@@HealthCores honestly I I haven't lived in anywhere else other than my own country Iran and I had this discussion with a friend of mine or how great United States is I said yeah it's great if you want to work your ass to grave and own things partially till you are gray and your balls don't work yeah it's great. When I look at my own society now people don't have much but they are in the streets talking smiling a lot of people are dating of course in their unique Islamic way streets of bustling. Other than New York City if you go into any Metro in the United States past 5:00 p.m. nobody's there The reason is. They work their asses off when jobs were available that is and they went home buying a wonderbread with some cold cuts laying around with a bottle of beer waiting tomorrow to get molested all over by the corporations. This was when they were plenty of jobs not now it's four words. I'm thinking of going back I don't need a house by the time I'm 75 to pay it off and then have hypertension, congestive heart failure, chronic kidney disease, erectile dysfunction, To enjoy a house. I wish I never came here but soon this horror show would be ending for me at least.
Well if I’m eating beans from a can in front of a beautiful lake like that, having a fish and being able to think in peace rather than worrying about office gossip so that I can earn more money to buy more crap … yeah I’ll have beans for lunch any day 💖
I'm in my 40s and The past hunts me now. I think about my children all grown up, my family members that past, the amount of useless work we do sometimes. Work is necessary but this system was designed to rob us of real freedom.
@@HealthCores Its hard to find work/life balance in America honestly. It has become such a materialistic place that you almost have to pay for the air you breathe. I enjoy my life but honestly, I'm looking for a way out of this rat race. My mind is thinking of ways to do this everyday. I pray and I know God will send me the answer soon. I trust in him. I even sold my brick house and bought 4 acres and a mobile home with animals to live the simpler country life. Animals have brought some joy to me as it reminds me of me and my grandfather when he was around. I pray for you and your family. It will happen have faith.
That's why you outsmart the system by not getting married or having kydz That's the main factor in attaining maximum peace and freedom Oh and maximum fun too lol
@Dreadeyeknight nah that's u concededing to the system, u can still have kids and a wife if u really outsmart the system,u dont have to if u dont want to but that's really beating the system
My manager wants me to work hard as much as another employee who works day and night and weekends. Corporate America is just so toxic where I want to quit so I can finally breathe.
I did nothing for 2 years. It was fun for a while then I got depressed. I've since learned it's about balance. We need to work, but a job we love. We need to contribute and make meaningful connections with other human beings. But we also need vacations and adventure. Like all things, it's about balance.
Every day being SATURDAY gets OLD. Retire for a few years and it becomes evident. The key is to really (not give a damn inside about whatever job you're at) Let all that stress go. Don't worry about being fired or whatever. It's sooooooo much easier. In your later years work part-time if you feel like it. Full time is torture. The end.
@plutoplatters I tend to think same when pondering meaning.. and existence itself. Maybe the Source (God, etc.) gets bored with itself. It is after all.. ONE. As in ALL ONE...A(l)LONE. So here "we" are. 🤷♂️ Like Alan Watts said: Let's suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream that you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have. And you would, naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes. You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say "Well, that was pretty great." But now let's have a surprise. Let's have a dream which isn't under control. Where something is gonna happen to me that I don't know what it's going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say "Wow, that was a close shave, wasn't it?" And then you would get more and more adventurous, and you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream. And finally, you would dream ... where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today. That would be within the infinite multiplicity of choices you would have. Of playing that you weren't God, because the whole nature of the godhead, according to this idea, is to play that he is not. So in this idea then, everybody is fundamentally the ultimate reality, not God in a politically kingly sense, but god in the sense of being the self, the deep-down basic whatever there is. And you are all that, only you are pretending you are not. 🙃✌️
Eh, you got depressed because you let yourself. "Work" can mean working/volunteerung for your various communities. No, no one needs to have a job in order to not get depressed. There is just too much to learn and love in this world to get depressed about having the time and peace to do it. And you probably took do nothing too literally.
Hello ! May Allah protect and guide you to his light and happiness in this life and the hereafter, God bless, Ameen. Excuse me for giving a little presentation of Islam, because it is very misunderstood nowadays, especially on those « Antichrist's » times, where media and politics are mixed to distort history and truth. And terrorists (puppets of the Antichrist) who misinterpret verses, out of ignorance and political motivations, and take them out of historical context (just like radical atheists do by the way) don't help either. Thank you very much for your time. First of all, if you have any questions regarding Islam and yourself, just open the Quran randomly, and you will find the answer in front of you, like a miracle and a sign from God.
Islam is an arabic word that means the Surrender to the One and Only God, our Creator, Protector, Provider, who gives us life and all that we have, we are safe and sound by his will and grace, we are His and to Him we return, and we have to thank him in this trial life by submitting to him by our free will, or later in the Day of judgment when it's too late to save our own skin. Islam was the original Religion descended to earth from heaven with Adam and Eve (peace and blessing be upon them) in the beginning of humanity. and was passed to people with the succession of the 124 000 prophets and 315 messengers of God to all nations and civilizations since, passing by Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Ismaël, Joseph, Moses, Aaron, Joshua, David, Solomon and Jesus (Peace and blessing be upon them) during the history of mankind, the last replaces and completes the previous, until the succession of the last messenger of God fourteen centuries ago, Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) to complete the noble morals of all mankind, to bring humans and jinns out of darkness into light, and to purify people's religion and belief from corruption and polytheism, and return it to purity and true monotheism, like it was in the times of the prophets (Peace and blessing be upon them). Many Religions that we know nowadays, at their beginning were true and under Islam, initiated by one of the prophets of God, but their original teachings, history and scriptures have been corrupted over time with falsification and polytheism, or lost and replaced with false ones. That's why Islam is the only Religion accepted by God nowadays, which consists in bearing witness that there is no god besides Allah (God in Aramaic, the original language of Jesus and the Gospel), and that Muhammad is His servant and messenger, just like Jesus and Moses and others are His servants and messengers. Never a messenger of God said he was God or literally son of God, it was the people after him who changed the words of God and corrupted the Religion. God is unique and absolute, He does not need to have a family and sons or to associate anyone else with His kingdom, He can simply create whatever He wants, everything belongs to Him, and to Him everything will return. Allah said in Surah Al-Mu’minun : “God has never begotten a son, nor is there any god besides Him. Otherwise, each god would have taken away what it has created, and some of them would have gained supremacy over others. Glory be to God, far beyond what they describe. The Knower of the hidden and the manifest. He is exalted, far above what they associate. (91-92 / Translated by ITANI). Allah means the one and only God, the God of all prophets and creatures, the creator of the universe and mankind, and the Master of the Day of judgment, where our destiny, Hell or Paradise, is decided based on our faith and deeds in this trial life, and above all, Allah's mercy. Allah said in Surah Al-Ikhlas : In the name of God, the Gracious, the Merciful. Say, “He is God, the One. God, the Absolute. He begets not, nor was He begotten. And there is none comparable to Him.” (1-4 / Translated by ITANI). Allah said in Surah An-Nisa : O FOLLOWERS of the Gospel! Do not overstep the bounds [of truth] in your religious beliefs, and do not say of God anything but the truth. The Christ Jesus, son of Mary, was but God's Apostle - [the fulfilment of] His promise which He had conveyed unto Mary - and a soul created by Him. Believe, then, in God and His apostles, and do not say, "[God is] a trinity". Desist [from this assertion] for your own good. God is but One God; utterly remote is He, in His glory, from having a son: unto Him belongs all that is in the heavens and all that is on earth; and none is as worthy of trust as God. Never did the Christ feel too proud to be God's servant, nor do the angels who are near unto Him. And those who feel too proud to serve Him and glory in their arrogance [should know that on Judgment Day] He will gather them all unto Himself: (171-172 / Translated by Muhammad Asad). Allah the Most Merciful said in Surah Ali-Imran : Behold, the only [true] religion in the sight of God is [man's] self-surrender unto Him; and those who were vouchsafed revelation aforetime took, out of mutual jealousy, to divergent views [on this point] only after knowledge [thereof] had come unto them. But as for him who denies the truth of God's messages - behold, God is swift in reckoning! Thus, [O Prophet,] if they argue with thee, say, "I have surrendered my whole being unto God, and [so have] all who follow me!" - and ask those who have been vouchsafed revelation aforetime, as well as all unlettered people, "Have you [too] surrendered yourselves unto Him?" And if they surrender themselves unto Him, they are on the right path; but if they turn away - behold, thy duty is no more than to deliver the message: for God sees all that is in [the hearts of] His creatures. Verily, as for those who deny the truth of God's messages, and slay the prophets against all right, and slay people who enjoin equity - announce unto them a grievous chastisement. It is they whose works shall come to nought both in this world and in the life to come; and they shall have none to succour them. (19-22 / Translated by Muhammad Asad).. God said : Say, “We believe in Allah, and in what was revealed to us, and in what was revealed to Abraham, and Ishmael, and Isaac, and Jacob, and the Patriarchs, and in what was given to Moses and Jesus, and in what was given to the prophets from their Lord. We do not differentiate between any of them. And to Him, we surrender.” (2:136 / Translated by Community) Salam (Peace) --------------
I’m so conflicted bc my whole life I’ve wanted to be free, roam, explore, learn. I got married, had kids. Settled into a life I didn’t truly want. I fell into what was expected. Now my kids are grown, I’ve been single many years. Now I have to unlearn this lifestyle & be brave enough to live my original dream. I almost didn’t watch this guy but man, this hits home. Thank you !
I'm proud of you both. You're setting a proper example as a man. Life isn't supposed to be comfortable per se. Intellectual honesty is key. And that's what we are seeing here. A rare site in 2024.
Time is not real. It’s a concept. Yesterday is not real, it does not exist. Only in our head. It’s a thought. Tomorrow is not real, it’s also a thought. The future can be hope, anxiety, a plan, a deadline. All not real, all in our head. The only thing that is real is the present. The concept of time can force us to live in our head and we will never be fully present or conscious living in that space. Living for tomorrow is a curse and a lie. You are alive today. Also, we only have 1 birthday, the day we are born. We are ageless. Great video and blessings to you on your journey.
The sun is always burning bright all around the world any time we keep track of is determinedly detrimental to the human species, filtering our motion to clocks and such being great problems to figuring out the way around proof such as science, for simple proof the first moment of our day starts with this science by the clock every count is not in minutes or seconds. Some things are outside of our grasp and one of those things is how we are just rusting and rotting away from lower pH over time. We are made to crave junk and keep a rhythm with minutes hours days weeks months just doing the same thing to our body and it wants to give us up before we do it a favor and give up what we are doing. Eventually if everyone can learn that food is not as good as we are told and time is now and the real currency is the infinite currency in your very veins we would finally see why we do what we do and we would make what we all truly want in life. The only thing holding us back is what else could there be, if only we have time to figure it out..
Being a 47 year old Asian guy also, life was all about education, work, raising family. Now that both kids are in college and don't really need me, I am also ready to step away from the corporate world. I've ignored myself for too long, I don't need much. Simply sitting by the water, waiting all day for a bite and watching the minnows swim by is fine for me in my book.
I understand because I am in the same situation. Hope it's going to get easier for now. Be careful making new life changing decisions. Where you live. Your partner too. Give yourself time to recuperate. Hope you find something that gives joy and that doesn't drain your energy. A good balance.
Office jobs are lowkey depressing, the same 9-5, same co-workers, lack of fresh air, lack of productivity, driving home in the same car, same streets. Everything gets repetitive and depressing.
This story I heard helped me to realize it's about perspective. - A rich man went to Mexico for vacation and saw a Mexican fisherman catching a lot of fish. So the rich man said you could get a business LLC and sell fish for money. The Mexican man said then what do I do next? The rich man said then you get the company on the stock market and people will trade for your value of the company. Then the Mexican man said oh what do I do next? The rich man said then you sell your company after 20+ years. Then the Mexican man said what next? The rich man said I guess you get to retire and go fishing. Then the Mexican said.. Oh so you do all that just to retire. I guess I am retired because I am already getting to go fishing...
But your retirement benefits depends on how much you worked, age, etc And u still need money for real estate expenses, utilities, food, transportation, medical, etc
@@raymondlin8728so waste your health all your life for wealth. To retire at an old age halfway dead spending your wealth on your health. Terrible logic guy people been falling for that trap for years. The fisherman gets it you don’t
My mom just died of a pulmonary embolism. This video hits me so hard to my core. All this time spent moving away, chasing pointless pay increases. All the while distancing myself from the beautiful person that birthed me. All this time wasted. I can't go back, and don't know how I feel about that. My mom hustled her entire life just to die at 66 years old, before ever getting to retire and enjoy herself. I can't let that be me. I must make a change.
I’m so sorry for your loss, man. Losing someone like your mom, especially with so much left unsaid or undone, is a pain that runs deep. But it’s clear she’s left you with a powerful reminder of what truly matters. It’s never too late to change direction and start now, one step at a time, and build a life that honors her spirit and brings you the joy she deserved. You’re not alone in this. Stay strong.
6 years ago, after grinding hard for 40 years, I finally burned out. Self employed since 18 years old chasing the dream, married to a person who didn't love me back, supporting her the best that I could, house 1 block from a private country club, nice SUV's, 2 vacations a year and financially supported her family as well and then Covid arrived. My business took a hit, my covert narcissist wife who is now my ex pushed me harder instead of offering support so, I filed for divorce and placed our house on the market. I've been doing nothing but reflect and learn since and although I do enjoy the down time, I have no intentions to fully stop pursuing my dreams but its good to finally take a rest.
Rob, glad to hear you have scaled back in all areas. Now you can decide what and how you see yourself living. Free time isn't a sin, but remember to keep a hobby, it saves the day as you get much older. Good success to you. 😊
@@SpaceCadet4Jesus Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I do have a few hobbies but they cost money so, I'll need to go back to work to finance them. Fortunately, I enjoy what I do for work so it's almost like a hobby. I just won't burn the candle at both ends this go around. All the best to you!
Sorry brother. I could be reading my life story. Pretty much exactly what happened to me. I know the feeling. I don't know what comes first. The burn out or the realization that your wife doesn't really love you. But it happened to me too. Worked so hard I got a heart problem at 40. Kept on going. At 47 dystonia. Couldn't work anymore. Wife was somehow gone emotionally. Refused sex already for years. Eventually she stopped talking. Silent treatment for 3 years. Imagine that. She also looked down on me because I couldn't work as hard anymore. I tried though. Just couldn't do it anymore. Tried to solve it but she didn't want to. She filed for divorce. She took our business. Got rewarded a small sum in court but no energy to start again. Burn out will do that to you. Have to figure out a way to make it out of the bay area. Too expensive here. It will be the death of me.
Hello ! May Allah protect and guide you to his light and happiness in this life and the hereafter, God bless, Ameen. Excuse me for giving a little presentation of Islam, because it is very misunderstood nowadays, especially on those « Antichrist's » times, where media and politics are mixed to distort history and truth. And terrorists (puppets of the Antichrist) who misinterpret verses, out of ignorance and political motivations, and take them out of historical context (just like radical atheists do by the way) don't help either. Thank you very much for your time. First of all, if you have any questions regarding Islam and yourself, just open the Quran randomly, and you will find the answer in front of you, like a miracle and a sign from God.
