"If you decided to kill yourself... wait one more day." This line made me begin to sob. I needed to hear it so badly. I am trying my hardest, Haiying, and your videos and wisdom make it a little easier.
"Do you want to do something or do you want to be perfect?" I really needed to hear this today. I've spent the last week obsessing over my resume because I'm scared it's not perfect enough. But I want to get the thing done, so I have to stop worrying about perfection. Thanks for sharing this.
Idk if this would be helpful or not but I was taught something so basic that it truly changed my life. I used to go, go, go and sit down and try to finish everything at once. But then I was taught to do things in sections of time, make a list of everything you need to do that day and assign it a certain amount of time for each task....this includes taking breaks. I couldn't believe how much more I accomplished in a day and didn't feel bogged down and stressed out. I also heard a wise person say " if there's something you really want in your life, make a grocery list for it. We always get what's on the grocery list, right? I think we can get depressed by ruminating on the things we can't change or control, it can make us feel ungrounded. So, start organizing what you want by making a list. Start small. Listen to motivational videos right here on TH-cam, stay positive, you can do this! One day at a time, just focus on what you plan for today! Don't think about yesterday, it's gone. Tomorrow isn't here yet. Just today 🥰
In German, there is a concept of indecision, where you are concerned of the possible outcomes so much, that you do nothing. It is mostly used in the context of chess, where the rules state that you **must** make a move, but doing so will lead to your defeat. The term is Zugzwang. I kept thinking about this as you spoke. Sometimes it is best to just sit and do nothing. It. Can. Wait.
This morning I woke up feeling sad. I suffer from depression and anxiety, and sometimes its too much for me to bear it. I remember thinking that I didn’t want to be a human today. So, I took the day off from work and stayed in bed for a bit. I kept thinking that it this day, or me taking time off work wouldn’t matter in 3 years, so why would I feel bad about it? Don’t forget to take care of yourselves first, everything else can wait. Thank you for those beautiful words.
Working on your mind body and soul will help. Try and exercise everyday even if it's raining just get out and walk. Try things you've never done before meditation, listen to calming music, painting colouring anything creative and relaxing. Do something for yourself, life really can suck at times I know I've been there, but you can be happy again, don't give up.
Not even limited to the activities you mentioned. It doesn't necessarily have to be "calming" either (I'm saying it for any activity but also referring back to the music example (obviously you can also learn an instrument, create or mix music)). The spices of life is what makes it so enjoyable (or at least exciting) as they say. Good comment.
Hey Sara. You probably have immense talent at what you do. It’s okay to feel pain, your happiness will return after the pain has reached its end and experiences clarify into reason. I had the feeling to write you this 🖤
You were in my recommended. I definitely believe this was a sign from the universe. My life is good but my mental health not so much. Your beautiful words and wisdom has affected me. You have an excellent way of conveying your message. Im happy to be a new subscriber. Thank you
Have you ever considered yourself as a lightworker because I think you are! You inspire people and you create a little personal space for each single one of us to sit down and catch a breath.
I’m so glad you posted this video. Your gift is to be an encourager. You do it so beautifully. Please don’t say your talk was empty. Your words are so needed.
Haiying, this made me so emotional. I've been feeling terrible for so long and yesterday-- to put it simply-- I caused harm to myself. I'm surprised I woke up this morning, but I think I was meant to because as soon as I checked my phone I saw the notification of this video and felt some peace. I am still in an awful situation and I am powerless to get out of it. But thank you beyond words for this. It has planted a seed of hope in my heart
You may be powerless in your situation, but your soul and heart is full of power. Glad you woke up. Situations change even when we can’t see how. As she says, this too shall pass x
never really had parental figures in my life (abusive dad, chronically ill and mentally unstable mother), these are healing really deep, really painful wounds one video at a time. thanks, beautiful
Wow, such similar situation to mine! Just that I never met my dad and I have an abusive older halfbrother....but my mom is mentally very ill she sleeps the whole day, it very dysfunctional living with the kind of people I live with...but hey, life is unfair you know. We just have to keep kicking and stay strong!
I used to be scared to get old, to be old. I see you and I see a beautiful soul and a wise woman. I hope I can be as wise as you are when I'm your age. Thank you so much for your words.
to all those who waited one more day, maybe two, i'm proud of you. you're doing well i promise you're on the upswing and always remember that it can wait
This woman somehow sounds like my Gramma with an accent, and it's tripping me out, but I love it. She passed away on May 23rd, 2018, and I miss her every single day. Thank you for making this beautiful video with such calm wisdom. God Bless you. 💜🌻
I enjoy your videos and find them thought provoking. I'm not sure what it is that keeps me coming back to watch them, but there is something in me that responds to them. Thank you for putting the time and thought into them, and know that you are helping to counteract the negative aspects of life. I wish you long life and many seasons.
