Omg, thank you, this is exactly what I needed right now. I have really bad chest dysphoria sometimes and then other days I'm kinda okay with my chest. Like, one day I think I can't take it anymore and want to ask my mum whether I can get a binder (I'm not out to her) and on other days I'm not bothered at all by my chest. And on some days being misgendered doesn't really bother me while on other days I could just cry and hide myself in my room. And it makes me think "What if it actually is just a phase?" so often, even though I'm sure it's not.
I have chest dysphoria too, just like you, some days i'm fine, it doesn't really bother me. Other days, I would find myself always adjusting my shirt so that my chest print doesn't show. I'm hoping to start binding soon, but if you're looking for one you can check out underworks.com or FreeToM.com
Just a heads up for both of you, I've found that binders from gc2b bind better than Underworks and are more comfortable. I've had two in the past from Underworks, a month ago I borrowed my friend's gc2b and i have never felt as comfortable binding before that. I'm somewhere around a large b cup and honestly i was almost completely flat. My mum bought 3 from gc2b and i never wear Underworks anymore.
i feel the same. my bottom dysphoria is very minimal which im so happy for. dysphoria needs to be addressed because you don't need to have it to be trans ya know?
my dysphoria fluctuates and days i don't have as much dysphoria i panic cause im like "omg what am i trans??!?! was it just a phase?? wheres my dysphoria???" but then i can't even bring myself to touch my chest and im like yup i am in h e l l
Yeah... Thats really hard. I think I feel like that too. I'm almost all the time doubting myself, like: you feel this, you're not trans... But you feel that, so you are... It can get really frustranting and confusing, sometimes
This is entirely unrelated to the topic of the video, but I'm bird-sitting for a friend and he is absolutely fascinated by your hair. The second you came on my screen he started squawking and kept trying to run at the screen. It's the cutest thing on the planet and I needed to share.
can you make a video, maybe a submission video of ppl saying "what is dysphoria" (in their experience)? or something related to more subtle signs of dysphoria. i feel like we have this word but it can mean so much and different for everyone, it may help to hear some experiences and be like "I'm not alone!" For example I've read some subtle signs of dysphoria can be if you're more on edge, anxious, irritable, letharic, etc and you didnt realize that was from dysphoria until it's relieved. sorry if my post doesnt make sense. T-T
This video literally changed my life. Along with the "trans enough" project. So i realize i have a problem with peoples opinions and shit which has been holding me back and then the stereotypes like oh you have to be a girl or you are a pretty girl etc. But im not alone. I dont have to start T to be trans or have top or bottom surgery. Sometimes im okay with being called a girl which makes me feel less trans but that doesnt make me less trans. What is holding me back is having people look at me differently and being discusted of me but honestly I'm trans. I get excited about wearing guy clothes because thats all i want to do. I can't wait to cut my hair. If im misgendered that doesnt make me less of a guy. I dont need to conform to society. I donf need to be exactly like a cis guy. And dysphoria can fluctuate and feelings can change. I dont need to rush into labels. I dont need to rush into anything. I'm trans and i can take my time with my transition and everything can fall into place. Every step can take a while and thats okay. In the end, i will figure out what i want and need to do. Thankyou for inspiring me and helping me find this out. I have been struggling with this label forever and now I'm crying my eyes out but i feel so relieved. Thankyou so much💙
The only thing that fluctuates for me is the intensity of the dysphoria, it's always there in some minor way that I don't even actively notice. Like, my brain is just not connected to the parts that "don't belong there" and miss the things that "should be there", you know? And most of the time I'm okay, it's just a thing that's in the background, but there's days where chest dysphoria is huge and I want to rip them off, and there's days where my voice dysphoria is horrendous and, well, it always gets violent tendencies lol. I think my dysphoria is medium at the moment; noticeably present but not violent.
+Devilishy Dutch "Like, my brain is just not connected to the parts that "don't belong there" and miss the things that "should be there", you know?" Exactly what I feel. I need so much this kind of testimony to be sure of my self diagnostic, but yes... I'm really "gender dysphoric" _(is it correct to say that?)_ . Thank you.
I've been non-op not-T and binding for almost 10 years.. I've been going back and forth on it for about as long but scared of doing something to my body I'll regret. It helps to hear that I'm not the only person who goes back and forth on decisions about those things. Narratives of trans people are so essentialist, but even knowing that it's hard. I think I know what I need to do.
I've been agonizing about T and surgery for five years, if that makes you feel any less alone. I'm very involved in the community here and sometimes I find it really hard to watch everyone else do what the gotta do and still feel so uncertain myself. But there is something holding me back, probably some internalized bs. I think there are a lot of ways to go about transitioning and it's a really personal choice. I know that when I ever go on hormones, I want to be ready and enjoy the ride, not be plagued by doubts. I'll only get to do this once after all! Anyway, wish you luck with whatever you gonna do!
I knew I was trans 18 years ago. I first expressed a desire to go on hormones 12 years ago, and then more strongly 8 years ago, but I was still so unsure. When I finally started therapy this year in order to get my referral for top surgery (for which in Canada it's not necessary to have been on T beforehand), my therapist asked me "Why not just try hormone therapy? For the first 1-3 months the changes are not very big, and are almost completely reversible. You can just try it and see how you feel." I think that was one thing that finally eased me into trying it - if I didn't like it I could always stop!!
Keith Heart-Star glad to find your comment. Seems I can only find people who transition young these days and I'm "too late". Not even sure what I want to do at this point, but the dysphoria is out of control. Glad to find a couple others out there who don't want to modify their body until they're sure. And can't seem to get sure 😂
Thanks Chase, I hope you understand how reassuring it is to hear someone talk about this. I have fluctuations with wanting T and top surgery but I'm constantly paralysed even to get a binder for the first time because sometimes i can deal with it and other times I can't stop crying.
THANKS FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS BECAUSE NO ONE EVER DOES?? but no i'm the same with dysphoria like during the summer i was wearing "girl" clothes and shit and felt fine but then like last month it quickly changed and now i can't even put on a dress without crying lmao
Thank you so much for bringing this up! Why does no-one ever talk about this?? My dysphoria has changed sooo much over time and I feel like it's not valid sometimes, but then I remind myself that I guess it's like that for a lot of people, we just don't tell each other. I hate being compared to a specific, very simplistic trans narrativ all the time. I've been wondering about going on T for 5 years now and I don't feel represented, talking to "professionals" is also hard. Always fear they will say I'm not trans* enough. Anyway, I'm on a rant now. But you said lots of people are scared they gonna regret transitioning or parts of it - can you talk some more about that please? Because most people don't share these thoughts. Thank you every much!
as someone who's gender fluctuates in between male and genderless, this is literally my life. transition wise, I know that I want top surgery 100% but for t it's like when I feel more male I'm like yea definitely but when I feel more in between I'm like maybe not. it's difficult :/
My gender fluctuates between female and agender, and I was seriously considering buying a binder (after about a year firmly agender), then my dysphoria lessened until I was back to female again. Weird as all hell, but I'm dfab and female at the moment, so pretty comfortable. Good luck to you!
