Repressed Memories: How To Heal The Trauma You Can’t Remember? - Inner Work Library [70/500]
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.ค. 2024
- Watch This To Heal Repressed Memories & Repressed Trauma. In this episode of Inner Work Q&A, we're exploring the realistic timeline for self healing and self-guided trauma therapy when healing repressed memory and repressed emotions.
I'll be introducing six books which cover the many approaches to healing repressed memories: including somatic therapy, somatic experiencing, bioenergetics, jungian depth therapy, ptsd therapy, prenatal psychology, past life therapy, hypnotherapy - essentially, the full range of possibilities to heal from your traumatic experiences over the medium- and long-term.
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00:00 Warning: This Video Is Heavy
00:50 What To Do When You Can't Remember?
03:38 Recommended Books (Somatic Therapy)
05:15 Emotional Self Regulation
05:59 Does The Body Keep The Score?
10:40 Recommended Books (Unlock Your Memory)
13:00 Dissociation & Repressive Shutdown
15:17 Birth Trauma (Pre-Natal Psychology)
18:20 Are Past Life Memories Real?
20:20 How To Let Go & Move On
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Topics explored: inner work; Jordan Thornton; how to heal yourself; trauma healing; how to heal trauma; trauma therapy; how to heal from trauma; childhood trauma; cathartic therapy; cptsd; post traumatic stress; ptsd; mental health; repressed emotions; repressed memory; repressed memories; repressed trauma; healing repressed trauma; healing repressed memories; how to heal repressed trauma; how to unlock repressed memories; repressed childhood memories; memory repression; repression; post traumatic stress disorder; repressed;
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👍👍👍thanks so much. I started this 20 years ago, and can attest that yes shifts do occur, while at the same time it's forever murky. I witnessed my therapist's evolution before my eyes. At first, he was anxious. I knew him well enough, i could see him wondering how to handle it. I see their predicament: they want to validate the clients' feelings, but cannot verify what can't be proved. He finally asked "What do you need from me", and my reply was simply Be my witness. He was so relieved! "Yeah i can do that!" As we worked through it over months, (because amnesia does not lift in one day. Memory emerges then gets re-buried. Many times!), he made the interesting comment that when it re-re-emerges over time , "..it tends to confirm". So validating! One subtle effect of recovery is the ability to tolerate conflicting or ambiguous states
The power of simply asking your client... it's amazing how many helpers avoid this! What a beautiful story, thank you.
'Repressed trauma'
Just dumbfounded 😐 Watching your videos gives me the feeling of 'I knew it'.. Most of the topics you discuss has never been heard before, and these are ones that I have been searching for my entire life... (I'm 32 years old, but I feel like a 6 year old: naive and insecure, wishing my mother was by my side)
This video will help me to treat myself: my body, feelings and thoughts, with more respect and compassion. For instance, I have always wondered why I have a startling reaction to particular type of sound. I am terrified of car's/van's sounds outside, when I am inside the house. I hear it as a huge sea-wave, and I feel embarressed to know that its just a vehicle passing or being parked near the house. It never happens outside the four walls of the house! I seriously doubt, it has to do with womb-memory: perhaps my mother must have got terrified of my father's (who was a driver) vehicle outside.. I don't know for sure...but someday through therapy I would get to know the answer.
For now, I am free of shame and am more confident in my skin. Actually, I am proud of myself for keeping myself intact through all this. 😀 I am so thankful to you 🙏🏽💚 May god bless you in your journey... Thank you 💚
Beautiful reaction to some really hard work, thank you for sharing some of your story here - I'm sure it will connect with someone in the comments.
Thank you Jordan. You provided in this video such a full mature realistic and safe approach for healing.
Always my intention, thank you 🌲
So many insights and things to take away from this video- thank you!! It told me that it’s time to go back into my birth trauma as I’ve briefly touched on it a couple of years ago but I wasn’t ready, and now I feel like I am
Stay grounded and venture safely - you got this, Amy 🌲
I like it, a two pronged approach to the problem. Thanks, Jordan, for consistently providing quality information and recommendations for people to do their homework so to speak, whether on their own due to finances or geography or supplementing what they’re working on in therapy. Great stuff. Def checking out Trauma and the Soul and the Levine book
Accessibly is precisely the intention of this 500 episode series, and I look forward to continuing to provide as much as I can for free - keep doing the work 🌲
Hello again, Jordan! I need to ketch-up with your videos. This one is a diamond. A simple explanation about the new regression or family constellation therapies, which I am not impressed by at all, just dawned on me. Actually, the trauma is always in this current life. The fact that it can be easily connected with our relatives or ancestors it is also explainable by the archetypes one rules on your background (which are directly connected to the patterns observed within the family). You opened my eyes about a car anxiety I felt since I was a child. When my mother was on the point of giving birth, she was alone in the house very early in the morning. She got out of the house and started crying on the street. A neighbor saw her and rushed her with the car to the hospital. The stress and anxiety of being woken up from sleep and preparing to glide through the birth canal, meanwhile shaking side to side in a car is the exact feeling I get when somebody else is driving. I am perfectly ok when I am the one driving. Thank you!😘
Happy to have created the opening, and appreciate your continual efforts - there are some great recent videos to watch, enjoy! Personal favourites are the anima / animus videos from two weeks ago!