I really, really needed this tonight. Thank you so much. You are such a light in what can sometimes be quite a dark world. Your heart is big and loving and that shows in every video you make. I hope that when YOU face hardships, you may feel how loved and appreciates you are. You can overcome.
Thank you so much. I constantly feel stressed about exams from my college classes. I’ve never been good at math but I feel so pressured to get everything right from the school and my classmates. I just need to slow down and accept my best for what it is. Thank you so much for this video.
I feel you on this!! College has been so rough, especially during this pandemic. But you’re doing great just by trying and getting through it :) Good luck on your exams! Don’t forget to rest and take care of yourself 🙏🏽
This was much needed advice from someone much wiser. As someone who is young and is somehow going through the world with so much trouble and many options life can seem daunting. You are right about making mistakes young and enjoying life thank you
Pretty much summed up my thoughts - it can feel overwhelming when young but time and experience teach us how to get comfortable with our challenges and accept and love ourselves for who we are.
This reminded me of things I was muttering to myself about recently, I told myself. If I can dump toxic folks out of my life. If I can learn to Drive.. If I can still tell myself: I want to Live. If I can stay on track with chores. If I can practice self-care.. If I can finish 79/1000 Cranes If I can pay attention to My Mom & Cat. Than I can rebuild that Art Side Hustle. I can relearn Spanish. I can finish digitizing my written projects. I can finish those Cranes. I can stick to Keto. I can Find that Job. And I just found you today. But I told myself something similar 2 Days ago.
A recent subscriber and a huge lover of your videos. This came up today as suggested video. Today, my 3rd baby should be turning 1. I lost them at 10 weeks and today has been heavy on my heart. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart to yours. Anyone reading this...please know I love you and we all need you.
I needed to hear this today. I went through a period years ago where things went really bad and I worked hard to learn to balance life better to avoid similar problems in the future. I came to many of the same conclusions as you, including what you say: it can wait. Not everything has to be done immediately and I am not a bad person if everything is not taken care of at once. I tell people this all the time so that they can learn from my horrible experiences the lessons I wished I knew then. But today was especially hard and I was falling back into bad habits. This video has helped me anchor myself a little. So thank you for making and sharing it. It sounds like it has touched a lot of other people too. The only negative thing I will say though is that when you are suicidal it is often something you can't just "think positive" through or think of family and decide not to do. Sometimes those things actually make you more likely to carry through because you will beat yourself up for even having the impulse in the first place and your despair will grow. You will feel guilty that the impulse is even occurring. We don't want to cause our loved ones pain; in those moments though the pain gets to the point of being almost unbearable. People need compassion in those moments more than anything. Maybe there are people who are not thinking of others and how it will make them feel, but there are plenty of people who are already thinking of their loved ones and still the despair is too great. Thinking about them more will only make it worse at that point. People need help. I apologize for such a long comment. I loved this video, but I want to make sure that people who have never contemplated suicide know that it is not something you can just positively think your way though a lot of the time. One of the biggest stigma's on people who commit suicide is that they were being selfish (didn't they think of the people who love them?). Of course they thought of the people who loved them. It is helpful for people who have never experienced this to imagine what it must be like to feel so much despair that even thinking of those you love and the pain you will cause them is not enough to stave away the despair that is driving you to madness or to stay your hand. It is not selfish and it is not an easy fix. It is tragic.
To the person reading this: You are who you are. You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation. You are a masterpiece. You are who you are. You are strong and courageous. You can absolutely do it. You are powerful. Remind yourself that you are who you are. Move forward with your determination, and conviction. You can absolutely do it. Have a great day ahead, Remember you are who you are. ❤️❤️❤️
Bless your soul Haiying, those were words I really needed to hear right now, and I thank you for that. I just came back from the doctor and she just gave me a whole week off because of burnout, and despite it affecting my happiness and physical health long term now, I thought of not taking the days at all so I wouldn’t cause any trouble at work. In the end, even though it felt really hard, I did take the sick leave but I felt awful because of it at first. I know this probably must sound silly to most people, but I really struggled to let go and prioritize myself for once. Then I saw your video and it really inspired me. It put my mind at ease that I made the right decision, and that it’s not me at fault, but the system for overworking me. I deserve better, I deserve healing. I know I live in a privileged country to be able to take time off like this, and I’m very much aware and grateful for that. Thank you all for listening to my ramblings, you’re all wonderful people
I totally totally understand you and I do the same as you. We have personal days off. Over the years, I have not taken them, because I don't want to prepare the sub plan, and I don't want students ask why there is a substitute not you. Anyway, I weigh the benefit of day off vs. preparing for day off. I choose not to take day off. Whatever is good, we just need to take it lightly and reasonably. Right?
