HOW A WOMAN SHOWS SHE IS INTERESTED IN A MAN by RC Blakes
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HOW A WOMAN SHOWS SHE IS INTERESTED IN A MAN by RC Blakes
Society says that a woman should aggressively pursue a man. Many women are choosing this short term mating strategy and are experiencing horrible results.
Though it is not wise for a woman to push the issue, it is imperative that a woman knows how to tactfully send approval signals. There are very practical strategies a modest woman may employ to experience better outcomes with communicating her interest to a man. Let's Talk About It!
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1. Make eye contact and simultaneously smile. *Pay attention to the conversation and actively listen to what he is saying. *Convey a sense of openness and friendliness. 2. Show interest in his hobbies and passions. 3. Compliment him. 4. Ask him questions about himself. 5. Be respectful of his boundaries.
Lordt, I have to enjoy his presence enough to care and look beyond what he's presenting. I'm a work in progress.
Thanks ❤
I can mostly agree with this but it is a little different in a long distance situation. After corresponding for a length of time I think there is nothing wrong in asking a man of his interest so the woman can move on. Prayer throughout the whole process is necessary.
That's it....same for the MEN...😊
I appreciate your notes
1. Make eye contact & smile.
2. Show interest in his hobbies and/or passions
3. Compliment him
4. Ask him questions about himself
5. Be respectful of his boundaries
This is exactly what I have been praying about. How to do this. This was so helpful and sent directly from God. These are the things fathers don't teach daughters. For us trauma survivor's, these are some of the things that were lost because we were so busy trying to just survive.
Trauma Survivors, you can say that again!
Me too! It’s like a whole other language- not ever sure what to do😩
Or like me who was raised by my dad, a great dad, but I never learned some of the finer points of being a woman...
This!!!! Been in survival mode up until today…. May GOD BLESS You
@Sheila Same here 🙋🏽♀️ My dad (may he RIP 🪦) was in my life but he never once taught me the things that I’ve learned from listening 👂🏽 to Pastor Blake’s!
This man has and is helping us women who’ll listen well!
Changing my life
He has my attention, I want to correct how I do things!!
There is a many that I met...it was like mutual love a first sight. I was single...he was separated. I immediately stopped expressing any interest subliminally or otherwise. He somehow sensed that and we never discussed it again. We worked together until I moved away. It's been an entire year. He recently contacted me....now divorced officially 12 months ago. He said...he wanted to take time and COME CORRECT if I was still available.
Just take your time with him if you still want to get back with him
Awe that’s beautiful! I wish you all the best 🥰
"5 points and I'm OUT!"
*1 hour video* 😅😂
I love the slight humor sir! Been listening the past 4 years and you've helped me like a father from afar.
I began listening to you 7 years ago after a break down from a narcissist relationship--you saved me and taught me more about men, woman, love and relationships--forever grateful
I am still in that kind of relationship ( marriage) and this ministry was put in my lap by God a year ago when I cried out to Him.)
Same here I’m the daughter of some very Ill people then was with a narcissist for 5 years when I came across his videos saved my life set me free he’s doing God work ❤ I appreciate the life I have today blessings to everyone
This is the exact same for me. I'm so thankful for his knowledge and wisdom. It has tremendously helped my recovery to health. ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This is where I needed help. For whatever reason, I'm always so reserved and tend to "play it cool" out of fear of being hurt and I struggle to find a middle ground. I appreciate this.
I can relate soooo much to this, haha.
Maybe middle ground would be be careful but open yourself for a man who you like.
@@orianam9835scary
Actually such attitude guarantees getting hurt! It's better to be disillusioned or rejected before we get invested emotionally, than to create an attachment to a person we have nothing really in common. And then the hurt is much, MUCH greater, because we not only have feelings for the wrong person, but we also lost hope and lost time. The lesser are the losses, the lesser is our hurt.
