I saw my father as a little girl provided for my mother. He passed away when I was 5 years old. She met my stepfather several years later. He purchased my mother a home for her and her children, then they married a couple of years later and sold his home and moved in with us. My mother passed away in 2019 and that home was passed on to me. My mother was a very feminine woman who always showed my father and stepfather that she needed them. My 3 brothers grew up and treated their wives the same way. My husband treated me this way before he passed away. I had the example as a little girl. ❤
This is so true...my dream car is a range rover and just last weekend my fiance said do you want a Range or a house. The proceeded to ride my past this trailer park where there were Cadillac's and Lexus's and even a Maserati. He said what is the priority. I immediately began researching the most reliable suv. I've been so irresponsible with money in the past, beyond thankful for the responsible hardworking man God blessed me with.
Right on time! I've been a SAHM for the past 6 years. It has been challenging in regards to pressures of society. Internally I'm greatful and fulfilled in what I feel is my greatest purpose as a women. Meanwhile I cant ignore my feelings of inadequacy because I've allowed myself to soak up what people say about housewives. It's no longer honorable to take care of your family exclusively anymore. It's disheartening how backwards we've become. I see why we are supposed to be a part of the world, but not of it because these people will drive you nuts.
You should join a group of sahms. And remember when your children are healthier, stronger and more ready for life than MOST you’ll be glad you poured your time and effort into them. And loved and nurture them as much as you did. I work all the time, traveling. And I can see the damage it’s doing to me and my family if I’m being honest. Plz try to ignore the world. Your job, what you do is important for the collective maybe even more so than us with secular jobs. I can’t wait to be a sahm again. I love my kids and I like being around them ain’t nothing wrong with that
Get off social media, if you're on it. Seriously. They engineered it for women to keep their minds and hearts chaotic because women are attracted to or curious about chaotic things. Every woman I know that disavowed their social media presence has felt a weight lifted from their shoulders. Unless your SM accounts are tied to your monthly income stream, leave it alone.
@@Machenziethemodel That thought process is problematic. If you think all women deserve to be taken care of, then what incentives are there for women who are wife material? This “group trophy” mindset creates mediocrity. Would you reward every man regardless of if they’re husband material or not? Wouldn’t that breed mediocre men?
I was on a date last night. I told the gentleman that I worked for 25 years , and owned a cleaning company for 5 years. Raised three boys and now that I am retired at 52 I don't want to work full time at ALL. Like you Rebecca I don't believe in a lot of debt.
Something about the information you gave in your post would make me reticent to go on a second date if I was that gentleman. I don’t want a woman giving me her resume. It comes off as masculine energy.
@@DeCurtaRican You are welcome to your opinion. However, the gentleman and I have been knowing each other for a while and he asked me what I want to do for my second chapter in life. Y'all always come with this masculine energy.. How about you ask a question like the gentleman did before you assume anything. SMH
Yep as a guy I can say that is exactly the type of people we are, we are very productive creatures and when a woman respects that it allows so much flow and allows our minds and hormones to work correctly. We don't want to feel emasculated where we can't spend money on you and protect you by listening to some pains you have. It shows vulnerability and femininity in a woman in my opinion when she can relax. It's not being submissive but having flow
Loving these videos girl! I am in love with being taken care of! My late father spoiled me emotionally and financially. No other relationship felt right until God sent me my love who cares for me in a similar way. It's a non-negotiable! P.S. Even independent women desire this! Having degrees and money does not keep me warm or fully satisfied as a woman. My joy is mainly connected to my relationship with God, myself, and the people who love me right.
I bought my house at 26 and it was the best investment I ever made after becoming saved by the Lord. Now I am trying to pay off my house in a year. My vehicles will be paid off in three months. I have not been dating in 12 years. I am still 34 years young and I really want a husband that's made for me. Lord I am waiting patiently 🙏
I'm so glad you said this! I'm single. When I told a guy I know that I desire a husband that will allow me to work only if I want to he ripped me apart. I've done my part by paying off all debt and my mortgage is almost paid off, and its only $910 monthly. So, I feel its not an unreasonable desire. But this guy ripped me apart for wanting that, saying it should be 50/50 and that I'm a gold digger. He has known me long enough to know that's not my character.