@@yanghaiying I absolutely relate to you, I also studied to become a teacher and it can be a struggle, especially because you feel like students depend on you and making a sub plan is also a lot of effort. But it is also good to take some personal days if you really need it. Something I often think about is the following thought exercise: Whatever decision I’m making right now, how will I remember it in 1 year? How will I remember it in 5 years? What about a decade? It helps put things in perspective and stops us from worrying too much. I’m sure your students won’t remember those days off if you were to take them, but they will remember the fun lessons they had with you :)
I’ve been very stressed about my classes and my work lately, and this helps a lot. Especially the part about perfectionism. Thank you. You are wonderful.
I do not know if you aware of this but Gibi ASMR mentioned you in one of her videos, i believe it was the asmr trivia night video. Made me very happy to hear a bigger creator talk about such a good channel as your own
That "wait one more day" is true af. Whenever I feel like doing it, I tell myself, "not now, give it one more day, if nothing changes do it tomorrow night" I guarantee a lot can change in that single day.
I've been suicidal all my life. I felt and still feel like there's no point. I don't really have friends and I continue to be blinded and lost from all of life and happiness. God has been good and my family has always continued to be there for me, but my mental state continues to ignore all the good. Those words feeling burnt out is true thats really the only way I can describe how I feel 24/7. I'm thankful for this video and your words it actually is soothing hiring your voice it as if you are guiding me to know I will be okay. I lost my friend Mia in 2018 to suicide we were 15 and she is going to be 17 this year in May. I miss her alot and it's really hard to know that she is gone. She deserved better in this world and was beyond this world I miss her so much. Knowing I can't talk or hear her really kills me, but I know she is okay and is in good hands. To anyone battling depression and suicidal thoughts I can promise you it is okay and life is brighter as long as you wait. I thank God for this video, everyone around me, I thank God for Mia, I Thank God for my family, and I thank God for you.
You are a very beautiful human being. You said that you weren't sure about posting this, but it really means a lot. I will not forget you or your precious words.
I'm not sure how this video found me but I'm so glad it did ! I truly needed to hear this because I've been so overwhelmed with keeping up my classwork and preparing myself for grad school plus worrying if I'm making the right decision for my future. Your advice has given me so much clarity that it has moved me to tears of joy and I so feel relieved now. Thank you so much !!!!
Thank you for this! I am very suicidal. This video had been in my recommended for a few days and I had been ignoring it. I'm so glad I finally watched it! You are so wise. Thank you!
I truly needed this video i've being going through deep loneliness and just another dark night of the soul. Thank you so much for posting it. Love you yanghailying
IT CAN WAIT WAS SUCH BIG WORDS DURING MY HEALING PROCESS It helped me using these words during my healing. ( ‘ it can wait ‘ ) I live for the day ,I live for the moment AMAZING VIDEO
I’ve been feeling extremely suicidal lately due to one of the most traumatic experiences that has ever happened to me that is still happening to me and I still have to worry about it everyday, it’s so tiring and I have tried to be more relaxed about things but it’s a lot harder than it’s made out to be. I definitely relate to the burnout she mentioned in this video, anyways my point is this video was very reassuring ❤️
As a 20 year old, I truly appreciate your videos. It feels like I’m having an insightful conversation with a friend filled with wisdom in life Thank you for all your videos ❤️
"speak loud to yourself" thank you for saying this. This is my last year of school and im going to apply to the universiry which is completely new life step, so right now i feel like i cant find myself becauce of anxiety thought going on my mind. But this little advice "speak loud and do mistakes " made me feel so calm, like i remembered something that i forget. Tnank you. I wish you a good day !
I almost didn’t wait. Now I have a most beautiful life. Still up and downs but so very beautiful. Please know that this stranger loves each of you, believes in you and appreciates your unique self. I send you hugs filled with love💕✨
Thank you for your words and empathy. I suffered complete burnout recently from trying to be perfect and realized it’s not worth it to strive for the unattainable. Taking life slowly now while I heal. I hope this video reaches many people. 💗
I don’t know how to thank you enough for this video. It is so timely. I just gave birth to a baby and initially I was hoping to go back to work soon after it, but the baby keeps sleeping on my and nursing all day, and even though I love her, I keep beating myself up for not working, for being “lazy,” for being tired all the time. And them today I saw your video and felt better for the first time. Thank you!
As a mother myself, the best gift we can give to our children is to be with them, especially their baby years. We only have 3 years to hold them. In no time, they are going to college. We can always go back to work or restart our career, with more compassion, understanding and maturity. You are doing a great favor to your child, your family and society.
My dear lady, nothing that you talk about is "empty." You are a true gem.This talk is very important and needed by millions. God bless you. Sending you love.
This video and your wisdom, when I first watched it, when you first uploaded this, found me during a very bad time. I had been working in the COVID ward taking care of people and my mental health was beyond bad. I left that job, changed careers, and now am a laboratory technician in a job and career I love. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Truly did spur me to change my life in a direction I am happy with. Much love
I keep coming back to this video! I've been wanting to die for the last 4 years as my brain has a low stress level. I am so glad I found you! (typing this makes me want to sob again)
There is a song by amanda palmer that I was reminded of by this, that goes "play your favorite cover song, especially if the words are wrong, cause even if your grades are bad, it doesn't mean you're failing." Dont do it perfect- just do it.
