There is another well known TH-cam couple, the man is Chinese and the woman is Ukrainian. She said she had never thought that one day she would marry a Chinese and he said he also never thought that he would marry a foreigner. And then they met, and the rest is history. When the right person appears, nothing else matters. They did not plan to date a specific race or someone from a particular ethnic/cultural background. Those who seek out a particular 'type' to date may encounter problems later.
I dated a Vietnamese man 40 years ago, he was a refugee in a small Kiwi town, just imagine what we went through, death threats, kidnap, all from his family & me ostracised by my peers I still love him to this day 😢you are lucky these days
Trust me it still happens in this day and age. My Partner is Caucasian and we get looks on the streets all the time. No big deal for us though. We love each & support each other!
You guys's wisdom is so mind-blowing. This is the most realistic video that I have ever seen about mixed couples in my life. I really appreciate your excellent work. Please keep going, I want see more videos from you.
my sister married an Aussie for now nearly 25 years and he still can't understand a few words of Cantonese.... guess how much he respects our culture....
@@Lee-vb4vhHi Lee, First and foremost, they are presentable. Their appearance, speech, and socialization would suffice for a management role. The criterion is a bit shallow but it is the reality nonetheless. Secondly, they have a professional approach to their channel. They have used several strategies to make their content engaging and rational. Thirdly, they have briefly mentioned their education and work experience, and they would have little difficulty progressing the corporate ladder with a resumé like that.
@@unifieddynasty great info! Thanks for interesting character analysis. Sounds like you have experience in HR and or management. It's always good to see talent blossoming into new opportunities. Continued blessings UnifiedDynasty!
I think there’s a difference between having a preference and attraction to a certain type (physical looks, personality type, ethnicity) versus fetishizing. If someone fits your preference and they also happen to be eg. white or Asian, I think that’s okay. It’s when you exclusively date someone because of their race/ethnicity then it’s considered a fetish. Can you make a video about trying to learn the language of your partner? Is Julie learning Chinese and Jiayi learning Danish?
There definitely is a big difference between the two. Sadly, there are a lot of multi-ethnic couples that promote dating based on fetish or racial stereotypes. We can definitely do that. I speak some Mandarin, Jiayi knows a few words in Danish
@@jiayiandjulieinchina Heard that in China as long as you are Chinese daughter in-law mean you are already Chinese or part of the Chinese big family. Is that true?
@AbHarians No. I don't think you can ever generalize it to this extent. I've been lucky to have very open minded in-laws, but I wouldn't say that's what people should expect. I think this belief might come from the old mindset of the girl becoming a part of the husband's family and giving up her ties to her old family
I know there are instances in which someone's type or preference fits perfectly into a designated ethnic group, and even if there is no racist or fetishistic sentiment, those people unfortunately can still be maligned or mocked. I think it only counts as fetishism if the ethnicity/appearance/culture is the *only* thing that matters to the exclusion of personality, character, and individuality.
One very important fact to feel at home is to learn the language to assimilate yourself easier like Amy from blondie utube. She felt so much at home though she was thousands of miles away from home. She speaks flawless mandarin
Definitely, but it's also important to remember that homesickness is a thing that will always happen regardless. Assimilating doesn't change that part. Amy also goes back to Australia from time to time ❤️
@@jiayiandjulieinchina Agree wholeheartedly, thats a challenged one has to mount to emerge a more hardy people, after all thats life, a wonderful one not many has that opportunity. All the best and God blessed, a great couple like both of you.😊😊😊
Nelson Mandela says: “ When you speak to a person in a language he or she understands. It only goes to their head. When you speak to a person in their mother tongue it goes to their heart “
Relationship goals. Both of you treat each other like equal human beings with complete respect, and I admire couples who can have sincere and deep conversations with each other.
Glad to see you are happy couple,We like to watch your naratives like fairy tales, don't worry too much the outside world people of your circle life, the most important is you get along each other and you have great time that people envy you. Lot of people could not even get what you got: the Great Love. Just keep going... We are there to support you.
I understand but your love for each other will conquer. I am from Hawaii and we are the most diverse multicultural society. We have every culture here. That’s why we have the most beautiful men and women because of this. You guys would love it here. Although it is expensive to live here you guys would feel free from all that cultural clashing. Just for instance, my girlfriend is Filipino, Portuguese and Japanese. I would say that about 80% are multicultural relationships. It is a common and normal thing here. Keep up the good work and hang in there. But if you guys ever get a chance to come to Hawaii you will understand. I am rooting for you both.
