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I'm a pastor and thought leader in most spaces... and I'm still simple. I sat on a panel of very powerful men in a women's conference and made the same statement, ALL MEN ARE SIMPLE, every man on the panel agreed, 8 figure earners, football players, best-selling authors etc...y'all listen to this woman!
Another gem 💎 of a video Aunty! So freaking true when you said “ Women want to get married to check a box because they are goal orientated but really don’t want to be a wife”. I was obsessed with marriage too until I let a long distance boyfriend live with me for for four days. Baby I was ready to be single again! 😂. Being alone for so long, it’s a HUGE adjustment to just share space with another being.❤️
But most of the men are not able to provide without the help of the female income. The whole dynamic goes down the drain. Once women have to contribute and go out of the house and work for 8 hours of the day. And still be expected to come home and do the duties of the traditional wife?
I am a man and I approve this message! It's great that you explained that women have a choice to make. I was married for 9 yrs and I am at peace with my divorce. There was so many nuggets in this video. I knew this was going to be good when you put the disclaimer in the beginning. Great talk Rebecca!
This is too real!!! I just came to this realization. It seems superficial, but men are just that simple. Your health and weight is the ultimate importance for women. Don't let nobody lie to you. ❤
This is why it's so important for Christians to know The Holy Spirit and to be filled with Him. I've come to realize that a lot of problems we face is because we do not have The Holy Spirit. Everything she was saying about holding a man accountable while simultaneously making him feel like a hero requires wisdom. This wisdom comes from The Lord. I encourage everyone who sees this to seek The Holy Spirit. My life has evolved since having Him in life. He leads me and guides me; He shows me where to go, what to do, how to speak, who to speak to, what friends are good for me, convicts me when I am in the wrong etc. He has even put me in wife training. Honestly, I can't imagine my life without Him.
Facts 💯 Queen!! I can appreciate this teaching. I now see why my ex left me after being together for 15 years. A serious eye opener. I have to do and be better. Maybe I might get a second chance at love. You psychoanalyzed us men perfectly.
There's definitely a second chance for you! Learn your lessons, level up, and forgive yourself. Then open your heart to new love. Your future lady will so appreciate your growth and upgrade!!! 💙💪🏾
the other part of being married is being accountable to each other and accepting "constructive criticism" with the goal bring out the best in each other.
RLP to me this video is the MOST Transparent you have ever been in regards to what marriage is really like speaking from someone married twice and currently going through my second divorce. However I’m soooo happy it’s over it’s like a huge burden lifted after 30 years. I’m exhausted but now I’m soo happy, losing weight, doing things I really enjoyed before marriage, kids and grandchildren! Hallelujah! I wasn’t appreciated so appreciate my absence! Wishing everyone well but it’s amazing. Marriage is beautiful and amazing but it’s work and you have to vet well, ladies and gentlemen! Be intentional.
I'm a guy in my 30s , I had found a woman , I thought was my Soulmate , she had a good , nurturing , personality , but Physically she didn't do it for me , on the flip side , she had some self esteem issues , and had some masculine traits , like she never got dolled up , wore pants and T shirts , Never found that balance , physically attractive and great personality , got to do work on self to attract what I desire , love , Mrs Popes message !
Whew Rebecca! You kept it so real! We are strategizing for chess and they are playing checkers! I almost fell out of my seat! Wow - you just saved me sooo much energy. Priceless
Ok. So we are going to need a Wife Preparation course that only you could provide. You know that, right? That is the natural progression. First we get over heartbreak, do the work , learn to date, get to bait weight and bait presentation, and then we need you and other wives to teach us the real deal- How to be excellent, effective wives and then how to be excellent mothers. Please consider it. You could change the world. Especially for those of us who grew up with little or no examples of healthy marriages or marriages at all. Thank you love. I always learn so much from you.
Thank you so much for this. I was so complaining how I am so single and want to be married so bad. I currently taking care of My Dad because my Mom wasn't feeling well and I didn't realize how much work My Dad was. I can't believe My mom was taking care of My Dad like this and still managed to go to work. And just like you said some of us women do not hold ourselves accountable like that....This is me. Big Sister Rebecca hits on the nail again.
