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- What is social anxiety? How do you know if it's social anxiety or just introversion? How can you spot it and what should you do if you need help dealing with it? Social anxiety is described as the fear of social situations that involve interacting with other people, it can manifest itself in numerous ways and can include everything from shyness in social situations, dreading everyday activities and performing tasks in front of other people to even having physical effects on a person like panic attacks, feeling sick, sweating or heart palpitations. Watch this video "5 Signs It's Social Anxiety and not Introversion" to for more information!
#socialanxiety #introversion #psych2go
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*_This is such a BIG misconception so many people have_*
Being introverted does NOT mean having social anxiety
I thought I was an introvert with social anxiety.
I’m introverted with sa, it can happen, but it’s not always
Hi, I am an introvert with social anxiety. Nice to meet you.
No
@@Edenistics wdym no lmao. You say you have social anxiety and is introverted and you say no when someone says the same?
"introversion or social anxiety?"
_b o t h_
Silvia C I can relate
Silvia C I am in the same boat
Same man
Word!
Same! Although I’m happy to report that [I feel] like my social anxiety, which was mild to begin with, is getting better with time.
Now imagine being a shy, social-anxiety ridden introvert
That's me
Me
Me
*WE
I’m a ambivert so life is shit
Plus : You love being alone but deep down you want someone to find you !
Sameee
SAME VIBES
The World does not work in that way, people die alone every day.
@@derpy4335 And this is not how the world works too , ik ppl die alone but im sure that these ppl wanted someone to be with them but they just couldn't say it , i couldn't say it too , everyone thinks that I'm the happy calm person but i battle with myself everyday just to seem like everything is good when it's not . I want someone to find me even if i didn't ask for it , i don't want to look alone and sad because i love the ppl around me and i don't want to hurt them cuz ik i will if i said that .
I posted this comment 6 months ago and i know the exact feelings that i felt in there and now i feel better which is good , and i did that without telling anyone that i feel like that , but trust me it would've been amazing if someone noticed it but this is what I got .
Anyways ik i talked alot 😂 so
Have a good day ❤️
So true
Has anyone ever avoided asking someone something for the fear of sounding stupid or annoying and then immediately regret it?
God do I relate. And then you think, why not just go ahead and say cus I need to get over this meaningless anxiety anyway? And then when I say it and everyone looks at me and there's no reaction.... I'm just like..... frick. No. I shouldn't have said anything. I want to crawl into a hole and die and get rid of my existence.
Hey There me
Yes! 😞
@@mehek8387 bruh here is where I found my soulmate
My everyday struggle
Mom: Just talk to people
Me: 😑
Radias 258 LITERALLY MY MOM
same, she thought it's that easy 😩
Cured
Not my mom but my friends ;-;
Whooow, what an idea. Why didn't I think of that?
I practice how to say "present" in class in my head like every time.
RIGHT! Then there’s always fucking JACOB who’s over there yelling out “ReAdY SpAgGhEtTi” or some shit with all his friends laughing and I’m over here like... “if only I could say that without internally dying of embarrassment and thinking everyone hated me right after”
Then after saying present I will overthink if they were thinking I have a funny or weird voice or something
I searched 'How to say present confidently'
I decide in my head if to say "present " or "here" and get ready for my name to be called
Deadass
Group of friends: **laughing**
Me: *they’re definitely laughing at me*
I feel you
I can relate
I feel you x2
yes.
haha lol
Me: wants love and affection
Also me: the fear of being known
Mood xd
Moooood
Relatable
Your profile says it all
Mood
“Introversion or Social Anxiety?”
Me: *yes*
Me:yes but actually no
Me: yes but actully maybe no don't judge me sorry I'm sorry don't judge me
I personally think that social anxiety is your brain forcing you to be an introvert when you don’t want to be one. Idk maybe I’m wrong tho 🤷♀️
Same
I fell y'all I'd prefer to have my own time and spend it home alone without my fam
Anxiety: See these people over there? They actually hate you.
Me: What? No! They probably don't even think about me!
Depression: Ever.
Same
Wow that hit hard but I also laughed in kind of an awkward, nervous laugh way
way too accurate honey
~nervous laugh~
Lmao f
Same :(
😭😔
love how people in this comment section is talking about their own problems and I relate to all of them tbh
Even this comment is relatable...
@@Eda_the_owl_lady haha, you're right!
same
Same bro
Yea
Me: writes a joke in the comments
Also me: what if people don’t like it? I’d better delete it
Don't delete it. Every comment helps ;)
And people are so fucking mean these days..
Mr Fish M E
I do that too,but sometimes I'm really proud of some comments,Some times,I really get a confidence boost when i get a positve response,or likes
lol at first i didn’t dnt get it
“you’re turning down invitations to social events” i dont get any
You are one lucky person.