I appreicate this video as it gives me a better understanding of my Canadian born Chinese daughter and her Canadian born German husband what they might encounter living in Toronto Canada. I just want them to be happy together and will soon have a grand son in June 2024 . J & J just go an enjoy your life together
Just for balancing my other comments (so you or people reading don't think I'm negative and negative only): you're spot on: you don't need to hate your home country to like another country. I live in Australia now and it's home. I'm born and raised Chinese in China (Shanghai). Once I mocked a WeChat blog article which is negative towards my country, and I did not hide where my IP address is supposed to be based in (it showed Australia) and a whole bunch of people who seemed to be regular readers of that China-self-hate blog got very confused - aren't you in a "foreign country"? Why do you defend China? Aren't you supposed to love Australia and hate China? It was amusing to see their reactions lol
I read this book called the anatomy of crime and it talked about how men from a different tribe would be murdered for dating women from a different tribe - this sort of emotional jealousy/attachment to your group explains racism and why men from a different racial/ethnic group would prefer to get the women to their side of the tribe because it is safer for their physical safety as you explained in the video that in Denmark you’d have more aggression from the native Danish men because they see interracial dating of their women as a threat to their gene pool. All in all I don’t think interracial dating will be normalized simply because we as a species are tribal and out-group hate is normal in our nature.
oh yeah the wink wink stuff. i'm singaporean chinese and my gf is ukranian, pretty much all the same problem you both described. but our cultural superiority issue is reversed, it's why I don't want to bring her over to Singapore. in our case language is also a slight issue since she could barely speak any english at the start. but yeah, international couple is tough, the cultural differences is really tough unless you both work hard on it
You're definitely covering all the bases. Most international couples don't think about child custody and flight risk until they have to deal with divorce. The truth is, the world is growing closer together. People need to accept that. While AF/WM couples are still much more prevalent, I'm glad to see the taboos surrounding WF/AM ones eroding. In the end, we are all the same, and people should be able to be with whomever they want without having to deal with racism, fetishism and other nonsense.
As a chinese guy, I would not marry a chinese or east asian woman. There is too much pressure to succeed and no room to fail. I think going into a relationship with the mindest that you must work hard to keep it together, is good. I've seen so many chinese + chinese marriages that looked so good on paper but turned out badly because they took it for granted.
I grew up in Germany as a "mixed race" or "Rassenschande" (tr.: "race shame") as some people in Germany still call it, and the weird and dehumanizing fixation on "race", not just from far-right conservatives but EVEN FROM LIBERALS in the West really f-ing annoys the crap out of me. I feel much more human in China and even learned that the words for "mixed" kids in China are all super beautiful, positive words without racist connotations. I fell in love with a girl from China, married her and will love her and my family in law till the end and beyond. So it makes me feel super mad and disgusted when even (ex-)friends of mine talk about me as if I married my wife "because she's from China", or "because she looks asian", or because, and this is the most infuriating, she is "cheap and goes for every white western guy (even though I'm a broke, brown-skinned "half-white". But even if I was "white", so what? What does it mean anyway?). When I told one "friend" about my girlfriend(at that time) and he heard she's from China, he didn't say "congratulations I'm happy for you two". Nope. Instead he said: "Oh, I'm not into the asian look".... as if I asked him about his f-ed up preference for "race"... Why does he have a preference for "race" to begin with? He revealed his real face in that moment. Really disappointing. After hearing their weird opinions, those "friends" are not my friends anymore. I cut off all people who fetishize people from different countries, who judge couples based on race, or who talk crap about my family. The good thing is, I can filter out nasty people more quickly now. So that's a positive. 😊 Thank you both for educating people about very important issues and building cultural understanding. It's not an easy task what you're doing but you're doing a great job! Much, much appreciated
Wow!!! This episode was dark, but also rational. You two are deep. I have two cousins in the U.S, they all married to 'white' guys. One of them didn't end up well, divorced and got mental issues. The other one got along though.
Getting married takes tremendous patience. Dated mostly Caucasian women but was unsuccessful. There must be a way. It takes so much patience and compatibility nowadays to date and the other person can be picky as well. Being single actually relieves my headache. There is too much drama into dating nowadays though I want a partner. I am okay with having close and reliable friends to hang out. I am done with dating, courtship or marriage!
I live in america, i dated my own kind and also other races. My 2 best relationship were with a chinese girl and a latina. So race and ethnicity really dont matter. The common denominator about the 2 is they both fall under the chineee zodiac sign “ horse”😆
@@Lee-vb4vh stop being a jackass and thinking they( the gfs) will always love u no matter what! They have choices too, they can leave when they aren’t happy in a relationship!
Hej smukke danske prinsesse 🙂🌸 For your concern about war may break out between China and US /Nato (include Denmark): This might have happened if not for Putin jumping the gun, thus showing how weak the Russian defenses are: ~50% of larger warships of the Black Sea Navy Fleet have been destroyed or sunk by Ukraine; Russian oil exports have dropped by 55% recently, largely due to attacks by air drones. Soon: $1 > 120 Ruble. China’s military learned the Russian lesson. Taiwan's missiles and drones are far more capable than Ukraine's. Taiwan has one of the world's top 2 high tech industries. HongZou/ZheJiang used to be China's high tech hub. But look at what happened to Jack Ma Yun and Alibaba, etc. FYI, wife of Jack Ma has bought huge houses in Singapore recently...
agree with almost every point except the part of 500 days, LOL. I believe most of Chinese guys would say it similarly if the man's wife is a beautiful lady, (obviously you are) no matter if she is Chinese or Danmark. a bit rude I know, but doesn't matter about the ethnic. we always say "小别胜新婚”, so what do you expect for a "新婚”? LOL, absolutely it is not a fine dinner, isn't it? but I have to admit it is not quite gentleman joke, but not unacceptable as well.
