How to Raise Confident, Kind, and Responsible Kids | Dr. Daniel Amen & Jim Kwik
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What role does mental strength play in your child’s success? There’s no doubt that kids need their parent’s love and support to become happy, healthy adults. But that same love and support can have a dark side if it results in you doing too much for them. Even though it can be hard to watch your kids struggle or face consequences for their decisions, allowing them to make mistakes just might be the most important thing you can do to help them succeed.
In this episode, Dr. Daniel Amen is going to talk about how to nurture mental strength in your children. Dr. Amen is a physician, child and adult psychiatrist, and founder of BrainMD and Amen Clinics, where he’s completed over 200,00 SPECT brain scans from all over the world. Dr. Amen is also the New York Times bestselling author of over 30 books, including his latest, Raising Mentally Strong Kids: How to Combine the Power of Neuroscience with Love and Logic to Grow Confident, Kind, Responsible, and Resilient Children and Young Adults.
Raising mentally strong kids in today’s world is a challenge. Between alarming trends in mental health and the hidden dangers of our technological world, parents face an uphill battle like never before. That’s why Dr. Amen is on a mission to equip you with the tools to raise resilient, competent, and thriving young minds. Listen in as Dr. Amen shares three things that will ensure you always make good parenting decisions so you can raise mentally strong children.
0:00 About Dr. Daniel Amen
4:13 Redefining what loving our children means
7:22 The alarming mental health statistics
13:06 How to raise strong kids
19:33 The importance of understanding brain development
24:08 How to support a child with ADHD
28:40 The best thing to teach a child
34:55 Raising mentally strong kids book
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13.53 When I put my 5 year-old son in bed, we both have a gratitude moment, we thank for everything we had in the day, and we say outloud; "tomorrow is gonna be very great day! " He is definitely a positive guy🥰
❤ I will try to remember to do this
That is amazing 🙏🏼❤️ Good Job momma!!
I have two adult children in their early 30’s and had them pretty close in age when I was very young. When they became teens, I sat them down and gave them three rules to live by if they were going to live under my roof until they leave for their own.
1. Stay in school
2. Don’t do drugs
3. Don’t get someone pregnant or get pregnant.
They are now on their own, but I am glad I implemented those rules. As parents, we have to set boundaries, make your children take accountability for all their actions and teach them right from wrong. In other words, set good examples because you are their role models!
Bring everything into prayer, do your best as parents, & trust God todo His will...
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Beautifully said!
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Terrible advice. That's pure narcissism. That is "everything that I think is right is right" kind of attitude that allows religious wackos as you to kick gay children out of your house.
And they will do it "out of love". 🤮🤮 Maybe out of "God's love" which is basically obedience.
I love your content… I’ve been teaching in Taiwan as a kindergarten and ESL teacher where I’ve seen so many parents, teachers and the system hurt children. They aren’t allowed to play outside, parents do too much and children are weak and entitled. Parents never spend time with their kids anymore… it’s so sad
Yes I'm my son's biggest fan, but also his biggest critic & I feel I'm to hard & to soft at times, I wasn't taught well so I'm learning on the fly how to be in the middle
You took the words out my typing pad
@micro335 it's a struggle as a father knowing if we are doing this right, I just know it's tough for a man these days and I don't ever want him to give up like my parents did ya know
@@millionairemccoy218 I feel exactly the same. I can't give up for me, I can't give up for him. Its accepting that I need to change for him to potentially use me as model to follow.
Oh my lord me too. My parents were volatile and violent. It crippled us. I now have a child who is wildly intelligent and emotional and sensitive. He also has a smart arse retort for everything. He can’t follow a direction without pushing back and my mother who recently moved in with us loves to say “well you know what I would do”. Yes mom. I do. And assaulting my child with a belt or a stick is not an option.
JFC. This is exhausting.
4:30-congratulations Jim! It’s a strange, I have been following you for years, and I don’t think I’ve ever heard you talk about your family so congratulations!
The book is really good! I love the kind and firm approach and the authors bring so many good examples to use! I highly recommend it!
Love this! I run nature play classes for kiddos 18 months and up, and even at the youngest level I ask parents to hold back from helping kids right away say with a squirt bottle to give kids the time to think, and if needed ask for help. So often parents are surprised to see their children accomplish something they didn't think they could.
Thanks for your honesty. Parents don't want to really hear truth they prefer someone else fix the problem. I'm a firm believer kids are being neglected in what would seem to be the best of homes. So grateful for your book and I will order when done watching. This is generational because 3 generations ago there were no large binkies like tech stuff, no extra money to buy kids what they don't need just giving the parent a false sense of good parenting. My daughter is a single mom with a taxing job as a probation officer spending too many hours at work while my granddaughter spends way too much time alone without any boundaries. I could write much more but instead of detail the book is going directly to her as soon as it arrives, and I pray she will be open to embrace the information. She comes home worn out, crabby and no loving exchange with her daughter so she is beginning to act out which is simply a way to say, "I'm hurting and lonely".
This breaks my heart!
