Parents' Choice vs. Children's Dreams |
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 พ.ย. 2017
- Can parents and children share the same dream?
Watch the video to find out, it might just #ChangeYourLife.
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Unfortunately many parents end up killing the dreams of their children because they have their whole life mapped up when they are born.
Y A S H N Y live example of your statement: hey
This is exactly true OMG yes!
They don't even know that passion will give more money
@@factsdontcareaboutyourfeel7747 it is late but I hope things are better for you now
@@allisonscanlan4144 unfortunately yes
My parents also tried me to stop from persuing my dreams. Now they know their limits. *If you're serious about your dreams, you will have to be bold enough*
Your so inspiring! I want to be a singer but my mom said no... but I know nobody will stop me!
@@lolthatscrazyman When am I gonna hear your voice??
Thunder Strom lol whenever I can get out of this house ASAP I can’t wait to be a professional singer!! 😁
@@lolthatscrazyman Well,in that case, Best of luck👍
You will rock the stage one day🙃
Thunder Strom thank u! And whatever u want to be in the future u will do amazing in that!
Parents: you must become doctor
Me: not my fault you failed to achieve that
Savage
Me in the exact situation but not bold enough to be savage like you 😭
The thing is that my parents are DOCTORS so…
👑👏👏
@@piyalichhajed6009 same lol like what to do?? 😭😭
All three parents have failed to live their dreams, and want to subject that to their children. How selfish! We live life only once, so be happy, do what you want to do, follow your heart and dreams, and live with no regrets!
I'm so sad I always wanted to become a Charted accountant since 10th grade, after I passed my parents forced me to do mechanical engineering which I hated from the start. I don't know there were videos like this from the start. If I knew there were video like this and I show this video to my parents I think I'm sure my parents would agree to my decision.
They dont think children have a life. They think of their own
@@Pervazkhan1 you shouldve just went for it
Who are your parents to stop you
@@267cal love you bro thanks, now I'm in third year. I hope I'm good in the future.
I want to give IOAA and SAT in 11th and 12th grades and then go to Harvard for BSc Phy then Msc and PHDs and then either become an Astronaut or Theoritical Physicist but my mom wants me to study in India only and then catch up some Government Job and marry a girl whom she wants me to...........
I am literally crying right now becoz my mom shouted on me few minutes back when I told her I wanted to go to USA with scholarship.. She said,”I think it is one of your bad friends who is messing with your mind”. I replied,”No, i got all this from internet and interviews”. She replied,”Those people who went to USA and were being interviewed were just lying” I can never convince my mom..... This happens every day these days now...... 2years back, when I was in 8th grade and told her I wanted to become and astronaut, she started abusing me and saying I can never do such things and she also literraly pulled my neck and threw at the floor.......
If only was I 18+ or Self Financed(I m 15 now), I would go right now and spit on her face and say ,”fking go to hell”
N I'm here wanting my parents to be more supportive
Dreams are never reality
Trust me tell them your problem and tell them to think from your perspective they will surely understand you. 😊
@NOU TFF 😞😞
Same here. :(((
Me too
Parents have no right to dictate the lives and future of their children. Ultimately, we must live our lives long after our parents pass on, and we shoulder that responsibility of taking care of ourselves. Parents cannot tell us what to do, and have us shoulder the consequences of their actions and decisions.
Well, my mom told me its my life, you can choose what you wanted to do, and yet, my mom scold me as well..
Sometimes i can only do things i wanted to do by doing quietly without her knowing..
@VasiL funny 😆 but sadly true ☹️
Dono Side Se Samjhna hota h...parents bachho ki side samjhne ko tayar hi nhi h
i really wanted to go into active service but my parents wanted to be a seafarer,.instead, i've chosen a third path..but, despite not being able to fulfill my childhood dream, they still taunt me - for not fulfilling their dreams for me..
im literaly crying right now cause im actually in that kind of life. ive always wanted to tell my parents what i really want but im always afraid that they wont aprove my decisions. and i was right
I been in dat same situation dat y ion live w my mom nomo n I'm 20
M in it rn
same... I understand you🙂
Hey, how are you doing now? Did things change?
I am crying right now too because my mom says when I get to 16 she will find me a job and I have to go even I don't like the job. (;´༎ຶД༎ຶ`)
Very important message. It's more than just chasing a dream or letting your children do what they want, it is learning to trust that your children will make a decision that is right for them and if they don't, it's ok, that's life, we have ups and downs, just be there for them.
The children decides if its right or not, if the children has the correct mindset for the path, it will achieve it no matter what.
@@Ncraft2 yes,but sometimes the parental pressure makes your mindset go bad
@@janvimyadventures1310 like mine
I am genuinely crying right now. I wish my parents listened to me and understood the things that I love and enjoy. After SPM results on March 2017, I had one of the hardest times in my life, thinking and discussing about my future. I had been crying, stressing out, being sick because of overthinking about my future and arguing with my parents. They literally said that being something that you love, something you admire is not important anymore. Learning a course that related to a job that everyone needs in the next few years and the job has a great salary that can accommodate our lives as the living standards are increasing every year are important. After the children chose a course in university and they graduated, the parents are scared that the children wouldn't get a job. That's the problem.
If I was in that place I would have asked them "How do you know what everyone single person on earth needs?" How are you sure no one needs a Graphic Designer to design their products?
How do you know you don't need a TH-camr to advertise your products and services?
How do you know you don't need a Singer to sing to raise funds for charity?
Every single career has contributed to our society for decades without most of us realising it and some people still think only a few career mattered.