You're so underrated. Some of the things you say I dont necessarily agree with (I'm like kalvin garrah of that gives you a perspective) but I think you're very smart and make a lot of people feel less alone. Thank you chase.
Flo from Progressive That's awesome. I'm soooo happy for you :) I'm probably going to stay in the closet for the rest of my life (if I ever figure out my identity)...
Damn Chase. Thank you so much for this video. Thank you for being you, and for making people know that what they are going through is normal and that the ups and downs of this process are okay.
I needed to hear this so much. I've been questioning my gender identity and I have come to the realization that I am a boy, not a girl. I told my mom but we have yet to talk about changing anything. Which has been giving me anxiety and it's making me overthink, like what if this isn't want I want? what if it's just a phase? but this morning I had a mental breakdown because my bra was showing through my shirt today. I am a boy. I know what I want and who I am and even if it makes me anxious I just need to remember that I'm doing this for my mental health. Thank you for posting this. ❤️
Seriously, this is what I needed right now and I feel so much better because my dysphoria fluctuates a lot and sometimes I cant feel like valid and this is what I needed to hear to not feel alone. So thank you so much, seriously
I am the NB and have a lot of confused, mixed feelings about surgeries. I think I like having boobs (I might be small enough to be eligible for keyhole but I literally have no idea. Also this is more for me and my sexual partners because I don't like how Having Boobs changes the way people interact with me) but I have a decent amount of bottom dysphoria. The RealDoe product you reviewed is something I'm very much interested in, but I have no idea if bottom surgery is something I can go through with. It's expensive and scary and I'm mostly comfortable with my body the way it is except that I feel like penetrative sex is something I should be doing but can't. Trans life is confusing sometimes.
You are such an inspiration to me Chase. You're helping me learn all these things about myself that no one ever taught me, and at 25 I'm just starting to deal with my gender identity issues and I appreciate your videos more than any words can describe. If you read this know that you help keep me going.
You are a god send, I literally was just feeling so invalidated and less trans and its like there's always a video from you that I always can relate to and always need thank you chase Ross you are literally a life saver.
I so needed this right now. Life circumstances have kinda unexpectedly aligned to where I'm in the process of getting consultations for top surgery and suddenly I'm like "what chest dysphoria?" when I've been binding for 4 years and it's always been my biggest source of dysphoria. I've been stuck in that "hoping for the future" for so long and now it's here. But I just remind myself what it's like binding when it's ridiculously hot and like 85% humidity, and I'm like oh yeah, let's not do another summer with that.
I’ve had a lot of trouble with fluctuating top dysphoria, I also don’t bind bc i have an underworks binder & it hurts to wear for extended periods of time. I’ve been rly indecisive about top surgery but hearing other trans ppl having gone through that surgery & also having gone through fluctuating dysphoria rly helps me realise that this is really what I want. Thank you for being open about this, it really helps 💙💙
Thank you so much Chase. I thought I was just being delusional.Somedays i feel ok with my chest but today the fact I have breasts made me feel sick and I couldn’t concentrate on studying until I put on my binder, even then I don’t want to look in the mirror because my chest isn’t flat enough. Also, I’ve always felt like my name was somehow wrong and I often feel weird when people refer to me as ‘she’, but other times I don’t really notice it. I feel like dysphoria for me occasionally hits, but most of the time I’m just apathetic or occupied with something else. I’m not out to my family or friends, but I should be ok because they’re accepting people. For now, I’ll use binders, STPs, men’s clothes etc and see how I feel before going to my GP about getting a referral to a gender clinic. I really don’t want all the extra difficulty presented by surgery and hormones etc, I’ve had enough shit to deal with already, but if that’s what I need, so be it. Sorry for the rant just needed to get this out 😅
This felt really good to hear. Thank you! Let's just say my dysphoria have changed a lot. I have huge probs with my voice and also my chest. I'm really scared of that the team I visit for meetings will think I'm not enough, since I never really had a clear period of "this is wrong" and that I started to think about what I really am when I met other transpersons. It's more like it didn't feel right and I didn't know why I were doing typical feminine things. When I changed the way I dressed and stopped with make-up it just felt more and more right. I changed my name and pronoun 1 year ago, which have helped a lot, but here I am struggling with dysphoria..
Watching your video and reading all the comments is exactly what I needed! Right now I'm in one of my "phases" again where I experience dysphoria (I think) and don't identify as female. But it fluctuates a lot for me. I can go several months or weeks of not thinking too much about this stuff (I'm never okay with my chest but sometimes I just don't care. Sometimes I can even wear a normal bra and be okay with that.) For me, dysphoria is still a difficult thing to understand. I still don't understand how it feels to others and if what I experience counts as dysphoria. People always talk about how it is absolute hell and I can't connect with that. Then again, I have depression and (possibly) an eating disorder and I used to self-harm and I would never describe these experiences as abolsutely horrible (as most people do). Maybe I'm just really detached from my feelings and emotions... I also noticed things that maybe are part of dysphoria but that I didn't recognize as such before? I get very self-conscious about my voice sometimes. And when I'm walking outside I may feel totally fine and confident with how I feel (and how I see myself) but as soon as I have to walk past other people (especially men) I suddenly feel bad because I'm reminded that I am/ they see me as a woman. Is that dysphoria or just me living in a sexist/ misogynistic world? So many questions :(
Chase i understand that for some people you are a bit confusing but for the people that are like you ore have the same sort confusion... you make perfect sence. And thank you to make this video's. It realy helps me..not to feel so strange. Even i'm not a transgender but a sort of a gender fluid person. so thank you!!!