Hi Jim Kwik, I hope you're doing well! I'm Misagh, about to turn 29, and I'm from Iran! It's been 5 days since I got acquainted with you through your exceptional book "Limitless".
I was diagnosed with MS when I was 16. After being diagnosed with this mysterious disease, I had never been successful in finishing a book. After starting to read "Limitless", it took me back to a time when I used to finish Harry Potter books in just 2 or 3 days and could never be satisfied until I finished the book. I'm confident that with the content of this book, I can overcome issues and problems in my life.
I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with me in this world. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Indeed children need the best tools to survive this in this world. Basic survival skills are key .
What a gold podcast, so much info for us parents!
Being from a different cultural background getting this strong source is more than a blessing. Thank you
Thank you so much for educating parents. God bless u!
So so true, so sad about these young ones these days..We need to pray more for them and good advise wud be treat...
Nutritious food support is very important
This was an amazing show. I am so thankful for your work, both of you.
Very cool episode. Dr Amen is a wealth of knowledge and am glad he's bringing this to the fore front. Made me depressed just being in front of a screen all day. 😅
Right on Point....
Thanks for this :) the responsibility we have as parents is huge and learn daily about how to improve and show them to be the best humans possible is mandatory.
Incredible, thank you!!!
My son (almost 7) has very low self esteem and feels shame. I’m always praising him and telling him how amazing he is, but at the same time I have very little patience and shout a lot. I’m a single mum and have ptsd and some of the things he does/says are very triggering. I’m not sure how to get help. I really want my son to thrive and I feel guilty about me being the one to ruin him 😢
You are a wonderful mom to realize this and admit to it! That’s a big step and you and your son will make great progress, I’m sure. I was were you are about a year ago. Keep learning. Take care of yourself and get into therapy for you. Breaking generational traumas/habits/dysfunction is difficult but possible. This will restore your relationship with your son and help him shed the shame and build his self esteem. You’ll both feel better about yourselves and your relationship. Life is hard, but you will weather this together! Praying for you both right now🙏
Spend time in The Presence of God and ask Him to guide you to lead your son.
Praise your son for his EFFORTS, his patience , his endurance ( tell him specifying the task/ event)
Pray Bible verses over him, of being a leader, etc
I can totally relate. I have found that implementing a “pause” right when the feeling to raise my voice comes about really helps. Or even a deep breath.
I can relate TOTALLY. I struggle with the same issues. I've gone through a lot of trauma and abuse, and my son triggers me as well. I try to be encouraging to my son and hug him but it's hard for him to receive love. I think you are a better mom than you think! God chose you to be the mom of your son for a reason. You are making a positive impact in his life. Celebrate the small victories every day. Praying that God would guide you into all truth and discernment to parent with love and discipline. Parenting has never been easy for me since I come from a very dysfunctional background but God can turn our messes into messages of hope for those in the future. He can turn our tests into testimony! I pray you have a blessed mother's day today! God is with you and He is for you. Xoxo
True Worth
Great advice
Hi! Great episode. Appreciate all the helpful information. Can you share suggestions for parents of older adult children (22/23) where COVID impacted them and their confidence. With increases in costs and less personal interaction, it seems they are more withdrawal and have less desires to go out and live life.
Yes!!
1. Model mental strength.13.18.. tell your brain what kind of parent you want to be.
Tiny habits..start with them. Nudge their brain to look for what is right. Looking for the wrong is the base for mental disorders. Say " today is going to be a great day ". Focus on what went well.
Thank you for using the word kind and not "nice"
What are your takeaways from this episode?
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Hi Team. I gave the book limitless to a few people on my circle. But I had to buy in 3 different languages, Spanish, Portuguese and English. They all loved it. The TH-cam videos are super insightful, specially videos like this. I can share the overall information about this Video, but it would be amazing if I could share this video and everyone on my circle could read captions on their native language to understand the content. Just a suggestion.
I am a first ti mum to a 2 year old an I fiscovered that 30mins of my uninterrupted total attention paid to her, playing spmething she wants results in DRAMATIC reduce of a toddler tantrums! I was shocked and I am happy I came to this conclusion
Love this ❤
I think doc got his beats on backwards. ❤ L for left R for right cord behind the neck 👍
Thank you very much for a great conversation! Will this book still be good if our children are teenagers now?
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Be firm and kind and allow them to pay the consequences
Raising healthy kids in this dysfunctional society is almost impossible. One have to be lucky to have a supportive partner, to have very good luck with schools and teachers,.... and having lots of energy regardless of if you don't have enough money to feed your children or taking care of oneself.
Easy to focus on the negatives
Quality time and kindness as Dr mentions doesn’t depend on external factors thankfully and something you can easily implement if you so will
@@sarabrigido2163 What would you suggest to implement for people who don't have money for paying bills and food for their children (of course the children upset as they are hungry, so telling to the children to be positive is not going to fill their bellies), and the school is threatening with social services for not having nutritious lunches or washed clothes? Also if you can suggest how quality time doesn't depend of external factors in these situation would be helpful! (Hope you are not a bot or an unintelligent person responding with some useless stuff).
You talked about teaching consequences but without fisical punishment and thats great. But how can we teach toddlers consequences when they don't understand more complex reasoning?
