Thank you so much. I just left someone that demanded sex before marrying me. Someone out there will be strong enough to wait. I needed this encouragement.
Kristen Scott stay strong sister. I can assure you that there are men out there who not only have the desire but the self-control to wait. I am one of them and I have some friends who also are committed.
You’re free to have your own belief, but you’re an idiot. If you think someone wont cheat behind your back when you’re married, you’re even dumber than you seem
Son, sexual desire is the greatest temptation of the flesh, but you will be successful because in Jesus Christ, everything is possible. Exercise, dance (even when no one is watching) , read, enjoy every minute and every creature including animals, plants, everything you eyes can see (that belongs to God) because everything is a creation and it is an extension of our Creator, you will learn to see the world thru his eyes by reading his word every day (the whole Bible, not just the NT), dedicate your life to understand the mind of your Creator, and then, you will find that person made just for you, God will be with you in your marriage and every step of your way, and your life will be always blessed by His presence. I've been married 32 years, and I know what I'm talking about.
I had premarital sex, and you're totally right about how it can make sex an idol in one's mind, which can ruin relationships that follow. Wish I had really known this stuff BEFORE I made my mistakes.Thanks Allen for this BEAT.
The hard part if finding a woman who can wait until marriage. I live in Miami where the "easy" culture is prominent. That's not to say I haven't had sex before I have and it has been amazing, I used to be a playboy sleeping around with different women, but I gave that up along with many other bad habits.
@SPREADING TRUTH And when the world keeps suffering, you're the same person who's gonna ask " If God is powerful why would he allow this to happen?". It okay to be mad. But when you see the countless fatherless kids out there and the broken hearted women and men and men who were "slained" because of sex, maybe you'll question yourself again. That's just a few of the consequences. Animals don't even live like we do.
As a guy, the best thing to think about is how it can affect the girl your tempted to boink. She may feel loved during sex, but when you leave and you're giving your buddies high fives for popping your cherry, she may feel like she has been abandoned and thrown to the curb. Everyone is a person with feelings, and hurting them is not something you should want to happen. Also, this is how people are, so don't think I'm trying to sound cool. This is literally how many people think.
Very true and so well said! You are very aware of how girls feel and that is so rare. Its also good for girls to think about how being sexually immoral and having sex before marriage will make their future Christian husbands feel too. It will make them feel like they are always being compared to the past people, and make the bond less sacred and less special. So to hold that until marriage is so important. I wish I knew all this sooner.
@@italianstallion6929 I LOLed a bit that you answered me, so thanks. I was just messing with you. So, I would just point out that in the Genesis narrative, the woman was deceived and the man was disobedient. There's something in that message about our gender weaknesses.
Why would you mislead a girl into thinking you love her just because you have sex? It's important to manage expectations and set boundaries. To think that sex means love is just ridiculous. They're 2 separate things.
Amen. I agree with you and I know what the Bible says about it. What gets me if you tell people that sex outside of marriage is wrong they think you are an old - fashioned weirdo, a goody two shoe but it’s not just the younger generation that thinks that, a lot of older people, even some Seniors, feel that way. If you’re a believer in Christ you know it’s wrong.
God has forgiven me for sexual immorality. But like you said; can't avoid the consequences🥺 I was 24 when I surrendered to God, but I managed to form 5 soulties before that and I love them all very much. There's not room for not even one more man in my heart I think. Now I have been single for 3 years. Turned 30 this year and have decided to devote the rest of my life to Jesus, 🤍 I will always regret having sex, the worst part is I NEVER even enjoyed it or desired it... I think being married and have sex is a whole other experience though. So if anyone is reading this: DON'T HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE! God's commands is for your own protection. Bless you🤍
Soul ties are strong. I dealt with it and still dealing with it from time to time. When you are still thinking of sex partners that you haven't seen in 10 years or heavily thinking of a past sex partner that you had absolutely no attraction to other than just getting sex, you have soul ties. There are people who still think of old sex partners while they are having sex with their spouses!!! That's cold-blooded. It's the same reason why a woman won't let go of an abusive no good man....soul tie. Even though the devil keeps trying to get me to think of sex, it amazes me that when I allow Christ into my life I have become turned off and grossed out by premarital sex. It's like if I see a good looking woman with very little clothing, the old me would have tried to see if I could get with her to eventually have sex down the road. The new me says "Euuww!" and wants no part of her.
I was not aware of this either😰 Oh how shamefull.😟 no wonder ive never been married😭 Oh Lord Please know that i am sorry😭🙏🙇😭 i have no exuse for what i have done, Oh Father Forgive me for my foolish desires and feelings of lonliness😭😖😩😥😞😔
I have been tempted by fornication, I am in my mid 30's and have a pretty lonely life, and have struggled with pornography. I see the damage porn can cause plus the pressures of life, mixed with the loneliness of my circumstances. I have been fighting well and holding on to Jesus Christ to my best, but I know my weaknesses and that the fight won't quit even when I want to. God bless you Allen Parr and for all the others in a similar situation, keep the faith, hold to the truth, and know who wins the war in the end.
Stay strong brother !!! Beating temptation has more glory than falling into it. God knows you and I are not perfect but he wants us to fight for righteousness! You are in my prayers .
Exchange your weaknesses onto Christ, for he took the sins of the world for you to go to him and in Exchange he will give you the strength in mind and spirit.
@Terry Starr. I also used to struggle with porn, but all that changed when I started to read and learn the word of God and wanted to follow the path of Jesus. As Christians it's our responsibility to follow Jesus everyday and that means to deny ourselves and take up his cross. Now I'm not saying that you don't learn the bible or follow christ, all I'm saying is we should keep ourselves busy with the things of God's kingdom and through doing that daily, we will have a change of heart and mindset. Also don't forget that it's Satan's mission that we continue to live a life of sin as he is always looking for people to devour, and accuse of not being faithful to God. So it's our best interest to be strong in God and his word so we can escape Satan's schemes and follow the path of Jesus.
@Terry Star. Have an honest and sincere prayer and speak to God about your struggle then ask him for guidance and to deliver you from your problem. Another thing is whenever you feel like watching porn, try and find something else you can do which you enjoy but is also not sinful, and find other activities to take the place of porn. Also if ever you fall back, don't feel guilty or shameful, God always respects a repentant heart and he doesn't want us not to approach his throne. After all he is a gracious and merciful God. Where there is a will, there is a way.
I can relate with #5. I'm in a situation right now that the person I'm dating is not who I see my future with. I've mentioned on a number of occasions that since we're not married I don't want to continue having sex. And he says that's it only natural for anyone who's in a relationship to have sex because it shows affection for one another. I know in my heart that it's wrong so every time after I feel guilty and ashamed. It makes me feel like I've separated myself from God and that I'm a hypocrite. So I feel myself pull back from my relationship with God. I pray that I get out of this situation and find the one God intended for me to be with.
@@flora5817 I was surprised to see that it’s been 3 yrs since that comment. Well, I continued in the relationship knowing it was wrong and I continued with the sin. I begged God to somehow take this person from me because I couldn’t do it in my own strength. I prayed for Him to take anything that didn’t come from Him and was against His will for my life from me. But the years went and nothing changed. I slowly started distancing myself from God because of my guilt. Just 3 weeks ago the man I was in sin with told me he didn’t wish to continue a relationship with me anymore. He slowly distanced himself from me and then completely blocked all communication with me. I was so confused and my feelings over the years had grown intensely for this person. One evening a woman calls my phone asking why I had been persistently calling her husband of 23 yrs. I was in utter shock!!! The entire time he had been married to someone else and I had no idea. Not one ounce of suspicion NOTHING!! I’m still in disbelief. But after weeks of crying out to God asking why and how this could happen. I heard him say (not audibly) “ You knowingly continued this sin and for years I gave YOU the opportunity to end it but you didn’t and now this is the consequence. Betrayal,Heartache, anxiety, loneliness.” For 2-3 weeks it felt like I was going through withdrawals from this man. I yearned for him like never before. I believe it was a soul tie. Today I wish I had done it sooner, I chose to be disobedient and willingly go against God and now I’m suffering the consequences. But God is faithful and merciful. Ultimately my prayer was answered in a way I would’ve never imagined but it has been answered. Even in my own demise God has been comforting me and now I feel his peace over my mind and heart. Hope this helps anyone.