No, besides "racism", there is this thing called "curiosity". You two and I are passed that age (stereotypically, high school age, at least in the western world, but more and more so in China these days too) but when I was that age, I didn't date. So imagine the curiosity of dating someone from a different ethnicity. It's not always "racism". Same with even I dare say drugs. I would never do drugs, because of what they do to people and the society, but I am often curious, how is something...better than sex? If people use drugs for pleasure and the feel is different from sexual orgasm but 1000X greater, how does it actually feel? You get what I mean? Still, this does not lead me to "try" drugs, in the same way that it does not lead me to "try" a white woman. It's not racism but the curiosity is there. I can pretend that it does not exist but then I would be pretending.
The mindset of eroticism towards another ethnicity and viewing a human being as an experience to be explored in and of itself is a byproduct of racism. It's dehumanizing whether it's intentional or not
@@jiayiandjulieinchina No it's not. These "moral standards" one can only apply to oneself. To others, it's the behavior that matters. In addition, for argument's sake if I ever had "the experience" of dating someone of a different race and later I broke up with that person, it is not because "oh I had the experience now and I have had enough of the experience now so bye bye experience!", but because as individuals, persons, human beings, we don't get along, and the reason for breaking up would be the same or of the same nature compared to if I broke up with someone of my own race & ethnicity.
@@jiayiandjulieinchina Yes im interested. I dont think many people know about the Anti china / asian sentiment in the USA's recent past but think its important to highlight as its sinophobic racsism still has residual ripples still felt today. But the propaganda was pretty huge back then, although more subtle these days. Especially for asian guys. Asian woman here in the states have more social privileges here and fetishization.
Hi Danish Princess 🙂 You are more beautiful than many European models... among the top 1% beauty. Most of the problems you discussed would disappear if you live in California or Florida... many Asians and mixed couples. You two can think of plans: As you like major city in warm climate, Southern California would be ideal. You can easily be a model, artist or teacher; and Jiayi can be in finance, technology or real estate, etc. May need to act soon... immigration from China to USA will soon become much more difficult. Best wishes and take care.
Suggesting a Chinese to live in the US? Are u insane? As soon as a military conflict breaks out between China and US, the US government would immediately put all Chinese Americans in a camp just like how it was for Japanese Americans during WW2. The number of anti-Asian hate crimes would also skyrocket in the US, making what happened during covid lockdowns pale in comparison.
@@multiplierfx6429 RE: Mr/Ms. multiplierfx6429: 1. You are assuming nothing changed in US after 80 years since WW2; 2. You are assuming war will break out between China and US/NATO: This might have happened if not for Putin jumping the gun, thus showing how weak the Russian defenses are: ~50% of larger warships of Russian Black Sea Navy Fleet have been destroyed or sunk by Ukraine; Russian oil exports have dropped by 55% recently, largely due to attacks by air drones. Soon: $1 > 120 Ruble. 3. China’s military learned the Russian lesson. Taiwan's missiles and drones are far more capable than Ukraine's.
Hard no on Florida. Governor DeSantis signed legislation to ban Chinese nationals from owning property in Florida.The Federal courts actually stopped him from enforcing the law.
Hej smukke danske prinsesse 🙂🌸 Du er smukkere end mange europæiske modeller! Jeg har boet i forskellige områder i USA det meste af mit liv. Du er helt sikkert blandt de bedste 1% skønhed. Stort set på Taylor Swift-niveau 😊 De fleste af de problemer, du diskuterede, ville forsvinde, hvis du bor i Californien eller Vancouver... mange asiater og blandede par. I to kan tænke på planer: Som du kan lide storby i varmt klima, ville Californien eller Florida være ideelle. Du kan være model, kunstner eller lærer; og han kan være CPA, i finans eller fast ejendom osv. Måske nødt til at handle snart... immigration fra Kina til USA vil snart blive meget vanskeligere. De bedste ønsker og pas på 🙏
That wmaf is the one that promote dating based on racial filling stereotype. I think it is not worth to follow I heard in China today the people there do not look you at your races but as long as you are their in-law then you already become part of their big family. Family/community is a Chinese things.
Exactly right. If you search for AMWF contents on Utiub, you're bound to see WMAF embedded in it, I mean, it's obvious they're trying to promote WMAF at all costs.And some AMWF channels never made it to fame through the algorithm.
AMWF is always being suppressed and put on the back foot on any platforms. As you search through AMWF contents, you don't just see AMWF, you'll see the other ones as well. I mean, this is ridiculous, why put other genres into AMWF. Do they want to make AMWF the underdog?
@@jiayiandjulieinchina In case you don't know the going-ons on this subject, there have been vlogs from female Asians painting in bad light Asian men, demeaning them and ridiculing them as substandard, and by extension, imposing their negative mindsets on AMWF couples.