There is a glaring missing piece to the wealth puzzle that has distorted black folks idea of looking like they have "made it" . We are comparing ourselves to other races who inherited wealth via inherited homes, trust funds, college funds, or even just a used car. So even if that individual makes less than six figures, they had some huge financial obstacles removed so that they can invest or flex/waste their money. They have the choice. Black folks are using materialism as a measuring stick for happiness. The two are not mutually exclusive.
Agreed. I look at my children and I know that they have a totally different advantage. No student loans. Help on down payments for their first house. Credit scores 700+ at 19, 21, 23. That's based on their mom being wealthy and setting them up for success. And my wealth getting passed down and being protected so that my even my great grandchildren will still have inheritance from my properties, books, licensing, and royalties.
Materialism has made it difficult for a vast majority of AA men to be able to provide. Right now the highest number of AA men in my opinion that's making $100k are truck drivers. 🚚 Why because training is relatively short vs college and a high school or GED is the prerequisite.
I agree with everything you shared, Rebecca. From my personal observation and in my own experience, the more fully-rooted a woman is in her feminine energy, the more fully-rooted her man will be in his masculine energy. When masculine energy meets masculine energy, the natural response is competition. That may be why some "boss chick" personalities encounter resistance in their relationships. It's about the energetic balance. I learned this watching the most successful marriages in my family. When we each play our role, the house wins. It's really quite simple but we tend to complicate things.
I was literally telling someone last week...I keep my bills to a minimum because I don't want the man I choose to be with to have to take on such a big load.
I wish they taught this in schools. I finished school last year. They didn't at all. What they do is. They say that succes is being happy or whatever. But then proceed to quote the rich and famous. Steve jobs, Elon musk, some random celebrity or politician you name it. So what they end up actually teaching is........ Success means being rich and famous. Admittedly it gets push back. I got into some trouble for pushback. However, just listening to you is better. I'm also happy to say that your name is spreading. I can see it in my own life. I can say your name and there will be people, somebody who is like yes I know her. Probably not a goal of yours to be well known however considering what you do. I think its a good thing overall. Thanks for your words. The world needs it.
I agree with what you're saying, I even liked the video. However, yes we are making more money than our parents but the cost of living is so high we are practically more broke than our parents. So it's a bad comparison. If my husband and I want to be able to live a healthy life we can't go cheap on food, and vitamins. So it's like yes he makes good money and I am a stay at home wife but we know we can't afford kids to make sure we healthy and comfortable. If I eat cheaply I will break out in acne, have frequent asthma attacks, eczema flare ups, hair will fall out, I will become obese again and anxious. That is how vital it is that I have proper nutrition. As well as him since he has to be healthy enough to bring home the bacon.
That’s too bad. They wanted to be treated equally and to be “strong & independent.” Now they still want to be taken care of. They can’t have it both ways!
Gosh, I relate! Had a 6 figure Corporate job but was working 80 hours per week and on medication to manage stress and anxiety which went with it. Never again! Decided if I'm just not "cut out" for that life then so be it!
I believe as a woman If how much a man earns is a dealbreaker for you even though he is a hard worker and ambitious and a good man , the problem is that you don’t like him for him and you need to leave him alone
The message here really is telling women to lower their materialistic standards if they want a man to be able to provide for them because that’s what she has done. Women our age can do that because we more likely have had all the materialistic needs met by ourselves over the years and it’s not important at this stage in life. But let’s be realistic young women want to enjoy all aspects of life. It’s called experience after which comes wisdom with time to evaluate what matters to each individual. It’s a bit rich for a woman whose experienced all that to turn around and say to young women lower your standards and be happy with basics just to be provided for by a man. Ladies do you. If you want to experience luxury then work hard and get it for yourself just don’t judge a man who is unable to provide those things. A good man will continue to do what he can, and understand that you are a hard working driven woman that likes to treat herself. I was married to a man earning less than me. I am a high earner in UK. I like my financial independence. I could never rely upon another human being to provide fundamentals for me because my upbringing has a lot to do with it. My father was a provider but treated us all including my mother like children to be controlled and I hated that feeling. I felt imprisoned and could not wait to leave home. I have had access to high earning white collar men through my profession and they share characteristics that I find off putting. I know blue collar high earners and again it’s the I am a prize mentality that is subtly there as well. Well let me be my own prize, feel free and happy to live life buying and doing what I like without having to curb my taste so my husband could afford me. My husband would give me a monthly contribution and I would pay the bills and buy the food and that arrangement was fine for us. I could buy luxury without feeling guilt of spending his money and still be satisfied. If this means I am not in my feminine then fine I am not meant to be then. We have to be true to ourselves because life is short.