I’ve never been able to relate to people who tell celebrities or others that they’ve saved their life and now I can finally relate and confidently say YOUVE saved mine you are so appreciated thank you
I’m so happy this woman decided to start TH-cam...knowledge is knowing how to make a channel, wisdom is knowing when to make the channel Thank you mother ♥️
Thank you for this!! you help me to take a step back and realize there is more to life than whatever little stressful moment i am in :) life truly is full of joy and beauty, i just need to remember to recognize it
I dunno if this will help anyone, but when I was younger I really wanted to kermit swiss slide and so I chose an age where I could do it but it was more than 10 years away from then and so it could wait. So since that time sometimes I'll still want to disappear but now I understand how much I matter to other people and that is what keeps me going even if I don't feel like I matter to myself. So if you are reading this and feel as though you do not matter to anyone, pause think about yourself and find one thing you love about yourself it can be physical or nonphysical. And know that if you were to disappear there would be no one there to know of your beauty or this wonderous part of yourself, so keep going so you can meet people who will appreciate that part of you as well and help you grow and build you up. Also there is a chance that there are other people who see you as a wonderful human being and care about your well being even if you can't feel it.
"If you decided to kill yourself... wait one more day."
This line made me begin to sob. I needed to hear it so badly. I am trying my hardest, Haiying, and your videos and wisdom make it a little easier.
Two more days, so you can read my reply.
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Sending all the love and strength you need to keep on fighting ❤️ I come to these videos to find wisdom and strength aswell xx
This too shall pass!!! Sending you faith and hope!!! 💕
Taking care of yourself (mind, body, and soul) IS productive.
blessings to you .🤙🏽🫀🌌
Absolutely!
Don't forget the feelings
@@squirrelcoom yes that would be the mind & soul :)
Yeah cause you are all you got at the end of the day and you need to take care of yourself so you can make it through.
I don't have any guidance and I've been having mental breakdowns almost every day. I appreciate your guidance so much.
This is a very hard time. I’m glad her video helped you see a different perspective, and I hope you see your value to the world ❤️
Same here, but these comments seem like a very safe place, doesn't it? You are not alone, I support you, and like she says, "this too shall pass" ❤
Have you watched The Crappy Childhood Fairy on youtube? She's really helpful 😊
@@matilda628 💗
@@spookytv2 yes, everyone is so kind. This is the support me and so many other people need.
If we don’t find the meaning of it, it would be wiser to say “no”... to move on.
Words I need today.
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"Do you want to do something or do you want to be perfect?"
I really needed to hear this today. I've spent the last week obsessing over my resume because I'm scared it's not perfect enough. But I want to get the thing done, so I have to stop worrying about perfection. Thanks for sharing this.
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Don’t overthink things!! U got this!
Idk if this would be helpful or not but I was taught something so basic that it truly changed my life. I used to go, go, go and sit down and try to finish everything at once. But then I was taught to do things in sections of time, make a list of everything you need to do that day and assign it a certain amount of time for each task....this includes taking breaks. I couldn't believe how much more I accomplished in a day and didn't feel bogged down and stressed out. I also heard a wise person say " if there's something you really want in your life, make a grocery list for it. We always get what's on the grocery list, right?
I think we can get depressed by ruminating on the things we can't change or control, it can make us feel ungrounded. So, start organizing what you want by making a list. Start small. Listen to motivational videos right here on TH-cam, stay positive, you can do this! One day at a time, just focus on what you plan for today! Don't think about yesterday, it's gone. Tomorrow isn't here yet. Just today 🥰
@@kated315 Thank you, this sounds like good advice! I'll give that strategy a try!
@@gnawgnawgnaw thank you!
In German, there is a concept of indecision, where you are concerned of the possible outcomes so much, that you do nothing. It is mostly used in the context of chess, where the rules state that you **must** make a move, but doing so will lead to your defeat. The term is Zugzwang. I kept thinking about this as you spoke. Sometimes it is best to just sit and do nothing. It. Can. Wait.
yes I think the term in English is "analysis paralysis"
Zugzwang, huh? It sounds funny to me because I don't know German. Just like the word: "Limbo"
In hindsight, accepting defeat can be liberating.
This woman is so full to the brim with wisdom. Listen to her and take it to heart!
I am a warrior and I will fight for my life so that I can help other people fight for theirs
4:16 "if a deal cannot sustain one day, it cannot sustain"
Yes!! Hit me like a wave of relief!
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"When you have a goal, you are ready to change yourself."
If you're reading this, you're loved and valued and you're a badass. Keep going 💞
"You do what you can, and you do not do what you cannot." Beautiful.