Take it from a former people-pleaser! If you meet a new friend or a man, just be yourself, as someone said : "Come on, be "difficult ;) ". If the real you is too much / not good enough, then this person is definitely not the right companion for you!
All my friendships based on "playing it cool" ended with me being taken advantage of and / or disrespced. My best friend is a person, who met the real me since the day 1. And guess what? She told me she really loves me for who I am, even if I am not perfect, even if I have flaws or problems in my own life. If another lady can love you dearly for who you are, the right man will do as well!
Don't be afraid to be you. You will be spared of years of disappointment, pain and humiliation. I can guarantee it!
Middle ground is also risky. Mostly because it's not really authentic attitude. To reach a middle ground, you have to compromise something. The less self-esteem, the more is sacrificed. I tried that in friendships... it ends up in the same way - people's ways part. Middle ground is good for superficial relationships, like with co-workers. @@orianam9835
I have been told I should smile by guys that are creeps, telling me I would look better. I was taught to discern whom I give my eyes and smiles too as it’s an exchange of energy. I don’t give anything that is trying to take from me just for their pleasure.
Of course if I am interested I will smile and give eye contact.
Thank you for your wisdom always.
I got asked at work many years ago this question.
Yes why are you smiling and happy every morning ?
I said why not!
Yes then I walked away with a bigger smile
I get that a lot. I love to smile because I survived so much. There's so much to be grateful and smile about. God is good.
My only issue if a woman is showing that much interest, she must be sure that the relationship isn't ONLY about him and his desires. There are men so selfish that the woman gets little or no interest from the man because everything is all about him.
Then redirect.
Then she should remove her interest from such a man
Amen and Amen and AMEND AGAIN😂❤
That's the womans fault she didn't talk about or leave
Bishop thank you. I’m close to 70 years young and needed the reinforcement of these queenly 👑principles. I actually used them today.
Great teacher and advice as a single woman patiently waiting for God; kingdom, Marriage, husband to locate me and make me see your body and where I should be at the right place at the right time being classy woman, proverbs 31 Woman, Wise , Protective fun, loving, romantic, serious side of me, business minded. Want to enjoy the rest of my years with who God has for me. I am ready and I know when God’s sends him he will be ready no counterfeit, With hidden agenda.🙏🏼❤️
We just want to know when it's safe to approach. Thank you Pastor for this message. Although it's geared towards the ladies, I was still able to gain a bit of insight from this message🙏💪☝️🙌👑🔥
That completely makes sense to me now. If women can shift away from seeing men as a threat (that takes some healing) we can recognize and create a space of safety.
@@sashamarieMFT Very true . Me as a man don't want to appear as a creeper if I approach a woman in public. These days you just don't know when or if it's safe to do so.
AMEN GANG!
What if you’re shy/nervous so eye contact is a little challenging?
A true Ephesians 5 man. God bless.
Pastor Blake, how graciously you teach us. Allowing a lady to be a LADY, in the right way. I'm so thankful for the wisdom, honesty, sensitivity that you share on these (at times) difficult to navigate subjects. I love what you and your wife have built together; and how you care for us all. Deep honor to you both. Thanks to the Lord for your ministry.
Yes Pastor you said right. So many women think that when a man chases them and constantly following them he must be serious and has good intentions. She must show a interest in him. If someone is running away let them go.
I'm widowed about 4 years now I use to smile but seemed to attract unhealthy behaviors and sexual advances from some men so without realizing it my smile vanished and I have went into a protective mode and further into isolation to keep myself safe. Smile is there just not shown to everyone yet Things I'm working on with the Lord! Amen!
Amen.
I start by making positive comments to a good man. Men always love when you lift them up.
Compliment him on character traits and decisions that he has control over….. Priceless ❤. Thank you for dropping so many jewels.
