I can understand the people disagreeing with what she said. Of course God knows if we're gonna mary or not and who we are gonna mary. But it's all about that free will. So i think "the one" as we imagine it doesn't exist, but God knows who we are gonna choose between many with our given free will, that's what i understood and i agree with her. It helped me to relax and to let go, to feel free. I was putting too much pressure on myself personally. Thanks for the video !
I'd like to push back a little bit, while it's true that nobody walks around with shiny gold letters above them that say " I am the future wife of John Smith", God absolutely knows who you are going to marry and if he has called you to marriage he will obviously have to call someone else to be your spouse. I think we do damage to our view of God when we try to insist that Our Father who is so in control and omnipotent that when it comes to the birds in the air "not one of them *can* fall to the ground without your Father’s knowledge.", doesn't have His hand guiding who we marry. The "One" is limiting when we try to insist that a person who is clearly not going to marry us is somehow the one for us. If a person leaves you and stops talking to you, they are clearly not the one. You can't miss the person God wants you to marry, so you shouldn't worry about it. His Providence governs everything, the One for Mary was Joesph and the One for Tobit was Sarah. If God has decreed that you will be married He has also decreed that someone will marry you and He knows who that is. If He has not decreed you will be married you can never find a person to marry. God is sovereign over all things, nothing happens that He has not allowed. The Father is in control of everything and that is great news, because it your matchmaker is the God who loved you so much He sent His one and only Son to die for you, so that you can be with Him forever. God is the One who picks your "The One", trust Him, love Him, and wait on Him. His love will never end and He will always be the one in your life that will never leave you or let you down.
This has nothing to do with the video but I came across it and I recognized who you were. You probably won’t even remember me, but back in 2014-15 your friends Amanda and others hung out with me and my friends (Reformed Christian’s) at chilies. We debated (discussed) catholic and Protestant theology while eating food. It was actually a very great night. I know that was a long time ago but I just wanted to say that you and your friends played a part in me returning back to my Catholic faith. Thank you!
And finally: be aware that when any of says that we are looking for the one, it addresses something very profound in our heart, the possible unconscious notion of the sacredness spousal reality written in our hearts. Bringing that longing down to a “god blessed free will” seems to make this less sacred and brought down to earth yes, but also possible less godly and much cheaper.
Thank you for your video. How would we then understand what St Raphael tells Tobit about his future wife Sarah? “And when you approach her, rise up, both of you, and cry out to the merciful God, and he will save you and have mercy on you. Do not be afraid, for she was destined for you from eternity. You will save her, and she will go with you, and I suppose that you will have children by her.” When Tobi′as heard these things, he fell in love with her and yearned deeply for her. (TOB 6:17)
I believe only a few things are truly 100% GOD'S will Most people aren't prophets At the time of the old testament it was GOD'S direction and blessing upon his people to keep the faith within the future generations We can do that today through prayer but GOD can't force anyone to love you so for most people there is not one person for you
I think there are not many possible partners probably very few, the first and most important block are the values, just that eliminates everyone, only older people around their 50s and 60s are close to that, another is me being able to find that person attractive, in my life it only happened once, I have always thought that I was made to be single, but I believe there are people that find really difficult to like someone so the pool of people they might choose from is very limited.
I must say, it did hurt a little. But I know and trust that God’s plan is much better, so how can we see this as part of his plan. Be aware, our freedom is NOT an actual limit to God. He knows how things can happen his way, that is why he needs is to pray, seek, act, and trust this to his hands too. Otherwise, …?
Thanks for saying what I needed to know! I was always so worried that I'd never find "the one" because I'm not doing a bunch of specific things and keeping a close lookout somehow. Or worse, what if the one God chose for me is completely unattractive, but I'd have to suck it up because he's God-fearing after all...! 🤐😭Which implies that I'd have to somehow shut off my desire for something good-looking... which is such a sad, weird thought... I'm glad I have free will to choose, but I'm still concerned at my ability for that, since I'm not the biggest "fan" of other humans to begin with. (What is a girl to do??)
