How to build resilience. 1. Journaling 2. Create a support system 3. Take care of basic needs 4. Notice your self-talk 5. Live with purpose 6. Become Friends with your feelings 7. Manage impulses 8. Learn to problem solve 9. Coping skills 10. Set goals
I've always said, "Befriend your feelings." Eventually, I learned to be my own best friend. It's wonderful when we can be in our own corner because there may be times in life when there's no one there to get our back.
The best bridge statement I’ve found is the premise that “if I were such a bad person, I wouldn’t be worrying about becoming better, so I’m actually nice for trying”. It’s an universal truth and it can be quite relieving and motivating!
I don't even do it on purpose but whenever I feel bad, I always write, and when I am feeling great I feel no need to journal, I almost have to force myself to start writing. But when I am down, there isn't enough paper on the planet. 😀
Yes!! It's always so much easier to write about the bad things.. but harder to focus on the positive. It's because our brain is wired to worry about any threats.. to keep up safe. The good stuff just isn't as interesting to it.. ugh. xoxo
Has anyone ever talked about the art that’s often behind Katie in her videos? A myriad of colors and textures, it reminds that everyone, regardless of their mental health, fits on the spectrum. We are all connected - all beautiful in our own unique ways.
Resiliency is easily the biggest issue in my family. From now on, at bedtime I'm going to have my kids say 3 positive things about themselves and I'm going to list mine as well ❤️
Keep talking about self talk, it's so fundamental!! I've learnt to try and catch those moments where I do start negative self talk, giving myself a moment to step back and remove myself from it
I've been journaling off an on for the past year and last night I had what I call a "butterfly moment" as I was writing in my journal. A butterfly moment, to me, is a major a-ha moment that dramatically shifts a person's thought to the core that their perception is forever changed for the better. In that moment, all the stress I had been carrying for months -- just lifted.
I appreciate that you left the list on the left side of the screen as you continued to speak about them, it helped me follow along well. Everyone needs a little more resiliency!! 😊😊
Hi Kati, I’m just trying to express that I’m thankful for the community you’ve helped bring together here. I commented last Thursday and got connected to a couple people here that were very encouraging to speak with. I struggle with so much, but it helped a bit. Sometimes, I still want to die.
There's a slightly different wording of that thought you mentioned that I like: "A sorrow shared is but half the trouble, but a joy that's shared is joy that's doubled." Thank you for your efforts. They are helping.
I'm watching this while having a Not So Good Day and when you came to the basic needs, I paused the video and made myself something to eat. Can't manage this day on an empty stomach... Good to get that reminder.
That part about talking to yourself more like a loved one would, that took me many years to get. When you're used to hearing bad from most others, it's how you begin speaking to yourself. Of course, there are others who seem to have no issue with this at all. They never think ill of themselves.
Thank you, Kati, this is the first time I am writing a comment here, buy I wanted to let you know that you are helping a lot, your advice is hands-on, and that listing the steps on the left in different colours is very helpful and intuitive. Keep up the amazing work and for all of you out there, keep recovering, keep doing your best; better days shall come!
This was so helpful! My car burst into flames on my Birthday... Sept 25 2019... It was a day I was looking forward to for a long time. And my car engine literally started on fire for no reason. I have been so sad for the past week and I know it will be better... thank you for this video
I started grad school a month ago, and I had my first kind of breakdown over the weekend. I’m in grad school so I can get into medical school. I often feel dumber than my classmates, and not everyone is willing to help each other out.(even going so far as to try to get others to slack off by making it seem like they themselves are partying all the time.) I have to come up with better coping skills, and this video is a good one I can come back to.
Jess N. Ever heard of Imposter Syndrome? Happens to a lot of grad students. (I’ll put a link to Kati’s video on it below). Also, it sounds like some of ur classmates are jackasses! th-cam.com/video/J7OpHU_B61M/w-d-xo.html
I have had low level depression for as long as I can remember along with social anxiety to where it has effected my life to where I can not hold jobs easily and have to drink to do anything social. I have not had a date in 23 years I have such low self esteem. I was my mother's caretaker and it was extremely stressful and the overwhelming majority of the caretaking fell on me and I was the least financially or emotionally able to do this. I did it because I loved my mother so much. She died at the end of Aug 2019 and the grief is so bad still on top of having depression I am having a hard time bouncing back. I have to because I have to work and support myself before homelessness happens. It has been almost 6 months and I have barely bounced back from all of this.
My resiliency was like non existent. I used to wake up and all but one or two of my chips were instantly gone from all the trauma and mess in my head. The good things didn't lift me up at all and the bad stuff brought me really low for a long time. I wasn't worth investing in or spending time or energy on things that were just for me or to care for me. An awesome counselor, some EMDR (still going) and a lot of work later and i'm getting better. All these are a good reminder, still many that I need to work on thanks :) and I always make sure to watch ads when they pop up! My little way of supporting what you do! Thank you!
