THE DANGERS OF PURSUING REJECTION by RC Blakes
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I heard an analogy on Christian radio: A bottle of water costs $6 at the airport, but only 25 cents at Costco. It’s the same exact bottle of water, the only difference is location. Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.
AMENNNNN
Wow! Amen!
Amen!!
I love your comment, Thank you so much.
@@sylviaburlesonbrown3309 I am very happy it’s helping people.
Rejection is God’s protection.
Do not fight God’s protection! It will save you from pain and even death! ❤
Amen!!! Powerful words.
It surely saved me from death. My now ex husband almost succeed at killing me - an Abusive narcissist sadistic psychopath.
@@Reclusive_ButterflyI thank God you are alive. 🙏🏼✝️Ive been watching some of the true stories on YT of ppl who have killed their partners and that is so sad and scary cos its becoming more and more rampant these days.
Never let anyone tell or show you twice that they don't want you or your love 💯 Walk away 💯
📍🎯💯 same for disrespect - if they do it twice, they'll do it again & keep doing it
does that include our children?
Yes, I think that the man who doesn't dilligently pursue you just doesn't want you. 'Better to feel hurt /disappointed about the rejection now, at the beginning (before starting relationship) vs to figure it out after pushing him to marry you - that he never wanted you.
@@amandaowens7568now how do you move past it after you did all that and still were rejected 😢
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You cannot force someone to respect you but you can refuse to be disrespected
People have the right to not want me. That healed my soul right there😭💯
the problem is when they string you along but mistreat you. they keep you in a relationship with breadcrumbs. they love bomb in the beginning and then drop you. i would not have wanted them if they didn't initiate the relationship and then switched up on me
@taghazoutmoon5031 I've experienced that, but we can't give them the power. We still have the power to remove ourselves once we peep games are being played. Staying longer and beginning our fate doesn't help and I've done these things in time past...its a sick game some people enjoy playing.
People have the right to not want you and you have the right to not want them. A lot of ppl can get real prideful by saying 'it's because im TOO good for them' and i do it too 😂 just wish everyone well, and move It along
Everybody don’t belong in your life. Know when the door is closed. People come & go in seasons.
"Sometimes you got to let your heart to break for your soul to heal." Beautiful beautiful. ☀️💗💓💖
1of my fav quotes he says
At the end of the day, what GOD has for me, it is for me.
So many people get this misconstrued. Yes, I agree that whatever God has for us, it is for us, but if we are not ready, aligned or in place, we will miss it every single time. We miss out on what is already ordained to be ours by God, because we are not where we are suppose to be by our own faults. We have to be ready and in position to receive that that we are seeking. Such as a good partner, many of us need to clean up ourselves, or we won’t even see and recognize the good men as they stand before us.
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Facts! I’ve literally ran out of fear of certain blessings and they still caught me. We absolutely can’t miss what God has for us. The word says his favor and love PURSUES US!! @terrymassie7656
Amen 👏🏾🙏🏾
Faith without works is dead
To me….Rejection hurts the most when you have no idea why you are being rejected. 😢
The light in you?
Dont think about why, let it go
It doesn't matter why. People have the right to not want you & they don't owe you constant explanation for why they move on. Oftentimes rejection is for our protection but refusing to be released keeps you tied to a dead situation
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There will come a time when rejection makes you happy and it doesn't even matter why you are being rejected when you inerstand that rejection is protection.♥️
Great lesson, "if it don't fit ,don't force it" it'll never work no matter how much you'd like it to.
Great message! I'd like to add from personal experience: it's not enough to just say you are letting go. It's not a one and done decision. It's a decision first, then it takes consistent and persistent thoughts and action. Everytime you are tempted to think of that person, reach out to that person, be with that person, you have to remind yourself that you are choosing YOU. It will take time to heal and be able to truly and completely move on. And there is no right or wrong way or amount of time as each person's journey is unique. Just stay the course, trust the process. You absolutely will have slip ups and times of falling back, but keep moving forward, keep praying for strength, and Believe that you WILL eventually be free. ❤
Yesss and Amen!! Very well written!
Yesterday is gone. Today the answer is still NO (red flags) 3
I've accepted and mentioned that I'm the placeholder (excuse) for him to not change. 5
Keeping my distance. Guarding my heart. Speaking my truths. Enjoying my independence. 7
I am definitely rewatching this and I thank God for you as my earthly father and guide Mr. R.C. Blakes Jr.🙏🏽💝
I've watched twice, Going on my 3rd time to get it into my head😅😅
Hello Pastor! Thank you for being here for so many broken women like me! I was in a similar situation! He simply stopped calling, texting , nothing. This had me asking myself what did I do? I literally made myself sick. Listening to this message has started my healing! I so much needed this! My heart is overjoyed today. I truly thank you.