My first language is Spanish so I'm not sure if my writing in English will be the beast, sorry in advance haha. If is in God's plan that you're going to be married, He's not going to give you someone you find unattractive. What I think it can happen is that you may realize that some of your standards are not going to be that important to you in the end. What I mean is that maybe, when you met the person God has prepared for you, you will realize that the looks no longer are so important to you, but you find that person attractive for a lot of more reasons anyway. It happened to me haha after my failed second relationship, I was a little afraid that God's plan might be to give me someone I didn't find good looking. When I meet my actual boyfriend, I didn't found his looks particularly attractive, but I was really into his character. The more I learn the more I liked him, and started to notice details about his appearance that are unique, and beautiful. I think is a good thing you're questioning your ability to decide 😊 you're humble and God can give you what you really need, even when you doesn't now what it is yet, if you're sincere and devoted in your prayers 🙏🏻 God bless you!
Attractiveness is very subjective. The fact that youthful beauty disappears with age is also a factor. If you were not born good looking by society's standards, you wouldnt want to be with someone who thinks they just have to suck it up to be with you. God sees us all equally beautiful as we are all made in his image. I felt attracted to a girl before that my other mates would say is not as attractive as other girls, but they didn't see what I see. To be honest, I think us men are more superficial than women because we are such visual creatures. Look for the values that are important for long term, attractiveness is not purely based on how one looks.
Sketchowill, believe me when I say “cute ain’t got nothing to do with it!!!” We’re all going to get old and gray, if that is His plan for us. If we do, we can either accept it or spend lots of money turning ourselves into something that looks terrible. If you had to choose between Mr. Universe who revealed himself to be a liar, cheat, user, etc. and someone who revealed himself to be a genuinely trustworthy, NICE, honest, manly, etc., guy who treats you like a queen, but was not necessarily the physically ideal person in your dreams, which one would you choose? Think really hard, because you will be In unbelievably horrible emotional pain (especially if there are children involved) if you make the wrong choice. God gave us intuition. Don’t for a second ignore it!! And I’m talking about even men who claim to be Christians as well. It’s not your job to take some great looking guy and try to change him on the inside to fit what you want him to be. It’s not your job, it’s not your job, it’s not your job!!!! Treasure your single life for the time being. Don’t rush.
@@inabind416 Oh I know! I don’t mean to sound superficial, I don’t prioritize looks over substance (I had to learn the hard way). I just mean to say that as a woman, I have always worried about being genuinely attracted to a man without something putting me off at a surface level. I want to marry a good person. I just want the outside to be nice too.
@@SketchowlllI am kind of going through the same thing as a man, but I have some advice to offer. I have a certain type I really like and I’m very scared the Lord may not bless me with it. I’m trying to discern right now whether this preference he gave me was to help me be attracted to my future wife or if it’s just something of the flesh. But something I’ve REALLY noticed is that when I click on a video of a Christian girl speaking, she may not be pretty to me. But within 5 seconds of her beginning to pour out wisdom and show her love for the Lord she immediately becomes way more attractive. There’s definitely more than just physical when it comes to attraction. But that being said it’s still important. A true Godly man takes care of his appearance for his body is not his but his future wife’s. Maybe some men are born unattractive to you, but they can certainly clean themselves up and dress well to become more attractive. Don’t throw away your physical attraction as it’s the spark that first brings people together. But make sure to balance it properly. I’ll be praying that the Lord gives you the most handsome husband ever in your eyes. I know he will be, just maybe not in the way you’re expecting.
Spanish is a language more appropriate for philosophy or philosophical anthropology. There is esencial difference between free will and personal freedom, what I would call be in Liberty (with capital L) To be free for (a purpose) rather then be free to (just free will of doing anything).
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I can understand the people disagreeing with what she said. Of course God knows if we're gonna mary or not and who we are gonna mary. But it's all about that free will. So i think "the one" as we imagine it doesn't exist, but God knows who we are gonna choose between many with our given free will, that's what i understood and i agree with her. It helped me to relax and to let go, to feel free. I was putting too much pressure on myself personally. Thanks for the video !
