Alcoholic Parents: What Does it Do to a Child's Brain? - TBWWP
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- This episode of The Brain Warrior's Way Podcast features information, tips, and how to's on children of alcoholic parents, kids with behavior issues, and drug abuse and depression in high school students.
Studies have shown that children of alcoholic parents exhibit the same brain types as soldiers who have been in war. What is it that causes these similarities? In this episode of The Brain Warrior’s Way Podcast, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen discuss what exactly happens to the children of alcoholics.
He had always been a happy and sweet kid, so when nine-year-old Andrew suddenly attacked a girl on the baseball field for no apparent reason, something was clearly wrong. But no one, not even his mother, could have ever anticipated what would happen next. In this special episode of The Brain Warrior’s Way Podcast, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen tell the amazing and heartwarming story of how young Andrew’s life was changed forever.
Drug abuse and suicide amongst high school students has reached epidemic proportions in the last few years. Why is this? In this episode of The Brain Warrior’s Way Podcast, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen discuss the possible causes for all this tragedy occurring in today’s youth.
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I have alcoholic parents since i was born they fought always and hit each other in front of my eyes and me as a little child would go in front of them telling them to stop and i was seeing them sometimes when they tried to commit suicide and now i am 19 have social anxiety and other anxiety disorders, depression, suicidal thoughts, alone no friends shame of myself because of them and paranoid autism and adhd and all of that
I’m so sorry to hear this...
I’ve been pretty much through the same thing and know what it feels like because I have severe anxiety disorder... hope you’re doing better though and I wish you the best mate! ❤️ We are survivors and carry immeasurable strength within us! Please don’t give up. I’m 21 and I’m trying to heal from all this trauma, but I’m sure it will get better. Time is supposed to heal.
Me too sis hopefully we can get out of it it’s not our fault ❤️
Thanks for the comments i feel better reading your positive comments. We will go through this together and believe in ourselves. When we think positive then positive things will happen i wish you a good happy life.❤
This is a bit late but I'm in the same situation. About to turn 19 in a couple months and I suffer from diagnosed social anxiety and probably a few other disorders that I haven't been diagnosed with yet. Hope you're doing okay ❤
I hope things improve for you 🙂
My husbands parents where alcoholics. My husband is a chronic alcoholic. It’s a horrible life 😢 Good information
This was such an informative and helpful podcast, that you Tana and Dr. Amen. I am a child of an alcoholic, and this is encouraging me to consider getting treatment at your clincs.
This is a good video. My dad is an alcoholic. It is better now but from when I was 7 till 15 it was really bad.
I feel ya. My mom still drinks. I can’t be near anyone who drinks anymore, I can’t even smell it. It’s been on since I was 7. I’m now 12.
@@ilovewinternights i’ve been dealing with an alcoholic and abusive dad for about 11 years so i understand your pain, if you need to talk just lmk darling
@@harlow6868 how can i get in touch with you 😓
@@Michael-io2jo do u have social media? (i have other accs on other platforms too) if so i have instagram @giigenkd
What is hot about Daniel Amen is his gallant pioneering spirit and the tenacious ,dedicated way he went about finding the right care for Andrew, especially while getting so much resistance from the outrageous ignorance in the medical community.The video went viral because it's deeply moving to see a doctor still capable of critical thinking and being a genuinely compassionate ,intellectually competent , effective healing influence .38 million people got that and LOVE that about him!
Thank you for this great informative conversation. I have memories of my father's abuse that disturb me every day. I will seek out EMDR therapy. Tana I have the greatest peace of mind with random sounds at night by having a dog. I never feel fearful at night because my dog can wake from a deep sleep, and run out the back door (doggie door) in a barking frenzy if there is a person walking by on the sidewalk by my home. Security cameras are a great substitute, but without the love and companionship of a darling pet. I've never had large dogs, my small dogs make plenty of noise to dissuade potential trespassers.
I love Dr. Amen. I wish I could have an appointment with them! I wish his approach to treating the brain was approved my insurance. Dr. Amen is doing groundbreaking approach to mental health.
This started out to be very helpful but became a personal conversation between husband and wife and I felt like I was on the outside looking in. The doctor would talk about his parents and she would interrupt “your parents are great.” How the hell does this help those of us who are desperate enough to look for this information and watch the video. Please remember who your target audience is for God’s sake! This is a conversation that really should have occurred after the video so they could reach the people they were trying to help.