Thanks so much for this video! I could relate so so much to what you were saying about going back and looking at the same pictures again and again, months apart - whether of surgeries or just trans stuff, in my case. I wanted to let you know though that you definitely ARE helping people - your video about metaoidioplasty was the first time I'd ever even knew it existed, and it got me so excited to think about, since I always knew somehow that phalloplasty wasn't something I was interested in, even before I questioned my gender. So thank you so much for your research, and experiences. It really helps.
this is my exact same experience as a trans man and hearing this made me cry, i always felt strangely invalid cause of not being that dysphoric, especially about my chest. and thanks hearing this helped alot
As non-binary person that is so good to hear,like because I am in the spectrum and I don't have really that stable gender I have really fluctuating dysphoria and that took a big toll on my metal health ,the numbers of breakdowns I had is ridiculous . I think this is topic that must be talked about also the gatekeeping that comes with the idea of constant dysphoria because it can be really damaging
when I actually went to my first appointment I really went for it more than I thought which is great explaining stuff. And in some ways I'm glad that my next appointment is in may its gonna give me time to settle as I only came out in July. But I know I definitely want both hormones and top surgery as soon as possible. but how strong that feeling is can fluctuate but I still have no doughs as soon as I'm allowed to do them I will
Oh wow i needed this video right now. My dysphoria fluctuates a lot and on better days i start doubting whether im really nonbinary, and some of this comes from not awknowledging the dysphoria until i was 26 because yay repression, but once i awknowledged and accepted i was enby a couple months ago i deal with the (amab) chest dysphoria pretty constantly on some level...jeeze this is getting a little much for a youtube comment, but great video
recently I haven't been having much chest dysphoria, I used to have it severely all the time, but even when I'm not dysphoric I still know that I need top surgery. I still know that that is what I need and what I really want.
YES my dysphoria fluctuates ALOT.... I would love to hear more info on bottom surgery... Sooo if you did a vid on bottom surgery etc. that would be awesome! ;)
Really glad you made this video. Same. Last Thursday I had whole-body dysphoria. I couldn't even look at my hands without feeling sick and afraid (I am a very small person- 5'1" about 112 lbs,) and I could feel that the size and proportions of everything was wrong and I wanted to disappear. I couldn't take off my binder or boxers even to shower. The next day I felt the same- went to my therapist and asked him what am I going to do because there's obviously no surgery or HRT that can change your hands. I'm 31, this is as big as I get. Today I feel kinda terrible that I can look at everything without wanting to puke. I'm a person who needs everything to be definite. I want to be a guy. I go over what life would be like if I did nothing. Some days I can't stand the thought, some days it's only the smallest bit nauseating. It's like oh, crap, I'm not as miserable as before what does this mean? I have an appointment in three weeks at a clinic to start HRT. I have to feel my demi pre-t chin hair I've grown for 3 months (I'm pretty hairy for pre-t) to make sure it's what I want. It invariably is a confirmer for me. I imagine myself running on the beach without a shirt or binder, with a flat chest and I know it would feel freeing. That's how I deal with the fluctuation.
Uppercasechase = uppercasesmile had a pretty bad Dysphoria this week which made me have a lot of panic attacks but just watching Chase able to be himself so well gives me so much hope that I can make it from Tri to Lucius
This helped a lot, some days I have horrible dysphoria around my chest and voice and then other days I'm fine or have a little dysphoria and it'a good to know that it's normal. I have a friend who sometimes buys stuff for me because I can't speak cause of my voice dysphoria but other days I just do it. I'm waiting to get on T and know I really want it now because I'm now struggling without it.
Chase I would love if you could do an even more up to date video on bottom surgery or just recommend good places to read on the procedures it has really been on my mind lately and I do not normally have bottom dysphoria or feel that if I don't have enough why would I consider it lol. This video was right on the money with fluctuation. :)
It's fairly common. It can be hard to be paranoid about getting older as an MTF. I'm only 19, going to start bloodwork for hormones soon and try my best to pass. Some days I'm 100% confident and others that feel like doom and gloom as if I can't do anything right :S
yup! Me: "binding is a bit too much like wearing a bra, never going back to that bullshit! XD guess I'm just a dude with boobs LOL! XD!" also Me: "get these fucking things off me now!!"
I had no dysphoria ever before I had a listen to my own voice. After that my dysphoria was and still is super hard. I have no top dysphoria and no bottom dysphoria. Only when I have "shark week" I have dysphoria-ish feelings. Before I had no idea what my feelsings were or what others must feel because of dysphoria but now... Oh but I want top surgery. I have to wait because of the law in Germany but yeah. I'm still not sure about bottom tho.
I wish I could have you talk to an ex but at the same time I don't wont you to talk to them because they have become extremely rudebasically they are a pansexual trans person who says people who don't have dysphoria to an extreme, they aren't trans. he even said that I don't exist (he doesn't think bigender/genderneutral is real)
I have chest dysphoria in a social setting, like I know that my chest, even when I bind, contributes to me being misgendered a lot. But similar to you, when I'm with my partner it doesn't matter so much and I can be shirtless and have it touched when it's with her though I think it is just with her and if I were to have another partner who didn't see me as male so much that I wouldn't be so comfortable. As for bottom dysphoria, I don't have much of that. Sometimes in a sexual setting I wish I had a dick and could be with my partner like that, but I don't have issues with masturbating or menstruation (its more of an inconvenience/annoyance than anything), but apart from that I don't really have an issue with my bottom, though anatomically correct terms do make me uncomfortable.
As far as the chest issue, I can understand it 100%. I am intersex as well as trans, and my vagina (which was made of a piece of intestine) does not have nearly as many nerve endings as a normal cis vagina. So as much as I hate the look of my chest, it is currently my main path to sexual gratification.
I wondered if my gender (social) dysphoria fluctuating meant I'm not really agender, turns out I'm genderflux and my effing gender fluctuates, and dysphoria along with it. Worth looking into non-binary identities.
I remember how Finn talked on his channel about the fact that he was so afraid about bottom surgery he had repressed most of his dysphoria and didn't realized how much he had dysphoria. Maybe kind of the same thing with my top dysphoria, I'm so afraid about the surgery... I think I would have reduction instead of complete to surgery too.
My top dysphoria is super weird. Sometimes I have "regular" dysphoria, ranging from mild to "I can't leave the house ever again". Other times, I am only dysphoric about the way others would view me. I have over time realized, I am male, and this is my body, which means it is a male body with a male chest. Even though I see my body that way, not everyone else would, and I think THAT is a source of dysphoria. As far as fixing it, I have wanted top surgery for years, but as I get closer to being able to start my journey, I get absolutely terrified of a botched surgery, or not being able to get the surgery I want.
I'm in the same spot you are with bottom surgery. This is the first time I have been met with not being sure about something in my transition. Well, I should say, being sure but not sure.
I sometimes only realize I am dysphoric about certain things when I do something that is relieving me from that dysphoria. For example: I didn't realize how bad my top dysphoria was until I got a binder that showed me how much better I feel when my chest is flat.
It's funny how we think. Like I'll finally get my meds figured out for my manic depression and anxiety then be like oh I feel great now and mentally stable so I can stop taking my meds! I don't need them anymore. Like duh no shit self. My bipolar disorder is manageable BECAUSE of the medicine hahah.
Lola_Dash I think it’s wishful thinking, people WANT to not require medication/ surgeries etc, so they quit it when things are ok, only to find out they need them.