3 more days to wait so I’m listening to all of the other videos AGAIN while patiently waiting & renewing my mind. THANK YOU so much for ALWAYS putting in the work teaching us so we’ll know how to operate & truly live as the QUEENS that GOD has called us to be. GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY MORE THAN EVER BEFORE! These videos are SUPER AMAZING & needed in the earth in a time such as this .I greatly appreciate & love you & yours Pastor!🙏🏽❤️💪🏾🙌🏾
Thank you Lynn. This blessed me so much. I love you too. 😊🙏🏽♥️
"A man whose life is actually clean enough to have an exclusive relationship." WoW❗️This is one of the many reasons women are not in relationships. However, these are the men that pursue women the hardest. Its's a huge turn off.
Exactly
Yes, FACTS!
Exactly this year I met 2 alcoholics and someone out of jail things I have never dealt with and I knew it wasn’t for me
Every woman should watch all your videos over and over, through the years.
Amen and amen!
Immerse Yourself In His World & He Will NEVER want you to leave it.
I Love when RC Blake's do these types of subjects . I learn so much from him and appreciate it how he tells us the real deal from a Man's perspective. I'm still just learning how to date and relate to men in a healthy way. I didn't have a father to teach me these things so I View pastor Blake's as my father daughter talks. Look forward to hearing what he has to share with us. I'm hoping to marry a nice guy in the future so this could help me
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Hello from Brentwood Northern CA.
Consider yourself immensely blessed to have this insight ahead of time. I'm happy for you ! God bless and give you wisdom in finding tge man God has picked out already, for you! 🙂
Mr Blake have so much joy talking about his wife 😊❤
This man of God is a blessing indeed! Thank you RC and Lisa!
This song will definitely be a part of my marriage ceremony....
Powerful.
Who sang it?
@Biba I would like to know as well.
We are waiting to know who sang it?
@@biba7389 I found it. It’s called She by Dave Hollister.
@@jennifermwangi3541 Found it. It’s called She by Dave Hollister.
My smile is about the sunshine and I am also called sunshine too
A smile is the easiest thing to give you and others
Dear RC Blakes, I totally understand what you’re saying. HOWEVER, I live in an environment, where I constantly need to be on a look out to reinforce my personal boundaries. If I go out with a smile, I feel vulnerable. For those women that do everything themselves, that have to go out in the world and be powerful, be influential, be strict, to not only defend themselves, but make the positive change needed in their communities, the smile and bubbly thing is just not an option on day to day bases. I love smiling and being all soft feminine, but because of the circumstances I have to be the fierce feminine. So, I’m thinking, maybe I should just wait for God to introduce me to a man that’s not intimidated by it, that actually sees past the exterior armour that some of us just GOT to put on, and that will actually want me exactly as I am with that armour and all, because it will be a perfect fit for his purpose and his will be for mine. Also, being single is absolutely a blessing too.
I am convinced that if more men listen and take this man of God counsel we women will be so much better off. When I ask my spouse to listen with me he always seem not to have much interest, if he only knew that his teaching kept me committed to my marriage. Thank you Bro. Blake.
I dont go by what the church says...about much. I go into my word and have a conversation with God.
A GEM does not seek...She is sought. Never Pursue or chase a man.....that's different than appropriately showing interest. If there is a connection...we will know...and gracefully and authentically pursue each other.
Good advice. Healthy men and women will hear and receive this. I'm declaring that my darling husband is on the way.
Can't wait to meet him.❤
Same here, namesake 😅. Healthy advice for healthy adults. May God send the one in His timing.
It’s so validating to talk about the power of a woman’s smile. I truly had zero idea.
I remember clearly a guy I liked…and making a point, though nerve-wracking it felt, to give him a real smile. It actually felt vulnerable but also a friendly gesture to make…
We ended up dating, and that moment just stands out to me so it’s nice to know the power of the smile.
