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INTROVERT vs. SOCIAL ANXIETY // What's the difference?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 มี.ค. 2019
- Are you an Introvert? Or do you have Social Anxiety? … What’s the difference?
If you’ve ever felt shy, socially awkward, or nervous before meeting new people or hanging out in large crowds, you may be an introvert or hav social anxiety. But how to introversion and social anxiety compare? And how do you know whether you’re introverted or socially anxious?
You’ve probably heard of introversion vs extroversion from personality tests like the Myers Briggs Personality Type Indicator test (MBTI) and other personality trait assessments, but social anxiety is not something that is mentioned as much. Yet it’s incredible how common social anxiety is.
For example, some studies say that 40% of us have glossophobia (the fear of public speaking). That’s a lot!
I did some digging into this a while back to better understand myself. Knowing yourself is crucial to improving your self confidence and overcoming social awkwardness or shyness.
Hope you find this video helpful to better understand yourself.
Much love, my friends. :)
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You hit it right on the head! Introversion is a preference while social anxiety is a fear. People confuse it because they both result in the same thing: social withdrawal.
I think i have social anxiety because I want to go out and interact with people but have an intense fear that they will judge me or not like me for who I am. The weird thing is it’s really hard for me to go and get exposure so now I am used to being alone and enjoy it the same as I enjoy being around people
I'm an introvert for sure that also fights social anxiety.
However, somewhere in the last two years, I've learned to be more social.
I embrace my awkwardness in social situations but still need to recharge in isolation.
My friends now call me an introverted extrovert.
Really good video!
Hey thanks friend! "introverted extrovert" That sounds like a good place to be :)
Anywhere outside of my room is a dining hall for me 😂
Haha, I feel you on this! 😄
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as an ambivert who struggles a lot with social anxiety, i've been frequently mistaken as an introvert. i love social outings, but they can take a toll on my social battery. tho with social anxiety, i'm too scared to ask my peers to do stuffs like hanging out and spend most time alone, which causes me to get sad. i'm too scared of being rejected. the feeling of being rejected feels like a breakup lol
Well said - possible rejection can feel really scary! Sending you hugs my friend :)
Kevin Shen Thank you so much 😊
This is so relatable, like exactly on point! I get totally lost in "Thought Space" too. The feeling of not belonging is exactly what I feel most of the time. Big group events are one of my biggest fears 😂
Haha yes!! Right there with you dude
definitely feel you on this one! your ketchup story was so good! for me it was dreading the "form groups of 3 or 4 to work on this problem" during middle school
LOL!! 😄 oh man, don't get me started on middle school 😂
I’ve described myself as an introvert, but I now believe it’s more SA. I definitely practice avoidance, and I’m ready to do something about it.
I’m 99% sure I struggle with social anxiety because I dont prefer being at home just because I like it more, but rather because I’m terrified of the social situation that could occur anywhere even somewhere like a supermarket. I have many other things throughout my life (I’m 15) that have lead to social anxiety and I’ve always thought I was just shy until a couple years ago. I have finally asked to see if I could get evaluated/tested because this has to do with my mental health. My brother and dad keep saying that humans are engineered to be social, and while I agree that most are, I feel anxious and scared of situations if they have anything to do with being social or just being judged for being a person. I always think people hate me and have a very small amount of courage to go out and talk to people even if I know them. Over the years I have learned ways to get out of social situations and sometimes force myself to do stuff so people don’t think I’m weird. In my mind I know I have social anxiety but don’t say I do because it isn’t diagnosed. I really want to be diagnosed so that I can at least know that my fears, although irrational, are valid and I dont have to feel so bad about every situation where I don’t want to go out. I dont know if I have generalized anxiety disorder because I do overthink pretty much everything, it doesn’t have to just be social situations, but I genuinely dont know about that one. It’s also possible that I have some of the other mental health conditions such as OCD because there are things that just make me very uncomfortable if I dont do them or something and usually can’t fall asleep until I do, but Im not saying I have OCD, just that its possible. I feel like my feelings about these things were disregarded my entire life because my older siblings have ADHD. I spent my entire life trying to find out what was wrong with me because nobody else could tell. I really cant wait to get evaluated and to finally know what’s wrong with me.