Exactly 💯. I responded to another comment that you commented on that times have changed and men and women need to renegotiate the social contract that we have been under. The economic structures that made that contract work no longer exists and we ain't going back no matter how much we pine for the 'good ole days'. Unfortunately, we have been told that happiness can only exist one way. The way you and your spouse structured your relationship is perfect as long as both of you are happy and that is all that matters.
Being feminine is powerful. Seek therapy because the world doesn’t care about your past and why you can trust a provider. Men will ask questions and the answers you’ll give, will repel them. That fixated mentality will not land you a husband
Women want a partner the can depend on but they don't necessarily want to be "dependent".... Its very simple. If you are a man and you are not needed for something in particular, go do something you want to do and take that free time as a blessing. People are supposed to support people where and when it is needed organically. Gender roles are unrealistic, so just go with the flow...
There is two distinct pathways dopamine and serotonin. Dopamine blocks serotonin and so does cortisol. However if you can get to a point where you can lower cortisol and dopamine then serotonin can shine. And then the very tiny dopamine and very tiny cortisol feels like bliss.
I’m dating 50 year old men and up, and I’m noticing a trend how all have boasted about all the successful women they have dated or been married to. I have a great job and successful in my own right in the television industry but no where near the level of income as the mens exes that I have dated. The men I have dated are quick to brag about their partners high paying careers as if it reflects their status as a man to be able to obtain this level of high powered woman. In my opinion, men over 50 “do” seem to care about the job status and the higher the earnings in the selection of a future partner. The higher the earnings, the more impressed they seem to be. It is frustrating to the point I have thought about getting a second degree to increase my chances of having a higher earning potential so I won’t be overlooked in the dating world. And then I quickly came to my senses and realized men that look down on me for the earning I make, are not the men for me anyway. I have learned this philosophy from you, RLP. Thank goodness you are educating us women to rethink it all. God bless you. 🙏❤️
For many years of my 13 years of marriage I have been the bread winner, however (!) when I am at home, I need my husband to take out the trash, open the doors and put gas in my car like I am helpless 😂. He will often joke with me that I must forget how to be anyone’s boss unless I am wearing scrubs 😂
agreed 100%. à high value man is à man who takes care of your heart, chérishes you and will do all to provide you with a good peaceful life, no matter how much money he is making.
Yes!! I literally have slowed down at work (because i actually had to ha).I realized that I had been stressed out so much I didn't notice until i wasn't ... I really am so happy.. looking for work that is a lot less stressful ahhh at the end of the day, I say all the time I just wanna be a mommie and take my kids /family places ... I want to still work a little ... Because there are things I like and such, but I promise u money ain't everything ...I whish I could see my dad play with his grandkids and watch movies with them...ill never get that ...and money cant buy it. I feel like a hippie when I say to people money ain't everything but I really wish people would understand....slow down make them memories ...as my dad use to say, you can't take it with you when you go!!!
Well said Rebecca! Living your life on your own terms. Not having the stress and anxiety that comes at in you in life in all forms. Relationships aren't what they used to be. If a woman has everything figured out then why are men here? If we're not wanted in a relationship then we'll move on. Attraction isn't a choice. We have to take care of ourselves too.
Rebecca thinks for that message! Now more than ever I can be Grateful that GOD said no when I was younger, because, I would've been one those people successful doing something I hated doing it also taught me that when GOD says NO, it is for my GOOD! ❤ I too had to learn being was not the way to be, but I had to in order to survive, and the fact teaches us that we don't need our men, which is nothing but! Lesson learned!
I definitely need and want a man however sometimes I don’t know how to ask for what I want in a way that inspires a man to move. For some reason I think I unintentionally give off the vibe that I have it all together when I actually don’t.
It’s very tempting to do that because that’s a way you protect yourself. I think you need to go on dates with the energy that you don’t have anything to proove, that you don’t have your life all figured out. Talk very little and listen more. His words should strengthen your resolve and make you share bits of information as you get to know each other.
The _only_ reason why a man should care about what you want . . . is if what you want contributes to his Plan for life. If you don't know what a man's Plan is . . . and how you fit into it . . . what you need and want is irrelevant to him.