SirConcon Draws around April-May, I got an offer for Media course interview. They didn't let me to go to the interview. Then, and at the end, I got a Script Writing course from this university. They didn't let me. They said that I don't fit with this course. They don't see my interest in this course, in fact I am. I make videos of exciting moments in my life, I do write some stories, I have a little experience in writing scripts. Now here I am, in sixth form. From the bright side, I need a practice to be an adult when I'm in sixth form. After all, they are my parents.
@Naz That is EXACLY my problem aswell😖💔
Exactly my problem
Exactly my problem right now. I want to take a communications degree but my mom is against it. She would say that I wouldn't amount to anything from that.
'If someone wasn't with you during your struggles, don't ever let him be part of your success'
Yes I know right I ain't giving my parents money if I be a Roblox youtuber I wanted them all HOMELESS
@@sizzledsavagefries5326 💀💀💀
Uh how does this apply
please believe in your own childrens, we want to create our own path without relying on the older ones.. we want to create our own happy ending.
yoodawei 유다 please preach to my parents.
My parents dont want me to pursue a career in the creative department, they think thats too low of me. They want me to become some sort of officer, doctor or ambassador as they tell me that im very diplomatic behaviour wise. Idk what to do right now im so confused between choosing stability and my dreams. I cry everyday, because i dont know whay to do. Im only 17 and i feel like im 80 years already.
@@adityanandeibam39 hope you're doing well
what am i This is my life :)
Yes, cuz if the parents are just the ones creating paths for us then we can't be independent on our life. Our life will just depend on our parents' will.
WoW that was smooth, mine rejected it with screaming and threats
No way. Asian parents are only nice on the outside. They are just show off.
@@ridoanuddin3378 true tho I have Asian parents and yay it's show off. In public they treat me so nicely when we get home they shout like crazy.
@@ridoanuddin3378 same dude same my mom just did that yesterday in front of our relatives, I got so happy for a while and then boom when they went - 😭😭😭😭
@@ridoanuddin3378 ikr
Me too
My parents gave me a choice between studying medicine ( Which they want me to study ) they want me to become a doctor, but honestly. It isn’t for me. And when I told them that I’m following my dreams which are to pursue my dream in music, and study sports medicine,. They said. “If you don’t study what we tell you, Prepare to move out of my house”. I was 19 at the time. I graduated from my high school. I’m currently still attending college. But I feel so disconnected from studying Biology. I love music, and studying about sports medicine. I played basketball, football, and I was a member in my high school band all four years in high school. I have passion for them. But my parents just don’t care. When I first started playing basketball, my parents always came to my games. But as I grew up. Their attendance to my games faded. So I switched to football. They never attended. Then I switched to marching band. They never attended a performance. And once I reached my junior year ( I was 18 ). My parents told me that they don’t trust me and I need to do something serious with my life. I told my parents. “ I want to be a musician, compose music, and play sports, and study more about sports medicine. They both laughed, called me crazy and then they said. “No child of mine is going to be drug addict or a NBA fame head junky. Ever since my graduation from high school. I wasn’t allowed to stay on campus, I couldn’t join the band at my college because my parents always said no. And I’m currently playing basketball. And it’s like every time I text them to tell them that I’m at practice or I’m at a game. When I get home they’re always complaining about how I don’t listen, I don’t do this or do that. I remember that first season practice we had I told my dad that Me and the team have practice. He compared my going to practice to Kobe Bryant’s death. And then when I asked him why he did that he told me because Kobe Bryant didn’t listen to anyone when they told him not to fly the helicopter in that whether condition. And then I asked him why would he compare me to Kobe. And then I said so you think by me telling you I have practice and games is me not listening to you?. He said nothing. And whenever him and my mom get in a argument guess who’s always placed in the middle?. Me. They force me to take up for one of them. But when I talk about my dreams and passions. No one wants to listen. But I’m moving out soon. And I will change my major to music education, and hen minor in Sports Medicine. One day they’ll die, and when they do die. My life goes on.I don’t want to have that feeling of regret. I want to live a comfortable life. I’m 21 now. And I just want to enjoy my life. In 9 more years I’ll be 30. I don’t want to live in regret. Please pray for me guys.
I also want to be a singer but I gave up my hope because my parents won't allow me that, not even giving me a chance🖤💔
Comparing you to Kobe Bryant is just messed up
Hope you'll get through all the tough times and do what you want.
@@madhurao797 Don't give up my man! You got this, never ever lose faith.
Alot of times parents feel they know what’s right for you. But only you know what’s right for you ✨
They started arguing with their kids when they went home I can tell you that much. If not then show me evidence, I BET THEY STARTED REJECTINF THEIR KIDS AGAIN, ALWAYS RHE FAKE LOVE.
I agree 100% these are the people who want social approval, they'll not allow their kids to easily have their way smh I feel sad for them😔✊
Tbh, Im thinking the same at the end of the video . Y'know when this moment/show pass by ,everything will be the same ,back. Smh :) unless they rly got affected by it.
I was going to comment the same thing lol. When you know you know
Very true
Let the children create their own future
Must be nice to have parents who support your dreams
If I was a parent, I will make a promise to myself for my future children: I will let my children carve their own paths, make their own decision, decide their future, etc. I will be with them every step of the way, guiding them towards a future my children will see fit, and not the failure of the parents who failed to achieve their own dreams, and the fear and shame they have to endure once their child/children do choose to achieve their dreams, fearing they will be failures and bring shame to their family. I believe that no one wants to die, but in the end, that’s just how it is. And when our parents pass, our children will move on in their lives, pursuing the careers they always wanted to achieve, but can’t due to their parents’ disapproval, for reasons like “shame”, “failure”, and/or “disappointment”. I want to be my own version of a parent when I grow up, and learn the mistakes that our parents were making.
This took way too long and many people would disagree with me, but that’s fine, but when you are in your grave, you WILL NOT be able to tell your children when they grow up and they live out their lives like “You’re making a big mistake” or “I want you to achieve my goals of being xyz job”, and etc.
