Damn, I wish you were my therapist. You explain these concepts so clearly and really leave me feeling like its ok that I have my issues and they/I can get better, Thank you!
I have felt the same way. I'm not very comfortable with strangers specifically with therapy. For some reason I feel very connected and safe with Kati yet I have never spoken or met her. Must be her charm and likeability
I actually made new friends via tinder and had a 1 one year relationship (the best I had actually) thanks to tinder. I had my fair share of crappy dates for sure but it's ok in comparison of the other people I've met.
Best mac and cheese recipe You will need: 1/4 cup butter 1/4 cup flower 2 cups milk 3 cups grated marble cheddar cheese, or any other cheese(s) of your choice Pasta (to feed about 5? I always eyeball it so don't have a measurement) - put water on to boil, start follow the rest of the steps adding the pasta to the water when it's boiling - in a saucepan on medium heat melt the butter - add flower and stir until consistent (you may prefer to use a whisk) - slowly add milk, make sure milk and flour/butter mixture are combined before adding more milk. It won't look like it's going to combine it first, but it will! :) - wait for it to start bubbling, this will take about 5 minutes. Stir occasionally - add grated cheese and stir in (the pasta should be done around this time if it hasn't finished cooking already) - stir the pasta and cheese sauce together and TADA! Home made mac and cheese I love this recipe because it's very customizable. Want to put bread crumbs on it after and bake it in the oven? Go for it! Want to change up the types of cheeses? You can do that too. I like to add black pepper in while I'm cooking. This recipe might sound harder than it is written out but it's super simple and definitely worth a try
As a teenager I pretended I liked a bunch of stuff in order to attract friends and really thought that interests = a personality. I was desperate for friends but it made the relashionships stressful when I could have just... been enjoying things I actually enjoyed and being myself. I should have been working on who I was as a person instead of what I "liked". If someone only likes you for your interests but not YOU it makes the relationship so surface level anyway. This was such a hard lesson to learn because I lost friends who were good people cause I didn't know who I was in the first place, I wasn't ever able to connect with them authentically. Being vulnerable is hard but it's so worth it!
You’re doing so well! It’s hard to know what’s the right way of doing things but you learn and I’m glad you’re learning to embrace yourself more and more friends who align with the authentic you will come your way for sure, in the meantime enjoy discovering yourself ❤️
I'm going to play devil's advocate here. I don't really like Tinder either, but it isn't successful because it's a horrible company. It's successful because people resonate with what Tinder offers. The problem is that people often use Tinder in an awful way or fall prey to marketing. If we want to improve the world around dating (or anything bad for that matter), we have to help people learn better dating options and improve people's ability to make educated and healthy decisions. Which is exactly what Kati is doing. People can choose to use Tinder in healthy ways or give up using it altogether if they feel it doesn't work for them. There are plenty of ways to get into the dating pool in a way that supports what someone is looking for.
My therapist and I have been working towards this goal for two years now! I'm getting there (slowly but steadily), and I'm meeting her today! This video was a great way to start the day
Pulling your mind from automatic negative judment" Switch to positive Compliments, I start with you to challenge myself! You have beautiful mind and soul!
I liked that last point about not faking interests--I think a lot of us were told when we were little "Just be yourself!" with no explanation of what that meant or how to do it. Once I finally understood that it meant "don't pretend to be someone you're not or hide parts of yourself so people will like that person better", I became much more successful in my relationships.
When I clarified what I want in my dating profiles despite the fact that they are considered undesirable preferences to men according to popular stereotypes of what most men overwhelmingly want in dating, I began to get more matches and meaningful ones and I bypassed matching with people who want things that I firmly don't. Also, when I was in massive shoulder immobilizers when recovering from shoulder surgeries, many people would say things like first impressions are important and I should just wait until I didn't need those devices in a couple months, but I kept going on dates and putting myself out there. I did inform dates that I would be showing up in them because I didn't want to surprise them since none of my pictures showed massive slings, but I felt that if they didn't want a second date just because of a disability, they weren't really in it for the long run and I'd more quickly be able to weed out those people. Honestly, the truth of the matter was that I did get second dates and third and fourth, etc. I'm grateful I didn't let it stop me from being confident in who I was or whether I was attractive or a valuable partner during those 12 weeks. Also, thank you for incorporating building mastery into this video. That is my absolute favorite DBT skill and the one that is most effective for me!
Just started the online dating thing on Bumble (sorry Tinder) It’s actually been a really great experience! As someone w/ high functioning ASD, being able to express my emotions through emoticons & gifs make it soooo much easier to connect!