Psych2Go i mean i wish i got to actually see my 4 friends once in a while and it makes me feel like they just have me around to pity me and that they talk about me behind my back
GaykingSoda same 😂
2:55
Same bro
i get so anxious to the point where when someone approaches me, i end up sounding cold and uninterested, like i’ll just mumble a “hi” and not even make any eye contact. i feel bad afterwards but it just feels like something i can’t control
same. i hate this
I love your dp
This is way too relatable and probably the reason my friends hate me lmao
Same,
I get too nervous to even say hi :((
Does anybody else think of how to say “here” during attendance but then sound like a dying frog 😭😭
Me
Or you don't speak to someone till they speak first even if it's your friend
Luckily, I don't have to say it in my school and just raise my hand. But I don't want to jinx it.
This is way too relatable
I practice in my mind so much and then when it's my turn it say it my voice cracks😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I literally have prepared conversations and things to talk about just in case I’m forced to have a conversation with someone
Woawi
Turbo Vlogs same!
I DO THIS ALL THE TIME
Sometimes I feel like thats why I get so many deja vus
Before I talk to someone I go over the same sentence I’m going to say to them in my head. over and over
Things such as?
(i have none though i need)
Teacher: *introduce yourself*
*Me having panic attack*
Exactly me, i have a problem with introduci ng so much
When I was in 8th grade, The teacher called me out because im in the few people who doesnt attend first day of school so I need to introduce my self, When she called me out and keep insisting what is my name i just stood there and whisper to her my name,age,and school i came from, she laugh and say "tell them not me" I was so embarassed and sat there quitely the whole time
Yes oh my goodness. Its the worst
Lmaooo meee
@@dirkxen9369 oh noo, I literally felt this )):
Why does the TH-cam algorithm know me better than my parents?
Cant blame them, they've never been thru things like we did.
I think it's because we spend more time with TH-cam than our Parents
@@sussy7764 deep.
Cause there are lots of people who know better the world than only two persons
Hahaahahah because of your algorithm and things that you write on the internet + your openness on google or other search engine platforms are being analysed and heard . Our parents barely hear us though
I always thought I was an introvert, but recently I realised I have social anxiety. I would always get super nervous going to my English class because I would have to speak on that class. The whole time my palms would be sweaty, I would get a really dry mouth and I'm sure everyone thought I was weird. Goings to maths class I would be fine. I get scared going to the library at university in case all the seats are taken and I'll walk around looking stupid. In the past I would make plans with my friends and just before I would cancel or want to cancel because I suddenly felt kinda scared and that everyone hated me and didn't want me to come. I take ages to become comfortable with people as well and hate meeting new people, I like them once I'm comfortable with them. Whenever I goto the shop or restaurant I rehearse my order multiple times. I would never go to the gym by myself for fear of looking stupid or being watched. I would thunk about every conversation afterwards and how I should have said this and that. I remember a lot of the times when I made a fool of myself rather than the times I was happy and liked. I was super comfortable with my ex boyfriend but it turned out he was narcissistic and abusive. So now my social anxiety is so bad and my self esteem. I stopped talking to my friends because I felt that everyone hated me while saying they liked me like my ex and that they wanted me to go and stop bothering them with my existence like my ex while telling me they like me and want me around. Woe is me. I feel too messed up to go to a therapist because I have too many problems but I can't really cope with life. So now I'm just writing this in a random TH-cam video and no one will read this comment but hey at least I got my feelings out.
Just like me😔
Sending both of you some hugs 🤗
Same bro i love you♥️🥺
You not alone, bro
Little did you know that there are people who saw this, and don’t worry, no one’s gonna judge. And if they do, then shame on them.
Where's my "I hide in bathrooms during parties" team at?
Captain Ninjoy
Here! But I’m more of a show up and the suddenly vanish until someone finally sees me outside kind of person
Pfff parties. I don't go to party's and when people come over I stay in my room. Life is.... 🙁
@@jasonc5931 We can't always escape lol
@@maureen3122 seriously. My anxiety is so bad I sit there and think if I should leave to go to the bathroom or not. But it's only people I'm not close to
@@jasonc5931 I definitely hope it will get better with time :(
Teachet: Please tell us a bit about yourself.
Me: *I was born at a very young age.*
😂 😂 😂
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my stomach honestly you made my day
Yup, I dont even know how to talk like a normal human 🙂👌🏻
Experienced this before but, the time when you're having a silent anxiety attack and you start to think "Am I only behaving like this for me to say that I have social anxiety and attention?" Makes the situation worse😀
Oh em gee.....yes. I tell myself that I have to just be faking it all the time because I want attention. I'm not sick, I'm just faking it. Like I don't even believe my own stupid self. (I have several mental illness diagnosis).
@@MijaCoyote frr😭
Me, it's worse when others think that to
They're probably not gonna believe it since they're going to say your already lucky and privilege,your just trying to act and fake it, that's why people hide things, people do not believe it unless it's too late,the social anxiety already cause depression and paranoia
@@joliejarina1696 Fact
My anxiety after a good time with my friends:
Anxiety: They definitely _hate you_ and think _you are weird_
Me: But why? Give a more logic explanation
Anxiety: because you talk too much/too little
Me: But... when our best friend does it, it’s normal... she’s really nice actually
Anxiety: YeEEEeeaaAAAh BUT IS WEIRD WHEN _YOU_ DO IT
Had to take a screenshot. Way too accurate to miss it
my anxiety is much more irrational than yours, mine doesn't even try to make up excuses, it just shows up for no reason
LMAO
Omg i had never felt so understood by someone 😂
relatable
when you get scared because the teacher says "say here" in attendence and then gets to your name
SweetTeaX
YES-
I Have to repeat “here” in my head
Ohh I felt that
Another me?!
