Hello I had a question there was a video you put up last month and it showed you pouring something in a glass cup looks green theiwuid what was that was it tea or smoothie
First let me say that I'm struggling with my faith and whether I'm Christian, I mean I believe in Christ and he died for our sins, but not particular "part" of a church. Regardless, the more important value is to realize we as people are not perfect, and we are going to make mistakes and transgressions, and when we do, it's most important to know how to resolve those issues, rather than thinking "I'm just perfect."
Qualties of my husband. A born again Christian, loving, caring, understanding, focused, kind, hardworking, faithful, honest, self control, isn't quick or short tempered, loves me for me, great father and husband, best friend.
I love and listen to Voddie Bauchum all the time. I'm 70 years old and still single. I won't settle. Have not been able to find a man that lives these 7 principles. But it's ok. I'm being still in the Lord. So if I'm supposed to be single until the Lord calls me home, I'm at peace with that most of the time. I'm so grateful for the life HE has given me thus far. I'm richly blessed.
I’m 44 and only been born again for 3 years. A very rich history of dating ALL the wrong/in no way Godly men. I am perfectly happy waiting to see if God has someone for me otherwise I will just continue to serve the Lord in this life! ❤🙏
I was struggling with liking this guy and asked God to show me clearly if he was the one or not. This video answered my prayer. He's not. I see how we're both lacking in things before we can pursue marriage. I love how you said think of him not only as a husband, but a father.
I wish Christian women did more videos on intentional singleness. God ordains marriage as a good thing, but Paul actually talks about in Corinthians that it’s better to be single because you have an undivided heart for God. I wish there was more content on choosing to not marry!
@@janjoy9759 Totally agree and marriage is a beautiful thing for many women. It’s just the stigma that you’re either married, or single and praying for a husband. Or the infamous “season of waiting”....some women just enjoy being single.
@@rachelshonce9425 yes while I agree we can enjoy being single and it is a gift, we are either called to singleness as Paul was (which is rare but possible), or God wants us to still pray for our spouse with intentionality and be expecting that He will provide us with that. We can wait expectantly without necessarily being discontent in our singleness season.
I know there are several black women i follow on here that do talk about intentional singleness! I think you can find some valuable resources if you search them out & seek them out! ♥️
Have you considered being that person to share you passion about a life of singleness? If that’s your desire I’m sure other like minded singles would appreciate that content. God bless
5. Self-control 8:07 And also to put this more bluntly self-control about (thoughts about) sex, porn etc... When you are dating, it's important to find a moment at some point to be able to talk about that and not avoid it. Even if it could feel quite direct and blunt. As a man, it's hard and can be a struggle and so it is important to put it on the list for all girls who want to find the one and build on great foundations.
Yes! Jonathan Pokluda recently got called out for objectifying women, in a sermon no less. The pornified style of relating is a huge issue in the church today. When a man has taken personal responsibility for the purity of his heart regarding his sexuality, taking every thought captive, it's a huge green flag that he is truly guided by the Holy Spirit. Rare and precious, like a true man of God.
This is so good! What a thought-and one I’ve personally not had before! It does stand to reason that the qualities of an elder ought to be the same for a husband, given the analogy of Christ and the church!
This is sooo good🤍 I cant choose which one I value the most all are so important! Lol but i would have to say probably how much he serves and how committed he is to the church 😊👍🏻
hey sister, you do there were those who served their church and we're committed to it but discovered to be pedophiles and adulterers. Committed to obeying The HOLY BIBLE and has supernatural evidence so you know he won't fall away is the stable man who will be a blessing as he will provide because it's written, he will love you and not commit adultery because it's written, he will be gentle and loving, because it's written... See what I mean?
Someone who truly listens to you when you share your stories, concerns, etc.… good listeners are usually good communicators and good communication is key to a happy marriage. I hope this is helpful. Much love and God bless. 💗
Sure didn't work for me in my last relationship, she wasn't good at it. She would even say how it's easy for me but not her but I was understanding and patient. Ignored the red flags & got hurt, she figured I'd be able to tell what's on in her mind instead of her telling me. Alot of woman say guys can't communicate but it's also the other way around too. Just like not everyone is capable of having conversations
This was some great advise! I've been married for over 15 years, and me and my husband sure made a journey. But the areas you were touching are very important in all marriages but especially in Christian ones.
Honestly, my qualities Im looking for is like you. I don't know if you are full-time committed to your church. But what I like you the most beside for being an angel is you are a lover of the Words of God. You have a time Committed to read, do and to teach.
This was a fantastic video to watch. It feels good to know that I've developed many of these qualities, and if I lack others it's simply due to my own faith still needing to be grown and fortified. It's not due to a lack of willingness but time. I also really appreciated you pointing out the difference between confidence and boistrousness. I think this is something that women in the church really really need to learn. In general when it comes to women, there is a heavy emphasis on qualities that the world prizes but which are not Godly at all. So many women that I've known will pursue an unGodly man simply because he's loud and arrogant and that comes off as confidence. I think a good series would be highlighting negative and worldly qualities that can fool believers into thinking that someone is something they aren't. Things like women being fooled by a man's false confidence or men giving in to a woman's sexual advances because it means she likes him.
