"Marriage is like the black belt" and "love is a level above friendship" are golden advices. This kid is going far in life and so wise for his age. lol.
*Update: Ok I get it can you leave me alone, stop replying to me* It's kind of a sad way of seeing marriage. Once you reach a black belt, there's nothing else to learn and nothing else to do. Who would want to spend 50 years of their life in an "endgame"?
@@mushmush4980 i think he means marriage is like the peak happiness where a couple can do anything with each other and there are no restrictions between them.
@@mushmush4980 i don’t have any martial arts experience but i’m pretty sure most black belts wouldn’t think they have nothing to learn or do. they probably realize their shortcomings more than any other belt
@@mushmush4980 not true. there’s multiple degrees in black belt so you have to keep working to get to the next degree. you aren’t just “stuck” after you make it to black belt.
Actually no. Do whatever your partner needs. If they need 100%, give them 100%. Sometimes they will give you 100%. Support each other through the rough spots when they may not feel like it.
I like how the kids are so straightforward. Most problems can be solved that way, but adults try to make it more complicated so they don’t have to face the reality.
I’m a grownup and I need timeouts. Sometimes life is overstimulating and then we can lose control a bit. I think we need talk about that skill of managing stimulation more and taking time outs 😂
Is there seriously a problem with being faithful about a partner? She looked more disappointed than afraid, like "aw shucks i dont have this guy by the reins this sucks lol"
@@chaoticcow4357 thats not why she was disappointed, she can tell he doesnt really want her. he hides her and was clearly not into the idea of spending his life with her and he has an overall negative outlook on relationships.
@@gkrome01 ok but theres no clear signal he doesnt want her. huge difference between not wanting to display affection and not wanting to be with someone.
They are obviously not saying everything considering they are talking to kids, so it is harder to accurately guess things like that. It does seem like they need to trust each other more though
@@JamesConley999 that reminds me of a song I once heard called people of the boxes it’s a Islamic song but had some insight about how the world shapes people to become.
I love how intuitive the kids are. Their advice is actually hitting the heart of the issue and because they're children, the couples are actually hearing what they're saying instead of feeling defensive and lashing out.
Yeah it could work this way. Having the option of child therapy. Like rotate kids in school (who want to) and like a charity in return for like a day to a fun park or something.
The pokemon go idea was actually genius as it combined both of their interests in a healthy way. Oop now he said, the guy should teach her how to cook. Which is great because they would spend more quality time together. And the little girl was so empathetic.
Gavin solve the problem so maturely. The Pokémon go idea and the teaching each other how to do the chores are such a great idea. Even I didn’t think of that.
Gavin seems really intelligent especially for his age. He was suprisingly articulate and mature, he seemed to be able to reflect around an issue and problemsolve using a reasonable amount of logic and empathy.
He did have a point though. There are different types of relationships so it’s important to acknowledge what that person means to you. I think the kid probably meant “Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person?” If yes, then these small things can be worked through. If not, then perhaps this isn’t the relationship those two are seeking.
@@candiica7083 i feel like marriage is a big step and something you need to think through a lot before, I wouldn’t want to be pressured into it in any way
I liked his thought process and his head was in the right direction, but it's not that simple. I like playing Valorant, but I'd hate if I was forced to play Pokemon Go, ya know. Just because you enjoy one videogame, doesn't mean you enjoy them all. If she had to play Pokemon Go as well, it would be like forcing someone who likes hiking, yet hates sports to play basketball. She's not going to enjoy basketball just because she likes going outside.
@@idontcreatecontent741 Doesn't hurt to try though, right? It shouldn't be a forced thing obviously, but as a couple trying to find a common ground is pretty crucial. It would be a new venture for both of them to not only explore their neighborhood together but also have fun doing it. I don't think it's a bad idea at all.
I think the main problem would come when the girlfriend and guy weren't actually spending time together when out because he was on a video game on his phone. Not even whether or not he likes pokemon go. Smart thought on the kids part though
"1st, teach her how to cook." He's basically like, nah. No excuses. 50/50 everything. If she can't do something, teach her how (that's step one), then split the load evenly.
@@sueboo5830 keep in mind it's a 7 year old giving advice. Since they are still kids, they might not have the deep or complex comprehension behind what they say, but they are very honest and nice. It's still a solid point that Gavin brought up though (about teaching).
The advice about giving the sister a gift and telling her how she feels is perfect. I've done it with my boss before. I thought she didn't like me but after I gave her a gift for her baby (she was pregnant at the time), she started treating me nicely after she realized she had been taking out her stress on me. I was also relieved to know that it had nothing to do with me. She was just stressed out from work and needed someone to take it out on.
The kid that suggested the seperate rooms for the couple in "coming in hot" is actually not far off of some solid advice. One contributing factor to high tension when coming home is each partner being in different stages of their day, one just transitioning from work to home while the other has already been at their at home mode. allowing that to equalise and letting someone reach that level first can help reduce conflict caused by that incongruency.
i think gavin might've actually made a difference to that couples perspective on being equal and making time for each other. gavin is such a great 7 year old.
The little girl saying they should have separate rooms for when the s/o comes home mad, is so smart and it makes complete sense and it something I probably wouldn’t have thought of. I love this video
I was going to suggest something similar, for him to be allowed time undisturbed by his girlfriend to just wind down with rest or whatever activities he likes. I give this wind down time to my husband too, and even for my young kids after school. Even I don’t like being bombarded when I just got home tired after a long day, it must be normal.
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i think tori and julian put problems on evan that a child doesn’t understand, because to them, they’re not important and shouldn’t be dwelled on as much. his “would you marry her question” was straight forward, and frank. to a child, why would you be with someone you don’t want to marry? and even as an adult that’s a question a lot of people should be considering.