26:20 People making more money, but paying more due to inflation as well. There are still barriers that we face. One income is no longer sufficient to support a large family.
Rebecca What if you keep meeting and attracting men that encourage you to do it yourself and say statements like " pray about it" and the ones that are so proud of you doin it ALL by yourself ???
I have an issue. I don’t mind being feminine and operating in my feminine energy but the man I am speaking to seems a little more in tuned with his feminine energy than I am used too. Is it okay to think that I may need a more masculine man OR do I need to dive even deeper into my feminine because I’m finding a lot of things that are bothering me about it.
....but you have set him up to do so(take care of you). It makes a difference when a woman isn't asking for Louie Vuitton every month and has to have the latest fashions. It makes it easier on the man and he can do his job of taking the lead and handling everything without the stress of her overhead.
Yea a few designer items are nice mixed in w good quality items or even affordable is my style I would never go into debt over a bag I have no debt at all Savin up that 20% for my house I am 36 almost made many mistakes waiting in men none were able to even pay bills help me so I took care of my self need my own home for my kids I want kids but haven’t had them yet waiting til I’m closer to 39 inhave no choice
All valid points on this topic. Their was this girl I was talking to but she already had a comfortable nest with a guy she had no chemistry with. As the relationship went on & she discovered I didn’t have the finances she ditched me & stayed in her nest.
Ok so what is the solution then make less money???!!! Don’t enjoy what you’ve earned through education and hard work. Then to add insult to injury that doesn’t ensure that the man acts right!
I saw my father as a little girl provided for my mother. He passed away when I was 5 years old. She met my stepfather several years later. He purchased my mother a home for her and her children, then they married a couple of years later and sold his home and moved in with us. My mother passed away in 2019 and that home was passed on to me. My mother was a very feminine woman who always showed my father and stepfather that she needed them. My 3 brothers grew up and treated their wives the same way. My husband treated me this way before he passed away. I had the example as a little girl. ❤
This is so true...my dream car is a range rover and just last weekend my fiance said do you want a Range or a house. The proceeded to ride my past this trailer park where there were Cadillac's and Lexus's and even a Maserati. He said what is the priority. I immediately began researching the most reliable suv. I've been so irresponsible with money in the past, beyond thankful for the responsible hardworking man God blessed me with.
Amen love
And you chose a truck over a house???
@@mrflynn01 LOL the way you missed the point she was making is cute. NO she didn't.
Dream cars should be the most economic one. While everyone else is lamenting over gas prices, you won't be.
@@mrflynn01 obviously a car is much cheaper than a house (on average)
Right on time! I've been a SAHM for the past 6 years. It has been challenging in regards to pressures of society. Internally I'm greatful and fulfilled in what I feel is my greatest purpose as a women. Meanwhile I cant ignore my feelings of inadequacy because I've allowed myself to soak up what people say about housewives. It's no longer honorable to take care of your family exclusively anymore. It's disheartening how backwards we've become. I see why we are supposed to be a part of the world, but not of it because these people will drive you nuts.
You should join a group of sahms. And remember when your children are healthier, stronger and more ready for life than MOST you’ll be glad you poured your time and effort into them. And loved and nurture them as much as you did. I work all the time, traveling. And I can see the damage it’s doing to me and my family if I’m being honest. Plz try to ignore the world. Your job, what you do is important for the collective maybe even more so than us with secular jobs.
I can’t wait to be a sahm again. I love my kids and I like being around them ain’t nothing wrong with that
Get off social media, if you're on it. Seriously. They engineered it for women to keep their minds and hearts chaotic because women are attracted to or curious about chaotic things. Every woman I know that disavowed their social media presence has felt a weight lifted from their shoulders. Unless your SM accounts are tied to your monthly income stream, leave it alone.
I wish I could be a SAHM enjoy that is definitely a luxury most don’t have ❤
The tides are shifting and there is balance being restored. We’re shifting into an era of minimalism and humility.
Amen
Let’s hope ❤
That would be great but I see no evidence of that.
Every woman that’s Wife Material deserves to be taken care of🙏
RIGHTTT!!!
So the others are not worthy. Are they no longer human? Should they be throw out because they do not fit into a box.
@@Machenziethemodel Women deserve to be cared for by the community- be they wives, widows, elderly, single ladies or little girls. We are ALL worthy.
@@Machenziethemodel Not if they're not Wife Material. Would you take care of a man that's not Husband Material? I would hope not!