Better late than never - thx for GOD leading me here. I’m not near perfect but pray for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out. I’m a paint by numbers type of dude and this is not complex and if want these traits I must do and to do is the be. Lots of work but how meaningful 🤙
I have Timothy 3 in my prayer journal that I refer to to pray for my brethren in our church. I didnt thought that I can refer to this also as qualities I can pray for my future husband. Though I have a non negotiable list that I pray for him. Thank you for sharing this Kaci. I can add these to my list ☺️
I might end up being unequally yoked because I'm 15 and lusting a lot because of my raging hormones. Please pray for me and also my crush so that if we ever do get together in the future we wont be unequally yoked and will have a holy relationship under God also. I will be praying as well. God bless you all so much😊
Wait that is SO cool - I love it! It always makes me smile to realize how connected everything in the Christian world seems to be 😊you have an awesome pastor!
The first thing that all people should do so as to acquire a mate for life is to tear up your list of your perfect mate. Allow God to choose a partner for you and pray for the your soul mate Be available for God to choose your mate. A man might ask you for a date because you like each other. You meet for coffee and talk. You are attractive to each other and want to meet again.. You share common interests and ambitions. Tell him that you are Spirit filled believer and that you love the Lord first. If he is an unbeliever then he might ask you more about Jesus. If he is not a man of peace then you won’t have a second date. But if he wants to hear more then you have a new believer. When Christ is formed in him you might go for a permanent relationship and marriage is on the cards. You must be friends firstly and desire each other’s company for lifetime commitment.
Idk about 'Reputation', I take "reputation" with a grain of salt because I have been outcasted and gossiped about and lied about by so many church going christians without a cause, smh, so many people are backwards even in churches... so for me, rather than trusting what others say about someone as an absolute fact, I'm going to look at the individuals character and get to know them for myself. And I personally do not think it's wise at all to rely on the talk and opinions of others. Rather, go to God straightway about everyone and ask God who they are... I find that this is a great rule of thumb in every situation, especially ministry. People often think they can judge a book by it's cover in ministry instead of asking God about people and being lead of the spirit. Plus the word says that his people will be rejected, hated, thrown out of the synagogues, and even Jesus was thrown out of the Temple. I'm just saying everyone would be better off if they followed Holy Spirit far above mans word or opinion!!
I'm a man, & I was blessed watching this. I never saw the link of 1 Tim 3 as being the standard of Christian husbands. The elder pastors the church, which is Christ's Bride; likewise a husband is "pastoring" a daughter of God the King, your future wife.
I am muslim girl I love a Christian guy he also love's me very much but the problem is my family does not like him bcz he is not muslim i really want to merry him but how??
LOVED THIS 👏 the Fantasy talks from The Village church changed my life when I first watched them. Thank you for perspective you brought here, and for speaking to this (as always) in such an insightful and beautiful way! 💕
IS SALARY IMPORTANT? Will a christian woman be okay with a good man, who happens to have an average annual salary? Will a christian woman be okay with living in an apartment with a family, or is it important for a christian woman to find a christian man who has a high salary and can afford a house to raise a family? Love your videos.
Oh boy! That leaves me out of the game then. Never married, no kids. No friends (never had any since I was able to socialise) I an totally independent and can spend months alone with no human interaction. I am not interested in worldly desires, including careers, mcmansions the SUV etc. I prefer a very simple freedom based life. Godly, yes. I love reading the word, learning to me more like Jesus, listening to great sermons. I dont go to a church building, and if I did, I would be the guy in the back of the building alone. I do have a lot to offer, but your list would preclude me it seems.
‘church” in Greek is Eklesia, the gathering. God does call each of us, even introverts, to fellowship and love the other adopted children of God as well.
You are introverted , I think that is my understanding of you. I hope you are doing okay overall . Not everyone is meant to be like this .That us the beauty of humans
Do you want to know the truth? It is all about looks and money. Let me talk about an experiment. Many years ago, I subscribed a Christian dating site. I did my profile showing all those good qualities which I believe I do have. Meanwhile I asked a very handsome and rich friend that was not a Christian to sign on the same website. I told him to act like a real jerk and make it clear that he was not much into church. He had 10 more-times Christian women replying to him than me. Women would tell me that they didn't reply to me because they had been busy but at the same time send him 4 messages a day. I am talking about pastor's daughters, worship leaders, etc... Nobody really cared about those qualities. The guy was really handsome and that is what they wanted. Some research already showed that people choose based on the picture.