I feel the same way as you..lol I have this social anxiety too so even if I wanted to hang out with people it's hard cause i get extremely uncomfortable and anxious especially when talking, calling or even hanging out with other people. I feel worthless sometimes cause i feel like why can't i just be normal like everybody else and just be socially out there. Its very hard for me to make friends and I only have a couple people i talk to but not even reguarlly. You are not alone and maybe try going to therapy about your anxiety. That's what I did. If you want to talk more we can.
@@blondinalucas971 I’ve been trying to go to therapy since July but I keep getting rejected cause either 1- I’m under 16, 2- the pandemic, or 3- they don’t take my insurance. I’m apparently on 2 waiting lists right now and I just started medication 2 weeks ago cause it was getting bad (my anxiety in general, not social) so I’ve started that recently
I’m physically drained by being around people, even family, when we go to my parents house or church me and my wife drive separate so I can leave whenever I want.....I like my solitude... I can hold a conversation with people so they don’t think I’m an introvert they just think I’m an Ahole. I have stopped fighting it and am embracing it....
Awesome one Kevin. I like how you touched briefly on the science part of this and this is also something most people don’t distinguish between!
Hey thanks Eric! :D
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Like always, Fantastic content Kevin. This one really resonated with me. I am slightly introverted( mostly by choice) but I also get exhausted by being in groups. I am working on getting over that by teaching cooking classes here at some of the local restaurants and neighborhood clubhouses. So far I have one under my belt and it went great!
Hope you are doing well 👍
Woot!! Yes!! Man, I wish I could be there to take a cooking class with you :) That would be awesome. Gotta add some healthy food to my diet besides ketchup packets 😂
I love the way you presented the information, the authenticity and your effort on aesthetic man!
Awesome job 😎
Thank you!! :)
Thank you for making this video. It helps me to understand myself and why it happens to me. I would say that I'm both introvert and social anxiety. I will try my best to become my best self as you did. Thank you so much
Amazing video bro it really helped me 💪🏻
Great breakdown of this topic. I didn’t know there was a middle zone between introvert and extrovert. That’s probably right where I’m at leaning towards introvert.
I definitely have to recharge after being around lots of people.
Hahaha how did you know that the cartoon ambivert was a drawing of you???? LOL Kidding. 😂
The BTS feel of the setup matches the mood of telling us what is happening in the background of your life. Also, love the ketchup story. Cheers, buddy!
Oooooh hadn't thought of it like that LOL that's good :)
It's been a while since I don't listen to something like this. It is always good to remember this kind of stuff, especially to be more conscious about who we are
Yes! Thanks man :)
I think I developed Social Anxiety vs. being an introvert
thanks for this video
how can u only have 3490 subscribers...ur videos are amazing!!!
Hey Matteo!! Wow thank you so much for the encouraging comment - that seriously means a lot. :)
Oh god, I remember that last year on Christmas I was being really happy, but then I was scared people would start to judging me so I wouldn’t talk or smile on Christmas. My mum just thinks I’m shy because I don’t talk to people. Once, I was shopping with my sister and I just started crying of fear because I didn’t want to buy anything. I also can’t speak up or express myself because I’m too scared of what people would think of me.
I have just found out that i have both.it is so strange and confusing when you do not know what determines your behaviours and toughts.your video helped me so much.thank you ❤😊
Subscribed 🙋🏻♂️. I love hearing your thoughts about social anxiety. I totally relate and I need a little help about it.
As a shy introvert fighting social anxiety, this might help, i would say that people wouldnt like me in school or even online, or whatever items i have. I am not materialistic, so i think people will judge ne just because i have a 2 dollar wallet or something. I feel like im being judges silently whenever i see someone looking at me so i tend to run and get more attention. I also hate people who try to ask my name and i have to mumble it 50 times before they get it. I get anxiety when people ask me to show my face when doing a meeting, and also my voice. I know ny voice is terrible and i dont think anyone would like to live in my body and mind. I am also aware that not all people are judgemental, but i believe everyone atleast judged me once. I have an uninteresting personality and quirky attitude, where i become compulsive. Thats why i hide it and turn my attitude to another person hopefully they like.