Oh, I know is nine out of 10 times. The man goes after the woman. And when they really like you, they don’t waste time or even play any sort of the ego goes away.
Salute for Understanding how us men look at women and how the Physical is a Majority of Our Overall Attraction. And not taking that personal with your husband or whatever.
Thank you so much for keeping it REAL!!!! This really challenged me. As singles we often hear married folk say 'marriage is work' but then not specify why. I understand now!
Wow just wow 😱 Thank you for actually coming with truth, balance for both perspectives AND solutions without disrespecting anyone. You are rare sister, this conversation so needed in our community.
Hello beautiful people, that is so true. I was on the phone late at night with a friend girl, while she's working in the hospital. This male doctor asked her, "How she looks?" 😆 That was his first & only question about me. Looks are very important to men & unfortunately, most men don't look at character too.
This was so on point!!!! When I became divorced, I realized that I was romanizing marriage and was not ready to be HIS WIFE… not just having the title wife. Now as I work on my set on different levels, I am preparing myself different in case marriage comes to me a second time. Until then, I will drink, workout, enjoy life, and mind my own business.
Thank you for your full transparency. The masses need to hear everything you’re saying. The shadow work within each of us must be done so that the healing can happen and the happy, healthy, healing, romantic interdependence can be an actual possibility. Thank you for encouraging accountability and self awareness because any long lasting sustainable growth definitely starts there….. blessings and abundance
Men are simple; however, Relationships are Complicated! 🤨 Great conversation! Teach us Mrs. Pope!! Several of us are really lacking in knowledge about this subject matter- knowledge IS Power, and We Need To Do Better!!
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Rebecca. You should turn these into wedding vows. Well said. Love your ability to effectively communicate so much repationship wisdom. You are a true gem.
THANK YOU DOR YOUR CANDOR! The part about how marriage is work …how do you hold him accountable and still view him as your hero. That’s reallllll good info for this single lady
Rebecca I made an earlier comment and deleted it because the comment was not what struck me the most about this video. What struck me the most was hearing that so many of you young wives would not marry again. I’m 63 and widowed after 40 years. I would give ANYTHING to have him back. I miss his strength and guidance and all the little things he did to make my life easier. This is a harsh time to be alone. Covid showed us all that. Try being quarantined alone. Young ladies when it gets overwhelming take a good look at what you are doing. Back off on some things that aren’t absolutely necessary. Don’t try to be super woman. Send the kids to Auntie or Grandma and just cuddle in the bed with him all evening watching tv. The house ain’t gotta be perfect and neither do you.
These men and these times are not the days of old. And we women are not the same women of your generation. That's why we are in the middle of a Relationship Revolution.
@@RebeccaLynnPope Don’t discount my opinion because I’m older. You originated from a culture where the Elders and the Ancestors are revered. That was lost once Africans arrived in this country and were introduced to Christianity and that is a large part of the problem. This relationship angst is only happening to Black people in America. . (I am black if you can’t tell). My advice was to slow down and treasure what you have because one day you will lose it. I stand by my advice because all around me I still see happily married young women. Human nature has not changed that much.
@sylviatyree3265 Hello Ma'am. Thank you for your input. I do not believe Mrs. Pope to have been coming from a place of disrespect. What she is pointing out is that statistically, prices of everything has increased to record numbers. Majority of adults/parents who are married/partnered are not able to do what you suggested. You mentioned COVID and the fact that you no longer have your husband(my condolences). Many people have no living elders to send their children to. The same family and communities that may have helped raise prior generations either no longer exist. The family members are either working as well or they could even not live anywhere in the area. These times are different in many ways, but extremely economically. Parents aren't barely have time to see their children after work, let alone trying to send them away to make time for their spouse. Anything can be arranged for, sure, but please consider the way you don't have your loved one is the same way others may not have what you had access to in the past. Take good care.
Great video!! I really appreciate your content..eye openers! But honestly, many men have issues controlling their flesh - I think that’s where most women have issues & want to throw the towel in on their marriages. Men already aren’t perfect; however, they expect women to deal with their flaws AND infidelity, while women continue to adhere to their standards of “a wife”. A woman can be all of these “5 things” and a man will still chose to step out of the relationship. Now a days, women seem to never win in relationships (specifically, loyalty), that’s why many tend to seek a man’s bag.