Islam is an arabic word that means the Surrender to the One and Only God, our Creator, Protector, Provider, who gives us life and all that we have, we are safe and sound by his will and grace, we are His and to Him we return, and we have to thank him in this trial life by submitting to him by our free will, or later in the Day of judgment when it's too late to save our own skin. Islam was the original Religion descended to earth from heaven with Adam and Eve (peace and blessing be upon them) in the beginning of humanity. and was passed to people with the succession of the 124 000 prophets and 315 messengers of God to all nations and civilizations since, passing by Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Ismaël, Joseph, Moses, Aaron, Joshua, David, Solomon and Jesus (Peace and blessing be upon them) during the history of mankind, the last replaces and completes the previous, until the succession of the last messenger of God fourteen centuries ago, Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) to complete the noble morals of all mankind, to bring humans and jinns out of darkness into light, and to purify people's religion and belief from corruption and polytheism, and return it to purity and true monotheism, like it was in the times of the prophets (Peace and blessing be upon them). Many Religions that we know nowadays, at their beginning were true and under Islam, initiated by one of the prophets of God, but their original teachings, history and scriptures have been corrupted over time with falsification and polytheism, or lost and replaced with false ones. That's why Islam is the only Religion accepted by God nowadays, which consists in bearing witness that there is no god besides Allah (God in Aramaic, the original language of Jesus and the Gospel), and that Muhammad is His servant and messenger, just like Jesus and Moses and others are His servants and messengers. Never a messenger of God said he was God or literally son of God, it was the people after him who changed the words of God and corrupted the Religion. God is unique and absolute, He does not need to have a family and sons or to associate anyone else with His kingdom, He can simply create whatever He wants, everything belongs to Him, and to Him everything will return. Allah said in Surah Al-Mu’minun : “God has never begotten a son, nor is there any god besides Him. Otherwise, each god would have taken away what it has created, and some of them would have gained supremacy over others. Glory be to God, far beyond what they describe. The Knower of the hidden and the manifest. He is exalted, far above what they associate. (91-92 / Translated by ITANI). Allah means the one and only God, the God of all prophets and creatures, the creator of the universe and mankind, and the Master of the Day of judgment, where our destiny, Hell or Paradise, is decided based on our faith and deeds in this trial life, and above all, Allah's mercy. Allah said in Surah Al-Ikhlas : In the name of God, the Gracious, the Merciful. Say, “He is God, the One. God, the Absolute. He begets not, nor was He begotten. And there is none comparable to Him.” (1-4 / Translated by ITANI). Allah said in Surah An-Nisa : O FOLLOWERS of the Gospel! Do not overstep the bounds [of truth] in your religious beliefs, and do not say of God anything but the truth. The Christ Jesus, son of Mary, was but God's Apostle - [the fulfilment of] His promise which He had conveyed unto Mary - and a soul created by Him. Believe, then, in God and His apostles, and do not say, "[God is] a trinity". Desist [from this assertion] for your own good. God is but One God; utterly remote is He, in His glory, from having a son: unto Him belongs all that is in the heavens and all that is on earth; and none is as worthy of trust as God. Never did the Christ feel too proud to be God's servant, nor do the angels who are near unto Him. And those who feel too proud to serve Him and glory in their arrogance [should know that on Judgment Day] He will gather them all unto Himself: (171-172 / Translated by Muhammad Asad). Allah the Most Merciful said in Surah Ali-Imran : Behold, the only [true] religion in the sight of God is [man's] self-surrender unto Him; and those who were vouchsafed revelation aforetime took, out of mutual jealousy, to divergent views [on this point] only after knowledge [thereof] had come unto them. But as for him who denies the truth of God's messages - behold, God is swift in reckoning! Thus, [O Prophet,] if they argue with thee, say, "I have surrendered my whole being unto God, and [so have] all who follow me!" - and ask those who have been vouchsafed revelation aforetime, as well as all unlettered people, "Have you [too] surrendered yourselves unto Him?" And if they surrender themselves unto Him, they are on the right path; but if they turn away - behold, thy duty is no more than to deliver the message: for God sees all that is in [the hearts of] His creatures. Verily, as for those who deny the truth of God's messages, and slay the prophets against all right, and slay people who enjoin equity - announce unto them a grievous chastisement. It is they whose works shall come to nought both in this world and in the life to come; and they shall have none to succour them. (19-22 / Translated by Muhammad Asad).. God said : Say, “We believe in Allah, and in what was revealed to us, and in what was revealed to Abraham, and Ishmael, and Isaac, and Jacob, and the Patriarchs, and in what was given to Moses and Jesus, and in what was given to the prophets from their Lord. We do not differentiate between any of them. And to Him, we surrender.” (2:136 / Translated by Community) Salam (Peace) --------------
I’m 32 and I already feel like this. Always running around figuring out how to better myself and make more money to buy more things and make people proud instead of working on feeling happy myself.
life itself is a trap. first leg up to mastering life is understanding propaganda is everywhere and you cannot avoid it. accept that everyone wants control of you so they can benefit. it’s not an evil exactly but can be if you allow others to continually manipulate you. after learning about propaganda and what it really is the next step is say to a healthy life is learning to maximize yourself awareness as your radar because the skills you need in life are equal to learning driving skills for the road. it’s not about winning or losing but more to do with your ability to navigate ups and downs so you can self regulate. sometimes you need people in your life to check you for that reason. to keep it short, my last tip is to understand that if you do the bare minimum that is average to everyone else around you on the same path. if you apply yourself seriously, you can be anywhere you want to be doing whatever you want to do. how you get there may vary, but if you continue to apply yourself you can get very far. i’ve had several careers working for top industries doing the jobs i set out to do even though i never made it apart of my goals to reach the income i thought was favorable in comparison to what i was willing to accept. i went from art college to hollywood vfx to working in home mortgage to wealth management. for me early on getting into the industry was a goal to try to hustle for money but over time i just accepted that my day job is going to fund what i want to do in my spare time. working on a movie or comic but on my own time. doing things my way. without someone else breathing down my neck. you can do a lot, just learn to build your world around yourself and understand what that really means because everything around you is changing and won’t wait for you.
This guy is very wise. Thankyou for making this video. I'm glad you are fishing brother good luck on your journey. I'm in the same boat. But you have your wife and child that is joy many men will never know.
Poignant words. I fear most might take this to mean that what was in the morning should never have been valued as important, but I think that'd be a hasty conclusion. We deemed it necessary in the morning but it has since served its purpose. Time to move on.
Does that mean you should do nothing your whole life? We are designed for progress, so we do need desires , just not selfish ones. You'll find snappy quotes like your one aren't actually from Buddha. He spoke in more complex ways.
I don’t have a career, I just recently got out of a 2 year engagement and I traveled 7 times, 3 different countries, proposed in Aruba, took engagement photos in Dominican, still relax and all I did was side hustles and Airbnb in my two bed apartment. People overrate careers and I’ve been chilling at 25, not for long though.
The is by far the best story I have heard on TH-cam in a past 20 years. Better than any feature film with a multimillion dollar budget. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
Very well said. I feel the same. For so long people have suppressed their real and raw true emotions. The corporate world for me was quite abusive at every turn, and even academia. It’s like society has become so toxic. Your ability to open up and be so transparent is quite a bit refreshing !🙏 Very peaceful and tranquil.👍
Bro, English man here in the Philippines. Thank you for reinforcing these truths. Life here is much slower, people have less wealth but family is stronger and , even tho they understand that money affords a lot of options, it’s not the be all and end all. It feels like serendipity that I stumbled upon your video this morning. Thank you for your open and honest story. Most people want and need this but few are aware of it. Thanks again, much love ❤️
You're on the right track. Five years ago i sold my home and almost all my possessions. Hit the road with a truck and small utility trailer that contained everything i owned. My only direction was driving west, did so for eight months camping all the way. I have found that living with less and enjoying life more is where it's at in my opinion
That has to be the most idiotic thing I’ve heard. I guess you have no kids/family then. If you own a home the dumbest thing you can do is sell to create liquid money. Stupid really.
There is a lot of power in doing nothing, but many won’t admit it because it takes courage and strength to be able to just sit on your own alone with your own thoughts. For some people it is enough to drive them crazy, perhaps because they don’t like who they are, but those who can master that technique will become truly enlightened individuals.
@@AnonforYeshua77777 I work full time, my wife works part time. We together make under 100k a year. With no kids, and a smart budget, we are able to live quite comfortably. I know of a number of people up here though who have two-3 kids and they are able to manage just fine too.
@@nerad1994 I live in Kenai Alaska. It's a coastal town. Small town life, with enough shopping to live comfortably. We have a view of the ocean, and a number of volcanoes across the Cook Inlet.
Thanks for taking the time to hear my story. I hope the struggles I went through could help you see life from another perspective. Thanks for your support and I wish you well on your journey ❤️
I did it 5 years ago. 50 now and worked my entire life since I moved out of my parents home at 15. It has its moments. I still pay a mortgage and have been divorced of course. Kids are all grown and not many friends left. It's still better than eating shlt every day from someone that doesn't deserve you. It's crazy there's nowhere for people to live so I just rent out a few extra rooms in my giant house I bought back in the day lol. Worst case scenario is I'd just sell it...... F**k it
@@constantinhaller4391 What makes you so sure of that? Feeling the burden of providing is what has kept us all stuck in this insane, absurd system to begin with. Is there a way to be faithful to your sense of self and your need to take care of others?
I feel you brother. I have 2 kids , work 3 jobs, Costco 40 hours a week, music solo gigs , and Uber at nights . The grind is very draining and it’s tuff at all times. I deal with hundreds of people everyday all day and night. One day I hope to meet you at that spot and make a cup of coffee with you
that sounds a good life tbh, but i can understand you feel tired, but imo tiredness is pretty much something we live with even if we dont work all the time
@bright6200 Letting go is always hard and I am still learning that now as I go along. But how long do we stay doing something that slowly is killing us?
3 things that helped me and literally changed my life 1. i stopped telling myself ill do it tomorrow 2. i read the book the cosmic wealth frequenices on borlest 3. i had faith and religion
I’m a burned out emergency physician at age 60. Spent 22 years in Air National Guard deploying all over the world as a flight surgeon on my “spare time”. Literally have had one weekend off a month for the last 20 years. It’s taken me 60 years to discover what you have figured out. I love spending time alone doing nothing and regret my life that was wasted. Enjoy watching your videos!
God bless you I'm starting my life over at 44 years old after being addicted to heroin for 20 years before that I was a firefighter had four years in the department but got dependent on oxycontin because of eight surgeries which then went to heroin. Remember it's never too late to start over. I'm going back to my community college this January. I've been off heroin and Fentanyl for 2 years and I just got off the Sublocade and now on nothing. God bless you 🙏
Watch Dr Dobie he quit as a 20 yr Neurosurgeon, MD burned out to great you tube channel Now he does lots of hiking river videos etc Site is I think called dobie and scobie with his dog scoobie
41 yrs. Most of my life i've been stressing about something. Mostly about what's coming next. I still do that, a lot. I got so used to always thinking that even when i'm completely "blank" (as you put it) i feel like I'm not okay, when in reality this is the best feeling you can have, the feeling of no feeling. No stress, no sadness, not even happiness, just nothing. I believe this is the closest we can get to blissfulness/enlightenment as mere mortals. Wish you all the best.
@castrofiasco888 Just remember to be your own best friend. Don't judge yourself too much. We're here for a limited time as this body and mind. Might aswell love ourselves more and have more simpathy for ourselves. There's nothing wrong with you. Just sit, breathe and relax. Clear your mind. You're good!
I'm 39 and been in the corporate world just over 15 years and gotta say this video resonated very heavily with me. Unlike you however, I'm not courageous and can't see myself abandoning this gig until I'm financially secure for the rest of my life but I wanted to say Thank you for letting me live vicariously for a while and giving me something to think about. Merry Christmas.
I burned out 8 years ago. Lol. I’ve been trying to do nothing since. I think it’s an amazing practice. Lol. I end up doing what’s important and nothing else.
@@bagman1103 I’m a health coach. Again, I still do what’s important. I just TRY to do nothing. The things that need to get done just pop up. It’s just a difference in the way you look at things. Rather making a to-do list of unimportant things, when you try not to do anything, the things that really need to get done become the obvious priority.
Good on you. The higher you climb the corporate ladder the quicker you realise its just the hunting ground of psychopaths in management looking to exploit and take advantage of employee goodwill, diligence, sense of duty and kindness
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k While good leaders can create environments that encourage people to do their best, leadership is fundamentally a "collaborative" process. People must voluntarily choose to: Engage Trust Invest effort Align with organizational goals While good leaders strive to bring out the best in people, achieving this consistently across all contexts is a complex, if not an impossible, challenge influenced by numerous factors beyond a leader's direct control.
@user-dq2ym1nn9k While good leaders can create environments that encourage people to do their best, leadership is fundamentally a "collaborative" process. People must voluntarily choose to: Engage Trust Invest effort Align with organizational goals While good leaders might try to bring out the best in people, achieving this consistently across all contexts is a complex, if not an impossible, challenge influenced by numerous factors beyond a leader's direct control.
You are on the journey to wholeness and your path has led you to the realization of what you know in your heart is not how life is supposed to be lived. You have been quietly consuming all of the pieces that make up the whole and they are beginning to assemble. This is your awakening. Welcome to the club!
I’m 51. 3 kids. Everything I ever did was for my wife and kids. She told me on Valentine’s Day this year that she thought we would be better apart. This was the second time she told me this. The first time was on out 15 year anniversary. I fought to keep her the first time. Granted her wish the second time. Going thru and identity crisis. I let myself make bad financial decisions trying to keep my ex happy. I’m back on track financially now. 50/50 with the kids and focusing energy there but still lost on my purpose. I work. I workout every day. I don’t have any drive anymore though. Just kind of don’t see the point in the life we are told to lead. I did the formula. School, college, get a job, marriage, kids, dog, house, cars. Blah blah and now I’m a statistic. I want to break out and go. I want to live differently than the “little boxes on the hillside, little boxes made of ticky tacky”. But I just don’t know. Not interested in another relationship. All end up the same. Compromise by a thousand paper cuts until you “aren’t the person she fell in love with”. It’s like a cosmic joke
Sorry that happened to you with your wife and all, I’m in similar situation where the love is gone but we’re still together raising a pre teen and teen and gotta keep smiling for them, it’s hard…keep going,stay strong and explore what inspires you…I’m still trying to figure out my situation but I’m always thankful,grateful
@ rich cooper opened my eyes. I had years and years of bad decisions with women. Spent my life chasing them when I should have been chasing excellence. My ex started me down that road bc I started chasing excellence for me and not for her when I saw the writing on the wall. Now women and relationships with women don’t define me. I can take them or leave them. I’m super content doing my own thing. Note. As a side effect of that - women want to be near you. They like to wait at the finish line for the winners. Not run the race with them. Definitely check out rich cooper. It changed my life and perspective. I still have my moments and it’s hard to unplug completely from old habits and conditioning. But it does change a lot.