@@Machenziethemodel That thought process is problematic. If you think all women deserve to be taken care of, then what incentives are there for women who are wife material? This “group trophy” mindset creates mediocrity. Would you reward every man regardless of if they’re husband material or not? Wouldn’t that breed mediocre men?
I don’t want to talk about income anymore. I just want to find someone genuine who loves God, my kids and we can build a life together
Good luck. I realize that there are plenty of good women with kids. I genuinely hope you find your next love. You sound like you deserve it.
The numbers don’t lie, but people on social media do.
I was on a date last night. I told the gentleman that I worked for 25 years , and owned a cleaning company for 5 years. Raised three boys and now that I am retired at 52 I don't want to work full time at ALL. Like you Rebecca I don't believe in a lot of debt.
Something about the information you gave in your post would make me reticent to go on a second date if I was that gentleman. I don’t want a woman giving me her resume. It comes off as masculine energy.
@@DeCurtaRican You are welcome to your opinion. However, the gentleman and I have been knowing each other for a while and he asked me what I want to do for my second chapter in life. Y'all always come with this masculine energy.. How about you ask a question like the gentleman did before you assume anything. SMH
@@DeCurtaRican It doesn't come off as masculine.
Yep as a guy I can say that is exactly the type of people we are, we are very productive creatures and when a woman respects that it allows so much flow and allows our minds and hormones to work correctly. We don't want to feel emasculated where we can't spend money on you and protect you by listening to some pains you have. It shows vulnerability and femininity in a woman in my opinion when she can relax. It's not being submissive but having flow
Loving these videos girl! I am in love with being taken care of! My late father spoiled me emotionally and financially. No other relationship felt right until God sent me my love who cares for me in a similar way. It's a non-negotiable!
P.S. Even independent women desire this! Having degrees and money does not keep me warm or fully satisfied as a woman. My joy is mainly connected to my relationship with God, myself, and the people who love me right.
SAY IT!!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Love it! God bless you sis!
Amen 🙏 to this gorgeous girl you absolutely said it all.
@@ajohonly3721 Oh wow...thank you so much 💓 I pray we all continue to heal and magnetize the ease we deserve.
I bought my house at 26 and it was the best investment I ever made after becoming saved by the Lord. Now I am trying to pay off my house in a year. My vehicles will be paid off in three months. I have not been dating in 12 years. I am still 34 years young and I really want a husband that's made for me. Lord I am waiting patiently 🙏
Great job Lisa! You are on the right track. Thank Rebecca real talk!!!
Amen.🌹
I'm so glad you said this! I'm single. When I told a guy I know that I desire a husband that will allow me to work only if I want to he ripped me apart. I've done my part by paying off all debt and my mortgage is almost paid off, and its only $910 monthly. So, I feel its not an unreasonable desire. But this guy ripped me apart for wanting that, saying it should be 50/50 and that I'm a gold digger. He has known me long enough to know that's not my character.
He's just not the one for you. And that's ok. 💙
They only care about 50/50 as finances and not all the other facts of a relationship that women typically take on.
@@RebeccaLynnPope I agree 100%
He showed you his true colors - move on. It doesn't matter how long or short you've known him
@@RebeccaLynnPope it takes two and she showed her selfish true colors.
With all due respect.
There is a glaring missing piece to the wealth puzzle that has distorted black folks idea of looking like they have "made it" . We are comparing ourselves to other races who inherited wealth via inherited homes, trust funds, college funds, or even just a used car. So even if that individual makes less than six figures, they had some huge financial obstacles removed so that they can invest or flex/waste their money. They have the choice. Black folks are using materialism as a measuring stick for happiness. The two are not mutually exclusive.
Agreed. I look at my children and I know that they have a totally different advantage. No student loans. Help on down payments for their first house. Credit scores 700+ at 19, 21, 23. That's based on their mom being wealthy and setting them up for success. And my wealth getting passed down and being protected so that my even my great grandchildren will still have inheritance from my properties, books, licensing, and royalties.
@@RebeccaLynnPope That's called generational wealth.
And most of their inheritance has been trickled down from the hard work of Hebrews (blacks).
Materialism has made it difficult for a vast majority of AA men to be able to provide. Right now the highest number of AA men in my opinion that's making $100k are truck drivers. 🚚 Why because training is relatively short vs college and a high school or GED is the prerequisite.
