You don't need to be like that! I'm watching this not because I'm into texting or online dating, I'm here because I'm trying to decipher what a woman was thinking when she texted. Women don't like investing in men either. I take care of myself so I must be shallow and like to sleep with lots of bimbos right?😂
My question is, how do you know that your reality is your reality and not a fantasy? Not trying to be hurtful in any way, genuinely just something I like people to think about
Why do we need to play all these strategic games? Why can't we all just be transparent about our feelings & desires and just enjoy each other's company? Dating/relationships have become exhausting 😕
Texting is generally where it fails even when the dates are going well😅. I’m starting to elevate to phone calls as it’s more intimate and vulnerable it’s better quality of communication. Texting ruins building a real connection
Exactly. You can’t build a real connection via text in my opinion. I can see using it some of the time but phone calls, voice clips and video chat should be used to bridge the gap in between in person dates.
Calls or even video calls are definitely are better than texting but yes these are fillers and just check-in’s. You should be meeting up for dates/activities in public places not their home. Because the call/text becomes emotional less boring after a while if ur not spending time together . That’s a common failure in the connection not progressing.
The conversation with the woman trying to set up a date and the guy replying days later with an old man emoji has lived rent free in my head for years.
@@vipmonicake I just checked, and that video originally came out six years ago. Okay, so saying it lives rent free in my head might be overkill, but I have definitely thought of it from time to time. She was so straightforward in her interest, I hope she found someone who was willing to act the same way towards her.
Well, in my case it was footprints. I had asked this guy to every now and then be the first one to say hi. He was the type not to initiate a conversation but then keep chatting for hours, sending photos of himself and his surroundings. A few days later (of silence, as I was not going to initiate any more conversations) he sent 👣👣👣👣👣👣👣. Just that. I asked him what that was and he said "I'm leaving my footprints everywhere. Applause". I swear, some guys...
I like to let her talk about herself 70 - 80% of the time, and let her ask about me so she feels listened to. Which is an element that is generally missing from later stages of relationships. The one I recently started talking to has proper blown me away with how much she wants to know about me to the point where it's naturally almost 50-50.
The last sentence is plain silly. If a woman puts up barriers, and makes it difficult for no reason, he will disappear whether he belongs in your life or not. Bad advice.
As a dominant woman that usually does the chasing, the advice on not compensating over the lack of interest and laziness of the other person is really good. It's incredible how the things switch when you start tuning into their same level of energy. Very useful to avoid man-childs and people looking for a mom instead of an equal partner.
@@esteban489 The difference though is that generally Men get punished for being genuine or showing vulnerability. Women don't and are in fact ENCOURAGED to become adept at such things.
@@danzilthard.7248Dan is correct. Trying to open up will undoubtedly lead to a woman leaving because now, he's unstable with his feelings.. Then, that happens over and over and over.. so instead of getting practice to become better, we are rejected. That's how I've been trained and I wanted to believe 2 people could help make life better for each other. I still want to believe it but the reality is currently saying otherwise. I will only be of value when I am healed, have enough emotional strength to internalize everything, and can provide financially. As a man, wanting to be kind, nice, helpful, compassionate, etc doesn't get a guy anywhere with men or women. Men have incentive to be jerks, it's fucked up. When a woman gets emotional or is struggling, 5 dudes wanna save her. A girl I was dating needed to move a travel trailer that was stuck in the mud. 3 other guys and I were there to help this woman who "doesn't need a man".. Who finally got her out? A man whom provided for his wife who had a jeep with a winch.. there are exceptions, no doubt but more often than not.. I'd pay to see 3-5 women rush in to help a guy out with something just to repair myself 😂
The funniest thing about my situation is that when I started seeing the guy I am now seeing, he was actually the one that said I hate texting, it's so impersonal. Can we talk? And I was the one like ugh I hate talking on the phone. But now we talk on the phone constantly and I've grown to love talking to him instead of texting😂
This is why Matthew is the best! His advice worked to ignite my floundering relationship. It's been 15 months and it has continued to get better, more meaningful as time passed. And, I had made some big mistakes that I needed to rectify. It's working out beautifully.
You can integrate "games" in a way that is completely authentic. An inauthentic game is eg refusing to answer texts timely to look important. but it's authentic to delay responding if you ARE busy. notice that the tips Hussey is giving here are tips on how to show more of your authentic self. more sides of you. more flavourful. and more expressive of what you want/need. nowhere here did Hussey tell you to lie or trick someone.
People feel most connected whe they feel heard. They feel most loved, when they feel connected. If she feels heard she will want commited longterm relationsip and also offer him listening. The same is with customers. If they feel heard, they always come back. They see a genuine interest. Woman feels loved the most, when she feels heard, therefore she is inspired to listen.....because she realizes on the other side of phone isnt just some "artificial robot" If man feels heard he feels loved the most. If their kids feel heard, they will listen because they feel loved and it inspires them to share ideas. "fake nice men" seek short term pleasure, or approval, from customers or wife, without listening. "genuine nice men" offer listening and communication and mutual respect. You seek a genuine partner but make sure when they offer genuine listening, or genuine texts that you are able to share a genuine ideas, so they see your true personality, so they react to your genuine personality, not to "a fantasy" self. (the fantasy of some tv show) only then you realize you have connection, because they react to your true personality, and you react to their true personality. Maybe humor is also a good indicator that the person is genuinelly interested, that isnt looking for a perfect answer all the time. So first listen to your thoughts, without judgment. It gives you love and empathy from yourself and to change some habits. because when you dont judsge yourself you changhe habits much more easily. and then you are able to listen other people, so they feel heard, loved and happy and maybe they notice not just their flaws but also the good qualities about themselves. they see that you dont judge their flaws, or that they dont judge your falws because often flaws can be short term thing and people learn new things.