My dysphoria fluctuates a lot. It really sucks. The fact that some months I feel uncomfortable around the LGBT community and other times, I love it. It is really bad right now, though. STP research, T, and FTM stuff. It all sucks!
the thing about fluctuating dysphoria is that I think I couldn't survive being this dysphoric all the time? it almost feels like my brains survival technique if that makes sense ^^;
I get it where some days I question whether I'm actually trans but I get so dysphoric over my height and voice and chest at the same time. I feel like we get this because transitioning is such a huge deal that we don't want to make a mistake or something. idk I'm only 15 and all I have is hormone blockers
the comment about the whole "i'm okay with having my chest touched sexually" is kinda similar to my situation except i'm the same way with my bottom dysphoria... but i'm okay with body during "self-pleasure" lol XD but i don't want my partner touching my body. so i guess that's social dysphoria. i enjoy binding socially especially around my partner. :P
the thing that really hits me is that I need testosterone and top surgery etc, and obviously I can't wait to get it. But, I'm scared that I won't be able to get a job when I'm older.
Some months ago I used to suffer from terrible dysphoria that led me to breaking into tears multiple times. However, I've been feeling less of it this year and I also became kind of unsure of my transgender identity. I don't know if I'm cisgender now... I also become more "bisexual" if you will.
I don't need bottom surgery and don't want it because it would freak me out, I don't see myself with it. But top surgery, I'm fine with the chest but want the top surgery. I sometimes have dysphoria depending on if I'm wearing a certain shirt or in public but other than that no I'm fine.
My disphoria kicks me hard when I came out socially. I just can't live in my body anymore, it sucks, I can't even look in the mirror anymore, I can't wait to get top surgery amd take T
My dysphoria fluctuates sooo much honestly, but I'm sooooo scared to actually transition for the sake of my moms mental health (bad place rn long story) and how my children's lives will be, I worry so much that my dysphoria just keeps getting worse but I'm just to scared to present as male, or literally do anything I just kinda wish I knew a FTM trans man who has two kids and a partner (who is accepting) in a small town to talk to
how about trans doubt? ive been identifying as a trans guy for like the past two years but now its just going away and i dontttt like itttt like i used to strongly have top dysphoria and like issues with how i didnt pass, but now it just doesnt happen, i still dont feel like a girl though and i dont know what it is. and then dysphoria just sneeks up sometimes and says YOURE A BOY AND YOU FEEL AWFUL ABOUT IT for like three days and then it leaves gender is confusing and i hate it
do you have a video on body hair because a couple of months ago i grew out my leg and armpit hair and loved it but shaved because i was scared of what others would think since i am a non-passing transboy.
I'm a non-passing transguy, too (well, sometimes I pass, which makes my day). I don't shave anything and the comfort it gives me surpasses my anxiety. For now, I just avoid showing my legs and pits to people. I've shown a few people my legs after meeting some girls who don't shave, and that felt good. If you're not comfortable coming out yet, you could just play the "I don't give a shit" natural girl card while wearing what you want and exposing your hair. Just remember that other's judgement means nothing against your own personal comfort, regardless of sex or gender. And then top that off with they shouldn't judge a girl who doesn't shave, anyway, so now you're teaching them that girls can do whatever, until you're at the point you can come out. It's all win for you.
This fluctuating dysphoria has never hit so close to me or come at the most perfect time. I've been on testosterone for a year and a half and my dysphoria has been so severe the most recent months then it'd stop. I have real bad top surgery rn and I'm scared to get it because I'm scared I'll need bottom surgery. Because I personally don't like the results of bottom surgery and just don't want to go through that.
I have top dysphoria pretty bad and it doesn't really change, but when I have a hard time with my agoraphobia (a type of anxiety) like right now in school, it's not as intense bc I have more "important" problems regarding mental health..
can you do a video on bigender if you havnt already? we deal with the fluctuating dysphoria allot as well and I don't see very many videos for bigender/genderneutral peopleI personally go back and forth on top surgery all the time, sometimes I don't want it at all when I'm feeling really girly and then I'm all for it when I'm feeling more guyish (I'm defiantly getting top surgery regardless of the fluctuations, ive made my mind up). I still struggling very much with whether or not I should go on T though
Hey there! I am looking for a video that explains different types of dysphoria in depth. (Social, body, etc.) I'd also love to find a video on this from a non-binary person. Could you direct me to a video/article like this?
I still have overall fairly moderate dysphoria, some days more or less than others. I'm the same with you for top, but still unsure about bottom. I'm at least going to wait until I get T to see how my body changes and that on it to think about top surgery
Could you do a video on body image separate from dysphoria? Like for guys who struggle with weight/obesity, acne, shortness, etc. I'm not dysphoric about my weight or that I'm 5'6" but I struggle to deal with those issues as outside of my trans identity if that makes sense.
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Omg, thank you, this is exactly what I needed right now.
I have really bad chest dysphoria sometimes and then other days I'm kinda okay with my chest. Like, one day I think I can't take it anymore and want to ask my mum whether I can get a binder (I'm not out to her) and on other days I'm not bothered at all by my chest.
And on some days being misgendered doesn't really bother me while on other days I could just cry and hide myself in my room.
And it makes me think "What if it actually is just a phase?" so often, even though I'm sure it's not.
I have chest dysphoria too, just like you, some days i'm fine, it doesn't really bother me. Other days, I would find myself always adjusting my shirt so that my chest print doesn't show. I'm hoping to start binding soon, but if you're looking for one you can check out underworks.com or FreeToM.com
Just a heads up for both of you, I've found that binders from gc2b bind better than Underworks and are more comfortable. I've had two in the past from Underworks, a month ago I borrowed my friend's gc2b and i have never felt as comfortable binding before that. I'm somewhere around a large b cup and honestly i was almost completely flat. My mum bought 3 from gc2b and i never wear Underworks anymore.
I have top dysphoria like that too and it always makes me feel guilty when I have those days where it isn't as bad.
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I bought two GC2B binders this month, they're my first ones and I love them 😍
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I bought two GC2B binders this month, they're my first ones and I love them 😍
I dont have bottom dysphoria almost at all and some times it makes me feel less "trans". I have severe top dysphoria.
It took a few years after my top surgery before the bottom dysphoria started creeping in!
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SAME. The only time I really have bottom dysphoria is when I pack because it isnt actual skin.
My bottom dysphoria got worse since I started HRT :/ so it kinda sucks xD
i feel the same. my bottom dysphoria is very minimal which im so happy for. dysphoria needs to be addressed because you don't need to have it to be trans ya know?
my dysphoria fluctuates and days i don't have as much dysphoria i panic cause im like
"omg what am i trans??!?! was it just a phase?? wheres my dysphoria???" but then i can't even bring myself to touch my chest and im like yup i am in h e l l
Yeah... Thats really hard. I think I feel like that too.
