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My sleep hygiene and routine improved when I started doing all the other routine tasks before I got sleepy. Brushing my teeth, skincare, preparing for the morning, etc. It needs to be done before I get that sleepy feeling because otherwise the activities reset me and give me a second wind. Also getting an app blocker to stop scrolling after a certain time (mine is very lenient at 1:30am) because I have found scrolling before bed does not help me sleep at all. it also blocks my video streaming so I don't get into a binge/marathon of shows and movies

No music is my preference and it is a strong one at that. This is great information and things to ponder. Unfortunately it doesn’t really help those of us in extreme chronic pain from the wonderful other crap we have to manage. I still love the advice and information. I know you can’t speak to things you don’t experience or know about, but it is much different for those of us with chronic illnesses. I hope you aren’t ever in that position. Still though, this is a great video and I will try to figure out ways to address these problems and solutions with an adaptation. I’m fortunate that sleep isn’t my biggest issue, but it is something I know a lot of people struggle with. Thank you for sharing not just problems, but the why of that problem and potential solutions. 😊

It all sounds very familiar. I only recently got my official diagnosis for ADHD at 32. Just like with ADHD, it was my therapist who first suggested that I might be on the autism spectrum. I'm not seeking a diagnosis though. For ADHD it was necessary to get access to the tools that help me most. But with autism, there's not much to do other than talk therapy (which I already do anyway) and finding resources to help oneself. The ADHD diagnosis process was very traumatic in parts and I have no desire to go through smth like that again without real necessity. Idk about my country, but in some an autism diagnosis can be you loose access to ADHD medication, so before seeking it out, it's good to carefully weigh the pros and cons.

I am honestly asking myself if the solely inattentive type is even a thing at this point. Because every woman I have ever come across who was diagnosed that way admitted to being fidgety and having racing thoughts all the time and are all but unable to rest. Sounds like hyperactivity to me. 🤷🏻‍♀️ As with so many other things in women, it's just hidden better.

Do you smooth your rocks in a machine tumbling at all? 😊

I do yin yoga before I sleep while I’m playing TH-cam video on the background

hey there ! as a fellow adhd-girlie i was naturally struggling to fall a sleep since i remember. now, as a twenty something, where i work a job where i am on my feet all day, which also contains a problem solving component and lots and lots of human interaction (i feel like i am pretty extraverted after all, which surprises me), i tend to struggle less with falling asleep, than when i was in school or university. i figured, that reading in bed also helps - it is mentally and sometimes emotionally stimulating. an while i turn the pages the background noise in my brain calms down and i drift off, sometimes with the reading light still on. drifting off! can you believe it? a few years ago i thought "falling asleep" was more like being knocked out, losing my consciousness, because my body is simply giving up. i love your content, haley. thank you. keep it up!

I don't know if it's deliberate, but I've only just twigged it - filming the ad's in a different area/different outfit is so helpful! Means I can quickly scroll through it and easily see when we are back to the content. If you are doing it on purpose, thanks Hayley!

I prefer no music. :)

I ended up doing an all nighter on Sunday/Monday. However, it was after nodding off for 10 mins and then my brain then going..."ooh you know what we could do..." Monday I was on but Tuesday I felt like I was nursing a major hangover. 😂

Sorry but you're not correct about saying everyone has the hyperactivity part. There is a difference between ADD and adhd. They combined both of them for namesake but they still they have certain distinct symptoms from eachother. Many women in particular have the inattentive type which often does NOT include hyperactivity, which is a big reason why many of us are under and misdiagnosed.

thank you for this. i never thought i’d relate so much to this even though i’m not diagnosed with adhd. when you clarified emotional and mental parts and space for them helped a lot just having clarity with that. thanks

Great video, but I am still struggling with what to do when the mental chatter is not negative, but constantly coming up with kreative ideas and problems solving. If I get up to actually write it all down, it feels like I am just feeding the monster 😅

lol me watching this at bed time

No music for me! Also, this is resonating so hard rn, my insomnia has been bad this week. Super helpful video, thanks!

Great timing, as one of my short term goals is to fix my sleep schedule ❤

I prefer no music! Helps me focus better, and it makes the video feel more calm

I have AUDHD. I've struggled with sleep since I was about 13. Now...I'm in my 50's. And my go to, is meditation to sleep. Meditation isn't the absense of thoughts, thoughts will always come, when you realize you're in the middle of that thought, let it go and go back to the meditation. Focus on the breath, in through the nose, out through the mouth. Find your own easy rhythm. While that's going, the body check. Start with your toes and go up from there, find the tension and release it. Relax, let yourself settle in and sink down. I can't explain how to quiet the mind (and some nights I still struggle and can't sleep at all-probably the things I haven't resolved like you said) but because I've done this for so many years, when it does work, I can go to sleep within five minutes. Because of practice and repitition.

love this. thanks so much!