Same, im not against a relationship but im also not looking for one and im not gonna play all these stupid games. Ive been alone my whole life im used to it
@@Woeisme2being independent is one thing but we all need physical bonding idk about you guys but no matter how Independent I am I still like when I get a little attention it makes me feel wanted and women and men also have physical needs
AMEN!!!!!!!!!! I remember when people would just call and say hey let's hang out. then they'd just see you. damn cell phones have made things such a mess.
E-mail and phone calls. Service members could still stay unnoticed via email and phone calls. Oh and today EVERYBODY is famous online, not for any talent, just for selfies. Crazy world we live in.
I honestly am so happy I found this channel. Just wish more women knew about it. This content is exactly what I want out of my partners but many people don’t know how to communicate properly. I even take some of this advice for my own sake. Thank you Matthew
I used to watch your videos from the comfort of no love interest, no texting or flirting going on. Currently I‘m dating someone and now this is so much more relevant but also kind of annoying because I‘m actually being confronted with everything that I‘m not doing yet or that I could improove😭very helpful thoo, glad I discovered you when I was like 16😂😂😂
Thank you, I really needed this, I was stuck in a texting phase where it started to look like we were calculating who's turn is it to text back, truth is in the beginning I was playing hard to get, but when I started to open up he started to text like a granpa so It's getting boring and I gave him a lot of chances to ask me out (note i was the first one to ask him out), I sincerely am too old to play games, so i might as well move on to the next person!
You act like you are a prize. Why this entitled mindset of 'giving a man chances'? Where does this stem from? How about stop acting so delusional and just ask someone out from the start if you are into him instead of 'waiting' for some nonsense reason you've been thought. You are not special.
I've recently gotten back on a dating app, after a couple years off. This video came at the perfect time because sometimes I have no idea how to respond in a way that gets their attention. This is VERY helpful
The editing is superb wow! You’ve really up your game these days. I’ve been married but somehow this got suggested to me. I have bought your previous program about texting. It works and it was more fun for myself too. When you’re taking texting lightly and allow yourself for honesty, flirting and being a bit more assertive, it get things going and you can filter the men to the most potential.
HEY MATTHEW!!! I have been following you since like 2012 somewhere, I never met a single man with the STANDARD U SET FOR ME!!!! I THINK I'M GONNA DIE ALONE LOL 🤣🤣🤣 honestly, I never stopped following u it gives me a single satisfaction that i am at least not in a abusive relationship and never settling low!!!!
If someone said im craving our conversation I would honestly feel like they pulled that out of a dating book or had AI write it. It doesnt sound like a human being talking..
Just ended a 4 month thing with someone who was terrrible texter. It turned into a mind game. THey just didnt give me much. I should have been more upfront about what I wanted and tried to instigate more. I could have lead the convos to have them be more vulnerable with me. Other issues caused the end (their family member passing away too) but there just wasnt a strong emotional connection. Its good to know this now. Its amazing what you put up with when you like someone. As soon as it ends you can see the forrest for the trees
ask someone out in real life instead. They will be able to see you aren't a psycho and see that your appearance comes across as someone who can actually take care of themselves. So there are way less games actually played. Asking someone in person requires getting off your ass as well which does show that you aren't low energy like many people on dating sites.
Apply these tips when you’re interacting with friends and family first, so that it becomes YOUR way of communication. Then it will come natural to interact like that with a special one.
Oki,I'm turning 22 this 19th of November..& I just confessed my feelings to my long term crush who got out of a very toxic relationship at the beginning of this year. Told him to take his time and not communicate with me until he has a decision about me in his mind. Also told him 'i know what you are capable of and you wont waste my time' After taking a few days, He reached me today. I hope this video will help me. I love all your videos.💚💚💚
I tried the send a flirty voice message to mix up just sending text (in my sexy sultry voice 💅🏽) and it worked. He liked hearing me and replied back sooner and we've been both sending texts all day 😜🎉
You Matthew are a true blessing for the society. We need more people like you. So simple and natural, but effective and useful advices and tactics. Spreading positivity truly. Great 👍😊
You can't build an entire relationship through texts, it's a bridge of communication/stay in touch with your love one and depending the type of situation texts work. Is important to identify if is long distance relationship or your traveling and can't see them, communication via texts is fine. In all situations real interest you make the time for it, including phone calls, videocalls or even see them in person. Also is very important to know the other person in how they communicate and express themselves.
Yea I just started talking to someone like a actual respectable man & wow the dynamic of how he is , it’s so great I’m really enjoying my text , phone convos before bed haha I was in a toxic relationship so I feel I didn’t know this even existed 😅 a real man with morals and respect , he definitely is chasing n doesn’t care he is , he’s someone that goes for what he wants n he knows what he wants . It’s great
sadly I think I going to be single again after like a century. this is the best ,it brings you up to speed on now days dating. No dating for a while maybe never but I do enjoy watching your advise all the time thank you.
This video about texting has been a learning experience for me as I’m always the person who invests more of myself, as your example showed so accurately. I’m getting much better at keeping the balance of investment and therefore not wasting time on interactions that die on the vine! Thank you Mathew! I really appreciate your advice based on dignity, respect and concise communication skills.
Ive done this dating dance a few times now. Some, i had phone calls with. Some i texted all night for hours. Some we met and talked more but less texting. But what im realizing is, if he aint it, he aint it. Even if texting goes well, you do everything to do the right things and avoid doing the wrong things, but none of that will change the wrong man to become the right man. At this point, if something ends sooner rather than later, Im happy about that.