Im 33 now and I reached the point you’re at at 30. So, I’ve been on this journey for 3 years. Until society gets its act together, I’m done. I’m not contributing anymore unless it benefits me. I have so many skills and plans for my future now.
The good news is that you are still young and have lots of time ahead of you. I hope you, too, will soon find the place where you belong and be happy. Take care ❤️
When you do things "only for yourself," you've left the path of wisdom. If you want society to "get its act together," go out and be the change you want to see. It's not on everyone else but you.
That's where people miss the point. It's like yeah people can quit work but they have no money to do anything. Only so much you can do before you get bored and want to work again anyway.
@@reubanfleet3188 it's not about quitting but seeking balance. Static hustle mode hardwires into our fight or flight primal area. A principle to think on is with reckless expansion comes reckless collapse. It is better to slowly stomach one piece steadily each day than to chase the whole pie tireless daily. I hope this makes sense.
@@leandrodomingues4452 yes money imo is like a river. If you fight and force it you'll always be like Sisyphus. However if you find your niche, don't fight the flow it will always come to you. Doesn't mean you don't have to work, sweat or be dirty ect. Just a mindset. ;) Don't mind a ol dog barking into the wind.
Totally agree and can empathize. As the Bible says in Ecclesiastes, “It’s all meaningless”. For true believers in Christ, our purpose can be found in Him. But, the world pushes us to chase things that are perishable and temporary, all the whilst we are deteriorating. The “American Dream” really becomes an endless nightmare. My wife always mentions how obsessed parents are with extra curriculars, missing out on so much quality time with their children, while keeping them “busy and productive”. Again, “meaningless”. Children remember quality time with us, not how many activities they were in, most of which they will leave behind with their adolescence. So much time wasted being a paid slave 🤦♂️. We are done with that life, ourselves. We are done just “existing”. Time to LIVE. May Jesus reveal (to you) your next steps and journey, going forward. It’s a blessing that your eyes have been opened. Happy Birthday!
Breaking free from that cycle is huge, it’s like finally seeing what matters. Kids grow up fast, and what sticks is the time spent together, not the busyness. Living with purpose instead of just existing feels so much richer. Thank you.
Wise video. My daughter is 23 now and I’d give anything to go to a carnival with her again when she was 6 or 7 years old. That aside, I’m sitting in my living room resting in relative silence. Sure, prior to leaving the work world at 57 I had those moments BUT, I was clinging to them. Not anymore, these moments of staring at the sky, not having to be anywhere are no longer rushed or clung to, they are part of me. Money issues rear their head sometimes but that was the trade off. The mental and physical stress I’ve endured took its toll. Yes, tired of the rat race. I found a little slice of life. Hope it’s lasts.
It’s nice to see people are starting to realize what is really important to them and not what was told to us what’s important. Soon people with make a choice in life intelligently based on what they really want.
Beautiful message man. This life is so short and the world is full of vampires that try to suck out your attention, money, time, and peace. Guard it fiercely
I was forced to do nothing due to chronic illness. What I have learned, is that I had time to clear away lifetimes of past life trauma.....I have skyrocketed on the spiritual path.
When you take time and listen to people, you can see how we are all hurting from this culture. Sometimes when I see an African village it makes me sad, because of what they have that we dont. I can only imagine how cool it would be to play barefoot soccer in the rain with your friends, surviving off the land and being fully immersed in your community. I am so tired of grinding, being alone and constantly going up hill and quite honestly I dont think its just me. I am not depressed, I just dont feel like driving in the wrong direction so often.
Keep Africa out of your mouth please! We are sick and tired of these generalized statements you have against 1.3 billion people. Like cut the crap. You also have poverty and homelessness there in your first world country. Look in your back yard first before looking into ours!
I have a house keeper who comes round once a week. She tells me about her village in Malawi and how friendly everyone is. She smiles such a wonderful smile when she talks about it. I wish we had villages like that here in the west and I wish we could live simple lives again like when I was a kid.
@@citizendc9 The older I get I see how the American war machines true enemy is culture. Any place on earth where the people dont subscribe to working their entire life to buy disposable goods must be "freed". it is so sad, we could all be so happy if we just lived simple and trusted each other.
Thank you for saying that and it means a lot. I’m glad the message connected with you. Wishing you all the best as you keep growing and finding your path.
You left the "theatre". Our whole life we run away from something we should walk to: Happiness in just being. This emptiness is way more full than imagined, in fact it's fullness. Be-ing instead of be-coming. If your child sees a bird it doesn't need to know what kind of bird it is. Otherwise it won't see a bird again. That's emptying the "cup" or in this case, keeping it empty. Much respect, Jan
@@SpiriTxDOUGHBOY the day you teach a kid a name of the bird it won't see that bird never again. It's because firstly it sees something alive and vibrant and someone says that's sparrow and kid learns that. Next time they are going for a walk again and there is similar bird to the one they have seen the other day and kid says oh that's sparrow I know them, I am bored with a sparrows. Very often we don't see what's really around us, because we perceive all of that through the labels we have for it and we miss its uniqness.
I hope you are at peace with your journey. Right now, self acceptance is my top priority. I will worry about what other might think about my choices later. Thanks.
@@HealthCores there was a point where I thought my self-acceptance was borderline delusional, or unhealthy lol. It's crazy the things the devil will get you to think in your imagination rather than see in front of your eyes
There's something about being alone in nature that helps us reconnect with ourselves and be at peace. Thank you and please take good care of yourself as well 🙏
Love this video, man. Im in the same boat at the age of 32. I'm content with very little at this point, knowing it can end at any moment. Slowing down is how you speed up.
Man you are still young and still got time to do a course correction. Sometimes we just have to pull over and check that map before we run out of gas. Good luck on your journey 🙏
32 here too and same here bud. The world has gotten out of control. Lost my job back in March. Best thing to ever happen to me. Spending unfettered time with yourself is how you get to know yourself. Sometimes Time needs to take it's "TIME".... Prayers and blessings to you 🙏
@BruceL33Roy yeah, man. Even if it takes a year or 2, as long as I am making some progress and doing what I enjoy, that is what I am aiming for the next year of my life. Have a job at a gym right now but was self-employed for the longest. I've tried over a hundred jobs, and I like being at the gym taking care of myself and being paid for that and only focusing on my health at this point. Dont even care how much I make for now. I just want to do what I want to do, work out, and eat the best and master that part of my life.
I'm studying hard to become a data scientist. I'm already burnt out haha. Really wanna be like you but i couldn't. I have my parents i have to take care. If i doesn't study hard, work hard, i don't have the money to provide for them. Good dream though, maybe 1 day. 1 day i will be free from the stress, the constant need to upskilling and striving above. I'm very tired now, still, i will keep going. Also good luck with your mental health recovery.
Oh man that is no joke. Been there bro so I know. I still get headaches thinking about data structures. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot, but your dedication is inspiring. Taking care of your family and pushing forward is no small thing. One day, you’ll find that freedom and peace you’re working so hard for. Stay strong!
@@HealthCores Yeah. There were a few breakdown but i managed to get a 50% off from my university for a psychiatrist in 1 month. Have been using the cheapest meds for depression and anxiety. The meds are cheap enough that i can continuously use it for quite a long time. I think it will help me to ease the rampaging mind and decrease in mental health. Tbh, i do not have time for mental health. It's a bad solution, a temporary solution that leads to nowhere. But it will do for now. I do believe i will not live over 50 with the current state haha. I honestly do not care, as long as i can support my parents till the day they part me, i will happily go with them. They have sacrificed so much for me. I'm a burden to them. I dedicated my life to help them in the future.
Im in the same boat, making high six figures. Planning on leaving it all behind for freedom, spending more time with my kids. Work for myself instead of corporations.
55 yrs old here and I remember going to bed in my 20s woke up and was in my 50s that’s how fast time goes . I quit my job in May this year sick to death of dead lines , targets oh the list went on best thing I ever did but I do point out to people my own circumstances allowed me to do it go back 3 yrs or so I could have not done it . And everyone is on their own journey in life and I got to the stage where I don’t give a fuck what people think so long as I’m happy and getting on with it , I’m not really a inspirational quote type of person but two things I go by. With every kick in the face and every hurdle you pass the rewards get greater . And Have a good old moan and move on. I have applied to work in a supermarket part time know few people who quit high paying jobs and have done this , as they keep telling me they are broke but happy meaning not earning no where near the money they earned from previous job . All the best for the future can only move forward .
In the end, you either give all of your money to your children, your nursing home, or the funeral home. Although all three will take everything that you have, only the funeral home will ensure that you leave this world with dignity and respect. This reminds us that while we can plan for our legacy, the way we are remembered is ultimately shaped by the love and care we showed in life.
So cool. i am watching u from Vietnam, where i settled down a couple of years ago. i was lucky enough to meet a wonderful woman here. She taught me those principles you are talking about. I met some incredible buddhist masters who helped me turn my life around when i was in need of guidance. If you allow me to do so, would love to share your video with my students.
Hey that's just so cool. I thought about trying to go back and live there. I actually spent a lot of time in the mountains and the Buddhist Masters the temple helped me when I was sick and dying. I am so happy that you found your place of peace. Please do share .y video and I would love to hear more about Vietnam. Thanks.
Man... I'm 45. I went through a similar experience about a year ago. I had been in the same industry for 18 years, the same job for 13. Time at my current job had come to a close. Six months before that, I had started a new relationship with a woman with a small daughter. I also have a daughter, who is now 14... I love her so much. I cherish, more than any single thing, the years when she was young. In 2015, I had a goal to take prerequisites to eventually get into PA school...I went for two semesters, giving it everything I could, a time which meant I had to tell my 5 year old daughter "no" when she wanted to spend time with me. After those two semesters, which I attacked full bore, shooting for straight A's, while being a full time medical device rep, I didn't want to do it anymore. I chose a relationship with my daughter over going to school and a future career as a PA. That is one decision I have never regretted... I loved every damn minute I spent with my daughter. It was the best time in my whole life. Then Covid hit, and before I knew it, she stopped being a little girl. Now, she's 14, and is mostly at her Mom's (I get her a whole 4 days a month). But, back to 18 months ago, I thought that by focusing on my new partner and her daughter, I was doing the right thing. I helped her through a custody battle, and did what I believed were the right things that a good man should do. Despite all of the effort, she ended things a little over a month ago. It hit me incredibly hard. Some of the worst pain of my life losing her, and that little girl, who by that time had long since started calling me Dad. Going from having a family to being totally alone, has been a kind of pain I never thought I'd experience at this stage of my life. I miss them so much. But, also, being alone, has forced me to confront myself, and where I am in life. It has forced me to be honest about the changing role of men in relationships, and in the workplace. Where I live, there aren't many opportunities in the job market... It has been a long stare into the great abyss... facing the reality that, a man, once he no longer produces, is disposable. Our culture is so fixated on women and opportunities equaling that of men.. I don't think it pays any attention to men. It's "adapt or survive"... and in life, sometimes that means choosing between being the father you want to be for 4 days a month, or forsaking that for an opportunity at something different. So much of my purpose was taking care of the girls in my life... but, I discovered that my value to them was only as much as I earned. That is an incredibly painful thing to come to terms with. But, it's also freeing, to a point. I don't know what I'm going to do, exactly. But, like you, I want it to be something that pushes me to do it with vigor and passion... traditionally that has meant other people. Now, I am faced with doing for myself and only myself..and as much as I want others to motivate me, that simply isn't an option. One bit of advice: spend as much time as possible with your daughter. You'll never regret it. Ever. It does go so quickly... soak up all of it you can.... time with her, and your wife... indulge in it. You just never know when life is going to come along and have its own plans with you.
💯 my daughter is 17 now. I walked away from every big opportunity if it looked like the trade off was neglecting that diminishing time with her. Stay up man, teenagers are really hard. 14 - 16 especially tough. I promise she doesn't think your only value is your earnings potential tho. Stay available and present and pretty soon no custody agreement can get between you guys. It will happen fast
@@SamRexfordI can't make her mother a reasonable person. I have no control over whether her mom is a controlling narcissist. The courts here in New Mexico are awful and corrupt. I wish this story had a happy ending. But, my prime earning years are dwindling away, and as much as I would love to have financial & professional opportunities come my way, the reality in this state is I will very likely have to create them myself. As for my daughter... She has been brainwashed like so many other young girls... and 4 days vs 26 with her Mom is... it's lip service. It's enough time for her Mom to say, "She sees her Dad", and then, when our relationship withers, she can tell our daughter, "I had the same experience with my Dad. I know how it is..." She is a sick woman. But, sick narcissistic people like herself will never admit they have a problem. They just ruin the lives of the people around them.
@@SamRexfordI begged her Mom for *years* for more time with her. It only resulted in less. Her Mom is a sick, fucked up human being who thinks because she has a good job, that makes the rest of her good, too. I can see into the past, how she was made from her Dad not being present when she was a little girl... she used to accuse me of being him... of saying I was going to leave them... Then *she* leaves... and now, she's making our daughter into her... which is so incredibly sick...and Democrats control the fucking courts in this shit state. This is what it results in... But, she will never admit to, or take accountability for any of this.
@@CalmBeforeTheStorm76 I've been thru something extremely similar it sounds like. If you ever need someone to chop it up with over fatherhood, courts, daughters, life, reach out. I'm easy to find online.
Happy Birthday 🎂 My Mom had the book on being productive! She died at 69! She never let me sit around. Always had to be “doing something” Once I could get settled into my own life .. I tried to Chill but of course it wasn’t possible until after I hit 40 ! That was my first step to graduate into Freedom! I get to do what I want now! 🙌 Freedom is what matters to me!
Haha:) my mum subscribed to wasp philosophy too, one must always be busy, one must earn one's rest. I live with her but I spend hours in my room relaxing. She can't stand it but also can't do anything about it:)
I grew up in an Asian family and we always had to be doing something. This is the first time in my life that I am experiencing slowing down. Thanks for sharing your story.
