I'm currently pregnant with a baby girl. I will be a single mom. I left her dad bc he was cheating. 💕 everything will be okay. For all those single etc...you are stronger than you realize
Just Don’t go back. Please. It will only be painful and end up teaching your child that cheating is excusable. My dad cheated on my mom for years and this caused me to have destructive relationships where I allowed men to cheat and use me. Trust me, there is always a better man out there who will truly respect you. Just remember to prioritize and love your baby ❤️
“ you put your heart and soul in it... and then it’s gone” that really hit me 😭it’s so hard to let go when you chose to only see the good in that person and ignore the real toxic facts.
Hi Rachel, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
@@oliviatrudel9736 I'm so sorry I'm going through the same thing,, my boyfriend just broke up with me 12 days before our 2 year anniversary, it's very painful but we'll get through it, you aren't alone :)
On betrayal, some advice from me is too not take the other persons actions personally and know that it is only a reflection of that persons perception of reality
I think it reflects how they've got an internal turmoil. A void they need to fill. Its truly sad when you realize this. They must be deeply hurt to have to resort to such things to fill a hole that they cannot find since they are not self fulfilled.
Your video “This too shall pass” came up on my recommendations right when I began hysterically crying at night. Just seeing the title made me snap back to be able to sleep :) thank you
thank you for this. I’m currently going through a difficult breakup after being with my partner for five tumultuous years. the pain comes in waves, and I’m having to learn how to be alone for the first time. The world I exist in has completely changed.
@@cocoh7231 I am so sorry you are experiencing this. Know that it will get easier and that you are enough! You deserve happiness, peace, and joy in your life and someday you will find it.
I was really looking forward to hearing your advice for a breakup, as I’ve been struggling with mine these last couple of weeks. Hearing you tell me i did a good job for ending my toxic relationship and that you’re proud of me felt so good, i started tearing up. I needed this. Thank you🥺💖
As for breakups, the ones hurting can try to remember; you were in their path of life for a reason; you might not be meant to ever know it; but do know in your heart's understanding, that in they will remember you future. Just send sincere thoughts that whatever lesson they were meant to learn, that they see it one day and learn. Have confidence that this is a true fact in the universe. If at one time they were yours to love and appreciate; they are also yours to forgive in whatever time it takes you; doing this gives your soul a great honor- and contributes to healing and going forward in life. You'd be surprised what life presents you in time.
He was my first boyfriend, together for 2 years, I gave him everything even when my mom told me not to give him all of me. He fell out of love with me, he cares about me still which is so confusing, I want nothing more then to be in his arms.
Breakup is hardest when you still have feelings for them, and their feelings for you are confusing at best and painful at worst. My ex girlfriend recently broke up with me and we both still love eachother but she wasn't in a place in life for a relationship. It hurts most knowing once she was absolutely obsessed with me, and no doesn't want me in her life. The best way to go forward is to remember that THEY lost YOU. You are a deeply special, loving and caring person who is as much of a unique gift in the world as you believe your former lover to be. Someone out there will see you as special as you see your former partner now. You'll one day find peace and love and happiness. I see it's been about 10 months since you posted this comment, so I hope you're doing better now ❤️
@@shmaqzi9893 I just got broken up with for the EXACT same reason. So much love on both sides, she’s just not in a place for it anymore. I hope you’ve found peace now, because I’m so scared and sad and confused right now but I hope you’ve been able to find some clarity so that I know there’s hope for me too.
Hi, it’s been two years. It was very hard starting over, and at my age. I didn’t expect that kind of heartbreak or how hard to get past it. I’m so happy now with my little life, Thank you for being there, having tea with me.
@@saltpepper7525 I was 54. I am 56 now. I would be sad a long time, but one day I would meet someone from thirty years ago. we would go fishing, and our dogs would fall in love, and so would we, and everyone would be surprised including the cheaters.
Any advice on how to get through it. Just got out of a 7 month relationship. I know it’s not too long, I’m just young so it feels like a whole chunk of me is missing
ik this comment was meant for haiying but today I was just bawling my eyes out bc I felt like I was too boring to have relationships so I appreciate this comment lol
@@panny2917 Hey I hope all is going well for you right now ok? Life can be hard sometimes but stay true to yourself and accept you for who you are because you are so much more special then you could ever imagine. I know you don't know me but I just hope youre doing ok because you deserve to be happy and you are deserving of so many great things
@@ohyes6485 I saw your message when you first replied and I was very grateful towards your kind words, but they've been in my heart ever since and I feel like I need to tell you directly just how much your words meant to me. Thank you so much
@@panny2917 It's really no problem. I'm so glad that I could help you open your eyes to the absolute truth. Please take care and enjoy your life because you fully deserve it ❤️❤️
"now, you can open up your door, you can open up your window, and you can open up your eyes... because before your eyes were blinded, you couldn't see anything. now you can search the sky." thank you so much for this video, and mostly, for these words. i hope to never forget them and carry them in my heart, each time i need to breathe and try again, one more time. you're such a blessing and a lovely person! i love your videos, thank you so much for your existence! 💜
I was in a relationship with a girl who had too many “just friends” on her Snapchat. After a while I realized that never in a relationship should you have to fight for attention. Never in a real relationship will your partner constantly surround themselves with other guys and leave you in the dark for most times. If anyone is in something similar or also know someone who going through this, tell them this “you can chase someone for days or years but in the end who’s chasing you in return?”
I don’t really know where to start, I was in such a horrible place in my life when I met her. She made me the happiest guy I’ve ever been. She knew me on levels I’ve never shown people, not my close friends, my family. Then she told me she cheated and needed time away from me. It hit me like a truck, I was totally unprepared and I sank into a depression for a long time, my sleep, eating and studying all suffered. I drank, got angry, cried, thought about things that I would never have ever considered before. That feeling that you said in the video about being punched in the gut was exactly what it felt like it felt like an anchor had been attached to my stomach and that nothing would ever make me happy again. It’s only been two months and I still get pains in my heart anytime I see things that remind me of her but I promise if anyone is in this situation it gets better. It won’t go away completely, or at least it hasn’t for me yet. But you will crawl on forward. The one thing I will recommend is to devote yourself to doing something, anything, introspection will ruin you. I used to live in my head, my “new person” is coming. I promise not only to you but to myself that we will all move on.
Im sorry that happened man im dealing with somthing similar i havent thought of devoting myself 2 somthing so im gonna try working out ty brother good luck
@@mariomakhalil4977 took me ages to respond to this sorry but I can tell you and anyone else who’s interested that I’m better, it took me a lot longer than the time I posted this comment but I finally reached a point of happiness with my life. I barely think of her anymore and honestly I feel like I’ve finally reached a point to move on. I’m going on my first serious date for a long damn time tomorrow, I only allowed myself to start again when I felt happy without the need of someone else. If anyone else is in this situation and is reading through these comments because mine struck a nerve. I promise you, you will be happy, you will find time to live again and be complete without that person by your side. There are better people in the world who will love you for who you are.
@@bruh-nd2mx I hope you crush the gym man! Helped me more than I realised at the time it’s a good vent for everything but remember to work out for yourself and no one else.
7 years ago I broke up with my second wife. Two months later my father died. Weeks later I was homeless, living out of my Jeep in Goleta Ca in winter. I did that for 6 weeks. To stay sane I took walks and took photographs with my $50 phone. I listened to music at night before going to sleep under my down blanket. I counted the ways I was fortunate because that is what my father would have done. Yes, all things must pass, and they did. I am now content, living in the Pacific Northwest off of my SS and still take walks and still take photographs, but now with my sophisticated cameras. Life is good, but it is a rose on a thornbush. Enjoy it, but be careful. I am content, but not always happy. I'm ok with that. I am finally my own best friend. I used to blame myself first if there was a problem in my life. Now I know better. Breaking up is hard, and my dreams at night were filled with struggle, but in the morning I would start again and take on the day. I lost many friends, most of them actually. But there were a precious few who came alongside and helped me. At the suggestion of my daughter, I put up a gallery on Instagram and a similar thing happened as happened to you. My words, encouragement to a photographer from Europe brought her out of a deep depression. She was going to have shock therapy I was told later. But my daily responses to her elegant floral photographs evidently breathed hope into her despairing spirit. I was unaware of her situation. All I knew was that I loved her work and told her."Many a heart is broken by words left unspoken". She said later I saved her life. You are right. People watch us and listen. We are unaware of the impact our words can have. All this to say...you are special to me. Your gentle voice has lulled me to sleep many nights. And when I listen to your voice I can hear your hearts longing. We are all a moment away from laughter or from tears. We must go through both together untill the moment passes.