Because Matthew gets it, I bet Audrey didn't have to do this much work.😩 A lot of these men simply don't. You as a woman will put all this work (and yes, this is WORK) into trying to concoct "excitement" with your text messages only for him to still ghost and move on to the next. Then, he returns 2 weeks to a month later asking, "how've you been?"... What a joke!🙄🙄
This video is a masterful combination of all of your fun longtime inside gags... We've got monkey and the lip synchronization. The Twilight phone... Love it!
All the facts. What happened to the days where you liked each other and that was enough. So much game playing. Gotta take a full on course to manifest love. Yeshua take the wheel.
Why do I always fall for guys who are not responding to me Matthew? I'm in a same situation as you described - texting back and forth, not inviting me out, he knows I like him, he said he likes me, messages are fun but that's it. We are in our 40s!! I give him hints I'd like to have a man like him (in case he is shy) when he reveals something nice about his personality. But when I do it, he doesn't reply for week even tho I see him online.... I go on other dates too, don't wait for him but - how to date when around 40? It's sooo hard.
So why aren't you straight forward confronting him, in a polite, respectful but curious way (cause ya Wanne know/NEED more clarity goddang!) With this situation that's been going on for some time, I guess 🙄 You know how I feel about you. I've literally said it even! I am interested in you in a romantic, serious way. Are you interested in me that way? Cause I need more clarity from you. And see what he responds 🤷 It's as simple as that, brave, beautiful, strong woman that you are, that should be no effort 😏😉 Don't stay afraid of the answer... To avoid discussing important issues with someone. It IS something that NEEDS to be done, otherwise it wouldn't bother you 😕... You deserve to know so ya can finally let go of that hovering fear that's always there! Keeping your mouth shut 😔 Even if your worst fear, rejection by him, comes true.... How unfortunately and disappointing it wil be ... You no longer live in fear! 🤗 Truth comes out, one way or another, sooner or later, Why prolonge your path of agony for peed sake?! Don't punish yourself that EXTRA , when you're already having it emotionally very hard... Stop te confusion And put an immediate hold 🛑 on letting your insecurity be fed, my love. ❤❤❤ You ARE brave You WILL get through this Emotions pass... 😇 Not one stays long and always. You are worth it! Remember that ❤
I remember the days when it was either a phone call on the landline or from the stinky phone box outside the pub or a postcard! People wrote to each other using pen and paper. I still have all my love letters and they are treasured. 😂
So I’ve seen Matthew’s videos pop up on my feed from time to time and have stumbled onto a few of his shorts. This is the first full length video I have seen of his. I slowly getting back into the dating game, but I wonder if his videos apply to both men and women or is his target audience only women. I ask because men and women have different approaches when it comes to dating. So far he makes some great points. I just want to make sure I’m getting what’s right for me as a man. But so far so good Matt.
I met a what I thought was a great guy on Tinder who was really into me. Like telling me he thinks about me all the time. Then I created a fake profile on Tinder and he starts talking to the fake profile. Why? Why did he pretend to be very into me (constant compliments, photos letting me know about his day, saying he is getting distracted thinking about me) then talk to other women and organise to meet up. Matthew, please make a video about this!!!!
You don't know this bloke ... it's not against the law to be chatting to more than one person in fact its a great idea while you're getting to know people so you don't invest in someone you don't even know... why would you be testing someone you don't know ? Or even do know ?
Bad sign that you are doing a fake profile. That is a bad start. The first secret from him…or you will tell him that you are spying on him? He will run away…I would do the same.
Really good advice and I’m happy to learn that it’s aligned with what I started doing when I got back into dating recently. Paying attention to the investment the other person is making and being ready to let go when it’s not working is such a power. And also gives us the time that we can spend on the ones where the investment is mutual😌
This was really good Mathew. I'm an older man and do text but have been out of the dating world for a few years now. Trying to fix me from a cheating wife before dating. Text is used as an ice breaker and a little teasing but your right it has to lead to a goal if you want it to. I'm an outgoing person and don't have trouble talking to women really but I am rusty on my game of funny banter and teasing with flirting. This gave me some ideas so thank!! I do best face to face but text is a good way to find out if she is even interested and if so I'm going for it even if it's just a coffee.
I want to mention Matthew I want to mention Matthew how creative your backdrops your backgrounds are the light green the shadow of the leaves the little sunlight coming through these are very creative backdrops I don't know if anybody else has noticed or cared I'm noticing a backdrops and I just want to say how creative and fantastic it is to get this coloring behind you to blend with what you're wearing is so beautiful thank you for the inspiration have a good day Matthew
I dont text at all. I tell them I only engage in Phone conversations or in person dates. You will weed out all the play around boys so fast. Anything truly important should be heard with tone and inflection and you should be able to see their eyes and non verbal communication which can tell you everything you need to know the majority of the time.
As a female but introvert person, if someone demanded me to always talk on phone, I'd weed them out as person who was set to kill my life energy and put me in loop of anxiety with no point. 🤨😒 I hate even business phone calls... That being said here and there voice records, even longer ones, may be more suitable, I'm in charge of energy and other person's ones I can listen when I have time and I'm not under other pressures/ situations / moods.
This was actually somewhat entertaining. I am watching this as an ugly,ethnic minority,depressed, bullied,undeveloped,unhappy, unwanted,traumatised,isolated, unattractive,almost 30,never-been-in-and-never-will-be-in-a-relationship, chronically-ill,failed,bereaved, better off dead,outcast, adult woman because I'm in interested in the psychology behind romantic relationships. I say on this holy Sunday, may the Lord continue to bless you, normal people, with lots of health, wealth,love,respect,sex,productivity, success,beauty,freedom,joy,riches, loyalty, favourable outcome and perfection.