I would say for men once you build yourself to a high level of attraction trying to get 1 woman you attract them all and it takes a level of awareness to be able to handle it for most men your TYPE never shows up until you commit to someone else like a craving on a fast it's not an excuse but it takes more than you think
I've said it before and I'll say it again. I am Never getting married again. 14 years in so far and got me a good one. Probably the last person most people would expect to hear this from. There have been some rocky moments but the statistical reality is it could be sooo much worse. This video is so right on, I reminded my husband last night that I am never, ever going to be "strong" for him the way my mother was for my late father. I'm not going to refrain from speaking truth lest it offends him.
I guess it all depends on the man. Not all men are simple. A lot of them are difficult. It's simple when you're dealing with a King who knows how to treat a woman. But, it's not that simple dealing with pimps and simps. What a good message! I learned a lot from this message.
Rebecca you are amazing! I’m grateful that I stumbled on your videos while researching ‘Christian dating’ on TH-cam. Your wisdom and practical advice is so refreshing and enlightening.. God bless you
This is the 2nd video I watched & thank you! This is REAL! I ❤️it! It definitely gave me a reality check! I just subscribed, thank you for the advice Aunty Becca!
Thank you for making me step back and think 🤔. Now I’m thinking about it, I don’t have the best communication skills and I can be very petty 😪. I love the good lifestyle and I definitely get carried away by these IG pictures sometimes.
Five years ago I divorced my husband from a 24yr. marriage and will not marry again, yes hands down it was too much on my shoulders every single day!! My opinion men are too much work. I’m now turning 63 this month. My husband and I raised a family we created and it still didn’t work. PS~Rebecca is correct‼️
🗣AUNTIEEE! This is hands down the realest “Suga come get this lesson” talk you’ve had with us. I’m better because of it. Now my future daughters, nieces, mentees, and my sister-tribe will know better, be better, and will do better. 💯
I have never had the desire to get married. It just didn't seem like it would benefit me in any way as a woman. I respect people who value the union of marriage. However, relationships are hard enough so I'm good.
Yes, men aren't as complicated as women think we are, but not as base as she portrays us to be. I still require women that get me and that I can have stimulating conversations with
17:49 EXACTLY!!! I Keep tryna drill this point home in my homegirls head. Do they Really Want You? Don't Confuse the 2 Thats why you Always let the man pursue you in the beginning...so you know what's up...or better gage it.
Hi! I am a man, and I learned a lot about my own self from this video! However, I would like to inform you that *some* of us men are complex. It's true! I am one such man. I am so complex that even I can't figure myself out at times. I have even had people tell me that they can't figure me out. They can't tell whether what I am saying is true, or whether it is calculated by my complex mind to sound ridiculous. You know what? I LOVE that! I have found that some, but not all women are intrigued by my bamboozling style. I just wanted you to be aware of men like me.
@ex church girl or he can be married to you and live in another state working, then pop in for visits (birthday, holidays). I convinced myself I was good. I got tired of being married and living alone, so I filed for a divorce. I do not regret my decision. However as @Rebecca said I allowed it.
I haven’t seen a better video on the TH-camverse about this topic and I have to let it sink in. I might have to watch this three times just to marinate.
The ad for T-shirt made me laugh so bad 😂😂😂😂 yes, women don't wanna hear this kinda stuff cause they don't wanna work on themselves, or we just don't understand how simple men are. Thank u, Rebecca! I'm so glad I found you in the past and was listening to your advice ❤️
If a man really wants to marry you. You'll know it within a year. When he takes longer just know he's settling. And you're probably not his first choice.
You nailed it!! Good men for good women!! Also..following up on the spirituality side...sometimes the man does not have the same world view or moral fiber. They can see it on your face when you discover it. They can see that you no longer view them as your hero..
