sorry, nope.. .at 10-14 i had a weekendjob, a paperroute and i worked in all of my vacations, my failed parents left me and my 2 brothers alone half of the year, so i had to cook, wash and be there for both of them.. at 15 my grandparents took us all in and at 17 i joined the dutch marines so being a weird 13 yr old was not my cup of tea.
@Mouse In A Bucket lol... so if people have a different opinion ..... the name calling begins by you (sexsist or prudes if you dont like a kids movie????) ....
I was thinking about it while watching and honestly being 45 now I don't remember much about 13 but I know I didn't have any of the typical puberty things you hear about with guys. No voice cracking, no major acne, or sudden growth spurt. Everything was very gradual. One annoying thing was that I have a subtle mole on my cheek and hair started growing on that first. Suddenly it wasn't so subtle anymore. lol
So many people called the girls and family unrelatable or exaggerated. But ANYBODY who has experienced or seen parents and things like this knows that is absolutely NOT the case. Love this movie, captured a really hard to grasp thing!
I'm a guy and having immigrant parents, and being a people pleaser myself I understand this. Her friends actually remind me of my high school friends as well.
I think it's funny when people complained that the characters were weird or different, when that is exactly how I acted at 13 (minus the magic lol). So much fun watching with you! Can't wait to see Korra at some point 😁
i mean doesnt that just mean your weird too lol p.s i have 0 opinion on wht is weird nd whts not couldnt care less just a funny observation glad you have a character you relate to
It's because we don't talk about woman's puberty in movies. Periods is still a taboo, talking about body hair, smells and growing parts (when it comes to women). There is still a lot of prejudice, partly because of the beauty standard and partly because of the "sin" that is the woman's body
Right there with you, my two best friends are Asian and their mother was EXACTLY like this, it took her almost loosing her life in a car accident to shall we say...de helicopter? And all the throw back tech and styles had me rolling!
Bruh, my family is Greek, and even I related to Mei and her mom, especially since I finally stood up to my mom not too long before watching this movie and admitting how terrified I was of her from middle school and onwards because of feeling like I had to strive for perfection (especially since none of my siblings seemed to live up to her expectations whereas I did).
Exactly: I missed the tamagatchi thing, and obviously was never into boy bands... nor did i have that kind of Chinese Aunt style "mob" show up.... BUT I could tell these were clearly parts of the fimlakers childhood and could appreciate how personal they were. Haha the sketching under the bed thing I can relate to a bit too much.... though the sketches were far less cute >_
I love how Priya is the one who understands right away what’s going on with Mei, since she’s been through it. She’s the only one of the girls drawn with curves.
I think there's a beautiful irony that by letting Mei Mei go her own way, and keep the panda, she's able to connect and embrace her past and ancestry in a way the rest of the immigrant family felt like they had to lose to assimilate.
Totally. It's like me and my Dad. We're both Mexican-American, but I'm the only one who learned to speak Spanish. Not only in Spanish class, but also with our relatives in Mexico.
Was raised in a “Jewish” family where “being Jewish” was pretty much just celebrating Hanukkah instead of Christmas. I’ve now studied actual Hebrew and the Bible for years now, and I present myself outwardly as far more Jewish than either of my parents (kippah on my head and the strings on my pants)….
The single greatest achievement of this movie is making me, a whole adult man, understand the boyband craze among teenage girls for the first time in my life. No cap, I might be a 4 Townie now! I've been converted!
I'm curious to know which one is your favorite. Personally I'm a Robaire Stan. I'm a grown woman, never really went to a boyband craze phase... Except for the Spice Girls, and yet here I am 😅
Encanto and Turning Red is seriously showing some much-needed shade on family-based trauma problems. They're not afraid to show them as wrong as they are.
@Frogger Trauma tends to be considered taboo, and some people would be scared to write/create things about it because they think it's too heavy and people wouldn't want to see it. This person was just trying to say that it's a good thing the film makers aren't shying away from sensitive topics like this.
@Frogger The word "afraid" was used as an expression tho?? Not to mention wdym "I win"?? This wasnt an argument. The person genuinely tried to explain their point of view to you after YOU asked the question which you didnt even want an answer to, clearly. After another person explained the SAME thing it's like you read none of it. This is just you being a troll
@@nickthepick8043 I appreciate how they didn't try to make it all the same kind of trauma but on how each culture has different trauma and how each culture acts differently due to trauma
I wish there was a playlist, like an actual playlist of all the movies and shows that made her cry....as morbid and weird as that sounds >.> so I could cry with her
The scene with her mom crying always gets me. Never been a perfection pursuer, I always knew my sisters are better than me anyway, but feeling like you'll never be good enough... too close to home.
My daughter has major learning difficulties and cerebral palsy and is getting to the age where some of the issues in this film are going to affect her. She is a huge fan of Disney and Pixar and I’m so happy this film got made. I feel like it’s going to be a favourite for her as she gets into her teens 😀
You reminded me of my friends younger sister who is 38 but has Down Syndrome so she has the mentality of a 4 or 5 year old. We were discussing some of the difficulties she had with puberty and things like that.
I'm surprised to read the comments saying there was criticism of this movie being unrealistic. I'm neither a girl _nor_ a child of immigrants, but I still could identify perfectly and it all seemed perfectly plausible.
People who hated this film are mostly conservatives who wanted a story where the Family is always right. They don't want a story that tells how weird, hard and confusing being a teenager can be.
My absolute favorite moment in this movie is where Mei in her panda form sees Devon again, stamps her foot and yells "Awooga!" Also, Sandra Oh absolutely killed it as Mei's mom.
One of my favorite parts about this film was Meilin's father Jin being the voice of reason that she needed so she could finally become her own person. James Hong (the voice of Mr. Gao) recently got his star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. He helped define my childhood with characters like Daolon Wong and Mr. Ping. It's hard for me to pick a favorite song, but Taeyoung is my favorite 4*Town member. Billie Eilish and her brother Finneas O'Connell worked on the 4*Town songs, but Finneas also got to voice the oldest member Jesse in the film. According to the member profiles on the website, Jesse is a father of two.
Big ups for James Hong. Blade Runner, Mulan, Avatar TLA, Kung Fu Panda, Big Trouble in Little China, Dexters Lab, Jackie Chan Adventures and like 500 more. Absolute king.
As someone with three sisters, and who grew up in this same era in Ontario, I related to this movie in a lot of ways, despite not being Asian or a girl myself. I watched this with my nieces and we all loved it.
I also have 3 sisters I grew up with but they were all 5+ years older than me so I didn't see much of this. I do recall one rebelling and moving out when she was 16 (we had a house right around the corner she moved to).
I loved watching this with my daughters. I as a Dad appreciated that the Dad wasn't a wet blanket like I've seen in other shows/movies. Also loved how the metaphor for puberty was handled well without being too much one way or the other. Watching this did make me think about Teen Wolf a lot which made me reevaluate that Teen Wolf was pretty much my Turning Red lol Plus I could relate to this movie due to it being set in 2002 since that was my senior year of High School! lol
Even though I'm a dude. This movie made me realise that everyone passes through this period of rebellion and trying to have an own voice. I love this film. The songs were recorded by Billie Eilish and her brother.
The story of the film is largely inspired by the relationship that the director of the film had with her own mother and a curious fact is that the director herself said that her mother also hid behind the trees to spy on her hahaha
This video is a good example of why I watch everything Natalie films. Laughter outbursts turning into crying within seconds and back again! And the outburst about the power point presentation was awesome! I watched the part where it comes up, and her eyes scan it for 2 beats, and she just EXPLODES with ..... whatever that explodiness look was on her face.
10:54 Lil fun fact, Domee Shi, the director of this movie, had an exact experience like this with her mom when she moved to a new school. Pretty funny how some people say Ming's level of protectiveness isn't realistic when this happened to a real person! 😆
The film's not so much about puberty, her mother is wholly prepared for it and to have that talk, and she was already boy crazy to begin with. It's a great joke but isnt what's driving the plot. What the movie really is about is a form of change that happens to a lot of folks growing up, particularly of 1st and 2nd gen ethnic households. David Chang talked about it in his upbringing as 'Korean at home, American at school' and what Mei was starting to experience is when those two worlds start to get in the way of each other. The ending sees an integration of the two worlds, even so far as the mom inviting her friends over for dinner, with food arguably the easiest way to share culture. See also Spanglish, for another movie about it. That line at the end, "Is what you want for yourself to become someone very different than me?" that by the way, is a rhetorical question, really hits you in the feels.
the mom in this movie is the animated version of my mom. every scene is so accurate like that sanitary pad scene? well, yeah that happened to me in real life and it was during our sports event! i literally wanna bury myself in the ground lmao
I wish I could have seen the test audience of 13 year-old girls watching the pad scene and their reactions. Some would be screaming in horror, others would cover their faces, many would look away. I'm pretty sure that is the penultimate nightmare for a 13 year-old girl.
Even though I am not, nor have ever been, a 13yo girl, I also found the movie very relatable. They made the characters unique and spent time developing their relationships. It was a wonderful movie!
there is a fan theory running around that Abby could potentially be Boo from monsters inc. she's wearing similar colors, she has the same flowers that were on her closet door but now on her overalls. monsters inc took place in the mid 1990s when she would have been a toddler. Lastly, she's obsessed when Meilin turns into the panda because she feels a comfort to big furry monsters like sully.