This video is so powerful
Thank you Rebecca
At 46 I’m no longer stressed out about faking nothing
My bills are paid and I’m happy in my authentic self
Amen ❤❤❤❤
Amen!!
I also love how Mrs. Pope did this with little (or no) makeup and is STILL beautifully gorgeous!!! 💖 We have to realize that less is more.
I need a man. I have things round my home to be fixed and he needs to be a leader and head of the household.
I agree with everything you shared, Rebecca. From my personal observation and in my own experience, the more fully-rooted a woman is in her feminine energy, the more fully-rooted her man will be in his masculine energy. When masculine energy meets masculine energy, the natural response is competition. That may be why some "boss chick" personalities encounter resistance in their relationships. It's about the energetic balance. I learned this watching the most successful marriages in my family. When we each play our role, the house wins. It's really quite simple but we tend to complicate things.
I was literally telling someone last week...I keep my bills to a minimum because I don't want the man I choose to be with to have to take on such a big load.
This is absolutely soooo true/so good!!! As a feminine woman, I really appreciate you for sharing this with us! 🙌🏾💕‼️🙌🏾
🧡Traditional men are the best ,and I will never change my mindset on that. No matter how much society may change.
I’m a man and I think You just nailed the whole subject! Thanks for Your wonderful insight!
Mrs. Pope preached a word on this one.
I wish they taught this in schools.
I finished school last year. They didn't at all.
What they do is. They say that succes is being happy or whatever.
But then proceed to quote the rich and famous. Steve jobs, Elon musk, some random celebrity or politician you name it. So what they end up actually teaching is........
Success means being rich and famous.
Admittedly it gets push back. I got into some trouble for pushback. However, just listening to you is better.
I'm also happy to say that your name is spreading. I can see it in my own life. I can say your name and there will be people, somebody who is like yes I know her.
Probably not a goal of yours to be well known however considering what you do. I think its a good thing overall.
Thanks for your words. The world needs it.
Live within your means and find someone who wants the same thing you want. I agree.
I agree with what you're saying, I even liked the video. However, yes we are making more money than our parents but the cost of living is so high we are practically more broke than our parents.
So it's a bad comparison.
If my husband and I want to be able to live a healthy life we can't go cheap on food, and vitamins. So it's like yes he makes good money and I am a stay at home wife but we know we can't afford kids to make sure we healthy and comfortable.
If I eat cheaply I will break out in acne, have frequent asthma attacks, eczema flare ups, hair will fall out, I will become obese again and anxious. That is how vital it is that I have proper nutrition. As well as him since he has to be healthy enough to bring home the bacon.
This is good! I love my husband taking care of me. It’s better best feeling in the world 💚🥰🥰
I am so glad you are speaking on this!!! I want to be taken care of.
All organism desire to be taken care of, so it's no surprise.
That’s too bad. They wanted to be treated equally and to be “strong & independent.” Now they still want to be taken care of. They can’t have it both ways!
Ironically, when I had a 6 figure salary, I was the most miserable. I was Chair of a university English department. Almost got me locked up.😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gosh, I relate! Had a 6 figure Corporate job but was working 80 hours per week and on medication to manage stress and anxiety which went with it. Never again! Decided if I'm just not "cut out" for that life then so be it!
❤️”Happy girls are the prettiest”! I love your videos 🥰
I’m listening and taking it in. Girl help us get all the way together
I believe as a woman If how much a man earns is a dealbreaker for you even though he is a hard worker and ambitious and a good man , the problem is that you don’t like him for him and you need to leave him alone
The message here really is telling women to lower their materialistic standards if they want a man to be able to provide for them because that’s what she has done. Women our age can do that because we more likely have had all the materialistic needs met by ourselves over the years and it’s not important at this stage in life. But let’s be realistic young women want to enjoy all aspects of life. It’s called experience after which comes wisdom with time to evaluate what matters to each individual. It’s a bit rich for a woman whose experienced all that to turn around and say to young women lower your standards and be happy with basics just to be provided for by a man. Ladies do you. If you want to experience luxury then work hard and get it for yourself just don’t judge a man who is unable to provide those things. A good man will continue to do what he can, and understand that you are a hard working driven woman that likes to treat herself. I was married to a man earning less than me. I am a high earner in UK. I like my financial independence. I could never rely upon another human being to provide fundamentals for me because my upbringing has a lot to do with it. My father was a provider but treated us all including my mother like children to be controlled and I hated that feeling. I felt imprisoned and could not wait to leave home. I have had access to high earning white collar men through my profession and they share characteristics that I find off putting. I know blue collar high earners and again it’s the I am a prize mentality that is subtly there as well. Well let me be my own prize, feel free and happy to live life buying and doing what I like without having to curb my taste so my husband could afford me. My husband would give me a monthly contribution and I would pay the bills and buy the food and that arrangement was fine for us. I could buy luxury without feeling guilt of spending his money and still be satisfied. If this means I am not in my feminine then fine I am not meant to be then. We have to be true to ourselves because life is short.
