I literally have no memories of my childhood, it’s really scary, it’s as if they are locked away and I can’t access them - but I have no trauma, my parents seem normal - no abuse etc, I don’t understand.
I certainly don’t want to (or intend to) tell you what you experienced or did not experience. But are you sure that you didn’t experience trauma and just can’t remember it because you repressed it?
My therapist's first question was 'what good memories do you have of the time spent with your parents?'. I sat for 10 minutes thinking but couldn't give any. She said that people nornally remember good times but supresse bad memories and that if I couldn't remember any good moments it means it must have been really bad. It was. I supressed almost all of my childhood and I have huge memory gaps from my past in general. This is one of my protective mechanisms in order to stay sane.
@@meme-bu8qu I only remmebr myself being alone and lonely And crying in weeding and family gathering, because I was counting down the time of our leave to the this house we moved in, in a city where no family member live in no neighbors and had no friends, Even their accent was different, I couldn't understand lol But then I ate I guess that how I have a eating disorder??? Idk lol
@@Emilysworldisbeautiful Yes it sounds related to ur eating disorder. Might b good to figure out eht kind of food u eat + c if it connects to anything from ur past
I was in the psyche ward 3 times as a young teenager. No one ever questioned my childhood or any possible abuse. I even told them I do not want my dad there or visiting me.
I'm the only one in my family who does remember, and I remember it all. My family now thinks I'm lying, so my response was, "Said the family who doesn't remember, to the girl who never forgot..."
I noticed I had a friend as a child, but I do not remember what she looks like, sounds like, or anything, not even her name, all I know is that I had a friend years ago, I also feel I miss her.
Post traumatic amnesia; the memories will come back after you sense something that triggers, a memory. It took me four months to remember that I was hit by a train 🚆 in San Francisco (where I'd **just** moved, two months before I was injured); what triggered the memory is I was sent on a bus, through the SF LaGuna Honda hospital to a separate hospital, to test if it was safe for me to drink fluids, yet (as I'd been just having water injected into a surgical hole placed in my abdomen); well, while I was on the bus we'd passed a tsunami warning sign, and we don't have those in Anchorage, Alaska, where I was sure I was at (SF sort of looks like Anchorage *in* *the* *Summer*, plus I saw a few people I'd known in Alaska)... so with that observation I put everything together and remembered, my short term memories. But every post traumatic injury is different, and some people can't remember old memories, such as their own name after the impact. The brain is weird.
This is not a sob story. Just the facts. My mom abused alcohol even while I was in her uterus. I was born with a cleft lip. I had lip surgery before leaving the hospital, I am told. I'm the 2nd oldest of 4 brothers. I'm 60 now, and began working on myself around the age of 28, when I went into inpatient alcohol and other addictions rehab. I've been clean and sober ever since. Working on myself, self discovery has been an on and off affair. Around 15 years ago I checked myself into a therapist for anger management therapy, during which I was "hypnotized" was it were, and regressed as far back as I could go. I recalled a disturbing memory of a traumatic event that occurred sometime between my 7th and 10th year. My mom wanted me to shut my mouth, to be quiet. I don't remember why? But it seems to me I was crying or complaining over something. She stuffed a handkerchief in my mouth and ordered me to sit on the floor in a corner of our living room. That's still a doozy of a memory for me to integrate. I'm the only one of my brothers who she physically hurt. I think because I was very strong minded, and insubordinate even at a young age. Another memory, around the same era, but later, probably closer to 10 years old for sure, she caused me to stumble down a step near the back door of our house, from the inside. My head fell into the glass on the door. The glass broke and I had a cut on my head for which I had to be taken to emergency. It wasn't too ban really. I got a few stitches. Even though my mom made it clear to my brothers and I, that we were worthless and we don't appreciate anything, we always tried to love her as best we knew how. Sometime around the same era, between my age of 5 to 8 I would say, my mom left us boys and my dad. As it turned out she was living with another man somewhere else in our town. The way I remember it was my dad packed me and my brothers in the car and drove us to a house where my mom was supposed to be. I guess my dad knew that mom wasn't going to see or talk to him, so he had me and my 1 year older brother go to the door of the home and ask for my mom, and if she came to the door we were to ask her to please come home. I don't recall if she came to the door or not, it seems like she did, but I'm not sure. But I remember somebody did, so we got to at least give her the message. Remember I said not a sob story. Just the facts as I remember. I'm getting back into mindfulness meditation AND shadow work these days. I have no fear of what I might see or realize, and I've come to accept (for myself) that there are some things which can perhaps be remembered or examined, but not changed, and healing then, simply means accepting. And that's Ok.
Yes, the power of acceptance is incredible but I believe (like Freud, Ranke, Jung, Reich, Erich Fromm, Laing and Rollo May) that to live our true lives designed by our inner child (and balanced by the adult) we must delve into the unconscious and integrate all that lies there.
I find it really sad that..( from my experience of observing others and the dysfunction in my upbringing) older generations having that sort of messaging rammed down their throats to the point where acknowledging any sadness or having any sort of displeasure over something,is immediately stamped as "complaining." I find it completely outrageous and the ultimate method of dismissing people.
You won’t believe it Mr. Mackler… I’ve been watching your videos for the last couple weeks and just by listening to you I keep remembering old memories from my childhood - and I have very few of them. That’s curious because i saw, in one of your videos, you talking about how people would start reviving their childhood traumas when you’d given them a non-judgemental environment to talk. I’m sure you have a strong talent to be a therapist!
I felt lost in my later years when I was talking to an old friend, he was able to recall old memories of our childhood. I came to a realization that I've blocked memories because there was trauma and abuse. it took me years to recollect parts of me I chose to forget. I was normal for the most part but rebuilding the younger part of self was not easy. I asked my parents about my earlier years and even they couldn't recall. As I matured in age I found methods that could help me confront my fears and expose them. In doing so I found strength within. I will continue the battle that rages in my soul and in my mind. I will conquer my Adveriseties and rise above the misery and mystery.
My first memory is 4 and it was rooted in racism. I feel like a lot of times we forget racism can cause people trauma. It's seen as an inconvenience instead of trauma.
One time I had a memory resurface and it was shocking to me to recall that event ; it was like a wave that rolled through my brain ; while I was in the middle of a business meeting, and yes I had an instant meltdown in the meeting
I had a loving home, two sisters and parents together. I have lot of photos of doing things together with my parents and getting every toy I ever wanted. But I remember NOTHING. I have maybe a total of 30-50 memories from my childhood from 3 to 16. I'm now 42.
Recently realised that as a child I heavily identified with certain books and some TV shows. I was living in a hostile home. The show was steptoe and son. The constant battle between father and son ( I could not battle against my father he was crazy) The other books was the water babies ( downtrodden dirty Tom) and black beauty ( the horse that was broken in). Unconsciously to survive I I was projecting my feelings trying to make sense of my life. It helped me to survive. That’s what we do when we hide inside our heads to survive. I am going to read these books now and journal with them. My secrets are inside these books and tv show which is inside me. As I started reading read these books memories are beginning to stir. I know these books were read to me in school when I was very young. The knowledge of the story is inside me. As I read and remember the story stuff starts rising.
I couldnt remember anything and lots of therapy did not help. EMDR loosened things up as has my own self therapy and journalling. Its been hard and i havent found a positive memory yet with my parents. I think we speak of traumas, but the wider long term neglect is also an issue which creates blockage. I have many a trauma, but that ever present neglect and abandonment made me also shutdown and repress. Good luck to others here trying, its not easy, but think its needed work!!