Omg yes! I’d have to rehearse it and clear my throat a billion times just to quietly say “here” and felt so much relief after I saying it. I always felt like all my classmates would just stare at me and point and laugh¿ even though we all had to say the same thing
I thought I was the only one.
"5 signs it's social anxiety and not introversion"
Me, an introvert with social anxiety: *Confused screaming*
Not everybody who has social anxiety is an introvert (*waves* as living proof).
It doesn't mean you can't still be an introvert and have social anxiety. It just means the two aren't particularly linked, or the same thing.
You can be either an introvert or an extrovert and have social anxiety.
@@debbielough7754
Never said that
@@debbielough7754 You can be an introvert and have social anxiety
@@Random-yd8df All they said was you can be an extrovert and have social anxiety, they never said they can't be introverted and have SAD.
@@euphoricmind7616 I was answering the comment above
I get so scared when someone stares at me when I go out. I feel like they are judging the way I walk or the way I look and every single detail. I know they are probably not but the fear has been there since I was little. I have talked about this with my mom and she says it will stop if stop caring about what they say but it's not that easy. I also get super red whenever I talk to somebody and my hands start sweating a lot. I'm super akward
I am 100% like this too. Looking like a damn sweaty tomato close to tears when the teacher makes me answer questions in front of the class. I’m seriously awkward. I have siblings who could care less about what people think of them and so do my parents so they all just tell me I’m overthinking. NO SHIT SHERLOCK I KNOW IM OVERTHINKING THATS MY ISSUE!!!
If I have to go out like buy food or materials I will have to spend like half an hour with my heart pounding to prepare myself to be seen at broad daylight or peep at the window to see if there's no people nearby before going out. It usually ends up me not going and reschedule it in the night or the day after.
@@saddays8694 SAME, my heart skips a beat, its stressful feeling like this
*Everyone in this comment section is so relatable… like-* _I almost want to become friends with all of you just because I have no one else~_
true. I feel that the people here will get me so well...someone I'll be very comfortable with :)
"Anxiety or introversion?"
How about both
Kashima Kuujuudan why you have both
@@lord_khufu people can have both
They can be socially anxietic and introverted too
Dude, that's not what the title is referring to, the person who made the video has both of these problems as well, but she's trying to help others pinpoint whether or not a CERTAIN situation that happened to you, was because of social anxiety, or whether it was introversion.
Thinking about the amount of opportunities I missed because I have both smh
@@nununana2596 I feel you. A former crush liked me back and I was going to do a promise I kept for him (its too embarrassing to even mention online) but because I was so afraid of the fact that he might be mad at me or too busy to make time for the promise Ive never been able to do it and now we're going to be in different schools now :< ANd now I feel so guilty that I made him wait for so long and so mad that I kept making excuses not to do it when he's done so much for me..
me: i have anxiety
my anxiety: u just want to say u have anxiety to be quirky
me: oh phew i dont have anxiety
my anxiety: well yes but actually no
i know right! people have turned it into a “trend” and i’m afraid to even say i do.
So very accurate
god I hate this quirky word
my god, same. i’ve literally been diagnosed with anxiety and i often wonder, “am i just faking this?”
sooo trueeee
Me: shy + introvert + social anxiety =
Combo set
Myeslf
@@lavender3509 yeh me🥰
Also armyy🥰
@@lavender3509 blackpink is fine but the community is almost shit
@@lavender3509 I think replacing it with BTS Army Community
(the bts community is really shit tho)
Replace introvert with extrovert and it’s worse. You guys still don’t get it.
When you think you might have social anxiety but also don't want to go to therapy because you're afraid of your parents judging you :)))
i’m personally terrified to call and make the appointment (i have to do it myself since i’m 18 now). even then i may not like the therapist !! it’s ironic the reason i need therapy is the reason i’m scared to go LMFAO. hope that made sense
@@lexi_may it makes too much sense to me lol
@@lexi_may same . Am 18 now and I have do all things by my own . Like phone calls . It’s so scary 😮💨😮💨
Not gonna lie but even sending a message to a group chat scares me.
And the fact that they put it on seen
Exactly 😭
I’ll send a message to a group chat and if they leave it on see I delete the message
And the fact that people see it
Me too
Ikr
I just dont talk to people because i physically cant find a topic i think they would find interesting
y e s m e
The volume in this comment
@@ben-jamminyt2683 and what are the other ones?
Thank-you! This is exactly me! I don't know about politics, sports, etc.
Exactly. And even if I know what are their topics of interest , I know that I am not interested in that topic so I would not want to compromise and kill my mind and have that conversation. I hardly find people interested in the topics I like such as contemplating on the behaviour and process of mind , how to grow in life, how we can improve ourself, how to support each other and be kind, humanity or just talk about nature and gratitude or what new intellectual or creative thing one learnt. No one is interested . Everyone wants to talk about what’s happening in the world and give endless opinion!