I unfortunately can't tell you if it's nice or not. My aunts are more supportive than my parents. My mother threw my violin to the trash can because it sounded bad THE FIRST YEAR that I was playing.
I'm grateful for my family who allowed me to choose what I want to study, even though I chose something that wasn't exactly what I wanted to do, I'm still grateful they didn't force me to study Medicine or Law.
I'm currently studying Estate Management since I'm interested in real estate, but deep down I want to be a writer. I still write and my family knows and is supportive.
I'm so grateful for that
Fought my family about my career which is to become a photographer and they just don't understand what i go through
They forced me to do Bcom just because it think it's the best thing for me. NOBODY SUPPORTS ME. I was in depression for long period and no one cared. I tried to kill myself by overdose yet i lived. Even death rejected me. But I'm still strong cause when somebody ask me how's life? I smile and respond fine.
Follow your dreams bro
Because at the end of the dat .. no onle else matters ,except you
@David Smith You don't know me, but I support you, follow your dreams.
That’s one hell of a story. Hope you’re doing alright 👍🏾
Stay strong bro.
Sorry 🙏 follow ur dreams
Ironically they’ve been a victim of the exact same thing yet they are pushing their children into same hell 😔
Painful
Parents: "Follow your dreams"
Also parents: "THIS is going to be your job, no buts"
I've never had a solid father-daughter relationship so when he told me that architecture was an ideal degree for me I wanted him to be proud of me and I wanted to fix our relationship. He's always had big and unrealistic expectations of me. A couple days ago I told him I want to quit this because it's not what I want, I told him I did it for him. He threw words at me like I'm made of stone. I've learned a big life lesson which is to ALWAYS put yourself first, stop thinking about the what-ifs.
So what did you chose to do.
@@ridoanuddin3378 I dropped out. I’m going to work at Nike in a few weeks. As for my relationship with my dad: I basically stopped hoping for a better relationship, we are barely talking to each other despite the fact that we live under the same roof.
@@e.a3258 are you now following your dream. Or just doing what's your
father expecting from you.
@@AkashSingh-xc5jm i am now working full time and have a completely different lifestyle now than before. it’s safe to say that i’m proud of myself for doing this for me. he’s not supportive but he’s trying to leave it all behind since my decision has been made.
@@e.a3258 I'm currently going through the same thing. I decided to listen to my dad and do engineering (the situation is different though-I wanted to study architecture instead). Despite working hard and doing my best to make him proud, I've never been able to enjoy what I was doing and eventually failed my exams. I have yet to tell my parents about my horrible results (planning to do it today) and that I want to change my major. I've literally lost my motivation, I don't even believe I can pursue architecture either anymore. I'm really nervous to talk to my parents, specially since all I wanted was to make them proud.
Lmao that uncle is so uptight but at least he's honest about it, "No. Not at all."
I can't do whatever i want, my parents only cared about how I'm progressing in academics, I'm too scared to have low grades, and as much as I'm trying to be funny and comedic in every way, I'm suicidal, idk what to do, i just want to be independent
Same a parents job is to protect their child, prepare them for their future, help pursue their dreams NOT Crush them
Same here
bro you just described me
Same
please remember, we cant buy happiness with money.
So can poverty buy happiness?
Money doesn't buy happiness, but, money provides security, thus maintaining happiness.
Its what you do, your actions will have consequences on your happiness.
@Daus Adinegoro Then I would rather be rich and be doing something I love. Money doesn't go to people that need it, but to those who know how to multiply it.
@Renegade I have choosen my career as CA(in mind) it has big salary and every thing big
But my parents forced me to do engineering
I will fight for my freedom at all cost. My parents are forcing me to do things I dont want to do. Even if they beat me, I will learn to take pain. But now if they beat me, I will fight back. Police case or what not. I WILL FIGHT FOR MY FREEDOM, DONT TELL ME WHAT TO DO. I WANT TO BE A TOP TH-camR, GAME CREATOR, AND THE STRONGEST PERSON. NOBODY WILL STOP ME.
Bro 💀
welp, you made it @Ncraft2 !
I'm a fan and I hope you do well.
I don’t play Roblox as much as I used to but glad you’re trying to fulfill that dream. Impressed with your work.
even a roblox creator still become unstoppable
I was forced into engineering and somehow I made it through master's degree. In the end, I returned to my passion in corporate business job.
I realize now what I will never get to experience, is to enjoy a bachelor study in business as an 18 years old. This fires anger in me for years.
I've never ask my parent whether he approved of my decision. I don't think any answer will make me feel better.
I hade a similar experience..i am from middle class family...my parents esp my mother wanted me to be a Dr...and becoming an ias officer was my dream since childhood.. actually it's not dream it's an aim i always thought about being called as Rithika ias and wanted to contribute something which i can to society..i had many sleepless night ..i know it's not an easy job bt i was ready to work hard for it...bt my mom always wanted to see me aS a Dr......i like that proffession bt above all i want to be an ias officer...so at 10 th stnd i decided i will fullfill my mom's dream then later mine..i cracked neet in the very first attempt...and i started preparing for upsc exam since collage....and i cleared prelims and mains with descent score... waiting for my interview...i hope ican fulfill my dream....
Some parents successfully killed their child’s dreams without expectation, and soon they successfully killed their children too.