Beat me up?! Where is your sense of humor bro? It's Ok for you to feel that you don't know me, that we're not that close that I can say something like that. But it is not as OK for you to assume that the intentions of a strange is malicious, especially now that you have chosen to be a self-media, that people know you while you don't know them, because you become like a mini-celebrity and that comes with implications, those you like AND those you don't like. If I ever run into you in the streets and I put my arm around your shoulders and pat you on the shoulder and say that you're lucky to have a white woman, it's certainly a half-joking statement, trying to be your friend, trying to make the relationship of you and me closer than it was before I do that. Why so serious? You don't make friends with your subscribers? It's also an expression of my admiration of you on how well you're able to handle the relationship. Why so mad?
You're turning me as a woman into a commodity, that's why he gets mad about it. It's disrespectful to his partner. Also, I can inform you that he feels the same way about anyone he knows personally making this sort of comment. Have you ever known anyone in china who makes a comment like that about someone else's wife?
@@jiayiandjulieinchina You know how humans are also animals and have the so called "animal brain"? The reason we are humans and not animals is that we are civilized, so besides our "animal side" we have civilization and order of society and social norms, we have morality. So besides listening and being aware of your animal side, you also need to consider the human, civilized, morality and society side of things. I can't speak for other people, for me, the attraction starts with physical attraction. Call me superficial or whatever, I don't care. I don't try to hide what I really am - a civilized animal. Plus, I think your man started off the same point. But as a human, you don't objectify your partner. You treat her/him like a person, an independent individual, who has his/her own maybe unique temperament, personality, dignity, likes and don't-likes. If I feel physically attracted to someone from another race, it is not because that person is of a difference race, but because of the same (probably started from physical) reasons compared to those of my own race who are attractive to me. Racism me not. Say I find Xingyue and a number of Chinese girls physically attractive and I choose to try dating Xingyue instead of others because she's white, it's not because I am racist, it is because I have the curiosity (of dating someone different than me) and I am human and I can only pick one! And as to his words about beating me up - you can try, but it won't end up good-looking on your part.
I'll give you another example: vegetarianism. If anyone wants to be a herbivore, fine by me. But try not to make me a herbivore because I know exactly what us homo sapiens are: omnivores. And I am not ashamed of the fact. This is how our ancestors came to be and how I came to be, and it's the way nature works. As a civilized homo sapien, all I can do is to agree with what Temple Grandin said at the end of her movie with the same name: (The cows heading into the slaughterhouse) They'll be very calm. Nature is cruel but we don't have to be; we owe them some respect. What I will NOT do is to pretend that I am something that I know I'm not. Same with environmentalism. I will not deliberately sabotage the environment or the ecosystem. But I refuse to let it get in the way of bettering people's lives. If any individual wants to return to caveman's lifestyle in order to minimize their carbon footprint, fine by me, force me not, because it will be disrespectful to all the progress we humans as a species have made and it is oppression of other people trying to improve their lives. People need to be aware of human impact on the environment, not be restricted by it. It would be another form of arrogance - just how big you think you are compared to the nature, the Mother Earth or the universe?
There is another well known TH-cam couple, the man is Chinese and the woman is Ukrainian. She said she had never thought that one day she would marry a Chinese and he said he also never thought that he would marry a foreigner. And then they met, and the rest is history. When the right person appears, nothing else matters. They did not plan to date a specific race or someone from a particular ethnic/cultural background. Those who seek out a particular 'type' to date may encounter problems later.
Like the song called "nothing else matters" by Metallica. 😁😁
What’s their channel?
@@Patterson24
youtube.com/@metallica?si=cfZ1_D3hJ7771K-P
They have a chinese name but i think the English one is Katya in China.@Patterson24
@@Patterson24they have a chinese name but i think the English one is Katya in China
I dated a Vietnamese man 40 years ago, he was a refugee in a small Kiwi town, just imagine what we went through, death threats, kidnap, all from his family & me ostracised by my peers
I still love him to this day 😢you are lucky these days
Even now Asian men are belitted in international relationships, I can’t imagine how bad it was back then 😮
Are you still friends?
Trust me it still happens in this day and age. My Partner is Caucasian and we get looks on the streets all the time. No big deal for us though. We love each & support each other!
You guys's wisdom is so mind-blowing. This is the most realistic video that I have ever seen about mixed couples in my life. I really appreciate your excellent work. Please keep going, I want see more videos from you.
my sister married an Aussie for now nearly 25 years and he still can't understand a few words of Cantonese.... guess how much he respects our culture....
Oh, my goodness! New video , i am expecting this for the whole week. Love you guys.
Thank you for watching!
This channel is a real one. 👌
Do a video about your careers! Y'all seem like management material.
Thank you 😊
May I ask what are their management material signs ? Thanks
@@Lee-vb4vhHi Lee,
First and foremost, they are presentable. Their appearance, speech, and socialization would suffice for a management role. The criterion is a bit shallow but it is the reality nonetheless.
Secondly, they have a professional approach to their channel. They have used several strategies to make their content engaging and rational.
Thirdly, they have briefly mentioned their education and work experience, and they would have little difficulty progressing the corporate ladder with a resumé like that.
@@unifieddynasty great info! Thanks for interesting character analysis. Sounds like you have experience in HR and or management. It's always good to see talent blossoming into new opportunities. Continued blessings UnifiedDynasty!