I'm almost all the time doubting myself, like: you feel this, you're not trans... But you feel that, so you are...
It can get really frustranting and confusing, sometimes
This is entirely unrelated to the topic of the video, but I'm bird-sitting for a friend and he is absolutely fascinated by your hair. The second you came on my screen he started squawking and kept trying to run at the screen. It's the cutest thing on the planet and I needed to share.
For a second there, I thought that your friend was running and squawking at the screen haha
can you make a video, maybe a submission video of ppl saying "what is dysphoria" (in their experience)? or something related to more subtle signs of dysphoria. i feel like we have this word but it can mean so much and different for everyone, it may help to hear some experiences and be like "I'm not alone!" For example I've read some subtle signs of dysphoria can be if you're more on edge, anxious, irritable, letharic, etc and you didnt realize that was from dysphoria until it's relieved. sorry if my post doesnt make sense. T-T
This video literally changed my life. Along with the "trans enough" project. So i realize i have a problem with peoples opinions and shit which has been holding me back and then the stereotypes like oh you have to be a girl or you are a pretty girl etc. But im not alone. I dont have to start T to be trans or have top or bottom surgery. Sometimes im okay with being called a girl which makes me feel less trans but that doesnt make me less trans. What is holding me back is having people look at me differently and being discusted of me but honestly I'm trans. I get excited about wearing guy clothes because thats all i want to do. I can't wait to cut my hair. If im misgendered that doesnt make me less of a guy. I dont need to conform to society. I donf need to be exactly like a cis guy. And dysphoria can fluctuate and feelings can change. I dont need to rush into labels. I dont need to rush into anything. I'm trans and i can take my time with my transition and everything can fall into place. Every step can take a while and thats okay. In the end, i will figure out what i want and need to do. Thankyou for inspiring me and helping me find this out. I have been struggling with this label forever and now I'm crying my eyes out but i feel so relieved. Thankyou so much💙
The only thing that fluctuates for me is the intensity of the dysphoria, it's always there in some minor way that I don't even actively notice. Like, my brain is just not connected to the parts that "don't belong there" and miss the things that "should be there", you know? And most of the time I'm okay, it's just a thing that's in the background, but there's days where chest dysphoria is huge and I want to rip them off, and there's days where my voice dysphoria is horrendous and, well, it always gets violent tendencies lol. I think my dysphoria is medium at the moment; noticeably present but not violent.
I have the exact same thing.
+Devilishy Dutch
"Like, my brain is just not connected to the parts that "don't belong there" and miss the things that "should be there", you know?"
Exactly what I feel.
I need so much this kind of testimony to be sure of my self diagnostic, but yes... I'm really "gender dysphoric" _(is it correct to say that?)_ .
Thank you.
I've been non-op not-T and binding for almost 10 years.. I've been going back and forth on it for about as long but scared of doing something to my body I'll regret. It helps to hear that I'm not the only person who goes back and forth on decisions about those things. Narratives of trans people are so essentialist, but even knowing that it's hard.
I think I know what I need to do.
I've been agonizing about T and surgery for five years, if that makes you feel any less alone. I'm very involved in the community here and sometimes I find it really hard to watch everyone else do what the gotta do and still feel so uncertain myself. But there is something holding me back, probably some internalized bs. I think there are a lot of ways to go about transitioning and it's a really personal choice. I know that when I ever go on hormones, I want to be ready and enjoy the ride, not be plagued by doubts. I'll only get to do this once after all! Anyway, wish you luck with whatever you gonna do!
I knew I was trans 18 years ago. I first expressed a desire to go on hormones 12 years ago, and then more strongly 8 years ago, but I was still so unsure. When I finally started therapy this year in order to get my referral for top surgery (for which in Canada it's not necessary to have been on T beforehand), my therapist asked me "Why not just try hormone therapy? For the first 1-3 months the changes are not very big, and are almost completely reversible. You can just try it and see how you feel." I think that was one thing that finally eased me into trying it - if I didn't like it I could always stop!!
Keith Heart-Star glad to find your comment. Seems I can only find people who transition young these days and I'm "too late". Not even sure what I want to do at this point, but the dysphoria is out of control. Glad to find a couple others out there who don't want to modify their body until they're sure. And can't seem to get sure 😂
+S Clark You should go check out FinntheInvincible
He's middle aged I think and he's a really nice person to watch
Thanks! I'm not quite middle aged yet lol, but it is cool to see older trans people talk about their issues.
Thanks Chase, I hope you understand how reassuring it is to hear someone talk about this. I have fluctuations with wanting T and top surgery but I'm constantly paralysed even to get a binder for the first time because sometimes i can deal with it and other times I can't stop crying.
same here!!!
THANKS FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS BECAUSE NO ONE EVER DOES?? but no i'm the same with dysphoria like during the summer i was wearing "girl" clothes and shit and felt fine but then like last month it quickly changed and now i can't even put on a dress without crying lmao
Thank you so much for bringing this up! Why does no-one ever talk about this?? My dysphoria has changed sooo much over time and I feel like it's not valid sometimes, but then I remind myself that I guess it's like that for a lot of people, we just don't tell each other. I hate being compared to a specific, very simplistic trans narrativ all the time. I've been wondering about going on T for 5 years now and I don't feel represented, talking to "professionals" is also hard. Always fear they will say I'm not trans* enough. Anyway, I'm on a rant now. But you said lots of people are scared they gonna regret transitioning or parts of it - can you talk some more about that please? Because most people don't share these thoughts. Thank you every much!
as someone who's gender fluctuates in between male and genderless, this is literally my life. transition wise, I know that I want top surgery 100% but for t it's like when I feel more male I'm like yea definitely but when I feel more in between I'm like maybe not. it's difficult :/
My gender fluctuates between female and agender, and I was seriously considering buying a binder (after about a year firmly agender), then my dysphoria lessened until I was back to female again. Weird as all hell, but I'm dfab and female at the moment, so pretty comfortable. Good luck to you!
You're so underrated. Some of the things you say I dont necessarily agree with (I'm like kalvin garrah of that gives you a perspective) but I think you're very smart and make a lot of people feel less alone. Thank you chase.
I'm trans and I just came out today and your videos are one of the reasons I did c: thank you so much
Congrats! How did it go?
It went well! She still misgenders me from time to time but she's trying
Flo from Progressive That's awesome. I'm soooo happy for you :)
I'm probably going to stay in the closet for the rest of my life (if I ever figure out my identity)...