Something that i realized is that children can know better what they want, more than adults. If a child doesn't want to engage in an activity, then they won't. They know
I love when the kid asked if he would propose rn it was such an eye opener and reality check for priorities and where the relationship was heading and if they still truly feel a love for one nother
the girl who is worried about her boyfriend needs to realize her worth. she was so kind and gentle with the kid, you can see how genuine she is. i think she’s wasting her time on the guy, she’s capable of so much, so smart and beautiful.
What I love about this is that the kids suggest a simple solution that it seems like the adults have completely overlooked. I love their frank point-of-view because it puts into perspective that we have a lot to learn from ALL of the people in our lives. Not just our peers
What it kinda shows me too is that when adults try to solve things like that, usually what they really try to do is have their way. The gf was trying to get the bf to always go out on the weekends with her and the bf was always trying to stay home. To both of them it had to be all one persons way or all the other persons way. Whereas kids on the other hand (sure selfish kids exist, but in general...) are more likely to think about the team/group, so "well let's just split it" is way more obvious common sense to them. Then as they grow up, society/life kinda beats that out of them sadly.
@@VMYeahVN I think a lot of people would dismiss this as utter insanity but I really think kids need representation/bigger voices in politics. Sure many of the things they'd suggest may be impractical, but just as children teach parents about themselves every day (something many parents will attest to) so too can kids teach adults in general and remind them what it means to live beside each other whether it be neighboring homes or countries.
I think this is because adults handle mostly based on their ego. People usually feel more comfortable criticizing the other than coming up with solutions and change their own behavior
Irl therapist here and I'm impressed! Pokemon Go (compromise) and separate rooms to cool off (regulating and taking responsibility for our own emotions and then coming together to process them) are excellent suggestions! Great job, kids!
The children's responses seem to be very direct and simple in both compromise and communication, with not very much analysis into the situation. Do you think this directness is typically useful in therapy?
when the kid asked “would you propose rn” that dude honestly wanted to say no but used the excuse “i have to plan it i can’t do it rn” the kid didn’t mean right now in this instant but you could tell the dude doesn’t want to actual marry her :(
@@StarVickyyy Its a metaphor as in if you wouldn't want to marry your significant other right now (plan on spending the rest of your life with them) you're basically saying you plan on it not working out later on there is nothing ignorant about that
Phat disagree. Some people aren’t ready, don’t have that connection yet, don’t know if they match up completely yet, don’t want to be married at all, etc. Just because someone isn’t willing to propose right then or ever doesn’t mean they don’t love their partner and don’t see it working out.
Some people just don't want to get married 🤷♀️ legally it's a lot to handle. If I were to get legally married to my wonderful partner he wouldn't get the health benefits he has now and I would take a pretty big cut to my disability income.. You can plan to be together forever with somebody and not get married! Hell people get married even though they're not prepared to love their partner throughout every different life stage 🤷♀️
For a kid, it's great advice, but I think the better questions are "Where do you think this relationship is going?", or "What are your expectations of this relationship?". They're more open, so it allows a deeper conversation to start without making it specifically about marriage.
As a couple's therapist, watching this was extra entertaining! On a serious note, advice giving isn't really therapy nor should a licensed therapist rely on it too much. Skill building, reflecting, and education can support the beginnings of change that the patient is looking for in their life. Also, caught myself during the video saying too much "And how does it feel to hear your partner say that?" lol.
@@wwxx23 well yes, thats what usually therapy is / what therapists and psychiatrists do. they listen, question your statements and then wait for you to reflect / realise I wish they would actually also kinda move into coaching aspects and try more problem solving with their patients thehealthygamergg (actual doctor and psychiatrists that amongst many other things does amazing work for any problem people online are facing) has a really nice take on this.
As a couples therapist, did the guy who liked being inside and cooking give you any type of vibe? He is only willing to commit to the one chore. The one he likes to do. He apparently doesnt even clean the kitchen after his mess. And seems reluctant to participate in their shared time by including shared interests. He still gets 80%, after it being a main issue in their relationship? The look on his face also seems to say that he knows exactly the type of person he is being. And that type of person, in my opinion, is spoiled brat lmao.
@@wwxx23 For my individual clients, I use evidenced based treatments, classic one being cognitive behavioral therapy. This involves supporting you building skills, identifying negative thinking patterns, and problem solving. It's more than just listening, and depending on the client, a certain style may be more effective. That's why it's important to find the right fit when it comes to therapy!
I mean, for some people marriage is a “level up” in their relationship, but not everyone needs to get married for their relationship to be at that same emotional level. More and more couples are deciding not to get married and to be in a long term relationship that is just the same as any married couple but without marriage.
@@shaniastuart349 yeha i agree, as i’m in a relationship like that right now, and this analogy doesn’t apply to every couple but for the theme of this video, i thought the way he said it was adorable despite of whatever the couple is going through
Actually Gavin could REALLY be a therapist once he gets older. Like the whole Sims and Pokemon thing is a genius idea!💡 Idk if y'all notice but women LOVE. SIMS
So funny story I used to like Sims, my husband got me playing and then I realized I was spending hours doing thing for pretend that I really needed or wanted to do in real life. After that I couldn't bring myself to play. But then he got me into playing Skyrim and I was totally okay playing at things I couldn't do in real life 😂
“The girl with the black guy.” That sentence reveals a lot about how you assessed their relationship, considering the girl was also black…”Girl, RUN 🤪” you just saw a small portion of their relationship, not knowing the issues the girl is contributing to the relationship, but of course the fact that he was transparent about his misgivings was a red flag, whereas when she does the same it’s “speak your truth sis 😫.”
@@IncredibleIceCastle they're both black, she is black with a black guy, it's not a big deal. and yes from three minutes or less that we've seen of their relationship, we're seeing a lot of red flags. The guy needs to shape up or ship out
The way the couples were being so gentle and patient with the children is exactly how all therapist should be treated. Some couples are not very kind to their therapist
they literally pay the therapists though for that kind of advice just go and ask the kids if the therapists give the same conclusion even though they are more qualified
Julian and her seem to have trust and commitment issues. I hope that either they can figure them out or Tori should break up with him. They were the only couple that I could audibly feel the tension between the two and it felt like it was serious.