She's definitely an angel.
But what if you don't know what you can't do and thus you pressure yourself to do more
This morning I woke up feeling sad. I suffer from depression and anxiety, and sometimes its too much for me to bear it. I remember thinking that I didn’t want to be a human today. So, I took the day off from work and stayed in bed for a bit. I kept thinking that it this day, or me taking time off work wouldn’t matter in 3 years, so why would I feel bad about it? Don’t forget to take care of yourselves first, everything else can wait. Thank you for those beautiful words.
“If a deal cannot sustain one day, it cannot sustain” ! I really needed to hear that thank you much love 💕
Working on your mind body and soul will help. Try and exercise everyday even if it's raining just get out and walk. Try things you've never done before meditation, listen to calming music, painting colouring anything creative and relaxing. Do something for yourself, life really can suck at times I know I've been there, but you can be happy again, don't give up.
Not even limited to the activities you mentioned. It doesn't necessarily have to be "calming" either (I'm saying it for any activity but also referring back to the music example (obviously you can also learn an instrument, create or mix music)). The spices of life is what makes it so enjoyable (or at least exciting) as they say. Good comment.
i can’t believe the simple sentence “not in a rush” sounds like such a relief. thank you for this video. so so so much. ❤️
me, too
I've been undergoing so much burnout :( and I feel shameful and empty. Thank you for this ❤
Hey Sara. You probably have immense talent at what you do. It’s okay to feel pain, your happiness will return after the pain has reached its end and experiences clarify into reason. I had the feeling to write you this 🖤
Me too. College is hard and you don’t have time to relax from burning out,
@@kyliesmith621 i feel that completely, i hope you take time to rest. i’m sending you lots of healing and love:)
You were in my recommended. I definitely believe this was a sign from the universe. My life is good but my mental health not so much. Your beautiful words and wisdom has affected me. You have an excellent way of conveying your message. Im happy to be a new subscriber. Thank you
It is the universe brings us together. Comment of the day! Thank you.
❤️❤️❤️❤️ please don’t give up on life. We’ll hold each other up.
Have you ever considered yourself as a lightworker because I think you are! You inspire people and you create a little personal space for each single one of us to sit down and catch a breath.
You are literally saving lives. Thank you. ❤️
I’m so glad you posted this video.
Your gift is to be an encourager. You do it so beautifully.
Please don’t say your talk was empty. Your words are so needed.
Haiying, this made me so emotional. I've been feeling terrible for so long and yesterday-- to put it simply-- I caused harm to myself. I'm surprised I woke up this morning, but I think I was meant to because as soon as I checked my phone I saw the notification of this video and felt some peace. I am still in an awful situation and I am powerless to get out of it. But thank you beyond words for this. It has planted a seed of hope in my heart
I am so happy you woke up and you wrote this comment. Wait me, don't go, I will reply, and you need to read.
You may be powerless in your situation, but your soul and heart is full of power. Glad you woke up. Situations change even when we can’t see how. As she says, this too shall pass x
How are you now? I also ask you to just wait. Wait another day. You are loved.
@@deendrew36 I am hopeful :) This too shall pass
You are important. I have been there before. I am glad I am still here. Hang in there. Each day is a new chance.
I can wait one more day...
Say this again tomorrow. Love.
This came at such a good time for me. I've been feeling anxious about a lot of things in my life lately. Thank you
i hope everything gets better! ^w^
@I've seen the Twinkie and the damage done I've been feeling very anxious too
"I love you, I do, du du du du du" was so sweet near the end. You're an adorable woman
Im literally in a pshych ward right now after severe sucidal thoughts. Thank you kind grandma
She is so warm and wholesome🥺 and her voice is like a comforting hug ❤️
Thank you. You might have just saved my life. ❤
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stay strong and be kind to urself
stay well friend
Thank you for easing my stress, I can't keep carrying all this on my shoulders..i just need to be kind to myself :)
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@I've seen the Twinkie and the damage done seriously? You don't have inner dialogue?
never really had parental figures in my life (abusive dad, chronically ill and mentally unstable mother), these are healing really deep, really painful wounds one video at a time. thanks, beautiful
Wow, such similar situation to mine! Just that I never met my dad and I have an abusive older halfbrother....but my mom is mentally very ill she sleeps the whole day, it very dysfunctional living with the kind of people I live with...but hey, life is unfair you know. We just have to keep kicking and stay strong!
@@samantarizzi248 so sorry you have to deal with all that!
This made me cry a bit, but her words made me stronger
You’re like the grandmother I never got to receive guidance and advice from 🥺
I used to be scared to get old, to be old. I see you and I see a beautiful soul and a wise woman. I hope I can be as wise as you are when I'm your age. Thank you so much for your words.
These empathy talks appeal to me the most.