I'd like to push back a little bit, while it's true that nobody walks around with shiny gold letters above them that say " I am the future wife of John Smith", God absolutely knows who you are going to marry and if he has called you to marriage he will obviously have to call someone else to be your spouse.
I think we do damage to our view of God when we try to insist that Our Father who is so in control and omnipotent that when it comes to the birds in the air "not one of them *can* fall to the ground without your Father’s knowledge.", doesn't have His hand guiding who we marry.
The "One" is limiting when we try to insist that a person who is clearly not going to marry us is somehow the one for us. If a person leaves you and stops talking to you, they are clearly not the one. You can't miss the person God wants you to marry, so you shouldn't worry about it. His Providence governs everything, the One for Mary was Joesph and the One for Tobit was Sarah. If God has decreed that you will be married He has also decreed that someone will marry you and He knows who that is. If He has not decreed you will be married you can never find a person to marry. God is sovereign over all things, nothing happens that He has not allowed.
The Father is in control of everything and that is great news, because it your matchmaker is the God who loved you so much He sent His one and only Son to die for you, so that you can be with Him forever. God is the One who picks your "The One", trust Him, love Him, and wait on Him. His love will never end and He will always be the one in your life that will never leave you or let you down.
This has nothing to do with the video but I came across it and I recognized who you were.
You probably won’t even remember me, but back in 2014-15 your friends Amanda and others hung out with me and my friends (Reformed Christian’s) at chilies. We debated (discussed) catholic and Protestant theology while eating food. It was actually a very great night.
I know that was a long time ago but I just wanted to say that you and your friends played a part in me returning back to my Catholic faith.
Thank you!
Praise God, welcome home, and small Catholic world.
And finally: be aware that when any of says that we are looking for the one, it addresses something very profound in our heart, the possible unconscious notion of the sacredness spousal reality written in our hearts. Bringing that longing down to a “god blessed free will” seems to make this less sacred and brought down to earth yes, but also possible less godly and much cheaper.
I actually thought of this today. And this video brought so much clarification to my questions. Thank you ma. God bless you ma.
Thank you for your video.
How would we then understand what St Raphael tells Tobit about his future wife Sarah?
“And when you approach her, rise up, both of you, and cry out to the merciful God, and he will save you and have mercy on you. Do not be afraid, for she was destined for you from eternity. You will save her, and she will go with you, and I suppose that you will have children by her.” When Tobi′as heard these things, he fell in love with her and yearned deeply for her. (TOB 6:17)
I believe only a few things are truly 100% GOD'S will
Most people aren't prophets
At the time of the old testament it was GOD'S direction and blessing upon his people to keep the faith within the future generations
We can do that today through prayer but GOD can't force anyone to love you so for most people there is not one person for you
The people in charge of videography did a wonderful job ❤.
I sincerely would like to live what Tobit had the chance to experience.
Who says you won't? Only time will tell
I think there are not many possible partners probably very few, the first and most important block are the values, just that eliminates everyone, only older people around their 50s and 60s are close to that, another is me being able to find that person attractive, in my life it only happened once, I have always thought that I was made to be single, but I believe there are people that find really difficult to like someone so the pool of people they might choose from is very limited.
I must say, it did hurt a little. But I know and trust that God’s plan is much better, so how can we see this as part of his plan. Be aware, our freedom is NOT an actual limit to God. He knows how things can happen his way, that is why he needs is to pray, seek, act, and trust this to his hands too. Otherwise, …?
Thank you ma’am, 🙌🏻 💕 pretty nourishing and helpful! God bless you! 😊
You're so welcome! God bless you, too.
Thanks for saying what I needed to know! I was always so worried that I'd never find "the one" because I'm not doing a bunch of specific things and keeping a close lookout somehow. Or worse, what if the one God chose for me is completely unattractive, but I'd have to suck it up because he's God-fearing after all...! 🤐😭Which implies that I'd have to somehow shut off my desire for something good-looking... which is such a sad, weird thought...