Hmm, sis I know you mean well and these are inspiring verses you are reading but I don't think it's realistic, certainly not for the average Christian man. These verses are talking about men mature enough to be leaders in the church. So expecting the average church-going man to be on the level of a leader in church is setting a lot of women up for disappointment and falsely leading a lot of men to feel like they are not good enough when it comes to dating and marriage. To be honest most church-going women are not spiritually mature enough to support the men who embody the traits 1 Timothy 3 is talking about, which is why, they, like most men going to church also need guidance and shepherding.
#1 quality to look for in a husband: Commitment - Reality: 80% of all divorces are initiated by women. Might want to start practicing what you preach ladies, Then maybe us men will start taking it seriously.
I've been struggling recently. I met this guy and we go to the same school and he comes to young life. I have no idea what his relationship with God is like, or if he even goes to church. I don't really want to have a lot of relationships. I want God to show me the man he has chosen in his own time. While keeping all this in mind, I think I'm catching feelings even though I don't want to be in a relationship right now (I'm only 14). How do I know whether God gave me this guy for a reason, or if Satan is trying to use him to pull me away from God. I've prayed about it multiple times, but I haven't gotten an answer yet. I really want to be friends with this guy, he's like my closest friend at school, and I don't have that many friends at school to begin with. How am I supposed to navigate this situation when my mind wants one thing and my heart wants something else.
Don't be afraid to ask him about his faith. The Bible explains were not to have a relationship with people that are not of faith. It's more probable the one who isn't a believer will lead the believer astray than otherwise. There is no problem having a friend who don't believe in God, it may be God's plan to have you bring him to Christ. But keep it clear in your mind that you won't be having a relationship with him and why, that way if God sends you someone who he has meant for you you don't miss out on him because your distracted. Remember, God has a name for pre marital sex, it's fornication. I wish i would have been following the way God wants us to live when i was your age, it would have saved me lot's of trouble. The fact your have a spiritual battle should be your first clue your thinking right tho, obviously being concerned means your filling yourself with the spirit of God, and not putting the sins of flesh first. You should be proud of yourself. Keeping praying on it, that's how discernment works. God doesn't speak to us personally, he does it thru the Bible and by us feeding on the spiritual energy Jesus Christ filled our realm with when he died on the cross for us. God bless little sister!
Hey Ellie, I truly understand your situation because I was in the same position at your age and also thought the same about being in a relationship. My advice to you is to hold fast to your conviction about waiting. It is there for a reason. In my situation the guy was so nice and was so kind but something just didn't feel right and I asked God about him and he told me to set boundaries, that guy broke most of them and they were not hard ones. Since I was so young I asked again for more clarification and my answers were always no. I was still feeling for the guy but I waited and held on to the conviction God gave me. Now i'm 22 and never been in a relationship and I am happy that I chose to listen to God, that guy has shown his true colours overtime and I am glad I dodged a bullet and he is not in the presence of God, avoid boys and men like that at all costs. In all honesty, you are still a child and you should take this time to be a child and enjoy school and teen years. Take this time to focus on you and your relationship with God. Be the best version of yourself, the woman who God made you to be and pray for your future husband. God knows your desire and thoughts and he will grant you the desires of your heart in due time. Isaiah 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
You're a child, that's not the time to be looking into adult stuff. Live for God and take your time to grow. Learn how to become a woman before wanting a mate, learn to keep your house tidy, how to cook, take care of your body properly and get an education.
Hey Ellie, honestly I've been dealing with this for years, and now I'm 20. I grew up not knowing the right way in relationships. After i say yes to Christ, at the age of 20 which is now. I could say that I've had alot of journey to walk on to, which made me think. If God were the bring the right man of God into my life right now, i don't think I'm ready to be the woman of God that he needed, to be his helper at the moment. So my advise is, chase after God. Because from there, you'll learn of the love a real love instead of what the world define love. God's definition of love has been distorted by the the world. Where most people view love as a feelings like fast heartbeat and attraction etc. It's good to have attraction over others and it's normal because we're created that way. However, throughout my walk with God, i realize that my heart and my mind is not of me anymore. But is of my past on how much it has been traumatized by my action and decision. Now that I'm a new born in Christ, i have to constantly walk with the Lord and not to be deceived by my heart on attraction. Because that's all in my heart ever knew about before, my heart never knew what's definition of Love even when my soul knows it. But ask yourself, why do you need a boyfriend? Is it because you want to fill the loneliness void in your heart or the longing of companionship when we should chase after God, to really truly know how to love. Are you able to be the woman of God that the man that God has for you right now? If you truly want have the desire to meet the man God has for you one day, chase after God and He will teach you what real love is. From there, you'll know a standard of a Kingdom's man and not a counterfeit. Be secure in your singleness and walk confidently with God, as in the bible says, God brought Eve to Adam. You don't have to go around looking, but God is going to bring you a suitable helper. If you find it hard to dwell in singleness, you can start praying for your future spouse from time to time and even wrote a letter to him about all your struggles and keep it in a box. It's a beautiful love, you haven't met him and your heart longing for him and yet, you already loved him. It's okay to be friend with any guy. There's nothing wrong with that. But what you need to discern is if this guy friend is pointing you towards Christ or pulling you away from Christ. Usually, God will reveal to us if it's the right relationship based on this. And there you get your answer. Sometimes, we're clouded with our attraction that we didn't want to hear God's convictions. If you feel closer to God with this guy, if you both are able to have healthy Christ Centered relationship, that friendship is worth to keep. I hope you're blessed by this sister. I pray that you'll grow into woman that chase after God❤ PS; I would recommend RedefinedTV TH-cam channel or GirlDefined to you because that's where i mostly learn my wisdom on relationships. Stay blessed sister ❤
There is only one or two points that is good for partner. Luckily I'm not a Christian so I can be whatever I am not something old book is telling me to be.
