100% truth. These people are very disturbed individuals. I would rather be alone on any holiday, than with them. My discard happened on Easter (Resurrection Day). Now, I see I was freed on Easter. Praise God.
I remember him ALWAYS saying to me.... WHEN THIS ENDS. for some reason I didn't take it serious because he had me convinced that he was always going to be apart my life even if it was just as friends. So many mixed messages and bread crumbing 😮😢
@@lorraineolivera24 Similar to driving you somewhere ( ie new grocery store & he then eats the food you pay for) & then saying " now you know how to get there." Yeah - because he can't stand spending time around you. Or - out of the blue after a trip to the garden store ( you pay) he says "now I don't owe you anything.") 🙃
The discard is definitely planned . I was supposed to be buying a house with my partner.I later found out that he didn’t sign any relevant paperwork which was needed , and even lied to me about his real sir name. We were in a relationship for 8 years and living together for six of them . These people are secretive, and most are pathological liars. They purposely lead a partner into a false sense of security, praying on their vulnerabilities. Ps nice new woodland location . Kick the leaves 🍁
Absolutely ❤ when you suspect, when your gut feeling is telling you something when your intuition is telling you something ... believe that something is wrong.
I was discarded although he claims that I “dumped him” by kicking him out. All I can say, is my life is monumentally better without the narc. Thank God he “slithered away”🤣😂
Wow. You put this so freaking clear. I messed up his discard by telling him.."I know" and proceeded to tell him where and who he was moving in with. He even tried to come back to help with the storm damage that had occured.....told him NO thank you. That therew him off big time so much that he showed up unannounced the following day. I am healing and moving forward and fighting for my future and financial life in this divorce. None of which he is asking for does he deserve and I told him so. I have been no contact since the day he left.....I have seen him for 2 hrs in the past 8 months after 28 yrs together. It's not been easy...but it's been right! Thank you for your straight forward messages! Namaste
Absolutely. It’s been 29 years for me. He left 6 weeks ago and it’s been so peaceful. I will be moving in 4 weeks and will be going completely no contact on that day except for any divorce discussions. He is with someone else and has not mentioned any divorce. He did not think I would totally go gray rock and will soon go no contact.
What a lovely location my favourite place, T.Y.Andrew,,,,and Sending warm wishes and Love And Strength to everyone Here, Always Be kind to yourself,,,we have all Been through So much , 🙏💟💖🙏💖👉🤗💖🌼🌺
You've made me think... Before the first discard she started to wander a lot, alone, at night, in the garden, in complete silence, smoking like a chimney... I'm quite sure she was evaluating the pros and cons. It's just horrific to think that this actually happened.
Many micro discards through the marriage. There never was a future, never will be. I am free, growing everyday, becoming more content with who I am. Life is good. 💖
Love your very lovely rustic location Andrew..... Do enjoy the rest of your day......and I do hope many will be very much helped by your message today......those narcissists are so cruel.
I never dreamed I would be the one to do the discard through NO CONTACT. Here I am...stayed way too long trying everything to make it work, only to cause more hurt to myself. Gaining the wisdom made it all clear & I knew I must face breaking the bond. Healing & rebuilding hurts as I move in victory towards a brighter unknown future. Stay strong, move on......no more wasted days...WE MATTER! 🎀😘
The moment of discard was planned meticulously. She relocated, the refurbishment of her apartment finished. The month and date chosen to coincide with the wedding date. She even chosen a month long break from her occupation. She didn’t tell her parents. I informed them that she was leaving. Later on she sent a one line text to her parents. My network was decimated and ended up discarded alone, confused, until I learnt what happened and why from your channel.
Ten years in being in "devaluation mode". I'm 70 yrs old, sick a lot. Lonely. Your words are exact what these ten years have been. I refuse to comingle my assets. ..what a crap life.
Oh sweetie, hang in there because you are worth so much more no matter what your age is, you are worthy to be loved! Take care of yourself, try to find joy in each day, Thankfulness, and laugh Alot! Prayers really work. When I was in your situation I prayed for years wondering if the Lord heard me, and I'm telling you, there's no one who could have orchestrated the way I was able to get free, except God! I'm left with a testimonial and that knowing that my prayers were 100% heard, even if I didn't think so for so long. Praying for you strength 💪 , joy 😂 , health, and peace, like you have never felt!
I was discarded on HIS birthday and tossed out of his house wearing only a t-shirt on a cold night. 🥶 Neighbors called the police and he was arrested and placed in jail. I found the gun later that he used on me that horrific night. I was lucky and left with my life. I will never-ever accept anything from him including a hoover. Thank you Andrew for your informative videos and allowing us to vent/share our stories here in a safe place; it absolutely helps with the healing path. 💕
It's planned. My cycle would begin after every major life event (moving in together, moving across the country, marriage, buying a house etc). The first big discard came before the holidays with the final discard being right before my birthday. Life is so much better now. But it's so funny to me to see how they are all the same.
I think it's because those dates are so important to them. Mine would get so self absorbed around his birthdays and the holidays - excited for all the gifts coming their way. I think they think those dates are equally important to other people so it would be extra damaging to be discarded around then. Plus, they are annual events so they get the bonus of "wounding" you over and over again as those dates happen in the future. Little do they expect your life to get better. @@JLswatchthis
We had just sold the family home. He discarded me when I had no where to go, with only two weeks to vacate the property. Didn’t care one bit. Barely helped me get my stuff to a storage unit. Never asked me where I was going. Ten years of devotion wiped away. Stunning. My replacement was being taken to mutual friend gatherings with a week
@eve. It is said the narc acts from †he primitive R-Complex , the reptilian brain - there is a certain telepathy involved. Some call it the satanic hive mind. 👽
I caught on to a narc who was shit testing. When I cut them off at the pass, they spent their energy protecting their image. My new discipline will be to not say anything to them. Information to them is ammunition. Hilarious, within 6 months, she is married....LMAO that poor guy
Discards are painful and a form of abandonment which is traumatic at the end of an already traumatic experience of years of narcissistic abuse. I am thankful that I am no longer with a narcissist and not planning on going down that road again. 😊
He hinted at it, that he was planning the discard, in the beginning. He bought a small gift for one of my family members right after Christmas and I said, "For next Christmas then?" And he said something like, "Like we'll still be together," sarcastically, which hurt. I told him, "Dont say that." So, yeah, it always felt like he had one foot out the door.