We don’t know each other, but i promise you that things will currently get better. I can’t understand your sadness, but clearly there’s so much pain in the situation. If you need to hear it: you are strong. You are loved. You are important. And is going to be difficult, it probably is now, but you are doing your best and don’t blame yourself for feeling. Is the response to your own experience. ⭐️
This has got to be one of the most sincere, genuine, and wholesome channels I’ve ever come across. It’s so evident that you care about others and that you want to share that compassion. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being vulnerable and for advising others.
I just wanna say thank you. My boyfriend left me a few hours ago because he still can’t forget his ex girlfriend. I don’t even hate him and im happy that he was so honest with me. But i actually knew the whole time. However im laying in bed with fever and had a dream about him and her that they met and were you know, flirting and stuff and i was with them. woke up crying and then i looked for videos like yours and i feel understood. thank you.
This legit came up in my recommended and it's been a bad day for me today. My boyfriend is thinking of breaking up with me, and it hurts so much to think he will.
@@Plazali Just randomly seeing your comment. I had a hard break-up four years ago and it was incredibly painful, took me a longggg time to get over it. But I took it as a chance to not only get past the break up but to become a stronger person. Looking back this break up was by far the best thing that could have happened to me. TRUST THE PROCESS
@@jorgelopez4078 I'm trusting it... It's hard. I've forgiven her though. I'm not a vindictive person. I've forgiven, but won't make any attempts to talk unless she's willing.
I’m 16 years old and just went thru my second real heartbreak within 4 years, it’s nice to hear someone put all my emotion into words and perspective. You are part of the reason I choose to stay alive, despite the unimaginable pit I feel in my heart .
your "this too shall pass" video popped up in my recommended videos this morning just as i felt i was losing hope completely, it was like a blessing to me, i just got out of a very toxic long term relationship in which i suffered a lot and i'm in a lot of pain, thank you for bringing me some moments of rest and comfort during these times. you touched my heart, thank you so much
to everyone here who also got out of a toxic relationship - i see you and i send my love. we love and respect ourselves too fiercely to have stayed in such a relationship. it is hard i know, and you may still love and remember the good things, but you deserve more than a love hurts you and causes you pain. love is not pain and love is easy.
Thank you for this. I’ve been heartbroken for almost a month now - hurting, aching profoundly. I lost the love of my life. I’m getting a little better every week but it’s still painful; I still cry often and feel deeply. Listening to you is calming. Thank you.
I hope you're doing better♡ I just got broken up with yesterday and it is unimaginably painful, I can't eat, I can't sleep and I can't stop crying. I miss him so much and it hurts so bad.
You think after going through many breakups it would hurt less because you have experienced it before, but it hurts just as much if not feels like it hurts more each time. I just ended my longest relationship of 3 years this morning, and this is the best video I've seen. It still doesn't even feel real and I've never broken up with someone before cause I stay in a relationship till its unhealthy and the other leaves but today I finally put up boundaries. This relationship has sucked the life out of me for years and lead me to the darkest point in my life. And I feel disbelief but surprisingly no pain after this breakup. Its early hours of the morning and I feel awake. Like I was living in a daz, I feel very free. Hearing birds chirp reminds me of how I felt when I was happy when I used to love mornings. Sorry for the rant just needed to tell someone, thanks so much for the video you are a really kind person :) and I really needed someone to tell me this was the right thing and that they are proud
Oh this is so good to hear. I just woke up early in the morning and went to backyard to listen to bird. The fresh earthy moist air! I am so sosososo happy for you. We are echoing.
Reading this right now while going through the exact same situation. Relationship of 3 years. Never been one to break up with someone just stay till it gets bad and they decide to leave. Today I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years that I live with. How do you feel now?
I'm not going through a breakup but my soul feels heartbroken lately, I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤ your kind words and warm energy helped me ease my hearbreak
was just told he doesn’t care about me or my feelings, doesn’t want a relationship with me anymore, and doesn’t want anything to do with me completely out of the blue. feeling used and upset :(
I’m a very damaged individual and when I see your videos I love to listen to the things you have to say because they matter to you and you want it to matter to others too for themselves and that’s very nice that you’d sit here with us and give us comfort and reassurance. Thank you
I can honestly say this video saved my life. It’s too much to explain. I still fight everyday but without this video to fall asleep to, listen to, cry to… I would not have made It.
Someone I had been romantically involved with for a couple of months broke up with me out of nowhere on Sunday and it destroyed me entirely. I looked up ASMR videos on breakups and this was the first one I saw in the search results. Sadly, I wasn’t in a good mental state and couldn’t finish watching it. Tonight, I pulled up this video once more, and it’s really helping me flow through the pain I’m feeling right now… Thank you so much…
Hi Harnetty, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. You can reach me through my email. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
I think you can have great compassion for others and feel for them, but also should maintain faith that other people have the ability to face and manage their challenges, so we don't need to hold onto anxiety or fear for other people, we can let that part go. I like the meditation visualisation where you realise that emotions are like the ripples or waves on the surface of water or an ocean, but most of ourselves, our minds is deep and still water. It's very grounding. Grief can be hard. It's best to care for yourself and accept the feelings and let them process as naturally as possible. I've had such different experiences of grief with different losses. It's unique each time. But there is a bittersweet element to the pain of loss that makes you realise how deeply you care and it does make you feel very alive experiencing strong emotion. It makes us more connected to each other too.
Thank you for your wisdom. I am on day 3 of a recent heartbreak of a 2 year relationship currently, she was seeing one of her ex's the past week that came back into her life after being gone for 4 years without a word to her, and she still had feelings for him without putting those feelings in the past to keep the present as it was. She wasnt sure who to pick or whether to remain single, so I wanted her to be happy and broke up with her. Yet I know she jumped back into his arms and are doing those things with him and I can't stop feeling the pain and have been crying so much since even to fall asleep in tears. I lost many friends while we were in our relationship because of her insecurities and lost the rest at the end when they got into our situation and took her side. Being without friends now and heartbroken without anyone, learning how to live on my own again is a struggle when I don't feel like getting out of bed nore the house anymore, I no longer see the point to living as this pain is constant.
I've never seen any of your videos before now. This video came at the perfect time, as my 4 year relationship just ended 12 days ago. I have been taking it one day at a time and have found a new strength, but have also struggled with the pain. You will never know how much I needed this video today. Thank you for your compassion and your wisdom. You don't have to have expert lighting, your videos will find the people they are meant for at just the right time. 💜
After telling me over and over “Lets show our children how to love in a world that has forgotten to” they later left me and has over and over told my friends “I’m doing much better after the breakup” while I’ve descended to the point where it feels brighter at midnight in the forest than my room with 10+ lights in a 9ft x 9ft space. When I show them that while they broke my heart I still care, they tell me that I’m “crawling back”, “giving in” “missing” them as soon as my “distractions” are gone. All I do is still care. Its such a pain caring for the person while they make it look like you want them back. I was doing fine and contacted them saying “Hey! Thanks for being a learning experience and making me have the time of my life, hope you get well. Its a bit grey for me right now but I hope I can find my rainbow soon.” They said “Oh look at her! She’s crawling back now once her distractions are over!” And I’ve cried ever since.
How are you doing now? I hope you’re doing better. Just know that time heals all and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know you didn’t ask for it but my advice would be to not contact them ever again, you deserve better than that and once a relationship ends it’s important to give yourself time to heal. You might feel like you have something important to say to them but I promise you even if you get the response you’re hoping for it will only bring more pain.
