I used to watch this channel obsessively before my divorce. To all the hopeless, my wife came back after the divorce, but I had fallen in love with a much younger and beautiful woman who eventually broke my heart. If you stay vigilant and work on yourself, there is much hope🙏 trust God
What approach did you take to work on yourself? I am in the exact situation and just coming off the heartbreak of falling in love with a beautiful and younger woman after my divorce and have realized I’ve made the same mistakes again and that it’s a ME issue in a lot of ways… appreciate any advice and guidance!
@@wbwanek1I returned to church and dedicated my life to self growth, attachment work, healing different areas. Became a great dad and friend. Time heals all wounds. Praying for you bro.
@@TimMillernapavalleyfilmworksseriously appreciate it! I’ve found a great church recently and am about to take that first step into counseling/therapy for self help, family boundaries, etc… keeping open to what God has in store next!
Not trying to be a downer, but I think there also needs some balance in the videos and in the comment section - sometimes they don't come back, but that does not detract from the inherent value Jesus has put in you! You are still a jewel, with hopes and a future! I know it's verrrry hard to believe this. I need to encourage myself as well. I know this is easier said than done, but living in constant waiting for another person, might not be God's plan for your life. If they come back, great!!! That is the hope. But that tension of putting your life on hold for them and actively waiting for them. God still has a purpose for you! You cannot put your life on hold for them.
I pray that my situation doesn't go as far as divorce. My wife wanted it, had already filed the application to the lawyers and I refused to sign and then my mom and I fasted and prayed about it and she hasn't mentioned anything about divorce. My wife demanded that we separate tho. The separation feels almost as bad as divorcing, but I'm hanging in there.
@@wolfsden my wife was the one who demanded the separation. Sorry for not communicating that clearly. Will have to edit my comment. I'm just praying that in the near future my wife will agree to the workshop.
@@S0RELOSER thing is I gave her valid and numerous reasons as to why I would not sign it. And by God's grace my refusing to sign didn't further push her away. Perhaps God's spirit touched her and soften her up.
@@mace2gorc872 most gurus say that in this phase, to avoid logic with a soon to be ex wife because they have so much emotional stuff going that logic only pushes them away. How long did it take her to draw up the paperwork from when she first told you? What were your reasons, if i may ask?
I said no too. Then I left some space for God's love and His holy Spirit to work. We got back together and are joyful working out our major marriage problems. Looks like the vowes we took over 25 years ago continue to hold their integrity. "For better or worse" - this is the worse part, do you agree we can make it better?
I divorced my ex 20 years ago and spoke two times with her only after. Both times it was her who called. I never looked back, regreted or wanted to reconcile. That would be the stupidest thing to do.
Why do we want to bring the betrayed spouse back? Divorce is the best thing; you can have the freedom to be whatever you want to be and enjoy your life.
My husband of 29 years has filed. I’m speaking to my lawyer tomorrow. He refused counseling. Refuses to work on anything other than splitting assets. So…if the divorce goes through…that’s it. I don’t talk to exes. I don’t have anything to do with an ex. Once a divorce happens, it’s done. Nothing can change that. I’ve been working on myself. Drawing closer to God. And that’s all I can do. He hates God. He hates all that has to do with God. I won’t tolerate that. God first, always. I want a godly man who puts God first above all else, including himself. Obsessing over your spouse/marriage…is idolatry. And that is why separations and divorces happen. God allows it so that He can get you to put him first!!! Thou shalt have NO other gods before Me!!! His words, not mine!
The only possible way to attract your husband to God is wiry your behavior and not nagging, why did he file for divorce? God hates divorce and it does not matter if one is not a believer, now if you are not part guilty of him leaving you which I don’t believe, then let him go.