@@michellepurcell8703That is easier said than done. I'm still grieving the relationship, the promises, the extended family, the future that apparently was a fantasy, my dog (technically his, but attached to me), all of it. Apparently, I am garbage to him and everything we had was meaningless... 💔
@@lindsay3793 my partner took our dog too. I was really fond of her. I still struggle 2 years down the line . Remember none if this is your fault, and keep telling yourself the truth, and that is you deserve to be loved by a sincere loving person
Ive learned the narcessist will always tell you their exact plans. She would say, you know what i am so sick of so and so, im jusy going to tell them to F off forever. Or im so mad at my sister for disapearing for a few days. The list goes on and thats exactly what she would end up doing to me. I suppose it was to see my reaction on which would hurt me the most before the plan was executed. I learned over time reverse psychology but got sick of playing the stupid games. For example if I wanted pizza, id sinply say, I want anything for dinner but pizza, pretend like i absolutly didnt want pizza, then we'd have pizza. FML
That’s so good you figured this out and can explain it to others. It may give anyone in a bewildered state a lightbulb moment! Reverse psychology’ technique. I could have done with knowing that years ago. Gave me a chuckle 😄 ❤
Wow! I just found your channel and this has just happened to me. After a 2 1/2 yr relationship with my (former) fiancé' in another country, $150K invested, all of my clothes, jewelry, belongings, 15 months of beuracratic paperwork and waiting to get married....he discarded me. I cannot wrap my head around it. I have no other choice but to take the losses financially and start all over. Its very grim but I suppose would be grimmer having stayed in it.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. Invest in yourself. Pamper, read, walk, sleep, eat healthy, watch Andrew’s videos, celebrate not being with the narc, heal, be the best version of you. Wishing you every happiness and blessing! ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️😎🦋🌳🌎❤️
Stay on board with this channel. You'll never, ever regret it. It's someplace special. And I never throw that word "special" around like a sign in a supermarket.
I have personally seen the evil character behind the mask of a vulnerable narcissist . She inflicted serious injury , that she smilingly called as just an accident , and then treated me like garbage , leaving me with no choice but to go no contact , and she never tried to contact me either , to see if I was even alive ! To her I was of no use after the medical crisis she caused , so I’m sure I was a good riddance to her.
Many things that showed the true nature of mine; but of them I recall that when I would succumb to despondency, in the fog, and lash back she would snikker! @@chxwv
The best is when you get the knowledge from people like yourself, then you kick back and wait for the right time. Discarding a devalued narcissist is a beautiful thing.
I disagree or maybe I simply just cannot tell a lie. I believe withholding my intentions and feelings makes me the same as the narcissist. No matter how much he attempts to destroy me - I will face him face to face and I will ALWAYS get back up, for my children. And ultimately I know the Lord is with me and what I have endured.
I see it this way 🤣 it was a painful lesson in more ways than one. But once you gain the wisdom you get to collect and pass go 🤣 I honestly, wasn’t the best version of myself and if it wasn’t for him and this experience I wouldn’t become the woman I’am becoming. The truth is, he didn’t break me 🥰 he healed me and showed me all the things I don’t want to be… I’m free to live my life and do what I want to do 🎶 now, I know how to love and treat others. Including myself. I wouldn’t say I have more healing to do… now, it’s about the financial recovery and stability I need to create for myself…. It’s all good, baby-baby 🥰🙏😁🥴🥊 ☝🏽 more thing, only broken people accept “Narcs” into their lives… take that index finger and point to the wo/man in the mirror… you also played a role and you also have “shortcomings” otherwise, the “narc” wouldn’t have made it into your life 🤷🏻♀️ carry on 🥰
I absolutely love the old stone & log building and the woods behind 💓💓🙂🙂. In a nutshell, I put up a huge boundary by ending it myself. However, the relationship never ended. The narcissist wanted to make it work. Since it had been a marriage, I gave it another chance. Years later the discard happened. Great & insightful video. Everything you say matches my experiences. Hope you had a nice time in the fresh air & woods🙂🌲🌳🍂. God's blessings to you ☀️☀️😊🙂 🐦
They will go to extreames , the discard may be in form of overdose, but they come back to place where soeone will help them 911. It’s how they elicit sympathy when they taking everything to court to sue your butt.
We were together 7yrs. When I began confronting Him on being a Narcissist, his behaviours and how he was treating Me he couldn’t deny anymore. It’s in that moment that I DECIDED to discard him and walk away no contact. It crucifies me that I loved him with my whole being, but He never felt anything for Me. It was all a sham. I continue to move forward with good days and bad healing my heart. The background to this video is amazing Andrew, it is everything I love. Nature at its finest. Stay safe everyone. 😊
Totally understand how you feel , even though I was discarded, I fought to get him back for over a year, until I got the education on narcissistic behaviour, and realised I was only adding to the hurt he caused and kidding myself that he would change . Such a shame isn’t it x
@@michellepurcell8703 I will never, ever be able to comprehend that there are people walking around this Beautiful Planet with the intent on destroying peoples lives and well being. I have no idea how long it will take me to heal my heart, it’s sore it is physically painful but however long it takes I will get there. How do we ever learn to trust in anyone again? I just wanted to give him my Love and to be Loved 🥰. It is gut wrenching. Best wishes 💕
@@clairemcmahon9392 totally get you . I think we are all coming from the same place on Andrew’s channel. Remember it takes time. Hopefully you will look back in time any realise you had a lucky escape. You still have a great life to live . I am concentrating on building new friendships and ho hobby’s, not thinking about what future love interests may hold . Like you I don’t want to get burned again ❤️
I am finding w/old friends my degree of tolerance, empathy, and my overgiving nature have lowered significantly. I have real limits now. Anyone relate?❣️
Yes. That's good and healthy. Don't waste your empathy on those who don't want to receive it. Think carefully about who you will give it to. The one who will be sincerely grateful for help and support.
Yep. Weeded out all of the mean girls, back stabbers, lying men, users & so on. Have a wonderful LOVING circle of friends now who have my back. Including a loving man I’m dating… who is very supportive of me. Doesn’t get better than that. A veritable love-fest. Well worth the effort to accomplish!!!
I agree! Preaching to the choir. I'm more cautious in giving my time and resources. Noticed when I offered to treat my friend for lunch, I was reluctant. Afterward, I came to the conclusion that I didn't want to offer in paying the entire bill. Next time, I won't. Lol.
in 2017, my intuition was telling me something.. It was so strong, that I changed all the beneficiaries on my account from my husband to my daughter. We were actively planning our retirement when I found a picture of another woman on our boat 6 months later. This created the monkey wrench in his plans. He told me there was nothing to save in our 35 marriage and 5 months later he moved in with another woman he just met online.
@donnas I hope the new supply treats him exactly how he treated you. An eye for an eye. ❤ God bless & aren't you glad you're free now? I hope you enjoy your retirement on your own terms now. 😊
Yes, I was dumped right after my birthday and instead of begging to come back I said ok, goodbye and never looked back. It has been 9 months and I have recovered. After 2 months I started receiving calls, emails, messages, letters but I never responded. I know he is with someone else and he is still harassing me. It doesn't affect me anymore. Thank you for your words, your videos helped me a lot God bless you!
Whether you go yourself or you are discarded the Narcissist forces his behaviors and plans it. Your brain's trauma response is activated because you've lost the person defining your identity and your worth. I left him and then it was easy for him to be with the new supply. I had to rebuild a new life for me. Thank you Andrew for this video. It's a beautiful peacful natural location, I love it! ❤🌲😊
Wow! I literally told my ex wife I felt like I was on a rollercoaster. Up down up down etc…. So sad that people can treat others this way. I’m thankful I am on the healing path now and am becoming the best version of ME!