Exactly 💯.
I responded to another comment that you commented on that times have changed and men and women need to renegotiate the social contract that we have been under. The economic structures that made that contract work no longer exists and we ain't going back no matter how much we pine for the 'good ole days'. Unfortunately, we have been told that happiness can only exist one way. The way you and your spouse structured your relationship is perfect as long as both of you are happy and that is all that matters.
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Being feminine is powerful. Seek therapy because the world doesn’t care about your past and why you can trust a provider. Men will ask questions and the answers you’ll give, will repel them. That fixated mentality will not land you a husband
Women want a partner the can depend on but they don't necessarily want to be "dependent".... Its very simple. If you are a man and you are not needed for something in particular, go do something you want to do and take that free time as a blessing. People are supposed to support people where and when it is needed organically. Gender roles are unrealistic, so just go with the flow...
Yes to embracing ease! ♥️✨
There is two distinct pathways dopamine and serotonin. Dopamine blocks serotonin and so does cortisol. However if you can get to a point where you can lower cortisol and dopamine then serotonin can shine. And then the very tiny dopamine and very tiny cortisol feels like bliss.
Droppin GAME💯🔥🔥🔥
Finally!!!Thank you for speaking to the modern-day elephant in the room. Need more of this conversation. Good message 👍🏾
I’m dating 50 year old men and up, and I’m noticing a trend how all have boasted about all the successful women they have dated or been married to. I have a great job and successful in my own right in the television industry but no where near the level of income as the mens exes that I have dated. The men I have dated are quick to brag about their partners high paying careers as if it reflects their status as a man to be able to obtain this level of high powered woman. In my opinion, men over 50 “do” seem to care about the job status and the higher the earnings in the selection of a future partner. The higher the earnings, the more impressed they seem to be. It is frustrating to the point I have thought about getting a second degree to increase my chances of having a higher earning potential so I won’t be overlooked in the dating world. And then I quickly came to my senses and realized men that look down on me for the earning I make, are not the men for me anyway. I have learned this philosophy from you, RLP. Thank goodness you are educating us women to rethink it all. God bless you. 🙏❤️
3:17 preach. This is the best ive ever heard this articulated.
You spoke the truth right here.....
This is such an important message 🙌🏽
TRUTH !! NEEDED!! AWESOME!!😊
Shout out, Pretty Lady!
Rebecca you are right, women are so different now and I at times feel that men don't respect that. Enjoyed this.
22:48 that's when you play Run to You by Whitney Houston because that's exactly right
This word is amazing. So sad most don't think like this.
Thank you for making this video!!!’
Okay, message received.
This was a beautiful message. Thank you Rebecca.
I absolutely love what she’s saying!!! It’s so true…. Live below your means
Well said as usual RLP! 👏👍🔥💪🤓 Sending love from Barbados! 🇧🇧✌️
No lies told here!
For many years of my 13 years of marriage I have been the bread winner, however (!) when I am at home, I need my husband to take out the trash, open the doors and put gas in my car like I am helpless 😂. He will often joke with me that I must forget how to be anyone’s boss unless I am wearing scrubs 😂
I love listening to you!! This video really helped me ❤. Material things don’t matter
Such great advice!!!!!!!
agreed 100%. à high value man is à man who takes care of your heart, chérishes you and will do all to provide you with a good peaceful life, no matter how much money he is making.
This is a good lesson for us ladies taking notes
Definitely!!!
Wow this message is powerful sis I appreciate it!
Great video Rebecca ❤God bless you 🙏
That's why allot of people stay on the rat wheel. Being your own boss is not easy.
Thank you for speaking the truth on this subject. YES! we need to be taken care of. Younger women need to know this.
Preach Sista, preach!