My “father”, while repressing a grin (just barely, was still grinning and it was sadistic,) shared with me randomly that he “felt bad” and was “sorry” because when I was a toddler, I had an accident on the floor, basically, I peed myself and the pee got on the carpet and he rammed my face in it. I was shocked and horrified. My most significant memories come back at 19, child molestation, physical abuse, but nothing other than my mother physically abusive and being molested by my “father” once and a few flashbulb memories sprinkled here and there. I’m glad I don’t remember this shit, but I’m horrified at what I don’t remember. I know this is why I have really bad anxiety and trust issues as an adult. The people who “don’t want to hear it” don’t want to have a different view of my abuser, cause then it would change their relationship with them. I remembered enough to see the grooming and gaslighting and to go no contact. I think it’s good that I don’t remember. I’m glad my brain is protecting me. I remember enough. My mother carried the anger to her grave that as a child I told a teacher she hit me. She repeatedly gaslight me growing up saying she never hit me till I believed it, then I remembered. There’s a reason you don’t remember, your brain is protecting you. I don’t think you should go digging around for memories that are too painful for your body and mind to remember. Your brain is keeping you safe. I feel like certain memories would give me a heart attack. I rather not remember those memories.
Your subconscious will show you only what you can handle. Problem is that it wants to heal so will often drive you into circumstances that echo past experiences..the so called "repetition compulsion"...or itll give you a kick in the ass. Probably less than 1% of therapists in general and even less than 5% of hypnotherapists know how to diffuse trauma safely without having to recall a specific memory and its associated affect...ie feelings and emotions. EMDR is a very safe form of hypnosis. When we can't remember it's because our environment, situation, support network & therapists are not safe enough...the subconscious knows who it can trust to share this material with. ...this is why group discussions can work...because everyone has similar experience so can offer genuine support and empathy. That's why we all comment on these videos.
I always had a fear of water, well maybe not always... I had these dreams as a child of my father watching me as I sank to the bottom of an ocean as he watched me expressionless. Turns out he went to go have a smoke while I swam around in the pool as a toddler in a public pool, started drowning and had to be rescued by a lifeguard. Apparently the pool called my mom to let her know, she told me randomly in my 20s about this and I had never remembered. I think what else happened. I oftentimes get a flash or memory of trauma and often times its quite validating. Makes me realize im not so crazy for feeling the way I do.
Dear Daniel, i have been listening to you for past 4 days and i am grateful i found you. I waited till 40 to become a mother, i am learning from you so much. Sending Love your way, of you ever revisit Poland, you are so welcome to stay with me ❤
I haven't watched the video yet, but I felt I remembered only the sad or bad aspects until I got to a point where I had done all the grieving & processing of anger and pain, then reached a point of peace, and only then remembered some nice things. initially nice things about the natural environment, & much later some aspects of some of the people.
I’m right there with you. I’ve been bullied my whole life by my family. My mom used to say to all of us kids (there were 9 of us) when we said something about going to a friends, she’d respond…you don’t have any friends.
I remember very little from my childhood, I’m only 16. I tried to recollect all my memories from before I turned 13, separating them into “school” and “free time”. I have 16 memories from school (elementary) and 17 of general memories until I turned 13. My earliest being me 6ish, crying for my mother as the teacher yelled at me for making animal noises on the carpet. I think the only real reason I remember this is because it’s become a minor joke in the family. I remember a few other things, but there more concepts, not actual memories, like I remember not having a lot of friends, but the actual memory was me sitting on the pavement alone. Most of these have little to no context and I have a hard time connecting these memories together. Does anyone know if this is normal childhood amnesia or something else?
@@elisraelable yes I highly recommend it, it is very supportive and the exercises in the book pull out the true feelings of your inner child where you develop your inner parent to nourish your inner child plus eventually you are not only focusing on your wounds since the book also has exercises for forgiveness and championing our inner child to become empowered as an adult
Lots of pain. I would like to remember the good things. The good things were so rare. It would make my childhood more bearable. Like you Daniel I found solace in books and my pets. I would often climb up the pergola and onto the roof to find peace with a book. I could bearly hear the human voices up there.
I used to climb right up to the top of an ancient copper beech tree. I think those were the happiest moments of my childhood; the branches moving in the wind, the leaves, the sky.
@@AndyT-np8mm I had a beautiful Tree, into which I climbed, to find safety, solace, & peace. Now, I am living in my parents' house, with one of my parents. It's very triggery. And, my precious Tree friend has been cut down. 💔
I've read that emotions are linked to the formation of memories so maybe apart from the repression of painful memories, there's also the dissociation from one's own emotions preventing new long-term memories from being formed in the first place. Of course, there must be a reason for the dissociation itself, for which there should be a memory. Also, I've always preferred spending time in my own mind instead of paying attention to the world around me, which may have prevented me from remembering most of it.
Just this year it occurred to me that I don't remember my childhood, like at all except for a couple random memories but they're all about/take place in school. I think I realized from my friend always saying things she did as a child and at one point it just clicked that I never had any stories to share back because well, i didnt remember any. Now if I was older, I don't think I would have questioned it, but considering that im not even 15 yet, I should remember a lot more than I do, because when I say my childhood, im referring to anything before 2 years ago.
I didn't have children - not because I wouldn't have wanted to have them but because I didn't want them to be as unhappy as I had been and I didn't know how to prevent that. I made the right choice for me. I would feel horrible if I passed that stuff down.
I don't remember my early childhood, but I've been obsessed with one particular story I've been writing and re-writing compulsively for more than 15 years. Even though I don't remember, my fictional characters do.
Patience. Taking regular time to only think, sometimes try to remember places, songs, smells, food or anything similar. Becoming more independent and becoming separated from the parents (yes, sometimes our mind protects us from remembering because we still depend on our parents or other people or we're so emotionally attached to them). There will probably be a moment when the memories will start coming back. We could write it. And it also comes back as we're stronger and prepared. Thanks for the video ☺☺
I don't actually remember anything clearly from even last year .. I always have felt like running away from life i am living.. I am nott enjoying my life and i think that i will start a new chapter after school and the same shit happened in college. Next year i will be graduating from college and i think i will have a fresh start after that😔
I'm barely entering adulthood, but I feel I don't remember anything of my past. When I try to find events that could explain why I feel like I live with strangers (my parents), I can't recall my childhood. I remember my friends more than my relationship with my parents... I hope I'll remember some things as time passes by and maybe try to heal some broken things in me.
Yes, it can be a real problem if unconscious childhood trauma attracts it to an adult life. Life also mirrors back and gives clues about what the original trauma was. I agree that it is not safe to grieve at stressful times. My cottage will be sold soon and I will not have a place to live - not a safe time to remember..
I hope that you have found a place of safety--a comfortable, safe, joyful place in which to live. 💕 I wish you safety, security, comfort, healing, strength, power, empowerment, support, connection, community, care, Love, Light, Hope, & ever-increasing peace. ♥️ God be with you, friend. ♥️
That actually makes a ton of sense. These memories may have tied to them the overwhelming emotions that can't afford to be remembered in one's current life.
The Homecoming by John Bradshaw is an amazing book for remembering the different ages of childhood experiences And in understanding how the ego and personality evolves at different childhood ages
I journaled. It helped slowly. I changed to writing in colored pencils, pens, crayons, markers. I turned the page on the diagonal to write. I switched to unlined paper. These were suggested to me by a therapist. It worked much faster. I wrote about the details of the curtains in the room (non threatening details of the experience to let myself back into the room). The details of the curtains … moved to details of wall paint… moved to ppl in the room… moved to opening the full memory up from a less threatening, objective observer memory. Good luck those of you here. It was never your fault. I have realized that no one has hurt me in this life as much as I have… let’s be understanding with those inner children who went through these things.