The discard... been that way ALL my life. Abandoned ever holiday not 2 mention fake gifts & attempts @ being care or even human. Countless X's I was left 2 care 4 myself after life changing injuries while they had more important things 2 do or ppl 2 B with. More over how they plot cheat steal scheme & devise means 2 take everything from U as a person, $$$, energy, love, attention & time. Sad hoe shallow superficial they really are. I've walked a hard lonely road all my life because of these parasites mostly my family, so called friends. Surprise, What a education I got! This undeniable & horrific problem is most prevalent in 2days society. Sadly ppl in important positions & institutions R the worst. Many miles 2 go B4 I sleep... Thank U Andrew & 2 all who share & care, I'm most gr8ful 2 u. 🙏 Godspeed Godbless Shilom Nomesde 1🌎 1❤ ♾️
Your location is beautiful and magical. It could be from a fairytale and perfect just 'to be'. My friend constantly told me that he needed me in his life and kept thanking me. However he never told me why he needed me. Naive or what, I was his host until he was sure of his next supply. This lesson is learned. 🙏🌺🌺
It destroyed me I was replaced. Right before the holidays Christmas was. Dreadful walking around. I the cold heart aching knowing that I had been replaced in a flash never saw it coming I would wake up crying I would cry in my sleep .I got screwed. Dumped it’s ok I have been successful like I ever believed
My siblings discarded me when I learned to say no. Learning about narcissism and narcissists gave me boundaries and knowledge. Thank you, Andrew ! I like your outdoor living room. It is rustic , full of life ,and looks comfortable. I so like the door!!! Doors symbolize freedom to me. I now choose who I will let enter verses being a doormat that lets people wipe their issues on me. Doors come in all sizes ,shapes,colors ,and materials. I do like your new setting !!!😊 🌳 🌲 🐦 ⛅️ ☀️ ❤
The discard line before she left - ‘You have to look at it from a modern perspective’. Translated - everything in the marriage is authentic but you leave just the same. I was only a source and she had the replacement ready.
My 91 year old Mom was on her death bed. My siblings arrived together from different parts of the state. That is when my sister and brother discarded me and my son. At first, I thought it was a miracle that they arrived to the parking lot at the same time. I and my son did not even know that my Mom would pass away that day. Later, I realized that my siblings were working together against my son and me. The exact year before, my husband had passed. So, the discard was carefully timed.
Even if you split up with them rather than them doing the discard, they are always planning the discard. My estranged is always poking around trying to see what financial resources I have left. It is insulting that he still asks me for money even though we are separated and I am working two jobs.
This is pretty exactly how mine went and I’m positive the discard was planned, just as you’re saying. It might have been a little sooner than the intent because I called out something he did. Then the discard was like 2 weeks before my birthday and the ensuing holidays. I’m fine though. He cannot come back ever again
Yes, BEAUTIFUL location, Andrew! I hope you’re having a _wonderful_ day! Sending lots of ❤❤❤ your way! My narc discarded me the day after Easter, though I think that date was more relevant to him than it was me, but I NOW look back on that specific day and celebrate it as the day my WHOLE LIFE changed for the better in EVERY way. I reframed it as a positive! I know many in this community may not be at a point in their healing process where they can see it that way… that’s okay… when you are healed you will probably see it more that way (to the newbies here). Think of it this way… the narc would HATE to see you celebrating that day… THEY WANTED it to go on affecting you until you could no longer take it. To see you flip that around and CELEBRATE it… well that’s precisely what they DON’T want to see. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤭 Life’s not fair, is it?! GREAT video Andrew! GREAT message! Have a WONDERFUL day! My friends, I hope you all are having a wonderful day too! It’s all about how you choose to look at things. Let’s start with, you’re not being abused by this person anymore and go from there 😉👍❤❤❤ Love y’all! PRO TIP: Make out a list of ways your life has been BETTER without the narc in it. List EVERY way you can THINK of… EVEN in the seemingly TINIEST way. If you find yourself missing the narc or ruminating… maybe thinking of reaching out to them (DON’T do that!), instead, make the list. You’ll thank yourself! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🩷💜🩷💜
Wow this is amazing advice, thank you Jennifer. It is extremely helpful and thank you for sharing your own experience too. I like that you ended up celebrating the day of discard. I’m going keep in mind the list part especially, for the future. It would be a good reminder of what’s improved even if it’s something small. ❤🌹❤️🌹
I love the location! I love exploring in the woods and hiking. Looking at all the little creatures and plants and rocks and everything that nature is!!
The kingdom of the silver elves where a person can drink honey wine all day long and inspiration is unlimited and endless. And only the initiated have the key to this very sacred door.😊😁🦄🗝️🦋🌌☀️✨💝sending you fairy magic.✨🧚✨
@@flowerpower4944 hey flower, thank you, still making tracks. How are you? Hope you are good aswell. Sending you love , affection and healing light. 💪🙌💗🧚☀️🌌🦋🦄🌺🫂🤗🌿🌱💛💜
Absolutely love the location. I prefer being out in nature. Andrew thank you. I really try to take 1 tool you share with us in every video. But then pick a few. Appreciate calling many tools out in following videos. And yep you're quite right they always pick a date for example Christmas. The toxic person from whom I removed myself ALWAYS caused friction around Christmas and I figured out why. He is not a believer. I removed myself shortly after Christmas eatly 2023 and what a brilliant action that was. I'm living my best life in a long time for the last 10months. Thanks to you, and the wisdom you share with us. Your chosen family. We love you too. What I appreciate most is your words at the end of every session....Remember you are not alone....and I love you guys. And sonetimes give us a virtual hug😊
You are right as always. - I got discarded on the morning of our long awaited holiday together one beautiful summer morning. Four years before he had done it for the first time 3 days before Christmas. (Then I still called him back because I only found out about narcissism 3-4 months later… ) I tell you these guys are in deep deep trouble in their lives, crystal clear.
Great location ❤ and message. The minute 5:00 - “fake humanity” wow that’s fact right there. They planned it. I exited prior and quite thankful for G-d, the angels (human form and other ) who stood by me. Was quite a bang ❗️ I believe as you called it? Yes. There were bangs. Listen to Andrew and apply the wisdom. Have a wonderful rest of your afternoon!!!! ❤️🙏💪
Yes I was just needed for a place to live an apartment wouldn't work for him he had too much stuff and I was cheaper. From the beginning he knew what he was up to I was just a convenience. I once said that to his daughter and I remember she looked down she knew it was true her father was just using me. Thankfully he was not able to get his name on my house oh but he asked. Thankfully I said no when he asked if I would go in with him on other property. He didn't get anything materially from me which I am grateful for but it still hurts to be used. It hurts to feel stupid and know that others knew he didn't care for me as he pretended but I am ok I have got up dusted myself off and thanks to Andrew I have ignored the hoovers.