Crazy thing is i usually do text like this. Im very emotionally involved to show vulnerability, but my reason is to see if they are receptive. My trouble is, finding guys im interested in to be receptive. I delete more than anyone worth investing time in.
Hi Matthew, Thank you for sharing such valuable knowledge about texting. You are a truly great coach. Thank you for doing such a wonderful job to help women who need the help！
I definitely text a lot and we were texting for about 2 weeks and I sent him a text like finalize our date or we'll end up meeting in 02/2026. He picked me up and we had our first date together.
Every woman knows what,how and when to write/ reply to the guy she's into. The problem with dating is not these "technical" aspects, but the unresolved traumas and unwillingness to self inner work. Both for men and women.
I was talking to this guy on the dating sight for a couple of weeks. Today we finally met. But we didn’t really talked about ourselves instead all about his friend, his job etc. After he took me home and told me he’s gonna take me to a hockey games next time . and I got a message from him saying ,He enjoyed meeting with me. Lol
I delete the guy / conversation after 24 hours of no contact. I find myself doing a lot of what you're proposing...but I'm here to see if there's anything else I can add to my messaging / dating style that will help me work my way through dating and into a relationship.
Unfortunately with #1 I do have to delay message back sometimes because I am in the unique situation where I always have immediate access to my phone. I work for myself. If I text back immediately every single time, especially if I am just starting to get to know someone, I'll look desperate or eager. I vary texting back either immediately or wait as long as 3 or 4 hours. I also try to keep the momentum going if I respond immediately and he answers back right away too. I'll continue to answer back and forth right away to keep up the live conversation.
I'm completely new to dating strangers. Decided to go out of my comfort zone since everyone in the past has been either a friend or at least acquaintance first. Talking with guys from an apps feels so weird and half the time I'm not even doing it right 😅. There is this one I really wanna keep so here I am, researching how to date in 2024! Your video really opened my eyes on a few things and gave much-needed insight as to what the proper next steps look like. Appreciate you, wish me luck 🤗🥂
All of the relationships I’ve been in have started with reasonably quick responses to msgs. I’ve never actually gone out with a girl that’s waited hours for every response. Typically I think “she’s too busy for me” and move on.
"Respond to your reality, not to his reasons." The best advice for those low-investment time-wasting guys. SO GOOD!!
You don't need to be like that!
I'm watching this not because I'm into texting or online dating, I'm here because I'm trying to decipher what a woman was thinking when she texted.
Women don't like investing in men either. I take care of myself so I must be shallow and like to sleep with lots of bimbos right?😂
And for low investment time wasting gals
There are nice guys, like me, who deal with interim the ladies too.
I swear, hearing that made me realize so many things.
My question is, how do you know that your reality is your reality and not a fantasy? Not trying to be hurtful in any way, genuinely just something I like people to think about
Why do we need to play all these strategic games? Why can't we all just be transparent about our feelings & desires and just enjoy each other's company? Dating/relationships have become exhausting 😕
bc men like games. they love sports and video games. play w them or be lonely :)
@abag55 What?! No we don't! I thought women were the ones who liked these!
And fake.
Because guys are generally stupid and only understand game-playing.
Dating is a way to improve ourselves.
Texting is generally where it fails even when the dates are going well😅.
I’m starting to elevate to phone calls as it’s more intimate and vulnerable it’s better quality of communication. Texting ruins building a real connection
Agreed. Texting is great to start a convo to a call.
@@LanaClarkLC yes for these purposes
Good point and glad it’s working out for you. I will bear it in mind and try and be brave in the future
Exactly. You can’t build a real connection via text in my opinion. I can see using it some of the time but phone calls, voice clips and video chat should be used to bridge the gap in between in person dates.
Calls or even video calls are definitely are better than texting but yes these are fillers and just check-in’s. You should be meeting up for dates/activities in public places not their home.
Because the call/text becomes emotional less boring after a while if ur not spending time together . That’s a common failure in the connection not progressing.
The conversation with the woman trying to set up a date and the guy replying days later with an old man emoji has lived rent free in my head for years.
Years??
@@vipmonicake I just checked, and that video originally came out six years ago.
Okay, so saying it lives rent free in my head might be overkill, but I have definitely thought of it from time to time. She was so straightforward in her interest, I hope she found someone who was willing to act the same way towards her.
Yes👏It made SUCH an impression on me that the gpa emoji always reminds me of that.
Well, in my case it was footprints. I had asked this guy to every now and then be the first one to say hi. He was the type not to initiate a conversation but then keep chatting for hours, sending photos of himself and his surroundings. A few days later (of silence, as I was not going to initiate any more conversations) he sent 👣👣👣👣👣👣👣. Just that. I asked him what that was and he said "I'm leaving my footprints everywhere. Applause". I swear, some guys...
What's this referring to?
I like to let her talk about herself 70 - 80% of the time, and let her ask about me so she feels listened to. Which is an element that is generally missing from later stages of relationships.
The one I recently started talking to has proper blown me away with how much she wants to know about me to the point where it's naturally almost 50-50.
" You know a person more by revealing yourself" Damn you are genius....I never thought of it that way and its insane how true that is
Watch his/her pattern. Energy does not lie. Most importantly be content by yourself because the people that belongs in your life will stay.
The last sentence is plain silly. If a woman puts up barriers, and makes it difficult for no reason, he will disappear whether he belongs in your life or not. Bad advice.
@@marks2997 You misunderstood what she was saying.