I'm assuming before you married him, he was the kind of man you now seek and desire but lost his way? Otherwise, you married him on the false hope that he would eventually change and become the man you need. Many women marry under the auspices of hoping their partner will eventually change. They think the marriage will do it, or perhaps having children and a family. But that choice what yours. Owning your mistakes and the compromises you made is more important than being mad at him for not fitting the mold. I can hear the bitterness in your words and going to scripture for justification is not wrong but do it with humility and not from a place of vengeance. I'm sorry for your grief, Cindy. If you want to put God first, take on the character of Christ and forgive your husband as our lord forgives us.
Sorry you're processing a divorce. I understand. I too am not religious, though I was raised to walk the path. Thing is: your words suggest you're not a very good politician. To get most of what you want or need, you need to learn the fine art of ' Compromise..'
Your statement is unbiblical. God hates divorce, even divorce with an unbeliever. He says to remain (An ungodly spouse practices idolatry, which counters your argument). He says stay so that he is covered by you. If he leaves and you now say you want a godly man, would that mean looking for another man or praying for the one who just left, standing in the gap for the repose of his soul just like Christ does with us time and time and time and time again? Just wandering your thoughts on this.
God doesn’t always want reconcile, he often removes them because they are not leading you closer to God . A lot of cheating men that are old , often come back when their mistress dumps them and they want someone to take care of them in their old age so they crawl back to the loyal wife .
Never stay with cheating man . After he had had his fun he always comes back when the younger woman who was using him , is done using him . That man broke his covenant . Start over and put your new wine into a kind and faithful man , not the lying cheating one .
I used to watch this channel obsessively before my divorce. To all the hopeless, my wife came back after the divorce, but I had fallen in love with a much younger and beautiful woman who eventually broke my heart. If you stay vigilant and work on yourself, there is much hope🙏 trust God
I needed to hear this.
How long after the divorce did she come back and did you end up fully reconciling? Just curious. Pray all is well with you 🙏🏼
What approach did you take to work on yourself? I am in the exact situation and just coming off the heartbreak of falling in love with a beautiful and younger woman after my divorce and have realized I’ve made the same mistakes again and that it’s a ME issue in a lot of ways… appreciate any advice and guidance!
@@wbwanek1I returned to church and dedicated my life to self growth, attachment work, healing different areas. Became a great dad and friend. Time heals all wounds. Praying for you bro.
@@TimMillernapavalleyfilmworksseriously appreciate it! I’ve found a great church recently and am about to take that first step into counseling/therapy for self help, family boundaries, etc… keeping open to what God has in store next!
Not trying to be a downer, but I think there also needs some balance in the videos and in the comment section - sometimes they don't come back, but that does not detract from the inherent value Jesus has put in you! You are still a jewel, with hopes and a future! I know it's verrrry hard to believe this. I need to encourage myself as well.
I know this is easier said than done, but living in constant waiting for another person, might not be God's plan for your life. If they come back, great!!! That is the hope.
But that tension of putting your life on hold for them and actively waiting for them. God still has a purpose for you! You cannot put your life on hold for them.
I pray that my situation doesn't go as far as divorce. My wife wanted it, had already filed the application to the lawyers and I refused to sign and then my mom and I fasted and prayed about it and she hasn't mentioned anything about divorce. My wife demanded that we separate tho. The separation feels almost as bad as divorcing, but I'm hanging in there.
Do not obey your Mom. You two are one flesh... you NEED to get together and start talking, calm and peaceful, and get to this Couple's Workshop.
@@wolfsden my wife was the one who demanded the separation. Sorry for not communicating that clearly. Will have to edit my comment. I'm just praying that in the near future my wife will agree to the workshop.
Interesting. I would have thought that by refusal to sign, it would only push her away.
@@S0RELOSER thing is I gave her valid and numerous reasons as to why I would not sign it. And by God's grace my refusing to sign didn't further push her away. Perhaps God's spirit touched her and soften her up.
@@mace2gorc872 most gurus say that in this phase, to avoid logic with a soon to be ex wife because they have so much emotional stuff going that logic only pushes them away.