Jin Shin Jyutsu is a type of acupressure that connects two points at once and it definitely worked to bring up stored cellular memories from my childhood
@@Maxmaxmax63 that doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. The question to you is if there is research that discredits it or shows it DOES NOT work, or is there simply a lack of attention?
I remember having a cast on my arm. I remember going to a doctor to check if it's time to take it off or not. I don't remember what events led to my needing a cast. Sometimes I wonder, but most of the time I think I'm better off not remembering, because it'll just be one more reason to be angry and I'm tired of being angry. I don't want to have any more memories.
Everything you mention has worked for me over time. However, there are big parts of my childhood I still can't remember. I will have to go on journaling I guess.
Great vid. When I was in my 20's no one wanted to know what was happening, or had happened in my family. They wanted to party, take drugs and sych like. It was Hell to be around such people and I will never put myself through that again.
Great video, as usual, thank you, Daniel! I have another, completely unrelated question: could you maybe do a video on Brené Brown and her work? I’m thinking specifically about two of her books: - Braving the Wilderness - The gifts of imperfection I really like her work, especially those two books and so I was wondering if you knew them and if so if you had any thoughts you wanted to share. I don’t know if you do that sort of thing at all (talking about other people’s books) so if you find it uninteresting, just ignore this. Thanks for your work and please go on! Best, Luzia
I've been thinking a lot lately about a distinct lost fragment in my memory. I have a good memory, and can remember back into my first year during infancy and up to around 2 years. Unfortunately, this time was characterized by severe trauma at times from living with my dysfunctional parents. I believe my memories are highly accurate and not false, as I corroborated multiple memories with family members who had not previously spoken or suggested anything about those memory points. There seems to be a period of time after my 2nd birthday, up to some point after my 3rd birthday but before I turned 4, that I simply cannot remember. I even have a distinct memory of waking up one morning and being home, and telling my mother that I could remember days and events several months ago, but could not remember anything about the past few weeks or months (I remember the conversation in the kitchen near the phone on the wall). Looking back, it's so hard to make sense of my chronological memory in that time. I've looked through photo albums, and there is a distinct period of time I simply cannot remember. Oddly, my mother, who I tend to believe in her recollections, said I was more happy or rapturous in that period of time, in contrast to my more reserved and malaise-like personality during most of my childhood (it was a highly traumatic childhood in an extremely dysfunctional and abusive family). It's as if my mind made an early rejection of some kind of glossing-over dissociation it had made, and I'm left with the real world memories on either side of the dissociation--and it happened fast, fast enough for me to tell my mother that day that I couldn't remember the past several months. It seems like a classical psychoanalytic perspective would expect breaks and fugues and turnarounds and the like as the developing personality/ego comes together, and perhaps everything I experienced was healthy. But I'm stuck with the nagging sensation that I lost some big of myself that I was meant to integrate--like that dissociated 2 year old was literally my inner child, somehow completely sequestered between the two book-ends of "depressed infant" (which a lot of humans simply cannot remember) and "depressed young man." More tantalizing, it seemed like a lot of my healthier and happier peers in school were not integrating their inner children (as I interpret it now), but rather were for better or worse actually living out their inner children as their major external personality. It seems like they remained in that rapturous fragment that was blocked in me, and carried out that fragment for many years into childhood and even adulthood. Is that normal for non-dysfunctional individuals in my generation? (I'm an elder millennial) I used to go to family recovery-type meetings and a lot of older people still talk about the acknowledgment and integration of the inner child. But I've started to wonder if the inner child was actually MORE dissociated in the last couple of generations compared to the baby boomers, because we either "lived as the inner child" in an extended personality fragment, or else we completely buried it and it wasn't even a suppressed ego/personality fragment, but absolutely hidden from consciousness. This hypothesis might explain why millennials were interpreted to be unable to integrate more masculine and mature pre-postmodern social roles. The healthier millennials would never have gotten to a stage to take on much of any adult social roles, because they're still playing out the living inner child.
Could you make a video talking about what you think about Multiple Personality Disorder/DID my friend has it + Anxiety, how are they supposed to deal with it and heal from the traumas that caused it? Could you also talk about anti-depressants, I'm in a process of getting of that.
The freedom in geographical boundaries are definitely very true. It is like taking a step back from your own past. It is like looking at a theatre play, sitting in the theatre chairs. Only that one of the persons on stage is actually you!
I can basically remember tons of scenes even from when I was 1,lots of things,what people said,my feelings.The reason why I 'm watching this Video is,the more flashed back,the more painful,can't stand staying alive
I’m digging what yre saying and feel I had some tough things going on fairly early as a kid. Can you do a video on how to specifically access memories? Or give me some quick advice? Can’t find ANYTHING specific, just reasons why we can’t access memories. Much thanks!
I remember things from my childhood but i don't remember 90%of the people. It's awkward because I've seen them out in public and they remember me but i don't remember them. I mean I recall their faces at times but never remember they names. They ALWAYS think I'm lying. Smh
I don't remember anything from my childhood and I also don't remember recent things and all things but I am very good at academics I don't forget my academic data but I almost forget everything of practical life.
My earliest memory is age 4..Being in an oxygen tent and people having to put their hands thru it. I am fighting to breath and scareed. Also felt abanded because parents weren't around.. Didn't understand then that they had two younger brothers to take care of. Understand now. Parts of my memory is gone because of years of drugs and alcohol. Still have puzzle pieces missing around my first being molested at 13. Perhaps it is better that i don't remember. Think it was one of my supposed friends.
That's sad. ONE of your parents should have stayed. I never left a child alone in the hospital, not even when young adults. Its' scary being in the hospital alone you need an advocate who wants what is best for you. One parent stays in hospital with the child in medical need, and the other parent stays at home to take care of the other kids. Seems pretty straight forward to me
@@recoveringsoul755 My mom was only 16 an my dad was 21. Since i watched my dad die in April 2013, have had many conversations with my mom. Have a better understanding. Now bed
@@RandyR your mom was 16 WHEN you were 4 years old? She got pregnant at 11? And had 2 younger brothers? Children shouldn't be having children, her body was still growing. Might be part of why you had health problems. So sorry
I don’t care about not remembering and I don’t want to remember if it serves me no good other than suffering and to satisfy other people’s Schadenfreude. People have no right to know of my pain or life.
Oh yeah 😝 Middle School 🏫 I hated ever moment of that shit. In sixth grade I got in trouble for writing notes in class, and I remember I mentioned something about burning the school down 🔥 and this was 1999, recently after the Columbine terrorism, so, I was sternly spoken to and it was debated whether I ought to be expelled (I remember thinking I’d love that) but, I didn’t serve detention until I was a freshman in High School 🧐 But in seventh grade the school threatened to call child protective services on my breeders, because I had dark circles under my eyes, because sleep wasn’t a priority and I was late for class (more than once)… That didn’t result in any talking to me (from school) **but** my dad. Threatened. Me. Lol
I don't remember anything, but I really don't think anything bad happened. It's very frustrating in therapy, but I might just have a memory problem. Have you ever met someone like me?
Today my brother told me something about my childhood like "you did this this thing, father said this thins to you", but when I tried to recall, it was totally blank...... It also happened before, i don't have any childhood memories...... So today I asked myself is it normal to forget? I got my answer: The amount of good memories is not much in my case, I always being an introvert, having no friends. So there was actually nothing to remember.