Not everyone is called to lead a church, but we are all called to imitate Jesus. If you want to be with a preacher, that’s fine but not every guy is called to be one and one of these qualities did not even apply entirely of Jesus in context of the environments he was in. He had a bad reputation among the Pharisees, the what you would assume were the morality virtuous members of the public and also in his hometown. He went against the religious grain, to talk to prostitutes, the “unclean” lepers, tax collectors, prisoners. Basically everyone who would give you a bad reputation among the religious sects. And you have to be carefully not to be quick to judge people’s past that would cause a bad reputation among let’s say the “Pharisees” of the Christian community. Ask yourself do the prostitute at the well, tax collectors and lepers deserve romantic love from a Christian partner after meeting Jesus. Or would you have shunned them like the Pharisees to protect your reputation among Christian circles.
There are verses for husbands, and its one with much more reaponsibility. A husband for example has the duty to protect his family and give his life for his wife. Cut that feminist undertone.
Is not Jesus the head of the Church. Then why have you placed Aristotle in that position Is it not the primary function of the law to reveal to you, your sin Does not God create your personal relationship with Jesus or is it you
Honestly this feels like an impossible list because no one is perfect. Maybe I should just stay single lol . I would love all those qualities though and I seek to be a biblical wife
I for one like to meet a girl whose humble and lowly and doesn't brag or worry about her achievements and accomplishments in life like most of these proud girls these days do.
This is not about being a good christian husband, it sounds like you want someone who is mainstream and quiet. These early days of vloging are very tiresome, you should support someone in your community who is more interesting than you.
Comment what quality you’re looking for that’s most important to you! Or if you’re married, what quality in your spouse you value most. 💛
Hello I had a question there was a video you put up last month and it showed you pouring something in a glass cup looks green theiwuid what was that was it tea or smoothie
And I enjoy your video
First let me say that I'm struggling with my faith and whether I'm Christian, I mean I believe in Christ and he died for our sins, but not particular "part" of a church. Regardless, the more important value is to realize we as people are not perfect, and we are going to make mistakes and transgressions, and when we do, it's most important to know how to resolve those issues, rather than thinking "I'm just perfect."
BTW I'm not watching this video for the intended title itself, as I am heterosexual, but just trying to reverse engineer it.
Forgiveness.
Just saving this for myself
1. Commitment 3:10
2. Humilty 5:07
3. Reputation 6:24
4. Initiaitve 7:18
5. Self-control 8:07
6. Submitted to God's Truth 8:52
So helpful especially cause I'm listening to while falling asleep 🥰
Love it ❤️
Very helpful thanks.
Thanks
Thanks. I get in to comment to just look for this.
Qualties of my husband. A born again Christian, loving, caring, understanding, focused, kind, hardworking, faithful, honest, self control, isn't quick or short tempered, loves me for me, great father and husband, best friend.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’d love to meet a man who I can describe like this
These are my standards I wish to have in my future husband as well 🙏
I love and listen to Voddie Bauchum all the time. I'm 70 years old and still single. I won't settle. Have not been able to find a man that lives these 7 principles. But it's ok. I'm being still in the Lord. So if I'm supposed to be single until the Lord calls me home, I'm at peace with that most of the time. I'm so grateful for the life HE has given me thus far. I'm richly blessed.
Fantastic!
To be richly blessed is a gift from heaven, I pray that God’s will be done. It’s amazing to see a person at 70 still open to the possibility
I’m 44 and only been born again for 3 years. A very rich history of dating ALL the wrong/in no way Godly men. I am perfectly happy waiting to see if God has someone for me otherwise I will just continue to serve the Lord in this life! ❤🙏
I was struggling with liking this guy and asked God to show me clearly if he was the one or not. This video answered my prayer. He's not. I see how we're both lacking in things before we can pursue marriage. I love how you said think of him not only as a husband, but a father.
Coming from a man seeking God & building relationship with Him... this is very insight to develop as a man my future wife will be searching for
Matthew 6:33 🤗
Future husband!