Trust God little sib, learnt this one the hard way. Not worth it in the long run God bless! P.s. whats in the world aint got jack on a life obedient to Jesus if the bible :) His ways really do protect you ❤
Dont give in Gods word does not conterdict its self... i was tricked the man i went with read something with me and said that it was ok for us to sex before marriage biggest mistake of my life make sure you get Gods word straight because saten will try to twist it
I believe the issue is an unhealthy preoccupation with sex and being unable to separate sexuality and identity. Culturally most people in this generation specifically in the west are inundated with sexual images and stuff quite early on in life and the pressure builds up over the years in ones mind. Then when it is time to date, it is as if the dating experience is not complete unless sex is part of it. My advice to Christian singles who want to please God is just know no man or woman can completely fulfill all your deepest needs, have fun pursuing your dreams, career, hobbies and enjoy your relationship with God. Fellowship with other believers if possible and stop thinking you are missing out because you practice abstinence. When God blesses you with a mate, you can have sex as many times as you want. No big deal :) however if you fall in the area of sex before marriage, pick you self up, remember God loves you and move on. Period! At the end of it all true fulfillment regardless of if you abstained or not comes from renewing your mind and being full of God’s love and peace by being full of God’s word. Blessings!!!!
This Guy is one of the best, logical arguments, happy demeanour and most important the message from God that he loves and forgives you! Not a jealous hateful God who will throw you into a fiery pit of hell but one who will rescue you, guide and help you! I am not a Cristian but I get exactly where this guy is coming from! More More More PLEASE! x
Well Said Allen. I wish someone would have told me these things in my teenage years. Our society makes sex so typical instead of the special act between two people as God designed it to be.
@@thebeatagp i have a question if if me and fiancee is engaged and we had sex 3days before marriage? and yes everything you said is true and biblical and i believe
great... really terrific. God gave you a great talent in delivering persuasive words ....... indeed! and i think God's using you greatly because of your devotion and obedience to Him; I'm saying this because it surprised me that you were single for 40 years. God bless you and your family.
It is also so sad that so many young men in their teens are rushing to lose their virginity when it is something so sacred to men too and men's souls/ soul-ties. I feel so much sadness right now and regret.
Been celibate for 5 yrs and i am waiting for marriage. And God made so that 8 don't remember any of my sexual experiences. I really don't remember i' so glad all glory be to God!!!
Thank you for this message I just got out of this kind of horrible relationship. It nearly destroyed me. I asked God to remove the person from my life and God did. Praise God.
It’s difficult to inform older people that premarital sex is sinful because usually preachers preach on this and gear it to the young. I know many old or older “Christians” who are dating and having sex, or living with a lover, and when I try to send videos and sermons, they are about young people who have never been married or haven’t had experience in this area. Yes, I give them scripture, of course, but some who are in need of explanation and are not willing to believe the Bible and are not saved yet need a stone in their shoe. I know the Lord is the only one that can open their eyes, but it our job to witness
Allen your online presence is just inspiring. insightful videos, neat and content rich website etc. God bless you for using your gifts and talent to the glory of God and also being a light on the web. I have soo much to learn from you
“Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life” (Proverbs 4:23 NCV). Every temptation starts in the mind. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life” (NCV). The battle for sexual purity is won or lost in your mind. Any time you see people really messing up their lives, you can bet their problems didn’t start with their actions, because their actions began with their thoughts. They lingered on dumb thoughts before making dumb decisions. The Bible says this very clearly - and science backs it up: The way you think determines how you feel. Feelings motivate actions. To change your life, you don’t just work on a bad habit, the action. Instead, you work on what caused it - the thoughts that caused the feelings that caused the action. God says your thoughts control your life. This explains how affairs happen. First, you begin by accepting sinful thoughts into your mind. “What would it be like to have sex with that person? Is it so wrong?” You start having doubts, and you start fantasizing in your mind. You begin to think it’s harmless or it’s not. Your thoughts produce feelings. And feelings inevitably lead to actions. You then move into emotional, non-physical involvement. That’s when you start flirting. You start making gestures and comments, subtly or not-so-subtly saying, “I’m available.” Next comes the physical involvement. And finally, you rationalize your actions: “Everybody is doing it. It’s no big deal. We’re both adults.” Your sinful actions started when you accepted sinful thoughts into your mind. The Bible tells us in 2 Timothy 2:22 how to manage our thoughts before they ever head down this path: “Turn your back on the turbulent desires of youth and give your positive attention to goodness, faith, love and peace” (Phillips). The Bible tells us to turn away from lustful thoughts and turn instead toward something positive. That two-step process is how you break a temptation before it ever gets started. You’re thinking wrong long before you’re acting wrong. You stop the cycle by turning your back on those sinful thoughts and turning toward goodness, integrity, love, and peace. You’re not an innocent by stander to sexual sin. You have a choice. chat.whatsapp.com/LGnvRN3Iayu7dcp7ZOk2Hs
I find it strange that these days we need to give good reasons why we should obey God. When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s it was enough to say “this is God’s way- walk in it”... no explanation needed. Why? Because God was God. Period.
Sex before marriage isn't to deprive or rob you of sex, but to protect you and help you avoid disrespect. Coz the disrespect often follows you in a form of a person choosing to walk away like you didn't matter or a person feeling entitled to your body and your life(however that may look like-often times brutal), without haven't married you from the first place.
Wow this was extremely helpful. Every young person needs to hear this...if only I knew this when I was 14, things would make so much sense. I wish I knew this years ago because it makes sense and is all true. Even just having sexual feelings before marriage. There was this girl I had a crush on in my all girls Anglican middle school growing up. I was obsessed with her and had so many of my first fantasies about her, I even wrote part of a novel of fantasies of being with her... and even now when I am with the man I want to marry I think back to that rush of excitement of liking that girl and comparing it to how I feel now and how much I will miss those memories and fantasies when I marry since I literally LIVED for those fantasies back then...sexual fantasies were all I had to keep me wanting to wake up another day and go to school. If I did not have sex in my mind or those exciting thoughts I just did not want to live at all back then. I was very interested in girls at a young age since I was at an all girls school from age 4-16. I loved looking at women's bodies and then I got into a relationship with a much older girl at age 15...and it was abusive and sexual and way too mature for me at that age. I see how small things like fantasies can lead to a destructive abusive relationship. Thank God I found greater attraction to males though in the end..I never thought I'd ever get married or have kids...I really do think that was God calling me at a young age to come to him and leave sexual immorality behind.
I really meant to save but I caved to the pressure; I got curious. I have never felt so cheap when he threw me away. But, I learned my lesson. Thank you for this video :)
+Andrew B Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm so glad that you found the channel. I hope you enjoy some of the other videos as well. I also hope you'll take a moment to check out my website where you'll find blogs and a FREE eBook to download as well. The address is www.allenparr.com. Reach out if you have any questions about anything! God bless,
My fiancé who I waited for for seven years broke up after two years and I pray for her every single day I believe that God broke us up because we were having on marriage sex and God wanted me to get closer to him as my dad and I were seeing the rapture approaching I decided to get closer to God and actually pick up my Bible and start reading it she was I believe acting like she believed for the sake of my dad and I I asked God why I couldn’t get her out of my Head after six months and I believe I just got my answer.
I love you to pieces because you are right on Biblically. But, no where in Scripture are we to forgive ourselves. We are to forgive other’s but not commanded to forgive ourselves instead we are to be thankful for God’s forgiveness. The idea of forgiving oneself is mans way.
Thank you sir. Ive got so much guilt and pain from my past of sin. Im happy these videos gives me a plan and hope to be more connected with God. Thank you sir and God bless
Wow this was such a good message with very good quotes, analogies quick to the point, and Biblical. I remember listening to a message from Chip Ingram and he used the two paper glue analogy. When I heard you use it it blew my mind. I love your videoes you have an amazing gift in teaching keep up the good work.
Sounds really nice... Strong logic and powerful presentation. Still Allen, I wish that you really dealt with the subject from scriptural POV without of course excluding all the other moral/logical arguments. For me, you still did not answer the question of whether there is an express scriptural instruction, whether in the Old or New Testament, that says PREMARITAL SEX IS A SIN.