I can relate both my parents were narcissistic and both subsided to the bee paradym can't sit still and relax got to always be doing something this had a detrimental effect on me I became them now at 60 I can stop, read a book, go for a walk, meditate, enjoy nature do fcuk all if I want
It's the present moment that's critical. That's where the peace and serenity comes from. Sounds like you're really ready to find out who you are through meditation. I truly wish you the best. It takes courage to do what you are doing❤
Amazing chat bud. I’m only 22 but I can somewhat relate. University, my 4 internships, past dedications to university business clubs, and my part-time investment management job have led me to burn out. This whole time I followed the expectations of society and desired external validation. I ONLY JUST REALIZED NOW THAT EVERYTHING I HAVE DONE IN MY LIFE WAS NEVER ABOUT ME!!! It was about everyone else! I used to have so much fun learning new things until it became a matter of researching certain topics just so then I don’t seem boring to others. I’m too focused on what other people think about me that I cannot live my life properly. I just want to be me. I also appreciate that quote about being empty before being full. I have to start over and assess what matters to me. 1) Running long distances is one of my favourite things to do. Could only do 3km back in May and worked myself up to 21km by September. Going to sign up for a local half marathon once we get the chance 2) Fingerstyle guitar is another hobby of mine. Unfortunately I’ve become too critical of myself during practice sessions for music theory. I need to tell myself that it’s ok to not know music theory inside out yet. Just play and have fun. When it’s not fun anymore, put it down! 3) Growing plants. My family owns greenhouses and that’s how we’ve made our fortune. It’s a thankless job and doesn’t pay great but it’s what I love. Maybe I won’t be as respected as an investment banker, but that’s fine. - I can’t rely on external validation anymore. Talked things over with my dad after watching this video and decided I’m going to work there starting in March. This gives me some time to calm down and start from scratch. Thanks so much man, you’ve helped me craft my next steps!
Trust me, when you work in investment banking, most are miserable and they just use the title to try to sound impressive to others - I worked at Goldman sachs and Deutsche Bank for 6 years. Now run my own startup software company in AI that I love and do it from my house in Spain next to the beach. Life is peaceful and enjoyable. There are many ways to make good salary, while also doing what you love.
You're sitting at Lake Cuyamaca, California. Your story resonated with me especially when I realized where you were at. I lived 3 miles from that spot. People thought I was crazy living that far away from civilization and I just laughed. The Cuyamaca and Laguna Mountains tend to breathe life back into your soul. It's crazy not to experience this firsthand.
@MikeMiller-zu5zl I am jealous how close you are to that beautiful area. I didn’t want to go back to the big city after spending my birthday there alone. Also caught my trophy trout that day. Would love to go back again. Cheers my friend!
Thank you for sharing your honest & true thoughts. Your video finds me at 35 off work (mtb crash) reflecting on life. I spent a decade working a big corporate job that drained my soul. I decided to leave & pursue different means of income. That alone was a lesson i life I needed to learn, & im so glad i did. Now that I have had time to be still it makes me realize that once again i need a change. I did look at myself in the mirror & wondered what had happened to the last 15 years. I share a lot of the same emotions. This video has helped me reground myself in a way that i wouldn't have been able to alone. I have nothing but well wishes for both yourself & your family. Thank you 💜
Having space is a true blessing. I'm happy for you. I experienced that for a few years when I wasn't working, and now my mind seems to never stop buzzing. Your video is confirmation that it is OK to feel peaceful rather than anxiously seeking all the time. ❤
It's ok to give yourself permission to rest and find your moment of peacefulness. We are people not machines. Even machines need to recharge. Please enjoy your time away from all the buzzing.
Wow that's super cool. I would love to travel like that one day and see the world from another perspective. I hope you had a good break and will find that next dream job soon. Good luck my friend 🙏
I don't think it's ever too late for any of us to start realizing that the path we took was not the one meant for us. Sometimes it's better to do nothing than to keep going down the same path of self destruction as it was in my case. I hope you will find that peaceful destination where we all belong. Thanks.
I hustled since the age of 17 on my own at 40 I left it all to move to Puerto Rico mountains and started growing and planting anything I can think of. After a falling out with my family due to mother being a violent Narc I only have my SO and sometimes talk to brother. I have literally no one toxic around me and stopped feeling guilty that I'm not on the hamster wheel.
I retired in 2015 ( after what i term as ' Gulf burnout ' after working nearly 40 years in Dubai ) , and ever since it has been my intentional goal to do NOTHING ! I've grown spiritual and am now enjoying the Bliss ! My only activities are enjoying cooking at home , going out driving into town to do some shopping for groceries, spending a lot of time online pursuing my interests on TH-cam, and enjoying the evenings watching the sunset followed by my ' happy hour ' evening drink of Gin n tonic or beer before dinner ! No better place to retire than the Philippines for me as I have a lovely filipina wife who takes care of every thing at home including our family business which helps put food on the table for all of our extended family.
Hustle culture is an extreme we should avoid, but idleness is another extreme we ought to be wary of. We need a happy middle. The Greeks understood moderation.
@@Processing321I'm glad you mentioned that I'm confused on all this type of talk. Living in the United States you gotta work shit is expensive. All this hanging out not making any money will looking spaces.
You are a wise man. I resonate with pretty much everything you said. People get too caught up in making money and meanwhile they miss the one true valuable thing they have - their life. They go on collecting money and power, and forget to live life. And soon enough death comes and takes away all their money and power. So in the end, you only lose… your time, your energy and your money. And when you see it, you made it to retirement, but you’re too old and too tired to enjoy your life… To be honest, I’ve been wanting to take that leap but I don’t have your courage yet. It’s scary. I congratulate people like you for taking the courage to breaking out of the matrix. I know it’s not easy. Just don’t worry, the divine is guiding you on your path. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I wish you all the best in your life and journey!
There is absolutely nothing to conquer. Simply sit quiet and just be present. There is nothing to lose. Your story hits home run. Thanks for sharing your story.
It’s okay not to have an answer. You are right to step back, and to live in the present. Currently I’m sitting on my Lanai, and looking at the Palm Trees sway, and thanking God for all His Creation. ❤
Amazing story. It becomes more beautiful when We Know Who We Are in Essence by renewing our minds daily as we look inwards; it's Blissful and Peaceful at all times 🦋 Much love
That’s such a lovely thought. Knowing ourselves at our core truly does bring peace and joy. Renewing the mind daily by reflecting inward is such a powerful practice. Thank you for sharing this beautiful perspective.
You’re right. Our society focuses on 9-5 work work work, and we hardly get a time to enjoy life and break off from the norm. I can see why reverting to nature is liberating, though it can also be dangerous
@@gr2786 Maybe you don't get it; most people in this world, especially younger Americans are too lazy and selfish to sacrifice for their families. I see all of these van lifers, GenZer's and others that say they have freedom. The sad part for the rest of us is that when they get older, we will have to pay for the fact that they didn't pay their way. They didn't earn a retirement, didn't pay into social security, earn health care, etc. People like you don't realize that most previous generations sacrificed, did things they didn't want to do for the good of others and their families. I'm glad I'm at retirement, but I'm also proud I did my part in the world and did something that had some meaning. I also did waste all of my good years. I'm in good shape, healthy and strong and still have every bit as much energy as someone in their 20's. I've ate healthy and went to the gym. Go away and do something with your life.
Thank you for this, God has given me the opportunity to spend time with my kids, my wife and my self. I have been squandering this time, sometimes you just need a reminder like this. Thank you so much, you are speaking to thousands, maybe millions of us, and we hear you!
I think we all deserve a 2nd chance to live again. I hope you can find the time to spend with your family and rest more. We are just simply humans, after all.
Over 70 widower, still healthy and happy, much enjoyed your sharing. You 've realized an important lesson for your better life here. I can relate to your enlightenment and share a thank you for making the video. Empty the cup to refill it, I will never forget that idea.
I am happy to see you are healthy and happy. Those things can be so simple but at the same time so out of reach at times. Please keep taking care of yourself and thanks for listening to my story.
This is a surreal mirror moment for me 💯 a year ago, I literally sat in that exact spot you're sitting at on a beach, and uttered the same words "I honestly don't know what the next chapter of my life is gonna look like" ... the rest is history! thank you for sharing this moment 🙏
That’s such an incredible connection! Life has a way of bringing those full-circle moments to remind us how far we’ve come. Your journey shows the power of trust and resilience. Here’s to even brighter chapters ahead! I hope that moment on the beach got you to the place you want to be🙏
I've been missing out until i become a father, i used to love leaving working places having reason to leave but now i wanna work hard for my family that means everything to me. Its not society that made me this way, I was always this way, I always wanted to be a father and I will do my very best to make sure my family is healthy and secure.
dude, if thats your goal. limit the time at the company and spend more time with your wife and toddler. reading your 2 lines, i just feal like they contradict , alot.
Do you ever feel like you're strapped to a hamster wheel and all you do is the endless hustle without going anywhere?
No I don’t, I don’t live in the american reality, I’m european, we enjoy life, in America seems that the goal is just money
You do something... you eat a can of beans by a lake 😂😂
@@BabyJesus66using shitty comedy to cope I see😂
@@artur.ribeiro.398 I live in Europe and it is moving in that direction as well. If I compare it to 20 years ago it is a completely different place
@@HealthCores honestly I I haven't lived in anywhere else other than my own country Iran and I had this discussion with a friend of mine or how great United States is I said yeah it's great if you want to work your ass to grave and own things partially till you are gray and your balls don't work yeah it's great.
When I look at my own society now people don't have much but they are in the streets talking smiling a lot of people are dating of course in their unique Islamic way streets of bustling.
Other than New York City if you go into any Metro in the United States past 5:00 p.m. nobody's there The reason is.
They work their asses off when jobs were available that is and they went home buying a wonderbread with some cold cuts laying around with a bottle of beer waiting tomorrow to get molested all over by the corporations.
This was when they were plenty of jobs not now it's four words.
I'm thinking of going back I don't need a house by the time I'm 75 to pay it off and then have hypertension, congestive heart failure, chronic kidney disease, erectile dysfunction,
To enjoy a house.
I wish I never came here but soon this horror show would be ending for me at least.
The hustle culture is crazy. Turns ppl into monsters
Not always.
It felt great in a positive, productive way in my 20s. Then I hit 30 and realized life is a blur and isn’t passing any slower
But if we don't we will get eaten. So there is no alternative
Monsters or soulless husks. The rest find a way to keep the mask on.
I was thinking deep about that the other day, and it's very similar to drug habit behavior.
“It doesn’t matter how expensive your watch is it can’t buy back time…and every day that passes is a day we never get back”. So true
that's true!!!! therefore from now on I'm going to be a bum and eat beans from a can????? LOLLLLLL
@@radscorpion8 k
@@radscorpion8is this the best your brain can muster
FACTS
Well if I’m eating beans from a can in front of a beautiful lake like that, having a fish and being able to think in peace rather than worrying about office gossip so that I can earn more money to buy more crap … yeah I’ll have beans for lunch any day 💖
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is absolutely nothing.
I’m a pro.
Facts. And sometimes that’s the hardest thing to do.
✌🏽✌🏽👆🏽💫Facts!
@@seanahn9008😂😂😂💫💫💯
@robfraser33 You said a mouth full with this comment! 💚💚💚💯 I learned, and yet it was hard to do! Practice makes perfect!
I'm in my 40s and The past hunts me now. I think about my children all grown up, my family members that past, the amount of useless work we do sometimes. Work is necessary but this system was designed to rob us of real freedom.
Man I was going down that route too. I know we all need to work but is work life balance even a thing? I am still trying to figure that out.
@@HealthCores Its hard to find work/life balance in America honestly. It has become such a materialistic place that you almost have to pay for the air you breathe. I enjoy my life but honestly, I'm looking for a way out of this rat race. My mind is thinking of ways to do this everyday. I pray and I know God will send me the answer soon. I trust in him. I even sold my brick house and bought 4 acres and a mobile home with animals to live the simpler country life. Animals have brought some joy to me as it reminds me of me and my grandfather when he was around. I pray for you and your family. It will happen have faith.
That's why you outsmart the system by not getting married or having kydz
That's the main factor in attaining maximum peace and freedom
Oh and maximum fun too lol
@Dreadeyeknight nah that's u concededing to the system, u can still have kids and a wife if u really outsmart the system,u dont have to if u dont want to but that's really beating the system
My manager wants me to work hard as much as another employee who works day and night and weekends. Corporate America is just so toxic where I want to quit so I can finally breathe.
Sucks when you have to hustle just to avoid homelessness.
So true.
you dont get it
So true..
I live on my sailboat, $3500 per year to live a good life.
Then do you expect everything to be free ?
I did nothing for 2 years. It was fun for a while then I got depressed. I've since learned it's about balance. We need to work, but a job we love. We need to contribute and make meaningful connections with other human beings. But we also need vacations and adventure. Like all things, it's about balance.
Every day being SATURDAY gets OLD. Retire for a few years and it becomes evident. The key is to really (not give a damn inside about whatever job you're at) Let all that stress go. Don't worry about being fired or whatever. It's sooooooo much easier. In your later years work part-time if you feel like it. Full time is torture. The end.
@plutoplatters I tend to think same when pondering meaning.. and existence itself. Maybe the Source (God, etc.) gets bored with itself. It is after all.. ONE. As in ALL ONE...A(l)LONE. So here "we" are. 🤷♂️
Like Alan Watts said:
Let's suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream that you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have. And you would, naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes.
You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say "Well, that was pretty great." But now let's have a surprise.
Let's have a dream which isn't under control. Where something is gonna happen to me that I don't know what it's going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say "Wow, that was a close shave, wasn't it?" And then you would get more and more adventurous, and you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream.
And finally, you would dream ... where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today.
That would be within the infinite multiplicity of choices you would have. Of playing that you weren't God, because the whole nature of the godhead, according to this idea, is to play that he is not.
So in this idea then, everybody is fundamentally the ultimate reality, not God in a politically kingly sense, but god in the sense of being the self, the deep-down basic whatever there is. And you are all that, only you are pretending you are not. 🙃✌️
@@plutoplatters I can only speak as someone that has genuinely found a job I love.
Eh, you got depressed because you let yourself. "Work" can mean working/volunteerung for your various communities. No, no one needs to have a job in order to not get depressed. There is just too much to learn and love in this world to get depressed about having the time and peace to do it. And you probably took do nothing too literally.
Well I took a. 3 month sabbatical, I started to grow my own plants and it was pretty nice, I work now but I really enjoyed my time without work
Sitting here drinking coffee, listening to another man go through the exact same sentiments I have.
Hello ! May Allah protect and guide you to his light and happiness in this life and the hereafter, God bless, Ameen. Excuse me for giving a little presentation of Islam, because it is very misunderstood nowadays, especially on those « Antichrist's » times, where media and politics are mixed to distort history and truth. And terrorists (puppets of the Antichrist) who misinterpret verses, out of ignorance and political motivations, and take them out of historical context (just like radical atheists do by the way) don't help either. Thank you very much for your time.
First of all, if you have any questions regarding Islam and yourself, just open the Quran randomly, and you will find the answer in front of you, like a miracle and a sign from God.