His daughter, having to remain silent, yet knowing how wrong her father was, makes me only hope one day she'll free herself for good. For you, I'm glad you got away with less damage from the con. Glad you're OK, but the depth of personal pain ... only you know.
The location looks really peaceful.. i like it.. I would be scared in the middle of the woods though.. but that’s because I don’t like going to bushy areas here in Australia as I don’t know what I’ll encounter!.. I prefer to stick to town centres.. perhaps over there it’s less scary 😂.. thank you for the video.. it was an eye opener for me.. I feel that this year the narc has been preparing to either discard me or for my own discard of him .. a lot of mixed signals but at the end of the day I know the truth now.. and I think you were right to call narcs that word: BULLIES. Thank you again Andrew and wishing you and this community a peaceful evening and day. ❤
It really saddens me that the man I married treated me with such toxicity, it affected my mental, emotional, and physical well-being. I would got acid reflux and cry all the time. Now I’m on my own, healing, going through a divorce. Good thing is, he lives across the US.
Absolutely true. Connecting the dots of the planned discard is easy and obvious once we are out of the fog. Radical Honesty and Acceptance are key actions to speed up the healing. Second, we must have someone, (anyone) hear our whole story about the relationship or you/we may end up spending decades in the healing "process" and never get there. Word by word, sentence by sentence it must be done in full. I had the fortune to have a therapist, life coach and a support group. Reach out and purge your pain once and for all if you have the wisdom and understand of what you where up against. 💞If you are a NEWBIE even more critical that you do not go backwards by isolating too long or that could be the next trap that may take the next decade of your life. 💞 Blessings to all! Namaste ♥
Great point. Keep it moving along. Get it out & move on, not sit a year or a decade with that roiling around, shadowing your entire existence. Because it will if you allow it 💪
It was always 'a plan' drawn up by an emotional fraudster... We may have been used as a lifeboat or an ocean liner, the fact is that we just transported this 'illustrious passenger' on board our lives on the worst journey we have experienced. A creature so sadistic and cowardly to the point of piercing the hull of the boat and setting it on fire (before leaving it for another "means of transport") and continuing his life of piracy. P.S.: I loved this filming location! Ideal for a morning coffee with lots of homemade bread and fig and strawberry jams. May you all be blessed by the love of Jesus! ❤🇧🇷
Beautiful surrounds Andrew. Glad to see sun coming out. Heart goes out to anyone the discard has happened to. So grateful for this channel as we head toward holidays ❤
Two days before Christmas he asked me to leave ! (27 years married) It was the best gift I ever received! I would of stayed because it was easy .. but I’m out of the FOG and moving on !
I just proposed a legal separation after 36 years of marriage but he came home with divorce papers.....he always had to "one up" me.....he got what he asked for. 2 years divorced and I am free now. Fog has lifted and I see clearly.
The location is beautiful, and looks peaceful, especially seeing the water in the background and trees. Reminds me of Okla. ..so many sceneries here like that. Mountain areas with overlook are breathtaking, and I've always loved hilly scenery...your location today is pretty. 😊 Have a great day there and Thank you for the once again, inspirational video 😌
Hi Andrew Love that location there is something magical about forests..it reminds me of my childhood reading about “the enchanted forest” by Enid Blyton..I don’t know if you had that in the U.S..I was an obsessive reader as a child..in the olden days before the internet..😊 Good riddance to the narcs 👋..❤
they tricked us, for me it was 2-3 days of happiness and postive convosation making us think its going well, then on the 3-4th day they change and its HELL.
The discard happened as soon as he got his VISA to permanently live in my country in his hand, at which point I couldn't revoke it after finding out I had been used. He even 'leaked' this fact out, which of course he later denied. .
100% truth. These people are very disturbed individuals. I would rather be alone on any holiday, than with them. My discard happened on Easter (Resurrection Day). Now, I see I was freed on Easter. Praise God.
The easy peace & quiet of making dinner without that moron telling me how to boil water ! 💯
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I remember him ALWAYS saying to me.... WHEN THIS ENDS. for some reason I didn't take it serious because he had me convinced that he was always going to be apart my life even if it was just as friends. So many mixed messages and bread crumbing 😮😢
@@lorraineolivera24 Similar to driving you somewhere ( ie new grocery store & he then eats the food you pay for) & then saying " now you know how to get there." Yeah - because he can't stand spending time around you. Or - out of the blue after a trip to the garden store ( you pay) he says "now I don't owe you anything.") 🙃
The discard is definitely planned . I was supposed to be buying a house with my partner.I later found out that he didn’t sign any relevant paperwork which was needed , and even lied to me about his real sir name. We were in a relationship for 8 years and living together for six of them . These people are secretive, and most are pathological liars. They purposely lead a partner into a false sense of security, praying on their vulnerabilities. Ps nice new woodland location . Kick the leaves 🍁
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Great location! Awesome sides of that basement! Stone structures are beutuful! Thank you for great words! God bless you Andrew!
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💯 The narcissist lives for the moment....and they move very fast because they know they can only wear the mask chosen for you a certain time...
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I agree . That is when they throw people into so much confusion and love to gaslight
Absolutely ❤ when you suspect, when your gut feeling is telling you something when your intuition is telling you something ... believe that something is wrong.
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So true, I caught him glaring terribly at me early on. It gave me the chills. If only I would have ran
I was discarded although he claims that I “dumped him” by kicking him out. All I can say, is my life is monumentally better without the narc. Thank God he “slithered away”🤣😂
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Yes after 2.5 years together, I was discarded over the phone unexpectedly 5 days before Christmas.....
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Wow. You put this so freaking clear. I messed up his discard by telling him.."I know" and proceeded to tell him where and who he was moving in with. He even tried to come back to help with the storm damage that had occured.....told him NO thank you. That therew him off big time so much that he showed up unannounced the following day. I am healing and moving forward and fighting for my future and financial life in this divorce. None of which he is asking for does he deserve and I told him so. I have been no contact since the day he left.....I have seen him for 2 hrs in the past 8 months after 28 yrs together. It's not been easy...but it's been right! Thank you for your straight forward messages! Namaste
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Absolutely. It’s been 29 years for me. He left 6 weeks ago and it’s been so peaceful. I will be moving in 4 weeks and will be going completely no contact on that day except for any divorce discussions. He is with someone else and has not mentioned any divorce. He did not think I would totally go gray rock and will soon go no contact.
What a lovely location my favourite place, T.Y.Andrew,,,,and Sending warm wishes and Love And Strength to everyone Here, Always Be kind to yourself,,,we have all Been through So much , 🙏💟💖🙏💖👉🤗💖🌼🌺
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You've made me think... Before the first discard she started to wander a lot, alone, at night, in the garden, in complete silence, smoking like a chimney... I'm quite sure she was evaluating the pros and cons. It's just horrific to think that this actually happened.