@@RS-ep2ry they become an asshole and I am over them, just fucking angry at them since 2 days after the relationship they started talking to someone else and then manipulates the person I was talking to so that that person leaves me for them
The end of this video really spoke to me. I went through a bad breakup several years ago and I thought my life was over, but it was because I let that person go that I was free to find someone who was a better match. I married that man a few months ago. Pain is a gift that leads us to someplace better.
I watched this video a year ago when I got my heartbroken and I’m back again because I mutually parted with someone I loved, it somehow hurts more than before. This video helped so much last time so I know I’ll be okay eventually
He was my best friend in the entire world for eight years. And I wish I could be selfless. He chose someone over me because the long distance was unrealistic. And he was right. But he did it out of nowhere. He tried to just walk things back like we could be platonic with no trouble. And his friends mocked me. Every day for a month I have been waking up with the first thought in my head: "I'm just a joke." I didn't realize how much hearing "I'm proud of you" about it would affect me. I have been feeling so small and worthless. I know you don't know me, but just... just hearing it from anyone made me feel for once that I'm not a joke. That someone, anyone, takes me seriously. Thank you.
i just got out of my first ever relationship and i never saw this coming. when they first told me they needed a break, i didnt know that it would end up like this. i let the break turn into something so much more, even though it wasnt supposed to end up this way at all. i was so broken inside that i didnt know what to do or how to act in the moment. my feelings turned me into a person i would never imagine myself. it hurt my partner in the worst way that i never would want to treat them. they deserved so much better from me but i just couldnt reach the expectations. all of this caused the breakup and it really hurts. ive been struggling lately to get over it but yet again, it was my first relationship and they were my first ever love. i look at this breakup as something to grow from and rather not something to dwell upon. things were meant to be this way, and im sure that there is going to be something for you in the future. keep your head up, the future has a plan for you. :)
he broke up with me last week. he promised he wouldn’t and still said he loved me. its unfair. it hurts me so much how he was able to leave me so quick. i know i need to distance myself and learn how to be okay but i cant. it hurts to be without him. i miss him being in my life, i miss his voice and his presence. i cant keep trying anymore.
thank you so much. i know this video is a bit older but it's still amazing. my boyfriend told me he wants a break, one day before our anniversary which is today. and this is after repeatedly cancelling plans with me, ghosting me, etc. i met him at a rough spot in my life and he knows me better than anyone else. hes comforted me throughout all my episodes, he knows how to calm me in social situations, he understands my needs and feelings without having to ask. this was really a punch in the gut and it's hard to even breathe without him. so thank you. this has been incredibly comforting and healing for me, and i appreciate you :)
Hi Moon, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
I am completely heartbroken in this moment, as I know that many people who came to this video are too. I must say I'm thankful for this lady's words...even in pain, I was able to feel her words. Keep your hard work, it makes all the diference! And to everyone who's struggling, wish to each of you the strenght needed to survive. You will do it!
Today has been a hard day as my soon to be former husband has finally left the house. I wanted the divorce and I know why I did, but today I was going through the grief which made me have some doubts, even wanting to reverse the decision. The truth is my marriage was never what I hoped it would be and I think something in me still wanted to cling to that hope. You saying you're proud of us for breaking up, good job, that really brought some relief. I've cried so much today and my heart weighed heavy, but this video has helped me immensely. Thank you so much!
I'm revisiting this video after going through a drawn-out breakup this year and the loss of my mother last year. Both things happened around the same time of year. I'm dealing with two griefs at once. It's hard now, but I have hope that this hardship will lead to better clarity in life later on.
i just love how many other people love these lady's videos!! make me happy to know this cute lady gets to make fun and inspiring videos everyday because of us
Thank you for this message ♥️ This is something on my mind lately not because of Valentine’s Day but because it’s almost the anniversary that my ex and I had for our relationship. I ended a relationship that lasted a few years about 10 months ago, it was necessary but so very painful. It’s weird to think that we don’t talk anymore, that’s it’s been almost a year and we may never do so again. I’ve done a lot of healing and work on myself, and am still working on it. I’m still not ready and emotionally healthy/stable/aware of my deeper self and capable of managing my emotions and recognizing what’s going on deeper than the flash of anger (eg actually fear). It’s the first time I’ve been “single” for more than 3 months for a decade which was really not healthy for me either. Anyway, it was so relevant! :)
I broke up totally with my ex, who was trying to come back. But I don't trust him anymore, and there is nothing I can do about it. I loved him so much it was a dream come true for me, but his verbal abuse, lies and manipulation became unbearable for me. He had big plans for us for the future, he told me this lately, but I couldn't see myself with him anymore. I'm still healing from this relationship. A break up is like a little dead, it's a loss, but like in many other things in life, we need acceptance. So I accept this pain and this healing at the same time, as part of life.
Thank you... I’m currently having to accept that my parents are not healthy people, and that in order to become and adult I’m going to have to separate from them... I know this separation is a chance for them to grow too, but it’s still so painful. I felt abandoned, and then to feel as though I am abandoning them in turn is unbearable. But there is a large difference between genuine, universal compassion, and keyhole “idiot,” compassion. Sometimes love is hard, and being loving means you have to hurt and be hurt. I don’t know where I am going with this. Your videos always help center me, and reassure me, that there are good people trying to put kindness into the world. Thank you again, I’m so glad I found your calligraphy videos all those years ago
Hello :) I’ve been single for almost two years now, my second semester in college. I’m genuinely happy now and I’ve allowed myself to live in and heal. I finally have a new crush and... this advice.. I needed to hear it. Thank you so much ❤️ I never knew I needed to hear this.
I was going through a very rough time when your this too shall pass video was brought to my attention (I think for a reason) and now today my boyfriend and I split and today this video found me ...I may sound crazy but I believe the universe is truly sending me your videos to tell me something I need to hear ...thank you ❤️
5 months ago my girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me, tried to kill her self, and then 2 weeks later cheated on me again. Among that she said so many terrible things to be the last month of our relationship. It has absolutely been destroying me and ruined my mental state. I’m extremely depressed and my anxiety has gotten so bad I’ve developed hypochondria. I tried medicine but it didn’t do anything but give me bad side effects. I really needed this video. One day at a time.
I broke up with my bf a month ago. It was a friends-to-lovers relationship. 6 years of friendship and 2 as a couple, now I realize that you never truly know someone until a rough patch. He was disloyal the second he felt something was off between us💔 I feel like I will never trust someone else, I don't believe in my perception anymore. Thanks for your kind words during this journey ❤
Such a wonderful video, full of truth and hope, which is exactly what someone needs when dealing with loss. ❤️ Something that's helped me with getting over a romantic relationship is the truth that it's such a waste to love someone who doesn't love you back... you have all that love to give and they don't appreciate it-and if you don't take care of yourself and make the decision to move on, that'll really tear you apart over time. And no, it's not easy to let go either, but that pain is temporary; if you accept that it's over and let yourself have time to process the grief, you will get over that person and not love them anymore. I know it's hard to believe that when you're hurting, but it's true. Give yourself time to heal and focus on the truth, and you'll move on and be so happy you did, especially since the wonderful thing about being able to finally let go is the possibility of finding someone who will give you the love and respect you deserve. But either way, not wasting something as precious as love on someone who doesn't appreciate it is the main thing to focus on. Give that energy to what truly deserves it.
I really needed this right now thank you so much it’s nice to know how I’m feeling is normal and it will get easier even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, that but hit me deep
Hi Lisa, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
You are not boring. Nope, not boring. Funny how we can allways find our own faults (unless we are not aware of them) but in your case your humility accuses you of something of which you are not guilty. Thankyou.
I've been feeling really down this afternoon and then I came across with this video. Your voice is really soothing and now i feel a little bit better. Hearing you is comforting.
Thank you so much for this video, I was very much in love and I thought my wife was too. We have a young boy together and I'd always thought we were the perfect family. Until one day she decided she'd rather be with someone else. I've been in a deep depression for awhile, and this video is the first time I've actually felt hopeful. Thank you so very much.