Do it for your own character, not to attract a wife. 👊
I wish Christian women did more videos on intentional singleness. God ordains marriage as a good thing, but Paul actually talks about in Corinthians that it’s better to be single because you have an undivided heart for God. I wish there was more content on choosing to not marry!
Yes that's another passage from paul. But if every Christian did that, hmmmm the Christian family generations would diminish drastically.
@@janjoy9759 Totally agree and marriage is a beautiful thing for many women. It’s just the stigma that you’re either married, or single and praying for a husband. Or the infamous “season of waiting”....some women just enjoy being single.
@@rachelshonce9425 yes while I agree we can enjoy being single and it is a gift, we are either called to singleness as Paul was (which is rare but possible), or God wants us to still pray for our spouse with intentionality and be expecting that He will provide us with that. We can wait expectantly without necessarily being discontent in our singleness season.
I know there are several black women i follow on here that do talk about intentional singleness! I think you can find some valuable resources if you search them out & seek them out! ♥️
Have you considered being that person to share you passion about a life of singleness? If that’s your desire I’m sure other like minded singles would appreciate that content. God bless
5. Self-control 8:07
And also to put this more bluntly self-control about (thoughts about) sex, porn etc... When you are dating, it's important to find a moment at some point to be able to talk about that and not avoid it. Even if it could feel quite direct and blunt. As a man, it's hard and can be a struggle and so it is important to put it on the list for all girls who want to find the one and build on great foundations.
Yes! Jonathan Pokluda recently got called out for objectifying women, in a sermon no less.
The pornified style of relating is a huge issue in the church today.
When a man has taken personal responsibility for the purity of his heart regarding his sexuality, taking every thought captive, it's a huge green flag that he is truly guided by the Holy Spirit.
Rare and precious, like a true man of God.
You are very right
This is so good! What a thought-and one I’ve personally not had before! It does stand to reason that the qualities of an elder ought to be the same for a husband, given the analogy of Christ and the church!
I agree! I’ve never connected the two but ultimately that man will be a leader even if it’s just to you and your family so that was a great point!
Yes exactly - I thought it was so cool when I first came across it!
As a single man I agree with you
This is sooo good🤍 I cant choose which one I value the most all are so important! Lol but i would have to say probably how much he serves and how committed he is to the church 😊👍🏻
hey sister, you do there were those who served their church and we're committed to it but discovered to be pedophiles and adulterers. Committed to obeying The HOLY BIBLE and has supernatural evidence so you know he won't fall away is the stable man who will be a blessing as he will provide because it's written, he will love you and not commit adultery because it's written, he will be gentle and loving, because it's written... See what I mean?
Omg I watch your videos! Funny coincidence lol 😆. Wishing you and Amelia a happy Friday, God bless ❤️
Someone who truly listens to you when you share your stories, concerns, etc.… good listeners are usually good communicators and good communication is key to a happy marriage.
I hope this is helpful. Much love and God bless. 💗
Sure didn't work for me in my last relationship, she wasn't good at it. She would even say how it's easy for me but not her but I was understanding and patient. Ignored the red flags & got hurt, she figured I'd be able to tell what's on in her mind instead of her telling me. Alot of woman say guys can't communicate but it's also the other way around too. Just like not everyone is capable of having conversations
This was some great advise! I've been married for over 15 years, and me and my husband sure made a journey. But the areas you were touching are very important in all marriages but especially in Christian ones.
Honestly, my qualities Im looking for is like you. I don't know if you are full-time committed to your church. But what I like you the most beside for being an angel is you are a lover of the Words of God. You have a time Committed to read, do and to teach.
This was a fantastic video to watch. It feels good to know that I've developed many of these qualities, and if I lack others it's simply due to my own faith still needing to be grown and fortified. It's not due to a lack of willingness but time. I also really appreciated you pointing out the difference between confidence and boistrousness. I think this is something that women in the church really really need to learn. In general when it comes to women, there is a heavy emphasis on qualities that the world prizes but which are not Godly at all. So many women that I've known will pursue an unGodly man simply because he's loud and arrogant and that comes off as confidence.
I think a good series would be highlighting negative and worldly qualities that can fool believers into thinking that someone is something they aren't. Things like women being fooled by a man's false confidence or men giving in to a woman's sexual advances because it means she likes him.
Better late than never - thx for GOD leading me here. I’m not near perfect but pray for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out. I’m a paint by numbers type of dude and this is not complex and if want these traits I must do and to do is the be. Lots of work but how meaningful 🤙
Im glad your channel found me, not only was this informative it was really enjoyable. God bless you for your content sister!!!
I have Timothy 3 in my prayer journal that I refer to to pray for my brethren in our church. I didnt thought that I can refer to this also as qualities I can pray for my future husband. Though I have a non negotiable list that I pray for him. Thank you for sharing this Kaci. I can add these to my list ☺️
I might end up being unequally yoked because I'm 15 and lusting a lot because of my raging hormones. Please pray for me and also my crush so that if we ever do get together in the future we wont be unequally yoked and will have a holy relationship under God also. I will be praying as well. God bless you all so much😊
I truly believe that Jesus Christ is the son of the living God. Amen
That’s my pastor! So glad you found JP, he is great God has blessed him! Having two worlds colliding right now is pretty cool too, God is good!