Islam is an arabic word that means the Surrender to the One and Only God, our Creator, Protector, Provider, who gives us life and all that we have, we are safe and sound by his will and grace, we are His and to Him we return, and we have to thank him in this trial life by submitting to him by our free will, or later in the Day of judgment when it's too late to save our own skin. Islam was the original Religion descended to earth from heaven with Adam and Eve (peace and blessing be upon them) in the beginning of humanity. and was passed to people with the succession of the 124 000 prophets and 315 messengers of God to all nations and civilizations since, passing by Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Ismaël, Joseph, Moses, Aaron, Joshua, David, Solomon and Jesus (Peace and blessing be upon them) during the history of mankind, the last replaces and completes the previous, until the succession of the last messenger of God fourteen centuries ago, Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) to complete the noble morals of all mankind, to bring humans and jinns out of darkness into light, and to purify people's religion and belief from corruption and polytheism, and return it to purity and true monotheism, like it was in the times of the prophets (Peace and blessing be upon them).
Many Religions that we know nowadays, at their beginning were true and under Islam, initiated by one of the prophets of God, but their original teachings, history and scriptures have been corrupted over time with falsification and polytheism, or lost and replaced with false ones. That's why Islam is the only Religion accepted by God nowadays, which consists in bearing witness that there is no god besides Allah (God in Aramaic, the original language of Jesus and the Gospel), and that Muhammad is His servant and messenger, just like Jesus and Moses and others are His servants and messengers. Never a messenger of God said he was God or literally son of God, it was the people after him who changed the words of God and corrupted the Religion. God is unique and absolute, He does not need to have a family and sons or to associate anyone else with His kingdom, He can simply create whatever He wants, everything belongs to Him, and to Him everything will return. Allah said in Surah Al-Mu’minun : “God has never begotten a son, nor is there any god besides Him. Otherwise, each god would have taken away what it has created, and some of them would have gained supremacy over others. Glory be to God, far beyond what they describe. The Knower of the hidden and the manifest. He is exalted, far above what they associate. (91-92 / Translated by ITANI).
Allah means the one and only God, the God of all prophets and creatures, the creator of the universe and mankind, and the Master of the Day of judgment, where our destiny, Hell or Paradise, is decided based on our faith and deeds in this trial life, and above all, Allah's mercy.
Allah said in Surah Al-Ikhlas : In the name of God, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Say, “He is God, the One. God, the Absolute. He begets not, nor was He begotten. And there is none comparable to Him.” (1-4 / Translated by ITANI).
Allah said in Surah An-Nisa : O FOLLOWERS of the Gospel! Do not overstep the bounds [of truth] in your religious beliefs, and do not say of God anything but the truth. The Christ Jesus, son of Mary, was but God's Apostle - [the fulfilment of] His promise which He had conveyed unto Mary - and a soul created by Him. Believe, then, in God and His apostles, and do not say, "[God is] a trinity". Desist [from this assertion] for your own good. God is but One God; utterly remote is He, in His glory, from having a son: unto Him belongs all that is in the heavens and all that is on earth; and none is as worthy of trust as God. Never did the Christ feel too proud to be God's servant, nor do the angels who are near unto Him. And those who feel too proud to serve Him and glory in their arrogance [should know that on Judgment Day] He will gather them all unto Himself: (171-172 / Translated by Muhammad Asad).
Allah the Most Merciful said in Surah Ali-Imran : Behold, the only [true] religion in the sight of God is [man's] self-surrender unto Him; and those who were vouchsafed revelation aforetime took, out of mutual jealousy, to divergent views [on this point] only after knowledge [thereof] had come unto them. But as for him who denies the truth of God's messages - behold, God is swift in reckoning!
Thus, [O Prophet,] if they argue with thee, say, "I have surrendered my whole being unto God, and [so have] all who follow me!" - and ask those who have been vouchsafed revelation aforetime, as well as all unlettered people, "Have you [too] surrendered yourselves unto Him?" And if they surrender themselves unto Him, they are on the right path; but if they turn away - behold, thy duty is no more than to deliver the message: for God sees all that is in [the hearts of] His creatures.
Verily, as for those who deny the truth of God's messages, and slay the prophets against all right, and slay people who enjoin equity - announce unto them a grievous chastisement.
It is they whose works shall come to nought both in this world and in the life to come; and they shall have none to succour them.
(19-22 / Translated by Muhammad Asad)..
God said : Say, “We believe in Allah, and in what was revealed to us, and in what was revealed to Abraham, and Ishmael, and Isaac, and Jacob, and the Patriarchs, and in what was given to Moses and Jesus, and in what was given to the prophets from their Lord. We do not differentiate between any of them. And to Him, we surrender.”
(2:136 / Translated by Community)
Salam (Peace) --------------
I’m so conflicted bc my whole life I’ve wanted to be free, roam, explore, learn. I got married, had kids. Settled into a life I didn’t truly want. I fell into what was expected. Now my kids are grown, I’ve been single many years. Now I have to unlearn this lifestyle & be brave enough to live my original dream. I almost didn’t watch this guy but man, this hits home. Thank you !
Isn't that ironic how distant we are but yet so close to the sentiments?
I’m on my way. 2 years. ❤
I'm proud of you both. You're setting a proper example as a man. Life isn't supposed to be comfortable per se. Intellectual honesty is key. And that's what we are seeing here. A rare site in 2024.
Time is not real. It’s a concept. Yesterday is not real, it does not exist. Only in our head. It’s a thought. Tomorrow is not real, it’s also a thought. The future can be hope, anxiety, a plan, a deadline. All not real, all in our head. The only thing that is real is the present. The concept of time can force us to live in our head and we will never be fully present or conscious living in that space. Living for tomorrow is a curse and a lie. You are alive today. Also, we only have 1 birthday, the day we are born. We are ageless. Great video and blessings to you on your journey.
Wonderful message. Agree wholeheartedly. Living in the moment... blessed.
The sun is always burning bright all around the world any time we keep track of is determinedly detrimental to the human species, filtering our motion to clocks and such being great problems to figuring out the way around proof such as science, for simple proof the first moment of our day starts with this science by the clock every count is not in minutes or seconds. Some things are outside of our grasp and one of those things is how we are just rusting and rotting away from lower pH over time. We are made to crave junk and keep a rhythm with minutes hours days weeks months just doing the same thing to our body and it wants to give us up before we do it a favor and give up what we are doing. Eventually if everyone can learn that food is not as good as we are told and time is now and the real currency is the infinite currency in your very veins we would finally see why we do what we do and we would make what we all truly want in life. The only thing holding us back is what else could there be, if only we have time to figure it out..
Concepts are real, we make them real by living by them. The present exists only in your head as well, what makes today any more real than yesterday?
When you rent is due tomorrow the future becomes very real.
Incorrect. Time is real. Nobody cares what your concept of it is. Nothing that happened in the past is real according you? Lol
Being a 47 year old Asian guy also, life was all about education, work, raising family.
Now that both kids are in college and don't really need me, I am also ready to step away from the corporate world.
I've ignored myself for too long, I don't need much. Simply sitting by the water, waiting all day for a bite and watching the minnows swim by is fine for me in my book.
You deserve peace, brother
I understand because I am in the same situation. Hope it's going to get easier for now. Be careful making new life changing decisions. Where you live. Your partner too. Give yourself time to recuperate. Hope you find something that gives joy and that doesn't drain your energy. A good balance.
Yeah take a break dude, you busted nuts and took care of your seed
what is the purpose to all this breeding the same old life? no one consented to this life and then defending it to such a degree.
I'll sit with you:) peace
Office jobs are lowkey depressing, the same 9-5, same co-workers, lack of fresh air, lack of productivity, driving home in the same car, same streets. Everything gets repetitive and depressing.
In my country(east asia) people work from 9 to 8,9pm. and self employed people work 365days. People would be happy here if work only 9 to 5
It's heaven to many others , just cherish what you got
Which is why it feels like time flies by
@@sheheksiin your experience would u say Singapore is similar, better or worse when it comes to work life balance, compared to rest od east asia
Not even low key. They are soul sucking and extremely depressing
This story I heard helped me to realize it's about perspective. - A rich man went to Mexico for vacation and saw a Mexican fisherman catching a lot of fish. So the rich man said you could get a business LLC and sell fish for money. The Mexican man said then what do I do next? The rich man said then you get the company on the stock market and people will trade for your value of the company. Then the Mexican man said oh what do I do next? The rich man said then you sell your company after 20+ years. Then the Mexican man said what next? The rich man said I guess you get to retire and go fishing. Then the Mexican said.. Oh so you do all that just to retire. I guess I am retired because I am already getting to go fishing...
But your retirement benefits depends on how much you worked, age, etc
And u still need money for real estate expenses, utilities, food, transportation, medical, etc
Exactly
@@raymondlin8728they fool you with this nonsense story
Retirement is a huge matrix scam
@@raymondlin8728so waste your health all your life for wealth. To retire at an old age halfway dead spending your wealth on your health. Terrible logic guy people been falling for that trap for years. The fisherman gets it you don’t
My mom just died of a pulmonary embolism. This video hits me so hard to my core. All this time spent moving away, chasing pointless pay increases. All the while distancing myself from the beautiful person that birthed me. All this time wasted. I can't go back, and don't know how I feel about that. My mom hustled her entire life just to die at 66 years old, before ever getting to retire and enjoy herself. I can't let that be me. I must make a change.
I’m so sorry for your loss, man. Losing someone like your mom, especially with so much left unsaid or undone, is a pain that runs deep. But it’s clear she’s left you with a powerful reminder of what truly matters. It’s never too late to change direction and start now, one step at a time, and build a life that honors her spirit and brings you the joy she deserved. You’re not alone in this. Stay strong.
This comment hit me hard. take care of yourself
@@HealthCores Thanks man. I appreciate the kind words. Take care.
@@Flawdaboi239Sorry for your loss
6 years ago, after grinding hard for 40 years, I finally burned out. Self employed since 18 years old chasing the dream, married to a person who didn't love me back, supporting her the best that I could, house 1 block from a private country club, nice SUV's, 2 vacations a year and financially supported her family as well and then Covid arrived. My business took a hit, my covert narcissist wife who is now my ex pushed me harder instead of offering support so, I filed for divorce and placed our house on the market. I've been doing nothing but reflect and learn since and although I do enjoy the down time, I have no intentions to fully stop pursuing my dreams but its good to finally take a rest.
Rob, glad to hear you have scaled back in all areas. Now you can decide what and how you see yourself living. Free time isn't a sin, but remember to keep a hobby, it saves the day as you get much older. Good success to you. 😊
@@SpaceCadet4Jesus Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I do have a few hobbies but they cost money so, I'll need to go back to work to finance them. Fortunately, I enjoy what I do for work so it's almost like a hobby. I just won't burn the candle at both ends this go around. All the best to you!
Sorry brother. I could be reading my life story. Pretty much exactly what happened to me. I know the feeling. I don't know what comes first. The burn out or the realization that your wife doesn't really love you. But it happened to me too. Worked so hard I got a heart problem at 40. Kept on going. At 47 dystonia. Couldn't work anymore. Wife was somehow gone emotionally. Refused sex already for years. Eventually she stopped talking. Silent treatment for 3 years. Imagine that. She also looked down on me because I couldn't work as hard anymore. I tried though. Just couldn't do it anymore. Tried to solve it but she didn't want to. She filed for divorce. She took our business. Got rewarded a small sum in court but no energy to start again. Burn out will do that to you. Have to figure out a way to make it out of the bay area. Too expensive here. It will be the death of me.
@@robmcguckin7605let me guess… cars
The issue was the person who didn’t love you back
Peace is so undervalued
Because we live in a culture of pleasure
@@danthemann7constant dopamine and consumerism
Hello ! May Allah protect and guide you to his light and happiness in this life and the hereafter, God bless, Ameen. Excuse me for giving a little presentation of Islam, because it is very misunderstood nowadays, especially on those « Antichrist's » times, where media and politics are mixed to distort history and truth. And terrorists (puppets of the Antichrist) who misinterpret verses, out of ignorance and political motivations, and take them out of historical context (just like radical atheists do by the way) don't help either. Thank you very much for your time.
First of all, if you have any questions regarding Islam and yourself, just open the Quran randomly, and you will find the answer in front of you, like a miracle and a sign from God.
Islam is an arabic word that means the Surrender to the One and Only God, our Creator, Protector, Provider, who gives us life and all that we have, we are safe and sound by his will and grace, we are His and to Him we return, and we have to thank him in this trial life by submitting to him by our free will, or later in the Day of judgment when it's too late to save our own skin. Islam was the original Religion descended to earth from heaven with Adam and Eve (peace and blessing be upon them) in the beginning of humanity. and was passed to people with the succession of the 124 000 prophets and 315 messengers of God to all nations and civilizations since, passing by Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Ismaël, Joseph, Moses, Aaron, Joshua, David, Solomon and Jesus (Peace and blessing be upon them) during the history of mankind, the last replaces and completes the previous, until the succession of the last messenger of God fourteen centuries ago, Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) to complete the noble morals of all mankind, to bring humans and jinns out of darkness into light, and to purify people's religion and belief from corruption and polytheism, and return it to purity and true monotheism, like it was in the times of the prophets (Peace and blessing be upon them).
Many Religions that we know nowadays, at their beginning were true and under Islam, initiated by one of the prophets of God, but their original teachings, history and scriptures have been corrupted over time with falsification and polytheism, or lost and replaced with false ones. That's why Islam is the only Religion accepted by God nowadays, which consists in bearing witness that there is no god besides Allah (God in Aramaic, the original language of Jesus and the Gospel), and that Muhammad is His servant and messenger, just like Jesus and Moses and others are His servants and messengers. Never a messenger of God said he was God or literally son of God, it was the people after him who changed the words of God and corrupted the Religion. God is unique and absolute, He does not need to have a family and sons or to associate anyone else with His kingdom, He can simply create whatever He wants, everything belongs to Him, and to Him everything will return. Allah said in Surah Al-Mu’minun : “God has never begotten a son, nor is there any god besides Him. Otherwise, each god would have taken away what it has created, and some of them would have gained supremacy over others. Glory be to God, far beyond what they describe. The Knower of the hidden and the manifest. He is exalted, far above what they associate. (91-92 / Translated by ITANI).
Allah means the one and only God, the God of all prophets and creatures, the creator of the universe and mankind, and the Master of the Day of judgment, where our destiny, Hell or Paradise, is decided based on our faith and deeds in this trial life, and above all, Allah's mercy.
Allah said in Surah Al-Ikhlas : In the name of God, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Say, “He is God, the One. God, the Absolute. He begets not, nor was He begotten. And there is none comparable to Him.” (1-4 / Translated by ITANI).
Allah said in Surah An-Nisa : O FOLLOWERS of the Gospel! Do not overstep the bounds [of truth] in your religious beliefs, and do not say of God anything but the truth. The Christ Jesus, son of Mary, was but God's Apostle - [the fulfilment of] His promise which He had conveyed unto Mary - and a soul created by Him. Believe, then, in God and His apostles, and do not say, "[God is] a trinity". Desist [from this assertion] for your own good. God is but One God; utterly remote is He, in His glory, from having a son: unto Him belongs all that is in the heavens and all that is on earth; and none is as worthy of trust as God. Never did the Christ feel too proud to be God's servant, nor do the angels who are near unto Him. And those who feel too proud to serve Him and glory in their arrogance [should know that on Judgment Day] He will gather them all unto Himself: (171-172 / Translated by Muhammad Asad).