I knew a girl at school, she invited me to her house after school, I wasn't really friends with her, but we spoke. I went into her house, it was so messy and dirty, but I wasn't and still not judgment, I always would say "none of my business"... She had birds in a cage chirping, thhheeennn I sat down and all I could hear and see was hard-core pawn! I said "what Fock" she looked at me and said, " I watch it with my DaD!" She said it as it was normal. I remember saying nothing to her, I thought jjjeeessseee and just left, I saw her at school the next day, I didn't know what to say and I never told a soul what she said to me. We were 13! I knew it was so wrong on every level, but I kept it to myself. She was a bit bullied too, so I didn't say anything. I thought of her after watching this. I'm not sure why, but I did. I hope she is doing OK.
I almost have no memories from my childhood, from birth-8 years old when my parents separated. Only a few when im with friends and about 3 separate ones thats just 3sec memories with a stong feeling to them, afraid, lost, sad, panic and all of them is of my dad. But i wonder why i cant remeber any of my memories with my mother and father together, or separate or our homelife, its totally blocked out, why? My mother have always been so caring and loving, opposite of how my dad treated me. Do anyone have a answer? Im 30 now, have been diagnosed with adhd and quiet bdp, and learned that its common with blocked memories from childhood becuase of trauma. And always thought my childhood have been great even if i cant remember much. But a few days ago my mother ( who is amazing and caring ) told me that i had a very tramatic childhood, with a dad who was so destructive and narcissistic. He was a alkoholic, and very angry, and they had huge fights constantly, mum was alone and had a major depression from my birth to 3years, and from there she stayed with him 5 years more then finally divorced him. I feel that is important for me to remember, but i dont know how to access them. If someone can help please write ❤
As a hypnotherapist using content free processing allows the subconscious to do the processing outside awareness of the conscious mind. Once the emotional charge has been largely dissipated, the memory can come up into conscious awareness.
Thank you. I’ve been doing body work, releasing the trauma from my central nervous system with Somatic exercises. Little by little I’ve noticed snapshots of old memories are coming to mind. Something I’ve NEVER experienced before. I appreciate your comment, it’s confirmation of what I thought was going on. It’s encouraging!
@@estherann7407 thank you for sharing your experience. If you don't mind me asking...exactly what type of somatic techniques are you finding most successful?
@@johntim3491 I have a program I purchased from a TH-camr and memorized it so that’s what I do. However, save your $ and find a free routine on TH-cam that you like. I’ve watched dozens of them, I try new & varied techniques to suit my body to obtain freedom & release of trapped emotions & trauma. I’ve done Somatic’s up to 3X a day my body was stuck with trauma & grief in the nervous system. I can’t speak enough good about Somatics, the exercises are a game changer. I love the freedom my body has: flexibility, better posture, pain relief, less stress, better emotional awareness. All the best to you John, I hope you find the right fit!
I can remember some but only a little for 1-3 yrs old I remembered them from videos when I was a baby I can remember 4-5 yrs old pretty fine but only some of them I can't remember 6-10 yrs old I meant not all of them I can't really get the memories from 1-3 yrs old I can only remember when I was born and my 1st bday that's all + my 1 month bday when I was 2yrs old I don't recall nothing I only recalled when I was sleeping. When I was 3yrs old I recalled some I knew when I know how to draw write and probally learn how to walk Idrk that much when I was 4yrs old I knewed that I won a drawing contest well I'm top.1 in my class next I remembered taking pictures of my daddy and mommy like I take pictures with no reason well I remembered theres someone to babgsit me first is my older sister yeah next was my babysister (2) I remembered also when my (grandfather) gave me a gift like a rcggg toy car which was good! Also they also gave me a car I really like cars back then. That's all.
I just saw an interview with this man and “meme” Robert Paul Champagne. It reminded me heavily of many of the themes within this channel and may be worth checking out.
Have you thought about other psychological topics besides childhood trauma for vids? I think it would grow the channel. Or if not, maybe satanic ritual abuse. I’m curious to hear your take on it or if you’ve seen it.
i think it would help alot of people as well, because daniel has a very good objective analysis of things. also i think it would help his own personal growth by expanding his own intellectual topics. it may even help him process his trauma moreso
"...So what then should people do with their sex drives? The only answer is that people must heal at their deepest core levels. They must become enlightened, through and through. Until they do they will have no choice but to act out through sex - act out unconscious childhood dramas of every variety. Their other option is to repress their sex drive, but this is equally as dangerous as acting out, because repressed drives act themselves out in other destructive ways. But healing is hell. It’s much easier to act out - at least for a time. But acting out always catches up with the actor. Acting out is nothing more than a replication of unhealed childhood traumas - and a step toward death. Healing on the other hand expresses life. It is painful, it is heart-wrenching, and it is full of doubt. It is lonely, it is solitary, and it is tormenting. But it is honest. And it leads in the right direction. Although you have to sleep alone at night, at least you open the doors to the potential of having a real relationship with yourself." wildtruth.net/why-sex-is-inappropriate-for-most-people/
You said “this is a painful one, but not having children”. You clearly want children you are a healthy person not perfect but healthy I’d say go for it you want to be aware not narcotic or perfectionism no offense I like your content just possibly some constructive criticism I’d hate to see you regret all your progress.
As much as I would love to have a clear chronological picture of my childhood, I only ever seem to remember things out of order. I struggle to date my memories, sometimes I can figure out how old I was by looking at the place, the people, but there’s no rhyme or reason to when or why things come up.
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I literally have no memories of my childhood, it’s really scary, it’s as if they are locked away and I can’t access them - but I have no trauma, my parents seem normal - no abuse etc, I don’t understand.
Me either. Sometimes I just want to believe I’m just stupid, lol. I feel so disconnected. I feel that was not me.
I relate to this so much
I certainly don’t want to (or intend to) tell you what you experienced or did not experience. But are you sure that you didn’t experience trauma and just can’t remember it because you repressed it?
@@Danielle-nz9tn agreed. It has to be happening for a reason.
@@Danielle-nz9tn exactly what I was thinking tbh
My therapist's first question was 'what good memories do you have of the time spent with your parents?'. I sat for 10 minutes thinking but couldn't give any. She said that people nornally remember good times but supresse bad memories and that if I couldn't remember any good moments it means it must have been really bad. It was. I supressed almost all of my childhood and I have huge memory gaps from my past in general. This is one of my protective mechanisms in order to stay sane.
i am very similar, its been taking me a long time to peel back the trauma and neglect. best of wishes to you, on this challenging journey
@@MaBoJo1 ❤ thank you.
me reading this: oh, i have very few memories of good moments from my childhood and I can barely remember much of my childhood...
@@meme-bu8qu I only remmebr myself being alone and lonely
And crying in weeding and family gathering, because I was counting down the time of our leave to the this house we moved in, in a city where no family member live in no neighbors and had no friends,
Even their accent was different, I couldn't understand lol
But then I ate
I guess that how I have a eating disorder???
Idk lol
@@Emilysworldisbeautiful Yes it sounds related to ur eating disorder. Might b good to figure out eht kind of food u eat + c if it connects to anything from ur past
I was in the psyche ward 3 times as a young teenager. No one ever questioned my childhood or any possible abuse. I even told them I do not want my dad there or visiting me.
I'm the only one in my family who does remember, and I remember it all. My family now thinks I'm lying, so my response was, "Said the family who doesn't remember, to the girl who never forgot..."
Brilliant, Amanda.
I noticed I had a friend as a child, but I do not remember what she looks like, sounds like, or anything, not even her name, all I know is that I had a friend years ago, I also feel I miss her.