I’m a therapist, and these kids did an awesome job of listening to what both people had to say and trying to find a solution that worked for both of them. Would love to see this with different age groups!
I really liked Gavin's answers it's all about compromise. His answers were like either (a) find something that suits both of you or (b) you split 50/50. Perfect 😆
I think at this point with the divorce rate over 50% and near 90% of divorces initiated by the woman for no fault reasons - coupled with the fact child custody and assets are not affected by who wants to leave the marriage or is at "fault" for it ending, we all just need to admit that marriage as women want it today is a undesirable life and future for men to enter into. The reality is if women want to initiate divorce at such high rates and not have the law reflect fault in custody and assets splits - marriage law and the concept of marriage as we know it is made unsustainable by womens natural (?) desire to leave marriages at such greater rates than men - and their expectation to be provided for after this event (of their choosing).
@@poocrayon4588 Women might be more likely to be the ones to file for divorce, that doesn't mean they're the ones "at fault" tho. Women can get divorced when men cheat or abuse for example. Women do most of the housework and childcare even when they work as much as men, men are often not as supportive of women when they start to earn more than them. Men are not taught to deal with their emotions, so often a lot of emotional labor is put on women in relationships (not the men's fault per se, but it might contribute to feeling burned out in the marriage). Instead of looking at divorce rates as "women's natural desire to leave marriages", maybe at least consider why they might leave? That could be just as much the guy's fault as the woman's. Those stats you showed don't really say much on that
Gavin gave probably the best advice he didn't try to mold the current situation to work he gave them a solution that forces both our of their comfort zones to work together
It's incredible how so many answers are so simple. Just communicate more, share things more evenly, decompress before you have an emotional conversation. And these kids are great for having the emotional maturity to know how simple things can be.
nah i found it comforting since as i got older i started overthinking basic stuff so watching the kids showing simplistic answers made me reallt miss that i kind of learned something myself watching it
Julian seems sus. He started looking around nervously when his girl started talking about how he hides her on insta. I don't want to assume but I have a gut feeling he is cheating on her, slippin into other girls' DMs in insta.... and he hesitated a lot when he got asked if he would propose to her.
This tells that sometimes problems aren't as big as we make them. These kids definitely don't have the same experience as the adults on the couch but they know how to see things simplified. Nice one.
3:36 this part was such a red flag, he knew he would not propose to her, I think the question these 2 should ask themselves is “are y’all in love?” do you feel a deep connection to this person, do you feel happy around this person
Ok.. Ya know... The kid was on to something when he suggested Pokemon Go. That was a great compromise! She likes to go out and he likes to play video games, BOOM! Pokemon Go combines the 2! That was actually a really smart idea!
omg all 3 are so smart and adorable and gave some great advice. This made me smile. Adults think they know it all but kids know to just keep it simple.
@@arabianprinceflyeaglesfly1700 I heard it fine. I'm just saying it obviously wasn't as clear as you wanna say since there are multiple people that misheard it. Can you read?
It's not a shock to me at all how insightful these kids are. Im a teacher, and my kiddos always come up with great solutions to stuff when you give them the opportunity. This would be fun for teachers to do to teach about friendships and relationships.
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Please make more of this child therapist series! It was so cute 🥺
@@clarisekylander ye
I was not expecting that intro when i clicked on this lmao
Hey, it’s Mr Beast
hi mr beast
😂😂
Nice
IT'S MR.BEAST!!!
I love how Isabella is sitting and writing like a real therapist lol
she’s so cute i can’t 😭
I want to see what she has written.
Not all of em right
I thought she talked like one too.
Xdd
"wait, i have an idea, so you know pokemon go?" the way he says that with so much joy
@Serena Nintendo why?
@Serena Nintendo stop what
but it does actually make sense. like u can play a game WHILE being outside LOL 😭😭. so smart
@Serena Nintendo whattt? Wdum by that!
He knew he had a genius idea lmao
"Marriage is like the black belt" and "love is a level above friendship" are golden advices. This kid is going far in life and so wise for his age. lol.
*Update: Ok I get it can you leave me alone, stop replying to me*
It's kind of a sad way of seeing marriage. Once you reach a black belt, there's nothing else to learn and nothing else to do. Who would want to spend 50 years of their life in an "endgame"?
Love is a feeling, friendship is not, they're incomparable. Romantic relationships exist without love, friends can love each other.
@@mushmush4980 i think he means marriage is like the peak happiness where a couple can do anything with each other and there are no restrictions between them.
@@mushmush4980 i don’t have any martial arts experience but i’m pretty sure most black belts wouldn’t think they have nothing to learn or do. they probably realize their shortcomings more than any other belt
@@mushmush4980 not true. there’s multiple degrees in black belt so you have to keep working to get to the next degree. you aren’t just “stuck” after you make it to black belt.
I love how the kids are like "well, just make it 50/50", because it really is the best solution to things being unfair.
I agree
Thats what parents tell them to do when they are fighting with siblings. Share. But funnily enought, parents themselves dont take that advise
Actually no. Do whatever your partner needs. If they need 100%, give them 100%. Sometimes they will give you 100%. Support each other through the rough spots when they may not feel like it.
I promise that mans ain’t quitting his games for no girl
@@smiles884 how would u define how much someone needs and if there not just being demanding or unfair?
Its crazy how life looks so different from thr perspective of a 7 year old
Baka
ikr.. we make it so complicated when we age.
Anna Maria we want more as we age more
@@candiica7083 that's true
7 year olds are so simpleeee cry
the genuine realization gavin had about pokémon go was precious, the serious problem solving is everything
Bro this dude gotta be a therapist that was pressure.
that was so smart though
gavin was my favorite. so sweet and down to earth kid
@@PolarNights123 He's my favorite all the time so I'm really glad you agreed and connected w him!