Shalom! Another jewel dropped message. I believe men and women fail at not establishing boundaries in the beginning. Also we don’t prove them long enough. We are to guard our heart and not be anxious for nothing. ❤
Guard your heart, not your smile. Love your enemies (from a distance)
That’s me! I always look away and look down. Been doing since i was 16
I cant wait for this because I am not shooting my shot 😂
Your enthusiasm for your wife is so inspiring ❤️❤️❤️
This is definitely needed! Especially with the advent of online dating, which can be soooo stressful if ur waiting 4 the man to make the first move! 😅 1MM Subs......Congrats in advance❤
34:42 he's telling the truth. They like to talk! They will peel back that tough guy persona if they feel you care and are interested.
Very helpful tips! I am so grateful for this insight!😊
R.C Blakes, God has sent you to heal broken women, thanks for listening to the voice of God. You represent God as the giver, which most men do not realize the power God has given to them to protect, to provide and to defend. It truly amazing, bless God.
Great insight! So glad to get coaching on how to treat a man. I was in a courtship where I attempted to connect emotionally to be able to understand and bond with him, but the feedback I would get from him was, “Figure it out!” Needless to say, we are not together because of his non-emotional connection. Thankful to, finally, have some of my questions answered. Thanks Pastor RC Blakes!
Thank you! RC Blakes for sharing what a woman can do instead of hearing all the things we "should not" do in dating and/or letting the right man know that we are interested. I don't think I've ever heard these tips from anyone in the church or from those that don't date the so called "worldly" way.
So, practice looking & smiling 😊
For us ladies we use our expressions. I think we all know 90 percent of communication is non verbal..So you let him know with expressing.
Pastor Blakes is speaking into my soul when he says that a lot of men complain about women being mean and unfriendly but don't address the reason why. Speaking right into my soul. My ex was abusive to me when I was pregnant with his children 7 and 8 years ago. He moved out and left me to deal with the last pregnancy by myself. He wasn't even there at the hospital when I had the baby. I have forgiven him for the benefit coparenting. But to this day he can't get over the boundaries I have up around him. He always says I am too guarded and businesss-like. I wish God would speak into his heart so that he could understand the pain he has caused me.
The validation was real in this video. Thank you!
They love to say "That's in the past" smh
I can't smile at all men their going to think I like them or if I don't smile people will think I'm sad or mean. It's very hard😥
I love how slowly and deliberately you speak.
I appreciate scriptures with these and thank you for consistently explaining how Lisa responded. We love Lisa❤️
There's an openness a female will project towards a man if she's interested in him. I've noticed my spiritual senses and even soul senses pick this up better when I fast.
Well said pastor. You’re helping many of us …thank you
I think it helps when you listen to something funny or that makes you happy! Especially right before you are going to see your person. Because then, you are mentally happy and light and your smile and eye contact will be natural.
“Bentleyology” is on the showroom floor in this discussion on queen consciousness. Body language and tone is probably the key that unlocks this door.
I am always smiling....and will not look in the direction of a mean unhappy man...I am the prize.....lol
Pastor Blake, thank you so much for sharing this message. My father passed away when I was 9years old and even when he was alive we never had a very close relationship. My mother put me in boarding school while she hustled to make ends meat for us and between the ages of 14-22 I never saw her until my graduation day from University. So I had little to no male guidance and had to figure a lot out on my own. Realising now that I know that the man God placed for me, I pushed him away because I was forward and lacked feminine wisdom. Thank you for your ministry. Trusting God for healing in my life and to apply all your teachings going forward.
Saving up to be a part of the Mordecai Mission programme. Thank you ❤ love from South Africa 🇿🇦
What a powerful session today! Thank you for discussing "How to Show Interest!"
Blessed To Be A Part Of This Amazing Family Of Love ❤ 😍 💖 ❣ 💕 💘 ❤
My personality is always to look anyone that I come in contact in the eye, with a smile - most times a joyful greeting because I’m such a ppl person.
My issue most times is that men seem to think that I’m interested in them immediately other then just being friendly as a possible introduction.
I will continue to do so because I enjoy engagement.