This is such a powerful video, thank you for this. ❤️ "There is always something good out of the bad" and that good thing is freedom from a relationship that doesn't serve you. Everything was beautifully said, and it's true that it's important to get up and do something no matter how hard it is.
Honestly I just want to say thank you so much. I've broken up with this person and we're in break or so they said. It's been driving me nuts and the end I feel is near though I don't want it to be. Yet I feel I need it to end. It hurts to end it I can't ever imagine it. I started loosing my mind and your words really helped me organize myself better in my thoughts and see fron other prescriptives. I'm in pain still but your video of these amazing words helped me think clearer
It is heartbreaking when you watch your loved one slip away from you, day by day, month by month or year by year. You hold on with hope, but are let down by an excessive amount when they are finally gone. My boyfriend who convinced me to break-up with him several times because of how poorly he treats and treated me, broke up with me and I think it was because he knew it would hurt me when he said he didnt want to, and so it finally happened… to have no say in it is just pure abandonment… you feel so alone..
Hi Jess, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
Great message, like all your videos. Something that made me so happy and wasn't expecting is that after 4 years studying Chinese, with all of its ups and downs and moments of wanting to give up forgetting all about it and go back to my country, when you switched to Chinese and I could understand you made me so happy and glad that I didn't gave up, also listening you speaking french as well inspire me to not giving up in my learning of other languages. 感谢您提醒我为什么我喜欢学习中文和语言。
Thanks for this, it gave me some good reminders I really needed. I'm struggling to get over a break up. It was a relationship that burned fast but bright, and my first time actually feeling in love in a relationship. I was convinced we had something deep and he told me that he trusted me, that he felt a connection, that we'd keep experiencing beautiful things together and learning together. Nothing really went wrong (yes, even according to him), one day he just realized that he didn't actually feel a connection to me, that I wasn't what he wanted. Despite all the tenderness and kindness and trust I had given him, despite all of the beautiful moments we had together. I'm struggling with a complex mess of feelings now- did I do something wrong? Am I not lovable? Did he lie to me, did he use me? Can I even trust myself? Do I still love him or do I hate him? The bitter feelings just won't leave me alone. It's been months and I just keep feeling like I'm missing him. I have to know that the problem was his though. I took the risk of opening up to him and offering my love, and he is the one who let our relationship down, not me. Instead of hating him, I should thank him for his honesty, for not keeping me trapped in a one-sided relationship. He was incapable of reciprocating my love but I know he isn't the only person in the world I'm capable of loving. There are so many great people out there who probably go unnoticed, and out of all of them, one will love me, someday. Instead of taking from this experience that I'm not worth loving, I'll see what it really taught me about myself- that I can be intimate and love others deeply, when before I met him I didn't think I could. Until I meet someone else, if I ever do, I'm just trying to love my own life, love the little things, the small ups, even the downs- because sometimes feeling sadness is better than feeling nothing at all. I feel like I overshared, but since I've been feeling so alone in this, maybe someone will relate to my situation and feel less alone.
You so profoundly touched me. I feel every single word was coming from my own heart. Love yourself, you are precious. Love yourself so much that your self love is over flowing, flooding and you are radiating and attracting. Any person who is not blind will chase you and wait in line to be called! I mean once you are internally enriched, chances will come. As we always say, chase your heart, the rest will chase you! Much love.
there are a lot of hardships happened in my life last times… toxic relationships, painful breakups, betrayal, then war, a new relationship in another country which is also complicated. i watched this video approximately half a year ago, and i still come back here to let everything go. thank you very much! our society needs people like you ❤️
This video is from two years ago but , thank you. I needed it. I really just cried the whole video. Your calming voice and gentle but so humble and real words made me feel secure. I would have liked to have you in my entourage, to really just ask for advices from you or just talk and listen to you talk, or just talk around some tea. So much peace and healthy mood. Thank you. A lot❤
it’s really hard when it’s your best friend telling you you’re not enough anymore. it’s been hard for me to see myself in a good light nowadays and not blame myself for the breakup. i appreciate this video though, the timing is perfect.
Your voice is so soothing and your words are so comforting. Thank you for that. I went through a break up 6 mos ago. I’m trying to remain in gratitude that it’s over. Had I stayed in it I would have had to give up everything I’ve built as well as moving away from my family but I could not see what I would be gaining in exchange. When I asked for clarity they broke up with me. At least I got my answer and I know getting out of it was the best thing for me. For all of the love professed to me I was dropped like I didn’t mean anything. Never a phone call or letter afterwards. I’m free and I deserve much better. I’m already better off on my own. May they find peace.
I'm currently pregnant with a baby girl. I will be a single mom. I left her dad bc he was cheating. 💕 everything will be okay. For all those single etc...you are stronger than you realize
you’ve got this, i wish the best for you and your child💕💕💕
you’ve got this mama. your daughter will have a mom who she’ll know is strong as hell!
Just Don’t go back. Please. It will only be painful and end up teaching your child that cheating is excusable. My dad cheated on my mom for years and this caused me to have destructive relationships where I allowed men to cheat and use me. Trust me, there is always a better man out there who will truly respect you. Just remember to prioritize and love your baby ❤️
sending love your way lovely 💗 you’ve got this
Well r u planning on having more 😫😫😫😩😩😩🥰🥰😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
“you cannot change a person who doesn’t put their heart into it “
“ you put your heart and soul in it... and then it’s gone” that really hit me 😭it’s so hard to let go when you chose to only see the good in that person and ignore the real toxic facts.
Hi Rachel, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
yeah that hit me too
I got dumped through text today and it hurts so bad, how do I make it stop😭
@@oliviatrudel9736 I'm so sorry I'm going through the same thing,, my boyfriend just broke up with me 12 days before our 2 year anniversary, it's very painful but we'll get through it, you aren't alone :)
@@oliviatrudel9736 hey it’s been a month, how have u been?
On betrayal, some advice from me is too not take the other persons actions personally and know that it is only a reflection of that persons perception of reality
Plainly they're just vile and evil and that's how they truly are!
@@nikkinonames5265 Only cowards cheat on their partners.
Well basically, they don't know better but they actually should. Its just our disappointments that do us in. Expectations is ultimately what kills us.
I think it reflects how they've got an internal turmoil. A void they need to fill. Its truly sad when you realize this. They must be deeply hurt to have to resort to such things to fill a hole that they cannot find since they are not self fulfilled.
LOVE THIS.
Man’s rejection is God’s protection
Period !!! Amen
LOL 😂
Amen to that
@Betting On Belo morning ll
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Today is a hard day. My eyes are swollen and I feel numb. This helped me so much. Thank you very much
i hope you're doing well!
My eyes swollen as I read these comments.
I feel incredibly numb as well, eyes puffy.
Your video “This too shall pass” came up on my recommendations right when I began hysterically crying at night. Just seeing the title made me snap back to be able to sleep :) thank you
I just woke up with anxiety. She is wonderful. Sleep well.
Same here
Same, and now this one… when I got dumped 2 weeks ago.
same for me :)
I found her from that vid too. She’s such a blessing
thank you for this. I’m currently going through a difficult breakup after being with my partner for five tumultuous years. the pain comes in waves, and I’m having to learn how to be alone for the first time. The world I exist in has completely changed.
Hi, I’m sorry you had to go through this. I’m in my first night without my boyfriend…how are you doing now? I hope you are doing much better ..❤️
Hey, I'm going through this too. How are you doing now?
@@cocoh7231 I am so sorry you are experiencing this. Know that it will get easier and that you are enough! You deserve happiness, peace, and joy in your life and someday you will find it.
@@10kCrows Sending you positive thoughts and energy. This pain and difficulty is temporary, even if it doesn’t feel that way!
Goin through something similar on this end, just a year later. How are y’all all doin now?
I was really looking forward to hearing your advice for a breakup, as I’ve been struggling with mine these last couple of weeks. Hearing you tell me i did a good job for ending my toxic relationship and that you’re proud of me felt so good, i started tearing up. I needed this. Thank you🥺💖
We own our life. So proud of you.