That's actually so smart
I like how the kids are so straightforward. Most problems can be solved that way, but adults try to make it more complicated so they don’t have to face the reality.
exactly, kids have such a simple way of thinking and they often think of things that make us go "why didnt i think of that" 😭
"You know Pokemon Go?"
*Me: This kid is a Professional, solving problems with a straight up solution.*
modern problems require modern solutions
Games outside, brilliant
Pokémon always solves all the emotional problems v:
Literally. He is like Real therapist!
😂😂😂😂
Moral of this video: Adults overthink to much and carry too much pride, while children think less and make things simple 🤷🏿♂️
Facts
and it's usually more beneficial
True
This.
Adults have bills and more health issues and kids really don’t 😢😢
I love that Isabella basically told a grown time he needed a time out.
And she was right
Not really, you have to stretch your definition of time out enough that this statement isn't funny anymore
@@debrachambers1304 bro your are so fun at parties :/
@@sexybacon8311 Thanks!
I’m a grownup and I need timeouts. Sometimes life is overstimulating and then we can lose control a bit. I think we need talk about that skill of managing stimulation more and taking time outs 😂
3:42 "All relationships end..."
"Are you afraid that I will leave you?"
"No."
Ok so he is afraid of leaving her. You can just see that cross her face.
And he takes her for granted. He knows she isn’t going anywhere
Is there seriously a problem with being faithful about a partner? She looked more disappointed than afraid, like "aw shucks i dont have this guy by the reins this sucks lol"
@@chaoticcow4357 thats not why she was disappointed, she can tell he doesnt really want her. he hides her and was clearly not into the idea of spending his life with her and he has an overall negative outlook on relationships.
@@gkrome01 ok but theres no clear signal he doesnt want her. huge difference between not wanting to display affection and not wanting to be with someone.
They are obviously not saying everything considering they are talking to kids, so it is harder to accurately guess things like that. It does seem like they need to trust each other more though
That boy had him sweating with the proposal questions
Literally 😭😭my mans was rethinking his life decisions
🤣🤣
The glances and her expectant look. I- 💀💀
I laughed so hard. And he didn't let the dude out of the question, either! Haha
💀💀💀💀
Kids say the most unfiltered words that left adults speechless.
Best thing about kids, they aren’t in a box yet
@@JamesConley999 Yet...
It's sad that our world shapes them into over-thinking and complicated people :(
yup they're great cuz they aren't pretentious. They say what they want.
@@JamesConley999 that reminds me of a song I once heard called people of the boxes it’s a Islamic song but had some insight about how the world shapes people to become.
I still have that trait now as an adult... Except others find it infuriating when WE do it.
I'd love to see the differences with teens being the therapist
That would be terrible 🤣
@@oceanegagnon5665 fr and annoying
yes
Oh brother
i would love that
I love how intuitive the kids are. Their advice is actually hitting the heart of the issue and because they're children, the couples are actually hearing what they're saying instead of feeling defensive and lashing out.
Yeah it could work this way. Having the option of child therapy. Like rotate kids in school (who want to) and like a charity in return for like a day to a fun park or something.
The pokemon go idea was actually genius as it combined both of their interests in a healthy way. Oop now he said, the guy should teach her how to cook. Which is great because they would spend more quality time together.
And the little girl was so empathetic.
yes, she should become a real therapist
Gavin solve the problem so maturely. The Pokémon go idea and the teaching each other how to do the chores are such a great idea. Even I didn’t think of that.
Gavin seems really intelligent especially for his age. He was suprisingly articulate and mature, he seemed to be able to reflect around an issue and problemsolve using a reasonable amount of logic and empathy.
@@wiktormyrhagen9102 Gavin knew how to cook tf
I have... the issue is my partner doesn't want to change.
@@cookiie92 well, love them or leave them. Everything in life is down to your choices.
@@asthenamesuggests9513 Yeah I am working on that. My situation is a little different then others :/ it's not as easy for me to leave.
That moment when the kid's like: so you ready to propose?
The guy: **sweating** **awkward pause** "....that...that's like...you have to plan that"
He did have a point though. There are different types of relationships so it’s important to acknowledge what that person means to you. I think the kid probably meant “Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person?” If yes, then these small things can be worked through. If not, then perhaps this isn’t the relationship those two are seeking.
that was uncomfortable to watch
Liana Ramarosandy i thought so too he definitely does not think she is the one because if my bf was asked that he would say yes right away
@@candiica7083 i just think he was nervous about being pressured to go on one knee in that moment-
@@candiica7083 i feel like marriage is a big step and something you need to think through a lot before, I wouldn’t want to be pressured into it in any way
Why did Gavin honestly seem more mature than most adults? That kid is so beyond his years! He’s going places!
Everybody said that about me
@@Quacking-duck I had childhood depression what was urs?
@@ahhh4117 anxiety
@@Quacking-duck I'm on meds for adult sadness disease, how is urs going?
@@ahhh4117 to be honest I’m still a kid
I really like how Gavin handled the couple’s disagreement on what to do with their free time. Pokémon Go is the best of both worlds, a compromise!
He's so smart!
I liked his thought process and his head was in the right direction, but it's not that simple. I like playing Valorant, but I'd hate if I was forced to play Pokemon Go, ya know. Just because you enjoy one videogame, doesn't mean you enjoy them all. If she had to play Pokemon Go as well, it would be like forcing someone who likes hiking, yet hates sports to play basketball. She's not going to enjoy basketball just because she likes going outside.
@@idontcreatecontent741 Doesn't hurt to try though, right? It shouldn't be a forced thing obviously, but as a couple trying to find a common ground is pretty crucial. It would be a new venture for both of them to not only explore their neighborhood together but also have fun doing it. I don't think it's a bad idea at all.
I think the main problem would come when the girlfriend and guy weren't actually spending time together when out because he was on a video game on his phone. Not even whether or not he likes pokemon go. Smart thought on the kids part though
@@amylikesspiders8406 Lol u know it!
"1st, teach her how to cook."
He's basically like, nah. No excuses. 50/50 everything. If she can't do something, teach her how (that's step one), then split the load evenly.