I know some happily married couples, and I’m hoping to find someone who has done the work like I have. No one is perfect, but I do believe it’s better to have a companion than to be alone for your whole life. It sounds like it’s hard work single and hard work married lol.,
She ain’t lying yall! I’ve only been married over a year and marriage is not for chumps, especially if you marry a high earning man like I did. It is simple what most men want, but it’s also work like with anything else good u want in life. Many woman have a Disneyland fantasy of marriage and she’s telling u what it REALLY is. Turn off those soap operas.
Never been married and I've only had love for just a few days in my life. And now I'm growing older alone and it's getting to me sometimes. I wish I made more money to make my singlehood a lot more fun.
I am healthy and look nice but sure dont want to be botherd by this level of shallowness. My goodness why on earth would women want to be bothered with this shallow creature then get trapped in a marriage with them when you could live your life unbothered and free. Thank God we live in a time when women dont have to have a man to survive financially. Your conversation has made me thankful to God for my resources , freedom and peace of mind and a quite home without nonscense. Now please explain why these women chasing that stress mess?
This Channel is the answer to my prayers 🙌🏽 Such good motivation and reminders of solutions that can create such a more enjoyable healthy lifestyle for our lives. ❤
I LITERALLY just talked to GOD about this last night!!!!! It was like a revelation for me. I realize they are really simple creatures. And YES, you hit all 5 points. Girrllll…. Lol 😂 Got it!
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Love the channel thank you ❤🎉😂🙏 yes agree it's work
Well said. If it seems complicated, they aren't into you.
True
Oh well I’m about to get rid of one now..
Boom!
Facts
I'm a pastor and thought leader in most spaces... and I'm still simple. I sat on a panel of very powerful men in a women's conference and made the same statement, ALL MEN ARE SIMPLE, every man on the panel agreed, 8 figure earners, football players, best-selling authors etc...y'all listen to this woman!
Another gem 💎 of a video Aunty! So freaking true when you said “ Women want to get married to check a box because they are goal orientated but really don’t want to be a wife”. I was obsessed with marriage too until I let a long distance boyfriend live with me for for four days. Baby I was ready to be single again! 😂. Being alone for so long, it’s a HUGE adjustment to just share space with another being.❤️
😂😂🤣
😂😂😂 that is hilarious
But most of the men are not able to provide without the help of the female income. The whole dynamic goes down the drain. Once women have to contribute and go out of the house and work for 8 hours of the day. And still be expected to come home and do the duties of the traditional wife?
black Women don't even want to clean up after themselves let alone be a wife 🙂
Get your passports fellas😅
I am a man and I approve this message! It's great that you explained that women have a choice to make. I was married for 9 yrs and I am at peace with my divorce. There was so many nuggets in this video. I knew this was going to be good when you put the disclaimer in the beginning. Great talk Rebecca!
Thank you for the support. 💙
What really convinced you to get a divorce.
Care to share what the issues were to you? If you don't mind that is?😮
@@jemimajameson578white lies, manipulation, gaslight and baggage from the past!!
😂
One thing missing: loyalty. For a long term relationship, loyalty is a must.
This is too real!!! I just came to this realization. It seems superficial, but men are just that simple. Your health and weight is the ultimate importance for women. Don't let nobody lie to you. ❤
Being respectful is HUGE with men! A warm, inviting beautiful smile, too! No monster-looking and frowning faces!
This is why it's so important for Christians to know The Holy Spirit and to be filled with Him.
I've come to realize that a lot of problems we face is because we do not have The Holy Spirit.
Everything she was saying about holding a man accountable while simultaneously making him feel like a hero requires wisdom. This wisdom comes from The Lord.
I encourage everyone who sees this to seek The Holy Spirit. My life has evolved since having Him in life.
He leads me and guides me; He shows me where to go, what to do, how to speak, who to speak to, what friends are good for me, convicts me when I am in the wrong etc. He has even put me in wife training.
Honestly, I can't imagine my life without Him.
This is the best comment I have ever seen!!!😢
True but you’re overspiritualizing dating. Discernment can def help see what’s beyond the surface. But yea…
Facts 💯 Queen!! I can appreciate this teaching. I now see why my ex left me after being together for 15 years. A serious eye opener. I have to do and be better. Maybe I might get a second chance at love. You psychoanalyzed us men perfectly.