My number one way to keep my resiliency up is to take care of my basic needs...the days when I can’t get enough sleep, eat often enough, or stay hydrated are the days I’m most likely to experience a “crisis.”
Journaling is helping me A LOT. I did it when I was younger... but now that I'm doing therapy... it seriously helps for discussions and for me to return to being positive and grow.. and just getting things out.
I use HALT a lot, and set proper boundaries to begin with. I love this list! Especially the last one..setting goals, because that will give you purpose. Thanks always Kati.
I want to thank you for making this kind of content. I've always been scared to get help for my mental illnesses, but you've helped ease that fear. I'm finally, for the first time, seeing someone this week so I can get better and actually live life to the fullest.
Thank you so much for this video! Very helpful! I know I speak for many others when I say, when one cant afford therapy and wants to change, these videos make a huge difference.
Love that you're covering this! I recently finished a coaching module on resiliency, where we use an assessment, explore the clients potential thinking traps, iceberg beliefs, use ABC's (CBT tools) and exercises to 'Put it in Perspective' as well as more! It's a really exciting and involved coaching model and I LOVE IT! All in all, in my program we teach the client to identify their pitfalls and create tools to pull themselves out and prevent falling back in :) I feel like its something we all need.
Journaling all the way! ✌🏻✊🏻 I know that since I started therapy, my resilience has gotten stronger. But sometimes I don’t even realize how well I’m doing - a crisis comes up, and I think I’m completely handling it wrong or that I’m not doing good enough. My therapist has reminded me a few times that I’m more resilient than I give myself credit for. It’s nice to have that outside confirmation and reassurance. 💛
One of my ways to build resilience is watching your videos regularly! I recommend you to others too since you are so helpful and comforting. Thank you Kati.
I am thankful I have the skills to shift my mindset. I am thankful I have the tools to gain knowledge. Thinking about resilience and growing up in “survival mode.” Sometimes I feel like I am trying to make it in the world instead of flourishing and thriving naturally. I want to thrive, not survive. “Even the tiniest of flowers can have the toughest roots.” 🌸
these are very good tips! i used to have intense anxiety (and still somewhat do but less frequently) it helped me to journal, get rid of negative self talk and replace it with positive self talk, and have coping skills. one of the ways i coped (other than to talk with friends/family) was to watch A LOT of funny TV shows/movies/TH-cam videos. when it was hard for me to even wake up and get through my morning routine, i just popped on a funny TH-cam video and watched that as i brushed my teeth and it helped me immensely.
2 things that have helped me with resiliency: I got a password protected note taking app on my phone, so I can keep a journal whenever, wherever, and not worry about it being read by others. And 2: I got a fitness tracker, with a goal of doing 10,000 steps per day. I've achieved this goal 9 days in a row now! It also converts activities like yoga and dancing into steps, so everything counts. It also tracks my sleep, and I can see that on average I'm getting about 5 - 6 hours a night. Before having a baby I'd get 8 hours most nights. So this makes me feel less guilty about napping when my baby naps to catch up on sleep.
These are great ways to build resiliency! I think "notice your self talk" has been the most important for me. As I started paying attention to what was going on in me, I was able to start targeting the lies that were leading to the issues. Great job Katie!
The book Gravity and Grace by Simone Weil has a profound impact on my resiliency, especially in finding brief mantras and reminders. "I too am other than what I imagine myself to be. To know this is forgiveness."
Hi Katie, this video was just shared in a webinar on ambiguous loss. I think it was a helpful video. I want to add another tip: the power of HUMOR is critical as well. Thanks, keep doing your helpful work.
I think resilience is such an interesting topic. In school I kind of randomly chose "resilience and the seven factors" as my thesis topic and it definitely helped me to grow as a human being!! I love it that you are talking to your viewers about it, because resilience is powerful or it's powerful to know something about it!! Lovely greetings from Austria 🇦🇹😊💕
I've been semi-actively working on this very thing. Haven't been hospitalized in 21 months, which is the longest in quite a few years. I've had a few minor slip-ups (self harm.) but continue to get stronger instead of automatically giving into the urges or even the mindset itself. I fight instead of giving into going to the hospital. I miss the hospital less and less. I try to be patient with myself but it's frustrating. I'm 53-don't want to spend these years struggling to stay out of a psych unit.
I was in an ambulance a few times for mental health reasons. I am 14 and have been through a lot. One of the EMS workers told me how resilient i have been and that i just need some extra help. So i got a tattoo of the word resilience on my whole forearm over my scars to remember how i got through it. So this video really touched me, live you so much could you talk more about anorexia possible?
Halle Pashkin Kati already has a TON of videos on anorexia! Just put “Kati Morton anorexia” into the search bar! U can also ck out her eating disorder playlist! th-cam.com/play/PLAB41960D35357E06.html
Thanks Kati , looking for tips on coping skills,and DBT , I'm 61 and just beginning trauma therapy, I'm looking to learn more about the resiliency zone so I can eliminate or mange my emotions while taking part , because as of now I'm having a hard time just taking about how I feel, because I've really never felt completely comfortable with my feelings in a very long time and so I've been swallowing all my feelings, and it's a lump in my throat. So thankful for your videos.