I'm so glad you got to "put a face" to the phrase "representation matters" so you know what the very strong emotions that drive what sometimes may seem like (just) a narrative driven by the media. For me as a woman, even though I of course knew it to be true, never realized how much it made a difference until I was seeing Wonder Woman walk through No man's land to save innocent people in the movies and found myself fucking sobbing, because of how magnificent she was, because I realized how much I had wanted it but had never gotten it until that point, and how much better it felt than with male superheroes, crying of envy and the unfairness for little me never had what my male friends did. I cried out of joy for girls now will not know.
Girl! Your hair looks amazing. I mean "hair care commercial" amazing. This is one of the best coming of age movies I've seen in a long time. It felt nostalgic before we could get 15 minutes in...so the feels were there. The animation in this movie is everything. Almost everyone I watched react to this said they also had second hand embarrassment.
I like the road Disney is going down at the moment, specially with „Encanto“ and „Turning Red“. Family has such a huge impact on us and where they can give us strength, they also can drag us down.
Disney kinda disrespects Pixar sometimes especially with turning red having released straight to Disney plus instead of giving it a theatrical release as they did with Enchanto.
The scene with the young version of Ming is so heart breaking to me as a member of a family with tons of generational trauma. It really hurts to think about my mom struggling as a little girl and compare it to my own childhood.
If you're wondering why the mom is so intolerable in the beginning, it's because they're highlighting the problem with 1st generation Asian-American parents in that culture. I know because I myself have parents like that. It's absolutely toxic how my Asian parents raised me. I know it'll sound shocking to those who can't relate, but I absolutely HATE my parents because of how they raised me. The mom character was exactly how my parents were when I was growing up. I have since, disowned myself and have moved on and changed my last name to dissociate from my culture. They were selfish, socially unintelligent, and was never understanding of their own children. Watching the mother in this movie pained me to my core, because of how accurate it depicted the toxicity.
Good on you, you deserve to be around objectively better people. I may not have that experience (thankfully), but it's leauges healthier for Mei to not associate with her mother or the rest the canadian branch of the family at all. It's all toxicity and anxiety there. She should eventually get an apartment with her friends, live in the city, and make a whole bunch of new friends.
I related a lot to this movie too; my mom is immigrant Korean, I'm first gen US American, and holy crap there was so much this got right. I don't know your particular situation and of course some parent-child relationships are untenable, and the healthiest thing to do is separate. For me, I wanted to work things out with my mom, which I've been doing very consciously through therapy for the last 10 years or so. We've still got a long way to go, but we have also healed so much between us. It makes me sad that you disowned your culture as well. Part of my healing with my mom was also about healing the ancestral toxicity and the rifts that formed there (particularly from years of war, colonization, and oppression). Understanding my culture has helped me better understand not just my mom, but myself. I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I hope that your journey does bring you to healing the hate and turmoil inside of you-- not necessarily to reconcile with your parents, but at least to reconcile with yourself, and the histories you carry. 🤍
I understood Min a lot more because I have a relatively good relationship with my mom. She’s a Chinese immigrant and was raised by really shitty parents (toxic and borderline abusive, not to mention absolutely favoring her brother). But unlike them, she can recognize that her kids are becoming their own people even if they will always be part of the family. Like a lot of the toxicity comes from the need to protect her kids form a strange land that will never keep them safe. And many Asian parents act on the emotions of an injured child who never healed. I think that’s the point of Min’s character. She was raised by a toxic parent, is slowly learning to be not that level of toxic to her own kid, and trying to ignore her own trauma.
@@Charolette21 if that’s what u got form this movie, you didn’t watch it correctly. Mei’s mom is reconciling with her own trauma and in doing so, becoming a better mom. She’s overbearing and intrusive but what do u expect from someone raised by immigrant parents? Cutting urself off from ur family when ur an Asian Canadian isn’t like when White people do it. Like OP said, a disconnect from family is also a disconnect from ur culture, an integral part of ur identity. Mei’s mom is learning and changing along with her daughter. She’s not abusive, despite what people would claim. Her only fault is being overbearing and unwilling to see that her little girl is growing up. Cutting off her family is not the right move.
This movie is the exact representation of the relationship I had with my mother, and I'm so thankful Pixar is shining a light on this, I wish I had a movie like this growing up. Also, you make me ugly cry with your reactions because you have so much empathy i love it. Keep up the good work mama PS: Your curls look AMAZING gurl
This movie makes me very thankful that I had an awesome family that prepared me for puberty years before it happened, enough that I was actually excited when I got my first period XD
The dorkiness of the girls were spot on! In most depictions of teen girls, it's the Pretty Little Liars /CW teenagers. But no, we just were like this. We were both masculine and feminine.
Someone at Disney/Marvel has really been getting on the theme of generational trauma with all these recent projects, but I love it! This is a complete side note but your curls look extra beautiful, love it!
I’ve seen this movie so many times at this point and each time I find something new out, what I found so beautiful this time around is that the mom put her panda in the tamagotchi and now she gets to take care of her, herself and really develop that relationship with herself even though she’s not outright with it. I find that happens a lot when my friends would leave the parents house they would start to find themselves all over again especially women. Now as a mom myself I want to give my all to my baby but I have to remember to keep myself intact for my sake and my family’s sake. This is such a great movie honestly. So many hidden meanings ❤
Idk, even in middle school i only had 2 or 3 real friends that actually stayed with me. Like i had people that I talked to but they weren't really *there* for me if you catch my drift. I was always really bubbly and happy and that was just my personality back then, but when I noticed that those people I knew stopped talking to me, I guess I just shut down. I thought that they didn't like who I was and it felt like they were always making fun of me. That was when I really started to worry about what people thought of me. And now I'm out of highschool and I'm still considered "the quiet weird girl" so I guess not everyone will be satisfied. I can be bubbly and talkative around close friends/ people I trust, but that's really it now. I struggled with fitting in and now I have insane social anxiety and regular anxiety. It's something I need to work through so I can learn to be myself. That's why I loved this movie so much and the message I got from it. Thank you so much for reacting and sharing your thoughts! I always enjoy your reacting videos
It’s very interesting what you were saying in the after-film discussion about how easy it is to repress your own personality at this time. That was the part of this film that really spoke to me. I am neither Asian, female, or Canadian, but still found so much to relate too in this one. The late pre-teens/early teens are that point in life where you really discover your own personality and develop into who you’re going to be the rest of your life, and disruptions during this time can have drastic affects on a person later in life. For me, it was due to family medical drama at that time combined with my father and older sister being mostly absent due to work and school. I was forced into a “man of the house” role for most of a year between the ages of 12 and 13 as my mom became extremely ill at that time and was barely capable of every day life. I had to cook, clean, help my mom with whatever was needed around the house in order to keep the family functioning along with high expectations in school and other aspects of my life. I never really got to discover my own likes and dislikes, or develop much of my own personality as my own needs took back seat to the rest of the family’s, and as a result I basically became a chameleon. I based my personality and preferences on whoever I happened to be around at any given moment, and this continued for decades to the point that I’ve lost good friends because I could not be real with them and they could sense that I was trying to be like them. It’s taken me decades to finally be my own self and understand my own place in this world. I can relate so well to Mei’s struggle for her own identity within the confines of a loving but overbearing family and under the weight of super high expectations (both of yourself and others). It doesn’t matter that I am physically and mentally nothing at all like her, but what she goes through inside is just as real and even more poignant because of our differences, and that’s the beauty of this film, it can speak to anybody no matter who they are or where they came from.
I watched this and thought it was fun but seeing it through Nat’s eyes and how much she related to the story reinforces how much representation and relatable stories matter. Made me appreciate it much more
@@crystalwang1532 Yes, but reading is harder to react to and I haven't seen a react to that movie in a while (The older ones are no longer on youtube). So not only is it a good movie to watch, it could be added to her queue and we can all enjoy crying with her
As a guy, I just realized that Tyler probably has a crush on the girls. Just by the way he acts mean towards them and his body language throughout, as a 13 year old boy, it's very on point lol
I was honestly expecting him to confess to mei when he was calling her at the party and was surprised when he didn’t lol though I’m kinda glad it didn’t go that direction
On a rewatch I thought Tyler was jealous of the girls’ friendship. At the beginning of the movie he was playing basketball by himself. He was at the daisy mart by himself. And under the bleachers he said that if mei mei showed up then other kids would show up to his party. He showed up at the concert alone. The kid was lonely and I’m so glad the girls embraced him into their group.
Just watched this movie on a whim and when I was done I remembered that you had a reaction to it so I had to come and watch you watch it. As someone born a guy in the early 90s I also vibed a lot with the setting. But I realize that if this had come out 5-10 years ago I wouldn't have understood any of it. But my early 20s is when I started really embracing myself for who I was, because up until then I struggled with who I naturally was and who my parents wanted me to be. Not an asian household, but a very conservative/religious one. And part of that process was opening up and listening to the experience of people from other walks of life, so I understand that I can take the asian family aspect pretty seriously as a representation and I appreciate the perspectives I get from it. If asian people say that this is accurate for them then who am I to say it's unrealistic? But I also remember the girls in my class obsessing over boy bands. And my sister has 4 daughters, the oldest currently 16, so I've seen how they are with their friends and it seems pretty accurate to me lol.