@@Lee-vb4vh Thank you, Lee; and same to you!
I believe that everyone should be able to marry and love whoever they choose without any restrictions. Break the barrier.
Here in Canada no one even bat's an eye. It's if you respect each other and each others culture
I think there’s a difference between having a preference and attraction to a certain type (physical looks, personality type, ethnicity) versus fetishizing. If someone fits your preference and they also happen to be eg. white or Asian, I think that’s okay. It’s when you exclusively date someone because of their race/ethnicity then it’s considered a fetish.
Can you make a video about trying to learn the language of your partner? Is Julie learning Chinese and Jiayi learning Danish?
There definitely is a big difference between the two. Sadly, there are a lot of multi-ethnic couples that promote dating based on fetish or racial stereotypes.
We can definitely do that. I speak some Mandarin, Jiayi knows a few words in Danish
@@jiayiandjulieinchina
Heard that in China as long as you are Chinese daughter in-law mean you are already Chinese or part of the Chinese big family. Is that true?
@AbHarians No. I don't think you can ever generalize it to this extent. I've been lucky to have very open minded in-laws, but I wouldn't say that's what people should expect. I think this belief might come from the old mindset of the girl becoming a part of the husband's family and giving up her ties to her old family
I know there are instances in which someone's type or preference fits perfectly into a designated ethnic group, and even if there is no racist or fetishistic sentiment, those people unfortunately can still be maligned or mocked. I think it only counts as fetishism if the ethnicity/appearance/culture is the *only* thing that matters to the exclusion of personality, character, and individuality.
One very important fact to feel at home is to learn the language to assimilate yourself easier like Amy from blondie utube. She felt so much at home though she was thousands of miles away from home. She speaks flawless mandarin
Definitely, but it's also important to remember that homesickness is a thing that will always happen regardless. Assimilating doesn't change that part. Amy also goes back to Australia from time to time ❤️
@@jiayiandjulieinchina Agree wholeheartedly, thats a challenged one has to mount to emerge a more hardy people, after all thats life, a wonderful one not many has that opportunity. All the best and God blessed, a great couple like both of you.😊😊😊
I spoke good English when i was in London I still miss home , miss my dogs , miss my friends and BBQ pork .
Nelson Mandela says: “ When you speak to a person in a language he or she understands. It only goes to their head. When you speak to a person in their mother tongue it goes to their heart “
Relationship goals. Both of you treat each other like equal human beings with complete respect, and I admire couples who can have sincere and deep conversations with each other.
Glad to see you are happy couple,We like to watch your naratives like fairy tales, don't worry too much the outside world people of your circle life, the most important is you get along each other and you have great time that people envy you. Lot of people could not even get what you got: the Great Love. Just keep going... We are there to support you.
Great video and discussion on this topic! And it's a well made video. Hope for more videos like this 😊
Thank you very much! ❤
Really enjoyed the discussion, great points you both brought up
Thank you very much
excellent video. thank you for sharing 👍🏼
I understand but your love for each other will conquer. I am from Hawaii and we are the most diverse multicultural society. We have every culture here. That’s why we have the most beautiful men and women because of this. You guys would love it here. Although it is expensive to live here you guys would feel free from all that cultural clashing. Just for instance, my girlfriend is Filipino, Portuguese and Japanese. I would say that about 80% are multicultural relationships. It is a common and normal thing here. Keep up the good work and hang in there. But if you guys ever get a chance to come to Hawaii you will understand. I am rooting for you both.
Blessings you two. Power on 👍🏼👍🏼
Thank you 🌸
I appreicate this video as it gives me a better understanding of my Canadian born Chinese daughter and her Canadian born German husband what they might encounter living in Toronto Canada. I just want them to be happy together and will soon have a grand son in June 2024 . J & J just go an enjoy your life together
Congratulations on becoming a grandparent 🎉
Just for balancing my other comments (so you or people reading don't think I'm negative and negative only): you're spot on: you don't need to hate your home country to like another country. I live in Australia now and it's home. I'm born and raised Chinese in China (Shanghai). Once I mocked a WeChat blog article which is negative towards my country, and I did not hide where my IP address is supposed to be based in (it showed Australia) and a whole bunch of people who seemed to be regular readers of that China-self-hate blog got very confused - aren't you in a "foreign country"? Why do you defend China? Aren't you supposed to love Australia and hate China? It was amusing to see their reactions lol
Julie is such an intelligent and beautiful woman! May God Bless this beautiful couple!
I read this book called the anatomy of crime and it talked about how men from a different tribe would be murdered for dating women from a different tribe - this sort of emotional jealousy/attachment to your group explains racism and why men from a different racial/ethnic group would prefer to get the women to their side of the tribe because it is safer for their physical safety as you explained in the video that in Denmark you’d have more aggression from the native Danish men because they see interracial dating of their women as a threat to their gene pool.
All in all I don’t think interracial dating will be normalized simply because we as a species are tribal and out-group hate is normal in our nature.
Wish you two nothing but the very best!