Yes they become always busy and can't sleep. They already had new supply but haven't decided if it was better than you yet.
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@@jaysonwashington8787Completely true!
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Chilling. Glad you got out & are here now.
Many micro discards through the marriage.
There never was a future, never will be.
I am free, growing everyday, becoming more content with who I am.
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Love your very lovely rustic location Andrew.....
Do enjoy the rest of your day......and I do hope many will be very much helped by your message today......those narcissists are so cruel.
I absolutely love this setting today Andrew. 3 of my favorite things..stone, logs, and a gorgeous setting amongst the trees.
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I never dreamed I would be the one to do the discard through NO CONTACT.
Here I am...stayed way too long trying everything to make it work, only to cause more hurt to myself. Gaining the wisdom made it all clear & I knew I must face breaking the bond.
Healing & rebuilding hurts as I move in victory towards a brighter unknown future. Stay strong, move on......no more wasted days...WE MATTER! 🎀😘
Well said sometimes we have to remind ourselves that we do matter. We have spent far too long appeasing a person who never appreciated us
Congratulations!! You broke free!
Same with me, I also had to get the courage to leave because I knew I could not take the emotional abuse any longer.
Very well said
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The moment of discard was planned meticulously. She relocated, the refurbishment of her apartment finished. The month and date chosen to coincide with the wedding date. She even chosen a month long break from her occupation. She didn’t tell her parents. I informed them that she was leaving. Later on she sent a one line text to her parents. My network was decimated and ended up discarded alone, confused, until I learnt what happened and why from your channel.
@@lysaholly Ongoing sly rejection.
No one is prepared for that abuse !
@@lysaholly - It is insane.
How awful..so sorry..these people are vile..
@@PatBlack-sj7tg I just live on day by day finding myself again.
I'm so happy you are doing videos on the post narcissistic phase and the discard. It's definitely been a struggle.
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Ten years in being in "devaluation mode". I'm 70 yrs old, sick a lot. Lonely. Your words are exact what these ten years have been. I refuse to comingle my assets. ..what a crap life.
Sending prayers love and Healing strength to you,,now and always,,may Gods Peace come to you,👉🙏🙏💖💖🌼🌼🫂🕯️
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God is with you, and your angels and ancestors. You are not alone.
Oh sweetie, hang in there because you are worth so much more no matter what your age is, you are worthy to be loved! Take care of yourself, try to find joy in each day, Thankfulness, and laugh Alot! Prayers really work. When I was in your situation I prayed for years wondering if the Lord heard me, and I'm telling you, there's no one who could have orchestrated the way I was able to get free, except God! I'm left with a testimonial and that knowing that my prayers were 100% heard, even if I didn't think so for so long. Praying for you strength 💪 , joy 😂 , health, and peace, like you have never felt!
Laurel, The loneliness is a sign of the times for we age-mates. We don't want to be us d, abused, beat up anymore ❣️
I was discarded on HIS birthday and tossed out of his house wearing only a t-shirt on a cold night. 🥶 Neighbors called the police and he was arrested and placed in jail. I found the gun later that he used on me that horrific night. I was lucky and left with my life. I will never-ever accept anything from him including a hoover. Thank you Andrew for your informative videos and allowing us to vent/share our stories here in a safe place; it absolutely helps with the healing path. 💕
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It's planned. My cycle would begin after every major life event (moving in together, moving across the country, marriage, buying a house etc). The first big discard came before the holidays with the final discard being right before my birthday. Life is so much better now. But it's so funny to me to see how they are all the same.
I think they have a Narcissist handbook, and they all study it for high school
He even ruined going out to a market in the countryside to buy vegetables !
Its so strange to me that special dates are chaos for those types
I think it's because those dates are so important to them. Mine would get so self absorbed around his birthdays and the holidays - excited for all the gifts coming their way. I think they think those dates are equally important to other people so it would be extra damaging to be discarded around then. Plus, they are annual events so they get the bonus of "wounding" you over and over again as those dates happen in the future. Little do they expect your life to get better. @@JLswatchthis
Beautiful location. Nothing more therapeutic than being amongst nature or animals. 🌿🍂🦅💯
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That's exactly what I went through
We had just sold the family home. He discarded me when I had no where to go, with only two weeks to vacate the property. Didn’t care one bit. Barely helped me get my stuff to a storage unit. Never asked me where I was going. Ten years of devotion wiped away. Stunning. My replacement was being taken to mutual friend gatherings with a week
That speaks volumes for the type of person they are . Discarded or nor nobody deserves to be treated like an accessory
Leave him to it.
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At this point I wish he would discard me on the freeway!
@eve. It is said the narc acts from †he primitive R-Complex , the reptilian brain - there is a certain telepathy involved. Some call it the satanic hive mind. 👽
I caught on to a narc who was shit testing. When I cut them off at the pass, they spent their energy protecting their image.
My new discipline will be to not say anything to them. Information to them is ammunition.
Hilarious, within 6 months, she is married....LMAO that poor guy
Yes mine has already moved in to her house. Sickening
Also painting the walls the same color he painted mine...so bizarre and sick
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YIKES EMOJI!!!@@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel
Discards are painful and a form of abandonment which is traumatic at the end of an already traumatic experience of years of narcissistic abuse. I am thankful that I am no longer with a narcissist and not planning on going down that road again. 😊
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This is very true, I told someone the discard is a form of abandonment. The good news is that NONE of it is your fault
He hinted at it, that he was planning the discard, in the beginning. He bought a small gift for one of my family members right after Christmas and I said, "For next Christmas then?" And he said something like, "Like we'll still be together," sarcastically, which hurt. I told him, "Dont say that." So, yeah, it always felt like he had one foot out the door.
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I bet you’re glad he’s out of the door now you’re aware of how toxic and damaging to you he was
@@michellepurcell8703That is easier said than done. I'm still grieving the relationship, the promises, the extended family, the future that apparently was a fantasy, my dog (technically his, but attached to me), all of it. Apparently, I am garbage to him and everything we had was meaningless... 💔
@@lindsay3793 my partner took our dog too. I was really fond of her. I still struggle 2 years down the line . Remember none if this is your fault, and keep telling yourself the truth, and that is you deserve to be loved by a sincere loving person
@@lindsay3793 He bound you to himself with a traumatic bond. You are still under his hypnosis.
❤ Love the location 🎉 the planned discard is every time he said "You can leave anytime" knowing full well financially I wouldn't. Working on the plan.
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Sad today that I wasted so much time and resources on someone who crumbled me up!
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I was discarded soon after my mother died. And before he even didn't want to say hello to her.