I went to SAFE Alternatives over 10 years ago back when they had an inpatient to outpatient 30 day program. Although I still struggle with negative self-talk, I at least have become more self-aware emotionally. Makes it easier to deal with impulses when I can spot an emotional trigger and finally have a damn name for what emotion I’m feeling.
It really helped me for resiliency to build my body awareness and meditating. Also, what I found out lately and that also helped was eating fruits more, especially bevore stressful/potentially overwhelming events. I think that works because of the fruit sugar, that doesn´t pull you down as quickly as raffined sugar and if you have more fructoses in your blood you have more energy and if you have more energy the chances of successfully getting out of a situation or confronting it makes you more likely to go in fight or flight mode rather than shut down, hoplessness, helpnessness and depression and it´s easier dealing with fight or flight, because you aren´t "completely gone". Though I will warn you if you are anxious (as I am too), because more energy and not being shut down also means that you can feel more of your anxiety so if anxiety is your main stressor (mine is depression and helplessness) then rather not eat too much fruit or sugary things in anxious triggering situations. What´s also important is co-regulation with friends/family/a partner in a situation that still overwhelms you or where your notice you have the urge to "overreact". Another thing is having a talisman (maybe a stone or an amulette...) close by your body so you can imagine it protects you and takes all the "bad energy" thrown at you or coming up inside in and transforms it to something good you then receive. Also maybe do a self devense course so you have the feeling you could strike back if you had to and don´t have to resignate. And: Know your strenghts and talents and use them. I, for example, am a very creative person, so I will draw or imagine how things had to be so I would feel safe or what I´d like to do with the person that upset me and I am usually one of the smartest 5% of the people in the room so I know (if I want(ed) to) I could verbally shred the other persons arguements or statements into pieces (which I sometimes do, but that´s not for everyone as it self-selects the people out that can´t deal with being made more concious and learning by not being run by your narcissistic defense shell). Or maybe you are very kind, then remember yourself, that what the person is saying "You´re such a brat!" is not true.
I’m always told I’m resilient, especially by the crisis text line. I also journal and have a good support system online and I see a therapist. I called the suicide hotline tonight too and they did an assessment it was really helpful I wouldn’t even be watching this video if I didn’t call bc well.. yanno
This is so important for HSPs like myself. Just yesterday morning I had a great day until I came across a narcissist (bus driver). I tried to apply at first (unknowingly he's a narc) NVC techniques for non violent communication asking him whether he's upset for me not walking to the bus in the queue but instead waiting for him to drive and goodness, he really DID NOT enjoy to accept any of my questions regarding how he was feeling but just aiming at putting me down ("next time just walk to the bus when you see it in the queue"). That not only stole some of my poker chips, but actually put me on minus. I'm in debt of poker chips and it's all about my response to the situation - the whole day basically was destroyed in a blink of an eye (am still not feeling well even after journaling, going out, talking to strangers, petting my dog, talking kindly to myself, doing self therapy [self psychoanalysis] and also getting good vibes from the protest for climate change I participated at [that's why I took the bus])) - even though I understand why I react like I do [all the triggers etc.], and I apply good self talk etc. it just swings back into this extreme where I am feeling enraged and as if the world will end to the point I feel like the utmost shit and can't do anything and this is because I didn't get much help/guidance when I was small for my emotions from my parents so I need to fill that in, but man isn't it so hard especially after you work on your anger, accept it to become weak and vulnerable in the world wide open with people just to fucking hit a narc. to destroy your sense of being and know that he has no empathy and there's nothing to do there? Even though I understand that, still doesn't make me not feel like shit. All the better, makes me value others more but it's very hard for me to come back from that state :( been 2 days now and this just proves how much I should still work on resiliency... probably until I die (most probably). These videos help a lot :) thank you.
Your videos are very easy to understand and inspiring for realistic start for action. I subscribed immediately after I bumped into one of your videos. If you would pleade post a video on explaining the harms of using alcohol or marijuana to handle would really help someone I know and love dearly. Another topic I think would be helpful is to address a helpful solution to people refusing to take antidepressants to avoid the weight gain. Thank you so much for your time.
when i was tsrugglimg, i started writing 'letters to god'. every evening, i would sit down with my notebook and essentially just vent every thought,worry uncertainty and grattitudei had . in the end it helped not because it suddenly made everything ok,but because i realised i had gone through a lot but miraculously enough, i got through it.
I also found that when it comes to resiliency one should be creative and flexible. (Kind of like the philosophy of Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do) For example: I lost someone very special to me and to cope with the sorrow, I made a children's book about them that's good enough for publishing! Also: I shared this video with my therapist! Great work as always, Kati!