I’ve met so many men that say that I’m everything a Godly man would want…. Tell me how different I am, beautiful, all those things. But most have not done the work for themselves. And I say that with love.
At the right time,
Much love - keep up the Great Work- Such a blessing!🙏🏽💯
I really could listen to you all day. This message was a great reminder for me today that I'm doing the right things. God bless!
"To chase means something is running from you." And why would one want someone who's running from them? Clearly this indicates they do not share the same feelings. With that said, save that energy for chasing the little ones (toddlers) your life. I personally wouldn't want someone I had to chase. But that's just me. 🤷🏽♀️
I learned a lot and I'm taking mental note. I've been briefly having conversation with a guy at church and in conversation I unintentionally began approaching the conversation in the way you've been describing without me knowing I was doing so 🤣🤣🤣. Great conversation and the talking is non-stop until finally the service begins. This is well needed because often it's "let him do it" without an idea of the woman sending a signal as you mentioned to give him a green light.
Nice intro music. I feel like I’m in the lobby waiting to enter the auditorium
for a talk 😊 Creates ambiance and sense of anticipation
The intro song lifts my spirit I ❤IT ❗🫒🫒🫒🌿🕊️🤍
Truly thankful for your application advice! Sometimes it's easy to get ahead of ourselves or have the right intentions but display them inaccurately. Thanking God for your consistent ministry 🙏🏾
Men always say it’s my eyes and my smile. 😌
Pastor Blakes, I believe I grew up around the same time as you. So glad I did 😊.
Thank you so much for this Pastor. I have always struggled with showing interest. I'm a little shy so I've always given the impression from my lack of eye contact and body language that I wasn't interested when I actually was. I wish I knew this years ago ❤
Thanks to your wife , Ist lady , Lisa . Blessed to have a wonderful woman to stand with her man and not just beside him. Praise God for both of you❤🙏
More often than not it’s the women who bend over and backwards to show interest and to please their male partners. It seldom happens the other way round. It’s also the women who are invested in studying the likes, the hobbies and preferences of the guys. And last but not least it’s the women who read and study relationships books in the hope of keeping communication smooth in difficult times and making things work. How much energy and investment can a Queen conscious woman expect from her man ?
RC always makes us wait!!! I’m excited :)
Looking forward to tonight. Thank you Bishop RC & Lisa Blakes for being Humble Open and Transparent.
Always on Time Messages💜✨
The 1st man to teach me in this way. God bless you & your wife. 🙏
Thank you sir RC Blakes Jr, even i am not a Christian or a religious woman, this video has given me the insights i was searching for! ❤
Good stuff! I have been using your pointers and they are working! God bless you MOG!
As the Queen Conscious Woman that I am, I can unequivocally say, this was very refreshing! I cannot say enough how I thank God for ordering my steps to New Home Family Ministry videos! I have been blessed beyond measure and very grateful to God for how my life has been revolutionized for His glory!! Thank you and may God continue to bless you and Lady Lisa beyond your comprehension! 🙏🏽
Thank u. I’m 64 and learning
Looking forward to tonight’s conversation! RC and Lisa, you both are AMAZING! Thank you both for all that you do! Love from Michigan ❤
Thank you so much! You have reconfirmed that I am right on track! See you at the top!
The Rolls Royce example almost made me want to shout LOL Such a great analogy!
I don't think many men look around at us and see rubies. Candy in a candy store, maybe. But our value just doesn't seem to be noticed or cared about. Unless men just act like they don't see anything so that they can more easily lower our value
Bishop this was knowledge and wisdom. Your message has blessed my life. Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤❤
I was never taught any of this. After my mum left my father she never talked about any of this. I’ve read a lot about relationships and watched many talks on TH-cam about relationships. Thank you for advice we live and learn. 🙏🏻
The light of the eyes that causes my heart to rejoice! So true.
Several times I have done exactly this and received positive vibes from a man only to find out later that he has a girlfriend. I am tired of being a man’s ego boost.