Allah the Most Merciful said in Surah Ali-Imran : Behold, the only [true] religion in the sight of God is [man's] self-surrender unto Him; and those who were vouchsafed revelation aforetime took, out of mutual jealousy, to divergent views [on this point] only after knowledge [thereof] had come unto them. But as for him who denies the truth of God's messages - behold, God is swift in reckoning!
Thus, [O Prophet,] if they argue with thee, say, "I have surrendered my whole being unto God, and [so have] all who follow me!" - and ask those who have been vouchsafed revelation aforetime, as well as all unlettered people, "Have you [too] surrendered yourselves unto Him?" And if they surrender themselves unto Him, they are on the right path; but if they turn away - behold, thy duty is no more than to deliver the message: for God sees all that is in [the hearts of] His creatures.
Verily, as for those who deny the truth of God's messages, and slay the prophets against all right, and slay people who enjoin equity - announce unto them a grievous chastisement.
It is they whose works shall come to nought both in this world and in the life to come; and they shall have none to succour them.
(19-22 / Translated by Muhammad Asad)..
God said : Say, “We believe in Allah, and in what was revealed to us, and in what was revealed to Abraham, and Ishmael, and Isaac, and Jacob, and the Patriarchs, and in what was given to Moses and Jesus, and in what was given to the prophets from their Lord. We do not differentiate between any of them. And to Him, we surrender.”
(2:136 / Translated by Community)
Salam (Peace) --------------
@@danthemann7 But the pleasure is never enough and never lasts.
@@citizendc9 culture of constant dopamine addiction
I’m 32 and I already feel like this. Always running around figuring out how to better myself and make more money to buy more things and make people proud instead of working on feeling happy myself.
Yeh don't fall into that trap like I did.
I’m 30 and I’ve done it for 10 years and I’m so done with it all already 😂
@@Tdr-jv2nc Same man, 31 and a decade in and I'm done lol 😅
life itself is a trap. first leg up to mastering life is understanding propaganda is everywhere and you cannot avoid it. accept that everyone wants control of you so they can benefit. it’s not an evil exactly but can be if you allow others to continually manipulate you. after learning about propaganda and what it really is the next step is say to a healthy life is learning to maximize yourself awareness as your radar because the skills you need in life are equal to learning driving skills for the road. it’s not about winning or losing but more to do with your ability to navigate ups and downs so you can self regulate. sometimes you need people in your life to check you for that reason. to keep it short, my last tip is to understand that if you do the bare minimum that is average to everyone else around you on the same path. if you apply yourself seriously, you can be anywhere you want to be doing whatever you want to do. how you get there may vary, but if you continue to apply yourself you can get very far. i’ve had several careers working for top industries doing the jobs i set out to do even though i never made it apart of my goals to reach the income i thought was favorable in comparison to what i was willing to accept. i went from art college to hollywood vfx to working in home mortgage to wealth management. for me early on getting into the industry was a goal to try to hustle for money but over time i just accepted that my day job is going to fund what i want to do in my spare time. working on a movie or comic but on my own time. doing things my way. without someone else breathing down my neck. you can do a lot, just learn to build your world around yourself and understand what that really means because everything around you is changing and won’t wait for you.
Escape the matrix
This guy is very wise. Thankyou for making this video. I'm glad you are fishing brother good luck on your journey. I'm in the same boat. But you have your wife and child that is joy many men will never know.
Yes I am lucky to have my small family as my reason to keep going and living and not grinding to death. I hope you will too find yours.
" I Got Sick And Tired Of Always Hustling So Now I Just Do Nothing " the words of a wise man
😂
Literally what a quitter would say
Ok so how you guys live or make money without doing nothing. How u survive of what. Unless u loaded
Words of a broke man 😂😂
But we have to buy the day we want to do nothing.. thats why we like being a child bcos our time is free
What was once important in the morning is no longer relevant in the afternoon.
Very true, so we need to appreciate the time we still have left and and focus on what truly matters most.
That says it all really doesn't it
Yeah because I got it done…
forreal
Poignant words. I fear most might take this to mean that what was in the morning should never have been valued as important, but I think that'd be a hasty conclusion. We deemed it necessary in the morning but it has since served its purpose. Time to move on.
"A man without desires has nothing to fear" Buddha 😊
Also nothing to live for, pathetic
I desire to not have physical pain, so I fear pain
Does that mean you should do nothing your whole life? We are designed for progress, so we do need desires , just not selfish ones. You'll find snappy quotes like your one aren't actually from Buddha. He spoke in more complex ways.
@khalidsafir it means keep your desires in perspective 🙄
I like ninja turtle ice creams
I love you dude. You aren't alone feeling like that.
"By slowing down doesn't mean you'll be falling behind."
I don’t have a career, I just recently got out of a 2 year engagement and I traveled 7 times, 3 different countries, proposed in Aruba, took engagement photos in Dominican, still relax and all I did was side hustles and Airbnb in my two bed apartment. People overrate careers and I’ve been chilling at 25, not for long though.
I like that...📄✨
have you ever seen a race?
The is by far the best story I have heard on TH-cam in a past 20 years. Better than any feature film with a multimillion dollar budget. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
Thank you for listening and your encouragement. It gives me the courage to continue sharing my journey with you. 🤎
Very well said.
I feel the same. For so long people have suppressed their real and raw true emotions. The corporate world for me was quite abusive at every turn, and even academia. It’s like society has become so toxic.
Your ability to open up and be so transparent is quite a bit refreshing !🙏 Very peaceful and tranquil.👍
@@mahlina1220 Spot on man. Vulnerability is freedom, and encourages others who are ready to hear.
Bro, English man here in the Philippines. Thank you for reinforcing these truths. Life here is much slower, people have less wealth but family is stronger and , even tho they understand that money affords a lot of options, it’s not the be all and end all. It feels like serendipity that I stumbled upon your video this morning.
Thank you for your open and honest story. Most people want and need this but few are aware of it.
Thanks again, much love ❤️
Brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
You're on the right track. Five years ago i sold my home and almost all my possessions. Hit the road with a truck and small utility trailer that contained everything i owned. My only direction was driving west, did so for eight months camping all the way. I have found that living with less and enjoying life more is where it's at in my opinion
You have achieved success in this insane Society.
I so envy you. This whole things is tiring.
Sounds amazing and peaceful.
Hopefully see you out there soon.
That has to be the most idiotic thing I’ve heard. I guess you have no kids/family then. If you own a home the dumbest thing you can do is sell to create liquid money. Stupid really.
this man, has figured it out. and he doesn't look too old. He is going to have a good life if he just lets the wind carry him.
There is a lot of power in doing nothing, but many won’t admit it because it takes courage and strength to be able to just sit on your own alone with your own thoughts. For some people it is enough to drive them crazy, perhaps because they don’t like who they are, but those who can master that technique will become truly enlightened individuals.
Excellent comment, most are in fear so they stay in the box
this is very true!!
Agree 1OO%, awesome insight.
Indeed! Most people can't stand to be around themselves.
I moved to Alaska and we enjoy the slower pace of life up here. Go to work, enjoy the scenery, eat, read, drink coffee, and just enjoy life.
It's what life's all about!!!
Do you have to work full time to pay bills?
@@AnonforYeshua77777 I work full time, my wife works part time. We together make under 100k a year. With no kids, and a smart budget, we are able to live quite comfortably. I know of a number of people up here though who have two-3 kids and they are able to manage just fine too.
Are you in Fairbanks or anchorage? Or another city?
@@nerad1994 I live in Kenai Alaska. It's a coastal town. Small town life, with enough shopping to live comfortably. We have a view of the ocean, and a number of volcanoes across the Cook Inlet.
Thank you for sharing, you have touched my heart and motivated me at the same time.
Thanks for taking the time to hear my story. I hope the struggles I went through could help you see life from another perspective. Thanks for your support and I wish you well on your journey ❤️
Be still in the silence, if you are filled with harmony, there is zero room for fear..
God put you, right where he wants you to be.
Blessing Brother
Crazy how we all feel the same way but so few of us have the courage to stop.
I am not sure about courage. I was just slowly dying so I had to jump.
nothing to do with courage i got kids i cant just leave my friend money also a factor
everyone needs to eat..
I did it 5 years ago. 50 now and worked my entire life since I moved out of my parents home at 15. It has its moments. I still pay a mortgage and have been divorced of course. Kids are all grown and not many friends left. It's still better than eating shlt every day from someone that doesn't deserve you. It's crazy there's nowhere for people to live so I just rent out a few extra rooms in my giant house I bought back in the day lol. Worst case scenario is I'd just sell it...... F**k it
@@constantinhaller4391 What makes you so sure of that? Feeling the burden of providing is what has kept us all stuck in this insane, absurd system to begin with. Is there a way to be faithful to your sense of self and your need to take care of others?
I feel you brother. I have 2 kids , work 3 jobs, Costco 40 hours a week, music solo gigs , and Uber at nights . The grind is very draining and it’s tuff at all times. I deal with hundreds of people everyday all day and night. One day I hope to meet you at that spot and make a cup of coffee with you
that sounds a good life tbh, but i can understand you feel tired, but imo tiredness is pretty much something we live with even if we dont work all the time
Do you share any music online?
@@bittasweetsymphony726 He's the luckiest slave on the plantation.
You won’t have time 🤷🏼♂️
You chose
Been doing this for 7 yrs now. Retired at 41 and this has been the best time of my life.
Loving it! I am glad you living the life many of us looks forward to. You ever think about going back to the Dark Side?
Im 41 and thinking about retirement. I having a hard time letting go of my job .
@bright6200 Letting go is always hard and I am still learning that now as I go along. But how long do we stay doing something that slowly is killing us?
@HealthCores im notbsure but just want to make sure I have enough money i would hate to retire and go back to workforce due to lack of funds
How did you get the money to retire at 41?
I'm expecting to retire in my mid 240s!
That's right.....just BE who you are - unconditional love....
3 things that helped me and literally changed my life
1. i stopped telling myself ill do it tomorrow
2. i read the book the cosmic wealth frequenices on borlest
3. i had faith and religion
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I’m a burned out emergency physician at age 60. Spent 22 years in Air National Guard deploying all over the world as a flight surgeon on my “spare time”. Literally have had one weekend off a month for the last 20 years. It’s taken me 60 years to discover what you have figured out. I love spending time alone doing nothing and regret my life that was wasted. Enjoy watching your videos!
God bless you I'm starting my life over at 44 years old after being addicted to heroin for 20 years before that I was a firefighter had four years in the department but got dependent on oxycontin because of eight surgeries which then went to heroin. Remember it's never too late to start over. I'm going back to my community college this January. I've been off heroin and Fentanyl for 2 years and I just got off the Sublocade and now on nothing. God bless you 🙏
Watch Dr Dobie he quit as a 20 yr Neurosurgeon, MD burned out to great you tube channel
Now he does lots of hiking river videos etc
Site is I think called dobie and scobie with his dog scoobie
You're one of thoes hidden hero's bless you brother
Peace is success!
Your life was never wasted. You spent your life serving others. It is a very dignified way to spend your time. Living to serve.
41 yrs. Most of my life i've been stressing about something. Mostly about what's coming next. I still do that, a lot. I got so used to always thinking that even when i'm completely "blank" (as you put it) i feel like I'm not okay, when in reality this is the best feeling you can have, the feeling of no feeling. No stress, no sadness, not even happiness, just nothing. I believe this is the closest we can get to blissfulness/enlightenment as mere mortals. Wish you all the best.
I went on Lexapro..really helped my stress level..not for everyone..but if it's real bad..take a look
31. I’m constantly on edge just thinking one thing to the next all day
@castrofiasco888 I went on Lexapro..not for everyone..but I'm happy with the help it gives me with such thoughts
@castrofiasco888 Just remember to be your own best friend. Don't judge yourself too much. We're here for a limited time as this body and mind. Might aswell love ourselves more and have more simpathy for ourselves. There's nothing wrong with you. Just sit, breathe and relax. Clear your mind. You're good!
I'm 39 and been in the corporate world just over 15 years and gotta say this video resonated very heavily with me. Unlike you however, I'm not courageous and can't see myself abandoning this gig until I'm financially secure for the rest of my life but I wanted to say Thank you for letting me live vicariously for a while and giving me something to think about. Merry Christmas.
Yeh it takes some planning to take a break for a while. It not a life for everyone for sure. Just take it at your own pace. Merry Christmas!
I burned out 8 years ago. Lol. I’ve been trying to do nothing since. I think it’s an amazing practice. Lol. I end up doing what’s important and nothing else.
Same here. Burn out maybe 5 years ago. Trying to work again... but it just doesn't go. We'll see.
Same here and it almost killed me, ended up in the coma. Not playing on doing anything I don't fancy doing.
Very Dao of you
how do you pay rent? genuine question
@@bagman1103 I’m a health coach. Again, I still do what’s important. I just TRY to do nothing. The things that need to get done just pop up. It’s just a difference in the way you look at things. Rather making a to-do list of unimportant things, when you try not to do anything, the things that really need to get done become the obvious priority.
Good on you. The higher you climb the corporate ladder the quicker you realise its just the hunting ground of psychopaths in management looking to exploit and take advantage of employee goodwill, diligence, sense of duty and kindness
Wow, wish I had employees that exhibited goodwill, diligence, duty and kindness. I'm going to have to switch employment agencies. 😊
@@SpaceCadet4Jesus you sound like the exact person in management he's talking about. Fck off. 😂
@@SpaceCadet4Jesus A good leader knows how to bring the best out in people.
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k While good leaders can create environments that encourage people to do their best, leadership is fundamentally a "collaborative" process.
People must voluntarily choose to:
Engage
Trust
Invest effort
Align with organizational goals
While good leaders strive to bring out the best in people, achieving this consistently across all contexts is a complex, if not an impossible, challenge influenced by numerous factors beyond a leader's direct control.
@user-dq2ym1nn9k While good leaders can create environments that encourage people to do their best, leadership is fundamentally a "collaborative" process.
People must voluntarily choose to:
Engage
Trust
Invest effort
Align with organizational goals
While good leaders might try to bring out the best in people, achieving this consistently across all contexts is a complex, if not an impossible, challenge influenced by numerous factors beyond a leader's direct control.
When you said no clear destination, a sense of peace came over me. How cool.
We don't need to always be going somewhere. It's great to get some fresh air once on a while.
There is no destination here. It's point A to B .believe in one God and the Destination is heaven .
If you don't know where you are going, you will definitely get there.
You are on the journey to wholeness and your path has led you to the realization of what you know in your heart is not how life is supposed to be lived. You have been quietly consuming all of the pieces that make up the whole and they are beginning to assemble. This is your awakening. Welcome to the club!