***** thanks! Figuring out your identity takes a long time but I'm sure you can do it c:!
Full video on bottom surgery?? 🐝
Thank you so much for this!! I find it so confusing how much I fluctuate in my feelings, so this is very comforting :)
Thank you for making videos you make me really happy
Anytime i really feel down and dysphoric, I just watch this video. Thankyou for always being there. 💙
Damn Chase. Thank you so much for this video. Thank you for being you, and for making people know that what they are going through is normal and that the ups and downs of this process are okay.
I needed to hear this so much. I've been questioning my gender identity and I have come to the realization that I am a boy, not a girl. I told my mom but we have yet to talk about changing anything. Which has been giving me anxiety and it's making me overthink, like what if this isn't want I want? what if it's just a phase? but this morning I had a mental breakdown because my bra was showing through my shirt today. I am a boy. I know what I want and who I am and even if it makes me anxious I just need to remember that I'm doing this for my mental health. Thank you for posting this. ❤️
the whole chest thing
he just described how I feel about my own.
Seriously, this is what I needed right now and I feel so much better because my dysphoria fluctuates a lot and sometimes I cant feel like valid and this is what I needed to hear to not feel alone. So thank you so much, seriously
God, I needed this so much.
Since I discovered your channel I've been feeling much more clearheaded. Thank you Chase, you're amazing.
Do you have a video where you do talk about the specifics of bottom surgery?? 8:30
I am the NB and have a lot of confused, mixed feelings about surgeries. I think I like having boobs (I might be small enough to be eligible for keyhole but I literally have no idea. Also this is more for me and my sexual partners because I don't like how Having Boobs changes the way people interact with me) but I have a decent amount of bottom dysphoria. The RealDoe product you reviewed is something I'm very much interested in, but I have no idea if bottom surgery is something I can go through with. It's expensive and scary and I'm mostly comfortable with my body the way it is except that I feel like penetrative sex is something I should be doing but can't. Trans life is confusing sometimes.
You are such an inspiration to me Chase. You're helping me learn all these things about myself that no one ever taught me, and at 25 I'm just starting to deal with my gender identity issues and I appreciate your videos more than any words can describe. If you read this know that you help keep me going.
What you're doing is so amazing and is helping so many people. I want you to know that.
You are a god send, I literally was just feeling so invalidated and less trans and its like there's always a video from you that I always can relate to and always need thank you chase Ross you are literally a life saver.
Thank you for talking about this Chase, it's honestly helping me so much
I so needed this right now. Life circumstances have kinda unexpectedly aligned to where I'm in the process of getting consultations for top surgery and suddenly I'm like "what chest dysphoria?" when I've been binding for 4 years and it's always been my biggest source of dysphoria. I've been stuck in that "hoping for the future" for so long and now it's here. But I just remind myself what it's like binding when it's ridiculously hot and like 85% humidity, and I'm like oh yeah, let's not do another summer with that.
I’ve had a lot of trouble with fluctuating top dysphoria, I also don’t bind bc i have an underworks binder & it hurts to wear for extended periods of time. I’ve been rly indecisive about top surgery but hearing other trans ppl having gone through that surgery & also having gone through fluctuating dysphoria rly helps me realise that this is really what I want. Thank you for being open about this, it really helps 💙💙
Your videos are always all over the place, but I love them
Thank you so much Chase. I thought I was just being delusional.Somedays i feel ok with my chest but today the fact I have breasts made me feel sick and I couldn’t concentrate on studying until I put on my binder, even then I don’t want to look in the mirror because my chest isn’t flat enough.
Also, I’ve always felt like my name was somehow wrong and I often feel weird when people refer to me as ‘she’, but other times I don’t really notice it. I feel like dysphoria for me occasionally hits, but most of the time I’m just apathetic or occupied with something else. I’m not out to my family or friends, but I should be ok because they’re accepting people. For now, I’ll use binders, STPs, men’s clothes etc and see how I feel before going to my GP about getting a referral to a gender clinic. I really don’t want all the extra difficulty presented by surgery and hormones etc, I’ve had enough shit to deal with already, but if that’s what I need, so be it.
Sorry for the rant just needed to get this out 😅
This felt really good to hear. Thank you!
Let's just say my dysphoria have changed a lot. I have huge probs with my voice and also my chest. I'm really scared of that the team I visit for meetings will think I'm not enough, since I never really had a clear period of "this is wrong" and that I started to think about what I really am when I met other transpersons. It's more like it didn't feel right and I didn't know why I were doing typical feminine things. When I changed the way I dressed and stopped with make-up it just felt more and more right. I changed my name and pronoun 1 year ago, which have helped a lot, but here I am struggling with dysphoria..
Watching your video and reading all the comments is exactly what I needed!
Right now I'm in one of my "phases" again where I experience dysphoria (I think) and don't identify as female. But it fluctuates a lot for me. I can go several months or weeks of not thinking too much about this stuff (I'm never okay with my chest but sometimes I just don't care. Sometimes I can even wear a normal bra and be okay with that.)
For me, dysphoria is still a difficult thing to understand. I still don't understand how it feels to others and if what I experience counts as dysphoria. People always talk about how it is absolute hell and I can't connect with that. Then again, I have depression and (possibly) an eating disorder and I used to self-harm and I would never describe these experiences as abolsutely horrible (as most people do). Maybe I'm just really detached from my feelings and emotions...
I also noticed things that maybe are part of dysphoria but that I didn't recognize as such before? I get very self-conscious about my voice sometimes. And when I'm walking outside I may feel totally fine and confident with how I feel (and how I see myself) but as soon as I have to walk past other people (especially men) I suddenly feel bad because I'm reminded that I am/ they see me as a woman. Is that dysphoria or just me living in a sexist/ misogynistic world?
So many questions :(
this is so validating i love chase so much
Chase i understand that for some people you are a bit confusing but for the people that are like you ore have the same sort confusion... you make perfect sence. And thank you to make this video's. It realy helps me..not to feel so strange. Even i'm not a transgender but a sort of a gender fluid person. so thank you!!!
Thanks so much for this video! I could relate so so much to what you were saying about going back and looking at the same pictures again and again, months apart - whether of surgeries or just trans stuff, in my case. I wanted to let you know though that you definitely ARE helping people - your video about metaoidioplasty was the first time I'd ever even knew it existed, and it got me so excited to think about, since I always knew somehow that phalloplasty wasn't something I was interested in, even before I questioned my gender. So thank you so much for your research, and experiences. It really helps.
this is my exact same experience as a trans man and hearing this made me cry, i always felt strangely invalid cause of not being that dysphoric, especially about my chest. and thanks hearing this helped alot
As non-binary person that is so good to hear,like because I am in the spectrum and I don't have really that stable gender I have really fluctuating dysphoria and that took a big toll on my metal health ,the numbers of breakdowns I had is ridiculous . I think this is topic that must be talked about also the gatekeeping that comes with the idea of constant dysphoria because it can be really damaging
Thanks Chase hearing this is really relatable.