I am so sorry...they are Not good ppl
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Ive learned the narcessist will always tell you their exact plans. She would say, you know what i am so sick of so and so, im jusy going to tell them to F off forever. Or im so mad at my sister for disapearing for a few days. The list goes on and thats exactly what she would end up doing to me. I suppose it was to see my reaction on which would hurt me the most before the plan was executed. I learned over time reverse psychology but got sick of playing the stupid games. For example if I wanted pizza, id sinply say, I want anything for dinner but pizza, pretend like i absolutly didnt want pizza, then we'd have pizza. FML
That’s so good you figured this out and can explain it to others. It may give anyone in a bewildered state a lightbulb moment! Reverse psychology’ technique. I could have done with knowing that years ago. Gave me a chuckle 😄 ❤
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Wow! I just found your channel and this has just happened to me. After a 2 1/2 yr relationship with my (former) fiancé' in another country, $150K invested, all of my clothes, jewelry, belongings, 15 months of beuracratic paperwork and waiting to get married....he discarded me. I cannot wrap my head around it. I have no other choice but to take the losses financially and start all over. Its very grim but I suppose would be grimmer having stayed in it.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. Invest in yourself. Pamper, read, walk, sleep, eat healthy, watch Andrew’s videos, celebrate not being with the narc, heal, be the best version of you.
Wishing you every happiness and blessing!
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Stay on board with this channel. You'll never, ever regret it. It's someplace special.
And I never throw that word "special" around like a sign in a supermarket.
Run as fast as you can, I'm in the same boat, losing my shirt, but who cares that is only stuff.
Discard or reverse discard happens when you are in a crisis and really needed them
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Yes that aspect is always perfectly timed sometimes almost supernaturally!
I have personally seen the evil character behind the mask of a vulnerable narcissist . She inflicted serious injury , that she smilingly called as just an accident , and then treated me like garbage , leaving me with no choice but to go no contact , and she never tried to contact me either , to see if I was even alive ! To her I was of no use after the medical crisis she caused , so I’m sure I was a good riddance to her.
Many things that showed the true nature of mine; but of them I recall that when I would succumb to despondency, in the fog, and lash back she would snikker! @@chxwv
The best is when you get the knowledge from people like yourself, then you kick back and wait for the right time. Discarding a devalued narcissist is a beautiful thing.
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I disagree or maybe I simply just cannot tell a lie. I believe withholding my intentions and feelings makes me the same as the narcissist. No matter how much he attempts to destroy me - I will face him face to face and I will ALWAYS get back up, for my children. And ultimately I know the Lord is with me and what I have endured.
I see it this way 🤣 it was a painful lesson in more ways than one. But once you gain the wisdom you get to collect and pass go 🤣 I honestly, wasn’t the best version of myself and if it wasn’t for him and this experience I wouldn’t become the woman I’am becoming. The truth is, he didn’t break me 🥰 he healed me and showed me all the things I don’t want to be… I’m free to live my life and do what I want to do 🎶 now, I know how to love and treat others. Including myself. I wouldn’t say I have more healing to do… now, it’s about the financial recovery and stability I need to create for myself…. It’s all good, baby-baby 🥰🙏😁🥴🥊 ☝🏽 more thing, only broken people accept “Narcs” into their lives… take that index finger and point to the wo/man in the mirror… you also played a role and you also have “shortcomings” otherwise, the “narc” wouldn’t have made it into your life 🤷🏻♀️ carry on 🥰
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You said verbatim exactly every detail!!
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I absolutely love the old stone & log building and the woods behind 💓💓🙂🙂. In a nutshell, I put up a huge boundary by ending it myself. However, the relationship never ended. The narcissist wanted to make it work. Since it had been a marriage, I gave it another chance. Years later the discard happened. Great & insightful video. Everything you say matches my experiences. Hope you had a nice time in the fresh air & woods🙂🌲🌳🍂. God's blessings to you ☀️☀️😊🙂 🐦
Move on stay no contact!!!
They will go to extreames , the discard may be in form of overdose, but they come back to place where soeone will help them 911. It’s how they elicit sympathy when they taking everything to court to sue your butt.
We were together 7yrs. When I began confronting Him on being a Narcissist, his behaviours and how he was treating Me he couldn’t deny anymore. It’s in that moment that I DECIDED to discard him and walk away no contact.
It crucifies me that I loved him with my whole being, but He never felt anything for Me. It was all a sham. I continue to move forward with good days and bad healing my heart.
The background to this video is amazing Andrew, it is everything I love. Nature at its finest. Stay safe everyone. 😊
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Totally understand how you feel , even though I was discarded, I fought to get him back for over a year, until I got the education on narcissistic behaviour, and realised I was only adding to the hurt he caused and kidding myself that he would change . Such a shame isn’t it x
@@michellepurcell8703 I will never, ever be able to comprehend that there are people walking around this Beautiful Planet with the intent on destroying peoples lives and well being.
I have no idea how long it will take me to heal my heart, it’s sore it is physically painful but however long it takes I will get there. How do we ever learn to trust in anyone again? I just wanted to give him my Love and to be Loved 🥰. It is gut wrenching. Best wishes 💕
@@clairemcmahon9392 totally get you . I think we are all coming from the same place on Andrew’s channel. Remember it takes time. Hopefully you will look back in time any realise you had a lucky escape. You still have a great life to live . I am concentrating on building new friendships and ho hobby’s, not thinking about what future love interests may hold . Like you I don’t want to get burned again ❤️
@@clairemcmahon9392Look up spiritual warfare.
I am finding w/old friends my degree of tolerance, empathy, and my overgiving nature have lowered significantly. I have real limits now. Anyone relate?❣️
yep. i have lower tolerance for any nonsense anymore.
Yes. That's good and healthy. Don't waste your empathy on those who don't want to receive it. Think carefully about who you will give it to. The one who will be sincerely grateful for help and support.
@@rob_see Yes, we have raised the bar high 👍🎉
Yep. Weeded out all of the mean girls, back stabbers, lying men, users & so on. Have a wonderful LOVING circle of friends now who have my back. Including a loving man I’m dating… who is very supportive of me. Doesn’t get better than that. A veritable love-fest. Well worth the effort to accomplish!!!
I agree! Preaching to the choir. I'm more cautious in giving my time and resources. Noticed when I offered to treat my friend for lunch, I was reluctant. Afterward, I came to the conclusion that I didn't want to offer in paying the entire bill. Next time, I won't. Lol.
in 2017, my intuition was telling me something.. It was so strong, that I changed all the beneficiaries on my account from my husband to my daughter. We were actively planning our retirement when I found a picture of another woman on our boat 6 months later. This created the monkey wrench in his plans. He told me there was nothing to save in our 35 marriage and 5 months later he moved in with another woman he just met online.
@donnas. So he was always just playing a role. How Creepy.
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@donnas I hope the new supply treats him exactly how he treated you. An eye for an eye. ❤
God bless & aren't you glad you're free now? I hope you enjoy your retirement on your own terms now. 😊
ThankYou4Sharing!!!❤ MuchLove!!!❤
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Yes, I was dumped right after my birthday and instead of begging to come back I said ok, goodbye and never looked back. It has been 9 months and I have recovered. After 2 months I started receiving calls, emails, messages, letters but I never responded. I know he is with someone else and he is still harassing me. It doesn't affect me anymore. Thank you for your words, your videos helped me a lot
God bless you!