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Hi i just wanna say I kinda relate to your situation but was curious to know are you good in academics or avg like 60%to 65% just wanna know I hope u would reply
A big thing that holds me back from wanting to talk to people is those people who never shut up and you can’t escape them hahaha
I’m an INFJ-T this is so true.
Excellent content Kevin. One more sub for you.
Thanks :)) i am 12 and i was real worried about social anxiety but watching this video makes me realize it very normal thx again:))))
Just learned I have social anxiety
Thank you so much Kevin
I dont know which memory to choose ...but I also used to hate the dining hall 😂
Haha right?!? The struggle was REAL!! 😅
did you ever sit at an events and wait for hours or the whole event for people talk to you or whole damn thing to go by, instead of just engaging with others? @@TheKevinShen
Haha I used to!! I've gotten a lot better now at engaging with new folks so I have a switch I flip in my head that helps me transform into a temporary extrovert
What's an awkward memory from your past that you can now laugh at? 😅😁
Being one sided with people and have limiting beliefs that it is late to change ! What I would tell my old self is do things that are uncomfortable and read self help books. Just do it ! Get those ketchup packets !
@@darkdeath3104 "Just do it ! Get those ketchup packets !" HAHAHA! 😄😆😂
@@darkdeath3104 "do things that are uncomfortable and read self help books" YES!!! Can you please go back in time and tell my younger self that too? 😄
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Acknowedging one's problem is the first step towards solution and today i acknwledge not only am i an introvert but also socially anxious...
I have this one friend that always says “oh stop being an introvert” when I tell her I don’t wanna go hang out in a group of people I don’t know. I have severe social anxiety and I FUCKING HATE IT when she says that like I just wanna throw her in a lion pit. I am an introvert but that isn’t the reason that I don’t want to go near that group of people like come the fuck on if you are really my friend you should try to understand what I’m going through instead of writing my mental illness off as me being stupid. I’ve tried explaining it to her in many different ways and one of them was i have a fear of people just like you have a fear of heights. I’m not going to tell you that we are going skydiving and if you say no then you should stop introvert. If you don’t wanna go it’s because you have an intense fear not because you’re being an introvert so stop telling me we are going to talk to a group of strangers and saying that I’m an introvert if I don’t want to. It’s because I have a mental illness not because im an introvert. Even after that explanation she kept calling me an introvert and that’s why I had to cut her off.
I have a lot of anxiety, that I'm not enough, because I'm an introvert. Meeting in large groups of people make doesn't scare me because of any particular fears or shyness, but because it's just so exhausting. The thing is, that for being social, I need to be rested, I just need to rest a lot. I really like to meet people, but I need to do it on my own conditions, it will not work the other way.
What up Kevin! Awesome to hear your insights and obviously your video skills are inspiring. I too am introverted, and just can’t seem to convince people around me that I’m not extroverted. My job is extremely social in nature which I can pull off / have to do to be successful, but yeah.... super draining and need that recharge!
You know what your MBTI type is?
Sean
Haha I feel you dude!!! I'm an INFP too 😄🙌 It's SO important to learn when you need that recharge time and take care of yourself so you can keep taking care of others. Your channel looks interesting - subbed and curious to see more! :D Cheers!
Lol KNEW IT! Yeah the more I kept watching your videos I was seeing all this relatable stuff from you! I’m totally driving towards that TH-cam (well just online) business lifestyle as a “possibility”. Seeing you quit your job and went hard at something was what my mind state has been swirling around with. My video skills are only a year in the making so I’m a self taught student still stumbling upon content like yours to improve. Most psychology channels are more content based and lacking the videography passion so that just where my passions are is this craft and also just putting my perspective out there to potentially help others. So yeah thanks for your vids as they have helped me. Subbed to you FIRST 🤣
Take care man!