True
Im so stressed out
Legit recorded a Pod Pod with my mom last night and she said this.
So so true keep preaching beautiful young lady!!!!
This is potent stuff. You are speaking truth.
This was sooooo good Rebecca!
Speak sis 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
I enjoyed listening to this so much!
I loved this message very much 😢… thank you so much Rebecca ❤
My favorite video thus far.
Great commentary
Love this message!
Thank you for your perspective. I needed it today ❤
Thanks for the reality check!👍
Yes!! I literally have slowed down at work (because i actually had to ha).I realized that I had been stressed out so much I didn't notice until i wasn't ... I really am so happy.. looking for work that is a lot less stressful ahhh at the end of the day, I say all the time I just wanna be a mommie and take my kids /family places ... I want to still work a little ... Because there are things I like and such, but I promise u money ain't everything ...I whish I could see my dad play with his grandkids and watch movies with them...ill never get that ...and money cant buy it. I feel like a hippie when I say to people money ain't everything but I really wish people would understand....slow down make them memories ...as my dad use to say, you can't take it with you when you go!!!
Every man deserves to be taken care of too. Equal give and take, women are too selfish to understand that.
Well said Rebecca!
Living your life on your own terms. Not having the stress and anxiety that comes at in you in life in all forms. Relationships aren't what they used to be. If a woman has everything figured out then why are men here? If we're not wanted in a relationship then we'll move on. Attraction isn't a choice. We have to take care of ourselves too.
Rebecca thinks for that message! Now more than ever I can be Grateful that GOD said no when I was younger, because, I would've been one those people successful doing something I hated doing it also taught me that when GOD says NO, it is for my GOOD! ❤ I too had to learn being was not the way to be, but I had to in order to survive, and the fact teaches us that we don't need our men, which is nothing but! Lesson learned!
My mom raised me & my sister as a single parent, and I never thought of it this way - men needing to be needed by us. Noted, thank you🙏🏽
Loved this live thank you Queen✨🤍
I definitely need and want a man however sometimes I don’t know how to ask for what I want in a way that inspires a man to move. For some reason I think I unintentionally give off the vibe that I have it all together when I actually don’t.
It’s very tempting to do that because that’s a way you protect yourself. I think you need to go on dates with the energy that you don’t have anything to proove, that you don’t have your life all figured out. Talk very little and listen more. His words should strengthen your resolve and make you share bits of information as you get to know each other.
The _only_ reason why a man should care about what you want . . . is if what you want contributes to his Plan for life. If you don't know what a man's Plan is . . . and how you fit into it . . . what you need and want is irrelevant to him.
26:20 People making more money, but paying more due to inflation as well. There are still barriers that we face. One income is no longer sufficient to support a large family.
Well said 👏
So true
Rebecca What if you keep meeting and attracting men that encourage you to do it yourself and say statements like " pray about it" and the ones that are so proud of you doin it ALL by yourself ???
A man that really likes you would want to do whatever he can to help you.
Well Said!
Definitely
You brought out the data!
Some do, some don't. Depends on the upbringing. And in these times, some of the men do too.
I have an issue. I don’t mind being feminine and operating in my feminine energy but the man I am speaking to seems a little more in tuned with his feminine energy than I am used too. Is it okay to think that I may need a more masculine man OR do I need to dive even deeper into my feminine because I’m finding a lot of things that are bothering me about it.
....but you have set him up to do so(take care of you). It makes a difference when a woman isn't asking for Louie Vuitton every month and has to have the latest fashions. It makes it easier on the man and he can do his job of taking the lead and handling everything without the stress of her overhead.
Yea a few designer items are nice mixed in w good quality items or even affordable is my style I would never go into debt over a bag I have no debt at all Savin up that 20% for my house I am 36 almost made many mistakes waiting in men none were able to even pay bills help me so I took care of my self need my own home for my kids I want kids but haven’t had them yet waiting til I’m closer to 39 inhave no choice
I watched this video to the very end and this was real talk from the sidewalk.
Btw, I sent this video to 200 ppl.
Preach!
All valid points on this topic. Their was this girl I was talking to but she already had a comfortable nest with a guy she had no chemistry with. As the relationship went on & she discovered I didn’t have the finances she ditched me & stayed in her nest.
Ok so what is the solution then make less money???!!! Don’t enjoy what you’ve earned through education and hard work. Then to add insult to injury that doesn’t ensure that the man acts right!