You're brave girl. It hurts now, but it won't always hurt. Someday you will be with the person you deserve
I came back to this comment and made a video for you. Stop! And mean it
As for breakups, the ones hurting can try to remember; you were in their path of life for a reason; you might not be meant to ever know it; but do know in your heart's understanding, that in they will remember you future. Just send sincere thoughts that whatever lesson they were meant to learn, that they see it one day and learn. Have confidence that this is a true fact in the universe. If at one time they were yours to love and appreciate; they are also yours to forgive in whatever time it takes you; doing this gives your soul a great honor- and contributes to healing and going forward in life. You'd be surprised what life presents you in time.
This is deep and high. I love you.
He was my first boyfriend, together for 2 years, I gave him everything even when my mom told me not to give him all of me. He fell out of love with me, he cares about me still which is so confusing, I want nothing more then to be in his arms.
Breakup is hardest when you still have feelings for them, and their feelings for you are confusing at best and painful at worst. My ex girlfriend recently broke up with me and we both still love eachother but she wasn't in a place in life for a relationship. It hurts most knowing once she was absolutely obsessed with me, and no doesn't want me in her life. The best way to go forward is to remember that THEY lost YOU. You are a deeply special, loving and caring person who is as much of a unique gift in the world as you believe your former lover to be. Someone out there will see you as special as you see your former partner now. You'll one day find peace and love and happiness. I see it's been about 10 months since you posted this comment, so I hope you're doing better now ❤️
@@shmaqzi9893 I just got broken up with for the EXACT same reason. So much love on both sides, she’s just not in a place for it anymore. I hope you’ve found peace now, because I’m so scared and sad and confused right now but I hope you’ve been able to find some clarity so that I know there’s hope for me too.
@@shmaqzi9893I just got dumped this Friday. It kinda came out of no where and I’m just lost. I feel like a fish outta water and I can’t breathe
Same happened to me to find out he was cheating
Hi, it’s been two years. It was very hard starting over, and at my age. I didn’t expect that kind of heartbreak or how hard to get past it. I’m so happy now with my little life, Thank you for being there, having tea with me.
I’m glad you got through it. You are really strong
Can I ask how old were you?
@@saltpepper7525 I was 54. I am 56 now. I would be sad a long time, but one day I would meet someone from thirty years ago. we would go fishing, and our dogs would fall in love, and so would we, and everyone would be surprised including the cheaters.
@@jojoberrypie6580 🤞🏼 I'm rooting for you!
Any advice on how to get through it. Just got out of a 7 month relationship. I know it’s not too long, I’m just young so it feels like a whole chunk of me is missing
You are most definitely not a boring person😍😍❤️😘🙏🏽
Not boring!!!
ik this comment was meant for haiying but today I was just bawling my eyes out bc I felt like I was too boring to have relationships so I appreciate this comment lol
@@panny2917 Hey I hope all is going well for you right now ok? Life can be hard sometimes but stay true to yourself and accept you for who you are because you are so much more special then you could ever imagine. I know you don't know me but I just hope youre doing ok because you deserve to be happy and you are deserving of so many great things
@@ohyes6485 I saw your message when you first replied and I was very grateful towards your kind words, but they've been in my heart ever since and I feel like I need to tell you directly just how much your words meant to me. Thank you so much
@@panny2917 It's really no problem. I'm so glad that I could help you open your eyes to the absolute truth. Please take care and enjoy your life because you fully deserve it ❤️❤️
"now, you can open up your door,
you can open up your window, and you can open up your eyes...
because before your eyes were blinded, you couldn't see anything.
now you can search the sky."
thank you so much for this video, and mostly, for these words. i hope to never forget them and carry them in my heart, each time i need to breathe and try again, one more time. you're such a blessing and a lovely person! i love your videos, thank you so much for your existence! 💜
Can I share with your name?
@@yanghaiying oh of course!!!
couldn’t have said that any better :)
@@matthewportillo5648 thank u!!!
I was in a relationship with a girl who had too many “just friends” on her Snapchat. After a while I realized that never in a relationship should you have to fight for attention. Never in a real relationship will your partner constantly surround themselves with other guys and leave you in the dark for most times. If anyone is in something similar or also know someone who going through this, tell them this “you can chase someone for days or years but in the end who’s chasing you in return?”
To all the broken hearts over here, we’ll get through this and come out better! 🙌❤️🙌 much love to you all.
I don’t really know where to start, I was in such a horrible place in my life when I met her. She made me the happiest guy I’ve ever been. She knew me on levels I’ve never shown people, not my close friends, my family. Then she told me she cheated and needed time away from me. It hit me like a truck, I was totally unprepared and I sank into a depression for a long time, my sleep, eating and studying all suffered. I drank, got angry, cried, thought about things that I would never have ever considered before. That feeling that you said in the video about being punched in the gut was exactly what it felt like it felt like an anchor had been attached to my stomach and that nothing would ever make me happy again. It’s only been two months and I still get pains in my heart anytime I see things that remind me of her but I promise if anyone is in this situation it gets better. It won’t go away completely, or at least it hasn’t for me yet. But you will crawl on forward. The one thing I will recommend is to devote yourself to doing something, anything, introspection will ruin you. I used to live in my head, my “new person” is coming. I promise not only to you but to myself that we will all move on.
We will get through this. You will, and you’ll come out stronger for it.
How r u now ???
Im sorry that happened man im dealing with somthing similar i havent thought of devoting myself 2 somthing so im gonna try working out ty brother good luck
@@mariomakhalil4977 took me ages to respond to this sorry but I can tell you and anyone else who’s interested that I’m better, it took me a lot longer than the time I posted this comment but I finally reached a point of happiness with my life. I barely think of her anymore and honestly I feel like I’ve finally reached a point to move on. I’m going on my first serious date for a long damn time tomorrow, I only allowed myself to start again when I felt happy without the need of someone else. If anyone else is in this situation and is reading through these comments because mine struck a nerve. I promise you, you will be happy, you will find time to live again and be complete without that person by your side. There are better people in the world who will love you for who you are.
@@bruh-nd2mx I hope you crush the gym man! Helped me more than I realised at the time it’s a good vent for everything but remember to work out for yourself and no one else.
7 years ago I broke up with my second wife. Two months later my father died. Weeks later I was homeless, living out of my Jeep in Goleta Ca in winter. I did that for 6 weeks. To stay sane I took walks and took photographs with my $50 phone. I listened to music at night before going to sleep under my down blanket. I counted the ways I was fortunate because that is what my father would have done. Yes, all things must pass, and they did. I am now content, living in the Pacific Northwest off of my SS and still take walks and still take photographs, but now with my sophisticated cameras. Life is good, but it is a rose on a thornbush. Enjoy it, but be careful. I am content, but not always happy. I'm ok with that. I am finally my own best friend. I used to blame myself first if there was a problem in my life. Now I know better. Breaking up is hard, and my dreams at night were filled with struggle, but in the morning I would start again and take on the day. I lost many friends, most of them actually. But there were a precious few who came alongside and helped me. At the suggestion of my daughter, I put up a gallery on Instagram and a similar thing happened as happened to you. My words, encouragement to a photographer from Europe brought her out of a deep depression. She was going to have shock therapy I was told later. But my daily responses to her elegant floral photographs evidently breathed hope into her despairing spirit. I was unaware of her situation. All I knew was that I loved her work and told her."Many a heart is broken by words left unspoken". She said later I saved her life. You are right. People watch us and listen. We are unaware of the impact our words can have.
All this to say...you are special to me. Your gentle voice has lulled me to sleep many nights. And when I listen to your voice I can hear your hearts longing. We are all a moment away from laughter or from tears. We must go through both together untill the moment passes.
The darkest hours are just before dawn my friend.
You are not boring, you possibly do the most human videos on TH-cam, I'll like to find more people like you to hear and communicate
Agreed
The fact that you flawlessly shifted from English to Mandarin to French near the end was so beautiful 😍
Its easy to forget a person, but not a betrayal engraved in your heart given by a person that you once love the most.