You mention trust issues being a big problem for adult children of alcoholics so again remember who your target audience is.
exactly that
@@geetergrl46 calm down, they are helping and you are here, watching a very good resource for help. Trauma causes changes in the brain. He does brain imaging. He fought the system that resisted him. He changed the system and now brain imaging is available when before they would just send you to a shrink. I remember 1991. That’s the year I graduated from high school. My dad was an alcoholic. We were all traumatized in that house; one of my half-brothers had to leave and go live with his dad in NY state. My older brother stayed with us for some reason. He always resented my dad. There was no psychological help for us in 1991. We were on our own. Now Dr. Amen has made a breakthrough in neuroscience and psychology. We have better tools now and much better help. This is an extremely important video for me. I am starting to understand things now, why I act the way I do, the reason for my fears and mental afflictions, and realizing: I can change and become better.
This may not be the best format of presentation for you. That’s ok. Keep seeking out more information specifically suited for you. If you keep looking, you’ll find it. There’s so much information on the internet. We didn’t have ‘the internet’ in 1991. Be thankful for technology!
Mrs Amen does reach in to attempt to contribute but she unintentionally dominates the conversation with far too many anecdotes. It would be good to modulate volume levels. And for her to practice active listening. Then when speaking say more with fewer words.
The subject was barely covered. The side streets took over.
I'm the eldest daughter of an Asian household and my mother was an alcoholic for 30 years (even before when I was born). I'm 23 now but I grew up having to be emotionally responsible for myself and my sister because my mother drank every night and neglected us and our father was aggressive, harassed me, was a serial cheater, and often absent. Essentially I became her punching bag and my sister's shield. The upbringing made extremely neurotic, severely anxious, depressed, and attentive especially to people's shortcomings.
There is extreme resentment on my part for my parents and I have decided to never get married or have children.
So sorry. Were you able to break the cycle?
Have you tried Al-Anon? Much healing is available there, healthy relationships.
Wishing you some measure of relief as there is a LOT of help and support out there. We deserve to get it and heal from this. You are not alone and Godspeed.
@@kimparke6653great point thanks❤
Thanks so much for posting this! It was really helpful for me to hear!
I am an ACoA and my home life was a war zone plus I have 9 older siblings and one younger sister. I have severe bipolar, borderline, histrionic, ADHD, splitting and devestating memory loss symptoms . This video has really helped me. Thank you ❤
Good for you!! Keep growing!! Together we can be better versions of ourselves. ❤️☮️
Sounds like my DID symptoms.
Memory loss is my least favorite symptom.
I had it well managed for 10 years until I was re traumatized.
My mother and father were alcoholics and I was basically an only child (half-siblings were out of the house). My mother was worse. I have dealt with severe chronic depression since I was 13. I have deep shame and insecurity. I have difficulty with relationships even though I have been in one for 9 years, I feel controlled by him because he "parents me." I had issues with substances as well, though I have been sober for 9 years (boyfriend helped me wake up). My parents alcoholism has ruined my life and its hard to change these patterns developed in infancy and youth. How do you repair the brain?
@bLackstar Abandonment and alcoholic parents cause us so many emotional problems in life. Attachment issues, trust issues and self-esteem issues. I'm so sorry for what you went through and hope you are healing and learning to love yourself for the true beauty you are.
@bLackstar Just keep believing in yourself. Even when we feel alone, we are not. Unfortunately there are so many parents that are ill-equipped to deal with life themselves and their children suffer. I think it is our life's journey to learn to fight for ourselves and gain the skills we need to heal. Learn as much as you can about meditation, nutrition and getting aerobic exercise for total well-being. Get as many tools in your tool chest to fight for your mental and physical health. You are precious and you are worth it. Your life has meaning and I want you to have a long healthy life finding out what you are here to do. Just take it easy on yourself and remember one day at time and please please never kill yourself which is a forever solution to a problem you will be able to fight your way through. You're precious, I assure you!
@bLackstar A good technique for practicing gratitude and self-worth is making a list of your inherent good qualities, the kind of qualities that do not vanish. Like you have a good sense of humor, you are a kind person, you are a hard worker, you are willing to help other people when they need it. You are lovable and you are worth other people's love and attention. Every day, look at this list and repeat these qualities to yourself. I had a therapist once who told me that I should hug myself and stroke my arms and soothingly tell myself that everything will be alright and I am loved and lovable. No one said this life was gonna be easy, but I think its the lessons learned along the way that make it worth it.