50/50 everything just doesn't work though
@@vojtulee1 that’s true. So it might be 50/50 in some tasks and 80/20 or 60/40 in other areas. That way the burden isn’t stuck on only one person.
@@sueboo5830 keep in mind it's a 7 year old giving advice. Since they are still kids, they might not have the deep or complex comprehension behind what they say, but they are very honest and nice. It's still a solid point that Gavin brought up though (about teaching).
@@majo9145 true -that was honest and nice advice from children.
even if 50/50 isn't the best solution. i think trying each other's chores for a week is a great way for bridging the gap.
“Would you propose to her right now?”…. A+ Gavin.
Gavin was the Pokémon go kid
Mmhmm
I loved the reaction
Its Evan
Is he the one to also mention "trust, love and responsibilities makes a relationship work"?
The advice about giving the sister a gift and telling her how she feels is perfect. I've done it with my boss before. I thought she didn't like me but after I gave her a gift for her baby (she was pregnant at the time), she started treating me nicely after she realized she had been taking out her stress on me. I was also relieved to know that it had nothing to do with me. She was just stressed out from work and needed someone to take it out on.
The kid that suggested the seperate rooms for the couple in "coming in hot" is actually not far off of some solid advice. One contributing factor to high tension when coming home is each partner being in different stages of their day, one just transitioning from work to home while the other has already been at their at home mode. allowing that to equalise and letting someone reach that level first can help reduce conflict caused by that incongruency.
yep lol my actual therapist gave me this advice when I pretty much just started going
@@Buttcheekz420 Yeah she is spot on.
Could not agree more
@Sparkling Tube we are agreeing with her..?
@Sparkling Tube no
Gavin could be an actual therapist
@@leroyvermilion7708 WHY YOU SUCH A SUSSY BAKA
I think Evan could be
Fr the Pokémon go was not a bad idea and neither was the cooking, it would help with the chores and they'd spend time together.
Why hasn’t anyone mentioned Isabella yet? She writes things down and gives solid advice such as going to separate rooms and giving gifts
@@starsdoyoulikethem True
Hey I'm Gavin's mom and your kind comments are giving me life!! Thank you!!!! Also, it's true- he loves games and I LOVE Sims!!!!
He's so smart, I wouldn't have given those answers at 7
@@consepseon he’s 9 but omg frrrrr yeah me either!!! I wouldn’t have known what to say lol
Thank you!!
You're an amazing parent. Kuddos for raising him so maturely 🥰
@@Just_MR006 I’m not crying you are! 🥺😭😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭
But fr thank you!!! It really means the world to me! I’m trying!
Aww he's cute and sounds very grounded and sensible. You look like big sister not mum.
i think gavin might've actually made a difference to that couples perspective on being equal and making time for each other. gavin is such a great 7 year old.
The little girl saying they should have separate rooms for when the s/o comes home mad, is so smart and it makes complete sense and it something I probably wouldn’t have thought of. I love this video
I do this with my partner! When we get home from work we are both usually a bit overstimulated so yeah
Truth. It's like the Professor in Futurama having his own angry dome.
I was going to suggest something similar, for him to be allowed time undisturbed by his girlfriend to just wind down with rest or whatever activities he likes. I give this wind down time to my husband too, and even for my young kids after school. Even I don’t like being bombarded when I just got home tired after a long day, it must be normal.
"But that needs to be planned." "No, like, if you already have it planned"
NO! NO! NO! Many people say I am sick in the head. NOOOO!!!! I don't believe them. But there are so many people commenting this stuff on my videos, that I have 1% doubt. So I have to ask you right now: Do you think I am sick in the head? Thanks for helping, my dear josh
@@AxxLAfriku the first step is recognizing that you have a problem
@@AxxLAfriku What are you talking about?
@@valaya.3 lmao
@@AxxLAfriku Yes my friend, you are insane. You are sick and twisted for lying to people to go into your channel and tricking them into clicking on your videos and giving you views. Also, no need to thank me, the pleasure is all mine ❤️❤️
"love is a level beyond friendship" that's SO wise
True friendship is already love.
I disagree, love is love. Its an emotion and isnt exclusive to partners
Love is understanding, respecting and caring for your nearby person. If you know how to love, you have nothing to fear, because you understand everything somebody else is going through, being compassionate and thinking both the other and yourself EQUALLY
@@decoyheartt he was taking about romantic love
@@melaniemartinezfan5310 Romantic love is a different type of love than friendship altogether.
i think tori and julian put problems on evan that a child doesn’t understand, because to them, they’re not important and shouldn’t be dwelled on as much. his “would you marry her question” was straight forward, and frank. to a child, why would you be with someone you don’t want to marry? and even as an adult that’s a question a lot of people should be considering.
Something that i realized is that children can know better what they want, more than adults. If a child doesn't want to engage in an activity, then they won't. They know
A version of this with teens will be interesting to see
YES!
Can we get this comment to the top please because I wanna see this
A BIG YES
YES
that would be so awful
These kids are so sweet and innocent
Jajajahaha
2:45 well thats not too innocent...
@@duckk4515 I pretty sure he said “text” not the other word..
@@duckk4515 T E X T
Captions go brrrrr
Isabella is so mature for her age. She absolutely seems like she would make a great therapist.
not really, she’s just an average kid not especially mature
@A MV aight then
@@damonfischer1610 nah she is very mature fr. i didnt think that smart/wisely at my that age.
I love when the kid asked if he would propose rn it was such an eye opener and reality check for priorities and where the relationship was heading and if they still truly feel a love for one nother
the girl who is worried about her boyfriend needs to realize her worth. she was so kind and gentle with the kid, you can see how genuine she is. i think she’s wasting her time on the guy, she’s capable of so much, so smart and beautiful.