T.k hello 🖐how have you been doing how are you coping with everything and with your health I'm glad I seen your name in the comments I want to thank you for recommending the 7cups health website to me didn't know about it or used it before I have recently been useing 7cups website and it's a good health website for Mental health problems and good to be able to talk and share things with people that understand I was wondering do u use the website is be nice to connect with you there let me know also your comments are always interesting and helpful and sometimes I can relate to them as always kati always brings good and important information for us all no matter what shes always of help to us no matter what we suffer from take care T.k 🙂
What a councidence. I just finished stargazing. And during that time, I actually felt content with myself and where I am now. My worries faded for a brirf moment.
I’m trying to get better at talking to myself with more positive words. It’s nice to be reminded that I’m not the only one. Your videos always make me feel better Katie ❤️
Tips for feeling good about yourself mentioned in the video: focus on your strengths, recognize negative self-talk, put positivity out into the world and accept your limitations with courage.
waching u all the time for a many time since long gone, you really explain things i allready know but then recodnize that other people also know. thanks for me not feeling so alone. its so easy to asume yout rhe only one in this. cheers darling, thanks a lot
Great video Kati. Another good way to be content, proud and happy about yourself is to work on serious hobbies like starting to learn an instrument or trying to explore your own creative side. Working hard on them makes you feel more confident with skills as well as give you a great sense of fulfillment and accomplishment. This is compounded when other people also appreciate your effort and skill. Keep rocking everyone!
Admir Barucija. Hello how are you doing how are you coping with your mental health I hope things are not to bad for you I always like your comment s and most of the time can understand and relate to what you write take care
Hey I have a question: Why does talking about a certain topic that reminds me of past trauma make me so nervous? It's normal to get nervous with this, but I get to the point where I can't stop crying. I'm sorry if this is a stupid question lol but I'm really confused, so could you help?
4 easy steps, yet sometimes so hard to do. But I will keep on trying over and over again. I like especially the "spread positivity" message, because I think this is really so important in this world today. Focus on the positive and spread it and it will come back to you.
I had no idea!! Being 37 and married makes me a bit out of date on online dating sites. I hope some of the tips and tools i offered were still helpful :) xoxo
Julia Catherine I would agree to that statement when speaking of dating apps in general. Looking back at my comment I can only speak from my own experience. I have personally come across a lot of men on Tinder that have made sexists comments to me and I felt like I was in a meat market to be honest. But I can only speak to my own experience
Meditation and present moment awareness throughout the day completely changed everything about me. It helped me step out of the overthinking mind/ego and connected me more into the present moment. Also exercise which is an obvious one but practicing presence and mindfulness as much as possible was the best for me personally. A book I read by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now inspired me to make videos on here to help others. :)
Another fab video, since watching your channel I have made such progress with my therapist as you have given me the confidence to share things which are really uncomfortable. The reaction from my therapist was just like you said and nothing like I was expecting. xxx
You are doing a great service by spreading this information on psychology, especially this past year. Thank you for all that you do to educate and help those in need of resources❤
If you put a lot of butter and cheese and just a little milk, it definitely improves the mac & cheese! Try also adding spices, and don't forget to use shells
Kati is a truly exceptional clinician. so give her a tiny break for securing what appears to be a sponsorship through Tinder. In many countries, Tinder is the "go to" dating site, and is not universally seen as a "hook up" site. In addition, many here are getting incredible support and clinical support for free, from Kati. Her videos truly may be the best, and only, online therapeutics that many suffering people might have access to.
This video was all that i needed today! I'm grateful for finding your channel. It has really helped me during this challenging time of the pandemic and others issues too. Thank you for your work.
Kati, I love your channel. I remember when you had 4k followers and thinking to myself, “this is great, I can’t believe her channel isn’t more popular”. 🙂 The odds of a woman swiping right on a man on Tinder are less than 1% (look it up). The sheer level of rejection is a self-esteem destroyer. That being said, thank you for helping me from afar for many years. 🙂
One way I use, to keep thinking positively. With all of the stuff that's going on in the world. Is to notice what you're consuming in the media. News, TH-cam, twitter and so on. It's why I rarely watch the news and if I need to, I go to a website and read articles. I can't handle watching the news on TV. it's just so negative. But on youtube, twitter and other social media. I try only to follow people who's posts make me smile, or people that I like. I don't follow people who bitch about others, or who only post drama for the sake of drama. Because I don't care. It's fine that you don't like that person, but that really doesn't help me. My sister on the other hand, watch a lot of things with people who are talking negatively about others. And although some of these are things that should definitely be out there and should get attention. I can really feel how it drains me, to watch it. Kati's videos make me smile and cry. But they help :)
I never used tinder and I don’t intend to... but yes what you hear about it sounds bad... but that’s because so many people use it in that way... predators and desperately lonely people alike... and I‘m pretty sure tinder itself isn’t happy with its reputation... so maybe it makes sense even on a platform like tinder... to be honest... if you wanna meet real people you need to be real... but also, yes be careful on these platforms or anywhere online... there are mean spirited people out there... so maybe ask yourself if you’re in the right mindset to deal with the scum before signing up... but don’t let scum prevent you from trying new things... just be prepared that you will meet them.. And the ad doesn’t take away from the awesome message of the video... Kati has been great as usual... and I understand why she promotes the challenge... it is a good challenge... even if it’s coming from a questionable platform...