Sense you watch something that’s more Asian type, I Request you to watch “Everything, Everywhere, All at Once” It’s such a Masterful movie and it’s best to go in blind like super blind
This movie feels so genuine in so many ways. The way the kids act, the lack of stereotypical cliques in the school, the fact that the relationship with her parents is complex and isn’t just “parents suck”, it’s all so good!
So while I can't relate to a ton in the movie (since my parents were overall super understanding and didn't set unbelievable expectations for me in middle school and I'm a guy for some things), I can relate to some, the music thing for sure (I started listening to rap when I was about 13 or so, which my dad totally didn't get and still doesn't), the getting a crush thing of course, and some other things as well....but it's just an overall great movie and I've had plenty of moments where I was like Mei in this lol. (I.e. the screaming into the pillow and wishing I was dead, becoming an "adult") And when Mei's father talks about "making room for the bad stuff" and living with it all, reminds me so much of depression and mental illness and learning to live with that as well. And just accepting every part of you, no matter what it is. Just some take aways and what I got out of the movie :)
Seeing Disney touch generational trauma and actually talk about ways to address it fr had me crying for 20 minutes after the movie. It’s sweet and beautifully animated.
Great call! And your hair is amazingggg 16:38 I almost expected you to turn into a giant furball in that exact moment. :) Who's your spirit animal Nat? I imagine it's a rather fuzzy doggo.
Everything you said was absolutely perfect regarding the themes and emotions. So with that being said, holy COW was this movie funny AF. That “AWOOGA” took me OUT. This was hysterical to watch and my goodness I adored how over the top it was.
This is like my one of my favorite Disney/Pixar films. So much joy, heart and everything. I don’t understand people who didn’t understand themes of friendship, growing up, living up to the expectations of those around you, navigating school and home life, etc. Oh, I’m not a 13 y/o Chinese-Canadian girl so clearly I can’t identify with *anything* this movie has to offer? Ridiculous. Thanks for this reaction!
I was 12 or 13 around 2002. I didn't grow up in Canada but this definitely hit me in the feels and was extremely relatable. This movie has definitely upgraded to one of my favorite Disney and Pixar films. I will more likely be adding Mei Mei's red panda face to my Disney themed tattoo. It's a wonderful movie
I recently rewatched that movie and cried so hard. When I was a teenager I clashed SO hard with my mom, and now that I'm a parent myself, all those sweet feelings toward my kid are almost overwhelming. So I was crying from both sides of it (same with Turning Red lol)
7:23 i always feel so terrible for people when they say this because I never experienced this with my mom. like we weren't crazy close or anything, she just treated us like people. she let us come to her for weird and awkward conversations because she trusted us. she knew we weren't actively trying to hurt ourselves and if it happened she'd comfort us after our mistakes. why can't all parents be like that? I'm sorry so many of you lost that part of your relationship, even if it was exclusively during puberty.
I was surprised how this movie seemed to cause such a stir, like a minor mention of periods seem to trigger some man babies who I have to assume has never spoken to a woman in their life. Like didn’t people even claim this movie was grooming kids?
LOL right? I saw no talk of Mei Mei's mum accusing a 17 year old boy of taking advantage of a 13 year old girl and doing drugs....but mention a natural thing like a period and ooooohh nooo
@@babarjaputak2314 Lol right? I spend 10,000 hours of my life watching that film "Boyhood" that came out in like 2013 or 14 where the young boy grew up kinda in real time and everyone was like ugh it's so real and relatable give them oscars and like i can appreciate some people liked the movie more than i did because i found it boring as heck like cool filming it over 12 years was a fun idea and I appreciate guys have genuine struggles growing up especially with toxic masculinity but if i have to see another "discovering boobs in a magazine" "lying about being a virgin with your friends" "not knowing what to do when you leave school" "family issues" "how do I interact with a female they are aliens" "dad and gramps teaching him how to be a man" which apparently involves shooting a gun in america movie or show like damn give the girls one 🤣🤣🤣
My daughters absolutely loved it! Although my son did like it a bit, too, his older and younger sister were the ones who just completely fell in love with the movie. They are still a few years away from those ages, even my oldest is a little over a year away from her teens right now, but I hope that they understood and could empathize with how it will feel to be in those years and how it could affect them. Ultimately, no matter what, I will be as supportive of them as I can as long as they aren't making decisions that hurt or adversely affect them or the people that they love.
I was 13 in 2002, so I can relate to this movie. But even if I weren't, I would still relate to this movie because I had high standards put onto me, and I actually failed at some point. I am successful now, but it took a lot of growing pains. And even though I'm a guy, I was also a closet boyband music lover haha. To those people who are saying that this movie is racist or unrealistic or unrelatable, then you probably are the person pushing your agenda on others.
Omg I remember when this movie came out, a lot of old men gave this movie a bad review because it was unrelatable. But it was just them. Because so many other people found it relatable, like me and you and others. I cried so much. So great XD Oh and the experience with the mom was so relatable. I'm so glad my mom didn't know english or knew how to get around much when I was that age because she SOOOOOO would've been like Ming, overstepping boundaries and spying on me hahahaha. And I never did anything bad to be honest. Oh but she still would embarrass me in public like that though, pointing my zits out to people and etc OMG. But I'm glad I learned early on to be very independent from my parents. Tbh they have themselves to blame for that. They raised me to be independent but didn't think i'd also use that independence to get away from them hahahah. Ah well c'est la vie lol
This movie made me cry my eyes out lol, even being a guy I related to the fact that her parents don't accept her because she's different. That ending with her mum being a child too really hit home for me. Good parents are just kids trying to be better than themselves for your benefit and sometimes as a child you forget that. Great message for all kids, not just girls 🐼❤
Same, I always appreciate the Wegman's shout outs xD This is the second one I caught from her.. Also, her reaction was my reaction to this movie.. I loved it so much. I had the same "Too soon? 13 is not too soon!"
I'm in Western PA and the closest Weg's is 2 hours away, but whenever I'm in the Erie/Chautauqua/North Central PA area I never fail to go there for a chicken and some of the prepared meals. Also love their GF/DF selections for my wife who has Coeliac. Wegman's needs to be everywhere. :)
@@garmisra7841 I know they were planning on building a facility down south so they could spread further south.. that was years ago when I worked at their HQ... Binging with Babish has a bunch of episodes talking about Wegmans as well. I do hope they build one closer to you..
@@Vynjira-chan Awww yeah! thanks for the heads-up. At this point due to my wife's dietary considerations it's almost as if we're planning vacations and travel around the proximity of a Whole Foods or a Wegmans, though I MUCH prefer the latter, haha.
Nothing more "fun and assuring" then when you're dealing with issues and you hear that voice cut through "what's wrong with them" .. on the note of parenting "I can drag you kicking and screaming down the path I think it's right for you but that wouldn't be your path. so you have to follow your own and it won't be easy and you'll make painful mistakes and more terrifying than anything if I did my job right I'll never get to where you're going, but I have faith in you that I gave you the tools to make your own way and your gonna be fantastic and I'll be here to help as long as I can." Or something like that it doesn't matter emotions are irrelevant.
I love your reactions, but for now I need to ask you how do you keep having such healthy hair and how do you make it grow so fast? YOUR HAIR LOOKS AWESOME!
I wish I could have worked on this film and Lightyear. I saw the earlier storyboard and concept drawings when I worked at Pixar as an intern in Summer 2019. Pixar and San Francisco Bay Area was the most beautiful and amazing place I have been to. I am working at a game company now though.
12:13 "It's happened already?" Made me exclaim out loud watching the movie "YOU GUYS KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN AND DIDN'T TELL HER?!" and this movie got a lot of women telling their stories about how during puberty that they weren't informed about periods until it already happened and how much they freaked out and it's making me realize how clever that scene is.
This is such a sweet movie! I'm ironically crying more because of period hormones whilst watching this video so that's fun 😂😂. I remember as this film came out and people were saying it was too niche or that teenage girls didn't act like that and I was like yeah not around you for clear reason 🤣. There was a thread on twitter where everyone was talking about the cringey fanfics they wrote as a teenager and all sorts it was hilarious. Personally Orlando Bloom was the love of my life when I was 11 you're damn right I did cringey drawings and hid them around my room but that was mainly because he was my first crush ever it was all new and scary 🤣. But I'm almost 30 now and being into movies and shows and being a fan of particularly people etc is still a massive part of who i am and i love it I'm just more emotionally mature about it....most of the time 🤫😂. As for periods themselves i remember a bunch of "it's inappropriate" sh*t like you'd they'd animated MeiMei inserting a tampon or something the way people were wailing on. There's guys out there our age who don't have a clue and I'm happy to be like i feel like death for at LEAST 2 days out of every month you can stand to hear about me having cramps! 🤣. My mum died when I was 6 I grew up with a single dad and no siblings so my first experience of periods was hearing about it through school when i was like 10 and lots of the other girls already knew what it was about. But my dad was completely awesome (and still is) and i also had my grandma and my friends and their mums(and sometimes dads) were awesome too so I was never lacking in help. Sometimes you just gotta be a crazy cringey b*tch that can't please everyone and it's fine.