Everyone should consult with you before any major life decision. Not just this topic but everything
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to all those who waited one more day, maybe two, i'm proud of you. you're doing well i promise you're on the upswing and always remember that it can wait
This woman somehow sounds like my Gramma with an accent, and it's tripping me out, but I love it. She passed away on May 23rd, 2018, and I miss her every single day. Thank you for making this beautiful video with such calm wisdom. God Bless you. 💜🌻
I enjoy your videos and find them thought provoking. I'm not sure what it is that keeps me coming back to watch them, but there is something in me that responds to them. Thank you for putting the time and thought into them, and know that you are helping to counteract the negative aspects of life. I wish you long life and many seasons.
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I didn’t search for this video. This video was recommended to me as I’m struggling to sleep because of negative thoughts. I’m grateful ~
I really, really needed this tonight. Thank you so much. You are such a light in what can sometimes be quite a dark world. Your heart is big and loving and that shows in every video you make. I hope that when YOU face hardships, you may feel how loved and appreciates you are. You can overcome.
Yes! ♥️
Thank you so much. I constantly feel stressed about exams from my college classes. I’ve never been good at math but I feel so pressured to get everything right from the school and my classmates. I just need to slow down and accept my best for what it is. Thank you so much for this video.
I feel you on this!! College has been so rough, especially during this pandemic. But you’re doing great just by trying and getting through it :) Good luck on your exams! Don’t forget to rest and take care of yourself 🙏🏽
Her voice is ASMR goal
This was much needed advice from someone much wiser. As someone who is young and is somehow going through the world with so much trouble and many options life can seem daunting. You are right about making mistakes young and enjoying life thank you
Pretty much summed up my thoughts - it can feel overwhelming when young but time and experience teach us how to get comfortable with our challenges and accept and love ourselves for who we are.
This reminded me of things I was muttering to myself about recently, I told myself.
If I can dump toxic folks out of my life.
If I can learn to Drive..
If I can still tell myself: I want to Live.
If I can stay on track with chores.
If I can practice self-care..
If I can finish 79/1000 Cranes
If I can pay attention to My Mom & Cat.
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I can rebuild that Art Side Hustle.
I can relearn Spanish.
I can finish digitizing my written projects.
I can finish those Cranes.
I can stick to Keto.
I can Find that Job.
And I just found you today. But I told myself something similar 2 Days ago.
A recent subscriber and a huge lover of your videos.
This came up today as suggested video. Today, my 3rd baby should be turning 1. I lost them at 10 weeks and today has been heavy on my heart.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart to yours.
Anyone reading this...please know I love you and we all need you.
I needed to hear this today. I went through a period years ago where things went really bad and I worked hard to learn to balance life better to avoid similar problems in the future. I came to many of the same conclusions as you, including what you say: it can wait. Not everything has to be done immediately and I am not a bad person if everything is not taken care of at once. I tell people this all the time so that they can learn from my horrible experiences the lessons I wished I knew then. But today was especially hard and I was falling back into bad habits. This video has helped me anchor myself a little. So thank you for making and sharing it. It sounds like it has touched a lot of other people too. The only negative thing I will say though is that when you are suicidal it is often something you can't just "think positive" through or think of family and decide not to do. Sometimes those things actually make you more likely to carry through because you will beat yourself up for even having the impulse in the first place and your despair will grow. You will feel guilty that the impulse is even occurring. We don't want to cause our loved ones pain; in those moments though the pain gets to the point of being almost unbearable. People need compassion in those moments more than anything. Maybe there are people who are not thinking of others and how it will make them feel, but there are plenty of people who are already thinking of their loved ones and still the despair is too great. Thinking about them more will only make it worse at that point. People need help. I apologize for such a long comment. I loved this video, but I want to make sure that people who have never contemplated suicide know that it is not something you can just positively think your way though a lot of the time. One of the biggest stigma's on people who commit suicide is that they were being selfish (didn't they think of the people who love them?). Of course they thought of the people who loved them. It is helpful for people who have never experienced this to imagine what it must be like to feel so much despair that even thinking of those you love and the pain you will cause them is not enough to stave away the despair that is driving you to madness or to stay your hand. It is not selfish and it is not an easy fix. It is tragic.
Everything happens for a reason. You appreciated!
This is true. I’ll let it wait ;)!
To the person reading this:
You are who you are.
You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation.
You are a masterpiece.
You are who you are.
You are strong and courageous.
You can absolutely do it.
You are powerful.
Remind yourself that you are who you are.
Move forward with your determination, and conviction.
You can absolutely do it.
Have a great day ahead,
Remember you are who you are.
❤️❤️❤️
Thank you
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Bless your soul Haiying, those were words I really needed to hear right now, and I thank you for that.
I just came back from the doctor and she just gave me a whole week off because of burnout, and despite it affecting my happiness and physical health long term now, I thought of not taking the days at all so I wouldn’t cause any trouble at work.