Listen, oftentimes people ghost you when they move on but cannot face you. Accept the rejection and know that you really don't want anyone in your life who can walk away from you so easily. The silence speaks volumes!
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Take this message seriously, it’s taken me 4 years of my life to get over the effects of this sort of Craziness
Same it has taken me years...but God is restoring me with each day.
@@StacyBalcombelol”
"You've made a God out of an enemy" - Powerful teaching. Thank you Pastor RC Blakes.
I wish some men would listen to this! Especially old men and married men! Just like they tell women:"don't let a man tell you more than once, he doesn't want you"! Same thing for men! You got to be real with yourself! Read people and their vibe! God knows what is up and sometimes He will tell you, leave that person alone!
📍💯 there's a double standard
Thank you so much TH-cam Dad❤️🥹Soooo much🙏🏽❤️❤️😊.
Dangers of pursuing people that reject you:
1. You make an idol, a god, of them. By doing so, you give them control of your emotions, your psyche, your spirit.
2. You make a mockery of yourself. It diminishes your dignity. It will damage your self-esteem and your self-worth.
3. You overlook and neglect your own worth and value.
4. You hinder your emotional healing. You can't heal while you're running behind the person that's wounding you.
5. You may miss out on God's plan for your life while you're pursuing this person.
6. You risk becoming ensnared in a cycle of emotional pain. It can become your new norm.
7. You may settle for less than what God has intended for you.
You have the responsibility to recognise that they don't want you and to move yourself to a better place.
Allow your heart to break for your soul to heal.
Pastor Blake's is like an older brother I never had. Never met him but just through the TH-cam God bless you with your wisdom
You hit it right on the nail I am guilty of this and it's because I was rejected by my dad so I ended up dating men that is just like he was.
Same
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Amen!! I was this person but no more! I’m enough!
Yes ma'am. Ditto
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Many people are diabolical those that refuse to take no for an answer, trying to force others to deal with them. It's sickening and scary the amount of broken ,and unhealed people that walk amongst us. Nobody likes rejection, but as my mom always say pick your heart up and cry if you must, but don't you ever try to make someone love you or be with anyone that mishandles you. I thank God for covering me and for healing my brokenness.
" You gotta be too dignified for some thangs"..PREACH PASTOR, I LOVE IT!
My eyes are open now . I was this person that people were switching me off and on like a switch 😂l don’t tolerate that anymore. Thank you pastor for all you do 🙏🏾❤️
When we become lead by the Spirit, healing begins mental and spirituality. Create your sanctuary of peace and growth 🙏🏼
The way you feel about someone does not necessarily mean they feel the same way about you🎯
That’s the sad truth.
Healing requires quarantine. So well said Pastor. That's what i did Sir. I isolated myself from everyone, invested in my physical, mental, emotional health. I am feeling so fulfilled, self sufficient now. ☀️💗💓💖 God bless everyone, all of us with wisdom, with consciousness to do the right thing, choose right people good for everyone's health, happiness, peace. Amen. ☀️💖♾️
Wow God is so awesome. God knew I needed to hear this on tonight! 😢😢 thank you Pastor
Isolate yourself with God and His Word, block them and bless them in Jesus name.Bishop Blackes everybody needs this teaching,Thank You!
Thank you so much pastor for this word. I had a situation where someone walked away from me with no true explanation. We had dated for four months and everything was going great. We began to have some communication issues and I am celibate, so we were not intimate. We went out of the country together. When we got back, he stopped calling. I’ve ran into him a couple times. He’ll try to engage like we were still together. I’ve had a hard time getting over him. This message was right on time. I’m learning to truly love and respect myself. That means letting him go for good. I appreciate the knowledge you give. I’ve never received these kind of talks from any anyone else. You truly are a spiritual father.
He's a coward and doesn't deserve you. No worries, there are better men out there. 👍
That's good, Bishop healing requires quarantine🙌
28:00 When a dog bites you, you run away. You don't pursue the damn dog.
39:00 When a person walks out w/o reason, don't you ever let that person back in your life.
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Thank you so much for this Word! Due to abandonment and rejection from my biological parents, I have played myself for a fool and this included church people. Please pray for my healing and Deliverance. Thank you for this Divine Word!