As a guy I'm so glad there's a amazing opportunity in this movie to be relatable to so many lessons here. There's movies like this but this one does it justice to get the Era in a youths life from a girl's perspective of something that doesn't get much discussion.
Side Note: I feel sometimes that people who are natively born and raised in the country don't really understand where Immigrant parents come from in how they react to their native born children growing up in this society. The amount of pain and suffering they went through, the Alienation and extreme isolation they feel in a society so foreign to them makes them THAT much "extra" as Natalie put it. Being foreign and having been raised in a different society, They are in a position where they can see the flaws and faults of the society their kids are growing up in and thus they feel extra protective of them. Not saying that that's a good thing, just wanting people to kind of understand where they are coming from and not be quick to judge or dismiss them as being "old fashion" or somehow unable to let go. Just a thought.
yup, growing up in an asian country, from an asian family, I was like, thats literally every mom ever from an asian perspective Because of that I actually kept most things from my parents (mom and dad because telling dad equals to telling mom) so that she wouldnt make a big deal out of it, I handle everything by myself and learnt most things by myself, same like Mei Mei not wanting to tell the parents regarding her transformation, and it happens to most of us growing up in this society and we view it as a norm
This brought me to tears the first time and watching this reaction. My mother was REALLY looking forward to watching this. It was on the top of the list of movies she wanted to watch wth me. She passed away in Feb so we never had the chance. I'm a guy but I had a rough time of it in my youth and she was always there for me. My dad passed when I was young so she had to try her best to be both and I can only imagine how tough it was. But little things, like just watching this movie together, were what she wanted most. Thank you for watching this and sharing. 🍻🐾🐾
I was born in 2004 but I can definitely relate to these things I did get embarrassed in school before and hated myself for it, I did draw weird doodles of my crushes, and me and my best friends were crushing on boy bands 😂😂😂❤ this movie was by far amazing
I love that a male reviewer was like "This never happens" and every single woman was like " YOU HAVE NO IDEA you don't know our lives!" Maybe if men and boys learned earlier on that this is 100% normal the world would be a less terrible place.
That said, I love the fact that the person who helped Mei through this the most (after her friends) is the father. People don't really understand or value how much Fathers influence their Daughters' lives and how impactful a healthy father figure can be in a young woman's life.
Masculinity in American society has hyper-focused so much that the scope of what is "allowed" for boys and men has tightened greatly. And when I say tightened, I mean like a damned noose. We're encouraged to curtail the use of empathy and allow our ability to express any emotion outside of anger to atrophy. It used to be acceptable for a man to be moved to tears by beauty. Hell, in The Fellowship of the Ring there's a scene where Sam rushes to Frodo's bedside and grasps his hand. There was a time when that was within the realm of acceptable behavior between two straight men; these days it's seen as homosexual, emasculated, and/or feminine behavior. The "toxic" brand of masculinity has gotten far too much acceptance in our culture, and it is hurting men in particular and society as a whole. All that said, I didn't have a lot of issues identifying with Mei. While there are definitely aspects of female puberty that I, as a cishet white male, have not experienced, I'm reasonably decent with the concepts of analogy and empathy. Things like not wanting to talk to your parents because they will embarrass you, or the idea of discussing certain topics with them is uncomfortable? Yeah, those are pretty common even in teenage boys. That one day you look at a girl, maybe one you've known for years, and suddenly, for reasons you don't understand, the shape of her eyes, flow of her hair, and the way she walks combine into some kind of melodic siren's song and it is only with a Herculean effort (or walking into a door) that you can take your eyes off her? Yeah, that's a thing. And we'd be completely embarrassed if someone said anything to her about it. Or pointed out that we were staring. Or that we just found out how hard that door is. I'll also say that a part of the push back this movie got was not just about toxic masculinity, but about the stigmatization of certain aspects of femininity. A woman/girl feeling or expressing sexual desire is often frowned upon. A 13 year old girl showing an attraction to boys? As normal and expected as something like that is, it is frequently not considered socially acceptable. Just go look at the video and lyrics for Van Halen's "Hot for Teacher". Teen boys finding a woman sexually attractive is acceptable. It's not about love or romance, it's about raw sexual attraction. Gender invert it, though, and it becomes scandalous, at the least. Anyway, I suppose I've rambled plenty, and about things that you ladies largely already know. Just keep in mind that there are plenty of men out there that get it... Or, at the least we get it enough to understand you aren't secretly some kind of alien tentacle monster.
@@Exe3D I saw a lengthy rant from a woman about how she was a conservative christian who disapproved of the movie because it "encouraged young girls to disobey their parents" 😅🤦♂️
I think this movie is way under appreciated. It's ridiculously good. The 10 minutes or so in the bamboo forest after they left the SkyDome was absolutely bloody fantastic! A whip - smart script, endlessly quotable lines, laugh out loud funny, awe inspiring and, at times, utterly heartbreaking. A beautiful Chinese aesthetic running through the movie too. Absolutely beautiful. One of Pixar's best.
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To those who criticised the movie for the characters being weird...
*Have you lot forgotten what it was like being 13??*
I want to forget when i was 13
@Mouse In A Bucket i remembered being 13 and I cringe every time I think about it. I assume that is everyone's reaction who hated this film?
sorry, nope.. .at 10-14 i had a weekendjob, a paperroute and i worked in all of my vacations, my failed parents left me and my 2 brothers alone half of the year, so i had to cook, wash and be there for both of them.. at 15 my grandparents took us all in and at 17 i joined the dutch marines
so being a weird 13 yr old was not my cup of tea.
@Mouse In A Bucket lol... so if people have a different opinion ..... the name calling begins by you (sexsist or prudes if you dont like a kids movie????) ....
I was thinking about it while watching and honestly being 45 now I don't remember much about 13 but I know I didn't have any of the typical puberty things you hear about with guys. No voice cracking, no major acne, or sudden growth spurt. Everything was very gradual. One annoying thing was that I have a subtle mole on my cheek and hair started growing on that first. Suddenly it wasn't so subtle anymore. lol
So many people called the girls and family unrelatable or exaggerated.
But ANYBODY who has experienced or seen parents and things like this knows that is absolutely NOT the case.
Love this movie, captured a really hard to grasp thing!
I'm literally a straight white male from europe and I related to Meimei HARD so these people just have had a really perfect life it seems
I'm a guy and having immigrant parents, and being a people pleaser myself I understand this. Her friends actually remind me of my high school friends as well.
I was 13 in 2002 with a super strict mother, I related to this movie so much! Especially the the boyband obsession 😂😂😂
@@soundaholixx no, denial
On God I thought the mother was underexaggerated ☠️ this one is fuckin special man
As a former teenage girl, I can say that this is hands down the MOST ACCURATE depiction of teenage girlhood ever portrayed on screen.
My sister was exactly like mei mei
Right?
You were so lucky to have been a teenager sometimes, thanks for sharing with us your experience!
@@RaduRadonys Wut?
I think it's funny when people complained that the characters were weird or different, when that is exactly how I acted at 13 (minus the magic lol). So much fun watching with you! Can't wait to see Korra at some point 😁
Anyone saying the characters were weird or different were (likely) the ones making life hard on kids like that back when they were in school.
Yeah Korra please! 😁
@@Bad_Wolf_Media oooh you're exactly right
i mean doesnt that just mean your weird too lol
p.s i have 0 opinion on wht is weird nd whts not
couldnt care less
just a funny observation
glad you have a character you relate to
It's because we don't talk about woman's puberty in movies. Periods is still a taboo, talking about body hair, smells and growing parts (when it comes to women). There is still a lot of prejudice, partly because of the beauty standard and partly because of the "sin" that is the woman's body
I’m a dude, and I still found their dorkiness and friendship way too real and relatable. What a nostalgic movie
Right there with you, my two best friends are Asian and their mother was EXACTLY like this, it took her almost loosing her life in a car accident to shall we say...de helicopter? And all the throw back tech and styles had me rolling!
Here with you my guy
Bruh, my family is Greek, and even I related to Mei and her mom, especially since I finally stood up to my mom not too long before watching this movie and admitting how terrified I was of her from middle school and onwards because of feeling like I had to strive for perfection (especially since none of my siblings seemed to live up to her expectations whereas I did).
Me too.
Exactly: I missed the tamagatchi thing, and obviously was never into boy bands... nor did i have that kind of Chinese Aunt style "mob" show up.... BUT I could tell these were clearly parts of the fimlakers childhood and could appreciate how personal they were. Haha the sketching under the bed thing I can relate to a bit too much.... though the sketches were far less cute >_
I love how Priya is the one who understands right away what’s going on with Mei, since she’s been through it. She’s the only one of the girls drawn with curves.
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Me too.
@@nathancruz9172 Honestly I love how she reacts when she sees how big Ming is. She is so Big she broke monotone
I think there's a beautiful irony that by letting Mei Mei go her own way, and keep the panda, she's able to connect and embrace her past and ancestry in a way the rest of the immigrant family felt like they had to lose to assimilate.
Totally. It's like me and my Dad. We're both Mexican-American, but I'm the only one who learned to speak Spanish. Not only in Spanish class, but also with our relatives in Mexico.