I made my decision now, i have to oppose my parents if that needed. What they want for me is stop studying and go work abroad in order to secure our future. But for me, something was off, I convinced my parents so many times or should i say countless times, but the results is the same. Now I think on my self “why I can’t even choose my own dreams, fate, and future? Do they have the rights to choose my fate? Are they doing this for my future or for their own future? Fame?” There’s a time I’m thinking I rather end myself than getting controlled by them, and no freedom. So this time, i want to continue my study even they will hate me and set a business. I have a passion on my dreams so I really want to chase it. In my family trees, we’re the only family left without cool house or cars so that’s why my parents was so desperate and feels like they sacrificed me to go to abroad and work. So if I won’t do this, if I won’t chase my dreams, our future and the future generations will be a complete failure and they will continue work till they ran out of their time. That’s why i need to do this in order to end our fate as “Work till you ran out of happiness and time” so no more future generations will go abroad to work and left their love ones.
Go for it bro.
Make your own way.
This is basically me in about 5 years.
I was one of the youngest child in both of my parent's families, and since most of my older cousins are now working overseas, both of my parent's families expect me to go overseas as well (since I have an above average intelligence).
But in reality I don't want to go left my homeland and be something else that I don't. Hopefully they change their minds someday.
Damn, they should pay respect to you instead
Study/do something that would make you happy. Not your parents, teachers, priest, imam, friends or bf/gf. What's the point of being rich, but unhappy? If you're happy, whether you become rich or not, is secondary. Very often, parents give advice based on their own limited exposure and beliefs.
I just hope that they can hear me screaming for help
@William Shakespeare im fine now
Just got my new dream
*”all our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”* - *Walt Disney*
i’ve cried so hard while watching this video. since the start of high school i told my parents i’d like to follow my dream to be an artist, i love writing stories and drawing them, it’s my passion and also this is what makes me feel alive. so last year they decided i have to do a college related to business, and every time i refused they scolded me. and now i am currently taking a course i hate and having the worst year of my life, crying every single day. i also tried telling them that i don’t like this college course and that i want to be an artist, but they didn’t hear me, they said that this college is going to be something good for me but honestly they are just spending their money on something that im not really using. i still having the dream to be an artist, i don’t have friends and also i don’t have any one to tell my problems, so i’m keeping all of this to myself and carrying all the situation on my back and i don’t know what to do anymore. i don’t want to live an unhappy life like that. i want to show my art to the world, i know that i have the talent and the skills to be and artist why can’t they believe me?
My sister have a real talent(not meh), and since my parents are not to firm on anything, she spends most of her time drawing. We took an art class, and I looked like a fool, but my sister was a star. Persuade your parents, maybe draw for them. But if your schedule is packed, then I have nothing to say.
kill them.
Heyyy can we talk?
@@hopefullyhopeless5876 yeah what’s up?
I pray you push through and achieve your dreams
My Dad wanted me to be a Nurse. I wanted to be a Nutritionist. He did not hear me- I rebelled and did not fulfill his forced wishes. It really affected my entire life. Now many moons later, I am pursuing that course. Parents, listen to your children's hearts and support and guide them thru their destinies, their dreams- it's theirs, not yours.
i cry when i saw this video because those situation just like mine but my parents will never allow me to do what i want to do (sigh)
same here
Same
Same
May I know where are you from??
Do it anyways. There is literally nothing they can do to stop you if you try hard enough, unless they're the type to kick you out.
I wish my dad is like the father in this video.
Same.....
Some parents want us to be rich but not want us to be happy in our career 😓
All my past career and education choices have been imposed to me by my controlling father. Today; I'm 27, my whole life is a mess and I feel stuck and misplaced. I regret not having had the courage to follow my own path. Parents are the first dream killers.
And in the end they say why my child don't love me ,why he is not opened with me
@@himanshusehra7484 literally jab apni baat btao to yae kya hota hae mn nhi lg rha and when you stop talking oh you namakharam 😂
I actually wanted to be a full time youtuber(animator)
But my mother push me to be a nurse
And i hate being a nurse
Don't say ewwwww, be grateful for nurses
Awww.. i wanna be a gamer youtuber too. I wanna to have a job related to gaming because video games is my passion but my parents want me to become a civil engineer because i'm good at math when i was in high school. Jeez... i convince them and they don't care. Btw my parents are asians soo.....
@@pepsicolla123 As much as we need nurses but it's not for everyone.
Here in the Philippines Nurses and Teachers are Popular. DON'T SAY EWWW to an Nurse. They save your life not Doctors. Just use your mind.
Broooo you should do it
Something tells me behind closed doors all 3 of those kids are getting yelled at by their parents for "making them look bad" on that video via speaking their mind
I want to be a cosmetologist , and
Photographer and do TH-cam and be a model but my mom wants me to go to college because that’s the only way I get money 🙄
If you want money, you can do freelancing jobs. And do whatever you want, don't listen your parents
You can go to cosmetology school
Last I knew....Cosmetology and Photography are both paying jobs...and VERY good paying jobs at that.
I’m at that point in my life that I’m searching for videos like this. I just want to know that there are other people going through the same thing I’m going through now.
I really wish my parents was like those parents... I already told my dream to my parents, but they never listen. Now I'm 22 in struggles 😢
I cried listening the parent says, "that is her dream, and i have to respect it".
If you still have burning passion for your dreams, then pursue it right now.
22 is still ver young and if parents are not supportive than the best option is to find ways to save up enough money and move out of your parents home. You can still be part of their life but in your own terms and still allowed to get some form of aid/money occasionally.
Its an endless cycle. Parents force their children to do a certain subject then when those children become parents they force their children to do certain subjects and so on until someone breaks the cycle
A cruel cycle my dude😔✊
I'm 18, a college freshman taking a course that I don't like because my parents don't want me to pursue my dream career which is filmmaking. it's always been my passion and I enjoyed doing it ever since I'm in high school.
Every night, I'm crying and imagined how my life would be so different if I ever pursue it, they kept on saying "filmmaking is just a hobby you'll grow out of it" they were expecting me to be good at something I don't even like. Right now, I'm struggling a lot because they want me to become an engineer, I don't know if I can ever convince them for me to shift courses because I'm worried about their reactions, I don't want to become a pain on their asses, we aren't financially stable and the university fee is very expensive.