Post traumatic amnesia; the memories will come back after you sense something that triggers, a memory. It took me four months to remember that I was hit by a train 🚆 in San Francisco (where I'd **just** moved, two months before I was injured); what triggered the memory is I was sent on a bus, through the SF LaGuna Honda hospital to a separate hospital, to test if it was safe for me to drink fluids, yet (as I'd been just having water injected into a surgical hole placed in my abdomen); well, while I was on the bus we'd passed a tsunami warning sign, and we don't have those in Anchorage, Alaska, where I was sure I was at (SF sort of looks like Anchorage *in* *the* *Summer*, plus I saw a few people I'd known in Alaska)... so with that observation I put everything together and remembered, my short term memories.
But every post traumatic injury is different, and some people can't remember old memories, such as their own name after the impact. The brain is weird.
This is not a sob story. Just the facts. My mom abused alcohol even while I was in her uterus. I was born with a cleft lip. I had lip surgery before leaving the hospital, I am told. I'm the 2nd oldest of 4 brothers. I'm 60 now, and began working on myself around the age of 28, when I went into inpatient alcohol and other addictions rehab. I've been clean and sober ever since. Working on myself, self discovery has been an on and off affair. Around 15 years ago I checked myself into a therapist for anger management therapy, during which I was "hypnotized" was it were, and regressed as far back as I could go. I recalled a disturbing memory of a traumatic event that occurred sometime between my 7th and 10th year. My mom wanted me to shut my mouth, to be quiet. I don't remember why? But it seems to me I was crying or complaining over something. She stuffed a handkerchief in my mouth and ordered me to sit on the floor in a corner of our living room. That's still a doozy of a memory for me to integrate. I'm the only one of my brothers who she physically hurt. I think because I was very strong minded, and insubordinate even at a young age. Another memory, around the same era, but later, probably closer to 10 years old for sure, she caused me to stumble down a step near the back door of our house, from the inside. My head fell into the glass on the door. The glass broke and I had a cut on my head for which I had to be taken to emergency. It wasn't too ban really. I got a few stitches. Even though my mom made it clear to my brothers and I, that we were worthless and we don't appreciate anything, we always tried to love her as best we knew how. Sometime around the same era, between my age of 5 to 8 I would say, my mom left us boys and my dad. As it turned out she was living with another man somewhere else in our town. The way I remember it was my dad packed me and my brothers in the car and drove us to a house where my mom was supposed to be. I guess my dad knew that mom wasn't going to see or talk to him, so he had me and my 1 year older brother go to the door of the home and ask for my mom, and if she came to the door we were to ask her to please come home. I don't recall if she came to the door or not, it seems like she did, but I'm not sure. But I remember somebody did, so we got to at least give her the message.
Remember I said not a sob story. Just the facts as I remember. I'm getting back into mindfulness meditation AND shadow work these days. I have no fear of what I might see or realize, and I've come to accept (for myself) that there are some things which can perhaps be remembered or examined, but not changed, and healing then, simply means accepting. And that's Ok.
Yes, the power of acceptance is incredible but I believe (like Freud, Ranke, Jung, Reich, Erich Fromm, Laing and Rollo May) that to live our true lives designed by our inner child (and balanced by the adult) we must delve into the unconscious and integrate all that lies there.
Dont let anyone make you think that it is a "sob story" when you have the courage to tell your truth.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@letuleadbeater4679 Exactly, those who would use such terms in a judging way are GASLIGHTING you.
I find it really sad that..( from my experience of observing others and the dysfunction in my upbringing) older generations having that sort of messaging rammed down their throats to the point where acknowledging any sadness or having any sort of displeasure over something,is immediately stamped as "complaining." I find it completely outrageous and the ultimate method of dismissing people.
You won’t believe it Mr. Mackler… I’ve been watching your videos for the last couple weeks and just by listening to you I keep remembering old memories from my childhood - and I have very few of them.
That’s curious because i saw, in one of your videos, you talking about how people would start reviving their childhood traumas when you’d given them a non-judgemental environment to talk.
I’m sure you have a strong talent to be a therapist!
I felt lost in my later years when I was talking to an old friend, he was able to recall old memories of our childhood. I came to a realization that I've blocked memories because there was trauma and abuse. it took me years to recollect parts of me I chose to forget. I was normal for the most part but rebuilding the younger part of self was not easy. I asked my parents about my earlier years and even they couldn't recall. As I matured in age I found methods that could help me confront my fears and expose them. In doing so I found strength within. I will continue the battle that rages in my soul and in my mind. I will conquer my Adveriseties and rise above the misery and mystery.
My first memory is 4 and it was rooted in racism. I feel like a lot of times we forget racism can cause people trauma. It's seen as an inconvenience instead of trauma.
Racial trauma is a real thing
One time I had a memory resurface and it was shocking to me to recall that event ; it was like a wave that rolled through my brain ; while I was in the middle of a business meeting, and yes I had an instant meltdown in the meeting
Oh man I need more of these how-to-videos. The practical guides to waking up are indispensable.
Feeling your feelings in general is helpful
I had a loving home, two sisters and parents together. I have lot of photos of doing things together with my parents and getting every toy I ever wanted. But I remember NOTHING. I have maybe a total of 30-50 memories from my childhood from 3 to 16. I'm now 42.
Same here
I want to remember cause i feel uncomfortable around a certain family member, i feel like something happened but i can remember. I don't feel safe
Recently realised that as a child I heavily identified with certain books and some TV shows. I was living in a hostile home. The show was steptoe and son. The constant battle between father and son ( I could not battle against my father he was crazy) The other books was the water babies ( downtrodden dirty Tom) and black beauty ( the horse that was broken in). Unconsciously to survive I I was projecting my feelings trying to make sense of my life. It helped me to survive. That’s what we do when we hide inside our heads to survive. I am going to read these books now and journal with them. My secrets are inside these books and tv show which is inside me. As I started reading read these books memories are beginning to stir. I know these books were read to me in school when I was very young. The knowledge of the story is inside me. As I read and remember the story stuff starts rising.
I couldnt remember anything and lots of therapy did not help. EMDR loosened things up as has my own self therapy and journalling. Its been hard and i havent found a positive memory yet with my parents. I think we speak of traumas, but the wider long term neglect is also an issue which creates blockage. I have many a trauma, but that ever present neglect and abandonment made me also shutdown and repress. Good luck to others here trying, its not easy, but think its needed work!!
I find that the more I consciously think about the memories from childhood I do have, the more other memories start to crop up.
My “father”, while repressing a grin (just barely, was still grinning and it was sadistic,) shared with me randomly that he “felt bad” and was “sorry” because when I was a toddler, I had an accident on the floor, basically, I peed myself and the pee got on the carpet and he rammed my face in it. I was shocked and horrified.
My most significant memories come back at 19, child molestation, physical abuse, but nothing other than my mother physically abusive and being molested by my “father” once and a few flashbulb memories sprinkled here and there.
I’m glad I don’t remember this shit, but I’m horrified at what I don’t remember.
I know this is why I have really bad anxiety and trust issues as an adult.
The people who “don’t want to hear it” don’t want to have a different view of my abuser, cause then it would change their relationship with them.
I remembered enough to see the grooming and gaslighting and to go no contact. I think it’s good that I don’t remember. I’m glad my brain is protecting me. I remember enough. My mother carried the anger to her grave that as a child I told a teacher she hit me. She repeatedly gaslight me growing up saying she never hit me till I believed it, then I remembered.
There’s a reason you don’t remember, your brain is protecting you. I don’t think you should go digging around for memories that are too painful for your body and mind to remember. Your brain is keeping you safe.
I feel like certain memories would give me a heart attack. I rather not remember those memories.
Keep building a strong safe life for yourself.