Wait that is SO cool - I love it! It always makes me smile to realize how connected everything in the Christian world seems to be 😊you have an awesome pastor!
All well and good... if such a person exists, where are they? Single people don't need a checklist. They need to actually meet people.
Thank you pretty Lady for these important Godly advice in meeting a Godly partner in Jesus Christ Name, Amen
I'm so grateful I found your channel! God bless!
what a great video! i'm so happy i found your channel during quarantine 😭💛
Aw I am so happy you did too! 🤗
This is great! Convicting. But great! Thank you for sharing this.
The first thing that all people should do so as to acquire a mate for life is to tear up your list of your perfect mate. Allow God to choose a partner for you and pray for the your soul mate Be available for God to choose your mate. A man might ask you for a date because you like each other. You meet for coffee and talk. You are attractive to each other and want to meet again.. You share common interests and ambitions. Tell him that you are Spirit filled believer and that you love the Lord first. If he is an unbeliever then he might ask you more about Jesus. If he is not a man of peace then you won’t have a second date. But if he wants to hear more then you have a new believer. When Christ is formed in him you might go for a permanent relationship and marriage is on the cards. You must be friends firstly and desire each other’s company for lifetime commitment.
This goes for both husband and wife
Take my top six qualities and teach others to pursue the opposite ones!!
This is such a great in depth look into this scripture! Many hugs to you ♥️
I'm so glad you liked it! Hugs to you! 💛
Idk about 'Reputation', I take "reputation" with a grain of salt because I have been outcasted and gossiped about and lied about by so many church going christians without a cause, smh, so many people are backwards even in churches... so for me, rather than trusting what others say about someone as an absolute fact, I'm going to look at the individuals character and get to know them for myself. And I personally do not think it's wise at all to rely on the talk and opinions of others. Rather, go to God straightway about everyone and ask God who they are... I find that this is a great rule of thumb in every situation, especially ministry. People often think they can judge a book by it's cover in ministry instead of asking God about people and being lead of the spirit. Plus the word says that his people will be rejected, hated, thrown out of the synagogues, and even Jesus was thrown out of the Temple. I'm just saying everyone would be better off if they followed Holy Spirit far above mans word or opinion!!
Thanks for speaking God's words into our lives. :)
Good to hear this. Thank you for sharing.
I'm a man, & I was blessed watching this.
I never saw the link of 1 Tim 3 as being the standard of Christian husbands.
The elder pastors the church, which is Christ's Bride; likewise a husband is "pastoring" a daughter of God the King, your future wife.
I am muslim girl I love a Christian guy he also love's me very much but the problem is my family does not like him bcz he is not muslim i really want to merry him but how??
LOVED THIS 👏 the Fantasy talks from The Village church changed my life when I first watched them. Thank you for perspective you brought here, and for speaking to this (as always) in such an insightful and beautiful way! 💕
I'm looking for the qualities of my crush and seeing if he's husband material!
Thank you for this video Kaci! I love the breakdown and elaboration you do in your videos. It's great to be refreshed by what the word of God says!
The hand that rocks the cradle movie is educational and urban cowboy movie is good also
Titus(2:2)let the older men be moderate in habits serious sound in mind healthy in faith in love and in endurance
Oh my gosh, sis, you are the best! I love you and your channel. May God bless you!!
This is such a great video! Thank you✨
Your so awesome! Thank you 🙏🏻
God bless you and everyone 👍🏻😇🤍
God bless you. Thank you so much🤗✨
Thanks for sharing this Kaci. Great qualities to look for in a man 👏🏻
Woo thank you! Thought it was so cool 🥳
Such great GODLY teaching be blessed!!!
Thank you Beautiful Lady that is well said
I'm looking for what the Lord Jesus Christ has for me
Thx for sharing
This is my first time here and I love you sister ❣️
God bless you more and more
I will marry a woman like you through faith and success! 💕
sorry for trying to rizz can't help it
Am praying for a Catholic man but most of all is that he loves God
If he's Catholic he doesn't love God
anybody else watching this classic in 2021??
I love your videos so much!
Thank you ❤
IS SALARY IMPORTANT? Will a christian woman be okay with a good man, who happens to have an average annual salary? Will a christian woman be okay with living in an apartment with a family, or is it important for a christian woman to find a christian man who has a high salary and can afford a house to raise a family?
Love your videos.
Hey kaci
You just disqualified 90% of Christian men by the elder qualification list. Take that out and you have a great video.