Was raised in a “Jewish” family where “being Jewish” was pretty much just celebrating Hanukkah instead of Christmas.
I’ve now studied actual Hebrew and the Bible for years now, and I present myself outwardly as far more Jewish than either of my parents (kippah on my head and the strings on my pants)….
The single greatest achievement of this movie is making me, a whole adult man, understand the boyband craze among teenage girls for the first time in my life. No cap, I might be a 4 Townie now! I've been converted!
Ay man, Jin (Mei's dad) and Tyler are there with you.
more me it was Peralta from brooklyn 99
I'm curious to know which one is your favorite. Personally I'm a Robaire Stan. I'm a grown woman, never really went to a boyband craze phase... Except for the Spice Girls, and yet here I am 😅
@Frogger Maybe so. Or maybe a shift in perspective is sometimes necessary to understand something that otherwise makes no sense.
@Frogger 😂😂How old are you kid
Encanto and Turning Red is seriously showing some much-needed shade on family-based trauma problems. They're not afraid to show them as wrong as they are.
@Frogger Oh, I mean as in the filmmakers aren't afraid to show what's wrong with Trauma caused by family and ways to fix it.
@Frogger Trauma tends to be considered taboo, and some people would be scared to write/create things about it because they think it's too heavy and people wouldn't want to see it. This person was just trying to say that it's a good thing the film makers aren't shying away from sensitive topics like this.
@Frogger The word "afraid" was used as an expression tho?? Not to mention wdym "I win"?? This wasnt an argument. The person genuinely tried to explain their point of view to you after YOU asked the question which you didnt even want an answer to, clearly. After another person explained the SAME thing it's like you read none of it. This is just you being a troll
@@nickthepick8043 I appreciate how they didn't try to make it all the same kind of trauma but on how each culture has different trauma and how each culture acts differently due to trauma
@@moneylover318 I concur! It adds more depth.
Another addition to the Natalie crying archives
"we're gonna need more boxes down here!!"
İ read it in Grievous's voice :D
I wish there was a playlist, like an actual playlist of all the movies and shows that made her cry....as morbid and weird as that sounds >.> so I could cry with her
@@dogomania694 same
The ArCRYves
The scene with her mom crying always gets me. Never been a perfection pursuer, I always knew my sisters are better than me anyway, but feeling like you'll never be good enough... too close to home.
My daughter has major learning difficulties and cerebral palsy and is getting to the age where some of the issues in this film are going to affect her. She is a huge fan of Disney and Pixar and I’m so happy this film got made. I feel like it’s going to be a favourite for her as she gets into her teens 😀
You reminded me of my friends younger sister who is 38 but has Down Syndrome so she has the mentality of a 4 or 5 year old. We were discussing some of the difficulties she had with puberty and things like that.
That’s awesome 👏🏻
I'm surprised to read the comments saying there was criticism of this movie being unrealistic. I'm neither a girl _nor_ a child of immigrants, but I still could identify perfectly and it all seemed perfectly plausible.
The the characters acting weird was not why people thought the movie was partially in bad taste.
It's unrealistic because you don't notice the impact of 9/11 on the lives on Canadian teen girls in 2002
People who hated this film are mostly conservatives who wanted a story where the Family is always right. They don't want a story that tells how weird, hard and confusing being a teenager can be.
@@basicsimp8798 Exactly. Everyone mad about it was a deeply repressed conservative type with absolutely frigid takes.
@@ethanlivemere1162 lol i understand that reference. God what a shit take that was, and his reaction to the criticism was so incredibly cringey
My absolute favorite moment in this movie is where Mei in her panda form sees Devon again, stamps her foot and yells "Awooga!"
Also, Sandra Oh absolutely killed it as Mei's mom.
I hope Tex Avery saw that full of pride from animation heaven
Me too.
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One of my favorite parts about this film was Meilin's father Jin being the voice of reason that she needed so she could finally become her own person.
James Hong (the voice of Mr. Gao) recently got his star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. He helped define my childhood with characters like Daolon Wong and Mr. Ping.
It's hard for me to pick a favorite song, but Taeyoung is my favorite 4*Town member.
Billie Eilish and her brother Finneas O'Connell worked on the 4*Town songs, but Finneas also got to voice the oldest member Jesse in the film. According to the member profiles on the website, Jesse is a father of two.
James Hong has been in Hollywood a long time. First movie I saw him in was "Big Trouble in Little China".
@@qawamity Just about to say the same thing! James Hong is an ICON, nothing less!
The dad was the best. Just kind of wish he'd stepped in earlier.
Big ups for James Hong. Blade Runner, Mulan, Avatar TLA, Kung Fu Panda, Big Trouble in Little China, Dexters Lab, Jackie Chan Adventures and like 500 more. Absolute king.
He was 💯 the best dad!.
As someone with three sisters, and who grew up in this same era in Ontario, I related to this movie in a lot of ways, despite not being Asian or a girl myself. I watched this with my nieces and we all loved it.
I also have 3 sisters I grew up with but they were all 5+ years older than me so I didn't see much of this. I do recall one rebelling and moving out when she was 16 (we had a house right around the corner she moved to).
I loved watching this with my daughters. I as a Dad appreciated that the Dad wasn't a wet blanket like I've seen in other shows/movies. Also loved how the metaphor for puberty was handled well without being too much one way or the other. Watching this did make me think about Teen Wolf a lot which made me reevaluate that Teen Wolf was pretty much my Turning Red lol Plus I could relate to this movie due to it being set in 2002 since that was my senior year of High School! lol
I was 15 in 02, myself. Loved my tamagochi.
Fellow class of 02 here!! I totally see what you mean about Teen Wolf too 🤣
It was my senior year too!!! This movie is so relatable
Even though I'm a dude. This movie made me realise that everyone passes through this period of rebellion and trying to have an own voice. I love this film. The songs were recorded by Billie Eilish and her brother.
“No one is gonna notice”
The next scene:
“You forgot your pads!”
Even if I acknowledge the generational trauma, that is still an egregious violation!
it's so grate to see the god of war acknowledging this things
I'm a man and still could feel the cringe through the internet.
The story of the film is largely inspired by the relationship that the director of the film had with her own mother and a curious fact is that the director herself said that her mother also hid behind the trees to spy on her hahaha
I bet she dragged her mother to see it and yelled "See! That's how bad you were!"
I think "Brave" was also inspired by the director's mother-daughter relationship.
It was.
Excuse me but, can we talk about how freaking gorgeous Natalie's hair is?
Came here to say this!!
right?
This video is a good example of why I watch everything Natalie films. Laughter outbursts turning into crying within seconds and back again! And the outburst about the power point presentation was awesome! I watched the part where it comes up, and her eyes scan it for 2 beats, and she just EXPLODES with ..... whatever that explodiness look was on her face.
10:54 Lil fun fact, Domee Shi, the director of this movie, had an exact experience like this with her mom when she moved to a new school. Pretty funny how some people say Ming's level of protectiveness isn't realistic when this happened to a real person! 😆
The film's not so much about puberty, her mother is wholly prepared for it and to have that talk, and she was already boy crazy to begin with. It's a great joke but isnt what's driving the plot. What the movie really is about is a form of change that happens to a lot of folks growing up, particularly of 1st and 2nd gen ethnic households. David Chang talked about it in his upbringing as 'Korean at home, American at school' and what Mei was starting to experience is when those two worlds start to get in the way of each other. The ending sees an integration of the two worlds, even so far as the mom inviting her friends over for dinner, with food arguably the easiest way to share culture. See also Spanglish, for another movie about it. That line at the end, "Is what you want for yourself to become someone very different than me?" that by the way, is a rhetorical question, really hits you in the feels.
the mom in this movie is the animated version of my mom. every scene is so accurate like that sanitary pad scene? well, yeah that happened to me in real life and it was during our sports event! i literally wanna bury myself in the ground lmao
I wish I could have seen the test audience of 13 year-old girls watching the pad scene and their reactions. Some would be screaming in horror, others would cover their faces, many would look away. I'm pretty sure that is the penultimate nightmare for a 13 year-old girl.
Even though I am not, nor have ever been, a 13yo girl, I also found the movie very relatable. They made the characters unique and spent time developing their relationships. It was a wonderful movie!
yessss i loved the story and the aesthetic. mei’s drawing sequence was the most relatable part haha but thankfully minus the getting caught
YES
I also really liked the Dad in this film. Goal worthy example for me if i ever decide to be a father.
Are we not gonna talk about Natalie’s hair omg looks amazing.
Seriously!! OMG, most curly! Such wow!!!
there is a fan theory running around that Abby could potentially be Boo from monsters inc. she's wearing similar colors, she has the same flowers that were on her closet door but now on her overalls. monsters inc took place in the mid 1990s when she would have been a toddler. Lastly, she's obsessed when Meilin turns into the panda because she feels a comfort to big furry monsters like sully.
Omg. I’ve never heard that one. I love it!
That’s actually confirmed by Disney!! Abby IS Boo! 🥰🥰🥹
@@julieornelas3787 no it wasn’t. I looked it up and while it’s a fun theory it had been disproven by the creators
Ya know? I'm glad this movie exists for all the girls out there that need it. Its really beautiful how much you identified with her too!