I enjoy your videos a lot, and I this one was really useful too! However, I feel that there was a bit too much product placement in it. I am totally ok with a sponsor segment at the start or the end, but I personally think it is a bit unfortunate if the sponsor sneaks into your own content. I find it harder to accept it as unbiased mental health advice then.
This is really well explained and also terrifying how much it looks like this is my actual therapist talking to me. The pains of remote sessions, I guess. Can't wait for the follow up on dealing with the feelings of having zero matches on Tinder 🙂
I was watching tv and I saw you on a TH-cam commercial!! 😆I remember watching some of your videos in the past, so I came to check you out again. I’m so happy for you!!
Hello Kati, thank you so much for your videos, as a medical student I’ve been benefitting so much from these information regarding different psychiatric conditions. Is it possible to make a video specifically for Rett Syndrome, Conversion and Somatization Syndromes? And thank you!
Hi Kati, If a therapist who is well experienced offers a client a daily check in to show them consistency which they never got in their lives (especially not from caregivers), is that a good idea? I would really like to try out who this works for me for a week and if that shouldn't do me any favor discuss it... Would that be a boundary crossing towards a therapist or is that wrong?
Thank you Kati for this thought provoker of a video! I really appreciate what you do here, and have followed your for a good year and then some. I've found that for me, your videos and the questions within have been just the right thing to support my well-being in between therapy sessions. I've learned a lot of important things about my own tendencies, strengths, and weaknesses - not knowing what those are makes it really difficult to grow as a person, through your videos and I wanted to express my gratitude for that. It seems as though a lot of people on here comments are relying on third party information regarding the state of Tinder. Now I am aware there are significant differences between different parts of the world with regards to how dating apps get used, and definitely do not claim to be an expert in this knowledge. But, regardless. I would urge you to perhaps look at why you think that Tinder is bad and the people on there equally so, and maybe you'll realize that your own presumptions might be getting in the way of your own happiness by preventing you from even trying something for yourself. Another thing I would think about is, why is it bad if people want to hook-up, or what ever they want that maybe different to what you might be looking at, why is it a threat to you? A lot of people we know want different things than we do, at work, our friends and family etc., but that doesn't mean there aren't also people with similar interests, goals and dreams as us, it's just a matter of being patient and finding those people. It takes a lot of effort and self awareness to find the right person, and I'm going to go on a limb here and ask whether that may be the real reason for resisting trying a dating app/service, than the statement that site x or y is full of jerks or whatever. Like anything meaningful, it takes work and energy to find the right person for you, and it's important to recognize whether or not we are ready for that. Or how much we are willing or able to put effort into achieving that goal at any time in our lives. There is no shame in realizing I don't have the energy it takes, or it seem like too much work. That's great if you can recognize that in yourself! Try to keep an open mind about your own feelings, and listen to what feels right for you. There is no shame in saying out loud what you want, and if someone reacts negatively to your desires, that's great; now you know they arent the right person. Trust yourself, be yourself, be open and honest and you will find what you are looking for. No online dating service is perfect, nor are any of us, but with a positive mindset, knowing what it is we desire and value, in ourselves and in others, you are already well on your way. Yes, some people might be annoying or what ever, but equally to how not everyone on here is a thoughtless inconsiderate jerk, the same applies to dating sites. Be kind and gentle go yourself, stay safe, and remember you are not alone. And no, I have nothing what so ever to do with Tinder.
Happy holidays and Happy New Year!:) Stay safe, wear your masks, and stay healthy everyone- God bless you all with only much happiness and health ALWAYS- you all are truly wonderful people and truly deserve it- GOD IS GREAT *ALWAYS*!:) Thanks so much for these videos, they have been so helpful to me this year!:)
Hey, Kati. Is it normal to act like a completely different person around different people (and sort of mimic their behaviour/ personality) to the point where you think you have no personality of you own? (Asking for a friend 🙃)
Tinder is where I've gotten the most abusive feedback over being honest about myself. The catfishing and the ads promising sex disguised as profiles responding to my profile don't help to improve my self image one bit either. Have you actually put a profile on Tinder and captured the responses?