Knowing the root cause and acknowledgement is the first step. You got this. God got us all ❤
Excellent teaching Pastor❗TY❤
Ask yourself why am I feeling so anxious, depressed and confused and then think about the person or people your in relationships with even if it's not every day or every week. People can leave you feeling drained and hurt for much longer than the time you spend with them so COMPLETELY STOP going around them. Don't mess up your peaceful holidays with people who mistreat you or any day . Learn how to enjoy your own company stop being afraid to be alone get to know yourself. Pray 🙏🏽 asking the good Lord to help you and enjoy the people who show you respect and kindness consistently. Might be 2 or 3 people but that's ok. Self respect , equal energy, that's right Pastor Blakes !!
I receive this world into my heart. I needed to hear it again and again. I dont want to miss out on what and who God has for me while chasing behind who's clearly not for me. Thank you for always bringing a timely word to us.
THIS IS INCREDIBLE TIMING!!!!!! (for me not a romantic relationship)
You are a magnificent gift, Pastor Blakes. Thank You.
I been praying and fasting. Then your word from God was right on time!!! Thank you Bishop!!!
Blessings to you ❤
I listened to this right after this was posted a few months ago. I'm back again listening to it...sooooo good! I love this so much!
My God. I needed to hear this. God was right on time with this one.
God has somebody for me that would make me forget that these people ever existed.
I am married but I feel unloved , rejected . I do not feel honoured. Jesus healed me 2 days ago. I have forgiven my husband but I can't stay around him.
Another fantastic segment....thank you and God bless you ✝️🙏❤️
Wow..we are blessed to have Pastor Blakes in our lives sharing his knowledge. ❤ I appreciate you
Healing requires "quarantine."🔥
Hello pastor Blake I'm so broking I've been in a marriage for 3 years and it's killing me my husband has abused me shamed me cheated on me I feel so low I'm ashamed for how I have allowed my husband to treat me please pray for me for me I want to be better I want to learn how to love myself thank you
By his stripes, you are healed!!! May you experience God's tidal waves of love flowing over you like billows in Psalms 42. You are WHOLE!!!!!!
This couldn't come at a better time! 😢
I’ve been rejected and been told by people that I deserve better.
Everyone who has told me I deserve better never gave me better. Words and actions must match to be true.
I'm so blessed to have come across thissssss Speaks Truth to my Soul..thank you dear Sir❤
😂 love the picture of the clown with aluminum foil on his head. Thats exactly right. Amen and thank you for your insights always RC. God bless you and Lisa and the rest of the fam.
I want to say this message has changed my life. I never heard of you til This. I’ve watched it like 3, time’s. Thank you and I very much appreciated. And I will be tithing.
This message was perfect timing! Thank you Bishop and First Lady Lisa. 💖💖💖
One of your best, most enlightening talks ever. Thank you!
Type vs Kind. Bravo 🙌🏽
Much of my family has moved away from me during my walk with Christ, it's difficult when they blatantly do it by not inviting me to events and such.
This is because of my talking about scriptures, right and wrong when interpreting text etc. Not to say that I'm blameless because I'm not, but I try to be repentant when I fall short.
I am by the book "Bible" and all in by the Grace of God ❤
I'm learning that it is meant to be that way which makes it a little easier to swallow, but hurts nonetheless ❤
Hello! Unfortunately that's going to happen within family and some friends. But I think it's because they don't want to hear the truth of the right and wrong and don't want to hear the truth and they don't want to admit that they do need to do better and what's on themselves and work on the spiritual walk. But you continue to do you and walk on your spiritual journey. You know what mistakes you've made and corrected it and you know at the end of the day your true self and your happiness and that you at peace. God bless you and I wish you all the best.
Same. My family, to be honest, is lukewarm. They play God. I'm at a place where I can not play. I did that for too long. Gossip is a no-no. I finally stopped drinking in 2018. Alcoholism has been a plague in my family. Fornication nope. I don't hit the Bible on the side of people heads. However, I get quiet when these topics emerge. They have gradually shunned me. It did hurt at first, but that is the cost of being a generational curse/choice breaker.
@@michellemmarquez5519 Thank you and God bless you as well...I know what you are saying is true and even in Scripture but it takes some getting use to
@@DanaeLaurenTolbert It's funny, your story mirrors mine, but the crazy thing is, when I was drinking heavily no one said a word...then I went back to Christ and they wanted to hold an intervention because I was losing it...but God 🥰
How many times did I chase people I thought were my friends 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
This is my second time listening to this video. I need it to sink into my soul. I seperated from him a few days ago. Trying to stay the course and do the right thing..