I'm so glad you got to "put a face" to the phrase "representation matters" so you know what the very strong emotions that drive what sometimes may seem like (just) a narrative driven by the media. For me as a woman, even though I of course knew it to be true, never realized how much it made a difference until I was seeing Wonder Woman walk through No man's land to save innocent people in the movies and found myself fucking sobbing, because of how magnificent she was, because I realized how much I had wanted it but had never gotten it until that point, and how much better it felt than with male superheroes, crying of envy and the unfairness for little me never had what my male friends did. I cried out of joy for girls now will not know.
Girl! Your hair looks amazing. I mean "hair care commercial" amazing.
This is one of the best coming of age movies I've seen in a long time. It felt nostalgic before we could get 15 minutes in...so the feels were there.
The animation in this movie is everything.
Almost everyone I watched react to this said they also had second hand embarrassment.
The 4Town / Chinese song medley was the best part for me, and blends in perfectly one of the major theme of the movie about living 2 cultures
I like the road Disney is going down at the moment, specially with „Encanto“ and „Turning Red“. Family has such a huge impact on us and where they can give us strength, they also can drag us down.
Disney kinda disrespects Pixar sometimes especially with turning red having released straight to Disney plus instead of giving it a theatrical release as they did with Enchanto.
The scene with the young version of Ming is so heart breaking to me as a member of a family with tons of generational trauma. It really hurts to think about my mom struggling as a little girl and compare it to my own childhood.
If you're wondering why the mom is so intolerable in the beginning, it's because they're highlighting the problem with 1st generation Asian-American parents in that culture. I know because I myself have parents like that. It's absolutely toxic how my Asian parents raised me. I know it'll sound shocking to those who can't relate, but I absolutely HATE my parents because of how they raised me. The mom character was exactly how my parents were when I was growing up. I have since, disowned myself and have moved on and changed my last name to dissociate from my culture. They were selfish, socially unintelligent, and was never understanding of their own children. Watching the mother in this movie pained me to my core, because of how accurate it depicted the toxicity.
Good on you, you deserve to be around objectively better people. I may not have that experience (thankfully), but it's leauges healthier for Mei to not associate with her mother or the rest the canadian branch of the family at all. It's all toxicity and anxiety there. She should eventually get an apartment with her friends, live in the city, and make a whole bunch of new friends.
My mom isn’t Asian but is a first generation immigrant and I related a lot to the relationship between Mei and her mom
I related a lot to this movie too; my mom is immigrant Korean, I'm first gen US American, and holy crap there was so much this got right. I don't know your particular situation and of course some parent-child relationships are untenable, and the healthiest thing to do is separate. For me, I wanted to work things out with my mom, which I've been doing very consciously through therapy for the last 10 years or so. We've still got a long way to go, but we have also healed so much between us. It makes me sad that you disowned your culture as well. Part of my healing with my mom was also about healing the ancestral toxicity and the rifts that formed there (particularly from years of war, colonization, and oppression). Understanding my culture has helped me better understand not just my mom, but myself. I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I hope that your journey does bring you to healing the hate and turmoil inside of you-- not necessarily to reconcile with your parents, but at least to reconcile with yourself, and the histories you carry. 🤍
I understood Min a lot more because I have a relatively good relationship with my mom. She’s a Chinese immigrant and was raised by really shitty parents (toxic and borderline abusive, not to mention absolutely favoring her brother). But unlike them, she can recognize that her kids are becoming their own people even if they will always be part of the family. Like a lot of the toxicity comes from the need to protect her kids form a strange land that will never keep them safe. And many Asian parents act on the emotions of an injured child who never healed. I think that’s the point of Min’s character. She was raised by a toxic parent, is slowly learning to be not that level of toxic to her own kid, and trying to ignore her own trauma.
@@Charolette21 if that’s what u got form this movie, you didn’t watch it correctly. Mei’s mom is reconciling with her own trauma and in doing so, becoming a better mom. She’s overbearing and intrusive but what do u expect from someone raised by immigrant parents? Cutting urself off from ur family when ur an Asian Canadian isn’t like when White people do it. Like OP said, a disconnect from family is also a disconnect from ur culture, an integral part of ur identity. Mei’s mom is learning and changing along with her daughter. She’s not abusive, despite what people would claim. Her only fault is being overbearing and unwilling to see that her little girl is growing up. Cutting off her family is not the right move.
This movie is the exact representation of the relationship I had with my mother, and I'm so thankful Pixar is shining a light on this, I wish I had a movie like this growing up. Also, you make me ugly cry with your reactions because you have so much empathy i love it. Keep up the good work mama
PS: Your curls look AMAZING gurl
29:26 oh god that voice break on "my mom" kills me every time. A straight uppercut to my emotional Jaw.
This movie makes me very thankful that I had an awesome family that prepared me for puberty years before it happened, enough that I was actually excited when I got my first period XD
I have a teenage daughter so this was a fun/cringy film to watch. Loved it though :)
Best Pixar film since Inside Out.
The dorkiness of the girls were spot on! In most depictions of teen girls, it's the Pretty Little Liars /CW teenagers. But no, we just were like this. We were both masculine and feminine.
I am a male and I watched this with my nieces and we loved it.
NIECE: Women are awesome.
ME: Yes, absolutely.
Understanding and supportive dads and uncles are awesome too.
Who the fck says "women are awesome" out loud.
@@lefcso congratulations for making fun of children. You must be fun at parties.
@@lefcso A kid who just watched a film where specifically women basically have a superpower?
@@lefcso kids who don't watch movies without understanding them and not being lame without not knowing the meaning behind it
Someone at Disney/Marvel has really been getting on the theme of generational trauma with all these recent projects, but I love it!
This is a complete side note but your curls look extra beautiful, love it!
On an unrelated note, this is the first time I’ve seen Nat with her hair this long. Pretty :)
Her dad is literally the best. So wonderful and supportive. :D
This movie became an ABSOLUTE. FAVORITE. I could watch it back to back and it still makes me laugh and cry.
Turning Red is so well thought through, I like it a lot. Thank you for a great reaction!
I’ve seen this movie so many times at this point and each time I find something new out, what I found so beautiful this time around is that the mom put her panda in the tamagotchi and now she gets to take care of her, herself and really develop that relationship with herself even though she’s not outright with it. I find that happens a lot when my friends would leave the parents house they would start to find themselves all over again especially women. Now as a mom myself I want to give my all to my baby but I have to remember to keep myself intact for my sake and my family’s sake. This is such a great movie honestly. So many hidden meanings ❤
I see Nat, I see Turning Red, I click. It's just that simple!
This isn’t super relevant but omg your hair is fantastic!
Perfectly relevant. Supportive friends are a big part of the movie.
Idk, even in middle school i only had 2 or 3 real friends that actually stayed with me. Like i had people that I talked to but they weren't really *there* for me if you catch my drift. I was always really bubbly and happy and that was just my personality back then, but when I noticed that those people I knew stopped talking to me, I guess I just shut down. I thought that they didn't like who I was and it felt like they were always making fun of me. That was when I really started to worry about what people thought of me. And now I'm out of highschool and I'm still considered "the quiet weird girl" so I guess not everyone will be satisfied. I can be bubbly and talkative around close friends/ people I trust, but that's really it now. I struggled with fitting in and now I have insane social anxiety and regular anxiety. It's something I need to work through so I can learn to be myself. That's why I loved this movie so much and the message I got from it. Thank you so much for reacting and sharing your thoughts! I always enjoy your reacting videos
It’s very interesting what you were saying in the after-film discussion about how easy it is to repress your own personality at this time. That was the part of this film that really spoke to me. I am neither Asian, female, or Canadian, but still found so much to relate too in this one. The late pre-teens/early teens are that point in life where you really discover your own personality and develop into who you’re going to be the rest of your life, and disruptions during this time can have drastic affects on a person later in life.
For me, it was due to family medical drama at that time combined with my father and older sister being mostly absent due to work and school. I was forced into a “man of the house” role for most of a year between the ages of 12 and 13 as my mom became extremely ill at that time and was barely capable of every day life. I had to cook, clean, help my mom with whatever was needed around the house in order to keep the family functioning along with high expectations in school and other aspects of my life. I never really got to discover my own likes and dislikes, or develop much of my own personality as my own needs took back seat to the rest of the family’s, and as a result I basically became a chameleon. I based my personality and preferences on whoever I happened to be around at any given moment, and this continued for decades to the point that I’ve lost good friends because I could not be real with them and they could sense that I was trying to be like them. It’s taken me decades to finally be my own self and understand my own place in this world. I can relate so well to Mei’s struggle for her own identity within the confines of a loving but overbearing family and under the weight of super high expectations (both of yourself and others). It doesn’t matter that I am physically and mentally nothing at all like her, but what she goes through inside is just as real and even more poignant because of our differences, and that’s the beauty of this film, it can speak to anybody no matter who they are or where they came from.
I watched this and thought it was fun but seeing it through Nat’s eyes and how much she related to the story reinforces how much representation and relatable stories matter. Made me appreciate it much more
Is this Natalie‘s first time witnessing an almost accurate representation of an Asian mother? Lmao
Yeah, seemed a little understated to me, lol
@@evanflynn4680 yeah she is very outwardly affectionate for an Asian mom 😂
She should watch The Joy Luck Club.