Thank you Chase, great video! Thanks for telling me straight, to wait and do what is right for me
when I actually went to my first appointment I really went for it more than I thought which is great explaining stuff. And in some ways I'm glad that my next appointment is in may its gonna give me time to settle as I only came out in July. But I know I definitely want both hormones and top surgery as soon as possible. but how strong that feeling is can fluctuate but I still have no doughs as soon as I'm allowed to do them I will
Oh wow i needed this video right now. My dysphoria fluctuates a lot and on better days i start doubting whether im really nonbinary, and some of this comes from not awknowledging the dysphoria until i was 26 because yay repression, but once i awknowledged and accepted i was enby a couple months ago i deal with the (amab) chest dysphoria pretty constantly on some level...jeeze this is getting a little much for a youtube comment, but great video
recently I haven't been having much chest dysphoria, I used to have it severely all the time, but even when I'm not dysphoric I still know that I need top surgery. I still know that that is what I need and what I really want.
Omg, thank you, I needed to hear this so badly!
YES my dysphoria fluctuates ALOT.... I would love to hear more info on bottom surgery... Sooo if you did a vid on bottom surgery etc. that would be awesome! ;)
could you do an in-depth informational video about both types of bottom surgery?
Really glad you made this video. Same. Last Thursday I had whole-body dysphoria. I couldn't even look at my hands without feeling sick and afraid (I am a very small person- 5'1" about 112 lbs,) and I could feel that the size and proportions of everything was wrong and I wanted to disappear. I couldn't take off my binder or boxers even to shower. The next day I felt the same- went to my therapist and asked him what am I going to do because there's obviously no surgery or HRT that can change your hands. I'm 31, this is as big as I get. Today I feel kinda terrible that I can look at everything without wanting to puke. I'm a person who needs everything to be definite. I want to be a guy. I go over what life would be like if I did nothing. Some days I can't stand the thought, some days it's only the smallest bit nauseating. It's like oh, crap, I'm not as miserable as before what does this mean? I have an appointment in three weeks at a clinic to start HRT. I have to feel my demi pre-t chin hair I've grown for 3 months (I'm pretty hairy for pre-t) to make sure it's what I want. It invariably is a confirmer for me. I imagine myself running on the beach without a shirt or binder, with a flat chest and I know it would feel freeing. That's how I deal with the fluctuation.
Chase, thank you for this!
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had a pretty bad Dysphoria this week which made me have a lot of panic attacks but just watching Chase able to be himself so well gives me so much hope that I can make it from Tri to Lucius
This helped a lot, some days I have horrible dysphoria around my chest and voice and then other days I'm fine or have a little dysphoria and it'a good to know that it's normal. I have a friend who sometimes buys stuff for me because I can't speak cause of my voice dysphoria but other days I just do it. I'm waiting to get on T and know I really want it now because I'm now struggling without it.
can you suggest some literature on this topic?
Chase I would love if you could do an even more up to date video on bottom surgery or just recommend good places to read on the procedures it has really been on my mind lately and I do not normally have bottom dysphoria or feel that if I don't have enough why would I consider it lol. This video was right on the money with fluctuation. :)
It's fairly common. It can be hard to be paranoid about getting older as an MTF. I'm only 19, going to start bloodwork for hormones soon and try my best to pass. Some days I'm 100% confident and others that feel like doom and gloom as if I can't do anything right :S
I wish my shrink would understand english fluently and just watch all of your videos. it would literally be mindblowing to him haha
this video probably saved my mind (?) thank you chase!!
yup! Me: "binding is a bit too much like wearing a bra, never going back to that bullshit! XD guess I'm just a dude with boobs LOL! XD!" also Me: "get these fucking things off me now!!"
I had no dysphoria ever before I had a listen to my own voice. After that my dysphoria was and still is super hard. I have no top dysphoria and no bottom dysphoria. Only when I have "shark week" I have dysphoria-ish feelings. Before I had no idea what my feelsings were or what others must feel because of dysphoria but now... Oh but I want top surgery. I have to wait because of the law in Germany but yeah. I'm still not sure about bottom tho.
I wish I could have you talk to an ex but at the same time I don't wont you to talk to them because they have become extremely rudebasically they are a pansexual trans person who says people who don't have dysphoria to an extreme, they aren't trans. he even said that I don't exist (he doesn't think bigender/genderneutral is real)
Well they don't seem to be a nice person. I'd rather jot talk to them in that case. But thank you anyways.
It's there most days and goes on all day, especially when I'm on my period. Very seldom does it go away, but yes, it does fluctuate.
I have chest dysphoria in a social setting, like I know that my chest, even when I bind, contributes to me being misgendered a lot. But similar to you, when I'm with my partner it doesn't matter so much and I can be shirtless and have it touched when it's with her though I think it is just with her and if I were to have another partner who didn't see me as male so much that I wouldn't be so comfortable.
As for bottom dysphoria, I don't have much of that. Sometimes in a sexual setting I wish I had a dick and could be with my partner like that, but I don't have issues with masturbating or menstruation (its more of an inconvenience/annoyance than anything), but apart from that I don't really have an issue with my bottom, though anatomically correct terms do make me uncomfortable.
As far as the chest issue, I can understand it 100%. I am intersex as well as trans, and my vagina (which was made of a piece of intestine) does not have nearly as many nerve endings as a normal cis vagina. So as much as I hate the look of my chest, it is currently my main path to sexual gratification.
if my gender dysphoria comes and goes does that mean that is normal and I am MTF trans?
it does. everyone feels and deals with dysphoria differently
ok thx. I was confused as hell
I wondered if my gender (social) dysphoria fluctuating meant I'm not really agender, turns out I'm genderflux and my effing gender fluctuates, and dysphoria along with it. Worth looking into non-binary identities.
i am for now i am not identifying with any gender
I remember how Finn talked on his channel about the fact that he was so afraid about bottom surgery he had repressed most of his dysphoria and didn't realized how much he had dysphoria. Maybe kind of the same thing with my top dysphoria, I'm so afraid about the surgery... I think I would have reduction instead of complete to surgery too.
My top dysphoria is super weird. Sometimes I have "regular" dysphoria, ranging from mild to "I can't leave the house ever again". Other times, I am only dysphoric about the way others would view me. I have over time realized, I am male, and this is my body, which means it is a male body with a male chest. Even though I see my body that way, not everyone else would, and I think THAT is a source of dysphoria.
As far as fixing it, I have wanted top surgery for years, but as I get closer to being able to start my journey, I get absolutely terrified of a botched surgery, or not being able to get the surgery I want.