Thanks for the video! I've been in ED recovery for some years now and recently my ED thoughts are trying to distract me from important stuff! I think your steps will help me get refocused and obviously more resilient! 💙
I like to think of mental health as an ocean. The sealevel is at a certain height, and it takes time to change. Then there are waves on top that change quickly. The sealevel is your base mood and the waves are the more temporary feelings. If the sealevel is high the lowest point of the wave is still not very deep, and if the sea is low even a big wave doesnt reach as high.
When I set goals I alsways get cynical comments from my family and friends like: "Ha, you always make plans that never work out!" it makes me cringe cause I know it's true and I find myself giving up on almost all of them right away. I stopped telling people what I'm up to and for some reason they don't like that either.
Omg you mentioned 7 Cups! Also, funny thing. I’m a listener on 7 Cups, and my bio is “A burden shared is a burden halved” :D love this video, it is so much needed for me at this moment. I’m going to track my mood in the way you mentioned, as my current mood tracker isn’t working that great (so many moods in one day!)
I'm good with resilience from things that don't effect my self confidence e.g. being in stressful situation at work/emergency etc I can get over easily, but if something hits my self esteem I seem to hide away like an animal licking its wounds before I feel I can get into the world again and become my confident self once more
I'm really glad I've found your channel, you help me a lot. Unfortunately, I just noticed that my self talk is a problem. Thankfully you always make the effort to drive it home in almost every video! 😂 I am identifying steps to fix it. Hopefully that will help me out work any other areas 😁 God bless you!
I just recently discovered your channel and it has been amazing! You are amazing. Thank you for your insights and tips. 😊 i hope you don't get tired of helping other people through your videos. ❤
Internal strength will give a person the ability to make it through the challenges of this human journey without being knocked out, without feeling hopeless. A person with internal strength will not lose purpose or direction in this human journey.
Hi Kati! Could you maybe make a video on CBASP? Like... What makes it superior to other types of therapy / what are other therapies missing to effectively treat a refractory long-lasting double depression / why should CBASP help when other therapies didn't?
I don’t like goals, I can get too caught up with them, doing them perfectly, adding too many on top of others, getting so frustrated when I fail. I naturally work towards what I want to achieve and prefer to celebrate it when I achieve it rather than make lists to tick off
How to build resilience.
1. Journaling
2. Create a support system
3. Take care of basic needs
4. Notice your self-talk
5. Live with purpose
6. Become Friends with your feelings
7. Manage impulses
8. Learn to problem solve
9. Coping skills
10. Set goals
This is helpful, thank you. Today you helped someone, me ! X
This is like the basic solution for any issues you are having with yourself :v
I've always said, "Befriend your feelings." Eventually, I learned to be my own best friend. It's wonderful when we can be in our own corner because there may be times in life when there's no one there to get our back.
Bingo
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS iv been doing this hardly to say sometimes it's get boring at some point still mastering this
The best bridge statement I’ve found is the premise that “if I were such a bad person, I wouldn’t be worrying about becoming better, so I’m actually nice for trying”. It’s an universal truth and it can be quite relieving and motivating!
awww love it!
People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences. Resilience is SO important.
Your "welcome" cures my depression temporarily OMG I love u
Natalie Karmbäck Right? Love her “Welcome” too :)
@@AsgardStudios it's so happy and cute haha
Right? It's so upbeat and adorable. I love it.
@@violentfemme30 YESS IT MAKES MY DAY REALLY
It's really the only thing that saved me from suicide ❤
I don't even do it on purpose but whenever I feel bad, I always write, and when I am feeling great I feel no need to journal, I almost have to force myself to start writing. But when I am down, there isn't enough paper on the planet. 😀
same omg
Yes!! It's always so much easier to write about the bad things.. but harder to focus on the positive. It's because our brain is wired to worry about any threats.. to keep up safe. The good stuff just isn't as interesting to it.. ugh. xoxo
Me too! And drawing, too. I usually get more inspired when I'm sad.
Omg I’m the same way
Same with my Poems
Has anyone ever talked about the art that’s often behind Katie in her videos? A myriad of colors and textures, it reminds that everyone, regardless of their mental health, fits on the spectrum. We are all connected - all beautiful in our own unique ways.
Resiliency is easily the biggest issue in my family. From now on, at bedtime I'm going to have my kids say 3 positive things about themselves and I'm going to list mine as well ❤️
Thanks for the video, we all appreciate your work. Everyone have a great week
No matter what mood I'm in, the way you say "welcome" always makes me smile.
Keep talking about self talk, it's so fundamental!! I've learnt to try and catch those moments where I do start negative self talk, giving myself a moment to step back and remove myself from it
Same here! becoming aware of my self talk has been so impactful for me!
I’ve been working on improving my resilience for a long time, there’s always more work that could be done!! ❤️
I am so glad you are working on this :) xoxo
Kati Morton Thank you so much, Kati 😇💗 you’re the greatest
This was seriously like a personal therapy session for me. I needed to hear so much of this and didn't even realize it!