My body wants to move but my brain totally doesn’t want to cooperate. Working on it and hearing this has helped a lot ❤

Also on the physical needs topic: for those who aren’t familiar with “sleep hygiene” basics, your sleeping area needs to be cold, dark, and quiet! Earplugs (reusables can block more sound and stay in your ear better), blackout curtains and covering up LED lights, and a low-enough room temperature or a fan cooling you off can make a BIG difference!

Love you Hayley!! Thank you for these reminders, especially of how critical and profound movement is for our complete wellbeing💖

As was watching this video alone in my room I got overstimulated from how “loud” my phone was

All of this advice is about 40 years too late, but hopefully i can use it for the next 40+ years.

hi. I need friends. Im not a total weirdo. I just work for myself and am not in a social setting often

Bro it's literally 4:30 am rn for me

Ooooh that seems familiar. Wait a minute. OH. OHNO.

Mine is definitely internal hyperactivity. its like a seratonin Craving for something specific before I sleep. Sometimes it's stimulation by media that isn't published yet. Or I'm physically tired enough by work that I can't enact the mental stimulation I need to settle, like drawing or doing something Creative. My days off may be so filled with real headed rest, that I can't clean or do any creative projects that feed that mental stimulation. It's really frustrating. . It's definitely an name of my ob not suiting me but I have no way to get out, no way to save, no real direction towards a job that would suit and work with my ADHD,

No music is better for me thx

This was so helpful! Loved your Types of Rest video before, and now focusing on if we made space for our physical / emotional / mental needs is such a great concept! ❤️

I am newly diagnosed with ADHD. Want to say thank you for your videos. Has cleared a lot for me, and I still have LOTS to work on. But it gives a direction ❤

Yeah thats my life 👍

Hair pulling will sort that out for you 🎉it activates so many accu-points

DANG 😮

Hayley are you telling me to get my ass up and do some exercising.... 😂 cause yeah I know I totally should do that, actually... 😅

Watching this 38 minutes after midnight :) love you Hayley, your videos help me so much

This struggle is very real

I expected some very basic tips for falling asleep, because it seems that every video like this is similar, but I was so surprised. You have some very good tips and a very different approach than I expected. Some of these things I already do to help me sleep (movement!), but it took me years to really figure them out. And funnily enough, during most of the video I fully agreed with you and was like "OMG we're basically the same person!"

How did You know I am right now struggling with this? Nearly midnight here and after a couple of very emotional stressful days, very little and bad sleep I feel exhausted af, but overstimulated in my head. Did some cleaning today for the body part, forced me to do all possible work to help solve the problem, cried a bit and now took my purring cat on my chest and made myself a goodnight-drink. It makes perfectly sense to see THREE parts, not just body and "mind" including the emotions. Helpful video, Hayley😊❤

Did you try just taking magnesium (not too much so you do not accumulate too much over time/do not overdose but like 100 miligrams (daily intake per day is about 300 mg) instead of coffee while it has caffeine and magnesium (I assume it can be caffeine making you anxious and magnesium is making human body poop). I mean you should ask a doctor about it first but just a suggestion that it might be some kind od solution 😅

As someone with (mild-ish) dysautonomia (a branch of comorbidities often seen in neurodivergent people) and resulting exercise intolerance, I hate it when someone tells me that what I need to do for better sleep is Exercise. HOWEVER. While I still don’t do "exercise" in the traditional sense and I still have to avoid walking Up stairs or Up hill, I did notice a change in my sleep/ falling asleep at night after uni and work went back from zoom to in-person and I now just Walk around a lot more. WALKING. I wish instead of suggesting/insisting I try jogging or join a sports team, people had just encouraged me to walk around more. The stupid mental health walks saved my life and my sleep schedule too as it turns out ;)

I never thought about this before. My sleep pattern is terrible, I don’t know the last time I fell asleep before 1.30am. I also accidentally discovered that sleeping with table fan next to my bed helps not for the cold air but for the noise x

Totally relate to all of this

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This is a super helpful video. Im not sure whether or not I am neurodivergent but the tips in here are awesome!

Wim Hof Breathing Method !!!!!!!!!!!! Hold a partial exhale at the end of each round. My dad used to be hooked on sleeping pills, and he sleeps better doing WHBreathing. Really helps the parasympathetic nervous system (rest, digest, healing) and calms you the F down and get into your body where a lot of neurodivergents live in their heads.

this is such a useful breakdown! thank you!!

Facts!

I FRICKIN LOVE YOU HAYLEY!!!! TYSM for the advice you’re so great!! 😘😘😘😘 ❤❤❤❤❤

thanks hayleyyy <3