Amazing, amazing video, as usual Jordan. I'm now going through Complex PTSD by Pete Walker and it's absolutely blowing my mind. I'm truly grateful that I came across your work because it's changing my life for the better. Can't thank you enough!
Here for this sentiment & always appreciate your efforts here, Linda! 🌲
Excellent video. Thank you.
Thanks, YingLan!
Funny enough, drifted in and out of dissociation during the whole video. Gotta watch it a few times. As always, thank you for your work 🙏
It’s a heavy topic, I totally get it. Two loops on the video should be good, and make sure to pickup some of the material 📚 Wishing you my absolute best, keep going - financial and emotional freedom vibes🌲
Thank you, Jordan!
Hope this helps 🌲
@@jordanthornton Your videos are always helpful, Jordan. I really appreciate them.
💯 percent. past life memories healed a lot of my trauma. When i was a toddler, I would scream till almost passing out when my mom drove us through the car wash. Later, I realized that it's related to dieing in the ocean. The sound of the car wash is oddly similar 😂. Since that memory, I am completely calm in the car wash.
Thanks so much Jordan. I'm glad i'm old. The actual events are too graphic to describe here. But there's a secondary traumatic element of shock, at how could i be so unaware, a keen embarassment. Like duct tape torn from the eyes. Over the years the shock diminishes as it recedes, no longer front-page news. I guessed that's what's meant by "integration". Re past lives i tend to think it's wishful thinking, but then i'm wrong about so many things. Rule nothing out
Thats funny, i forgot i saw this deja vu/amnesia all over again
Donald Kalsched’s Trauma and the Soul is one of my favorites. It was so necessary for me and helped a lot during the hardest part of my own analysis, also was recommended by my analyst. I remembered so much hidden traumatic memories due to that book and got a chance to overcome and heal them. And Otto Rank’s Trauma of birth was an eye opener for me back in my university years. Looking forward to exploring other books you recommended here.
Trauma of Birth is a good one, absolutely. Thanks for dropping in again here and likewise wishing you the best with your next steps in 2024! 🌲
Thank you 💚🙏🏽👍
You are so welcome, hope this one lands.
hey jordan. thank you for your channel, i find it very helpful and inspireing. talking abaout natal trauma i wonder if you could do an episode about the trauma of circumcission. because i cant find a lot of information about it and i think its quite a sensitive and surpressed topic in culture. also in my inner work i find it very dificult to deal with it. thank you a lot for your work 😊
I'm sorry to hear this, and will do my best to make a video on this important but underspoken topic - thank you for asking this.
Peter Levine's work definitely needs to get talked about more. I hadn't even heard about somatic experiencing until I read the book he co-authored with Gabor Mate. I was actually angry that I had never known about his work until then
This work is truly important, and I’m glad to be adding attention to this space - keep studying and good luck, Jennifer 🌲
My first memory at 4 years old is about car accident that ive been into with my dad. My mom and sister noticed what happend because dad could remwmber and i was in shock. But after that car whole damaged we had one that would go off for no reason it was simple old. Blind road or not if we would idk stop to go to bakery or waited someone if car went off i was stared screaming out loud and crying becauae that what happened on the road to my dad. Car didnt get enough gas tapped when turning left on the main road. And i was watching white golf 3 going at me on the middle of the road direct into my right side of the car. Dad didnt get through fear of driving again ever but he drives tho. We all know he dont leeave the tap for start and killing the gas. But i know with who i can or cannot drive with and when to decide to not to go out and someone else or me driving doesnt matter, but i sense it to dont go out, dont go this road and go with the one you came with to go with the same home. Or even to change path is strong feeling to not go that same way as i came but another and then i heard sometimes something happend right there and i escaped danger with listening my voice in head or gut feeling something is wrong i dont know what but something is wrong like a block from my body to simple refuse to go left idk like invisible wall.
Why tho i cannot remember anything before that that much clear?
Thank you for sharing some of your story here - I hope the books recommended across this channel could help you, things can really shift with intentional effort 🌲
Are there any biographies you recommend reading? Not necessarly in trauma space, but can be. Looking for well read story, and I believe you’ve read a lot.
That’s an excellent question I’ve never received before! I haven’t got any books, but my personal journey has found me looking upto other men who have shared their experience of childhood healing / moving past repressed memories. It’s a shockingly common theme in most ‘successful people’, and their stories give me hope.
