It took me a long time to let things go. I left the religion but I didn't do anything. I kept my life the same. I took a lot of time to deconstruct but I found that it made me resentful, sad and angry. Last year I started running 5k races. That helped me to build confidence in myself. To realize I can do hard things. I started college in August at the age of 47. And I love it! Im so busy now I dont have time to be concerned with my past. I'm too busy moving forward.
@@Latricia130 Dude! I started College at 45, to become an engineer. I never had the confidence for it and the JWs only encouraged under achievement. It angers me that I waited so long. I didn't know how cheap community College was. Here's to our great awakening! It never too late. I'm glad to hear your story of rebirth.
This is good topic. I reject every part of Greievance/Resentment Culture. It doesn't just take your energy. It takes your happiness making you anxious an neurotic to everything that looks or remind you of the thing or person that hurt you. That makes you fearful, vengeful and hostile. It takes your courage and your creativity.
I appreciate that you are taking a positive view and mentioned in another video that you are “over” your anger. But for me, its been a grueling five years since I left. I also told the elders and my ex wife that I was going to “brush all this crap off my shoulders (being dfd, questions about validity of organization, etc.), and move on with my life.” It has been almost impossible for me. Even though I tried to meet new peeps, became an actor, therapy, etc etc… I cud not take the JW out of me. So I would just caution you about a cavalier attitude… although some have left and seem to be successful and actually happy! I hope the same for you my man.
Man I appreciate your raw and real comment here. It’s no easy journey, and everyone’s path is different. For me, it's more about my life being on an upward trajectory regardless if the JWs get 90 mill new members or go out of business tomorrow. Since that is now my focus, I honestly don't even think about the JWs. But I really hope you find peace bro. You deserve it, we all do. If you're ever in Thailand, let me know!
@ I think part of my problem and others have told me this is that I’m not completed with my deprogramming. Because honestly, I can’t be presumptuous about knowing how we’re here on earth. I don’t know… science doesn’t really know … religion doesn’t really know …Jehovah’s Witness postulate based on the Bible. I was telling somebody that they really shouldn’t have called themselves “the truth” all these years unless they’re trying to use that as a metaphor. But the truth in the 1980s is way different than today’s truth. I’m not trying to be apostate about it I’m just saying that maybe what they should be calling is “the journey” because to me that makes more sense. it’s a journey and you’re learning as you’re going. It’s more honest that way. My wife and I got imto a huge fight once and I had all these boxes of literature in the garage and I wrote, “former truth” in the black marker on the boxes, former truth, former truth, former truth, she left me calling me a raging apostate which wasn’t true. I was just frustrated with tons of things. But if you have an upward trajectory on this, then rock ‘n’ roll! congratulations! I tend to be very reflective. But that can be hard especially if I’m ruminating. That’s just me. Story of my life… I really need to do some stand-up comedy. definitely never been to Thailand would be cool to hang. I’m in Washington state
Its okay to be upset and frustrated or angry at someones disrespect, it’s only bad when you hold on to that anger for days, it becomes resentment when one tries to hurt you back or hurt others for feeling hurt when others haven’t done anything to them that’s resentment
I hold on to resentment a lot, in fact I resent most things, which leaves me grumpy and miserable, and nothing makes me happier than when I'm grumpy and miserable. 😊
It took me a long time to let things go. I left the religion but I didn't do anything. I kept my life the same. I took a lot of time to deconstruct but I found that it made me resentful, sad and angry. Last year I started running 5k races. That helped me to build confidence in myself. To realize I can do hard things. I started college in August at the age of 47. And I love it! Im so busy now I dont have time to be concerned with my past. I'm too busy moving forward.
That’s inspiring! Turning challenges into growth and new goals-running and college at 47 is incredible.
@@Latricia130 Dude! I started College at 45, to become an engineer. I never had the confidence for it and the JWs only encouraged under achievement. It angers me that I waited so long. I didn't know how cheap community College was. Here's to our great awakening! It never too late. I'm glad to hear your story of rebirth.
@saquist That's awesome! I have also found that there are grants and scholarships available. Take the first step and the answers appear.
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Great words
Thanks bro
This is good topic. I reject every part of Greievance/Resentment Culture. It doesn't just take your energy. It takes your happiness making you anxious an neurotic to everything that looks or remind you of the thing or person that hurt you.
That makes you fearful, vengeful and hostile. It takes your courage and your creativity.
100% my feelings as well
food at the proper time! Thanks Thanom for these videos!
Oh boy not that haha
Thanks
I appreciate that you are taking a positive view and mentioned in another video that you are “over” your anger. But for me, its been a grueling five years since I left. I also told the elders and my ex wife that I was going to “brush all this crap off my shoulders (being dfd, questions about validity of organization, etc.), and move on with my life.” It has been almost impossible for me. Even though I tried to meet new peeps, became an actor, therapy, etc etc… I cud not take the JW out of me. So I would just caution you about a cavalier attitude… although some have left and seem to be successful and actually happy! I hope the same for you my man.
Man I appreciate your raw and real comment here. It’s no easy journey, and everyone’s path is different.
For me, it's more about my life being on an upward trajectory regardless if the JWs get 90 mill new members or go out of business tomorrow. Since that is now my focus, I honestly don't even think about the JWs.
But I really hope you find peace bro. You deserve it, we all do. If you're ever in Thailand, let me know!
@ I think part of my problem and others have told me this is that I’m not completed with my deprogramming. Because honestly, I can’t be presumptuous about knowing how we’re here on earth. I don’t know… science doesn’t really know … religion doesn’t really know …Jehovah’s Witness postulate based on the Bible. I was telling somebody that they really shouldn’t have called themselves “the truth” all these years unless they’re trying to use that as a metaphor. But the truth in the 1980s is way different than today’s truth. I’m not trying to be apostate about it I’m just saying that maybe what they should be calling is “the journey” because to me that makes more sense. it’s a journey and you’re learning as you’re going. It’s more honest that way. My wife and I got imto a huge fight once and I had all these boxes of literature in the garage and I wrote, “former truth” in the black marker on the boxes, former truth, former truth, former truth, she left me calling me a raging apostate which wasn’t true. I was just frustrated with tons of things. But if you have an upward trajectory on this, then rock ‘n’ roll! congratulations! I tend to be very reflective. But that can be hard especially if I’m ruminating. That’s just me. Story of my life… I really need to do some stand-up comedy. definitely never been to Thailand would be cool to hang. I’m in Washington state
Yeah I'm glad I'm free. My sister is free. I pray the rest of my family become free
Its okay to be upset and frustrated or angry at someones disrespect, it’s only bad when you hold on to that anger for days, it becomes resentment when one tries to hurt you back or hurt others for feeling hurt when others haven’t done anything to them that’s resentment
Exactly. Feeling anger is natural, but holding onto it can turn it into harmful resentment
I hold on to resentment a lot, in fact I resent most things, which leaves me grumpy and miserable, and nothing makes me happier than when I'm grumpy and miserable. 😊
I Just be disfellowship people out of my life 😂
Probably a bad thing but.... meh 🤷🏾♂️
Haha