I am ready to communicate authentically. I am ready to go all in. I am willing to risk getting my heart broken in order to feel that much love again.
As a dominant woman that usually does the chasing, the advice on not compensating over the lack of interest and laziness of the other person is really good. It's incredible how the things switch when you start tuning into their same level of energy.
Very useful to avoid man-childs and people looking for a mom instead of an equal partner.
If he is not genuine it won’t matter how good you are at texting or anything else
Also valid for her
@@esteban489 The difference though is that generally Men get punished for being genuine or showing vulnerability. Women don't and are in fact ENCOURAGED to become adept at such things.
@@danzilthard.7248 you are out of touch, men use that agasint women to get sex out of them
@@danzilthard.7248exactly!
@@danzilthard.7248Dan is correct. Trying to open up will undoubtedly lead to a woman leaving because now, he's unstable with his feelings.. Then, that happens over and over and over.. so instead of getting practice to become better, we are rejected. That's how I've been trained and I wanted to believe 2 people could help make life better for each other. I still want to believe it but the reality is currently saying otherwise. I will only be of value when I am healed, have enough emotional strength to internalize everything, and can provide financially. As a man, wanting to be kind, nice, helpful, compassionate, etc doesn't get a guy anywhere with men or women. Men have incentive to be jerks, it's fucked up.
When a woman gets emotional or is struggling, 5 dudes wanna save her. A girl I was dating needed to move a travel trailer that was stuck in the mud. 3 other guys and I were there to help this woman who "doesn't need a man".. Who finally got her out? A man whom provided for his wife who had a jeep with a winch.. there are exceptions, no doubt but more often than not..
I'd pay to see 3-5 women rush in to help a guy out with something just to repair myself 😂
The funniest thing about my situation is that when I started seeing the guy I am now seeing, he was actually the one that said I hate texting, it's so impersonal. Can we talk? And I was the one like ugh I hate talking on the phone. But now we talk on the phone constantly and I've grown to love talking to him instead of texting😂
This is why Matthew is the best! His advice worked to ignite my floundering relationship. It's been 15 months and it has continued to get better, more meaningful as time passed. And, I had made some big mistakes that I needed to rectify. It's working out beautifully.
Sick of these games. Dating in 2024 is awful.
It's OK to stop playing, I think.. but may take a lot of understanding both sides and finding a person with similar values.
I agree that dating in 2024 sucks!! So, men make women wait, too?
It's so difficult, just trying to find a wife
You can integrate "games" in a way that is completely authentic. An inauthentic game is eg refusing to answer texts timely to look important. but it's authentic to delay responding if you ARE busy. notice that the tips Hussey is giving here are tips on how to show more of your authentic self. more sides of you. more flavourful. and more expressive of what you want/need. nowhere here did Hussey tell you to lie or trick someone.
People feel most connected whe they feel heard. They feel most loved, when they feel connected.
If she feels heard she will want commited longterm relationsip and also offer him listening.
The same is with customers. If they feel heard, they always come back. They see a genuine interest.
Woman feels loved the most, when she feels heard, therefore she is inspired to listen.....because she realizes on the other side of phone isnt just some "artificial robot"
If man feels heard he feels loved the most.
If their kids feel heard, they will listen because they feel loved and it inspires them to share ideas.
"fake nice men" seek short term pleasure, or approval, from customers or wife, without listening.
"genuine nice men" offer listening and communication and mutual respect.
You seek a genuine partner
but make sure when they offer genuine listening, or genuine texts
that you are able to share a genuine ideas, so they see your true personality,
so they react to your genuine personality, not to "a fantasy" self. (the fantasy of some tv show)
only then you realize you have connection, because they react to your true personality, and you react to their true personality.
Maybe humor is also a good indicator that the person is genuinelly interested, that isnt looking for a perfect answer all the time.
So first listen to your thoughts, without judgment. It gives you love and empathy from yourself and to change some habits.
because when you dont judsge yourself you changhe habits much more easily.
and then you are able to listen other people, so they feel heard, loved and happy and
maybe they notice not just their flaws but also the good qualities about themselves.
they see that you dont judge their flaws, or that they dont judge your falws because often flaws can be short term thing and people learn new things.
Single life is so peacefull. Never give up on freedom and being independent.❤
I agree
Same, im not against a relationship but im also not looking for one and im not gonna play all these stupid games. Ive been alone my whole life im used to it
Aye! Aye!
Okay, but how do you get laid?
@@Woeisme2being independent is one thing but we all need physical bonding idk about you guys but no matter how Independent I am I still like when I get a little attention it makes me feel wanted and women and men also have physical needs
That’s a lot of work. Texting has messed up relationships. It was so much easier in 1998.
we have too many options now!
AMEN!!!!!!!!!! I remember when people would just call and say hey let's hang out. then they'd just see you. damn cell phones have made things such a mess.
It was easy in 2013 and precovid
Meanwhile in 1998: Letters are messing dating.
E-mail and phone calls. Service members could still stay unnoticed via email and phone calls. Oh and today EVERYBODY is famous online, not for any talent, just for selfies. Crazy world we live in.
I honestly am so happy I found this channel. Just wish more women knew about it. This content is exactly what I want out of my partners but many people don’t know how to communicate properly. I even take some of this advice for my own sake. Thank you Matthew
Ommmgggg. I just applied one of his texting tips and it worked 🙃 Me and this guy’s conversation has been dry until now. 🙌🏾
I used to watch your videos from the comfort of no love interest, no texting or flirting going on. Currently I‘m dating someone and now this is so much more relevant but also kind of annoying because I‘m actually being confronted with everything that I‘m not doing yet or that I could improove😭very helpful thoo, glad I discovered you when I was like 16😂😂😂
Thank you, I really needed this, I was stuck in a texting phase where it started to look like we were calculating who's turn is it to text back, truth is in the beginning I was playing hard to get, but when I started to open up he started to text like a granpa so It's getting boring and I gave him a lot of chances to ask me out (note i was the first one to ask him out), I sincerely am too old to play games, so i might as well move on to the next person!