How can I really stop hate myself because everybody tell me I'm such a terrible person and I heard a lot of people when I tried to help everybody I can how do you please tell me how to stop hating myself?
When I read this, I was like omg xD I was just trying to figure this out. 1.) How do you help yourself not feel like you are being selfish by claiming you did this and you did it well? Bridge thoughts? No, positive thoughts not easy. Yea been trying to help myself because I really really like/ love my bf and am afraid my mental health problems are/will push him away. Any tips here would be greatly appreciated.
Not to be dismissive (these videos are always great), but I'm wondering if there's a branch of psychotherapy working not on individual self-healing, but on collectively organizing. To get away from or change some systemic or situational problems that may be causing/worsening mental illnesses, either for whole groups or for an individual within a group. I know group therapy and specialist communes were bigger in psychology's past. Family therapy also still exists of course. But I'm wondering if there's other kinds of therapy programmes focused on helping people do collective self-improvement.
Damn, I wish you were my therapist. You explain these concepts so clearly and really leave me feeling like its ok that I have my issues and they/I can get better, Thank you!
Awe thanks :) I am so glad the videos and information is helpful and clear :) xoxo
I used to send Kati’s videos to me therapist when I had trouble expressing myself & we’d discuss them in session!
I have felt the same way. I'm not very comfortable with strangers specifically with therapy. For some reason I feel very connected and safe with Kati yet I have never spoken or met her. Must be her charm and likeability
Never used Tinder myself, but from what I've heard, it's probably the last place I would look for true connections and healthy relationships.
I actually made new friends via tinder and had a 1 one year relationship (the best I had actually) thanks to tinder. I had my fair share of crappy dates for sure but it's ok in comparison of the other people I've met.
of course but she’s only promoting the app, that’s only why she would ever mention it
Not really
@@naarac.5046 how? im explicitly stating that these are my thoughts and feelings, i don't deny that other people may have other experiences
Best mac and cheese recipe
You will need:
1/4 cup butter
1/4 cup flower
2 cups milk
3 cups grated marble cheddar cheese, or any other cheese(s) of your choice
Pasta (to feed about 5? I always eyeball it so don't have a measurement)
- put water on to boil, start follow the rest of the steps adding the pasta to the water when it's boiling
- in a saucepan on medium heat melt the butter
- add flower and stir until consistent (you may prefer to use a whisk)
- slowly add milk, make sure milk and flour/butter mixture are combined before adding more milk. It won't look like it's going to combine it first, but it will! :)
- wait for it to start bubbling, this will take about 5 minutes. Stir occasionally
- add grated cheese and stir in (the pasta should be done around this time if it hasn't finished cooking already)
- stir the pasta and cheese sauce together and TADA! Home made mac and cheese
I love this recipe because it's very customizable. Want to put bread crumbs on it after and bake it in the oven? Go for it! Want to change up the types of cheeses? You can do that too. I like to add black pepper in while I'm cooking. This recipe might sound harder than it is written out but it's super simple and definitely worth a try
youtube algorithms are starting to get a little too specific haha
hahah!! Well I hope it was at least a bit helpful :) xoxo
@@Katimorton of course! your videos are always so helpful!
Same! Makes me wonder....🤔😲
“We don’t have to be sure of a more positive perception, we just have to be open to the possibility of a different one.”
Wow. That line hits HARD.
As a teenager I pretended I liked a bunch of stuff in order to attract friends and really thought that interests = a personality. I was desperate for friends but it made the relashionships stressful when I could have just... been enjoying things I actually enjoyed and being myself. I should have been working on who I was as a person instead of what I "liked". If someone only likes you for your interests but not YOU it makes the relationship so surface level anyway. This was such a hard lesson to learn because I lost friends who were good people cause I didn't know who I was in the first place, I wasn't ever able to connect with them authentically. Being vulnerable is hard but it's so worth it!
You’re doing so well! It’s hard to know what’s the right way of doing things but you learn and I’m glad you’re learning to embrace yourself more and more friends who align with the authentic you will come your way for sure, in the meantime enjoy discovering yourself ❤️
When I read the title I said ok it’s time to listen, someone is talking about me 😂
:)
I hope it was helpful!! xoxo
Same haha 😂
Glad this is here, I really need advice on this rn.
But Tinder? Nah.
Right? I was under the impression that Tinder is a meat-market for hook-ups. Not what this 60 year old post-menopausal chick needs!
exactly. nothing says protecting my mental like tinder! haha, i think not
I hope the tips are helpful :) xoxo
I'm going to play devil's advocate here. I don't really like Tinder either, but it isn't successful because it's a horrible company. It's successful because people resonate with what Tinder offers. The problem is that people often use Tinder in an awful way or fall prey to marketing. If we want to improve the world around dating (or anything bad for that matter), we have to help people learn better dating options and improve people's ability to make educated and healthy decisions. Which is exactly what Kati is doing.