I'm glad I have free will to choose, but I'm still concerned at my ability for that, since I'm not the biggest "fan" of other humans to begin with. (What is a girl to do??)
My first language is Spanish so I'm not sure if my writing in English will be the beast, sorry in advance haha.
If is in God's plan that you're going to be married, He's not going to give you someone you find unattractive. What I think it can happen is that you may realize that some of your standards are not going to be that important to you in the end. What I mean is that maybe, when you met the person God has prepared for you, you will realize that the looks no longer are so important to you, but you find that person attractive for a lot of more reasons anyway.
It happened to me haha after my failed second relationship, I was a little afraid that God's plan might be to give me someone I didn't find good looking. When I meet my actual boyfriend, I didn't found his looks particularly attractive, but I was really into his character. The more I learn the more I liked him, and started to notice details about his appearance that are unique, and beautiful.
I think is a good thing you're questioning your ability to decide 😊 you're humble and God can give you what you really need, even when you doesn't now what it is yet, if you're sincere and devoted in your prayers 🙏🏻 God bless you!
Attractiveness is very subjective. The fact that youthful beauty disappears with age is also a factor. If you were not born good looking by society's standards, you wouldnt want to be with someone who thinks they just have to suck it up to be with you. God sees us all equally beautiful as we are all made in his image. I felt attracted to a girl before that my other mates would say is not as attractive as other girls, but they didn't see what I see. To be honest, I think us men are more superficial than women because we are such visual creatures. Look for the values that are important for long term, attractiveness is not purely based on how one looks.
Sketchowill, believe me when I say “cute ain’t got nothing to do with it!!!”
We’re all going to get old and gray, if that is His plan for us. If we do, we can either accept it or spend lots of money turning ourselves into something that looks terrible. If you had to choose between Mr. Universe who revealed himself to be a liar, cheat, user, etc. and someone who revealed himself to be a genuinely trustworthy, NICE, honest, manly, etc., guy who treats you like a queen, but was not necessarily the physically ideal person in your dreams, which one would you choose? Think really hard, because you will be In unbelievably horrible emotional pain (especially if there are children involved) if you make the wrong choice. God gave us intuition. Don’t for a second ignore it!! And I’m talking about even men who claim to be Christians as well. It’s not your job to take some great looking guy and try to change him on the inside to fit what you want him to be. It’s not your job, it’s not your job, it’s not your job!!!! Treasure your single life for the time being. Don’t rush.
@@inabind416 Oh I know! I don’t mean to sound superficial, I don’t prioritize looks over substance (I had to learn the hard way). I just mean to say that as a woman, I have always worried about being genuinely attracted to a man without something putting me off at a surface level. I want to marry a good person. I just want the outside to be nice too.
@@SketchowlllI am kind of going through the same thing as a man, but I have some advice to offer. I have a certain type I really like and I’m very scared the Lord may not bless me with it. I’m trying to discern right now whether this preference he gave me was to help me be attracted to my future wife or if it’s just something of the flesh. But something I’ve REALLY noticed is that when I click on a video of a Christian girl speaking, she may not be pretty to me. But within 5 seconds of her beginning to pour out wisdom and show her love for the Lord she immediately becomes way more attractive. There’s definitely more than just physical when it comes to attraction. But that being said it’s still important. A true Godly man takes care of his appearance for his body is not his but his future wife’s. Maybe some men are born unattractive to you, but they can certainly clean themselves up and dress well to become more attractive. Don’t throw away your physical attraction as it’s the spark that first brings people together. But make sure to balance it properly. I’ll be praying that the Lord gives you the most handsome husband ever in your eyes. I know he will be, just maybe not in the way you’re expecting.
Do you have a video defining marriage?
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Great video, I wish I watched it 10 years ago ;)
Spanish is a language more appropriate for philosophy or philosophical anthropology. There is esencial difference between free will and personal freedom, what I would call be in Liberty (with capital L) To be free for (a purpose) rather then be free to (just free will of doing anything).