Change Your Life by Changing Your Thought Process | Brendon Burchard
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Life coach to billionaires and one of the greatest influencers of all time, Brendon Burchard knows exactly how to make an impact. So, on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Brendon details precisely how to achieve impossibly high performance, evaluate yourself and your goals, and deal with failure and stress. And he does it all while still bringing his trademark joy and revealing the qualities that have allowed him to build and maintain exceptional relationships and a vibrant community. Oh, and he still repels all the jerks!
SHOW NOTES:
Brendon shares the story of being suicidal, then being in a nearly fatal accident [3:03]
Brendon describes becoming obsessive about learning leadership and psychology [4:53]
Your life is determined by each decision you make, every day [7:20]
Brendon describes his self-evaluation and visualization process [10:33]
How to observe your life dispassionately [17:55]
Brendon explains how to deal with failures and feeling bad [21:04]
Going through the motions is the death of high performance [24:29]
Tom and Brendon discuss leveraging guilt and pain, courage and contemplation [25:56]
Brendon strongly advocates the need for community [29:48]
Tom advocates learning to endure hardship, failure and stress [31:50]
Brendon advocates allowing joy and deep pleasure [34:45]
Brendon explains how he came to value relationships so deeply [39:05]
What one change could people make to have more of an impact [43:27]
QUOTES:
“Your life doesn’t end up an accident. Your life is a series of actions that you initiate or don’t initiate.” [7:58]
“I’m totally cool with guilt. It’s good that we feel bad when we do something that is below our standards or that’s not right.” [22:29]
“The world completely underestimates the power of visualization, completely misutilizes the human power of contemplation. The number one thing I say to my clients: Going through the motions is the death of high performance.” [25:15]
“Emotion is not something you have. Emotion is something you generate.” [31:00]
“I don’t attract assholes. I’m too annoying. I’m too happy for them. There’s too much positive psychology happening so all the assholes say, ‘I don’t like that guy.’ They don’t come to my seminars. They don’t buy my stuff. I repel all the jerks.” [41:05]
FOLLOW:
WEBSITE: brendon.com
INSTAGRAM: bit.ly/36lTIBy
FACEBOOK: bit.ly/2E3vVdy
TWITTER: bit.ly/2RIHy1c
BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
High Performance Habits www.hpxlife.com [2:40]
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THANKS TOM for a phenomenal interview. And thanks ALL for the kind comments here!
Brendon, you are amazing!
Your book Motivation Manifesto COMPLETELY changed how I show up every day and live life based on intention! I’ve bought over 20 copies of the book that I share with anyone willing to read it. That you for YOUR words! 🤗
Great interview Brendon.
You are AMAZING
Love you, Brendon. Been a fan since your ancient course with Frank Kern. :)
My life changed the moment I got this... So many people underestimate the power of setting positive intentions, visualizing and planning out your day.
Life doesn't happen to you, you create it!
I love Brendon and Tom SO much.
Always keep me inspired to show up and keep making my own videos.
Jonathan Gubisch I like this
Add me on ig greatmindsetofgod
Exactly, Jonathan!
Awesome!!!
@@gaberoyalll Thanks Gabriel :)
Aggressively interrupt negative thoughts. I love that insight.
Changing my thoughts changed my entire life... I was unfulfilled working a job i hated, not making much money, and felt very stuck in life. Fortunately, I was able to reprogram my mind because of content like this. As well as hiring coaches and mentors, and feeding my mind the best stuff out there. Now I live abroad, have my own business, have more than tripled my income, live with freedom, but more importantly, I'm happy and healthy. There is nothing more rewarding than helping others on their journey
I really love your story ! I am also stuck in a job that i really hate & just wants to achieve my dreams
@@abhimanuepanjwani2578 You'll get there. Keep on the self-development path and never give up. You got this!