People can choose to use Tinder in healthy ways or give up using it altogether if they feel it doesn't work for them. There are plenty of ways to get into the dating pool in a way that supports what someone is looking for.
@@bjsmith1393 👏
👍I followed my heart.
I believe in myself.
I live by high standards.
I treat others the way I want to be treated.
I understand how precious time is
My therapist and I have been working towards this goal for two years now! I'm getting there (slowly but steadily), and I'm meeting her today! This video was a great way to start the day
I swear you're reading my mind. This is the second or third video this month that was something I needed to hear.
Pulling your mind from automatic negative judment" Switch to positive Compliments, I start with you to challenge myself! You have beautiful mind and soul!
Content of this video is excellent. Sponsorship of being your real self by Tinder??? Hilarious!
Glad you found it helpful :) I think Tinder is just trying to change the way people think of them? Not sure.. xoxo
I liked that last point about not faking interests--I think a lot of us were told when we were little "Just be yourself!" with no explanation of what that meant or how to do it. Once I finally understood that it meant "don't pretend to be someone you're not or hide parts of yourself so people will like that person better", I became much more successful in my relationships.
When I clarified what I want in my dating profiles despite the fact that they are considered undesirable preferences to men according to popular stereotypes of what most men overwhelmingly want in dating, I began to get more matches and meaningful ones and I bypassed matching with people who want things that I firmly don't.
Also, when I was in massive shoulder immobilizers when recovering from shoulder surgeries, many people would say things like first impressions are important and I should just wait until I didn't need those devices in a couple months, but I kept going on dates and putting myself out there. I did inform dates that I would be showing up in them because I didn't want to surprise them since none of my pictures showed massive slings, but I felt that if they didn't want a second date just because of a disability, they weren't really in it for the long run and I'd more quickly be able to weed out those people. Honestly, the truth of the matter was that I did get second dates and third and fourth, etc. I'm grateful I didn't let it stop me from being confident in who I was or whether I was attractive or a valuable partner during those 12 weeks.
Also, thank you for incorporating building mastery into this video. That is my absolute favorite DBT skill and the one that is most effective for me!
Just started the online dating thing on Bumble (sorry Tinder) It’s actually been a really great experience! As someone w/ high functioning ASD, being able to express my emotions through emoticons & gifs make it soooo much easier to connect!
T.k hello 🖐how have you been doing how are you coping with everything and with your health I'm glad I seen your name in the comments I want to thank you for recommending the 7cups health website to me didn't know about it or used it before I have recently been useing 7cups website and it's a good health website for Mental health problems and good to be able to talk and share things with people that understand I was wondering do u use the website is be nice to connect with you there let me know also your comments are always interesting and helpful and sometimes I can relate to them as always kati always brings good and important information for us all no matter what shes always of help to us no matter what we suffer from take care T.k 🙂
I didn't even think of that!! But I am so glad it's made dating and expressing yourself a bit easier!! Yay!! xoxo
"Stop That Thought!!!!" Pushing through here. That #2 is getting me something hard right now. Thanks for the encouragement Kati.
And #3, oh my.
S.m hello see you in the comments and now sending you a comment you always write nice comments and interesting how are you doing hope your well
Of course!! I hope it helps :) xoxo
What a councidence. I just finished stargazing. And during that time, I actually felt content with myself and where I am now. My worries faded for a brirf moment.
I try to feel good or better about myself each day best I can I think we all do take care everyone
I’m trying to get better at talking to myself with more positive words. It’s nice to be reminded that I’m not the only one. Your videos always make me feel better Katie ❤️
Awe I am so glad :) xoxo
Tips for feeling good about yourself mentioned in the video: focus on your strengths, recognize negative self-talk, put positivity out into the world and accept your limitations with courage.
1. Kati you look beautiful today!
2. I love the help you provide to so many people
wow that really did feel good :3
I've always struggled with self confidence as I have a stutter, I'm determined to improved my confidence 2021
Lol how’s that going for you
waching u all the time for a many time since long gone, you really explain things i allready know but then recodnize that other people also know. thanks for me not feeling so alone. its so easy to asume yout rhe only one in this. cheers darling, thanks a lot
I wait for your soothing voice every week .💖
I haven't dated in over fifteen years. 45 and single. Depression sucks.
Holy smokes, I was just thinking how I need to work on self talk and then youtube notifies me of this 😳
Same here. I am astonished😂😂
It's like YT was reading your mind!! :0 I hope it was helpful!!! xoxo
You are always such a smart and comforting voice.