In the end, even though it felt really hard, I did take the sick leave but I felt awful because of it at first. I know this probably must sound silly to most people, but I really struggled to let go and prioritize myself for once.
Then I saw your video and it really inspired me. It put my mind at ease that I made the right decision, and that it’s not me at fault, but the system for overworking me. I deserve better, I deserve healing.
I know I live in a privileged country to be able to take time off like this, and I’m very much aware and grateful for that.
Thank you all for listening to my ramblings, you’re all wonderful people
I totally totally understand you and I do the same as you. We have personal days off. Over the years, I have not taken them, because I don't want to prepare the sub plan, and I don't want students ask why there is a substitute not you. Anyway, I weigh the benefit of day off vs. preparing for day off. I choose not to take day off. Whatever is good, we just need to take it lightly and reasonably. Right?
@@yanghaiying I absolutely relate to you, I also studied to become a teacher and it can be a struggle, especially because you feel like students depend on you and making a sub plan is also a lot of effort.
But it is also good to take some personal days if you really need it. Something I often think about is the following thought exercise:
Whatever decision I’m making right now, how will I remember it in 1 year? How will I remember it in 5 years? What about a decade?
It helps put things in perspective and stops us from worrying too much.
I’m sure your students won’t remember those days off if you were to take them, but they will remember the fun lessons they had with you :)
I’ve been very stressed about my classes and my work lately, and this helps a lot. Especially the part about perfectionism. Thank you. You are wonderful.
I do not know if you aware of this but Gibi ASMR mentioned you in one of her videos, i believe it was the asmr trivia night video. Made me very happy to hear a bigger creator talk about such a good channel as your own
Thank you. I am forever grateful for her. Gibi ASMR is a great channel. I got a booster when she posted that video.
this is so angelic, thank you :")
Your voice and your sweet energy are both so soothing. Very ASMR. Thank you 🙏🏼
That "wait one more day" is true af. Whenever I feel like doing it, I tell myself, "not now, give it one more day, if nothing changes do it tomorrow night" I guarantee a lot can change in that single day.
I've been suicidal all my life. I felt and still feel like there's no point. I don't really have friends and I continue to be blinded and lost from all of life and happiness. God has been good and my family has always continued to be there for me, but my mental state continues to ignore all the good. Those words feeling burnt out is true thats really the only way I can describe how I feel 24/7. I'm thankful for this video and your words it actually is soothing hiring your voice it as if you are guiding me to know I will be okay. I lost my friend Mia in 2018 to suicide we were 15 and she is going to be 17 this year in May. I miss her alot and it's really hard to know that she is gone. She deserved better in this world and was beyond this world I miss her so much. Knowing I can't talk or hear her really kills me, but I know she is okay and is in good hands. To anyone battling depression and suicidal thoughts I can promise you it is okay and life is brighter as long as you wait. I thank God for this video, everyone around me, I thank God for Mia, I Thank God for my family, and I thank God for you.
Thanks for this post emotions doesn’t help life be emotionless and just do things to improve your life.
Never heard a more calming voice before
You are a very beautiful human being. You said that you weren't sure about posting this, but it really means a lot. I will not forget you or your precious words.
Wow. This came up just as I was having some serious issues at work. But it’s true, I need to follow my real path. Thank you beautiful soul xoxox
I'm not sure how this video found me but I'm so glad it did ! I truly needed to hear this because I've been so overwhelmed with keeping up my classwork and preparing myself for grad school plus worrying if I'm making the right decision for my future. Your advice has given me so much clarity that it has moved me to tears of joy and I so feel relieved now. Thank you so much !!!!
I'm going to listen to the first part of this video at times when i start to get than antsy about that type of thing. It's so well worded.
Like an angel you just showed up with what I needed to hear
Thank you for your words, your experience and your insight. I am grateful for you.
Her heart is so pure
Thank you for being generous and sharing your wisdom 💕
Thank you for this! I am very suicidal. This video had been in my recommended for a few days and I had been ignoring it. I'm so glad I finally watched it! You are so wise. Thank you!
so happy you’re here! stay strong
the timing of your videos are always perfect
I truly needed this video i've being going through deep loneliness and just another dark night of the soul. Thank you so much for posting it. Love you yanghailying
Sending some virtual love. I'm sorry you're having so many struggles
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@@ArtSMRdianne thank you so much I'm already feeling better hugs
@@yfoog ❤
I’ve waited one more day long enough, honestly. Sometimes it don’t get better, and I’m worthy of giving myself peace.