Thank you both for your sharing🙏🙂🙏
Thank you for watching 🌸
Interesting video. From Singapore
oh yeah the wink wink stuff. i'm singaporean chinese and my gf is ukranian, pretty much all the same problem you both described. but our cultural superiority issue is reversed, it's why I don't want to bring her over to Singapore. in our case language is also a slight issue since she could barely speak any english at the start. but yeah, international couple is tough, the cultural differences is really tough unless you both work hard on it
seriously, you guys are so fit for each other
You're definitely covering all the bases. Most international couples don't think about child custody and flight risk until they have to deal with divorce. The truth is, the world is growing closer together. People need to accept that. While AF/WM couples are still much more prevalent, I'm glad to see the taboos surrounding WF/AM ones eroding. In the end, we are all the same, and people should be able to be with whomever they want without having to deal with racism, fetishism and other nonsense.
As a chinese guy, I would not marry a chinese or east asian woman. There is too much pressure to succeed and no room to fail. I think going into a relationship with the mindest that you must work hard to keep it together, is good. I've seen so many chinese + chinese marriages that looked so good on paper but turned out badly because they took it for granted.
I grew up in Germany as a "mixed race" or "Rassenschande" (tr.: "race shame") as some people in Germany still call it, and the weird and dehumanizing fixation on "race", not just from far-right conservatives but EVEN FROM LIBERALS in the West really f-ing annoys the crap out of me. I feel much more human in China and even learned that the words for "mixed" kids in China are all super beautiful, positive words without racist connotations.
I fell in love with a girl from China, married her and will love her and my family in law till the end and beyond. So it makes me feel super mad and disgusted when even (ex-)friends of mine talk about me as if I married my wife "because she's from China", or "because she looks asian", or because, and this is the most infuriating, she is "cheap and goes for every white western guy (even though I'm a broke, brown-skinned "half-white". But even if I was "white", so what? What does it mean anyway?). When I told one "friend" about my girlfriend(at that time) and he heard she's from China, he didn't say "congratulations I'm happy for you two". Nope. Instead he said: "Oh, I'm not into the asian look".... as if I asked him about his f-ed up preference for "race"... Why does he have a preference for "race" to begin with? He revealed his real face in that moment. Really disappointing.
After hearing their weird opinions, those "friends" are not my friends anymore. I cut off all people who fetishize people from different countries, who judge couples based on race, or who talk crap about my family. The good thing is, I can filter out nasty people more quickly now. So that's a positive. 😊
Thank you both for educating people about very important issues and building cultural understanding. It's not an easy task what you're doing but you're doing a great job! Much, much appreciated
Wow!!! This episode was dark, but also rational. You two are deep. I have two cousins in the U.S, they all married to 'white' guys. One of them didn't end up well, divorced and got mental issues. The other one got along though.
We try to keep our conversations as real as possible. International relationships are complicated, just like every other relationship 😊
Getting married takes tremendous patience. Dated mostly Caucasian women but was unsuccessful. There must be a way. It takes so much patience and compatibility nowadays to date and the other person can be picky as well. Being single actually relieves my headache. There is too much drama into dating nowadays though I want a partner. I am okay with having close and reliable friends to hang out. I am done with dating, courtship or marriage!
Great couple👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Double J
From : Singapore 🇸🇬🤠
Great conversation 👌🏿 🇺🇲👏🏾👍🏾
I live in america, i dated my own kind and also other races. My 2 best relationship were with a chinese girl and a latina. So race and ethnicity really dont matter. The common denominator about the 2 is they both fall under the chineee zodiac sign “ horse”😆
Dating someone based only on their zodiac sign is something I don’t understand.
Horses are wise, graceful, emotional, powerful beings. May I ask what did you learn from your experience ?
@@Lee-vb4vh stop being a jackass and thinking they( the gfs) will always love u no matter what! They have choices too, they can leave when they aren’t happy in a relationship!
@@veetour not based,just happened so. Like coincidences,got it?
@@yongdeng1813 excellent viewpoint! Did you ever get married, settle down, raise family with kids? What are your ultimate relationship goals?
Every relationship is experience until you meet the right person.
The problem is if the right one really exists 😂
Hej smukke danske prinsesse 🙂🌸
For your concern about war may break out between China and US /Nato (include Denmark):
This might have happened if not for Putin jumping the gun, thus showing how weak the Russian defenses are:
~50% of larger warships of the Black Sea Navy Fleet have been destroyed or sunk by Ukraine;
Russian oil exports have dropped by 55% recently, largely due to attacks by air drones.
Soon: $1 > 120 Ruble.
China’s military learned the Russian lesson. Taiwan's missiles and drones are far more capable than Ukraine's.
Taiwan has one of the world's top 2 high tech industries.
HongZou/ZheJiang used to be China's high tech hub. But look at what happened to Jack Ma Yun and Alibaba, etc. FYI, wife of Jack Ma has bought huge houses in Singapore recently...
look at the positive side, we are much more safer and more accepted as a mix couple in this modern era compare to ancient times
Good point!👏👍👌🙏🎈🌹
Thank you!