So I guess I'm just gonna live the life that they wanted. I swear if I ever had children in the future, I will let them be whoever they wanna be with my full support.
hey i can understand you very well you know i also want to be a video editor but my dad treat this like a hobby and like he sometimes use my efforts in his work as well but whenever i said that i want to become a video editor he is like study in main stream now do that later like when ? when i will get old? also yeah the courses are expensive so idk will my dream ever become true or not but I hope your dream become true! wish you the best buddy 💜
Same for me,my parents convinced me to study engineer which I hate and I’m facing many difficulties in this major and it’s so stressful
i am a girl. and a Bangladeshi, most people here don't value girls dreams,
i want to be an Engineer, i don't care if it has money or not, i just want to be a software engineer thats all.
but my parents want me to study Medical.
they want me to be a doctor.
i refused, now they want me to be a megistrate and put efforts to become a DC in Bangladesh,
i don't want a job like that, i want to do something that has freedom
but, yall. out there, don't give up and remember your not alone ☺
You saved 3 lives
Now come to the subcontinent and save mine I'm nowhere near being a good electrical engineer all I do great is Football (soccer in some parts)
But even then my parents won't agree and I guess I have to maybe run away from my home
Run away right now.
@@ridoanuddin3378 I'm in a way better position than I expected last year actually
I started saving up did great in exams etc to prove to my parents that I hate school yet I managed to do good so they should consider letting me to my thing
I currently am a player for a local team with talks to move to a better team in the capital also potentially being picked in u23 friendlies for my country(I'm 16 soon 17 so that's an accomplishment)
You'll be a great footballer, just put in the work and focus and hold the vision and you'll achieve, that's it!
Am I the only one sitting here and crying?
Why do they always think that being rich is everything. WHY
Because they haven't experienced it and believe that it'll provide them with happiness 😔
I don’t know if anyone will read this to the end, but I will still write this long text.
When I was in high school, I really wanted to learn how to play the piano, violin and guitar. I told my mother that I wanted to learn how to play them, so that later I would go to university to study music. She refused me, said that I was too old for this and told me to do something else.
At that time I could not work, and accordingly I did not have my money.
But when my younger sister told her that she wants to learn how to play the piano, she agreed and enrolled her in courses, even bought a piano. In the end, my sister entered that specialty, which I wanted to enroll initially.
It would seem that it’s not very important, but I still have a grudge because of this case, because after that, I lost the desire to go somewhere, and after graduating from school I entered the first specialty that fell. And then thanks to the fact that mg mother said to do it. And so, this year I graduated from university and found a job. At school.
Now I am an art teacher, to draw cool, but I don’t know how long I will last in this work.
I still regret that at that moment, I did not insist on my own, and expressed my point of view. Maybe then everything went differently?
In any case, I have a job, no one has canceled my salary, and I hope that I can make music. Cause I love music, i love to create music.
Remember, if your parents don't support you, it doesn't matter, the main thing is that *you* *want* *this.* It is a pity that I did not do this when I was at school.
Btw, sorry my English
It's the same case with me. My dreams have been destroyed many times by my parents but nobody ever opposes my younger sister. I hate it here.
@@bhuwanshunalwa yeah, the same parents who threw harsh words at me for not getting above 90 in my subjects now easily accept my younger siblings passing the exams barely with minimum pass marks...
Gosh...have the same problem with this. My parents always tell me to be a doctor to the point where I'll give up on the things I enjoyed and study to become a great student in all terms. So far I did great, went to a good college and got good grades.
But it was until last week while my parents was thinking on which school my younger brother should go, they stopped and my mom (who was always been serious about my future) told me "Han, I think you're not suitable to be a doctor because of your personality. I mean like, you see for yourself how doctors act and when I compare it to your personality, I just can't imagine you as one. You have quite a temper but even how you hide it, maybe it's not the best. How about trying for another job?"
That break my heart to pieces, all these years I lied and make my brain believe that I want to be a doctor but no I don't. It's just the things my parents decided. I threw everything that I could get interested in away so that I can focus in that career, so that I won't be swayed.
Maybe I am a fool, for holding and believing so much to my parents that I forgotten about myself. About what I want.
So hear am I today, still depressed and hopeless. I'm trying my best to find the career I want to be, to find myself back.
If I ever decide to have a child, I will make them the most ambitious and competitive ones so they can achieve to be the best of themselves. If I ever have, I will help them to be whatever their dream is.
I will unlock their full potential and never let them down.
Now I want a kid, wtf.
Wow. Never thought convincing parents would be so easy. 🙃
Honestly if I told my parents what I want to be when I grow up, they would just give me lectures and criticize me.
I wanted to become a barber and have my own TH-cam and travel business and soon or later have my own shop, all my mom cares about is trying to get me into the military just because of the money, I even spoke with a recruiter and all he talked about was money and all the foreign females, nun of that really amazed me I knew what my dream was already 👌🏾
How you doing now man?
Idk why but i m literally crying after watching this.😭♥️
My dad wants me to go to an art University after school but I honestly really want to cook, bake, start my own business that way, because cooking is what makes me happy. When I told him that he told me I won't earn much and it can easily go downhill and just didn't listen to me
Please everyone pray for me, I want to get admitted in a school but my parents and one of my teacher aren't allowing me to do so.
But I can't make my dreams true staying in my current school :(
Prayers for you brother.
In the end, its your life. NOBODY has your life except you, so why let them manage it? YOU are what manages your own life. After all, we only have one. You don't know if its going to be a short one or a long one, so spend that time doing the things that make you happy. Why waste precious time being sad and gloomy? Why complain about your current situation when you have the power to change it?