Oh boy! That leaves me out of the game then. Never married, no kids. No friends (never had any since I was able to socialise) I an totally independent and can spend months alone with no human interaction. I am not interested in worldly desires, including careers, mcmansions the SUV etc. I prefer a very simple freedom based life. Godly, yes. I love reading the word, learning to me more like Jesus, listening to great sermons. I dont go to a church building, and if I did, I would be the guy in the back of the building alone. I do have a lot to offer, but your list would preclude me it seems.
‘church” in Greek is Eklesia, the gathering. God does call each of us, even introverts, to fellowship and love the other adopted children of God as well.
You are introverted , I think that is my understanding of you. I hope you are doing okay overall . Not everyone is meant to be like this .That us the beauty of humans
what if a man tells you he can't be there for you emotionally?
Hi sis kaci 😊
Its 10:43 pm right now
Yay!! Godly husbands 😉 Preferably 2 years younger
What parts of the passage refer to humility?
I like these videos
Do you want to know the truth? It is all about looks and money. Let me talk about an experiment. Many years ago, I subscribed a Christian dating site. I did my profile showing all those good qualities which I believe I do have. Meanwhile I asked a very handsome and rich friend that was not a Christian to sign on the same website. I told him to act like a real jerk and make it clear that he was not much into church. He had 10 more-times Christian women replying to him than me. Women would tell me that they didn't reply to me because they had been busy but at the same time send him 4 messages a day. I am talking about pastor's daughters, worship leaders, etc... Nobody really cared about those qualities. The guy was really handsome and that is what they wanted. Some research already showed that people choose based on the picture.
This chick got it right
Hmm, sis I know you mean well and these are inspiring verses you are reading but I don't think it's realistic, certainly not for the average Christian man. These verses are talking about men mature enough to be leaders in the church. So expecting the average church-going man to be on the level of a leader in church is setting a lot of women up for disappointment and falsely leading a lot of men to feel like they are not good enough when it comes to dating and marriage. To be honest most church-going women are not spiritually mature enough to support the men who embody the traits 1 Timothy 3 is talking about, which is why, they, like most men going to church also need guidance and shepherding.
Can you do this abou lt women to?
What book is it ?
#1 quality to look for in a husband: Commitment - Reality: 80% of all divorces are initiated by women. Might want to start practicing what you preach ladies, Then maybe us men will start taking it seriously.
Those divorces are brought about for a number of reasons. However if you both fulfill your roles given by God in the marriage there will be no divorce
Welp then I should give up because any of those qualities would take a hundred lifetimes to get so I might as well give up.
I am single men and I haven't found my soulmate yet.
I've been struggling recently. I met this guy and we go to the same school and he comes to young life. I have no idea what his relationship with God is like, or if he even goes to church. I don't really want to have a lot of relationships. I want God to show me the man he has chosen in his own time. While keeping all this in mind, I think I'm catching feelings even though I don't want to be in a relationship right now (I'm only 14). How do I know whether God gave me this guy for a reason, or if Satan is trying to use him to pull me away from God. I've prayed about it multiple times, but I haven't gotten an answer yet. I really want to be friends with this guy, he's like my closest friend at school, and I don't have that many friends at school to begin with. How am I supposed to navigate this situation when my mind wants one thing and my heart wants something else.
Don't be afraid to ask him about his faith. The Bible explains were not to have a relationship with people that are not of faith. It's more probable the one who isn't a believer will lead the believer astray than otherwise. There is no problem having a friend who don't believe in God, it may be God's plan to have you bring him to Christ. But keep it clear in your mind that you won't be having a relationship with him and why, that way if God sends you someone who he has meant for you you don't miss out on him because your distracted. Remember, God has a name for pre marital sex, it's fornication. I wish i would have been following the way God wants us to live when i was your age, it would have saved me lot's of trouble. The fact your have a spiritual battle should be your first clue your thinking right tho, obviously being concerned means your filling yourself with the spirit of God, and not putting the sins of flesh first. You should be proud of yourself. Keeping praying on it, that's how discernment works. God doesn't speak to us personally, he does it thru the Bible and by us feeding on the spiritual energy Jesus Christ filled our realm with when he died on the cross for us. God bless little sister!
Hey Ellie, I truly understand your situation because I was in the same position at your age and also thought the same about being in a relationship. My advice to you is to hold fast to your conviction about waiting. It is there for a reason.
In my situation the guy was so nice and was so kind but something just didn't feel right and I asked God about him and he told me to set boundaries, that guy broke most of them and they were not hard ones. Since I was so young I asked again for more clarification and my answers were always no. I was still feeling for the guy but I waited and held on to the conviction God gave me. Now i'm 22 and never been in a relationship and I am happy that I chose to listen to God, that guy has shown his true colours overtime and I am glad I dodged a bullet and he is not in the presence of God, avoid boys and men like that at all costs.
In all honesty, you are still a child and you should take this time to be a child and enjoy school and teen years. Take this time to focus on you and your relationship with God. Be the best version of yourself, the woman who God made you to be and pray for your future husband. God knows your desire and thoughts and he will grant you the desires of your heart in due time.