I’m so glad you are sharing yourself with us!
Really needed to hear this after feeling like I failed an exam today.
❤️
The exam failed you! Chin up buttercup👍
Great video Kati. Another good way to be content, proud and happy about yourself is to work on serious hobbies like starting to learn an instrument or trying to explore your own creative side. Working hard on them makes you feel more confident with skills as well as give you a great sense of fulfillment and accomplishment. This is compounded when other people also appreciate your effort and skill. Keep rocking everyone!
this is honestly some of the most solid advice on this topic 👏
Tinder.....?? Really, I see it more as a let's hook up once and never meet again
Exactly. Not the healthiest thing to promote for mental health and wellbeing.
Feeling better about myself is something I definitely need to work on!! ❤️
Admir Barucija. Hello how are you doing how are you coping with your mental health I hope things are not to bad for you I always like your comment s and most of the time can understand and relate to what you write take care
@@nikkimckay860 I’m doing good! How are you?
I think we all do :) I hope the video was helpful!! xoxo
@@Katimorton It was!! Thank you so much! :)
Hey I have a question:
Why does talking about a certain topic that reminds me of past trauma make me so nervous? It's normal to get nervous with this, but I get to the point where I can't stop crying. I'm sorry if this is a stupid question lol but I'm really confused, so could you help?
#3: So true! Outer critic affects the inner critic.
4 easy steps, yet sometimes so hard to do. But I will keep on trying over and over again. I like especially the "spread positivity" message, because I think this is really so important in this world today. Focus on the positive and spread it and it will come back to you.
Tinder!? That site is a hive for predators & narcissists 🤣🤦♂️
I had no idea!! Being 37 and married makes me a bit out of date on online dating sites. I hope some of the tips and tools i offered were still helpful :) xoxo
Kati Morton seriously? I’m not much younger then you. We all know that Tinder is filled with predators
Ok that’s a little dramatic. I’d argue that there are more normal people on dating apps than not
Julia Catherine I would agree to that statement when speaking of dating apps in general. Looking back at my comment I can only speak from my own experience. I have personally come across a lot of men on Tinder that have made sexists comments to me and I felt like I was in a meat market to be honest. But I can only speak to my own experience
@@Jigglypowerpuffgirl LOL 🤦♂️🤦🤦♀️
Meditation and present moment awareness throughout the day completely changed everything about me. It helped me step out of the overthinking mind/ego and connected me more into the present moment. Also exercise which is an obvious one but practicing presence and mindfulness as much as possible was the best for me personally. A book I read by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now inspired me to make videos on here to help others. :)
Another fab video, since watching your channel I have made such progress with my therapist as you have given me the confidence to share things which are really uncomfortable. The reaction from my therapist was just like you said and nothing like I was expecting. xxx
10 days before Christmas after the craziest year ever... thank you for speaking directly to my soul lol
I felt called out with that last example 😂 I have that pattern of trying to be someone I think others want me to be 🙈
You are doing a great service by spreading this information on psychology, especially this past year. Thank you for all that you do to educate and help those in need of resources❤
I look forward to your videos every week thank you Kati
Awe I am so glad!! I hope this one was helpful :) xoxo
You are such a great help Kati ...love from Pakistan
Thank you for the kind words Sans! Hope you're doing well 🙌
If you put a lot of butter and cheese and just a little milk, it definitely improves the mac & cheese! Try also adding spices, and don't forget to use shells
You have no idea how much I needed this today.
nothing says protecting my mental like tinder!! haha, i think not
Katie, you have a beautiful perspective on the world. Thank you for sharing this with us I already feel better and along with so many others
Now Katie. Just how exactly do I implement all of this while getting no matches?
Great video on Self Empowerment ! Thanks for bring awareness on the need to build a more authentic connection.
Kati is a truly exceptional clinician. so give her a tiny break for securing what appears to be a sponsorship through Tinder. In many countries, Tinder is the "go to" dating site, and is not universally seen as a "hook up" site. In addition, many here are getting incredible support and clinical support for free, from Kati. Her videos truly may be the best, and only, online therapeutics that many suffering people might have access to.
My key strength:
I am extremely good, nay I'm the best, at screwing up and messing up everything good in my life.
Love #4. Accommodating my limitations has made such a HUGE difference for me.
this vid came on the right time. thank you, Kati💗!
This video was all that i needed today! I'm grateful for finding your channel. It has really helped me during this challenging time of the pandemic and others issues too. Thank you for your work.
Well shit, I need this today 😂 thanks, Kati ❤️
Of course!! I hope it was helpful :) xoxo
Love the content but, tinder? Come on now!