You act like you are a prize. Why this entitled mindset of 'giving a man chances'? Where does this stem from? How about stop acting so delusional and just ask someone out from the start if you are into him instead of 'waiting' for some nonsense reason you've been thought. You are not special.
On the same boat
what does texting like a grandpa mean?😂
U asked him out and he didn't say yes?
Lesson learned! Next time don't player hard to get. (Instead be mindful and observant of redflags as the defence, not being straight up confusing)
When the dating world needed him the most he appeared
😆❤
When the student is ready
I've recently gotten back on a dating app, after a couple years off. This video came at the perfect time because sometimes I have no idea how to respond in a way that gets their attention. This is VERY helpful
Gotta appreciate the creative part of this video. It’s very well done! Thank you a lot for all the effort, you’re amazing!❤
The editing is superb wow! You’ve really up your game these days. I’ve been married but somehow this got suggested to me. I have bought your previous program about texting. It works and it was more fun for myself too. When you’re taking texting lightly and allow yourself for honesty, flirting and being a bit more assertive, it get things going and you can filter the men to the most potential.
HEY MATTHEW!!! I have been following you since like 2012 somewhere, I never met a single man with the STANDARD U SET FOR ME!!!! I THINK I'M GONNA DIE ALONE LOL 🤣🤣🤣 honestly, I never stopped following u it gives me a single satisfaction that i am at least not in a abusive relationship and never settling low!!!!
here I am 👀
just be yourself, think, feel and don’t depend on anyone.
great advice ❤
If someone said im craving our conversation I would honestly feel like they pulled that out of a dating book or had AI write it. It doesnt sound like a human being talking..
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just ended a 4 month thing with someone who was terrrible texter. It turned into a mind game. THey just didnt give me much. I should have been more upfront about what I wanted and tried to instigate more. I could have lead the convos to have them be more vulnerable with me. Other issues caused the end (their family member passing away too) but there just wasnt a strong emotional connection. Its good to know this now. Its amazing what you put up with when you like someone. As soon as it ends you can see the forrest for the trees
This sounds like so much when I don’t have any energy left for dating 🙂
Then stop
ask someone out in real life instead. They will be able to see you aren't a psycho and see that your appearance comes across as someone who can actually take care of themselves. So there are way less games actually played. Asking someone in person requires getting off your ass as well which does show that you aren't low energy like many people on dating sites.
Apply these tips when you’re interacting with friends and family first, so that it becomes YOUR way of communication. Then it will come natural to interact like that with a special one.
This is exactly why I watch his videos. A person can apply a lot of what he talks about to friendships.
This is a good dating advice site at least 50% because Matthew is so adorable and on point that I forget about the guy I was texting ☺
Really impressed with the nerf head shots and his lack of wincing lmaooo
Oki,I'm turning 22 this 19th of November..& I just confessed my feelings to my long term crush who got out of a very toxic relationship at the beginning of this year.
Told him to take his time and not communicate with me until he has a decision about me in his mind. Also told him
'i know what you are capable of and you wont waste my time'
After taking a few days,
He reached me today.
I hope this video will help me.
I love all your videos.💚💚💚
Omg I’m so happy for you dear , happy birthday in a advance 🤭🎉❤
@@러칫씨늣린 heyy thank you so much dear😊
good luck and happy early birthday! ❤
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool thank you dear✨💚
Well ---- what happened???
I tried the send a flirty voice message to mix up just sending text (in my sexy sultry voice 💅🏽) and it worked. He liked hearing me and replied back sooner and we've been both sending texts all day 😜🎉
You Matthew are a true blessing for the society. We need more people like you. So simple and natural, but effective and useful advices and tactics. Spreading positivity truly. Great 👍😊
These suggestions are great. I had to do work with my buried emotions before I could be this authentic.
You can't build an entire relationship through texts, it's a bridge of communication/stay in touch with your love one and depending the type of situation texts work. Is important to identify if is long distance relationship or your traveling and can't see them, communication via texts is fine. In all situations real interest you make the time for it, including phone calls, videocalls or even see them in person.
Also is very important to know the other person in how they communicate and express themselves.
This video is ABSOLUTE GOLD!! Thank you so much for this video! You will never know how much it has helped me understand my situation!
I wonder how many of Matthew’s fans are gay men like me? I have used his advice multiple times and it has helped a lot with dating momentum!
Yea I just started talking to someone like a actual respectable man & wow the dynamic of how he is , it’s so great I’m really enjoying my text , phone convos before bed haha I was in a toxic relationship so I feel I didn’t know this even existed 😅 a real man with morals and respect , he definitely is chasing n doesn’t care he is , he’s someone that goes for what he wants n he knows what he wants . It’s great
Thank you so much. I really needed this a lot. I'm really into this guy who lives on the opposite side of the world. Texting is all we are doing.
sadly I think I going to be single again after like a century. this is the best ,it brings you up to speed on now days dating. No dating for a while maybe never but I do enjoy watching your advise all the time thank you.
Hahaha absolutely loved the Twilight Phone segment. Had me cracking up throughout 😂
This is genius. Thank you!! Definitely taking notes.
Matthew is literally a genius - I'm so glad I found this channel :)
So many good points, and these can be applied to any kind of relationship.