@@iampaulwadsworth god bless you ! Brother
@intra love this...how long did it take you to go from stuck to free? Did you change your perspective on the job you hated so you can still earn a living whilst changing your mindset to then eventually quit and move on? This is so interesting to me. Im exactly like this and know i will get out of this job i hate but ive hd to change how i feel about it first in order to change my outlook and move forward. I also have to be a responsible single parent with an income to survive so it seems like it taking me longer to get there. I have a 5 year goal I just finished my 2nd year towards freeing myself....what was your experience? Any advice as i chug along will be greatly appreciated! Cheers my friend
Good to hear this. It’s hard to stay positive or in a growth mindset but I’ve realized that I have to listen to videos like this all the time.
‘Get clear every morning if you’re going to be ordinary or extraordinary’ LOVE IT!
"Your destiny is ultimately controlled by a decision you already made this morning." This is so true... Every day we have a new chance to step up and define what our day will look like instead of just going through the motions.
Great interview!
DR Hendrix
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You know the term 'Wantrepreneur' is a pejorative ...right? lol
@@gwills9337 Yes, I know. That's why it fits to my parody channel about entrepreneurship :)
Motions as in emotions? Right? Sorry little confused.
"Did you ever teach yourself to be happy along the way?" Wow!!! if i'm taking anything from this conversation, its definately that
Feels like he was calling Tom out a little bit with that one.
"Did you learn to be happy along the way?" such a powerful reminder and statement!
This is it. Visualization absolutely works. None of us can avoid it. Where the mind goes, the energy flows. Period.
High Performance PROMPTS for the day:
🎯 10 Prompts for the MORNING for myself:
✅ How can I be great partner/mother/father/son? [...]
✅ How can I show appreciation to someone in my team today?
✅ How do I care for my health today?
✅ What are the 3 words I want to keep in mind all day?
✅ What is the message for myself today?
✅ The most difficult thing I'm going to face today is this... and a best way to overcome is by doing this...
✅ 2 big projects I'd like to keep in mind are these...
🎯 10 prompts for the END OF THE DAY:
✅ What did I learn about myself?
✅ What did I learn about other people today?
✅ Did I demonstrate my best today or not?
✅ Did I get stuck or frustrated today?
✅ What are the negative thoughts I had today that I don't need to have anymore?
✅ How did I treat people today?
✅ Did I move swiftly towards my goals today?
🎯 SCORECARD for the night (1-5)
1. Clarity
2. Energy
3. Necessity
4. Productivity
5. Influence
6. Courage
If you listen to someone who always brings out genuine positivity and passion, then 49 minutes will feel like 5 minutes.
#Ripple effect 💪
BRENDAN BURCHARD!!!❤️❤️❤️ the most genuine, effervescent, articulate, engaging, inspiring, ENERGETIC, beautiful soul we could ever hope for in a mentor. ✨❤️🙏
So kind thank you!
Glad I made the choice to listen to this! Starting the day right
It's a good place to start! The morning is so important!
Nectar Fam!
same here... had a super busy day but to listen to this before I go to sleep is amazing
10 years ago I was hiding underneath my bed due to the favelas shootings all night in Rio. Now I am in NY in a huge apartment full of plants working for IBM. in 10 years I will be working for Tom
ivana alves i want that too, tell me how? :)
I'm also from Brazil and one of my first dreams is to work in an English language environment, as an administrator. It's great to know that you are from here and now you are there. Congratss!!!!
Ivana....You can do anything you work at! My father worked for IBM as a Senior Design Manager. He has 5 patents under his name. He invented the ink jet printer and the Winchester Tape Head. It takes dedication and hard work, but you absolutely can accomplish anything you want!
@@goddessrenee Yes, Rennie! that is true and it makes me amazed everyday.And what an accomplishment! Thanks for sharing! IBM is also a dream for me! Great environment and really helpful for keep growing and developing new skills. I work for IBM Learning, IBM AI Academy and Your Learning platform.
@@leonardo3265 Thanks Leo! Your english seems amazing! How did you learn? I first started learning obsessed with MTV and American Shows and movies cause of the captions/translations. Let's keep focused! Nothing is impossible!