Which one was that
@@josannebruce3096 the girl who had an issue with the guy not posting her on instagram
Shes so beautiful
Agreed
Yeah she was stunning and very sweet
How is Gavin the best therapist I’ve ever seen though 😂 and that savage “even I can cook scrambled eggs” 😂😂😂
Frrr lol
I also thoughtful that kid has a future in counselling lol
Bruh it seemed like he was beyond his age Kinda props gonna be genius if he sticks to his own advice for relationships in life
ikr! Isabella and Gavin gave me real therapist vibes, their body language was so on point lol did not expect that
truly
What I love about this is that the kids suggest a simple solution that it seems like the adults have completely overlooked. I love their frank point-of-view because it puts into perspective that we have a lot to learn from ALL of the people in our lives. Not just our peers
What it kinda shows me too is that when adults try to solve things like that, usually what they really try to do is have their way. The gf was trying to get the bf to always go out on the weekends with her and the bf was always trying to stay home. To both of them it had to be all one persons way or all the other persons way. Whereas kids on the other hand (sure selfish kids exist, but in general...) are more likely to think about the team/group, so "well let's just split it" is way more obvious common sense to them. Then as they grow up, society/life kinda beats that out of them sadly.
@@VMYeahVN this^✨
@@VMYeahVN I think a lot of people would dismiss this as utter insanity but I really think kids need representation/bigger voices in politics. Sure many of the things they'd suggest may be impractical, but just as children teach parents about themselves every day (something many parents will attest to) so too can kids teach adults in general and remind them what it means to live beside each other whether it be neighboring homes or countries.
So true
I think this is because adults handle mostly based on their ego. People usually feel more comfortable criticizing the other than coming up with solutions and change their own behavior
I'm so amazed at these kids intelligence they are all like professionals they handled so well
They are gonna be that one single friend who gives the best relationship advices 😂
Jajajaja
I mean, coaches don't play
@@garretschinkel2740 😂
@@ishitasingh2044 Jajajajajajaja
@@garretschinkel2740 exactly what I used to say when I was in that position
Irl therapist here and I'm impressed! Pokemon Go (compromise) and separate rooms to cool off (regulating and taking responsibility for our own emotions and then coming together to process them) are excellent suggestions! Great job, kids!
The children's responses seem to be very direct and simple in both compromise and communication, with not very much analysis into the situation. Do you think this directness is typically useful in therapy?
Props to the couples in this video for trying to be real but also respecting the kid. Couldn't have done it better myself.
when the kid asked “would you propose rn” that dude honestly wanted to say no but used the excuse “i have to plan it i can’t do it rn” the kid didn’t mean right now in this instant but you could tell the dude doesn’t want to actual marry her :(
Nah it was a weird situation doe, the kid didn’t really explain tho
for reaaaal
@@faysalelayoubi4341 na he made sense… he said basicly would you rather break up or get married rn
@@noahlitman7466 ohh okay ✅ 👍
Yep. He understood perfectly what the kid said
" would you propose right now" is the best question to see If a relationship is valid
thats ignorant
@@StarVickyyy Its a metaphor as in if you wouldn't want to marry your significant other right now (plan on spending the rest of your life with them) you're basically saying you plan on it not working out later on there is nothing ignorant about that
Phat disagree. Some people aren’t ready, don’t have that connection yet, don’t know if they match up completely yet, don’t want to be married at all, etc.
Just because someone isn’t willing to propose right then or ever doesn’t mean they don’t love their partner and don’t see it working out.
Some people just don't want to get married 🤷♀️ legally it's a lot to handle. If I were to get legally married to my wonderful partner he wouldn't get the health benefits he has now and I would take a pretty big cut to my disability income.. You can plan to be together forever with somebody and not get married! Hell people get married even though they're not prepared to love their partner throughout every different life stage 🤷♀️
For a kid, it's great advice, but I think the better questions are "Where do you think this relationship is going?", or "What are your expectations of this relationship?". They're more open, so it allows a deeper conversation to start without making it specifically about marriage.
As a couple's therapist, watching this was extra entertaining! On a serious note, advice giving isn't really therapy nor should a licensed therapist rely on it too much. Skill building, reflecting, and education can support the beginnings of change that the patient is looking for in their life. Also, caught myself during the video saying too much "And how does it feel to hear your partner say that?" lol.
Really? Does this apply to normal therapy too? Would i just be paying someone to listen? 😂
@@wwxx23 well yes, thats what usually therapy is / what therapists and psychiatrists do.
they listen, question your statements and then wait for you to reflect / realise
I wish they would actually also kinda move into coaching aspects and try more problem solving with their patients
thehealthygamergg (actual doctor and psychiatrists that amongst many other things does amazing work for any problem people online are facing) has a really nice take on this.
As a couples therapist, did the guy who liked being inside and cooking give you any type of vibe? He is only willing to commit to the one chore. The one he likes to do. He apparently doesnt even clean the kitchen after his mess. And seems reluctant to participate in their shared time by including shared interests. He still gets 80%, after it being a main issue in their relationship? The look on his face also seems to say that he knows exactly the type of person he is being. And that type of person, in my opinion, is spoiled brat lmao.
@@amberleigh799 EXACTLY what I was thinking. I honestly don't understand the girl's patience with him
@@wwxx23 For my individual clients, I use evidenced based treatments, classic one being cognitive behavioral therapy. This involves supporting you building skills, identifying negative thinking patterns, and problem solving. It's more than just listening, and depending on the client, a certain style may be more effective. That's why it's important to find the right fit when it comes to therapy!
Can we talk about Isabella looking all cute as she writes things down on a clip board😂🥰🥰🥰 so precious
the belt analogy was lowkey wise tho..
Not really. More of just a comparison that most people make
@@henrymarks1632 i say wise in regards to the young age he is in. it just felt a bit mature coming from a younger person imo, u can disagree tho
I mean, for some people marriage is a “level up” in their relationship, but not everyone needs to get married for their relationship to be at that same emotional level. More and more couples are deciding not to get married and to be in a long term relationship that is just the same as any married couple but without marriage.