This channel is by far one of my favorite channels of all time
Thank you for everything you do Kati
Awe thanks :) I am so glad you are enjoying the videos!!! xoxo
@@Katimorton you're welcome & you're awesome :)
I would say resilience is the number one ingredient in any healing journey....just keep getting back up. Thanks for another great video, Kati!
I've been journaling off an on for the past year and last night I had what I call a "butterfly moment" as I was writing in my journal. A butterfly moment, to me, is a major a-ha moment that dramatically shifts a person's thought to the core that their perception is forever changed for the better. In that moment, all the stress I had been carrying for months -- just lifted.
I appreciate that you left the list on the left side of the screen as you continued to speak about them, it helped me follow along well. Everyone needs a little more resiliency!! 😊😊
I just can't thank you enough for these videos ❣️(almost feel guilty for watching it for free)
That's what they are here for!! So glad they are helpful :) xoxo
Oml I feel the same way
Hi Kati, I’m just trying to express that I’m thankful for the community you’ve helped bring together here. I commented last Thursday and got connected to a couple people here that were very encouraging to speak with. I struggle with so much, but it helped a bit. Sometimes, I still want to die.
Austyn humble ❤️
There's a slightly different wording of that thought you mentioned that I like: "A sorrow shared is but half the trouble, but a joy that's shared is joy that's doubled." Thank you for your efforts. They are helping.
I'm watching this while having a Not So Good Day and when you came to the basic needs, I paused the video and made myself something to eat. Can't manage this day on an empty stomach... Good to get that reminder.
You seriously don't have any video that doesn't help me😍😍
Agree with you.💕
That part about talking to yourself more like a loved one would, that took me many years to get. When you're used to hearing bad from most others, it's how you begin speaking to yourself.
Of course, there are others who seem to have no issue with this at all. They never think ill of themselves.
So clear, accessible, and easy to share. Thanks for checking in!
I'm hurting and you have helped me hang on and fight harder. Thank you Katie.
Thank you, Kati, this is the first time I am writing a comment here, buy I wanted to let you know that you are helping a lot, your advice is hands-on, and that listing the steps on the left in different colours is very helpful and intuitive. Keep up the amazing work and for all of you out there, keep recovering, keep doing your best; better days shall come!
Ana Ghinet ❤️
This was so helpful! My car burst into flames on my Birthday... Sept 25 2019... It was a day I was looking forward to for a long time. And my car engine literally started on fire for no reason. I have been so sad for the past week and I know it will be better... thank you for this video
I started grad school a month ago, and I had my first kind of breakdown over the weekend. I’m in grad school so I can get into medical school. I often feel dumber than my classmates, and not everyone is willing to help each other out.(even going so far as to try to get others to slack off by making it seem like they themselves are partying all the time.) I have to come up with better coping skills, and this video is a good one I can come back to.
Jess N. Ever heard of Imposter Syndrome? Happens to a lot of grad students. (I’ll put a link to Kati’s video on it below). Also, it sounds like some of ur classmates are jackasses! th-cam.com/video/J7OpHU_B61M/w-d-xo.html
I have had low level depression for as long as I can remember along with social anxiety to where it has effected my life to where I can not hold jobs easily and have to drink to do anything social. I have not had a date in 23 years I have such low self esteem. I was my mother's caretaker and it was extremely stressful and the overwhelming majority of the caretaking fell on me and I was the least financially or emotionally able to do this. I did it because I loved my mother so much. She died at the end of Aug 2019 and the grief is so bad still on top of having depression I am having a hard time bouncing back. I have to because I have to work and support myself before homelessness happens. It has been almost 6 months and I have barely bounced back from all of this.
Heather Winer im feeling you xxx
My resiliency was like non existent. I used to wake up and all but one or two of my chips were instantly gone from all the trauma and mess in my head. The good things didn't lift me up at all and the bad stuff brought me really low for a long time. I wasn't worth investing in or spending time or energy on things that were just for me or to care for me. An awesome counselor, some EMDR (still going) and a lot of work later and i'm getting better. All these are a good reminder, still many that I need to work on thanks :) and I always make sure to watch ads when they pop up! My little way of supporting what you do! Thank you!
My number one way to keep my resiliency up is to take care of my basic needs...the days when I can’t get enough sleep, eat often enough, or stay hydrated are the days I’m most likely to experience a “crisis.”
Journaling is helping me A LOT. I did it when I was younger... but now that I'm doing therapy... it seriously helps for discussions and for me to return to being positive and grow.. and just getting things out.
I use HALT a lot, and set proper boundaries to begin with.
I love this list! Especially the last one..setting goals, because that will give you purpose.
Thanks always Kati.
I want to thank you for making this kind of content. I've always been scared to get help for my mental illnesses, but you've helped ease that fear. I'm finally, for the first time, seeing someone this week so I can get better and actually live life to the fullest.