This doesn't look like interview, look like good friends hanging out
So true. Got to see both them hanging out. Respect to that. Makes you think of your close friends. Likeminds
This reminds me of David Brooks's formula of living for your obituary instead of living for your resume. Rather than chasing virtues in hope of impressing people around us, pursue virtues that will allow us to live on in the hearts and minds of people whom we can inspire to keep the flame of our purpose and mission alive.
These two men have done more for me than I could ever express. Thank you so much.
Brendans TH-cam videos got me through some really dark and lost times in my life. From age 19-22 I was very lost and confused about life and why I wasn’t happy. He helped me think about life in a way that gave me hope. And from there I started programming myself with positive videos and podcasts like Impact Theory. Thanks for this! You guys are awesome. I’m 23 now and sober for 8 months off drugs and alcohol. Currently at the gym getting those gains and feeling amazing about life.
Brenden’s take on guilt was amazing to me. In a lot of ways it is similar to Tom’s thoughts in letting it burn- the ability to embrace and become comfortable with uncomfortable situations is where I am learning a lot of low hanging fruit exists. I needed this lesson today. Thx
I recently found Brendon Burchard and I immediately loed him. A lot of coaches tend to be one dimensional. And over the years of my personal development and journey I have learned to not listen to them all the time.
Most coaches romanticize the idea of hustle too much. They completely ingore that people tend to burnout. People, and I mean 99% people will fail at some point of their life and if they don't have any friends, family, self love and positivity within them they will most probably die. Purpose and hustling is important but we also need to promote the idea of self acceptance. The idea of enjoying your little wins, taking a break sometimes, really spending time with people you love, recharging yourself emotionally, etc. There's a lot of important pillars and aspects of being happy and maintaining your emotional ecosystem. There's always Yin & Yang in our lives. Always.
I used that fight club mentality with out building the gratitude... I went into such a dark place. A hell I created where only pain existed. Nothing satisfied, I couldn't love or let people love me. I'm so glad he's talking about this so people don't fall into their own hell.
'If you want to be great, you have to learn to let it burn' 33:16 Just love that Tom
Tom Bilyeu is hands down the best interviewer I have ever seen. Great work sir.
I love feeling guilty too. So deep. This man is a genius.
"Live your life like it is an epic, beautiful movie." "Be a positive ripple."
Love that😀
"Dont start your day until you have it finished" Jim Rohn....
Your life doesn’t end up an accident. Your life is a series of actions that you initiate or don’t initiate...
true! very true!
"The world completely underestimates the power of visualization,completely misutilizes the human power of contemplation."
Brendon buchard...
Well said sir.
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You two are so clearly friends - this is such a great episode. The interruptions, back and forth, guessing, etc. - it's so good! It feels like we are all hanging out! THANK YOU!!
I like this guy. When he talks about repelling a**holes I started liking him even more.
Green tea, intention, and Optimism.
I love how upbeat people never speak about assholes in their lives until asked directly, yet the assholes in MY life are always talking about the annoying upbeat people they know 🤣🤣🤣
I think setting up intentions before the day starts really do make a difference. I love how you both are obsessive in building yourself. And the amazing thing about you guys are the amount of clarity on the topics you’d want to focus on. This interview is phenomenal. Thank you Brendan and Tom.
Brendon seems like the most down to earth guy.
Listening and acting upon Brendon's advice will not only change your thinking but ultimately change your life! Great interview guys
Wow you are such a great personality Tom. With in 30 minutes you got 1499 views and 40 comments, this shows that people are eagerly waiting for your great interviews. You are making great impact on people's life. Thank u so much.
We cannot control other people. We only have control over ourselves. Taking consistent action is powerful. When I started my TH-cam channel in 2017, I intended to start making videos immediately, but more than 3 years slipped by before I started to upload regularly. You don't need to make the same mistake.
Consistency is so tough! I think you find consistency when you truly fall in love or obsess with something.
@@RyanFila I cats very true. Doing what you love has a lot to be said for it.