I agree. In and out of text conversations 👌
I do many of these things naturally, I am just naturally interesting
This video about texting has been a learning experience for me as I’m always the person who invests more of myself, as your example showed so accurately. I’m getting much better at keeping the balance of investment and therefore not wasting time on interactions that die on the vine! Thank you Mathew! I really appreciate your advice based on dignity, respect and concise communication skills.
HAHAHHA omg the scenes with the person shooting from the bush crack me up so bad 😂😂😂
Please send him texts that go with your personality. He is dating you, not a dating coach.
100% that being said, I am watching this vid 😅
As always Matthew knows what’s up when it comes to texting.
The Twilight Phone is such a classic now 😂
🤣
This is honestly super valuable for someone who doesn't know how to text
Ive done this dating dance a few times now. Some, i had phone calls with. Some i texted all night for hours. Some we met and talked more but less texting.
But what im realizing is, if he aint it, he aint it. Even if texting goes well, you do everything to do the right things and avoid doing the wrong things, but none of that will change the wrong man to become the right man.
At this point, if something ends sooner rather than later, Im happy about that.
Because Matthew gets it, I bet Audrey didn't have to do this much work.😩 A lot of these men simply don't. You as a woman will put all this work (and yes, this is WORK) into trying to concoct "excitement" with your text messages only for him to still ghost and move on to the next. Then, he returns 2 weeks to a month later asking, "how've you been?"... What a joke!🙄🙄
This video is a masterful combination of all of your fun longtime inside gags... We've got monkey and the lip synchronization. The Twilight phone... Love it!
I love that I found this channel. ❤ Wish I found this earlier but what happened happened. 😊
This is so exhausting. I am prepared to just quit.
Fuck it I say. I’m just going to be me and let the odds roll as they will.
Brah you got me laughing my ass off as I’m thinking the same thing
All the facts. What happened to the days where you liked each other and that was enough. So much game playing. Gotta take a full on course to manifest love. Yeshua take the wheel.
Why do I always fall for guys who are not responding to me Matthew? I'm in a same situation as you described - texting back and forth, not inviting me out, he knows I like him, he said he likes me, messages are fun but that's it. We are in our 40s!! I give him hints I'd like to have a man like him (in case he is shy) when he reveals something nice about his personality. But when I do it, he doesn't reply for week even tho I see him online....
I go on other dates too, don't wait for him but - how to date when around 40? It's sooo hard.
So why aren't you straight forward confronting him, in a polite, respectful but curious way (cause ya Wanne know/NEED more clarity goddang!)
With this situation that's been going on for some time, I guess 🙄
You know how I feel about you. I've literally said it even! I am interested in you in a romantic, serious way.
Are you interested in me that way?
Cause I need more clarity from you.
And see what he responds 🤷
It's as simple as that, brave, beautiful, strong woman that you are, that should be no effort 😏😉
Don't stay afraid of the answer...
To avoid discussing important issues with someone.
It IS something that NEEDS to be done, otherwise it wouldn't bother you 😕...
You deserve to know so ya can finally let go of that hovering fear that's always there! Keeping your mouth shut 😔
Even if your worst fear, rejection by him, comes true....
How unfortunately and disappointing it wil be ...
You no longer live in fear! 🤗
Truth comes out, one way or another, sooner or later,
Why prolonge your path of agony for peed sake?!
Don't punish yourself that EXTRA , when you're already having it emotionally very hard...
Stop te confusion
And put an immediate hold 🛑 on letting your insecurity be fed, my love.
❤❤❤
You ARE brave
You WILL get through this
Emotions pass... 😇
Not one stays long and always.
You are worth it!
Remember that ❤
How olds he?
I remember the days when it was either a phone call on the landline or from the stinky phone box outside the pub or a postcard! People wrote to each other using pen and paper. I still have all my love letters and they are treasured. 😂
So I’ve seen Matthew’s videos pop up on my feed from time to time and have stumbled onto a few of his shorts. This is the first full length video I have seen of his. I slowly getting back into the dating game, but I wonder if his videos apply to both men and women or is his target audience only women. I ask because men and women have different approaches when it comes to dating. So far he makes some great points. I just want to make sure I’m getting what’s right for me as a man. But so far so good Matt.
I met a what I thought was a great guy on Tinder who was really into me. Like telling me he thinks about me all the time. Then I created a fake profile on Tinder and he starts talking to the fake profile. Why? Why did he pretend to be very into me (constant compliments, photos letting me know about his day, saying he is getting distracted thinking about me) then talk to other women and organise to meet up. Matthew, please make a video about this!!!!
You don't know this bloke ... it's not against the law to be chatting to more than one person in fact its a great idea while you're getting to know people so you don't invest in someone you don't even know... why would you be testing someone you don't know ? Or even do know ?
Keeping his options open or
not ready to settle down.
It's calling Trying to be a Player...
Bad sign that you are doing a fake profile. That is a bad start. The first secret from him…or you will tell him that you are spying on him? He will run away…I would do the same.
My best coach for the previous 7 years
Have you watched this guy and stayed single for 7 years?
@@eloiseprays😂
granpa emoji suspense is my absolute fav !
Really good advice and I’m happy to learn that it’s aligned with what I started doing when I got back into dating recently.
Paying attention to the investment the other person is making and being ready to let go when it’s not working is such a power. And also gives us the time that we can spend on the ones where the investment is mutual😌
This was really good Mathew. I'm an older man and do text but have been out of the dating world for a few years now. Trying to fix me from a cheating wife before dating. Text is used as an ice breaker and a little teasing but your right it has to lead to a goal if you want it to. I'm an outgoing person and don't have trouble talking to women really but I am rusty on my game of funny banter and teasing with flirting. This gave me some ideas so thank!! I do best face to face but text is a good way to find out if she is even interested and if so I'm going for it even if it's just a coffee.