I needed this today. I lost my son four years ago: he was 25. I am in pain. It’s the worse break up I ever could have imagined.
I'm so, so sorry to hear that. sending love ❤
I'm very sorry for your loss
@@frances7575 thank you.
@@suewoo5 thank you.
We don’t know each other, but i promise you that things will currently get better. I can’t understand your sadness, but clearly there’s so much pain in the situation. If you need to hear it: you are strong. You are loved. You are important. And is going to be difficult, it probably is now, but you are doing your best and don’t blame yourself for feeling. Is the response to your own experience. ⭐️
This has got to be one of the most sincere, genuine, and wholesome channels I’ve ever come across. It’s so evident that you care about others and that you want to share that compassion. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being vulnerable and for advising others.
I just wanna say thank you. My boyfriend left me a few hours ago because he still can’t forget his ex girlfriend. I don’t even hate him and im happy that he was so honest with me. But i actually knew the whole time. However im laying in bed with fever and had a dream about him and her that they met and were you know, flirting and stuff and i was with them. woke up crying and then i looked for videos like yours and i feel understood. thank you.
my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday but this made me realize that it was for the best, we both had gotten bored. thank you!
Bored? Huh?
This legit came up in my recommended and it's been a bad day for me today. My boyfriend is thinking of breaking up with me, and it hurts so much to think he will.
Same. My GF betrayed me after 5 years. It's been two months since the breakup. A phrase I go by, is "Expect the worst, but hope for the best"
@@Plazali Just randomly seeing your comment. I had a hard break-up four years ago and it was incredibly painful, took me a longggg time to get over it. But I took it as a chance to not only get past the break up but to become a stronger person. Looking back this break up was by far the best thing that could have happened to me. TRUST THE PROCESS
Ruin his life.
@@jorgelopez4078 I'm trusting it... It's hard. I've forgiven her though. I'm not a vindictive person. I've forgiven, but won't make any attempts to talk unless she's willing.
Don't wait around for the axe to fall. You can still get out with your dignity. All the best. x
I’m 16 years old and just went thru my second real heartbreak within 4 years, it’s nice to hear someone put all my emotion into words and perspective. You are part of the reason I choose to stay alive, despite the unimaginable pit I feel in my heart .
thank you so much. my boyfriend broke up with me today, and it's valentine's day. i really needed to hear these comforting words. thank you.
KARS💓💓💓🏃
@@AishiCheemo 😘😘😘
@@catelawson16 we will get through this hunny ❤ sending positive vibes ur way
my boyfriend broke up with me on valentine’s day too :(
sending you love, it will all pass 🖤
i wish to have the kind of wisdom and beauty you have one day
You are eloquent.
We have the same nickname ❤️
your "this too shall pass" video popped up in my recommended videos this morning just as i felt i was losing hope completely, it was like a blessing to me, i just got out of a very toxic long term relationship in which i suffered a lot and i'm in a lot of pain, thank you for bringing me some moments of rest and comfort during these times. you touched my heart, thank you so much
thank you. i was finding it difficult to break up with someone who hurt me but this helped me understand it would be for the better.
to everyone here who also got out of a toxic relationship - i see you and i send my love. we love and respect ourselves too fiercely to have stayed in such a relationship. it is hard i know, and you may still love and remember the good things, but you deserve more than a love hurts you and causes you pain. love is not pain and love is easy.
Thank you for this. I’ve been heartbroken for almost a month now - hurting, aching profoundly. I lost the love of my life. I’m getting a little better every week but it’s still painful; I still cry often and feel deeply. Listening to you is calming. Thank you.
I hope you're doing better♡
I just got broken up with yesterday and it is unimaginably painful, I can't eat, I can't sleep and I can't stop crying. I miss him so much and it hurts so bad.
You think after going through many breakups it would hurt less because you have experienced it before, but it hurts just as much if not feels like it hurts more each time. I just ended my longest relationship of 3 years this morning, and this is the best video I've seen. It still doesn't even feel real and I've never broken up with someone before cause I stay in a relationship till its unhealthy and the other leaves but today I finally put up boundaries. This relationship has sucked the life out of me for years and lead me to the darkest point in my life. And I feel disbelief but surprisingly no pain after this breakup. Its early hours of the morning and I feel awake. Like I was living in a daz, I feel very free. Hearing birds chirp reminds me of how I felt when I was happy when I used to love mornings. Sorry for the rant just needed to tell someone, thanks so much for the video you are a really kind person :) and I really needed someone to tell me this was the right thing and that they are proud
Oh this is so good to hear. I just woke up early in the morning and went to backyard to listen to bird. The fresh earthy moist air! I am so sosososo happy for you. We are echoing.
Reading this right now while going through the exact same situation. Relationship of 3 years. Never been one to break up with someone just stay till it gets bad and they decide to leave. Today I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years that I live with. How do you feel now?
I'm not going through a breakup but my soul feels heartbroken lately, I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤ your kind words and warm energy helped me ease my hearbreak
It takes courage to initiate a reconciliation. Sometimes it means one has to swallow the pride. Only you know if it is worthy or not.
was just told he doesn’t care about me or my feelings, doesn’t want a relationship with me anymore, and doesn’t want anything to do with me completely out of the blue. feeling used and upset :(
I’m a very damaged individual and when I see your videos I love to listen to the things you have to say because they matter to you and you want it to matter to others too for themselves and that’s very nice that you’d sit here with us and give us comfort and reassurance. Thank you
I can honestly say this video saved my life. It’s too much to explain. I still fight everyday but without this video to fall asleep to, listen to, cry to… I would not have made It.
Someone I had been romantically involved with for a couple of months broke up with me out of nowhere on Sunday and it destroyed me entirely. I looked up ASMR videos on breakups and this was the first one I saw in the search results. Sadly, I wasn’t in a good mental state and couldn’t finish watching it. Tonight, I pulled up this video once more, and it’s really helping me flow through the pain I’m feeling right now… Thank you so much…
Been 1+ month since my breakup. Generally coping well, but I suddenly felt emotional today. This video helped a lot. Thank you!
Haiying, I come back day after day because of your authenticity, your peaceful way of speaking WITH us and your insights. Thank you from Australia x
Hi Harnetty, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. You can reach me through my email. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
I think you can have great compassion for others and feel for them, but also should maintain faith that other people have the ability to face and manage their challenges, so we don't need to hold onto anxiety or fear for other people, we can let that part go.
I like the meditation visualisation where you realise that emotions are like the ripples or waves on the surface of water or an ocean, but most of ourselves, our minds is deep and still water. It's very grounding.
Grief can be hard. It's best to care for yourself and accept the feelings and let them process as naturally as possible. I've had such different experiences of grief with different losses. It's unique each time. But there is a bittersweet element to the pain of loss that makes you realise how deeply you care and it does make you feel very alive experiencing strong emotion. It makes us more connected to each other too.
thank you so much for these
Thank you for your wisdom. I am on day 3 of a recent heartbreak of a 2 year relationship currently, she was seeing one of her ex's the past week that came back into her life after being gone for 4 years without a word to her, and she still had feelings for him without putting those feelings in the past to keep the present as it was. She wasnt sure who to pick or whether to remain single, so I wanted her to be happy and broke up with her. Yet I know she jumped back into his arms and are doing those things with him and I can't stop feeling the pain and have been crying so much since even to fall asleep in tears. I lost many friends while we were in our relationship because of her insecurities and lost the rest at the end when they got into our situation and took her side. Being without friends now and heartbroken without anyone, learning how to live on my own again is a struggle when I don't feel like getting out of bed nore the house anymore, I no longer see the point to living as this pain is constant.
I've never seen any of your videos before now. This video came at the perfect time, as my 4 year relationship just ended 12 days ago. I have been taking it one day at a time and have found a new strength, but have also struggled with the pain.