I was not married, having a relationship to the same man for a long time we disided to to get married I asked God to forgive me and I do feel God gave me a chance, we had kids too and was very sick with my last child but God saved me I really know it was wrong, not being together with him, but in the way I was I needed to be married also so my children see that it is important too I knew I needed to start listening to God and follow his commandments
It's all about responsibility. GOD loves everyone and we must learn to be responsible. Sex in marriage can even be sour. Marriage is not a guarantee of compatibility. Learn to love and be real friends before going further. The Bible is really proverbial.
Cam Nguyen when they're trying to tempt you or 'seduce you' then you should run away because the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Even paul said flee fornication. He didn't say walk away he said flee lmao.
Eaglesight117 Our Elohim is real, and premarital sex is a sin. I will link you a video in my next reply. Please watch all of the informational part of the video. Thank you.
Eaglesight117 th-cam.com/video/odT3kKpSTJc/w-d-xo.html Just to let you know, this person hardly ever uses words like they do in this video. You can look at other videos on their channel and see for yourself, if you would like. Also, I say nothing of this to offend or condemn you, but to try to bring you to Christ. Peace be with you.
I have a question.. In the days of the Bible.. I read that 2 people didn't get married from a Preacher. They just kinda said they were husband & wife.. then consummated the marriage. I'm sure prayers or something of the sort took place before God.. I'm not sure. So my question is.. 2 people that have committed their life to each other but still haven't technically got married (although they feel married & call each other husband & wife) & have been together for 8 years.. how are they not considered married?(like in the old days when a preacher didn't marry them?) I'm not talking about legal marrige.. I'm talking about marriage in the eyes of God. Some people think, God wants you to get married in front of a Preacher.. but I recently had someone tell me that they didn't even do that back in the Bible days. So my question again is Does God see them married? & if not.. why? Because although the world may change, the Bible never does. Or does the Bible say how a person should get married?
I would also like to know. I'm I the same boat, with children. I am recently starting my journey with Jesus, but now I'm afraid because I feel like I am sinning every day. I can't just keep asking g for forgiveness every day and continue living with my common law husband of 6 years. We are engaged to be married for next summer, but I'm still scared now, and I don't know what to do. He isn't willing to move the date sooner.
I agree there should be no sex before marriage. Yet, I don’t think people of the church are honest about something. People did not live as long years ago so they got married young. It was no big deal to wait until 17,18 to have sex because that’s the Age people were getting married. We also have to take into account biology. Girls are physically able to reproduce as young as 8 years old in some cases. Of course no one should be having sex at that age. My point is that waiting too long actually goes against how we are biologically made up. It is totally natural to have sexual thoughts at 14,15. We are going against biology when we act like it is wrong to have desire at that age. Then you expect someone to get married before they have sex. It isn’t like it is so simple to find a good partner so for some people the wait could be until they are 50 or 50 or never. Why doesn’t this get addressed in conversation?
Okay I’m going to go through each of the points he attempted to make point by point. 1)Being in a relationship in of itself is going to potentially create comparisons especially if you were the person who your ex-boyfriend, girlfriend wife or husband ended the relationship with. It’s just a fact of life that’s unavoidable as there’s hardly anyone who has only had more than relationship. 2)Sex before marriage doesn’t have to factor in to clouding a persons judgement. The term I don’t know what he or she sees in him/her factors in here. Someone can be in love with someone even though there’s evidence of them not being a very good boyfriend or girlfriend whether it be due to some personality flaws or they’re just lying, cheating people. A person can be blinded by their love of someone so they can’t correctly assess their character of the quality of their relationship. Sex doesn’t have to factor in to it. 3) Premarital sex can be about expressing one’s love for another and being intimate with one another through physicality. What’s shameful in sharing and showing your love with someone through sexual intercourse? 3)Sex can indeed lead to things that might catch up with them later but the reverse can be true that it may not. Especially if one is responsible and takes measures to reduce the chance of this happening like using contraception, reducing the amount of sexual partners they have have etc. And saying it’s a sin as if it’s a matter of fact is myopic as it is dogmatic. 5) Yes, he was speaking for himself and how he felt or still feels is all very well and good and he has a right to the principles had and presumably still does. That is neither here nor there though as what he feels may hinder him doesn’t necessarily extend to everyone else. Especially if they’re non-religious and/or do not believe in the existence of God. 6) Having sex with more than one person doesn’t necessarily mean they should gain a bad reputation. Someone who has done so may merely be because they were in what was then a long term relationship whomever they were with. It’s not as if they just merely just to have sex with anyone they choose to at any personal whim. And if someone has sexual intercourse with someone who they are not in a relationship with it may be infrequent and happen rarely. 7) Yes, it can alter your view on sex but it can be for the better than the worse. There can be negative experiences but it can help enhance your experience in knowing how to pleasure the person you are or make one appreciate the fact that different people have varying likes/dislikes. It also means that for a woman particularly for who sex can be painful when they lose their virginity, it’s not a so much of a daunting or uncomfortable experience when they eventually have sex with their eventual husband or long-term partner. 8) This is similar to the point in regards to points 1 and 2 in that sex doesn’t have to factor in to the equation. Merely being in a loving relationship in of itself can create soul ties. One would think this to be common sense. And if someone calls you up out of the blue who wants to get back with you, all you merely have to do is either tell them you’re not interested any more for whatever reason even though you may still have feelings for them or you consider getting back with. In short you’re still going to potentially be connected to them without having had sex with them.
I always understood it that having sex with your partner IS marriage. Everything else is just a ceremony. If not why does paul say: "What? know you not that he who is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, says he, shall be one flesh." (1 Corinthians 6:16) "one flesh" which is the reason for why they should not be divorced according to Jesus: "Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." (Matthew 19:6) Additionally look at the "marriage" of Isaac: "And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death." (Genesis 24:67) No ceremony whatsoever...
But Jesus said to the woman at the well, "You are right when you say you have no husband. You've had 5 husbands, and you're not even married to the guy you are living with now." Don't think that having sex with someone makes you married and makes you excused. There is clear doctrine and spiritual reasons for coming together under a covenant.
@@pookahchu You're right in saying that. I think the original point here was just that sex is like the binding action of marriage so, we shouldn't think it's natural to do in a casual way with no binding commitment.
If you are talking about being married then yes sex is ok but if your talking about sex outside of marriage then the act of sex would not make you married. If that were the case how can fornication and adultery be two different sexual immoral acts? Because fornication is sex as unmarried and adultery is sex outside of married spouse.
Matthew 5:28: "But I tell you that if anyone looks at a woman and wants to sin sexually with her, in his mind he has already done that sin with the woman."
I have to say, "Amen," and I need to add that the idea of "just" getting to second base or third base but no home runs is still healthy, you're still wrong. Everything that Allen mentioned in this video applies to anything sexual, and for some people, that may even include passionate kissing. The best thinking is to abstain from all of it until after the nuptials, and thereby avoid any need for prenuptial agreements.
This should or should not question can only be answered on individual basis. Everyone is different and everyone’s situation is different. Telling people they “should” wait is not only puts unhealthy stress and shame on people who are engaging in premarital sex. Educate yourself of the risks so that you can be prepared for sexual intimacy. Only you can decide what’s best for your body.
I'm a 37 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. The first and last thought of every single day is "I still haven't had sex." I'm Christian so from an early age decided it's best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I feel I have missed out on one of the greatest joys in life - true love and sex. It may not be too late but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now. Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me because a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Yet at the same time I have such a strong desire for one.