I'm in the same spot you are with bottom surgery. This is the first time I have been met with not being sure about something in my transition. Well, I should say, being sure but not sure.
I sometimes only realize I am dysphoric about certain things when I do something that is relieving me from that dysphoria. For example: I didn't realize how bad my top dysphoria was until I got a binder that showed me how much better I feel when my chest is flat.
It's funny how we think. Like I'll finally get my meds figured out for my manic depression and anxiety then be like oh I feel great now and mentally stable so I can stop taking my meds! I don't need them anymore. Like duh no shit self. My bipolar disorder is manageable BECAUSE of the medicine hahah.
Lola_Dash I think it’s wishful thinking, people WANT to not require medication/ surgeries etc, so they quit it when things are ok, only to find out they need them.
My dysphoria fluctuates a lot. It really sucks. The fact that some months I feel uncomfortable around the LGBT community and other times, I love it. It is really bad right now, though. STP research, T, and FTM stuff. It all sucks!
thank you SO much for this vid!! helped me so much!!!
Well, I think you made perfect sense.
the thing about fluctuating dysphoria is that I think I couldn't survive being this dysphoric all the time? it almost feels like my brains survival technique if that makes sense ^^;
Idk if you've done so or not already, but can you please make a super in depth video about phalloplasty sometime?
I get it where some days I question whether I'm actually trans but I get so dysphoric over my height and voice and chest at the same time. I feel like we get this because transitioning is such a huge deal that we don't want to make a mistake or something. idk I'm only 15 and all I have is hormone blockers
I love your outro 😂
the comment about the whole "i'm okay with having my chest touched sexually" is kinda similar to my situation except i'm the same way with my bottom dysphoria... but i'm okay with body during "self-pleasure" lol XD but i don't want my partner touching my body. so i guess that's social dysphoria. i enjoy binding socially especially around my partner. :P
the thing that really hits me is that I need testosterone and top surgery etc, and obviously I can't wait to get it. But, I'm scared that I won't be able to get a job when I'm older.
Some months ago I used to suffer from terrible dysphoria that led me to breaking into tears multiple times. However, I've been feeling less of it this year and I also became kind of unsure of my transgender identity. I don't know if I'm cisgender now... I also become more "bisexual" if you will.
Please make an all about bottom surgery video please! :)
Is there a way I can hear the full version of your opening theme .- . I really like it .
I don't need bottom surgery and don't want it because it would freak me out, I don't see myself with it. But top surgery, I'm fine with the chest but want the top surgery. I sometimes have dysphoria depending on if I'm wearing a certain shirt or in public but other than that no I'm fine.
My disphoria kicks me hard when I came out socially. I just can't live in my body anymore, it sucks, I can't even look in the mirror anymore, I can't wait to get top surgery amd take T
My dysphoria fluctuates sooo much honestly, but I'm sooooo scared to actually transition for the sake of my moms mental health (bad place rn long story) and how my children's lives will be, I worry so much that my dysphoria just keeps getting worse but I'm just to scared to present as male, or literally do anything I just kinda wish I knew a FTM trans man who has two kids and a partner (who is accepting) in a small town to talk to
how about trans doubt? ive been identifying as a trans guy for like the past two years but now its just going away and i dontttt like itttt
like i used to strongly have top dysphoria and like issues with how i didnt pass, but now it just doesnt happen, i still dont feel like a girl though and i dont know what it is.
and then dysphoria just sneeks up sometimes and says YOURE A BOY AND YOU FEEL AWFUL ABOUT IT for like three days and then it leaves
gender is confusing and i hate it
do you have a video on body hair because a couple of months ago i grew out my leg and armpit hair and loved it but shaved because i was scared of what others would think since i am a non-passing transboy.
I'm a non-passing transguy, too (well, sometimes I pass, which makes my day). I don't shave anything and the comfort it gives me surpasses my anxiety. For now, I just avoid showing my legs and pits to people. I've shown a few people my legs after meeting some girls who don't shave, and that felt good. If you're not comfortable coming out yet, you could just play the "I don't give a shit" natural girl card while wearing what you want and exposing your hair. Just remember that other's judgement means nothing against your own personal comfort, regardless of sex or gender. And then top that off with they shouldn't judge a girl who doesn't shave, anyway, so now you're teaching them that girls can do whatever, until you're at the point you can come out. It's all win for you.
MonocardiacTimelord thanks that actually helps
This fluctuating dysphoria has never hit so close to me or come at the most perfect time. I've been on testosterone for a year and a half and my dysphoria has been so severe the most recent months then it'd stop. I have real bad top surgery rn and I'm scared to get it because I'm scared I'll need bottom surgery. Because I personally don't like the results of bottom surgery and just don't want to go through that.
Please do an updated bottom surgery video!
I have top dysphoria pretty bad and it doesn't really change, but when I have a hard time with my agoraphobia (a type of anxiety) like right now in school, it's not as intense bc I have more "important" problems regarding mental health..
Do a video about stretching your ears!
I cut my hair from waist length to just below my ear, and right after that my dysphoria took a vacation for a few days. confused the heck out of me 👀
can you do a video on bigender if you havnt already? we deal with the fluctuating dysphoria allot as well and I don't see very many videos for bigender/genderneutral peopleI personally go back and forth on top surgery all the time, sometimes I don't want it at all when I'm feeling really girly and then I'm all for it when I'm feeling more guyish (I'm defiantly getting top surgery regardless of the fluctuations, ive made my mind up). I still struggling very much with whether or not I should go on T though
Hey there! I am looking for a video that explains different types of dysphoria in depth. (Social, body, etc.) I'd also love to find a video on this from a non-binary person. Could you direct me to a video/article like this?
And about now, im having needle dysphoria >w>
I still have overall fairly moderate dysphoria, some days more or less than others. I'm the same with you for top, but still unsure about bottom. I'm at least going to wait until I get T to see how my body changes and that on it to think about top surgery
Do you have a video on internalized trans-phobia?
he has two, just search his channel name and trans phobia and it should pop up, if you want I can send you links.
Would you maybe make a video about bottom surgery cuz I've researched it but I feel like I dont know a lot and it would really help
Could you do a video on body image separate from dysphoria? Like for guys who struggle with weight/obesity, acne, shortness, etc. I'm not dysphoric about my weight or that I'm 5'6" but I struggle to deal with those issues as outside of my trans identity if that makes sense.
IM SO EARLY HOW AMAZING (it's 5am but shhhh)
It's 3 pm out here ;)
I feel like that too. I hate my chest so much but sexually they don't bother me and I like to be touched there. I want top surgery so badly though.
✌ awesome video, keep it up 😊