Maybe the main problem is that us kids are watching these videos instead of our own parents.
I just forwarded it to my dad lol.. waiting for his reaction tomorrow
My parents want me to be a doctor but I don’t want to I just want to go university and see what I’m going to then not me a doctor! It’s to much stress for me and my parents don’t give me freedom they keep saying ‘ when your older we’re all still gonna live together’ , ‘ doctors earn a lot ‘ etc it’s annoying but when they kids they got to pick what they wanted to be!
In India you have two options either be Engineer or Doctor...
Don't know why...just tears rolled
I've told my parents abt my dream job a few times but they even became even worse i hate em
Sara rivera when I told my parents about my dream job they gave me a permanent insomnia 😇
Im literally crying rn, back when I was in college I wanted to persue music or anything anything that involes music, but my parents shattered my dreams telling me that music wont feed me or bring success to my life, and instead they force me to take education major in language literature, I really wanted to make my parent happy and bring honor to my family.. its been 7 years, Im not a teacher (but I am a licensed teacher, just didnt persue teaching), im just working in sales department, myserable, depressed, and regretful while watching my friend persue their dream for music and being successful.. If only I stood my ground and follow my dream, If only I could start over I'm willing to let go for a while and comes back with honor for my family while making myself happy..
Please young gen, dont make the same mistake I did back then, follow your heart. No one knows you better than your own self.. Stood your ground even it will be a hard and long journey, atleast you can tell yourself you're happy on the path you choose..
Man many parents are always unsupportive but remember always be strong and courageous. Just don't listen what the world thinks of you or even your parents think of you, just remember be strong and courageous, never give up on your dreams and goals and don't fall on your grades and scores on schools cuz it never tells or measure your Worth, Passion, Strength, Mind, Heart, and your character.
I am in this situation, my father forced me into computer science, I wanted to be a doctor but he always dismissed it. Honestly ever since this ordeal happened our relationship has never been the same, I despise him a lot and I don't think I'd be able to rebuild the bond we had before. My dream to be a doctor was so clear that all my friends were shocked to know I was pursuing CS, infact even my relatives would ask my dad why was I not into medicine, he tells everyone that CS was my own choice and I had a change of mind
I am grateful and lucky to have supporting and loving parents ❤️
The switch up from wanting to push them more to just wanting them to choose their path is beautiful
Honestly, Parents rejecting Children's dreams and wishes really brings down our chances of living a peaceful life,Have you ever wondered why some nations in the world are not developing it's because parents,foster parents or any guardians are out there killing children's dreams ,there's a quote that says, *A nation without productive youths is a nation without hope and a nation without hope is a nation without a future*. Please parents should learn to respect and be supportive of their young ones,Just because they are your children, parents think that since they are their reflections,they should do what they also did,No!! We were not built up the same ,we may have same characteristics but our dreams and goals will always differentiate us, 🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Actually I wanted to be a artist like singing and I wanted to be like a gang like BTS but its too late because I didn't have talent at singing. And of course I live in Malaysia how can I be in a group like BTS ? I don't know why but that kind of my dream...
My parents want me to be a doctor or something where you can earn a lot of money.
But I really love to sing, dance etc.
It's my dream to pursue a career where I could sing etc.
Feeling like I was born to sing~
Performing art I think.
I always had that dream but when I was 6 I gave up my hopes because my parents won't allow me that...not even giving me a chance.
But I started getting hopes when I first got in Kpop in 2016.I wanted and will audition for a company,
I will try harder, to achieve my dreams.
Singing is my passion.
And BTS are my inspirations.
Army niceeee
@Y4M33N I want to at least try it before I regret it later on
You don't need to be in a group.You can go solo like most artists.
Babe, try rapping it doesn't need a voice
I saw this video and confessed to my mom and dad about what I want to be. NAH ! nothing worked. SAD LIFE
Lol🤣🤣🤣 hey keep trying dude
I’ve been working on creating a business with friends and after a lot of research work and a bit of confidence to tell them I was shut down completely. But that isn’t going to stop me. I’m going to keep trying because it’s my dream and I’m the one who controls my life.
Watching this now made me realize how blessed I am to have parents that support my dreams and do what they can to cheer me on and help me achieve it.
Elon musk said 'children do not choose to be born, the parents just choose to born children.' Respect to all parents who are supportive. For me, I want to become a performer(kpop idol). I was afraid to tell at first because I am so weak not brave enough. However, I could not control myself and told them, however ended at being scolded. I dreamt to become idol since I was 10. I found that performing can give me something special. I told them every year, (now my age is 16) but they reject it. They want me to become doctor, engineer, business or smth except jobs related to music, art and designing industry. Although, I am doing well in studies(but all are forced), now I am older so want to achieve my amition. However, was scolded badly everytime I mentioned. Become depressed. Also I have family problems (not father and mother problem or normal problem). This is personal so I will leave that one. I have no friend because of my family and parents because they thought my friends are just not good. I was really depressed more and more. Even decided to sucide. I calm down myself, I do online selling and earn money to join some online dance and singing classes. I am not allowed to go anywhere and spend money, so i just took online classes. I reflect myself and become to leave my ambition. I am so scard of them. I just write down the things I want to do and learn in my life and when I can find much money, I will probably try those things.
I will try my best to find much and money and want to build an academy for future children like me who want to become singer, dancer or idol. I want to donate money on my academy. Want to discuss and encourage them.
If I have my own child when I am married, I will firstly educate by myself and support my child's dream with all cost except bad thing.
Will educate them slowly and want to become a great mom that my child can openly tell me if he/she is depressed or want to do something.
For teenagers or my kpoppers friends who want to become idols, i want to tell that you all are doing well and do not give up. I am not brave and afraid of my family, so already give up but you all have to be strong. Fighting. Wish you become successful and debut.