It's completely ironic that im quoting Denzel Washington right now,(bc of how much this man resembles him) 😂, but he stasted once, and I truly believe, "True desire in the Heart For Anything Good is God's PROOF to you, sent beforehand, to Indicate, IT'S YOURS ALREADY." - Joyce Meyer, and many other Faith and The Word knowledgeable people have stated the same... Keep the faith - it WILL happen!! 😊
I've been thinking about this a lot. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, living together for a year and having sex the entire relationship. Before him I was into new age and occult, he brought me to Jesus. I love him and I'm so happy to have him in my life, but I'm feeling like we are doing things wrong now. Would us being married make us right with God? Is our relationship ruined in God's eyes because we did it backwards? I'm really not sure where to go from here. Open to all loving advice from more mature believers ♡
Pardon me, I'm just 17 and I'm a baby Christian, I do not know if I should be giving advice lol...but I found it hard to scroll past this post. So I apologise in advance if I say anything to offend. So God's word is clear and it is written. Quite straightforward and to the point. Sexual intimacy before marriage before God's eyes and the eyes of man is wrong. I believe it is best you two talk about it and abstain until you are married. I do not think your relationship is ruined, but it is still not pleasing to the sight of God. If you feel conflicted or confused, the last resort is to go to Him in prayers. He shall definitely direct you in all your ways and create a clear path for you to see. Hope this helps ❤️ If u read this all the way, thanks Miss❤️ God bless you!
@@Bl4ckJade thank you for your input! Since making my comment, God has spoken to me and we have been refrained from intercourse. We are discussing marriage now, I believe he will be proposing soon!
I really enjoy your teaching! However, soul ties are not Biblical. Someone cannot transfer their “demons” or mess to me by engaging in sex. I know you didn’t say that in your message but I’ve heard so many leaders try to preach this. I do believe that we are affected by fornication and sexual immorality because we open the door for Satan to come in and cause havoc in our lives because of activities that God commands us not to do. I agree with you about the mental image that is recorded into our minds and I’m thinking that’s probably why when we begin to ponder on it or a past partner reaches out after a while is because our minds went to that place and those thoughts eventually went from temptation to sin. That’s why we should rebuke those thoughts when they rise up in our minds. My outlook on this may be incorrect but I haven’t found anything Biblical about soul ties. Thank you for sharing!
Try focusing on learning and loving yourself, passions, hobbies, financial goals and realize your worth to be waited on by a special someone. Take time to get inner healing as well through relationship with Jesus.
yes, he did it for me. I am in a relationship and I went through many trials with this person and realized a lot of my faults and actions that I thought had my good intention, but was inadvertently causing harm to him and because of God showing me my character through how other people perceived me was and Is still something that I am working on but if he did it for me he can do it for you and I can tell you 100% that if you ask him to change your heart in the process, he will
Firstly I just want to commend you and say your videos have me captivated 😳😳 I have had my own personal walk and relationship with God yet the biggest thing I struggle with is the men I choose in my life ... the man I currently am in a relationship with and live with is curious about having a relationship with God but honestly I don’t think he is ready to be serious and humble himself ?? And in the same breath he is very defensive when I ask certain questions and I am actually being humble and am trying to reach his true self his spirit ?? What do you do if you don’t want to give up on someone or how can you truly acknowledge if I should keep trying or just let go and let a God? I feel I am ready for changes yet I’m not so sure about him ...thanks again your learning sister in Christ
What about sex with an "unbeliever" or someone who has a belief in God but doesn't live a "godly life"?. In my current experience, my boyfriend and i struggled with sex due to the fact that i knew it was a sin and because i felt as though i dont want to do it anymore. And so i decided to want to become celibate and he was willing to partake in that but then now comes the point of How Far is Too Far? And "What/how do we overcome boundaries set when it comes to sex? How do we navigate through the scriptures, how to be in a relationship that doesn't have sex, until marriage?? I would love to know your thoughts 💭💭 THANK YOU 😌
Not sure what your status is now but God requires us to not be unequally yoked. So relations with an unbeliever unless they are pursuing Christ is already a no no.
2:25 what if you don't feel these emotions after having pre marital sex maybe because they're your partner and it was consensual or you guys are getting married anyway??
Where in the bible does it say that premarital sex is a sin? Im from Sweden, and our translation doesnt even include the word fornication. You might think that if our God created the Bible, then he would also make shure that every translation would be the same, right? But it isn't, thats just a fact! Now Im aknowledging the benefits of waiting until marriage, its a solid idea. But how can we be shure thats what God wants?
So glad it was clear. Yes, I hope people seriously consider these issues because they can definitely cause issues in marriage if we don't make good decisions while dating.
Thank you for this I swear my little sister she is pregnant and you guess it not married and got me question everything like is it okay for me to have sex without being married like am I waiting to long to wait for marriage like this is hitting hard and I’m just overjoyed finding this video you can pick the sin you want but you can’t pick the consequences. And I’m not saying I’m perfect I’m just like for me when I know I read the Bible and it says wait until marriage cause of the soul ties I’m just like it feels like she’s happy in a way cause she getting a kid but thank you I totally understand why god wants us to wait. 🙌🏽
lots of truth here that I wish I would have taken seriously through my teen years. lust was probably the struggle that hit me the hardest before I gave my life to Jesus. my past sexual sins nearly ended the relationship with my wife. thankfully we have a strong foundation on Christ and we worked things out. you are spot on when you say that you can be drawn back to the past partner if not careful. a book I recommend every man who struggles with lust is called every young man's battle. I read that after God got ahold of me and I gave lust over to him and that book is amazing I couldn't put it down. Blessings
So I have been on my current relationship for a while now and it was for us both our first time and we want no one else in our lives and want to get married with each other.
“You can choose your sin(s) but you cannot choose your consequence(s)”...enough said right there!!! Preach!!!
In other words: You can choose your religion but you cannot choose your consequences.
Amen
I opened the video to continue watching, and exactly this frase came in. So powerfull!
Thank you so much. I just left someone that demanded sex before marrying me. Someone out there will be strong enough to wait. I needed this encouragement.
Kristen Scott stay strong sister. I can assure you that there are men out there who not only have the desire but the self-control to wait. I am one of them and I have some friends who also are committed.
Thank you so, so much.
You’re free to have your own belief, but you’re an idiot. If you think someone wont cheat behind your back when you’re married, you’re even dumber than you seem
she is very religious person... marriage is license to have sex
Cringey AF!
im an 18 year old male. Man, the desire for sex is pretty high but I wish to live a life that fears God and hates sin. Pray for me please
Son, sexual desire is the greatest temptation of the flesh, but you will be successful because in Jesus Christ, everything is possible. Exercise, dance (even when no one is watching) , read, enjoy every minute and every creature including animals, plants, everything you eyes can see (that belongs to God) because everything is a creation and it is an extension of our Creator, you will learn to see the world thru his eyes by reading his word every day (the whole Bible, not just the NT), dedicate your life to understand the mind of your Creator, and then, you will find that person made just for you, God will be with you in your marriage and every step of your way, and your life will be always blessed by His presence.
I've been married 32 years, and I know what I'm talking about.
@@georgeal3784 thanks. I needed that today
@georgeal3784 thank you. I really needed to hear this🙏
“We get to choose our sin, but we don’t get to choose our consequences”. Powerful statement, Sir. Thank you!! 🙏🏾🍃
I had premarital sex, and you're totally right about how it can make sex an idol in one's mind, which can ruin relationships that follow. Wish I had really known this stuff BEFORE I made my mistakes.Thanks Allen for this BEAT.
I love it when denzel washington hits us hard with the word of God!!!
Thanks for making that plain for me I knew he looked like somebody but I could not figure it out. 😅😅😅
Joel Vasquez 💀
OMG I just died 😂🤣🤣💀🤣🤣💀🤣🤣💀
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I'm waiting till marriage. It gets hard some times (pun intended) but I need that match of a woman whos willing to wait and build with me.
Ajunte Burns 😂😂😂
The hard part if finding a woman who can wait until marriage. I live in Miami where the "easy" culture is prominent. That's not to say I haven't had sex before I have and it has been amazing, I used to be a playboy sleeping around with different women, but I gave that up along with many other bad habits.
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@SPREADING TRUTH And when the world keeps suffering, you're the same person who's gonna ask " If God is powerful why would he allow this to happen?".
It okay to be mad. But when you see the countless fatherless kids out there and the broken hearted women and men and men who were "slained" because of sex, maybe you'll question yourself again. That's just a few of the consequences.
Animals don't even live like we do.
@@mikkim1595 💯💯💯
"You can choose what kind of sin but you can't choose the consequences" that's strong!