You are such a blessing. It seems as though you have the perfect conversation just when I need it. I’m so grateful for your effortless support and love for women. You are such an amazing person and I love the platform that you and Mrs Lisa have given to me. Forever grateful 🙏🏽❤❤❤❤
This is truly real talk thank you so much Bishop Blakes you are such a blessing thank God for your teaching we women need to hear this for I know what God thanks of me. I know my worth ladies we must stand our ground Amen!!
Thank you once again pastor RC❤️
Thank you RC Blakes Jr. 🫶
Thank you for his message it’s blessed me.❤
Friends in my life are very few. People treat me like they well call me when they need me However, Now I know am being used. It stops today! No More No More!😊
Very enlightening! Thank you Pastor for your teachings.
Preach! Your words of the lord . My life has been transformed. I've been listening to you for yours. Thank you for all your teachings.
I went to sleep listening to your message and I woke up praising God with uplifted arms out of my slumber this ministered to my soul❤I know impartation took place I thank God for you and your wife I have been in a very dark place but I'm coming out God bless I will be giving once I get stable
38:17 i think that the person, "TrueEternalBeauty," was asking how to handle/discern a person who's pursuing you (maybe just pursuing you for lust/ physical reasons -and is willing to marry you bc of lust) -but doesn't really want you -in the long run. (Hes a faithful husband/father/provider, but he neglects you (forgets your bday/anniversary, doesn't study you, doesn't care if you're not happy -- he just does the minimum to keep you from leaving. He never really wanted you, 'just the physical.)
Pastor Blakes, Sir i thank GOD for the gift you are to this generation. Thank you for allowing yourself to be the vessel in the hands of GOD , to bless, heal, and equip generations of women
Brilliant
Amen good evening pastor rc.
The clown you thought had a crown, had aluminum foil wrapped around his head!!!! I LOVE IT 🤣🤣😂😂
This study is so important Thankyou God is with us
Wow! Praise the Lord for the whole thing about the narcissist. Dragging you in, he's an enemy and you make him a God, because you're constantly pursuing him, but he set you up with The WHO.
Who? The interesting thing from my world is that I didn't know. I was dealing with a narcissist nor of his power over me. Because I never yielded. I was just waiting for him to respond. And I found that it was my family upbringing. That gave me that position of waiting and people would never respond and then, I would just do what I need to do, which is what I do I always do what I need to do becausee Lord leaves me and I follow Lord anyway. I'm so glad I wasn't devoured. I can't even comprehend that but I was stifled and deferred. Some things I would pursued to have a greater joy out of this life. But I always enjoy life. Everyday?
Even ugly stuff when it lays me flat.Good position for prayer
U are a blessing father! I meditate thru ur book “laws of manifesting ur vision” ur words ooze wisdom! Stay blessed!
This is a great on time word🙌🙌🙌
THANKS, YOU ARE CORRECT I WAS GHOST AND NOW I KNOW THAT I have TO LET HIM GO AND GET BACK TO MAKING ME FEEL BETTER
Stop dating your type and date the kind god has for your
Date for our destiny
I needed to hear this, my first rejection came from my father, thank you for this🙏
It is exactly what I am going through in my life at the moment, with my mentally ill, mean, lying, manipulative narcissistic mother who only knows how to use me and others. I realized that I don’t love her. How could I when she enjoys hurting me ? What is inacceptable is that she is destroying my name as well. God has again sent me your video so I understand, move on and heal. Thank you pastor ! ❤
I pray for your healing, your story is like my mother's had a terrible moth, diabolical sisters. I am taking devil spawn. They tarnished her name made lose her house. She eventually has dementia due to stress
Can’t believe I missed this one!
All I have to say is that may the almighty bless you pastor.
Bishop RC..
Thank you so much for taking the time to share such heartfelt and compassionate messages to ALL of us.
Although I’ve not had a significant relationship with my father, I can HONESTLY glean your GENUINE CARE in each and every one of your messages…thank you, thank you, thank you Sir to you and Lady Lisa for this blessed ministry.
Blessings to you and your family always 🙌🙌🙌
This song and introduction is perfect, I hope that you don’t ever change it.
Thank you Pastor, this message came right on time 🙏🏽
What do you do when you give up on love and stop believing?