Just overwhelmed with gratitude for both of you! I was o the edge of a mental break just s day before watching this, and it had a lot to do with guilt. But the way you have me looking at guilt now is mind shifting.
Also the end bit about planning out your day and being visual about your goals was spectacular. You guys are IMPACT!
This was INCREDIBLE. I am going to be so much more intentional about my goals. Put a date on my goals. Shout them from the rooftops. And write them down every day. Great content!
Peers thinking something is wrong with you because you decide to change, and become a better version of yourself is the cause of so much unrealized human potential. Couldn't agree more. 👏
13:28 I love this certainty. “I am going to hit this goals”
“I repel all the jerks” I love this.
Thank God for souls like Brendon Burchard and Tom too! U guys are beautifully uplifting our human conciousness and have brought my life great joy and sense of intense urgency for my purpose on Earth. Thank you thank you!!
Not just the best speaker but one of the best listeners out there too! Tom always asks the right question that get's his guest to speak and talk more than most other interviews they do.
another incredible episode! I don't know where you find these people but I can't get enough! Thanks Tom! You provide so much value! Love the challenges you and your guests present!
This is one to listen to over and over again. How do I find people to have conversations like this? This is amazing.
This episode is GOLD! ⭐ Such great tools for achieving small and large goals. I will be listening to this again and again. Thank you. ♥️
I love his book! brilliant! let's watch this now and enjoy it!
Great interview. I love how you get the specifics in you’re questioning so we know exactly what steps the person is doing in what you’re asking.
Everything’s hard, choose your hard and be a light warrior on earth. The good path is always more satisfying. U got this.
Tom and Brendan are again an incredible combo. Great episode! Thanks for the constant stream of value Tom and IT Team!
Needed this SO much this morning. Thank you so much, Brendon and Tom. ❤️
one of my favorite! Will watch every morning from today before heading to the gym until it’s drilled in my head so it repeats unconsciously📌
Brendan’s self talk brings tears to my eyes.
Seriously, always amazed by your selection of guests along with your amazing selfless interview skills. Thank you, Tom. Appreciated beyond measure 💯
Fantastic, I've followed Brendon for a while, but no doubt there's some great insight to be found here.
I'm surprised that he's one of the most followed people on Facebook. 10 million! That's crazy!
This man is superb and just brilliant - where has he been (I live in England) - I am developing new habits - he's amazing! I fast every day as a new habit and set an alarm to take deep breaths!! Thank you
This was the best interview (of course) I've ever heard with Brendon. I will definitely be buying one of his books.
This interview is so great. I have listened to it three times in a 24 hour period. The strategies outlines are practical and easy to apply. Thank you Tom and Brendon for this great video. ❤️
Brendon Burchard is a real life Olaf!
THANK YOU SO MUCH TOM SIR.....FOR GIVING DESE LIFE CHANGING VIDEOS..... REALLY YOU R DOING A GREAT GREAT JOB...... THANKS A LOT
This is the kind of training that should be a requirement in public schools....can you even imagine how the world would be a totally different place?
Brendon is an amazing human being! Love his mindset 🙌
Brendon is a pure legend and this interview is a must watch/listen. 🙌🙌🙌🙌
APPRECIATED!
The most practical and actionable show I've seen so far. I loved it. Thank you Tom and Brendon
Honestly this is the first one that I feel like I just started and it’s over. When Tom said what’s the impact you want on the world I was like wait what? First time listening to him. Looking forward to diving into Brendon’s world.
This channel has so much sauce. I get to hang out with abundant wise people and level up and share my growth with my community help them grow. Wash Rinse and repeat.
This has been very insightful. Knowing that I generate emotion is a great way to learn to control it. Thank you!
This is such a gift! Listening to these two incredibly intelligent and positive men is such a gift. And I am grateful.
