it’s the best thing to happen for me to get away from it all and focus on my mental
I am sorry this happened to you. Gad you are free now. Sending you lots of hugs.
I’m so sorry this happened to you, I wish you all the best❤️💋
My heart absolutely breaks for you. This is so prevalent in our communities, it's ridiculous.
"We're only as sick as our secrets"
I'm sure you've heard this
said but the first time I heard it, it rocked me.
May God hold you in the hollow of his hand 💕
And God wept.....
That is AWFUL! I CAN’T UNDERSTAND HOW THEY GET AWAY WITH IT? HOW MANY CHILDREN HAVE TO BE RIPPED APART BY THESE PERVERTED MONSTERS? GOD BLESS YOU TRULY!
This was such a beautiful and sad share....I live in Clayton and this made me feel even more traumatized bcuz I often picture these stories in skid row or NY not my home....I absolutely love the part where she said David loved her back to life. I was bawling at work listening on my Bluetooth. You are a beautiful soul Elizabeth. You are so strong thank you for sharing your story!!!!!!
She’s a warrior. She’s extremely articulate and hasn’t allowed (even though she has every right to) hate and destruction to rule who she truly is❤
Very well said.
Beautifully put.
That’s the thing- none of us have the right to let hate and destruction to rule us- that’s how abuse happens and gets passed down over and over and over and she clearly knows that- to her Immense credit
I was a big fan of her brother. He seemed like a really great guy, and was shocked to hear of his untimely passing when it happened. I'm sure he held a lot of space in his sister's life. And still. Her story of perseverance is incredible.
Yea he was pretty famous I surprised when I looked it up
@Juliana Lacroix Did you find him? Steve Bridges was his name
So she is Elizabeth Bridges. I was wondering about that at: 30:50
She definitely needs to write a book, Her story is beautiful, I admire how she is very aware of herself, and she has done healing work. Excellent interview. Good luck to her life journey.
I wept throughout this. There was a release when she spoke to her father. She found forgiveness through spirit. And she listened. So many profound things and events that changed her life. So powerful. This is wisdom. She has so much awareness. Of energy and what truly makes a parent. That made me so happy to hear her say that. Having a baby should be something that requires a Masters degree.
What a pretty smart woman, you'd never know what she had gone thru looking at her. Seems so well balanced now, it was a terrible journey but look who she is today.
Looks can be deceiving 😉
Everyone has a story with different levels. It's about overcoming them and not justifying becoming what many have in succumbing to those childhood traumas.
@@seedofabraham0149 you're right. Everyone has a story. And it really is the easier way to just give up and not fight for your sanity, your health, your emotional wellbeing. Even though "giving up" looks like such a hard life for those who chose it, it's so much harder to pull yourself up.
@@seedofabraham0149 I suppose that’s what you’d tell Combat Vets and I bet that *really* helps them deal with their PTSD./s
Many of these people have grown up in domestic combat zones and as a result are “coping” the best they can with C-PTSD.
@@travispee3503 It's difficult to imagine a mother not sticking up for her kids. Painfully sad.
When she said he loved her back to life that hit my soul. Wow love can heal the deepest wounds. 🦋💙🦋
Same
I cried as I heard her say that. No one ever did that for me or helped me. I'm so glad I am in a loving relationship with the kindest man I have ever met.
Thats powerful
Yeah easy for her.
Such an amazing and strong woman, i could listen to her talk forever
I felt exactly the same
Forever?
When your a millionaire you can afford the best doctors\counseling that helps
@@lisafrederick8870 preach, sister.
This woman is so intelligent and so self aware,
I was elated as she displayed a higher and higher level of understanding of not only her own pain but the human condition in general as the video went on,
Fantastic interview