Sending you a big hug!! Please continue to be strong 💕
Your subconscious will show you only what you can handle. Problem is that it wants to heal so will often drive you into circumstances that echo past experiences..the so called "repetition compulsion"...or itll give you a kick in the ass. Probably less than 1% of therapists in general and even less than 5% of hypnotherapists know how to diffuse trauma safely without having to recall a specific memory and its associated affect...ie feelings and emotions. EMDR is a very safe form of hypnosis. When we can't remember it's because our environment, situation, support network & therapists are not safe enough...the subconscious knows who it can trust to share this material with. ...this is why group discussions can work...because everyone has similar experience so can offer genuine support and empathy. That's why we all comment on these videos.
I always had a fear of water, well maybe not always... I had these dreams as a child of my father watching me as I sank to the bottom of an ocean as he watched me expressionless. Turns out he went to go have a smoke while I swam around in the pool as a toddler in a public pool, started drowning and had to be rescued by a lifeguard. Apparently the pool called my mom to let her know, she told me randomly in my 20s about this and I had never remembered. I think what else happened. I oftentimes get a flash or memory of trauma and often times its quite validating. Makes me realize im not so crazy for feeling the way I do.
Dear Daniel, i have been listening to you for past 4 days and i am grateful i found you. I waited till 40 to become a mother, i am learning from you so much. Sending Love your way, of you ever revisit Poland, you are so welcome to stay with me ❤
I only tend to remember the painful from childhood. few good days.
Curious if biased or just damaged.
I haven't watched the video yet, but I felt I remembered only the sad or bad aspects until I got to a point where I had done all the grieving & processing of anger and pain, then reached a point of peace, and only then remembered some nice things. initially nice things about the natural environment, & much later some aspects of some of the people.
I do think it's different from person to person. Some people will remember all the bad experiences while others' brains will block them out
I don’t remember my childhood because I was the outcast and was bullied for all of my childhood . I had no friends for most of it.
I’m right there with you. I’ve been bullied my whole life by my family. My mom used to say to all of us kids (there were 9 of us) when we said something about going to a friends, she’d respond…you don’t have any friends.
I remember very little from my childhood, I’m only 16. I tried to recollect all my memories from before I turned 13, separating them into “school” and “free time”. I have 16 memories from school (elementary) and 17 of general memories until I turned 13. My earliest being me 6ish, crying for my mother as the teacher yelled at me for making animal noises on the carpet. I think the only real reason I remember this is because it’s become a minor joke in the family. I remember a few other things, but there more concepts, not actual memories, like I remember not having a lot of friends, but the actual memory was me sitting on the pavement alone. Most of these have little to no context and I have a hard time connecting these memories together. Does anyone know if this is normal childhood amnesia or something else?
I read a book by John Bradshaw called The Homecoming, five times ; four times in group sharing weekly meetings to remember childhood experiences
How did you feel after that? Did you remember things that you could not remember before? Do you recommend having this group experience?
@@elisraelable yes I highly recommend it, it is very supportive and the exercises in the book pull out the true feelings of your inner child where you develop your inner parent to nourish your inner child plus eventually you are not only focusing on your wounds since the book also has exercises for forgiveness and championing our inner child to become empowered as an adult
Lots of pain. I would like to remember the good things. The good things were so rare. It would make my childhood more bearable.
Like you Daniel I found solace in books and my pets. I would often climb up the pergola and onto the roof to find peace with a book. I could bearly hear the human voices up there.
I used to climb right up to the top of an ancient copper beech tree. I think those were the happiest moments of my childhood; the branches moving in the wind, the leaves, the sky.
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I had a beautiful Tree, into which I climbed, to find safety, solace, & peace.
Now, I am living in my parents' house, with one of my parents.
It's very triggery.
And, my precious Tree friend has been cut down. 💔
@@redwoodrebelgirl3010 Wishing you find the solace again soon!
I've read that emotions are linked to the formation of memories so maybe apart from the repression of painful memories, there's also the dissociation from one's own emotions preventing new long-term memories from being formed in the first place. Of course, there must be a reason for the dissociation itself, for which there should be a memory. Also, I've always preferred spending time in my own mind instead of paying attention to the world around me, which may have prevented me from remembering most of it.
couldnt agree more
Just this year it occurred to me that I don't remember my childhood, like at all except for a couple random memories but they're all about/take place in school.
I think I realized from my friend always saying things she did as a child and at one point it just clicked that I never had any stories to share back because well, i didnt remember any.
Now if I was older, I don't think I would have questioned it, but considering that im not even 15 yet, I should remember a lot more than I do, because when I say my childhood, im referring to anything before 2 years ago.
I didn't have children - not because I wouldn't have wanted to have them but because I didn't want them to be as unhappy as I had been and I didn't know how to prevent that. I made the right choice for me. I would feel horrible if I passed that stuff down.
I don't remember my early childhood, but I've been obsessed with one particular story I've been writing and re-writing compulsively for more than 15 years. Even though I don't remember, my fictional characters do.
Patience. Taking regular time to only think, sometimes try to remember places, songs, smells, food or anything similar. Becoming more independent and becoming separated from the parents (yes, sometimes our mind protects us from remembering because we still depend on our parents or other people or we're so emotionally attached to them).
There will probably be a moment when the memories will start coming back. We could write it. And it also comes back as we're stronger and prepared.
Thanks for the video ☺☺
I don't actually remember anything clearly from even last year .. I always have felt like running away from life i am living..
I am nott enjoying my life and i think that i will start a new chapter after school and the same shit happened in college. Next year i will be graduating from college and i think i will have a fresh start after that😔
I'm barely entering adulthood, but I feel I don't remember anything of my past.
When I try to find events that could explain why I feel like I live with strangers (my parents), I can't recall my childhood.
I remember my friends more than my relationship with my parents...
I hope I'll remember some things as time passes by and maybe try to heal some broken things in me.
Yes, it can be a real problem if unconscious childhood trauma attracts it to an adult life. Life also mirrors back and gives clues about what the original trauma was.
I agree that it is not safe to grieve at stressful times. My cottage will be sold soon and I will not have a place to live - not a safe time to remember..
I hope that you have found a place of safety--a comfortable, safe, joyful place in which to live. 💕
I wish you safety, security, comfort, healing, strength, power, empowerment, support, connection, community, care, Love, Light, Hope, & ever-increasing peace. ♥️
God be with you, friend. ♥️
Suppressed feelings of hate create the amnesia.
That actually makes a ton of sense. These memories may have tied to them the overwhelming emotions that can't afford to be remembered in one's current life.
Actually i find being close to triggering people accelerates healing.....i learn to deal with what comes up. Most therapies and therapists dont work.
The Homecoming by John Bradshaw is an amazing book for remembering the different ages of childhood experiences
And in understanding how the ego and personality evolves at different childhood ages
I journaled. It helped slowly. I changed to writing in colored pencils, pens, crayons, markers. I turned the page on the diagonal to write. I switched to unlined paper. These were suggested to me by a therapist. It worked much faster. I wrote about the details of the curtains in the room (non threatening details of the experience to let myself back into the room). The details of the curtains … moved to details of wall paint… moved to ppl in the room… moved to opening the full memory up from a less threatening, objective observer memory. Good luck those of you here. It was never your fault. I have realized that no one has hurt me in this life as much as I have… let’s be understanding with those inner children who went through these things.
We moved too much so I lost a bunch of memories. Just couldn’t lock it in.
Jin Shin Jyutsu is a type of acupressure that connects two points at once and it definitely worked to bring up stored cellular memories from my childhood
Unfortunately there is no scientific evidence to support any of that, at all, in the slightest.
@@Maxmaxmax63 that doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. The question to you is if there is research that discredits it or shows it DOES NOT work, or is there simply a lack of attention?