Amen
Just wait until marriage. God will give us the strength ! 💪🏿💕
Maybe you the strength
This is why sacred sex is has turned into something casual. It makes people unappreciative in relationships
Yep !!
I thank God for forgiving us even when we do sexual sins
As a guy, the best thing to think about is how it can affect the girl your tempted to boink.
She may feel loved during sex, but when you leave and you're giving your buddies high fives for popping your cherry, she may feel like she has been abandoned and thrown to the curb.
Everyone is a person with feelings, and hurting them is not something you should want to happen.
Also, this is how people are, so don't think I'm trying to sound cool. This is literally how many people think.
Very true and so well said! You are very aware of how girls feel and that is so rare. Its also good for girls to think about how being sexually immoral and having sex before marriage will make their future Christian husbands feel too. It will make them feel like they are always being compared to the past people, and make the bond less sacred and less special. So to hold that until marriage is so important. I wish I knew all this sooner.
Um, your handle makes your comment suspicious. Are you talking about your own experience?
@@carlosreira413 no I had a different name when I left that comment, but I still feel the same way.
@@italianstallion6929 I LOLed a bit that you answered me, so thanks. I was just messing with you. So, I would just point out that in the Genesis narrative, the woman was deceived and the man was disobedient. There's something in that message about our gender weaknesses.
Why would you mislead a girl into thinking you love her just because you have sex? It's important to manage expectations and set boundaries. To think that sex means love is just ridiculous. They're 2 separate things.
Amen. I agree with you and I know what the Bible says about it. What gets me if you tell people that sex outside of marriage is wrong they think you are an old - fashioned weirdo, a goody two shoe but it’s not just the younger generation that thinks that, a lot of older people, even some Seniors, feel that way. If you’re a believer in Christ you know it’s wrong.
God has forgiven me for sexual immorality. But like you said; can't avoid the consequences🥺 I was 24 when I surrendered to God, but I managed to form 5 soulties before that and I love them all very much. There's not room for not even one more man in my heart I think. Now I have been single for 3 years. Turned 30 this year and have decided to devote the rest of my life to Jesus, 🤍 I will always regret having sex, the worst part is I NEVER even enjoyed it or desired it... I think being married and have sex is a whole other experience though. So if anyone is reading this: DON'T HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE! God's commands is for your own protection.
Bless you🤍
Thank you 🙏
Soul ties are strong. I dealt with it and still dealing with it from time to time. When you are still thinking of sex partners that you haven't seen in 10 years or heavily thinking of a past sex partner that you had absolutely no attraction to other than just getting sex, you have soul ties. There are people who still think of old sex partners while they are having sex with their spouses!!! That's cold-blooded. It's the same reason why a woman won't let go of an abusive no good man....soul tie. Even though the devil keeps trying to get me to think of sex, it amazes me that when I allow Christ into my life I have become turned off and grossed out by premarital sex. It's like if I see a good looking woman with very little clothing, the old me would have tried to see if I could get with her to eventually have sex down the road. The new me says "Euuww!" and wants no part of her.
Your are blessed ❤🙏
Finally! a Christan who is bold enough to preach on controversial topics.
I was not aware of this either😰 Oh how shamefull.😟 no wonder ive never been married😭 Oh Lord Please know that i am sorry😭🙏🙇😭 i have no exuse for what i have done, Oh Father Forgive me for my foolish desires and feelings of lonliness😭😖😩😥😞😔
I have been tempted by fornication, I am in my mid 30's and have a pretty lonely life, and have struggled with pornography. I see the damage porn can cause plus the pressures of life, mixed with the loneliness of my circumstances. I have been fighting well and holding on to Jesus Christ to my best, but I know my weaknesses and that the fight won't quit even when I want to.
God bless you Allen Parr and for all the others in a similar situation, keep the faith, hold to the truth, and know who wins the war in the end.
Stay strong brother !!! Beating temptation has more glory than falling into it. God knows you and I are not perfect but he wants us to fight for righteousness! You are in my prayers .
Exchange your weaknesses onto Christ, for he took the sins of the world for you to go to him and in Exchange he will give you the strength in mind and spirit.
hold strong brother man try and find a peer group that do stuff you might enjoy
@Terry Starr. I also used to struggle with porn, but all that changed when I started to read and learn the word of God and wanted to follow the path of Jesus. As Christians it's our responsibility to follow Jesus everyday and that means to deny ourselves and take up his cross. Now I'm not saying that you don't learn the bible or follow christ, all I'm saying is we should keep ourselves busy with the things of God's kingdom and through doing that daily, we will have a change of heart and mindset. Also don't forget that it's Satan's mission that we continue to live a life of sin as he is always looking for people to devour, and accuse of not being faithful to God. So it's our best interest to be strong in God and his word so we can escape Satan's schemes and follow the path of Jesus.
@Terry Star. Have an honest and sincere prayer and speak to God about your struggle then ask him for guidance and to deliver you from your problem. Another thing is whenever you feel like watching porn, try and find something else you can do which you enjoy but is also not sinful, and find other activities to take the place of porn. Also if ever you fall back, don't feel guilty or shameful, God always respects a repentant heart and he doesn't want us not to approach his throne. After all he is a gracious and merciful God. Where there is a will, there is a way.
I can relate with #5. I'm in a situation right now that the person I'm dating is not who I see my future with. I've mentioned on a number of occasions that since we're not married I don't want to continue having sex. And he says that's it only natural for anyone who's in a relationship to have sex because it shows affection for one another. I know in my heart that it's wrong so every time after I feel guilty and ashamed. It makes me feel like I've separated myself from God and that I'm a hypocrite. So I feel myself pull back from my relationship with God. I pray that I get out of this situation and find the one God intended for me to be with.
How is going so far . I’m struggling with the same thing
How is it going, I’m struggling with the same thing too
@@flora5817 I was surprised to see that it’s been 3 yrs since that comment. Well, I continued in the relationship knowing it was wrong and I continued with the sin. I begged God to somehow take this person from me because I couldn’t do it in my own strength. I prayed for Him to take anything that didn’t come from Him and was against His will for my life from me. But the years went and nothing changed. I slowly started distancing myself from God because of my guilt. Just 3 weeks ago the man I was in sin with told me he didn’t wish to continue a relationship with me anymore. He slowly distanced himself from me and then completely blocked all communication with me. I was so confused and my feelings over the years had grown intensely for this person. One evening a woman calls my phone asking why I had been persistently calling her husband of 23 yrs. I was in utter shock!!! The entire time he had been married to someone else and I had no idea. Not one ounce of suspicion NOTHING!! I’m still in disbelief. But after weeks of crying out to God asking why and how this could happen. I heard him say (not audibly) “ You knowingly continued this sin and for years I gave YOU the opportunity to end it but you didn’t and now this is the consequence. Betrayal,Heartache, anxiety, loneliness.” For 2-3 weeks it felt like I was going through withdrawals from this man. I yearned for him like never before. I believe it was a soul tie. Today I wish I had done it sooner, I chose to be disobedient and willingly go against God and now I’m suffering the consequences. But God is faithful and merciful. Ultimately my prayer was answered in a way I would’ve never imagined but it has been answered. Even in my own demise God has been comforting me and now I feel his peace over my mind and heart. Hope this helps anyone.
Im 13 and wanted to find out bout’ this, THANKS!
Lucid Vex same
Lucid Vex same
Trust God little sib, learnt this one the hard way. Not worth it in the long run God bless!
P.s. whats in the world aint got jack on a life obedient to Jesus if the bible :)
His ways really do protect you ❤
Dont give in Gods word does not conterdict its self... i was tricked the man i went with read something with me and said that it was ok for us to sex before marriage biggest mistake of my life make sure you get Gods word straight because saten will try to twist it
I believe the issue is an unhealthy preoccupation with sex and being unable to separate sexuality and identity. Culturally most people in this generation specifically in the west are inundated with sexual images and stuff quite early on in life and the pressure builds up over the years in ones mind. Then when it is time to date, it is as if the dating experience is not complete unless sex is part of it. My advice to Christian singles who want to please God is just know no man or woman can completely fulfill all your deepest needs, have fun pursuing your dreams, career, hobbies and enjoy your relationship with God. Fellowship with other believers if possible and stop thinking you are missing out because you practice abstinence. When God blesses you with a mate, you can have sex as many times as you want. No big deal :) however if you fall in the area of sex before marriage, pick you self up, remember God loves you and move on. Period! At the end of it all true fulfillment regardless of if you abstained or not comes from renewing your mind and being full of God’s love and peace by being full of God’s word. Blessings!!!!