This was informative and good.
This is an amazing class, thank you teacher Matthew I learned a lot with you and this video!
I want to mention Matthew I want to mention Matthew how creative your backdrops your backgrounds are the light green the shadow of the leaves the little sunlight coming through these are very creative backdrops I don't know if anybody else has noticed or cared I'm noticing a backdrops and I just want to say how creative and fantastic it is to get this coloring behind you to blend with what you're wearing is so beautiful thank you for the inspiration have a good day Matthew
I dont text at all. I tell them I only engage in Phone conversations or in person dates. You will weed out all the play around boys so fast. Anything truly important should be heard with tone and inflection and you should be able to see their eyes and non verbal communication which can tell you everything you need to know the majority of the time.
So true, curious what other people think about this strategy 🤔
As a female but introvert person, if someone demanded me to always talk on phone, I'd weed them out as person who was set to kill my life energy and put me in loop of anxiety with no point. 🤨😒
I hate even business phone calls... That being said here and there voice records, even longer ones, may be more suitable, I'm in charge of energy and other person's ones I can listen when I have time and I'm not under other pressures/ situations / moods.
This was actually somewhat entertaining.
I am watching this as an ugly,ethnic minority,depressed, bullied,undeveloped,unhappy, unwanted,traumatised,isolated, unattractive,almost 30,never-been-in-and-never-will-be-in-a-relationship, chronically-ill,failed,bereaved, better off dead,outcast, adult woman because I'm in interested in the psychology behind romantic relationships.
I say on this holy Sunday, may the Lord continue to bless you, normal people, with lots of health, wealth,love,respect,sex,productivity, success,beauty,freedom,joy,riches, loyalty, favourable outcome and perfection.
Crazy thing is i usually do text like this. Im very emotionally involved to show vulnerability, but my reason is to see if they are receptive. My trouble is, finding guys im interested in to be receptive. I delete more than anyone worth investing time in.
Hi Matthew,
Thank you for sharing such valuable knowledge about texting. You are a truly great coach.
Thank you for doing such a wonderful job to help women who need the help！
I definitely text a lot and we were texting for about 2 weeks and I sent him a text like finalize our date or we'll end up meeting in 02/2026.
He picked me up and we had our first date together.
I LOVE your humor!!!
I'm glad you're here doing this, Matthew. I can avoid everybody who follows your advice.
The caption itself leads me to subscribe instantly. Thank you!
i am so fed up with trying
Have some rest and start over. Worth it.
@@NoktoplastikaOnlineShop there is no hope. i exercise to make the sadness not overwhelm me but now Im getting cramps so bad Im going to the hospital
Me too !
Do or do not.
Love and appreciate your commitment to your content and videos, Matthew!
This is correct from my experience.
this is such a great video, so informative and helpful!
Just text back. Talk . No games. U'll get the result no matter what. It is what it is! As simple as that.
I'm not in a situation where I needed this but damn could you make a TV Show out of this lol? I'm so invested
This should be taught in middle school. Thank you!
Good clip, one of your better clips lately
Every woman knows what,how and when to write/ reply to the guy she's into. The problem with dating is not these "technical" aspects, but the unresolved traumas and unwillingness to self inner work. Both for men and women.
1. I'm craving our conversation
2. Why haven't you asked me to see the new Blade runner yet?
I was talking to this guy on the dating sight for a couple of weeks. Today we finally met. But we didn’t really talked about ourselves instead all about his friend, his job etc. After he took me home and told me he’s gonna take me to a hockey games next time . and I got a message from him saying ,He enjoyed meeting with me. Lol
I love all this ❤❤❤
This was such a funny and informative video to watch with the examples but also with Monkey and the Twilight Phone 😂😂
Totally cracked me up dude 🤣, I'm that guy cooking the soup.
I delete the guy / conversation after 24 hours of no contact. I find myself doing a lot of what you're proposing...but I'm here to see if there's anything else I can add to my messaging / dating style that will help me work my way through dating and into a relationship.
as always, your videos are so helpful and real. thank you soooo much
“Respond To Your Reality Not To His Reasons”(!)🤯
I had no idea how helpful this would be
Unfortunately with #1 I do have to delay message back sometimes because I am in the unique situation where I always have immediate access to my phone. I work for myself. If I text back immediately every single time, especially if I am just starting to get to know someone, I'll look desperate or eager. I vary texting back either immediately or wait as long as 3 or 4 hours. I also try to keep the momentum going if I respond immediately and he answers back right away too. I'll continue to answer back and forth right away to keep up the live conversation.
I'm completely new to dating strangers. Decided to go out of my comfort zone since everyone in the past has been either a friend or at least acquaintance first. Talking with guys from an apps feels so weird and half the time I'm not even doing it right 😅. There is this one I really wanna keep so here I am, researching how to date in 2024! Your video really opened my eyes on a few things and gave much-needed insight as to what the proper next steps look like. Appreciate you, wish me luck 🤗🥂
All of the relationships I’ve been in have started with reasonably quick responses to msgs. I’ve never actually gone out with a girl that’s waited hours for every response. Typically I think “she’s too busy for me” and move on.
You're amazing you get it. Keep it up n thanks for your advice it's works💯🙌🏻❤
This guy is a genius as well as very entertaining
This was great 😊 and the Grandpa emoji reveal had me cackling out loud 😂
I'm glad I'm not the only one haha