@@ChibiHoshiDragon or read it since it made me cry each time
@@crystalwang1532 Yes, but reading is harder to react to and I haven't seen a react to that movie in a while (The older ones are no longer on youtube). So not only is it a good movie to watch, it could be added to her queue and we can all enjoy crying with her
As a guy, I just realized that Tyler probably has a crush on the girls. Just by the way he acts mean towards them and his body language throughout, as a 13 year old boy, it's very on point lol
Do you think it was all of them or he was just crushing on one in particular?
I was honestly expecting him to confess to mei when he was calling her at the party and was surprised when he didn’t lol though I’m kinda glad it didn’t go that direction
@@oncerand_directioner He was probably ready to take any of them if they had expressed interest in him lol. He's just "playing" the field.
On a rewatch I thought Tyler was jealous of the girls’ friendship. At the beginning of the movie he was playing basketball by himself. He was at the daisy mart by himself. And under the bleachers he said that if mei mei showed up then other kids would show up to his party. He showed up at the concert alone. The kid was lonely and I’m so glad the girls embraced him into their group.
Just watched this movie on a whim and when I was done I remembered that you had a reaction to it so I had to come and watch you watch it. As someone born a guy in the early 90s I also vibed a lot with the setting. But I realize that if this had come out 5-10 years ago I wouldn't have understood any of it. But my early 20s is when I started really embracing myself for who I was, because up until then I struggled with who I naturally was and who my parents wanted me to be. Not an asian household, but a very conservative/religious one. And part of that process was opening up and listening to the experience of people from other walks of life, so I understand that I can take the asian family aspect pretty seriously as a representation and I appreciate the perspectives I get from it. If asian people say that this is accurate for them then who am I to say it's unrealistic?
But I also remember the girls in my class obsessing over boy bands. And my sister has 4 daughters, the oldest currently 16, so I've seen how they are with their friends and it seems pretty accurate to me lol.
Sense you watch something that’s more Asian type, I Request you to watch “Everything, Everywhere, All at Once” It’s such a Masterful movie and it’s best to go in blind like super blind
I agree, either that or The Joy Luck Club. No one has a reaction/review to that movie yet.
You gotta love the fact that this movie is just Teen Wolf but it makes sense why she becomes popular!
This was one of the best reactions I've seen for this film.
Pixar really knows how to go for the heart.
Please watch the movie called "Everything Everywhere All at Once". Definitely one of the top movies this year.
Top movie of the decade ^
Not just this year! It's one of the best I've ever seen!
Oh Nat is going to need more than 1 box of tissues for that one lol
Saw this a few months ago, I really dug it, being a Canadian myself I dug it was set in Canada.
This movie feels so genuine in so many ways. The way the kids act, the lack of stereotypical cliques in the school, the fact that the relationship with her parents is complex and isn’t just “parents suck”, it’s all so good!
Saw this movie when it came out and saw the really weird backlash from reviewers that said it "wasn't relatable." But watching you react was hilarious
So while I can't relate to a ton in the movie (since my parents were overall super understanding and didn't set unbelievable expectations for me in middle school and I'm a guy for some things), I can relate to some, the music thing for sure (I started listening to rap when I was about 13 or so, which my dad totally didn't get and still doesn't), the getting a crush thing of course, and some other things as well....but it's just an overall great movie and I've had plenty of moments where I was like Mei in this lol. (I.e. the screaming into the pillow and wishing I was dead, becoming an "adult")
And when Mei's father talks about "making room for the bad stuff" and living with it all, reminds me so much of depression and mental illness and learning to live with that as well. And just accepting every part of you, no matter what it is. Just some take aways and what I got out of the movie :)
I saw this movie with my 11 year old sister and it was so hilarious when something occured and I'd be like "yeah thats you" 😅
Seeing Disney touch generational trauma and actually talk about ways to address it fr had me crying for 20 minutes after the movie. It’s sweet and beautifully animated.
Great call! And your hair is amazingggg
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I almost expected you to turn into a giant furball in that exact moment. :) Who's your spirit animal Nat?
I imagine it's a rather fuzzy doggo.
Everything you said was absolutely perfect regarding the themes and emotions.
So with that being said, holy COW was this movie funny AF. That “AWOOGA” took me OUT. This was hysterical to watch and my goodness I adored how over the top it was.
When I first watched this I really didn't expect to like it as much as I did or hit me in the feels so hard. Also, 4 town have some bangers.
This is like my one of my favorite Disney/Pixar films. So much joy, heart and everything. I don’t understand people who didn’t understand themes of friendship, growing up, living up to the expectations of those around you, navigating school and home life, etc. Oh, I’m not a 13 y/o Chinese-Canadian girl so clearly I can’t identify with *anything* this movie has to offer? Ridiculous. Thanks for this reaction!
Oh yay! Watching this immediately. Loved the movie and have been loving seeing people reaction to it
Great reaction!! I loved this movie too so relatable and real especially the mother/daughter dynamic
Wow I can't even focus on what you're saying cause your hair is SO GOURGEOUS 🤩
I was 12 or 13 around 2002. I didn't grow up in Canada but this definitely hit me in the feels and was extremely relatable. This movie has definitely upgraded to one of my favorite Disney and Pixar films. I will more likely be adding Mei Mei's red panda face to my Disney themed tattoo. It's a wonderful movie
You should watch A Goofy Movie. It fits in well with Turning Red and Encanto.
I recently rewatched that movie and cried so hard. When I was a teenager I clashed SO hard with my mom, and now that I'm a parent myself, all those sweet feelings toward my kid are almost overwhelming. So I was crying from both sides of it (same with Turning Red lol)
My favorite part is were Max and Goofy are dancing together in the Powerline Concert.
@@johnsantos507 It's the best part of the movie!
@@JamesLandon I know!
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7:23 i always feel so terrible for people when they say this because I never experienced this with my mom. like we weren't crazy close or anything, she just treated us like people. she let us come to her for weird and awkward conversations because she trusted us. she knew we weren't actively trying to hurt ourselves and if it happened she'd comfort us after our mistakes. why can't all parents be like that? I'm sorry so many of you lost that part of your relationship, even if it was exclusively during puberty.
I was surprised how this movie seemed to cause such a stir, like a minor mention of periods seem to trigger some man babies who I have to assume has never spoken to a woman in their life.
Like didn’t people even claim this movie was grooming kids?
no no no you don't understand. A coming of age story exploring puberty is only okay when the protagonist is a boy
LOL right? I saw no talk of Mei Mei's mum accusing a 17 year old boy of taking advantage of a 13 year old girl and doing drugs....but mention a natural thing like a period and ooooohh nooo
@@babarjaputak2314 Lol right? I spend 10,000 hours of my life watching that film "Boyhood" that came out in like 2013 or 14 where the young boy grew up kinda in real time and everyone was like ugh it's so real and relatable give them oscars and like i can appreciate some people liked the movie more than i did because i found it boring as heck like cool filming it over 12 years was a fun idea and I appreciate guys have genuine struggles growing up especially with toxic masculinity but if i have to see another "discovering boobs in a magazine" "lying about being a virgin with your friends" "not knowing what to do when you leave school" "family issues" "how do I interact with a female they are aliens" "dad and gramps teaching him how to be a man" which apparently involves shooting a gun in america movie or show like damn give the girls one 🤣🤣🤣
Some of the man babies were female. And presumably moms. Which is kinda worse lol
My daughters absolutely loved it! Although my son did like it a bit, too, his older and younger sister were the ones who just completely fell in love with the movie. They are still a few years away from those ages, even my oldest is a little over a year away from her teens right now, but I hope that they understood and could empathize with how it will feel to be in those years and how it could affect them. Ultimately, no matter what, I will be as supportive of them as I can as long as they aren't making decisions that hurt or adversely affect them or the people that they love.
I love how there are multiple times it sounds like Nat sounds like she's talking to her mom
I was 13 in 2002, so I can relate to this movie. But even if I weren't, I would still relate to this movie because I had high standards put onto me, and I actually failed at some point. I am successful now, but it took a lot of growing pains. And even though I'm a guy, I was also a closet boyband music lover haha. To those people who are saying that this movie is racist or unrealistic or unrelatable, then you probably are the person pushing your agenda on others.
Omg I remember when this movie came out, a lot of old men gave this movie a bad review because it was unrelatable. But it was just them. Because so many other people found it relatable, like me and you and others. I cried so much. So great XD
Oh and the experience with the mom was so relatable. I'm so glad my mom didn't know english or knew how to get around much when I was that age because she SOOOOOO would've been like Ming, overstepping boundaries and spying on me hahahaha. And I never did anything bad to be honest. Oh but she still would embarrass me in public like that though, pointing my zits out to people and etc OMG. But I'm glad I learned early on to be very independent from my parents. Tbh they have themselves to blame for that. They raised me to be independent but didn't think i'd also use that independence to get away from them hahahah. Ah well c'est la vie lol
This movie made me cry my eyes out lol, even being a guy I related to the fact that her parents don't accept her because she's different. That ending with her mum being a child too really hit home for me. Good parents are just kids trying to be better than themselves for your benefit and sometimes as a child you forget that. Great message for all kids, not just girls 🐼❤
This movie is really good.... being an Asian I can relate to it pretty much ❤❤
NAT! YOUR HAIR!!!!! I'm so obsessed! The length and the curls, OMG!!!