Thank you!!💜
Amen! ❤
very true on all of these points, i've been struggling with sexual sin but ive been doing so much better, just have to stay on the right path!
"...God always responds to a heart of repentance..." Nice.
This Guy is one of the best, logical arguments, happy demeanour and most important the message from God that he loves and forgives you! Not a jealous hateful God who will throw you into a fiery pit of hell but one who will rescue you, guide and help you! I am not a Cristian but I get exactly where this guy is coming from! More More More PLEASE! x
Man he is one of the best .. i came across his channel and i'm stuck on it ....
Awww I like how everyone in the comments is so supportive and positive unlike the people on his new video on this same topic❤️❤️❤️❤️
I know, right!
Well Said Allen. I wish someone would have told me these things in my teenage years. Our society makes sex so typical instead of the special act between two people as God designed it to be.
Amen. Straight , true and hard hitting
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Bonnie Ali thank you Bonnie!
Half of these are related to God so it can't change my mind :(
@@thebeatagp i have a question if if me and fiancee is engaged and we had sex 3days before marriage? and yes everything you said is true and biblical and i believe
great... really terrific. God gave you a great talent in delivering persuasive words ....... indeed! and i think God's using you greatly because of your devotion and obedience to Him; I'm saying this because it surprised me that you were single for 40 years. God bless you and your family.
It is also so sad that so many young men in their teens are rushing to lose their virginity when it is something so sacred to men too and men's souls/ soul-ties. I feel so much sadness right now and regret.
I fully believe all in this video. Soul ties makes a lot of sense.😨
Been celibate for 5 yrs and i am waiting for marriage. And God made so that 8 don't remember any of my sexual experiences. I really don't remember i' so glad all glory be to God!!!
The generation I’m apart of in my family have all had premarital sex. I on the other hand want to wait until marriage.
Hmm hence one should pray about these soul ties before getting married so as to closed all demonic doors ....
Hate it or love it - this is truth and it benefits us believers. Thank you for this video sir 🙏
Thank you for this message I just got out of this kind of horrible relationship. It nearly destroyed me. I asked God to remove the person from my life and God did. Praise God.
It’s difficult to inform older people that premarital sex is sinful because usually preachers preach on this and gear it to the young. I know many old or older “Christians” who are dating and having sex, or living with a lover, and when I try to send videos and sermons, they are about young people who have never been married or haven’t had experience in this area. Yes, I give them scripture, of course, but some who are in need of explanation
and are not willing to believe the Bible and are not saved yet need a stone in their shoe. I know the Lord is the only one that can open their eyes, but it our job to witness
Awww I like how everyone in the comments is so supportive and positive ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Allen your online presence is just inspiring. insightful videos, neat and content rich website etc. God bless you for using your gifts and talent to the glory of God and also being a light on the web. I have soo much to learn from you
Thanks so much Paul. So glad we are connected now and I'm glad you are enjoying the videos. God bless you brother!
I did before :-( but no more
Sabrina Pisa I'd give you 1000 likes if I could 😊
I did too. I'm working hard to save it for the person I marry someday if I do get married.
Sabrina Pisa Bless you. I wish I never had sex and I pray for forgiveness for all my sexual sins.
Amen!!!! I’ve learned my lesson as well 😥😌🤦🏽♀️
I never did it
*The Battle for Purity Starts in Your Mind*
“Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life” (Proverbs 4:23 NCV).
Every temptation starts in the mind. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life” (NCV). The battle for sexual purity is won or lost in your mind. Any time you see people really messing up their lives, you can bet their problems didn’t start with their actions, because their actions began with their thoughts. They lingered on dumb thoughts before making dumb decisions. The Bible says this very clearly - and science backs it up: The way you think determines how you feel. Feelings motivate actions. To change your life, you don’t just work on a bad habit, the action. Instead, you work on what caused it - the thoughts that caused the feelings that caused the action. God says your thoughts control your life. This explains how affairs happen. First, you begin by accepting sinful thoughts into your mind. “What would it be like to have sex with that person? Is it so wrong?” You start having doubts, and you start fantasizing in your mind. You begin to think it’s harmless or it’s not. Your thoughts produce feelings. And feelings inevitably lead to actions. You then move into emotional, non-physical involvement. That’s when you start flirting. You start making gestures and comments, subtly or not-so-subtly saying, “I’m available.” Next comes the physical involvement. And finally, you rationalize your actions: “Everybody is doing it. It’s no big deal. We’re both adults.” Your sinful actions started when you accepted sinful thoughts into your mind. The Bible tells us in 2 Timothy 2:22 how to manage our thoughts before they ever head down this path: “Turn your back on the turbulent desires of youth and give your positive attention to goodness, faith, love and peace” (Phillips). The Bible tells us to turn away from lustful thoughts and turn instead toward something positive. That two-step process is how you break a temptation before it ever gets started. You’re thinking wrong long before you’re acting wrong. You stop the cycle by turning your back on those sinful thoughts and turning toward goodness, integrity, love, and peace. You’re not an innocent by stander to sexual sin. You have a choice.
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Praise God for your preaching of the gospel in relation to a very relevant issue. Glory to God!
I find it strange that these days we need to give good reasons why we should obey God. When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s it was enough to say “this is God’s way- walk in it”... no explanation needed. Why? Because God was God. Period.
Sex before marriage isn't to deprive or rob you of sex, but to protect you and help you avoid disrespect. Coz the disrespect often follows you in a form of a person choosing to walk away like you didn't matter or a person feeling entitled to your body and your life(however that may look like-often times brutal), without haven't married you from the first place.
the shame was so deep .n the convictions were so strong..i could not even pray .its not worth it.
Wow this was extremely helpful. Every young person needs to hear this...if only I knew this when I was 14, things would make so much sense. I wish I knew this years ago because it makes sense and is all true. Even just having sexual feelings before marriage. There was this girl I had a crush on in my all girls Anglican middle school growing up. I was obsessed with her and had so many of my first fantasies about her, I even wrote part of a novel of fantasies of being with her... and even now when I am with the man I want to marry I think back to that rush of excitement of liking that girl and comparing it to how I feel now and how much I will miss those memories and fantasies when I marry since I literally LIVED for those fantasies back then...sexual fantasies were all I had to keep me wanting to wake up another day and go to school. If I did not have sex in my mind or those exciting thoughts I just did not want to live at all back then. I was very interested in girls at a young age since I was at an all girls school from age 4-16. I loved looking at women's bodies and then I got into a relationship with a much older girl at age 15...and it was abusive and sexual and way too mature for me at that age. I see how small things like fantasies can lead to a destructive abusive relationship. Thank God I found greater attraction to males though in the end..I never thought I'd ever get married or have kids...I really do think that was God calling me at a young age to come to him and leave sexual immorality behind.
I really meant to save but I caved to the pressure; I got curious. I have never felt so cheap when he threw me away. But, I learned my lesson. Thank you for this video :)
I struggle with fantasizing lewd women and masturbation. Pray for me guys :(
Amazing. I've just found your channel- thank you so much for these videos!
+Andrew B Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm so glad that you found the channel. I hope you enjoy some of the other videos as well. I also hope you'll take a moment to check out my website where you'll find blogs and a FREE eBook to download as well. The address is www.allenparr.com. Reach out if you have any questions about anything! God bless,
So many great points. Some I hadn’t really considered. Fantastic, on the ball videos Allen!
My fiancé who I waited for for seven years broke up after two years and I pray for her every single day I believe that God broke us up because we were having on marriage sex and God wanted me to get closer to him as my dad and I were seeing the rapture approaching I decided to get closer to God and actually pick up my Bible and start reading it she was I believe acting like she believed for the sake of my dad and I I asked God why I couldn’t get her out of my Head after six months and I believe I just got my answer.