You will never know how much I needed this video today. Thank you for your compassion and your wisdom. You don't have to have expert lighting, your videos will find the people they are meant for at just the right time. 💜
How are you feeling now? I was broken up with a week ago after almost 2 years with my ex, its very hard to process the loneliness
@@ellewilliams4091 same here, I was broken up with a week ago after living together for a year, it's very painful. I hope you're doing okay ♡
After telling me over and over “Lets show our children how to love in a world that has forgotten to” they later left me and has over and over told my friends “I’m doing much better after the breakup” while I’ve descended to the point where it feels brighter at midnight in the forest than my room with 10+ lights in a 9ft x 9ft space.
When I show them that while they broke my heart I still care, they tell me that I’m “crawling back”, “giving in” “missing” them as soon as my “distractions” are gone. All I do is still care.
Its such a pain caring for the person while they make it look like you want them back.
I was doing fine and contacted them saying “Hey! Thanks for being a learning experience and making me have the time of my life, hope you get well. Its a bit grey for me right now but I hope I can find my rainbow soon.” They said “Oh look at her! She’s crawling back now once her distractions are over!” And I’ve cried ever since.
How are you doing now? I hope you’re doing better. Just know that time heals all and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know you didn’t ask for it but my advice would be to not contact them ever again, you deserve better than that and once a relationship ends it’s important to give yourself time to heal. You might feel like you have something important to say to them but I promise you even if you get the response you’re hoping for it will only bring more pain.
@@RS-ep2ry they become an asshole and I am over them, just fucking angry at them since 2 days after the relationship they started talking to someone else and then manipulates the person I was talking to so that that person leaves me for them
The end of this video really spoke to me. I went through a bad breakup several years ago and I thought my life was over, but it was because I let that person go that I was free to find someone who was a better match. I married that man a few months ago. Pain is a gift that leads us to someplace better.
Her charisma is next level
You will never know how much this wonderful little talk meant to me. Thank you so much for your kind words.
I watched this video a year ago when I got my heartbroken and I’m back again because I mutually parted with someone I loved, it somehow hurts more than before. This video helped so much last time so I know I’ll be okay eventually
He was my best friend in the entire world for eight years. And I wish I could be selfless. He chose someone over me because the long distance was unrealistic. And he was right. But he did it out of nowhere. He tried to just walk things back like we could be platonic with no trouble. And his friends mocked me. Every day for a month I have been waking up with the first thought in my head: "I'm just a joke."
I didn't realize how much hearing "I'm proud of you" about it would affect me. I have been feeling so small and worthless. I know you don't know me, but just... just hearing it from anyone made me feel for once that I'm not a joke. That someone, anyone, takes me seriously. Thank you.
i just got out of my first ever relationship and i never saw this coming. when they first told me they needed a break, i didnt know that it would end up like this. i let the break turn into something so much more, even though it wasnt supposed to end up this way at all. i was so broken inside that i didnt know what to do or how to act in the moment. my feelings turned me into a person i would never imagine myself. it hurt my partner in the worst way that i never would want to treat them. they deserved so much better from me but i just couldnt reach the expectations. all of this caused the breakup and it really hurts. ive been struggling lately to get over it but yet again, it was my first relationship and they were my first ever love. i look at this breakup as something to grow from and rather not something to dwell upon. things were meant to be this way, and im sure that there is going to be something for you in the future. keep your head up, the future has a plan for you. :)
he broke up with me last week. he promised he wouldn’t and still said he loved me. its unfair. it hurts me so much how he was able to leave me so quick. i know i need to distance myself and learn how to be okay but i cant. it hurts to be without him. i miss him being in my life, i miss his voice and his presence. i cant keep trying anymore.
thank you so much. i know this video is a bit older but it's still amazing.
my boyfriend told me he wants a break, one day before our anniversary which is today. and this is after repeatedly cancelling plans with me, ghosting me, etc.
i met him at a rough spot in my life and he knows me better than anyone else. hes comforted me throughout all my episodes, he knows how to calm me in social situations, he understands my needs and feelings without having to ask. this was really a punch in the gut and it's hard to even breathe without him.
so thank you. this has been incredibly comforting and healing for me, and i appreciate you :)
“you put your heart and soul in it… and then it’s gone” that rlly hit me hard 😭
It makes me so happy when I see the older generations here on TH-cam. My love and admiration for you.❤️
This popped up on my feed today and I do needed to hear this message. Rejection is so painful but you are correct...it is a gift. Thank you. ❤️
Hi Moon, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
I am completely heartbroken in this moment, as I know that many people who came to this video are too. I must say I'm thankful for this lady's words...even in pain, I was able to feel her words. Keep your hard work, it makes all the diference! And to everyone who's struggling, wish to each of you the strenght needed to survive. You will do it!
You are such a gentle, kind soul.
Today has been a hard day as my soon to be former husband has finally left the house. I wanted the divorce and I know why I did, but today I was going through the grief which made me have some doubts, even wanting to reverse the decision. The truth is my marriage was never what I hoped it would be and I think something in me still wanted to cling to that hope. You saying you're proud of us for breaking up, good job, that really brought some relief. I've cried so much today and my heart weighed heavy, but this video has helped me immensely. Thank you so much!
praying for your healing, please keep your head up and always know that god is watching over you forever. 🖤
This is a really good channel!
Just got broken up with last night. Knew them for a year and they completely left. Found this video today. Thank you for the comfort.
I'm revisiting this video after going through a drawn-out breakup this year and the loss of my mother last year. Both things happened around the same time of year. I'm dealing with two griefs at once. It's hard now, but I have hope that this hardship will lead to better clarity in life later on.
your love in this message is truly appreciated
i just love how many other people love these lady's videos!! make me happy to know this cute lady gets to make fun and inspiring videos everyday because of us
Because of YOU!
Thank you for this message ♥️
This is something on my mind lately not because of Valentine’s Day but because it’s almost the anniversary that my ex and I had for our relationship.
I ended a relationship that lasted a few years about 10 months ago, it was necessary but so very painful.
It’s weird to think that we don’t talk anymore, that’s it’s been almost a year and we may never do so again.
I’ve done a lot of healing and work on myself, and am still working on it. I’m still not ready and emotionally healthy/stable/aware of my deeper self and capable of managing my emotions and recognizing what’s going on deeper than the flash of anger (eg actually fear). It’s the first time I’ve been “single” for more than 3 months for a decade which was really not healthy for me either.
Anyway, it was so relevant! :)
I broke up totally with my ex, who was trying to come back. But I don't trust him anymore, and there is nothing I can do about it. I loved him so much it was a dream come true for me, but his verbal abuse, lies and manipulation became unbearable for me. He had big plans for us for the future, he told me this lately, but I couldn't see myself with him anymore. I'm still healing from this relationship. A break up is like a little dead, it's a loss, but like in many other things in life, we need acceptance. So I accept this pain and this healing at the same time, as part of life.
@Mitsubishi Lancer Evo V only God knows it.
I’m so glad this came up on my recommended it’s like I really needed to hear this right now
Thank you... I’m currently having to accept that my parents are not healthy people, and that in order to become and adult I’m going to have to separate from them... I know this separation is a chance for them to grow too, but it’s still so painful. I felt abandoned, and then to feel as though I am abandoning them in turn is unbearable.
But there is a large difference between genuine, universal compassion, and keyhole “idiot,” compassion. Sometimes love is hard, and being loving means you have to hurt and be hurt.
I don’t know where I am going with this. Your videos always help center me, and reassure me, that there are good people trying to put kindness into the world.
Thank you again, I’m so glad I found your calligraphy videos all those years ago
Hello :) I’ve been single for almost two years now, my second semester in college. I’m genuinely happy now and I’ve allowed myself to live in and heal. I finally have a new crush and... this advice.. I needed to hear it. Thank you so much ❤️ I never knew I needed to hear this.
this is all i want
I was going through a very rough time when your this too shall pass video was brought to my attention (I think for a reason) and now today my boyfriend and I split and today this video found me ...I may sound crazy but I believe the universe is truly sending me your videos to tell me something I need to hear ...thank you ❤️
Thank you for this. Ps. I would go to your skillshare class. You aren’t boring. We appreciate you!