@@debbY100 That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence
I love the relief that came over your face when you spoke of the role models from your books.
this was so calming thank you!
Love your openness and vulnerability
I remember having a cast on my arm. I remember going to a doctor to check if it's time to take it off or not. I don't remember what events led to my needing a cast. Sometimes I wonder, but most of the time I think I'm better off not remembering, because it'll just be one more reason to be angry and I'm tired of being angry. I don't want to have any more memories.
Thank you.
Thanks. I hope I will also remember more and heal in the future.
Everything you mention has worked for me over time. However, there are big parts of my childhood I still can't remember. I will have to go on journaling I guess.
You might try reading the journals of others, famous writers, stories. Also look for objects from your past.
The longer it takes to remember, the more severe the trauma must have been 🤕 but good luck 💞
@@sojournerkarunatruth4406 Thank you, that's probably the case
@@tahiyamarome Thanks for the tip! I will try that.
Thank you ❤️
Great vid. When I was in my 20's no one wanted to know what was happening, or had happened in my family. They wanted to party, take drugs and sych like. It was Hell to be around such people and I will never put myself through that again.
you're just a god damn star for these videos
Perfectly clarified. Thanks 🙏
I've never had any trauma in my childhood. But I can't remember a lot of things... Even the most recents stuff
Great video, as usual, thank you, Daniel!
I have another, completely unrelated question: could you maybe do a video on Brené Brown and her work? I’m thinking specifically about two of her books:
- Braving the Wilderness
- The gifts of imperfection
I really like her work, especially those two books and so I was wondering if you knew them and if so if you had any thoughts you wanted to share.
I don’t know if you do that sort of thing at all (talking about other people’s books) so if you find it uninteresting, just ignore this.
Thanks for your work and please go on! Best, Luzia
I've been thinking a lot lately about a distinct lost fragment in my memory. I have a good memory, and can remember back into my first year during infancy and up to around 2 years. Unfortunately, this time was characterized by severe trauma at times from living with my dysfunctional parents. I believe my memories are highly accurate and not false, as I corroborated multiple memories with family members who had not previously spoken or suggested anything about those memory points.
There seems to be a period of time after my 2nd birthday, up to some point after my 3rd birthday but before I turned 4, that I simply cannot remember. I even have a distinct memory of waking up one morning and being home, and telling my mother that I could remember days and events several months ago, but could not remember anything about the past few weeks or months (I remember the conversation in the kitchen near the phone on the wall).
Looking back, it's so hard to make sense of my chronological memory in that time. I've looked through photo albums, and there is a distinct period of time I simply cannot remember. Oddly, my mother, who I tend to believe in her recollections, said I was more happy or rapturous in that period of time, in contrast to my more reserved and malaise-like personality during most of my childhood (it was a highly traumatic childhood in an extremely dysfunctional and abusive family).
It's as if my mind made an early rejection of some kind of glossing-over dissociation it had made, and I'm left with the real world memories on either side of the dissociation--and it happened fast, fast enough for me to tell my mother that day that I couldn't remember the past several months.
It seems like a classical psychoanalytic perspective would expect breaks and fugues and turnarounds and the like as the developing personality/ego comes together, and perhaps everything I experienced was healthy. But I'm stuck with the nagging sensation that I lost some big of myself that I was meant to integrate--like that dissociated 2 year old was literally my inner child, somehow completely sequestered between the two book-ends of "depressed infant" (which a lot of humans simply cannot remember) and "depressed young man." More tantalizing, it seemed like a lot of my healthier and happier peers in school were not integrating their inner children (as I interpret it now), but rather were for better or worse actually living out their inner children as their major external personality. It seems like they remained in that rapturous fragment that was blocked in me, and carried out that fragment for many years into childhood and even adulthood. Is that normal for non-dysfunctional individuals in my generation? (I'm an elder millennial)
I used to go to family recovery-type meetings and a lot of older people still talk about the acknowledgment and integration of the inner child. But I've started to wonder if the inner child was actually MORE dissociated in the last couple of generations compared to the baby boomers, because we either "lived as the inner child" in an extended personality fragment, or else we completely buried it and it wasn't even a suppressed ego/personality fragment, but absolutely hidden from consciousness. This hypothesis might explain why millennials were interpreted to be unable to integrate more masculine and mature pre-postmodern social roles. The healthier millennials would never have gotten to a stage to take on much of any adult social roles, because they're still playing out the living inner child.
Could you make a video talking about what you think about Multiple Personality Disorder/DID my friend has it + Anxiety, how are they supposed to deal with it and heal from the traumas that caused it? Could you also talk about anti-depressants, I'm in a process of getting of that.
I'm in my 60s and I'm still having previously forgotten memories and realisations bubble up.
Really? Even if you’ve been digging into your past for years?
@@pod9363 Yep. In my case actively for over 30 years.
I can’t remember chunks, I remember little things but I have whole years missing
I remember bits and pieces but mostly the bad stuff ...
The freedom in geographical boundaries are definitely very true. It is like taking a step back from your own past. It is like looking at a theatre play, sitting in the theatre chairs. Only that one of the persons on stage is actually you!
I can basically remember tons of scenes even from when I was 1,lots of things,what people said,my feelings.The reason why I 'm watching this Video is,the more flashed back,the more painful,can't stand staying alive
I’m digging what yre saying and feel I had some tough things going on fairly early as a kid. Can you do a video on how to specifically access memories? Or give me some quick advice? Can’t find ANYTHING specific, just reasons why we can’t access memories. Much thanks!
My memories are fading away and yes i have problems idk what to do
I remember things from my childhood but i don't remember 90%of the people. It's awkward because I've seen them out in public and they remember me but i don't remember them. I mean I recall their faces at times but never remember they names. They ALWAYS think I'm lying. Smh
I don't remember anything from my childhood and I also don't remember recent things and all things but I am very good at academics I don't forget my academic data but I almost forget everything of practical life.
Wowww I'm the same ! It's so easy at school, but for some reasons my "real" life completely fade away
My earliest memory is age 4..Being in an oxygen tent and people having to put their hands thru it. I am fighting to breath and scareed. Also felt abanded because parents weren't around.. Didn't understand then that they had two younger brothers to take care of. Understand now. Parts of my memory is gone because of years of drugs and alcohol. Still have puzzle pieces missing around my first being molested at 13. Perhaps it is better that i don't remember. Think it was one of my supposed friends.
That's sad. ONE of your parents should have stayed. I never left a child alone in the hospital, not even when young adults. Its' scary being in the hospital alone you need an advocate who wants what is best for you. One parent stays in hospital with the child in medical need, and the other parent stays at home to take care of the other kids. Seems pretty straight forward to me
@@recoveringsoul755 My mom was only 16 an my dad was 21. Since i watched my dad die in April 2013, have had many conversations with my mom. Have a better understanding. Now bed
@@recoveringsoul755 Never been healthy. Was in the hospital once or twice every year until i was 22. Now 68 dealing with 18 medical conditions
@@RandyR your mom was 16 WHEN you were 4 years old? She got pregnant at 11? And had 2 younger brothers? Children shouldn't be having children, her body was still growing. Might be part of why you had health problems. So sorry
im 13 and and i cant remember anything up until i was 11 or 12 ish
Very interesting video
I had memories come up during deep heart meditations. Meditation Oasis has a guided one. This also may take much time.
I don’t care about not remembering and I don’t want to remember if it serves me no good other than suffering and to satisfy other people’s Schadenfreude. People have no right to know of my pain or life.
Very powerful statement. Thanks VAL for sharing it.