We are all humans, our blood is the same colour. Equal rights and peace on earth. One world! Those are the facts. 🙏👍💟💟♥️💖
My beautiful friends, ❤❤❤
為你們的理性點讚❤
Nice and well educated couple.!!!🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍🤩🤩🤩
agree with almost every point except the part of 500 days, LOL. I believe most of Chinese guys would say it similarly if the man's wife is a beautiful lady, (obviously you are) no matter if she is Chinese or Danmark. a bit rude I know, but doesn't matter about the ethnic. we always say "小别胜新婚”, so what do you expect for a "新婚”? LOL, absolutely it is not a fine dinner, isn't it? but I have to admit it is not quite gentleman joke, but not unacceptable as well.
No, besides "racism", there is this thing called "curiosity". You two and I are passed that age (stereotypically, high school age, at least in the western world, but more and more so in China these days too) but when I was that age, I didn't date. So imagine the curiosity of dating someone from a different ethnicity. It's not always "racism".
Same with even I dare say drugs. I would never do drugs, because of what they do to people and the society, but I am often curious, how is something...better than sex? If people use drugs for pleasure and the feel is different from sexual orgasm but 1000X greater, how does it actually feel? You get what I mean? Still, this does not lead me to "try" drugs, in the same way that it does not lead me to "try" a white woman. It's not racism but the curiosity is there. I can pretend that it does not exist but then I would be pretending.
The mindset of eroticism towards another ethnicity and viewing a human being as an experience to be explored in and of itself is a byproduct of racism. It's dehumanizing whether it's intentional or not
@@jiayiandjulieinchina No it's not. These "moral standards" one can only apply to oneself. To others, it's the behavior that matters.
In addition, for argument's sake if I ever had "the experience" of dating someone of a different race and later I broke up with that person, it is not because "oh I had the experience now and I have had enough of the experience now so bye bye experience!", but because as individuals, persons, human beings, we don't get along, and the reason for breaking up would be the same or of the same nature compared to if I broke up with someone of my own race & ethnicity.
很棒的分享, 謝謝你們:)
Even though I know unguys briefly, I cannot imagine seeing jiayi beating someone up haha. He is a well spoken, sensible guy to do such thing 😅
If it was necessary he would. I'm the one that keeps him from going at people 😂
We dongbei (North Eastern) guys are hot-headed fellas🤣
@@alvinnnliu but make for very caring and protective partners 😂
Talking about compatibility ... you finished each other's sentences. Danish or Chinese? You were twins from different parents.
Haha, yeah, we do that a lot 😅
Very curious to see your video about the propaganda about anti china in denmark
@@the_luminary We can definitely do a video about that!
@@jiayiandjulieinchina Yes im interested. I dont think many people know about the Anti china / asian sentiment in the USA's recent past but think its important to highlight as its sinophobic racsism still has residual ripples still felt today. But the propaganda was pretty huge back then, although more subtle these days. Especially for asian guys. Asian woman here in the states have more social privileges here and fetishization.
I think it is extremely rare to see a foreign woman dating asian men....it's just not very common. Not saying it is a bad thing
Hi Danish Princess 🙂
You are more beautiful than many European models... among the top 1% beauty.
Most of the problems you discussed would disappear if you live in California or Florida... many Asians and mixed couples.
You two can think of plans:
As you like major city in warm climate, Southern California would be ideal.
You can easily be a model, artist or teacher; and Jiayi can be in finance, technology or real estate, etc.
May need to act soon... immigration from China to USA will soon become much more difficult.
Best wishes and take care.
Suggesting a Chinese to live in the US? Are u insane?
As soon as a military conflict breaks out between China and US, the US government would immediately put all Chinese Americans in a camp just like how it was for Japanese Americans during WW2. The number of anti-Asian hate crimes would also skyrocket in the US, making what happened during covid lockdowns pale in comparison.
I would never migrate to the world's number one trouble making country, the U.S.A.
@@f.s.monster3765 that's why you named yourself monster lol
@@multiplierfx6429 RE: Mr/Ms. multiplierfx6429:
1. You are assuming nothing changed in US after 80 years since WW2;
2. You are assuming war will break out between China and US/NATO:
This might have happened if not for Putin jumping the gun, thus showing how weak the Russian defenses are:
~50% of larger warships of Russian Black Sea Navy Fleet have been destroyed or sunk by Ukraine;
Russian oil exports have dropped by 55% recently, largely due to attacks by air drones.
Soon: $1 > 120 Ruble.
3. China’s military learned the Russian lesson. Taiwan's missiles and drones are far more capable than Ukraine's.
Hard no on Florida. Governor DeSantis signed legislation to ban Chinese nationals from owning property in Florida.The Federal courts actually stopped him from enforcing the law.
Wow，我是第520个点赞的！❤
Hej smukke danske prinsesse 🙂🌸
Du er smukkere end mange europæiske modeller!
Jeg har boet i forskellige områder i USA det meste af mit liv. Du er helt sikkert blandt de bedste 1% skønhed. Stort set på Taylor Swift-niveau 😊
De fleste af de problemer, du diskuterede, ville forsvinde, hvis du bor i Californien eller Vancouver... mange asiater og blandede par.