I want tl become an animator one day, but I'm not too sure if I want to do full-time.
1. Teamwork. I need to have a team for stabilization. But I don't have too much friends.
2. Algorithm. I might blow up, but it's unstable
3. I might not earn money, but I want to do everything for my family. They didn't spoil me, but I have to admit, I always tell them to shut up.
So I think working part time is good for me, because I'm good at working 2 things at a time :D
If you want to be a kpop idol, you have to learn the hard part. But if you don't get up and chase your dreams, it fades away. I can tell that your online classes are paying off. Don't give up!!!😊
@@aStoopidHuman thank u for your encouragement.
I hope your dream also becomes true.
just had a fight with my mom, dont give me the least support,its hard for me to do business when theres no mental support from the person i want the most to
From experiencing it, please don't ever leave your dreams to follow your parents expectations. No matter what, always follow your dreams, cause that's where true personal fulfillment and happiness is located ;)
I hade a similar experience..i am from middle class family...my parents esp my mother wanted me to be a Dr...and becoming an ias officer was my dream since childhood.. actually it's not dream it's an aim i always thought about being called as Rithika ias and wanted to contribute something which i can to society..i had many sleepless night ..i know it's not an easy job bt i was ready to work hard for it...bt my mom always wanted to see me aS a Dr......i like that proffession bt above all i want to be an ias officer...so at 10 th stnd i decided i will fullfill my mom's dream then later mine..i cracked neet in the very first attempt...and i started preparing for upsc exam since collage....and i cleared prelims and mains with descent score... waiting for my interview...i hope ican fulfill my dream....Now they are really happy and they used to tell i m proud of u......
@@Poornimaaaaaa344 That's awesome!! We will be rooting for you from TH-cam ;) hahahha Let's never give up!!
@@ana-vv8sl 😄😄😄
And I'm truly thankful and greatful toward my parent that they support me to achieve my own dream and don't force me to do anything what they want and even give me freedom to choose my own path 💜
Ayyyy, the boy wanted to be a graphic designer! Which is what I am studying now.
When I was in high school my father wanted me to be an architect at all cost but my math was terrible but I can draw almost anything I set my mind to. I love anything art related, I love to draw in general yet only my mother knows my passion because my parents are divorced since I was 10 thus my father didn't took the time to learn about me. When I got the offer to further my studies in Graphic Design, I was excited but my father wasn't quite happy with the news but I convinced him that I could do this... and I did. I got the Dean award each semester, I was awarded the best student in the Graphic Design department and most importantly I won the Gold medal for Graphic Design Technology in WorldSkills Malaysia Belia 2017, and currently training for ASEAN Skills 2018 at Bangkok. I'm not trying to brag about my achievements but these achievements are the ones that opened my father's eyes today and have him tell me he is proud of me and what I do. Sometimes, even though your parents or caretakers disagree with what you choose, your choice doesn't end there. If you really want your dreams to be a reality, you have to fight for it. Work hard and prove to everyone that this is your choice and you made the right choice because you won't know what you'll achieve unless you try. I hope anyone who reads this will have a lil bit of hope for themselves to achieve their own dreams.
Woahhhhhhh! Congratulations! What a great life you got :') Gluck in future!
Thanks for the insight man, I'll try take this as inspiration in the future
SirConcon Draws beautifully said
Cool story.
I can kinda relate to this. I used to always play sports and would play a bunch of different ones each year until I started to do wrestling and football. I then decided I didn’t want to do football, and did wrestling the entire year, even after the season ended. But, I was starting to not really be into sports. I wanted to be a book writer at an early age. And I would have practice every weekday, and do tournaments every weekend. But that would take up way too much time in my life. I want to do random and other things I enjoy. I truly don’t think you have to be athletic. I’ve went up to my mom multiple times and told her I wanted to quit wrestling, because I wanted to be a writer. But, she said “Either way you still have six hours to write after practice!”, and “You’re just being lazy and don’t want to do anything!”. And it’s not that I want to quit just to write, it’s that I also want time to do the things I enjoy to do, have free time, and release so much stress and expectation. She was basically guilt tripping me into doing something that I don’t enjoy and something that puts a lot of stress and expectations on me. Like, I’m in 7th grade, and weigh about 90 pounds. That’s usually under the normal weight in my school. Most people usually weigh at least a hundred. The only people that don’t are wrestlers. And now my mom wants me to drop down to 85 pounds! So not only was wrestling putting a lot of stress and expectation on me, but now I have to go on a diet that makes my life even more miserable, and makes me feel fat. I don’t know what to do anymore. If someone has any ideas to help me into convincing my mom, please let me know in the comments. 👋
Tell a responsible adult exactly this. And ask the responsible adult eg a close older cousin, aunt, grandmother etc to explain this to your mother. Seek help soon, help is there waiting for you.
Call police and complaint
OMG My eyes are teary! I'm sobbing watching this
I really want to be a graphic designer..But my parents expect me to be either a Software engineer or an Doctor,They say that I'll never earn money and be happy that way. I just wish that my parents would be satisfied with my own interests. 😞
This brought me to tears. I tried to tell my father what I wanted to be when I was 18. He immediately dismissed it, no questions, and said I need to go to college. There was no looking at possible college courses in music or looking at schools or opportunities for it. Nope, just you need to go to college. He's shown my entire life that he doesn't actually care about who I am or what I need out of life. Sadly, he kind of just destroyed me as a person and I never had the courage to go for my dreams. I'm now 37 miserable and not living my life as I needed to. I hate him with everything in me. Parents should never dismiss who their children are or want to be. They know far better than you who they should be, and you should always support and help them to be the best version of themselves! We only have this one life, one chance. It's not about you!