Apologies I can’t provide an answer, but thank you for the original question - and I hope this video helped, do also check out the books recommended (90% trauma authors / psychologists likewise healed their own shit, so it’s usually always there in the background) 🌲
Thank you Jordan, honest word. I am glad question sparked some thoughts for you. I do love work of Kalshed’s writing (both his books) and his incredible symbolic analisys. I’m just sad now because there is no other book, with similar quality and stories, I came across. Homecoming by Bradshaw had some great stories at the end. Thank you for recommending those readings. After Trauma and the Soul, there are no other books that stand in same category for me.
I'd recommend "OSHO: Autobiography of a Spiritually Incorrect Mystic." I hope it serves.
this video is very informative and i got a lot of value from you. thank you.
i would love to receive your wisdom about a question i have
I recently experienced a flood of memories from the age of 3, since then I have experienced emotional dysregulation, tantrums, lack of sleep and nightmares, and aversion to intimacy.
At the same time, I'm not sure the memories are real. I want certainty, I want to know what happened to me
Do you have any advice for me on how to remember?
The best advice I can give for now is to read the books recommended in the video - they will have far more to offer to your question than I could in a youtube comment. I'll try to make another video on this topic soon, but please pick up some of these resources - they will help. Good luck and keep going.
I can confirm one thing : birth trauma is real. My daughter was stuck for 2 hours and finally got pulled out with succion. 2½ years later, she panics every time her head gets stuck in her shirt collar. It's so hard to see it.
Hard to share, thank you. I’m sorry and likewise know you’re doing your best as a mother. You got this and she’s lucky to have you.
Hey you mentioned Pete's Walker book! I have had that on my phone for many years now lol. Anyway, I forgot who said it but I remember someone said that certain people are "kind of" immune to PTSD growing up, I think it was a certain level of genius? hmmmmm
have you read Inner child healing? by Damian Blair? This book keeps showing up in my day to day. I would like to hear you talking about it.
Haven't read this particular book, although I highly recommend similar books by John Bradshaw and Charles Whitfield - search them up if you're interested!
I've read the majority of Bradshaw's books, I'm finishing Bradshaw: On family now.. Charles Wtihfield is going on the reading list thx
I saw my past life being burned as a witch …. So weird you said that
Check out Other Lives, Other Selves by Roger Woolger - golden book for this topic.
*promo sm* 💔
Wishing you well.
Repressed memory is a myth ... If you are 5 years old n up you diffeneitly will remember any traumatic event happen in ur life ..
With respect, there is close to 100 years of clinical research into this, and it’s very much a thing. Wishing you well 🌲
@@jordanthornton yes , I'm homosexual, I have suspicious of being abused as kid , but I have no memory of that . No matter what I did I can't remember. I was happy kid .. even I was dysphoric ... But I knew I was different, what made me question my childhood is suggesting, my sister told me that the root of my sexuality is abuse hhh and hormone imbalance, these suggestions that has no accuracy in reality are the cause of false memory
Repressed memories are not a myth. When I was 6 years old I was molested. I didn't remember it until I was 12 years old. In-between those times I had extreme stress and problem behaviors and my mother didn't understand why. I would also wake up screaming. (I remember one of those dreams I would be tickled by a monster in a eerie creepy way).
At 12 years old I remembered and had my 'flash back'. I was sitting between the couch and a table. The remote was on the table in front of me. I was watching Clifford the big red dog. And the memory came. So strong as if the past 6 years never happened yet. After i called my mom immediately crying and she didn't believe me but was very concerned. Because the person who I remember did this thing to me..was in our current life. The person ended up admitting to it that week. He needed to admit it to feel better from the guilt he was holding all those years.
@@MOON-pe4jmah I see , but for me I was gender dysphoric. That's why I conflated these feelings with trauma stress . My behaviour was not Okey I admit that I was nervous... And shy ..but I explained that of internalised homophobia. And the homophobia around me and dysphoria I experienced .
The idea that there is a trauma you cannot remember is absolute nonsense. Traumatized people have the problem that they are not able to forget their trauma. Propagating the idea of repressed memories does a serious disservice to people.
You speak truth towards a certain type of trauma, and I agree that there are certain types of CPTSD which are exactly as you describe - but I would invite some spaciousness to consider how repressive dissociation works in instances of childhood abuse or other very dark situations which may or may not be as clear cut as you described. Wishing you well 🌲
Which one of your videos should i watch when it comes to intrusive toughts (jumping from my window , cursing the God ...)
In truth, I would recommend going to the gym and having a healthy, consistent diet. It's usually the essential foundation which is missing. If you've got this in place (4 or 5 times per week of meaningful movement & clean diet + no drink / drugs) then I would recommend looking into any of the videos I have on grounding or dissociation (they typically go with intrusion).
I'm ultimately sorry to hear this, but watching vidoes like these show me you're healing the pattern - so keep going, it's worth it.