IT CAN WAIT
WAS SUCH BIG WORDS DURING MY HEALING PROCESS
It helped me using these words during my healing. ( ‘ it can wait ‘ ) I live for the day ,I live for the moment
AMAZING VIDEO
I’ve been feeling extremely suicidal lately due to one of the most traumatic experiences that has ever happened to me that is still happening to me and I still have to worry about it everyday, it’s so tiring and I have tried to be more relaxed about things but it’s a lot harder than it’s made out to be. I definitely relate to the burnout she mentioned in this video, anyways my point is this video was very reassuring ❤️
As a 20 year old, I truly appreciate your videos. It feels like I’m having an insightful conversation with a friend filled with wisdom in life
Thank you for all your videos ❤️
"speak loud to yourself" thank you for saying this. This is my last year of school and im going to apply to the universiry which is completely new life step, so right now i feel like i cant find myself becauce of anxiety thought going on my mind. But this little advice "speak loud and do mistakes " made me feel so calm, like i remembered something that i forget. Tnank you. I wish you a good day !
I almost didn’t wait. Now I have a most beautiful life. Still up and downs but so very beautiful. Please know that this stranger loves each of you, believes in you and appreciates your unique self. I send you hugs filled with love💕✨
Thank you for your words and empathy. I suffered complete burnout recently from trying to be perfect and realized it’s not worth it to strive for the unattainable. Taking life slowly now while I heal. I hope this video reaches many people. 💗
Thank you so much for your wisdom!! I love you! You should definitely make a podcast on Spotify❤️
🤗💗 A free hug for anyone who needs it 🤗💗
Thanks for this video grandma Haiying 💗
I don’t know how to thank you enough for this video. It is so timely. I just gave birth to a baby and initially I was hoping to go back to work soon after it, but the baby keeps sleeping on my and nursing all day, and even though I love her, I keep beating myself up for not working, for being “lazy,” for being tired all the time. And them today I saw your video and felt better for the first time. Thank you!
As a mother myself, the best gift we can give to our children is to be with them, especially their baby years. We only have 3 years to hold them. In no time, they are going to college. We can always go back to work or restart our career, with more compassion, understanding and maturity. You are doing a great favor to your child, your family and society.
My dear lady, nothing that you talk about is "empty." You are a true gem.This talk is very important and needed by millions. God bless you. Sending you love.
We have all decided to adopt you because you love us and we love you back✨✨❤️✨✨
This video and your wisdom, when I first watched it, when you first uploaded this, found me during a very bad time. I had been working in the COVID ward taking care of people and my mental health was beyond bad. I left that job, changed careers, and now am a laboratory technician in a job and career I love. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Truly did spur me to change my life in a direction I am happy with. Much love
This is so inspiring. Your story gives me strength. I admire!
I keep coming back to this video! I've been wanting to die for the last 4 years as my brain has a low stress level. I am so glad I found you! (typing this makes me want to sob again)
I needed this rn
hello Miss yanghaiying very relaxing thank you, have a great day 🌻
There is a song by amanda palmer that I was reminded of by this, that goes "play your favorite cover song, especially if the words are wrong, cause even if your grades are bad, it doesn't mean you're failing." Dont do it perfect- just do it.
I was okay until you made me listen to all my old favorite Amanda Palmer diddies. Ahh gosh sometimes it is a relief to cry.
I’ve never been able to relate to people who tell celebrities or others that they’ve saved their life and now I can finally relate and confidently say YOUVE saved mine you are so appreciated thank you
I’m so happy this woman decided to start TH-cam...knowledge is knowing how to make a channel, wisdom is knowing when to make the channel
Thank you mother ♥️
Thank you for this!! you help me to take a step back and realize there is more to life than whatever little stressful moment i am in :)
life truly is full of joy and beauty, i just need to remember to recognize it
I dunno if this will help anyone, but when I was younger I really wanted to kermit swiss slide and so I chose an age where I could do it but it was more than 10 years away from then and so it could wait. So since that time sometimes I'll still want to disappear but now I understand how much I matter to other people and that is what keeps me going even if I don't feel like I matter to myself.
So if you are reading this and feel as though you do not matter to anyone, pause think about yourself and find one thing you love about yourself it can be physical or nonphysical. And know that if you were to disappear there would be no one there to know of your beauty or this wonderous part of yourself, so keep going so you can meet people who will appreciate that part of you as well and help you grow and build you up. Also there is a chance that there are other people who see you as a wonderful human being and care about your well being even if you can't feel it.
I read it word by word and I echo you, especially the part where you chose an age for that. I had exactly the same thought.
Thank you for being your kind wonderful self, you've made my night so so much better! I value your insight so much!
thank you for this video
Keep doing videos like this I love them
Thank you for filling my heart with warmth
You are such a beautiful soul and spirit. Your warm, kind words… save lives. I thank the Universe for the gift “you are” to and for, all of us 🤩
give yourself the same grace you give other people
you’re such an amazing person. you deserve the world
omg you're brilliant! suicidal thoughts are such a hard thing for anyone to go through! I am so glad I've found you on youtube)
I feel the kindness of your words - your wisdom and empathy are very soothing. Thank you my dear, the world needs more people like you x
真的很感謝您這些又溫暖、又真實、又有智慧的話語。
It kinna save my day~🌷