You are strong!
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I got so tired of their mood-flipping!!
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Whether you go yourself or you are discarded the Narcissist forces his behaviors and plans it. Your brain's trauma response is activated because you've lost the person defining your identity and your worth.
I left him and then it was easy for him to be with the new supply.
I had to rebuild a new life for me.
Thank you Andrew for this video.
It's a beautiful peacful natural location,
I love it! ❤🌲😊
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Yes. Hormones/chemicals are involved. 👍
Lost my children in the process they know exactly what they are doing 14 yrs later I'm still traumatised by it these people play very long games
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You are great! So much great information, Blessings
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Wow! I literally told my ex wife I felt like I was on a rollercoaster. Up down up down etc…. So sad that people can treat others this way. I’m thankful I am on the healing path now and am becoming the best version of ME!
It's just projection. No one will do or say anything to u that's not a direct reflection of how they r feeling in the moment
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The discard... been that way ALL my life. Abandoned ever holiday not 2 mention fake gifts & attempts @ being care or even human. Countless X's I was left 2 care 4 myself after life changing injuries while they had more important things 2 do or ppl 2 B with. More over how they plot cheat steal scheme & devise means 2 take everything from U as a person, $$$, energy, love, attention & time. Sad hoe shallow superficial they really are. I've walked a hard lonely road all my life because of these parasites mostly my family, so called friends. Surprise, What a education I got! This undeniable & horrific problem is most prevalent in 2days society. Sadly ppl in important positions & institutions R the worst. Many miles 2 go B4 I sleep...
Thank U Andrew & 2 all who share & care, I'm most gr8ful 2 u. 🙏 Godspeed Godbless Shilom Nomesde 1🌎 1❤ ♾️
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Your location is beautiful and magical. It could be from a fairytale and perfect just 'to be'.
My friend constantly told me that he needed me in his life and kept thanking me. However he never told me why he needed me. Naive or what, I was his host until he was sure of his next supply. This lesson is learned. 🙏🌺🌺
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Beautiful location. I was expecting elves to come out of the door behind you.
Thanks you very much Andrew God bless you ❤
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It destroyed me I was replaced. Right before the holidays Christmas was. Dreadful walking around. I the cold heart aching knowing that I had been replaced in a flash never saw it coming I would wake up crying I would cry in my sleep .I got screwed. Dumped it’s ok I have been successful like I ever believed
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Poor souls who can only win by lies. ❤annie
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My siblings discarded me when I learned to say no. Learning about narcissism and narcissists gave me boundaries and knowledge. Thank you, Andrew !
I like your outdoor living room. It is rustic , full of life ,and looks comfortable.
I so like the door!!! Doors symbolize freedom to me. I now choose who I will let enter verses being a doormat that lets people wipe their issues on me. Doors come in all sizes ,shapes,colors ,and materials.
I do like your new setting !!!😊 🌳 🌲 🐦 ⛅️ ☀️ ❤
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The discard line before she left - ‘You have to look at it from a modern perspective’. Translated - everything in the marriage is authentic but you leave just the same. I was only a source and she had the replacement ready.
Thats so not equal or normal or fair!
I like the location. I can imagine a beach behind the trees. I like that idea. It's beautiful ❤😊
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My ex left while I was on a vacation with our children (without him of course). I came home to him gone..completely blind sided.
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My 91 year old Mom was on her death bed. My siblings arrived together from different parts of the state. That is when my sister and brother discarded me and my son. At first, I thought it was a miracle that they arrived to the parking lot at the same time. I and my son did not even know that my Mom would pass away that day. Later, I realized that my siblings were working together against my son and me. The exact year before, my husband had passed. So, the discard was carefully timed.
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Even if you split up with them rather than them doing the discard, they are always planning the discard. My estranged is always poking around trying to see what financial resources I have left. It is insulting that he still asks me for money even though we are separated and I am working two jobs.
Don't give him even one Cent 🙏
@@elkebanhart7045 No way. Not unless I have to as part of the financial settlement for the divorce.
This is pretty exactly how mine went and I’m positive the discard was planned, just as you’re saying. It might have been a little sooner than the intent because I called out something he did. Then the discard was like 2 weeks before my birthday and the ensuing holidays.
I’m fine though. He cannot come back ever again
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Thank you Andrew , have a great evening everyone
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Yes, BEAUTIFUL location, Andrew! I hope you’re having a _wonderful_ day! Sending lots of ❤❤❤ your way! My narc discarded me the day after Easter, though I think that date was more relevant to him than it was me, but I NOW look back on that specific day and celebrate it as the day my WHOLE LIFE changed for the better in EVERY way. I reframed it as a positive! I know many in this community may not be at a point in their healing process where they can see it that way… that’s okay… when you are healed you will probably see it more that way (to the newbies here). Think of it this way… the narc would HATE to see you celebrating that day… THEY WANTED it to go on affecting you until you could no longer take it. To see you flip that around and CELEBRATE it… well that’s precisely what they DON’T want to see. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤭 Life’s not fair, is it?! GREAT video Andrew! GREAT message! Have a WONDERFUL day!
My friends, I hope you all are having a wonderful day too! It’s all about how you choose to look at things. Let’s start with, you’re not being abused by this person anymore and go from there 😉👍❤❤❤ Love y’all! PRO TIP: Make out a list of ways your life has been BETTER without the narc in it. List EVERY way you can THINK of… EVEN in the seemingly TINIEST way. If you find yourself missing the narc or ruminating… maybe thinking of reaching out to them (DON’T do that!), instead, make the list. You’ll thank yourself! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🩷💜🩷💜
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Wow this is amazing advice, thank you Jennifer. It is extremely helpful and thank you for sharing your own experience too. I like that you ended up celebrating the day of discard. I’m going keep in mind the list part especially, for the future. It would be a good reminder of what’s improved even if it’s something small. ❤🌹❤️🌹
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Did that Jennifer...narc free is what's life is I am reading back... awesome
I love the location! I love exploring in the woods and hiking. Looking at all the little creatures and plants and rocks and everything that nature is!!
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It's interesting how all narcs. seem to act the same way.
Isn’t it tho? I can’t seem to wrap my head around it. It’s bizarre.
The Carolina woods are just beautiful!!!
I wish I knew what is behind that door.🧐
The kingdom of the silver elves where a person can drink honey wine all day long and inspiration is unlimited and endless.
And only the initiated have the key to this very sacred door.😊😁🦄🗝️🦋🌌☀️✨💝sending you fairy magic.✨🧚✨
@@mariageaney2362wow sounds very adventurous,,,I wanna be there,,👉😂😂😂🤗🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️hope all's well Maria sending love 🌟💟🙏🌺💖
Me too, Emily! Maria, your answer made me smile, thanks! 😊
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@@flowerpower4944 hey flower, thank you, still making tracks.
How are you?
Hope you are good aswell.
Sending you love , affection and healing light.