This hits hard when you're starting to lose touch with your friends that were special to you because you're picky on who to be friends with since you're also an introvert
Why does it feel like it's deeper tho. Like, I'm not afraid of people, I just don't want to hurt them or their feelings. If I'm not worrying abt that, I overthink if I'm being clingy or annoying or dumb or weird. It's like someone's always watching and judging no matter what I do. As long as I'm in a social setting or public in general, it's like the judgement never ends. And don't even get me started on thinking abt how you made someone feel or how you hid your feelings or how you came off in conversations hours and even days ago.
*says something in public chats*
*deletes the messages because you think they will judge you for being yourself*
_someone asks a question in group chat_
*replies in the most neutral way as possible*
I do both the things you two are talking about lol. Either I delete it or try not to offend anyone and go neutral even though I have a different opinion.
I used to do this but my group chat would make fun of it. I still do it to specific people just not them..
I never talk in the group chat, and when I do I worry about whaf if they judge me? What if they think my response was wierd?
Usually when I talk in the chat a silence suddenly appear and no one answered me at all. But that's ok it's not like I wanna interact with them or anything.
i'm so jealous of everybody else, they find making friends so easy. some girls will just walk up to me in school, talk to me, and call me their bff. they have huge friend groups, and are even dating. then there's me, so afraid of being judged, one friend, and kind of "acquainted" with other people. but i honestly am so fucking scared of being with people.
edit: ik this is kind of annoying but- 2.2 k likes? oh my god i've never gotten that much thank you so much!!
Strawberry .. no need to be jealous .. just love yourself for who you are and know that there are many of us, like you, who suffer social anxiety...
@@christinelawrence4315 easy for you to say
While what everyone here said is true, the thing for some people is that they can't do it with just a simple video or pep talk. Plus theres also the image you've made of yourself at school/ work, if you wait to long it becomes nearly immposible to try and 'fix' your anxiety, that was likely built up over time and hard to break down
well then its me (btw im a girl xd) i have a short time in my new school but i remember that when i first enter to be so scared i wanted to cry,then,i became more introverted when we are not doing anything i just feel so sad because i dont have any friends (well i have but i dont really feel ok),for being alone and im very scared of things like answering or even stand up from my chair,when i always feel fear i cry on the bathroom,but i stand up and try to live and to improve
thanks to read (i dont have anyone to tell this)
I just think they're people too with flaws and they poop like I do. And thinking that helps to remember that they're at my level too, and I don't worry about others judging my weirdness.
Having social anxiety is like having multiple choices on how to deliver a sentence and predicting the type of outcome it will get. Theeen you just decide to say nothing.
Have you ever talked excitedly to a friend about a topic you’re interesting and then slowly realize they’re not interested in it nearly as much as you or at all so you gradually stop talking?
always.
Yeah..
Me: "dad, I don’t know how I should introduce myself to others, I'm kinda
nervous"
My dad: "just don’t be shy..."
Me: "mhm... yeah thanks, never heard that before."
When someone says to an introverted person, or someone that has social anxiety, something like: "don’t be shy“, "just talk more" etc.
Then it's like saying: "oh you can’t see ‚cause you are blind? *just see* "
this happens to me too
“why don’t you just talk more?” cause i think you’re judging me CONSTANTLY
ashley ann
I can painfully relate to that 😬😂
That’s also the reason why I hate school. They treat ppl that are introverts or ppl that have anxiety like someone who can’t work right. Like, why do I have to speak to my whole class if I am really scared of it and it makes me feel really uncomfortable? That’s so dumb. Why do i have to pretend like an extrovert just to have better grades. They keep telling me that I have to speak more in class. And I’m really trying but it’s still not enough for them. That stresses me so much. I love learning new things but the social part makes me hate school and I don’t want to go there anymore.
Nea R
I can relate so much and a lot of other people here can also relate. You're not alone :/
Does anyone else over analyze small convos that they just had with people? Like they go over it over and over just to make sure it wasn’t horribly awkward or something??
Every fucking time
Only for about a decade or so... (Not always, sometimes, but yes, I occasionally still replay minor conversations that pop into my head from c 2005).
I'll look at somome because they were looking at me, now I wonder if they think I was staring.
No I have the exact opposite problem: social obliviousness.
Almost any time I speak to someone
I’m an introvert with social anxiety, and its hard because I’m more prone to wanting to stay home, and being ok with it. I feel so much better when I’m completely alone. But I’m afraid this will lead me to becoming a hermit. Sometimes I think I want to be. I want to stay home forever, and I never want to talk to anyone again. But I know deep down that’s not what I truly want. I want to be alone, but not lonely. I care about my friends and family, and I want to do things with them. I want to go out and experience things, but I’m usually too scared to try, and when I actually do its very exhausting.