@bLackstar you’re making me cry! Someone DOES love you! There ARE good things about you! You are NOT alone in this struggle. Your feelings are only the result of your trauma. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU DIDN’T ASK FOR TRAUMA. IT WAS INFLICTED UPON YOU. You are a good person! Talk about it with your girlfriend. You have to talk. Let it out. Deal with it! It may be hard. So what? You want to get better. Just remember that. You matter, and you want to be a better man. That’s all you need, my brother. I’m right here alongside you. We fight the battles of life together, NOT alone! ❤️☮️
@bLackstar I also wanted to say that my parents are both dead, my mom from cancer treatment in 1991, and my dad in 2001. I also have no parental support, unless I count my older brother who has silently taken over mom’s job of protecting us over the years. I have been with a covert narc for 20 years, and unfortunately I cannot stop the cycle happening with my kids right now. I’ve tried to be their protector and stability (my oldest is 18), and I just ran out of gas (Jan 2021). I have to leave the chaos and get myself healthy so that I can be a better father to my children. While dealing with my own childhood trauma. Wish me luck, brother - I just found a good house to rent! ❤️❤️
I definitely agree with this. I have worked in different populations in treatment and substance abuse facilities and have seen this a lot. This is a great video. Thank you for putting out this podcast.
Wow, amazing conversation. Thank you!
I have had an alcoholic dad since I was little he was always an alcoholic and still is and him and my mom would always fight practically 24/7 and it was what I grew up with. My dad punched holes in the walls broke chairs and hit my mom and I this one time there was a pocket knife on the staircase and me and my sister grabbed it because we were scared of my dad stabbing himself or my mom and that's something little kids should never think about and all three of my sisters would sit next to each other just watching hoping that the fight would stop. My mom called the cops on my dad 2 times and my dad has left multiple times to go to LA after a big fight (still drunk) he would pack up and go. My dad also said once that he was going to drive off of a cliff and my mom called suicide hotline and he got taken away for a couple months and when he came back he looked skinny sad and unhealthy and worst of all my dad blames everyone else and never has he ever thought that maybe the fact he and my mom got divorced or why he got kicked out was because of him and when he calls me he tells me that it's all my mom's fault or that my mom is evil and brainwashing me . I'm sorry for typing this I just have no one to talk to.
I can fully understand
Chronic trauma you never know what to expect. You're like walking on egg shells. My adopted mother was not an alcoholic but she said her father was. She witnessed a lot of his violence but she was always angry. Today, I still have ourbursts as a result of all of that but the past doesn't control my life:)!
Thanks for the video, it was helpful for me in understanding the behavior of especially children of additive families
I am an adult child of an alcolholic mother and guess what, about 5 years ago i was diagnosed with ADHD. I am very interested in your book, healing the chaos within. But im having no luck finding it online and wondered if you sell it yourself? thanks.
Children who have alcoholic parents should be removed from their care pronto. The religious institutions, schools and law enforcement most always side with the abusers. Most alcoholics are the most vicious, violent people on earth. Many commit crimes too. Alcoholics need their own compound where they can drink 24/7 no kids around for them to destroy. After working in the schools have no empathy for alcoholics.
JEEZ this hit home!!!
Sounds like looking at the brain saves time, money and most of all prevents further hardships. Follow the money, God Bless You Dr. Amen.
As always, thank you for all the truth and nothing but the truth!
WONDERFUL INFORMATION.. wish I'd heard this year's ago!
It's more common than I thought..both my parents were alcoholics. I've bn in therapy for years but Never had success healing my issues and unfortunately my damages affected my daughter's lives in ways I didn't realize until hearing this. I don't know what to do. Confused and sad.
The 12 step program ACA can really help, you might look for a group near you!
internal family system therapy or parts work also complement 12 step program. these are minimal cost or donations base
Wow, Blocking the trusting, talking and feelings really hit home for me.
I LOVE this guy! So humble and real!
17:00 "Nobody wants to be labeled as crazy".
I have a feeling if 100% of the country scanned their brain an extremely high percentage would have some sort of mental health issue.
Amen clinics could do a study on this by scanning random participants.
Fascinating! I can't love that you scan the brain anymore than I do. I also work in the medical field.