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Absolutely love the location. I prefer being out in nature. Andrew thank you. I really try to take 1 tool you share with us in every video. But then pick a few. Appreciate calling many tools out in following videos. And yep you're quite right they always pick a date for example Christmas. The toxic person from whom I removed myself ALWAYS caused friction around Christmas and I figured out why. He is not a believer. I removed myself shortly after Christmas eatly 2023 and what a brilliant action that was. I'm living my best life in a long time for the last 10months. Thanks to you, and the wisdom you share with us. Your chosen family. We love you too. What I appreciate most is your words at the end of every session....Remember you are not alone....and I love you guys. And sonetimes give us a virtual hug😊
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Such a great video, thank you Andrew🙏
I LOVE the background!! Simply beautiful! It's the little things,eh
You are right as always. - I got discarded on the morning of our long awaited holiday together one beautiful summer morning. Four years before he had done it for the first time 3 days before Christmas. (Then I still called him back because I only found out about narcissism 3-4 months later… ) I tell you these guys are in deep deep trouble in their lives, crystal clear.
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Great location ❤ and message. The minute 5:00 - “fake humanity” wow that’s fact right there. They planned it. I exited prior and quite thankful for G-d, the angels (human form and other ) who stood by me. Was quite a bang ❗️ I believe as you called it? Yes. There were bangs. Listen to Andrew and apply the wisdom. Have a wonderful rest of your afternoon!!!! ❤️🙏💪
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Yes I was just needed for a place to live an apartment wouldn't work for him he had too much stuff and I was cheaper. From the beginning he knew what he was up to I was just a convenience. I once said that to his daughter and I remember she looked down she knew it was true her father was just using me. Thankfully he was not able to get his name on my house oh but he asked. Thankfully I said no when he asked if I would go in with him on other property. He didn't get anything materially from me which I am grateful for but it still hurts to be used. It hurts to feel stupid and know that others knew he didn't care for me as he pretended but I am ok I have got up dusted myself off and thanks to Andrew I have ignored the hoovers.
His daughter, having to remain silent, yet knowing how wrong her father was, makes me only hope one day she'll free herself for good. For you, I'm glad you got away with less damage from the con. Glad you're OK, but the depth of personal pain ... only you know.
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What a beautiful place to be, Andrew. There are no coincidences. We are all exactly where we are meant to be at this moment. 🌍💙
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Facts brother. A year and a half ago. Still stings
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The location looks really peaceful.. i like it.. I would be scared in the middle of the woods though.. but that’s because I don’t like going to bushy areas here in Australia as I don’t know what I’ll encounter!.. I prefer to stick to town centres.. perhaps over there it’s less scary 😂.. thank you for the video.. it was an eye opener for me.. I feel that this year the narc has been preparing to either discard me or for my own discard of him .. a lot of mixed signals but at the end of the day I know the truth now.. and I think you were right to call narcs that word: BULLIES. Thank you again Andrew and wishing you and this community a peaceful evening and day. ❤
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It really saddens me that the man I married treated me with such toxicity, it affected my mental, emotional, and physical well-being. I would got acid reflux and cry all the time. Now I’m on my own, healing, going through a divorce. Good thing is, he lives across the US.
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Absolutely true. Connecting the dots of the planned discard is easy and obvious once we are out of the fog. Radical Honesty and Acceptance are key actions to speed up the healing. Second, we must have someone, (anyone) hear our whole story about the relationship or you/we may end up spending decades in the healing "process" and never get there. Word by word, sentence by sentence it must be done in full. I had the fortune to have a therapist, life coach and a support group. Reach out and purge your pain once and for all if you have the wisdom and understand of what you where up against. 💞If you are a NEWBIE even more critical that you do not go backwards by isolating too long or that could be the next trap that may take the next decade of your life. 💞 Blessings to all! Namaste ♥
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Great point. Keep it moving along. Get it out & move on, not sit a year or a decade with that roiling around, shadowing your entire existence. Because it will if you allow it 💪
Good Riddance.
Way to called to let demons in my family destroy me.
My own family!!!!!!!!!!!
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It was always 'a plan' drawn up by an emotional fraudster... We may have been used as a lifeboat or an ocean liner, the fact is that we just transported this 'illustrious passenger' on board our lives on the worst journey we have experienced. A creature so sadistic and cowardly to the point of piercing the hull of the boat and setting it on fire (before leaving it for another "means of transport") and continuing his life of piracy.
P.S.: I loved this filming location! Ideal for a morning coffee with lots of homemade bread and fig and strawberry jams. May you all be blessed by the love of Jesus!
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A beautiful location ! ❤
Beautiful surrounds Andrew. Glad to see sun coming out. Heart goes out to anyone the discard has happened to. So grateful for this channel as we head toward holidays ❤
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Thank you Andrew! I appreciate the insight and support, love you and community too❤🙏
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Two days before Christmas he asked me to leave ! (27 years married) It was the best gift I ever received! I would of stayed because it was easy .. but I’m out of the FOG and moving on !
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I just proposed a legal separation after 36 years of marriage but he came home with divorce papers.....he always had to "one up" me.....he got what he asked for. 2 years divorced and I am free now. Fog has lifted and I see clearly.
They are always 10 -15 steps ahead of hurting people . Move forward and watch this channel all the time .
Beautiful spot you filmed in. An unusual shape.
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The location is beautiful, and looks peaceful, especially seeing the water in the background and trees. Reminds me of Okla. ..so many sceneries here like that. Mountain areas with overlook are breathtaking, and I've always loved hilly scenery...your location today is pretty. 😊 Have a great day there and Thank you for the once again, inspirational video 😌
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Hi Andrew
Love that location there is something magical about forests..it reminds me of my childhood reading about “the enchanted forest” by Enid Blyton..I don’t know if you had that in the U.S..I was an obsessive reader as a child..in the olden days before the internet..😊
Good riddance to the narcs 👋..❤
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The magic is still here we just have to find it again..❤
🍁🌿☀️ lovely place, Hagrids house. 🍃🍂☀️🌿
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I love you and your heart ❤. Thank you for all.
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Log cabin…..makes me hungry for waffles with syrup. Great video, Andrew 🤘
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I have to be by myself. I cannot be around people, any kind of people.
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Location is fab Andrew!
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I love the location and the door behind you❣️⚔️🛡️
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season of change 🍁
It's a beautiful location 😍!
Have a good afternon too 🎉
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This was good. Thanx Andrew.
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I through 7 years of my life away with such a narcissistic person
they tricked us, for me it was 2-3 days of happiness and postive convosation making us think its going well, then on the 3-4th day they change and its HELL.
Michas gracias!
Thank you! ❤🙏
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Yes! Can I send this video to his mom? Hardest part is the smear campaign against me. How on earth can anyone believe him?
The discard happened as soon as he got his VISA to permanently live in my country in his hand, at which point I couldn't revoke it after finding out I had been used. He even 'leaked' this fact out, which of course he later denied. .
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Thank you Andrew! Needed this one!
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Beautiful Woods~
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