There's definitely a second chance for you! Learn your lessons, level up, and forgive yourself. Then open your heart to new love. Your future lady will so appreciate your growth and upgrade!!! 💙💪🏾
Wow
the other part of being married is being accountable to each other and accepting "constructive criticism" with the goal bring out the best in each other.
RLP to me this video is the MOST Transparent you have ever been in regards to what marriage is really like speaking from someone married twice and currently going through my second divorce. However I’m soooo happy it’s over it’s like a huge burden lifted after 30 years. I’m exhausted but now I’m soo happy, losing weight, doing things I really enjoyed before marriage, kids and grandchildren! Hallelujah! I wasn’t appreciated so appreciate my absence! Wishing everyone well but it’s amazing. Marriage is beautiful and amazing but it’s work and you have to vet well, ladies and gentlemen! Be intentional.
I had actually forgotten how happy I am to be single , thanks for the reminder RLP :)
🤣🤣🤣
Yes ….it’s not worth it if this is it.
😂
And all the married and formerly married women said… amen.
Lol right
Men want honesty loyalty, respect and trust 💯 and great conversation!
I'm a guy in my 30s , I had found a woman , I thought was my Soulmate , she had a good , nurturing , personality , but Physically she didn't do it for me , on the flip side , she had some self esteem issues , and had some masculine traits , like she never got dolled up , wore pants and T shirts , Never found that balance , physically attractive and great personality , got to do work on self to attract what I desire , love , Mrs Popes message !
You dodged a bullet man and most importantly you didn’t settle for her you deserve better king
Whew Rebecca! You kept it so real! We are strategizing for chess and they are playing checkers! I almost fell out of my seat! Wow - you just saved me sooo much energy. Priceless
Ok. So we are going to need a Wife Preparation course that only you could provide. You know that, right? That is the natural progression. First we get over heartbreak, do the work , learn to date, get to bait weight and bait presentation, and then we need you and other wives to teach us the real deal- How to be excellent, effective wives and then how to be excellent mothers. Please consider it. You could change the world. Especially for those of us who grew up with little or no examples of healthy marriages or marriages at all. Thank you love. I always learn so much from you.
You are right. 💙
This kind of rights of passage needs to come BACK to our culture💯
Yassss Plzzzzzz!!!!!!!
Thank you so much for this. I was so complaining how I am so single and want to be married so bad. I currently taking care of My Dad because my Mom wasn't feeling well and I didn't realize how much work My Dad was. I can't believe My mom was taking care of My Dad like this and still managed to go to work. And just like you said some of us women do not hold ourselves accountable like that....This is me. Big Sister Rebecca hits on the nail again.
Wives do too much and that's why married men live longer than single men while the married woman's lifespan is cut short
Oh, I know is nine out of 10 times. The man goes after the woman. And when they really like you, they don’t waste time or even play any sort of the ego goes away.
Salute for Understanding how us men look at women and how the Physical is a Majority of Our Overall Attraction. And not taking that personal with your husband or whatever.
Thank you so much for keeping it REAL!!!! This really challenged me. As singles we often hear married folk say 'marriage is work' but then not specify why. I understand now!
Rebecca you dropped the mic on this one. Point blank period !!! Thank you Mam 😊
I love your videos! A lot of us women have lost our way these days
Wow just wow 😱 Thank you for actually coming with truth, balance for both perspectives AND solutions without disrespecting anyone. You are rare sister, this conversation so needed in our community.
Hello beautiful people, that is so true. I was on the phone late at night with a friend girl, while she's working in the hospital. This male doctor asked her, "How she looks?" 😆 That was his first & only question about me. Looks are very important to men & unfortunately, most men don't look at character too.
This was so on point!!!! When I became divorced, I realized that I was romanizing marriage and was not ready to be HIS WIFE… not just having the title wife. Now as I work on my set on different levels, I am preparing myself different in case marriage comes to me a second time. Until then, I will drink, workout, enjoy life, and mind my own business.
Lol. Good plan.
“became divorced”…YOU FILED!!
No lies detected at any point in this message. I got divorced in my early thirties and I’m not sure I will ever get married again.
Your speaking straight Facts Queen! I'm married and my husband agrees with you 100%!