With that said, I think social anxiety is just as hard for extroverts. They feel the best around people, but they are too scared to interact. They desperately want and need to be around others, but sometimes they are too scared to leave their house, or even talk to people. Anxiety sucks >:(
I remember the phrase that helped me to cope with social anxiety having convos with people - “You are not the clown to entertain them”! 👌
besides think how little or none we actually think of others but ourselves. Switch the focus, care about your well-being (for example say “I’m going to this party for MYSELF” etc)
Me: writes something in a group chat and is about to send it
My brain: what if no one likes it or makes fun of you for it
Me: better not send it
Maddie1296 % Me, but in the end I send it anyway
Yep, thats me every time i ask if we have homework in group chat
But then you worry that someone saw you typing and then you worry if they are judging you for being indecisive. So you feel more pressured to do something...ANYTHING. Ultimately ending in you just sending a complete mess of thoughts or living with the shame of not sending anything at all then you just stop messaging the group entirely.
I remember every time I texted in a class group chat I would close the messenger and turn off the internet on the phone because I was scared to see what would they answer .... :D
yes i don’t talk in group chats lol
where’s the “im the cousin that isnt close to anyone because you’re too scared to converse with relatives at family gatherings and usually hide in your room until someone knocks on your door or yells for you to come out and say hi” team? 😌 very specific, yes i know.
Yep, this sums up me!
Angie MontoyaCuri it’s okay, i 100% feel that & have had similar situations, you’re not alone ❤️
Felt this on a spiritual level
Hereeee
Meeee
"Social anxiety or introversion?"
"Both? Both. Both is good."
I am in this comment and I don't like it
Yup I definitely have social anxiety 😕 I was kinda questioning it but i over think before things happen like for ex: we are walking in the store by myself and I start to break a sweat like “I prolly look like an idiot”, “why do ppl always stare when others walk by jeez?!”, “omg!! did I bring the card oh no oh no wait I got it!” “what are we getting again oh yeah let’s hurry up before the line gets long and ppl stand behind me *sees people in front of me and people trying to get behind me in line* I can wait a bit” “😓 I really don’t want to wait In Line with these ppl but moms gonna get mad I’m taking so long and more people are coming in the store! I wanna leave so bad” and then my heart starts beating hard in my chest to the point I can hear it and feel it and see it and I’m sweating buckets my ears are read and I’m blushing like crazy thing about how dumb I look red sweating and dressed like a bum (bc I have no sense of style) wishing I just stayed home thinking back it seems so scary but when I explain to people it seems to them like I’m lazy and don’t wanna leave my house, my mom laughed at me when I got back in the car and after I went through something like that she asked me to go in and by soda and I cried and begged her not to make me go and she yelled at me for being lazy and dramatic but I was more scared of going inside then hearing her yell at me and call me lazy dumb and dramatic
That is exactly me besides after going through the things that make me feel that way a lot I’m gotten used to the feeling like a idiot and stuff
Me: *starts typing in a group chat*
Anxiety: THIS IS AN AVENGERS LEVEL THREAT
And then u get left on read....
Puppymia Bramblepelt Just type fuck you guys on every group chat as long as it’s on internet then it’ll be ok, I always want to be alone but when i’m on youtube ? LET ROCK BOIII
Yup :(
Angie MontoyaCuri mainly on Snapchat. Where it send a notification to everyone 0-0
@@Florthy yh that's why I plan out what I'm gonna wriye before I type it
Sign 1: You don't socialise in Minecraft multiplayer
vAqeii you kill them
@@soonlytaing1708 i dont like sweaty ppl
UiiMuii hunt or to be hunted mate
I play Minecraft alone lol
Yo crazy thing is, i avoid playing in virtual mulitplayer servers in fear of my poor social skills. I feel this way only sometimes though
I'm crying rn i feel so understood. social anxiety is so uncomfortable for me and it's caused by my own family. i want to improve, enjoy, forget about the trauma my family has caused me. i need help how do i get help I'm from a third world country and I don't know how to ask for professional help, and i also can't afford it! I want to get better
Try not to think too much about it.... you're just as qualified as anyone else to do anything that they want to do, no one is better than you, you're not better than anyone, so dear, just live your life and forget people. I know it's hard, I struggle with it too but you'll be okay, I know you will
You're not alone. I'm also here because I'm going through the same stuff as you, trying to find ways to overcome social anxiety without professional therapy. I found out from this video that I'm not an introvert but I have social anxiety. I've been trying to improve myself by going out for a run to practice saying "hello" or smiling at someone random with eye contact. It was very hard to do but when I managed to do it, it gave me more confidence to do it again. I also try to keep in mind that I never know when I'm going to die, I could die tomorrow so why would I spend the last time of my life negatively? Say hello or meet as many people as I can because I might not see them ever again, and they are more likely to treat you nice than you've imagined
*you're not alone*
i used to be a socially anxious extrovert but have been healing myself for a while. i can proudly say that i'm a normal extrovert again, but it wasn't easy! don't be hard on yourself for being human, and if you want to heal, don't force yourself to take big steps ❤️❤️
When I get anxiety attacks, one of the things that crosses my mind is “Are you making yourself feel this way so that you can say you have anxiety?” It’s such a horrible feeling. It makes me feel empty and fake.