I’m 51. 3 kids. Everything I ever did was for my wife and kids. She told me on Valentine’s Day this year that she thought we would be better apart. This was the second time she told me this. The first time was on out 15 year anniversary. I fought to keep her the first time. Granted her wish the second time. Going thru and identity crisis. I let myself make bad financial decisions trying to keep my ex happy. I’m back on track financially now. 50/50 with the kids and focusing energy there but still lost on my purpose. I work. I workout every day. I don’t have any drive anymore though. Just kind of don’t see the point in the life we are told to lead.
I did the formula. School, college, get a job, marriage, kids, dog, house, cars. Blah blah and now I’m a statistic. I want to break out and go. I want to live differently than the “little boxes on the hillside, little boxes made of ticky tacky”. But I just don’t know. Not interested in another relationship. All end up the same. Compromise by a thousand paper cuts until you “aren’t the person she fell in love with”. It’s like a cosmic joke
Sorry that happened to you with your wife and all, I’m in similar situation where the love is gone but we’re still together raising a pre teen and teen and gotta keep smiling for them, it’s hard…keep going,stay strong and explore what inspires you…I’m still trying to figure out my situation but I’m always thankful,grateful
I hear everything you said my man. 2 ex wives destroyed me. I've never found peace. In toxicity again. I need an escape.
@ rich cooper opened my eyes. I had years and years of bad decisions with women. Spent my life chasing them when I should have been chasing excellence. My ex started me down that road bc I started chasing excellence for me and not for her when I saw the writing on the wall. Now women and relationships with women don’t define me. I can take them or leave them. I’m super content doing my own thing. Note. As a side effect of that - women want to be near you. They like to wait at the finish line for the winners. Not run the race with them. Definitely check out rich cooper. It changed my life and perspective. I still have my moments and it’s hard to unplug completely from old habits and conditioning. But it does change a lot.
Humans are unfaithful, sadly. Only God is faithful. Jesus is the Truth that sets you free (John 8:31-32). God bless.
“It’s like a cosmic joke” hits hard. I hate to be nihilistic but nihilism seems to be the only realization :/
Im 33 now and I reached the point you’re at at 30. So, I’ve been on this journey for 3 years. Until society gets its act together, I’m done. I’m not contributing anymore unless it benefits me. I have so many skills and plans for my future now.
The good news is that you are still young and have lots of time ahead of you. I hope you, too, will soon find the place where you belong and be happy. Take care ❤️
When you do things "only for yourself," you've left the path of wisdom. If you want society to "get its act together," go out and be the change you want to see. It's not on everyone else but you.
@ You believe what you believe and I’ll believe what I believe. Go cry me a river.
U have it all wrong
When you have no money you have no choice but to hustle.
That's where people miss the point. It's like yeah people can quit work but they have no money to do anything. Only so much you can do before you get bored and want to work again anyway.
There will be a day when you find out money is just as important as you give it importance. Once you dont focus on it it will be there to use
Not true
@@reubanfleet3188 it's not about quitting but seeking balance. Static hustle mode hardwires into our fight or flight primal area. A principle to think on is with reckless expansion comes reckless collapse. It is better to slowly stomach one piece steadily each day than to chase the whole pie tireless daily. I hope this makes sense.
@@leandrodomingues4452 yes money imo is like a river. If you fight and force it you'll always be like Sisyphus. However if you find your niche, don't fight the flow it will always come to you. Doesn't mean you don't have to work, sweat or be dirty ect. Just a mindset. ;) Don't mind a ol dog barking into the wind.
Totally agree and can empathize. As the Bible says in Ecclesiastes, “It’s all meaningless”. For true believers in Christ, our purpose can be found in Him. But, the world pushes us to chase things that are perishable and temporary, all the whilst we are deteriorating. The “American Dream” really becomes an endless nightmare. My wife always mentions how obsessed parents are with extra curriculars, missing out on so much quality time with their children, while keeping them “busy and productive”. Again, “meaningless”. Children remember quality time with us, not how many activities they were in, most of which they will leave behind with their adolescence. So much time wasted being a paid slave 🤦♂️. We are done with that life, ourselves. We are done just “existing”. Time to LIVE.
May Jesus reveal (to you) your next steps and journey, going forward. It’s a blessing that your eyes have been opened. Happy Birthday!
Breaking free from that cycle is huge, it’s like finally seeing what matters. Kids grow up fast, and what sticks is the time spent together, not the busyness. Living with purpose instead of just existing feels so much richer. Thank you.
@ Amen, brother!
Wise video. My daughter is 23 now and I’d give anything to go to a carnival with her again when she was 6 or 7 years old. That aside, I’m sitting in my living room resting in relative silence. Sure, prior to leaving the work world at 57 I had those moments BUT, I was clinging to them. Not anymore, these moments of staring at the sky, not having to be anywhere are no longer rushed or clung to, they are part of me. Money issues rear their head sometimes but that was the trade off. The mental and physical stress I’ve endured took its toll. Yes, tired of the rat race. I found a little slice of life. Hope it’s lasts.
It’s nice to see people are starting to realize what is really important to them and not what was told to us what’s important. Soon people with make a choice in life intelligently based on what they really want.
If we hustle how we supposed to pay for roof and food which are the essentials?
End of the day just be Thankful and be content with what you have. 🙏🏼 youll be peacefully happy. Smile 😊
Beautiful message man. This life is so short and the world is full of vampires that try to suck out your attention, money, time, and peace. Guard it fiercely
Thanks man. Doing everything to guard my family and trying to keep them at peace and safe as possible. It can get tough out there.
I was forced to do nothing due to chronic illness. What I have learned, is that I had time to clear away lifetimes of past life trauma.....I have skyrocketed on the spiritual path.
Amen same here my tuberculosis gave me 3 years of bedridden self reflection most dont get untill retirement
@@RustyShakleford1how did you get tuberculosis 😮
When you take time and listen to people, you can see how we are all hurting from this culture. Sometimes when I see an African village it makes me sad, because of what they have that we dont. I can only imagine how cool it would be to play barefoot soccer in the rain with your friends, surviving off the land and being fully immersed in your community. I am so tired of grinding, being alone and constantly going up hill and quite honestly I dont think its just me. I am not depressed, I just dont feel like driving in the wrong direction so often.
And that's why they are destroying rainforests, tribal lands and woodlands 😢
Keep Africa out of your mouth please! We are sick and tired of these generalized statements you have against 1.3 billion people. Like cut the crap. You also have poverty and homelessness there in your first world country. Look in your back yard first before looking into ours!
I have a house keeper who comes round once a week. She tells me about her village in Malawi and how friendly everyone is. She smiles such a wonderful smile when she talks about it. I wish we had villages like that here in the west and I wish we could live simple lives again like when I was a kid.
@@citizendc9 The older I get I see how the American war machines true enemy is culture. Any place on earth where the people dont subscribe to working their entire life to buy disposable goods must be "freed". it is so sad, we could all be so happy if we just lived simple and trusted each other.
Probably one of the most honest, wise, and dare I say even spiritual wisdom I have ever come across. Thank you so much.
Thank you for saying that and it means a lot. I’m glad the message connected with you. Wishing you all the best as you keep growing and finding your path.
You left the "theatre". Our whole life we run away from something we should walk to: Happiness in just being. This emptiness is way more full than imagined, in fact it's fullness. Be-ing instead of be-coming. If your child sees a bird it doesn't need to know what kind of bird it is. Otherwise it won't see a bird again. That's emptying the "cup" or in this case, keeping it empty. Much respect, Jan
brilliant comment
Can you delve deeper into the bird analogy?
@@SpiriTxDOUGHBOY the day you teach a kid a name of the bird it won't see that bird never again.
It's because firstly it sees something alive and vibrant and someone says that's sparrow and kid learns that. Next time they are going for a walk again and there is similar bird to the one they have seen the other day and kid says oh that's sparrow I know them, I am bored with a sparrows.
Very often we don't see what's really around us, because we perceive all of that through the labels we have for it and we miss its uniqness.
@@kolarz2128 i like that, Franklin was my show 😆 and Little Bear
@@SpiriTxDOUGHBOY same:)
Congrats on finding back time. Many dont realise until its too late
I've been doing what your doing for 15 years now. The more you accept this new life, the less others will accept you. And that's the real journey ❤
I hope you are at peace with your journey. Right now, self acceptance is my top priority. I will worry about what other might think about my choices later. Thanks.
Trust your journey
@@HealthCores there was a point where I thought my self-acceptance was borderline delusional, or unhealthy lol. It's crazy the things the devil will get you to think in your imagination rather than see in front of your eyes
"the less others will accept you" You're absolutely right. This is the real journey.
Im glad I found your channel. This is one of the most real and valuable videos I’ve watched as a 24 year old man
I have been doing nothing for more than 2 years and it's been a great journey. I never felt this good in my life before.
It's crazy how when we slow down we see life from a completely different perspective. Cheers to our new journey. Take care.
@@HealthCores 💯
True freedom!
Getting back in touch with nature as we naturally should be… it just feels right.. and peaceful. Much love 🙏🏻
There's something about being alone in nature that helps us reconnect with ourselves and be at peace. Thank you and please take good care of yourself as well 🙏
Love this video, man. Im in the same boat at the age of 32. I'm content with very little at this point, knowing it can end at any moment. Slowing down is how you speed up.
Man you are still young and still got time to do a course correction. Sometimes we just have to pull over and check that map before we run out of gas. Good luck on your journey 🙏
32 here too and same here bud. The world has gotten out of control. Lost my job back in March. Best thing to ever happen to me. Spending unfettered time with yourself is how you get to know yourself. Sometimes Time needs to take it's "TIME".... Prayers and blessings to you 🙏
@BruceL33Roy yeah, man. Even if it takes a year or 2, as long as I am making some progress and doing what I enjoy, that is what I am aiming for the next year of my life. Have a job at a gym right now but was self-employed for the longest. I've tried over a hundred jobs, and I like being at the gym taking care of myself and being paid for that and only focusing on my health at this point. Dont even care how much I make for now. I just want to do what I want to do, work out, and eat the best and master that part of my life.
@@BruceL33Roy Lost my job too been out of work for 3 years now and am just now dealing with a lot of worries for my future...
I'm studying hard to become a data scientist.
I'm already burnt out haha. Really wanna be like you but i couldn't. I have my parents i have to take care. If i doesn't study hard, work hard, i don't have the money to provide for them.
Good dream though, maybe 1 day. 1 day i will be free from the stress, the constant need to upskilling and striving above. I'm very tired now, still, i will keep going. Also good luck with your mental health recovery.
Oh man that is no joke. Been there bro so I know. I still get headaches thinking about data structures. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot, but your dedication is inspiring. Taking care of your family and pushing forward is no small thing. One day, you’ll find that freedom and peace you’re working so hard for. Stay strong!
@@HealthCores Yeah. There were a few breakdown but i managed to get a 50% off from my university for a psychiatrist in 1 month.
Have been using the cheapest meds for depression and anxiety. The meds are cheap enough that i can continuously use it for quite a long time.
I think it will help me to ease the rampaging mind and decrease in mental health.
Tbh, i do not have time for mental health. It's a bad solution, a temporary solution that leads to nowhere. But it will do for now.
I do believe i will not live over 50 with the current state haha. I honestly do not care, as long as i can support my parents till the day they part me, i will happily go with them.
They have sacrificed so much for me. I'm a burden to them. I dedicated my life to help them in the future.
Im in the same boat, making high six figures. Planning on leaving it all behind for freedom, spending more time with my kids. Work for myself instead of corporations.
You’ll get right back on the same boat.
If you work for yourself.
You need to generate work, sales, work yourself, when the money stops, you need to work extra.
It’s a trap. Haha.
@@bassibernie Probably.
@@bassibernie true the fact you even have to work means you fuccd before the game even started.
How much money do you spend 😮
55 yrs old here and I remember going to bed in my 20s woke up and was in my 50s that’s how fast time goes . I quit my job in May this year sick to death of dead lines , targets oh the list went on best thing I ever did but I do point out to people my own circumstances allowed me to do it go back 3 yrs or so I could have not done it . And everyone is on their own journey in life and I got to the stage where I don’t give a fuck what people think so long as I’m happy and getting on with it , I’m not really a inspirational quote type of person but two things I go by.
With every kick in the face and every hurdle you pass the rewards get greater .
And
Have a good old moan and move on.
I have applied to work in a supermarket part time know few people who quit high paying jobs and have done this , as they keep telling me they are broke but happy meaning not earning no where near the money they earned from previous job . All the best for the future can only move forward .
In the end, you either give all of your money to your children, your nursing home, or the funeral home. Although all three will take everything that you have, only the funeral home will ensure that you leave this world with dignity and respect.
This reminds us that while we can plan for our legacy, the way we are remembered is ultimately shaped by the love and care we showed in life.
54 and contemplating full time life perhaps in Malaysia or Albania. 😅
I've been fasting 3 days now. I feel the serenity, and I see you.
So cool. i am watching u from Vietnam, where i settled down a couple of years ago. i was lucky enough to meet a wonderful woman here. She taught me those principles you are talking about. I met some incredible buddhist masters who helped me turn my life around when i was in need of guidance. If you allow me to do so, would love to share your video with my students.
Hey that's just so cool. I thought about trying to go back and live there. I actually spent a lot of time in the mountains and the Buddhist Masters the temple helped me when I was sick and dying. I am so happy that you found your place of peace. Please do share .y video and I would love to hear more about Vietnam. Thanks.
Man... I'm 45. I went through a similar experience about a year ago. I had been in the same industry for 18 years, the same job for 13. Time at my current job had come to a close. Six months before that, I had started a new relationship with a woman with a small daughter. I also have a daughter, who is now 14... I love her so much. I cherish, more than any single thing, the years when she was young. In 2015, I had a goal to take prerequisites to eventually get into PA school...I went for two semesters, giving it everything I could, a time which meant I had to tell my 5 year old daughter "no" when she wanted to spend time with me. After those two semesters, which I attacked full bore, shooting for straight A's, while being a full time medical device rep, I didn't want to do it anymore. I chose a relationship with my daughter over going to school and a future career as a PA. That is one decision I have never regretted... I loved every damn minute I spent with my daughter. It was the best time in my whole life. Then Covid hit, and before I knew it, she stopped being a little girl. Now, she's 14, and is mostly at her Mom's (I get her a whole 4 days a month).
But, back to 18 months ago, I thought that by focusing on my new partner and her daughter, I was doing the right thing. I helped her through a custody battle, and did what I believed were the right things that a good man should do. Despite all of the effort, she ended things a little over a month ago. It hit me incredibly hard. Some of the worst pain of my life losing her, and that little girl, who by that time had long since started calling me Dad.