Thank you so much for this video! Very helpful! I know I speak for many others when I say, when one cant afford therapy and wants to change, these videos make a huge difference.
Love that you're covering this! I recently finished a coaching module on resiliency, where we use an assessment, explore the clients potential thinking traps, iceberg beliefs, use ABC's (CBT tools) and exercises to 'Put it in Perspective' as well as more! It's a really exciting and involved coaching model and I LOVE IT! All in all, in my program we teach the client to identify their pitfalls and create tools to pull themselves out and prevent falling back in :) I feel like its something we all need.
As a fellow LMFT, you are one of my favorite's on youtube! Thank you for the excellent content!!
Journaling all the way! ✌🏻✊🏻
I know that since I started therapy, my resilience has gotten stronger. But sometimes I don’t even realize how well I’m doing - a crisis comes up, and I think I’m completely handling it wrong or that I’m not doing good enough. My therapist has reminded me a few times that I’m more resilient than I give myself credit for. It’s nice to have that outside confirmation and reassurance. 💛
One of my ways to build resilience is watching your videos regularly! I recommend you to others too since you are so helpful and comforting. Thank you Kati.
Showering once a week whether I need it or not. No excuses!
I am thankful I have the skills to shift my mindset. I am thankful I have the tools to gain knowledge. Thinking about resilience and growing up in “survival mode.” Sometimes I feel like I am trying to make it in the world instead of flourishing and thriving naturally. I want to thrive, not survive. “Even the tiniest of flowers can have the toughest roots.” 🌸
Hey Kati I love your videos and you’ve helped me a lot during my tough times. Can you please make more videos on PTSD and C-PTSD?
This was just so positive without dismissing any of the struggles somebody might have.
Thanks for always being so caring and nice!
these are very good tips! i used to have intense anxiety (and still somewhat do but less frequently) it helped me to journal, get rid of negative self talk and replace it with positive self talk, and have coping skills. one of the ways i coped (other than to talk with friends/family) was to watch A LOT of funny TV shows/movies/TH-cam videos. when it was hard for me to even wake up and get through my morning routine, i just popped on a funny TH-cam video and watched that as i brushed my teeth and it helped me immensely.
2 things that have helped me with resiliency:
I got a password protected note taking app on my phone, so I can keep a journal whenever, wherever, and not worry about it being read by others.
And 2: I got a fitness tracker, with a goal of doing 10,000 steps per day.
I've achieved this goal 9 days in a row now! It also converts activities like yoga and dancing into steps, so everything counts. It also tracks my sleep, and I can see that on average I'm getting about 5 - 6 hours a night. Before having a baby I'd get 8 hours most nights. So this makes me feel less guilty about napping when my baby naps to catch up on sleep.
These are great ways to build resiliency! I think "notice your self talk" has been the most important for me. As I started paying attention to what was going on in me, I was able to start targeting the lies that were leading to the issues. Great job Katie!
The book Gravity and Grace by Simone Weil has a profound impact on my resiliency, especially in finding brief mantras and reminders. "I too am other than what I imagine myself to be. To know this is forgiveness."
Kati you’re a star. You’ve helped me improve the quality of my life countless times (:
Hi Katie, this video was just shared in a webinar on ambiguous loss. I think it was a helpful video. I want to add another tip: the power of HUMOR is critical as well. Thanks, keep doing your helpful work.
I love the quote about joy and sorrow.
I NEED TO SAVE THIS FOR WHEN I FEEL DOWN
I think resilience is such an interesting topic. In school I kind of randomly chose "resilience and the seven factors" as my thesis topic and it definitely helped me to grow as a human being!!
I love it that you are talking to your viewers about it, because resilience is powerful or it's powerful to know something about it!! Lovely greetings from Austria 🇦🇹😊💕
Her “Welcome!” is legit the cutest thing ever!
I've been semi-actively working on this very thing. Haven't been hospitalized in 21 months, which is the longest in quite a few years. I've had a few minor slip-ups (self harm.) but continue to get stronger instead of automatically giving into the urges or even the mindset itself. I fight instead of giving into going to the hospital. I miss the hospital less and less. I try to be patient with myself but it's frustrating. I'm 53-don't want to spend these years struggling to stay out of a psych unit.
Watermelon Wishes you got this! ❤️💪❤️👍
@@_just_TK Thank you! I appreciate that.😊
I was in an ambulance a few times for mental health reasons. I am 14 and have been through a lot. One of the EMS workers told me how resilient i have been and that i just need some extra help. So i got a tattoo of the word resilience on my whole forearm over my scars to remember how i got through it. So this video really touched me, live you so much could you talk more about anorexia possible?
Halle Pashkin Kati already has a TON of videos on anorexia! Just put “Kati Morton anorexia” into the search bar! U can also ck out her eating disorder playlist! th-cam.com/play/PLAB41960D35357E06.html
God bless you Kati Morton. You've helped me so much.