How long did it take her to draw up the paperwork from when she first told you?
What were your reasons, if i may ask?
Its a bird, its a plane, its doctor Joe Beam!!!! 🙏
Contender for the best comment we've ever received.
Don't give up!
Only get your direction from the Holy Spirit!
My soon to be ex wife asked if later she felt like she made a mistake could she come back. I said no. Was that a good idea?
Let her show you her notes,she might have worked on herself.❤❤❤❤
I said no too. Then I left some space for God's love and His holy Spirit to work. We got back together and are joyful working out our major marriage problems. Looks like the vowes we took over 25 years ago continue to hold their integrity. "For better or worse" - this is the worse part, do you agree we can make it better?
Whatever happens to you guys are amazing people doing amazing things
Wish I could stop my divorce
Who filed for it??
@@rebeccasnyder6719 she did.
@@rebeccasnyder6719 she did
@@rebeccasnyder6719 she did
Só Sorry to hear it. Hopefully she will realize the grass is not greener on the other side!
I miss my wife so much
I needed to hear this
I divorced my ex 20 years ago and spoke two times with her only after. Both times it was her who called. I never looked back, regreted or wanted to reconcile. That would be the stupidest thing to do.
Why do we want to bring the betrayed spouse back? Divorce is the best thing; you can have the freedom to be whatever you want to be and enjoy your life.
My husband of 29 years has filed. I’m speaking to my lawyer tomorrow. He refused counseling. Refuses to work on anything other than splitting assets.
So…if the divorce goes through…that’s it. I don’t talk to exes. I don’t have anything to do with an ex. Once a divorce happens, it’s done. Nothing can change that. I’ve been working on myself. Drawing closer to God. And that’s all I can do. He hates God. He hates all that has to do with God. I won’t tolerate that.
God first, always. I want a godly man who puts God first above all else, including himself.
Obsessing over your spouse/marriage…is idolatry. And that is why separations and divorces happen. God allows it so that He can get you to put him first!!!
Thou shalt have NO other gods before Me!!!
His words, not mine!
The only possible way to attract your husband to God is wiry your behavior and not nagging, why did he file for divorce? God hates divorce and it does not matter if one is not a believer, now if you are not part guilty of him leaving you which I don’t believe, then let him go.
Hai
I'm assuming before you married him, he was the kind of man you now seek and desire but lost his way? Otherwise, you married him on the false hope that he would eventually change and become the man you need. Many women marry under the auspices of hoping their partner will eventually change. They think the marriage will do it, or perhaps having children and a family. But that choice what yours. Owning your mistakes and the compromises you made is more important than being mad at him for not fitting the mold. I can hear the bitterness in your words and going to scripture for justification is not wrong but do it with humility and not from a place of vengeance. I'm sorry for your grief, Cindy. If you want to put God first, take on the character of Christ and forgive your husband as our lord forgives us.
Sorry you're processing a divorce. I understand. I too am not religious, though I was raised to walk the path. Thing is: your words suggest you're not a very good politician. To get most of what you want or need, you need to learn the fine art of ' Compromise..'
Your statement is unbiblical. God hates divorce, even divorce with an unbeliever. He says to remain (An ungodly spouse practices idolatry, which counters your argument). He says stay so that he is covered by you. If he leaves and you now say you want a godly man, would that mean looking for another man or praying for the one who just left, standing in the gap for the repose of his soul just like Christ does with us time and time and time and time again? Just wandering your thoughts on this.
How is it idolatry, if you want to reconcile, and reconcile is what God wants.
I want to know this too
God doesn’t always want reconcile, he often removes them because they are not leading you closer to God . A lot of cheating men that are old , often come back when their mistress dumps them and they want someone to take care of them in their old age so they crawl back to the loyal wife .
Never stay with cheating man . After he had had his fun he always comes back when the younger woman who was using him , is done using him . That man broke his covenant . Start over and put your new wine into a kind and faithful man , not the lying cheating one .