@@shaniastuart349 yeha i agree, as i’m in a relationship like that right now, and this analogy doesn’t apply to every couple but for the theme of this video, i thought the way he said it was adorable despite of whatever the couple is going through
Based on those divorce rates and the fact Men lose half or more of their belongings. As well as alimony payments, if anything it's a downgrade.
Actually Gavin could REALLY be a therapist once he gets older. Like the whole Sims and Pokemon thing is a genius idea!💡 Idk if y'all notice but women LOVE. SIMS
was gonna say ‘no that’s not true’ and then i realised i love sims 💀
Yeah you got me
@@emwatchesthings lmaooo
It's cus I can tell men what to do
So funny story I used to like Sims, my husband got me playing and then I realized I was spending hours doing thing for pretend that I really needed or wanted to do in real life. After that I couldn't bring myself to play. But then he got me into playing Skyrim and I was totally okay playing at things I couldn't do in real life 😂
crazy how a 7-year-old knows the expectations and responsibilities of a relationship while most people are clueless
Yeah for some reason down the road these things are forgotten. Guess that's just shows how society shapes us.
And when these kids grew up they make the same mistakes every adult makes
these problems w the couples probably have a big impact on them and these kids solved them in a minute 😭
I know! The kids are adorable and very intuitive to the couples' feelings and problems! Kids are smarter than we give them credit for!
The marriage was not a solve
I felt bad when he said the Instagram thing wasn’t a big deal. I’m sure it is hurtful for that girl to feel hidden.
I felt bad too lol, I honestly think the kid didn't quite understand what the girl was saying.
Same but you have to remind yourself that it’s just a kid and she has to remind that herself too
I don't have an Instagram but would personally hate him posting about me. But I don't even post about myself on FB
It's not a big deal to anyone not a teenage girl obsessed with social media
What’s sad is this wasn’t an issue 10 years ago cause Instagram wasn’t popping like that. Now that is now we gotta show everybody off.
the second couple makes me nervous , they definitely need real couple therapy
Yeah, the way he said he takes her anger out on her made me feel uneasy
sappy sama right it’s sad :/
Bro they ain’t talking about hitting each other
Just because someone has emotions that rub off? Everyone does that every once in awhile, depends how often, and to what extreme he lets it rub off
@@sappysama i feel like these couples just made stuff up for the video lmao
tori and julien need a real therapist lmfaooo
@@rewangoda2900 nah they need a break up
He was legit asking the child how to solve his anger management issues? Like bro, see a therapist fr.
@@oliviaojpg that was Ruby and Andrew with the anger management bruh get with the program smh
Godbless you pretty 💓
Deadass tho 🤣
So Gavin and Isabella are straight up great therapists. Evan got the broad principles for life.
I love how well Gavin integrates the concepts of sacrifice and working together into his therapy! Some real solid advice there!
Is it tho?
@@leroyvermilion7708 How is it not?
I would also like to say the most awkward couple had to be the girl with the black guy. I think he pretty much revealed how he feels. Girl, RUN lol
You could see on her face- she knows they aren’t going anywhere lol
I know right that was heartbreaking
Yup , she needs to rethink her relationship
“The girl with the black guy.” That sentence reveals a lot about how you assessed their relationship, considering the girl was also black…”Girl, RUN 🤪” you just saw a small portion of their relationship, not knowing the issues the girl is contributing to the relationship, but of course the fact that he was transparent about his misgivings was a red flag, whereas when she does the same it’s “speak your truth sis 😫.”
@@IncredibleIceCastle they're both black, she is black with a black guy, it's not a big deal. and yes from three minutes or less that we've seen of their relationship, we're seeing a lot of red flags. The guy needs to shape up or ship out
The kid who asked if the guy would propose right on the spot was such a risky question wtf LOLOLOL PUTTING THEM ON BLAST
this is lowkey genius because they hear each other communicate their needs and feelings in a super easy to understand way.
5:18 this couple will be great parents, they really listen to the kid and try that he understands everything they explain.
I agree
Agree! They actually took time to understand
fr they were rlly patient and seem sweet
The way the couples were being so gentle and patient with the children is exactly how all therapist should be treated. Some couples are not very kind to their therapist
yknow I think thats because they're kinda being recorded and dont wanna be filed for child abuse.
oh wow a wild pessimist! quick catch it with a pokeball@@chaoticcow4357
they literally pay the therapists though for that kind of advice just go and ask the kids if the therapists give the same conclusion even though they are more qualified
i think Tori needs a better partner, one that looks at her more, one that wouldn't mind unplanned proposals. Tori you deserve better
ABSOLUTELY AGREE
i hope tori is able to leave and find someone better before julian decides to propose, which i doubt he’d do anyway tbh
Julian and her seem to have trust and commitment issues. I hope that either they can figure them out or Tori should break up with him. They were the only couple that I could audibly feel the tension between the two and it felt like it was serious.
Yea!!!! I think they should split. He sounds like he doesn't even want to do the bare minimum
Mostly disagree. Just leave it up to the person how they want to propose.
6:30 i love how he just quotes the title of the video 😭❤️❤️
I’m a therapist, and these kids did an awesome job of listening to what both people had to say and trying to find a solution that worked for both of them. Would love to see this with different age groups!
I really liked Gavin's answers it's all about compromise. His answers were like either (a) find something that suits both of you or (b) you split 50/50. Perfect 😆
The beauty of this is a kid's perspective can be very enlightening. This is a lovely concept.
I love how the kids view everything so simply and so black and white. For some of the couple’s issues it makes their solutions very realistic
The fact that he told the gamer guy to get his girlfriend into sims is the smartest advice, mans is wise beyond his years
YES i think it’s a great game. A lot of females like it
1:09 She's not messing around she got that pen out and was ready to get to work. Cute idea I love this🙂
Poor guying put on spot "would you propose to her right now" "well ide have to prepare so no" ..."no but say you already had it prepared"...errmmmm 😂😂
I think at this point with the divorce rate over 50% and near 90% of divorces initiated by the woman for no fault reasons - coupled with the fact child custody and assets are not affected by who wants to leave the marriage or is at "fault" for it ending, we all just need to admit that marriage as women want it today is a undesirable life and future for men to enter into.