Thank you 💐may God bless you for the good work you r doing to the humanity 🙏
Oh boy I just love the welcome at the beginning.🤗💜
Thanks you so much for this video 😘😘. Didn’t know stuffing things down or repression is not a part of resilience. I do that all the time
I can keep hearing that "welcome" in the intro for hours (so adorable)
Thanks Kati , looking for tips on coping skills,and DBT , I'm 61 and just beginning trauma therapy, I'm looking to learn more about the resiliency zone so I can eliminate or mange my emotions while taking part , because as of now I'm having a hard time just taking about how I feel, because I've really never felt completely comfortable with my feelings in a very long time and so I've been swallowing all my feelings, and it's a lump in my throat. So thankful for your videos.
I went to SAFE Alternatives over 10 years ago back when they had an inpatient to outpatient 30 day program. Although I still struggle with negative self-talk, I at least have become more self-aware emotionally. Makes it easier to deal with impulses when I can spot an emotional trigger and finally have a damn name for what emotion I’m feeling.
Thank you for making informative videos as always!
Of course! xoxo
It really helped me for resiliency to build my body awareness and meditating. Also, what I found out lately and that also helped was eating fruits more, especially bevore stressful/potentially overwhelming events. I think that works because of the fruit sugar, that doesn´t pull you down as quickly as raffined sugar and if you have more fructoses in your blood you have more energy and if you have more energy the chances of successfully getting out of a situation or confronting it makes you more likely to go in fight or flight mode rather than shut down, hoplessness, helpnessness and depression and it´s easier dealing with fight or flight, because you aren´t "completely gone". Though I will warn you if you are anxious (as I am too), because more energy and not being shut down also means that you can feel more of your anxiety so if anxiety is your main stressor (mine is depression and helplessness) then rather not eat too much fruit or sugary things in anxious triggering situations. What´s also important is co-regulation with friends/family/a partner in a situation that still overwhelms you or where your notice you have the urge to "overreact". Another thing is having a talisman (maybe a stone or an amulette...) close by your body so you can imagine it protects you and takes all the "bad energy" thrown at you or coming up inside in and transforms it to something good you then receive. Also maybe do a self devense course so you have the feeling you could strike back if you had to and don´t have to resignate. And: Know your strenghts and talents and use them. I, for example, am a very creative person, so I will draw or imagine how things had to be so I would feel safe or what I´d like to do with the person that upset me and I am usually one of the smartest 5% of the people in the room so I know (if I want(ed) to) I could verbally shred the other persons arguements or statements into pieces (which I sometimes do, but that´s not for everyone as it self-selects the people out that can´t deal with being made more concious and learning by not being run by your narcissistic defense shell). Or maybe you are very kind, then remember yourself, that what the person is saying "You´re such a brat!" is not true.
pure wisdom here, thank you again Kati!!!!
Kati Morton for President 2020 !!!
Agree 100% especially about journaling. I also draw or paint as my coping mechanism
First comment ! love you kati, your past eating disorders videos helped me a lot
william mv woot woot!
Awe I am so glad my videos have been helpful!!! xoxo
I’m always told I’m resilient, especially by the crisis text line. I also journal and have a good support system online and I see a therapist. I called the suicide hotline tonight too and they did an assessment it was really helpful I wouldn’t even be watching this video if I didn’t call bc well.. yanno
This is so important for HSPs like myself. Just yesterday morning I had a great day until I came across a narcissist (bus driver). I tried to apply at first (unknowingly he's a narc) NVC techniques for non violent communication asking him whether he's upset for me not walking to the bus in the queue but instead waiting for him to drive and goodness, he really DID NOT enjoy to accept any of my questions regarding how he was feeling but just aiming at putting me down ("next time just walk to the bus when you see it in the queue").
That not only stole some of my poker chips, but actually put me on minus. I'm in debt of poker chips and it's all about my response to the situation - the whole day basically was destroyed in a blink of an eye (am still not feeling well even after journaling, going out, talking to strangers, petting my dog, talking kindly to myself, doing self therapy [self psychoanalysis] and also getting good vibes from the protest for climate change I participated at [that's why I took the bus])) - even though I understand why I react like I do [all the triggers etc.], and I apply good self talk etc. it just swings back into this extreme where I am feeling enraged and as if the world will end to the point I feel like the utmost shit and can't do anything and this is because I didn't get much help/guidance when I was small for my emotions from my parents so I need to fill that in, but man isn't it so hard especially after you work on your anger, accept it to become weak and vulnerable in the world wide open with people just to fucking hit a narc. to destroy your sense of being and know that he has no empathy and there's nothing to do there? Even though I understand that, still doesn't make me not feel like shit. All the better, makes me value others more but it's very hard for me to come back from that state :( been 2 days now and this just proves how much I should still work on resiliency... probably until I die (most probably).