Edit: Your feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t been diagnosed by a professional, you have the right to feel what you’re feeling.
ouh damn - same. I keep thinking I'm making myself feel this way and I feel really guilty about it.
I do this all the time! I didn’t ask for help for years because I thought that I was being overly dramatic.
same omg
Ben-jamminYT yesterday i had another one! don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Chef Obi-Wan Kenobi i hope you are better now🤍
You know It's gotten bad when severe social anxiety hunts you even while sitting with your own family...
That was me in like 1st-5th grade is was so bad
Aden Carlton I'm glad you got rid of your social anxiety by 5th grade, how was the therapy ?
I didn't really get rid of it, it just got a little better and I never got therapy I was just really hoping to please my mom is all. Still got anxiety and it is still generally bad but it had been slowly getting a little better over time, it may take years for it to be comepleatly gone I think that I've done pretty well just by myself
Aden Carlton That's pretty impressive man I'm really happy for you, the symptom I mentioned above is generally the last phase of SAD and stuff can't really get worse beyond that. In fact recovering from a severe SAD by yourself is very unusual yet so hard to impossible.
I actually have social anxiety becouse of my mom so im always the most scared to sit with my family
I used to have panic attacks on the way to school, ending in me ditching and lying to my family about going and wandering in town doing nothing all day for no particular reason. I had a good group of friends, not getting bullied or anything. I didn't have problems with my grades either. But I had that terrible uneasiness creeping up to the point I was crying and couldn't move anymore...
Sometimes i'm like: yeah I have social anxiety
And sometimes i'm like: nono i'm just an introvert
But sometimes is: nah I just dont like to talk that much
Then I remember I talk to myself 24/7 and repeat it OVER and OVER again
Me when Im alone: I wish people would pay attention to me :(.
Me in a social situation: AAAAAAAHHH oh no ohno oh no what do I do ohno dont look at meplease look at someone else
THATS EXACTLY ME😭
U PUT IT INTO WORDS THANK YOU
@@crazywhale6737 no problem :3
Me when I’m alone: I wish someone would talk to me
Me when I’m in my group of friends: They’re making fun of me and shipping me with my crush, but still put me down in her presence
Me when I’m on my way home with classmates (which I don’t do often because of this reason): No one talks to me everyone chooses their phone and social media over talking to me (There’s only one person who doesn’t... my crush)
Feel the same dude
And then there’s the people who have a mix of both like me 😂
Which points did you relate to most?
And me :)
@@Psych2go I feel productive when I am alone but also have useless questions in social situations
I frequently need to spend time by myself and feel tired after being around others. but when I am out especially alone I’m always worrying about people judging me or thinking I’m crazy or annoying.
Same here I have both lol
A+ on the format choice of multiple scenarios from different perspectives. This is a great format for displaying contrast effectively. Thank you.
I’m always thinking of different possibilities to EVERYTHING.
“And you leave new messages unread”
Bold of you to assume people message me
let’s be friends
Felt that, the only time people talk to me is when I text them first and they only respond with a small text that can’t keep the conversation going
Indeed.
@@Mal0406 god, do I relate!! It frustrates me so much! It's like they don't even want to talk to me!! So, I've stopped texting people, and guess what? They've stopped too..
niharika jagdish same here :(
I avoid texting people back because I’m also awkward in text messages too :/
same... sometimes i feel bad cause it takes me like 10 minutes just to type and send a 1 word text because of how much i overthink it
Same I always feel bad when my friend texts me like three 10 word messages and then I reply with an "Ok" because I dont know what to say
@@ketchuppp2499 exactly same
@@alliemonroe2476 Omg same
I dont really have friends so I dont really text anyone sadly.
When I meet new people they literally have to wait for more than 5 years till I get really comfortable around them
With every point it exposes me more and more. It's just literally an explanation of me.
i literally talk to myself 24/7 and i would think of scenarios on what would happen if i do go outside and i practice it
That’s fine. I do it too. If you stay silent for too long you almost lose your ability to speak properly. Speaking is a skill too you know. If you go on a hiatus don’t be surprised if you have a hard time reading your voice or pronouncing words properly when you do decide to open you mouth again. I encourage talking to yourself if you don’t have anyone else to talk to.
Oh my god that's so meeee
yep. I do that alll the time.I run through convos in my head
sameeeeeeeeeeeee
Maybe ur an INFP. Take an mbti test and understand yourself ❤️
I'm an extrovert with social anxiety, a LOT of people don't realise that they can go together.
Keren Ray and I'm one of those people. I did not realise that! Forgive me for being rude, but how exactly does that work? Sorry, just dumb and curious 😂
@@dragonfire8873 when I'm in control of a social situation, I'll talk to anyone, and I prefer to be with other people then by myself, but I'm always over thinking everything, and when certain things happen I can get really anxious real fast. I hoped this helped!
It did, thanks!
Hey me too!
That must suck, hope you get better...
"You don't like being out in social situations anymore because you're constantly worrying about how others are perceiving you, and how you might come across to new people who don't know you and might think you're weird and they don't get you. And because you won't stop talking about Naruto."
" You don't enjoy the social activities that you used to."
"You don't maintain relationships as well as you used to."