5 months ago my girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me, tried to kill her self, and then 2 weeks later cheated on me again. Among that she said so many terrible things to be the last month of our relationship. It has absolutely been destroying me and ruined my mental state. I’m extremely depressed and my anxiety has gotten so bad I’ve developed hypochondria. I tried medicine but it didn’t do anything but give me bad side effects. I really needed this video. One day at a time.
I am so sorry. I wish I could help you.
I broke up with my bf a month ago. It was a friends-to-lovers relationship. 6 years of friendship and 2 as a couple, now I realize that you never truly know someone until a rough patch. He was disloyal the second he felt something was off between us💔 I feel like I will never trust someone else, I don't believe in my perception anymore. Thanks for your kind words during this journey ❤
Such a wonderful video, full of truth and hope, which is exactly what someone needs when dealing with loss. ❤️ Something that's helped me with getting over a romantic relationship is the truth that it's such a waste to love someone who doesn't love you back... you have all that love to give and they don't appreciate it-and if you don't take care of yourself and make the decision to move on, that'll really tear you apart over time. And no, it's not easy to let go either, but that pain is temporary; if you accept that it's over and let yourself have time to process the grief, you will get over that person and not love them anymore. I know it's hard to believe that when you're hurting, but it's true. Give yourself time to heal and focus on the truth, and you'll move on and be so happy you did, especially since the wonderful thing about being able to finally let go is the possibility of finding someone who will give you the love and respect you deserve. But either way, not wasting something as precious as love on someone who doesn't appreciate it is the main thing to focus on. Give that energy to what truly deserves it.
I really needed this right now thank you so much it’s nice to know how I’m feeling is normal and it will get easier even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, that but hit me deep
Your voice is extremely calming and mother-like. You have a true talent for what you do and not many on this platform can compare. 💯
I feel so good that I am part of your TH-cam family, even if it's small. I love you and all of your videos. There is nothing boring about you. xo
Hi Lisa, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
You are not boring. Nope, not boring. Funny how we can allways find our own faults (unless we are not aware of them) but in your case
your humility accuses you of something of which you are not guilty. Thankyou.
This is the realest conversation I’ve had in weeks. And I didn’t even speak! Thanks you so much for sharing miss Yang Hai, much love to you too 💕
it hurts because it was over so quickly - all that time of love was over in a few days and it doesn’t truly feel real
I've been feeling really down this afternoon and then I came across with this video. Your voice is really soothing and now i feel a little bit better. Hearing you is comforting.
Thank you so much, tonight I was anxious and in pain, your words calmed me, your energy makes me feel safe.
Thank you so much for this video, I was very much in love and I thought my wife was too. We have a young boy together and I'd always thought we were the perfect family. Until one day she decided she'd rather be with someone else. I've been in a deep depression for awhile, and this video is the first time I've actually felt hopeful. Thank you so very much.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Sending love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is such a powerful video, thank you for this. ❤️
"There is always something good out of the bad" and that good thing is freedom from a relationship that doesn't serve you. Everything was beautifully said, and it's true that it's important to get up and do something no matter how hard it is.
I've seen one video before and clicked on this and automatically subbed. i like her accent and realness.
She's a true joy
Honestly I just want to say thank you so much. I've broken up with this person and we're in break or so they said. It's been driving me nuts and the end I feel is near though I don't want it to be. Yet I feel I need it to end. It hurts to end it I can't ever imagine it. I started loosing my mind and your words really helped me organize myself better in my thoughts and see fron other prescriptives. I'm in pain still but your video of these amazing words helped me think clearer
It is heartbreaking when you watch your loved one slip away from you, day by day, month by month or year by year. You hold on with hope, but are let down by an excessive amount when they are finally gone.
My boyfriend who convinced me to break-up with him several times because of how poorly he treats and treated me, broke up with me and I think it was because he knew it would hurt me when he said he didnt want to, and so it finally happened… to have no say in it is just pure abandonment… you feel so alone..
@yanghaiying you make me cry and then laugh! What a wonderful conversation. Thank you!
Hi Jess, have been through things as well, you mind if we communicate, I would be looking forward to your response. ( Ethan Harry Rhode) is my Facebook name. Thank you.
Great message, like all your videos. Something that made me so happy and wasn't expecting is that after 4 years studying Chinese, with all of its ups and downs and moments of wanting to give up forgetting all about it and go back to my country, when you switched to Chinese and I could understand you made me so happy and glad that I didn't gave up, also listening you speaking french as well inspire me to not giving up in my learning of other languages. 感谢您提醒我为什么我喜欢学习中文和语言。
I admire you and look up to you. You inspire me
Thanks for this, it gave me some good reminders I really needed.
I'm struggling to get over a break up. It was a relationship that burned fast but bright, and my first time actually feeling in love in a relationship. I was convinced we had something deep and he told me that he trusted me, that he felt a connection, that we'd keep experiencing beautiful things together and learning together. Nothing really went wrong (yes, even according to him), one day he just realized that he didn't actually feel a connection to me, that I wasn't what he wanted. Despite all the tenderness and kindness and trust I had given him, despite all of the beautiful moments we had together.
I'm struggling with a complex mess of feelings now- did I do something wrong? Am I not lovable? Did he lie to me, did he use me? Can I even trust myself? Do I still love him or do I hate him? The bitter feelings just won't leave me alone. It's been months and I just keep feeling like I'm missing him.
I have to know that the problem was his though. I took the risk of opening up to him and offering my love, and he is the one who let our relationship down, not me. Instead of hating him, I should thank him for his honesty, for not keeping me trapped in a one-sided relationship. He was incapable of reciprocating my love but I know he isn't the only person in the world I'm capable of loving. There are so many great people out there who probably go unnoticed, and out of all of them, one will love me, someday. Instead of taking from this experience that I'm not worth loving, I'll see what it really taught me about myself- that I can be intimate and love others deeply, when before I met him I didn't think I could.
Until I meet someone else, if I ever do, I'm just trying to love my own life, love the little things, the small ups, even the downs- because sometimes feeling sadness is better than feeling nothing at all.
I feel like I overshared, but since I've been feeling so alone in this, maybe someone will relate to my situation and feel less alone.
You so profoundly touched me. I feel every single word was coming from my own heart. Love yourself, you are precious. Love yourself so much that your self love is over flowing, flooding and you are radiating and attracting. Any person who is not blind will chase you and wait in line to be called! I mean once you are internally enriched, chances will come. As we always say, chase your heart, the rest will chase you! Much love.
@@yanghaiying Thank you for the beautiful response, and much love to you too!
there are a lot of hardships happened in my life last times…
toxic relationships, painful breakups, betrayal, then war, a new relationship in another country which is also complicated. i watched this video approximately half a year ago, and i still come back here to let everything go. thank you very much! our society needs people like you ❤️
you have my whole heart ❤️
This video is from two years ago but , thank you. I needed it. I really just cried the whole video. Your calming voice and gentle but so humble and real words made me feel secure. I would have liked to have you in my entourage, to really just ask for advices from you or just talk and listen to you talk, or just talk around some tea. So much peace and healthy mood. Thank you. A lot❤
This felt so natural comforting and lovely, thank you xx
I adore you! I am so happy that you came up in my recommendations during these hard times that I’m going through. ♥️ 🤗
What an amazing smart human being. I feel blessed to have found your channel! Thank you
it’s really hard when it’s your best friend telling you you’re not enough anymore. it’s been hard for me to see myself in a good light nowadays and not blame myself for the breakup. i appreciate this video though, the timing is perfect.
Two different breaks up with two different people, but yet I’m back to the same video. Though this time it hurts less thanks to you 💕
Your voice is so soothing and your words are so comforting. Thank you for that. I went through a break up 6 mos ago. I’m trying to remain in gratitude that it’s over. Had I stayed in it I would have had to give up everything I’ve built as well as moving away from my family but I could not see what I would be gaining in exchange. When I asked for clarity they broke up with me. At least I got my answer and I know getting out of it was the best thing for me. For all of the love professed to me I was dropped like I didn’t mean anything. Never a phone call or letter afterwards. I’m free and I deserve much better. I’m already better off on my own. May they find peace.