I love this guy!! He breaks it down so easy
I love you to pieces because you are right on Biblically. But, no where in Scripture are we to forgive ourselves. We are to forgive other’s but not commanded to forgive ourselves instead we are to be thankful for God’s forgiveness. The idea of forgiving oneself is mans way.
when I was single and made decision to be celibate God gave me the grace to hold out but I was labeled a homosexual by my peers.
Thank you sir. Ive got so much guilt and pain from my past of sin. Im happy these videos gives me a plan and hope to be more connected with God. Thank you sir and God bless
I also always feels same anytime i commit sexual sins.thank God for delivering me from it.
I am interested in how we can break those unhealthy soul ties
Prayer and fasting
Wow this was such a good message with very good quotes, analogies quick to the point, and Biblical. I remember listening to a message from Chip Ingram and he used the two paper glue analogy. When I heard you use it it blew my mind. I love your videoes you have an amazing gift in teaching keep up the good work.
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Sounds really nice... Strong logic and powerful presentation. Still Allen, I wish that you really dealt with the subject from scriptural POV without of course excluding all the other moral/logical arguments. For me, you still did not answer the question of whether there is an express scriptural instruction, whether in the Old or New Testament, that says PREMARITAL SEX IS A SIN.
A good name takes a lifetime to build and only a second to loose 👌
I was not married, having a relationship to the same man for a long time we disided to to get married I asked God to forgive me and I do feel God gave me a chance, we had kids too and was very sick with my last child but God saved me I really know it was wrong, not being together with him, but in the way I was I needed to be married also so my children see that it is important too I knew I needed to start listening to God and follow his commandments
It's all about responsibility. GOD loves everyone and we must learn to be responsible. Sex in marriage can even be sour. Marriage is not a guarantee of compatibility. Learn to love and be real friends before going further. The Bible is really proverbial.
Finally soemthing very practical and with reason on premarital sex
What do you mean?
Just say no, people.
You can say no and mean it, but the other person can be persistent and makes you change your mind
Cam Nguyen when they're trying to tempt you or 'seduce you' then you should run away because the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Even paul said flee fornication. He didn't say walk away he said flee lmao.
Star Mac well, what if you don't believe in God and don't think it's a sin?
Eaglesight117 Our Elohim is real, and premarital sex is a sin. I will link you a video in my next reply. Please watch all of the informational part of the video. Thank you.
Eaglesight117 th-cam.com/video/odT3kKpSTJc/w-d-xo.html
Just to let you know, this person hardly ever uses words like they do in this video. You can look at other videos on their channel and see for yourself, if you would like. Also, I say nothing of this to offend or condemn you, but to try to bring you to Christ. Peace be with you.
I love the paper part.
I'm a muslim and I completely agree with him 👍🙏
I have a question..
In the days of the Bible.. I read that 2 people didn't get married from a Preacher. They just kinda said they were husband & wife.. then consummated the marriage. I'm sure prayers or something of the sort took place before God.. I'm not sure.
So my question is.. 2 people that have committed their life to each other but still haven't technically got married (although they feel married & call each other husband & wife) & have been together for 8 years.. how are they not considered married?(like in the old days when a preacher didn't marry them?)
I'm not talking about legal marrige.. I'm talking about marriage in the eyes of God. Some people think, God wants you to get married in front of a Preacher.. but I recently had someone tell me that they didn't even do that back in the Bible days.
So my question again is Does God see them married? & if not.. why? Because although the world may change, the Bible never does. Or does the Bible say how a person should get married?
I would also like to know. I'm I the same boat, with children. I am recently starting my journey with Jesus, but now I'm afraid because I feel like I am sinning every day. I can't just keep asking g for forgiveness every day and continue living with my common law husband of 6 years. We are engaged to be married for next summer, but I'm still scared now, and I don't know what to do. He isn't willing to move the date sooner.
I agree there should be no sex before marriage. Yet, I don’t think people of the church are honest about something. People did not live as long years ago so they got married young. It was no big deal to wait until 17,18 to have sex because that’s the Age people were getting married. We also have to take into account biology. Girls are physically able to reproduce as young as 8 years old in some cases. Of course no one should be having sex at that age. My point is that waiting too long actually goes against how we are biologically made up. It is totally natural to have sexual thoughts at 14,15. We are going against biology when we act like it is wrong to have desire at that age. Then you expect someone to get married before they have sex. It isn’t like it is so simple to find a good partner so for some people the wait could be until they are 50 or 50 or never. Why doesn’t this get addressed in conversation?
I meant to say 40 or 50.
Okay I’m going to go through each of the points he attempted to make point by point.
1)Being in a relationship in of itself is going to potentially create comparisons especially if you were the person who your ex-boyfriend, girlfriend wife or husband ended the relationship with. It’s just a fact of life that’s unavoidable as there’s hardly anyone who has only had more than relationship.
2)Sex before marriage doesn’t have to factor in to clouding a persons judgement. The term I don’t know what he or she sees in him/her factors in here. Someone can be in love with someone even though there’s evidence of them not being a very good boyfriend or girlfriend whether it be due to some personality flaws or they’re just lying, cheating people. A person can be blinded by their love of someone so they can’t correctly assess their character of the quality of their relationship. Sex doesn’t have to factor in to it.
3) Premarital sex can be about expressing one’s love for another and being intimate with one another through physicality. What’s shameful in sharing and showing your love with someone through sexual intercourse?
3)Sex can indeed lead to things that might catch up with them later but the reverse can be true that it may not. Especially if one is responsible and takes measures to reduce the chance of this happening like using contraception, reducing the amount of sexual partners they have have etc. And saying it’s a sin as if it’s a matter of fact is myopic as it is dogmatic.
5) Yes, he was speaking for himself and how he felt or still feels is all very well and good and he has a right to the principles had and presumably still does. That is neither here nor there though as what he feels may hinder him doesn’t necessarily extend to everyone else. Especially if they’re non-religious and/or do not believe in the existence of God.
6) Having sex with more than one person doesn’t necessarily mean they should gain a bad reputation. Someone who has done so may merely be because they were in what was then a long term relationship whomever they were with. It’s not as if they just merely just to have sex with anyone they choose to at any personal whim. And if someone has sexual intercourse with someone who they are not in a relationship with it may be infrequent and happen rarely.
7) Yes, it can alter your view on sex but it can be for the better than the worse. There can be negative experiences but it can help enhance your experience in knowing how to pleasure the person you are or make one appreciate the fact that different people have varying likes/dislikes. It also means that for a woman particularly for who sex can be painful when they lose their virginity, it’s not a so much of a daunting or uncomfortable experience when they eventually have sex with their eventual husband or long-term partner.
8) This is similar to the point in regards to points 1 and 2 in that sex doesn’t have to factor in to the equation. Merely being in a loving relationship in of itself can create soul ties. One would think this to be common sense. And if someone calls you up out of the blue who wants to get back with you, all you merely have to do is either tell them you’re not interested any more for whatever reason even though you may still have feelings for them or you consider getting back with. In short you’re still going to potentially be connected to them without having had sex with them.
Can u make a video about respecting parents and what it means?
I'll certainly consider! Thanks so much!
so very true... especially about creating ungodly soul ties. Thank You. Amen.
I always understood it that having sex with your partner IS marriage. Everything else is just a ceremony.
If not why does paul say:
"What? know you not that he who is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, says he, shall be one flesh." (1 Corinthians 6:16)
"one flesh" which is the reason for why they should not be divorced according to Jesus:
"Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." (Matthew 19:6)
Additionally look at the "marriage" of Isaac:
"And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death." (Genesis 24:67)
No ceremony whatsoever...
That's a very good point and one that I've rarely heard a pastor talk about. Thanks for posting.
But Jesus said to the woman at the well, "You are right when you say you have no husband. You've had 5 husbands, and you're not even married to the guy you are living with now." Don't think that having sex with someone makes you married and makes you excused. There is clear doctrine and spiritual reasons for coming together under a covenant.
@@pookahchu You're right in saying that. I think the original point here was just that sex is like the binding action of marriage so, we shouldn't think it's natural to do in a casual way with no binding commitment.
If you are talking about being married then yes sex is ok but if your talking about sex outside of marriage then the act of sex would not make you married. If that were the case how can fornication and adultery be two different sexual immoral acts? Because fornication is sex as unmarried and adultery is sex outside of married spouse.