Un abrazo para mi viudo😘
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ADHD is a common misdiagnosis among the gifted.
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Is there any native speaker? I need an English partner to improve my English.
I wish I knew this 16 years ago. If I knew then what I know now……
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This is gold, thank you 🙏
With parenting be:
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Gor my copy!!!!!
Only 5 grand a pop😠. His people put my niece on antidepressants and suggested a few supplements after her scan. Maybe if you’re famous you get more care. 😢 my friends child also went and I didn’t see improvement in him either. It’s hard for me to be impressed. Just a lot of talk
The intro was so confusing.
While I really do like and understand the love and logic thing, that horrifying child abuser, Ruby Franke, utilized these principles and bastardized them. So there is going to be a major issue with not bringing a lunch or a sweater or what have you. You have to be able to use your discretion and be a little flexible in some instances. Every child is different and you can’t apply principles across the board exactly the same. Parents still need to use their own discretion in knowing child. And of course don’t be a psycho monster like Ruby Franke.
Duolingo owl
Is Dr. Amen using bluetooth earbuds? Isn't that bad for your brain?
Pandemic exasperated this 🤬
The issue with this podcast is that Jim Kwik already knew all this stuff. Watch a podcast with someone who didn't know how the brain works beforehand, and you'll get more insights.
Please remove the long intro it discourages someone to watch this video.its only that I know you and I know you have very good info.thanks
Agreed- I don’t watch his videos and almost clicked away as I was beginning to wonder if the whole video was like that
Yes. And the energy is quite low in this interview. Couldn’t make it past 5 min
Agree I almost clicked away too but forced myself to stay tune
I just skip all that. I don't like it either. I am straight to the point. I'm a busy mom, and I want to educate myself quickly and move on.
@longashl yeah, it's kind of mellow.
Some context here: that statistic about “25% of women are on antidepressants” is actually 25% of American women ages 40-59 and is from 2010. Not generalizable to all women everywhere or even just to that same population 14 years later and isn’t even relevant to what he’s talking about here. Parenting that millennials and Gen Z’ers received has nothing to do with antidepressant use by these women. If anything, their antidepressant use was probably caused by hormonal fluctuations due to menopause.
It’s also helpful to keep in mind that 1950s housewives were commonly taking tranquilizers to the point that the Rolling Stones actually wrote a song about it called “Mother’s Little Helper”. So overmedicating women is not a new phenomenon.
I made the mistake of doing too much for my children and the became adults ill-eqipped to handle the real world.
How best to modify or reverse 30 years if entitlement?
I, too, did this. I think it was the mental effects of an early divorce and trying to make my kids feel more love or less alone when their dad stopped showing up for them.
Saying this, I now know the effects of divorce on children. I definitely would have opted to stay married for the children
Don’t coddle them during uncomfortable situations, or be quick to solve their problems. Start encouraging them to find solutions on their own, that will build confidence in their own abilities to solve their problems or discomfort. You should be there to just listen to them vent and you can encourage them, but fight your urge to solve their problems. Ask them what they think they should do about it, listen and give them suggestions. If they say they don’t know, encourage them to get out a notebook and write them down. It’s like sitting down and doing homework with your kids. Either you do the work for them to make things less stressful on yourself and on them (which sets them up for failure and dependency), or you sit with them showing your support, empathy and compassion while they navigate through figuring it out. You show up for them, but you don’t do for them. Hope that helps!
vile online porn is devastating kids lives and this lasts into adulthood.
Take responsibility - remove access to unsuitable material
Too many commercials. Hey i know what we need more of, more noise and adds to clutter up our mental space! In fact i would like extra spam on top of my adds please!
You're not wrong, but they're also the reason he can do it, right?..
This talk seems to me to be unfair, as the parents who are on their phones all the time and don't care about their children, are not going to listen to this talk. And the parents who care and are listening, because they want to bring their children well, they are struggling a lot, and what you are suggesting can not fix the problems.
Have you tried it? All parenting experts recommend the same thing.
@@xavthomas What a question? No need to 'try' a lifestyle I already live. All parenting experts are recommending it, and again, it is for parents who don't care and are not seeing these experts. The parents who are seeing this experts struggle, because the experts are not helping. And yes, I am one of them, who asked for help and was told that what schools do is out of my control. To teach by humiliating is the fastest way to learn, so they will not stop humiliating the children (and damaging theirs self esteem).
@@ic7804 I'm sorry you went through that. Handing our kids over to other people to shape them can either be hugely beneficial to them by giving more access to information, culture, and perspectives... or can be irreparably destructive. We are at the mercy of the school districts and individual teachers. This is why so many families turn to homeschooling.
My own family of origin had big problems with our school and my brother still suffers from the affects nearly 50 years later.
Love all of this. So honest. So kind. So correct.
Is pinching 🤏 bad haha I feel sometimes it’s what i can do to make my child notice !
Lol
It's abuse. It's exerting power and control over them instead of listening and communicating with respect. It undermines trust and love. It's your way of getting revenge for them not listening. It's not a parenting tactic.