Sean
INFP HD Hahaha YES! 😂
I'm a very introverted person and happen to have intense anxiety and trauma, so for me being around loud environments with lots of people scares the hell out of me. Top that off with being an introvert if I can't find a safe space to recharge and unwind, my frequency of panic attacks and ptsd episodes sky rockets. 😵
Its strange how varied human beings can be when it comes to this. Some of my friends who are extroverted cannot understand why I get worn out and overwhelmed so quickly when I’m in certain situations. They seem to be able to suck the energy in the room up and use it to boost themselves, whereas sometimes I just need to not be around people.
YES!!! I totally feel you on that one - I've had to learn how to ask for time to recharge and realize that that's okay :)
16 year old ISFP or maybe ENFP/ESFP with major self esteem issues. Because i love spotlight and performing and don’t mind being the life of the party(i am a singer). But when it comes to talking in big groups i do get nervous and i feel like it drains my energy yet in small groups with my friends or even new people(like a group of maximum 5) i am very social(even though i am often the quietest in the group simply because my friends hang out more than i do:-with other people and i don’t know those people they talk about so...). I do crave solitude. Like i got accused of not caring about friends because i often don’t hang out or call them for days/weeks. I do need alone time. I hang out as much as i need like when i hear a very good friend that she hangs out every weekend or my sister that goes out every day i am always like “i want that too”. After hanging out too much(my idea of too much) i’m
Like damn home binging on Netflix. I’ve always Felt the pressure of being more open/social but even though i can be pretty loud sometimes i do crave personal space and alone time
I think i am an introvert at core with a little bit of social anxiety. I mean i am often afraid of rejection and of not being good enough...For me it’s easier to sing in front of 100 people but put me there in the middle of that group having to chat with all those people.My sister and friends always making new friends whenever they go while i’m happy with the old ones and don’t think i need new friends until i hear my friends making new friends
I’ve always been told by my grandma and father that i’m not good enough and i was bullied in elementary school and maybe that adds. The thing is i go wherever i am in the mood for and i can be anxious and fearful about interracting but i certainly prefer more being in the corner with some friends(at parties) Even though i love “slaying” the dance floor. Many times i force myself to be very loud and very in the middle in big groups just to not be seen as weird or loner or something like that
Good one
Thanks bro!! :)
When all my friends started to eat outside of the school I preferred the cafeteria of our school but I felt kind of anxious sitting there alone. But I would never avoid foooooood.
Yep ! We have to struggle to grow!
Well said, my friend :) It's hard, but it's so worth it 👊👍
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Thanks friend! :)
I am always so shy one time my teacher told me to tell the whole class about my favourite colour etc. but not even a single word was coming out of my mouth it was so embarrassing it always happens to me
The thing is I actually like talking to people and have this need to make friends I’m just too petrified to do anything about it
Thank you
Yes
I am both
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I think I'm both! I have a fear of social situations so I choose not to engage!
I think im both🙃
What about I can be around people as long as I don't need to interact with any of them? It sucks that I want to start working, but social anxiety makes me wanting to avoid new connections. The fear eventually turns into sadness. I don't think I'm enjoying life right now :")
sir.. i would be glad if you drop a video of how you overcome your introvertisim. 😕😕😕😞😞
social anxiety is normal feeling of introvert life... being an introvert i make socialize but few time.... because we are recharge by being alone... on other hand extrovert are drain when they are alone...because they are recharge by being people or socializing
I'm not a socially anxious introvert, I'm just socially awkward. I'm not anxious because I just don't care, which I guess is why I'm socially awkward.
Being an introvert I can identity from your face that you are an introvert
is it that obvious? 😂
I believe social anxiety is also to do with genetics.
I don't think that SAD itself genetic but I do think the contributing of Anxiety and depression factors can be.
It doesn't. You are not actually born with it
Good
Honestly, I've had the same story as you .
Hahaha! 😅🙌 the struggle is real
Wait wait so u are saying me social anxiet also
Like today was my presentation I was shaking from my foot to head it was so humiliating, embarrassing
I stay away from
Nonsense
Guess I am both then...
lol high five 😄
You're so cute!
Haha!! 😁
why introvert are silent in any situation because they feel relax ,have peace of mind..they socialize with 1234 people that the nature of introvert