The parents in the video: Actually respect the child's choices
My Dad: *Cracks Belt*
Truly my dad: do whatever your heart desires. Your a smart kid and your ol' pops know that. Just try to get good grades and maybe think of going to (Insert Local Community College Here) for your first 2 years. I work there so it'll be free Tuition.
The cracking of the belt is what I thought my dad would do until I actually told him that I didn't know what I wanted to do. And the response is his actual words. Not fully word for word but close enough for you all to get the big picture.
When I talked abt my dreams, they brutally bet me and strangled my neck 🙃💔 and even screamed and yelled at me. She jst wants to force her dream on me 😭🙄
Hai there. I have something to share...
After SPM, I am actually want to pursue my studies in culinary. I love cooking. But, since I'm taking Civil Engineering from Teknik school (nowadays it become Vocational School), my lovely late mom telling me to continue studies in Civil Engineering, not in culinary... She says I can learn culinary from a cookbook. Hahaha. But, I know that I can learn to accept it.. It is really the road not taken..
Adham Jong JI WON same :/ but in my case, Multimedia vs Engineering (currently). I really love art and multimedia so much but they think its 'worthless' and hard to find a job. Well she might got a point about the least income ; however that's my passion. I may like what I'm doing right now (thankfully) because my father is an Engineer (continuing the legacy) but that won't change the fact that I regretted that I will end up with something that isn't my passion. :(
Woah, I hope you have a good future! :)
@@yehet1242 Don't listen your parents, find jobs on Google about multimedia.
You can always change your careers path at any moment.
My mom low key likes me to be a doctor but she's totally fine with me following my dreams. But, i feel my dad wants to slowly start changing my plans. I have a certain feeling in my gut.
I wished I'd told my dad I want to be a lecture instead of community nurse.
I admire y'all... it takes so much courage to put our dreams and hopes as top most priority. 💖
loved the first question!!!
Happy for these young ones to have that chance of telling their parents what they really wanted to do and get their support. Wish I was able to the same, but it's too late being 30 and all.
My parents are basically crushing my dream to become a singer and it was something I wanted to do since I was 4 or 5 and I still do years have passed and they still don't support my dreams, they want me to be a doctor or a lawyer and I know that both of those careers are great but it's not for me, and now I finally have the chance to audition for a company that I love they are saying that my dream is not worth it, don't bother because they don't make a lot of money like doctors and lawyers.
But it's not about money for me I just want to do what I love and have passion for but nobody cares or supports me.
Well my parents told me that what I want to do is shit and that i'll end up being nothing and bringing depression to my family and that they sacrificed so much for me the least I could do is be a doctor and if I don't they told me they won't pay for my education
I'm still gonna follow my dream tho.
Totally relatable!!! My dreams were to be a designer and author, but my parents want me to be a teacher. I went to an education major and now I am teaching at a private school. Yet, my mom isn't happy. Not yet, until I apply and join the government employment program in ny country which according to most people would secure my later life. I hate the decision and decide to not follow. Though teaching is not my true passion, I kinda enjoy doing it now. I still write but not that often.
The hardest thing for parents to do, in my opinion, is to give their children a freedom to follow their dreams. I know parents have expectations and want the life of their children safe (financially, socially, etc.), but from my view.. parents need to respect their children's dreams and give them the opportunity to chase the dreams. Children are not machine that you put a series of commands and stuff, they are humans like their parents and us.
My dad talks so much glory and praise for other people's gift but not me at all. Basically to him I'm talented at nothing. But if other father figures out there support what I do he gets upset
Three of the children had artistic goals...LOVE THAT!!
If my parents didn't let me choose my career I'd probably be in jail for murder or something 💀
I I hade a similar experience..i am from middle class family...my parents esp my mother wanted me to be a Dr...and becoming an ias officer was my dream since childhood.. actually it's not dream it's an aim i always thought about being called as Rithika ias and wanted to contribute something which i can to society..i had many sleepless night ..i know it's not an easy job bt i was ready to work hard for it...bt my mom always wanted to see me aS a Dr......i like that proffession bt above all i want to be an ias officer...so at 10 th stnd i decided i will fullfill my mom's dream then later mine..i cracked neet in the very first attempt...and i started preparing for upsc exam since collage....and i cleared prelims and mains with descent score... waiting for my interview...i hope ican fulfill my dream....Now they are really happy and they used to tell i m proud of u......
Yaaaaaahhh😭😭😭 parents just don't understand ... We want to make them happy with our dream and passion but , they expect too high from us ... Sometimes I feels like I should leave my home .. cause they don't support me . And it's not only about dream but almost everything....literally everything. And when I speak for myself they disappoints me everytime and make me feel alone , they call me duffer just because my marks are bad ... But they don't see that I am trying even if I forgets everything but I am still trying .... And they don't even support me just by telling good words ... Never appreciated me for anything ... Just comparing with others , stopping from doing what other kids do ... Etc.
It hurts the most ... They are so toxic 😭😭😭😭
I'm so grateful to my parents.❤
They never stopped me to follow my dreams❤
Lucky to have parents who support my dream!!!!!
I’m thankful to have parents that support me to their fullest, but right now I’m very unsure. I’m lost, I don’t know what my future holds, I don’t know what I want to become, and I don’t know who I am. I’m trying to find my way but it always ends up in a dead end. I still have time so I need to be patient and really think it through. Who knows, journalism sounds amazing!
I'm literally crying. Parents should actually be their to support us and ease our worries and stress not the opposite; but reality unfortunately doesn't work that way
Currently in final year engineering, i have major depressed and hated every second of it. After 3 years or arguing, finally my parents supported me what i want to be. Now i just need to finish this depression course and dont think about suicidal thoughts everytime so i can, for once, be happy