Kati, I love your channel. I remember when you had 4k followers and thinking to myself, “this is great, I can’t believe her channel isn’t more popular”. 🙂
The odds of a woman swiping right on a man on Tinder are less than 1% (look it up). The sheer level of rejection is a self-esteem destroyer.
That being said, thank you for helping me from afar for many years. 🙂
One way I use, to keep thinking positively. With all of the stuff that's going on in the world. Is to notice what you're consuming in the media. News, TH-cam, twitter and so on. It's why I rarely watch the news and if I need to, I go to a website and read articles. I can't handle watching the news on TV. it's just so negative. But on youtube, twitter and other social media. I try only to follow people who's posts make me smile, or people that I like. I don't follow people who bitch about others, or who only post drama for the sake of drama. Because I don't care. It's fine that you don't like that person, but that really doesn't help me.
My sister on the other hand, watch a lot of things with people who are talking negatively about others. And although some of these are things that should definitely be out there and should get attention. I can really feel how it drains me, to watch it.
Kati's videos make me smile and cry. But they help :)
Kati Morton you’re passion for education is helpful, valued, and expertly expressed. I love watching your videos:)
Thank you so much! I'm glad you like the videos :) :)
Could you do a video about living with chronic illness? How to deal with the limitations and changes.
Kati has a whole playlist on this! th-cam.com/play/PL_loxoCVsWqxDsCUIsgBZVxZ2ogfNoTde.html
Much needed. Thankyou so much kati❤❤ i was thinking about it today.
I never used tinder and I don’t intend to... but yes what you hear about it sounds bad... but that’s because so many people use it in that way... predators and desperately lonely people alike... and I‘m pretty sure tinder itself isn’t happy with its reputation... so maybe it makes sense even on a platform like tinder... to be honest... if you wanna meet real people you need to be real... but also, yes be careful on these platforms or anywhere online... there are mean spirited people out there... so maybe ask yourself if you’re in the right mindset to deal with the scum before signing up... but don’t let scum prevent you from trying new things... just be prepared that you will meet them..
And the ad doesn’t take away from the awesome message of the video... Kati has been great as usual... and I understand why she promotes the challenge... it is a good challenge... even if it’s coming from a questionable platform...
💐💐💐❤️❤️❤️ thank you I always wait for your videos you are amazing 🤩
Brilliant video! So grateful you’re on TH-cam and that you’re so real!❤️
Great tips for me to keep in mine as I get ready for a job interview tomorrow
You're like a supportive mom, and I mean this in a good way :)
I enjoy your videos a lot, and I this one was really useful too! However, I feel that there was a bit too much product placement in it. I am totally ok with a sponsor segment at the start or the end, but I personally think it is a bit unfortunate if the sponsor sneaks into your own content. I find it harder to accept it as unbiased mental health advice then.
I totally agree with you
hi, (perhaps not the best place to ask it) but how do you do that when everything is falling apart, and above all you are in the middle of a pandemic?
Thank you ❤️ Kati for creating this wonderful video ❤️ and giving me some tools to use ❤️ to change my life.
This is really well explained and also terrifying how much it looks like this is my actual therapist talking to me. The pains of remote sessions, I guess.
Can't wait for the follow up on dealing with the feelings of having zero matches on Tinder 🙂
Thank you so much Kati
I really needed this. Just had a neglected cry
Great video
Not on Tinder, in a happy and healthy relationship however I agree with the points you’ve made about building self confidence.
I was watching tv and I saw you on a TH-cam commercial!! 😆I remember watching some of your videos in the past, so I came to check you out again. I’m so happy for you!!
This was almost ok until you kept telling people to put things in their Tinder profile. It really took away from the positive message.
Donate to her Patreon.
yeah, right, wtf?
I mean it was sponsored by Tinder, so she had to tell something in regards to Tinder.
Hey Kati did one of your videos down? I sure you posted yesterday about feeling better about ourself
Hello Kati, thank you so much for your videos, as a medical student I’ve been benefitting so much from these information regarding different psychiatric conditions. Is it possible to make a video specifically for Rett Syndrome, Conversion and Somatization Syndromes? And thank you!
Hi Katie, I enjoyed listening to this and got a lot from it, thank you.
Hi Kati, If a therapist who is well experienced offers a client a daily check in to show them consistency which they never got in their lives (especially not from caregivers), is that a good idea? I would really like to try out who this works for me for a week and if that shouldn't do me any favor discuss it... Would that be a boundary crossing towards a therapist or is that wrong?
Thank you for these videos xx
You are so welcome!
I feel weird that I'm where I'm at just never feel comfortable in my own skin idk
Know that you are not alone.. it's very common and something I think we all have to work on. xoxo
Thank you Kati for this thought provoker of a video!