I would like to correct you. Claudia Black’s book is Children of Alcoholics published in 1987. The book Adult Children of Alcoholics was written by Jan Woititz and published in 1984. It stayed on the best seller list for a year. Jan coined the phrase Adult Children of Alcoholics.
Al-Anon is a good support for those affected by someone's drinking.
Please tell that woman to stop interrupting the doctor. What she has to say is not more important than other people’s views.
when you mention about child hurting another child for no reason, that made me think of what my brother said about myself. He thought it was brain damage. Had an acoholic mother and also I had a rare walnut size brain tumour on right temporal lobe.
I am very interested in all of this stuff. I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents. I had multiple concussions when I was a child and I have had headaches for as long as I can remember. I had a video appointment when I was out in LA during Covid with a Neurologist and I do not remember any of that appointment. Last week I had an appointment with a different Neurologist but I made it a video appointment because I had a migraine. She is having me change my diet. She did schedule and MRI of my brain and an MRV of the veins in my neck. This is very interesting stuff and I really do help that my brain does get better. I will look into those links you have on this page. Thank you..
I forgot to say that I have a degree as a Nuclear Medicine Technologist and I have never done a brain scan and I would love it if I could have that done to me;)
My father is abusive and an alcohalic growing upp my parent always faught and I just coud not do anything about it becaus I was scard but then he quit drinking and he went back to normal. But now he started to drink again and started to hit my mother and he was about to kill her if I did not step in i am 15 and I am kinda big because a work out so i coud easily throw him away and then he started swering at me and saying i am not his son and to never talk to me again so I brought my mom and brother upp stirs so he coud not hurt them and then he hit me so I told him he is no man for hurtig a women and his son and scared him down stirs and now I think they are getting a divorce.
Same my mom was in rehab until 1 day she took us back and then this 1 guy got her into it again and know she is an alcoholic and I just want a normal family were theirs peace but I guess I can't have it 😔
I’m sorry you have to experience this. You deserve better and thank you for protecting your mom and family. I hope you got to safety.
What is interesting also… these exact traits are also present in my husband who grew up with no alcohol whatsoever in his life, (or any substance abuse).
NOT talking about anything uncomfortable is very normal for his family. I grew up with complete caos and craziness with alcoholics and I steered myself completely away from it. So thankful healing is available.
What’s the best type of counseling for 12 & 14 year old girls who’s alcoholic father is stuck in complete denial. They/I need help to stop this horrible cycle in their lives 🙏
I wish the medical field would look more at the brain just as they would a test for GERD or a mammogram etc!
alateen 12 step program
Does anybody space out?
lol I find them very good together, I cannot relate to your boring comments. they are both lovely
I am interested in doing a scan.
Hello Elizabeth, for more information on getting a brain scan at Amen Clinics, please call our Care Coordinators at 888-288-9834 or you can submit this form on our website: www.amenclinics.com/schedule-visit/. Thank you for reaching out!
I wonder if he realizes how frequently he cuts her off and talks over her.
He's allowed to because he's wearing a white doctor's lab coat
He’s done the work and fought the system. It’s really his platform. He also talks quieter than her.
She's just there for decoration.
She is just annoying
Thought it to be the other way, she interrupting him which I found to be loud, anxious and tbh yes, most annoying.
I am curious about scanning my brain but I don't have the money cause I don't have the money to get to your state only if there were scans in every state just like there are MRI and CT scans and X-rays musheans in every state
My hope is that more funding will be available for this diagnosis. Perhaps insurance. But the old system is entrenched, and change is slow. I’m always hopeful! ❤️☮️
This is spot on.
That listening small sounds thing happens to me I can hear water drops two from bathroom next to next room at 1 am
Listen to the entire video before you comment. Like I did. How do you get a doctor to order a brain scan? I’ve lived all my life being labeled for being a nervous child.
Thank you for reaching out. If you'd like more information, please contact our Care Coordinators: www.amenclinics.com/schedule-visit/.
Please is there a link to the viral vid they talk about? ❤
What are the solutions and How to get through the devastating effects of an alcoholic parent?
Thank you for reaching out.
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So my mom grew up with alcoholic family and it was abusive. My parents drank and again there was abuse they have been doing this 47 years. I had a brain tumor and had it removed. My mood is still low and have memory problems. I have brain scans every year. My dr tells me I'm fine I know I'm not. This is to be the best dr in my area. What should I do?
Did it change in those seven months?