Matthew 5:28: "But I tell you that if anyone looks at a woman and wants to sin sexually with her, in his mind he has already done that sin with the woman."
This is my struggle. I've been engaged for a while now tho. And we're going to get married.
I like how you put the scriptures at the end of the video; it was useful and I looked at each one in my bible, thank you.
Thank you! List of quotes in the end very useful
I have to say, "Amen," and I need to add that the idea of "just" getting to second base or third base but no home runs is still healthy, you're still wrong. Everything that Allen mentioned in this video applies to anything sexual, and for some people, that may even include passionate kissing. The best thinking is to abstain from all of it until after the nuptials, and thereby avoid any need for prenuptial agreements.
This should or should not question can only be answered on individual basis. Everyone is different and everyone’s situation is different. Telling people they “should” wait is not only puts unhealthy stress and shame on people who are engaging in premarital sex. Educate yourself of the risks so that you can be prepared for sexual intimacy. Only you can decide what’s best for your body.
I'm a 37 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. The first and last thought of every single day is "I still haven't had sex." I'm Christian so from an early age decided it's best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I feel I have missed out on one of the greatest joys in life - true love and sex. It may not be too late but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now.
Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me because a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Yet at the same time I have such a strong desire for one.
It's completely ironic that im quoting Denzel Washington right now,(bc of how much this man resembles him) 😂, but he stasted once, and I truly believe, "True desire in the Heart For Anything Good is God's PROOF to you, sent beforehand, to Indicate, IT'S YOURS ALREADY." - Joyce Meyer, and many other Faith and The Word knowledgeable people have stated the same... Keep the faith - it WILL happen!! 😊
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@@ericpratt984 My videos?
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I've been thinking about this a lot. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, living together for a year and having sex the entire relationship. Before him I was into new age and occult, he brought me to Jesus. I love him and I'm so happy to have him in my life, but I'm feeling like we are doing things wrong now. Would us being married make us right with God? Is our relationship ruined in God's eyes because we did it backwards? I'm really not sure where to go from here. Open to all loving advice from more mature believers ♡
Pardon me, I'm just 17 and I'm a baby Christian, I do not know if I should be giving advice lol...but I found it hard to scroll past this post. So I apologise in advance if I say anything to offend. So God's word is clear and it is written. Quite straightforward and to the point. Sexual intimacy before marriage before God's eyes and the eyes of man is wrong. I believe it is best you two talk about it and abstain until you are married. I do not think your relationship is ruined, but it is still not pleasing to the sight of God. If you feel conflicted or confused, the last resort is to go to Him in prayers. He shall definitely direct you in all your ways and create a clear path for you to see. Hope this helps ❤️ If u read this all the way, thanks Miss❤️ God bless you!
@@Bl4ckJade thank you for your input! Since making my comment, God has spoken to me and we have been refrained from intercourse. We are discussing marriage now, I believe he will be proposing soon!
@@amandapanda316 God Bless you both! I wish you two a beautiful future ahead according to the will of Our Maker❤️🥺 I'm sincerely so happy for you !
I struggle hard with the 3rd, 5thand 8th one every day and every minute.
Damn brother thank you for this amazing video !!!! I’m definitely subscribing !!!
Who is this guy...He explained this perfectly !!!
Nice video. I like when u show biblical scriptures to show what ur talking about
wow this was a very interesting topic ... made me analize things better.. thanks for the upload...
I really enjoy your teaching! However, soul ties are not Biblical. Someone cannot transfer their “demons” or mess to me by engaging in sex. I know you didn’t say that in your message but I’ve heard so many leaders try to preach this. I do believe that we are affected by fornication and sexual immorality because we open the door for Satan to come in and cause havoc in our lives because of activities that God commands us not to do. I agree with you about the mental image that is recorded into our minds and I’m thinking that’s probably why when we begin to ponder on it or a past partner reaches out after a while is because our minds went to that place and those thoughts eventually went from temptation to sin. That’s why we should rebuke those thoughts when they rise up in our minds. My outlook on this may be incorrect but I haven’t found anything Biblical about soul ties. Thank you for sharing!
As Noah Webster said: " 'Sex before marriage??' Not in my book "
Please pray for me, I keep falling back into premarital sex and I really want to stop, I feel shameful most of the time.
Try focusing on learning and loving yourself, passions, hobbies, financial goals and realize your worth to be waited on by a special someone. Take time to get inner healing as well through relationship with Jesus.
@@BethKnox32 thank you so much for the advice🙏🏽I will create hobbies and prayer harder. It's not easy but it's worth it
Try to read the word of God more or watch more preachings daily that how i overcome all sexual immorality and am 1 year celibate ..
Will God show problems of yourself that you didn’t know before he changes you’re heart ?
yes, he did it for me. I am in a relationship and I went through many trials with this person and realized a lot of my faults and actions that I thought had my good intention, but was inadvertently causing harm to him and because of God showing me my character through how other people perceived me was and Is still something that I am working on but if he did it for me he can do it for you and I can tell you 100% that if you ask him to change your heart in the process, he will
Firstly I just want to commend you and say your videos have me captivated 😳😳 I have had my own personal walk and relationship with God yet the biggest thing I struggle with is the men I choose in my life ... the man I currently am in a relationship with and live with is curious about having a relationship with God but honestly I don’t think he is ready to be serious and humble himself ?? And in the same breath he is very defensive when I ask certain questions and I am actually being humble and am trying to reach his true self his spirit ?? What do you do if you don’t want to give up on someone or how can you truly acknowledge if I should keep trying or just let go and let a God? I feel I am ready for changes yet I’m not so sure about him ...thanks again your learning sister in Christ
Exodus 22:16 KJV
[16] And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.
Interesting
What about sex with an "unbeliever" or someone who has a belief in God but doesn't live a "godly life"?. In my current experience, my boyfriend and i struggled with sex due to the fact that i knew it was a sin and because i felt as though i dont want to do it anymore. And so i decided to want to become celibate and he was willing to partake in that but then now comes the point of How Far is Too Far? And "What/how do we overcome boundaries set when it comes to sex? How do we navigate through the scriptures, how to be in a relationship that doesn't have sex, until marriage?? I would love to know your thoughts 💭💭 THANK YOU 😌
Not sure what your status is now but God requires us to not be unequally yoked. So relations with an unbeliever unless they are pursuing Christ is already a no no.
2:25 what if you don't feel these emotions after having pre marital sex maybe because they're your partner and it was consensual or you guys are getting married anyway??
Boyfriends dont get husband privileges.
Thank you so much for being real!
Where in the bible does it say that premarital sex is a sin? Im from Sweden, and our translation doesnt even include the word fornication. You might think that if our God created the Bible, then he would also make shure that every translation would be the same, right? But it isn't, thats just a fact! Now Im aknowledging the benefits of waiting until marriage, its a solid idea. But how can we be shure thats what God wants?
ty so much for explaining...
So glad it was clear. Yes, I hope people seriously consider these issues because they can definitely cause issues in marriage if we don't make good decisions while dating.
Thank you for this I swear my little sister she is pregnant and you guess it not married and got me question everything like is it okay for me to have sex without being married like am I waiting to long to wait for marriage like this is hitting hard and I’m just overjoyed finding this video you can pick the sin you want but you can’t pick the consequences. And I’m not saying I’m perfect I’m just like for me when I know I read the Bible and it says wait until marriage cause of the soul ties I’m just like it feels like she’s happy in a way cause she getting a kid but thank you I totally understand why god wants us to wait. 🙌🏽
lots of truth here that I wish I would have taken seriously through my teen years. lust was probably the struggle that hit me the hardest before I gave my life to Jesus. my past sexual sins nearly ended the relationship with my wife. thankfully we have a strong foundation on Christ and we worked things out. you are spot on when you say that you can be drawn back to the past partner if not careful. a book I recommend every man who struggles with lust is called every young man's battle. I read that after God got ahold of me and I gave lust over to him and that book is amazing I couldn't put it down. Blessings
How about if your almost 40 and have no prospects of marriage???
So
I have been on my current relationship for a while now and it was for us both our first time and we want no one else in our lives and want to get married with each other.