Look at your goals everyday, sense them feel them make them yours. Appropriate of your life and live like no one else
This message will remain relevant. My takeaways are be very intentional and specific about your day. Plan where you want to be, use your planner strategically, write it down, say it out loud and tackle your weak areas directly. I also loved it when Brendon said his personality repels a**holes. I love the ending where Brendon says not to leave your goals to randomness. I will take that with me forever. ❤
I really loved how one must put himself in pain to accept what he's not but want to be
No way! I just learned about this guy and have been listening to High Performance Habits this week. So happy you have him back on!
I love Brendan, we are all so grateful for Impact theory, thank you!!
Me Too! :o)
@23:27
You're one of the best speakers in America right now!!!
"If you stay ready, you don't have to get ready!" Me when the notification for the new episode drops.
Agreed! :-)
😆 love it
James Brown!
*“We just stayin’ ready so we ain’t gotta get ready.”* ~ Curren$y 💪🏼😎🕺🏽
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Dear Tom, your words and the link with the movie Fight Club are so powerful... I just wanted to thank you for everything you do! Never stop 💪🏻
Amazing.. quite honestly the most uplifting and practical interview I've seen on TH-cam since embarking on my own path to greatness.. and that's saying something. And I never comment on YT!
"The further you are from your ambitions, the more miserable you are". That hits close to me. Excellent interview! 🙏
Thank you Tom for this amazing interview. I know what I need to do more of now. I am so grateful for you. Continue to be YOU.
So glad i found this channel. You and your wife are great interviewers. Always enjoy the content!
I love the discussion around self auditing by both.
My absolutely favorite author! Tom keep having an impact with these interviews.
Don't wanna lie I liked this even before listening to Brendon. Love your work, thank you.
Incredible guest! With the occasion I re-watched the old interview too. Thanks Tom for your work and for introducing us to all these great people.
WOW!!❤️❤️ Tom & Brendon. Can it get better? Ugh. This show is lifechanging 100%! 👏🏼
Love your channel @Tom
When we are young, it seems strong to deny pain and suffer through it. When we are old enough, we begin to understand that the real life struggles are hard enough, so we stop romanticizing them and start finding ways to alleviate the harm through deeper meaning and moving toward creating more joy in our lives.
Thank you @Brendon for “Bringing Joy” to the forefront of awareness.
I thought this imagination is the real power in creating things but thinking through ahead. Manifestation from within first before manifestation in this space and time. This is the absolute tool to life. this interview is such gold for real.
Great interview - very important part when Brendon addresses the “other side of the coin” - teaching yourself to be happy // allowing to be happy !
First off, I have enormous amount of respect for Tom Bilyeu and Brendon Buchard. I love when these two talk to each other about performance. The one thing that I caught my attention was at the very end of the interview. When Tom compliments Brendon, the question that comes out of his mouth is, "Was it good?" Hearing that question from someone in the position that Brendon Burchard is in shows the amount of respect he has for Tom. True humility and class.
Yes! Tuesday mornings are the best! Thank you Tom and Brendon! 👩🏽🎨👩🏽🎨👩🏽🎨👩🏽🎨
very grateful 😊😊😊😊😊
Brendon's High Performance Habits was the first self development book i ever read and it forever changed my life. Thank you Brendon
Amazing! Thank you!
Brendon always seems very genuine. Thank you for bringing him in again. :)
Brendon Burchard is my favorite!!!
I totally agree about Tom becoming one of the best speakers globally.
I have watched most of his shows and speeches and the pace of his performance improvement is mind blowing
Omg this is conversation goals. Absolutely, incredible. Thank you for this!
Wow, Brendon Burchard I was in mode to listen to the previous interview you did with him and bang I receive this notification. I am eternally grateful Tom 🙏🙌 love your work
Me too!!
I have been following Brendon since 2012 when I started my Masters Program, his motivation manifesto got me through that. His High Performance Habits are getting me through, I created my business and will continue to expand and move forward. High Performance planner yes!
OMG Brendon on Impact theory 🔥🔥
Speechless....one of my favorite podcasts so far!!!
Brendon,
You always have a positive and uplifting impact on others, every time you talk.
Thanks buddy.
Bir
My mentor.. Brendon Burchard 😍🔥💪🌟