Nice except how the man is constantly interrupting and talking over the nurse.
Yeah, but look at his MD lab coat. It all makes sense now.
Dr. Amen prescribes a lot of Adderal which is amphetamine. Is that a solution, to be on a stimulant drug your whole life? Just asking, I wonder about the long term things like losing your teeth and teeth grinding and on and on and on…my source is Lee Ann Rimes who publicly stated on video that he gives her Adderal for her emotional problems.
Great talk
This wasn't a helpful video re: affects on the child brain of alcoholics parents. Mostly off topic, where's the info on the subject? Makes me leery of Dr. Amen intentions. The video was mostly about Dr. Amen.
Are you kidding?Did you listen,at all?At all!!
Makes perfect sense to look at the brain before treating it. The reason you got stick for it is BIGPHARMA.
Where can we see the viral video??
I have all of those things in the beginning except addiction
Thanks
My mom shot my dad in front of my brother and myself when I was a year old, how did that mess me up? My dad is an abusive alcoholic.
Thank you for reaching out, and for sharing. If you'd like more information about SPECT scans and our services, please contact our Care Coordinators: www.amenclinics.com/schedule-visit/
I always forget things quickly
Me too
Are u an acoa
Me having both parents being alcoholics ... i
Same here, you're not alone ❤
If you wanna talk I’m here
I'm so glad that lady is perfect🙄
What kind of test is this called to look at the brain.
Hello Sarah, at Amen Clinics we use brain SPECT scans as a diagnostic tool to determine the treatment methods used for our patients. Here is more information on our website: www.amenclinics.com/approach/why-spect/. Thank you for reaching out!
My mom drink every day and I’m 12
Hope you are okay.
I’m sorry 🥺❤️❤️
im so sorry sweetie stay strong and stay careful!
I’m sorry sweetie I hope you are okay,
i am sorry to hear this, talk to your teacher, or someone thT u trust so that your mom can get help and you can be supported. sending loving thoughts, and prayers prayers for u
wow.................I am 60 and overwhelmingly an angry person all my life. major alcoholism in my family. ...............wow...............eyeopening.................shit this is not fair...........what do I do now?.....................my life is destroyed and I do not drink nor take any drugs. shit, shit, shit
So... the vid does not answer the question in the title. Last 2/3rd of the vid is just an ad of the clinic or memories of the doctor's past. :x I feel disappointed 😞
The nurse interrupts the doc every time he is going back into the
topic with someofftop bs...
She interrupts him so much its annoying to watch..
Yeah I agree, because her commentary really doesn't add anything, it's just distracting
She has OCD AND ADD IT IS A PART OF HER ILNESS
He interupts her
She makes it damn painful to watch. What’s worse she just displays her annoying denial of her issues
I just wasn’t to say thank you❤️
This Tana lady is in soooo much denial! It’s annoying coz she keeps interrupting the Dr, and she keeps expressing her denial louder and louder…. Making us miss a lot of valuable information from the Dr.
my mom is an alcoholic and my dad does illegal drugs but he left bc my mom :/
Is this her private secession with the Dr I want to hear more info from him as far as education
The woman is narcissistic asf like she keeps talking about herself
Can this woman plz tell this guy to SPEAK UP next time they do this????
Seems like she was his patient but she's his wife.
She’s one attractive lady
Does Tana amen realize how in denial she is. Omg. She obfuscates and denies. Oh my....she needs help
She is in total denial! It’s so annoying to listen 🙈
I want to hear you talk about the subject not your wife. It’s annoying. She talks to fast and it triggers my anxiety.
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She talks way too much! Didn’t learn a thing here...let the Dr. explain! Lost my interest, I’m out of here!
You’re too impatient and self-absorbed to get their message. I guess you’re not ready to change. Buh bye. ☮️
He talks too much and interupts her way too much!
No she doesn't.I hang on every word Tana says.Thank you Tana
How is this woman soo beautifull ❤
God she is irritating, keeps cutting across him
💩💩💩 story does not meet description
She talks too much
This is a commercial
This is boring and not on point.
Yes and the Dr. actually seems to be on drugs or drunk himself being honest
Woman talks to much. Let’s the dr talk without being interrupted
This is absolute nonsense
If you find this absurd then don't watch it
this woman is annoying, can we just hear from the dr
They cut eachother off. I would Ike to listen to him only. She a bit gregarious.