Be not weary in well doing
Well, very embarrassing to realize the mistakes I have made by holding my questions and interest back out of fear of looking too eager, and ended up talking too much out of nervous energy and not knowing what to do. Maybe I tried too soon before I was healed enough. He was open and ready to share, too. And I had so many questions that I never asked. I completely blew it. And since women don't chase...is there even anything I can do now? He really means the world to me, and I completely blew it.
That’s happened to the best of us so please don’t be too hard on yourself. At least next time you’ll be intentional and listen more and speak less. You could probably just text him and ask how he’s doing and let him know you truly enjoyed speaking to him but would like to hear more about his interests since the conversation was mostly about you and wait for him to answer. If he’s truly interested, he’ll reach out to you and let you know. Good luck on your journey 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I laugh and praise God for this message! I currently work a job in which I am behind a window! I get a good bit of window shoppers who desire me, but not willing to pay the price! Working on me and patiently waiting on the right one!
Blessed Monday night .Well Bishop you put it on the line again 😊. What a great advice for applying this advice for interested Queens, learning to date a king. I got this message still working on my mind. Thank you !;🙏❤️😮 Thanks . Amen , Glory to God. Eye contact and a warm smile.
I make eye contact and smile at every one, every day. That’s just me ❤
I always say good morning and have a good day to everyone also
BISHOP Blakes and Lady Lisa
These videos are changing many the lives of our women me being one of them Thank you so much from my ❤
This is an interesting perspective. I know a lot of "modern" women struggle with actually being interested in men. I find most men to be boring and their interests limited. We assume that we should just find men interesting...I didn't realize that older generations of women actually work at it. Wow, I never realized how far off base we are. Modern women expect to find a handsome, interesting, and healthy person to relate to and we keep coming up short never realizing that relationships are work from the very beginning. Guess this is what happens when you're raised on Disney.
That's very true
The boys do not grow up watching Disney chick flicks so they may have no idea what the girls expect. But to me everyone knows women love to be impressed and taken care of
Pastor, you are just a man after my heart....
I love love your content....
What a blessing you are to us...
I made the comment a man is not the prize, a woman is. Right after that comment, the guy told me he only sees us as friends. I have to admit, I did not lose any sleep over this..
Thank you so much for your Wisdom once again Spiritual Dad.
You're always right on time!
Love the message!! Thank YOU Pastor.
I love your Rose Royce analogy.
Rolls Royce
Thank you pastor for your advices. I am genuinely being this kind of woman, signalling with grace my genuine interest with kind question because I want to know who he is, and what he has to offer as a man... however... after 3 attempts to deepen our conversations., I feel like he seems to be avoiding any interaction with me each time I intend to get to know him more (example : what do you love about the minister you are in?)... I am not the kind of woman to chase (anymore!!!) I am patient and believe that the man should be the one to initiate things... and to be honest I am feeling like I should just move on... because although he really seems to be a man of God, and shows some qualities i admire and love in a man, this kind of attitude he is presenting tells me that he might not be ready or simply not interested in me. And it is important for me that the man I would choose to let in my life IS indeed interested in ME without me having to tell him how great I am. So I am praying and am not really attached to the outcome, trusting God. Any more advice?
I agree with you that I need to smile more and would like to! Definitely not offended; I know it’s true, but I have a hard time fake smiling … it has to be genuine :-) This is a great teaching! Thank you. 🙏🏼
What a great message! Very much needed, thank you 🙏🏽
Pastor Blakes Ty for the worksheet. Extremely helpful. I keep them in my binder, refer & study over them. THANK PASTOR & LADY BLAKES 😊
I'm working on being more patient. Letting the man lead and taking myself the more passive aproach. Even if I'm so interested on him. The Christian men i've deal with are mostly very slow 😅 God is definitely working on me
Thanks Bishop! Another masterclass. 🙏🙌💛💜