I’m only sixteen and I can’t remember anything before I was 9, really stressing me out.
Oh yeah 😝 Middle School 🏫 I hated ever moment of that shit. In sixth grade I got in trouble for writing notes in class, and I remember I mentioned something about burning the school down 🔥 and this was 1999, recently after the Columbine terrorism, so, I was sternly spoken to and it was debated whether I ought to be expelled (I remember thinking I’d love that) but, I didn’t serve detention until I was a freshman in High School 🧐
But in seventh grade the school threatened to call child protective services on my breeders, because I had dark circles under my eyes, because sleep wasn’t a priority and I was late for class (more than once)…
That didn’t result in any talking to me (from school) **but** my dad. Threatened. Me. Lol
I don't remember anything, but I really don't think anything bad happened. It's very frustrating in therapy, but I might just have a memory problem. Have you ever met someone like me?
Today my brother told me something about my childhood like "you did this this thing, father said this thins to you", but when I tried to recall, it was totally blank......
It also happened before, i don't have any childhood memories......
So today I asked myself is it normal to forget?
I got my answer:
The amount of good memories is not much in my case, I always being an introvert, having no friends. So there was actually nothing to remember.
Does anyone have thoughts to share about the movie “Kajillionaire”?
I knew a girl at school, she invited me to her house after school, I wasn't really friends with her, but we spoke. I went into her house, it was so messy and dirty, but I wasn't and still not judgment, I always would say "none of my business"... She had birds in a cage chirping, thhheeennn I sat down and all I could hear and see was hard-core pawn! I said "what Fock" she looked at me and said, " I watch it with my DaD!" She said it as it was normal. I remember saying nothing to her, I thought jjjeeessseee and just left, I saw her at school the next day, I didn't know what to say and I never told a soul what she said to me. We were 13! I knew it was so wrong on every level, but I kept it to myself. She was a bit bullied too, so I didn't say anything. I thought of her after watching this. I'm not sure why, but I did. I hope she is doing OK.
Im 14 and honestly, i do t remember much before i was 11
I almost have no memories from my childhood, from birth-8 years old when my parents separated. Only a few when im with friends and about 3 separate ones thats just 3sec memories with a stong feeling to them, afraid, lost, sad, panic and all of them is of my dad.
But i wonder why i cant remeber any of my memories with my mother and father together, or separate or our homelife, its totally blocked out, why? My mother have always been so caring and loving, opposite of how my dad treated me. Do anyone have a answer?
Im 30 now, have been diagnosed with adhd and quiet bdp, and learned that its common with blocked memories from childhood becuase of trauma. And always thought my childhood have been great even if i cant remember much. But a few days ago my mother ( who is amazing and caring ) told me that i had a very tramatic childhood, with a dad who was so destructive and narcissistic. He was a alkoholic, and very angry, and they had huge fights constantly, mum was alone and had a major depression from my birth to 3years, and from there she stayed with him 5 years more then finally divorced him.
I feel that is important for me to remember, but i dont know how to access them. If someone can help please write ❤
I remember my friends being kids but I don’t remember my kid self if that makes sense I’ve looked it up I haven’t found anything
As a hypnotherapist using content free processing allows the subconscious to do the processing outside awareness of the conscious mind. Once the emotional charge has been largely dissipated, the memory can come up into conscious awareness.
Thank you. I’ve been doing body work, releasing the trauma from my central nervous system with Somatic exercises. Little by little I’ve noticed snapshots of old memories are coming to mind. Something I’ve NEVER experienced before.
I appreciate your comment, it’s confirmation of what I thought was going on. It’s encouraging!
@@estherann7407 thank you for sharing your experience. If you don't mind me asking...exactly what type of somatic techniques are you finding most successful?
@@johntim3491 I have a program I purchased from a TH-camr and memorized it so that’s what I do. However, save your $ and find a free routine on TH-cam that you like. I’ve watched dozens of them, I try new & varied techniques to suit my body to obtain freedom & release of trapped emotions & trauma. I’ve done Somatic’s up to 3X a day my body was stuck with trauma & grief in the nervous system.
I can’t speak enough good about Somatics, the exercises are a game changer. I love the freedom my body has: flexibility, better posture, pain relief, less stress, better emotional awareness. All the best to you John, I hope you find the right fit!
my childhood memories vanished after my mom passed away
I can remember some but only a little for 1-3 yrs old I remembered them from videos when I was a baby I can remember 4-5 yrs old pretty fine but only some of them I can't remember 6-10 yrs old I meant not all of them I can't really get the memories from 1-3 yrs old I can only remember when I was born and my 1st bday that's all + my 1 month bday when I was 2yrs old I don't recall nothing I only recalled when I was sleeping. When I was 3yrs old I recalled some I knew when I know how to draw write and probally learn how to walk Idrk that much when I was 4yrs old I knewed that I won a drawing contest well I'm top.1 in my class next I remembered taking pictures of my daddy and mommy like I take pictures with no reason well I remembered theres someone to babgsit me first is my older sister yeah next was my babysister (2) I remembered also when my (grandfather) gave me a gift like a rcggg toy car which was good! Also they also gave me a car I really like cars back then. That's all.
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Jin Shin Jyutsu works
I'm 33 and I'm starting to forget a lot about my childhood.
I dont remember nothing before 16
Maybe I can’t remember much cause my childhood was just boring 😭
I just saw an interview with this man and “meme” Robert Paul Champagne. It reminded me heavily of many of the themes within this channel and may be worth checking out.
i was asleep and i dream about all white like flash bomb.whenn i woke up i cant remember anything i cant even recognize my mom as my mom
video title should be renamed as the nuance the video explains
Notnihg. Just forget
Have you thought about other psychological topics besides childhood trauma for vids? I think it would grow the channel. Or if not, maybe satanic ritual abuse. I’m curious to hear your take on it or if you’ve seen it.
i think it would help alot of people as well, because daniel has a very good objective analysis of things. also i think it would help his own personal growth by expanding his own intellectual topics. it may even help him process his trauma moreso
Idk, are you **sure** that you're a secure attachment style, yet? Because if you are, then what are you still doing here #justcurious 🤔
Goes with multiple personality and DID
let him post what he wants to post, i appreciate his videos on childhood trauma....as do many. there are others covering satanic stuff
"...So what then should people do with their sex drives? The only answer is that people must heal at their deepest core levels. They must become enlightened, through and through. Until they do they will have no choice but to act out through sex - act out unconscious childhood dramas of every variety. Their other option is to repress their sex drive, but this is equally as dangerous as acting out, because repressed drives act themselves out in other destructive ways.
But healing is hell. It’s much easier to act out - at least for a time. But acting out always catches up with the actor. Acting out is nothing more than a replication of unhealed childhood traumas - and a step toward death. Healing on the other hand expresses life. It is painful, it is heart-wrenching, and it is full of doubt. It is lonely, it is solitary, and it is tormenting. But it is honest. And it leads in the right direction. Although you have to sleep alone at night, at least you open the doors to the potential of having a real relationship with yourself."
wildtruth.net/why-sex-is-inappropriate-for-most-people/
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Ayahuasca.
You said “this is a painful one, but not having children”. You clearly want children you are a healthy person not perfect but healthy I’d say go for it you want to be aware not narcotic or perfectionism no offense I like your content just possibly some constructive criticism I’d hate to see you regret all your progress.
you clearly need to watch his other videos on childfree.
@@MaBoJo1 I’ll check them out
As much as I would love to have a clear chronological picture of my childhood, I only ever seem to remember things out of order. I struggle to date my memories, sometimes I can figure out how old I was by looking at the place, the people, but there’s no rhyme or reason to when or why things come up.