These videos help a lot :) thank you.
really nice that you do this for people.
Your videos are very easy to understand and inspiring for realistic start for action. I subscribed immediately after I bumped into one of your videos. If you would pleade post a video on explaining the harms of using alcohol or marijuana to handle would really help someone I know and love dearly. Another topic I think would be helpful is to address a helpful solution to people refusing to take antidepressants to avoid the weight gain. Thank you so much for your time.
Irma Adams Welcome to the Community! Ck out Kati’s playlist on addiction! th-cam.com/play/PL_loxoCVsWqzSlM3Xf6G5n5mli7LogtbF.html
Very good talk, thanks!
You have such a loveliness about you! Thank you for providing these videos. They are a huge help!!!
It was a nice surprise to see you on the TV show The Doctors. Thank you for all your helpful videos.
This video came at the right time! Thank you Kati for shedding light on how to build resiliency❤
Oh good!! I am so glad it was helpful :) xoxo
I’m new to your channel. I’ve spent hours binging your videos. You’re incredibly helpful. Thank you.
Jasmaine Grayson Welcome to the Community!!!! ❤️
Thank you, I really needed these tools. Was happy to hear of your FB group as well and requested to join. 👍
Terri Lynn it’s a great group!
TK 😁
Love her! She’s the sweetest and the smartest!
Never felt like myself. Around 10:40: "I forced myself..." BIG RED FLAG.
Sod your goals, living in the moment should be enough.
when i was tsrugglimg, i started writing 'letters to god'. every evening, i would sit down with my notebook and essentially just vent every thought,worry uncertainty and grattitudei had . in the end it helped not because it suddenly made everything ok,but because i realised i had gone through a lot but miraculously enough, i got through it.
I also found that when it comes to resiliency one should be creative and flexible. (Kind of like the philosophy of Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do) For example: I lost someone very special to me and to cope with the sorrow, I made a children's book about them that's good enough for publishing!
Also: I shared this video with my therapist! Great work as always, Kati!
Thanks for the video! I've been in ED recovery for some years now and recently my ED thoughts are trying to distract me from important stuff! I think your steps will help me get refocused and obviously more resilient! 💙
Deal with the situation(s) immediately & if you're at fault, own in, apologise & forgive yourself & move on
Great information but so difficult really difficult
I like to think of mental health as an ocean. The sealevel is at a certain height, and it takes time to change. Then there are waves on top that change quickly. The sealevel is your base mood and the waves are the more temporary feelings. If the sealevel is high the lowest point of the wave is still not very deep, and if the sea is low even a big wave doesnt reach as high.
recovery is real ,resiliency is real period
When I set goals I alsways get cynical comments from my family and friends like: "Ha, you always make plans that never work out!"
it makes me cringe cause I know it's true and I find myself giving up on almost all of them right away.
I stopped telling people what I'm up to and for some reason they don't like that either.
Perfect timing Katie💁♀️ answered so many questions
Tony stark? Is that you?? 👀
Ikr?? Lin Manuel looks a lot like rdj
That was really helpful Kati I must start journaling again as I get overwhelmed at times.
Omg you mentioned 7 Cups! Also, funny thing. I’m a listener on 7 Cups, and my bio is “A burden shared is a burden halved” :D love this video, it is so much needed for me at this moment. I’m going to track my mood in the way you mentioned, as my current mood tracker isn’t working that great (so many moods in one day!)
Each one of these is a skill that I feel like I haven't developed enough. But that's probably the point.
This was a really great video. Thank you. You covered everything.
I'm good with resilience from things that don't effect my self confidence e.g. being in stressful situation at work/emergency etc I can get over easily, but if something hits my self esteem I seem to hide away like an animal licking its wounds before I feel I can get into the world again and become my confident self once more
I'm really glad I've found your channel, you help me a lot.
Unfortunately, I just noticed that my self talk is a problem. Thankfully you always make the effort to drive it home in almost every video! 😂
I am identifying steps to fix it. Hopefully that will help me out work any other areas 😁 God bless you!
I just recently discovered your channel and it has been amazing! You are amazing. Thank you for your insights and tips. 😊 i hope you don't get tired of helping other people through your videos. ❤
Internal strength will give a person the ability to make it through the challenges of this human journey without being knocked out, without feeling hopeless. A person with internal strength will not lose purpose or direction in this human journey.
I feel like these tips are helpful for any mental health problem
Hi Kati! Could you maybe make a video on CBASP?
Like... What makes it superior to other types of therapy / what are other therapies missing to effectively treat a refractory long-lasting double depression / why should CBASP help when other therapies didn't?
I don’t like goals, I can get too caught up with them, doing them perfectly, adding too many on top of others, getting so frustrated when I fail. I naturally work towards what I want to achieve and prefer to celebrate it when I achieve it rather than make lists to tick off
Thank you😍😍😍
You're amazing and unique. Your videos are helping me alot to grow as a person.
Thanks ❤️