Going from having a family to being totally alone, has been a kind of pain I never thought I'd experience at this stage of my life. I miss them so much. But, also, being alone, has forced me to confront myself, and where I am in life. It has forced me to be honest about the changing role of men in relationships, and in the workplace. Where I live, there aren't many opportunities in the job market... It has been a long stare into the great abyss... facing the reality that, a man, once he no longer produces, is disposable. Our culture is so fixated on women and opportunities equaling that of men.. I don't think it pays any attention to men. It's "adapt or survive"... and in life, sometimes that means choosing between being the father you want to be for 4 days a month, or forsaking that for an opportunity at something different. So much of my purpose was taking care of the girls in my life... but, I discovered that my value to them was only as much as I earned. That is an incredibly painful thing to come to terms with. But, it's also freeing, to a point. I don't know what I'm going to do, exactly. But, like you, I want it to be something that pushes me to do it with vigor and passion... traditionally that has meant other people. Now, I am faced with doing for myself and only myself..and as much as I want others to motivate me, that simply isn't an option.
One bit of advice: spend as much time as possible with your daughter. You'll never regret it. Ever. It does go so quickly... soak up all of it you can.... time with her, and your wife... indulge in it. You just never know when life is going to come along and have its own plans with you.
Definitely a good father ❤
💯 my daughter is 17 now. I walked away from every big opportunity if it looked like the trade off was neglecting that diminishing time with her. Stay up man, teenagers are really hard. 14 - 16 especially tough. I promise she doesn't think your only value is your earnings potential tho. Stay available and present and pretty soon no custody agreement can get between you guys. It will happen fast
@@SamRexfordI can't make her mother a reasonable person. I have no control over whether her mom is a controlling narcissist. The courts here in New Mexico are awful and corrupt. I wish this story had a happy ending. But, my prime earning years are dwindling away, and as much as I would love to have financial & professional opportunities come my way, the reality in this state is I will very likely have to create them myself.
As for my daughter... She has been brainwashed like so many other young girls... and 4 days vs 26 with her Mom is... it's lip service. It's enough time for her Mom to say, "She sees her Dad", and then, when our relationship withers, she can tell our daughter, "I had the same experience with my Dad. I know how it is..." She is a sick woman. But, sick narcissistic people like herself will never admit they have a problem. They just ruin the lives of the people around them.
@@SamRexfordI begged her Mom for *years* for more time with her. It only resulted in less. Her Mom is a sick, fucked up human being who thinks because she has a good job, that makes the rest of her good, too. I can see into the past, how she was made from her Dad not being present when she was a little girl... she used to accuse me of being him... of saying I was going to leave them... Then *she* leaves... and now, she's making our daughter into her... which is so incredibly sick...and Democrats control the fucking courts in this shit state. This is what it results in... But, she will never admit to, or take accountability for any of this.
@@CalmBeforeTheStorm76 I've been thru something extremely similar it sounds like. If you ever need someone to chop it up with over fatherhood, courts, daughters, life, reach out. I'm easy to find online.
That is gold.. i feel happy when i see people waking up and self reflecting
Happy Birthday 🎂
My Mom had the book on being productive!
She died at 69!
She never let me sit around. Always had to be “doing something”
Once I could get settled into my own life .. I tried to Chill but of course it wasn’t possible until after I hit 40 !
That was my first step to graduate into Freedom!
I get to do what I want now! 🙌
Freedom is what matters to me!
Haha:) my mum subscribed to wasp philosophy too, one must always be busy, one must earn one's rest. I live with her but I spend hours in my room relaxing. She can't stand it but also can't do anything about it:)
I grew up in an Asian family and we always had to be doing something. This is the first time in my life that I am experiencing slowing down. Thanks for sharing your story.
I can relate both my parents were narcissistic and both subsided to the bee paradym can't sit still and relax got to always be doing something this had a detrimental effect on me I became them now at 60 I can stop, read a book, go for a walk, meditate, enjoy nature do fcuk all if I want
@Sloby2023 yay:) go fuck all:)
@@JCDayLee Yay, Freedom!!
It's the present moment that's critical. That's where the peace and serenity comes from. Sounds like you're really ready to find out who you are through meditation. I truly wish you the best. It takes courage to do what you are doing❤
Amazing chat bud. I’m only 22 but I can somewhat relate. University, my 4 internships, past dedications to university business clubs, and my part-time investment management job have led me to burn out. This whole time I followed the expectations of society and desired external validation. I ONLY JUST REALIZED NOW THAT EVERYTHING I HAVE DONE IN MY LIFE WAS NEVER ABOUT ME!!! It was about everyone else! I used to have so much fun learning new things until it became a matter of researching certain topics just so then I don’t seem boring to others. I’m too focused on what other people think about me that I cannot live my life properly. I just want to be me.
I also appreciate that quote about being empty before being full. I have to start over and assess what matters to me.
1) Running long distances is one of my favourite things to do. Could only do 3km back in May and worked myself up to 21km by September. Going to sign up for a local half marathon once we get the chance
2) Fingerstyle guitar is another hobby of mine. Unfortunately I’ve become too critical of myself during practice sessions for music theory. I need to tell myself that it’s ok to not know music theory inside out yet. Just play and have fun. When it’s not fun anymore, put it down!
3) Growing plants. My family owns greenhouses and that’s how we’ve made our fortune. It’s a thankless job and doesn’t pay great but it’s what I love. Maybe I won’t be as respected as an investment banker, but that’s fine. - I can’t rely on external validation anymore. Talked things over with my dad after watching this video and decided I’m going to work there starting in March. This gives me some time to calm down and start from scratch.
Thanks so much man, you’ve helped me craft my next steps!
Trust me, when you work in investment banking, most are miserable and they just use the title to try to sound impressive to others - I worked at Goldman sachs and Deutsche Bank for 6 years. Now run my own startup software company in AI that I love and do it from my house in Spain next to the beach. Life is peaceful and enjoyable. There are many ways to make good salary, while also doing what you love.
You’re in a good place. Listen to your heart.
You're sitting at Lake Cuyamaca, California. Your story resonated with me especially when I realized where you were at. I lived 3 miles from that spot. People thought I was crazy living that far away from civilization and I just laughed. The Cuyamaca and Laguna Mountains tend to breathe life back into your soul. It's crazy not to experience this firsthand.
@MikeMiller-zu5zl I am jealous how close you are to that beautiful area. I didn’t want to go back to the big city after spending my birthday there alone. Also caught my trophy trout that day. Would love to go back again. Cheers my friend!
0:15 yep. Thats all i needed to see. To know how awesome a time your having. 🎉 Your beautiful. Much love an strength to you
Thank you for sharing your honest & true thoughts. Your video finds me at 35 off work (mtb crash) reflecting on life.
I spent a decade working a big corporate job that drained my soul. I decided to leave & pursue different means of income.
That alone was a lesson i life I needed to learn, & im so glad i did.
Now that I have had time to be still it makes me realize that once again i need a change.
I did look at myself in the mirror & wondered what had happened to the last 15 years.
I share a lot of the same emotions. This video has helped me reground myself in a way that i wouldn't have been able to alone.
I have nothing but well wishes for both yourself & your family.
Thank you 💜
Having space is a true blessing. I'm happy for you. I experienced that for a few years when I wasn't working, and now my mind seems to never stop buzzing. Your video is confirmation that it is OK to feel peaceful rather than anxiously seeking all the time. ❤
It's ok to give yourself permission to rest and find your moment of peacefulness. We are people not machines. Even machines need to recharge. Please enjoy your time away from all the buzzing.
Been out of work for about three months traveled Eastern Europe just got back from Southeast Asia. I understand it’s tough as we get older.
Wow that's super cool. I would love to travel like that one day and see the world from another perspective. I hope you had a good break and will find that next dream job soon. Good luck my friend 🙏
What countries u travelled in eastern europe
It is so clear to me what is the next stage of your life, and it's beautiful.
Thank you brother. I’m going to listen to this many times. I feel and hope you’ve brought a start to me living at 51 years old. Stay safe.
I'm 53 -- and it's the same with me..... life is a journey -- we need to stop & smell the roses -- never enuf time
I don't think it's ever too late for any of us to start realizing that the path we took was not the one meant for us. Sometimes it's better to do nothing than to keep going down the same path of self destruction as it was in my case. I hope you will find that peaceful destination where we all belong. Thanks.
I'm 39 and I'm right there with you, brother.
I hustled since the age of 17 on my own at 40 I left it all to move to Puerto Rico mountains and started growing and planting anything I can think of. After a falling out with my family due to mother being a violent Narc I only have my SO and sometimes talk to brother. I have literally no one toxic around me and stopped feeling guilty that I'm not on the hamster wheel.
You are not aging, you are awakening, and this is beauty.
Yes it definitely feel like that this past year.
I retired in 2015 ( after what i term as ' Gulf burnout ' after working nearly 40 years in Dubai ) , and ever since it has been my intentional goal to do NOTHING ! I've grown spiritual and am now enjoying the Bliss ! My only activities are enjoying cooking at home , going out driving into town to do some shopping for groceries, spending a lot of time online pursuing my interests on TH-cam, and enjoying the evenings watching the sunset followed by my ' happy hour ' evening drink of Gin n tonic or beer before dinner ! No better place to retire than the Philippines for me as I have a lovely filipina wife who takes care of every thing at home including our family business which helps put food on the table for all of our extended family.
Hustle culture is an extreme we should avoid, but idleness is another extreme we ought to be wary of. We need a happy middle. The Greeks understood moderation.
Totally agree bro, I feel I can grind for ever because I don't work too hard and take it easy at all times.
That just goes for everything in life, everything must be balanced
Understandable however what if someone said to you work really hard to make your dreams a reality what would you do than?
No happy middle exists in late-stage capitalism. It's only getting worse.
@@Processing321I'm glad you mentioned that I'm confused on all this type of talk. Living in the United States you gotta work shit is expensive. All this hanging out not making any money will looking spaces.
You are a wise man. I resonate with pretty much everything you said. People get too caught up in making money and meanwhile they miss the one true valuable thing they have - their life. They go on collecting money and power, and forget to live life.
And soon enough death comes and takes away all their money and power. So in the end, you only lose… your time, your energy and your money. And when you see it, you made it to retirement, but you’re too old and too tired to enjoy your life…
To be honest, I’ve been wanting to take that leap but I don’t have your courage yet. It’s scary. I congratulate people like you for taking the courage to breaking out of the matrix. I know it’s not easy.
Just don’t worry, the divine is guiding you on your path. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I wish you all the best in your life and journey!
You're right. A person's life does not consist in the abundance of things that they own.
Same here. I want to take the leap, but courage or something makes me hesitate.
@@CurtisMoe Yes, I think maybe it’s because we know we can’t go back, and the uncertainty… but I guess we should learn to overcome this fear…
There is absolutely nothing to conquer. Simply sit quiet and just be present. There is nothing to lose. Your story hits home run. Thanks for sharing your story.
Immense Gratitude, you are achieving Zen my friend, welcome to the Tao...just go with the flow.
It’s okay not to have an answer. You are right to step back, and to live in the present. Currently I’m sitting on my Lanai, and looking at the Palm Trees sway, and thanking God for all His Creation. ❤
I have been doing lots of tree watching these days and surprisingly it is very peaceful. Please enjoy your moment of serenity. Thanks
Yea the hustle culture made me sick and burnout. Doing nothing brought me back to as normal as can be. I get it brother
Amazing story. It becomes more beautiful when We Know Who We Are in Essence by renewing our minds daily as we look inwards; it's Blissful and Peaceful at all times 🦋
Much love
That’s such a lovely thought. Knowing ourselves at our core truly does bring peace and joy. Renewing the mind daily by reflecting inward is such a powerful practice. Thank you for sharing this beautiful perspective.
You’re right. Our society focuses on 9-5 work work work, and we hardly get a time to enjoy life and break off from the norm. I can see why reverting to nature is liberating, though it can also be dangerous
True like sand dunes 😢
Hidden Laws Of The Game read that book (thank me later!)
fake and malicioud
Get a job
@@vinnie8221 xtrut
@vinnie8221 Shush you mouth
Amen brother. I retire in 59 weeks at age 54. I'm tremendously excited to be able to live.
Congratulations to you bro! I hope to say the same thing when I turn 56. 🤙🏽💪🏾🙏🏽
You both don’t get it. You worked for most of your good years. You already wasted it. You didn’t build the courage, you let them steal your life.
@@gr2786 Maybe you don't get it; most people in this world, especially younger Americans are too lazy and selfish to sacrifice for their families. I see all of these van lifers, GenZer's and others that say they have freedom. The sad part for the rest of us is that when they get older, we will have to pay for the fact that they didn't pay their way. They didn't earn a retirement, didn't pay into social security, earn health care, etc. People like you don't realize that most previous generations sacrificed, did things they didn't want to do for the good of others and their families. I'm glad I'm at retirement, but I'm also proud I did my part in the world and did something that had some meaning. I also did waste all of my good years. I'm in good shape, healthy and strong and still have every bit as much energy as someone in their 20's. I've ate healthy and went to the gym. Go away and do something with your life.
Thank you for this, God has given me the opportunity to spend time with my kids, my wife and my self. I have been squandering this time, sometimes you just need a reminder like this. Thank you so much, you are speaking to thousands, maybe millions of us, and we hear you!
I think we all deserve a 2nd chance to live again. I hope you can find the time to spend with your family and rest more. We are just simply humans, after all.
Sounds like you've freed yourself from the matrix. I'm truly happy for you
What a great video. Self awareness is so important and we can relate. It's sad but very eye opening. Thank you for your transparency. Great video.
Thank you for watching! Self-awareness truly is the key to growth. It might be tough to face at times, but it leads to powerful change.
Your life is beautiful, raw, and authentic. I appreciate you.
You are gaining wisdom as you mature. You are on the right path. Stay strong be kind, you are coming into the best time of your life.
I think we get older and make enough mistakes so hopefully we don't do them again. Perhaps there is no wisdom without the pain?
You sir are an inspiration, very well worded and eloquent. I'm on this journey too as of recently and the world is now slowly opening up!
Over 70 widower, still healthy and happy, much enjoyed your sharing. You 've realized an important lesson for your better life here. I can relate to your enlightenment and share a thank you for making the video. Empty the cup to refill it, I will never forget that idea.
I am happy to see you are healthy and happy. Those things can be so simple but at the same time so out of reach at times. Please keep taking care of yourself and thanks for listening to my story.
This is a surreal mirror moment for me 💯 a year ago, I literally sat in that exact spot you're sitting at on a beach, and uttered the same words "I honestly don't know what the next chapter of my life is gonna look like" ... the rest is history! thank you for sharing this moment 🙏
That’s such an incredible connection! Life has a way of bringing those full-circle moments to remind us how far we’ve come. Your journey shows the power of trust and resilience. Here’s to even brighter chapters ahead! I hope that moment on the beach got you to the place you want to be🙏
I've been missing out until i become a father, i used to love leaving working places having reason to leave but now i wanna work hard for my family that means everything to me. Its not society that made me this way, I was always this way, I always wanted to be a father and I will do my very best to make sure my family is healthy and secure.
dude, if thats your goal. limit the time at the company and spend more time with your wife and toddler. reading your 2 lines, i just feal like they contradict , alot.