I really appreciate what you do here, and have followed your for a good year and then some. I've found that for me, your videos and the questions within have been just the right thing to support my well-being in between therapy sessions. I've learned a lot of important things about my own tendencies, strengths, and weaknesses - not knowing what those are makes it really difficult to grow as a person, through your videos and I wanted to express my gratitude for that.
It seems as though a lot of people on here comments are relying on third party information regarding the state of Tinder. Now I am aware there are significant differences between different parts of the world with regards to how dating apps get used, and definitely do not claim to be an expert in this knowledge. But, regardless. I would urge you to perhaps look at why you think that Tinder is bad and the people on there equally so, and maybe you'll realize that your own presumptions might be getting in the way of your own happiness by preventing you from even trying something for yourself.
Another thing I would think about is, why is it bad if people want to hook-up, or what ever they want that maybe different to what you might be looking at, why is it a threat to you? A lot of people we know want different things than we do, at work, our friends and family etc., but that doesn't mean there aren't also people with similar interests, goals and dreams as us, it's just a matter of being patient and finding those people.
It takes a lot of effort and self awareness to find the right person, and I'm going to go on a limb here and ask whether that may be the real reason for resisting trying a dating app/service, than the statement that site x or y is full of jerks or whatever. Like anything meaningful, it takes work and energy to find the right person for you, and it's important to recognize whether or not we are ready for that. Or how much we are willing or able to put effort into achieving that goal at any time in our lives. There is no shame in realizing I don't have the energy it takes, or it seem like too much work. That's great if you can recognize that in yourself!
Try to keep an open mind about your own feelings, and listen to what feels right for you. There is no shame in saying out loud what you want, and if someone reacts negatively to your desires, that's great; now you know they arent the right person. Trust yourself, be yourself, be open and honest and you will find what you are looking for.
No online dating service is perfect, nor are any of us, but with a positive mindset, knowing what it is we desire and value, in ourselves and in others, you are already well on your way. Yes, some people might be annoying or what ever, but equally to how not everyone on here is a thoughtless inconsiderate jerk, the same applies to dating sites.
Be kind and gentle go yourself, stay safe, and remember you are not alone.
And no, I have nothing what so ever to do with Tinder.
Happy holidays and Happy New Year!:) Stay safe, wear your masks, and stay healthy everyone- God bless you all with only much happiness and health ALWAYS- you all are truly wonderful people and truly deserve it- GOD IS GREAT *ALWAYS*!:) Thanks so much for these videos, they have been so helpful to me this year!:)
"Negativity spreads like a virus."
Yeah we all know how that'd end...
What if we do have facts to support our negative thoughts?
Tinder? 😳 Seriously?
I've never been first before.. 😳🙄🙄
Also love your videos 😊🥰❤️❤️
Woot woot!!
Hey, Kati. Is it normal to act like a completely different person around different people (and sort of mimic their behaviour/ personality) to the point where you think you have no personality of you own?
(Asking for a friend 🙃)
A LOT of people do that
Tinder is where I've gotten the most abusive feedback over being honest about myself. The catfishing and the ads promising sex disguised as profiles responding to my profile don't help to improve my self image one bit either. Have you actually put a profile on Tinder and captured the responses?
How can I really stop hate myself because everybody tell me I'm such a terrible person and I heard a lot of people when I tried to help everybody I can how do you please tell me how to stop hating myself?
Your videos are soo helpful and important! Thank you for making them!❤️
TH-cam is definitely putting me on the spot today 😅😅😅
iam feeling depressed ..
and not able to study ...please help me kati😶
Definately need this! Thanks Kati 🥰
Of course!! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo
When I read this, I was like omg xD I was just trying to figure this out.
1.) How do you help yourself not feel like you are being selfish by claiming you did this and you did it well? Bridge thoughts?
No, positive thoughts not easy.
Yea been trying to help myself because I really really like/ love my bf and am afraid my mental health problems are/will push him away. Any tips here would be greatly appreciated.
This is a great video! Love that color sweater!
Not to be dismissive (these videos are always great), but I'm wondering if there's a branch of psychotherapy working not on individual self-healing, but on collectively organizing. To get away from or change some systemic or situational problems that may be causing/worsening mental illnesses, either for whole groups or for an individual within a group. I know group therapy and specialist communes were bigger in psychology's past. Family therapy also still exists of course. But I'm wondering if there's other kinds of therapy programmes focused on helping people do collective self-improvement.
Kati I’m always so grateful for your videos
Question: where can I get the meditating frog???
West Elm or maybe Pier 1 Imports? I forget... It's been with me for a long time :)
This helped me a lot, Thanks Kati :D
Glad it helped!