I'm pretty sure Hinata Hyuga from Naruto has anxiety.
But she was strong and confident and also became a powerful ninja
I was just like this. But recently I started slowly improving by implimenting this into my life. "Don't think too much. Just feel and experience". I know this is hard but you gotta keep trying if you want to break out of your bubble instead staying inside it like a prisoner. Trust me, they won't think of you everytime like how you think they would be. Everyone is minding their own businesses. I know you'll get there so start with baby steps!
I literally plan conversations in my head, but as soon as those become a reality I freeze
This happened to me!! I was practicing what I would do if someone said something to me and someone approached me and asked a simple question. Me: *ignores* them: “hello?” Me: “huh?😳” them: *ask question again* me: stutters a lot for no reason* “I- u-uhhhhh t-the um” my cousin with a actually stuttering problem: I-it’s right there 😐👉 *points* them: “thanks” me: *zones out* my mind: *OH MY GOD YOUR SO EMBARRASSING YOU PRACTICED THIS!! 😭😭😭*
Same I always practice but then as soon as it doesn’t go as planed or they something i didn’t plan I freak out
Me too
recently happened to me. there was something so simple that i wanted to ask to someone close to me and i just completely froze up about it, even though i got a little confident over being able to ask if they could help out with something that wouldn’t take that long and is something a little obvious. man social anxiety is truly the worse sometimes, especially because i know that it’s bad and not normal to think like this 🤡
yup-
Ok I'm probably just weird but hear me out. I am an introvert, and sometimes I can talk to people and start conversations in a heartbeat...but sometimes I feel nervous and scared how people think of me. It also happens when I'm around judgemental people. The weird thing is this happens RANDOMLY. I could be loud and obnoxious and then chill and very quiet.
Holy shit... MEEEEEE!!!!!
Omg that’s meeeee!!
Yeah I can understand that.
Me. Too.
I'm an introvert with social anxiety and I have the same thing. Asked my therapist about it, but it's nothing weird. We all have different sides of ourselves and we never wake up feeling like we felt yesterday. I can be loud and obnoxious on good days or around people I feel comfortable at. I might be anxious the next time I see them, depending on my mental health that day. Anyway, it's not weird at all so don't worry (:
2:54 “cant stop taliking about naruto” YALL CALLED ME OUT SOOO BAD I LITERALLY SKIPPED A HEARTBEAT---
Definitely dealing with social anxiety. I’ve been avoiding for years. I’m tired of trying to cope with it alone.
"won't stop talking about Naruto"
Anyone else feel like they've just been called out
Y e p
Lol! Maybe cause the founder himself is a fanatic of Naruto too ;)
Yep
Aaron Nehman y e s
Aaron Nehman YUP
so i told my mom i have social anxiety like a month ago and she just laughed at me. and now she comes up to me like, "oh why dont you talk to me about your problems." "i can tell you are stressed about something." "why are you sad?" i mean... maybe because you kinda make fun of me?? like, tf.
My parents make fun of me all the time, that's why I never talk to them about my problems and that's why I can't go to a psychologist (because they wouldn't take it seriously and tell me that I'm dumb and I don't have anything).
I kinda feel the same I stopped telling my problems to my mom cuz she always makes fun of me and starts comparing her genaration to mine and it feels weird cuz shes supposed help its not a competition...I can be stressed too.. so now I don't tell anyone what I'm going through or how I feel
I have friends its just that I can't tell them anything like I'm scared would if they take it as a joke or make them in a weird situation cuz they don't know what to do
Or why would they care anyway my family doesn't
@@fahima1024 Ya it's littlerally me. My parents think that I'm just exaggerating things and that my just confidence level is low and it happens with many people. When I'm around people they always say oh she's just shy and tell me that I should increase my confidence level by interacting with people more. Like many people are shy but not this extreme why can't u see or why are u ignoring
Wow, I'm sorry. I think parents should take their children's mental health seriously instead of making fun of them/laughing at them.
it be like that
Thanks for making videos on different disorders. I feel like this every minute
It feels good to know that I'm not alone.. I used to think that I'm weird and now all these comments makes me feel better .. I was always the silent one in my class..I hated convo with anyone other than my besties.. even with my best friends, I always preferred texting more than talking... I felt awkward and found hard to talk about anything but I can text for hours.. whenever I talk in front of people ( I was always forced) my hear beat so hard that I can't breathe straight, my hands start sweating, I can't even talk without messing up words, shaking, shivering...etc ..first I thought it was just stage fright but as time went on.. I realized I have social anxiety... Thank you psych2go for making this video and helping many around the globe who is facing these problems..
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your profile pic is cute
Me too-
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Same. I feel ignored and unwanted.
@@l0remipsum991 lmao I thought I was the one and only that does this
I literally can’t go to the store without someone cuz I’m to scared to buy things infront of a cashier
Yes! Or I buy other things that I completely don't need just so that the cashier doesn't judge me for what I'm buying. And I have to beg someone to go to the store with me, bc standing face to face with a cashier makes me feel anxious. And many more.
The cashier asked me my name once but I was so scared I froze and forgot my name. Never again.