Continue to heal and lean in to Christ ❤
@authorangielynn I believe in Christ
But that doesn't really Change the fact that the thought of love gives me a knee jerk reaction
@@Reshme77 I understand, but I said to Lean in to Christ... praying, studying, fasting etc allow Him to do a work in you 😊I had extreme abandonment and trust issues and I had to Lean in as well, it took a while but by finally trusting God I began to heal and understand My worth....IS ANYTHING TOO HARD FOR GOD? 💕
@@Reshme77Heal your nervous system. Sounds like past relationships deregulated your nervous system😔
Tips that worked for me:
1. I shut down social media (WARNING: The withdrawals are real and you’ll feel super bored at first or unable to stop thinking about stuff. This is normal)
2. I got rid of anything from traumatic relationships/experiences (items can subconconnciously bring back bad memories & hold energy)
3. I did things that I enjoyed as a child before I started questioning who God created me to be…before peer pressure & relationships & career🥴
4. I watched old positive light-hearted TV shows. No new shows or programming at all.
5. Avoided stressful news and gossip
6. Made a morning & night self-care routine that made me feel nurtured and taken care of
7. Ate something sour when I start thinking negative or sad
8. Used a weighted cool blanket when sleeping
9. Read Psalms 104 every night to remember how blessed I am
10. Announced to my friends that I’m on a 30-day cleanse & need space to hear from God. They checked in but no heavy convo and no gossip.
11. Wrote down areas I need to improve in soul-wise to attract like-minded people into my life.
12. Changed my diet. No fast food. No sugary drinks. More fresh air and walking. More sunlight. Daily vitamin.
13. Listened to old school gospel while sleeping.
14. Started a creative hobby. For me it was interior decorating my home
Hope this helps. Blessings and keep your face in the light❤
@@Reshme77 “Seek the kingdom of God first and His justice. Everything else will fall in place.” Whatever tradition you depend on, leave it behind. Seek God and forget any other issues behind including politics. God feeds on worship. Obedience is the highest form worship.
Ever since I stopped listening to secular music and so-called “Christian music,” but also politics I felt a sense of peace, tranquility. What helps me be this way is also talking to Him constantly, from the moment I wake up, at home, on the way to work/church/shopping/on the way back home/anywhere and before going to sleep. Let Him know anything from not understanding and understanding anything. Our Heavenly Father always wants to hear from His children.
So tired of the hurt and damage within around seeking validation and acceptance from people/a man that doesn't want me in return
This was right on time !!
An excellent teaching! Thank you!
Thank You Pastor Blakes ,Excellent Bible Study!!! I Can relate to All of the Message. Jesus Christ is a real Man❤ He is not a weakling. Jesus wants a Relationship with us , But he doesn't force Himself. He says draw near to Me and I will draw near to you. Choose ye this day whom you will serve. Free will, does not control us. Matthew 10:33 But whoever denies Me before man , I will also deny him. And ye shall seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart Jer:29:13. God is always available. Jesus was rejected so we could be accepted. Accepted in the Beloved Ephesians 1:6. As long as I continue to draw close to Jesus Christ seek. HIM , A relationship/ partnership daily He truly does fill the voids that no human creation can. And I must say it has not always been .I Remember at least half of my life trying to get man to fill the void that Only the Father Son Holy Sprit can fill. The teacher of Love the Greatest Love❤ I am Truely GREATFUL
I wish I knew you years ago, especially when I was in the military. But I've been totally blessed by this ministry. ❤
THANK YOU Pastor RC for your word ❤❤❤. They say when you are woken up between 03h00-04h00, to listen to God's word, God is ministering to you.
God bless you and Lisa! Thank you for ministering to me.
I ended my relationship for a reason and I've been on the fence about it but this word is right on time, because I respect myself and my dignity to move on and God has better for me on the other side ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I need to add something here. When you wake up between 12 and 5 is because you need to pray for someone or people due to that time is the darkest of hours and Satan has instructed his worshippers to attack on people who are not protected in Jesus’ blood or need protection during that time. Former warlocks and mediums have testified this. God bless and keep you safe. 🙏🏼
Thank you for the spiritual FATHER I need, you are a blessing and thank you for your loving advice, support and Godly love.God bless you always!
Excellent message. Frees me from toxic bully in my life.
Healing requires happyness❤🎉😊
It’s been 2 years I have not been persuing this in any way but he still lives inside my head! I’m praying to God to help me release this
Thank you RC BLAKES FOR The powerful message and I Thank God for my Self Worth God Bless you
Am realizing that am not received well but I didn't know it at that time. I love myself to continue on! It stops Now! Thank You for this conversation!
40:20 I watch this on yesterday however I learned from you some things that I never knew or really never thought of yes it hurts it hurts very much especially when I keep finding out more and more lies and deception I know that I must turn the tea be strong heal be delivered and set free from this please keep me in your prayers God bless you have an awesome Ministry
Thanks so much pastor 🙏
People need to respect boundaries, and accept that we can not control anyone outside of ourselves. If ppl learn to master self control it would be far less violence, and the body count in prisons would drop tremendously.