Loved this movie... Also as a Rochesterian.. Love the Wegman's shout out
Same, I always appreciate the Wegman's shout outs xD This is the second one I caught from her..
Also, her reaction was my reaction to this movie.. I loved it so much. I had the same "Too soon? 13 is not too soon!"
I'm in Western PA and the closest Weg's is 2 hours away, but whenever I'm in the Erie/Chautauqua/North Central PA area I never fail to go there for a chicken and some of the prepared meals. Also love their GF/DF selections for my wife who has Coeliac.
Wegman's needs to be everywhere. :)
@@garmisra7841 I know they were planning on building a facility down south so they could spread further south.. that was years ago when I worked at their HQ...
Binging with Babish has a bunch of episodes talking about Wegmans as well. I do hope they build one closer to you..
@@Vynjira-chan Awww yeah! thanks for the heads-up.
At this point due to my wife's dietary considerations it's almost as if we're planning vacations and travel around the proximity of a Whole Foods or a Wegmans, though I MUCH prefer the latter, haha.
Nothing more "fun and assuring" then when you're dealing with issues and you hear that voice cut through "what's wrong with them" .. on the note of parenting "I can drag you kicking and screaming down the path I think it's right for you but that wouldn't be your path. so you have to follow your own and it won't be easy and you'll make painful mistakes and more terrifying than anything if I did my job right I'll never get to where you're going, but I have faith in you that I gave you the tools to make your own way and your gonna be fantastic and I'll be here to help as long as I can." Or something like that it doesn't matter emotions are irrelevant.
I love your reactions, but for now I need to ask you how do you keep having such healthy hair and how do you make it grow so fast?
YOUR HAIR LOOKS AWESOME!
I wish I could have worked on this film and Lightyear. I saw the earlier storyboard and concept drawings when I worked at Pixar as an intern in Summer 2019. Pixar and San Francisco Bay Area was the most beautiful and amazing place I have been to. I am working at a game company now though.
If you really want the waterworks going, I recommend another Pixar animated movie called Coco. Looking forward to seeing your reaction on that one!
12:13 "It's happened already?" Made me exclaim out loud watching the movie "YOU GUYS KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN AND DIDN'T TELL HER?!" and this movie got a lot of women telling their stories about how during puberty that they weren't informed about periods until it already happened and how much they freaked out and it's making me realize how clever that scene is.
This is such a sweet movie! I'm ironically crying more because of period hormones whilst watching this video so that's fun 😂😂. I remember as this film came out and people were saying it was too niche or that teenage girls didn't act like that and I was like yeah not around you for clear reason 🤣. There was a thread on twitter where everyone was talking about the cringey fanfics they wrote as a teenager and all sorts it was hilarious. Personally Orlando Bloom was the love of my life when I was 11 you're damn right I did cringey drawings and hid them around my room but that was mainly because he was my first crush ever it was all new and scary 🤣. But I'm almost 30 now and being into movies and shows and being a fan of particularly people etc is still a massive part of who i am and i love it I'm just more emotionally mature about it....most of the time 🤫😂. As for periods themselves i remember a bunch of "it's inappropriate" sh*t like you'd they'd animated MeiMei inserting a tampon or something the way people were wailing on. There's guys out there our age who don't have a clue and I'm happy to be like i feel like death for at LEAST 2 days out of every month you can stand to hear about me having cramps! 🤣. My mum died when I was 6 I grew up with a single dad and no siblings so my first experience of periods was hearing about it through school when i was like 10 and lots of the other girls already knew what it was about. But my dad was completely awesome (and still is) and i also had my grandma and my friends and their mums(and sometimes dads) were awesome too so I was never lacking in help. Sometimes you just gotta be a crazy cringey b*tch that can't please everyone and it's fine.
I didn't cry when I watched this, but you got me out here sobbing 🤧
I had the same reaction as you. Cried/laughed through the hole thing haha. Great movie!!
As a guy I'm so glad there's a amazing opportunity in this movie to be relatable to so many lessons here. There's movies like this but this one does it justice to get the Era in a youths life from a girl's perspective of something that doesn't get much discussion.
Side Note: I feel sometimes that people who are natively born and raised in the country don't really understand where Immigrant parents come from in how they react to their native born children growing up in this society. The amount of pain and suffering they went through, the Alienation and extreme isolation they feel in a society so foreign to them makes them THAT much "extra" as Natalie put it. Being foreign and having been raised in a different society, They are in a position where they can see the flaws and faults of the society their kids are growing up in and thus they feel extra protective of them. Not saying that that's a good thing, just wanting people to kind of understand where they are coming from and not be quick to judge or dismiss them as being "old fashion" or somehow unable to let go.
Just a thought.
Completely agree! 🙌
yup, growing up in an asian country, from an asian family,
I was like, thats literally every mom ever from an asian perspective
Because of that I actually kept most things from my parents (mom and dad because telling dad equals to telling mom) so that she wouldnt make a big deal out of it, I handle everything by myself and learnt most things by myself, same like Mei Mei not wanting to tell the parents regarding her transformation, and it happens to most of us growing up in this society and we view it as a norm
This brought me to tears the first time and watching this reaction. My mother was REALLY looking forward to watching this. It was on the top of the list of movies she wanted to watch wth me. She passed away in Feb so we never had the chance. I'm a guy but I had a rough time of it in my youth and she was always there for me. My dad passed when I was young so she had to try her best to be both and I can only imagine how tough it was. But little things, like just watching this movie together, were what she wanted most. Thank you for watching this and sharing. 🍻🐾🐾
30:40 quite literal growing that caused pain (to the cities foundation)
I was born in 2004 but I can definitely relate to these things I did get embarrassed in school before and hated myself for it, I did draw weird doodles of my crushes, and me and my best friends were crushing on boy bands 😂😂😂❤ this movie was by far amazing
I love that a male reviewer was like "This never happens" and every single woman was like " YOU HAVE NO IDEA you don't know our lives!" Maybe if men and boys learned earlier on that this is 100% normal the world would be a less terrible place.
Yeah statements like that are pretty cringe and tone deaf.
That said, I love the fact that the person who helped Mei through this the most (after her friends) is the father. People don't really understand or value how much Fathers influence their Daughters' lives and how impactful a healthy father figure can be in a young woman's life.
It was one male reviewer calm down lmao
Masculinity in American society has hyper-focused so much that the scope of what is "allowed" for boys and men has tightened greatly. And when I say tightened, I mean like a damned noose. We're encouraged to curtail the use of empathy and allow our ability to express any emotion outside of anger to atrophy. It used to be acceptable for a man to be moved to tears by beauty. Hell, in The Fellowship of the Ring there's a scene where Sam rushes to Frodo's bedside and grasps his hand. There was a time when that was within the realm of acceptable behavior between two straight men; these days it's seen as homosexual, emasculated, and/or feminine behavior. The "toxic" brand of masculinity has gotten far too much acceptance in our culture, and it is hurting men in particular and society as a whole.
All that said, I didn't have a lot of issues identifying with Mei. While there are definitely aspects of female puberty that I, as a cishet white male, have not experienced, I'm reasonably decent with the concepts of analogy and empathy. Things like not wanting to talk to your parents because they will embarrass you, or the idea of discussing certain topics with them is uncomfortable? Yeah, those are pretty common even in teenage boys. That one day you look at a girl, maybe one you've known for years, and suddenly, for reasons you don't understand, the shape of her eyes, flow of her hair, and the way she walks combine into some kind of melodic siren's song and it is only with a Herculean effort (or walking into a door) that you can take your eyes off her? Yeah, that's a thing. And we'd be completely embarrassed if someone said anything to her about it. Or pointed out that we were staring. Or that we just found out how hard that door is.
I'll also say that a part of the push back this movie got was not just about toxic masculinity, but about the stigmatization of certain aspects of femininity. A woman/girl feeling or expressing sexual desire is often frowned upon. A 13 year old girl showing an attraction to boys? As normal and expected as something like that is, it is frequently not considered socially acceptable. Just go look at the video and lyrics for Van Halen's "Hot for Teacher". Teen boys finding a woman sexually attractive is acceptable. It's not about love or romance, it's about raw sexual attraction. Gender invert it, though, and it becomes scandalous, at the least.
Anyway, I suppose I've rambled plenty, and about things that you ladies largely already know. Just keep in mind that there are plenty of men out there that get it... Or, at the least we get it enough to understand you aren't secretly some kind of alien tentacle monster.
@@Exe3D I saw a lengthy rant from a woman about how she was a conservative christian who disapproved of the movie because it "encouraged young girls to disobey their parents" 😅🤦♂️
I think this movie is way under appreciated. It's ridiculously good. The 10 minutes or so in the bamboo forest after they left the SkyDome was absolutely bloody fantastic! A whip - smart script, endlessly quotable lines, laugh out loud funny, awe inspiring and, at times, utterly heartbreaking. A beautiful Chinese aesthetic running through the movie too. Absolutely beautiful. One of Pixar's best.