You are like that REAL Auntie I needed all my life 💕
Love you 😍 😘😘
Thank you for your full transparency. The masses need to hear everything you’re saying. The shadow work within each of us must be done so that the healing can happen and the happy, healthy, healing, romantic interdependence can be an actual possibility. Thank you for encouraging accountability and self awareness because any long lasting sustainable growth definitely starts there….. blessings and abundance
Everything you just wrote...Yes!
Men are simple; however, Relationships are Complicated! 🤨 Great conversation! Teach us Mrs. Pope!! Several of us are really lacking in knowledge about this subject matter- knowledge IS Power, and We Need To Do Better!!
I think women ate the simple one'a and hearing you speak about men confirms it.
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Rebecca. You should turn these into wedding vows. Well said. Love your ability to effectively communicate so much repationship wisdom. You are a true gem.
THANK YOU DOR YOUR CANDOR! The part about how marriage is work …how do you hold him accountable and still view him as your hero. That’s reallllll good info for this single lady
Rebecca I made an earlier comment and deleted it because the comment was not what struck me the most about this video. What struck me the most was hearing that so many of you young wives would not marry again. I’m 63 and widowed after 40 years. I would give ANYTHING to have him back. I miss his strength and guidance and all the little things he did to make my life easier. This is a harsh time to be alone. Covid showed us all that. Try being quarantined alone.
Young ladies when it gets overwhelming take a good look at what you are doing. Back off on some things that aren’t absolutely necessary. Don’t try to be super woman. Send the kids to Auntie or Grandma and just cuddle in the bed with him all evening watching tv. The house ain’t gotta be perfect and neither do you.
These men and these times are not the days of old. And we women are not the same women of your generation. That's why we are in the middle of a Relationship Revolution.
@@RebeccaLynnPope Don’t discount my opinion because I’m older. You originated from a culture where the Elders and the Ancestors are revered. That was lost once Africans arrived in this country and were introduced to Christianity and that is a large part of the problem. This relationship angst is only happening to Black people in America. . (I am black if you can’t tell). My advice was to slow down and treasure what you have because one day you will lose it. I stand by my advice because all around me I still see happily married young women. Human nature has not changed that much.
@sylviatyree3265 Hello Ma'am. Thank you for your input. I do not believe Mrs. Pope to have been coming from a place of disrespect.
What she is pointing out is that statistically, prices of everything has increased to record numbers. Majority of adults/parents who are married/partnered are not able to do what you suggested. You mentioned COVID and the fact that you no longer have your husband(my condolences). Many people have no living elders to send their children to. The same family and communities that may have helped raise prior generations either no longer exist. The family members are either working as well or they could even not live anywhere in the area. These times are different in many ways, but extremely economically. Parents aren't barely have time to see their children after work, let alone trying to send them away to make time for their spouse. Anything can be arranged for, sure, but please consider the way you don't have your loved one is the same way others may not have what you had access to in the past. Take good care.
Rebecca gives THEEEE BEST ADVICE..hands down!!! Love her honesty & tough love❤❤❤
She Droppin actual BARZ🔥
You are 100 on all theses points, please women listen to this woman. Keep preaching.
Dropping lots of good gems. My pastor use to say don't push information like this away, rack it in
Never underestimate men like that. We are just as complicated as women but men put on a front.
Not all
Yup,I'm a minister!This is why I luv Rebecca.Shes the only one who gets me.😹👏🏾
Great video!! I really appreciate your content..eye openers!
But honestly, many men have issues controlling their flesh - I think that’s where most women have issues & want to throw the towel in on their marriages. Men already aren’t perfect; however, they expect women to deal with their flaws AND infidelity, while women continue to adhere to their standards of “a wife”. A woman can be all of these “5 things” and a man will still chose to step out of the relationship. Now a days, women seem to never win in relationships (specifically, loyalty), that’s why many tend to seek a man’s bag.
Yes!!!!
I would say for men once you build yourself to a high level of attraction trying to get 1 woman you attract them all and it takes a level of awareness to be able to handle it for most men your TYPE never shows up until you commit to someone else like a craving on a fast it's not an excuse but it takes more than you think
Don't forget peace of mind and laughter!