@@lordgrimixb I feel you
@@agnieszkaa2779 At least there's self checkouts at some stores.
self service is my lifeline at this point
it’s even worse when you’re extroverted because you really need social situations to function but you just can’t do jt
I always loved this content and this channel.
Am i the only one that starts walking weird when someone is watching me like my leg just stops working and i cant control it.
omg that’s literally me lol
Me too
Me too lmao
i feel i’m walking in zig zag😆
That’s so me LOL
I love how people express themselves in the comments section
Amrani taha haha yeah
I like Oreos
@@treett4268 probably lol
It might be someone with the same pfp though
@@omlette question, why do so many people have that pfp?
Talking on the internet is the best form of communication. Discussions often only go as far as your willing to go and you can usually take your time thinking through what you want to say. Plus you can't feel the other persons eyes staring into your soul while they await your response to a typically simple question that should not feel like your answer will make or break your entire relationship.
Thanks for this video. And not only for this. I learn about my self more than i expect.
Thanks.
Amazing video !!
I found my people 😂
Reading all these comments make me feel less lonely and better about myself ♥️
Me too 😁
same, i can relate to everything xD
same we should found our own little city with only introverted residents that would be fun
same, I rlly feel happier now that I know it’s not just me ☺️
yes :) I wish we had like a group chat or something that we can rant in haha.
"You don't maintain relationships as well as you used to"
*jokes on you, I've always been this bad at maintaining then*
Big mood
You guys are getting relationships
@@XpdX-mp5sd lmao missed opportunity
ᴜsʜᴜ 。 LOL SAME
Can't be worse at maintaining relationships if you don't have friends to begin with. Big brain
Excellent video; 100 percent honest! I admire this.
Im impressed that you accurately said all of my problems.
Being extroverted but also having social anxiety is almost a literal curse.
Same it’s painful 😣 and this quarantine shit made it worse
@@vissuuu69 Omg Omg Same
Ikr so I socialize online..
@@vissuuu69 rightt
Ikr
I remember when I was 6 years old and one girl who was older ask me: "Why don´t you talk?" I remember clearly how my heart rate went up, I felt so scared at the moment. Finally, I gathered all the courage I had just to say "It scares me..."
I get asked that too, I normally just shrug or say "Just because" I have never ONCE given a straight answer to that.
Natalia Zúñiga Wait a girl talk to you, oh wait i think I already talk to one, maybe leave school make my memories about it less clearly
when people ask me that it makes me not want to talk more xD because usually i'll be about to say something then someone says that
That happens to me all the time
And thats when the awlward part comes, I just keep thinking about what I should say in my brain without fucking uo but I end up sounding weird
thanks so much for your work!!!! it was so actual for me and you answered my questions that really blew my mind
I am studying health and social care in college I have seen a few of your videos and I find them very useful I love to listen to them and I am learning more about mental health by watching them :)
Sometimes even when I’m alone, I feel like someone’s watching me and there are cameras everywhere
Omg same
Or that they can read your mind
bro I sang a song 2 days ago and YT recommended it the next day
SAME
yeah like theres ghosts following me around judging my every move
My anxiety: **exists**
My dog: I’m about to end this man’s whole career
- goldenJay - that’s so cute omg
That's frickin cute
Wholesome 🥺
Aww atleast we have dogs in our lives 😔💜
Aww
Wow, this is super helpful and informative! I’m actually an extrovert but just have a lot of anxiety. Didn’t know that till today
fr dude being alone and being able to control everything around you is amazing
The worst thing about social anxiety is that it will likely lead to depression aswell
Exactly
Yep
Exactly
happened to me bruh .
I was at a Sunday school meeting, and the teacher told us to introduce ourselves. She pointed at the person infront of me (but I didn’t see because my vision isn’t the best) and everyone looked at me so I stood up and walked to the front. The teacher was still talking to the person infront of me and i was stand at the front confused. The class then laughed and said that I wasn’t suppose to go but let me anyways.
Lemme tell you I had the worst panic attack and couldn’t breath, I couldn’t even talk properly when introducing myself. I felt like crying and you could hear it in my voice. When I was done I sat down put my hood on and didn’t talk the whole class like I usually do. I never went back again.
Yeah, it's embarrassing and makes you not want to speak and when you're trying to wipe away tears because you feel so embarrassed and then your just left feeling terrible and longing to go home.
Don’t be too hard on yourself man. Similar thing happened to me.
Be strong. Even presidents have embarrassing moments but don’t let it get to you and carry on 💪
Same thing happened to me, I was super embarrassed, my class didn't laugh at me, but I still wanted to cry.
That’s why I always say “me?” And wait for them to either say another persons name or “yes you"
I wouldn’t put my hood on because I would think that I’m trying to be a
Talking to people is just such a pain and exhausting I feel like my energy and time is being wasted by talking to them
2:03 Yes. I want to go, but I'm scared.
3:18 No, i really like reading, and generally staying at home and doing my thing
4:10 Unfortunately, yes. I go to the supermarket only if it is extremely necessary.
5:00 yeah...
6:03 I never had friends anyway