I to kan tænke på planer:
Som du kan lide storby i varmt klima, ville Californien eller Florida være ideelle.
Du kan være model, kunstner eller lærer; og han kan være CPA, i finans eller fast ejendom osv.
Måske nødt til at handle snart... immigration fra Kina til USA vil snart blive meget vanskeligere.
De bedste ønsker og pas på 🙏
Your combination is viewed as competition by WMAF couples.
That wmaf is the one that promote dating based on racial filling stereotype.
I think it is not worth to follow
I heard in China today the people there do not look you at your races but as long as you are their in-law then you already become part of their big family.
Family/community is a Chinese things.
Exactly right. If you search for AMWF contents on Utiub, you're bound to see WMAF embedded in it, I mean, it's obvious they're trying to promote WMAF at all costs.And some AMWF channels never made it to fame through the algorithm.
AMWF is always being suppressed and put on the back foot on any platforms. As you search through AMWF contents, you don't just see AMWF, you'll see the other ones as well. I mean, this is ridiculous, why put other genres into AMWF. Do they want to make AMWF the underdog?
Why would we be? What competition? Is there a prize? 😂
@@jiayiandjulieinchina
In case you don't know the going-ons on this subject, there have been vlogs from female Asians painting in bad light Asian men, demeaning them and ridiculing them as substandard, and by extension, imposing their negative mindsets on AMWF couples.
Have a girl first😂
很喜欢你们的视频！但是从长远角度！希望你们能把视频做到5-10分钟左右！相信会有很好的效果比如今天讨论的话题可以分成几次讨论！每次只针对一个话题讨论！因为根据统计现代人生活节奏快，所以更倾向于观看短时视频！所以希望你们能分成几部分！而且能够多做几集！关键还能适合观看者欣赏你们的作品！
这个长度对于油管来说没问题，倒是可以同时再搞一个TT频道专门发短视频
Children soon?
Beat me up?! Where is your sense of humor bro?
It's Ok for you to feel that you don't know me, that we're not that close that I can say something like that. But it is not as OK for you to assume that the intentions of a strange is malicious, especially now that you have chosen to be a self-media, that people know you while you don't know them, because you become like a mini-celebrity and that comes with implications, those you like AND those you don't like. If I ever run into you in the streets and I put my arm around your shoulders and pat you on the shoulder and say that you're lucky to have a white woman, it's certainly a half-joking statement, trying to be your friend, trying to make the relationship of you and me closer than it was before I do that. Why so serious? You don't make friends with your subscribers? It's also an expression of my admiration of you on how well you're able to handle the relationship. Why so mad?
You're turning me as a woman into a commodity, that's why he gets mad about it. It's disrespectful to his partner. Also, I can inform you that he feels the same way about anyone he knows personally making this sort of comment. Have you ever known anyone in china who makes a comment like that about someone else's wife?
@@jiayiandjulieinchina What commodity? Commodity you can BUY. You're forcing your assumptions onto ME.
@@jiayiandjulieinchina You know how humans are also animals and have the so called "animal brain"? The reason we are humans and not animals is that we are civilized, so besides our "animal side" we have civilization and order of society and social norms, we have morality. So besides listening and being aware of your animal side, you also need to consider the human, civilized, morality and society side of things. I can't speak for other people, for me, the attraction starts with physical attraction. Call me superficial or whatever, I don't care. I don't try to hide what I really am - a civilized animal. Plus, I think your man started off the same point. But as a human, you don't objectify your partner. You treat her/him like a person, an independent individual, who has his/her own maybe unique temperament, personality, dignity, likes and don't-likes. If I feel physically attracted to someone from another race, it is not because that person is of a difference race, but because of the same (probably started from physical) reasons compared to those of my own race who are attractive to me. Racism me not. Say I find Xingyue and a number of Chinese girls physically attractive and I choose to try dating Xingyue instead of others because she's white, it's not because I am racist, it is because I have the curiosity (of dating someone different than me) and I am human and I can only pick one!
And as to his words about beating me up - you can try, but it won't end up good-looking on your part.
I'll give you another example: vegetarianism. If anyone wants to be a herbivore, fine by me. But try not to make me a herbivore because I know exactly what us homo sapiens are: omnivores. And I am not ashamed of the fact. This is how our ancestors came to be and how I came to be, and it's the way nature works. As a civilized homo sapien, all I can do is to agree with what Temple Grandin said at the end of her movie with the same name: (The cows heading into the slaughterhouse) They'll be very calm. Nature is cruel but we don't have to be; we owe them some respect. What I will NOT do is to pretend that I am something that I know I'm not.
Same with environmentalism. I will not deliberately sabotage the environment or the ecosystem. But I refuse to let it get in the way of bettering people's lives. If any individual wants to return to caveman's lifestyle in order to minimize their carbon footprint, fine by me, force me not, because it will be disrespectful to all the progress we humans as a species have made and it is oppression of other people trying to improve their lives. People need to be aware of human impact on the environment, not be restricted by it. It would be another form of arrogance - just how big you think you are compared to the nature, the Mother Earth or the universe?
1st point in and you guys decided to call out the entirety of RED. Woke up and chose violence