I've said it before and I'll say it again. I am Never getting married again. 14 years in so far and got me a good one. Probably the last person most people would expect to hear this from. There have been some rocky moments but the statistical reality is it could be sooo much worse. This video is so right on, I reminded my husband last night that I am never, ever going to be "strong" for him the way my mother was for my late father. I'm not going to refrain from speaking truth lest it offends him.
Someone said there is research that stated if asked whether they'd get married again, married women said "Nah, son".
Preach Rebecca! Everybody needs accountability. Gotta check yourself sometime.
I guess it all depends on the man. Not all men are simple. A lot of them are difficult. It's simple when you're dealing with a King who knows how to treat a woman. But, it's not that simple dealing with pimps and simps. What a good message! I learned a lot from this message.
@lashawnshipp8271 You are right 👍🏾
Rebecca you are amazing! I’m grateful that I stumbled on your videos while researching ‘Christian dating’ on TH-cam. Your wisdom and practical advice is so refreshing and enlightening.. God bless you
I love how real and practical you are!
The video was EVERYTHING!!!!!! Every single point was exceptional and so helpful for me on my love journey ❤️. Thank you!
SOME MEN are not all about LOOKS. Geeeeez !!!! There are different types of men in this world.
Imma ko all this in mind when i decide i care to please a man again in my life🤣🤣🤣🤣 its just to stressful!
This is the 2nd video I watched & thank you! This is REAL! I ❤️it! It definitely gave me a reality check! I just subscribed, thank you for the advice Aunty Becca!
Thank you for making me step back and think 🤔. Now I’m thinking about it, I don’t have the best communication skills and I can be very petty 😪. I love the good lifestyle and I definitely get carried away by these IG pictures sometimes.
Lol! Real Talk. Marriage definitely requires a lot of maturity.
Give this woman an award!
This was very enlightening. Thank you for helping to opening our eyes.
Five years ago I divorced my husband from a 24yr. marriage and will not marry again, yes hands down it was too much on my shoulders every single day!! My opinion men are too much work. I’m now turning 63 this month.
My husband and I raised a family we created and it still didn’t work.
PS~Rebecca is correct‼️
Men expecting women to be best wife ever without ever learning to be a decent husband as well.
Its a laugh. 😂
thats a given. you didnt hearca word?
this should be good
Always throwing it back on the men for women's shortfalls. Those women will die alone
IKR...🚘🌇
🗣AUNTIEEE! This is hands down the realest “Suga come get this lesson” talk you’ve had with us. I’m better because of it. Now my future daughters, nieces, mentees, and my sister-tribe will know better, be better, and will do better. 💯
Wow this was a powerful and dynamic message, everybody needs to hear this message.
I finally found someone whom advice i will definitely take
Can wait to watch this later when I work out. I am a dude and I can't wait to hear gold.
She's 100000% Right
Lol!!! truth. Aaaaand we still love you, Black women! Just because it's simple doesn't mean we don't see you once in a relationship.
This was so real🙌🏽❤️loved every minute…especially when you were tickled about wives cooking in the kitchen😂
No lies told in this video! Thanks for the amazing message 😊
I have never had the desire to get married. It just didn't seem like it would benefit me in any way as a woman. I respect people who value the union of marriage. However, relationships are hard enough so I'm good.
This is a great video!
Absolutely right! Everything you said was on point! Thanks for all your wisdom and knowledge you pour into us. ❤️
You're welcome 😊
Yes, men aren't as complicated as women think we are, but not as base as she portrays us to be. I still require women that get me and that I can have stimulating conversations with
These are my Top 5 because we have to start somewhere. 🙏🏾😍
I'm glad to see a man say this, because no offense, I get the gist of what she's saying, but she made men sound shallow and emotionless.
So we gotta be his therapist, housemaid, chef, and side chick 🤔😆😉got it
17:49 EXACTLY!!! I Keep tryna drill this point home in my homegirls head. Do they Really Want You? Don't Confuse the 2
Thats why you Always let the man pursue you in the beginning...so you know what's up...or better gage it.