The reality is if women want to initiate divorce at such high rates and not have the law reflect fault in custody and assets splits - marriage law and the concept of marriage as we know it is made unsustainable by womens natural (?) desire to leave marriages at such greater rates than men - and their expectation to be provided for after this event (of their choosing).
@@poocrayon4588 poo crayon still out here being a poo crayon
@@poocrayon4588 bad day?
@@poocrayon4588 Needa Therapist?
@@poocrayon4588 Women might be more likely to be the ones to file for divorce, that doesn't mean they're the ones "at fault" tho. Women can get divorced when men cheat or abuse for example.
Women do most of the housework and childcare even when they work as much as men, men are often not as supportive of women when they start to earn more than them. Men are not taught to deal with their emotions, so often a lot of emotional labor is put on women in relationships (not the men's fault per se, but it might contribute to feeling burned out in the marriage).
Instead of looking at divorce rates as "women's natural desire to leave marriages", maybe at least consider why they might leave? That could be just as much the guy's fault as the woman's. Those stats you showed don't really say much on that
Gavin is so mature. I want to see him become a therapist when he gets older😂
Gavin gave probably the best advice he didn't try to mold the current situation to work he gave them a solution that forces both our of their comfort zones to work together
i love how the couple that gavin was talking to was actually taking his advice :”)
I love when kids are involved it makes it so much funnier haha
JajajajaJajaja
These kids are so emotionally intelligent and mature. Great advice given to
It's incredible how so many answers are so simple. Just communicate more, share things more evenly, decompress before you have an emotional conversation. And these kids are great for having the emotional maturity to know how simple things can be.
AMEN!!!!!
this is weird and adorable at the same time
And Cringey
nah i found it comforting since as i got older i started overthinking basic stuff so watching the kids showing simplistic answers made me reallt miss that i kind of learned something myself watching it
yeah facts. It got weird for me a bit bc grown ups telling kids their dirty laundry with hidden spite sounds like a nono.
Okay but does Julian not understand how gorgeous his girlfriend is? How sweet she seems? He has a queen and he’s sleeping. Smh.
Some people dont match
Thanks Obama
nah fr omg
nahh he way cuter than her
INDEED
This is so wholesome🥰Sometimes we overcomplicate relationship problems but kids see them as simple
Julian seems sus. He started looking around nervously when his girl started talking about how he hides her on insta. I don't want to assume but I have a gut feeling he is cheating on her, slippin into other girls' DMs in insta.... and he hesitated a lot when he got asked if he would propose to her.
But would he want to be seen with her on TH-cam if that was the case tho
@@dr.sigmundfreud3030 that part
@@dr.sigmundfreud3030 hes getting paid. So yeh
That’s what I was thinking! Poor girl she deserves way better than him
right.
This tells that sometimes problems aren't as big as we make them.
These kids definitely don't have the same experience as the adults on the couch but they know how to see things simplified.
Nice one.
Evan: “just straight up pull out a ring” them: 👁👄👁 👁👄👁
😂
This was 2 years ago I’ve aged now. 😂
Lmao fr bro was like just propose 😅
@@Blossom7870 Lol I get that, everyone is getting this video recommended
2:40 lol i love the kid telling the girl her problem is not a big deal
“I think love is a level beyond friendship” -Evan🥺
3:36 this part was such a red flag, he knew he would not propose to her, I think the question these 2 should ask themselves is “are y’all in love?” do you feel a deep connection to this person, do you feel happy around this person
@@m.s1744 yeah i cant be 110% sure but it kind of feels like that
He's either with her for other reasons, or he does love her but is holding back for some reason
Ok.. Ya know... The kid was on to something when he suggested Pokemon Go. That was a great compromise! She likes to go out and he likes to play video games, BOOM! Pokemon Go combines the 2! That was actually a really smart idea!
Same i almost cried🥺❤️
I wanna like this but u have 666 likes so this is my like
i think with chores, it would be fun to do it together that way you get it done faster and also can spend time together and talk while you clean up
I think adults make everything very complicated where kids just solve it with 1 sentence because they think simple
Moral of story:when in a relationship think about what a child would do. They're just so genuine 💙
Yea
I need gavin to be my therapist so badly. that last part where he talks about how relationships work.... this dude ahead of his time.
omg all 3 are so smart and adorable and gave some great advice. This made me smile. Adults think they know it all but kids know to just keep it simple.
NOT THE COUPLE GETTING EVANS NAME WRONG, he was like "bye Tom" HAHAHAH
Someone said he actually says "thanks, doc" but I totally heard "Tom" too
Clearly said doc
@@arabianprinceflyeaglesfly1700 if it was 'clearly', then people wouldn't have heard a mistranslation 🧍🏻
@@jennadombroski1505 Get your hearing checked then I don’t know what to tell you lady
@@arabianprinceflyeaglesfly1700 I heard it fine. I'm just saying it obviously wasn't as clear as you wanna say since there are multiple people that misheard it. Can you read?
Gavin is wise beyond his years, he's going to make the world a better place. He already has 🥺💕
The guy said "Thanks Doc" to Evan. And Evan gave him a look like "Don't make jokes about my Doctorate." 😂
These kids smarter than me 😂😭 I’m dead when she ranted to the kid about her man’s not posting her on Instagram and he said “it’s not that deep”
i know they signed up for this but it was honestly so sweet how the couples treated the kids so nicely and made their advice seem incredible😭❤️
It's not a shock to me at all how insightful these kids are. Im a teacher, and my kiddos always come up with great solutions to stuff when you give them the opportunity. This would be fun for teachers to do to teach about friendships and relationships.
Evan : " Love is a level beyond friendship ". Now that's some deep words
as a child i would’ve described a therapist as an extreme guidance counselor