Isaiah 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
You're a child, that's not the time to be looking into adult stuff. Live for God and take your time to grow. Learn how to become a woman before wanting a mate, learn to keep your house tidy, how to cook, take care of your body properly and get an education.
Hey Ellie, honestly I've been dealing with this for years, and now I'm 20. I grew up not knowing the right way in relationships. After i say yes to Christ, at the age of 20 which is now. I could say that I've had alot of journey to walk on to, which made me think. If God were the bring the right man of God into my life right now, i don't think I'm ready to be the woman of God that he needed, to be his helper at the moment. So my advise is, chase after God. Because from there, you'll learn of the love a real love instead of what the world define love. God's definition of love has been distorted by the the world. Where most people view love as a feelings like fast heartbeat and attraction etc. It's good to have attraction over others and it's normal because we're created that way. However, throughout my walk with God, i realize that my heart and my mind is not of me anymore. But is of my past on how much it has been traumatized by my action and decision. Now that I'm a new born in Christ, i have to constantly walk with the Lord and not to be deceived by my heart on attraction. Because that's all in my heart ever knew about before, my heart never knew what's definition of Love even when my soul knows it. But ask yourself, why do you need a boyfriend? Is it because you want to fill the loneliness void in your heart or the longing of companionship when we should chase after God, to really truly know how to love. Are you able to be the woman of God that the man that God has for you right now? If you truly want have the desire to meet the man God has for you one day, chase after God and He will teach you what real love is. From there, you'll know a standard of a Kingdom's man and not a counterfeit. Be secure in your singleness and walk confidently with God, as in the bible says, God brought Eve to Adam. You don't have to go around looking, but God is going to bring you a suitable helper. If you find it hard to dwell in singleness, you can start praying for your future spouse from time to time and even wrote a letter to him about all your struggles and keep it in a box. It's a beautiful love, you haven't met him and your heart longing for him and yet, you already loved him.
It's okay to be friend with any guy. There's nothing wrong with that. But what you need to discern is if this guy friend is pointing you towards Christ or pulling you away from Christ.
Usually, God will reveal to us if it's the right relationship based on this. And there you get your answer. Sometimes, we're clouded with our attraction that we didn't want to hear God's convictions. If you feel closer to God with this guy, if you both are able to have healthy Christ Centered relationship, that friendship is worth to keep.
I hope you're blessed by this sister. I pray that you'll grow into woman that chase after God❤ PS; I would recommend RedefinedTV TH-cam channel or GirlDefined to you because that's where i mostly learn my wisdom on relationships. Stay blessed sister ❤
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one of the qualities is that he can have multiple relationships with women.
do a video on christian feminist women
There is only one or two points that is good for partner. Luckily I'm not a Christian so I can be whatever I am not something old book is telling me to be.
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Not everyone is called to lead a church, but we are all called to imitate Jesus.
If you want to be with a preacher, that’s fine but not every guy is called to be one and one of these qualities did not even apply entirely of Jesus in context of the environments he was in.
He had a bad reputation among the Pharisees, the what you would assume were the morality virtuous members of the public and also in his hometown.
He went against the religious grain, to talk to prostitutes, the “unclean” lepers, tax collectors, prisoners. Basically everyone who would give you a bad reputation among the religious sects.
And you have to be carefully not to be quick to judge people’s past that would cause a bad reputation among let’s say the “Pharisees” of the Christian community.
Ask yourself do the prostitute at the well, tax collectors and lepers deserve romantic love from a Christian partner after meeting Jesus. Or would you have shunned them like the Pharisees to protect your reputation among Christian circles.
so there’s a verse to dictate what a wive should be but not a similar one for husbands? hmm…
There isbut ithink she is more talking about the women in this one video
There are verses for husbands, and its one with much more reaponsibility. A husband for example has the duty to protect his family and give his life for his wife.
Cut that feminist undertone.
What about being 6'4 Lol
Would your husband give up his life for you? As Christ did for his Bride the church .Read Ephesians 5:25
You are so very attractive and pretty
What a man looks for
NO MAKE UP
I know its a joke but definitely not. A godly wife needs to have plenty of similar qualities.
This shows it is only a man's job the church. Not a woman's job at all
Is not Jesus the head of the Church. Then why have you placed Aristotle in that position Is it not the primary function of the law to reveal to you, your sin Does not God create your personal relationship with Jesus or is it you
Honestly this feels like an impossible list because no one is perfect. Maybe I should just stay single lol . I would love all those qualities though and I seek to be a biblical wife
I for one like to meet a girl whose humble and lowly and doesn't brag or worry about her achievements and accomplishments in life like most of these proud girls these days do.
Stay single fellas, they are all looking for a perfect man that doesn't exist...
This is not about being a good christian husband, it sounds like you want someone who is mainstream and quiet. These early days of vloging are very tiresome, you should support someone in your community who is more interesting than you.