Hi! I am a man, and I learned a lot about my own self from this video! However, I would like to inform you that *some* of us men are complex. It's true! I am one such man. I am so complex that even I can't figure myself out at times. I have even had people tell me that they can't figure me out. They can't tell whether what I am saying is true, or whether it is calculated by my complex mind to sound ridiculous. You know what? I LOVE that! I have found that some, but not all women are intrigued by my bamboozling style. I just wanted you to be aware of men like me.
I swear that I am not making *any* of this up!
Um......Sir!!!
💯 you are correct! Thanks a woman that finally gets it 😎
"If you want to be married, you must have marriage as a requirement"
What do you think of men who stay with a woman for decades, without marrying them? Would love you to do a video on this topic! Thank you Mrs. Pope!
Only happens because the woman allows it
@ex church girl or he can be married to you and live in another state working, then pop in for visits (birthday, holidays). I convinced myself I was good. I got tired of being married and living alone, so I filed for a divorce. I do not regret my decision. However as @Rebecca said I allowed it.
That man is very very very smart, not taking any risks legally in relationship. He can walk away without any repercussions.
I haven’t seen a better video on the TH-camverse about this topic and I have to let it sink in. I might have to watch this three times just to marinate.
The ad for T-shirt made me laugh so bad 😂😂😂😂 yes, women don't wanna hear this kinda stuff cause they don't wanna work on themselves, or we just don't understand how simple men are. Thank u, Rebecca! I'm so glad I found you in the past and was listening to your advice ❤️
women understand men. it's men that don't understand women. point blank.
If a man really wants to marry you. You'll know it within a year. When he takes longer just know he's settling. And you're probably not his first choice.
You never disappoint, this was amazing!!
Thank you for being so straight up!!!
Im married and if anything happens to my husband " I am NOT getting married again" too exhausting !
I don't want to constantly feel worn out !
@@angelae.campos179 you aren't alone love. Every wife I know feels the same way.
I'm married and I concur.
Thank you for helping me check myself and being honest about what I really want
You nailed this one girl!
You nailed it!! Good men for good women!! Also..following up on the spirituality side...sometimes the man does not have the same world view or moral fiber. They can see it on your face when you discover it. They can see that you no longer view them as your hero..
I know some happily married couples, and I’m hoping to find someone who has done the work like I have. No one is perfect, but I do believe it’s better to have a companion than to be alone for your whole life. It sounds like it’s hard work single and hard work married lol.,
Exactly. You have to pick your hard.
I love Mrs. RLP because she she’s well balance on topics.
I love you. Mrs Pope. Ty for always keeping it real with us
Very candid💕
I'm sending this to my husband so he can understand how i feel!
You're so on point Mrs. Pope, love the content and information!! Thank you!! 😊
She ain’t lying yall! I’ve only been married over a year and marriage is not for chumps, especially if you marry a high earning man like I did. It is simple what most men want, but it’s also work like with anything else good u want in life. Many woman have a Disneyland fantasy of marriage and she’s telling u what it REALLY is. Turn off those soap operas.
What is difficult about marrying a high earning man in specific?
It's been a whole year and this person still has not answered your question. Smh
Love this and girl your not wrong. I turned to God to help me be the best woman I can be for the man that is meant for me.
This was TOO real!!!!
Never been married and I've only had love for just a few days in my life.
And now I'm growing older alone and it's getting to me sometimes.
I wish I made more money to make my singlehood a lot more fun.
I am healthy and look nice but sure dont want to be botherd by this level of shallowness. My goodness why on earth would women want to be bothered with this shallow creature then get trapped in a marriage with them when you could live your life unbothered and free. Thank God we live in a time when women dont have to have a man to survive financially. Your conversation has made me thankful to God for my resources , freedom and peace of mind and a quite home without nonscense. Now please explain why these women chasing that stress mess?
This Channel is the answer to my prayers 🙌🏽 Such good motivation and reminders of solutions that can create such a more enjoyable healthy lifestyle for our lives. ❤
The way you explained a wide Range of women they like facts facts facts.
I LITERALLY just talked to GOD about this last night!!!!! It was like a revelation for me. I realize they are really simple creatures. And YES, you hit all 5 points. Girrllll…. Lol 😂 Got it!